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FREE YES MEANS YES! VISIONS OF FEMALE SEXUAL POWER AND A WORLD WITHOUT RAPE 1ST EDITION PDF Margaret Cho | 9781580052573 | | | | | Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World without Rape | Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read. Want to Read saving…. Want to Read Currently Reading Read. Other editions. Enlarge cover. Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Open Preview See a Problem? Details if other :. Thanks for telling us about the problem. Return to Book Page. Preview — Yes Means Yes! Yes Means Yes! Jessica Valenti Goodreads Author. Margaret Cho Foreword. Yes Means Yes will bring to the table a dazzling variety of perspectives and experiences focused on the theory that educating all people to value female sexuality and pleasure leads to viewing women differently, and ending rape. Yes Means Yes aims to have radical and far-reaching effects: from teaching men to treat women as collaborators and not conquests, encouraging men and women that women can enjoy sex instead of being shamed for it, and ultimately, that our children can inherit a world where rape is rare and swiftly punished. With commentary on public sex education, pornography, mass media, Yes Means Yes is a powerful and revolutionary anthology. Get A Copy. Paperbackpages. More Details Original Title. Other Editions Friend Reviews. To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up. To ask other readers questions about Yes Means Yes! Lists with This Book. Community Reviews. Showing Average rating 4. Rating details. More filters. Sort order. Start your review of Yes Means Yes! Mar 21, Ciara rated it liked it Recommends it for: folks interested in consent, survivor advocates, survivors who've had some distance. Shelves: Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape 1st editionradical-non-fictionfeminist-y-books. View 1 comment. Oct 10, Emily May rated it really liked it Shelves:nonfictionfeminism. A really powerful read. This book attempts to refute the notion that sex is something that happens to women - that they are conquests, not participants. It's also about how women enjoy sex as much as men and shouldn't be shamed for it. Feb 03, Avory rated it it was amazing Shelves: anthologiesfeminismsexuality. Read this book. No, really. I can't tell you how much the essays in this collection made me rethink my perspective on female sexuality, rape culture, what it means to be a woman in America right now, and many other topics. These essays are eye-openers, embracing not only a sex-positive look at female sexuality but also a perspective Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape 1st edition views all forms of sexual pain as legitimate injuries. The essayists go beyond the question of "was Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape 1st edition rape? These essays challenge us to raise our expectations of sex and not to accept the misogyny and anti-woman behavior that is so prevalent in our society. The book also spans quite an array of topics. There are essays from the perspective of women of color, sex workers, and a MTF transsexual. There are essays on the problems faced by female immigrants, poor women, young women, and drug-users. Some essays explore the purity myth, while others look at incest or homophobia. There's something for everyone, but I would strongly recommend this book to all women, no matter whether you consider yourself a feminist or whether you've ever really thought about rape culture before. It's an eye-opening experience. Jun 18, Yasmin rated it it was ok. A rather problematic book which has become something of a bible for neoliberal feminists. Here's an excerpt from my review: "Yes Means Yes rests at the nexus of two ideological points. One is a liberal feminism so battered by decades of right-wing sexism that it spends all its energy reacting to the same instead of questioning how it might have become part of the problem. The one supplies the earnest foot soldiers for the other. Many of the writers work in women-oriented non-profits, but very few see the pitfalls of their work. View all 4 comments. May 13, Elevate Difference rated it it was ok. It seemed that the problem of rape was being used for a catchy slogan's sake the catchy slogan being a play on the anti-rape "no means no" ruleand not because it made any real sense. I wasn't sure where you could go with that—connecting sexuality with rape culture in a way that was meaning Connections: The Apostate and Professor What If review I wasn't sure where you could go with that—connecting sexuality with rape culture in a way that was meaningful for actual cultural change and impact on women's lives. While the reasons behind the book are laudable, I find the claim that valuing female sexual pleasure will stop rape the book puts forward a bit too simplistic. Although the book nods to the complex socio-cultural factors that perpetuate rape culture, it stops short of really grappling with how rape is a by-product of our patriarchal, militarized, commodified world. I do think this is a very important book that makes crucial contributions to re-thinking sexuality, but it is only part of a much needed conversation we need to have—both in books and in blogs—about eradicating rape culture. The Apostate: I think "rape culture" should have been expounded upon more. I don't think people understand the difference between rape and rape culture, and that wasn't really addressed, which gave rise to some of the confusion around why anyone thought Yes Means Yes! They just want to dismantle rape culture, which is a bigger and more amorphous thing than the specific crime of rape, even if rape takes place within the context of rape culture. Professor What If: I was impressed with the broad coverage of the book and the diversity of voices. I especially appreciated those pieces that emphasized anti-rape activism must include teaching men not to rape and helping men to recognize rape. I also liked the inclusion of queer, male, fat, sex work, and BDSM perspectives. It really dismantled the perceptions of sex as something that is done to you, as a woman, rather than something you enthusiastically participate in. That is not a concept enough people understand; and although I get it, I have never seen it articulated so well as Millar did. His essay was beautifully written, cogent, with a great metaphor about sex as music. The commodity model of sex is one of the biggest hurdles women face, if they act like they are free to pursue their pleasure. People don't think their pleasure is really part of the picture at all, since women are the object, not the subject. And another thing: I had never realized how "no means no" continues to frame the sex as between a predator and prey, as Julia Serano defined the terms. However, they must also be addressed in relation to those politics of domination that shape our society—patriarchy, capitalism, sexism, racism. The Apostate: The emphasis on sexual assault—and personal stories of pain and damage around that—got overwhelming in the second half of the book. The joy of enthusiastically consenting sex got lost in there. I think that focusing on how rape and sexual assault affect women's lives is very important, especially as so much of this reality is not captured in statistics or on the news, but perhaps sex as pain should not have predominated quite as much. Professor What If: I think an analysis of rape in same-sex or non-heterosexual relationships is missing. For example, as rape within systems like the Catholic Church and public schools is prevalent, this seems a key omission. The Apostate: The overall feel I got from the book was very "alternative. Those voices are all the more crucial for being so marginalized, and also because it is on the margins of society that the worst abuses happen. That said, I think it lacked a certain degree of balance. I did think it covered a wide range of issues and perspectives—except for married, heterosexual, middle class sexuality and the sexuality of older people. The only reason I would have liked to Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape 1st edition that balance is to "normalize" these issues for the mainstream; so much of this sort of thing is hidden, under wraps, and allowing only the margins to speak out about it gives the deceptive impression that the problem of rape culture is not the problem of all women—which it most certainly is. Professor What If: I love blogs and blogging, but books are not blogs. Rather than trying to make the two mediums the same, I think we should value each medium print v. While blogs work in a conversational, of-the-minute style, books allow for more thoughtful, hard-hitting, heavily researched writing. The Apostate: I also thought the hyper-link theme was a little redundant. I liked the idea to begin with, but I ended up skipping the lists at the end of each essay and just read linearly. I did glance at a few and thought they didn't always make sense; they tended to include a quarter Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape 1st edition the book each time, after every essay.