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HOW TO REACH US - PHONE 860-442-8062 • FAX 860-540-1475 • EMAIL [email protected] • BY MAIL: 28 CHANNING STREET, NEW LONDON, CT 06320 Is this the beginning of the end? Rabbi Berg appointed By Edgar Asher, Ashernet There has been much optimism chaplain at V.A. hospital on Nov. 1 in Israel after 26-year- New Role Will Build Jewish Community for Veterans and Families old Segev Harel, a clinical trial volunteer from northern Israel By Rav Julius Rabinowitz received a new Israeli vaccine Last month, Rabbi Polly Berg received an appointment as a full- at the Sheba Medical Center in time chaplain with the United States Department of Veterans Affairs Ramat Gan, developed by the (DVA) at its facility in New Haven, Israel Institute of Biological Connecticut. Rabbi Berg lives in Research (IIBR) in Ness Ziona to New London with her husband, Rabbi Marc Ekstrand, and their Nurse Hela Litwin was tasked family. tofight give the coronaHarel virus.his inoculation After earning bachelor’s against the virus after the IIBR degrees in Economics and had given the green light to go Cultural Studies, Rabbi Berg ahead with clinical trials following positive results in bringing the families considering international corona virus under control. Volunteer Segev Harel receiving a corona virus inoculation on Nov. 1 from Nurse Hela Litwin at the Sheba Medical Center. adoptionwas first involvedwith the in counselingChildren’s Home Society of Minnesota. Her Harel will remain in the Sheba Medical Center the Israel Institute for Biological Research Shmuel interest in exploring aspects of overnightFollowing for the observation. first inoculation Further volunteers will Shapira has indicated that a third phase of the Jewish life and learning led her to be inoculated at the Sheba Medical Center and the human trials will take place overseas, in a country Israel in 2007, where she studied Hadassah Medical Center in Jerusalem in the coming with high coronavirus infection rate. Continuing several years at the Pardes days. positive responses to seeing the virus being Institute and the Conservative contained will eventually see all Israeli citizens Yeshiva. Rabbi Berg worked several years as an English teacher in receiving the much sought after anti-covid-19 If allEighty goes Israelisaccording aged to planbetween the Directoreighteen General and fifty- of vaccine by the end of next summer. © ASHERNET five are to participate in the first phase of the trial. She then turned to the rabbinate, earning an MAHL from Hebrew A sneak preview – JFEC. . . UnionIsraeli publicCollege, schools, where becomingshe was ordained certified asby athe Rabbi Ministry in 2017. of Education. Serving Ya’ara and Aviel 2005-06 caring for at the DVA for a few hours a week since 2017, Rabbi Berg identified numerous needs that could benefit from the services of a chaplain. By Marcia Reinhard, one another And since she already was working to fill thoseRABBI needs, CONT. the DVA ON created PG 13 JFEC Ass’t Director the new chaplain position and appointed her to fill it! The weeks go By Carin Savel by so fast; it is “18” Your gift can hard to believe November will mark 18 we are already months since I began as the go further – up to another new executive director of the Jewish Leader Jewish Federation of Eastern give now! publication. This Connecticut. The number 18 is important. It means something From now until December 31, 2020, with our new to us; it’s synonymous with every eligible dollar given to our Jewish column,is the fifth “Where edition the word chai, meaning life. It Federation’s Annual Campaign will be Are They Now?” corresponds to the 18 vertebrae matched by 50% from the Jewish Federations of North America (JFNA). Our past emissaries in a person’s spine, the 18 times For our Federation to receive the matching gift donors must have been true that our forefathers Abraham, either increase their existing gift, be a first-time donor, or not to form, getting Isaac and Jacob are mentioned have made a gift in at least 18 months. their articles in together in the Torah, and the 18 JFNA’s matching fund will count only the increase made by the before the due date times God’s name is mentioned in existing donor’s gift and not the maintained gift amount. For example, and sharing their the Shema. if you normally give $1,000, you have to increase your gift to more than adventures and There is even a connection $1,000 and JFNA would match the increase by 50%. Ya’ara Hendel and Aviel Maftsir YEs 2005-06. journey in life since to food, because for matzah to First-time and lapsed donor gifts receive a 50% match, e.g. give they left us. While be kosher for use on Passover, it $100 and the Federation gets a matching gift of $50 from JFNA. their trajectory has been similar, (army, travel, university, partner, must be made in a maximum of Just imagine what this 50% match means in human terms – etc.) where they have landed and how they got there have all been as 18 minutes, as this is the time it more food to give out from our Food Pantry to those who have had takes for dough to rise and that is their food stamps cut and/or are working reduced hours; additional This edition highlights Ya’ara Hendel and Aviel Maftsir YEs 2005- why you might see the words “18 rental and utility assistance for those who have been laid off; and unique as snowflakes in winter. provide masks to area nursing homes and rehab centers to keep the PREVIEW CONT. ON PG 7 JFEC CONT. ON PG 12 staff and residents safe. That is real change. 2 THE JEWISH LEADER, NOVEMBER 6, 2020 Jewish Community HS now on Zoom Brought to you by On Monday, September 21 as in all years past, Jewish Community today? The last part of this last High School, pen-named by the students as “Hebrew High” kicked off class, was spent talking about THE ISRAEL DESK with an introductory class where all the rabbis introduced themselves and “Why I Wear My Star.” That was what they’d be teaching to the students. In the days when my children were the most telling of all. This is where Stay tuned….. We attending JCHS, (they are now 31 and 25) there were as many as 30-35 the teens really got to open up. have another very students in attendance each week. In the last few years, those numbers have While it took a few minutes to get special program coming slipped to 20, 15 and even as low as10, even when in-person. Sometimes started, ultimately many of them up on Friday afternoon, with registration being at 15 but only 8-10 teens showing up each week or talked about being the only Jewish Nov. 13 at 1:45pm. 10 registered and 5-8 showing up. person in their grade or school The group of the SNEC Now for the good news! (Yes, there is some.) This year, we have 10 and how they become the “go Young Emissaries from teens registered, and for three of the five weeks, all ten teens have been in to” person about anything Jewish 2016-17 (the year of attendance! And that’s been on ZOOM!! It is very meaningful to me and related ie: holidays, Holocaust, Tal Gilboa and Guy says a lot about our teens that just about every week, we have 10 teens on etc. One student even said when Carmi), are coming into our calls. Zoom is both a blessing and a curse in these challenging times he hears hate speech it only makes your homes, straight but for our teens and JCHS, it is definitely a blessing! him prouder to be a Jew. He’s still from Israel to you, Our program, this year, is broken up into four 6-week sessions with the working on his connection to Israel, bringing a Kabbalat Shabbat program you won’t want to miss. With first session being 7 weeks, plus the introductory class. For the next four though. It is a lifelong journey, after each emissary in their own home with their own family, they will weeks, a representative from the organization StandWithUs, Jolie Davies, all. share songs, recipes, treats and special moments with us. Watch for whose mission it is to educate about Israel to everyone, whether Jewish or Working with the teens has an email from me, your rabbis, Carin Savel, check the JFEC website, not, spoke with our students. Jolie’s job is working with the high school become my passion. There’s a line population in the northeast region. in the Book of Isaiah 11:6, that I said, stay tuned…… The first week was spent discussing “Their Israel Story” where they says, “…And the child shall herd Community Calendar and Facebook page. It will be everywhere! So as shared Israel’s role in their life, if it was there at all and if so, how did it get them.” (safaria.org.) Granted they there and why. The next two weeks the students learned about the history were talking about animals but of Israel going back to the time of King David, in depth during the Roman the line by itself is true. We can Still time to register for Empire around 66 CE all the way up to 1967. The second half of that learn a lot from the teens in our presentation talked about the ’67 war all the way to the present. community and after almost 13 Shared Legacies Nov. 4-8 The last class was very interesting as the students learned the actual years of working with so many of definitions of anti-Semitism, anti-Zionism, do they overlap and ifso, them, I can honestly say I have. An urgent call to action where and when, how to identify both and are they relevant in their lives In the next three weeks the teens will be treated to three programs by Shared Legacies: The African American Jewish Civil Rights Candle Lighting for Eastern CT area two of our past emissaries: Guy Alliance Carmi (2016-17) and Ron Peleg Friday, Nov 6 • 4:19 pm crucial historical lessons of Black-Jewish cooperation are revisited (2014-15.) Guy is covering the and revived is ain newthis utterly film that fascinating, was released urgent in call February to action. 