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A STATISTICAL
PORTRAIT OF FATHERS
AND MOTHERS IN
AMERICA
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Charting Parenthood: A Statistical Portrait of Fathers and Mothers in America
Produced by Child Trends Tamara Halle, Ph.D., Project Director
With support from The Ford Foundation The Federal Interagency Forum on Child and Family Statistics The Annie E. Casey Foundation The David and Lucile Packard Foundation The National Institute of Child Health and Human Development The Administration for Children, Youth, and Families The William and Flora Hewlett Foundation The NICHD Family and Child Well-being Research Network
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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
Project Management at Child Trends John Sandberg, Population Studies Brett Brown, Co-Principal Investigator Center, Institute for Social Research, Tamara Halle, Project Director University of Michigan Susan Jekielek, Task Leader: Family Formation Tom Smith, National Opinion Research Akemi Kinukawa, Task Leader: Fertility Center Erik Michelsen, Task Leader: Parenting Murray Straus, University of New Kristin A. Moore, Co-Principal Investigator Hampshire Freya Sonenstein, The Urban Institute Contributing Child Trends Staff Sharon Bzostek Federal Interagency Forum on Child Julia Calkins and Family Statistics Stephanie Cochran Child Trends thanks the member Anne Driscoll agencies for providing funds and Carol Emig technical support for the production of Sarah Garrett this report. The following staff are Angela D. Greene particularly to be thanked. Justin Jager Amanda Kellar Department of Health and Human Rachel King Services Thomson Ling Laura Lippman National Center for Health Statistics, Cristina Lizarazu Centers for Disease Control and Melissa Long Prevention Jennifer Manlove Joyce Abma Eric Moore Deborah Blackwell Angela R. Papillo Matthew Bramlett Lindsay Pitzer Anjani Chandra Suzanne Ryan William Mosher Juliet Scarpa Deborah Rose Berkeley Smith Paul Sutton Elizabeth Terry-Humen Stephanie Ventura Sharon Vandivere National Institute of Child Health and Private Data Providers Human Development, National Randal Day, Brigham Young University Institutes of Health Sue Eshleman, S. Eshleman Systems Chris Bachrach Management Natasha Cabrera Gary Gates, The Urban Institute Lynne Casper Kathleen Harris, University of North Carolina at Jeffery Evans Chapel Hill
Sandra Hofferth, University of Maryland Edward Laumann, University of Chicago
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Office of the Assistant Secretary for National Center for Education Planning and Evaluation, U.S. Statistics, U.S. Department of Department of Health and Human Education Services Patrick Rooney Julia Isaacs Jerry West Linda Mellgren National Institute of Justice, Office of Child Care Bureau, Administration for Research and Evaluation Children, Youth and Families Shelly Jackson Ivelisse Martinez-Beck Cynthia Mamalian
Bureau of Labor Statistics, U.S. Population Division, U.S. Census Department of Labor Bureau Thesia Garner Jason Fields David Johnson Timothy Grall Robert Kominski
Child Trends would like to recognize the funders and our federal and private colleagues for their sizeable contributions to this effort. Child Trends is solely responsible, however, for the content and accuracy of the report.
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
Index of Tables ...... vii Executive Summary...... xii Introduction...... 1 Who is a Parent? ...... 3
Parenting Section Attitudes Towards Parenting P1 – Importance of Becoming a Parent ...... 7 P2 – Adult Attitudes About the Value of Children...... 9 P3 – Parents: Can One Be as Good as Two? ...... 11 P4 – Parents’ Beliefs About Raising Children ...... 12 P5 – Adults’ Attitudes Toward Spanking ...... 14 P6 – Parents’ Responsibility for Children ...... 15 Parenting Practices P7 – Limit Setting ...... 17 P8 – Conflict Resolution in Families ...... 19 Closeness and Conflict between Parents and Children P9 – Degree of Closeness Adolescent Feels Toward Parent ...... 20 P10 – Warmth and Affection ...... 21 P11 – Conflict Between Parents and Adolescents ...... 23 P12 – Incidence of Harsh Punishment, Violence, or Abuse ...... 24 Child Care and Other Activities with Children P13 – Direct Care of Pre-school Children by Fathers ...... 25 P14 – Time Spent with Children ...... 26 P15 – Parents’ Activities with Children ...... 28 P16 – Religious Activities With Children ...... 30 Parenting and School P17 – Parental Participation in Child’s School Activities ...... 32 P18 – Encouragement of Child(ren)’s School Achievement ...... 33 Nonresidential Parenting P19 – Child Custody Arrangements ...... 34
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P20 – Contact With Nonresident Parent...... 36 Parental Income P21 – Earnings and Income ...... 38 P22 – Receipt of Child Support ...... 39 Endnotes for Parenting Section...... 41
Family Formation Section Marriage and Divorce FF1 – Marriage ...... 49 FF2 – Divorce ...... 51 FF3 – Age at First Marriage and Divorce...... 53 FF4 – Characteristics of Current Spouse ...... 54 FF5 – Attitudes Toward Divorce...... 55 Cohabitation FF6 – Cohabitation Status ...... 57 FF7 – Age at First Cohabitation ...... 59 FF8 – Characteristics of Current Partner ...... 60 FF9 – Attitudes Toward Cohabitation Without Intent to Marry...... 62 Endnotes for Family Formation Section...... 63
