Much to Do About St. John's Pride Catherine Meade's Excellent Passion

Catherine Meade’s Excellent Passion By Randall Perry father’s ministry. She recalls fondly then off to the University of Ottawa, atherine Meade has an impres- during points in her childhood her where she graduated with her law sive resume and an equally own desire to follow in his foot- degree in 2002. Cimpressive way of making you steps, setting up the laundry hamper Sport has been a recurring thread feel at home. I first met her during her as a pulpit and practice-preaching in Catherine’s life from her earliest federal election campaign when she to the stuffed animals. By the time days, a theme that underlies and binds swung by the Wayves booth during high school came along, though, the her activities, interests and opinions. the 2007 Word on the Street book Catherine had been firmly bitten by She frequently melds her vacation and magazine festival. A few years the sport bug and hence pursued a travels with major sporting events, later I’m sitting at her dining room new dream of becoming a physical either as a spectator, volunteer or table, where she warmly greeted education teacher. She attended Mc- competitor. “When I was a kid, any me inside from a late-November Master University and graduated in sport where speed and agility were of evening chill. I’ve come to talk May, 1988 with a Bachelor of Physical value, I was there,” she says. sports, which ultimately is what Education degree. Catherine credits the 1976 Sum- the conversation revolves around, “By the time I got to [graduate] mer Olympics, held in Montreal, as but in the end we’ve touched on school, I learned there was a whole a significant: “I had Olympic eve- so many subjects—music, travel, other world called ‘sport administra- rything,” she chuckles. “I had this current events and more, as well as tion’ where you could actually com- medallion that had the maple leaf and sports—I’ll end up filing away more bine sport with the leadership bit that five rings that I wore all the time— of the interview than I eventually use. I had been involved in most of my ALL the time.” She remembers As my late grandmother might say, life,” she states. “Bring those together being in the city during the games she’s got passion, that one. and that was it—that became my area that summer and fondly recalls the Born in Truro, raised in Clark’s of specialization.” She attended the autograph book she would take with Harbour, then Toronto, among University of Alberta to study Sport her on visits to the venues. It was Gold at the 2006 Outgames in Montreal Catherine’s first influences was her Administration and Management, Continued on page 7 Much To Do About St. John’s Pride by Christian Corbet (non-legal entity), how it was being the former chairperson of the now ver the many years I’ve at- operated and how it’s just “simply not apparently defunct group, is said to tended Pride celebrations working” were at the forefront of the be a member of the straight com- across our fine nation and discussions. Some people voiced their munity. I found this both interesting O concerns quietly while others were and exciting simply because allies are duly experienced a broad cross-section of events I’ve found it exhilarat- very boisterous. I absorbed all this a very important part of our progress ing to see how varying demograph- and retained it, and wondered what toward inclusion and acceptance. ics envision, create and ultimately was really happening. As a founder So with this information I made celebrate Pride. These experiences and chairperson for Corner Brook an initial request to interview Ms. have helped me realize and appreci- Pride Inc. these rumours made me se- Gulliver Conway through one of her ate those Pride organizers who take riously consider what was taking place directors. I chose to go this route as it on the arduous task of assembling on the east coast of Newfoundland. seemed that she had a liaison acting one of the most publicly profiled To begin with, I found out that on her behalf, with whom I made events of the year, not just within the St. John’s Pride group in question contact since he was asking questions Canada but worldwide. They do so was an informal group of coordina- like, “How does Corner Brook Pride not for the whimsy or for the pure tors headed by one chairperson, not work without fighting?” After I made fun of it but for the passion of do- registered with the province as a my a first interview request I found ing it for the LGBTQA community. non-profit business. It consisted of on the provincial government website Organizers of Pride events that Ms. Gulliver Conway had also dip their hands into the I found out that the St. John’s reserved a name for a business social waters where they are under the title “LGBTQA Asso- working for the community in Pride group in question was an ciation Newfoundland Labrador St. John’s 2010 Pride Parde. Photos by Jennifer McCreath, St. John’s Pride Inc. general, where they represent informal group of coordinators Inc.” This further piqued my ves magazine was the media outlet, as a volunteer since 2008 and an or- the LGBTQA community in a interest and I wrote two more and after that I received no further ganizer since 2009 and has been “… responsible and genuine man- headed by one chairperson… e-mails, requesting an interview response. most involved in St. John’s Pride ’09 ner raising important issues with Ms. Gulliver Conway. The During this time I was also mak- and ’10. My biggest accomplishment and profiling informative topics to a group of about four people who response I received was, “Thanks ing requests to interview some of the was organizing the bonfire in 2010.” the public. This responsibility is no had come together to promote the for your interest, unfortunately there other former Pride organizers and co- Many people lauded the bonfire! He easy feat as controversial issues such LGBTQA community. I use the is no organization as of yet, I just ordinators. Jerry Arsenault, who has as the blood donation policy, bully- past tense for this group because reserved a name. There’s nothing for been involved with St. John’s Pride Continued on page 4 ing, equality and more are brought several reliable sources have advised an article right now but I’ll keep you to the open forum. From this kind me that they have disbanded as a posted.” of advocacy debates will no doubt functioning group using the name I wondered why a formal name Regular Columns ensue—a good thing, considering “St. John’s Pride.” However, there is reservation would be submitted for change happens when people come still a website indicating they exist. a provincially-registered business if there was nothing substantial that Chef’s Corner 10 • Groups & Services 12 • I Am What I together to share ideas. Legally, the name “St. John’s Pride” Amherst 5 • Kibitz and Bitch 6 • Last Word 14 Since I moved to Newfoundland now belongs to another provincially could be written into an article. and Labrador three years ago I have registered non-profit organization Surely there must be an initial busi- heard discussions about past Pride that has been formed whose founders ness concept/plan. In a third follow- events in St. John’s and I have to ad- were not part of the first Pride group. up request regarding Ms. Gulliver Conway’s operations with past Pride March Deadline: Friday, Feb. 4 (first Friday mit that, unfortunately, I haven’t yet As well, the initial St. John’s Pride of every month!) [email protected] • attended their annual Pride festival. group was removed by Facebook events, she replied and asked, “For Wayves Online: www.wayves.ca • Join us on However concerns about its loosely due to infringement on use of said which publication are you writing Facebook: Wayves Magazine based structure as an informal group legal name. Susanne Gulliver Conway, the article?” I answered that Way- 2 — January / February 2011 — Wayves Atlantic News Brendan Burke the sport for the first time, there will Health Public Health Services in be lessons before the games begin. partnership with the Nova Scotia As- (1988 – 2010) The funspiel helps raise money so sociation for Sexual Health (NSASH) Brendan led the way out of hockey’s that a few groups of curlers can held its first Sexual and Reproduc- closet, where represent Halifax in the sixth annual tion Health conference in Yarmouth nobody ever Canadian Gay Curling Champion- on November 17 and 18. Titled admits to being ships tournament in Ottawa from “Healthy Sexuality Is...” the confer- gay. March 24 – 27, 2011. ence focussed on a number of issues The CBC’s in keeping with NSASH’s mandate of Fifth Estate broadcast “The Legacy promoting healthy sexuality across of Brendan Burke” on November PEI Eucharists the lifespan for all Nova Scotians. 