2020. It made The Friday, Nov 13 • 4:12 pm class on Nov. 9 and Ron will be its debut at the Atlanta Jewish Film Festival, just before COVID-19 hit. taking the classes on Nov. 16 and Friday, Nov 20 • 4:06 pm The Jewish Federation of Eastern CT is offering Shared Legacies: 23. While Jolie of StandWithUs The African American Jewish Civil Rights Alliance for your viewing helped give them an avenue to Friday, Nov 27 • 4:03 pm pleasure from Nov. 4-8 through midnight speak about their connection to Nov. 7 and then, on Sunday, Nov. 8 at 7:30 pm Israel and their Jewish neshama Shari Rogers . The film will be available (soul), Guy and Ron will provide Check the JFEC website or Facebook page to, the register director in of order the film, to memories that connect them to receive the link, will for speak the movie.to our community You will receive on the a making separate of this link film. for Israel with two living, breathing the Nov. 8 discussion with the movie’s director Shari Rogers. 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How can it be he’s in high school already? Moishe had torn his baseball bats across their chests men wearing Nazi armbands and carrying bats crossed the street, wife, Naomi, away from her native Israel twelve years earlier. appeared in the distance. From a attempting to block their path. “This one’ll do” the leader was saying, The move to Brooklyn seemed rational enough at the time, and side street a group hoisting Black pointing at the Jewish star dangling from Jacob’s neck. One of the men they’d prospered, living together with the children, rebuilding their Lives Matter signs chanted, their had a chokehold on a teenaged boy wearing a kippah. savings and their lives. Yet here I am in the land of the free, the home “Run,” Ben said under his breath and took off up the street in the of the brave and I’m afraid to hug my son now that he’s back in school. A trio of men nearby held up opposite direction. Moishe glanced at his watch: 8:00 am, almost time for Naomi to fists raised. Jacob followed, close behind. They sprinted a block, rounding the return from the graveyard shift at the hospital. Jacob bounced down group of police repositioning corner with their pursuers a hundred yards behind. the stairs, his feet barely touching the steps. He slung his backpack woodentheir middle barriers, fingers cutting towards off a “In here,” Jacob said, gasping, indicating a stairwell that led to a across his shoulders, waving as he passed. “Bye, Pops, and don’t forget, movement in and out of the hidden alcove below street level. I’m going to Ben’s house after school.” park. Panic gripped the crowd as The Nazi group ran by, then returned, looking beneath each parked Moishe frowned. “I didn’t forget, but don’t you think it’s best to stay competing messages seemed to car at the curb, patrolling the sidewalk above. home? There are all sorts of protests in the street. “I want you to be be colliding. Jacob’s heart pounded, his view from his hiding place that of black safe. 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Who am I if not the mother of on being a great mom. growing children, the Rabbi’s wife, the Head of Solomon Schechter August was coming to an end Academy? Was I ready for my next chapter? and David was more than ready for Kindergarten. The phone rang. It was Sharon Astor. Schechter whileAaron holding and downI have analways array led of ajobs. busy We life. studied In the infirst Israel decade for aof year. our was desperate for a 4th/5th grade Mymarriage father’s I response finished to my that undergrad move, “Doesn’t degree he in ever Secondary want to get Education a job?” teacher. I explained to her that the When we returned, High School teaching positions for female “Baby only experience I had below High Boomers” were scarce, unless, of course, I could also coach football. We School was Religious School and decided it was a perfect time to start a family. elementary education was not my Aaron had an internship (read: underpaid, overworked) in New long suit. She said: “Just until we we drove a car and a Rental truck with everything we owned from how that went. Cincinnati,Jersey while Ohio finishing to New his lastBrunswick, year of Rabbinic NJ. Ari School. was born In early-August, Sept. 5. We findI enjoyed another teaching teacher.” at YouSchechter know proceeded to move every few years and had a child in each community. and when it was time to hire a Head of School, I threw my hat in on the re-accreditation of the school. A recently retired Schechter home mom. When I got bored, I found courses to take and children to the ring. Why not? It would not be colleagueThe following served on Spring, the CAIS I officially (Connecticut retired Association but volunteered of Independent to take Elon was born in Springfield, Ohio where I was basically a stay at teach. David was born in Cleveland. With three children under age six, Schools) accreditation team. The last day of their school visitation she teaching religious school was about all the outside stimulation I could that I was not trained to do. It took me aside and said, “Karen, it’s time for you to let SSA stand on the first time I took on something was a bit of a rocky transition its own.” I knew she was right, but what was I going to do with myself dog trainers. Ten years passed, our family was complete and it was but I grew into it. I even found tomorrow? handle. We always had a dog, and trust me, we never were proficient time to move on. a place for myself in the national First, I took some time to work on my own health and well-being. My Aaron had been serving as the third rabbi in one of the largest Schechter movement. I was friend, Betsy Sharack, encouraged me to try Yoga. I attend Bliss Works congregations in the country. He knew he wanted something smaller proud of my position and proud classes two mornings a week and my arthritic joints are grateful. I also where he could get to know his congregants. Waterford, Ct was a viable of my school. We made a mark on developed a symbiotic relationship with my treadmill and HGTV. We option. But, born and bred Midwesterners moving to CT, far away our little corner of Connecticut. work together at least 3 times a week. I am in better shape than I have We drew students from Essex to been in years and know how to build a mud wall. My son Ari tells me Waterford on a map. Did they mean Waterbury??? We came, we saw, Westerly, from Franklin to the I am younger than I was 20 years ago. I wonder what he wants? Elon from all our family? There was another problem. We could not find shoreline. Our students were well tells me to stay in good shape or I will need to move in with them. NO, Once we got our acts together, I started doing a little subbing at prepared academically, able to we stayed forever! lead a service and schooled in  I wanted my retirement to include some meaningful volunteer the philosophy of Tikkun Olam, not Brooklyn! improving the world. Between my asked me to join the board. My mother-in-law had gifted me with a job, my kids and being Aaron’s lifetimework. The membership first organization but I never to knock had the on time my door to become was Hadassah. truly involved. They wife, my life was more than full. Hadassah provided stimulating programming and camaraderie. I As the community changed thought I knew all the Jews in our corner of the world but I was wrong. so did Schechter and eventually, Through Hadassah, I met some remarkable women and was able to we began to shrink. Budgeting maintain relationships with people I have admired and adored through for the future was becoming Schechter and the greater Jewish community. Hadassah is how I met Sheila Horvitz. I was so impressed with her efforts to encourage community awareness of domestic violence difficult. Furthermore, Aaron and we wanted the freedom of through Safe Futures (Southeastern CT’s response to victims of had negotiated his final contract being retired together. I offered domestic violence). Having witnessed the devastating effect of domestic We’ll be open for Chanukah shopping Schechter a new option. To help violence, I had always hoped to put energy towards its eradication. balance the budget, I would step at Crossroads (70 Cross Rd., Waterford) Sheila encouraged me to “step up”. Today I sit on three committees at away from being Head of School

On Sunday, November 8th by November 1 and serve more What did I learn from all this? It is amazing what you can accomplish, in a consulting capacity, helping from 10:00-1:00. evenSafe Futuresif it is not and what am yougratified originally by the set work out tothey do. do. Your children grow up transition the school into a new and move on with their lives, so it is important to have other interests era. After years of being a help you get through anything, even this crazy pandemic. Stay busy, it workaholic, it was time to prepare to fill the void. Having someone you love to share your life with can Enter a free raffle is far better than having nothing to do. Free box of candles with for retirement and the whole idea Today, I can say I am thoroughly enjoying my retirement. We have each menorah purchase! for a ceramic scared me. Aaron, two years from time for our friends, time for our children and grandchildren, time for nosh bowl ! his retirement, and I took three our community and ourselves. Should this pandemic ever end, we can travel in the off season again and enjoy evenings out during the week. ~ BYOB ~ We spent time in Israel and Till then, we check in with our family, hike, Zoom, pick up take-out food months off for his final Sabbatical. Bring your own bag! and sit outside in the cold with our friends. We keep busy. trying out the position of Cruise One of my sons, who shall remain nameless, said to me recently, in took our first cruise with Aaron Rabbi. It was a perfect match and a critical tone, “Why are you so busy?” Why? Because that is who we eventually morphed into being a are and who we want to be. Retired, busy people. Maybe, I will learn piece of his “encore” career. We to play Mahj…. enjoyed our time together but still, could we make a life from it? Remember to send in your subscription THE JEWISH LEADER, NOVEMBER 6, 2020 7 Hadassah Allows Family to Visit Hadassah News COVID-19 Patients to Enhance Recovery President’s Message COVID-19, explains Orit Meridan, director of Hadassah’s Patient by Karen Bloustine Care Services. On arrival at the hospital, the More Hadassah miracles! family member signs a health There are so many stories of Hadassah medical miracles that arise declaration and then attends out of the world-class teaching, research, and patient care at Hadassah a comprehensive training Hospital in Jerusalem. And they are all the more special when they that describes the hospital’s involve people we know and love. protection protocol in the unit. So I have to share this story about my long-time Hadassah friends, Thanks to another initiative Peg and Steve Elefant. About 12 years ago, Steve was diagnosed with a of the COVID-19 nursing teams, rare form of Lymphoma. To get the best care, he and Peg moved from who understood the need for Courvallis, Oregon to Seattle for treatment at the Fred Hutchinson families to hear more frequently Cancer Research Center. about their relatives’ well-being, After a long regimen of treatments over several years, Steve Israel to launch a volunteer visitor project. And now - family members Hadassah Ein Kerem developed a was canHadassah visit loved Ein ones Kerem in the was COVID-19 the first—and units. still is the only—hospital in program where “contact nurses” to Courvalis. Since then, Peg has been more active in Hadassah and Following the success of its unique visitor’s program in which update family members daily on finally declared healthybecame and hea Leadership and Peg were Specialist able to and move member back recovered COVID-19 volunteers have been of the National Training Team. visiting patients in the coronavirus outbreak units During a Training Team session, Peg was to provide extra care and company, Hadassah introduced to Dr. Michal Lotem, head of the Hospital Ein Kerem has begun allowing family Center for Melanoma and Immunotherapy members to visit loved ones in these units, too. at Hadassah Medical Organization (HMO). Dr. Rely Alon, head of Hadassah’s Division of Dr. Lotem told Peg that Fred Hutchinson in Nursing and Allied Health Professions, emphasizes Seattle was among Hadassah’s international that entry to the units is being regulated in a strict, collaborators. When Peg told Dr. Lotem coordinated manner, with one visitor permitted about Steve’s Lymphoma diagnosis, Dr. at a time. She explains, “The coronavirus has a deceptive nature, and the course of the disease for the treatment of Steve’s type of Lymphoma moderate and severely ill patients is unpredictable. hadLotem been confirmed done at thatHMO the and basic shared research with thefor Fear of the unknown and the loneliness of isolation Fred Hutchinson Center. Can you imagine exacerbate the situation for these patients. The how shocked and thrilled Peg was to learn of nursing and medical staff, who are very busy this wonderful coincidence - that the work at working around the clock for the benefit of these patients, are not always available to sit and chat.” This is another amazing example of the Dr. Alon maintains that “the patients need a Hadassah Hospital at Ein Kerem positive,HMO had life-saving SAVED her research husband’s and life!. treatment familiar and calming family member, someone who successes from the hospital we support. It is can stay by the bedside and provide comforting touches and, of course, the health status and prognosis of also a true example of HMO’s collaboration with centers all around the listen and talk for a while. It is necessary as a part of the healing and their loved ones. recovery process.” Family members report that This latest initiative was the suggestion of the nurses who they highly value the relationship world! recognized the compelling need for COVID-19 patients to have some with these nurses because this Your Hadassah donations help create these medical miracles! time with family. A Hadassah social worker coordinates and arranges regular contact reduces their Snow-bird season the visits. All family members who want to visit undergo a screening stress and worry. process where they answer queries about their health, including Again, your Hadassah is in full swing questions regarding any symptoms of illness, history of background donations make these important By Mimi Perl, Editor illnesses, and whether they belong to an at-risk demographic for Please contact me via email [email protected] or call me at 860-442- programs possible! 8062 and let me know when you are leaving for Florida or wherever PREVIEW CONT. FROM PG 1 your happy place is during the cold winter months in New England so your Jewish Leader can follow you. 06. I have very fond memories of both of them, not the least of which and now, whenever I am in Israel, With Covid-19 still a major factor in our lives, I don’t want to was when Ya’ara dressed up as Karen Rosenberg and Aviel dressed we also try to see each other. assume you are headed to a warmer climate. Even when you notify the I remember the last time we got together, we had breakfast as Jerry Fischer for Purim. I also remember the first day I met Aviel mail, the Leader lobby and the next thing I knew we were talking about Hebrew words, near where she worked (and post office that you will be ‘temporarily away’ and they forward your on his first day at Schechter. I sat down next to him on the sofa in the let me know by emailing or calling. accents (as his was so slight) and my wanting to learn to speak Hebrew. got me up way earlier than I’m is not included as it is not first class mail; you have to Fast forward many years later to one of my trips to Israel. Aviel comfortable with.) She told me and I always try to connect when I go but this one was particularly about the company she was memorable. We went to a little café, where we indulged in one of my working for which you will also favorite pastimes in Israel – having a coffee in an Israeli Café with an read about in her article. There was an excitement in her that young woman he was seeing. He hadn’t been dating her very long, but was contagious. I am thrilled to Israeli Emissary. It was there that Aviel first told me about the new hear how she’s doing now and entrusted with the most precious gem on the earth. By my next visit where her career has taken her. thehe confided following in summer, me that theyhe believed were engaged. she was “the one.” It was like being You will be too. Flash back again to Schechter 15 years ago. Ya’ara arrived later, Aviel and Ya’ara have as you’ll learn when you read her article, so I don’t have a memory wonderful stories to share. Enjoy of our first meeting. However, over time we got to know each other them! 8 THE JEWISH LEADER, NOVEMBER 6, 2020

Where are they now? The best year ever! By Ya’ara Hendel, 2005-06 Young Emissary things and meeting so many new It’s hard to admit it’s already been 15 years since I and wonderful people that I came to think of as family. I remember that because I was late by two weeks to I remember Jerry Fischer was receivefirst came my to driver’s New London license. to become I had to a Youngarrive Emissary.a couple of weeks after Aviel, my partner, which then felt like connection between the Hendel forever. Now, compared to those 15 years it feels like a familyhoping who to findlived ain hidden New London family blink of an eye. and me and my family. Despite Throughout the many preparations we went through Jerry’s relentless optimism, to the in the year prior to our Shlichut, it was clear that this best of my knowledge, no such was going to be one of the most meaningful years of our blood relation was found, but still lives. Not only because it’s not very common for Israeli today, whenever I meet someone 18 year old’s to be living on a different continent for a from Connecticut, I don’t hesitate whole year, but also because, at that age, you rarely get before telling them I have family an opportunity to have such a meaningful impact on the in the New London area. My heart lives of so many people. For me back then, being Israeli explodes thinking about how and Jewish was almost trivial, and looking back it’s generous and kind my hosting Partner Elad, Ya’ara Hendel and Django amazing that I got to use this part of my life that I took families - the Luners and the In September 2019 it was time for me to move on for granted to build a bridge between the community Darens - were to bring me into their homes and lives, and and I joined Grubhub as a Product Manager. Grubhub I appreciate it even more as the years pass. doesn’t operate in Israel, but a couple of years ago After I came back to Israel at the end of they acquired a small Israeli startup named Tapingo our Shlichut, I joined the Israeli C4I corps as and I joined that engineering team in Tel Aviv to build a computer engineer. Before joining the army, experiences for American diners. Thankfully, since a lot I knew absolutely nothing about computer of my work with my American peers was already being programming and I was very lucky to be recruited done remotely, working from home in the last eight to this challenging and rewarding position, where months has been somewhat easy for me and today I I got acquainted with the world of building even get to enjoy that aspect of the new normal. software products through my mandatory army During my army service I left Gan Ner to come live service. After two and a half years as an engineer, in Gush Dan so I could be closer to my army base. While many of my fellow emissaries went back after the army Elad, who is still my partner today. or university to start their home in the peace and quiet I went through the Officers Course where I met of the Afula-Gilboa area, I fell in love with Tel Aviv and four more years in different roles of Software especially with Yaffo’s old city charm. Elad and I have I continued my army service as an officer for lived in Yaffo with our dog Django for the past eight service, and I feel fortunate and proud that I got years. If even COVID didn’t make us leave the city - toProject contribute Management. through Imy had own a long professional but fulfilling and personal growth. My year as an emissary had certainly shaped my After leaving the army, I joined a small tech personalitynothing probably and who will! I am today, and I feel sorry for this startup named WalkMe. I worked at WalkMe for year’s meant-to-be emissaries, that they are missing almost six years, seeing the company grow from this experience, but I also know the relationships 45 employees in Israel to almost 1000 employees that the young emissaries built over the years with your community are strong and will help keep the different roles until I found my passion in Product connection between the communities during this Django, Ya’ara, and daughter Management,in seven locations which aroundhas been the my world.profession I filled for