Fertility Section Fertility F1 – Birth Rates ...... 67 F2 – Age at First Birth...... 69 F3 – Number of Pregnancies ...... 71 F4 – Premarital Birth ...... 73 Sexual Activity F5 – Age at First Sexual Intercourse ...... 75 F6 – Number of Sexual Partners...... 77 F7.a – Characteristics of Sexual Partners – Type of Relationship...... 78 F7.b – Characteristics of Sexual Partners – Length of Relationships...... 80 F7.c – Characteristics of Sexual Partners – Race/Ethnicity...... 82 F7.d – Characteristics of Sexual Partners - Age ...... 83 F8 – Regular Sexual Intercourse...... 84
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Contraception and Abortion F9 – Contraceptive Use...... 86 F10 – Attitudes Toward Abortion...... 89 F11 – Incidence of Abortion...... 91 Endnotes for Fertility Section...... 93
Appendices Appendix A: Data Dictionary...... 97 Appendix B: Data Tables for Who is a Parent? ...... 123 Appendix C: Data Tables for Parenting Section...... 127 Appendix D: Data Tables for Family Formation Section...... 163 Appendix E: Data Tables for Fertility Section ...... 179
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INDEX OF DATA TABLES
Parenting Tables Table 1 Percentage of adults who have ever had a biological child: 2000 ...... 125 Table 2 Percentage of adults living with one or more of their own children under age 18: 2001 ...... 126 Table P1.1 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 65 who either agree or strongly agree that people who have never had children lead empty lives: 1988 & 1994 ...... 129 Table P1.2 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 65 who either agree or strongly agree that a marriage without children is not fully complete: 1988 ...... 130 Table P2.1 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 65 who either agree or strongly agree that watching children grow up is life's greatest joy: 1988 & 1994.....131 Table P2.2 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 65 who either agree or strongly agree that it is better not to have children because they are such a heavy financial burden: 1988 ...... 132 Table P3.1 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 65 who either agree or strongly agree that one parent can bring up a child as well as two parents together: 1994 ...... 133 Table P4.1 Percentage of parents who reported various qualities as the most important for their child (under age 13) to learn to prepare him/her for life: 1997 ...... 134 Table P5.1 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 65 who either agree or strongly agree that it is sometimes necessary to discipline a child with a good, hard spanking: selected years: 1986-2000...... 135 Table P6.1 Percentage of parents who reported particular responsibility for playing with their child(ren) (under age 13): 1997...... 137 Table P6.2 Percentage of parents who reported particular responsibility for disciplining their child(ren) (under age 13): 1997...... 138 Table P6.3 Percentage of parents who reported particular responsibility for selecting a child care program, preschool, or school for their child(ren) (under age 13): 1997...... 139 Table P7.1 Percentage of parents who reported that they often or very often set various limits on their children's activities (ages 3 to 12): 1997 ...... 140 Table P8.1 Percentage of parents of children under age 13 who agree or completely agree with various statements about family conflict and various resolution styles: 1997 ...... 141 Table P9.1 Degree of closeness child feels to parent: 1996 ...... 142
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Table P10.1 Percentage of parents of children under age 13 who treated their children with various forms of warmth and affection every day in the past month: 1997...... 143 Table P11.1 Percentage of parents who had open disagreements with their child age 12 to 18 in the last 12 months about his or her friends, by frequency of disagreement: 1988...... 144 Table P11.2 Percentage of parents who had open disagreements with their child age 12 to 18 in the last 12 months about how late children stay out at night, by frequency of disagreement: 1988 ...... 145 Table P12.1 Percentage of parents who reported ever physically abusing their child: 1995 ...... 146 Table P13.1 Percentage of children ages 0 to 5 whose father is the primary care provider while mother is working, looking for work, or attending school: 1996 ...... 147 Table P14.1 Average daily time in hours children under age 13 are engaged in some activity with parents: 1997...... 148 Table P15.1 Percentage of parents who engaged in the following activities with their child(ren) at least once a week: 1997...... 149 Table P16.1 Percentage of children who report having gone to a church-related event with their parent in the last 4 weeks: 1996...... 150 Table P17.1 Percentage of parents with high involvement at their child's school (participation in three or four activities): 1996 & 1999...... 151 Table P18.1 Mean number of days in a typical week parents report the following school encouragement behaviors: 1992 ...... 152 Table P19.1 Type of child custody per most recent agreement (in percents): 1994 ...... 153 Table P19.2 Type of child custody per most recent agreement (in percents): 1996 ...... 154 Table P19.3 Type of child custody per most recent agreement (in percents): 1998 ...... 155 Table P20.1 Percentage of children with contact with nonresident parent in the previous year, as reported by resident parent: 1993, 1995, & 1997 ...... 156 Table P20.2 Average number of days in the past year child had contact with nonresident parent (among those with any contact), according to resident parent: 1993, 1995, & 1997 ...... 157 Table P21.1 Median adjusted income (2000 Dollars) for families with one or more children under age 18 (U.S. Census Bureau) ...... 158 Table P22.1 Characteristics of child support agreements held by resident parents (in percents): 1998...... 159
