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BY LARRY GORDON Not Your See Page 75 Ordinary Joe Joe Lhota, the Republi- can candidate for Mayor of New York City, is not doing well in the opinion polls. His Democratic opponent, Bill de Blasio, is scoring much Tom Suozzi and Ed Mangano have both been spending much time campaigning in the Five Towns, whose voters higher in those polls, though See Page 70 they believe will tip the balance in the November 5 race. Above, at an event held this week at the home anything can still occur. The of Mr. and Mrs. Mordechai Jacobs (L–R): Moshe Ratner, Yoel Goldfeder, Mordechai Jacobs, Tom Suozzi, Abel Feldhamer, Heshy Blachorsky, and Gershy Silberman. See also Page 89 Continued on Page 20

A Looming Challenge HEARD IN THE BAGEL STORE In Hilchos Shabbos BY LARRY GORDON Sandy, One Year Later See Page 30 Halachic Musings The hope is that Sunday’s BY RABBI YAIR HOFFMAN communal gathering sponsored by Achiezer and taking Fifth-grade Bais Yaakov place at Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv girls and gedolei ha’poskim in Lawrence will be a sort of in hilchos Shabbos finally going-away party for Hurricane have something in common. Sandy. As we approach the ﬁ rst

Both are very much excited anniversary of the storm that Images LifeCapture Images See Page 64 about the popular Rain- changed so many lives on the bow Loom bands—albeit for quite different reasons. Continued on Page 17 Continued on Page 8 Rabbi Boruch B. Bender WORLD-CLASS RECEPTION ED MANGANO’S IN OUR BONES BY RABBI AVI RECORD OF SHAFRAN See Page 36 SUCCESS We cannot see the tens BY ROCHELLE of thousands of mazikin, or MARUCH MILLER “harmers” (often translated as “demons”), that the Talmud When Ed Mangano came teaches surround us always into ofﬁ ce as Nassau County (Berachos 6a). Were they visi- Executive in January 2010, ble, says Abba Binyamin, they he caught everyone by sur- would utterly terrify us. The prise with his dedication to same, of course, is true about Lawrence mayor Martin Oliner with UN Secretary General Ban Ki-moon the residents and his passion the tens of thousands of at last week’s Conference of Presidents of Major American Jewish Organizations’ 50th-anniversary gala. See Page 69 Continued on Page 28 Continued on Page 66

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Features Index, See Page 8 2 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 3 4 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 5 6 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 7 BAGEL STORE Continued from Front Cover FEATURES Aliyah Chronicle East Coast, especially on the Rockaway Shmuel Katz 84 Peninsula and the South Shore of Long Island, there is much to refl ect upon. Business Halacha “We learned a great deal from the R’ Meir Orlian 56 experience about emergency prepared- Classified Ads 76 ness,” says Rabbi Boruch Ber Bender, founder and director of Achiezer. But, A Clever Title Goes Here he adds, he is not so sure that we are Mordechai Schmutter 36 suffi ciently equipped to do what needs to be done to keep everyone safe the Community News next time around. Around The Five Towns 59 Most of the physical and even the Around The World 86 emotional damage has been largely Daf Yomi Insights repaired. FEMA, the Federal Emergency R’ Avrohom Sebrow 49 Management Agency, which descended on the community with scores of per- The Dish sonnel, was a disappointment in the Elke Probkevitz 48 end and made a lot of promises that it Insights on the Torah could not fulfi ll. Rabbi Boruch B. Bender meeting with Councilman Gregory Meeks, Assemblyman Phil For way too many days, there was a Goldfeder, and FEMA representatives R’ Yitzchok D. Frankel 32 managed chaos here in the Five Towns The Job Hunter and Far Rockaway, with Achiezer mak- the infrastructure could be put in place grants for people to begin the process R’ Mordechai Kruger 39 ing a yeoman’s effort to keep the com- to begin rebuilding. Achiezer, along to get back into their homes without munity functioning—to maintain san- with the Community Assistance Fund having to endure the frustrating delays Luach/Calendar 19 ity in families, look after the elderly, and the Davis Memorial Fund, raised MindBiz and fi nd places for people to live until $10 million, which it distributed as Continued on Page 13 Esther Mann, LCSW 50 Mother’s Musings Phyllis J. Lubin 46 News from the Hills Chanita Teitz 70 Photo Prose Gary Rabenko 45 Puzzle Yoni Glatt 42 Real Estate Anessa V. Cohen 40 That’s The Way It Is! Hannah Reich Berman 35 Travel Section 63 Year In Israel Max Fruchter 44

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8 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 9 10 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 11 12 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES BAGEL STORE Continued from Page 8 that are inherent in the insurance companies’ processing, analyzing, and eventually paying claims. They did more and did it better than government could ever do. The fund was fi nally closed this summer, but Rabbi Bender points out that on a weekly basis several fi rst-time calls are received at the Achiezer offi ce inquiring about applying for fi nancial assistance. “Far too many people are still living in partially restored homes,” he says. I observe that that’s puz- zling, considering we are dealing with a largely educated, learned, and professional population. And the rabbi latches on to those exact comments and says that this very fact has meant for some that a year after Sandy landed here, not all lives have been suffi ciently restored. “People who were not accus- tomed to reaching out for help and not used to taking assistance from others preferred waiting for the bureau- cratic process to run its course and for their insurance policy to pay their claims,” Boruch Bender says. But in far too many cases the insurance company fought the claimants and left people in limbo, which translated into one year later still living somewhat in disre- pair, materially and otherwise. Sandy is a memory that we would like to park in the past. But it seems reluctant to go. How events unfolded on that Monday night one year ago is still chilling. Water that is so much a part of and a necessity in our lives was suddenly and uncontrollably everywhere. It knew no bounds, wantonly trespassing past all the natural boundaries that it once miraculously respected. It was as if the natural order had been turned upside down. “Quite suddenly and surprisingly, people who were never needy in their lives were in a matter of hours transformed into people in desperate need,” Rabbi Bender says. In review- ing those events over a cup of coffee last week together with Achiezer’s affable Develop- ment Coordinator, Eli Weiss, the nature of the diffi culty and the myriad stressful situations that presented themselves over those few days becomes abundantly clear. There were elderly people trapped in the darkness in high-rise apartments, particularly along Seagirt Boulevard along the shore in Far Rocka- way. As people became aware that this was not going to be a matter of a few hours of incon-

Continued on Page 15 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 13 A Lesson In Resilience extended power loss, and lack of gasoline and other basic needs. For many, BY DR. ELI SHAPIRO toms, while individuals that had sim- the trauma-related symptoms were trig- ply lost power demonstrated symptoms gered by a daily routine of waking up I recently came across a jerry can ranging from minor anxiety to major in a cold, dark house and waiting on P.O. BOX 690 • LAWRENCE, NY 11559 of gasoline I had hid under my back depression. How people responded to gas lines to fi ll their generators—if they [email protected] ads@5T JT.com porch a year ago. It served as evidence traumatic events was more related to were even fortunate enough to have 516-569-0502 of the surreal period immediately fol- their internal resiliency than the events them. Few were prepared for this level LARRY GORDON ESTA J. GORDON lowing Hurricane Sandy, the storm that themselves. of communal despair. Publisher/Editor Managing Editor plunged much of coastal New York into YOSSY GORDON • YOCHANAN GORDON • DOVI GORDON cold darkness. As with many disasters, Sales Managers the effects of Sandy were varied from Individual outcomes were related home to home and individual to indi- CHANA ROCHEL ROSS Assistant Editor vidual. Some homes experienced extensive damage, but the owners were not to pre-trauma preparedness. SIDI BARON • DAVID FOX • YAAKOV SERLE forced to relocate; other homes had Sales Representatives less damage but residents did relocate. SHMUEL GERBER MICHELE JUSTIC Some had no damage but the residents Resiliency is defi ned as the ability to Others were completely displaced, as Chief Copy Editor Copy Editor were forced out by the lack of power. successfully rebound after a traumatic their homes were uninhabitable. Their CONTRIBUTING EDITORS Still others stayed in their homes and event. As with previous disasters, indi- challenge to remain resilient was even Hannah Reich Berman • Anessa V. Cohen lived without heat and power for weeks. vidual outcomes were related to indi- more diffi cult as they were placed in a Rabbi Yitzchok D. Frankel • Rabbi Aryeh Z. Ginzberg Yoni Glatt • Rabbi Yossy Goldman • Toby Klein Greenwald What community mental-health pro- vidual pre-trauma preparedness and the holding pattern before they could begin to Rabbi Yair Hoff man • Ron Jager • Doni Joszef fessionals observed in the weeks and ability to engage in empowering activi- empower themselves through a process of Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky • Dr. Bernie Kastner months following Sandy was fascinat- ties after the trauma. rebuilding. In a study of the effects of relo- Shmuel Katz • Rabbi Mordechai Kruger • Phyllis J. Lubin ing. Individuals’ post-traumatic emo- In the case of Sandy, many people cation after the 1988 Armenian earthquake Esther Mann • Rochelle M. Miller • Rabbi Meir Orlian tional responses were as varied as the were prepared both emotionally and disaster, study authors Najarian, Goenjian, Elke Probkevitz • Dr. Rachael Schindler damage to their physical domains. pragmatically for fl ooded basements and Pelcovitz found that those residents Mordechai Schmutter • Rabbi Avrohom Sebrow Baila Sebrow • David J. Seidemann • Rabbi Avi Shafran Some people who lost everything and temporary power loss, but were not Samuel Sokol • Rabbi Gershon Tannenbaum • Chanita Teitz responded with limited or no symp- prepared for the extent of the damage, Continued on Page 15 ELISHEVA ELEFANT IVAN NORMAN Graphic Artist IRA THOMAS Photographers Design by DESIGN2PRO.COM Design & Production MICHAEL KUROV – Art Director 5TJT.com site by DAVID HAIRONSON of NDH Web Design © 2013 by the Five Towns Jewish Times The Five T owns Jewish Times is an independen t weekly newspaper. Opinions expressed by other writers in these pages are not necessarily those of the publisher. The 5TJT is not r esponsible for the kashrus of an y advertised or featured product or establishment. All submissions bec ome the pr operty of the 5TJT and may be edit ed for publica tion. Pictures may be modifi ed (such as by cropping or fi lling) at our discretion to conform to standards of modesty in dress. READ THIS WEEK’S ISSUE ONLINE AT 5TJT.COM!

14 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES RESILIENCE BAGEL STORE says, “we now have a list of Continued from Page 14 Continued from Page 13 over 100 elderly residents of the area living on their own that remained in the city and venience, Achiezer, along with or with an aide.” In addition, were able to participate in a com- the more than 100 Hatzalah Achiezer, Hatzalah, and the munal rebuilding effort showed volunteers in the community, local Shomrim are spearhead- signifi cantly less post-traumatic received frantic calls from peo- ing a communitywide disaster/ stress symptoms than those that ple expressing concern about emergency preparedness pro- relocated to another city and did the safety and well-being of gram in tandem with local gov- not participate in the rebuilding. elderly relatives in these and ernment. The project is being We must not underestimate other places. coordinated by Adam Mayer of the important role that strong What Rabbi Bender discov- Inwood. social-engagement opportuni- ered in those fi rst few hours Another major issue that ties, community cohesiveness, after Sandy struck was that came to the fore last year is and religious or organizational many were dependent on pow- the matter of interpreting affi liation can play in support- ered equipment—breathing and adhering to the govern- Mayoral candidate Bill de Blasio and YU President Richard Joel ing resiliency and recovery from apparatus or other machin- ment’s declaration to evac- at Achiezer’s temporary headquarters symptoms of trauma. In the ery—in order to survive. With- uate the area. All day Sun- datory evacuation area. For good—as well as absolve gov- ravaged communities of Sea- out any electric power in the day and on Monday before those familiar with the map ernment of liability—but gate, Far Rockaway, and the Five area, this instantly became a the storm hit our part of of the area, the calls said that where in the world were we Town, agencies, religious institu- matter of life and death. New York, we were receiving everyone south of the Sun- supposed to go? tions, and caring individuals pre- “In the aftermath of this automated phone calls about rise Highway should evacu- sented themselves with offers of experience,” Rabbi Bender those of us residing in a man- ate. That may be all fi ne and Continued on Page 18 support, comfort, and direction. These actions no doubt miti- gated the extent of both communal and individual trauma symptoms. The story of the Rabinow- itz family truly underscores the power of community in pro- moting resilience. For Mr. and Mrs. Rabinowitz and their three children, Sandy represented the third time in recent years that their basement had fl ooded. Once again, toys, seforim, elec- tronics, and other household items would have to be replaced. But greater than the loss of the material items was the lost spirit of the entire family. With- out food, water, electricity, and gas, the Rabinowitzes walked in darkness to a local shul which was serving the only hot meal in town. Their feelings of hope- lessness and helplessness were quickly alleviated when a neighbor invited them over to sit at their table. Another individual brought over a small case of water bottles for them to take back home, and yet another individual provided them with resources to begin the cleanup process. By the time the Rab- inowitzes left, their children were helping to serve the food, and Mr. and Mrs. Rabinowitz were empowered to pick up the pieces with strength and resilience. While we can never be completely prepared for every disaster that may befall us, as we approach another hurricane season and the anniversary of Sandy, we can take steps to build our own resiliency, by connect- ing or reconnecting with family, friends, community agencies, and religious institutions. We can refl ect and fi nd meaning in the experiences of the previous year and empower ourselves to be part of a greater community to strengthen ourselves while strengthening others. 

Eli Shapiro, Ed.D., LCSW, writes and lectures on mental-health, educational, and community issues and can be reached through his website, elishapiro.com. 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 15 The Cave of Machpeilah (Bereishis 23:9) Rav and Shmuel differ as to its meaning. One says that the cave consisted of a lower and upper chamber. The other says that it had multiples of couples [interred in it]: Adam and Chavah, Avraham and Sarah, Yitzchak and Rivkah, Yaakov and Leah. (Talmud, Eruvin 53a)

And Ephron the Hittite answered Avraham: “The field I give to you, and the cave that is in it, I give it to you . . .” (Bereishis 23:11) Said Rabbi Eleazar: The righteous promise little and perform much—Avraham promised his guests “a morsel of bread” (Bereishis 18:5) and then “ran to the herd and fetched a calf tender and good, and he hurried to prepare it” (ibid., v. 7). On the other hand, the wicked promise much and do not perform even a little. Initially Ephron proclaimed, “A piece of land worth four hundred shekels of silver, what is that between me and you?” But in the end, “Avraham weighed to Ephron the silver which he had named in the hearing of the sons of Cheis, four hundred shekels of silver in negotiable currency.” (Talmud, Bava Metzia 87a)

16 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES HALACHIC MUSINGS total bracelet. merely bands. That being the case, in and familiar with the weaving pro- Continued from Front Cover Some would like to argue that the prohibition against wearing arti- cesses. We should rush to grasp it.  because the main material being used cles of clothing unique to women For the poskim, finally after all these is made of rubber bands, it is tempo- may be violated here. The prohibi- The author can be reached at years, the esoteric melachos of meis- rary and not a violation of the weav- tion is called “simlas isha” and may [email protected]. ach, oseh shtei batei nirin, oreg, and ing melachos. However, most Ris- be tantamount to wearing a dress. We potzei’a have practical everyday appli- honim understand that temporary don’t want our yeshiva boys wearing cation. means less than 24 hours. Experience dresses, so why are we letting them wear these decorative bracelets? Catch up For the fi rst time in close to two The Third Challenge Finally, the last challenge involves bitul Torah. Many children are bring- centuries, we have an opportunity ing these rubber bands and looms to on the school and working on them during to teach the four most neglected class time. Yeshiva after yeshiva is finding that this has become a wide- latest areas of Hilchos Shabbos. spread problem. The Opportunity Notwithstanding all that was said breaking But let’s step back a bit to describe shows that this is definitely not the above, the Rainbow Looms also offer the latest craze that has hit not only case here. tremendous opportunity. For the the Bais Yaakovs but even the boys’ first time in close to two centuries, yeshivos. There are miniature weav- The Second Challenge we now have an opportunity to teach news at ing looms that colorful rubber bands There is yet another challenge here, the four most neglected areas of are fitted onto, and the practitioners unique to boys. Some of the items Hilchos Shabbos, these four av mela- www.5TJT.com of this new pastime are now weaving being created constitute jewelry, not chos, to an audience that is interested colorful rubber-band jewelry. The website states: “Rainbow Loom is a kit for making super fun rubber band links, recommended for 8 years to adult. Younger kids are recommended to use the kit with adult supervision (not for children 3 years or younger). Be sure to check out the instructions page to see a variety of ways to use the kit. Rainbow Loom is so new that new patterns are still being discovered.” The new craze presents both challenges and opportunity. The challenges can be divided into three cate- gories. We will go through each one. The First Challenge One challenge is that entire cad- res of young girls and boys are now unwittingly violating four of the most obscure av melachos of Shab- bos. Meisach is setting up the loom. In our case, it is setting up the rubber bands on the plastic mini-loom. Other poskim hold that it is only when the loom is set up on the horizontal side that meisach applies. Regardless, meisach will be violated when the new jewelry is being woven. Oseh batei nirin in theory is the setting up of the loom itself. The loom used in this modern manifestation works differently. It does not have back-and-forth pedals, but according to some of the explanations found in the Rishonim, the loom used would be a violation of oseh batei nirin too. Some poskim hold that the violation of oseh batei nirin involves merely passing the strings through the weaving machine. There is also the melachah of oreg, which is the actual weaving. This can be violated even without a loom. The Rainbow Loom offers that possibility too. Indeed, from the fact that there are so many combinations, each different pattern can be a different violation of the above three av melachos. The fourth category of prohibited melachah involving weaving is called potzei’a. This can involve removing the woven item from the loom, or removing one of the bands from the 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 17 BAGEL STORE Long Beach was overrun with water Continued from Page 15 that raced in from both the ocean and the bay, inundating the peninsula and In my case, I had invitations from submerging homes. It was as if the family in Brooklyn who never lost water forgot where it is supposed to power, but we preferred not panick- stop. ing or overreacting and just staying The destruction was rampant and put. This is not Kansas or Mississippi, the stories of survival were endless. so it was unlikely that the houses we The events resulted in a heretofore were in were going to be fl ying away unseen togetherness that transcended anytime soon. It was not more than all boundaries. Here in the Five Towns, an hour after the heavy rains and Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv—where Sunday’s wind set in that the power went off anniversary commemoration will take in the entire area. And we had no idea place—became a hub and headquarters that there would be no electricity for that dispensed hot meals and a sense most of the next two weeks. of relief. (The event is scheduled to From the start, the Long Island begin at 2:00 p.m. on October 27. Please Power Authority (LIPA) was over- see Pages 24–25 of this issue for more whelmed. Even if you were able to get information.) Other institutions, such someone on the phone, they could as Chabad of the Five Towns, followed not tell you anything defi nitive. All suit. Local supermarkets donated food they could say was that the crews so that people whose homes were not were out on the streets doing repairs. usable had three meals a day as well as What they didn’t say was that substa- a place to be until alternative housing tions were fl ooded, transformers had plans were formulated. blown, and they were in way over “The result of this near disaster their heads, with no idea when they for this and other communities here would have suffi cient equipment to was the creation of a beautiful but restore power. unusual and even uncommon unity Some parts of the community out to pitch in and help one another,” here on this sliver of western Long Rabbi Bender says. And the outcome Island didn’t fare as well. In Cedar- is a consensus articulated by him— hurst and Woodmere, bodies of water as well as many others he has spoken spilled over onto the streets, resulting with over the last year—that if any- in water rushing at breakneck speed thing was learned from all the trou- into people’s homes. In other areas, ble, pain, and expense, it is that we sewage plants were flooded, lost should not wait for the next tragedy power, and were knocked out of ser- or misfortune to bring us together.  vice. In other parts of town, sewage flowed loose, flooding basements and Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at making homes unlivable. [email protected].

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5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 19 FROM THE EDITOR cal philosophies and vastly different Continued from Front Cover approaches to governing. New York needs Joe Lhota but it does not look latest polls this week show de Blasio like we are going to get him. ahead by almost 50 points. I was fortunate enough to have lunch Lhota is an impressive and experi- with Mr. Lhota last week at a kosher enced man who would make a great restaurant near my ofﬁ ce, a meeting mayor without transforming the city that was arranged by two of his Jew- LifeCapture Images

Mayoral candidate Joe Lhota during a recent visit to Achiezer

back to its difﬁ cult days, which were ish community advisers, Michael Fragin assumed to be unavoidable before Lho- and Aryeh Lightstone. I knew that Lhota ta’s mentor, Rudy Giuliani, was elected was the man for the job even before I two decades ago. met him but I was also aware that it was There are vital issues in this race that going to be a steep uphill climb. can and probably will dramatically Lhota is campaigning and running alter the character of New York City. hard, dealing with the realities of the Lhota and de Blasio are fundamentally different people with variant politi- Continued on Page 22

20 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 21 FROM THE EDITOR in the history of the city. Frankly with Continued from Page 20 all the fuss and legal wrangling about stop-and-frisk, people in the fi ve bor- political landscape as it is currently oughs are simply concerned that crime in New York City. After 12 years of the is going to skyrocket. But that does not pragmatism of Michael Bloomberg, no seem to faze the Democrats despite the one I know believed that the city was deeply rooted in law policy that has ready for such a remake with the urban worked so well. version of President Obama. There is And Joe Lhota explained what is no question that de Blasio will moder- really going on. The prime objective ate some of his outlandish left wing, here is for de Blasio to garner votes socialistic views once in offi ce. That from minority populations and neigh- is simply a reality of governing once borhoods from which a disproportion- a politician is elected. But one thing ate amount of the crime emanates. The looks fairly certain—he’s never going issue with stop-and-frisk is that accord- to be Joe Lhota. ing to statistics, 89% of the stops by Joe Lhota was raised as a Roman police are made on minorities. That is Catholic though, he says, that over the mostly the blacks and Latino popula- past few years in discussing his ances- tion in the city. Lhota explains that the try he discovered that his mother’s decision by Judge Shira Scheindlin ear- mother was a Jewish woman whose lier this year redefi ning the details of last name was Steinberg. The Repub- stop-and-frisk and installing a federal lican candidate says that he under- monitor to analyze the crime-fi ght- stands that according to some that ing tactic is not about crime but about would render him technically a Jew getting votes in those areas, and that’s and he accepts that line of thinking shameful. graciously. Still he has been a lifelong Lhota explains that the so-called Catholic and his wife is studying to minority population in the city is 48% be an Episcopalian priest. His grand- of the population. And the feeling by mother, Ms. Steinberg, married a Cath- the court is that if this is the case, then olic and they raised their children in police stops of minorities should not that religion. The rest is history. exceed 48%. But that is absurd when Our conversation then veered in the you consider that not only is over 90% direction of crime in New York and of the crime committed by minorities how the Stop-and-frisk policy acceler- in New York, but most of those crimes ated and perfected during the Giuliani are perpetrated against other minori- administration and continued by police ties. commissioner Ray Kelly through the Stop-and-frisk was sanctioned by a Bloomberg years is almost exclusively 1968 Supreme Court 8–1 decision that responsible for bringing the crime rate down in New York to the lowest levels Continued on Page 26

22 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 23 24 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 25 FROM THE EDITOR considering that it is tax money that is that is 12 years of Mayor Bloomberg’s we want a mayor in New York whom Continued from Page 22 educating the children. independent and level way of govern- we can climb all over and criticize in As far as Joe Lhota sees the mat- ing. I don’t know if it’s city residents the press from not just day one but allows police offi cers to stop people ter, the public schools are not doing or the media, but there is a sense that minute one. That’s what New Yorkers if they observe “legitimate suspicious their jobs. “I’m on the board of City something or someone is champing at want and it looks like that is what they activity.” And Mr. Lhota points out that University,” the Republican candi- the bit after 12 years of the untouch- are going to get. Good luck.  the way in way in which his opponent date says, “and last year 81% of those able Bloomberg to move a mayor into is presenting the situation is a distor- seeking to enter the university system position that the press and the critics Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at tion of the reality. were deemed not capable of doing col- can sink our teeth into. [email protected]. But nothing today is spared being picked apart by the media and the Four hundred shekels courts. All of a sudden we have a judicial of silver challenge to the concept of what con- stitutes “legitimate” and what it is that (Bereishis 23:16) “suspicious” activity is composed of. As per Vayikra 27:16, a field the size A study of the hundreds of thou- of a beis-kur, which is the equivalent sands of stops in the city over the last of 75,000 square cubits, represents a few years showed that over 90% were value of 50 silver shekels. Thus, the size in accordance with the Supreme Court of the field which Avraham purchased decision, 5% of the reports were not for 400 silver shekels was eight kur, or readable because of police offi cers’ 600,000 square cubits. handwriting, and the remaining 5% A square cubit (approx. 20 inches were considered racial profi ling. by 20 inches) is the space occupied To the liberal judiciary in New York by a single person. This means that and to politicians like Bill de Blasio, it Avraham purchased a plot of land that is worth turning the system on its head provides an individual “space” for each and watching crime skyrocket in order of the 600,000 souls of Israel. to address those stops that are consid- (Paaneach Raza) LifeCapture Images ered to be cases of possible profi ling. Our Sages tell us that the Torah The question New Yorkers have to ask Joe Lhota meeting with 5TJT publisher Larry Gordon contains 600,000 letters (counting themselves is whether they would mind the spaces between letters), for each being stopped even though they are lege-level work.” He said the City Uni- And that is, with all his imperfec- Jew possesses something of the Torah. innocent of any criminal wrongdoing versity system has earmarked tens of tions, Bill de Blasio. But this is what The same is true of the Land of Israel. in order to assure safety in New York. millions of dollars for teaching enter- the people want, it seems, not only Israel is the eternal inheritance of the Jewish people, equally the property of Another area of division between ing college freshmen better reading in New York but around the country. every individual Jew. And so it has been the candidates is on the matter of edu- and writing skills. We want the rollout and debut of an from the very first moment of Jewish cation. Lhota is a proponent and sup- So what exactly is going on here? Obamacare website and program that ownership of the Holy Land: the first porter of the growth of charter schools, Why is Bill de Blasio predicted to fails to enroll people after three years plot of land obtained by the first Jew while de Blasio is not. Lhota wants to knock the socks off an eminently more of preparation. We want a president included a share for every Jewish soul. see parents having more of a say and qualifi ed Joe Lhota? The Republican who dedicates himself to settling polit- (The Lubavitcher Rebbe) input into their children’s education, candidate calls it “Bloomberg fatigue,” ical scores instead of governing. And