26 with this introduction: “Brendan The NSPEI Chapter of Integrity The first day started with the 100- Burke was a remarkable young man. Canada will hold monthly Eucharists plus participants examining their own Growing up in a hockey family, with on January 16 and February 20 at 4:00 values and judgments about sexuality. a sports icon as a father, he was p.m. at the Cathedral Church of All In the afternoon Dr. Jacqueline Gaha- probably destined to make his mark Loose Ends, Tight Curling Saints, 1330 Martello St. gan, Dalhousie School of Health and The Rev. Randy Townsend will in hockey. And he did, but in a way Halifax’s GLBT community curling lounge at the Mayflower Curling Club, Human Performance, gave a keynote preside and Rev. Canon Rod Gillis few could have predicted. He decided league, Loose Ends, together with located at 3000 Monaghan Drive, address about a number of research will be homilist at the January gather- to tell the world he was gay—a cou- its supporting straight allies, has behind the Pizza Hut on Young St. in studies she has been supervising in ing, and Rev. Cathy Simpson will pre- rageous move in a sport where no now gone through half of its second Halifax’s North End. The complete our region, including a study regard- side and Rev. Kees Zwanenburg will player, current or former, has ever season and the group has swelled to season schedule is available at www. ing gender and sexual health. be homilist in February. All friends of come out. Brendan Burke’s life was an amazing 80 members. This group looseends.ca/schedule.html. Games Thursday began with Dr. Don the GLBT community are welcomed. tragically cut short, but his legacy started small in 2006, with eight gays take place both at 5:30 and 7:30 p.m. Langille, Dalhousie School of Epi- Refreshments and conversation fol- lives on.” and lesbians creating two teams, play- The next annual East Coast “Pink demiology, presenting findings of his lowing. Contact nspeiintegrity@ Watch the complete broadcast ing in the Mayflower Curling Club’s Broom” will be held on March 12, study of adolescent sexual health in gmail.com. now at www.cbc.ca/fifth. Friday night recreation league. But 2011. It will be the third year for the Nova Scotia. it was during the 2009-2010 season event, adopted from the Vancouver’s Conference delegates then attend- LGBT Gambling where the league started with 48 curl- PAC-RIM GLBT curling league. The Sexual Congress ed three different breakout sessions ers (12 teams) taking six sheets of ice Pink Broom is a social afternoon/ which included topics of heterosex- Study for regular recreational curling. evening event, with curling and a in Yarmouth ism in the classroom, GLBTTIQQ To date, little research has been con- Spectators are always welcome to dance party at the Mayflower Curling By Angus Campbell resources, hyper-sexualization, cyber- ducted on gambling habits and atti- come watch games in the licensed Club. And for those who want to try The Yarmouth Centre for Sexual tudes within Nova Scotia’s Rainbow Health (YCSH) and the Southwest Continued next page Community. Thanks to a grant from the Nova Scotia Gaming Founda- tion (NSGF), OUT!Alive will work towards a better understanding of the gambling behaviours within the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) community in Nova Scotia. OUT!Alive is an alliance of citizens concerned about drug, alcohol, tobacco, and gambling issues within the Rainbow Community. The alliance will use the $10,000.00 NSGF grant to conduct online and in-person surveys at various Pride events in 2011. “Understanding the needs and experiences of those within the community is a crucial step towards ensur- ing adequate treatment and support options are available,” says Patrick Daigle, clinical therapist and volunteer with OUT!Alive. The report will be available to the public in late 2011. Each year the NSGF awards grants to community organizations to support projects aimed at reduc- ing or learning more about gambling harms in Nova Scotia. The grant to OUT!Alive is one of five Community Project grants the NSGF awarded in 2010-2011, totalling $124,591.00. The Nova Scotia Gaming Founda- tion is a not-for-profit, arm’s-length government organization that encourages and supports an independent response to problem gambling in Nova Scotia. This is accomplished, in part, through funding to community groups and researchers to help address problem gambling. Wayves Goes “Strait” The Eastern County Regional Library system has had numerous distribution points for Wayves for at least a year. The following public libraries are places where the copies can be picked up: Canso Library • Cyril Ward Memorial Library (Guysborough) • Sherbrooke Library • Mulgrave Library • Port Hawkesbury Library • Petit de Grat Library • Drs. Coady & Tompkins Memorial Library (Mar- garee Forks.) Wayves — January / February 2011 — 3 AIDS New Brunswick by Eugene Campbell Government House. The Lieuten- this year, the Red Tie Affair will take adding, “We really want to If everything falls into place and ant Governor, the Honourable place at the new Fredericton Conven- work with a lot of local or- goes as planned, it promises to be Graydon Nicholas, is our Hon- tion Centre. This, he said, will give ganisations and companies. a very busy next few months for orary Patron.” The invitation- people their first chance to check out The more sponsors we can the Fredericton-based AIDS New only event invites policy makers the newly-constructed building. The get, regardless of the value Brunswick. Between now and next to make presentations. “Hopefully, event will be held in the Ballroom. of the sponsorship, the more June, the organization will run AIDS we will get all the Members of the Scott said that this year’s event support we will get. All of NB Red Tie Affair on Saturday, Legislative Assembly to wear red promises to be a lavish affair, “includ- this is creating a more sup- February 26, 2011; and the AIDS ribbons on that day.” ing wine, dinner and dessert.” He portive environment for NB 25th Anniversary celebrations, Scott, who has been Executive said that the host for the gathering people living with HIV/ planned for June, 2011. Director for the past year, said that will be Steve Patterson, a well-known AIDS.” He said that anyone Nick Scott, Executive Director last year, “We gave out safe-sex comedian, the host of The Debaters wishing to become a spon- of the local AIDS NB office, located kits downtown.” He said that they on CBC radio, and a regular on Just sor, merely get in touch with at 65 Brunswick St., Fredericton, in might do the same thing this year. for Laughs. He added that Patterson [email protected]. “You can the Victoria Health Centre, said that “A couple of our volunteers will will also be emceeing an anti-poverty also get additional informa- although not much is being done for be dressed up. One of them will dinner in Ontario this year. tion on the event here.” the 25th anniversary celebration yet, be Captain Condom,” he added. Well-known Fredericton rock Scott said that the NB as it is several months away, he did As for the Red Tie Affair goes, group, “Pretty in Pink,” will be AIDS office is always look- say that it would coincide with the the Director said that this is the providing the entertainment for the ing for volunteers. “We have group’s Annual General Meeting, fourth year for the event. “It be- dance which follows the meal. “Tick- very few volunteers right planned for June. gan in 2006, and the purpose is to ets for the Red Tie Affair are $125,” now,” he said. “We need vol- As far as World AIDS Day, com- raise funds to pay for the annual said Scott. “That covers everything.” unteers. If you’re interested ing up on December 1, Scott said, People Living with HIV/AIDS The Director said that currently in getting involved, contact aidsnb. Nick Scott. Photo by Eugene Campbell “Every year, we have a breakfast at forum and gathering.” He said that his office is looking for sponsors, com, or call us at (506) 459-7518.”

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DJ PTO a.m. on New Year’s Eve with $10.00 care, how to make teaching and learn- The dance floor is large and in- (Patt the Owner) is in the booth most cover, on a first-come, first-in basis. ing sexual health fun, creating safer cludes an elevated stage area, a danc- Saturdays, while DJ Gary B and DJ Photo by Erin Richard spaces for women, mental health and ing pole and large mirrors. Swiss have also spun tunes. The cover addiction services, and more. Signage states that the bar is an “We are so happy with the way the “alternative” bar, and the Pride flag conference came together, especially colors are also displayed. The bar has Wayves with the number of local people been filled to capacity a few times Wayves exists to inform Atlantic Canadian lesbians, gay men, bisexuals who made it a priority to participate, on Saturday nights; the patrons are and transgender people of activities in their communities, to promote and also the number of men who a diverse crowd covering various age are getting involved with sexual and groups, many of whom are straight, those activities and to support their aims and objectives. reproductive health,” said Michele but gay, bisexual and lesbian folks are Wayves is an independent publication, published every month except Archibald-Hattie, YCSH Executive certainly welcomed. February by a non-profit collective. 