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Table P22.2 Percentage of resident parents with an agreement who received child support payments in the previous year: 1998 ...... 160 Table P22.3 Mean dollar amounts received in the previous year for families receiving child support payments as reported by resident parent: 1998...... 161 Family Formation Data Tables Table FF1.1 Percentage married among adults ages 18 and older: 1991-2001.....164 Table FF1.2 Lifetime number of marriages (in percents): 1996 ...... 166 Table FF2.1 Lifetime number of divorces (in percents): 1990 & 1996...... 167 Table FF3.1 Average age at first marriage: 1990 & 1996...... 168 Table FF3.2 Average age at first divorce: 1996 ...... 169 Table FF4.1 Percentage of respondents by spouse characteristics: 2001...... 170 Table FF5.1 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 65 who agree or strongly agree with the following statements about divorce: 1994...... 172 Table FF6.1 Percentage of adults cohabiting: 1991-2001...... 173 Table FF7.1 Average age at first cohabitation: 1988 ...... 175 Table FF8.1 Percentage of respondents by current partner characteristics: 2001 ...... 176 Table FF9.1 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 65 who agree or strongly agree that it is all right for a couple to live together without intending to get married: 1994 & 1998...... 178 Fertility Data Tables Table F1.1 Fertility rates for males: selected years: 1980-1999...... 180 Table F1.2 Fertility and birth rates for females: selected years: 1980-1999 ...... 181 Table F2.1 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 59 who had their first birth at a certain age (among those who have had a live birth): 1992 ...... 182 Table F3.1 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 59 who have had pregnancies: 1992 ...... 183 Table F4.1 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 59 who had their first birth before their first marriage: 1992 ...... 184 Table F5.1 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 59 who had their first sexual intercourse by the specified age: 1992...... 185 Table F6.1 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 65 who had two or more sex partners in the last 12 months: selected years: 1988-2000 ...... 186 Table F7.1 Seriousness of relationship at first sex with current or most recent partner (in percents): 1995...... 188
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Table F7.2 Length of sexual relationship with first sexual partner (in percents): 1995 ...... 190 Table F7.3 Length of sexual relationship with current or most recent partner (in percents): 1995 ...... 191 Table F7.4 Race and Hispanic origin of current or most recent sexual partner (in percents): 1995 ...... 192 Table F7.5a Current age of current or most recent female partner in past year (in percents), Males: 1988 & 1995 ...... 193 Table F7.5b Current age of current or most recent male partner in past year (in percents), Females ages 15-44: 1995...... 193 Table F8.1 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 65 who had sex two or more times a month during the last 12 months: selected years, 1989-2000...... 194 Table F9.1 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 59 who used contraceptives at their first sexual intercourse: 1992...... 195 Table F9.2 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 59 who used some form of contraception during their most recent intercourse: 1992 ...... 196 Table F10.1 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 65 who think it should be possible for a pregnant woman to obtain a legal abortion under six different reasons: selected years, 1980-2000...... 197 Table F10.2 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 65 who think it should be possible for a pregnant woman to obtain a legal abortion if the woman wants it for any reason: selected years, 1980 – 2000...... 198 Table F11.1 Percentage of adults ages 18 to 59 who have ever had an abortion: 1992 ...... 200
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Executive Summary
The great majority of Americans will become parents at some point in their lives. The statistics presented in this volume suggest that for the vast majority of parents, raising children is a central focus of their lives.
But how much do we know about the experience of parenting in America today, about the decisions and actions of fathers and mothers, even about the planning (or lack thereof) that precedes conception and childbearing? Where previous efforts have focused largely on the experiences of women and mothers, Charting Parenthood greatly expands our understanding in these areas by bringing men systematically into the picture and offering the best available data that include both men and women, fathers and mothers, for more than 40 indicators of parenting, fertility, and family formation. When men and women are both considered we find that, in some critical areas, their views and experiences diverge, while in other areas there is surprising agreement.
The data also provide important insights into the value men place on family life and childrearing, and on the multiple contributions that fathers can make to the lives of children. These insights suggest that many men have a deep commitment to raising children in the context of marriage, and that substantial percentages of fathers are deeply and regularly involved in play, discipline, and primary caregiving. For example: