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VOLUME LXXVII, NUMBER 10 THURSDAY, JANUARY 31, 1991 35¢ PER COPY As War Erupts, Volunteers Offer Themselves To by Jonathan Mark her to call Volunteers for Israel The New York Jewish Week at (212) 643-4848. NEW YORK UTA) - Tel Wohl says she is one of Aviv once tried to lure tourists those many Jews here who, al­ by billing itself as a "city that though not religious and un­ never sleeps." Last week, as affiliated with any Jewish the nighttime wailing of air organization, feel a primal con­ raid sirens made that slogan nection with the Jewish state. seem as eerie as the empty Walking into the Volunteers streets, hundreds of New for Israel office - where she Yorkers told Israel they were was immediately put to work coming nevertheless, to help answering the phone until an out at army bases and hos­ adviser could speak to her - pitals, washing dishes and (L to R) Rabbi Howard I. Bogot, Director for Religious Education, Union of American she laughed at the realization washing tanks. that she had yet to inform her Hebrew Congregations, Rob Goldberg, executive director of Beth-El, Rabbi Sid Halbraun Mordecai Yedid, Israel's with guitar, and Lehiyot participant, Lisa Stein, who "doesn't care for football," joined in employer that she'd be flying deputy consul general in New to Israel a few days from now. conversation after Beth-El's "Becoming Accessible and Becoming Sensitive To People with York, reported that a pilot who Special Needs" program last Saturday night. "I hadn't spoken to friends or had flown in Vietnam called anyone," she says. " I just woke the consulate and said he up and called." wanted to fly for Israel. The At the Volunteers for Israel Beth-El's Becoming Sensitive pilot was soon on his way. offices, which except for one "We are interested in person is fully manned by vol­ (as a child) I would get 'be­ by Kathy Cohen adults. Rabbi Sid Helbraun, doctors, drivers and anyone unteers, the phones have been cause.. .' rather than an an­ Herald Associate Editor with guitar in hand, closed who is able to help," Yedid ringing nonstop. At least 200 swer" - a statement which the meeting with Havdalah. said. volunteers were expected to fly some of the participants Last weekend the Brother­ Bogot opened the On the morning after the to Tel Aviv on Jan. 27, and agreed had chased them hood of Temple Beth-El of evening's talks by letting ev­ missiles hit Israel, Sheila Wohl, similar flights are expected at away from Judaism when Providence sponsored sev­ eryone give their name, fa ­ 50, a manager in a computer least twice a month. they were teenagers. eral Lehiyot programs fea­ vorite football team to win company, was another of those Last year, 5,500 volunteers Bogot told the 20ish to turing Rabbi Howard I. Bo­ the Super Bowl, and special who called the consulate, want­ flew to Israel, up from an esti­ 30ish age group that he had got, Director for Religious hobbies. The rabbi then gave ing to help Israel, wanting to mated 4,000 in 1989. Since the Education for the Union of six subjective suggestions on met with one or two groups be there. She was willing to do (continued on page 15) American Hebrew Congre­ how Jewish values come similar to theirs but that anything. The consulate told gations. Beth-El is the first about, followed by com­ none had " as unique and congregation to sponsor a ments from the group. Peo­ different ideas amongst weekend of this kind - "Be­ ple find their values from: 1) themselves" in creating a coming Accessible and Be­ G-d's commandments and 60-second radio spot "ad­ coming Sensitive To People the Torah, 2) classic Jewish vertising Judaism as a bene­ with Special Needs." text, 3) Jewish authority fig­ ficial lifestyle and thought In accordance with the ures (a Rabbi ... ), 4) role mod­ process weekend theme, Bogot lead els or loved ones, 5) I like it After fifteen to twenty a delightful and lighthearted - labels, and 6) group minutes of preparation, the discussion/workshop last membership concensus - a three groups each came up Saturday at 4:30 in the tem­ larger group sharing values. with unique advertisements. ple's Silverstein Meeting The comments ranged Group one read a help Hall (co-sponsored by MA­ from " l don't see myself up wanted ad looking for some­ TJV) on " Beyond Bagels and there (on the list of values)" one interested in experienc­ Cream Cheese: Why Be Jew­ to " When l would ask my ing the Jewish lifestyle. The ish?" for about 15 young parents questions on religion (continued on page 15)

RABBI AND PATRIARCH - In , Rabbi Arthur UJA Mounts $400 Million Cash Schneier (left) reported that Russian Orthodox Patriarch Drive To Assist Israel Aleksy II (right) would fly from Moscow to Israel on his first pilgrimage abroad since being named head of the by Aliza Marcus originally were to be paid out lion Exodus, the special UJA church last fall. Rabbi Schneier, president of the ecumenical NEW YORK UT A) - The over a year or series of years. campaign to assist the large" Appeal of Conscience Foundation and senior rabbi of American Jewish community is UJA officials said the exigen­ scale Soviet Jewish immigra­ Manhattan's Park East , noted that the visit also being mobilized to pay up cies of the times, including the tion to Israel. Close to 200,000 marks the first time a Russian Orthodox Patriarch has campaign pledges, as Israel's continuing massive immigra­ Soviet Jews arrived in Israel in visited Israel since the founding of the state in 1948. During already weak economy reels tion of Soviet Jews despite the 1990, and the Exodus cam­ his recent 12-day visit to the USSR, Rabbi Schneier also met, under the physical and psycho­ Gulf war, necessitate the paign raised over $400 million with the president of he Ukranian republic and with Soviet logical effects of Iraqi missile appeal for American Jews to to assist them. government officials. ' attacks. either give more money or pay But most of the pledges were United Jewish Appeal lead­ their outstanding pledges. to be paid out over a three-year ers have launched an emer­ The UJA cash drive was period, and federation leaders gency cash drive to bring in mounted because " Israel is are asking contributors to fulfill $400 million by the end of now faced with enormous their commitments early. March, in an attempt to help security costs, in addition to "The real need is for cash the financially strapped Jewish . the great dangers" of war, money, - as distinct from state meet its new security and which " require the moral and pledges," stressed Horowitz. Don't Miss This Week's social needs in the midst of the financial support of the U.S. The UJA leader said he ex­ Special Bridal Insert Persian Gulf war. Jewish community," said UJA pected the response to be over­ The money, to be collected President Stanley Horowitz. whelmingly positive, as the by local federations around the The majority of the $400 mil­ missile attacks on Israel and country, will mainly consist of lion is expected to come from the continuing immigration of previously made pledges that payment of pledges to Opera- (continued on page 15)

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school year, the room parent program, rotating "deck duty" February Offers Jewish Community Center News for swim and the opportunity for participation on the Pre­ Vacation Camps, full members and $145 for sup­ given to children presently at­ calling Elliott Goldstein. school Services Committee. Preschool Registration porting members. Early arrival tending the Preschool, their Classroom observation may be And Other Activities and extended day is $3.50/ , siblings, ITC children and sib­ hour. For more information, arranged, and ongoing, infor­ The Jewish Community Cen­ For students in grades 4 lings of alumni with continu­ call Eva Silver or Debbie Blitz. mal parent-teacher contact is ter of Rhode Island, located at through 6, Club 456 will be ous memberships. On February For children: Two separate encouraged. 401 Elmgrove Avenue in f;'rovi­ holding a Ping Pong and Pool 4, registration is open to all cur­ camps wil be held for grades Special events include a dence, will be holding a variety Tournament on Tuesday, rent JCCRI members and on K-3 and 4-6 with daily activities Spring Breakfast as well as an of events for children and February 12 from 6:30 to 8:30 March 4, to the community. including trips and special annual Shalom Party. For adults during February. For fur­ p.m. in the Gameroom. This Maximum enrollment is 20 events, swim and gym time. further information, call Eva ther information about a partic­ fun-filled evening includes children per class, with smaller KidSpace members fee is $20/ Silver. ular event, please call 861-8800 ping pong, pool, bumper and classes for younger children. per day; KidSpace non mem­ . .. and ask for the specified con­ air hockey, as well as a light There are two teachers per class bers, $25/ day. Early arrival tact. supper and dessert. Admission when there are ten or more The Kosher Mealsite at the .. . and extended day is additional. is free for Club members and $4 children. The Prechool gener­ Center offers a variety of activi­ Enrollment is limited. Please for non-Club members. Reser­ ally follows the Providence ties and a chance for seniors to During February · Vacation pre-register and pre-pay by vations should be made by public school vacation sched­ meet Monday through Friday Camp, children from preschool February 8. Contact Laurie February 8. ules, and is not in session on at 11 a.m. and Sunday at 9:30 to age 12, can get involved in a Leone for details. The Outdoor Club (for stu­ major Jewish holidays. a.m., followed by a hot kosher variety of interesting and di­ Sports camp: Learn to be dents in grades 9 through 12) The fully accredited meal at noon sponsored by skilled at tennis, walleyball, verse activities. Sports camp, and the Junior Outdoor Club Preschool offers classes for Project Hope. Regularly sched­ racquetball and basketball. for boys and girls ages 4-12, is (for students in grades 7 and 8) children aged 28 months uled programs include the daily Unit I is for ages 4 and 5 (Note: also available. All camps run provide the opportunity to par­ through 5 years, including an opportunity to enjoy talking to from Monday, February 18, time for this age group is 9 ticipate in a variety of age-ap­ afternoon Kindergarten Enrich­ friends in the Conversation Pit through Friday, February 22, a.m .-12:30 p.m., followed by propriate activities and trips. ment class. The Preschool's from 10 to 11 a.m., followed by from 9 a.m.-3 p.m. Early arrival lunch.) Full members fee is Membership is $5. The Out­ well-equipped classrooms, ac­ exercise at 11 :15. BINGO is (8-9 a.m.) and extended day (3- $15/day; supporting members, door Clubs are sponsored by tivity rooms and playground scheduled for Tuesdays, 11 to 6 p.m., 5 p.m. on Friday) are $30/ day. Children in grades 1- the Youth Department of the are supplemented by the Cen­ 11 :45 a.m. Friend to Friend 3 will be in Unit II. Unit Ill is also options for an additional JCCRI and the Robbie Frank ter's physical education facili­ meets Thursday from 11 a.m . to open to children ages 9-12 fee. All children are to bring a Fund . For information about ties. Weekly swim and gym noon. Shabbat traditions are (grade 4 and up). Both Units II lunch; snack and beverage will the Outdoor Clubs' activities or programs are included in all 3- observed on Fridays. Sunday and Ill are $25/ day for full be provided. to reserve a space for Club and 5-day classes for children. mornings begin with hot members and $50/ day for sup­ For preschoolers: The 456's tournament, please call Children in the Pre-school muffi ns, tea and coffee at 10 Preschool Department presents porting members. KidSpace Evy Rappoport. must be toilet trained. a.m., followed by interesting and Preteen Connection mem­ Club Feb: Cruise to a new port Early arrival is scheduled programs. Special activities bers are $20/ day. The second every day. Youngsters will en­ from 8-9 a.m . each morning for planned fo the 1st to 7th of child in family receives a 20% joy dancing, swimming, music, A full-day, certified Kinder­ parents who need this service. February are: discount. Early arrival is an ad­ aerobics and crafts. Full mem­ garten will be added to the Afternoon child care, as well as Friday, I - VCR program, ditional $3/ day; extended day, bers fee is $ 115; supporting JCCRI Preschool program in an all-day program are avail­ " Elderly Agenda," 11 :125 a.m . members, $160. However, if $6/ day (there is no charge for the fall of 1991. able until 5:30 p.m. daily. Sunday 3 - VCR program, extended day for KidSpace or one registers by February 4, the Registration for September Parent involvement includes "Secret Space," 11 a.m. PTC members). Each group is cost will be reduced to $100 for 1991 Preschool classes at the at least one formal parent­ For further information call limited to 15; register early by Center continues with priority teacher conference during the Sandy Bass. In Tribute To The Lubavitcher BATHROOMS Rebbe Let a specialist in bath remodeling take care of your by Rabbi Jonathan Sacks the Rebbe. 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It ma) gers off many associations: identified with its leader. have been there that his formi­ tefilin-laying with passing Jews The Rebbe was born in 1902 dable knowledge of mathemat· Israel's Second in metropolitan streets; mitzva in the Russian town of Niko­ ics and science began to blos­ campaigns from New York to laev and was early recognized som. More influential, though the soldiers in Sinai; smiling, as a prodigy in the field of Jew­ on his particular approach tc Line of Defense bearded faces bringing Judaism ish studies. He married, in the understanding of Judaisrr ,•--••-----••--••••••••••-----..-'"'OA"'<:> to the Jews everyone else for- 1929, the daughter of the then was the great Rav of Rog / American Red Magen David for Israel (1~*'"10 got. And, above all, it signifies Lub<1vitcher Rebbe, Rabbi atchev, Rabbi Joseph Rozin • 888 Seventh Avenue cf 0 the Talmudic genius who hac New York, N. 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L _____ l'/111 t,· ofl-,u J'nil.111JJll/0111 lot ______J (continued on page 15\ ~------·" THE'RHODE iSL'AND JEWISB HER'ALD; tl-IOR'st>.i\ y; JANUARY 31, 'l99'f - 3 In late afternoons I hang out turned up off this boulevard in Hotel. Reform, Orthodox and at the Jewish Club. We all sit at Thieves Market on Cat Street. Conservative, Sephardim and separate tables but call across Lord Kadoorie got hold of it Ashkenazim may all play to­ FINK to each other. This group dines and placed it in Ohel Leah gether at the Club, but they do in immaculate western luxury; synagogue. Rabbi Lapian kind­ not pray together." but within a curious context. ly meets me there alone and All the same, if another Chi­ They wear hats in the formal takes it out of the ark. We nese Jew should wish to show THIN hall. Challah is brought in unroll it together. We hunt for up and return to the culture of baskets. Waiters pronounce all some special marking. his ancestors, he would first ooo@T![j@, /@@ftrmlf@& the Jewish terms with a curbed The longest term congregant reach Hong Kong, the Asian Cantonese accent. Minchah walks slowly up the stairs with Zionist outpost. By Michael Fink interrupts supper. the help of his cane. Mr. Karel My dad once gave me an These observant Jewish rep­ Weiss, a former Czech who sur­ odd detail from his early Provi­ resentatives from the worlds of vived the Japanese occupation A Chinese Puzzle I read in the South China dence life. He put his name - Morning Post of a political fig­ government and business ply but lost his family in Europe, Moe Fink - on his first door­ The small group of volumes ure demoted after the June 4 their trades like everyone else stored the Torahs in his own post, under the mezuzah. He on the Jews of ancient China, uprising for his liberal views. in Hong Kong. They do not take house during the war. He said, " Neighbors assumed a locked into a glass and wood He had roots in Jewish Kaifeng. the time to seek the silhouette noted, "The Japanese had no Chinese family was moving case at the Hong Kong Jewish I pick up and tum over each of a forlorn Joseph, a forgotten wish to disrupt sacred pro­ into the block." To tease, dur­ club, held few secrets for me. I scrap. brother lost along the way. On ceedings." He added, "I think ing my freshman year at col­ had checked out these same At a Dim Sum luncheon I shelves and tables I came this Torah was carried across lege away from home, I used to few tomes at the libraries of refuse pork tidbits and slices of across no figurines of the origi­ from central Europe by write his name and address in Temples Emanu-El and Beth­ eel. I explain the basic laws of nal Jewish peddlar with his refugees. Another worn scroll mock Mandarin characters. EL Still, I read them here with kashrut to my Baptist and Semitic features and so called just moved through Hong The chuckle now turns into a Kong. That one is now in Israel fresh care. Buddhist hosts. The professor Jewish nose. This emblem of Chinese puzzle. being scrutinized. It is due back The subject of their study is of communications beside me, Kaifeng casts the shadow of the the common ideals shared in with his long Mongolian face longago vanished trail. My din­ before spring. No one knows yet for sure which scroll is Jewish and Chinese values. and shaggy black wispy beard, ner companions say, " We worry about the war, and also which." The most common one is the gives me a look. high respect for parents. Did He fills me in on an old about the future of the island. Rabbi Lapian trusts me total­ ly. "Take this scroll home with Confucius use the command­ "Christian" sect right here in We wonder if our businesses The you." I told him Mr. Adler ment, Honor Thy Father and Hong Kong. "They forbid the may just,~old up like an ancient caravan could render a judgment. Thy Mother as the cornerstone eating of lobster and other Blackman Jews have fared well under Karel Weiss warns me, of his philosophy? Obey your shellfish. They claim that God Insurance local leader but keep your fam­ British rule. The main thorough­ "Don't trust local articles on did not create shellfish. They fa re, Nathan Road, was a sim­ the subject of China and the ily together. Remember the will say no more about it." I Agency ple lane named for a Jewish Jews. All goes not well at Ohel past, hold old things in regard. dig into a stuffed carp that governor. A damaged scroll, Leah. Lubavitchers have set up Even the temples of lofty tastes like nothing so much as 885-7110 perhaps from ancient Kaifeng, their own place at the Hilton Tibet may hold Jewish hints. hot fresh gefillte fish. Like landscape painting, neo­ Richard S . Blackman, CPCU Homeowners Confucianism started among Patronize the Jewish quarters of Kaifeng. Auto Business A myth persists throughout our ure China about a baby born to be wise and great who floats in advertisers! 655 Main St., E. Greenwich upon a bamboo raft. Another Confucian legend tells of a faithful and loyal wife whose husband dies young. The beau­ HVDROSEEDING tiful widow refuses to remarry. She endures a life alone for LANDSCAPE CONSTRUCTION forty years. Why? Is it possible DESIGN AND MAINTENANCE that she does not wish to give up her Jewish identity? SCOTT HESFORD LANDSCAPING INC On the surface Jews in­ fluenced China only mini­ BULLDOZER AND BACKHOE SERVICES • SOD & SEED mally. By now the very few ASPHALT• TREES & SHRUBS• EXPERIENCED STAFF Chinese Jews who pop up here "WE TAKE PRIDE IN OUR WORK" and there among mainland cit­ ies or in Hong Kong would no ·~" INDUSTRIAL • RESIDENTIAL• COMMERCIAL longer qualify as co-religion­ Interior of Ohel Leah Synagogue of Hong Kong. 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In late afternoons I hang out turned up off this boulevard in Hotel. Reform, Orthodox and at the Jewish Club. We all sit at Thieves Market on Cat Street. Conservative, Sephardim and separate tables but call across Lord Kadoorie got hold of it Ashkenazim may all play to­ FINK to each other. This group dines and placed it in Ohel Leah gether at the Club, but they do in immaculate western luxury; synagogue. Rabbi La pian kind­ not pray together." but within a curious context. ly meets me there alone and All the same, if another Chi­ They wear hats in the formal takes it out of the ark. We nese Jew should wish to show THIN hall. Challah is brought in unroll it together. We hunt fo r up and return to the cul ture of baskets. Waiters pronounce all some special marking. his ancestors, he would fi rst oolffJ,T![j@/t@(fruurti the Jewish terms with a curbed The longest term congregant reach Hong Kong, the Asian Cantonese accent. Minchah walks slowly up the stairs with Zionist outpost. By Michae l Fin k interrupts supper. the help of his cane. Mr. Karel My dad once gave me an These observant Jewish rep­ Weiss, a former Czech who sur­ odd detail from his early Provi­ resentatives from the worlds of vived the Japanese occupation A Chinese Puzzle I read in the South China dence life. He put his name - Morning Post of a poli tical fig­ government and business ply but lost his fa mily in Europe, Moe Fi nk - on his fi rst door­ The small group of volumes ure demoted after the June 4 their trades like everyone else stored the Torahs in his own post, under the mezuzah. He on the Jews of ancient China, uprisi ng for his liberal views. in Hong Ko ng. They do not take house during the war. He said, " Neighbors assumed a locked into a glass and wood He had roots in Jewish Ka ifeng. the ti me to seek the silhouette noted, "The Ja panese had no Chinese fa mily was moving case at the Hong Kong Jewish I pick up and turn over each of a fo rlorn Joseph, a forgotten wish to disrupt sacred pro­ into the block." To tease, dur­ club, held few secrets for me. I scrap. brother lost along the way. On ceedings." He added, " I think ing my fres hman year at col­ had checked out these same At a Dim Sum luncheon I shelves and tables I came this Torah was carried across lege away from home, I used to few tomes at the libraries of refu se pork tidbits and slices of across no fi gurines of the origi­ from central Europe by write his name and address in Temples Emanu-El and Beth­ eel. I expl ain the basic la ws of nal Jewish peddlar with his refugees. Another worn scroll mock Mandarin characters. EL Still, I read them here with kashrut to my Baptist and Semi tic fea tu res and so called just moved through Hong The chuckle now turns into a. fresh care. Buddhist hosts. The pro fessor Jewish nose. This emblem of Ko ng. That one is now in Israel Chinese puzzle. The subject of their study is of communications beside me, Kaifeng casts the shadow of the being scru tinized. It is due back the common ideals shared in with his long Mongolian face longago vanished trail. My din­ before spri ng. No one knows Jewish and Chinese values. and shaggy black wispy beard, ner companions say, " We yet for sure which scroll is The most common one is the gives me a look. worry about the war, and also which." high respect for parents. Did He fill s me in on an old about the future of the island. Rabbi Lapian trusts me total­ Confucius use the command­ " Christian" sect right here in We wonder if our businesses ly. "Ta ke this scroll home with The ment, Honor Thy Father and Hong Kong. "They forbid the may just fold up like an ancient you." I told him Mr. Adler ca ravan." Thy Mother as the cornerstone eating of lobster and other could render a judgment. Blackman of his philosophy? Obey your shellfish. They claim that God Jews have fared well under Karel Weiss warns me, British rule. The main thorough­ Insurance local leader but keep your fam­ did not create shellfish. They "Don't trust local articles on ily together. Remember the will say no more about it. " I fa re, Nathan Road, was a sim­ the subject of China and the Agency ple lane named fo r a Jewish Jews. All goes not well at Ohel past, hold old things in regard. dig into a stuffed carp that Even the temples of lofty tastes like nothing so much as governor. A damaged scroll , Lea h. Lubavitchers have set up perhaps their own place at the Hilton 885-7110 Tibet may hold Jewish hints. hot fresh gefillte fi sh. from ancient Ka ifeng, Like landscape painting, neo­ Richard S . 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tion of mine, my Dad instead Old Prophecy of answering directly said: -----Notices, Bulletins, "Oy!"--- by Pavel Zaslevsky " One day your children will This day is most special for know more about our Jewish heritage than we both do. They by Mike Fink with the famous trademark Jews from Spain and brought in me. My only daughter has had the Inquisition. The "saintly" her Bat Mitzvah. will be fulfilled Jews! " There AMERICA AT WAR: televi­ phrase, "There's good news was more than hope in his sion packages the panic. I tonight." I'm hunting for that Queen set fire to Jews because My father's old p~ophecy she was afire with zeal to has come true. voice, there was certitude, and watch with my five year old good news. Cheap hope is hard I was struck by it. boy while I squeeze two or­ to come by for a Jew. We pay spread her faith. As a boy I had a great love of I keep drawers and boxes full My father passed away anges. In the very same kitchen dear for hope. If you ever give a knowledge. I used to ask my of notices from the Wisenthal father a lot of questions, and many years ago, before I got my morn squeezed me two or­ penny to a Jewish cause you my first Jewish book and began anges while Edward R. Murrow never hear the end of it. Words Center of Los Angeles, bul­ often, very often I asked him letins of anxiety from every cor­ about our Jewishness. Unfor­ to discover the answers to spoke through the static and of worry worm their way onto some of my questions; before booms of London, his voice your chilly front rug under the ner. So where's the good news? tunately he couldn't give me Well, we found a new star on many answers: in my home­ my daughter was born, and crackling through the little rnailslot in the door. The World before we applied to leave radio that stood beside the Jewish Congress puts out a our t.v . This celebrity lives just town no one practiced Judaism, round the comer from us in the· the only small shul had been . I tried to pass on to my toaster. Dateline World Jewry. The first daughter the lessons of my We see the bloodied faces of issue for 1991, put together just Beth Sholom neighborhood. closed many years before I was Rena Jurkowitz shared her con­ born, not a single Jewish book father. Jews in Tel Aviv. I heard the before the start of war, includes He couldn't have for fore­ voices of Jewish survivors of the following items. cern on all the news channels was available. and even in the newspapers. But my Dad managed to seen this day, when his grand­ Buchenwald Murrow inter­ PROTOCOLS OF THE child has been called to the viewed on his CBS report. ELDERS OF ZION is being sold My wife called her up. " You 've inspire me with the pride of created the latest craze - car­ being a Jew. This was rare bimah and blessed by the As kids we thought America by the Islamic Information Rabbi on the day of her Bat was tops. On one point we Center of Montreal. The Cana­ ing!" Rena has found fame not indeed in the Russia of that in the fake smile but in the fur­ time, as circumstances caused Mitzvah. agreed with Hitler: America dian Broadcast Network com­ As an epigraph to one chap­ was Jewish! One of our boys - pares the Israeli army to that of rowed frown of love for other many Jews to conceal their Jews. Jewishness. In later years I ter of my book I quoted this Irving Berlin - shaped the Nazi Germany. Islam is Amer­ thought: " If one lives to hear sound of our new national an­ ica 's fastest growing religion. Maybe we can sum up the came to recognize that pride is "good news" in just three often the best defense and I his child read from the Torah it them, and even set Christmas Before 2000, Muslims will out­ is as though he has heard· the and Easter to Jewish tunes. number Jews. The Vatican has Hebrew words: AM YISRAEL appreciated even more deeply CHAI. Or only the one single what my father had done for words of the Torah on Mount During the early, worst days started to study the case for Sinai." of the duration, Gabriel Heatter sainthood for Queen Isabella of Yiddish word will do: "OY." me. Once, confused by a ques- I have lived to see this day, used to start out his radio show Spain. In 1492 she expelled the but my father hasn't ...