I was from and the one I joined in Eastern CT. AND, on I also took evening classes and graduated with a B.S. in candifficult email year me and at [email protected] after. and let me top of that, I got to have this life changing experience Informationthe pastSystems five from years. the While Academic working College at WalkMe, of Tel knowI would what moreYOU have than been love upto hearto in theback past from 15 you! years. You that few kids that age get to have - living away from Aviv - Yaffo. home, expanding my horizons, learning so many new So much more than Cafe Israel with May & Bar By Marcia Reinhard, JFEC Ass’t Director while telling us of events happening in and around Israel. our partnership city of Afula, or speaking about life in It was a Sunday afternoon like most Sunday In the beginning of the call, everyone was happy to the US to Israelis. afternoons during COVID, but this time, something reconnect, and catch-up. Then after a few minutes, Bar Bar touched on his training for the navy, and was different. There was an excitement in the air that and May each shared information about their lives these explained about his responsibilities on the ship, being could be felt across the seas. Community members were past six years. May shared how “the May of 2014 was not getting ready to gather on a Zoom call with two of our going to do more than her mandatory two years in the beloved past Young Emissaries, May Abudraham and army.” Now, six years later, she showed a picture of herself newthe officership to in Israel. charge He of will all then the weaponsreturn to onGermany the ship, to Bar Halgoa. At the same time, May in Giv’atayim, just cutting up her army card as she completed her military getculminating the next inship, his trainflying there, to Germany learn everythingto bring a brandabout outside of Tel Aviv, and Bar in his apartment in Haifa, service only two weeks ago. May talked about how much this new ship (on both trips) and ultimately, after about were preparing to come on the call with us and share she loved working in Intelligence and Human Resources six months, bring the second ship back to Israel’s port. the many things that have happened in their lives since and how, no matter where she goes, she is always an After sharing about their lives, the topic of COVID-19 they left us the summer of 2014; then impart their emissary, whether educating people about her home and came up. How could it not? It’s what we are all dealing experience and wisdom of six years in the military CAFE CONT. ON PG 10 THE JEWISH LEADER, NOVEMBER 6, 2020 9

Where are they now? Making connections By Aviel Maftsir So, it’s been 15 years. Fifteen years since I landed in Much like the emissary work, you get to America for what I called at the time – my mission. I serve your country away from its shores. remember coming to the U.S. in a very determined and After my service I worked for a short rational way. Very soon I came to understand that the time in agriculture, growing melons in real goal of the program was not just about the job but greenhouses at the Arava in the south. mostly about the connections I made with the people Again, I was the only Israeli among the within the community. I thought that I was leaving Asian foreign workers and again they home to do a job, but I was actually leaving home in wanted to hear about Israel. order to gain another one. Last year I visited the area After that I worked in security at the with my wife. As we were driving down Great Neck Rd border crossing to Jordan. At that time, I to the Simonson’s, I told her: “I am home.” was living with my parents, mostly saving I think that deciding to postpone my military service money before I started my studies at the and leaving my familiar home for an entire year was the university. In 2011 I started to study architecture in Haifa. I rented an apartment downtown firstWhen adult decisionI returned I made to Israel, in my life.like In any a way, other I consider Young right next to the port where I was thisEmissary, year as I wasthe firstabout amazing to start chapter my military of my service. adult life. I still stationed during my navy days. It was had about three months to spend till my service began. during this period that I started working So, I thought it was a good opportunity to experience Ya’ara Hendel dressed as Karen Rosenberg former Head of School of something I was curious about. I remember back in working to this day. My boss is a positive Solomon Schechter Academy and Aviel Maftsir dressed as Jerry Fischer, the U.S., that many Jewish Americans told me that they forand avibrant landscaping Canadian firm with where a white I am beard still former Executive Director of the JFEC. had a life changing experience in Israel when they and a very Israeli straight-forward manner. Basically, I am back working for uncertain times. to try that for myself. I volunteered at the Kibbutz of Ein Jerry Fischer. Today the three of us are living in Afula. I work volunteeredHashofet. I worked on a Kibbutz. there cleaning I figured dishes it was at a the good kibbutz time from home which gives me more time to spend with dining room. I was actually the only Israeli volunteer my wife and son (eventually something good came out there and the local kibutzniks even thought I was a time,When I met I finishedmy wife myShirley. studies, At the I decided time Shirley to stay was in livingHaifa of COVID-19). Shirley is going to serve as a Consul at foreigner who came to volunteer. So, in order to get the andin Jerusalem continued working to work at at the the Ministry office there. of During that full experience, I let them believe that and spoke to them Foreign Affairs. Originally, she was from Afula. So, every weekend I would travel really life changing). I stayed with the other volunteers from Haifa and she would travel from inand English. they would The experience ask me a lot was of finequestions and laid about back Israel. (not Jerusalem and we would see each other in So, in a way, I was continuing my emissary work. the Afula-Gilboa region. My military service started in November 2006. I When we decided to move in together, we chose someplace in the middle. We moved to Ramat-Gan and spent most of our time commuting to Haifa and Jerusalem every day. At this time, with a lot of support from Shirley, I decided to go back to the university and follow a very old passion of mine which is history. I wanted to study something that will go well with my architectural experience. I started learning about building preservation at the Western Galilee College in Acre. It was a three-year period in which I got to learn a lot about the rich architectural Aviel Maftsir and Ya’ara Hendel during their year of service in Eastern history of the land of Israel. CT 2005-06. It was a real pleasure, and I the Israeli Embassy in Pretoria, South Africa. For the Shirley and I got married on October 10, last sixth months she went through training and she finished2018. We my had studies our honeymoonwith distinction. a year after in the US. We traveled almost a month, going a former emissary to help her with the training. definitelyWe are took scheduled advantage to relocate of the fact in Decemberthat her husband and stay is England where we met Marcia Reinhard and in South Africa for three years. I might get a job at the tothe the Simonson’s. West Coast, It andwas then a special flew east experience to New showing Shirley all the places and people from my past. embassybringing aor small maybe baby stay to ina newmy field country, working especially in a South with A short time after we returned to Israel Aviel Maftsir with his wife Shirley and son Arad. Africanthe pandemic architectural going on. firm. Nevertheless, We do have I feel our that concerns, it’s a we decided to leave Ramat Gan and move good opportunity for both of us and that I can contribute closer to our families, especially due to the a lot to Shirley and her mission there by representing enlisted into the Israeli Navy serving as a navigator on fact that Shirley was pregnant. On July 7, 2020 Arad (with Israel once again. Missile ship “Sa’ar 5” (Corvette) in the port of Haifa. an Israeli “r”) came into our lives and in a very symbolic I guess I took a liking to the sea and the seaport by way, as July 10 is also the birth date of the twins, Leah me at [email protected] or reach out to me on spending time in New London by the sea. Serving in the FacebookI would at love Aviel to hearMaftsir back and from let you me all! know You whatcan email you Navy was a very interesting and challenging experience. adorable and he brings joy to both our families in these have been up to in the past 15 years. and Eli Simonson, my host brother and sister!!! Arad is 10 THE JEWISH LEADER, NOVEMBER 6, 2020