26 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 27 ED MANGANO strengthening the Five Towns Aux- • a new athletic complex at Grant Continued from Front Cover iliary Police Force, replacing a vehi- Park, which includes three new syn- cle and equipment lost during Hur- thetic basketball fi elds, a new safe- and commitment to getting things ricane Sandy. After Hurricane Sandy ty-surface playground, a comfort sta- done. Mr. Mangano immediately set devastated our community, County tion, and an adult workout station; out to fi x things. A man of his word, Executive Mangano was an invaluable • resurfacing Peninsula Boulevard; Mr. Mangano has, from his fi rst day in resource, helping families and many • the Branch Boulevard beautifi ca- offi ce, maintained his pledge to tax- others struggling with insurance com- tion project; payers by repealing Nassau County’s home-energy tax, thereby affording homeowners the equivalent of a 5% property-tax reduction. Simply stated, Under Ed Mangano’s leadership, he is the fi rst county executive to put County Executive Ed Mangano money back into the pockets of resi- Nassau County no longer taxes dents. gano helps by eliminating wasteful Mr. Mangano proactively reaches government spending, fi ghting outra- out to all communities, forming rela- geous union contracts, and creating a too high, spends too much, tionships and making every effort to more effi cient county workforce by bridge cultural gaps. A great many weeding out unproductive units and or reforms too little. examples can be seen within the Jew- eliminating redundant positions. ish community, specifi cally the Five Every year, Mr. Mangano meets with Towns. police and Jewish-community lead- Many members of our community ers regarding intensifi ed patrols for panies, FEMA bureaucracy, and other • ongoing talks toward restoring undertake extreme personal sacrifi ce the Yomim Nora’im. He hosted a secu- storm-related problems. and beautifying West Broadway; and in order to pay yeshiva tuition, which rity briefi ng for rabbis and commu- He has forged a close relationship • traffi c studies of how to minimize seems to rise year after year. Every nity leaders, making the safety of all with Legislator Howard Kopel to com- congestion in Woodmere and Hewl- dollar left in the pockets of hardwork- Nassau County community residents plete many projects in the Five Towns ett. ing residents is signifi cant. Mr. Man- a top priority. Other efforts include community, including: Under Mr. Mangano’s expert leadership, Nassau County is winning the fi ght to attract new businesses and prevent existing businesses from moving elsewhere. After shedding jobs for over a decade, the county is beginning to see the return of good middle-class jobs. Nassau County now has a stronger economic climate that encourages job growth and equips our residents with job-training opportunities. This year, the New York State Department of Labor reported that Nassau County leads the state in terms of job growth and employment. Mr. Mangano and his economic-development team have helped create and retain more than 19,000 private-sector jobs. Since taking offi ce, he has addressed a decade of crises and mismanage- ment. Under Ed Mangano’s leadership, Nassau County no longer taxes too high, spends too much, or reforms too little. Mr. Mangano believes that high taxes kill jobs. Which is precisely why he has held the line on county property taxes every year since taking offi ce, eliminating a 16.5% property-tax increase planned by the previous administration, and even stopped a county food tax dead in its tracks. Nassau County was the highest-taxed county in the nation before Mr. Man- gano took offi ce—that is no longer the case due to his aggressive cost-saving policies. A telling example of this is that Nassau County won the New York State Local Government Effi - ciency Award. Throughout his term in office, Mr. Mangano has focused on rebuilding Nassau County without asking taxpayers to cover the $378 million defi- cit he inherited from the previous administration. He accomplished this by cutting over $330 million in wasteful spending and launched nationally recognized public–private partner- ships, thereby saving taxpayers millions of dollars and generating hundreds of millions in revenue. Some of the notable public–private partner- ships are the Nassau Veterans Memo- rial Coliseum, New Indies Ice Skat- ing Rink, Cosmos Practice Field, NICE Bus, and health care at the jail. 28 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES A successful public–pri- errors. Rather than invest ting money back into resi- And Sarah, my master’s wife, bore a son vate partnership with For- effort into fi xing government dents’ pockets. to my master in her old age; and to him est City Ratner Companies effi ciency and operations, While Suozzi still fails he has given all that he possesses was formed to transform the reform the county’s out-of- to understand that govern- Coliseum into a world-class control spending habits, and ment doesn’t need more of (Bereishis 24:36) sports-entertainment desti- curb government waste, Mr. your money, Mr. Mangano’s Eliezer showed them a deed of bequest in which Avraham had nation at no cost to taxpay- Suozzi has always taken the tax-cutting actions are secur- given Yitzchak all his possessions, so that they should hurry to ers. When completed, the easy way out by just demand- ing Nassau County’s future by facility will host the New ing more money from taxpay- removing a $485 million tax send their daughter. York Islanders, New York Yan- ers. burden off the backs of Nas- (Rashi) kees coaching clinics, chil- By contrast, Ed Mangano sau taxpayers. Mr. Mangano As the first Jewish marriage described by the Torah, the union of dren’s shows, heavyweight has distinguished himself as has virtually resuscitated Yitzchak and Rivkah is the prototype of all subsequent Jewish boxing championships, an exemplary county execu- Nassau County, repairing the marriages, both in the literal sense of building a home in Israel and tournaments, minor-league tive, repairing and rebuild- errors of the previous admin- hockey, and college basket- ing Nassau County since day istration and transforming in the broader sense of uniting the physical world with its cosmic ball games, as well as an one of his administration. the county into an exem- soul, thereby fulfilling the Divine purpose in creation of making exciting array of star-studded His approach to leadership plar for our nation. Under his the world a dwelling place for G-d. In this endeavor is invested performances and family-fun makes sense: No property-tax leadership, our county and everything that Avraham possesses: all the resources—spiritual entertainment. Plaza devel- increases three consecutive community have prospered. and material—with which the Al-mighty His people to the end of opment will include a per- budgets. Repeal of the home A Mangano victory on Elec- realizing His purpose in creation. forming arts theater, ice rink, energy tax. Fixing the broken tion Day is a victory for every (The Lubavitcher Rebbe) movie theater, and bowling assessment system. And put- Nassau County resident.  alley. On January 1, 2012, NICE Bus, a successful public–private partnership for Nas- sau’s bus system, began when Veolia Transportation was selected to run day-to-day operations. This partnership provides riders with reliable service and expanded routes, and it saves taxpayers over $30 million a year. A successful public–private partnership can be found at the county jail, where residents are saving nearly a million dollars annually by eliminating costly transportation expenses through the deliv- ery of inmate health-care services in the jail. County Executive Man- gano is continually focused on rebuilding Nassau Coun- ty’s economy by creating jobs that put people back to work. Nassau County recently won a heated competition with the State of New Jersey for the international headquarters of Hain Celestial. Addi- tionally, the county has attracted more homeland-security jobs, high-tech jobs, and fi lm and television industry jobs to the former Grum- man/Navy property in Nas- sau. Mr. Mangano inherited a broken Nassau County. His opponent raised property taxes by more than 42% in six instances, far exceeding Gov- ernor Cuomo’s property-tax cap. During that same period, spending increased by more than $500 million and Nas- sau County faced a $400 million defi cit. Tom Suozzi chose to handle every budget shortage with new, higher taxes. His last act in offi ce was to install an onerous home-energy tax on anything and everything used to heat or cool your home— oil, gas, electricity, propane, and even fi rewood. He created a terribly fl awed property-assessment system that cost the taxpayers millions of dollars due to assessment 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 29 30 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 31 candles, the menorah of the home, is The fact that the lamp continued to the job of the woman. burn and was not extinguished rep- insights on The Kohen Gadol presided over resents the Ner Tamid, the western- the Beis HaMikdash, while the tradi- most lamp of the Menorah, which THE TORAH tional role of the woman is to preside never went out. The constant and over the mishkan of the home. This is miraculously fresh bread (the blessing refl ected poignantly in the stories of in the dough) represents the Lechem the Avos and the Imahos, as Ramban HaPanim because it would not spoil explains: over the course of the week. The cloud Chayei Sarah: “When they came to Mount Sinai positioned over the tent represents and made the Mishkan, and the the presence of the Shechinah. These The Other Kohen Gadol Holy One Blessed Be He returned miracles were the signature of Sarah His Shechinah to rest among them, and, ultimately, the sign that Rivkah BY RABBI YITZCHOK D. FRANKEL then they returned to the high level had taken over from Sarah. This is the AGUDATH ISRAEL OF THE FIVE TOWNS of their forefathers. This was in the sign of the kohen.

And Sarah died in Kiryas Arba, which thermore, Rivkah had to pass away is Chevron, in the land of Canaan . . . in advance of Yaakov’s return to Eretz —Bereishis 23:2 Yisrael because Leah could not have If we consider the garments of the Why did Sarah Imeinu die when assumed her position when Yaakov she did? Is there any signifi cance to returned to Eretz Yisrael if Rivkah had Kohen Gadol, we will fi nd that one the timing? The truth is that it was still been alive. extraordinarily signifi cant. All of Jew- Why is it impossible for the Ima- ish history depended on it. To begin hos to overlap? I owe the following of them resembled an apron! with, it was only when Sarah died insight, which provides the answer, that Yitzchak was able to marry. It to my wife. is clear from the order of the Torah’s There is a striking correlation aspect of G-d being upon their tents, What was the everyday job of the passages that Yitzchak’s marriage was between the traditional role of and they (the forefathers) are the very kohen? What did he do all day? So to contingent on Sarah’s death, but the women and that of the kohanim, vehicle of G-d’s revelation.” (Ramban, speak, he took care of the cooking and real question is why this is so. especially of the Kohen Gadol. The introduction to Sefer Sh’mos.) the cleaning in the Beis HaMikdash. First, let us realize that this was comparisons are many. On any day The original Mishkan was actu- There were no strangers doing this the case with all the Imahos, not just other than Yom Kippur, an ordinary ally the home of each of the Imahos. important task. It was the kohen who with Sarah. Even though the Avos kohen could light the Menorah of That is why we fi nd here in Parashas cut up and prepared the meat. It was overlapped, the Imahos never did. the Beis HaMikdash. Nevertheless, Chayei Sarah that there were three the kohen who placed it on the Altar, Avraham was alive when Yitzchak the very personification of the light- signs of the return of the Shechinah to which is called Hashem’s “table.” (See was developing and growing into his ing of the Menorah, the paradigm of the home of Rivkah. As long as Sarah Menachos 6a.) spiritual stature as one of the Avos. the process, was Aharon haKohen, the was alive, (1) the lamp burnt from erev Only the kohanim were permit- Yitzchak was alive when Yaakov was Kohen Gadol. Aharon lit the Menorah. Shabbos to erev Shabbos, (2) there was ted to enter most of the area of the developing to be one of the Avos. While the lighting of the Menorah in a blessing in the dough, and (3) there Temple Courtyard, the fl oor of which Yet Sarah had to pass away before the Beis HaMikdash was the job of was a cloud positioned over the tent. Yitzchak could marry Rivkah. Fur- the kohen, the lighting of the Shabbos (Rashi, Bereishis 24:67) Continued on Page 34

32 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 33 CHAYEI SARAH It is striking to consider that the overlap. Perhaps that is why we fi nd Let us consider two well-known verses about lamps from Mishlei: Continued from Page 32 Kohen Gadol wore a four-cornered gar- a reference made to Avraham Avinu at ment, the Me’il, but he did not wear the beginning of Parashas Toldos: “And “For a lamp is a mitzvah, and Torah is light.” needed cleaning from dirt and refuse. tzitzis on it. The only ones besides these are the offspring of Yitzchak the (Mishlei 6:23) The process of washing and cleaning him who are not obligated to wear son of Avraham: Avraham fathered the fl oor is described in Yoma 58b. tzitzis are women!1 Yitzchak.” (Bereishis 25:19) “The lamp of Hashem is the soul of a man.” Lest we consider the comparison We see that the traditional roles of As Rashi points out on the above (ibid., 2:27) between the Temple’s Altar and the the kohen and of the woman parallel verse, the Torah will soon tell us We see that Torah and mitzvos are called lamps table in a person’s home to be overly each other amazingly well. about Yaakov and Eisav, who are and light, and that a person’s neshamah is also fanciful, Chazal speak clearly on this Let us now return to our question: the offspring of Yitzchak, yet the called a lamp. There is a difference between the topic: Why is it impossible for the lives of Torah first saw it important to men- two. The woman’s role of lighting the lamp is “The wooden Altar was three amos the Imahos to overlap? tion Avraham. This is the only place connected to shalom bayis. Her lamp’s purpose high . . . and He spoke to me: ‘This The answer is that the Jewish peo- where we find all of the Avos living is to give forth light, as the kindling of the Shabbos candles is to produce light, not hide is the table that is before Hashem.’” ple cannot have two Kohanim Gedo- in the same place at the same time. it. Correspondingly, the role of the woman is (Yechezkel 41:36) lim serving simultaneously. Although This was during the last 15 years of connected to the light of the neshamah and “The verse began with ‘Altar’ there existed a deputy Kohen Gadol, Avraham Avinu’s life. It is, therefore, that is why she prays for her family, husband, and concluded with ‘table.’ Rabbi who stood ready to replace the Kohen important for the Torah to note their and children, at the time of kindling the Yochanan and Reish Lakish both said: Gadol for the short term should the overlap. Shabbos lights. This prayer is one of igniting and of inspiring. It is the heartfelt yearning When the Temple is standing, the need arise, ultimately there can be Possibly, the necessity for this over- behind her role as the facilitator of kedushah. Altar atones for a person. Now, a per- only one Kohen Gadol at any given lap is the fact that the Avos constitute This is expressed through her role of kindling son’s table atones for him.” (Chagigah time. Thus, the Imahos, whose activ- the world’s pillars. They are the tri- the Shabbos lights. 27a) ities represent those of the Kohen pod upon which the entire universe Here again, the domain of the kohen Gadol in the Beis HaMikdash, could stands. “The world stands on three In contrast, the role of the kohen is described as “For the lips of the kohen guard knowledge, and things: On Torah, on avodas Hashem, paralleled the traditional role of the not have shared their roles simultane- Torah will they seek from his mouth.” woman: serving food on the table. ously. There could only be one Kohen and on deeds of kindness.” (Pirkei (Malachi 2:7) If we consider the garments of the Gadol at a time. Avos 1:2) Kohen Gadol, we will find that one of Therefore, Sarah died when it was Avraham represents deeds of The role of the kohen is to teach the light of them resembled an apron! The tradi- time for Rivkah to take her right- kindness, Yitzchak represents avo- Torah. This light shines toward the center, tional sign of the time-honored role ful place serving in the mishkan of das Hashem, and Yaakov represents as did the light of the Menorah in the Beis HaMikdash, whose light was not meant to of the woman, until quite recently, the Avos, which was the tent of their Torah. These components must exist spread out in its most Divine form. This is was her apron. There are many “mod- home. When Yaakov returned to Eretz together and, therefore, it was critical because Hashem does not need a lamp to ernized” women who will not wear Yisrael, as he was approaching Chev- that there be a period where, unlike illuminate His House; He is the very essence an apron today for that reason. Yet, ron and it was time for his wife Leah with the Imahos, the lives of the Avos of light! Rather, this light was primarily to once upon a time, it was her dis- to assume the place of Rivkah, that intersected.  remain in the place of sanctity as a testament to the Oneness of Hashem and His Torah (see tinctive honored mark. The Kohen was the time that Rivkah died. There Shabbos 22b). That is the purity of Torah, and NOTES: Gadol wore an apron! Rashi calls it could not be any overlap. that is why the Menorah is lit with pure olive the Eifod that the royal women wore This was not the case concerning oil. It has to be the purest because the Menorah 1. The only signifi cant difference between the when they rode on horses. Thus, we the Avos. They served a different role represents the purity of Torah. role of the kohen in his House and the role see that its design may be under- and it was not problematic for them of the woman in hers is in the lighting of the Rabbi Frankel can be reached at stood only by comparison to wom- to serve simultaneously. On the con- lamps. Although they both kindle lamps, the [email protected]. At local stores: Machat shel en’s clothing. trary, it was important for them to reasons are very different. Yad Bereishis, Sh’mos, and Vayikra.

34 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES therefore, is an essential component, of prosthetic hands and fingers to and for most of these contestants, be worn over one’s own so that they that’s the that means employing every skill he may be used exclusively for chop- or she has ever mastered. ping and slicing. Although, it occurs WAY IT IS I have seen people slice a huge to me that real prosthetic hands are onion in five seconds. Other tricks something I might G-d forbid need if By Hannah Reich Berman of the trade include an art I have no I keep trying to speed-chop-and-slice name for. That would be the art of with my own hands. At the very least mixing food (usually veggies) in a fry- I would need some new fingers. Nonstick Cooking Skills ing pan without disturbing them by The “pan toss” also eludes me. I pushing them around with a spoon. cannot get the hang of it. And it is Some people never learn. Unfortu- Network that I have not watched at What could possibly happen to those not for lack of trying. As that is a nately, I happen to be one of them. least one time, and there are some veggies as a result of a little gentle somewhat less dangerous endeavor, I This covers all areas of my life. On the in reruns that I have watched a sec- stirring with a wooden spoon, I have have not given up on it. But I’ve got- plus side, nobody can call me a quit- ond time. Not all of them capture no idea. But cooks and chefs don’t do ten smarter in my old age. I only do ter. If there is something I haven’t my interest, but most of them do. that. Instead, these pros pick up the it over the kitchen sink, or when I mastered, I keep at it until I have— Instructional cooking shows are pan and somehow manage to toss have cleaning help in the house. I got or at least until I do as well as I pos- informational, and I also like most and turn whatever is inside by flip- tired of wiping the stovetop and the sibly can. True, I did enroll in a Span- of the cooking and baking contests. ping the pan. floor after half of the veggies flip— ish course last year to which I didn’t Iron Chef is one program I can do I have watched this countless times not back into the pan, but out of it! return this term, but that was due to without. But I love Cupcake Wars but still haven’t figured out exactly To my credit, those are the only two time constraints and not because I and Chopped. I am proud to say that I how it is done. All that I know is professional cooking skills I have yet gave up. Although, based on my per- have even learned to control my gag that the food jumps up and what was to master. On the other hand, those formance in that class, it would have reflex when contestants are forced to underneath comes to the top while are the only two I have tried! surprised no one if had given up. peel, slice, and chop such goodies as the pieces on the top get to the bot- As an aside, I had a similar prob- One of my favorite forms of relax- grasshoppers, pig’s feet, and, my all- tom. Presumably, it is not necessary lem many years ago when I tried to ation, when I tire of reading, and of time favorite, eels! Those are only a for me to explain that not a single lit- learn how to do the moonwalk. I writing this column, is watching tele- few of the huge assortment of ingre- tle diced veggie ever escapes. Noth- watched the late Michael Jackson do vision—also known as the idiot box dients that contestants, according to ing ever goes over the side of the pan. that move over and over again, but or the boob tube. But, in my defense, the rules of the program, are forced Every piece remains inside. Amazing! I never mastered the art. Back then, not everything that I watch is mind- to use in the Chopped competitions. I have tried many times to slice an there was nothing dangerous about less. I am one of those rare breeds; I But I handle it. And I continue to onion at record-breaking speed. But my attempts. I didn’t trip or fall enjoy commercials. Not just any com- watch. I can’t get the hang of it and, despite but, in spite of my determination, I mercial, mind you, but only those In these shows, the competing my determination, I am this close was just never able to do it. Today, I that are highly amusing. It does not cooks and chefs have their work cut to admitting defeat in attempting wouldn’t try it. I’m happy just to be escape me that there is great deal of out for them. The contestants, using to master that skill. Time and time able to walk on earth! That’s the way creativity vested in these ads, and ingredients that have been provided again I have told myself that I won’t it is.  creativity is something I appreciate. for them by the show’s producers, try it anymore unless I can elimi- As for the programs themselves, are given as little as 20 minutes to nate the danger to my hands and fin- Hannah Berman lives in Woodmere and is a licensed real-estate broker associated with I adore cooking programs. I always concoct an appetizer and 30 minutes gers. Perhaps I might convince some Marjorie Hausman Realty. She can be reached have. There is no program on the Food to come up with an entrée. Speed, entrepreneur to come up with a set at [email protected] or 516-902-3733.

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 35 And Yitzchak brought her into the tent [of] his mother Sarah Losing Sleep (Bereishis 24:67) This verse can also be punctuated “And Yitzchak brought her into BY MORDECHAI the tent—his mother Sarah” implying that when she came into SCHMUTTER the tent she became, in effect, his mother Sarah. For as long as Sarah lived, a cloud (signifying the Divine presence) How do you fall asleep at hung over her tent; when she died, the cloud disappeared; but night? when Rivkah came, it returned. Do you fi nd yourself lying As long as Sarah lived, her doors were wide open; at her death awake and listening to the that openhandedness ceased; but when Rivkah came, it returned. sounds that your house makes As long as Sarah lived, there was a blessing on her dough, and that for some reason it only the lamp used to burn from the evening of the Shabbos until the makes in the dark? The sound evening of the following Shabbos; when she died, these ceased; but of car alarms setting each other when Rivkah came, they returned. off? The sound of snoring? (Midrash Rabbah; Rashi) Um, I don’t snore. And Yitzchak was comforted If you answered “yes,” then after his mother’s death I have good news for you, in (Bereishis 24:67) the form of a revolutionary scientifi c study that comes from Such is the way of the world: As long as a person’s mother is alive, Chessington World of Adven- he is attached to her; when she dies, he finds comfort in his wife. ture. Chessington World of (Rashi) Adventure, if you couldn’t tell from the name, is not a sleep clinic. It’s actually a theme park and zoo located in the UK. Chessington also has a safari-themed hotel, so that guests can sleep in what feels like an actual African jungle that has bathrooms and room service, except that the hotel is way more expensive, unless you count plane tickets to Africa. According to a Reuters article, Chessington commissioned a study to determine what would help their guests fall asleep the fastest, because any theme park where you’re lying in bed for hours and not sleeping is a theme park where you’re not up and out of bed and waiting in line for things. Everyone has their own method of falling asleep, though some take longer than others. My method is to lie down, and then . . . Well, that’s it. I lie down. Before I can employ any methods, I’m out like a light. I don’t even necessarily have to be lying down. Sometimes I could be sitting on a chair. It doesn’t even have to be a comfortable chair. I’m not even sure it has to have a back. Maybe this has something to do with the fact that I generally don’t go to bed until about three hours after I’d like to. So this study wasn’t really for people like me. I’m pretty sure I can fall asleep while standing in line for things. But some people, and I don’t want to mention my wife’s name, take a bit longer to fall asleep, which means they’re going to wake up blaming me for it, like there’s a certain amount of sleep to go around, and I’m using all of it up. But it’s not just my wife. A lot of people have trouble falling asleep. I think it could have something to do with our life- style. In the old days, people went to sleep when it got dark. Nowadays, thanks to technol- ogy, we can b’H work until ungodly hours of the night, and then the next day we’re tired, so we drink coffee. Then 36 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES we can’t fall asleep that night, because we didn’t have our coffee in a precise measured amount that would keep us awake until the exact time of night that we wanted to stop working. No, we had a ginormous cup of coffee, large enough to lose a bagel in, so we could be as wide awake as possible throughout the very last step of our project, and as soon as that was done, we bounced up to bed. And then we lie there, wide awake, until the morning Shema, and the next day we don’t have the option of sleeping late to make up for it, so we drink another tub of coffee. Do I have a better idea? No, I’m just here to complain. But my point is that we have deadlines and schedules, and we don’t pay attention to our bodies until it’s dark and the house is quiet aside from the groaning and snoring noises. I said I don’t snore. If I snored, wouldn’t I be the fi rst to know? Right. Because we all pay attention to our bodies. Look at how we deal with our kids. We put them to bed at eight o’clock, and they run around until at least nine. So the next night, we put them to bed at seven. And guess what? They run around until nine! Their bodies aren’t telling them how long to run around, they’re telling them what time to go to sleep. The reason we lie awake, experts say, is that we’re thinking about what happened today and what we have to do tomorrow, and “Honey, what do you think my sister meant when she said . . . Honey?” Snore. But the best scientifi c advance we’ve had to combat this until now, besides for drugs that work to counteract the drugs you take to stay awake, has been counting sheep. People have been counting sheep for years. Why sheep? I don’t know. I think it has to be an animal where you don’t become alarmed when there are an increasing number of them. “Wait. 128 squirrels?” I don’t know how the sheep thing got started. Maybe people were fi nding shepherds passed out in pastures while their sheep ran amok. “How many sheep got loose?” “I don’t know.” “Well, how many did you have to begin with?” “I don’t know! How do you think I fell asleep?” Does counting sheep actually work, though? I think it’s just a myth. I tried it a few times, back when I was a kid and had an early bedtime, and I generally lasted about 15 sheep before I get bored and started thinking about my day again. Studies show that fewer than 1 in 10 adults fi nd it effective to count sheep. And I know why. As a parent and teacher, I can’t see it being calming or relaxing at all. I’m not going to picture the sheep lining up nicely and jumping over the fence one at a time. I’m going to picture having to run after them, scooping them up, trying to get them to stand still, and, “Okay, where’s your brother? And what happened to my list?” And in the end I’m just going to be more tired than when I started. And then I’ll fall asleep. So I guess it should work.

Continued on Page 38 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 37 Losing Sleep alarm clocks that are designed, accord- Continued from Page 37 ing to the packaging text, “to wake you slowly and peacefully.” And now they’re So this study, commissioned by Chess- saying that those very same sounds put ington, says that people actually fall you to sleep. How does the clock know FIVE TOWNS MARRIAGE INITIATIVE asleep quicker while listening to semi-re- which one it’s doing? You think your petitive natural sounds. The study body, which is not smart enough to real- — Presents — involved piping animal noises, such as ize you’ve been trying to fall asleep for lions roaring and monkeys calling, into the last few hours, will realize that the A BRAND NEW their safari-themed hotel rooms. I’m very same alarm clock sounds that help guessing they did this with a fairly regu- you wake up are also supposed to help Shalom bayis hotline lar rhythm and kept the reins on the vol- you go to sleep?

beginning thursday, august 2nd and then every Do I have a better idea? sunday, tuesday and thursday night No, I’m just here to complain. phone lines open from 10-11pm all calls are anonymous ume control. They didn’t just suddenly, But that’s the current trend—natural PHONES STAFFED BY in the middle of the night, blast out a sounds. Because in the old days, that’s LICENSED FRUM FAMILY THERAPISTS lion’s roar, and have all the guests sit bolt how they fell asleep—to lions roaring. upright in their beds. “Is that a lion in the distance, or right “One thing these noises do is stop outside our tents?” intrusive thoughts,” says John Schneer- “I don’t know. Go to sleep.” son, president of the British Sleep Yes, natural noises—like horses gal- Society. loping, and thunder cracking, and babies t %JTDVTTDVSSFOU4IBMPN t $PNQMFUFMZ"OPOZNPVT To which I’ve got to ask: There’s a sleep crying. And yes, I can fall asleep to babies #BZJTJTTVFT t %FTHJOFEBSPVOEZPVS society? That’s a real thing? When I was a crying. But my wife can’t, and all of a t (FUBSFGFSSBMUPBMPDBM TDIFEVMF teenager, and I would fall asleep at every sudden that’s my fault. What do these - t 6TFUIFTFSWJDFBTB UIFSBQJTUUPGVSUIFSEJT opportunity, my father always asked if I women want? DVTTQSPCMFNT TPVOEJOHCPBSEGPSFWFO t )FBSJEFBTIPXUPNBLF TNBMMJTTVFTZPVGFFMZPV was president of the sleep society. But So I don’t know if it works. Either way, - ZPVSDVSSFOUNBSSJBHF NBZXBOUUPEJTDVTTGVS apparently, they already have a presi- it’s nothing to lose sleep over. UIFS CFUUFS dent. I totally missed my calling. No offense.  It also helps, experts say, if it’s a natural SHALOM BAYIS noise, or at least an artiﬁ cial noise pre- Mordechai Schmutter is a weekly humor HOTLINE NUMBER tending to be a natural noise. As opposed columnist for Hamodia and is the author of 516.430.5280 four books, published by Israel Book Shop. He to what you do now, which is fall asleep also does freelance writing for hire. You can Sunday/Tuesday/thursday 10-11pm to car horns and sirens. The whole idea send any questions, comments, or ideas to is kind of like those natural-sounds [email protected].