commandments such as not to Letter to the Editor: murder or steal, society ceases Tax Time, Again I to be safeguarded against To the Editor: name(s) you would like in­ bloodshed and theft, their most Since the middle of Novem­ cluded. Short forms, long forms. brutal forms. But, certainly, ber, I have been offering a Our thoughts and prayers Which is the best to fill out? Do then, it is also not safeguarded prayer on behalf of all those are with those serving, dedi­ you want to be able to list your against more subtle forms such courageous men and women cated to the defense and · charitable contributions? Have as the "bloodshed" of character serving in the Persian Gulf. preservation of the security you invested money in an IRA, assassination, or the "theft" of During the course of the pray­ and freedom of all peace loving Keogh, or other plans? The knowledge, and the like. er, mention is made of the people as well as their dear questions are endless. No one The Ten Commandments names of those involved in the ones. wants to pay more than they emphasize, and experience has war in the Gulf. This is an invi­ May victory come swiftly have to. So radio talk shows, fully and repeatedly borne it tation for all those who would and out of this victory shall newspapers and magazines out, that even the simplest pre­ like to have their dear ones re­ come justice and peace for all . abound with helpful tax articles cepts of morality and ethics membered and their names Rabbi Marc S. Jagolinzer for the layman. First and Last must rest on the foundation of mentioned to write or call the Temple Shalom For many of us, tax time is "I am G-d" and "Thou shalt have Temple and inform us of the Middletown, RI taking stock time. It's time to Commandments no other gods" - and only then peruse our expenditures from In this week's Torah portion, can their compliance, be as­ the past year and think about Yitro, we read about one of the sured. how we might have been able RHODE ISLAND JEWISH most momentous events in If, in previous generations to do the same things a little Jewish history - the giving of there were people who HERALD less expensively. It's also the the Ten Comandrnents on doubted the need of Divine au­ time when we look over, with a Mount Sinai. thority for common morality discerning eye, our W-2 forms (USPS 464-760) The Ten Commandments and ethics, in the belief that hu­ Published Every Week By The to see just how much we unite within them laws of two man reason is sufficient author­ Jewish Press Publishing Company earned this year and where on apparently quite different or­ ity, then our present generation CO-EDITORS: the pay scale we'd like to be in ders: The first commandments has, unfortunately, in a most KATHY COHEN the future. devastating and tragic way, re­ SARAH M . BAIRD express and reveal the deepest Candlelighting The idea of " taking stock" truths about G-d's Unity (true futed the mistaken notion. For CONTRIBUTING EDITOR: has its parallel in Judaism. For MICHAEL FINK monotheism); the last, on the it is precisely the nation which February 1, 1991 some, the holidays of Rosh other hand, contain such ele­ had excelled itself in the exact ACCOUNT REPS: Hashana and Yorn Kippur sciences, the humanities and JEANETTE HIDALGO 4:43p.m. mentary injunctions as "Thou MYRNA H. DRESS come to mind when we talk shalt not murder" and "Thou even in philosophy and ethics, GRAPHICS: about taking stock. 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Notes From An Armchair Warrior------the living room, this war wears Saddam declared on his radio had cleared the PLO from all brought nothing but aggression by H. Scott White the face of ever-faster, -smarter system that he had begun the area 40 kilometers north of the to his part of the world. His is a January 22, 1991 - Day and -more powerful machines. process that " would turn Israel border there no longer existed quest for self-aggrandizement Seven of the War against Iraq. Yesterday, however, the into a crematorium." Now, he an immediate threat to the - from day one, and until his Allied forces are flying 2,000 human face of war tragically has declared his intention to state. dying day. sorties a day. Baghdad is ex­ appeared. Into our living violate wartime conventions In view of what type of per­ It is an unavoidable tragedy ploding. Israel has been bom­ rooms were broadcast the and use POWs as human son Saddam Hussein has that the cost of ridding the barded. Patriot anti-missile pathetically battered visages of shields. shown himself to be, and given earth of this scourge will be the missiles are scoring spectacular American and British POWs, Over the ages, Judaism has the firepower he has (and more lives of many of our young interceptions. Skittish cor­ who were forced to read ersatz dramatically reduced the con­ importantly will have) at his men and women. They will respondents are reporting from messages lauding "peaceful cept of what constitutes a just disposal, is this war a just war? have given their lives so that Saudia Arabia amid fear of Iraq" and condemning the Al­ war. A tradition which orig­ Yes. It can't be gainsaid that many, many more lives will be incoming fire. lied assault. Their grim faces inally embraced the idea of mi/­ oil is an important part of the spared in the long run. We On the battlefield, this is a remind us that behind every heme/ hove - an offensive war equation adding up to why must all hope and fervently distant push-button war. A gun, inside every cockpit and of conquest of the Promised we're fighting. That we cannot pray that the Allied forces will computer calculates. A button within every tank sit human Land - eventually ruled out allow such a tyrant such con­ be able to put an end to the is pushed. A missile begins its beings who have left behind all but defensive war. There­ trol over such an important re­ paragon of evil in the Persian flight of hundreds of miles. But loved ones and much, much fore, Jews must be cautious in source is now our secondary Gulf in short order, with mini' before it falls on unknown, calmer days. Human beings assessing the moral worthiness concern. mal loss oflife. unseen strangers, another com­ with fears, with needs. Fears of any specific war. Vietnam, Primary is the reality that One last thing: We who are puter calculates, another · that will be exploited as cap­ for instance, was of dubious the world cannot allow such a fortunate enough to be wit­ button is pushed, and one mis­ tives in Iraq. Needs that won't merit in terms of Judaism's despot to flout all semblance of nessing this war from our liv­ sile knocks another out of the be met as captives in Iraq. view of war. As history has order, law and decency with ing rooms, rather than fox­ sky. Score another hit for the Saddam's ostensible mal­ proven, the case that the free impunity. President Bush was holes, should bear the follow­ dehumanization of war. treatment of these captives, West would topple with the criticized for comparing Sad­ ing in mind: what we are view­ It's a push-button war for us coupled with his cowardly rest of the dominos wasn't a dam to Hitler. Many are now ing is not being undertaken for armchair warriors, as well. strike at innocent civilians in convincing one. rethinking that critique. While the sake of our entertainment, "Showdown in the Gulf will Israel, makes plain the absolute For Israel, the Six Day and Saddam will not, God willing, despite the way it is packaged return right after this word necessity of banishing from Yorn Kippur Wars were clearly have the opportunity to by television. Stay tuned for from our sponsor." Networks this planet Saddam Hussein justifiable wars, since the very achieve the catastrophic track information, not amusement. yank viewers between New and his cruel regime. With­ existence of the state was at record of Hitler, it has become War is hell on earth, nothing York, Washington, Saudi drawal from Kuwait and repara­ stake. The larger aims of the abundantly clear that he m_ight less. Arabia and Tel Aviv as fast as tions no longer will suffice. Lebanon War, on the other succeed if given the chance. we can change channels on the When his forces launched the hand, were much harder to From his very first year in switcher. On the front and in first barrage of Scuds at Israel, justify, being that once the IDF power, Saddam Hussein has U.S. Reassures Israel------by David Friedman Gen. Colin Powell, chair­ The White House said Bush duced by Rep. Edward Feighan A similar resolution was WASHINGTON OTA) - man of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, and Shamir agreed to stay in (D-Ohio), who declared that introduced in the Senate by the The Bush administration added that finding the SCUDs close consultation. One means the longstanding ties between majority and minority leaders, sought to ensure Israel that the has been " more of an effort on of doing this is the indefinite the United States and Israel Sens. George Mitchell (D­ United States was doing every­ our part than we had antici­ stay in Israel by Deputy Secre­ have now been forged into Maine) and Robert Dole (R­ thing it could to provide for pated." tary of State Lawrence Eagle­ steel. Kan.) respectively. Israel's security, despite the Both White House spokes­ burger. continuing threat from Iraqi man Marlin Fitzwater and Tut­ Both Fitzwater and Tutwiler SCUD missiles. wiler at the State Department denied that Israel has been "We want the government maintained that the United promised any specific rewards ANTI-TERRORIST and the people of Israel to States has not directly asked for its restraint, such as the $13 know that the United States Israel to refrain from a retalia­ billion in additional aid over PROTECTION five years that Israeli Finance will continue to stand by Israel tion. Armed & Unarmed Security Guards_& Patrols in the days ahead," said State But Bush and other top ad­ Minister Yitzhak Moda'i re­ Department spokeswoman ministration officials have quested during a meeting with All Guards Supervised & Trained Margaret Tutwiler. These made their preference clear by Eagleburger. The deputy secre­ 24 HOUR SERVICE assurances were seen as part of repeatedly expressing apprecia­ tary made no commitment on Rhode Island License #1 the U.S. effort to encourage tion for Israel's restraint so far, the aid, but the request will be Over 30 Years Experience • Bonded & Insured Israel to continue refraining which the president called "given our full consideration," from retaliating for the SCUD "remarkable." Fitzwater said. Meanwhile, the House of INDUSTRIAL attacks. 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6 THE RHODE ISLAND JEWISH HERALD, THURSDAY, JANUARY 31 , 1991 Women's Program To Help Soviet Public Should Learn From Olim Adjust In Israel Holocaust, Cross Survey Reveals by NEW YORK OT A) that while still unfamiliar with David Friedman A study taken for the Ameri­ WASHINGTON ()TA) " Women to Women," a pro­ the language and culture of her can Jewish Committee in Octo­ While there have been some gram to help Soviet women new country, Feirstein said. ber found that the majority of murmurings in recent years immigrating to Israel adjust to JDC organized the program Germans believe "it is time to that Americans are growing their new environment, has after observing that single put the memory of the Holo­ tired of hearing about the been established by the Ameri­ mothers from the caust behind us." Holocaust, a poll rel eased this can Jewish Joint Distribution were experiencing difficulty At the news conference, week by the U.S . Holocaust Committee, the first such proj­ adjusting to life in Israel. Michael Berenbaum, the pro­ Memorial Council and the ect undertaken by the world­ Child care is one such ject's director of U.S. Holocaust Anti-Defamation League of wide relief agency and the first example, Feirstein said. Memorial Museum, said that as B'nai B'rith reveals that this is of its kind in Israel. Though available in Israel, it is World War II recedes in not the case. According to Judy Feirstein, the parent's responsibility to history, th e importance of the National Seventy-seven percent of Holocaust becomes larger. It is a JDC career counsellor who is find an acceptable facility. In On Monday, February 4, the coordinating the 'project, all of the Soviet Union, it was the the respondents disagreed now seen as "one of these when asked whether " the Holo­ definitive points in history." Jewish Home For The Aged the Soviet women participating responsibility of the employer. will have a 24-hour walkout are single mothers, many of caust is something we hear too The survey had one "disturb­ In addition, Feirstein ob­ much about." ing" finding, Harvey Meyer­ of all 1199 Union members. whom face the problem of hav­ served, a single woman arriv­ Those interested in volun­ ing to support an elderly par­ Instead, 76 percent said hoff, chai rman of the U.S. ing in Israel with a child may Americans should know about Holocaust Memorial Council, teering their time can call ent as well as young children also be the sole support of her Bonnie Ryvicker at the Jew­ on one salary. and understand the Holocaust, sa id in a statement. This was immigrant parents. and 73 percent said it was that more than half of the ish Home For The Aged at Feirstein said the objective Elderly olim unable to work 351-4750. of the program is to match essential or very important that respondents, 18 to 34. years are entitled only to social secu­ the Holocaust be taught in th e old, know little or nothing these working women with rity from the Israeli govern­ ... Israeli women advanced in nation's schools. about the Holocaust. ment, in contrast to native The attitude of Am ericans in JTA - The New York State similar occupations or careers Israelis who have worked there The AOL, through its Braun who are wi lling to share their the poll, conducteq last Center for Holocaust Studies, Supreme Court has upheld a most of their lives and receive November by the polling firm lower court's ruling that the experience and knowledge. pensions in addition. and the Holocaust Council The program involves work­ of Yankelovich Clancy Shul­ through the museum, plan to Hebrew-Christian mission­ Because social security pay­ man and released recently al ary group, Jews for Jesus, shops which the olim attend ments are very low, elderly use the findings of the survey with their partners in order to a news conference here, con­ in the development of their was not a victim of discrimi­ olim often are dependent on trasted sharply with the views nation when a Jewish com­ help prepare them for the reali­ their children. educational programs. ties of being a working mother of people in the newly united munal agency circulated a In addition to that burden, Germany. warning about activities. in Israel. the women must find jobs and Feirstein described a typical adjust to local ways. "We were · participant named "Sonia." A afraid the enormous pressures JT A - Mayors from 36 cities single mother who arrived in these women are under would around the country have Jerusalem two months ago, she make them so desperate to find signed a statement con­ needed to find a job in an unfa­ work that they'd end up not demning Iraq for its missile miliar economic system, child finishing ulpan and remain attacks against Israel. In­ care for her 4-year-old son and permanently underemployed," cluded among the signers an apartment big enough for Feirstein said. were the Mayors of Boston, them and her elderly mother. An ulpan is an intensive Lynn, Malden and Newton, She had to accomplish all of Hebrew language course for Massachusetts and Mayor newcomers. Brian Sarault of Pawtucket, The idea o_f the Women to Rhode Island. Women program, Feirstein said, is for " the mentor to help BEDSPREAD E\SE\IBLES the protege learn the system, to President Bush spoke to a get connecte_d and becom_e af­ country worried about reces­ 1 Bedspread filiated with professional sion and war, in his State of 2 pr. Draperies or Curtains behaviors and norms in their the Union address, assuring field - attending professional that the "indomitable" Amer­ $50 and up conferences, reading the right ican character is stronger than One-of-a-Kind Sets journals and hanging out in the Saddam Hussein's tyranni­ Hours: Mon.-Thurs. 10-5:30 right cafes." ca l actions and economical Fri. 10-2 • Closed Sat.• Sun. 12-4 The "Woman To Woman" problems at home. Ca/1831-6740 program is supported by International CHERNOV'S of JOHNSTON contributions to UJA-Federa­ 1503 Al wood A venue, Johnston, RI tion campaigns throughout the In Saudi Arabia the !st Ma­ United States. rine Division took to ground action in the war by hitting Iraqi targets in Kuwait with artillery, mortars, anti-tank KIEV - The monument at Babi Yar, where tens of thou­ missiles and automatic can­ sands of Jews were slaughtered by the N:izi army, no~ ~as non fire. There was no re­ a plaque in Yiddish - as well as in Russian and Ukrainian turn fire from Iraqi uni ts and - in memory of the Jews who perished there, according to reports said there were no Rabbi Arthur Schneier, president of the Appeal of Con­ Marine casualties. science Foundation. Rabbi Schneier (second from left), who is also the senior rabbi of Manhatt~'s Park East Synag?S~e, met with Leonid Kravtchuk, President of the Ukra~man The Providence Journal re­ Republic, during his latest visit to the USSR. President ported that Soviet leaders Kravtchuk told Rabbi Schneier of his efforts to make sure have unexpected!y agreed to "that all of our children may learn of. the ~nspeaka~le remove some of their mili­ crimes committed by the Fascists at Babi Yar. Seen with tary forces from the Baltic his back to the camera, wearing a hat, is Rabbi Adolph states and plan to reopen po­ Shayevich of Moscow's Choral Synagogue. Far l!ft, a repre­ litical dialogue with the sep­ sentative of the Russian Orthodox Church; far right, rep~e­ arated republics. This step sentative of the Council of Religious Affairs of the Soviet was made to lessen tensions Council of Ministers. and ease strained relations with the U.S. reported Presi­ dent Bush in his State of the Union presentation.