CAFE CONT. FROM PG 8 very meaningful Q & A. They Realtor Corner easily answered just about every question. If one came up that Living in the Real they absolutely did not know, they simply said so. Estate Market – As we came upon the top of the hour, I let everyone know October 2020 we were nearing the end, as May By Goeff Hausmann had to get up early for class. She I have been selling real estate for over 23 years and have witnessed started at the university right many different markets, but this has been the most interesting one for after she got out of the army. as long as I have represented the seller. Interestingly, no one was ready to I am writing this article on Tuesday, October 27. In August 2019, end the call and most stayed on there were 1,465 active listings and today there are 545. Yes, the to chat a little longer; even May. current number of available listings in New London County is up from Then, slowly but surely, people last month but it is still very low. The amount of inventory determines began to say goodbye. Before May if we are in a buyer’s market or a seller’s market with 6 months being left, she thanked everyone for with worldwide. It was the perfect segue into their next topic: How the middle indicator. Today, the index is currently 1.8. joining the call and told us how Israel has handled COVID-19. They showed us a video of Yom Hazikaron much it meant to both of them. It (Israel’s Memorial Day) which was televised and broadcast over the passed. Normally, a presidential election would affect the current wasn’t until around 4:20pm that radio. Citizens all over the country listened to a soldier sing “Hatikvah” market,By the but time not you this read year. this The article, lack theof the presidential inventory election is controlling has finally the the last people exited the call. Bar from their homes. They also showed a video of Yom Ha’Atzmaut market. was only too happy to stay on and The average buyer is getting a loan interest rate between 2.5% and schmooze. all over the country. This time, people were dancing on their balconies, 2.75%. This means that buyers can afford a higher sales price: (Israel’s Independence Day) which is usually filled with celebrations Shortly after, I began receiving $250,000 mortgage at 4.875% Principle & Interest $1,323 multiple texts from people articles illustrating the many protests over the second lockdown that $325,000 mortgage at 3.00% Principle & Interest $1,326 alsoflags inconsumed hand, minus their the country. big parties In and celebrations. They showed us Property prices have risen since June but use caution in pricing. between each segment, they offered opportunities for questions, which encouraged constant interaction toBuyers pay full are price expecting or being the inproperty a bidding to bewar, under but after contract that, within the buyer the firstwill between them and everyone on the be2 weeks planning of the on listing. negotiating During the the price. first two weeks, buyers are expecting call. people not to just concentrate on the foreclosures as the chances for theMany average buyers buyer are getting hoping it toare find small. a foreclosure. The investors I have are been hungry telling for comingThen, out finally, of someIsrael good to news:help properties, in fact, I have eight investors that I work with looking diagnoseTwo scientific COVID. One breakthroughsis a breath test to determine if you have the virus. are paying cash and closing in two weeks. The banks will be releasing The other, a way to gauge COVID-19 foreclosureshard for more in properties.February 2021 When and they they find will something, be listed a the little investors higher in communities based on infections than in 2020. in the sewage system. This will As a listing agent, I am loving this market as every listing is selling. help them keep quarantines and Working with buyers is harder as my clients are making generous infections localized. offers only to be outpriced by someone else. Many of the showings I Lastly, was the best news of all. scheduled for my clients get cancelled prior to them being able to view How the Middle East is changing. the listing as it is under contract so quickly. If you are a buyer in todays We watched a wonderful video showing the agreements between Israel, the UAE and Bahrain. Three ahead of time. stating their thankfulness for market, be a prepared buyer and* * * get pre-qualified for a mortgage the opportunity to see May and This past year, I installed solar panels on my roof and I’m very Bar again and expressing how whenof the the most pilot poignant made a moments speech saying, were when“If someone the Tel had Aviv told Air me Traffic six happy with my decision.. If you are an Eversource customer, please much they enjoyed hearing about monthsController ago welcomed I’d be standing the pilot in ofTel the Aviv first airport UAE flight making upon this arrival speech, and I their lives and discussing current Please remember you can search for homes at www. events in Israel with them. CallTheHouseMan.comcall me so I can help you. saveDo youmoney! have a question about real estate? While we’d like to have sayingwould theyhave wanttold them,to play ‘It’s with impossible!’” the children The of Israel. third and last one that Advice/responses will be made by: Geoff Hausmann, RE/MAX on the Bay, another call with them soon, with reallyUpon choked the conclusionme up was seeingof their children presentation, in the UAE Bar waving and May flags led and a 860-443-4400, [email protected]. Bar being away in Germany on his special assignment and May just beginning her studies at AUTO | HOME | COMMERCIAL | MARINE the university, it will probably be awhile before we can do it again. However, there’s no L E V I N E doubt it will happen.

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By Melissa Henriquez, Kveller Sunday dinner together, or joined the same book my family — are not going to gather even though lessons we can teach our kids We had just hung up on our club, or have the grandparents do some last-minute we desperately want to because, as Fauci says, it’s right now is it’s OK to not be weekly FaceTime call with my babysitting. But we simply not the right OK. Of course, we want them to parents when my 9-year old have always focused on thing to do right now. learn to talk about uncomfortable daughter said, hopefully, “We’ll quality over quantity, The harsh reality is, things, and cope with unpleasant see them at Thanksgiving, right?” instilling in our kids to we are probably going to emotions in healthy ways, like Across the room, my 7-year have a grateful heart be in this state of limbo, our long bike rides and Yahtzee old son looked up at me from his for what time we do get nights. But I also want them to puzzle and his eyes lit up. “They together because it’s so time” on the calendar know that even mommies and special and focused. towith look no forwarddefinitive to, “next for daddies miss their parents, too, Pop my Legos, and I bet he can Unfortunately, the quite a long time yet. and, just like our children, we helphave me to build come! a wood I want swing to showwith pandemic has only And, to cope, I’m trying have sad days, and we have bad my new toolbox.” You could just heightened the reality to simply “sit” with days. see his little wheels turning — of our physical distance. these feelings, and I’m Thanksgiving may not look imagining all the fun things he Like millions of families encouraging my kids to the same this year for our family, would do with his grandpa during around the U.S. who do the same. 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JFEC CONT. FROM PG 1 A high-tech monitor for the elderly In normal years, there would be something to celebrate, but of course, things feel different this year. In the wake of that they don’t have to wear COVID-19, celebrations have given way to opportunities for By Abigail Klein Leichman, Israel21c In addition, ECHO is being the Jewish Federation and the community. An opportunity Independent living at home is the ideal for every aging person. But installed in several Israeli a fall or other health-threatening incident can change everything in Covid-19 wards and internal judge our efforts. We plan for tomorrow. We do more. the blink of an eye. medicine departments. to reflect. A chance to consider. We tally our successes. We We now understand how quickly and drastically our The wearable “panic buttons” introduced in the late 1980s were a “Covid-19 has emphasized the world can change. How we connect, how we communicate, great advance. But they only work if people actually wear them and can need for solutions like the ECHO reach the button in an emergency. Today there are passive wearables system,” says Zack. instant, and the Federation answered the call. We led our that automatically detect falls, and camera-based surveillance systems “In March, Israel’s Ministry and how we congregate — all were redefined in an community response to the unprecedented challenges of to monitor elder safety. of Defense started looking the pandemic and demonstrated our strength. Coming from a 30-year career in the semiconductor and wireless for technologies to use in In response to the community needs, we offered hospitals for remote respiratory more services and funding than ever before. Federation “People aren’t committed to wearing gadgets 24/7, and camera- monitoring in the ER — to see delivered 3,000 masks to the most vulnerable — seniors basedcommunication systems are field, an Rafiinvasion Zack of decided privacy,” to hefind points a better out. alternative. if the patient had likely Covid and staff in nursing homes and assisted living facilities “The most challenging aspect is falls. How fast we can detect a fall — and for patients on Covid-19 — and more masks are on the way. With more people out matters because the medical situation degrades quickly. Sometimes wards where staff can’t enter of work, we are helping more people pay their rent and the room at all times. It had to utilities. solve that problem.” measure respiratory rate every Through Operation Cool Down, we gave out dozens peopleZack stay is oncofounder, the floor forCEO, a longand time. vice We president had to find of out R&D how toat hour, it had to be non-wearable of air conditioners to keep families healthy in hot EchoCareTechnologies, which has developed ECHO (Elderly Care to avoid device contamination, weather. Our JFEC Food Pantry remained a beacon for Home Observer), a cloud- the community. It never closed and has been operating in connected monitor based on overdrive. For every 12 people we were feeding last year, radar technology and machine we are now feeding 60; we have given out over 12,000 learning. meals to hungry families. Because radar sees through