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St. John’s Pride, continued opinions known about the last Pride great things in the weeks, months, know it is capable of being. in St. John’s. It was clear that Jenn, and years ahead. Q. Why did your official St. John’s respond to questions from the com- among so many others, wished for a Q. Pride in St. John’s has received Pride group legally register with the munity about their intentions. They legal organization that would provide mixed public reviews in the past provincial government? need to clarify what the ‘LGBTQA transparency and accountability to years. Tell me the positive events A. We have seen Pride entities in Association Newfoundland and the community at large. Ms. Mc- and or concerns for Pride in St. other cities (such as Corner Brook) Labrador Inc.’ will do. What is their Creath, an empowered transgendered John’s past? benefit from doing so… complete mandate? Where will they operate? person, has been an impassioned A. The LGBTQA community with structured and formalized frame- Is it a provincial organization as the voice for the LGBTQA community is extremely diverse, and it would work, policies and procedures. This name implies, or will it focus its work for several years now and had no be impossible to come up with an ensures that there will always be a in the St. John’s area alone?” These qualms about being interviewed. entire week of pride activities that strong Pride... with transparency, are all valid questions that perhaps Here were her answers to my ques- will ensure that 100% of the people accountability, and inclusiveness to Susanne Gulliver Conway being interviewed have yet to be worked out. tions (which, incidentally, I planned are 100% satisfied. From an organi- all of the citizens and businesses of by Carolyn Stokes of NTV News, Jason Wells, a gay fourth year to pose to Ms. Gulliver Conway): zational perspective, it is encouraging this city.… following Pride flag raising ceremony, at St. BFA student studying at Memorial Q. When did you first become in- to see that Pride parade attendee Q. What are your goals, objective John’s City Hall. University who also acts in the capac- volved in Pride in St. John’s, and why? numbers have consistently grown and mandates with this new associa- added, “Pride has always been a very ity as Director of the Queer Straight A. After attending 2008 pride from year to year. Not only does tion? positive time in St. John’s. We have Alliance, a group registered with events in the city, I was concerned there appear to be growth in terms of A. The mandate, as stipulated had education forums, park picnics, the Grenfell Student Union, stated, LGBTQA people feeling comfort- in Articles of Incorporation can be blood drives, drag races, youth bowl- “People need to be able to commu- “If there is rift or able coming out publicly, but there viewed at www.stjohnspride.org. ing.” Overall, he seemed very pleased nicate so people in our community tension this is definitely appears to also be growth in terms Q. There is speculation a new with St. John’s Pride’s past. know what is going on. If there is of the amount of allies who want to “LGBTQA Association Newfound- I never received any other re- rift or tension this is definitely not a not a good thing for be involved publicly… it is discour- land and Labrador Inc.” may act as sponses from other individuals in good thing for the community.” Julie aging to look at the numbers… if the umbrella for Pride and other Ms. Gulliver Conway’s Pride group. Crouse commented, “It’s up to that the community.” there are 200,000 people in St. John’s, LGBTQA organizations and events Julie Crouse, a strong advocate in group as to what they name their or- that there seemed to be a shortage then there are likely 20,000 who are across our province. Is there any our community said, quite simply, ganization; however it is entirely up to of events and information about LGBTQA… a very small percent- legitimacy to this? “It is their right to refuse requests.” the community and other groups as to the trans community. There also age of these folks attended even the A. It is public knowledge that a Wayves looks forward to publishing whether they are interested in being seemed to be a serious lack of trans most recent Pride. The challenge Name Reservation request for “LG- more information if or when we do a part of an umbrella organization. presence at Pride. I decided to get ahead is to find a way to combat the BTQA Association Newfoundland hear back. It’s shitty, but there’s not much you involved because I wanted to help indifferent and the indecisive and Labrador Inc.” has recently been The thought of an organization can do in terms of a name, although facilitate and create a safe place for bring everyone together to make the published. Whether this name res- being created that could compete I have to say it sounds a little shifty, transpeople and their allies to raise LGBTQA community as strong as i Continued next page with St. John’s Pride is concerning since it’s not part of a provincial education, awareness, and support because having two Pride groups in movement to organize this type of for trans issues, as well as help create the city seems unnecessary. It may group. I would hope that the group a social environment for transpeople also make the public think that the would be involving people from the and their allies to integrate with the LGBTQA community is divided. LGBTQA community in setting up rest of the LGBTQA community. The thought of a possible “LG- this organization, as well as the work Q. When will you organize your BTQA Association Newfoundland that they are planning to do, in order first Pride in St. John’s and what is and Labrador Inc.” as an umbrella to better things for the LGBTQA your biggest accomplishment to date? organization trying to direct other folks in our province.” A. In terms of the greatest ac- non-profit organizations is perplex- I first met Jenn McCreath, founder complishment by St. John’s Pride ing. When I interviewed “Janice” and chairperson of St. John’s Pride Inc., well, this company is brand new, (an ally in the community) about Inc., in person when she visited Cor- and is only in the planning stages at this179-7001 proposed Wayves organization 1_6_K her 2/9/07 main ner 12:15 Brook PM Pride Page in September,3 2010. the moment. 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St. John’s Pride, continued ervation will turn into a corporate created for the public, all in all there help organize and promote events whole community towards the goal advocate for the LGBTQA commu- entity, remains to be seen. I have not was a Pride in 2010 in St. John’s and like Pride throughout the province. I of having a fair and equal society to nity. After all, this is not about build- personally been contacted by anybody it was successful. believe this is a new era for LGBTQA live and participate in. Those who ing an empire or social gratification, claiming to represent said would-be It seems that just after St. John’s groups in NL and I’m excited to be believe in this vision need to be able it’s about advocating and promoting organization…. Pride in July there were immediate living here and able to be a part of it.” to move past their differences and community. Working together will Q. Will you hold a St. John’s Pride questions asked by several people It is important to note that the work together.” ensure the LGBTQA community’s next year? and groups: “Why is St. John’s Pride registered group (St. John’s Pride) has Julie Crouse added “I would hope achievement of its goals, attaining A. Yes there’s definitely going to so politically charged? Where is the made several requests for meetings to that Jenn and Susanne are able to greater levels of success and inclu- be a Pride Week in 2011. happiness?” speak with and unite with the former make that connection. All groups sion for all. We must act as outstand- Q. What are your future plans? Enter St. John’s Pride Inc., a Pride group to settle differences and when first starting out can have growing ambassadors for our community. A. Now that the foundation has group of advocates from ing pains and I would like to Pride is a special creation, a time been laid it is time to build the body. the LGBTQA community It seems that just after St. John’s give both groups the benefit where we in the LGBTQA com- Corporate policies and procedures who decided that because of the doubt that they will munity should unite to generate a will need to be created, and op- they were not getting many Pride in July there were immediate be able to work together to collective voice that speaks to the erational programs and projects will answers and that their voices questions asked by several people better the situation for the masses. While some of the voices in need to be launched. Pride is sup- were not being heard that they LGBTQA in Newfound- Pride may be political and some may posed to be for everyone, and I want would formalize St. John’s and groups: “Why is St. John’s land and Labrador.” represent sheer fun, the objective to do what I can to combat the indif- Pride, a provincially regis- I, for one, see the new St. must be to come together as a uni- ferent and indecisive and help build a tered legal non-profit entity Pride so politically charged? John’s Pride to be energetic, fied body to celebrate our diversity, strong LGBTQA community here in complete with a formal board Where is the happiness?” tactful and munificent in to let the world know that we are a this city. With all the above individu- of directors and by-laws. their willingness to work contributing community, that we are als and groups of people asking for There is something to be said for to bond the talents of everyone inter- with the previous Pride group. I hope quite simply PROUD. “transparency” and “accountability” having a formal structure for such ested in supporting the new St. John’s that said Pride crew comes on board For more information please