JTA - Israeli Ambassador Zalman Shoval has labeled as a "canard" news reports that Israel has asked the ~ Chicken Cutlet ...... $4.79 lb. United States for $13 billion in additional aid. Shoval ex­ Turkey Wings ...... 59~ lb. plained that what Israeli of­ ~ ficials did was to outline to U.S . Deputy Secretary of Undercut Roast ...... SJ.39 lb. State Lawrence Eagleburger the rest of the Persian Gulf • • Fresh Ground Hamburger ...... s1.99 lb. war and plans for absorbing tens of thousands of Soviet CAMP,,,., ,, ,J,10RI. \• , ,- .,, Jewish emmigrants. THERI-ibDE'(5LANDJEWISBHERAt'D, THURSDAY; JANUARY31, 1991-15 II --- .. --

THE RHODE ISLAND JEWISH HERALD, THURSDAY, JANUARY 31, 1991 - 7 War In The Gulf - Where We Stand------Jackie Mason by Shoshana Cardin Israel must be destroyed. Here happened again on August 2, support them. Demonstrates Chairman Saddam Hussein, Hafez el­ 1990. • Instead of reducing our re­ Conference of Presidents Assad and Yasir Arafat seek • Israel's need to maintain its liance on foreign oil, America's Israel Solidarity of Major ,\merican Jewish only to outdo each other in qualitative superiority over the energy policy over the past Organizations their anti-Israel venom. Arab states that threaten it has decade has increased it. U .5. The invasion of Kuwait by acquired a new urgency. For dependence on oil from abroad We pray for an early and Saddam Hussein also invali­ years, American policy has is not only a major cause of our successful end to the fighting dated the idea that the pres­ held that Israel is strong country's huge trade and in the Gulf, and for the safe ence of Israel and the continu­ enough to defeat the combined budget deficits; it also incited return of our forces there. ing problem of the Palestinians armies of all its Arab neigh­ Saddam Hussein to believe We support the goals spelled are the root causes of the vola­ bors. Yet when it came time to that he could place an econ­ out by the Bush Administration tility and hostility that describe confront Iraq, a great interna­ omic stranglehold on the West calling for the complete and the region. It is in fact the pow­ tional coalition was deemed by seizing Kuwait and threaten­ immediate withdrawal of Iraqi erful ambitions and lust for necessary to put together the ing Saudi Arabia. forces from Kuwait, the restora­ power of tyrants like Hussein most powerful naval armada, • There is no "linkage" tion of the legitimate govern­ and Assad that pose the great­ the greatest number of war­ between Iraq's brutal assault ment of Kuwait in its land and est threat to the peace of the planes and the greatest number against Kuwait in 1990 and the dismantling of Iraq's mili­ region - along with the con­ of troops ever assembled in Israel's defense against an tary arsenal, including its huge tinuing refusal of the Arab one battle area - all to fight a Arab onslaught in 1967. The supplies of conventional arms states (again, except for Egypt) single, landlocked Arab true similarity is between and poison gas, and the bio­ to recognize Israel's right to country. Kuwait as the victim of Iraqi logical and nuclear weapons it exist. • The growth of Islamic fun­ aggression and Israel as the has been developing. The crisis in the Gulf has damentalism in the Arab world victim of Arab aggression. The Jackie Mason An Iraq in possession of also underscored some long­ contributes io the anti-Western difference is that while Kuwait such armaments - and pre­ forgotten truths that need to be and anti-American temper in was overrun, Israel success­ NEW YORK - To demon­ pared to use them, as Saddam kept in mind as the crisis con­ the region. Saddam Hussein, fully resisted an unprovoked strate his solidarity with Israel, Hussein did and boasted he tinues: never previously identified military assault by Arab states. Jackie Mason, noted Broadway would again - would rep­ • Israel rem.ains the one true with the fundamentalists, has President Bush and Secretary comedian, flew to Israel last resent not only a destabilizing and reliable ally as well as the now tapped into these passions Baker have correctly pointed week via EL AL Israel Airlines. force in the Middle East, where only democracy in the Middle by adding the call for "jihad" out that Saddam Hussein did Mr. Mason will spend five the United States has vital East. Unlike Saudi Arabia, - holy war - to his battle cry. not crush Kuwait in order to days in Tel Aviv and Jerusalem interests, but a clear and pres­ which despite billions of dol­ • The PLO has proven once liberate the Palestinians. in an effort to boost morale of ent danger to American secur­ lars spent for military hard­ again that it is disqualified Like all Americans, we pray local neighborhoods. While in ity. A defiant and driven ware called on the U.S. mili­ from any participation in the for an early and decisive end to Israel, he will also entertain the Saddam Hussein, powerful tary for protection against an Palestinian peace process. By the hostilities now under way American and Israeli soldiers, enough to control the huge oil expected Iraqi offensive, Israel allying himself with Saddam in the Gulf region. Yet we rec­ as well as meet with Tel Aviv resources in the Gulf region, has never asked for American Hussein's most gruesome ognize that there are moments, Mayor Shlomo Lahat, Jeru­ would jeopardize the economic troops to defend its people. threats against Israel and the in history when the use of force salem Mayor Teddy Kolleck interests of the entire world. • Appeasement of tyrants West, Yasir Arafat confirmed is the only way to defend and the directors of the Israel And an Iraq that escaped un­ always fails. It failed against that the PLO's charter - the peace. In this America is not Festival in Jerusalem. Mr. punished for the rape and Mussolini and Hitler in the Palestinian National Covenant alone; a worldwide coalition Mason will be interviewed on plunder of a smaller and 1930's, and it failed against - remains intact and that its supports our country, morally Israel's Friday night television weaker neighbor would im­ Saddam Hussein in 1990, purpose abides. As Article 15 and militarily. weekly review. peril the goals that President when many governments - in­ put it: "The liberation of Expelling Saddam Hussein Mr. Mason's trip to Israel Bush and the free nations of cluding our own - hoped that Palestine, from an Arab view­ from Kuwait, ending his threat was coordinated by the Israel the world hope to achieve for a by coddling Iraq, by providing point, is a national duty ... to to our country, to the region Foreign Ministry and the Israel new and peaceful world order. him with military hardware, repel the Zionist and imperial­ and to world peace; nullifying Consulate of New York. advanced technology and agri­ ist aggression against the Arab a cruel and ugly act of aggres­ Myth and Reality cultural credits we could dis­ homeland, and aims at the sion and secur:ing a new and The Iraqi attack against courage him from the course of elimination of Zionism in peaceful world order - these Kuwait shattered many myths war that he had threatened. Palestine ... " are worth fighting for. CASH of the Middle East. It exposed • The ever-mounting arms • Peace in the Middle East PAID FOR the illusion of Arab unity, the race in the Middle East does requires not only a dialogue idea that the Arab world stands not deter attack but rather en­ between Israel and the Palestin­ COSTUME together in brotherhood and courages those with the ambi­ ian Arabs but also direct bi­ AND community, with common tion for conquest to use the lateral negotiations between ANTIQUE interests, mutual understand­ weapons at their disposal. It Israel and its Arab neighbors. ing and loving fraternity. Only happened in 1967 and 1973, The Israeli government has JEWELRY on one issue are the Arab states when heavily armed Arab called for such talks. We urge (except for Egypt) united: that states invaded Israel, and it the Bush Administration to 463-8262

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AROUND TOWN I Still Believe In The by Dorothea Snyder Goodness Of Mankind

Hans Heimann's life during the war homeland. He travelled to his father's years in Italy is on record at the second cousins in Kapsovar, Hungary, United States Holocaust Memorial where he stayed until he met his Museum in Washington, D.C. parents in Venice. It started last summer when Hans "Here," Hans emphasized, "began wrote to the Museum about his life the saga of the good Italians, one that and how differently he was treated vis should live in good memory forever, a vis the German participation in the just like December 7th, 1941. The day Holocaust. A response came thanking of infamy should always be him for his fascinating letter along remembered. with an invitation to come to the "Italy was the only country, and I Museum for a videotaped interview. mean this literally, that accepted This is his story: German Jews who had a red ")" Hans Heimann was born in Vienna, stamped on the face of their passports on May 28, 1920. His father, without asking any questions ... that Sigmund, was born on September 1, is, without a visa or permit of entry. 1880 in Veszprem, Hungary. His "The United States still had the mother, Helene Weiss Heimann, was quota system, letting in only a limited born on November 21, 1888 in number of immigrants depending on Vienna. their birth country. We eventually He was educated in Vienna at an settled in Nervi, a suburb of Genoa, elementary school and later in a where we rented a furnished gymnasium (private high school). His apartment, always in the hope that studies were furthered at a one day we would be able to emigrate Hans Heimann with his National Holocaust Museum video. Photo: Dorothea Handelsakedemie (junior college). overseas. Snyder. Hans' parents were milliners. "Then came the invasion of Danzig, Bartolomeo. We lived with four men embarrassed what to say, and soon "During the Hitler administration in now called Gdansk. The Germans to a room maximum and were given showed us a letter from the German Germany while Austria was still took over the Polish corridor. France three meals a day. We had all the Kriegskommando in Rome, asking for independent," he said, " my mother and Great Britain declared war on freedom we wanted and could go into a list of all German Jews to be travelled twice yearly to Berlin where Germany, while Hitler's buddy Benito the village. deported to Poland. she exhibited model hats created by Mussolini still remained neutral. The "The High Holidays came a few "He said that we knew what that their firm in Vienna. My parents sold Germans blitzkrieged their way weeks later. The Communita meant, then proceeded to crumble up model hats to customers from all over through Europe, overran Belgium, lsraelitica ltaliana, The Jewish the letter in an ashtray, lit it with a Europe with special emphasis on Holland, France, Denmark and Community Center of Italy in Rome, match and said: 'We never received Scandinavian countries, The Norway. sent prayer books and Torah scrolls. this letter, did we?' He was a Netherlands, Great Britain and " All this lasted only days. The When those holy scriptures were Christiano, a human being." Australia. The hats were later sold to Warsaw Ghetto defended itself taken out, the police "presented Hans, his mother and six others German retailers and wholesalers. against the elite SS troops for six arms" as a show of respect . .. " went to Bella-Muro, a small village "Ori' March 11, 1938, the Austrian weeks without any artillery, bombers Six weeks later, Hans, his fa ther near where they were saved. Hans chancellor, Dr. Kurt von Schuschnigg, or tanks. and other Jewish men from Austria made friends with two village priests, made a speech challenging " Herr "Mussolini flexed his muscles on and Germany were asked to travel to Don Carmine and Don Angelo, Hitler" by declaring that on Sunday July 10, 1940. Italy declared war on Torotoreto, a resort town on the visiting with them every night, the 13th, Austria would hold a France and Great Britain. Still, we, the Adriatic in the province of Teramo. listening to Radio Londra, clandestine plebiscite to decide whether or not Jewish refugees, were never bothered. They lived in a requisitioned hotel, broadcasts from the BBC, which they would unite the two countries. Six weeks later, there was a polite two to a room, receiving three meals a encouraged them to hold their hopes "Knowing he would risk rejection, knock on our apartment door. Two day and pocket money. high. Hitler invaded the next day. German plainclothes policemen asked us to "The supervisor of the "campo di "One day cannon fire came closer troops rolled into Austria. It was the report two days later to the Genoa concentramento" (concentration and closer _and eventually, tanks, beginning of the end . . . police headquarters. camp) was police commissary of the trucks, and motorcycles. The British "I was forced to leave school "We were to be sent to internment. town. A detective lived with us. We Eighth Army had rolled into town. It because no Jewish students were My father and I were to go to were pretty much on our own. We was a teary meeting. I was so excited I allowed to attend. A couple weeks Campagna, a small village in the swam in the ocean, weather couldn't say a single word in English. later, a gentleman showed up at my mountains in the province of Salemo. permitting, and went to the movies." Finally, it was over. We were free! parents' business apologetically intro­ Salemo was where the Allies Later, Hans' father became ill and "I said good-bye to my priest ducing himself as a government­ eventually landed in 1943 under the was sent by ambulance to a hospital friends, who never tried any appointed "liquidator" of the firm. command of General Mack Clark of in Teramo. Hans stayed in a hotel proselytizing. Yes, some Jewish the US Fifth Army. paid for by the Italian government. refugees converted to Catholicism, "He told them not to worry as they "My mother was to travel to "Things got worse. My father died attending classes before they did. I had an export business bringing in Potenza, a provincial capital in and was buried at government remember one lady, Mrs. Kahn. I can hard currency. Most of the time he southern Italy. The policemen told us expense in a section of the local mention her name. The poor soul is came to the business in civilian we shouldn't fear anything, that we cemetery. Even the tombstone was dead now; may she rest in peace. clothes, but every once in a while, he are all Christiani . . . not only paid by them. When someone asked me if she had donned his brown shirt with the Christians, but in the broader sense of " My mother got a "foglio di via," a converted, I replied I don't know. She swastika armband. He also was the word, human beings." travel permit and a ticket to attend the still looks Jewish to me. .. "liquidating" a ladies' sportswear Hans and his parents took a taxi to funeral. I was given compassionate "We all pray to the same G-d, but business, which he eventually bought the police station. His mother was leave. I returned with my mother to call him by different names. The out. given a railway ticket to Potenza. She Potenza, never seeing the Tortoreto Jewish author Franz Werfel, who " His name was Viktor Maschek. was able to travel alone. Her only camp again. We lived with Ugo emigrated to France and ended up in When my parents and I addressed instruction was to report to the police Cammarota, his wife and seven Lourdes, vowed that if he should him by the customary Austrian once she arrived. children in Potenza. Their large come out alive from the Holocaust, he greeting of Herr Maschek, he asked to "It turned out," Hans continued, family was encouraged by the Fascists would write a book about Lourdes. be called simply Viktor. My · father " that all women could live there to produce men for the military. They "He was saved and kept his had to travel for the business to Paris freely, but had to report to the police vacated a room for us. promise by writing "The Song of where the haute couture was the daily. She received a bi-monthly " My mother and I worked. She Bernadette." He wrote on the fl yleaf: European center. sussidio, money to buy food and knitted for the well-to-do in town. I 'For those who believe, an "One day, Viktor asked my parents: clothes and to pay rent. She also got gave English lessons. Except for explanation is not necessary; for those 'Why do you want to leave all your food ration cards along with the having to sign in at II a.m. each day, who do not believe, an explanation is jewelry to the Nazis? They'll only take civilian population." the rest of the time was ours. Many not possible.' it away from you. He took my father's For Hans and his father, a "special women, who lived there without 'T his, in my opinion, wraps up the gold pocket watch and the one I got train was waiting for us, not cattle cars husbands, had "boyfriends," a thing whole discussion or argument about for the obligatory Bar Mitzvah gift. He as the Germans sent their victims to that would have been unthinkable in religion." took my mother's genuine pearls and Dachau, Bergen-Belsen, Buchenwald Germany and the Nuremburg race After his return to Potenza, Hans diamond ring to Paris, where my and ultimately, Maydanked and laws, which under the penalty of later went to Bari where he worked father's brother lived since before Auschwitz. death, forbade the mixing of races, for the American joint Distribution World War I, and left them there. " We travelled four men to a Aryan and Jewish. 1, too, one of the Committee, caring for refugees from " As it turned out, it was a good compartment with two carabinieri, few males, had a girlfriend. the "infamous camps who went to move, for a few weeks later, the Italian State Police. Since we all "On the anniversary of my father's displaced persons camps where we Kristallnacht broke out. Jews were talked German to each other, the death, we were given government­ tried to resettle them. forced to render all their valuables as police eventually got tired. They left paid tickets to travel to his grave. "l also worked on ships which penalty for the murder of a minor the compartments to us and went to transported illegal immigrants from consular representative in France, one separate ones. We were issued "After Pearl Harbor, the bombings outside the harbor of Haifa to small who worked at the Paris German "cestini di viaggio," little baskets with started and the situation got worse for boats which ferried them to what was Embassy. food, coffee, fruit and soft drinks. all concerned. A Jewish physician Palestine until I 948. After Israel's "_Yikto~ helped my p~rents fa?e out "Our destination, Campagna, was a from Berlin and I were asked into the Independence, this wasn't necessary thetr business. He was m the Y1dd1sh village in the southern Appenine office of the police chief, Commissario anymore." work, a Mensch, a human being." mountains where we stayed in an Vaccaro. I spoke fluent Italian. He Hans was !he first- to ,;leave ~i.,;•:•'.•'.•:~~~J!~~~~~·'.•:'!'~~~·~~~Mi!'•~•~~-;~,~<~ the,:d~~/ s~ammer,e~·fqt;~~h'lf~ :. : • : . ·; ·: {~~rtn~u~~ on: Nse Hil · I