Editorials • Opinions Letters walls, one ECHO unit installed on senior activities and created a call program, through which the ceiling or wall can monitor To fight loneliness and depression, we increased our seniors receive a telephone call twice weekly — just to one person (or two people, in a connect. future version) in a standard- In addition to our services to the entire local community, we sized apartment in a senior living continued to enrich local Jewish life. We brought Jewish education facility. to our children and young adults. In high schools (over Zoom), we The device detects falls, combatted antisemitism, hate and Holocaust denial on a personal respiration distress, drowning in level through Encountering Survivors, a program that offers students a bathtub and other dangerous a face-to-face experience with children of Holocaust survivors. And, events. It alerts to potential health our Encountering Differences program is hosting an adult series of deterioration by continuously provocative webinars on race and religion in our region. monitoring and analyzing the We launched PJ Library in the middle of the pandemic. Children person’s location, posture, are receiving free books to strengthen Jewish identity and families motion, and respiration. are connecting to online events like making challah in a bag and EchoCare tested the device making Mitzvah Masks. We began with 37 families and have grown in the United States, Japan, to 90. We are connecting with our young people more than ever with Australia, and Israel. ECHO was new virtual programs in Hillel, Hebrew High and BBYO and they are The ECHO device passively and continuously monitors location, actively promoting Voice Your Vote effort to other young people. “Japan has the most aging While COVID-19 curtailed our international travel and sent our posture, motion and respiration. Photo courtesy of EchoCare populationcertified in Japanin the inworld, 2019. and they Technologies young Israeli Emissaries home, we offered a new way to embrace Israel don’t want foreign caregivers, so with the launch of the Israel Desk. Open to the community, Zoomers it’s a worldwide beta testing site for aging tech,” Zack explains. and it had to cover the bathroom can now learn about Israel from their living room, through cultural The Japanese ECHOtrials were done in cooperation with SMK, a area. Our system does all that.” manufacturer of components for telecommunications and electronic After the devices were The power of Tzedakah (the Jewish word for charity) and the equipment. Bathrooms were the main testing area, and for good installed at one hospital, the programs about food, music, films and even virtual missions to Israel. practice of Tikkun Olam, (the Jewish term for repair the world), have reason. staff realized it could be helpful never been more vibrant at the Jewish Federation. We are growing “People aren’t committed to wearing gadgets 24/7, and camera- for monitoring any internal and we are working harder than ever before. We do more because the based systems are an invasion of privacy.” medicine patient needing character of our greater New London community is determined by “About 17,000 fatal accidents happen in bathrooms in Japan constant respiration and motion how we care for one another. annually,” said SMK Director and Executive Vice President Tetsuo Hara. surveillance. We are bound up with one another. We know that in a world “Bathroom makers, home security service providers and nursing EchoCare designs units for that feels so unpredictable right now, it could be any one of us who homes are highly interested in EchoCare’s solution,” Hara said.“Most home and for hospitals with needs the compassion and support of a caring community. So, we say, slightly different functionality. environment of Japanese bathrooms, surrounded by metal walls and With a target price of $500, strongof the customers’water noise requirements in the bathtub.” have been fulfilled even in the tough the devices would be sold to L’Chaim — to life! Carin Savel is the executive director of the Jewish Federation of In Australia, Melbourne-based care provider Lifeview tested ECHO healthcare facilities or remote Eastern Connecticut. in some of the company’s residential facilities for the aged, and now homecare operators, not directly plans to deploy the device in all its properties. to clients. This article was first published on October 26. 2020 in The Day. The home version is meant for ECHO and Covid seniors who live alone, says Zack. The views and opinions expressed in this article are those of the The ECHO device passively and continuously monitors location, “Every three seconds the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of The Jewish Leader or posture, motion and respiration. Photo courtesy of EchoCare its publisher, The Jewish Federation of Eastern CT. Technologies MONITOR CONT. ON PG 13 THE JEWISH LEADER, NOVEMBER 6, 2020 13

RABBI CONT. FROM PG 1 MONITOR CONT. FROM PG 12 “This is a dream opportunity for me. I come from a military family system generates a ‘human state’ that goes to the AI and machine- Now based in Ness Ziona with my sister currently serving in the Air Force and my brother learning engine to decide if there is an emergency — for instance, the Science Park, EchoCare having served in the National Guard as a combat medic deployed to Iraq. Supporting our country’s veterans is the most interesting, in respiration, sleep or gait that may cause or indicate a medical rewarding work I have ever done,” Rabbi Berg said about her new role. incident.person lying The on device the floor, has severalstarting signal-processing to hyperventilate layers– or any above change the investorscompleted including its first Incubit round and of Rabbi Berg’s “congregation” primarily comprises veterans of radar hardware to assess the situation.” Tigburfinancing Group in January of Israel, 2019 Centrica with different generations. In her role as chaplain, she will support former Innovation in the UK, Lifeview service members of all faiths as they cope with PTSD, traumatic brain Multibillion-dollar market in Australia, and other investors. injuries, moral injury, and other physical, psychological, and emotional Zack notes that prior to the pandemic, “the remote homecare A Series-A1 round was recently ailments. She also will build and nurture a Jewish community within market was estimated to be $15 billion, but now as elderly people launched to help the company the New Haven facility by offering veterans and their families with become more isolated as a result of social distancing, there is an reach global markets. opportunities for worship, holiday celebrations and observances, and increased need to monitor them without the burden of wearables or “We want to expand to Europe study sessions. privacy-invading cameras.” Rabbi Berg’s appointment was approved by the JWB Jewish Zack cofounded EchoCare in 2015 with electrical engineer Japan,” Zack says.“And we want Chaplains Council (JWB), a signature program of JCC Association and serial entrepreneur Yossi Kofman at Incubit, Elbit Systems’ toand add open more offices functionalities in the US such and of North America technological incubator. They recruited a multidisciplinary team with as early-stage mild cognitive Jewish clergy of all denominations who serve as chaplains, chaplain impairment detection.” . The JWB is the only organization that certifies candidates, and lay leaders in all branches of the military and at the intelligence, and machine learning. DVA—and has been doing so for more than a century. These Jewish experience in radar, hardware, software, signal processing, artificial professionals and lay leaders support the approximately 10,000 Jewish service members and 15,000 family members who accompany them This Jewish teen found a way to help to military bases and locales throughout the world, as well as Jewish veterans in DVA facilities around the country. Moreover, the Jewish adults deal with teen trauma chaplain serves people of all faiths, and thus serves as a representative of our people. By Michele Chabin, JTA “adverse childhood experience,” Peyton Barsel was 9 Although the military pays the chaplains, the support services known by the acronym ACE. years old when her father, provided by JWB for the chaplains, including the free furnishing of Although that particular bill Alex Barsel, died of a heart didn’t pass, another incarnation, attack at the age of 42. items, are funded by the JWB. If you would like to help them in their known as Senate Bill 80, passed The shock and grief supportbooks, Jewish of Jewish ritual service objects members, like Jewish please flags send or a mezuzot, check to and the other“JWB in June 2019. were like a tsunami that That same year, Peyton threatened to drown her https://donate.jcca.org/index.htm?campaignid=pHl2CBF5D52. family. JewishThis Chaplainsyear, JWB Council,” will honor, and acknowledge, you can find theand donationcelebrate form Jewish at: that promotes her teacher- “My mom is an veterans from every generation with the Facebook premier of “The trainingfounded ACEmodel AWARE, on a nonprofitnational incredible woman and National Jewish Community Celebration