38 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES The Job Does your Tax and Accounting professional provide Of Your Dreams? investments, insurance, 401K, and IRA services? Does your Financial Planner provide The Job Hunter CPA accounting and tax services? BY RABBI We Do Both! MORDECHAI KRUGER ______Call Mr. Strickoff today for an appointment with no obligation

To dream or not to dream. ______That is the question . . . that will help you decide which KIVE I. STRICKOFF, P.C. side to take in an ongoing A Full Service CPA Firm debate about career choice and job search. It’s not often STRICKOFF FINANCIAL SERVICES, LLC that a column like this gets Portfolio Management and Investment Planning to talk about current events, IRA’s, Rollovers, 401K and Retirement Plans but a recent (October 12) Wall Street Journal article by busi- 516-623-1800 www.strickoff.com 212-521-4100 ness guru and “Dilbert” car- Securities offered through 1st Global Capital Corp., Member of FINRA/SIPC toonist Scott Adams has KIS PC and SFS LLC are not affiliated with 1st Global Capital Corp put this topic on the front burner. Adams had a lot of interesting things to say, and he’s very insightful. But on the role of dreams, or passion, or an inner muse in jobs and careers, I think he’s missing a key point. If you are one of the many job seekers who feel a warm, caring hand on their shoul- der as a soothing voice says, “Follow your passion,” Adams is worried about you. Even more so if there’s a reassur- ing “Do what you love, the

“Make excellent mistakes.”

money will follow.” Adams is standing by with a pitcher of ice water to throw on your dream project. He would probably take you on a tour of the subways to see all the passionate musicians whom the money is not following. He tells of his years as a loan ofﬁ cer whose wise mentor taught him that the guy who has a clear business plan and is committed to it will beat the passionate dreamer every time. A lot of successful businesses, and by extension a lot of successful workers, do stuff that is uninspiring, even boring. But if you commit to the plan and stick with it, success will bring happiness in its wake. Scott Adams is a successful man, with millions of readers around the world. Peo- ple post his work on their ofﬁ ce walls. I’m not in his league, guru-wise—at least, not yet. So I’ll quote bestsell- ing author Daniel Pink, who lists six keys for choosing the right career. Number 4 is “Per- sistence trumps talent.” That would seem to agree with

Continued on Page 40 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 39 Job Hunter ceed, they succeed far beyond Continued from Page 39 their competitors. Whether real estate & they fl y airplanes, or collect Adams, but then he contin- garbage, or sell fruit and veg- mortgage financing ues to numbers 5 and 6. etables, workers who believe When choosing a career, that their work makes a dif- By Anessa V. Cohen when working day by day, ference in the lives of their key point number 5 is “Make customers do a far better job excellent mistakes.” Never and reach far greater success. shy away from trying some- I am arguing that Scott Flood Insurance 101 thing new, different, and even Adams has presented us crazy. As long as you are com- with a false dichotomy. In The New York State Realtor Flood insurance protects According to FEMA, build- mitted to doing the postmor- his world, the dreamers have magazine has provided exten- two types of insurable prop- ing coverage includes the tem and learning from what- their heads in the clouds, sive details about fl ood insur- erty: building and contents. insured building and its ever happens, every effort when the action is here on the ance and how to determine The first covers your build- foundation; the electrical leads to success. As Edison ground. But the real dreamers what is covered and what is ing; the latter covers your and plumbing system; central point out, before he could only use the clouds as a van- not, together with the new possessions. Flood insur- air-conditioning equipment, learn how to make a light tage point. That enables them bulb, he had to learn a thou- to see a future that the prac- sand ways not to make one. tical folks can’t even imag- Pink’s next point is even ine. Henry Ford said, “If I Flood insurance covers residential more telling. Number 6 is, had asked people what they “Make a difference.” I had an wanted, they would have buildings up to $250,000 and uncle who was a professor at asked for a faster horse.” a prestigious university. In a I have spoken to too many eulogy, a colleague told how people, young and old, whose non-residential up to $500,000. he would often ask my uncle, eyes no longer shine, who “What are you working on?” are bound and gagged by the Over 30 years, the answer was need to “be practical.” When I fl ood maps that came out over ance does not cover the land furnaces, and water heaters; always the same: “I’m chang- begin cutting away those self- the summer. Although the you occupy. It is import- refrigerators, cooking stoves, ing the world.” He concluded, made shackles, the color and majority of its information ant to note that homeown- and built-in appliances such “Because he believed that sparkle immediately well up. has been derived from vari- ers’ insurance does not cover as dishwashers; and perma- through his work he could And far more than seeing a ous FEMA sources, its summa- floods. nently installed carpeting change the world, he did just pathway to parnassa, they see rization of what is qualifi ed Flood insurance covers over unfi nished fl ooring. that.” In any fi eld, a worker a pathway to life.  and what is not was so con- residential buildings up to Contents coverage includes can decide to use his work to cise, that I decided to reprint $250,000 and non-residen- clothing, furniture, and elec- make the customer’s world a Rabbi Mordechai Kruger is the the lists so they can be cut out tial up to $500,000. Contents tronic equipment; curtains; better place. And as business founder and director of Pathways to and put aside—hopefully to coverage can be purchased portable and window air con- Parnassa, an organization providing writers like Tom Peters and job-search and career coaching to our collect mothballs somewhere up to $100,000 for residential ditioners; portable micro- others have shown, the peo- community. He can be reached at rather than be used, but there buildings and $500,000 for waves and dishwashers; car- ple who do so not only suc- [email protected]. nonetheless. non-residential. peting that is not already

40 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES included in property coverage; and cent of the building’s replacement clothing washers and dryers. cost. The following are not covered by All other buildings and personal fl ood insurance: property (i.e., contents) are valued at • Damage caused by moisture, mil- ACV. ACV is the RCV at the time of dew, or mold that could have been loss minus physical depreciation. Per- avoided by the property owner. sonal property is always valued using • Currency, precious metals, and the ACV. valuable papers such as stock certifi - There is typically a 30-day wait cates. period for fl ood insurance to become • Property and belongings outside a effective, but this is waived if the building, such as trees, plants, wells, building is in a Special Flood Haz- septic systems, walks, decks, patios, ard Area and the mortgage is obtained fences, seawalls, hot tubs, and swim- from a federally regulated or insured ming pools. lender. Coverage in excess of the fed- • Living expenses such as tempo- eral limits may be purchased through rary housing. other insurance companies. Residents • Financial losses caused by busi- of non-participating communities ness interruption or loss of use of may purchase coverage from private insured property. insurers.  • Most self-propelled vehicles such as cars, including their parts. Anessa Cohen lives in Cedarhurst and is a According to FEMA, the two most licensed real-estate broker and a licensed N.Y.S. mortgage broker with over 20 years of common reimbursement methods experience, offering full-service residential and for fl ood claims are replacement cost commercial real-estate services (Anessa V Cohen value (RCV) and actual cash value Realty) and mortgaging services (First Meridian (ACV). The RCV is the cost to replace Mortgage) in the Five Towns and throughout damaged property. It is reimbursable the tri-state area. She can be reached at 516-569- 5007 or via her website, www.AVCrealty.com. to owners of single-family, primary Readers are encouraged to send questions or residences insured to within 80 per- comments to [email protected]. Remember that article? Visit our archive section and find any issue of the 5 Towns Jewish Times online @ www.5TJT.com

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5TJT Puzzle: 12 13 14 15 Labels 16 17 18 19 20 BY YONI GLATT “The”) 21 22 23 24 55. Avoided gentile activity Across 60. Midwest city 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 1. Farm soil 61. Catskill staple 5. ______man walks into . . . 64. Dormitory annoyance 32 33 34 35 8. Othello, e.g. 65. ___ Yakar 12. Setting of a movie about Ray Kin- 66. Diarist Frank 36 37 38 39 40 sella 67. Sea eagles 13. Business abbr. 68. Photo ___ 41 42 43 44 14. Shalsheles has them 69. Rail to Brooklyn (abbrv.) 16. Light time 45 46 47 48 49 18. Witching session Down 19. ______Academy, Livingston, NJ 1. Driver’s need: Abbr. 50 51 52 53 54 21. Corpulent plus 2. “How exciting!” 23. It’s near the 5T 3. Rise and see 55 56 57 58 59 24. Her and can plural sufﬁ x 4. Ginobili and others 25. Brando, once 5. Punjabi believer 60 61 62 63 26. Trades 6. Short-lived grandson of Leah 30. Discounted by 7. Be sore 64 65 66 32. Lavish affection (on) 8. Singing group 34. Before, before 9. Rhyme scheme 67 68 69 35. Total 10. Last of the Mohicans sisters 36. They’re found in 16, 19, 55, and 11. Hosts 61-Across 14. Pale 33. Locker room shower? 48. They’re given during 16-Across 41. Music genre 15. Stitches 35. Peter Pan role 50. Plays a part 42. Casual attire 17. Takes advantage of 37. Selling metaphor word 52. Trei ___ 43. Kind of material 20. E.R. workers 38. Asian capital 54. Islamic holy war 45. “___ that special?!” 21. Eccentric 39. Bone connector 56. “Show Boat” composer 47. French Impressionist 22. Numbers, e.g. 40. Vanquish 57. Western Galilee city 49. Joke 27. Tear up 44. Metric wts. 58. Big drink? 50. Kind of pupil 28. Hart Trophy winner, 1970–72 45. 4 or C 59. Luthor’s lackey 51. Spending limit 29. Marinara alternative 46. Daze 62. Vacation letters 53. Hit R&B group of the ’60s–’70s (with 31. Some moody teens 47. Dashboard inits. 63. One of 100: Abbr.

42 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Solution To Previous 5TJT Puzzle: ‘And The Emmy Goes To . . .’ 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 G L I B H A L T A M O S 13 14 15 R OSE D EFER L AVA 16 17 18 I TLL R EEVE A CER 19 20 21 22 T HEGOODW I F E A RA 23 24 25 I DOS S O UTH 26 27 28 29 30 I S R AEL S P UN 31 32 33 34 35 N OONS T HEVO I C E 36 37 38 39 C HO P R EEN C ON 40 41 42 43 44 H OME L AND T R END 45 46 W ADS S HADES 47 48 49 50 M O D EM S KIN 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 O CA B R E A K I NGBA D 59 60 61 62 S TIR I SSUE E LBA 63 64 65 E ERY N A I LS R UBY 66 67 68 S TYE D UAL S EAS

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5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 43 hardly at all, everyone would agree The Largest Levayah: that a Jew who dedicated his 93 years in this world to growing in his Judaic A Sad And Incomparable Experience beliefs and sharing them to one and all would surely bask in happiness at The Year In Israel With the reality of this unsuitabil- me. I myself was incredulous over the thought of such an eclectic group ity settling in, the simple solution the magnitude of the assembly, only of Jews gathering to honor the life of BY MAX FRUCHTER finally dawned on me: start walking. able to grasp its immensity in the fol- a fellow Jew.  Joining hundreds of others, I made lowing days. For anyone absent from On Monday evening of October 7 my way to the levayah, with the sad- this gathering, it must be unfathom- Max Fruchter, a recent graduate of DRS (eve of 4 Cheshvan), an estimated ness prevalent among all corrobo- able. Rabbanim recalled the levayah Yeshiva High School in the Five Towns, is now attending yeshiva in Jerusalem. 800,000 Jews gathered to mourn the rated by the weeping children and as “the largest levayah ever to be held tragic loss of one of the most revered adults I passed along the way. What in Israel,” not to mention the honor Torah scholars of our time, Maran HaGaon Chacham Ovadia Yosef, zt’l. Venerated by all, Rav Ovadia was a world-renowned Sephardic Chief The simple solution ﬁ nally dawned Rabbi of Israel whose wisdom and Catch up knowledge were appreciated by all on me: start walking. and contested by none. The aston- ishing number of Jews present at his levayah bears testimony to the greatness of this tzaddik. astonished me most, however, was provided by Jews outside of Israel. on the The news of Rav Ovadia’s passing the sincerity displayed by such an In the following days, communities traveled quickly, leaving the entirety enormous group of people for a man throughout the world expressed their of Israel in a state of turmoil and dis- whom many had no close relation- reverence and admiration for the bril- tress. Large groups of Jews could be ship with, if any relationship at all. liant and pious rav, in the form of lec- latest seen making their way to the leva- Despite this seemingly essential ele- tures, visual compilations of his life, yah on foot, by taxi, or by bus. As ment of having to know someone, open forums, and other events. the hours passed and the levayah to some reasonable degree, in order What is incomprehensible to me approached, the latter mode of trans- to mourn his passing, the people of is how much one man could and did portation became less and less acces- Israel tore their clothing and cried achieve in his lifetime. The amount of breaking sible. With no ability to foresee this out in sorrow for one of the greatest knowledge he absorbed, built upon, inconvenience early on in the day, I rabbanim of our time—a rav whom and subsequently dispersed through- waited patiently with many others many, such as myself, unfortunately out the world is quite a thought. at a bus stop directly outside of my did not have the opportunity to meet. As I returned to my yeshiva that Yeshiva in Bayit V’gan. As 15 minutes That evening, as I managed to night, all of the faces running towards news at of waiting became 30, and 30 quickly squeeze into a crowd of thousands the levayah breezed through my mind doubled to an hour, the usual 10-min- of Jews bustling to get within ear- in one quick image. Some wore black ute interval between buses seemed shot of those eulogizing Rav Ova- and white; others, jeans and a polo www.5TJT.com nothing more than a hopeless desire. dia, the severity of our loss truly hit shirt. Whether one knew him well or

44 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Choosing Your Photographer beyond school-yearbook-type posing, and tioned and spaces need to change. No actually has talent, can produce in little one has patience for this, and trying to do Photo Prose to have and add to the mood and feel of time a family portrait that looks good. something nice can be risky if the crowd the shot. But what you should be look- Making it a great photograph requires does not appreciate it. So even better pho- BY GARY RABENKO ing for is a feeling from facial expres- more time and effort than today’s sub- tographers can get out of practice on this. sions that are real, honest, and sincere, jects often will allow. So it is a dying art. Who enjoys seeing subjects roll their eyes How will you choose photos after your and that come from the heart, not from A great family photo should show per- and shift their weight because you are try- event? Knowing what the fi nal criteria the teeth! They should also be fl attering. sonality in each family member. Expres- ing to do something nice? People spend might be seems like a good fi rst step in Subjects should look like they are in the sions should not be saying “cheese,” but hours in the beauty parlor and getting fi t- choosing your photographer. moment of your special day, not just pos- should be welcoming you, the viewer. ted for a perfect suit, but another 60 sec- “My number one criterion was that ing or doing as directed in a bored, life- They should be as pleased and excited as onds to make ten people look good? That they be visually pleasing!” someone less manner. if they were meeting a dear friend after is too much! recently explained. That sounds obvious, Clothing, hair, and body language many years. There should be an internal Photos of the couple are important but during the shopping phase, it is easy should look good and fl atter. joy in the eyes and a seeming agreement and clients seek photos that show a rela- to be impressed with backgrounds and Candid moments are major criteria, of everyone that they are celebrating a tionship that would cause others to sim- overlook the subjects. Pretty scenes, even too. It is wonderful when you can really family milestone. ply say, “It’s bashert!” There are so many in a photographer’s portfolio, often show feel the moment. It is terrible when the A great photo should be pleasing to posed shots, yet how many are overly undesirable expressions or body position- photo merely reminds or proves that the view. The shape of each element should contrived, stiff, or just fl at? ing that is distorted, distracting, and odd. moment occurred, but does not contrib- contribute to the shape of the group. Contrasting emotions and images jux- Some couples want to make their own ute feeling due to ineffective lighting, bad Years ago, people would love watch- taposing ages and personalities are other decisions in hiring wedding vendors. composition, weak perspective, or missed ing as the group photo was being built. popular shots. A wedding is all about traditions. Most expression. In those cases, sensitive and “Turn slightly this way, shift that way, On many websites, the samples that young people do not have the life experi- emotional persons will actually feel pain. lean more, switch with that gentleman, are seen often miss the mark on many of ence to value the things that will become They will be reminded of that powerful and let’s add a seat over here.” Clothing, these criteria. It is easy to fi nd pretty pic- signifi cant years later, when they will be moment and be forced to dig deep for a feet, and hands also had to be impecca- tures, different pictures, and even shock- looking to their wedding album for poi- mental image as the photo is superfi cial bly arranged. All that took time. And the value pictures. What do they mean? How gnant and meaningful photos of grand- and weak. photographic artists had captive audi- do the subjects really look? parents, parents, and even themselves. Today, family photos are rarely great. ences getting respect for perfecting each What would be most meaningful to Posed shots are often superfi cial or not Few photographers have the wherewithal shot. Today everyone is in a rush and pho- you later, long after the wedding, when posed in a skillful and stylish way so the to fi nesse a beautiful pose, and often must tojournalists do not have any training in the photos will be so very important to subject’s positive features and personality fi nd a balance between perfection and posing. What a perfect match! This is a so many? The subjects might very well can speak to the viewer. impatience. Subjects are so often the mak- recipe for weak subjects and strong back- be much more important than the back- Today’s photojournalistically trained ers of their own photos that they have lit- grounds. grounds then. Ultimately you will most photographer simply does not have the tle patience to be fussed with. They think Cheaper unskilled photographers are value meaningful photos—ones that are lighting, posing, and communication they know it all. Or that the photographer doing most of the events today. The pub- appropriate, tasteful, and fl attering. Will skills needed to produce meaningful por- knows little more than them. And some- lic has been educated to expect groups they be as beautiful as possible? Those traits. Society has aged, but photogra- times that is so. But they become more that are simply thrown haphazardly or should be your criteria now in selecting phers are more juvenile. irritable by the second and actually are amateurishly together. Groups often your photographer.  So, what will please you later? What impressed with speed over skill. grow. Smaller groups are built into larger Gary Rabenko can be reached at gary@rabenko. will be important then? Forget the back- True skill includes speed. The experi- ones. This is an effective approach. But com. Rabenko Photography & Video Artists is grounds. They are not you. They are nice enced portrait photographer who goes often core subjects should be reposi- located at 1001 Broadway in Woodmere.

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 45 Another Mother’s Musings By Phyllis J. Lubin A Taste Of The Big Apple

Where else can you ﬁ nd an out- city of my youth—it’s just so exciting! door pool set up on a major thorough- I can’t believe what is going on fare with people crowded around to there, only a 45-minute train ride watch a couple of people doing laps? away! People were actually swimming Where else do they sell fresh fruit outside in October! Endurance swim- on the street, and have people on mer Diana Nyad, a 64-year-old New the street corners warning everyone York City native, started the swim about the end of days? Or how about Tuesday morning in the 40-yard pool people dressed up as characters from set up in Midtown Manhattan’s Her- Toy Story just for the fun of it? ald Square, getting out only to use the A couple of weeks ago, I made the restroom. Her aim was to raise money trek into the city to meet up with my for people still struggling a year after husband for dinner and a show. It is Sandy. (She ended her 48-hour swim not often that I make my way to the that Thursday, and raised more than “Big Apple.” I used to work in this $105,000 in donations.) place—in fact I went to school there Why can’t I do something like that? too. But this doesn’t seem to be the I like swimming! I don’t even mind

swimming in the cold so much, if the pool is heated. I have even been NO ONE PLANS TO HAVE AN known to swim in the rain. But no Be one was inviting me to swim with ACCIDENT, BUT YOU MUST BE Diana. She did have another swimmer alongside her, but I was told that she PREPARED IF THE UNEXPECTED was another celebrity. Prepared Since coming to the city is not an HAPPENS... everyday occurrence for me, I did not want to be in the area and not touch The 10 Things You Should Do And The 10 Things You Should Not Do If You’re Involved In An Accident base with Rivka, who is always eager for a visit. So we managed to ﬁ t in a 1. Do not pull over and stop if you are bumped from behind and are in quick visit between when my train a deserted area. Call 911 immediately and proceed to a busy area and wait. arrived at 4:30 and her 5:00 class. She 2. met me on 34th Street, and we bonded Do not stay in vehicle if you are in a dangerous location. on our brisk walk back to Stern. 3. Do not leave your vehicle in the way of traffic. “Is this a library?” I asked my city do 4. Do not let the other party persuade you with promises of reimburse- resident. 1. ment of your damages and to please trust them.. Wait for the police! “It’s actually a science library.” Stop immediately and pull over to a safe location. Do not drive Get a police report to protect yourself. “Wow—that looks interesting. This away! You can be charged with a hit and run even if the accident 5. used to be B.Altman’s. What’s inside?” was not your fault. Do not volunteer unnecessary information like what you were 2. planning to do after the light changed. Just say, “I stopped at the “I don’t know . . . scientiﬁ c stuff.” If someone is hurt, call for medical assistance. light and was hit from behind.” Rivka has this amazing wonderland 3. Call the police. Make sure to obtain the name and badge number 6. Do not discuss, argue or admit who is at fault. at her doorstep and she has actually of the responding officer. 7. never been inside these walls? Come 4. Do not let your car be towed without obtaining information from Cooperate with the police. In New York, you are required to give towing company as to rates and how to get your car released. Make to think of it, I went to school in the your name and address. Show your driver's license and it clear that they have no authority to dismantle your car or contact city for a few years (both high school insurance card to the other party. Obtain the same from them for your insurance company. Ideally you should have your vehicle and law school) and I don’t think I you will need this information to make any future claims. towed directly to your repair shop or to your driveway. ever actually went into B.Altman’s 5. “Stick to the facts.” If you were driving at a speed of 40 mph, do 8. Do not leave your car at the towing company's yard for an extended myself . . . not say you were flowing with the traffic under the speed limit. period of time. They will assess excessive charges which your After catching a quick glimpse of 6. Obtain names and addresses of vehicle's other occupants. insurance company may not reimburse in full. the swimmers at Herald Square, and 7. Use your camera phone to photograph the damages to the other 9. Do not leave anything of value in your car. noticing the site of the former B.Al- tman’s, I accompanied Rivka to the vehicle and of the accident scene or write it down.. 10. Do not choose a repair facility or sign any papers allowing someone front of her school building and con- 8. Obtain contact information from any witnesses. to negotiate with your insurance company until you are satisfied by recommendations that your vehicle will be repaired properly. tinued on my way toward the restau- 9. Determine the value of your vehicle and the estimated cost of the rant where I would meet my husband repair in order to make an intelligent decision on whether or not to on 46th Street. proceed with the repair. “Someone just gave me a scarf!” I 10. Choose your repair facility wisely. The promise of the driver of the said as I called my husband to update first shiny tow truck who says “trust me, we will make your car him of my whereabouts. look like new”, will not help you when you pick up your car with “What do you mean?” substandard repairs or when you find out that certain parts were “I’m walking past Grand Central Ter- not actually replaced. minal, and someone is just giving out don’t scarves for free!” ʺʡʹʸʮʥʹ Yussie Seif | Yoel Schmell Somehow, in honor of Breast Can- cer Awareness Month, some organiza- ɿ

Walking through the streets of Manhattan at 10:45 at night was certainly not lonely!

Dinner at Le Maraís was fantastic. Rivka clued us in to a $20 steak-dinner special, and it was delectable. The show (Soul Doctor) was fun—although I understand it just closed a few days later. It prompted a renewed interest to both of us to listen to Carlebach melodies, and brought back memories of the time when I was a college student and Reb Shlomo visited the Queens College Hillel. He told Chas- sidic tales and strummed on his guitar and connected with us all with his sparkling, piercing eyes . . . Walking through the streets of Manhattan at 10:45 at night was certainly not lonely! The city is alive. As I paused to marvel at the Toy Story-cos- tumed people, my husband called me a “hick.” I might be a country bumpkin (or a Five Towns bumpkin), but I had fun! I thoroughly enjoyed my all- too-brief visit to this wonderland. 

Phyllis Joy Lubin is an attorney with Maidenbaum & Sternberg, LLP, who resides in Cedarhurst with her husband, Leonard. They have six children—Naftali, Shoshana, Rivka, Rochel, Yosef, and Lea—and a daughter-in-law, Nina. The author welcomes your questions and comments at [email protected].

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 47 you eat compulsively and it affects your and distracts you from the stress of the health negatively, then it is a problem. day. You are forced to make a connec- THE DISH Life comes with a lot of stress, but if tion with the raw ingredients and nur- you equip yourself with healthy options ture them from their potential to some- By Elke Probkevitz and choices, you are less likely to make thing satisfying and delicious. You must bad choices when you are under stress. center yourself and focus on the dan- Positive emotional eating. Although gerous knives and fi re at hand to give being emotional is not the best condi- birth to a fi nished meal. We can disen- tion for eating healthfully, food can be gage from our bad day or bad moment Emotional Eating therapeutic if utilized properly. Com- and feel productive, creating nourish- forting foods, like a hot bowl of soup ing food with delicious fl avors, no mat- Food is such a central part of the and once you are famished you tend or cup of cocoa or tea, can ease stress or ter how extravagant or humble.  human experience. It not only sustains to make bad choices. Food from vend- soothe a bad mood. Comfort foods that and nourishes us, but it is also comfort- ing machines, a snack-size bag of some- we grew up with can bring to mind lov- Cauliflower Soup With ing and soothing, helping us celebrate thing you know you shouldn’t have, fro- ing memories of childhood and make Sausage And Greens life as well as get through stress and sor- zen treats on a stick—these, my friends, you feel like you’re being embraced by a Ingredients: row. While food can be a consolation, do not a meal make. Once you get home warm hug. Eating emotionally does not 2 lb. caulifl ower fl orets (about 1 medium we need to be mindful of what we eat after work, kids, schedules, extracurric- have to be harmful. The key is to be con- head) and not rely on empty calories to get us ulars . . . a busy parent doesn’t always scious of your choices while in an emo- 1 tsp. ground cumin through diffi cult or joyful times. Emo- have the time to consider what the tional state so that eating creates pos- ½ tsp. smoked paprika tional eating can be a positive experi- healthiest meal to serve her family is. itive effects. It will not be benefi cial if salt and pepper ence if used wisely. Many times nutrition takes a back seat after your meal you feel worse about 2 Tbsp. olive oil, plus more for roasting Multitasking. Working parents that to what is easiest and fastest to get to yourself for your choices. 1 cup chicken stock are getting their kids out the door as the table. Cooking for calm. There is something 1 Spanish onion, chopped well as rushing off to work have little Stress. One of the biggest triggers for soothing about the process of cook- 4 cloves garlic, minced time to prepare healthy meals for them- emotional eating is stress. Stress eating ing itself if you are open to it. Measur- ½ tsp. red-pepper fl akes selves. So many distractions can make becomes a problem when you have a ing and preparing ingredients requires 8 cups chicken stock you forget to take care of yourself, dysfunctional relationship with food. If focus on the task of creating something ½ lb. turkey kielbasa 1 bunch mustard greens, shredded (or other greens, like kale or spinach) ¼ cup parsley, fi nely chopped ¼ cup cilantro, fi nely chopped ½ lemon, juiced

Directions: Preheat oven to 450°F. Toss caulifl ower with cumin, paprika, salt and pepper to taste, and olive oil. Spread onto a baking sheet in a single layer and roast in oven for 30 minutes. Remove fl orets and set aside. Pour 1 cup chicken stock onto pan and scrape up any brown bits. Pour remaining stock in large bowl. Sauté onion in 2 tablespoons olive oil over medium high heat in pot until tender and beginning to brown. Add garlic and pepper fl akes and sauté 30 seconds. Add caulifl ower and stock and bring to a boil, then reduce heat and simmer for an hour. Remove from heat and purée with immersion blender or in food pro- cessor. Return soup to low heat. Add sausage, greens, and parsley and cook 10 minutes. Remove from heat and stir in cilantro and lemon juice. Season with salt and pepper to taste.