in an organization that is going to a large-scale community event. It’s a Pride, regardless of past issues. All so that we don’t lose their individual visit: www.stjohnspride.org (official represent them… in a public role one business, after all, and no one can be requests have gone unanswered. The talents, experience and dedication. site) or www.stjohnspride.ca (non- should act in a manner befitting such faulted for wanting transparency and resounding question still is, “Why the Not one of us is, or can be, the sole official site) an important position because after accountability especially if it is reg- silence?” all they are representing the people istered as a non-profit organization. “Janice” commented, “I think of our community. For many people What is also important to bear in this is disappointing because both there are a lot of questions left unan- mind is the simple fact that as a legal organizations are promoting Pride swered as to why things were [being] incorporation there also exists level and equality. It is great that she (Jenn) operated as they were. of expected professionalism. People tried to reach out and cooperate be- This year the largest turnout for need to act responsibly, reasonably cause we have to work together as a St. John’s Pride was reported to and inclusively. Julie Crouse added, date and it has been suggested that “I’m excited that Jenn has taken the upwards of 600 people were in at- lead to develop this committee, and tendance with a week-long series of I hope that the new LGBTQA Asso- events. As there will always be events ciation Newfoundland and Labrador of varying popularity in anything Inc. will want to work with Jenn to

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If discretion isn’t your get a criminal record check done for a job I was where a tiny little room housed the ink and paper For those of you who may not thing, throw caution to the wind and applying for. Well, you know me; I’ve never been etc. The actual fingerprinting was rather boring so know what a bathhouse is, it’s basi- hang out in the sling. It’s hung from involved in anything illicit—at least not since they I had plenty of time to run my eyes over the pul- cally a private club for men to go and the ceiling with chains, so everyone decriminalized homosexuality—so I figured this chritudinous specimen who was gently pressing my relax… or whatever. downstairs can hear when something will be a snap. Well, it turns out that someone with fingers onto the ink pad while I imagined pressing If you already know what I’m talk- is going on. There are portholes, so a criminal record has exactly the same birth date my fingers onto his firm body. Afterwards, there was ing about, or if you people who just as I do, so I have to have my fingerprints taken to a curiously intimate moment when we both ended have no desire to Don’t bullshit the want to watch the prove that I am not the criminal. In other words, up sharing the sink in the bathroom across the hall know what I’m talk- goings on without I have to prove that I am innocent of any crime. washing the ink off our hands. In my fantasy, I kicked ing about, feel free staff. We know participating are So much for “innocent until proven guilty.” Even the door shut and in one fluid movement unbuckled to skip this story. what you’re doing able to do so. Per- though the government must have a million pieces his regulation pants. The reality was much less excit- If, however, you’re verts. of information on me—tax returns, driver’s license, ing. We dried our hands, finished up the paper work kind of curious or and we don’t care. Tip 4: A whis- electoral lists, etc.—the only way that is accepted and then he escorted me back to the main office. want a good laugh, read on. tle means “Follow me.” If all else to show that I have a clear criminal record is to be He gave me a brief smile and I fought the urge to The first thing that happens when fails, there’s a dark room upstairs, so fingerprinted. make the phone sign with my hand and say, Call you enter is you get a towel and a key just hang out there and eventually So, grumbling under my breath, I make my way me. As I was paying the exorbitant processing fees I to your room or locker. To ensure we something will come along. As long to the local constabulary where the woman behind wondered how long I had been humming The Man get them back, we take your ID. as you’re safe, you can’t regret what the window informs me that there is no one there Who Got Away. Tip 1: Don’t leave with the room you can’t see. key. The staff will want to chase you When your time has run out and at the moment who can take my fingerprints. So I I’ve always had a very rich fantasy life, Tom. As down just as much as you will want you’ve had your fun, it’s time to pack come back the next day and I’m told that there is a small child I once felt a compelling need to dress them calling your house to get it back. your stuff up and go. But there’s an officer who will fingerprint me but he is taking up like a wizard. No, not for Hallowe’en or a dress Bathhouse fashion dictates that something important to do before a statement at the moment. At this point, a woman up party, just a robe that I could put on and drift the towels must be worn in the you leave. that I know slightly comes into the waiting room. about in a wizardly fashion through the house and lounge, but once you’re out back, any- Tip 5: Tip. It’s not mandatory, but I realize that the police station is like the doctor’s yard. My mother, who must have wondered, and thing goes. In the back area you can the people who work there deal with office in that the normal greeting of “Hi. What not for the first time, about the motives of the elves check out the different rooms. The a lot of gross stuff so you can have brings you here?” is not appropriate. Because of the who had dropped off this fey changeling into her first stop is most often the hot tub. fun. Some people make a mess when inherent awkwardness of the situation and because care, obliged my wish by dying an old bedspread a Tip 2: Hang out in the hot tub they’re doing their thing (you know I had gotten a quick glimpse of the semi-scowling lovely dark green and allowing me to use her liquid until you see something you like. The who you are). If someone is cleaning officer who was on duty, I decided I would come embroidery to create gold and silver astrological hot tub can be compared to your up after your ass, you should show back the following day. The third time was indeed signs and other arcane sigils all over it. I must have umbrella at the beach. Eventually them some love, too. the charm since I was greeted at the window looked rather odd, although I like to think maybe you’ll come back and meet up with At this point, you may be asking: between the waiting room and the official police also rather adorable in a young child kind of way. people and swap stories about what “Why is this bathhouse only available space by a tall, handsome officer who enquired very I continue to meander along the line between you did all day. for men?” For the answer to this I’ll politely how he could help me. This is where I got fantasy and truth I guess. Certain truths I think are A sign on the mirror reads: “No direct you to Marina Adeshade’s Eco- a bit stuck between the reality and fantasy part of important and must be declared. Truths like: “Mum, sex in the tub!” Please respect that. nomics of Sex and Love class. If you my brain, Tom. Suddenly, all I could think of were I’m gay.” or “I love you.” or “Nicola, no one on Have you ever seen a tub that two really can’t wait that long, Seadogs inappropriate things to say. I was trying so hard not this planet looks good in a burnt orange dress.” but (or more) men have defiled? I have. does open exclusively to women a to make sexual puns on the words “mounted police” fantasies and dreams can lead us to finding our truth. Don’t do it! few times a year. Play safe! and “Mountie,” that I stood there mute for what Happy 2011, Tom. There’s also a sauna. You can get your freak on in there, but don’t piss seemed like a quarter of an hour but was in reality Love ya! on the rocks. If watersports are your probably only a few seconds. Then I squeaked out thing, take it somewhere it won’t an incoherent account of why I needed my prints evaporate instantaneously—maybe taken. Realizing that I was waggling my fingers at your place. him like a ten-year-old, I made an effort to behave Plenty of customers tell me they like an adult, cleared my throat to get rid of the just come to use the hot tub and sauna squeak, and put down my hands. and to relax. I’ve never taken a stats class, but those numbers don’t add up. Tip 3: Don’t bullshit the staff. We know what you’re doing and we don’t care. Just leave us out of it. For that N Desig NN Fly N

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later in life, like me), are, it’s extremely liberating,” she Olympic Team for the 2012 games: “I these kinds of leagues emphasizes. would hope that having an openly gay and events allow the Catherine is already working on Chef de Mission would [encourage] freedom to participate her next round of volunteer goals. current athletes [going into the 2012 in sport at whatever She’s applied to be a volunteer at the games] to be themselves.” level they happen to 2012 Summer Olympics in London, We agree the landscape is defi- be, from raw beginner England, and this summer her next nitely improving for gays and lesbians to polished. Catherine sporting destination is Germany for in sport everywhere. Sometime in the recalls her trip to the the FIFA Women’s World Cup. She’s next year I need to dig out my own Asia Pacific Outgames especially encouraged about the Lon- 1976 Olympic medallion and in 2012 in Melbourne in 2008 don games, which is specifically look- watch the televised coverage. With and watching a volley- ing for LGBT volunteers. She’s also any luck CBC will catch a shot of ball game between two delighted that Canadian Olympian Catherine Meade busily applying her seemingly mismatched Mark Tewksbury has been named passion, and hopefully she’ll wave to teams: a gay men’s team Chef de Mission for the Canadian her fans back home. where the players were buff and muscular and a lesbian women’s team who were not so well-built. In the end, the women ended up slaughtering the men; however, the obvious point was the enjoyment and freedom of Meade and Martina Navratilova at the 2006 World Outgames in Montreal. the competition. fun to walk around the sites, but she men and women in sport, but here “When there’s an opportunity to dreamt of actual competition. She did she does… for gay men (especially participate at whatever level when end up at the 1996 Olympics not as those who come to the sporting table you have the freedom to be who you a competitor but as a minor official, sitting close enough to the track so as to almost reach out and touch it. “That will do, as the next best thing, to actually competing.” Catherine competed at the World Outgames in Montreal in 2006 and is presently volunteering with the 2011 Canada Winter Games Host Society. We talk about youth athleticism in Canada and I ask how things are for young gay and lesbian athletes in today’s world as opposed to 15 or 20 years ago. “We’ve seen such an increase in the acceptance of gays and lesbians in so many different spheres; it’s been encouraging to see. That being said, sport is one of those areas that we’ve not seen this play out,” she indicates. “One of the things I do, when I speak about homophobia in sport, I ask both kids and adults to name ten out lesbian professional athletes, and they never can.” She can put money on it… sometimes they’ll say Martina Navratilova, but she’s retired, and that’s only one name. She always keeps the money because they’ll not get to ten. Then she asks them to name one out gay male professional athlete, and the money is still safe. Catherine agrees that guidance of young athletes starts early, at the level of the coach, who has the rare opportunity to set standards for the team: “It’s about being clear about what’s accepted and what’s not accepted, and what kind of environment you’re going to create for the team.” The team may be all about having fun, but negative comments about race, gender, ability or sexual orientation need to be recognized and the behaviour shut down when it happens. This is important not only for the kids who are different, but for all kids—for when the boundaries of acceptable behaviour are defined and maintained, this is when change occurs. The importance of gay and lesbian-focussed recreational sport leagues and large collective events such as the Gay Games and the Outgames can- not be understated. “The gay and lesbian sport movement speaks to the still-necessary forum for gays and lesbians to be themselves and participate in sport,” she says. She tends not to make distinctions between 8 — January / February 2011 — Wayves

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Gender Expressions Atlantic: Support for every Wednesday (8:30pm sharp) at Trian- Committee. email: events@portcityrainbow- group/blt-womynofhalifax/ (Every second transgendered individuals ranging from gles Bar, corner of St. George and Archibald. email: [email protected], meets Sunday evening 6pm - 7:30pm ) at Dalhousie pride.com web: www.portcityrainbowpride. every Monday (evening 7:00pm - 8:00pm) Crossdressers to Transexuals. email: gen- PFLAG: Supporting all people with ques- com Women’s Centre 6286 South Street (Beside [email protected] (No sched- at by phone. No long distance charges. For Dalplex Driveway) Hope to see you at the tions or concerns about sexual orientation Saint John LGBTQ Lending Library: over 300 more info call 425-4882 ext 228 or 1-800- uled meeting. Occasional social events, by and gender identity issues. (506) 869-8191 next meeting! invitation only.) fiction and non-fiction titles. 634-8288 email: 566-2437 ext 228 or e-mail. email: [email protected] web: [email protected] (open Monday DalOUT: DalOUT is the award-winning Healing Our Nations: Healing Our Na- www.pflagcanada.ca/moncton.html, meets SUNS GLB Constituency Committee: 494- LGBTQ society at Dalhousie University. through Friday, 9 AM to noon.) at the office 6654 at c/o the Students’ Union of NS tions is an Aboriginal HIV/AIDS service 3rd Monday (Occassionally on the 2nd of Centenary Queen Square United Church We pride ourselves on hosting fun, engag- organization that serves the Atlantic region. Monday — please call) at 7:30-9:30pm, at 215 Wentworth Street. The Rainbow - Atlantic Awareness Society: ing and educational events for the entire 1.800.565.4255 email: director@access- University of Moncton, Adrien-J.-Cormier email: [email protected] Halifax community. email: [email protected] The UNBSJ Q-Collective: A social and sup- wave.ca web: www.hon93.ca (Training of- Bldg., Room 302 Venus Envy Bursary Society: An annual web: www.dalout.ca, meets 2nd Thursday, fered on request at no charge for Aboriginal port organisation for UNBSJ students, staff and 4th Thursday (from 6 p.m. until 7 p.m.) at River of Pride-riviere de fierte INC. of Greater and faculty. 506-648-5737 email: QCollect@ award open to all women studying in NS. peoples and/or organizations.) at 15 Alder- Moncton: The organization meets regularly, web: www.venusenvy.ca/halifax the Dalhousie Student Union Building (6136 ney Dr., Suite 3, Dartmouth, NS. B2Y2N2 UNBSJ.ca web: www.unbsj.ca/clubs/qcollec- University Ave., Room 321) to discuss upcoming events and activities, tive (The UNBSJ Q-Collective is interested Maritime Transgender Workplace Solutions everyone is welcome to attend. check out in hearing from other university LGBTQ or- Amherst Frontrunners Halifax: Running/walking club. Project: Transgender Issues Workshops and time / location posted on the website. Media 422-7579 email: Bruce.Greenfield@dal. ganisations and would like to possibly meet Sexual Health Centre Cumberland County: information resource. email: denisesined@ and general inquiries, including registration or collaborate.) at Various locations; event ca web: www.frontrunners.org/clubs/index. ns.sympatico.ca web: www3.ns.sympatico. of volunteers and parade particpation, can Open and inclusive services: information, php?club=Halifax, meets every Saturday, particulars will be emailed to anyone who education, workshops, free condoms. 667- ca/winpapernews (No meetings, Workshops be made from the website or by email. registers with the UNBSJ Q-Collective and/ and every Tuesday, and every Thursday by arrangements, Information source when email: [email protected] web: 7500 email: [email protected] web: (Sat: 9:30am, Tue: 6:00 pm, Thu: 6:00pm ) or who gets the UNBSJ weekly “E News”. cumberlandcounty.cfsh.info (9 - 5 drop-in requested. Newsletter Odds & Sods bi- www.fiertemonctonpride.ca (See webpage Past events include the annual Rainbow at Main gates of the Halifax Public Gardens, weekly) for schedule.) or appt) at 11 Elmwood Drive. Confidential, corner of Spring Garden Road and South Peace March, guest speakers, movie nights, hassle-free. Free condoms. Mr Atlantic Canada Leather Society: Dedi- Safe Spaces Moncton Region: Education on participation in Maritime Pride Parades, Sup- Park Street. cated to developing gay leather communi- how to create safe environments for GLBT- porters of PFLAG Canada’s “Communities The Cumberland Pride Society: for: gay, les- GAY, LESBIAN & BISEXUAL YOUTH ties in the Atlantic region. email: waydo7@ TQQ youth. 859-9616 Encourage Campaign” and “Champions bian, bisexual, transgender and transsexual GROUP AT Q.E.H.: Jeanie Buffet, Counsel- hotmail.com Transgendered Peer Support Group : Against Homophobia”. individuals. 660-5143 email: cumberland- lor, at 421-6797 Open to all M2F, F2M, Andro and trans- [email protected] web: cumberland-pride. Names Project (AIDS Memorial Quilt): sytes.net, meets 3rd Monday (7-9 PM) Get Out, Halifax!: Recreation activities (team panels - helping create, and lending. 902- supporters from across Atlantic Canada. Woodstock activities, cycling, running, rowing - you 454-5158 email: [email protected]. email: [email protected] name it) for metro & beyond!. web: www. ca web: www.quilt.ca (Call if interested in Woodstock GLBT Youth Advocate and Antigonish getouthalifax.ca at Visit and get on the email UN sur DIX - l’Association des étudiant.e.s Family OutReach: Books, movies, advice, volunteering or making a panel) at 3544 GLB de l’Université de Moncton: Vise à édu- Rainbow Warriors: Rainbow Warriors is a list for more info. Acadia St. Halifax, NS B3K 3P2 directions, contacts, and support etc. for quer, à sensibiliser et à offrir des ressources the family. 