of Veterans Day” on level. The organization raises parent, but when you are Wednesday November 11, 2020, at 11:11 a.m. PT/2:11 p.m. ET. All awareness about ACEs and their 40 and suddenly lose your are welcome to join. In addition, JWB will be providing resources to impact on children, and offers a life partner, that’s a lot to synagogues throughout the United States to help celebrate Veterans comprehensive list of community grapple with, especially Day on the Shabbat weekend of November 13-14. service providers who support with a 9-year-old and a people who have experienced 5-year-old,” said Peyton, Rav Julius Rabinowitz is the spiritual leader of Beth Jacob Synagogue various types of traumas. now 18. “She did the best in Norwich, CT, and he serves as the representative of his clergy In April, she received a 2020 she could, but for quite a organization, the Association of Rabbis and Cantors, to the JWB Jewish Diller Teen Tikkun Olam Award while I felt like I had lost Chaplains Council. Peyton Barsel has won awards for “for exceptional leadership and channeling her painful childhood both my parents.” engagement in initiatives making Peyton, from Las About JWB Jewish Chaplains Council® experience into legislation requiring all the world a better place.” public-school educators in Nevada to Vegas, soon returned Each of the 15 American to school, but it wasn’t government-accredited agency that serves the religious needs of learn how to support children who have Jewish teenagers recognized the refuge she hoped JewishJWB military Jewish personnel Chaplains and Council (JWB) their families, iswherever a nonprofit, they serve, U.S. undergone trauma. (Courtesy of Peyton by Diller received $36,000 it would be. Instead of as well as patients in VA hospitals. Founded in 1917, on the cusp of Barsel) in acknowledgement of their World War I, the Jewish Welfare Board, as it was known at the time, understanding, her classmates shied away from her strong expressions sought to serve young Jewish men entering the military. Today, JWB leadership” in creating and of grief. Her well-intentioned teachers, unaccustomedfinding sympathy to dealing with and Jewish Chaplains Council, a signature program of JCC Association of leading“significant a new initiative or established and bereaved children, didn’t know how to cope with her tears, emotional North America, continues this work by honoring the service of Jewish initiative that embodies the withdrawal and occasional bursts of anger. men and women in the United States armed forces, safeguarding their Jewish values of tikkun olam, “Everybody treated me like a pariah,” Peyton said of her repairing the world. schoolmates and teachers. “We live in a society where death is a taboo isolation. Peyton, who will use her rights, fulfilling their spiritual needs, and combating loneliness and topic that people fear. I would have loved somebody to tell me that my award to attend Columbia reaction was normal and accepted, and that someone would be with University next year, came up me throughout the mourning process to make sure I was okay.” with the idea to train teachers Adding to her load, Peyton felt a responsibility to look out for her while volunteering as a trauma little brother, Robert, who was also struggling. facilitator. “I’d gone from a bubbly little kid to a mini-adult,” she said. “I felt like “It was clear that the children 136 Sachem Street everything was my fault and no one said it wasn’t. I felt I had to take on were traumatized not only by Norwich CT 06360 the responsibilities of the whole world.” their loss, but by their teachers’ Memorial After participating in a peer support group for bereaved children 860-889-2374 responses and actions – just as I and becoming a group facilitator herself, Peyton channeled her painful had been,” she said. Fax 860-886-2396 childhood experiences into activism. At 14, she began to lay the While researching what kind groundwork for a legislative bill requiring all public school educators in Nevada to learn how to support children who have experienced an TEEN CONT. ON PG 14 14 THE JEWISH LEADER, NOVEMBER 6, 2020

Seymour L. Hendel TEEN CONT. FROM PG 13 of trauma training American educators receive, she was shocked New London - The Honorable Seymour L. Hendel passed away peacefully at home Oct. 25, 2020, after a brief illness. to discover that few resources exist. Eventually she came across a He leaves his loving wife of 69 years, Patricia T. Hendel. North Dakota law requiring teachers to be trained in how to identify Judge Hendel was a pillar of the New London community. and support children experiencing traumatic experiences. That law He attended Harbor and Bulkeley Schools in New London. formed the basis of her legislation proposal. After attending college at Columbia and law school at The video training module Peyton developed in partnership Harvard, he returned to New London to practice law and with the Clark County School District of Las Vegas was “desperately raise his family near his parents and in-laws. After several needed,” said Tammy Malich, Las Vegas’ director of youth development decades, he was honored to be appointed to the Connecticut and social innovation. Superior Court, where he served as presiding judge on both The video (which has parts one and two) presents several scenarios, Obituaries the criminal and civil divisions and as Administrative Judge, all of them depicting children in obvious emotional distress. think it’s a beautiful concept that The district’s social workers created the portions of the training a lot of adults grow out of.” Judge Hendel, with his extended family, believed that that requires a licensed expert, and Peyton created the rest, including Her determination to repair givingfinishing back his to career the community as a senior judge.is critical, and he gave in so content and scenarios with youth and adults based on actual events the world was inspired by her many ways. He served that were occurring in schools. For each of the six scenarios, Peyton father. in various charitable created an inappropriate but typical school staff response and then “This project is in memory of roles over the years and a preferred and more appropriate school staff response, Malich said. my late father. He was my tie to generously supported After creating the content for the training, Peyton starred in the Judaism,” said Peyton, who was numerous causes, both training along with other Clark County School District students and born into an intermarried family. local and national. staff. “Everything I have been doing Among the community “The training was incredible, especially the student scenarios,” for the past seven years has and charitable Malich said. “They were authentic and told the story of youth in been a tie to my Jewish identity. organizations, he either schools dealing with trauma in their personal lives.” I really do live my life with these actively supported Jewish values instilled in me, and or contributed to the that she will create change at a large scale,” she said. “She is committed, I continue this work so that my Malich said she’s continually impressed by Peyton. “I am confident Eastern Connecticut dedicated and determined to bring about positive change despite dad’s Jewish identity can live on.” Symphony, Temple challenges or roadblocks.” Emanu-el, Columbia Peyton said she created her initiative both for students and This article was sponsored College, and many teachers. by and produced in partnership arts and cultural “I want teachers to know they don’t have to be perfect, to say the with the Helen Diller Family organizations. Judge right thing,” she said. “Often, they feel very unequipped in how to speak Foundation, which sponsors the to children, so they don’t say anything at all. But saying something is Diller Teen Tikkun Olam Awards, president of, and better than nothing.” annually awarding $36,000 organized,Hendel was the the Jewish first Adults shouldn’t be surprised that so many students become to Jewish teens demonstrating Community Council activists, Peyton observed. exceptional leadership in of Greater New London (now the Jewish Federation of Eastern “No one really chooses that path,” she said. “It’s just that when we repairing the world. This article Connecticut). He also served as president of the Eastern Connecticut see an issue in the community that needs addressing, we approach it was produced by JTA’s native Symphony, among other leadership roles in the community. content team. Nothing was more important to Judge Hendel than his family. with a childlike sense of motivation. You feel you can fix the world. I He leaves three children, Douglas and his wife Ellen Lautenberg of Dutch chief rabbi says ‘no need’ for Westport, Clifford and his wife Catherine Armand of Madrid, Spain, and Caroline and her husband Dr. John Wysolmerski of New Haven. churches’ mea culpa over Holocaust inaction His children, their spouses, his seven grandchildren, and his beloved By Cnaan Liphshiz, JTA great-grandson were his pride and joy. Judge Hendel shared his love Six Dutch churches issued what they called an of travel, the mountains, music, UCONN women’s basketball, Spanish acknowledgement of guilt for not having done more to croquetas and sangria, super special “Igor drinks” and Michael’s Dairy save Jews or protest their murder during the Holocaust. ice cream with each and every one of them. He and Pat took each But Dutch Chief Rabbi Binyomin Jacobs told the CIP grandchild on a special 16th birthday trip. Beginning with their 50th news site that while he “appreciates” the gesture from years for the entire family, a tradition that will never be forgotten. In church bodies, it’s also unnecessary. “Children needn’t betweenwedding anniversary,family trips tohe destinations and Pat planned such amazing as Alaska, vacations the Netherlands, every five professthe Protestant their parents’ Church guiltof the or Netherlands take