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5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 49 him and tried to minimize any partic- that I had never seen my father treat her ular incident. the way my husband treated me. Again, MINDBIZ When we got married, things went my mother encouraged me to go home, from bad to worse. As early as the week put on something nice, make a beau- By Esther Mann, LCSW of sheva berachos, he started acting like tiful dinner, and get our relationship a tyrant. Bossing me around, telling me back on track. Boy, did she not get it! what to wear, which sheitel to put on, I tried harder, though. I did my best to what time we were going to leave, and be sweet, accommodating, and respect- so on. I’ve never been treated quite this ful. But the slightest thing would set Dear Esther, si-concerns. I couldn’t come right out badly, though I must say I had some him off. One day he got so angry at me It seems as if from the time I was born, and say what I didn’t like about this guy, training from my parents. But at least for forgetting to pick up his dry clean- my parents’ goal in life was to raise me but something didn’t feel right. In retro- when they told me what to do, it felt ing, that I made the mistake (according to the point where I could get the per- spect, I would say that behind his smile like it was coming from a caring and to him) of giving excuses rather than just fect shidduch and make them proud. I and proper words, I always sensed that loving place. With him, it felt cold and apologizing. I fi nally cracked. I stood up went to the best schools, camps, and he was hiding the real him from me. But mean. He was starting to act like a bully. for myself and yelled at him. So much yeshiva in Israel. I learned from a young these are things that are hard to pin- age to be gracious, be polite, and always point or explain. It’s such a vague feel- smile. I was always slim, no question ing, that I thought I was just being ner- about that. I was dressed appropriately, vous about marriage. My parents were Living with an abusive man and in the fi nest clothing. My friends quickly falling in love with this guy and had to be from similar families, who the idea of being associated with his is not something anyone in her would always refl ect well on me. family. When it came time to start dating, my Despite my better judgment, since parents were in full control of the situa- no one really cared what I had to say right mind should sign on for. tion, sorting out who I could and could in the matter, we got engaged. The not date. I went out with three differ- engagement was quick and not fabu- ent young men without success. Two I lous. Already I started seeing parts of I was so stunned that I just went had been boiling up inside of me and knew right away were not for me, and his personality that he had been cov- along with his demands. But after a few I actually raised my voice and told him one felt I wasn’t for him. By the fourth ering up beforehand. Suddenly, he weeks of marriage I decided that I had he had no right to treat me the way he try, I went out with someone who was wasn’t so concerned about which eve- to stand up to him or I would eventually had been treating me. Again, the bulg- perfect on paper. Even in person, he ning worked better for me to go out on become a total shmata. The fi rst time I ing eyes, the red face, and rage pouring seemed just right for me. Probably just or which restaurant I wanted to eat in. told him not to speak to me a certain out of him. And then the unspeakable as my parents were able to put a check We went from being equal individuals way, I saw his eyes bulge and his face happened. He pushed me hard against mark next to all of his credentials and to him being in charge. I wasn’t happy turn red. He walked out of the room the wall. He didn’t really hurt me physi- those of his family, his parents were about this. and slammed the door. When I went cally, but emotionally I was devastated. able to do the same with me. When I spoke to my parents about over to my mother’s house the next day, I ran out of the house, ran to my par- By the third date, I couldn’t put my feeling like I wasn’t being treated as shaking and crying, she soothed me but ents, and told them I didn’t want to live fi nger on exactly why I wasn’t “feeling respectfully as I deserved—the way I ultimately said that a wife has to be this way anymore. I told them exactly it,” but I wasn’t. My parents were so had been when we were still just dat- respectful of her husband and maybe I what I had been living with and that ecstatic about this particular shidduch, ing—they didn’t take my concerns seri- wasn’t acting respectful enough. I tried it was a big mistake to marry him and that they pooh-poohed all of my qua- ously. They always made excuses for to explain that she was off the mark and that I wanted to get a divorce. Based

50 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES on my parents’ reactions, you is perfect. All I want is to get Dear Miserable, like they, and other people based on what you are shar- would think I murdered some- away from my husband and The story you describe is like them, have lost their way ing with me. In the absence one. Ultimately, their position start all over again, but my fear appalling, but not unique. and forgotten what really mat- of professional help, men like became clear. No one in their is that my parents will aban- According to the details you’ve ters. Their concern about what the one you’ve described tend family gets divorced. It would don me if I go for a divorce on shared, it sounds as though other people might think and to go from bad to worse. As be the worst thing that could my own. Sometimes I think your parents care much more say about them has taken cen- they test the waters and see happen to them. End of story. this is just the life that I must about what others might ter stage, to the exclusion of that they’ve gotten away with I tried to get my husband to live, and I was meant to suffer think about them than they your happiness and safety. yet another, worse, transgres- agree to go for counseling, but forever. But then I think that do about your general well-be- If, as you say, your husband sion, their next lapse in appro- he refused. The situation at I need to do everything in my ing and happiness, and even is abusive both emotionally priate behavior is often more home has only gotten worse. power to live a good life, and your safety. There is some- and physically, and he abso- out there and ultimately dan- I’ve tried speaking to my par- that will never happen with thing so ﬂ awed about their lutely refuses to go for mar- gerous. And the fact that he ents many times about how my husband. way of approaching life. It riage therapy, not to mention knows your parents are not miserable I am and how I can’t Do I defy my parents and do sounds arrogant, shallow, and individual counseling focus- taking your worries seriously stay married to this maniac, what I know in my heart must completely missing the mark ing on anger management, can further embolden him. but they just tell me that some- be done? on what is meaningful in life your situation sounds hope- times marriage is challeng- Miserable and what is not. It’s almost less to me. Again, this is just Continued on Page 53 ing and I have to learn how to make it work. But it’s not workable. And to make matters worse, when we are around my parents, he’s a total fake and they don’t even see it. I don’t know what to do. I’ve never disobeyed my parents, but besides the fact that it feels as though my life with my husband will always be miserable, I am afraid for my well-being. I believe that someday he can lose it to the point where he can really hurt me. When I tell that to my parents, they practically laugh at me and tell me I’m being a drama queen. So what do I do? I don’t have the support of my parents. All they want is to keep the rep- utation of our family unblem- ished and pretend to the world that I am happy and everything

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 51 52 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES MINDBIZ would ultimately come around, get Continued from Page 51 over themselves, and understand the severity of your situation and eventu- Though your husband is unwilling ally show up as the loving, responsible to go for therapy with you, it’s import- parents that on some level they hope- ant that you go on your own. Firstly, fully always have been. I’d feel more comfortable knowing We cannot predict the future. Regard- that you have a support system in less, it is important for you to under- place, since you aren’t getting it from stand your options and protect your- your parents. I also would like to see self. I believe it is our duty to be you empowering yourself, so that you respectful toward our parents, but we have the strength to take whatever are also meant to stay out of harm’s way steps you may determine are neces- and take care of ourselves, particularly sary, despite your parents’ need to if our parents fall down on the job. bury their heads in the sand and pre- Wishing you strength, wisdom, and tend all is well in their make-believe the confi dence to do the right thing. bubble. Esther I also urge you to contact Shalom Task Force (888-883-2323). They offer Esther Mann, LCSW, is a psychotherapist every type of information a woman in Lawrence. Esther works with individuals and couples. She can be reached at like yourself needs to learn about, and [email protected] or 516-314-2295. most important, if you should ever feel as though your safety is at risk, they can walk you through steps you would need to take to protect yourself, in a preemptive way and in the Remember moment. Regarding defying your parents, I know that can’t be an easy possibil- that article? ity for you to consider. It sounds like you’ve always gone along with their Visit our archive section program, no questions asked. But living with an abusive man is not some- and find any issue of the thing anyone in her right mind should sign on for. There’s no telling how your parents would ultimately react, should 5 Towns Jewish Times you someday feel that you have no choice but to seek a divorce. They may online @ fi ght you at the beginning, putting themselves fi rst while feeling person- www.5TJT.com ally betrayed. But my hope is that they

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 53 54 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES DAF YOMI INSIGHTS date in Adar. For example, a boy born become bar mitzvah! lows: This boy turned 12 on the 15th of Continued from Page 49 on the 10th of Adar Rishon will become The Shevus Yaakov raises an inter- Adar during a non-leap year. Another bar mitzvah on the 10th of Adar. A boy esting dilemma: In the above scenario, year must pass until he becomes bar this directly contradict the Rema’s own born on the 10th of Adar Sheini will also which brother is considered older? mitzvah. We consider a year to have ruling that a boy in a similar situation become bar mitzvah on the very same There are at least two potential rami- passed on the 15th of Adar Sheini. Con- become bar mitzvah in Adar Sheini? day, the 10th of Adar. This can lead to an fi cations of this question. The fi rst is sequently, on the 15th of Adar Sheini this Doesn’t that ruling illustrate that the sec- intriguing situation: One boy is born on that there is a halachah that a younger boy will turn 13. ond Adar is the real Adar? the 29th of Adar Rishon; another boy is brother should honor his older brother. As a proof, he offers the halachah If we look up the Rema’s sources, we born two days later, on the 1st of Adar The second is in regard to the mitzvah regarding the sale of a house in a walled fi nd that the Mahari Mintz made this Sheini. If their bar mitzvah year is not of yibum. If a man dies childless, there city in Eretz Yisrael. The Torah tells us same seemingly contradictory ruling. He a leap year, then the boy who was born is a mitzvah for the man’s brothers to that if a man sells a house in a walled city holds that Adar Sheini is the true Adar, fi rst will become bar mitzvah on the marry his wife. (This is no longer prac- in Eretz Yisrael, he may force the buyer hence the ruling regarding bar mitzvahs. 29th of Adar, while the boy who was ticed. Chalitzah is performed instead.) to sell it back to him within one year of But the fast on the yahrzeit is not neces- the original sale date. What if the origi- sarily tied to the calendar date. The day nal sale date was the 15th of Adar? When marks 12 months from the day the par- does the one year end if the following ent passed away. Since the parent died At some point it dawned on him year is a leap year? According to the Cha- in a non-leap year, the 12 months end in chamim quoted in a mishnah in Arachin, Adar Rishon. The Mishnah Berurah con- that he’d have to wait an extra the answer is the 15th of Adar Sheini. cludes that initially, the child should fast We can conclude that a year starting on in both Adar Rishon and Adar Sheini. month for his bar mitzvah. the 15th of Adar terminates on the 15th Efraim did prepare the correct lein- of Adar Sheini. This boy as well has to ing in accordance with the ruling of wait a year from the day he turned 12 on the Rema. However, Rav Sholom Eliezer the 15th of Adar until he turns bar mitz- Roter wrote in the name of Rav Elyashiv born two days later will become bar The halachah is that it is a mitzvah for vah. Although his birthday is the 15th of that Efraim should be considered a bar mitzvah much earlier, on the 1st of Adar! the oldest brother to perform this rite. Adar Rishon, he turns 13 on the 15th of mitzvah on the 8th of Adar Rishon for all We can even take this one step further. In the scenario above, which brother Adar Sheini. However, many Acharonim stringencies. He should start putting on Suppose a boy is born on the 30th of is considered older: the one that was disagree with the Magen Avraham. The tefi llin on the 8th of Adar Rishon (even if Adar Rishon. When does he become bar born fi rst or the one that turns bar mitz- Mishnah Berurah rules that a boy born his family’s tradition is to start from the mitzvah during a non-leap year? During vah fi rst? The Shevus Yaakov said that on the 15th of Adar Rishon will be bar day of the bar mitzvah). However, he will a non-leap year, Adar only has 29 days. we consider the brother that was born mitzvah on the 15th of Adar Rishon. not be counted towards a minyan until The Steipler, zt’l, ruled that he becomes fi rst to be the older brother. So while the We all wish Efraim Dov Metz and the 8th of Adar Sheini. This is because bar mitzvah on the fi rst of Nissan. Now “younger” brother is celebrating his bar his parents and grandparents mazel there is some element of doubt as to suppose that he had a twin brother that mitzvah, he will still have to honor his tov upon their upcoming simcha. May the correct month that he is actually bar was born ten minutes later than him “older” 12-year-old kid brother. Efraim Dov be a source of nachas for mitzvah. So we are machmir both ways. and after sunset. This twin was born on If a boy is born on the 15th of Adar Ris- them and all of Klal Yisrael.  What about the reverse situation? A the fi rst of Adar Sheini. He will become hon, when would he become bar mitz- boy born during a leap year, whether bar mitzvah during a non-leap year on vah if his 13th year is a leap year as well? Rabbi Avrohom Sebrow leads a daf yomi in Adar Rishon or Adar Sheini, whose the fi rst of Adar. His twin brother, who The answer would seem to be obvious: chaburah at Eitz Chayim of Dogwood Park in West Hempstead and is a rebbi at Mesivta bar mitzvah year is not a leap year, will was born fi rst, will have to wait a full the 15th of Adar Rishon. The Magen Avra- Kesser Yisroel of Willowbrook. He can be celebrate his bar mitzvah on the same month later, until the fi rst of Nissan, to ham disagrees. His reasoning is as fol- contacted at [email protected].

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 55 “What’s the difference?” replied Geneivah 1:2; Minchas Chinuch 224:1). Shlomi. “A thief is responsible even “So why is Yisroel not liable for the BUSINESS for oness!” wallet?” asked Shlomi. “I don’t think I qualify as a ‘thief,’ “Ketzos (348:1) questions whether WEEKLY though,” insisted Yisroel. “I never took there is full liability of a thief in a case it for myself!” of l’meikat,” answered Rabbi Dayan. By Rabbi Meir Orlian Restoring the Primacy of Choshen Mishpat “To me it’s all the same,” responded “He brings proof that one is not liable Shlomi. “You had no right to touch my for oness, since he did not take it with wallet.” the intention of keeping the wallet Good Intentions The two went to Rabbi Dayan. “Was or benefi ting from it. Aruch HaShul- I allowed to take Shlomi’s wallet in chan (348:4) also rules this way.” (See, Yisroel, Shlomi, and some teenage time, bring a lock!” order to teach him to be more care- however, Chazon Ish, B.K. 20:5, ‘nireh.’) friends swam at the local pool during Yisroel put the wallet in his desk at ful?” asked Yisroel. “Am I liable for it?” “You would be liable, though, if the men’s hours. They all brought locks home. “You were wrong to take the wal- wallet were lost or stolen from you.” to secure their clothes lockers, except During the night, he was awakened let; it is a form of stealing,” answered “But every thief could excuse him- Shlomi. by the blaring of the fi re alarm. He Rabbi Dayan. “However, since the wal- self in this manner,” objected Yisroel. “Shlomi, you shouldn’t leave woke abruptly and, smelling smoke, let was destroyed through uncontrol- “He’ll say he did it with good inten- your stuff there unlocked,” Yisroel cried out “Fire!!” to awaken the rest of lable circumstances, you are not liable tions!” reproached him. “There have been his family. for it.” “You are only exempt in such a case thefts here.” The fi re department arrived within “Really?” exclaimed Shlomi. if you clarifi ed your intention to two “I’m not worried,” replied Shlomi. seven minutes, but Shlomi’s wallet “The Gemara (B.M. 61b) extends the witnesses before taking the item,” “It’s not likely that anything will hap- got burned. prohibition of ‘Do not steal’ to one concluded Rabbi Dayan. “Otherwise, pen.” The following morning, Yisroel met who steals l’meikat,” explained Rabbi you are presumed to have stolen for Yisroel decided to teach Shlomi a Shlomi in school. Dayan. “Rashi explains this to mean your benefi t and are not believed” lesson. He called over two friends. “Guess what happened yesterday at wanting to cause his fellow tempo- (Yad HaMelech, Geneivah 1:2). “When swim is over, keep Shlomi the pool,” Shlomi said. “My wallet was rary anguish but intending to return occupied for a few minutes,” Yisroel stolen!” the item. But a number of Rishonim From The BHI Hotline: said to them. “I’m going to take his “We had a fi re in our house last explain this to mean ‘in order to teach Defect Demands wallet. I’ll return it to him tomorrow night!” replied Yisroel. “Actually, I was the owner a lesson,’ such as what will Q. Before Sukkos, I carry a lot of Suk- in school.” the one that took your wallet yester- happen if he is not careful with his kos-related items in my store. A cus- When the swim was over, Yisroel day . . . and it got burned.” property” (Rabbeinu Yonah, Shaarei tomer called the other day and told headed promptly for the locker room “So you stole it,” said Shlomi. Teshuvah 3:85; She’iltos, Noach #4). me that he purchased a fold-up bed and took Shlomi’s wallet. By the time “I didn’t ‘steal’ it,” protested Yisroel. “Is this really the same as actual from me that is defective. I told him Shlomi returned to the locker room, “I did it for your good, to teach you to stealing?” asked Yisroel. to bring it to the store and I would Yisroel was heading home. be more careful.” “Most authorities understand that refund his money. He responded that Shlomi checked his pocket and saw “Well, you had no right to touch stealing l’meikat is also prohibited he doesn’t drive, and when he pur- that his wallet was missing. “I don’t my wallet,” argued Shlomi. “You’re in the Torah,” replied Rabbi Dayan. chased it, he paid a car service to bring believe it!” he said. “Someone stole responsible for it!” “Some, though, interpret the Ram- it to his house. He then demanded that my wallet.” “I put away the wallet safely in my bam’s position that the prohibition I repay him for the expense of the car “We warned you that this could desk,” said Yisroel. “The fi re was an is rabbinic, ‘so that one should not happen,” said his other friends. “Next oness (uncontrollable circumstance).” accustom himself to stealing’” (Hilchos Continued on Page 58

56 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 57 BUSINESS HALACHA the merchandise, in which case the sible to pay those costs. In a circum- require proper identifi cation (Pischei Continued from Page 56 customer is responsible to return it to stance in which it was expected that Choshen, Aveidah 2:[53]). the merchant. the customer would transport the Nonetheless, you can hand in an service and that I hire a driver to pick Nesivos (232:10) explains that the merchandise to another location, the item found on a bus to the company’s up the bed from his house. Am I obli- distinction is not actually a function customer is not liable for the addi- lost-and-found, even if they do not gated to repay him for the money he of whether the customer informed tional expense. demand proper simanim, since any- spent to have the bed delivered to his the merchant of his intent to trans- Consequently, in your case, since it one who rides the bus does so with house? Who is responsible to bring port the merchandise to another loca- was expected that the customer would this understanding (Hashavas Aveidah the bed back to my store—he or I? tion. The essential issue is whether take the bed to his home, it is your K’halachah 3:4–5). But if you found A. Assuming that you, the mer- the merchant was aware that the cus- responsibility to retrieve the defective it in a beis medrash or kollel, and the chant, were not aware that the item tomer would incur expenses before bed and you cannot demand that he item is not new and would be recog- was defective, you are not respon- realizing that the item is defective. bear the expense of returning it. But, nizable to its owner, you should pub- sible to reimburse the customer for Upon discovery that an item is as mentioned, you need not compen- licize it (C.M. 262:21).  the expenses involved in transport- defective, the original purchase is sate him for the expense he incurred ing it to his house. However, you are voided and the item reverts to the orig- to take it home in the fi rst place. This article is intended for learning purposes and not to be relied upon halacha l’maaseh. There are also issues of dina d’malchusa to Money Matters: consider in actual cases. Lost And Found #14 In many countries, the law requires Q. I found a pearl necklace in a pre- Rabbi Meir Orlian is a faculty member of dominantly Jewish neighborhood. the Business Halacha Institute, which is notifying the police or handing Can I hand it in to the police instead headed by HaRav Chaim Kohn, shlita, a noted dayan. For questions regarding business of publicizing it on my own? halacha issues, or to bring a BHI lecturer in lost items to them. A. In many countries, the law to your business or shul, please call the requires notifying the police or hand- confi dential hotline at 877-845-8455 or e-mail ing in lost items to them. This is also [email protected]. To receive BHI’s free an effective method of publicizing, newsletter, Business Weekly, send an e-mail to [email protected]. responsible for the expense involved inal owner, i.e. the merchant. There- since the owner is likely to turn to in retrieving the defective item. fore, if the merchant is interested in them. In certain cases, we even apply The Shulchan Aruch (232:21) retrieving his item, he must exert the the rule of dina d’malchusa dina, the addresses the case of someone who required effort and bear the expenses law of the land (C.M. 259:7). Remember purchased defective merchandise and may not impose those expenses Despite this, a number of author- and the seller demands that the cus- on the customer. However, if the cus- ities have objected to transferring tomer return the merchandise before tomer damaged the purchased item in lost items to the police, since they that article? he issues a refund. He differentiates a manner unrelated to the regular use often do not handle the lost item as Visit our archive section between a customer who informed of the item, he is responsible for that required. For example, they will dis- the merchant of his intent to trans- damage (C.M. 232:13). play it to the claimant and return it and find any issue of the port the merchandise elsewhere, in In this context, transporting it to a with insuffi cient simanim, and award 5 Towns Jewish Times which case the merchant is responsi- distant location without the knowl- ownership to the fi nder or the state ble to retrieve the defective item, and edge of the merchant, thereby gener- if not claimed within a few months. online @ a customer who did not inform the ating additional costs, is considered However, it is permissible to hand in www.5TJT.com merchant of his intent to transport “damage,” and the customer is respon- items for which the police will likely

58 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES ish sitting areas, and the creations of synagogues, Independence Park, gour- AROUND THE artist Yoram Rubinger to the penthouse met restaurants, and the vibrant, color- entrance lobby on the eighth fl oor, ful Machane Yehuda Market. which overlooks two beautiful court- As Eyal Haham, VP of sales and mar- FIVE TOWNS yards. keting for Africa Israel Residences, Construction is scheduled for com- notes: “The current construction and pletion by the end of the year. To date, development boom, alongside preser- only 8 penthouses and 11 fi rst-class vation activities in the heart of Jerusa- apartments remain unsold, all of which lem, is today at its height. Israel’s capi- The Pittsburgher Rebbe Africa Israel’s Luxury have been planned and designed by tal is truly coming to the forefront, and Comes To N.Y. Project On Rechov Kook famed designers Ariella Azaria Berkov- the city center is becoming a melting With great joy, we welcome the visit Jerusalem, a city that stands as the ich and Studio Michael Azulay. A total pot of desirable real-estate projects that of the Pittsburgher Rebbe, Rabbi Mor- ancient capital of the Jewish people, of 112 apartments have already been include residential, retail, cultural, and dechai Yissocher Ber Leifer, shlita, to currently is undergoing a tremendous sold. fi nancial buildings, all offered by the the United States. modernization, including the construc- The project’s unique location offers city’s most well-established developers. The Pittsburgher Rebbe is at the tion of upscale residential commu- convenient access to the Old City and “Even today, those who visit the area helm of the magnifi cent mosdos in nities. One such example is 7 Rechov its most sacred sites. It is situated adja- can sense the dramatic change for the Ashdod, Yeshivas Tzidkas Yosef. A Kook, a deluxe complex in the pulsat- cent to the house of Rabbi Avraham better that has taken place in the Jeru- thriving cheder, a successful yeshiva ing heart of Jerusalem. Isaac HaCohen Kook, the fi rst Ashke- salem city center. Furthermore, a large for both younger and older bachurim, The luxury project, designed by Africa nazi chief rabbi in pre-state Israel, and part of the area will undergo a ‘pinui and a kollel where yungeleit immerse Israel and Kobi Gal of the Gal & Mat- the Ticho House museum, formerly binui’—an urban renewal that will pres- themselves in the study of Torah! sliah architectural fi rm, conveys a sense the home of famed ophthalmologist ent a more appealing appearance while The Rebbe’s father was Reb Avrohom of perfect contrasts: old and new, clas- Avraham Albert Ticho and his artist taking care to retain the unique ambi- Abba, zt’l, who was the son of the fi rst sic and modern, alongside grand motifs wife, Anna. Nearby, at the intersection ence. One aspect of this is the Jerusa- Pittsburgher Rebbe, Reb Yosef, zt’l. R’ that suggest the splendor of Jerusalem’s of historic Jaffa Road and the bustling lem municipality’s investment in the Yosef, zt’l, was a direct descendant of past and present—from the entrance Ben Yehuda Pedestrian Mall, there is alleyways leading to the city center, as the Nadvorna dynasty. He moved from lobby, with its two huge stone arches a unique assortment of attractions, Hungary to the American city of Pitts- built using a modern technique, styl- including modern galleries, ancient Continued on Page 60 burgh in 1926. R’ Yosef, zt’l, refused to become Americanized and raised his children in true European style. Reb Abba became the new Rebbe in 1966, when his father was niftar. After several years he moved to Ashdod, which was mostly secular. Reb Abba worked hard to show the people there the beauty of Yiddishkeit. Rabbi Mordechai, shlita, the current Rebbe, was asked by his father to move to Eretz Yisrael and open a chassidic yeshiva in Ashdod in 1981. They also built a cheder and a full-time kollel. The Pittsburgher mosdos serve all the different types of Jews in the community. Both the talmud Torah and the yeshivos have chosen the best staff from a variety of kehillos. The Rebbe, shlita, is very close to his talmidim in the yeshiva. He gives shiurim and sits with the bachurim during seder. He helps them to develop in the best possible way. Bachurim from all over travel to learn in the yeshiva, which is famous for its high standard in learning and the good middos and chassidus that are instilled in the talmidim. Pitts- burgh has kollelim for all hours of the day. The tisch of the Rebbe, shlita, is attended not only by his chassidim but by other chassidim who live in Ashdod, traditional Jews, and even secular Jews who are seeing chassidus for the fi rst time. The Rebbe’s care and warmth attract many followers and admirers. The Rebbe, shlita, has a special relationship with his chassidim and each one feels as though he is their father. The Rebbe will iy’H be visiting the following places to give chizuk and berachos and for the benefi t of his mosdos in Eretz Yisrael: Queens, Octo- ber 24–29; Lakewood, October 30–31; Brooklyn, November 1–7; Long Beach, November 8–9; and Far Rockaway, November 10. For an appointment and for more information please call Shmuel Ein- feld at 347-989-6821, Moshe Aron Gros at 718-261-2120; Moshe Todres at 917- 992-9151; Moshe Gruner at 917-733-6870; and Shlomo Weber at 516-647-5749.  5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 59 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS ha’nasheh given by Mr. Abitbol, the Continued from Page 59 mesivta’s science teacher. Parents and students were thrilled to have this rare it gradually transforms them into clean, opportunity to see the actual gid being quiet, shaded pedestrian lanes with removed. The workshop was interactive attractive features, galleries, cafés, and and informative, giving everyone an boutique hotels. In addition, the city’s opportunity to develop a deeper under- new light rail offers convenient, safe standing of this mitzvah. This workshop access to all attractions in this renewed, was one of many offered by the mesivta vibrant city center.” to deepen the students’ understanding For more information, join Africa of practical halachah. Israel at one of three shows in the New For further information, please con- York metropolitan area: The Jewish tact Mesivta Yam Hatorah at 718-471-7471 Center in Manhattan, October 27, 11:00 or offi [email protected].  a.m.–6:00 p.m.; Congregation Ahavath Torah in Englewood, October 29, 5:00– Drum Tales: The Delightful 10:00 p.m.; and MBR Simcha Hall in Story Of Chanukah, Lawrence, November 3, 11:00 a.m.–6:00 November 11 p.m.  “An exciting tale of mystery, miracles, triumph, joy, and a single bottle of olive Mesivta Yam Hatorah’s oil . . .” Father–Son Breakfast Removing the Gid HaNasheh On Monday, November 11 (Veterans Day) at 1:00 p.m. at the JCC, 207 Grove This past Sunday, Mesivta Yam Hato- Avenue in Cedarhurst, there is to be a rah held its annual Father-and-Son Break- Musical IQ presentation. Admission is fast. The goal of the breakfast was to fos- $7 per child, $9 per adult. Children age ter a positive relationship between the two and under admitted free. Meter school and the parents. It is the belief parking is available on Chestnut Street of the mesivta that this relationship is parallel to the railroad. To reserve your critical in ensuring each student’s suc- ticket or for further information, please cess. The program began with an enjoy- call Sharona Arbeit at 516-569-6733, ext. able breakfast and a d’var Torah from the 218 or e-mail Sharona.arbeit@fi vetown- menahel, Rabbi Eli Zoldan. After break- sjcc.org. fast, parents learned b’chavrusa in prepa- The Delightful Story of Chanukah ration for a shiur given by Rabbi Shaya is set in ancient Israel, the land of the Cohen, rosh yeshiva of Zichron Aryeh. mighty Maccabees. This is an interac- Rabbi Cohen gave a shiur on “v’ahavta tive Drum Tale which takes its audience l’reiacha kamocha” with focus on a diffi - back in time to experience the light cult Rambam in Hilchos Avel. and joy of Chanukah. During the jour- After the shiur, parents were invited ney, the audience will encounter many Fathers and sons preparing for the shiur to a workshop on the topic of gid experiences, adventures, and charac-