328-4868 email: richardb@ youth-run support group for LGBTQ youth Girl-ish Productions: Girl-ish puts on hot Narcotics Anonymous: a fellowship of re- dans la langue française. email: unsurdix@ nbnet.nb.ca and allies in Antigonish. We hold social and heavy bi-monthly-ish dance parties covering drug addicts who meet regularly to umoncton.ca web: www.umoncton.ca/un- events such as picnics and game nights, for queer-ish folks and their friends. email: help each other stay clean. 1-800-205-8402 surdix/ (Visitez le site Web ou envoyez un Newfoundland & have educational discussions around top- [email protected] web: www. web: centralnovaarea.ca at Call the phone courriel pour en apprendre davantage au ics such as stereotypes/assumptions and girlish.ca number or visit the web page for meeting sujet du travail que nous accomplissons. ) Lab (709) transsexuality, and raise awareness in the Hal-Gal Mailing List: Low-traffic Yahoo group times and places. Frontrunners Newfoundland and Labrador: surrounding community by participating providing events and information for queer Project E: Presentation for youth, on gender Petit-Rocher Running/walking club. 722-5791 or 753- in functions such as the Highland Games women in the Halifax area. email: hal-gal@ expression, myth busters, proper terminol- (Bathurst area) 9529 email: tonybrathwaite@bellaliant. Parade and the Farmers’ Market. While our yahoogroups.com web: groups.yahoo.com/ ogy and other facts. web: www.freewebs. net,[email protected] (meeting group is youth-focused everyone is regard- group/hal-gal/ (Join the list to keep in touch com/xprojecte/ at available via web page Gais.es Nor Gays Inc. (GNG): A bilingual times can be flexible to accommodate new less of age, and gender identity or sexual or post your events.) volunteer association serving gay men, runners.) orientation! Find our group on Facebook Wayves Magazine: Atlantic Canada’s lesbians and bisexuals of northern New “Rainbow Warriors - AAHA!”. email: an- Halifax Sexual Health Centre: Annonymous queer news and lifestyle magazine!. email: Brunswick. email: [email protected] web: St. John’s [email protected], meets HIV testing, open and inclusive sexual health [email protected] web: wayves.ca www.gngnb.ca (Dances are held at GNG every Monday (3:00-5:00pm) at The Antigo- clinical services, education and workshops. (Deadline: the first Friday of every month; club every Saturday night. See www.gngnb. AIDS Committee of Newfoundland & Lab- nish Women’s Resource Centre, located in 455-9656 web: www.HalifaxSexualHealth.ca Editorial meeting: the Monday following that; ca for a list of upcoming events.) at 702 rador: HIV/AIDS education and support for the Kirk Building at 219 Main Street, Suite Imperial and Sovereign Court of Atlantic layout the Sunday following that. Email us to rue Principale, Petit-Rocher NB. Look for male/female/transgendered, all ages, New- 204 (above Tim Hortons). Nova Society: Fundraising. 902-449-7612 be put on our notification list!) rainbow flag and/or door with pink triangle foundland and Labrador 579-8656 email: X-Pride: social & support group at X. 867- web: www.imperialcourtns.com, meets at rear of parking lot. [email protected] web: www.acnl.net 5007 web: www.stfx.ca/people/xpride 1st Sunday, and 2nd Sunday (Executive New Brunswick Gay Urban Youth Zone Project: designed Meetings Are Currently Held Every Second (506) Sackville NB/ to increase HIV/AIDS, Hepatitis C, and STI Bridgewater Sunday) at Meeting Locations Vary Amherst NS knowledge and awareness 579-8656 (ext. Integrity: Integrity is an organization of GLBT Fredericton 28) web: www.acnl.net at Tommy Sexton Sexual Health Centre for Lunenburg County: Anglicans and their friends, to encourage Catalyst: Catalyst, Mount Allison’s Queer- Centre 47 Janeway Place Pleasantville, Confidential info, education&support for eve- Christian gay men and lesbians in their AIDS New Brunswick / SIDA Nouveau- Straight Alliance, provides support & in- across from the old Janeway Hospital AIDS ryone. Safer sex supplies, library, pamphlets, spiritual life; to support the Church in its Brunswick: committed to facilitating com- formation for all Mt. A students, staff, and Committee of Newfoundland and Labrador workshops. 527-2868 email: LunCo@NS- commitment to seek and serve Christ in all munity-based responses to the issues of faculty through meetings, seminars, and LBGT-MUN Resource Centre: LBGT-MUN is SexualHealth.ca web: www.theSHaC.org people; and to reach out to the GLBT com- HIV/AIDS. Needle exchange located in social events. Everyone is welcome. email: (Hours vary. Open by appointment or by munity in Christian love and service. (902) office at 65 Brunswick Street Fred. E3B an information/resource, service, and peer [email protected] web: www.mta.ca/clubs/ support centre staffed by trained volunteers!. chance. Please call ahead. ) at 4 Hillcrest 425-8383 web: www.integritycanada.org, 1G5. 459-7518 email: jennifer@aidsnb. catalyst/ (Catalyst meets approximately Street Unit 8, Bridgewater. (On the corner meets 3rd Sunday (4:00pm) at All Saints com web: www.aidsnb.com (Office Hours: 737-7619 email: [email protected] (Open every week from Sept-Dec and Jan-April. Monday-Friday 9-4. Biweekly meetings for of Dufferin and Hillcrest Streets). Closed Cathedral Monday to Friday, 8:30AM to 12:30PM and For meeting info contact the president at during summers. 1:30PM to 4:30PM) members and volunteers. ) at Smallwood/ Koinonia Ecumenical Church: Meaning [email protected] or the Students’ Adminis- University Center, UC-6022. Building located South Shore Pride Social Club: for 19 & ‘community’. Koinonia is an ecumenical faith Fredericton Lesbians and Gays: Email trative Council at [email protected].) on Prince Phillip Drive. Call us! Get involved! older. 530-5986 email: info@southshore- community offering open membership, equal listserv of events/news in the Fredericton for PFLAG: Support and education for GLBT- pride.ca web: www.southshorepride.ca, marriage, practicing bible, church, religious gblt men and women. email: [email protected] LBGTQ Youth Group: A monthly gathering T2IQQ persons, friends & family. 506-536- for queer, allied, questioning, and any inter- meets 3rd Saturday (-- dances -- 9:00PM to and soul freedom,as well as open table Integrity: Supports and encourages Gays 4245 email: [email protected], meets 2nd ested youth. We offer social events such as 1:00AM) at Call or email for location. communion. Koinonia offers Spiritual Care. and Lesbians in their spiritual lives. email: Monday (7:30 to 9:30pm No meeting in July bowling, movie nights, and coffee houses. Crisis support visitation and counselling for [email protected] web: www.fa- and August.) at Meeting location alternates Contact group coordinator Rob Sinnott at Halifax an honorarium. ALL are Welcome who cel- cebook.com/group.php?gid=46207976587, monthly between Sackville: United Church ebrate God’s Covenant to Love All of God’s the number listed, email, or visit the web Affirm United: GLBT & Friends support, ac- meets 3rd Sunday (4:00pm) at Unitarian Parlours, 112 Main Street, and Amherst: page for more info. 699-0509 email: lbgtq@ Creation. We are a registered charitable or- Fellowship of Fredericton at 874 York Street Maggie’s Place, 12 LaPlanche Street tion and worshipping community within the ganization accepting donations from all who nlsexualhealthcentre.org web: nlsexual- United Church. 461-4528 email: alstew@ PFLAG: Support & education on issues of healthcentre.org believe in the promotion of our all-inclusive eastlink.ca community of faith. Contact Rev. Elaine @ sexual orientation & gender identity. (506) Saint John PFLAG Canada: Information or referral to 455-7190 email: [email protected] AIDS Coalition of Nova Scotia: non-profit, 902-876-8771 for more information, or mail Affirming United Church - Centenary - Queen one of our parents. web: www.pflag.ca (For community-based AIDS organization, pro- your contribution to 2410 St. Margaret’s web: www.geocities.com/Pflagfredericton/, Square United Church: invites you to wor- support or information on chapter meetings meets 4th Tuesday (7-9 pm (except Decem- vincially mandated. (902)425-4882 email: Bay Road Halifax N.S. B3T 1H1 with your ship!. 506-634-8288 email: cqsunited@ regarding PFLAG Canada contact Gemma [email protected] web: www.acns.ns.ca name and address so we can issue your tax ber: 2nd Tuesday)) at Unitarian Fellowship nb.aibn.com web: www.cqsunited.ca, meets Schlamp-Hickey, Atlantic Director at gem- of Fredericton 874 York St. Fredericton NB Alcoholics Anonymous: Live & Let Live AA receipt. 876-8771 email: koinonia@eastlink. every Sunday (10:30am) at 215 Wentworth [email protected] or Diana Deacon, St. ca (we gather bi-weekly at 12:30pm - 1:30 E3B 3R8 St, Saint John, NB John’s chapter contact at [email protected]) Group for GLBT community. (902) 425- 8383/422-4972 email: courage449@yahoo. followed by a time of fellowship) at Petrie’s Spectrum: social and support group for AIDS Saint John: To improve the quality St. John’s Pride: St. John’s Official Pride Halifax Feast Dinner Theatre, Maritime students, staff and faculty at UNB and STU. com, meets every Monday (at 8pm) at St of life for those infected & affected by HIV/ Organization. web: www.facebook.com/ Matthews United Church, 1479 Barrington Centre - entrance on the corner of Barrington email: [email protected] web: www.unbf. AIDS, and to reduce the spread of HIV group.php?gid=2497860774 & Salter Streets ca/clubs/spectrum (Meets Fridays during St, Halifax (Use side door near Maritime through education and a needle exchange Centre at bottom of stairs) Manna For Health: A special needs referral the school year. See webpage for location.) program. Call the office for details. 652-2437 Anonymous HIV/AIDS Testing: 455-9656 food bank for those living with life threatening UNB/STU Women’s Collective: Women of email: [email protected] web: www.aids- illness. 429-7670 all ages and orientations. , meets every saintjohn.com Bedford United Church: An Affirming Min- Mount Pride: LGBTQ group at Mount Saint Wayves — January / February 2011 — 13

Vincent University. email: mountpride@ out with old friends, make some new ones, ment for GLBTQ people and their Allies. SAAFE (Supporting An Alternative Friendly PFLAG Canada - PEI: Providing support, mountstudents.ca, meets 1st Tuesday, and and just talk about whatever, 902-563-1481 email: [email protected] (M-F Environment): Social/support group at the education and advocacy for GLBT persons, 3rd Tuesday (bi-weekly on Tuesdays at 245 Trans Family Nova Scotia: We are the Par- 9-4pm. Call or drop by for event listings, Ally NS Agricultural College. 893-6300 email: their families and friends in PEI. 902-887- ) at Meetings in the Diversity Center in Rose- ents, Partners, Family, Friends & Allies of Training, and Anti-Heterosexism/Homo- [email protected] (Meetings as requested. 3620 email: [email protected] web: www. ria. Possible events that are being planned Trans-Identified Individuals. supporting one phobia Workshops!) at the Students’ Union Membership changes each academic year.) pflagcanada.ca, meets 3rd Tuesday at Ferry for the year include sexuality awareness, another. 902-431-8500 email: transfamily@ Building, Cape Breton University. Road Centre, 24 Ferry Road, Cornwall, PE movies nights, social events, guest speak- eastlink.ca, meets 3rd Monday (6:30 to 8:30 PFLAG: Support & education on issues of Wolfville or Stratford City Hall check with Mary or Bill ers, and many more. There are always LG- pm) at The Youth Project (2281 Brunswick sexual orientation & gender identity. Karen Kendrick on this months location by calling BTQ community events to be involved with St., Halifax) 564-8728 email: sydneyns@pflagcanada. Acadia Pride: Acadia Student Union’s LGB- 902-887-3620. and events that are always fun. This group ca, meets last Sunday (of the month at T2IQ group. 585-2165 email: acadiapride@ is open to anyone who would like to join. Universalist Unitarian Church: an inclusive acadiau.ca web: euler.acadiau.ca/~apride/, liberal religious community 429-5500 email: 7:30pm. No meetings for July and August.) Charlottetown Nova Scotia Rainbow Action Project: at Family Place Resource Centre 106 meets every Monday (9:00pm(during aca- [email protected] web: UUCH.ca , demic year)) at Beverage Forum (old SUB) AIDS PEI: AIDS PEI offers HIV prevention NSRAP, the Nova Scotia Rainbow Action meets every Sunday (10:30; see website for Townsend Street, Sydney NS Project: for 15 years the leading advocate for Acadia Women’s Centre: 585-2140 email: and support services to all residents of PEI. special events) at 5500 Inglis St Pride Cape Breton Society: Dances and So- 902-566-2437 email: [email protected] web: Nova Scotia’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and cial Events. Monthly dances are Adults Only! [email protected] (Acadia SUB Transgender Community. Fostering change Second Level Balcony ) www.aidspei.com at 375 University Ave, Unit Kentville Check website community events. (902) 2, Charlottetown PE, C1A 4N4 in our communities through education, out- 539-4627 email: [email protected] reach, and political action. 444.3206 email: Red Door: Youth Health & Support Centre. web: www.pridecapebreton.com (Dances Yarmouth ARC -- Abegweit Rainbow Collective: [email protected] web: www.nsrap.ca at TBA Information and services for sexual health. on the last Saturday of every month. Check Serving GLBT Islanders, their friends and Outlaw: GLBTQ & Allies Law Students As- Ages 13 - 30. 679-1411 web: thereddoor. website for dance and special event dates!) South West Nova Pride: GLBT of any age families. 894-5776 email: [email protected] sociation at Dalhousie Law School. email: ca (Monday to Friday 2pm to 6pm) at 150 at Southend Community Centre. Maps are are invited,we meet as a social gathering web: www.arcofpei.com, meets 1st Monday [email protected] web: www.facebook. Park Street at our website. and peer support group on the 2nd last (6:00pm at 375 University Ave Suite # 2 com/group.php?gid=2416842853 (Meetings Wednesday of each month at 7:00PM in the Charlottetown, PE) vary. Please email for further information Kingston Tatamagouche Beacon United Church parlour 25 Beacon or check out our Facebook group.) at Dal- St. Yarmouth. We are not church affiliated. houisie Law School. 6061 University Avenue. Valley Gay Men’s Coffee House: socials for Tatamagouche Centre: We are an affirm- 645-2914 email: [email protected] Halifax, Nova Scotia. gay men; gay & lesbian dances 19+. 825- ing centre, welcoming all gay, lesbian, and web: SWNovaPride.com 3197,363-2055 email: menembracingmen@ transgendered people. 1.800.218.2220 PFLAG: Support & education on issues yahoo.ca web: faceitwithpride.tripod.com Prince Edward of sexual orientation & gender identity. email: [email protected] web: www. (Coffee every Thursday 7-9pm, Dances on tatacentre.ca 431-8500 email: halifaxns@pflagcanada. the first Saturday of the month, for the excep- Island (902) ca, meets 1st Thursday (902-431-8500) at tion of in November. There is two dances Gay PEI Mailing List: Electronic mailing list Halifax Youth Project, 2281 Brunswick St held in October, On the First Saturday and Truro for all GLBT, questioning and friendly, focus Play Group for Queer Families: 422-8780 the Last Saturday of that Month and NO Central Nova Women’s Resource Centre: is on PEI. email: gay-pei-owner@yahoog- (3-5pm) at Board Room (Play Room) at Dance in November.) at email or call for Resources, programs and services available roups.com web: groups.yahoo.com/group/ Needham Community Recreation Centre, locations or special events or themes for all women identified women. Advocacy gay-pei at All first posts are moderated to 3372 Devonshire St (north end Halifax, near and support - with outreach to rural areas. stop spambots, otherwise, it’s an open list. intersection of Duffus & Novalea, bus routes Lunenburg Also, see our Facebook group. Central Nova GLBT Youth group: Safe Space Drop-Ins. 7 & 9) Bring a snack for your child(ren). We Women’s Resource Centre http://cnwrc. 367-3408 or toll free 1 877 380 5776 (E-mail will be collecting money from each family Second Story Women’s Centre: We offer a weebly.com, [email protected] 535 Prince us for further details.) at 144 Prince St. to cover the cost of the room rental, likely meeting space for women, support counsel- Street, Truro, NS B2N 1E8 (902) 895-4295. $2-4 per week. ling, programs, and referrals. (902)640-3044 web: cnwrc.weebly.com Pride Week: Producers of Atlantic Canada’s email: [email protected] web: www. Colchester Sexual Assault Centre: Provides largest LGBTQ cultural festival. 431-1194 secstory.com at Second Story Women’s support and information to anyone (GBLTQ email: [email protected] web: www. Centre is located at 22 King Street, Post included) affected by sexual assault and halifaxpride.ca Office Centre, Lunenburg. abuse. 902-897-4366 email: trurosexualas- prideHealth: prideHealth is a program of Middleton [email protected] (Mon-Fri 9:30-4:30) at Capital Health and the IWK Health Centre. PFLAG: Information and support for GLBT 80 Glenwood Drive If you are a member of the pride community community and their friends and families. Northern AIDS Connection Society: HIV and need support with any kind of health 902-825-0548 email: middletonns@pflag- prevention education initiative serving care call Anita our Clinical Nursing Special- canada.ca web: www.pflagcanada.ca/mid- counties Colchester, Pictou, Cumberland & ist, number below. She is available free dleton.html (Check online for meeting times East Hants. 895-0931 email: nacs@eastlink. of charge, offers complete confidentiality, and locations- or phone 825-0548) ca web: northernaidsconnectionsociety.ca and can also give you support if you are (Our Board of Directors meet bi-monthly experiencing homo or transphobia. pride- New Glasgow on the third Thursday of the month. Annual Health- improving safe access to health General Meeting held regularly in June. See care. 220.0643 Pictou County Centre for Sexual Health: webpage for contact numbers in your area 695-3366 email: [email protected] Quakers: Quakerism emphasizes that we all of northern Nova Scotia.) at 33 Pleasant manifest the Divine. 429-2904 web: halifax. Pictou County Women’s Centre: Offering Street, Truro, N.S. quaker.ca, meets every Sunday at Library Individual Support Counselling and Crisis Rainbow Proud: Rainbow Proud sup- St. John’s at Atlantic School of Theology, Franklyn St. Intervention, Information and Referral, ports the LGBT** community of Truro and LBGTQ Advocacy and Accompaniment, Programs All very welcome. surrounding areas. Our small group of Youth Group and Community Education. 755-4647 email: volunteers work hard to put events together Queer Play: A Queer performing arts group in Halifax NS. email: [email protected] [email protected] for everyones enjoyment. Any feedback Pride of Pictou County: All GBLT in Pictou will be considered and can be sent to our Safe Harbour Metropolitan Community email address. We hope you continue to Church: A Christian Church with an affirming County. web: www.PrideofPictouCounty.ca Are you looking to socialize with queer positive youth? (see web page for meeting info) come celebrate our community together. We offer social events that you might be interested in! ministry to the GBLT community. Everyone email: [email protected] web: is welcome!. 453-9249 email: safeharbour@ New Minas / rainbowproudnovascotia.ca (See webpage eastlink.ca web: safeharbourmcc.com, for schedule.) Visit nlsexualhealthcentre.org for more info on our meets every Sunday (11 am) at Veith House, Annapolis Valley 3115 Veith Street, Halifax RESPECT: Students Making Healthy Deci- LBGTQ Youth Group and other LBGTQ resources. Valley Youth Project: Sexual Orientation. sions. 893-6300 email: [email protected] Spirituality For Lesbians: We seek to deepen Gender Identity. Allies. Youth. email: val- at P.O. Box 550, Nova Scotia Agricultural our relationship with God, knowing that God [email protected] (6-8:30 most College, Truro, N.S. B2N 5E3 loves us and calls us into life just as he has Wednesdays through May) at New Minas created us. Persons of every or no denomi- Civic Center, 9209 Commercial St. Ages 25 nation are welcome. 459-2649, meets 2nd & under. Free bus tickets available. Free Wednesday (7:30-9PM, phone for meeting food. Fun activities. Join us on Facebook locations) at http://www.facebook.com/pages/Valley- Team Halifax: All GLBT over 18, athletes Youth-Project/22418494995 and performance artists, as well as anyone willing to help out. 422-9510 web: www. Sackville NB/ teamhalifax.com (No fixed schedule at this time, look on website for further details.) Amherst NS The Masculine Spectrum: is a new support PFLAG: Support and education for GLBT- group for all transgender, transsexual, & T2IQQ persons, friends & family. 506-536- trans men, FtMs, female assigned at birth 4245 email: sacknb-amns@pflagcanada. genderqueers, two-spirited, intersexed, & ca web: www.pflagcanada.ca/en/prov-list-e. questioning people 18 years of age or older, asp?RegionNo=6&ProvAbbr=NB, meets of all sexual orientations. No significant oth- 2nd monday (Phone or e-mail for meeting ers, friends, family, or allies please. web: location and details.) at Sackville:112 Main ca.groups.yahoo.com/group/genderspec- Street or Amherst: 12 La Planche Street trum/, meets 2nd Sunday at Just Us Cafe, 5896 Spring Garden Road Sydney The Youth Project: Support, education and AIDS Coalition of Cape Breton: Support, social activities for youth 25 and under advocacy, prevention/education for those across Nova Scotia. Weekly events, plus infected or affected by HIV/AIDS. Free con- a youth food bank and STI testing on site. doms!. (902) 567-1766 email: joannerolls@ Pink Broom Fundraiser Dance in support of 429-5429 email: youthproject@youthproject. accb.ns.ca,[email protected] web: ns.ca web: www.youthproject.ns.ca, meets www.accb.ns.ca (Free Anonmymous Test- GLBT Co-ed Recreational Curling League 1st Tuesday, and 3rd Tuesday (6-9pm ) ing 1-902-567-1123 Check our Website for at 2281 Brunswick Street. 25 and under. events and updates. ) at 150 Bentinck St, Saturday, March 12, 2011 Please refer to our website for details and Sydney, N.S. B1P 6H1 schedule of upcoming events. LGB Youth For more event info: Project Social Drop-in Nights. This is an Cape Breton University Sexual Diversity unstructured event. It’s a chance to hang Centre: We provide a welcoming environ- www.looseends.ca 14 — January / February 2011 — Wayves The Last Word Idol Worship By Randall Perry they reanimated Steven Tyler with nadian version was introduced, I just the eyeliner-y Adam Lambert audi- January is upon us and once again some new threads and a fresh round watched the auditions and the first tioned, complete with painted nails, it’s Idol season. The tenth season of Botox. elimination rounds. When the actual over-the-top costumes and a voice of American Idol is just around the As much as Idol is due for a live competition started I tuned out, that sounded like it was coming from corner. The quest is on once again to change, the core will stay the same. mostly because the contestants who the love child of Freddy Mercury and find America’s most popular karaoke The good contestants will still be made it to this point tend to fit the Elvis Presley and a million tuning singers/drama queens/microphone- good and the bad ones will continue formula of pre-packaged Next! forks I started watching the whole wielding God-thanking attention with their vocal runs and melismatic Great! New! Thing! kind of musi- thing again. Lambert’s talent was light whores. flourishes instead of actually cal dreck that dominates the charts. years ahead of what the program was to rock, putting out a fabulous album, I’m looking forward to the com- hitting the correct notes. Let’s ready for and he was queer as complete with 80s airbrushed cover petition this year. With the departure not forget, too, the meltdowns Lambert’s talent was light years a bank full of three dollar bills. art (tragic!), courting all sorts of con- of his V-neckedness, Simon Cowell, of the young and rejected. ahead of what the program was Not that he was the first gay on troversy with his crotch-grinding and it’s time to shake out the moths and In December, as I’m writing the show, not by a long shot. deep-kissing guitar playing boys and change things up a bit. New judges, this, the teaser commercials ready for and he was queer as a The difference here was that general fuck-offery when the cameras rumoured Big Brother-type segments have just begun to air, and the Lambert’s big, out queerness were looking (fabulous!). where the contestants are all lumped auditions look rife with new, bank full of three dollar bills. was his gimmick and his con- Such a bad boy, that Adam, of- together in a house full of hidden improved nutters this year. Sometimes certain performers would fidence. He revelled in it, strutting fending and titillating the thou-shalt- cameras, online voting, the whole For the first few years I fol- stand out more than others. Mostly, around onstage, locking his eyes with not set. shit. I can’t wait to see whether J-Lo lowed the entire competition, from though, it was just the same old, the camera, daring America to god- This season I’m thinking, okay, channels the babbling Paula or the auditions to crowning. After a few same old. damn well vote for him, growling and more queer. Please, sir, can I have coherent Paula, and I understand years, when the (now defunct) Ca- When season eight premiered and wailing from the depths of his crotch some more gay? And not the inoffen- while naughty boys and girls around sive, positive role model GLAAD-ap- the country creamed their jeans and proved gays who stay home and fuck melted cell-phone towers with their in their beds, lights out. Bring on the It Gets Better Rally ecstatic texting. singing stereotypes: a screaming skel- Letter But even though he made it etwink with a high register that shat- Dear Wayves Readers: through to the very end, Lambert’s ters windows; a smashed-up bulldyke I am just sending a note to let every- super-freak was defeated by Kris Al- who swallowed Carole Pope’s voice one know that we were very pleased len, the nice Christian missionary boy box along with her tongue. Watch the with the turnout at the recent dance. from Arkansas, who admittedly could ratings, Neilson people. It was great to see everyone (ladies sing—let’s not forget it was a sing- Or maybe… and how revolution- and gents) all together and having a ing competition—but didn’t come ary would this be?… a gay Marine great time. It is times like these that close to Lambert’s stage presence crooning a love song to the man of it makes doing the dances all worth- or burning ring of fiery balls. Many his dreams. That that, Don’t Ask, while. I know it has been touch and gay talking heads were disappointed Don’t Tell. Mothers everywhere go for a bit and we did not know if and passed judgement—or delighted would offer up their sons in marriage. we were going to have another. So and passed judgement—but in the Is Idol ready for another iteration hopefully with everyone’s support end Lambert got the better deal. He of Adam Lambert? I certainly hope in the future we can continue having might not have won the votes of the so. Thursday nights this January I plan the dances. The dances are a great Jesus-loving Uggs-and-fabric-scrap- to find out. This one might even win, thing whether it is to dance or just to wearing ‘tween set, but he walked off and that would be so fucking cool. come and socialize with people you the Idol stage right into his own way [email protected] have not seen for awhile. For me, it Over 100 people attended the It Gets Better rally at the Grand Parade in Halifax on is about seeing everyone, men and October 20. The rally was a response to the recent spate of teen suicides due to bullying women, pulling together to support homo/transphobic or just because someone is different. a great thing. “I was called gay names and I didn’t even know what it meant to be gay. I just knew I Thanks was different,” said Tanya Bloomfield, one of the organizers of the Halifax rally. Photo South Shore Pride by Daniel MacKay. Jeff/Eric and the Pride Group

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