responsibility and five for other it,” Costa Rica, and Ireland, Seymour and Pat enjoyed bicycle trips in Jacobs said. Connecticut, New England, and Europe, especially in France and Italy, “We failed in speaking out and in keeping silent, and traveled all over the world. in deeds and inaction, in attitude and thoughts,” said Judge Hendel also leaves seven beloved sisters- and brothers-in a statement Wednesday from the Protestant Church law, many loving nieces, nephews, grand-nieces, and nephews, and an of the Netherlands, the second-largest church in the extended beloved Hendel family cousin network. country with 1.6 million member. The statement also A small graveside ceremony was held at noon Nov. 1, 2020, at Beth said the church wishes to “acknowledge unequivocally El Cemetery, Lestertown Road, Groton. A zoom link was available to that the church prepared the soil where the seed of allow for many to virtually attend while making the service safe in anti-Semitism could grow,” Reformatorisch Dagblad person for the limited attendees. reported. Donations in Judge Hendel’s memory may be made to the Eastern That sentiment was echoed in a separate statement Connecticut Symphony, Temple Emanu-el (Waterford, CT) or to a Dutch Chief Rabbi Binyomin Jacobs at charity that is meaningful to you. Reformed Churches, Reformed Association in the Westerbork Memorial Center, May 14, 2017. A memorial video will be available at www.neilanfuneralhome. Protestantby five other Church Protestant in the Churches:Netherlands, he Reformed Christian (Cnaan Liphshiz) com, and condolences may be shared there as well. Churches in the Netherlands (Liberated), Netherlands Reformed Churches and the Restored Reformed Church. Three-quarters of Dutch The statements came ahead of the Nov. 9 anniversary of the 1938 Jewry died in the Holocaust, the Remember to send in your subscription Kristallnacht pogroms. highest death rate in occupied Western Europe. THE JEWISH LEADER, NOVEMBER 6, 2020 15 Herzliya’s renegade outdoor Ma’ariv minyan TEDDY WEINBERGER © 2020, Teddy Weinberger By Teddy Weinberger Recently, I completed a year of mourning for my father, during two indoor spaces, which each seen, but three medium-sized stars.] which I had occasion to say kaddish in many different places. My start around the time of full Follow-up question: If it is better to wait favorite is the renegade outdoor Ma’ariv Minyan in front of Herzliya’s until full darkness for the evening service, why Great Synagogue on Ben-Gurion Boulevard. I get a kick out of the as approximately 18 minutes doesn’t everyone just show up then and pray extremely public nature of this service, taking place as it does just a afterdarkness--traditionally sunset, about when defined you in one of the indoor spaces? Answer: There few steps from one of the city’s busiest thoroughfares. And I love it could be able to see three stars are people who like to pray with a quorum that prayer in this most public of spots draws no gawking onlookers in the sky. While it is considered three times a day (morning, afternoon, and and feels normal and just part of the larger society. better to wait for full darkness to evening) but who prefer to only make two The wide variety of people praying at the outdoor minyan pray the evening service (since daily trips to synagogue rather than three. In underscores for me its social and national elements. There are the evening Sh’ma requires it), practice, most synagogues are structured for Ashkenazim and Sephardim, young and old, able-bodied and physically the evening service can be said this, with the afternoon service held at the latest possible time (around challenged (e.g., people with canes, walkers, and arm braces, and earlier and one can repeat the sunset), typically followed by a few minutes of “words of Torah” and once there was a blind person with a Braille siddur), as well as those Sh’ma later. then the evening service. This indeed is what takes place in the two who are mentally challenged--both among the davenners and the [Note: If you look at any indoor prayer rooms. There are, however, enough people who prefer occasional panhandlers. Jewish calendar, you will see to skip the brief Torah lesson and get home ten minutes earlier—thus, that the Sabbath ends about 40 the renegade outdoor evening service. practice the hazzan for the outdoor service is almost always Sephardic, minutes—rather than 18--after Now that my year of mourning is over, I kind of miss the renegade as theThough Sephardim officially predominate the Great Synagogueat most of the uses country’s the Ashkenazi regular rite,prayer in sunset. The reason for this is that service. Final question: Why give it up? Why not continue to pray spaces. (Ashkenazim are under the impression that you have to be there is some rabbinic debate there even without saying kaddish? I guess I want to outdo the really religious to go to synagogue, whereas Sephardim know that concerning the size of those outdoor outdoers: when I pray the service privately it’s true that I you can also go because that’s the tradition and also that it’s fun to critical three stars. On Saturday lose out on a few elements that can only be said with a minyan, but shmooze with your buddies.) nights, out of respect and love for I better accomplish a key goal: getting home as quickly as possible-- Question: Why is there a need to pray outside the Great Synagogue the Sabbath, tradition follows the since I usually am already home when I pray alone. Nevertheless, if it’s (leaving aside the times this past year when, due to the coronavirus, opinion that the stars signaling getting dark and you are in Herzliya and you are looking for a minyan, all prayer services were held outside)? Answer: The outdoor space complete darkness should not I recommend heading toward the guys standing outside on the corner starts praying the evening service about ten minutes earlier than the be the largest and earliest to be of Sirkin and Ben Gurion. Israeli startups raised Amy Coney Barrett sworn in to replace nearly $800m in October RBG on the Supreme Court By Globes Staff The rush by Israeli startups raised nearly $800 million in October, according McConnell and Trump infuriated companies prefer to remain in stealth and sometimes do not publicize Democrats, who to Start-Up Nation Central (SNC). The figure may be more as some noted with bitterness record one-month raise of over $1.1 billion in September by Israeli McConnell’s refusal the investments they have received. October’s high figure follows the to give a hearing in a single month. in 2016 to Merrick startups, which was the first time that more than $1 billion was raised Garland, nominated 2020, according to IVC-ZAG, nearly equaling the record $8.3 billion in March of that year raisedIsraeli in 2019, tech companieswhich easily raised surpassed $8 billion the record in the $6.4 first billion nine months raised byof by President Barack Israeli tech companies in 2018, and $5.24 billion in 2017, 2020 began Obama, because McConnell said then haul of nearly $800 million raised by startups already surpasses last it was inappropriate year’sstrongly record with amount,$5.25 billion despite raised the Covid-19in the first crisis. half ofIn 2020.some instances,October’s to approve a judge in an election year. and healthcare and cybersecurity, have been boosted rather than A number of hamperedfinancing roundsby the pandemic. by tech companies that facilitate remote working liberal Jewish groups A small handful of companies raised most of the money - nearly President Donald Trump watches as Amy Coney Barrett is sworn in by Supreme joined others in Court Justice Clarence Thomas, as her husband Jesse Barrett, second from left, speaking out against last month raising $150 million and digital intelligence company Barrett, citing SimilarWeb$500 million raised - in October. $120 million. B2B Machinefintech company monitoring Tipalti company led the Augury way holds a bible during a ceremonial swearing-in event on the South Lawn of the White House, Oct. 26, 2020. (Alex Wong/Getty Images) evidence in her past raised $55 million, code risk developer apiiro raised $35 million, visual statements that she assistance company TechSee raised $30 million, product discovery By Ron Kampeas, JTA favored overturning company Syte raised $30 million, enterprise AI software company Roe v. Wade, the 1973 Supreme BlackSwan raised $28 million, SaaS co Salto Labs raised $27 million, a narrow party-line vote in the U.S. Senate, Amy Coney Barrett was Court decision upholding a and cybersecurity company Toka raised $20 million. swornHours in at after the White she was House confirmed as a Supreme on the Court evening justice. of October 26, in woman’s right to an abortion, and Barrett, a conservative Roman Catholic who replaces Ruth Bader undoing the Affordable Care Act, Ginsburg, the liberal Jewish justice who died last month, was sworn Obama’s signature legislation. in Monday evening by Justice Clarence Thomas at an event where Conservative Jewish groups President Donald Trump presided. Make checks payable to ‘JFEC’ and remit to 28 Channing St., New Barely an hour earlier, the Senate approved her in a 52-48 vote. their approval of Barrett, saying London, CT 06320. Reference CRR on memo line. Donations The sole senator to cross party lines was Susan Collins of Maine, a sheand figures,would however,protect indicatedreligious made to this fund help support the Federation’s food pantry Republican who joined Democrats in voting against Barrett. freedoms. and asssisting clients in a crisis situation brought on by COVID. Sen. Mitch McConnell of Kentucky, the Republican majority leader, You may also make a donation via the Federation’s website -- rushed through Barrett’s nomination before Nov. 3 elections, when JFEC.com. polls suggest Democrats might take the presidency and the Senate. 16 THE JEWISH LEADER, NOVEMBER 6, 2020

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