60 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES ters, which will all be brought to life tory remarks by Mrs. Helen Spirn, head their school with the future students. SKA looks forward to welcoming the through various musical innovations. of school; Ms. Raizi Chechik, principal, They highlighted the immensely popu- Class of 2018!  Join this exciting tale of mystery, mir- grades 9–10; and Dr. Tzipora Meier, prin- lar Art Academy and Science Research acles, triumph, joy, and a single bottle cipal, grades 11–12. The enthusiasm was Initiative and electives such as sign lan- Siyum And Hesped For of olive oil. contagious throughout the parent and guage, forensics, and pre-engineering, R’ Ovadia At YFR Not only does this story tell of tri- student tours. As SKA faculty present- while also mentioning the extremely On Sunday, October 13, the Yeshiva of umphs in battle, but also how we as ers shared their passion for their subject successful chesed program that is such Far Rockaway paid tribute to the legacy individuals can overcome setbacks areas, the richness of the curriculum and an integral part of the school. of HaRav Ovadia Yosef, zt’l, with a mov- and challenges and discover the full the warmth and dedication of the staff Serenaded by chamber music per- ing hesped. Avi Goldstein, a YFR alum- distance of our potential. Drum Tales were apparent the entire morning. formed by several members of SKA’s nus and parent, made a siyum on Rav Chanukah: Lighting up the world with Student volunteers, including the every beat!  new student ambassadors, shared their insights into the excellent limudei Welcome To SKA! kodesh and secular academic program of The Stella K. Abraham High School for SKA and the outstanding extracurricular Girls welcomed an exceptional turnout experiences they are offered. Pointing of prospective parents and students to its out the Smart Boards, the computer lab, Open House on Sunday, October 20. The and the modern biology and chemistry auditorium was full during the introduc- labs, the SKAers were excited to share Photo by Ivan H. Norman

band under the direction of Mrs. Terri Ovadia Yosef’s Yechaveh Da’as, a six-vol- Wagner, the visitors were given SKA ume set of teshuvos. totes ﬁ lled with informational bro- Avi began learning Yechaveh Da’as chures about the school. Following the almost 20 years ago, in order to efﬁ - program, parents and students had the ciently use the time between ali- opportunity to chat with the admin- yos on Shabbos (bein gavra l’gavra). It istration and faculty members. Cele- took approximately two years to learn brating over 20 years of educating the through each chelek and one year to whole girl, SKA offers its students spiri- SKA “ambassadors” greeted visitors at the Open House event tual growth and personal development! Continued on Page 62

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 61 7:10 am @ Agudah of Bayswater AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS DAFYOMISHIURIM @ Mesivta Ateres Yaakov, 131 Washington Avenue Continued from Page 61 7:15 am @ Aish Kodesh – Sunday ONLY In the 5 Towns Far Rockaway Area @ Kehillas Bais Yehudah Tzvi (the Red Shul) review it. Avi remarked that Rav Ova- 4:30 am @ Chabad – Maple Avenue, Cedarhurst @ Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv – Mishnah Berurah: Rabbi Shmuel Grossman 7:30 am @ Agudah of L.I. (Rabbi Reisman) In Library – Magidei Shiur: 5:00 am dia’s encyclopedic knowledge (some @ Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Shmuel Grossman Rabbis S. Kohn, N. Schweid, R. Flegman 5:15 am teshuvos cited dozens of sources) made @ Y.I. of Woodmere – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Rafael Fink @ Congregation Heichal Dovid – Sunday ONLY 5:30 am @ Chofetz Chaim Torah Center – Cedarhurst 7:35 am @ Y.I. of Woodmere – Sunday ONLY – Magid Shiur: Rabbi R. Fink learning Yechaveh Da’as a humbling @ Rabbi Neiman’s Shul – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Yossi Schonkopf 7:45 am @ Kehillas Bais Yehudah Tzvi (the Red Shul) – Sunday ONLY experience. 5:45 am @ Agudah of L.I. (Rabbi Reisman) – Magid Shiur: Rav Shmuel Witkin @ Beth Sholom – Sunday ONLY – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Yale Fishman @ Kehillas Bais Yehudah Tzvi (the Red Shul) @ Rabbi Blumenkrantz’s shul - Shabbos ONLY 6:00 am @ Agudah of L.I – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Dr. Mermelstein 7:50 am @ Far Rockaway LIRR front section of the last car – Direct to Penn Station @ Aish Kodesh – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Sholom Fried, Rabbi Daniel Fink 7:55 am @ Lawrence LIRR – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Pesach Lerner @ Rabbi Blumenkrantz’s shul 8:00 am @ Shaaray Tefila – Sunday ONLY – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Kalish @ CBEY- Island Ave., Woodmere – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Shalom Rosner @ Agudas Yisroel of Long Island – Sunday ONLY – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Tzvi Flaum @ Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Dovid Greenblatt @ Mesivta Ateres Yaakov, 131 Washington Avenue (Shabbos Only) 6:10 am @ Beis Medrash of Cedarhurst – Rabbi Spiegel 8:10 am @ LIRR Far Rockaway Branch, in the last car of the train, which makes stops at 6:15 am @ Cong. Beis Avraham – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Henoch Grumet Inwood, Lawrence, Cedarhurst and Woodmere at 8:22 am @ Beis Haknesses of North Woodmere Magid Shiur: Rabbi Menachem Adler 6:30 am @ Agudah of West Lawrence – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Moshe Brown 8:15 am @ Beth Sholom – Shabbos ONLY – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Yale Fishman @ Young Israel of Law./Cedar. Maggid Shiur: Yale Fishman/Yaakov Shalev 8:45 am @ Agudah of L.I. – Sunday ONLY in library @ Y.I. of Oceanside @ Sunday mornings at Beis Tefilah – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Shaya Richmond @ Rabbi Katz's Shul in Far Rockaway – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Pinchas Birnhack 10:15 am @ The White Shul – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Matt Cohen 6:40 am @ Y.I. of Woodmere – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Aron Glatt 12:50 pm @ Cedarhurst Center – Ground Floor Conf. Room – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Lichtenstein @ Congregation Beth Shalom – Maggid Shiur: Rabbi Yechiel Weberman 8:00 pm @ Agudah of L.I. – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Nochum Katz Photo by Ivan H. Norman 6:45 am @ Shaaray Tefila – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Kalish @ Aish Kodesh – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Simcha Weingott @ Y.I. of Far Rockaway – Magid Shiur: R’ Daniel Martin and R’ Avraham Bachrach @ The White Shul – Magidei Shiur: Rabbi Kanner Avi Goldstein @ Agudah of the Five Towns – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Ephraim Edelstein 8:15 pm @ Cong. Beis Medrash of Cedarhurst – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Dovid Spiegel @ Agudas Yisroel of Long Island – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Tzvi Flaum 8:30 pm @ Y.I. of Oceanside 7:00 am @ Agudah of L.I. – Sunday ONLY – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Dr. Mermelstein @ Congregation Heichal Dovid In the ﬁ nal teshuvah, concerning the @ Congregation Beth Avraham – Sunday ONLY 8:45 pm @ Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Y. Weberman ongoing obligations of a ger tzedek to @ Yeshiva Gedolah of 5 Towns – Magid Shiur: Rav Yitzchok Knobel @ Rabbi Blumenkrantz – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Yosef Friedler his non-Jewish parents who are ill or 9:00 pm @ Agudah of L.I. – Magid Shiurim: Rabbi Lichtenstein/Rotating Chaburah @ Young Israel of Law./Ced. – Sunday ONLY – Magid Shiur: Rabbi Yale Fishman have passed away, Rav Ovadia insists 7:09 am @ Far Rockaway LIRR 3rd car from the end – Direct to Penn Station @ Agudah of West Lawrence – Rabbi Brown’s Shul Magid Shiur: Rabbi Kodesh @ Agudah of Bayswater that Torah study in the deceased’s honor @ Beis Tefilah – (Tues.– Thurs.) Maggid Shiur: Rabbi Ephraim Edelstein is the best way to elevate his or her soul. Avi noted that that given Rav Ovadia’s total dedication to learning Torah, this is an appropriate way for the last teshuvah in Yechaveh Da’as to conclude.  An Inspirational Morning At TAG With Rabbi Yosef Mendelevich How often does one get an opportunity to meet a hero? On Wednes- day, October 16, the seventh and eighth grades of TAG’s junior high school, as well as the high school, were privileged to have that opportunity and hear from noted Russian refusenik R’ Yosef Men- delevich.

Rabbi Mendelevich spoke of growing up in Communist Russia as an unaffi liated Russian Jew. He passion- ately described how the realization and appreciation of what it means to be Jew- ish came to pass. After his attempted escape from Russia via a hijacked plane, he was imprisoned for 11 years! It was during that time in prison, when a Rus- sian offi cer interrogated him and suggested he become just like any other Russian, that R’ Mendelevich under- stood how much he needed and wanted to hold on to his Yiddishkeit. This led to his deep commitment and great mesirus nefesh to keep kashrus and Shabbos and to daven daily throughout his years in prison. He viewed those years as a wonderful gift from HaKadosh Baruch Hu who gave him this time to fully appreciate what it means to be a Yid. The girls were deeply moved and awed by his story and a lively question-and-answer session followed 62 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES his talk. At the conclusion, Mrs. Aliza the terrifi ed calls, the abject fear, the Kadosh, principal of limudei kodesh helplessness . . . in TAG High School, spoke to the girls. We haven’t forgotten. And now it’s She took this opportunity to emphasize time to give thanks. girls that they too demonstrate their The storm left our community devas- heroism when they are moser nefesh for tated physically, fi nancially, and emo- their Yiddishkeit as they fi ght the many tionally—but, miraculously, with no outside infl uences in today’s world that loss of life amongst us. And just as we are antithetical to what we believe in as pulled together as a community to Yidden. They are the heroines of today’s rebuild what was lost, we gather as a generation. community to express our heartfelt Many thanks to Mrs. Arielle Wolfson, gratitude over what was miraculously who sponsored this truly memorable salvaged. event.  Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv, the venue which brings back so many bittersweet Sandy New Chaya Franklin Series memories, is being outfi tted with spe- Begins October 29 cial seating arrangements to accommo- Chaya Franklin, a noted inspira- date the overfl ow crowds. Every one of tional speaker who infuses Kabbalis- us was a grateful benefi ciary of Hash- tic insights into everyday topics, will em’s compassion that night. Every one begin a new series on the spiritual sig- of us can and should take the time to nifi cance of the months. Classes will be say a proper thank-you. held on the last Tuesday of every month The program itself has been designed at Chabad of the Five Towns, 74 Maple to be short, uplifting, and inspiring. Avenue in Cedarhurst, and will begin Rabbi Fischel Schachter, a speaker union Tuesday, October 29 at 8:30 p.m. All versally beloved by adults and chil- women are invited to join.  dren alike, will present a brief keynote address, followed by the public recital Where Will You Be of Tehillim led by rabbanim represent- This Sunday? ing each segment of the community. It’s happening this Sunday, and every- The event will include a special musi- one will be there. cal presentation by renowned sing- Approximately 50 shuls and 20 ers Eitan Katz (a talented local who schools from across the community are was personally affected by Sandy) and preparing to join the Unity and Grat- Boruch Levine, as well as a special sur- itude Hakaras HaTov event, slated to prise presentation by a young mem- begin at 2:00 p.m. this Sunday, October ber of the community. For additional 27, one year after Superstorm Sandy. details, please see Pages 24–25 of this Time may have dulled the effects, but issue. those nightmarish moments remain vivid in our memories: the rising waves, Continued on Page 64

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The rabbanim and principals involved in the event are over- whelmed by the sheer electricity of the achdus already gen- erated by this, a unifi ed, public display of hakaras ha’tov. The storm will forever be seared onto our collective memories. We were all there. And now, one year later, we will all be there, once again— together. Join us.  Fairway Market Takes Kosher Catering To The under the internationally rec- but also full catering service, past three-quarters of a cen- house-made potato chips, Next Level ognized and trusted supervi- including staffi ng, linens, fl o- tury,” said Herb Ruetsch, chief antipasto platters, BBQ bris- Maximizing its more than sion of Kof-K. ral design, and other party executive offi cer. “Now, we are ket latke bites, Argentine 80 years of experience and The menu (www. equipment rental needs. There building on this record by cre- skirt steak with chimichurri capitalizing on what is argu- fairwaymarket.com/fi les/cater- are also specialized savings ating long-term catering rela- sauce, and exceptional sushi ably the largest selection of ing/fairway-kosher-catering- offers for synagogues, and gift- tionships with individuals, and sashimi with Miami Sun- kosher grocery products in the menu-2013-fi nal.pdf), repre- card programs to support fund- organizations, synagogues, and shine and Red Ocean rolls. For country, Fairway Market has senting the best from Fairway’s raising and nonprofi t organi- companies in the tri-state area. dairy, Fairway offers its sig- unveiled a new 84-page kosher world-class kitchens, is avail- zations. In addition, Fairway, Our team will hand-hold cus- nature hand-sliced smoked catering menu to make any able in each of the 14 stores with its powerful marketing tomers through the entire pro- salmon, whitefi sh, sable, and gathering—from weddings, in New York City, Long Island, arm, can help these synagogues cess, from giving guidance on baked salmon, together with bar mitzvahs, Kiddushes, and New Jersey, Westchester, Rock- and organizations with their food selection to providing its famous bagels, as well as holiday and Shabbat meals to land, and Connecticut. outreach efforts to ensure that party rentals and service. And, inventive dishes such as black Super Bowl parties, business Fairway’s Kosher Catering they achieve their goals. of course, the food prepared by cod with wild mushrooms and lunches, brunches, and simple is a one-stop shop, offering “Fairway has attained an our world-class chefs is plenti- lemon Beurre Blanc, and an get-togethers with friends— not just the most scrumptious unparalleled track record in ful and simply delicious.” artisanal cheese board with delicious, healthy, and all and diverse food selections, the kosher food world over the The menu choices are struc- guava gelée served on a slate tured so individuals can cre- tray. ate their own bill of fare or For birthday and other par- select from the many themed ties, there are packages with packages, including Asian, everything from crudités to Latin, Israeli, Italian, and deli, short rib sliders to mini pas- for their occasion. In total, an tries to three-foot heros and enticing array of hors d’oeu- chicken wings. Breakfast meet- vres, entrées, desserts, breads, ings can be more memorable and beverages is available. with Texas-style challah french Fairway Kosher caters to par- toast, blintzes, and quiche. ties from 5 to 500 people and is “We have carefully crafted already the exclusive for Tem- choices for all taste buds, from ple Beth Torah on Long Island. traditional foods for wed- Its meat menu features tra- dings, Kiddushes, baby nam- ditional favorites such as tri- ings, Shabbat dinners, and the ple-decker New York deli sand- like, as well as more contem- wiches and deli platters with porary foods for Super Bowl moist or lean pastrami and gatherings, birthday parties, house-cooked tongue. brunches, business lunches, There are also modern offer- or just evenings with friends,” ings such as the Latin din- said Rebecca Martin, catering ner package with beef faji- director for Fairway. “This is an tas and “pollo a la brasa,” and outstanding and comprehen- the Game Day packages with sive menu that our kosher cus- bruschetta chicken heros and tomers will love.”

64 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES TRAVEL SECTION Fairway will host a kosher Thanks- giving food sampling in the Westbury, Stamford, and Paramus stores Sunday, November 3, 11:00 a.m.–3:00 p.m. Cus- tomers can taste candied sweet pota- toes, butternut squash soup, apple cran- berry challah stufﬁ ng, roasted Empire kosher turkey, and more. The complete menu and ordering instructions will be available at www.fairwaymarket.com on November 1. For more information, contact Rebecca Martin, director of catering, 917-734-9269 or Rebecca. [email protected]. To place orders, call Jack Wasserman, man- ager of kosher catering, 917-843-1918, or e-mail koshercatering@fairwaymarket. com. For information on Fairway’s giving priorities, visit www.fairwaymarket.com/ fairwayinthecommunity.  A Community Comes Together: One Year After The Storm By Julie Vogel Although many did not even know of its existence, RCSP (the Rockaway Citizens Safety Patrol, a.k.a. Rockaway Shomrim) was established about a year before Hurricane Sandy hit. It was initi- ated because of a rise in petty crimes in the area starting around November 2011, and from that time to the hurricane, Shomrim members were involved in a few arrests. During and after Hurricane Sandy, Shomrim played an even greater role in keeping our community safe. Immedi- ately before the hurricane, they evacu- ated sick and elderly individuals in the community to shelters. They immediately set up a 24-hour command center in the Young Israel of Wavecrest and Bayswater. Hundreds of volunteers came to help in the relief effort. There was an NYPD ofﬁ cer stationed in the

command center for the entire storm period. Additionally, Deputy Inspector Kevin Maloney, from the 101st Precinct, came to the command center regularly to ensure that RCSP/Shomrim had what they needed. For two weeks after the storm, RCSP/ Shomrim had 24-hour patrols going throughout the neighborhoods. This helped ensure that, although crime increased greatly throughout the area, the Far Rockaway and Bayswater neighborhoods were absent of crime and looting during the darkness. Also during this period after the storm, in addition to patrols, RCSP/Shomrim helped to set up a food kitchen for giving out hot food, they set up generators so house- holds with young children and the

Continued on Page 67 TRAVEL SECTION 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 65 IN OUR BONES any part of immune system ceases to and destitute from the one who would And he said: “I will not Continued from Front Cover work and a body is invaded by biolog- rob him . . .’” eat, until I have told my ical mazikin. Our very bodies, in other words, spores, bacteria, and viruses that con- The immune system is to be con- our organs and their processes, fi g- errand.” And he said: stantly seek to invade our bodies. stantly marveled at. But a particu- uratively “thank and bless” our Cre- “Speak” The latter are held off, if we are alive larly apt place to ponder it is during ator—by their very workings. What is (Bereishis 24:33) and healthy, by an unbelievably com- the prayer recited on Shabbos (and at the pertinence here, though, of King plex biological network we call the the Pesach Seder) that we call “Nish- David’s praise of G-d’s saving a poor Said Rabbi Acha: The talk of the immune system. mas Kol Chai” (“The Spirit of All Living man from being oppressed by a stron- servants of the fathers is more Langerhans cells on our skin keep Things”). During the Shabbos service, ger one? desirable than the Torah scholarship of tiny potentially lethal invaders out. sadly, that prayer is often truncated or From the perspective of what we The enzyme lysozyme in mucus even omitted entirely by many people, know today, it is not hard to perceive the children. For Eliezer’s story, which breaks down the cell walls of malign likely because it comes at the end of the exquisiteness of that reference in takes up two or three pages in the bacteria, as do tears and saliva. a portion of the service (like Aleinu, its context. The “poor men” are our Torah, is twice recounted, while many An astounding menagerie of protein another “orphan in shul”). And yet, bodies, vulnerable to hordes of imper- principles of Torah law are conveyed molecules we call antibodies, more- with a single word or letter. over, is produced by the white blood cells born in the marrow of our bones, (Rashi; Midrash Rabbah) each product designed (yes designed; Our very bodies fi guratively there’s a Designer here) to disable a specifi c bacteria, virus, or toxin. Lym- “thank and bless” our Creator. I arrived today phocytes, one such product of our at the well bone marrow, attack a broad array of the bacterial and viral agents that are (Bereishis 24:42) capable of causing us great harm. halachic sources say that it should ceptibly small but dangerously strong From Hebron to Charan is a 17-day And the system contains a vital receive preference before much of agents of harm. Is it not self-evident journey, and Eliezer made the trip in control subsystem governed by the what precedes it. And for good reason. that we owe our Creator our wide- human leukocyte antigen (HLA), a mol- Some of “Nishmas” consists of eyed gratitude for the easily ignored three hours. ecule present on the surface of prac- verses borrowed from Tehillim and the but incalculably vital miracle that is (Pirkei d’Rabbi Eliezer, ch. 16) tically every cell in our bodies that prophet Yeshayahu, along with poetic our immune systems’ ceaseless work identifi es those cells as our own, pro- renderings of concepts from the Tal- to vanquish those baleful agents? tecting them from attack by the myr- mud. Toward the prayer’s end, we fi nd And is it not particularly exquisite And her brother iad germ-fi ghting antibodies com- the words: that the parts of our bodies King David and mother said . . . manded (yes, commanded; there’s a From severe and enduring diseases singles out as declaring “Hashem, who Commander here) to seek and destroy You spared us . . . therefore, the organs is like You?” for saving the poor from (Bereishis 24:55) foreign invaders. that You set within us shall thank and the strong . . . are our bones?  But where was Besuel? He wished to We know these facts today because bless . . . and declare the sovereignty of of the progression of science and its Your name . . . as it is written (Psalms © 2013 Rabbi Avi Shafran hinder it, and so he was smitten during observations of the world beneath the 35:10): “All my bones shall say, ‘Hashem, “It’s All in the Angle” (Torah Temimah the night. threshold of unaided human vision— Who is like You? You save the poor man Publications), a collection of selected essays by (Midrash Rabbah) and the devastation that occurs when from the one stronger than he, the poor Rabbi Shafran, is available from Judaica Press.

66 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES TRAVEL SECTION AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS worked with Chesed Shel Emes to save Continued from Page 65 as many sifrei Torah as possible, and to respectfully bury those that could not elderly could have heat, and they were be saved, from Belle Harbor, Bayswa- pumping water out of houses. RCSP/ ter, and Seagate. They organized a com- Shomrim also got help from other communitywide levayah held at the White munities, including Boro Park Shom- Shul for those sifrei Torah that were rim, Williamsburg Shomrim, and the destroyed.