THE RHODE ISLAND JEWISH HERALD, THURSDAY, JANUARY 31, 1991-9 ======Arts and Ente rtainn1 ent Terrorism Effects Home------byMike Fink Herald Contributing Editor We climbed some stairs. A ·di­ The director told us about the askew in the frames which statement about what's hap­ The exhibit of Jewish art at rector came out from the head polkas and folkdances that sculpt part of them, twisted pening in the world you see the airport falls victim to the office high above the comings have added some flavor to flower and treetrunk shapes, through the window, the great threat of Iraqi terrorism. Well, and goings and kindly made us Hillsgrove. Here the hollow play with you, but also unsettle planes stretched out. Denny that's the only review we can an offer. "I'll guide you and lonely visit created a mood you. Peter and the reviewer Moers has just come back from come up with. With camera through. But no camera." He of its own. Jonathan Sharlin knew most of the names of the a journey into Morocco. Only and crew (Peter O'Neill, head seemed anxious, nervous. "I got a grant to go and visit the "Jewish" artists, because many last night he was asking, over of RISO film) we headed out to could get in trouble myself for concentration camps. He put of them have also been part of coffee at Peaberry's, what cover the show sponsored by this." up a closeup image of the the RISO community. Ruth happened to the Jews of Mor­ the R.I. Governor's Heritage We only had a few moments famous entrance gate to Ausch­ Dealy graduated from RISO occo. Commission. to rush through and throw a witz, the one you've seen that and teaches there. Aaron Sis­ The truth is, this reviewer The airport lay under very glance round. He called us reads, " Arbeit Macht Frei." - kind and Alan Metnick have didn't know that many of these tight security control. Pas­ back to the escalators and Work makes you free. Though been our colleagues. Alan has artists were Jewish. And was sengers only were allowed to added, "I don't think the you've been through all that, done portraits of many of the pleased to see their work enter the east concourse, which Governor's Commission can the message and image take on Holocaust survivors of Rhode gathered together within this serves as gallery and reception hold on much longer. With sharp new meaning in this Island. In the context of this bond. Jewish art thrives here in area for this series of events. budget setbacks, this may be haunting photograph. You feel offlimit grouping, they share Providence. We knocked on door after your last chance to see art at the artist's quest for its core, the fate of being Jewish - the The faucet is turned on and door. We told our tale to ever the airport." the smug lie. accidental poetry of artists in oil spills into the gulf. Hatred fancier uniformed guards. Openings of these ethnic cel­ Rebecca Brenner too poses time of war. They become hard pours out too, which is even "We're from the Jewish Herald. ebrations add music and disturbing questions to the to reach. harder to get rid of. Will it be We're from RISO." " No way!" regional food to the visual arts. viewer. Her paintings, oddly You can't help but look for a art that brings people together?

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National Abbey Theatre pro­ duction of "Playboy of the Luxurious accommodations • 18 hole golf course • Tennis Western World" at the Co­ • Indoor pool• Health and fitness center with sauna, whirl­ lonial; Kaufman and Hart's pool and nautilus equipment farce "Once in a Lifetime" at Early commuter Shachris service • Buffet the American Repertory breakfast on Chol Hamoed • Well-stocked box Theatre; Africa Oye! at Dance lunches provided • Full childrens' program Umbrella, " A Christmas Carol" at Trinity Repertory Under lhe Supervision of the Vaad Harabonimof Massachusetts Theatre in Providence, the Rabbi and Cultural Director: Rabbi Brand Tony-winning "Lend Me a PASSOVER VACATIONS ARE ALSO AVAILABLE IN Tenor" at the Colonial, ACAPULCO, ARUBA, ARIZONA, CHICAGO, MIAMI, NEW YORK, Andrew Lloyd Weber's "Star­ PALM BEACH, PALM DESERT AND PENNSYLVANIA light Express" at the Wang Center and Brian Friel's "The Aristocrats" at , the , Huntii;ig­ ton. 10- THE RHODE ISLAND JEWISH HERALD, THURSDAY, JANUARY 31, 1991 M iiesto n es======

Mr . Brent Dugan Baird and Ms . Anne Silverman Baird of fl \ Buffalo, N.Y., announce the ,,.- Rittner and Zeltzer Announce engagement of their daughter, Ms. Sarah Baird of West War­ ~ Engagement wick to Mr. Ben Kerman of Fishman - Hurwitz Karen Rittner, daughter of Jerome Rittner of East Greenwich West Warwick, the son of Mr. and Erma Gardiner of North Kingstown, became engaged to and Mrs. Max Kerman of Congregation Mishkan Tefila, Chestnut Hill , Mass., was the Barry Zeltzer, son of Abraham Zeltzer and the late Bessie Leonia, N.J. setting on November 11 , 1990, for the wedding of Melyssa Gayle Zeltzer of Providence. Ms. Baird graduated wi th a Fishman, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. David S. Fishman of Framing­ Karen Rittner is the granddaughter of Madeline Rittner and Bachelor of Arts degree from ham, Mass., to Scott Eric Hurwitz, son of Mr. and Mrs. Alan G. the late Dr. Mark Rittner of Providence and Ida Sachs and the Tufts University and with a Hurwitz of Pawtucket. late Abraham Sachs of Longmeadow, Mass. Barry Zeltzer is Master of Arts degree from Rabbi Wayne Franklin of Temple Emanu-El officiated. the grandson of the late Morris and Frieda Barber of Provi­ Columbia University. Mr. Ker­ Mi chell e Lockhart was the matron of honor. Jeff Hurwitz was dence and the late Benjamin and Fannie Zeltzer of Dorchester, man graduated with a Bachelor his brother's best man. Bridesmaids were Jodi Hurwitz, sister of Mass. of Arts degree from Tufts Uni­ the groom, Sharon Apkon, Debbie Holbrook and Meredith Lazar. Karen Rittner is currently enrolled in the Dietitians Program versity and is currently pursu­ Ushers were Dr. Jordan Fishman and Stuart Fishman, brothers at University of Rhode Island where she is pursuing a career as ing a Ph.D. degree at the Uni­ of the bride, John Albanese, Jim Gadol, Hugh Plitt, Bill Markel a registered Dietician. She presently works at South County versity of Rhode Island. and Ron Runner. Hospital in the Dietary Division. The wedding has been The bride graduated from Philadelphia College of Textiles and Barry Zeltzer received an MBA degree from Bryant College. planned for May 26, 1991. Science where she received a Bachelor of Science degree in He is Vice President of Zeltzer Landscape Co., Inc. and Coun­ apparel management. She is the granddaughter of Mr. and Mrs. try Nursery and Garden Shop, located in Seekonk, Mass. Harold Fishman of Framingham, Mass. Wedding plans are set for August 11 , 1991, at Touro Syna­ Jessica Lipsey The bridegroom attends Rhode Island College. He is the grand­ gogue in Newport. The couple plan to live in Barrington, R.l. son of Mr. Saul Miller, Pawtucket and Mr. and Mrs. William Honored Hurwitz of North Miami Beach, Florida. Mrs. Beverly R. Lifschitz is The couple is living in Pawtucket. KIMBERLY liJ pleased to announce the aca­ QUALITY CARE® demic distinction of her grand­ Abrams and Yetra was named in loving memory daughter, Jessica Lipsey. Jes­ Announce Birth of her paternal grandfather, the • RNs-LPNs • Rehabllltatlon sica Lipsey, 18, is currently a late Bennett Yetra and her ma­ •Home Therapies Lynn Abrams and Harris • Health Aides • Medicare/Medicaid first-year student at Johnson ternal great grandfather, Mack Yetra of Narragansett, joyfully • Homemakers Certilled State College in Johnson, Ver­ Wasserman. • Private Duty • Calt 24 hrs., mont. She has been named to announce the birth of their • EDE M/F/11 7 days a week the President's List, the highest daughter, Jaime Marissa, Jan­ Kushners Announce We accept all Insurances academic distinction at uary 8, 1991. Maternal grand­ Engagement (401) 274-7300 Johnson State College, for her parents are Mr. and Mrs. Ev­ 260 West Exchange Street #208 outstanding academic record of erett Abrams of Warwick and Mr. and Mrs. Russell Kush­ Providence, R.I. 4.0. paternal grandmother is Mrs. ner of 11 Wildacre Dr., Crans­ Jessica Lipsey is the daugh­ Betsy Yetra of Cranston. ton, R.I. , announce the engage­ ter of Bruce and Laurie Lipsey Jamie's maternal great grand­ ment of their daughter, Susan and the granddaughter of the mother is Mrs. Rose Wasser­ M. Kushner of North Plain­ late Harold Lifschitz and man of Warwick. Paternal great field, N.J., to David S. Resnick Lose Weight Beverly Lipschitz of Warwick, grandmother is Mrs. Cora of Boston, Mass., the son of Mr. formerly of Providence. Goldsmith of Cranston. Jamie and Mrs. Sidney Resnick of 20 East BelAire Rd ., Cranston, R.l. The East Side Way Miss Kushner graduated • Heart-healthy medically-approved diet from Cranston High School West and Syracuse University. • Food plans using only natural, - - Mr. Resnick graduated from widely-available foods Cranston High School West • Sound advice about sound nutrition The Jewish Home and the University of Rhode Island with a Bachelor of Sci ­ • Daily individual counseling ence degree and a Master's • Personalized menus Degree. He also graduated • No supplements Volunteers are needed from Syracuse University Col­ lege of Law. • Advice on how to maintain your diet to staff the Home on The wedding has been in the "real world" planned for August 11 , 1991. • Results, not gimmicks Monday, February 4th Gift Certificates Available DAVID M. GREENBERG, DPM for 24-hour strike ANNOUNCES THE OPENING OF HIS ,;-tSIDi! lie OFFICE FOR THE PRACTI CE OF DISORDERS OF THE FOOT, ·"''

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3ons Of Jacob Synagogue Camp JORI Welcomes Boys And Friday, February 1 - Seven­ criminal still alive and at large after his conviction on No­ een days in Shevat. Candie­ is Alois Brunn~r. " He enjoys vember 1, 1990, on charges of Girls To Its 54th Season ighting is at 4:40 p.m. the protection of the Syrian hurling rocks at passing ve­ Camp JORI, Rhode Island's alumni. Saturday, February 2 government. hicles. Nearly 30 people were only Jewish overnight camp Camp JORI has two fo u :ighteen days in Shevat. The Brunner, a senior aide to injured May 27, 1990, when located on 13.5 acres in Nar­ week sessions: Trip I is fro :orah reading today is Adolf Eichmann, was responsi­ Burgess and two alleged ac­ ragansett, will celebrate its Tuesday, June 25 to Sunda 'arshas-Yisro. Today we will ble for sending 140,000 Jews to complices hurled dozens of 5 54th season this summer. July 21 ; Trip II is from Tuesda ead the Ten Commandments. ·the death camps, many from to 15 pound rocks from an The kosher co-ed camp for July 23 to Sunday, August I ,. ihacharis is at 8:30 a.m. fol­ the Draney transit camp out­ overpass at 24 moving cars on The fee is $995 per sessio, . owered by the shut-sponsored boys and girls 7 to 13 offers a side of Paris. Brunner said in the Capitol Beltway, Washing­ Camperships are available fer ;iddush as usual. Mincha will complete program of sports, an interview with the West ton, D.C. One of those injured Rhode Islanders. ,e at 4:52 p.m. with the Third drama, field trips, swimming German magazine Bunte in was Destiny Morris, a 16-year­ and arts and crafts with an An Open House for parents ,1eal (Se'udah Shelishis) and December of 1985: "It was my old Hagerstown, Maryland, emphasis on Jewish culture. and campers will be held on ongs (Z'mirot) right after job to get the Jew out - 1 have girl who suffered a skull frac­ The highly qualified staff Su,nday, February 10, from J-3 ;lincha. Ma'ariv will be at 5:38 no remorse for getting rid of ture. Although she has under­ under the direction of Marshall p.m. at the Jewish Community ,.m. Shabbos concludes today that rubbish." gone intensive surgery and Gerstenblatt, who with his Center of Rhode Island, 401 ,t 5:45 p.m. The Havdalah is at There are at least 500 ac­ therapy since coming out of a wife, Barbara, has been with Elmgrove Avenue in Provi­ ;:50p.m. counts compiled by prose­ six-week coma, testimony at Camp JORI for nineteen dence. Participants are free to Sunday, February 3 - Morn­ cutors who stand ready to go to Burgess's trial indicated she seasons, places emphasis on get acquainted with Director ng services at 7:45 a.m. trial. However, Syria refused to probably will never function individual needs. Marshall Gerstenblatt and ask ;lincha for this week is at 4:59 extradite Brunner, and he has above the mental level of a The goal of the camp, " A questions during a slide show ,.m. an armed guard in fr?nt of his nine-year-old. summer of fun with Jewish and refreshments. Morning services for Mon­ apartment building in Damas­ To the entire community: warmth," has been maintained For registration information lay and Thursday are at 6:30 cus. The Syrian government A message from Rabbi since the camp was founded in write: Camp JORI, 229 Water­ ,.m., and for Tuesday, Wednes­ administers monthly pension Moshe Drazin emeritus 1937. Many campers are the man Street, Providence, R.I. lay, and Friday at 6:45 a.m. payments. " Please pray for the early safe sons and daughters of JORI 02906, or call (401) 521 -2655. Syria Harbors Nazi American Rock Thrower return of all men and women The June 1990 issue of Convicted serving with the allies in the leader's Digest reported that Eighteen-year-old John Bur­ Middle East," and echoed by R.I. Federation B.P.W. To Hold Open State 'The most monstrous Nazi war gess faces 415 years in prison the synagogue's membership!! Board Meeting The·Rhode Island Federation tion to be held at the Sheraton Jewish Home For of Business and Professional Islander Inn, Newport, on May Congregation Beth Sholom The Aged Women will hold their winter 3 to 5, as well as preliminary The Jewish Learning " Women in the.Faith," on the open state board of directors' planning for attendance at the Exchange Begins New On Wednesday, February 6, role of women in Judaism. the Women's Association of the meeting on Thursday evening, national organization's con­ Semester February 7, at the North Provi­ vention at Niagara Falls, N.Y. Rabbi Chaim Marder, Rabbi Jewish Home for the Aged will What is the traditional Jew­ of Congregation Beth Sholom, dence Town Hall, Council in July. .sh view of the role of women hold a board meeting in the Chambers, Rt. 44, North Provi­ Local B.P.W. chapters are re­ which sponsors the Learning Martin Chase Auditorium. Cof­ n Judaism? What is the dence, at 7 p.m. The meeting is minded of the deadlines on Exchange, is especially excited fee hour will be at 12:30 p.m., 'Golden Mean" in life? Who open to all B.P.W. members. material, photographs, and about this semester's line-up. the meeting at 1:15 p.m. nvented the Hamentashen "I believe that we have put State federation president "Rooster /Booster" donations :granted, a question of a Anita Norma and Esther Priscilla J. Flynn will preside. It for inclusion in the annual together a series of classes Share will be in charge of hos­ ;lightly different order)? Find offering something of interest is requested that all club offi­ "Rhode Islander" state federa­ >ut the answer to these and pitality. cers and committee chairmen tion publication. Deadline for for everyone," he explained. There will be a discussion of nany other questions as The "We've purposefully tried to plan to attend. receipt by the publications com­ ewish Learning Exchange at the donor luncheon to be held The board meeting agenda mittee of all reports and photo­ balance between text and in March at Temple Emanu-El. leth Sholom begins its new theme courses, introductory will include committee reports graphs is February 5. Checks ,emester of classes on Monday Co-Presidents are Edith and a report of proceedings at and donors names for " Boost­ and advanced. It's a solid pro­ Bernstein and Tilda Kessler. ~vening, February 4. gram, that I believe everyone the January 31 - February 3 er" listings must be received by The Jewish Learning Ex­ - from novice to the "expert" Touro Fraternal national legislative conference the committee before February ·hange, an adult education on Jewish life - will enjoy and and winter interim board of 15. ,rogram for the entire Greater­ grow with, both intellectually directors' meeting in Washing­ Further information regard­ 'rovidence community is and spiritually. " Association ton, D.C., attended by several ing B.P.W. or the board meet­ ,leased to offer a wide variety Most of the classes take state federation members. Also ing may be ,obtained from ,f courses for the late winter The Touro Fraternal Associa­ place at Congregation Beth tion is looking for emergency on the agenda will be a discus­ President Flynn at 364-8821 or eason. It promises to be an Sholom, 275 Camp St. (corner sion and planning for the state 789-9744, or from President­ -xciting season indeed. Classes volunteers. On Monday, Feb­ of Rochambeau) either on ruary 4, the Jewish Home for organization's annual conven- elect Valerie Perry at 434-1449. nclude: "From Slavery to Free­ Mondays or Wednesday eve­ lom" on the Book of Exodus; a the Aged will have a 24-hour nings. To receive a class listing, walk-out. ree six-week crash course in or to find out more about the lebrew reading; an introduc­ If you are able to assist, even program, please call the Syna­ for a few hours, please call Jry Talmud class; "Basic Juda­ gogue office at 331-9393. Class Touro Fraternal Association at ,m": a refresher course in registration is still being THE FURNITURE DOCTOR eeping your kitchen kosher; a 785-0066 or call Bonnie RESIDENTIAL & COMMERCIAL • FURNITURE TOUCH-UP AND REPAIRING accepted. If no one answers, Ryvicker of the Jewish Home ~minar on the philosophy of leave a message on the answer­ for the Aged at 351-4750 and Chrome Chairs and Restaurant Booths Renovated 1aimonides, and much more. ing machine - your call will be advise them that you would be Antique Furniture Restored lighlighting the semester is a returned! able to give your time. ecture Series entitled EXCELLENT WORK 153 FOURTH STREET WILLIAM GOLDTICH PROVIDENCE, RI 02906 421-2256 Touro Helps In Operation Desert Storm Members of Touro Fraternal Please call us at our office in joining Touro Fraternal and Association can be proud that 785-0066 or write us at Touro taking part in our community ts board of directors, through Fraternal Association, P.O. Box as well as social affairs may ts community involvement 3562, Cranston, R.l. 02910. write or call the above phone :ommittee, have been working Jewish men who are interested or address as well. Nith the JWB and the chaplains 'und and have purchased a large ~uantity of seder kits for Ameri­ WE WILL BE CLOSED FOR VACATION :an Jews in the military taking FEBRUARY 4-l 0. Ktive part in Operation Desert REOPENING FEBRUARY 11. 3torm. In recognizing the ·con­ tribution being made by the !ewish men and women in the field, we feel we must do what we can to support them and let them know they are being sup­ ported by fellow Jews. OPEN FOR LUHCH a DINNER If you know of a member of Banquet Facillflet Avallable For up to 120 Peopha Touro or child or grandchild of a Touro member, please let us have the name and APO ad­ breads • bagels • desserts • soups • sa lads • sandwiches 724-2131 dress. We will do our best to 727 East Avenue Phone 727-1010 see if we can get one of these Pawtucket Fax 724-0075 kits to them in the field. HOURS: MONDAY-FRIDAY 7-6. SATURDAY 7-5, SUNDAY 7-1 • .•• •, ··1··· '', • I 2 - THE RHODE ISLAND JEWISH HERALD, ,Hl:IRSDAY, JANUARY 31 ; 1991· I 12 - THE RHODE ISLAND JEWISH HERALD, THURSDAY, JANUARY 31 , 1991 Big Brothers To Honor Temple Sinai, Cranston, Sets Sixth Steven T. Sholes Installed Marjorie Lee Sundlun Steven T. Sholes of Warwick Scholar-In-Residence Weekend was installed as president of Marjorie Lee Sundlun has Temple Sinai, Cranston, will the commercial investment been named recipient of the hold its sixth annual Scholar­ division of the Rhode Island 14th annual Big Brothers of in-Residence, Feb. 8 and 9, Association of Realtors at its Rhode Island Inc. Robert "Cy" with Rabbi David Saperstein of annual meeting at the Sheraton Killian Humanitarian Award, Washington, D.C. as principal Tara Airport Hotel. Executive Director Validoro speaker and discussion leader. Sholes is the owner of Sinese has announced. Rabbi Saperstein is co-direc­ Steven Sholes Realtors located "Mrs. Sundlun has shown tor and counsel of the Religious in Warwick. continual support for the Action Center of Reform Ju ­ In his remarks, Sholes agency. She has always helped daism. The center represents stressed the need for realtors us in any way that she could," the Reform Jewish movement to remember that the rules for Sinesi said. to Congress and the federal success in business do not The Killian Humanitarian government. It also provides change ... honesty, persever­ Award was established in 1978 related materials to ance, knowledge and know­ to honor a person from the and coordinates social action how ... in boom or bust times. community who has demon­ education programs for train­ He further stated, " Be unafraid. strated a commitment to help­ ing rabbinic and Jewish lay Some spell the work recession ing the agency. Mrs. Sundlun, a leaders. member of the Big Brothers Ad ­ with "R" ... as for me I spell Stevan Sholes Rabbi Saperstein will speak visory Board, is the first woman recession with an "O" and the Gorham III, vice president; on the weekend theme, "The 0 stands for opportunity." to receive this award. Jewish Stake in the 102nd John Migliaccio, secretary; Rabbi David Saperstein Others elected were: Sidney George Cranshaw, treasurer. The Rhode Island chapter Congress," at the 8:15 p.m. was founded 38 years ago by Sabbath service on Feb. 8, justice themes. the late Francis J. McCabe, which will be led by Rabbi He has held leadership posi­ Second Section Opened Chief Justice of the Rhode Is­ George J. Astrachan. tions in national coalitions on For Hebrew Course At Touro land Family Court. After the 9:45 a.m. Saturday such issues as Israel, civil A United Way agency, the service on Feb. 9, Rabbi Saper­ rights, energy, the environ­ Synagogue organization is designed to of­ stein will set the stage for group ment, abortion rights, and nu­ fer fatherless boys the opportu­ discussions among those at­ clear disarmament. He also The Adult Education Pro­ tion is February 5. For further nity to further their growth and gram of Touro Synagogue of tending, covering Reform Ju­ serves on the boards and execu­ information on this exciting development through friend­ daism's domestic and foreign Newport, R.I., is expanding its tive committees of many na­ activity, contact the Touro Syn­ ships with men who offer them policy agenda in Washington. program in a very dramatic tional organizations, including agogue office at (401) 847- guidance. After lunch, Rabbi Saperstein manner. Having agreed to co­ the NAACP, People for the 4794. Mrs. Sundlun will be hon­ will summarize the program. sponsor a special "crash American Way and Common The Adult Education Pro­ ored at a testimonial dinner on Rabbi Saperstein also is an Cause. course" in Hebrew Reading, gram at Touro is also preparing Wednesday, April 17, at · the with the National Jewish Out­ attorney and an adjunct profes­ His wife, Ellen Weiss, is exec­ for a unique event, the first Marriott Inn in Providence. The sor in comparative Jewish and reach Program, a free Tuesday utive producer of "All Things Adult Bat Mitzvah program in dinner will be chaired by the American Law at Georgetown Considered," the widely recog­ morning course was an­ Touro's long and glorious his­ Honorable Harry Kizirian. University Law School. He has nounced. However, because of nized news and features pro­ tory. Rabbi- Dr. Shapiro an­ Cocktail hour begins at 6:30 appeared on network television numerous requests, it was de­ gram on National Public Radio. nounced that this event will p.m. Dinner will begin at 7:30 news and discussion programs, All sessions of the Scholar­ cided to open a second evening feature six celebrants, and will p.m. with the award presenta­ and his articles have appeared in-Residence weekend are section of the same course. be held at a· special Late Friday tion to follow. Tickets are avail­ in the Washington Post and The open to the community. The Both sections of the course are Evening "Oneg Shabbat" serv­ able through Mr. Sinesi at 100 New York Times, in addition to program is being arranged by scheduled to commence on ice on March 15 in the main Lafayette St., Pawtucket, or by major general and Jewish pub­ the adult education committee Tuesday, February 12, with the sanctuary of the congregation. calling 722-6300. lications. He is the author and of Temple Sinai, chaired by Su­ morning group meeting from These women will be complet- 1 editor of _five books on social san Rodrigues of Cranston. 10 to 11 :30 a.m. , and the eve­ ing a minimum of three years Temple Beth-El ning group from 6:30 to 8 p.m. of study in the congregation's Library Opens Both classes will be conducted weekly 'Torah Night" pro­ by Rabbi Dr. Chaim Shapiro, On Friday, January 18, the . Miriam Hospital Trustee Wins grams. Also, a special "Scholar­ remodeling of the Temple the spiritual leader of the in-Residence" weekend is National Trustee Award congregation. They will meet Beth-El William G. Braude being planned · tentatively for Library was completed. All in the Touro Jewish Commu­ the weekend of April 26 Miriam Hospital Trustee Ed­ mittee, vice president of the nity Center, at the comer of members of the community are win A. Jaffe has been named board and finally chairman of through 28. More details will invited to come and see the Touro and Division Streets. be forthcoming soon. · Trustee of the Year in the the board. He was instrumental The deadline for class registra- many changes and great im ­ January·21, 1991 issue of Mod­ in the completion of The provements in both the func­ ern Healthcare magazine, a Miriam Health Centers, the ~ Beau James Beau James Beau Ja mes Beau James Beau James Beau James f tional space and esthetic qual­ Chicago-based health care in­ hospital's outpatient medical ity of this fine synagogue dustry publication with a sig­ and surgical facility which was library. nificant national readership, opened in May, 1989. He was 1 ~ CJJeau James r Librarian Reini Silverman Jaffe, who served the hospital also the driving force behind EARLY BIRD SPECIALS (4-7 PM) f and her volunteers are in the as chairman of the board from the hospital's $9 million capital ~ ~ process of putting the books 1984-1988, is the current chair­ campaign which is nearing j 0 ~ ,.... WEDNESDAY THRU SATURDAY f back on the shelves. The chi!- man of The Miriam Hospital completion. Jaffe is also cred­ -~ CHOICEOFCHICKENNOOOLESOUPOROUR . dren's, reference, and adult fic­ Foundation, the chief fundrais­ ited with a leadership role in ~ SOUP OFTHEDAY f tion collections are now ac­ ing arm of the hospital. attracting many nationally rec­ cessible and circulating. ~ :JI ENTREE: Baked Half Chicken, Roast Turkey, • "We are delighted that Ed ognized academic physicians to WINTER HOURS Broiled Scallops, Brook Trout Almondine, t The Library Committee will Jaffe has been acknowledged in the hospital. Sun. 12-9pm Scrod Veracruz. ~ officially rededicate the Braude this way because of his many This award marks the first Mon.-Thurs. 11-9Pm Aboveservedwlthrolls&butter. salad. S& 95 "' Library following Shabbat Eve­ contributions not only to The time in its eight-year history in ~ Fri. 11-1 Opm • Sat. 4-1 Opm potato or vegetable, and cottee or tea. • f ning Services on Friday, May 3. which a trustee from Rhode ls­ -!l MAJOR CREOff CARDS Miriam, but also to the commu­ ~ ACCEPTED 1075 North Main Street, Providence • 751-8220 For more information you may nity at large, He clearly de­ land has been so acknowl­ t contact Mrs. Silverman at 331- ~ Beau James Beau James Beau James Beau James Beau James Beau James ~ serves this honor," said Steven edged. Jaffe is one of two 6070. D. Baron, president of The trustees honored - by Modern Free And Reduced­ Miriam. Healthcare; he represents the Jaffe became a trustee at The category of trustees from hospi­ Price School Lunches Miriam in 1976 and has served tals with fewer than 250 beds. Dr. J. Troy Earhart, Commis­ in several important board The Miriam is a 247-bed hospi­ sioner of Education, reminds roles, including treasurer, tal. lfJNITED parents and guardians that a chairman of the Finance Com- SURGICAL CENTERS household may apply for free or reduced-price school lunch benefits at any time during the Second Brunch And Lecture school year, as circumstances Quality Health Care At Home change. The current economic Of Semester At U. A. I. Hillel crisis and the mlitary situation On Sunday, February IO, The brunch will begin at in the Persian Gulf create a sit­ 1991, the second event in the Oxygen • Patient Supplies noon at the Hillel House, 34 uation where the household ongoing Brunch and Lecture Hospital Beds • Wheelchairs • Walk Aids income of many Rhode Island Lower College Road, Kingston, Series will take place at U.R.I. The cost for the brunch is $3 Bath Safety Equipment• Ostomy Supplies families may have changed Hillel. The topic for this lecture since the beginning of the community and faculty, and will be "The Idiosyncrasies of $2,50 students, The lecture will school year. Layoffs and mili­ Jewish Relationships." It will follow at 12:45 p.m. Admission tary call-ups are causing a be led by Jayne Richmond and to the lecture is free. The public reduction in household income Randy Kulman, Dr, Richmond for many families. Children is welcome to attend, Reserva­ rnf)"'~s~ is an Associate Professor of tions are requested for the that were not eligible in Sep­ Human Development at the brunch by calling the Hillel 380 Warwick Avenue tember may now be eligible for University of Rhode Island. Dr, free or reduced-price lunches. office, 792-2740, by Febru­ Warwick, RI Kulman is a psychologist and a ary 8. Applications are available at partner in South County Child For more information, please 781-2166 local school offices. and Family Consultants, Wake­ field. call the Hillel office. I THE RI--ibDE'fs'LAND JEWISB HERALD, THURSDAY; JANUARY 31, 1991 - 15 ------r 1~cci fi prf

THE RHODE ISLAND JEWISH HERALD, THURSDAY, JANUARY 31, 1991 13 Jewish Family Service Collects NCJW Scholarships National Council of Jewish Furnishings For New Americans Women, Rhode Island Section, will be awarding scholarships ovens, are all needed. The Jewish Family Service is co­ to Rhode Island area students ordinating a community-wide items will then be inventoried attending college in the Fall of effort to help arriving Soviet and stored. As new emigres I 991. Jews resettle by furnishing arrive, Jewish Family Service NCJW is the oldest Jewish their apartments with donated will distribute the furniture and women's volunteer organiza­ items. Many of these New accessories. tion in the country with more Americans, who arrive with Those wishing to donate fur­ than 100,000 members dedi­ few personal belongings, face a nishings are requested to mail cated to community service and time of great transition. The an itemized list to Jewish Fam­ social action to improve life for adjustment to a new culture ily Service, 229 Waterman others. Our scholarship pro­ and lifestyle can be softened by Street, Providence, R.I. 02906. gram is part of this commit­ having an attractive and com­ The project is being coordi­ ment. Scholarships will be fortable apartment to call nated by Jewish Family Service awarded based on financial volunteer, Merrill Percelay, home. need, evidence of involvement Jewish Family Service will with the help of other volun­ in community service, and aca­ arrange to pick up bedroom, teers, students at Brown/ RISO demic worthiness. kitchen, and living room furn­ Hillel and local businesses who Students desiring applica­ ishings that are in good condi­ have donated space. tions should write to: Seena tion and in appropriate scale Your charitable contribu­ Dittelman, 93 Crestwood Road, for apartments. Beds, sofas, tions can help new members to Cranston, R.I. 02920, or phone our community feel at home chairs and small appliances, 942-5735. Deadline for re­ and welcomed. such as toasters and microwave questing applications is March 29, 1991. Congregation Ohawe Shalam The Young Israel of Paw­ for the grave crisis in the Gulf. Veterans of Foreign Wars tucket will have services this Anyone interested in joining of the U.S. Department Friday evening at 4:50 p.m. our congregation and helping of Rhode Island Shabbat morning a Kiddush us with our activities is invited will follow services which to join with a year of compli­ Concerning the situation in begin at 9 a.m. The Rabbi will mentary membership. Call the Mideast, the following mes­ have his class Saturday after­ 724-3552 for more informa­ sage is from the State Com­ noon at 4 p.m. Mincha will be (L-R) Joanne Summer and Suzanne Gilstein tion. mander, Anthony J. Scudieri, Miriam Women Announce Donor Event at 4:45 p.m. Ma-ariv will be at Our congregation will again Veterans of Foreign Wars of the 5:40 p.m. Havdalah will be at have a Purim dinner for the United States, Department of 5:50p.m. physicians who will describe entire Jewish community Thurs­ Rhode Island, Providence, RI, In the "Tradition of Giving," · _All services, when possible, the Miriam Hospital Women's the medical equipment to be day, Feb. 28, at 5 p.m. Mark Jan. 17, 1991: will be accompanied by Psalms We know that difficult days Association has announced purchased. Steven L. Blazar, this date on your calendar. M.D., Attending Orthopedic and agonizing decisions lie plans for its 1991 Annual ahead for the American people, Equipment Event. During this Surgeon, will describe the ad­ vantages of the Patient Con­ Medical Ethics Lectures but I am confident that the event, funds are raised to pur­ unity and determination will chase medical equipment that trolled Analgesia Machines AtTouro which allow the patient to reg­ come forth from all loyal Amer­ is vital to patient care at The ism views these controversial ulate administration of pain What is the Jewish religious icans. Miriam. This year, proceeds of but crucial ll)Odern subjects. medication when needed with­ attitude toward organ trans­ On behalf of the Veterans of the Equipment Event will be plants, euthanasia, test-tube They will be held in the Touro Foreign Wars and its Ladies used to purchase 5 Patient out the discomfort of an injec­ babies, artificial insemination? Jewish Community Center Auxiliary, I wish to express our Controlled Analgesia Machines tion. These are some of the topics building (corner of Touro and support to the brave men and and a Ventilator for the Inten­ Charles B. Sherman, M.D., that will be featured at two Division Streets) on Monday women that are in the Mideast. sive Care Unit. Director of the Pulmonary divi­ public lectures sponsored by evenings February 4 and 11 at To these fine soldiers, our On Monday, February 4, the sion of the Department of 8 p.m. Several prominent local Medicine at The Miriam, will the Touro Synagogue Adult thoughts and prayers are with Kickoff meeting for the Equip­ Education Program. physicians have been invited you and we stand by ready to ment Event will feature a dy­ discuss the importance of the to these programs to gain in­ Ventilator, which assists pa­ In announcing these free assist you in whatever way we namic program consisting of public lectures Rabbi Dr. sights and also to make use of possibly can. three outstanding guest speak­ tients who are unable to their medical expertise. For fur­ breathe on their own. Chaim Shapiro, the congre­ ers. Barbara Dickinson, the fea­ gation's spiritual leader, ther information contact the tured speaker, will comment on The meeting will be held in Touro Synagogue office at 847- the hospital's Sopkin Audito­ explained that these talks will personal interviews she con­ focus on how traditional Juda- 4794. ducted with women in the East­ rium. A petite lunch will be ern block countries of former served at noon followed by the East Germany, Poland, Hun­ open meeting and presenta­ gary, Romania and Czechoslo­ tions at 12:30 p.m. Equipment Women & Infants Event Chairpersons Suzanne vakia. She will share her in­ Hospital Seeks Down·home Cooking sights into the daily lives and Gilstein and Joanne Summer problems of women in that area will be joined in hosting the Volunteers for under $10.00 as she speaks on "The Women day by Doris McGarry and Dr. Women & Infants Hospital Tuesday & Wednesday in Eastern Europe: At the Elaine Fain, Program Co­ of Rhode Island is seeking vol­ Nights 5·9 pm Wall." Mrs. Dickinson and her Chairs, and Robin Engle and unteers to lead patients in arts husband, Brian Dickinson of Karen Jacober, Hospitality Co­ and crafts projects. the Providence Journal editorial Chairs. Public Relations was Volunteers should be skilled IT'ruJ@ @@ ~o@~~@DIT' staff, co-authored a series of effected by Marcia Blacher and ,in a variety of crafts such as Creative Cooking • Fun Food · 99 Hope St. , Prov. • 751 -8890 articles for 1:he Journal follow­ Eunice Greenfield. Patricia G. knitting, crocheting and needle­ ing their May 1990 trip to East­ Cohen and Patricia A. Hairabet work. The hours and days are ern Europe. This promises to be are Co-Presidents of The flexible. Three-hour commit­ a fascinating presentation. Miriam Hospital Women's As­ ments are preferred. We will also welcome two sociation. For more information con­ outstanding Miriam Hospital tact Volunteer Services at Women & Infants Hospital, iw;~l's,w; 274-1100, ext. 1469. Brown University 243 Reservoir Ave., Providence {near Cranston line) 461-0425 Corporation Notice RHODE ISIAND'S ONLY COMPLETE KOSHER DEU The Brown University Cor­ Whole Shoulders ...... s2.39 lb. poration at its last meeting, re­ WE EXPERTLY CANE May be used /or Sandwich Steaks, London IJrell, Roasts scinded its action of February 10, 1990, appointing Professor CHAIRS Jacob Neusner University Pro­ BBQ Chicken ...... :._~$1.49 lb. fessor Emeritus. This was done at Professor Neusner's request. Rock Comish Having taken early retirement Game Hens ...... s1.49 lb. from Brown, Neusner is now Fiber Rush Seats Graduate Research Professor of Furniture Repair Roasting Chickens ...... s1.s9 lb. Religious Studies at the Univer­ Re-silver Mirrors (6 lbs. & over} sity of South Florida, teaching in a sequence at the campuses in Tampa, St. Petersburg, Sara­ Beef Fry 6 oz...... s1.99 lb. sota, and Lakeland, and also Martin Buber Visiting Professor Limited Quantities of Judaic Studies at the Univer­ 463-8262 Not responsible for typographical errors. sity of Frankfurt, Germany. 2-THE RHODE ISLA:ND JEWISH HERALD,iHl:JRSDAY, JANUARY31; 1991-

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SADIE GOLDSTEIN holder of many U.S. patents on NA THANIEL HOWARD of many other leaders who can ' ROVIDENCE Sadie SUGERMAN his innovations in the metal In Tribute finishing field. assume this role, for they are, 1evie" Goldstein, a resident CRANSTON - Nathaniel (continued from page 2) Charlesgate Apartments, He attended Classical High for the most part, leaders of a Howard Sugerman of 93 Bluff on the traditional fields of Jew­ sectional group, without a brief J N. Main St., died Friday, Avenue, died Wednesday, Jan­ School in Providence, R.I. uary 25, 1991, at home. She before enlisting in the U.S. Air ish study - the Talmud and and perhaps without the infor­ uary 23, 1991, at the age of 68. halacha - something which mation to be authoritative s the wido;, of Lewis D. He was the husband of Beverly Force, serving in the second ,ldstein. World War and flying in over their opponents generally criti­ beyond their borders. The Gomberg Sugerman. cized the Chasidim for neglect­ Rebbe's advice carries with it .\ lifelong Pr ividence resi­ He was the son of the late fifty missions in the South Pacific. ing. The first Rebbe of Chabad, no more and no less than the ri t, she was a aughter of the Samuel and Clara (Aron) Sugar­ e Julius and Dr ra Blazer. He was a member of Temple for example, Rabbi Schneur authority which his worldwide man. Zalman of Liadi, was equally concern has given him. 3he was a mernber of Tern­ A highly respected entre­ Beth-El in Providence. : Beth-El and its Sisterhood, Besides his wife he is sur­ well known as the author of Those who visit the Rebbe preneur, he was the founder the first systematic text of - and the vast majority of n ember of the Women's As­ and President of Providence vived by three daughters, ciation of the Jewish Home Ruth Ann Sugerman of East Chasidic philosophy, the those who do so are not born Metallizing Company, Inc., a Tanya, and as the compiler of a Lubavitchers, whose attach­ r the Aged, Hope Link, the metal fi nishing company based Providence, Claudia Akerstein 1jestic Senior Guild, the of Cranston and Betty Suger­ distinguished law-code, the ment might be denigrated as in Pawtucket, R. I., and was Schulchan Aruch Harav. being a reflex of tradition - do anston Senior Guild and internationally recognized for man Weintraub of Windsor, ldassah . CT; a son, Richard Sugerman Where the present Rebbe has so because of his reputation as his expertise in the metal gone beyond his predecessors a man of encompassing vision. She leaves a son, Burton W. finishing field. He was the of Cranston; also the brother of ildstein of Providence; four the late Harold Sugarman, is in demonstrating and defin­ They tend to emerge some­ founder of the Beatrix Jewelry ing the links between the two. what unnerved, taken by sur­ rndchildren and a great­ Company of Providence. Mr. Robert Sugarman, and Beatrice rnddaughter. Sugarman Lisker; and leaves Central to his approach is the prise. They expect, perhaps, Sugerman was a co-founder idea of the intellectual unity of the conventional type of a She was the mother of the and past president of the Soci­ fou r grandchildren, Ari Aker­ e Irvin a Ross-Katz. stein, Ilana Akerstein, Eli all facets of the Torah. Legal, charismatic leader, imposing ety of Vacuum Coaters, a homiletical, mystical and his presence by the force of his funeral service was held member of the American Akerstein, and Justin Wein­ ,onday, January 28, at Mount traub. Chasidic expositions of a par­ personality. Electroplating Society, and a ticular passage - though they What they find is the re­ nai Memorial Chapel, 825 longtime member of the Manu­ In lieu of flowers, contribu­ ope St. Burial was in Lincoln tions may be made to the may seem foreign to one an­ verse: a man who, whatever facturers, Jewelers, and Silver­ other - are in fact not merely the complexity of his current .J rk Cemetery, Warwick. smiths Association. He was the Cardio-Thoracic Intensive Care Unit, c/o Dr. Douglas Payne, all true, but the same truth, concerns, is totally engaged , New England Medical Center expressed at deeper and deeper with the person he's speaking Hospital, 750 Washington levels of perception. One can to. It is almost like coming face Street, Boston, MA 021 11 or to pursue an idea through literal, to face with oneself for the fi rst ' the charity of your choice. allegorical, homiletic, mystical time. Not in the simple sense and Chasidic frames of dis­ of, as it were, seeing oneself in a mirror but rather seeing one­ Monumenls and memorials course, and in doing so one is bringing into play progressively self revealed as a person of in 1hefines1 i ranile and lm111ze. KATHE ZIEGLER PROVIDENCE Kathe deeper faculties of conscious­ unique significance in the scheme /11 -luJ/I.\'(' co11sufra1io11., hy appoillfnU'III Ziegler, 88, of Charlesgate ness arriving at deeper aware­ of things, discovering ETTERING • CLEANING • REPAIRS South, 20 Randall St., died ness of the Divine reality. one's purpose. So much so that Friday, January 25, 1991, at It is important to understand it is difficult to talk of the Leon J. R11 hi11 726-6466 Miriam Hospital. She was the about Lubavitch that it is a Rebbe's personality at all so identified is he with the individ­ Affiliated with Charles G. Morse Granite Company widow of Max Ziegler. movement supremely dedi­ uals he guides. Born in Germany, a daugh­ cated to allowing each Jew to This is, ultimately, what is so ter of the late Raphael and play his special role, to being, misconceived by those who Kayla Rosenberger, she had m the Baal Shem Tov's image, Ii ved in Providence over 50 his own particular letter in the have never met him. His leader­ r ship - rare almost to the point i MT. SINAI MONUMENTS years. Sefer Torah. The Rebbe is the person who guides him toward of uniqueness in the present k She was a member of Tem­ day - consists in self-efface­ Our owner, Mitchell ... his father and ple Emanu-EI, a life member of that role; who, by standing above the distortions of the ment. Its power is precisely grandfather... have been privileged to provide Hadassah and was a member what it effaces itself towards - of the Women's Association of ego, taking a global view of the over 8,000 monuments in RI Jewish Cemeteries problems of the Jewish world, the sense of the irreplaceability the Jewish Home for the Aged. of each and every Jew. since the 1870s for 2 reasons ... the quality is She leaves two sons, Arthur being in the language of Chas­ Reprinted from Forty Years: the finest and the price is the lowest. Ziegler of Pawtucket and Man­ idut a "collective soul," sees where the individual belongs. Light, Unity and Joy: Submitted fred Ziegler of Portsmouth; by Rabbi Y. Laufer. Call 331-3337 for assistance. four grandchildren and three It is, after all, difficult to think great-grandchildren. A funeral service was held Sunday, January 27, at Mount Copies of the Herald are available from: Sinai Memorial Chapel, 825 Barney's on East A venue, Pawtucket Hope St. Burial was in Sharon Somethin's Cookin' on East Avenue, Pawtucket Memorial Park, Sharon, Mass. The Smith family tradition East Side Pharmacy on Hope Street, Providence The Smith name has been known and Hall's Drug on Elmgrove Avenue, Providence respected by Jewish families for many years. Gary's Park A venue Deli on Park A venue, Cranston The late Rev. Meyer Smith was Rhode Island's Garden City Drug on Reservoir A venue, Cranston revered mohel for generations. Cantor Jacob '1ack" Smith prepared countless children for Bar and Bat Mitzvah and later sang at their Federal law now requires all funeral homes weddings. Now, in the true spirit of his u_s_ grandfather and father, Michael D. Smith to provide itemized pricing_ Mount Sinai Memorial Chapel continues his family's tradition of service to the has provided this courtesy for over fifteen years. Jewish community as Executive Director of the Sugarman-Smith Memorial Chapel MOUNT SINAI Sugannan-Smith MEMORIAL CHAPEL Memorial Chapel The only RI Jewish funeral home that is a member of the Jewish Funeral Directors of America. The Rhode Island Jewish funeral home that can be trusted ___for its honesty.. .integrity_ __ and compliance with the highest standards of Jewish ethics and conduct. Over 110 years service to RJ_ Jewish families by our director, Mitchell, his father and grandfather. HOME OF YOUR FAMILY RECORDS_ 331-3337 Please call 458 Hope Street, Providence, Comer of Doyle Ave. 825 Hope Street at Fourth Street for your Telephone: 331-8094 Out of State: 1-800-447-U67 Pre -need counseling with tax-free New Year From out-of-state call: Michael D. Smith, Executive Director L,wI,J. 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As War Erupts Beth-El (continued from page I) UJA ENTERTAINMENT SERVICES RENDERED (continued from page I) (continued from page I) program started in 1982, some STEVE YOKEN ENTERTAINMENT - Profes- second group read an ad that HOUSE CLEANING: $19.00 weekly for 27,000 volunteers have put Soviet Jews make clear Israel's • sional Master of Ceremonies and Disc senior citizens. We service all types of busi­ themselves at Israel's service. sounded like a Bell Tele­ great need in this time ol' crisis. Jockey. Bar/ Bat Mitzvah specialists. ness. Insured . 761-6112. 1/ 31 / 91 Arthur Stern, a volunteer at phone advertisement with Plans for the mobilization (Optional - N.Y. Laser Light Show Plus two sisters remembering the drive, drawn up by the cam­ Teen Dancing Sensation.) THE PARTY VF!, says the volunteers will PLANNERS ' CHOICE 508-679-1545. good times because of the paign ·executive committee, work a two- or three-week 1/ 31 / 92 CLASSBOX stint, while sleeping on a cot at war and finding their Jewish chaired by UJA National Chair­ CORRESPONDENCE TO : an army base, "getting three identities again. The third man Marvin Lender, aim to ClassBox No. glatt kosher meals a day," al­ found themselves all dis­ have at least a third of the HELP WANTED The R.I. Jewish Herald though the diet is army-sparse, agreeing on what would de­ money collected by the end of P.O. Box 6063 Providence. RI 02940 little more than eggs, cheese, pict a beneficial lifestyle ijnd the month. ASSEMBLERS: Excellent income , easy work bread and salad. turned their reply into say­ Meanwhile, an emergency assembling products at home. 7-day, 24-hr service. Info 504-646-1700, Dept. This newspaper will not, knowingly, accept ing that their difficulties in any advertising for real es1ate which is in Stern said that the workday, drive launched recently by the P6971 . 2/7 / 91 usually eight hours, has been arriving on a couple of ideas State of Israel Bonds Organiza­ violation of the R.I. Fair Housing Act and stretching to 12 hours in the is the benefit of being Jewish tion had brought in $20 million Section 804 (C) of Title VIII of the 1968 Civil - we all have a mind of our Rights Act. Our readers are hereby informed current emergency situation. by Tuesday, January 22. Plans INTRODUCTION SERVICES that all dwelling/ housing accommodations The volunteers, clothed in own. Other ethnics are are to sell. a total of $ 100 mil­ advertised in this newspaper are available on army fatigues, are being used taught to believe in set ideas lion in Israeli government JEWISH INTRODUCTIONS INTERNA­ an equal opportunity basis. in army warehouses, supply and not to question it. semrities over the next two TIONAL. Local and personalized . Ages 21- Young adults "are too old weeks, officials said. 101 . Let us find that special "s omeone." and repair systems and other Call 1-800-442 -9050. 7/ 91 non front-line facilities, freeing to be told 'read chapter four' To assist in the sale, the up Israeli army personnel for and are too smart to accept Israel Bonds national head­ Paulene Jewelers other duties. Volunteers are 'because' as an answer," ex­ quarters in New York is open Bead Stringing warned that living conditions plains Bogot, "because 24 hours a day, seven days a SERVICES RENDERED you're the product that actu­ 274-9460 are "rugged and sometimes week, Officials said the phones Free Pick Up &- Delivery ally thinks. Parents are used ANTIQUE REFINISHING . Professional strip­ primitive - but you will sur­ had been ringing nonstop. ping. reglueing . repairs - free estimates - vive."' to things that have been pick-up/ delivery - call Shat 434 -0293/ done the same for years. The volunteers, who are in­ Announce your chi ld's 831 -9568. 4/ 18 They don't like change or cluded in all of the social activi­ bar or bat mitzvah BENNY & NICK: CUSTOM LAMINA TED DRIVER'S ties on the base, pay $649 for a the challenges that we PRODU CTS : Designs made to order. Call round-trip ticket on El Al or would promote." in the Herald. 946-0570. Eves . 828-8785. 2/7/ 91 PLUMBING CO. Tower Air, and a $50 registra­ When the group spoke on Black and white photos 331·8b8S "Jewish leaders" Bogot com­ are welcome. I tion fee for other costs. The Specializing in Repair and work-week is Sunday through mented, "The only thing 1 keeping you down is that Remodel Plumbing in r Friday noon. Older Homes. [. Volunteers for Israel started you don't have the money to Harold Greco A referral service change things." All phases of plumbing. 1( during Israel's Lebanon War in for babysitters, • Free Estimates I 1982, when crops were going ~ eeduuJa since 1967 • Fully Insured unharvested because farm Walls & Repair Work • Plastering Joshua Driver workers had been called to m 401-421-1213 ! 463-6354 tiiffiR RI Master Plumber Lie. #1697 1 military duty. I Former Paratroop Gen. !i, Aharon Davidi, in charge of communal services in a north­ Y"'"""""'"'""""'"'"'''"'""'"'"'"'"'"'"" )' INTEX PAINTING AND WALLCOVERIN(3~ ern Israeli town, says he sent I POLISHING I CO. ~ ~ Israelis to "street corners in ~ • Brass ~ • Commerclal - Resldentlal Brooklyn and Queen" to " har­ I • Sterling I • Interior - Exterior · angue the Jews, In the end, we I • Copper ~ got over 650 (volunteers) and I • Fireplace Screens I • Power Weshlng saved our crops." I • Andirons ~ • Staining The volunteers range in age PASQUAZZI I • Brass Beds i • Wallpaper Hanging from teen-agers to septua­ I • Jewelry ~ Painting & Wallcovering QUALITY WORKMANSHIP AT REASONABLE RATES genarians. The older people are I NU-BRITE SERVICES I used in jobs that are not physi­ Call for A- I!, 463-8262 ~ FREE ESTIMATES cally demanding. Free ·1~...1.1:1. ~. .,,,,,,,,,,.,,,,,,.,,,,,,,,,,,,~i FULLY INSURED NATH;~~; Stern says the volunteers are Estimates "hot to trot. 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1 Thank You Mail check to: Rhode Island Jewish Herold, PO Box 6063, Providence, RI 02940 : _R~E~l_:H!~~~ ~O.:_B~X_6~~ ~~~E~~-~I_O~~ _ to this company, while I bring could take. Sometimes they Cathleen Naughton Associ­ the nursing." Caroline has may need a little direction." ates is not only a company with completed numerous business Cathleen Naughton Associ­ years of experience in the courses in the MBA program at ates is a local company with health care field but it is an ex­ Providence College and is deep, strong roots. For years panding business. Caroline presently working on her Mas­ their employees have provided hints that soon a new focus of ter's Degree in Health Services quality home and hospital home care will be added to the at Salve Regina - The Newport health care to hundreds of peo­ business. Since the final details College. ple across the state. Cathleen of the expansion have yet to be As the mother and daughter Naughton is proud of the qual­ determined, Caroline cannot talk about their business, they ity of care given. "The patients reveal any particulars. Mother BUSINESS PR<>FILES finish sentences for one an­ are really coddled. They get and daughter smile together other. They are, it seems, a per­ whatever they want, whenever and say, "Stay tuned ... " fect match. " I really feel ," says they want." Cathleen Naughton Associates - Cathleen, "that Caroline is the total workforce behind the Helping Through the Years company. That's how it is, the by Sarah Baird the day we started, that we youth taking over." Herald Associate Editor were going to give these people Caroline, a part owner of the Dedicated to providing top of the very, very best. They are company, in tum defers to her the line health care to private asking us to give them a ser­ mother, the initial source of in­ clients throughout the state, vice. It had better be a top­ spiration for the company. Cathleen Naughton Associates notch service, as far as l am "The company was started is a fixture in the home health concerned." with a certain philosophy, care and private nursing field. Cathleen Naughton is quick which my mother had, has. Staffed by family members and to point out that she can not That is carried over and main­ dedicated, licensed health care claim sole responsibility for the tained throughout all of our of­ providers, this local company is continued success of the com­ fices. That's my back-up." a picture-perfect example of a pany. " Caroline Naughton is Not only are Cathleen and rare, valuable member of our our administrator and my Caroline Naughton dedicated community... the family-run daughter. She more or less runs to one another and to the busi­ business. the company for us. " ness, but they make a point of More than ten years ago Raymond, one of Cathleen's getting to know all of their Cathleen Naughton decided to sons and a graduate of Provi­ clients and remaining accessi­ start her own business. With a dence College, is currently in­ ble to their many employees." degree in nursing and a back- valved with the bookkeeping Professionals work with indi­ Caroline (L) and Cathleen (R) Naughton. ground in public health and and payroll at Cathleen viduals and families to deter­ psychiatric nursing, she has Naughton Associates. In the mine the level and intensity of firsthand knowledge of the ne- past Kathleen and Paul, Cath­ services needed for each pa­ cessity and value of quality leen Naughton's other chil­ tient. " We're seeing that more HOME HEALTH CARE home care services. Since its in- dren, have also participated in and more families are getting ception, Cathleen Naughton the family business. involved with the elderly pop­ When Home Care Is Needed ulation. In other words, they Associates has offered a wide " l decided to open my own HOME HEALTH AIDE• HOMEMAKERS variety of health care altema- company in 1979, and Caro­ are looking for a home care per­ son to come in and take care of REGISTERED NURSES • LICENSED PRACTICAL NURSES lives to its clients. line, who at the time was at Personnel BONDED & INSURED - Supervised by a Regislered Nurse "We are local, Rhode Island . Bryant College, worked for me their parent and help the parent people who run this company,," part-time while in school. Car­ to stay at home. There are and my attitude has been, since oline brings the business aspect many different avenues they Available 7 Days A Week, 24 Hours A Day Licensed RI Agency AROUND TOWN Baltimore. MANKIND."' (continued from page 8) " My mother died in 1973, Writing to the United States but she lived long enough to National Holocaust Museum, CATHLEEN NAUGHTON ASSOC. Before coming to the United see her three Hans said, "Thank you and Cathleen Naughton RN BS States, Hans was assistant great-grandchildren. your esteemed organization for 249 Wickenden Street • Providence, RI administrator of a tuberculosis " In conclusion, please let me what you already did, what 751-9660 sanitarium in the Italian Alps, say thanks to the good Lord for you are still doing and what Wakefield 783-6116 Newport 849-1 233 near the Austrian border. saving my life and for granting you still plan to do. He emigrated to the United me to live through what I have "Erich Kastner, the anti-Nazi States in 1951 sponsored described. I want to end this German writer, said it best: WOULD YOU PAY $195 TO "oddly enough," he said, by a epistle with the same words as "What happened during the Quaker organization. Earl H. Anne Frank in her famous Holocaust is indeed Bradley, Hans' sponsor, lived diary: 'I STILL BELIEVE IN unspeakable, yet we must in Rhode Island and was THE GOODNESS OF never keep quiet about it." executive vice president of BIF Industries, Inc. Hans married the former Mildred· Bromberg. They are the parents of a daughter, Rienette, and now the "immensely proud grandpa­ rents of three, one boy and two girls." The Heimanns' youngest granddaughter was a Bat Mitzvah in November, and their grandson plans to attend John Hopkins University in Hl.JSINESS PR()FILES

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9~~- ',~ CJ;lin;;i ·~-v; e Let me be a seaL upan youY heart, ~~--;;i 9¥1-ir-',v ci;nn;;, Li~e the seaL upan youY hand. .l~c)~ FoY Love is fieYce as death, ',;~~ ;iwP. Ji)$~ Passion is mighty as SheoL; ru~ '~1¥7 :;r~it] :1!$lP. Its darts an darts of fiYe, :;-i;i:i:;iCT'?W A blazing flame. ni:#? i',:;i17 K? 0'~7 0:9 7 Vast floods cannot quench Love, K? ni");;tl'I .1~0~;;:i-n~ Nor rivers drown it. -nl( IU'~ 11:1'-oK ;;ti!jl~ If a man offend aU his wealth foY Love, Till · .1~c1~~ p;:i- ',:p H e would be Laughed to scon1. 1n•;i :i'7111:;i: A4 - My Beloved THE RH O DE ISLAND JEWISH HERALD, THURSDAY, JANUARY 31, 1991

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by Kath y Cohen oberves that he or she is physi­ supervisor. Si nce Providence's Herald Associate Editor ca ll y cleansed of all foreign Jewish community is fairl y To remove a state of impurity, substances, full y submerged small, Wei ner staggers all visits Jewish law requires immersion (meaning that they must squat allowing for no overlaps, in a prepared bath, mikveh, for in to a position so that no part of thereby providing a private ses­ purification in accordance with them touches the wa ll s, nor ca n sion for the individua l. prescribed standards and regu­ a strand of hair be fl oating at Weiner waits, as you enter lations. the top) and that the proper one of the two changing rooms, The mikveh is used in a num­ prayers are said . The submer­ disrobe, then exit the opposite ber of ways. Some will attend sion may occur several times door into the mikveh room. the mikveh on the afternoon of until the supervisor is satified The room is a very plain blue the Sabbath and before holi­ that it was done co rrectly. and whi te til ed area. The days. People in the process of Providence's mikveh is lo­ mikveh is a small sq uare ti led Conversion use the mikveh. ca ted in its own very discreet pool about fi ve feet deep with The bride-to-be wi ll visit the building behind the Jewish stairs leading into it. On the mikveh before her wedding Community Center. Upon en­ right are two small holes in day. Also, after marriage, a teri ng you pass through a black whi ch the fresh spring water woman may immerse herself in metal gate and walk down the fl ows into the regular tap water the blessed waters seven full sidewalk to a set of large making it a kosher bath. days after her menstrual cycle wooden doors leading to the The mikveh is used not just (after sunset), before she re­ coridor. Inside, the wai ting for cleansing the body. The rit­ sumes a sexual relationship lounge is fairl y new with its ual immersion is a spiritual act. with her husband. fl owered wall paper. All is quiet It represents for all Jews, men When a person enters the inside. and women, a symbolic rebirth mikveh, a Jewish witness (of Appointments are set into another level of spiritual­ the same sex as the person) through Mrs. Beth Weiner, the ity, a new beginning.

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This wedding picture of Abraham Abramovitz and his wife, Betsy, was taken in the early part of the 19th century.

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The word ketubah is derived from the of a contract. Rather, in a brief ceremony properties of a ketubah except that when an Hebrew ketav, to write. The earliest ketubot before the wedding, the rabbi gives to the object is used to fulfill a commandment, it date from the end of the first century, C.E., groom a handkerchief or other article, in must be as beautiful as possible. Cut paper, and were revolutionary for the period, be­ behalf of the recipient of the ketubah - the gold tracery, watercolors and acrylics in cause 20 centuries ago they provided a bride. He returns it, signifying his agreement modern, Oriental, or flowery motifs appear woman with legal rights in marriage. Writ­ with the terms of the contract. Two wit­ in contemporary ketubot. Some are adorned ten in Aramaic, the technical language of the nesses sign the ketubah. It next appears be­ with renderings of biblical scenes or quotes Talmud, the Ketubah was a binding con­ neath the chupah, where it is read aloud. from Psalms or the Song of Songs in splen­ tract in a rabbinic court, but could hardly be Today's couples often sign their pledge, did calligraphy. Considerable artistic free­ considered a romantic document. which they may have written themselves or dom is permissible, and there is a wide range While ketubot in the ancient mold exist which they chose from among many poetic in price - from lithographs or prints for today in traditional circles, the contempo­ and meaningful versions available. under $50 to up to thousands of dollars for rary ketubah in many cases has become less In many cases, the old style ketubah - some, intricately hand-lettered and illumi­ a contract and more a personalized pledge after presentation to the bride because it is nated in gold leaf. between a couple. These new ketubim have her document - was relegated to a bank been called brit ketubot, "covenant ketu­ vault, a hide-away or even a closet shelf and Anita Diamant, in The New Jewish Wed­ bot," which expresses an egalitarian spirit in perhaps dragged out for an engaged daugh­ ding Book. relates that the Baal Shem Tov the idiom of today. Some couples choose to ter two decades later. But a growing number said, wh en a couple fights, they should read have both - the old and the new - because of brides and grooms are commissioning the ketubah aloud to each other to evoke Jewish law recognizes the traditional style ketubah artists to create personalized de­ images of th eir wedding day when they af­ only. signs for them which are framed and be­ firm ed th eir covenant with each oth er, when In the ancient rite, the bride and groom do come a piece of art. th ey were surrounded with love and wh en not sign their ketubah as one would expect There are no guidelines for the physical God entered th eir relati onship. ,- I

THE RHODE ISLAND JEWISH HERALD, THURSDAY, JANUARY 31, 1991 All- My Beloved Tips fur the Older Bride Anyone who believes that all • What about the question of jacket, is most attractive. Your brides are young and blushing being "given away"? This ritual dress can be long or short, but should consider these facts: To­ can easily be omitted if it makes for a small wedding, you might day, one fifth of all women get­ you feel uncomfortable. But if feel more comfortable in a ting married for the first time you would like to be given length that's just-below-the­ are over 25. Of these, one third away and your father is not knee or mid-calf (very popular are in their thirties, forties, or alive or able to do so, feel free right now). older. to ask any male relative or If you like, you can top off Whatever their reasons for usher to perform the role. your outfit with a hat, or maybe delaying marriage - whether • Feel perfectly free to wear a a hat with a short veil. A pillbox to pursue a profession or sim­ long, lacy white wedding dress style or a hat with a delicate ply to live independently for if this is what you've always brim is especially smart. awhile - once they do decide imagined you'd do as a bride. If Where can you buy these to wed, these older brides gen­ this isn't you, consider off­ styles? Try a bridal salon or erally have this question: white. ivory, cream, or the your local store's bridal depart­ "What kind of wedding is right palest pastels such as lavender ment first. Many bridal manu­ at my age7 " or sea-green. A sleek style, facturers are developing new Bride's magazine give the fol­ such as a gentl y flaring or lines of dresses that cater to the lowing advice for this group of softly-gathered shirt with a sophisticated tastes of your age brides: simple bodice and matching group. • Many older brides prefer small ceremonies with only family and close friends attend­ ing, but it's perfectly okay to ~ .L- MIX& choose any size cermony you like. If you're like most older brides, you'll have only a maid ~7,;;c:a1,'-:!,, ~::.:, or matron of honor, rather than 724-9240 a whole procession of brides­ maids, but again this is up to MOTHER-OF-THE-BRIDE you. In either case, don't over­ look the possibility of asking DRESSES Our Spring bride with just the right touch of sophistication young relatives to be flower Alteration Services - Layaways has an open sweetheart neckline with rounded back in girls or ring bearers. pearl centered Guipere tulips. The pointed bodice is in a SELECTIO NS FOR ALL AGES meadow of glittering matching lace. The shoulder length Most under $100.00 sleeves are fitted lace. Pristine white in layer on layer of tulle edged with silk cording floats as a majestic skirt while a buttefly train in fluid motion adds the finishing touch. Hours: Tue., Wed., Fri. 10-6 Photo reprinted courtesy o( M

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Several millennia ago, leg­ natural pearls were reserved for no intrinsic value and no place the life of a pearl. pearl color, women with lighter end has it, a great Hindu god only the very wealthy. But in the wedding party. Unlike When selecting pearls for the hair and fair complexions tend dove into the sea to acquire a about 80 years ago, man dis­ imitations, cultured pearls can bride, matching the length and to look best in cultured pearls single, exquisite pearl as a gift covered the secret of how to be worn with pride iong after style of pearls to a particular with a slight rose tint, while for his daughter on her wed­ coax oysters into producing the 50th anniversary for they gown design is important. One­ creamy off-white hued pearls ding day. Today, that legend enough pearls to put them will always remind a woman of to three-strand princess or complement darker hair and has been absorbed by many within the reach of all. Such a that very special day in her life. choker length pearl necklaces skin tones. However, it is best cultures around the world and pearl is now termed "cultured," To make sure that the bride best accentuate off-the-shoul­ to match pearl color to individ­ has become a tradition that is and although it is helped into has the right cultured pearls to der or scooped-neck gowns and ual skin tone by actually plac­ generations old. maturity by man, it is still con­ suit her, there are several fa c­ help to frame the face as well. ing the pearls against the skin The pearl, a symbol of love sidered as fine a gem and a very tors to remember: High or closed neck gowns call and seeing the effect. and purity, is perfectly fitting close cousin to the natural When selecting cultured for longer strands of pearls to Just as cultured pearls are for the bride. Its lovely and pearl. pearls, choose the best quality create a slim and smoother sil­ perfect for the birde, they magical appearance has cap­ Just as nothing should be you can afford. Look for pearls houette. should also be considered for tured the hearts of brides for faked on the wedding day, the that have a bright, clear lustre As far as earrings are con­ the bridal party to give a centuries. Neither gaudy nor jewelry to be worn should be as and a deep inner glow. Try to cerned, remember that drop matching appearance. Inexpen­ flashy, the pearl possesses an real as the emotions felt on this select pearls that are relatively earrings tend to make the face sive pearl earrings or bracelets ethereal and demure personal­ memorable occasion. Imitation free of noticeable surface blem­ appear longer while stud and are perfect gifts for brides­ ity that refl ects the warm glow pearls that are almost entirely ishes such as cracks, bumps or button earrings have a shorten­ maids, and pearl cuff links or of a bride on her wedding day. made of synthetic and some­ blisters, which can detract from ing effect. shirt studs are perfect gifts for Once, due to their scarcity, times organic chemicals have the overall beauty and shorten When it comes to selecting ushers .

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I saved my allowance years, I made my mind up to originally chosen. money to buy treats for all of become many things: fire­ The life of a bride-to-be is HONEYMOON PACKAGES AVAILABLE the neighborhood dogs. I never woman, novelist, adventurer, charged with details of every FOR EVERYONE'S BUDGET bought the dull, dry, boned­ journalist, academician, mystic. kind. My older sister, a veteran shaped ones, but cheese I have seen myself over the of the bridal syndrome, warned GIFT CERTIFICATES AVAILABLE • ( 401) 944-1507 • OUT-OF-TOWN 1-BOD -955-0333 cracker delights and stuffed years in many fo rms in many me. She cautioned that l, too, ...... special surprises, top-of-the­ places, but I have never pic­ would begin to think about line snacks for my furry tured myself as a bride. I al­ crazy, insignificant things like breathren. ways knew that someday l matchbooks, seating arange­ At eleven I resolved to be­ would be married to my one ments, dance steps, and flow­ Featuring Memorable Dresses come a poet like my mom. My true love. I pictured us living ers. A year ago, I laughed in her first published work appeared happily ever after, as I put out fa ce. " Remember," I lectured, for Day, Special Occasion and in a little anthology of origi nal fires or accepted Nobel Prizes. I 'Tm different. My foci are not verse, By Kids, Fo r Kids . "'What had, however, hoped to avoid set on trivialities. lam not inter­ Mother of the Bride happened to your fa ce?'/ said the chaos and silly confusion of ested in frills." Well, I humbly the nurse to Mrs. Falk./ 'Looks the wedding itself. bow my head and bend to eat like it was stretched from Today, all that has changed. I my words' -~ yelling.'/ I said./" Mrs. Falk, am a bride-to-be, a breed apart. I love tablecloths, huppahs, ilC~±?' my homeroom teacher was not I think about napkins and veils. I practically live for wed­ CRUISEWEAR !;;, amused. Her pockmarked fa ce dream about tailoring m y sis­ ding gifts, thank you notes and and heavy eyes became darker, ters' dresses. I impatiently re­ registering. I can't wait to have ARRIVING DAILY more ominous. I realized early spond to my mother's ques­ a facial, a makeover, my hair on the power and danger of po­ tions about invitations and done. I am, in fact, a cliche of 2665 West Shore Road, Warwick, RI etry. formal pictures. 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Dr. Bert Miller, an activist in After a 21-year marriage, he match, self-descriptive labels and/ or she speaks to Deborah. Baltimore's Jewish community, found himself single again with such as "liberal" or " tradi­ She may ask to meet him. has started a not-for-profit a desire to remarry and have tional" are commonly used but Deborah may be "seeing matchmaking service called more children. In his search, he are imprecise. In contrast, someone," be not interested, or cHupa Helper. His record of met with many amateur and Bert's resume form provides be interested . If she is inter­ volunteerism within Balti­ professional matchmakers and precision because it focuses on ested, she may call Reuben's more's Jewish community in­ described to them the type of specific religious behaviors. reference and his Rabbi for cludes the conception, con­ person he wanted to marry. Of­ When distributed continent­ more informaton. If she be­ struction, and management of ten, they arranged dates with wide, the resume, with its accu­ lieves that the match has po­ the city Eruv and many other very nice women who were a rate self-description, shopping tential, she can ask her refer­ projects. Recently, he orga­ mismatch for his specifications list of specifi cs, and list of "in­ ence to have Reuben call her. nized the distribution of hun­ and requirements. Many sin­ tolerables," will be more effi­ This scenario could also be re­ dreds of highest-rated bike hel­ gles he met described similar cient than multiple JO-minute peated in reverse at Deborah's mets discounted 50% off the experiences. Single women, in interviews with matchmaker­ initiative. list price to adults and children particular, bemoaned the fact strangers who work wi th small Those interested in cHupa­ in Baltimore. they they were unable to exer­ data bases. Bert's si milar re­ Helper either as participating cise much initiative in the sume form for Orthodox Sab­ singles or on behalf of a temple, matchmaking process. As an bath observers is called Frum­ synagogue, )CC/ YMHA, or inverterate problem solver, he Phile-its "Judaism" questions other Jewish institution should devoted himself to the task of focus on importa nt elements of send a self-addressed, stamped designing a better "spouse Orthodox practice. envelope to cHupa Helper, trap." His solution is cHupah Suppose, for example, that P.O.B. 32426, Baltimore, MD Helper©. It is endorsed by " Reuben," an engi neer from 21208. Requests for the Ortho­ prominent rabbis, and is inter­ New Jersey, reads the resume dox Sabbath Observer resume national in scope as he is as­ of " Deborah." Her telephone form should be mailed to Frum­ sembling resumes of the thou­ area code, 718, reveals that she Phile, P.O.B. 32426, Baltimore, sands of Jewish singles in the is a resident of either Brooklyn, MD 21208. United States and Canada. All Queens, or Staten Island. On matchmaking activities initially paper, Deborah matches what involve self-description and Reuben is looking for and he -·~il7•~.ri"W~--v•,~-- sifting through descriptions of believes that he matches what -,•• .. -.r..a_ ~"···~.-~...... ,.,,,.~ ... other singles. Many prudent she is looking for. He proceeds :~-,,.tt,.- _.;; ~,"1, i"'lk.o- -~·JA4!~: singles fo llow these two phases by contacting her sister, Sara with a verification process. Weinstein (personal reference Picture your wedding in the Bert's resume form facilitates listed on the form). He intro­ all this. duces himself on the phone, ex­ The resume preserves a par­ presses interest in meeting Valley garden! ticipant's anonymity. Since Deborah, and describes him­ level of religious observance is self. She may request that he It's our bridal garden ... important -in every Jewish send her a copy of his resume

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A18-My Beloved THE RHODE ISLAND JEWISH HERALD, THURSDAY, JANUARY 31, 1991 r Saying Goodbye to a Daughter Saying Goodbye to a Mother by Roberta Segal by Ellen Kurtzer-White The marriage of a son or daughter transforms the family's character Dear Mom, and dynamics, but thoughts about the impending changes can often be You and I have always man­ adults, as two capable women. lost in the details and anxiety of planning the wedding. Here, a mother aged to survive the transitions I ask you to let go of the depen­ and daught er pause to reflect upon their relationship as th ey both face of my growing up; from a de­ dent little girl I was and em­ a time of change and growth. termined three-year-old writ­ brace the adult I have become. ing on walls to a rebellious ado­ I need to know that you respect Dear Linda, have all adjusted . We have see you grow to this point, lescent who regularly dented my decisions. There will be pri­ It has been nearly four years come to know each other as ready to step into a life in which the fa mily car. There was often vate issues between me and my now since Dad and I saw you adults. We treasure the rela­ you would assume the roles a clash of wills and vision be­ spouse that I ask you to view as walk down the aisle on your tionship we have developed open to the adult world: wife, tween us that brought periods trusted confidences, not as se­ wedding day. When we recall with our son-in-law. We love mother, career woman. of chaos and pain to our family, crets withheld from you. And I the moment, it is with a multi­ the ti me we share together and But the moment was also but we got through those pre­ ask you to understand that I tude of emotions, - some fill ed with losses. We would we are proud of the person you dictable crises of development still need you there for me, but happy, some sad - for neither are. We greet today and future have loved just a few more to a place of calm, healing and wi thout interference. one of us was prepared for days with pleasant anticipa­ years of a little girl coming love. I depended on you to be Once explicitly interdepen­ what we felt as we saw you home from school to retell the tion. I try to be a good mother there for me, on the other side dent, we are separating into leave the fami ly unit as we and, even harder, a good special events of the day. How of my turmoil, and I was never two very unique individuals knew it and enter a world apart we would miss the giggles at mother-in-law. But, to be reall y disappointed. with different courses to fol ­ honest, I am not so sure that I from ours. the supper table. Who would Another transition awaits us. low. But how wonderful it will Yes, in many ways this was have successfull y made my call " mommy" or "daddy"? As I leave the famil y I have be when we meet eye to eye as the moment we had hoped for, separation, although I know I Were we read y to say goodbye known to begin my own, an as­ women, concerned and sup­ - seeing you as a beautiful, in­ can never recapture that time, to the little girl we knew? Were pect of yours is changed. Both portive of each other. As we with that skinny little girl wi th dependent young woman; we ready to stop being parents of u , as always, are affected by change and grow, it will be in watching you form a loving the braces who was my close in the context familiar to us, a this passage, but this time there the context of an evolving rela­ partnership with a charming companion. role we loved so much. is a marked difference. Still tionship established in love young man. We were thrilled to Love Mom Time has passed and we mother and daughter, we now with a past and future ahead. face J;fp' s changes as two Love Ellen / 32 Goff Avenue, Pawtucket, RI 02860 "" Tel 1 401 -728-3600 A Blending of Values ~ , HOPE 1-800-367-0013 by Paul L. Segal, Executive Director ~ TRAVEL FAX 1 401 -724-8076 Jewish Family Service INC. A young couple falls in love. soon realize that a successful hostility on the part of the other Their thoughts are only of each partnership involves an ex­ partner. This may surface in other and their world revolves tended world, one which in­ later years as the source of mar­ around their newly formed re­ Member cludes mothers, fathers, sisters, ital difficulty. 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For the bride emerges, the women wedding gown often belonging - meat rolled in fri ed dough the homes of family and thousands of years these words hold a livel y party, singing and to a grandmother or great - cooked hot red pepeprs, fri ends, and at the last meal it is have been repeated at Jewish eating in celebration of the grandmother. With Moroccan­ oli ves cooked in a spicy red customary to eat fish to ensure weddings all over the world; bride's purity. The songs, tradi­ style music playing in the back­ sa uce and an assortment of sal­ a fe rtile marriage. weddings which embraced tional Moroccan tunes, wish ground, the bride is led to the ads come first. Fish is next, also Says Azoulai, " A Moroccan Jewish rituals, customs and tra ­ her a joyous union and happi­ "chuppah" accompanied by served in a spi cy red sauce fla ­ wedding has a special flavor. It ditions handed down from gen­ ness. her mother and mother-in -la w, vored with cumin, hot paprika, is more than one ceremonial erations to generation through­ Another special Moroccan and the groom by hi s father hot peppers and ca rdamon. evening. It can be weeks of out the Diaspora. ceremony is the "henna." Held and father-in-law. The cere­ The main co urse of chicken or festi vities with the whole com­ Some of the richest ceremo­ a few nights before the wed­ mony proceeds according to meat, ri ce with almonds and munity blessing the young cou­ nial customs were seen in tradi­ ding, the " henna" is a large Jewish religious law, and cul­ cooked fruits - dates and apri­ ple in their new life together. tional Sephardi weddings, and party arranged by the bride's minates in the groom stomping co ts - is followed by cake, are still practiced in Israel. The family . Henna, a red dye, is put on the glass in memory of Moroccans are known for their on the palms of the bride's the destruction of the Temple lively, spirited wedding cele­ hands (and sometimes on the whilst the hall resounds with Thank You bration in which 500-600 soles of her feet) as well as the joyful ululations of the fe ­ guests is not unusual. Says those of her family and friends male guests. Na'ama Azoulai , a first genera­ to protect the bride from "the The bride and groom do not tion Israeli, "We don't do ev­ evil eye." Special songs are go the " yichud" room to spend The Herald would like to thank those who contributed to erything our parents did in Mo­ sung for the bride and a time alone after the ceremony. the 1991 Bridal Magazine. rocco, but we have not " hamsa" (five-fingered hand) Instead, the festivities begin. compromised on some of the on a chain is placed around the The music, of vital importance traditions which make our cul­ bride's neck, also for protection to any Jewish wedding, is a tural background so special. " against " the evil eye." mixture of Oriental and Israeli. Danny Vaknin, also a first Food is plentiful at the Oriental dancing, smooth and generation Israeli says, " Al ­ " henna" celebration, and Do­ gra ceful , involves flowing arm .A ~ ~ J } though the Moroccan commu­ brinsky writes, "The women movements in tune with grace­ nity is a strong one, there are sing and make the ululations ful gyrating hip movements. customs which have been lost (yousyous) to ex press their Tables filled with food await BAND OF GOLD in coming to Israel. As the com­ happiness about the bride's im ­ the guests, and a beautifully ar­ For: munity becomes more inte­ ranged dessert ta bl e laden with • Sock Hops minent marriage." Both men Your D.J. Re-live the Music • Crnisin' Nights grated into Israeli society our and women dance, sing and eat Stu Kortick 1950s - 1960s • Private Parties customs become more di ­ into the early hours of the 738-2418 • All Occasions luted." morning. 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A22 - My Beloved THE RHODE ISLAND JEWISH HERALD, THURSDAY, JANUARY 31, 1991

Elem ents Of The Traditional Wedding

by Rabbi Dr. Chaim Shapiro Touro Synagogue

The scene is one of apprecia­ scene described above, which is there are three methods of con­ suitable witnesses must attest tion of unique beauty and ac­ especially poignant for the visi­ secrating a marriage. These to this " Yichud" procedure. tors of our synagogue. Since IN BY 11 :00 AM companying awe. The electric three ways are: through a Beyond these elements, there many of our wedding cere­ OUT BY 3:00 PM lights ha ve been extinguished, financial-gift procedure, a writ­ are also supplementary tradi­ mnniPc: rtre pPrform(=)d fo r n o n ­ MONDAY -SATURDAY except for the lone bulb under ten-legal document, and tions, These include: the "Chupah" - marriage resident families this becomes a through acts of li ving together. 1. the "breaking of th e glass" 1 canopy. Only the enchanting more common occurrence . Re­ Whereas ori ginall y these were at the end of the ceremony glow of the ancient chandeli ers ga rdl ess of the beauty and th e three separate, alternative pro­ (u sually accepted as a symbolic EN~m~~!P usual accompanying joy, I be­ provide a romantic air to the cedures, we have incorporated remembrance of the Jerusalem historic sanctuary, accompa­ lieve that it is important for the al l three in our present-day cer­ Temples that were destroyed); Same Day Service nied by the hush of the assem­ wedding participants to have emoni e<. with three svmbolic 2. the "Bodecke n" (veiling of For Dry Cleaning & Shirts blage. Only the sighs of "ooh" an understanding of the major wedding trad1t1ons. · the bride), a joyous procession and "ah" break the solemn mo­ elements of the traditional Jew­ For the fi11a11 cial-gift proce­ where the men lead the groom WEDDING GOWNS ish wedding ceremony. I make SILK S, WOOLEN S ments at the start of the wed­ dure, the groom presents the to bl ess and veil the bride; HOUSEHOLD DRAPES ding procession. The au ra of it a point during our pre-nuptial bride with a ring. It is custom­ 3. the circling of tile groo m - WARWICK the "Touro Mystique" is en­ conferences to explain the ary that the ring be smooth, symbolizing the role of the 467-2640 veloping the congregation. background and the essence of without gems (of whi ch the av­ woman in making a home for 1889 Elmwood Avenue I ha ve had the privilege and our present-day wedding cere­ erage person cannot know its the new couple; pleasure of witnessing the mony. tru e va lue) or indentations. I 4. drinking from two cups of We ha ve numerous descrip­ make it clear, both before and wine, completing the afore­ tions of the wedding proce­ during the ceremony, that both mentioned " Arusin" and WE'LL FIT YOUR MOTHER'S GOWN OR dures during the Talmudic Pe­ the givi ng and the receiving of " Nesu-in" portions of the cere­ riod. Then the prevailing this gift entails privileges and mony; A NEW ONE FOR THE PERFECT FIT custom was to conduct the responsibilities that must be 5. the pre-wedding "Ta11- PROFESSIONAL TAILORING & DRESSMAKING wedding in two parts, entitled understood at the time of this 11aim" or supplementary gifts "The Arusin" and "The Nesu­ transaction, by both parties. ceremony. in ." The " Arusin" involved the The legal-written document_ is One situation that disturbs li--G Antonietta Carmosino former/yo/Vero Thomas initial marriage vows but each the " Ketubah," that both must most Rabbis w ho conduct tra­ of the participants remained sign and understand. There­ ditional wedding services is the ~ ( Call 942-3440 today ) with their respective parents af­ fore, I discuss this with the cou­ great attention and over-em­ ter this initial ceremony. It was ple in our pre-mari tal inter­ phasis on the post- and pre­ SANNIO Alterations fo r Men & Women usuall y a year later that the view, and explain it " under the wedding receptions, especiall y 845 Oaklawn Avenue • Cranston , RI couple completed their mar­ Chupah" as well. Si nce it is a in comparison to the actual cer­ ri age vows, at the " Nesu-in" legal document, it requires emony. In our community, ceremony. After the " Nesu-in" proper witnesses to attest to it where the families choose to they started li ving together as anJ acknowledge it by their hold their receptions in our So­ true husband and wife. Due to signatures. The third basic ele­ cial Hall, or in the much more Learn to Dance Tonight! sociological and hi storic fac­ ment is "livi 11 g toge tlier" which elegant and expensive man­ tors, these two ceremonies sub­ is symbolically achieved by the sions or hotels, I often face the It's all made fun and easy at Arthur Murray's sequently combined, as indi­ custom of " Yichud," leading dilemma of trying to adjust our ca ted in our contemporary the newly- pronounced hus­ needs and requirements to fit practice of reciting two sets of band and wife, to an isolated into the schedule of the caterer. You 'll have yo ur own blessings at the wedding ser­ room immediately following This is one of the reasons our instructor to show vice. the ceremony, for a few min­ congregation has undertaken a you dances done at Another important factor in utes of excl usive privacy. 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