Rockaway Shomrim and Williamsburg Shomrim worked together to pump water from fl ooded houses Monroe fi re and public-safety depart- During the summer alone, they ments. They were also able to provide assisted in 15 arrests. There are 120 vol- a patrol on Shabbos carried out by off- unteers who do night patrol every night duty police offi cers from upstate, which in Far Rockaway and Bayswater. In addi- the JCCRP paid for and RCSP/Shomrim tion, there are currently over 30 Shom- coordinated. rim members who are on call 24 hours Once the lights went back on, the work did not stop. RCSP/Shomrim Continued on Page 71

TRAVEL SECTION 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 67 68 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES TRAVEL SECTION President G. W. Bush Delivers Surprise Address At CoP Gala The Conference of Presidents of European and NATO affairs from 1983 Major American Jewish Organiza- to 1986. He now chairs Clinique Lab- tions Fund held a gala dinner to cel- oratories. Lauder has served as pres- ebrate fi ve decades of leadership ident of the World Jewish Congress and achievement. The gala was held since June 2007. His award was pre- at the Waldorf Astoria in New York. sented by former U.S. Ambassador to President George W. Bush closed out the United Nations John Bolton, who the evening with a surprise keynote suggested that the Conference receive address. the next Nobel Peace Prize. The Honorable Ban Ki-moon, United Mortimer B. Zuckerman served as Nations Secretary General, addressed chairman during 2001–2003. Zucker- the gala, which was attended by 1,200 man is the cofounder, chairman, and guests, including many ambassadors, CEO of Boston Properties, one of the offi cials, and guests from Europe, largest real-estate investment trusts South America, Asia, and Africa, and in the United States. Zuckerman is prominent personalities from every also the owner and publisher of the Cantor Yitzchak Meir Helfgot led the audience in singing the national anthems of the United sector of American society. The UN New York Daily News and of U.S. News States and Israel. Immediately behind Cantor Helfgot are John Perez, Speaker of the California Secretary General announced his plan and World Report, where he is editor- State Assembly; Sheldon Silver, Speaker of the New York State Assembly; and Malcolm to visit the Auschwitz concentration in-chief. His award was presented by Hoenlein, Executive Vice Chairman of the Conference of Presidents. camp in the near future. Undersecretary of the United Nations The program opened with video and Chair of the Peace Institute Terje Mr. Tisch has been the president Reserve Bank of New York. He also sits messages from President Barack Roed-Larsen. and CEO of Loews Corporation. Mr. on the boards of the New York Public Obama and Prime Minister Benjamin James S. Tisch served as chair- Tisch is a chairman of WNET. He for- Netanyahu that stressed the impor- man during 2003–2005. Since 1998, merly served as director of the Federal Continued on Page 70 tance of the Conference of Presidents in national and international affairs. Special guests Raul de Molina, Univi- sion’s Emmy Award-winning co-host of El Gordo y la Flaca, and Holly Rob- inson Peete, actress, offered refl ec- tions on their trips to Israel with the Conference of Presidents’ “America’s Voices in Israel” program. Among those offering brief toasts were the former Chief Rabbi of Syria Rabbi Avraham Hamra; a leader of the Egyptian Coptic community; former Deputy Prime Minister of Iran Mohsen Sazegara; Pastor John Hagee (founder of Christians United for Israel); Man- hattan District Attorney Cy Vance; the Ambassador-at-Large and head of the Moroccan Jewish community, Serge Berdugo; and the Ambassador of Rus- sia to the United States, Sergei Kis- lyak. The evening ended with a moving rendition of both the American and Israeli national anthems, led by Can- tor Yitzchak Meir Helfgot of Park East Synagogue. The chairmen of the Presidents Conference from the past 20 years were recognized for their dedication, with the Strength Through Unity award. A special tribute was paid to Malcolm Hoenlein for his contribu- tions to the Conference as executive vice-president since June 1986. He was presented his Strength Through Unity by several of his grandchildren as other presenters cited Mr. Hoenlein’s essential role in international relations, Israel and Middle East affairs, Soviet and World Jewry, anti-terror- ism, the American Jewish community, and intergroup relations. Melvin Salberg served as chairman during 1997–1999. Mr. Salberg works as senior counsel in the labor and employment law group of Anderson Kill’s New York City offi ce. His award was presented by former Canadian Minister of Justice and Member of Parliament, Honorable Irwin Cotler. Ambassador Ronald S. Lauder served as chairman during 1999–2001. Mr. Lauder was the United States ambassador to Austria in 1986–1987 and deputy assistant secretary of defense for TRAVEL SECTION 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 69 CoP GALA national president of Hadassah. Pres- Continued from Page 69 ident George W. Bush appointed News From The Hills Walker to serve on the Honorary Del- Library, Mount Sinai Medical Center, egation to accompany him to Jerusa- BY CHANITA TEITZ much for ethics or humanitarianism by and the Partnership for New York City, lem for the celebration of the 60th the Arabs, while Israel has been repeat- and is a member of the Council on anniversary of the State of Israel in In Parashas Chayei Sarah, we learn edly blamed for a lack of those qual- Foreign Relations. His award was pre- May 2008. about what seems to be the fi rst real-es- ities.) Nevertheless, we know that it sented by former U.S. Senator Joseph Alan P. Solow served as chairman tate sale in history. Avraham Avinu goes is ours and the sale is recorded in the Lieberman. during 2009–2011. He is a partner at to Ephron to purchase a cave on his Torah and with Hashem’s help we will Harold Tanner served as chairman DLA Piper’s bankruptcy group based property in which to bury Sarah, Avra- never lose it. during 2005–2007. He is president of in Chicago. He is a past chair of the ham’s wife. This Shabbos is a very special Shab- Tanner & Co., Inc., a private invest- Jewish Community Centers Associ- Ephron seems like a kind and ethical bos in Hebron with many people com- ment banking fi rm he founded in ation of North America. His award humanitarian who decides to give Avra- ing there to celebrate the signifi cance New York City in 1987. Mr. Tanner has was presented by Counsel General of ham the burial plot for free, as a “chesed of this holy city. I wish I were there! been a member of Cornell Universi- Israel, Ambassador Ido Aharoni shel emes,” but Avraham is wise and This is also a busy time of year right ty’s Board of Trustees since 1982 and Richard B. Stone served as chairman declines the offer. He insists on buy- here with lots of community activities serves as President of the American during 2011–2013. He is a professor of ing the cave and the entire fi eld upon going on. To have your event mentioned Jewish Committee, a Trustee of the law at Columbia University, where he which it sits, and pays in silver coins. in this column, e-mail your information Revson Foundation and Classroom, has held the Wilbur Friedman Chair Avraham knows that silver will always at least two weeks in advance so I can Inc., and a member of the Council in Tax Law since 1991. He serves as a have value, is universally accepted cur- mention it here. on Foreign Relations. His award was managing director of Sunrise Securi- rency and so the sale will always be presented by ranking House Foreign ties Corporation. Professor Stone was legitimate. He doesn’t want his future Past Events Relations member Congressman Eliot appointed assistant solicitor general descendants to have to prove owner- Last Motzaei Shabbos, Yeshiva Yesodei Engel. of the United States and serves as the ship or have their legitimate rights con- Yeshurun held a melaveh malkah where June Walker served as chairwoman chairman of the board at Espro Acous- tested. 23 bachurim from different grades made during 2007–2008. She was also a tiguide Group. His award was pre- We all know the outcome of this sale. a siyum on Maseches Gittin. Yashar member of AIPAC’s Executive Com- sented by the new Israeli Ambassador No matter how bona fi de it was then, koach to them! mittee. Until July 2007, she was the to the U.S., Ron Dermer.  the Arabs are contesting it now. (So Upcoming Events The Queens community is once again honored to welcome The Pitts- burgher Rebbe, shlita, of Ashdod, Israel who will be coming, iy’H, Shab- bos Parashas Chayei Sarah (October 25–28) to Kew Gardens Hills. Minchah and Kabbalas Shabbos at 5:50 p.m. Khal Nachlas Yitzchok with Rabbi Oel- baum, 141-43 73rd Avenue. Tisch Friday night at 8:30 p.m. at Yeshiva of Central Queens, 147-37 70th Road. Shacharis at 8:30 a.m. at Yeshiva Ohr Hachaim, 141-61 71st Avenue. Minchah and sha- losh seudos at 5:30 p.m. at Cong. Ohel Yitzchak with Rabbi Arieli, 137-58 70th Avenue. Havdalah and l’chaim at 8:00 p.m. followed by kabalas kahal at the home of Mr. and Mrs. Nussy Elbogen, 73-74 136th Street. The Rebbe, shlita, will be staying at the home of Mr. and Mrs. Charles-Edouard Gros, 141-16 72nd Avenue. For appointments, please call 718-704-4821. Honor the Torah by honoring the memory of a Torah scholar—the street naming of 78th Road adjacent to Toras Emes (Parsons Boulevard) in honor of Rabbi Dr. H. Joel Laks, zt’l, on Sun- day, October 27 at 1:45 p.m. promptly followed by a collation in the shul. Rabbi Dr. H. Joel Laks, zt’l, served as the rav of the Jewish Center Torath Emeth with love and devotion for over 50 years and was the rabbi emer- itus for 10 years. Rabbi Laks established a thriving Talmud Torah that educated 400 students in its prime. He taught philosophy at Queens Col- lege and Touro College. Rabbi Laks served as the Jewish chaplain at Booth Memorial Hospital for 30 years and conducted weekly services at Mead- owpark Nursing Home. He was instru- mental in the formation of the Vaad Harabonim of Queens and he served as the fi rst chairman of the chevra kadisha. He was also a longtime member of the Queens Jewish Community Council. Rabbi Dr. Laks played a for- mative infl uence in the growth of the Kew Gardens Hills community from its inception to the present mature neighborhood we live in today.

Continued on Page 72 70 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES TRAVEL SECTION AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS HANC’s Mussar Café What steps can I take to bring my life And he gave straw and Continued from Page 67 Building upon a hallmark of HANC closer to its spiritual potential? provender for the camels High School—character growth and Over the course of the year, a vari- . . . And there was set a day. Over the summer, they had an middos development—an exciting ety of character traits will be cov- food before him to eat event in which they etched hundreds new initiative has been launched for ered. They include humility (this past of bikes for the police department, and seniors. The event is a once-a-week week’s topic), honesty, anger manage- (Bereishis 24:32–33) they have indeed recovered a lot of “Mussar Café” led by menahel Rabbi ment, kindness, gratitude, and many First he fed the animals, and afterward bikes, although they do not always ﬁ nd Adelman, during which doughnuts and others—all of which are the stepping he was served food. For it is forbidden the owner if the bike was not etched. various hot beverages are provided stones on the journey toward spiritual for a person to taste anything until he Rockaway Shomrim are the eyes while the study of mussar permeates greatness. feeds his animals and the ears of the NYPD. RCSP/Shom- the air. The Mussar Café for the month of (Midrash HaGadol) rim has a 24-hour emergency hotline, Mussar provides a distinctively Jew- October was generously sponsored by 917-727-7306. They also set up a Secu- ish answer to the sorts of questions any Chani and Mark Scheiner, proud par- rity Alert department, which lets com- thinking person (especially teenagers) ents of senior Eli Scheiner. The sponsor- We will call the girl, and munity members know when there asks about life: ship is dedicated to the memory of Vera is a security alert or something to be Why do I keep making the same mis- Greif Brodsky (Yona bat Pinchas), Elihu inquire at her mouth aware of. Anyone in the community takes over and over? Brodsky (Eliyahu ben Chaim), and Sol (Bereishis 24:57) can register for this service by e-mailing Why do I cause pain to myself and Scheiner (Shlomo Tuvia ben Yehoshua From this we learn that a woman [email protected].  others? Menachem).  should not be given in marriage without her consent. (Rashi)

Yitzchak went out to meditate in the field . . . and behold, camels were coming (Bereishis 24:63) Sometimes a person must go to his soul mate, and sometimes his soul mate comes to him. In the case of Yitzchak, his wife came to him, as it is written, “And he saw, and, behold, there were camels coming.” Yaakov, however, went to his wife as it is written, “And Yaakov went out of Be’er Sheva . . .” (Bereishis 28:10). (Midrash HaGadol) Drinking in the mussar at HANC

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 71 News From The Hills starting November 10. Small groups for The Women’s Amein Group of Queens and refreshments. Admission $5 per Continued from Page 70 Hebrew and English speakers. Open presents Rabbi Moshe Teitelbaum, mara person. house! Sunday, October 27, 10:00 a.m.– d’asra, Young Israel of Lawrence–Cedar- Chazaq women’s division proudly 12:00 p.m. Come and meet the teacher, hurst. Topic: Revisiting Rav Elchonon Local Open House presents “From Outside the Camp.” The the program, the synagogue, and have Wasserman’s ‘Ikvisa Dimeshicha—The Schedules highly acclaimed Bais Yaakov D’Rav Hebrew story time and activities! To Footsteps of Moshiach’ rosh chodesh Sunday, October 27. Yeshiva Univer- Meir audiovisual performance. A must- register, contact Alicia hyoffi ce18@ Kislev Sunday, November 3, at Young sity High School for Girls (Central), 9:30 see for every woman and teenage girl! yahoo.com or call 718-261-5500. For more Israel of Hillcrest, 169-07 Jewel Avenue, a.m.–12:00 p.m. 86-86 Palo Alto Street, Sunday, October 27, 8:00 p.m. Admis- Holliswood, 718-479-8550, ext. 110, info@ sion is free. All ladies are welcome! Beth yuhsg.org. Gavriel Center 66-35 108th Street, Forest Sunday, October 27. Shevach High Hills, NY 11375. For more information, School, 10:00–12:30 75-09 Main Street, call 718-285-9132. Kew Gardens Hills, 718-263-0525. Yad L’Achim presents Rav Yechiel Wednesday, October 30. Yeshiva Abuchatzeira on Monday night, Octo- Tifereth Moshe, 8:00 p.m. 83-06 Abing- ber 28, 7:30 p.m. at Yeshiva Ohel Sim- don Road, Kew Gardens, for kindergar- cha, 141-41 72nd Avenue, Kew Gardens ten and pre-1A, 718-846-7300. Hills for men and women. For more Sunday, November 3. Yeshiva of Cen- information call 866-923-5224 or info@ tral Queens for kindergarten 10:00–11:30 yadlachim.org. a.m. 147-37 70th Road in Kew Gardens Rabbi Zvi Lew, a popular teacher from Hills, 718-793-8500, ext. 313. YUHS for Girls (Central), will deliver a Tuesday, November 5. Bnos Malka 9:30 new monthly shiur for women “Pikuach a.m. 71-02 113th Street in Forest Hills, 718- Nefesh: Laws of Saving a Life on Shab- 268-2667, offi [email protected]. bos.” This free lecture series is open to Wednesday, November 6. Yeshiva Har all women and is held at Congregation Torah, 7:00 p.m. 250-10 Grand Central Siyum at the Yesodei Yeshurun Melaveh Malkah Etz Chaim of Kew Gardens Hills, 147-19 Parkway in Little Neck, 718-343-2533. 73rd Avenue. It will start on Wednesday, information about the program and Flushing. Schedule: 8:15 a.m. sharp Bir- Sunday, November 10. Lander College October 30 at 8:30 p.m., Expected future questions, contact Sigal Mofaz-Levy at chos hashachar; 9:30 a.m. speaker. Bera- for Men, 1:00 p.m. 75-31 150th Street in dates are 8:30 p.m. Wednesdays, Novem- [email protected]. chah party to follow. For more informa- Kew Gardens Hills, 718-820-4884. ber 20, December 25, January 29, Febru- B’Kavod, innovative programming tion, call 347-453-2539. ary 26, March 25 (Tuesday), April 30, May for seniors and their families, is start- For women only, Hashevaynu wom- Condolences . . . 28, and June 25. For more information, ing be’H Monday, October 28. Monday en’s shiur series, Monday nights, 8:00 To Mrs. Shirley Schall and family on call 718-575-0594. and Wednesdays at Cong. Degel Israel p.m. 70-41 Main Street (entrance down- the petirah of her brother. HaMakom Havurat Yisrael, 68-60 Austin Street 11:00 a.m.–3:00 p.m. (for women); stairs) 646-591-7025. Refreshments will yenachem eschem b’soch sh’ar aveilei Tzi- #7 opens a Hebrew School in Forest Monday and Wednesdays at Cong. be served. Shiurim are free of charge. yon v’Yerushalayim.  Hills! Hebrew—reading, writing, and Machzikei Hadas 11:30 a.m.–3:30 p.m. The Women’s League of the Young speaking; Israel—Israeli culture and vir- (for men); and Wednesdays at Cong. Israel of Queens Valley, 141-55 77th Ave- Chanita Teitz is a real-estate broker at Astor tual tour of the country; Biblical stories, Shaare Tova 10:00 a.m.–2:00 p.m. nue, is hosting an art auction on Satur- Brokerage in Kew Gardens Hills, serving the entire Queens vicinity. For all your real-estate holidays, customs, and traditions. Ages Lunch certifi ed by Vaad Harabonim of day night, November 9. Preview at 7:15 needs, call her at 718-263-4500 or e-mail 3–9. Classes will be held on Sundays, Queens. p.m. Auction at 8:00 p.m. Wine tasting [email protected].

72 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 73 to acknowledge the immense self-sacri- and modern wit as he captivates audi- Something Positive fi ce on the part of Avraham Meir and his ences around the country and around wife Perla for hosting over 75 shiurim, the world. He hosts his own critically practically dedicating their lives not acclaimed cable television series, Torah For A Change only to hosting the shiur but to plan- Forum, syndicated throughout North ning and overseeing every aspect of the America. Over 150,000 copies of his BY YOCHANAN GORDON the Temple will merit seeing its rebuild- shiur which has made a huge impact in provocative yet entertaining tapes, both ing.” We see, then, the key to attaining so many lives. audio and video, have been sold. There’s a famous quip from Rebbe the happiness and completion of the To give you an idea of the subject Rabbi Friedman’s fi rst book, Doesn’t Nachman of Breslov, zt’l: “It is a great rededication of the Temple is the level matter, in the fi rst shiur of the season, Anyone Blush Anymore?, published by mitzvah to always be happy.” At fi rst at which we mourn its loss in the appro- which took place at the home of Bonnie Harper San Francisco in 1990, was widely glance, it seems perplexing, since there priate time. and Barry Septimus of Lawrence, Mr. praised by the media. Blush is currently certainly are times the Torah requires I want to draw your attention to a Ari Bergmann expounded on the con- in its fourth printing. Following the pub- of us to stem our expressions of glee shiur—more like a movement—that has cept of teshuvah, focusing particularly lication of the book, he was featured or happiness. How, then, during those been gaining speed in the Five Towns on the importance of growing from our internationally in over 200 print arti- times could we fulfi ll the tenet set forth and surrounding communities over failures. Following Sukkos, Rabbi Bin- cles, and interviewed on more than 50 by the holy sage some 200 years ago? the past couple of years. Positive Juda- yomin Tepfer gave a shiur about how television and radio talk shows. He has An anecdote I once heard involving ism is the brainchild of Avraham Mar- to keep the inspiration of Tishrei alive appeared on CNN, A&E Reviews, PBS, Rav Simcha Wasserman more accurately kovich of Far Rockaway and his mes- throughout the year. And Rabbi Eytan and BBC Worldwide, and has been the defi nes the parameters of true simcha sage has been spreading and appealing Feiner, mara d’asra of the White Shul, subject of articles in the New York Times, and advises how we could go about to a diverse group of men throughout gave a shiur last week about the signifi - Rolling Stone, Seventeen, Guideposts, attaining it. Rav Simcha was known to our community. The fi rst two years of cance of Keriyas Shema in our relation- Insight, Publisher’s Weekly, and others. be an extraordinarily jovial individual. shiurim, meeting at Wednesday evening ship with Hashem. Rabbi Friedman is a noted biblical Once an acquaintance asked him how beginning with dinner from Carlos and The ultimate goal of the shiur is to scholar, recognized for his sagacious it is that he carries himself with such Gabby’s at 8:30 and lasting many times have us realize how fortunate we are grasp of Jewish mysticism. In 1971, he positivity and happiness in the face of past 10:00, crowds of up to 50 attend- to be Yidden and the expression of founded Bais Chana Institute of Jewish a negative world. Rav Simcha answered, ees crammed into the home of Avraham love and affection that G-d showered Studies in Minnesota, the world’s fi rst “Whatever is within my ability to fulfi ll and Perle Markovich in Far Rockaway to upon us by giving us His Torah. In a yeshiva exclusively for women, where I do, and whatever I can’t accomplish I be inspired and educated regarding the day and age when we are bombarded he continues to serve as dean. From don’t worry about.” beauty of Yiddishkeit. with unending negativity from within 1984 to 1990 he served as simultaneous In other words, simcha is attained The dedication of the Markoviches and without, the shiur provides a few translator for the Lubavitcher Rebbe’s through the knowledge that we are reminds me of the story of Rebbe Akiva moments of euphoria, a fulfi llment of televised talks. Rabbi Manis Friedman headed in the right direction in life. and his wife, Rachel. After spending a the purpose of creation as is written enthuses each of his listeners and read- Any doubt that we are leading our lives total of 24 years learning in beis mid- in Zohar, “to make the essence of G-d ers with a sense of purpose and defi nite in the way intended for us on the day rash, with Rachel’s full approval, Rebbe known to the world.” direction. of our birth will show up in our over- Akiva made his way home with 24,000 Please join us this Wednesday, Octo- To be added to the weekly text-mes- all spirit. So, we could be sitting on the talmidim in tow. When he arrived home ber 30, for a shiur given by Rabbi sage list where you will receive weekly fl oor, mourning the destruction of the and called his wife out to see the fruits Manis Friedman of St. Paul, Minne- reminders about the upcoming shiur Beis HaMikdash and still be truly happy that the 24 years of teaching Torah sota. A world-renowned author, coun- as well as location of each particular people. This sheds light on the saying of bore, he exclaimed, “sheli v’shelachem selor, lecturer, and philosopher, Rabbi shiur and other events please text 516- our sages, “Those who mourn the loss of shelah.” It’s only appropriate at this time Manis Friedman uses ancient wisdom 668-6460. 

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E-mail: [email protected] Woodmere — 4BR Charming Home, Very Well Maintained, New Kitchen, Cabinets + Appliances, Lr W/Fpl, Lawrence — Exp-Ranch, Prime Location, MBR Suite On Full Fin Bsmt, Great Backyard, Close To All ...... $429K 1st Floor, Gourmet Kitchen, Totally Renovated . . . . .$875K Open House 10/27/13 By Appt. 227 Hickox Ave. Open House 10/27/13 1-2:30pm 78 Margaret Ave. Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail: [email protected] Realty Corp. E-mail: [email protected]

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 77 CLASSIFIED ADS Continued from Page 77 REAL ESTATE REAL ESTATE REAL ESTATE FOR SALE FOR SALE FOR SALE

REAL ESTATE Lawrence — Grand prestigious classic col. 5-6BR, huge Old Woodmere — Open House by FOR SALE Lawrence — Co-op. First fl oor. Beautiful, spacious, light kitchen, den, basement, attic space private property, great appointment Classic 3BR CH col. on huge country-like and bright 2BR, 2bth (1 Jacuzzi), new kosher granite kitchen, location, convenient to all ...... $1M+ property. Exquisite custom kitchen, oversized den. Great 516-239-8870 or 516-410-8870 open fl ow. Walk to all. Must see. present all off ers! No fl ood! FDR, sunken LR, high ceilings, in prestigious elevator building. Call Norma Lawrence — New To Mkt., Exclusive Area, Fully Reduced to ...... $599K Renovated, 5BR, 4Bths, 2 Dens, 2 Decks. all systems, large Low maintenance, walk all ...... $379K Far Rockaway — S/D 3+BR, 2.5bths, master bth/ Old Woodmere — Grand 5 bedroom expanded ranch Jacuzzi, fully renovated, fi nished basement, deck, great on cul-de-sac with huge basement. Oversized double lot, must Prop., Playrm. Mint, Call: 516-322-4360 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 location...... $580K see ...... $800’s 917-903-7948 Woodmere — Open House by appointment Traditional all brick CH col. 4BR on 1 level. LR with Fpl.Formal Lawrence — Open House by appointment, key here. DR. Large EIK. Full fi nished basement. Across the street from Back Lawrence-style majestic c/h col in front Lawrence. with Aish. No fl ood! ...... $649K ballroom entertaining rooms, almost 1/2 acre, 9BR, 4.5bths, Woodmere —Walk To Irving Place Minyan guest house, granite & French doors, fi nished basement. Walk New Construction. Walk to all. Classic custom built CH col. to all shuls. Opportunity knocks! ...... $1,299,999 Grand two-story entry foyer. 5BR, 4.5Bths. 9’ ceilings. Huge Rare fi nd! Rental The Mayfair Beautiful 2BR, 1bth, new open fl ow. Full Basement. Too much to mention. See kitchen BOM the plans & specifi cations. If you are dreaming of the perfect Esther Walfi sh, Jessica Silver Realty home, call Susan for all the possibilities. 516-476-7764, 516-295-0306 Academy area, Woodmere — New Construction. Classic 7BR, 4.5Bth. CH col. Fabulous entry foyer. 9’ ceilings. LR Cedarhurst — Open House By Appointment. with fi replace. Large FDR. Huge Kosher EIK. Top-of-the-line. Call Joan 516-319-4482. New to market, beautiful total 2-car garage. Huge oversized property. Walk to Young Israel renovated 1BR, 1.5bth, fi rst fl oor co-op with private patio and and Aish. Come view the plans and specifi cations. garden, top of the line everything, w/d, low maintenance, South Shore Estates 516-569-4980 parking, great location, walk all asking ...... $299K Cedarhurst — Open House Sunday, 10/27 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710, or call By appointment. Call Joan 516-319-4482. Co-op. 516-319-4482 Joan Gorgeous. Totally renovated, pristine condition, spacious, 2BR, Lawrence — Co-op. First fl oor. Beautiful, spacious, light 2 new bths, custom granite kitchen, terrace, just move right in, and bright 2BR, 2bth (1 Jacuzzi), new kosher granite kitchen, great location, walk all. FDR, sunken LR, high ceilings, in prestigious elevator building. Price reduced! ...... $285K 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Low maintenance, walk all ...... $379K 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Cedarhurst — New construction. First show. Col. 9’ Flatbush in the mid 30s ceilings, 5BR, 2.5bths, full basement, on quiet tree-lined street. Call — 1-family, semi-attached, for details ...... $950K 3BR, 1.5bths, large EIK, FDR, fi nished basement, private drive/ 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 garage, large nice backyard, price reduced! Call Yehuda 718-501-4003 Lawrence — Open House BA. Call Joan 516- 319-4482 Brick, C/H COL, Stately brick, w/old world charm, Cedarhurst — New construction. First show. Col. 9’ Hi ceilings, 6Br, 4.5 bths, Kosher EIK, Lg. FDR, Library, Fin. Bsmt., ceilings, 5BR, 2.5bths, full basement, on quiet tree-lined street. Call Lg Prop., walk all...... $875K for details ...... $950K 5 TOWN HOMES 516-569-5710 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Lawrence/Far Rockaway — Co-op Freshly painted large Far Rockaway: Coop, 3Br, 1Bth Lr/Dr, Walk to All 2BR, 2bth, kosher kitchen, LR, FDR, terrace, 24-hour doorman, Shabbos ...... $179K elevator. Walk all...... $329K Call 516-322-3555 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710

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Wide Line Split Level Home In Park Setting , 4+2 Bdrms Pristine Colonial in prime "Sandy Dry" location. Flr Fdr Lg Eik Den And Basement Custom eat in kitchen,Large master suite, $499K-$549K main level den, finished basement $500’s WOODMERE WOODMERE

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Charming And Immaculate Col. On Beautiful Park Like 5 Bdrm Col, Newly Renovated Kitchen, Beautiful Entry With A Property With Additional 40X123 Lot Flr Fdnr Eik Den, Poured Marble Floor,Sunken Flr, Fdnr Study Master Bdrm + Full Ceramic Floors, Jacuzzi And More Finished Basement.Location! $1.395M-$1.495M www.Milkyforstproperties.com 78 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES REAL ESTATE FOR RENT VACATION RENTAL FOR SALE Deadline for Woodmere/Cedarhurst Oppty! 12,000 sq. ft. approx. Basement furnished apartment ideal for students or young Alexander Hotel, Miami Beach — Recently 90’x150’, Colonial, 17 rooms, full bsmt. with hi ceilings, clean 2 car garage couple. One extra-large room with separate kitchen. updated. 2BR apt. Breathtaking views, 2bths, southern plus storage, 6 space parking, 2 family, professional use, accountant, Great Lawrence location. Send particulars of yourself. exposure, 10th fl oor. 516-581-2058, Esq., medical and/or educational and religious uses. Grand colonial with [email protected] 516-374-4001 charm and great possibilities. Available at once . $875K Negotiable. Classified Lawrence — First show. Large 1BR, garden apt on fi rst Owner 516-322-3555 fl oor, new kitchen, bth, LR/ DR, parking, heat & storage $1450 Lawrence/Far Rockaway included. Prime location, walk all ...... COMMERCIAL REAL — 833 Central Ave. Spacious 1 5 Towns Homes 516-569-5710 BR, light and bright, doorman/elevator building, walk all. Price reduced ESTATE FOR SALE ...... $179K Lawrence—Newly renovated 2 BR apartment in upper 2 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Advertising family house heat included walk all ...... $1650 Cedarhurst — 3,000SF beautiful offi 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 ce space only $18 psf Far Rockaway — 2 Family. All NU, 3 over 1 Bdrm, 3 full baths. or call Joan 516-319-4482 ...... Great Location ...... $599K Call 516-322-3555 Call For Details. Randy Green [email protected] Kew Gardens — Furnished apt. 2.5 rooms in private house, private entrance. E & F trains & LIRR, Suitable for single, Valley Stream — Free Standing Offi ce Bldg For Sale, references required ...... $1100 w/utilities. Corner Lot, 2000SF, Only ...... $245K in the next issue FOR RENT 718-846-2957 Call For Details. Randy Green [email protected] Far Rockaway — Newly renovated apts in 2-family Lynbrook — Full Equipped Deli/Bagel, Great Exposure & houses, 2BR & 3BR apts. Call for details. Location & Parking, High Traffi c, Call For More Details. info@ Pugatch.com Lawrence — Newly renovated Center Hall Colonial on cul- 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 or call Joan 516-319-4482 Central Ave, Cedarhurst is Monday, de-sac. Cent’l location/Walk to all shuls. New EIK w/ stainless The best Location in town!!! steel appliances. Hi Ceilings. Wood fl oors/moldings. 5 large BR, Far Rockaway — New to market. Renovated 3/4BR apt Corner 1900SF [email protected] Library/Den, FDR, Backyard. Avail. Immed in private house. New kitchen, LR, DR, 1.5bths. Walk all...... $4,500 per/mo. Call Joan 516-319-4482 917-455-7376 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 COMMERCIAL REAL Lawrence October 28, — 1BR, 1 Bath, Renovated Apt, 1st Floor, Lawrence — Renovated 2BR for rent. Central Ave. location. No Fee ...... $1500/mo New kitchen, terrace. ESTATE FOR RENT Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Call Sherri @ Weissman Realty 516-297-7995 Realty Corp. E-mail: [email protected] 2000SF Storage Warehouse Lynbrook $2750 Per Mo. O’h’ Far Rockaway — Lg. Hse Rental: 4br, 2bth, bsmt., hi- New Bath 1 Block To Sunrise Hwy [email protected] Woodmere — 5BR, 3 Baths, CAC, Close To All ceilings, NU bths, W\D. Call 516-322-3555 $3800/mo 380SF offi ce in nice offi ce bldg. Broadway, Lynbrook at 5:00 PM ...... Cedarhurst — House for rent. LR, FDR, kosher kitchen, Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch by Sunrise Hwy ...... $800 includes all den, 4+BR, basement. On quiet street...... $3,400 [email protected] Realty Corp. E-mail: [email protected] 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Valley Stream — Former dental offi ce all plumbed Woodmere — 3BR, 2 Baths, Move Right In Belle Harbor — Beach 136th Street— 4BR, 2bth, ...... $3500/mo great location Central Ave ...... $3700 per mo. Sept.-June. Unfurnished or furnished. Ideal for family that goes [email protected] Call Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch to Mountains for summer. $2,000 plus utilities, negotiable. Realty Corp. E-mail: [email protected] 917-749-9060 Lawrence — Rockaway Tpke former pizzeria $3500 mo Valley Stream — 3BR House Rental, Close To All great location great parking no key money Lawrence/FR border — Large 3BR Apt available for [email protected] ...... $2650/mo rent, 1st FL Private entrance in 2Fam house, Separate large LR Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch and DR, Prime location, Excellent condition. 516-569-0502 Realty Corp. E-mail: [email protected] Please call 516-322-3555 Continued on Page 80

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 79 CLASSIFIED ADS Continued from Page 79 LEGAL NOTICE Gedolim Visit COMMERCIAL REAL Yeshiva Darchei Torah Ari Emmanuel LLC, a domestic LLC, filed with the SSNY on 9/10/2013. Office location Nassau County. SSNY is designated as ESTATE FOR RENT agent upon whom process against the LLC may be served. SSNY shall mail process to: The LLC, 35 Derby Street, Valley Stream, NY 11356. General Purposes. Inwood — 12,000SF Warehouse W/O’h’ Door & Offi ces. Minutes To JFK very reasonable [email protected] Cedarhurst—Professional Offi ce Space for Rent. Prime Your Real Estate, Location 125 Cedarhurst Ave, Public Parking Lot, Next To HSBC Bank, Best Location in Town. Fully Air Conditioned. Open Layout. Plenty of Sunlight 325 Sq. Ft.$1200 Per Month Service, or Call Diana 718-762-2233 Help Wanted Rockville Centre — 3,500 sq. ft., fully wired for Web, partitioned, will divide. Call 516-322-3555 Ad Here Every VACATION REAL ESTATE Thursday FOR SALE 100,000 readers look forward to what’s happening in the 5 Towns Income Producing Shopping Center for Sale in Sullivan County by reading The Five Towns 100% Leased with Long Term Leases In Place & Additional Air Jewish Times. Rights Available $1,900,000- 9.7% CAP Contact Yosef Katz @ 1 Week ...... $35 212-837-4629 or ykatz@gfi cap.com Vacation Village 2 fl , 4 BR, LR, 3 new bth, playrm, WD, 2 Weeks ...... $60 beautiful view. 516-967-8370 4 Weeks ...... $100 Above, Rav Shmuel Kamenetsky, Rosh Yeshiva Weekly Ads of up of the Talmudical Yeshiva of Philadelphia, with YDT MISCELLANEOUS to 25 words Rosh Yeshiva Rav Yaakov Bender and talmidim of Call: 516-569-0502 Yeshiva Darchei Torah. Rav Reuven Feinstein, Rosh Yeshiva of South Shore has some membership openings Fax: 516-977-0608 in its burial society. By purchasing an individual, couple Or E-mail ads to: Yeshiva of the Yeshiva of Staten Island, also vis- or family membership, you will be ensured of select plots in one of several New York area cemeteries of your choosing. For more [email protected] ited the yeshiva and met with Rav Shimon Dachs, information on burial society membership, call the Yeshiva at 516-374-7363 x12 or [email protected] Include payment info. co-principal of Mesivta Chaim Shlomo.

795/13. - 796/13. EAST MEADOW - Patrick & Bonita Moravcik, sight., W/s Allevard St., 422.26’ S/o Lido Blvd. running thru to Ocean line of sight larger than pool installation area., W/s Leamington St., NOTICE OF PUBLIC Variance to maintain Senior Residence each separate dwelling area Blvd., a/k/a 46 Allevard St. 260’ N/o Ocean Blvd., a/k/a 56 Leamington St. exceeding 800 sq. feet in total floor space; Maintain 4’ high fence in HEARING BY THE clear-sight triangle which may substantially obstruct line of sight., 808/13. - 809/13. BALDWIN - Harish Sood, Use variance to 823/13. - 824/13. ROOSEVELT - Roosevelt Children’s Academy N/W cor. Freeman Ave. & Lancaster St., a/k/a 1977 Freeman Ave. maintain non-resident single practitioner’s doctor’s office with Charter School, Inc., Variances, front yards setbacks on Pleasant BOARD OF APPEALS apartment above; Waive off-street parking; special exception to Ave. & Powell St., side yard, rear yard, special exception to install 797/13. BELLMORE - Christopher & Hayley DiChiara, Variance, park in Residence “B” District (doctor’s office)., S/E cor. Merrick Rd. & children’s playground in conjunction with educational use; Install front yard setback on Natta Blvd., construct roofed over open Lakeside Dr., a/k/a 680 Merrick Rd. (Negative Declaration issued 6 high fence not permitted in front yards on Pleasant Ave. & Powell Pursuant to New York State Town Law Article 16, New York State porch attached to dwelling., N/W cor Natta Blvd.& Clemons St., under S.E.Q.R.) St., S/E cor. Pleasant Ave. & Powell St., a/k/a vacant lot across from Public Officers Law Article 7, and the Town of Hempstead Building a/k/a 2735 Natta Blvd. school (Negative Declaration issued under S.E.Q.R.) Zone Ordinance, NOTICE is hereby given that the BOARD OF AP- 810/13. - 811/13. WOODMERE - Dov Feldman, Variances, lot PEALS of the Town of Hempstead will hold a public hearing in the 798/13. POINT LOOKOUT - James J. Stringer, Variance, lot area occupied, rear yard, construct 2 story & 2nd story addition 759/13. - 763/13. OCEANSIDE - John LaBarbera, Variances, side Town Meeting Pavilion, Town Hall Plaza, One Washington Street, area occupied, maintain accessory structure (shed) higher than both attached to dwelling; Variances, lot area occupied, rear yard, yard, side yards aggregate, maintain addition attached to dwelling; Hempstead, New York on 10/30/2013 at 9:30 A.M. & 2:00 P.M. to permitted & not permitted in the side yard., W/s Baldwin Ave., 170’ construct deck attached to dwelling., W/s Church Ave., 267’ N/o Variances, side yard, side yards aggregate, maintain decks attached consider the following applications and appeals: N/o Lido Blvd., a/k/a 13 Baldwin Ave. Raleigh St., a/k/a 653 Church Ave. to dwelling; Maintain cabana with less than required side yard ------setback; Maintain shed higher than permitted & exceeding 800/13. NR VALLEY STREAM - Leroy Berbick, Maintain 6’ high 812/13. WANTAGH - John & Lisa D’Ambrosia, Mother/Daughter horizontal maximum; Variance, side yard, maintain A/C unit THE FOLLOWING CASES WILL BE CALLED STARTING AT fence forward of dwelling on Dana Rd. which may substantially Res. (2nd Kitchen)., E/s Fortune Ct., 45.48’ N/o Spring La., a/k/a 1155 attached to dwelling., W/s Erwin Pl. 150’, N/o Dwight St., a/k/a 3084 9:30 A.M. obstruct line of sight., S/W cor. Bowe Rd. & Dana Ave., a/k/a 1501 Fortune Ct. Erwin Pl. Bowe Rd. 787/13. LIDO BEACH - Michael Horowitz & Lois Jankeloﬀ 813/13. - 815/13. LEVITTOWN - Deborah Hoyt, Variances, lot 1463/13. NR WESTBURY - Keith Haarmann, Variance, lot area Horowitz, Renewal of grant to maintain pool in side yard & 5’ & 801/13. SEAFORD - Jonathan & Elizabeth Gnolfo, Maintain area occupied, front yard average setback, side yard, side yards occupied, construct addition & roofed over porch both attached 6’ high fences larger than pool installation area., W/s Allevard St., accessory structure (boathouse) higher & larger than permitted, aggregate, maintain vestibule, garage & addition all attached to dwelling., W/s Merillon Ave., 160’ S/o Salisbury Rd., a/k/a 835 263.09’ S/o Lido Blvd., a/k/a 32 Allevard St. exceeding horizontal maximum on both sides & less than required to dwelling; Variances, lot area occupied, side yards aggregate, Merillon Ave. side & rear yard setbacks., N/s South St., 116’ E/o Jackson Ave., a/k/a maintain awning attached to dwelling; Variances, lot area 788/13. MERRICK - Esther Jordan, Renewal of grant to maintain 3951 South St. occupied, maintain shed with less than required rear & side yard 1465/13. MERRICK - Marc S. & Pamela Flugman, Variance, lot 2-family dwelling & detached garage., S/s Commonwealth Ave., setbacks., S/s Clover La., 260.03’ E/o Gardenia La., a/k/a 16 Clover area occupied, construct roof over entryway & cantilever attached 175’ E/o Jefferson St., a/k/a 1924 Commonwealth Ave. 802/13. WOODMERE - Allen & Ellen Rosenzweig, Variances, lot La. to dwelling., W/s Whaleneck Rd., 280’ S/o Shoreham Way, a/k/a area occupied, rear yard, construct 2-story addition attached to 2816 Whaleneck Rd. 789/13. MERRICK - Robert Newman, Variances, lot area occupied, dwelling., W/s Sutton Pl., 100’ S/o Fiske St., a/k/a 369 Sutton Pl. 816/13. MERRICK - Steven & Allison Feldman, Maintain 2nd side yards aggregate, maintain wood deck attached to dwelling., accessory structure (masonry BBQ) (not permitted) & exceeding 1466/13. – 1467/13. EAST ATLANTIC BEACH - Barbara Blu- N/s Elliot St., 100’ W/o Hewlett Ave., a/k/a 23 Elliot St. 803/13. MERRICK - Matthew T. & Carolann Pinella, Mother/ horizontal maximum., N/s Carman Ct., 137.99’ E/o Lindenmere Dr., menthal, Variances, height, exceeds number of stories, lot area Daughter Res. (2nd Kitchen)., E/s Hendrickson Ct., 133.40’ S/o Camp a/k/a 1981 Carman Ct. occupied, side yard, side yards aggregate, rear yard, front yard 790/13. MERRICK - Mitchell & Jayne Glider, Maintain 6’ high Ave., a/k/a 1815 Hendrickson Ct. average setback, construct dwelling3-stories above garage fence forward of dwelling on Rugby Rd. which may substantially 818/13. SOUTH HEMPSTEAD - Dolores Russo, Maintain 6’ high (demolish existing dwelling); Variances, front yard average setback, obstruct line of sight., S/E cor. Central Blvd. & Rugby Rd., a/k/a 67 804/13. BELLMORE - TJM Realty, LLC, Waive off-street parking fence forward of dwelling on Webber Ave. which may substantially lot area occupied, side yard, side yards aggregate, construct deck & Central Blvd. & permission to park in front yard setback (automotive shop)., S/s obstruct line of sight., N/W cor. Olive Blvd. & Webber Ave., a/k/a 547 ramp attached to dwelling., E/s Troy Ave., 440’ S/o Beech St., a/k/a Grand Ave. 100’ W/o Pettit Pl. running thru to Pettit Ave. a/k/a 2660 Olive Blvd. 24 Troy Ave. (Re-hearing of cases 1436 & 1437 of 7/10/13). 791/13. LIDO BEACH - James & Stacey Hilsenrod, Maintain Grand Ave. pool enclosure forward of dwelling on Fairway Rd. which may 819/13. LEVITTOWN - Edgar R. Vallejos & Enna I. Rodo, Mother/ ALL PAPERS PERTAINING TO THE ABOVE HEARING ARE substantially obstruct line of sight larger than pool installation THE FOLLOWING CASES WILL BE CALLED STARTING AT Daughter Res. (2nd Kitchen)., S/E cor. Hamlet Rd. & Mallard Rd., AVAILABLE FOR INSPECTION AT THE BOARD OF APPEALS, area., S/W cor. Fairway Rd. & Hazzard Rd., a/k/a 176 Fairway Rd. 2:00 P.M. a/k/a 1 Hamlet Rd. TOWN HALL, 1 WASHINGTON STREET, HEMPSTEAD, NY 11550.

792/13. - 793/13. NR ISLAND PARK - Robert Goldhaft, Variances, 805/13. - 807/13. LIDO BEACH - James H. Burke, Variances, 820/13. - 821/13. LEVITTOWN - Home Properties LP, Erect Interested parties may appear at the above time and place. At rear yard, lot area occupied, maintain deck attached to dwelling; lot area occupied, front yard average setback on Allevard St., double-faced monument sign (not permitted) setback 2’ from the call of the Chairman, the Board will consider decisions on the Maintain shed not permitted in the side yard., W/s Jefferson Ave., side yards aggregate, rear yard, maintain two (2) wood decks; Emerson Ave. (remove existing sign); Erect 2nd double-faced foregoing and those on the Reserve Decision calendar and such 135’ S/o Brighton Blvd., a/k/a 91 Jefferson Ave. construct roof over front wood deck; maintain 2nd story wood monument sign (not permitted)., N/W cor. Longfellow Ave. & other matters as may properly come before it. deck; Variances, lot area occupied, front yard setback on Ocean Emerson Ave., a/k/a 42 Longfellow Ave. 794/13. WOODMERE - Steven & Rose Stern, Install 6’ high fence Blvd., maintain shed not permitted in front yard & exceeding By order of the Board of Appeals, forward of dwelling on Linden St. which may substantially obstruct horizontal maximum; Maintain 5’ & 6’ high fence forward of 822/13. LIDO BEACH - Dolores Sullivan, Maintain 6’ high pool David P. Weiss, Chairman line of sight., S/E cor. Central Ave. & Linden St., a/k/a 755 Central dwelling on Ocean Blvd. which may substantially obstruct line of enclosure forward of dwelling which may substantially obstruct Richard M. A. Regina, Secretary Ave.

80 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES The Shopping Bag Ladies Williamsburg Bridge, the Bikur Cho- English, “we keep in touch with them lim women settle down to their rou- too.” It’s not easy maintaining friend- It’s 8 a.m. at the Satmar Bikur Cho- of storing the daily information in a tines. Reizie takes a cellphone from ships with the critically ill, though, lim kitchen on Bedford Avenue in database. She points to her head. “The her pocketbook. “This is when I call Sally confi des, “especially when some Brooklyn and the place is already best computer in the world,” she says, in my fi sh and grocery order,” she of them never make it home at all.” a beehive of activity. Svetlana and with an Old World wisdom that has explains. Matti takes out a Siddur and “I lost two patients last week,” she “the Rebbetzin” are stirring huge quite apparently served her well thus begins her morning prayers. Chaya adds quietly. “It was very hard for pots of chicken soup. Esther and far. and Estie begin an animated conver- me.” For a moment it’s easy to forget Leah are chopping fresh vegetables. At 10:00, a new team of volunteers sation. “Did you hear that Suri made a that Sally is just a visiting volunteer, The answering machine light blinks bursts through the doors. The women shidduch last night?” and not “her” patients’ doctor. urgently. doing the cooking and packing are These women are Bikur Cholim Reizie leans over to make a point. Mrs. Teitelbaum, petite and mid- dressed in housecoats and turbans; veterans; they’ve been making the “We’re not Satmar,” she says, indicat- dle-aged, is clearly in charge. She sits the new group is smartly turned out rounds at the city’s hospitals for ing her two sisters who accompany down at her desk and listens to her in designer suits and stylish wigs. years. The names of New York’s most her every week. “But this group is messages. The Brody family called at They’re all ready to spend the day in prestigious medical centers easily roll so wonderful that we felt we had to midnight. Their daughter is being dis- the big city. of their tongues. Matti’s been visit- join.” Her fi rst experience with Bikur charged from NYU; cancel her food “I volunteer my time once a week,” ing Beth Israel and “Joint Diseases” Cholim wasn’t easy. She was asked to package. Joseph from Long Island says Rivka, in a chocolate-colored for 13 years. “That’s my route twice a fi ll in for a volunteer who unexpect- will be hospitalized for a week and tweed suit, “but some of the women week,” she says. Reizie lays claim to edly took a day off. he needs diabetic-safe food. If it’s not volunteer two or three full days every Lenox Hill. And Leah reveals that she Destination? Memorial Sloan Ket- too much trouble, says Mrs. Heller, week—year in, year out.” The food is visits Mount Sinai with a shopping tering Cancer Center. “I saw a lot could the salad for her father be pre- carefully packed into shopping bags cart. “The doctors, the nurses, they all of pain and suffering that day,” she pared without tomatoes today? and last-minute instructions are deliv- know my shopping cart. It’s famous.” recalls. The experience was harrow- Here at Satmar Bikur Cholim, estab- ered. Twenty-fi ve women then pile “We really get to know the patients,” ing, but it left an indelible positive lished by the Satmar Rebbetzin in into the Bikur Cholim bus, eager to be explains Sally, who visits Memorial impression. “I’ll never forget the way 1957 to provide assistance to the sick on their way to performing a very spe- Cancer Center every Thursday. “And the patients’ eyes would light up and the needy, and funded by private cial mitzvah. the ones who go home to recover,” donations, nothing is too much trou- As the bus makes its way onto the she says, in Yiddish-infl uenced Continued on Page 82 ble. The group happily and proudly offers a variety of services, though the ladies of Satmar are best known for their food packages, and especially their chicken soup. The Bikur Cholim kitchen is located in Williamsburg, the center of contem- porary Satmar chassidus. A thriving tight-knit community with highly dis- ciplined religious standards, the Sat- mar are best known to most Jews for their unyielding stance against Zion- ism. Though they forcefully reject the Neturei Karta’s public coddling of Pal- estinian terrorists, they nevertheless consider the establishment of a Jew- ish State before the Messiah’s arrival as wrong and as a dangerous affront to the other nations of the world. Yet on this particular morning, political philosophy is the furthest thing from anyone’s mind. Ruchie, Layalah, and Frumie are assembling the food packages. The Bikur Cholim kitchen, a model of cleanliness and effi ciency, is their pride and joy. One can actually imag- ine eating off the fl oors here. The activity is nonstop. Fruit and vege- table salads are lovingly placed into plastic containers, fresh rolls and cake packed into bags. And the soup—the famously delicious chicken soup—is carefully ladled into thermos containers, to maintain its heat, fl avor, and, presumably, curative properties until it reaches its intended recipients. Each day, the volunteers assemble 150 customized hot and wholesome meals, which are then distributed to Jewish patients, regardless of level of observance or affi liation, at 15 metropolitan area hospitals. The recipients, many of whom might have never eaten a kosher meal before in their lives (and many more of whom insist that the Satmar Bikur Cholim packages are helping to bring about their speedy recovery) are brought to the Satmar ladies’ attention through family, friends, or the hospital chaplain. No computer sits on Mrs. Teitel- baum’s desk, and no high-tech machin- ery graces the kitchen. Yet the place is a model of order and effi ciency. Mrs. Teitelbaum laughs at the suggestion 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 81 Satmar Bikur Cholim you.” And she quickly scribbles a note ele, and exchanges pleasantries with his head. A city of nine million people Continued from Page 81 onto her card. Later she will call Mrs. a young mother whose daughter is pays tribute to its heroes. Teitelbaum, who will store this infor- busy playing with a dollhouse. Here, It’s probably safe to say that Sally, when they saw me,” she says. “I hon- mation on the computer in her head. most of the children have lost their Reizie, and Matti don’t know a short- estly don’t know what they look for- Sally makes her way across the hair, yet no one seems in the least stop from a shortcake. But that’s okay. ward to more: the chicken soup or fl oor. She greets the interns and self-conscious. They just go about the We all have our heroes.  just having someone to talk to.” nurses, who seem to know her well. business of being kids, despite the The bus weaves through the traf- Many of the patients are too ill to massive worries hanging precariously And Avraham weighed fi c along First Avenue, dropping off accept guests; some are fast asleep. over their heads. to Ephron the silver the women at each one’s designated But their families are delighted to The Bikur Cholim bus will be return- (Bereishis 23:16) location. Sally gets off at Memorial talk to someone who isn’t dressed in ing to Williamsburg at 2:00, bringing carrying several shopping bags. They hospital scrubs. On the eighth fl oor, most of the volunteers back home. Said Rabbi Yudin the son of Rabbi are surprisingly heavy, but she man- she visits an Israeli family who have Sally, though, won’t be on it. “I like to Shimon: This is one of the three places ages well. She has her routine. She regarding which the nations of the drops off her jacket in the coatroom world cannot accuse Israel and say, and stops by the rabbi’s offi ce to ask if “You have stolen them.” The three any new patients have been admitted. “I honestly don’t know what they places are: the Cave of Machpeilah, As she passes the visitors’ lounge, she the site of the Holy Temple, and the scans the room and her trained eye look forward to more: the chicken tomb of Yosef at Shechem. The cave settles on a middle-aged man sitting of Machpeilah, as it is written: “And Avraham weighed to Ephron the alone in a corner. He looks Jewish and silver”; the Temple: “So David gave seems worried. As Sally approaches, soup or just having someone to Ornan for the place six hundred he looks up and sees her food-laden shekels of gold” (Divrei HaYamim shopping bags. “Satmar?” he asks. to talk to.” 1, 21:25). And Yosef s tomb: “And Sally smiles. She’s used to this. Her [Yaakov] bought the parcel of land shopping bags, like Leah’s cart, are (at Shechem) for a hundred pieces of famous. silver (Bereishis 33:19). Moments later this virtual stranger been here for three months with their stay here a bit longer,” she explains, (Midrash Rabbah, Bereishis 33:19) is confi ding the details of his wife’s ill- eight-year-old son. “and spend some extra time with the ness to Sally, who listens intently and “It’s been very diffi cult for them,” children.” sympathetically, showing familiarity Sally explains. “Things are always up Outside the hospital, life in the big Avraham was old with the medical jargon. Over time and down.” city marches relentlessly on. Everyone and come along in days she’s become something of an expert After chatting with the family for seems entirely preoccupied, oblivious in medicine. She offers the man a several minutes, Sally goes on to the to the troubles of those who are hos- (Bereishis 24:1) food package and he happily accepts. outpatient clinic, where some chemo- pitalized in their very midst, within When Avraham aged, he did not His wife isn’t able to eat anything, therapy treatment is administered. these massive medical facilities. On merely pass through the days of his but he’s starving and will have it for Bikur Cholim has customized pack- the corner there is a newsstand. The life: he accumulated them. Each day was lunch. “And what about tomorrow?” ages for this unit too. She fi lls the com- day’s headlines, three inches tall, fully utilized, so that they were fully Sally prods gently. “And by tomorrow munal refrigerator with sealed bags of scream “Yankees Win!” Derek Jeter possessed by him. your wife will probably be able to eat sandwiches, salad, and desserts. Then is pictured, grinning from ear to ear. (The Zohar) Jell-O and clear broth. I’ll order it for she waves at Jeremy, speaks to Yoss- Someone is pouring champagne over

82 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 83 which means that either someone in also were the number one candidates OUR ALIYAH the Iriyah is having a laugh or they are for city council on their respective par- deliberately announcing specifi c pre- ties’ nomination lists), almost all of the CHRONICLE cincts fi rst.) parties backed one or the other candi- In the spring, a unity agreement came date for mayor, while still asking for By Shmuel Katz out in which almost all the opposition your vote for city council. In all, there candidates agreed to unify behind who- are 13 different parties that ran for elec- ever was polled as the leading chal- tion. lenger come early August. Eli was the For example, the Tov party calls itself Elections Signal Direction expected victor of this “primary” but “Moderate Chareidim” (I just call them the fi rst of what would become many yeshivish) and would normally get a Of Bet Shemesh dirty tricks was played—this time by lot of support from yeshivish/chareidi the Bayit HaYehudi national party. They Anglos. The number two candidate on It is Wednesday, 15 minutes past mid- pains and the adjustment of having the made a deal with Eli to call off the poll- their list was stoned by supporters of night. Throughout the day Tuesday, the chareidi sector grow into an ever larger ing and unify behind his candidacy the current mayor at a public appear- city of Bet Shemesh—and all munic- demographic in the city. There was a lot without getting the fi nal approval of ance. Why? Because they back Eli ipalities in Israel—held elections for of tension in the city and things looked their candidate. Cohen for mayor. mayor and city council. As I write, elec- to be turning ugly. At times things have This turned a lot of their voters off. The tone of the campaign was nasty. tion results are beginning to trickle in gotten very ugly. Both from the entire process and from And that is just one example. I could (right now the results are 952 to 0 in As I had feared, the mayor chose voting for Eli Cohen in the general elec- cite dozens. I don’t want to write it and favor of the incumbent). Within the to focus all expansion of the city to tion. Yet it effectively installed him as you won’t want to read it. Essentially, hour, I expect to know who will be the the benefi t of the chareidi public. the main challenger to Mayor Abutbol. his message to his own voters was, “I mayor of the city for the next fi ve years New neighborhoods were drawn up, The only other candidate is Meir Belay- am chareidi and your vote must be for and essentially the direction in which planned, approved, objected to, reap- ish, a current councilman and former me for that and only that reason” and the city will grow in the future. proved, and built. Thousands of new deputy mayor who parlayed throwing his message to everyone else was, “I did Five years ago, Mayor Rabbi Moshe families moved to the city and the city his support in the last election to Mayor so much for you and your neighbor- Abutbol was elected with 43% of the has changed. While the chareidi sector Abutbol in the fi nal weeks of the cam- hood and everyone else is just making vote. A plurality, but not a majority. At represented less than 40% of all voters paign into a term as deputy mayor. I can things up against me.” the time, I was very public about my in the last election, they number in the only guess that he was attempting to Last week, MK Dov Lipman fi led a concern about his election. In the last upper 40s just fi ve years later. do so this time as well, but neither side suit challenging the voter rolls, accus- election, the non-chareidi public was Eli Cohen (among others) announced bit. He was polling in the low single ing the mayor’s supporters of arrang- represented by two candidates, who that he was running for mayor as much digits and the worst he can have done ing to have hundreds, if not thousands, split 57% of the vote between them. It as a year ago. He held many parlor meet- is siphoned a few votes away from Eli of chareidim temporarily fi le as Bet was this split that gave the election to ings and went about introducing him- Cohen and possibly let the mayor sneak Shemesh residents in order to come our current mayor. I remember com- self to the voters. Other candidates through because of it. vote in the elections. I do not know menting that we no longer stood a threw their hats into the ring and the As we entered into the chagim, we the eventual ruling, but I know that the chance to change the demographics; whole thing looked like it was going to began to prepare for a showdown. court agreed that they needed to hear in fi ve years we would fall behind too become a big mess with a whole bunch I cannot claim that Eli Cohen and his the case. much to be able to recapture the city of candidates effectively splitting the people ran a clean race and used no dirty Many people looked to this election government. vote and handing a second term to the tactics. I am sure that there were many as a crossroads for the city. It seems to The city was going through growing mayor. (By the way, it is now 1,208 to 1, questionable or objectionable things me that many of my friends and neigh- they did. Yet none of them have come bors felt this way. Should the mayor to light. One would normally assume win reelection, he could use his posi- that they would have been exposed, at tion to grow the city in such a manner least a little. that would make the chareidi public a Campaign signs were torn down by clear and overwhelming majority, thus both sides. There was a lot of scream- delivering effective control of the city ing and yelling by both sides. It always and the budget to that sector. shocks me, however, that people who Even though many of you think dif- promote themselves as having the high- ferently, I am not anti-chareidi. The est levels of commitment to Torah can overwhelming majority are wonderful so often use that rationalization to jus- people. However, I choose to live dif- tify the most disturbing actions. ferently than they do, and while I am I need to explain how the voting sys- happy to respect them and let them live tem works here. Everything is done by as they choose, they refuse to extend paper ballot. A voter comes to the pre- me the same courtesy. cinct with his ID and presents it to the Why am I concerned about hav- election workers. The voter is given ing the city become more chareidi? two envelopes, one yellow and another Because (among other things) I do not white. He then goes behind a divider think the city could survive fi nancially and chooses two slips of paper from the if the majority of its citizens were cha- many available at the polling booth. He reidi. There would be a huge draw for must choose one yellow slip that has resources for education and social ser- the name of his choice for mayor and vices. Without signifi cant property one white slip that has a one to three tax revenues (many chareidim pay lit- alphabetic code representing the party tle or no property tax), the only way for whom he wishes to vote to the city to support their neighborhoods is to council. divert funds from other, more revenue/ The mayoralty is awarded to the high- tax-paying communities. (4,782–1,829 est vote getter who has gotten at least and 54 for Belayish.) 40% of the vote. City council seats are My kids’ schools have already seen awarded differently. There are 19 city cutbacks in budgets and I fear that they council seats. In order to qualify, a will be cut even more. All of the new party needs to get at least 5.2% (approx- parks, facilities, and infrastructure in imately) of the votes. Any party falling the city are being built solely in their below that threshold does not qualify neighborhoods. I am not against the and their votes are thrown away. Once redistribution of wealth in principle— the surviving parties are identifi ed, but not the way it is being done. their vote totals are used to distribute I am also concerned that an outright the number of seats they each get on majority will lead to even more vio- the city council. lence, intimidation, and bullying from It is a little more complex, but that the extremists in their community. The should suffi ce. Also, since there were current mayor refuses to shut down only two candidates (who themselves these extremists. 84 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES For those and the many other reasons Yet the kicker came in the early eve- that Bet Shemesh is about to approach probably only be decided once the sol- that you know, I want Bet Shemesh ning. Eight chareidi men were arrested its next stage of growth. We can grow diers’ votes are counted. Soldiers are to remain a multi-demographic city. I after a raid of two apartments in one of as a city that works for all its citizens allowed to vote at their bases. However, think a professionally run Bet Shemesh, their neighborhoods. In that apartment, or we can grow as a city that is focused in order to prevent fraud (a soldier vot- a city that encourages new growth for the police found 250 ID cards (accord- on serving one demographic and evening both at his base and at home), they all demographics in order to preserve a ing to INN) for people who are cur- tually become a chareidi city. Young do not count the soldiers’ votes until balance of communities that can sup- rently overseas and cannot vote (there people do not move here like they after the other results are published. port the needs of the city, is the only is no absentee ballot system here). used to. The city has become some- Each soldiers’ ballot (from his base) is way to go. Eli Cohen is the last chance matched against his home voter roll in we have of keeping Bet Shemesh as the order to check if he did or did not vote city we chose to live in. from home. Once it is determined that So we came to Election Day. I am he or she did not vote at home, the bal- skipping a lot of the false ads and mis- lots are opened and counted. Which information that has run through the might be sometime tomorrow. city the last few weeks because this At 3:30 a.m. a chareidi radio station would be a 20-page article. Instead, I announced a 2,000-vote victory for simply state that through all the noise reelection of Mayor Abutbol. Another and name-calling (both sides) and fi nger source (pretty reliable but anonymous) pointing (both sides), we got to the big reported the victory at 1,200 votes, with day. (6,737–3,159—and remember, some- the soldiers’ votes yet to be counted. thing close to 40,000 votes were cast, so At this point, unless there are 1,200 or we have a long way to go and they seem more soldiers’ votes for Bet Shemesh to have been very careful about which residents, the election is over and the precincts were reported fi rst.) mayor has been reelected. The morning started with a report I know of a lot of friends who will be that an Abutbol supporter had quietly incredibly disappointed and discour- slipped all the Eli Cohen offi cial yellow aged. I know of many people who think voting slips into his pocket and made off that this means the end of Bet Shemesh with them to interrupt the voting in one as a beacon for the Religious Zionist precinct (they had to wait quite some public. I know of many people who time for refi lls to arrive, possibly leading Apparently, these people were using the what of a microcosm of what the coun- will wake up tomorrow and say, “Who some voters to leave). Others reported ID cards, claiming to be those voters try will face moving forward. If we can cares, nothing will change.” Only time ballots that seemed to be tampered with and casting votes for their candidates. fi gure out a way to make it work, with will tell.  (any ballot not in pristine condition is (8,957–6,038) professional and responsible leader- discarded. This includes folds, markings, In an election where there were prob- ship, we stand a chance. Otherwise, I Shmuel Katz is the executive director of wrong color ink, ballots stuck together, ably close to 40,000 votes cast, 250 fear for the city and Goldie and I are Yeshivat Migdal HaTorah (www.migdalhatorah. org), a new gap-year yeshiva. Shmuel, his wife etc. In the past, some candidates have votes is a sixth of a percent. In a neck- discussing making a change. Only time Goldie, and their six children made aliyah in sent voters in with tainted ballots and and-neck election, those votes could will tell. July of 2006. Before making aliyah, he was the had them place these ballots on top of make a huge difference. It is 2:40 a.m. and I just saw a Face- executive director of the Yeshiva of South Shore the legal ballots for their opponents in Yet despite the various calls of out- book posting that Eli Cohen announced in Hewlett. You can contact him at order to disqualify votes). rage or indifference, the end result is that the race is too close to call and will [email protected].

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Sons Of Israel’s 100th warmly endorsed Pathway. B’derech Yis- Anniversary Dinner, roel Saba, classes are separate for boys November 3 and girls. On Sunday, November 3, at 6:00 p.m., Far too many children struggle with Cong. Sons of Israel, of the Bronx, is learning-based diffi culties, jeopardiz- scheduled to celebrate its 100th Anni- ing their success in school and beyond. versary Dinner. The event will honor By helping students overcome this chal- Mr. and Mrs. Richard Bienenfeld, Rabbi lenge, The Pathway Study Center, Inc. and Mrs. Moshe Dreilich, Mr. and Mrs. hasn’t just opened another school; it Peter Drut, Mr. and Mrs. Peter Kahn, has opened a pathway to a promising Mr. and Mrs. Harvey Kaminski, and Mr. future. and Mrs. Paul Zilberfein. The event will The Pathway Study Center, Inc. is also honor the memory of Mrs. Freda located at 3300 Kings Highway, Brook- Walzman, a’h, and Rabbi Yekusiel and lyn, New York 11234. For more informa- Rebbetzin Sima Leah Fuchs, a’h. tion, please call Mr. Yitzchok Milworm, The dinner will take place at executive director, at 718-887-6030 or Marina Del Ray in Throggs Neck in e-mail [email protected].  the Bronx. For more information, please call 800-522-1850 or e-mail Renovation And New Torah tomcheishabbosofpelhamparkway@ Scroll Highlight QC Hillel gmail.com.  Metamorphosis Queens College Hillel celebrates Pathway To A major milestones in its recent efforts to Promising Future “turn commuter into community.” Tra- Reading and writing are basic skills ditionally attended mostly by commut- that most of us take for granted. Yet ers, a resurgent Hillel and a growing res- not everyone has these skills. Children idential culture on the campus combine with language-based learning disabili- to fuel a vibrant and growing sense of ties may be highly intelligent, but even Jewish community at Queens College. when trying their hardest in school suf- Hillel will celebrate the completion of fer embarrassing moments and fail- this major transformation process that ing grades, along with comments from is more than two years in the making teachers that they “need to show some with a dedication event on October 28, effort.” Academic disappointment 4:00–6:00 p.m. at Queens College. exacts a heavy price on the emotional The renovation punctuates a two- and social well-being of a child. Left year-long transformation that included untreated, language-based learning dis- new personnel and programs. Even abilities can have a devastating impact before Uri Cohen became executive on a youngster’s educational and social director in the fall of 2011, “it was imme- future. diately clear to me that the Jewish com- With abundant siyatta d’Shmaya, a munity at Queens College had all the new school recently opened in Brook- necessary ingredients to become one lyn for children of the Orthodox Jew- of the elite college campuses for Jew- ish community challenged with dys- ish students,” says Cohen. “QC’s terrifi c lexia, auditory processing diffi culties, academic standing, proximity to kosher and other language-based differences. food, unbeatable price, and long ser- Located in Flatbush, The Pathway vice to the Jewish community make it a Study Center, Inc. offers a reconstruc- can’t miss endeavor.” tive approach to learning, using current, The new staff and programs kicked research-based techniques. Multisen- off in mid-2012, including a sector of sory methods, including the Orton-Gill- Jewish Student Life and a Jewish Learn- ingham approach, provide a stimulat- ing Initiative on Campus (JLIC) cou- ing and rewarding educational process. ple as part of a signature partnership One-on-one tutorials complement an with the Orthodox Union. “These new innovative curriculum based on sound staff positions and the hires made to principles. As students discover exten- fi ll them meant that we had what Jim sive abilities for achievement, they Collins refers to in Good to Great as the become partners in their own growth. “right people on the bus.” This helped Character and interpersonal associa- us put cutting-edge programs in place, tions fl ourish, fostering feelings of con- and serve our students at an elite level,” fi dence and security. Having developed refl ects Cohen. Indeed Queens College their potential, students can then suc- serves 4,000 Jewish students including cessfully return to their mainstream 1,000 Orthodox (the largest number of schools of origin. such students outside Yeshiva Univer- Beloved special-education master sity), 350 Persians, 1,000 Bukharians, teacher Ms. Rachel Antebi, M.S., Ed., Sp/ and thousands more non-Orthodox stu- Gen, heads a specially trained staff of dents. devoted, caring, and experienced pro- Hillel’s physical plant, however, was fessionals. Acclaimed kriah specialist, hindering its success. “The space felt Miss Sorah Milworm, supervises Judaic dingy and old. Loved, but old,” says studies. By providing skills essential board president Ellen Koppelman. “I for learning, The Pathway Study Cen- had visions of hundreds of students ter, Inc. implants a love for Yiddishkeit having meaningful Jewish experiences in the hearts and minds of young stu- at the same time, each according to his dents. Our sacred mesorah comes alive or her unique Jewish identity. That was as a rich and vibrant experience. just not possible in the old space, phys- Recognizing the need for a program ically or culturally. I looked at myself in such as this, a broad spectrum of leading rabbanim and mechanchim has Continued on Page 88 86 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 87 Community News versity was signifi cant, demonstrating tunity to explore Jewish Cuba and The current restrictions preventing U.S. Continued from Page 86 that the Torah will be a major differ- immerse themselves in the culture. High- citizens from traveling to Cuba legally is ence-maker there and get lots of use,” lights of the mission include tours of Old waived for this group via the special “Peo- the mirror one day and realized that I said Tim Cohen, vice president of Hil- Havana and visits to the Sephardic and ple-to-People” license obtained through could make a huge difference here.” lel’s Schusterman International Center Ashkenaz synagogues and mikvah; and the U.S. Offi ce of Foreign Assets Control. A major supporter of New York Hil- on the family’s selection of Queens Col- the Patronato, the island’s Jewish com- “The license mandates that all travel- lels, UJA-Federation of New York was lege. It will be the fi rst Torah scroll the munity center. Also on the itinerary are ers must participate in all activities we very involved in the project, provid- Hillel owns. a special memorial service at the Jew- have planned,” explained Greszes, who ing mentorship, connections, and a “There are few opportunities to cel- ish cemetery in Guanabacoa and a stop recently returned to Cuba on a humani- capital grant. “It was so exciting to be ebrate positive transformations of this at the Jewish pharmacy that is currently tarian mission, his fi rst time back to his approached to work on a Hillel project practical magnitude, and we look for- helping the Jews of Cuba procure medi- native country since fl eeing when Cas- that could make such a difference,” said ward to welcoming the community to cal necessities. tro came to power. “Therefore, the four Betsey Knapp, program associate at UJA see ours,” says Koppelman. The cele- Through personal interaction with lay of us have collaborated to design a full Federation, who works with its Manage- bration will take place at Queens Col- leaders and members of the community, and inspiring itinerary that includes pur- ment Assistance Program and Building lege Hillel (65-30 Kissena Blvd., Student participants will learn about the Jewish poseful interaction on the island with Repair Committee. “Our professional Union 206, Flushing, NY 11367). Direc- renaissance on the island and the strug- ample time for daily tefi llot and meals at and volunteer leaders were thrilled to tions to the events can be found at gles the community faces today. The the hotel.” help; we knew this was a project we www.qchillel.org/about/directions. mission will feature an in-depth look at “This really is a historic journey that wanted to help push forward because of For information, contact Uri Cohen at Cuban politics, the educational system, kosher travelers could not partake in its leadership, vision, and participation [email protected] or 718-793-2222.  the medical system, and the arts, with before,” stated Taubenfeld, himself of in our network of benefi ciary agencies.” Hemingway’s Finca, artists’ studios, local Cuban descent. “We have been work- The project also received signifi cant First Glatt Kosher Mission museums, and the towns of Matanzas ing closely with the hotel for months to support from Queens College President To Cuba, Departing Miami weaved into the itinerary. There is also a ensure they understand our particular James Muyskens. “Hillel has played a December 9 beach day scheduled at the world famous needs and are able to uphold the highest leadership role on campus for decades, For the fi rst time in decades, kashrut-ob- seaside resort of Varadero. standards of kashrut while still delivering and this renovation was long overdue. serving Americans can legally travel to The mission is being presented by the level of service for which the Melia It was my pleasure to lend our support. Cuba. As the fi rst licensed organization in Marla Whitesman and Miriam Saul, brand of hotels is known.” Hillel is truly an indispensable campus the U.S. to offer glatt kosher missions to cofounders of Other Cuban Journeys, The eight-day, seven-night package partner at Queens College.” the Caribbean island, Other Cuban Jour- which has, over the last 13 years, led more includes roundtrip charter fl ights from The family of Mrs. Belle A. Lipman, of neys is now taking reservations for its sev- than 100 missions to Cuba in conjunction Miami; fi rst-class hotel accommodations blessed memory, selected Queens Col- en-night excursion, departing December 9. with synagogues, Federations, JCCs, Hil- at Melia Habana; all glatt kosher meals; lege Hillel to receive a brand new Torah Fresh glatt kosher cuisine will be lels, youth groups, and families around experienced English-speaking profes- Scroll in her honor and memory. The served in a dedicated restaurant at the the country; along with Hersh Tauben- sional guides; entrance fees to import- Lipman family has given Torah scrolls Melia Habana, the deluxe hotel providing feld, who has been producing and oper- ant cultural and historic sites; and tips to many Hillels and other Jewish orga- the accommodations. Hashgachah will ating Passover programs for the last 15 for bellboys and waiters. Prices start at nizations and institutions in honor and be provided by Rabbi Levi Teitlebaum, years and has been a fi xture in the kosher $4,995 per person based on double occu- memory of Mrs. Belle Lipman and her director of the Ottawa Vaad Hakashrut. hospitality industry for two decades; and pancy. husband, Mr. Mark Lipman, of blessed There will also be a daily minyan as well Ben Greszes, a Cuban-born Jew and suc- For more information and to regis- memory. “The fact that Queens Col- as Orthodox Shabbat services. cessful businessman based in New York. ter, e-mail hersh@othercubanjourneys. lege has the largest number of Ortho- Throughout the course of the week, “We share a passion for the island of com or [email protected] or dox students outside of Yeshiva Uni- participants will have the unique oppor- Cuba and its people,” explained Saul, call 954-444-1777. More information and who partnered with Whitesman back dates of future missions can be found at in 2000. Saul returned to Cuba after www.othercubanjourneys.com.  an absence of 39 years longing to fi nd her lost childhood and her memories. YCQ’s Sunday Learning Whitesman fi rst visited Cuba on an early Program cultural exchange. Both women returned On Sunday, October 13, the Yeshiva of to the U.S. having experienced a pro- Central Queens kicked off its Parent– found life change. “We wanted to be a Child Sunday Learning Program. The part of the renaissance of the small but yeshiva was honored to have world-fa- growing Jewish community and allow mous speaker Rabbi Jonathan Rietti others to do the same. We have never inspire and entertain parents and stu- looked back.” dents. The rav challenged everyone “In order to extend that opportunity not to be fooled by the media distor- to the more observant and kosher Jew- tion of what real happiness is. Rabbi ish community, we have marshaled the Rietti taught that true happiness can be expertise of Hersh Taubenfeld and Ben attained and it is within our grasp. It is Greszes, each of whom brings their own our responsibility to develop eternal hap- knowledge and resources to make this piness, and we should not require those fi rst ever glatt kosher mission a reality,” around us to be responsible for our per- added Saul. sonal happiness. The recording of Rabbi

88 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Rietti’s shiur will be available soon at OU Advocacy is hosting a meeting YCQWeb.org. In addition, this year, YCQ with Nassau County Executive Ed Man- is having a special 3-on-3 basketball tour- gano on Monday, October 28.  nament for the students. Special thanks to Rabbi Bernstein for coordinating this Nineteenth Annual exceptional program.  ‘Rachel’s Children’ Commemoration Tom Suozzi At OU On Monday evening, October 14, a gala Advocacy Candidate Forum buffet journal dinner was catered by Former Nassau County Executive Tom Traditions at Manhattan Beach Jewish Suozzi said that if elected the next Nas- Center in Brooklyn. Renowned speaker sau County Executive, he would balance Rabbi Jonathan Rietti paid tribute to the county budget, establish a plan for Rachel Imeinu at the Rachel’s Children growth, work with the Jewish commu- Reclamation Foundation’s 19th Annual nity on the issue of tuition affordabil- Commemoration of her yahrtzeit. ity, and support efforts to get Federal The senior Gateways lecturer, descen- Emergency Management Agency aid for dant of the Ben Ish Chai, and son of houses of worship damaged by Hurri- the famous British actor Robert Rietti, cane Sandy. Suozzi spoke before a crowd known as ‘The Man of a Thousand of Jewish community, synagogue, and Voices’ and ‘King of the Dubbers,’ gave day-school lay leaders who convened at a dramatic presentation on the relation- the Orthodox Union on Tuesday for its ship of Rachel Imeinu to the ﬁ nal geu- Meir Kruter Photography Meir

L–R: Jeff Leb, OU Advocacy; Yehoshua Marchuck, NCSY Alumni; Tom Suozzi; Maury Litwack, OU Advocacy; Yehuda Friedman, OU Synagogue Services; Zehava Birman, OU Advocacy; Roslyn Singer, OU Advocacy; and Jake Adler, OU Advocacy. series of forums with the candidates for lah. He spoke about how she, who made Nassau County Executive. such selfl ess sacrifi ces on behalf of her “Nassau County is a fantastic place, sister Leah, will be there for Bnei Yisrael but we have stopped growing. We need in those fi nal moments before the fi nal to create environments where young redemption, pleading with Hashem on people want to live,” Suozzi said, add- their behalf. ing that he would expand the tax base The lecture was but one of the high- through the construction of offi ce lights at the RCRF’s annual gala dinner buildings with ground-fl oor shops and commemorating Rachel Imeinu’s yarht- eateries and the creation of downtowns zeit on the 11th of MarCheshvan 5774 at that would bring in revenue from sales the Manhattan Beach Jewish Center in tax. Brooklyn. During the OU Advocacy-NY-spon- The nonprofi t organization, which sored forum, Suozzi spoke candidly successfully lobbied the Knesset for about issues of importance to the Jew- armored buses to Rachel’s tomb on the ish community, including education, outskirts of Bethlehem, also donated two a proposed cap on property taxes, and sifrei Torah to Kever Rachel, and eventu- fi nding synergies between the various ally bought the building next door to the districts within the county. tomb, naming it Beit Bnei Rachel. There When asked about his position on it runs a women’s learning center, lecture obtaining FEMA aid for houses of wor- series, simcha hall, and aliyah museum. ship damaged by Hurricane Sandy, At the fundraising dinner, which helps Suozzi responded that he would sup- pay for RCRF’s activities at Beit Bnei port the bill “100%.” He also said that Rachel, the organization’s founder, Eve- he would work to mitigate the ongoing lyn Haies, paid tribute to a host of hon- effects of the storm on families who are orees. Rabbi Yechezkel Pikus, the exec- still recovering, adding that “it doesn’t utive director of COJO of Flatbush, was make sense that there is no database honored with the community chesed in the county of who’s still out of their award, presented by longtime commu- houses.” nity activist Chaim Deutsch. Mitchell During his introduction of the can- Shapiro, Esq, an award-winning lawyer, didate, Maury Litwack, OU Advocacy who has worked tirelessly on behalf of Director of State Political Affairs and the Rachel’s Children Reclamation Foun- Outreach, stressed the importance of dation, was honored with the Rachel community meetings with candidates Imeinu Activist Award. and legislators for the Jewish commu- The late Andrea Hana Haimowitz, nity. “The way the Jewish community who had been a longtime participant, gets its voice heard is through participa- and organizer of RCRF’s events at Kever tion in events like this candidate forum. Rachel, was honored posthumously for We appreciate former County Executive her work on behalf of the organization. Suozzi joining us today to hear from Her mother, father, and brother accepted members of the Nassau County Jewish community and address our concerns.” Continued on Page 90 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 89 Community News Children Reclamation Foundation in our communities, suffering from drug his efforts, please visit the Teamourplace. Continued from Page 89 can be made to RCRF, 60 West End addiction, abuse, depression, and other org homepage. Avenue, Brooklyn, NY 11235. RCRF life debilitating circumstances. Rabbi Aryeh Young, executive direc- the Rachel Imeinu Memorial Recognition founder Evelyn Haies can be reached at “The Youth of Our Place have always tor of Place NY, explained, “We are abso- Award in her stead in what turned out to [email protected]. been close to my heart. I see and sense lutely thrilled to have Lipa joining us. be a very moving ceremony. Donations make sure no one is turned their pain; but together as a tzibbur we His participation will bring a boost of Other honorees included Mark Lang- away from celebrating their bas mitz- need to do more to support these strug- energy and excitement to an already fun fan, Esq., chairman of AFSI, who was vah, wedding, sheva berachos, brit milah, gling youth, and help to lovingly bring fi lled day. Whether one is a competitive commended for his maps, and work birthday, anniversary, memorial lecture, them back to our community,” Lipa runner, a casual jogger, or just want to defending Israel from its critics, and rosh chodesh shiurim, hafrashat challah explained. With just one week left until walk with friends, a 5K Run/Walkathon Stephen and Fran Epstein, a Brooklyn classes, amen sessions, singles meet and the race, Lipa knows he has ambitious is a great way to get out with friends and couple who built a Zionist Museum at mingle, open mike session sing ins and goals. “I want to really help Our Place do family on a Sunday morning, enjoy Lipa Brooklyn’s Kingsway Jewish Center. speak outs, Tehillim therapy, art classes, its incredible, lifesaving work. I will be in concert, raise some money for a very The Young Leadership Award went and more at Beit Bnei Rachel, inside the creating my own team for the race, Team special tzedakah, and get some much- to Esther Lamm, daughter of Russian Kever Rachel’s Tomb Walled Complex.  Lipa. My goal is to raise an additional needed post-yom tov exercise.” refuseniks, who is now the director of $50,000 and get at least 100 additional The 5K Run/Walkathon, which will development at RAJE, where she is active Team Lipa In ‘Our Place’ participants to join me on my team.” take place at Floyd Bennett Field, is a building a strong alumni base and com- Run, October 27 (Almost $90,000 is already pledged with unique event, hosted exclusively by Our munity for young Russian Jews. Jewish music sensation Lipa Schmelt- $72,000 already paid and over 300 partic- Place NY. This exclusivity enables sepa- The gala buffet dinner was capped off zer has announced that he will be run- ipants are already registered to run). In rate men’s and women’s races (staggered with a Jewish Mother’s Day dessert buf- ning (or perhaps strolling) in the 3rd exchange for their support and partic- 30 minutes apart), something rarely fet, featuring an enormous Kever Rachel Annual 5K Run/Walkathon on behalf of ipation, Lipa promises that all runners available to the Orthodox community. cake, and a very spirited kumzitz with Our Place NY on Sunday, October, 27 at of Team Lipa will receive personalized Eli Verschlieser, cofounder of Our Place, radio host Dov Shurin, who roused the Floyd Bennett Field. Through its 5K, Our photo-ops, Team Lipa T-shirts, as well as thanked Lipa profusely for his support. crowd with his electric guitar, singing Place NY, New York’s premier organiza- special participation in a post-run con- “Lipa’s offer to assist Our Place comes lively songs about Rachel Imeinu, and a tion offering at-risk Jewish youth a sec- cert that he will be performing live at just at the right time. More than ever, crowd favorite, “Am Yisrael Chai.” ond chance, will be raising awareness the event, as soon as he crosses the fi n- we need the backing and support of our Tax-deductible donations to Rachel’s and much-needed funds for at-risk youth ish line. To run with Lipa or just support community. Over 100 teens are rolling through our teen drop-in centers each night. They count on us for dinner, therapy, mentors, safety from violence, rehab placements, and so much more. We are truly fortunate that Lipa understands the critical role we play in the community and we hope that others will follow his example in their support of the at-risk youth population in our communities.” In addition to Team Lipa, this year’s race features a number of teams representing various local organizations, schools, and companies, including teams from Rambam Mesivta, Lander College for Men, B & H Photo, as well as a special team honoring the family of Rabbi Zvi Gluck, director of crisis intervention at Our Place. Founded in 1998, Our Place NY is a registered nonprofi t organization dedicated to facilitating transformative personal growth in at-risk Jewish teens and young adults, currently struggling with substance abuse, severe crisis, and other unhealthy life circumstances. Our Place runs a wide array of services including teen drop-in centers, 12-step support groups, mentoring programs, a 24-hour crisis hotline, extensive drug rehabilita- tion and therapy placement networks, an “alternative” high school, as well as voca- tional and educational placement services. Our Place creates a nonjudgmen- tal and stable environment that provides the basic needs of survival that a healthy family would typically provide, including basic physiological necessities, physical safety, and an unconditional demon- stration of love and belonging. Through this far-reaching and “Whole Life Ther- apy” approach, Our Place provides trou- bled youth with a second chance; an opportunity to serve as a source of ever- lasting pride to their family, community, and Jewish heritage. To join Team Lipa, create your own team, or to register as an individual, please visit TeamOurPlace.org to sign up today! For more information on corpo- rate sponsorships opportunities, Our Place’s services, or other questions related to the race, please contact Our Place executive director, Rabbi Aryeh Young, at [email protected] or 516-512- 4494. For more information about Our Place NY, please visit OurPlaceNY.org.  90 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES October 25, 2013 91 92 October 25, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES