Shomrei Torah Parshat Chayei Sarah - Shabbat Mevarchim Andrew Markowitz, Rabbi 25 Cheshvan, 5780/ November 23, 2019 Benjamin Yudin, Rabbi Emeritus Parsha/Haftorah: ArtScroll 106/ 1136; Hertz 80/ 90; Living Torah 100/ 1067

Shabbat Schedule MAZAL TOV Phyllis Flancbaum on the birth of a granddaughter, Emma Joy, born to her children Shira and Jeremy Erev Shabbat - November 22 Spier. Candle Lighting 4:15pm Sarah and Ed Gerstley on the engagement of their granddaughter Danielle, daughter of Darbie and Mincha/ Kabbalat Shabbat 4:20pm Robert Rabinowitz, to Jacob Levy of Teaneck. Shabbat - November 23 Kaila and Ari Iserovich on the occasion of Russie's Bat Mitzvah Rena and Uriel Schatz on the birth of a son. The Shalom Zachor will take place 7:30pm at the Schatz Morning home, 14-06 Fairhaven. Sof Z’man Kriyat Shema 9:18am* *Please ensure that you say Kriat Shema before. HAKARAT HaTOV Daf Yomi - Nidah 31 7:30am Shacharit Ba’al Kriah Upstairs– Gideon Bannett Ba’al Kriah Downstairs– Ari Mayefsky Downstairs Beit Medrash 8:15am Kiddush Upstairs– Sponsored by Kaila and Ari Iserovich in honor of Russie's Bat Mitzvah. Shiur by Rabbi Yudin: "Defining a Seudas Mitzvah; a Longer Discussion"  I would like to express my sincere thanks and appreciation for providing minyanim, meals, support and friendship during this difficult time of Shiva for my sister. I have always been grateful for the Shomrei Torah Main Shul 9:00am Community and the strong bond we all share. Sincerely, Abraham Bichler. Kenny Frank Youth Minyan 9:00am Shabbat Afternoon SHOMREI TORAH MAKES SHABBOS TOGETHER Pre-Mincha Shiur 3:30pm At the annual Membership Breakfast, we announced the formation of a sub-committee focused on adding Sisterhood Rosh Chodesh Shiur 3:45pm even more buzz, energy, and excitement within our shul. We are pleased to share the first endeavor of the Mincha followed by Seudah Shelishit 4:09pm new committee... Shomrei Torah Makes Shabbos Together. We are all part of the Shomrei Torah family, so Seudah Shelishit speaker: Dovi Grosser let’s bring in Shabbos as one community. Please join us in shul on Friday night December 6th for a musi- Havdalah 5:23pm cal Kabbalah Shabbat followed by a festive dinner in the social hall at 5:30pm including beautiful zemiros and words of Torah from a few of our teens. Take a break from cooking and enjoy a reasonably priced meal for the whole family. Midway through the dinner the Grossers will take the younger kids downstairs for fun and games. Register now at https://www.shomrei-torah.org/event/familydinner and feel the buzz as we continue Weekly Schedule November 24—29 to Grow, Together! Looking forward to sharing a meal together. Sun. Shacharit 6:30,7:00,8:00am PRE-CHANUKAH TRIP TO THE LUBAVITCHER REBBE’S OHEL Mincha 2:00, 4:15pm "To be kind is more important than to be right. Many times, what people need is not a brilliant mind that Ma’ariv 4:37, 9:00pm speaks but a special heart that listens." - Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson. On Thursday evening, De- cember 5th, please join Shomrei Torah as we visit the Ohel of Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson Shacharit OBM and his father in law the sixth Lubavitcher Rebbe Rabbi Yosef Y. Schneerson OBM. We will be arrang- Mon. 5:45,6:30,7:45am ing carpools. Sign up at www.shomrei-torah.org/event/ohel by December 2nd. Questions? Contact Ari Ashkenas at [email protected]. Tues., Wed. 5:55,6:30,7:45am Thurs. (R. Chodesh) 6:30,7:00,8:00am Fri. (R. Chodesh) 5:35,6:30,7:45am YACHAD SHABBATON Mincha Once again the Shomrei Torah Community will be privileged to host a Yachad Reyim Shabbaton. This year it will take place on December 13-14, Shabbat Parashat Vayishlach. The Yachad program provides individuals Mon. - Wed. 4:15pm with developmental disabilities an opportunity to socialize and to be included within the Jewish community. Thurs. 2:00,4:15pm Please contact Sam Ulrich at [email protected] to host, sponsor and get involved. Ma’ariv Early Mincha On Shabbos Is 5:00pm Mon. - Thurs. 4:37,9:00pm Erev Shabbat - November 29 LEARNING SPONSORSHIPS Parshat Toldot A Day of Learning and Naftali Aron T.E.P. Breakfast Candle Lighting 4:12pm Learning (11/25) & Breakfast (11/26)- Sponsored by Zehava and Norman Baron to commemorate the .ז''ל Yahrzeit of Norman's mother, Shaina Etal bat Mordechai Leib, Ethel Baron Mincha/ Kabbalat Shabbat 4:17pm Learning (11/27) & Breakfast (11/26)- Sponsored by Abe and Leo Bowski to commemorate the Yahrzeit .ז''ל Shabbat, November 30 of Shlomo ben Avraham Yitzchack, Saul Bowski Shacharit 8:15, 9:00am Sof Z’man Kriyat Shema 9:23am Mincha 4:06pm PACHIM KETANIM FROM RABBI MARKOWITZ: In Honor of Parshat Chayei Sarah When Rabbi Eliyahu Eliezer Dessler, (author of Michtav m’Eliyahu) came to America in 1948, he met up with his son, Nachum Velvel, in New York. Rabbi Dessler asked his son who had helped him during his years alone in America. His son mentioned several people in New York along with Rabbi Eliezer Silver, the head of MIKVAH PARKING SPOTS Agudath Israel (a national organization that services Jews) and the rabbi of Cincinnati. Rabbi Dessler said, “We must thank him.” His son offered to place a telephone call to Rabbi Silver, but Rabbi Dessler said that is Please note that the Mikvah spots in not how Hakaras HaTov is properly performed. Nachum Velvel and his father then took a nine-hour train ride the shul parking lot are designated to Ohio, arriving at 5:00 a.m. in Cincinnati. They went to Rabbi Silver’s home and waited on the porch to meet for Mikvah customers beginning 7pm him as he left his house for Shacharis. Rabbi Silver met his two guests on the way out, they all went to shul Sunday through Thursday, and 1 hour together, and returned to the Silver’s for breakfast. After a bite to eat, Rabbi Silver said, “So, Rabbi Dessler, after Shabbat. Any other car parked what brings you to Cincinnati?” Rabbi Dessler said that he had only come to show appreciation to Rabbi Silver in a Mikvah spot from 7:00pm week- for all he had done for his son. Rabbi Silver thought about this and again asked, “So, Rabbi Dessler, what days or 1 hour after Shabbat, will be really brings you to Cincinnati?” Rabbi Dessler said that he had no other purpose than to show “hakaraos hatov.” Rabbi Silver said, “Rabbi Dessler, what can I really do for you?” Rabbi Dessler, for a third time, repeat- stickered. ed that he only wished to show gratitude to Rabbi Silver in person. Rabbi Silver finally gave up and muttered, “This must be the greatness of Mussar.”

President: Jeff Cohen; Executive Board: Oren Hiller, Larry Bravman, Boruch Hersh, Rachel Krich, Dori Zofan, Mikki Friedman, David Heiser, Jeff Schultz 19-10 Morlot Avenue, Fair Lawn, NJ, 07410 - 201-791-7910 - www.shomrei-torah.org SHIURIM SCHEDULE FOR WEEK OF NOVEMBER 24 - 29 REFUAH SHELEIMAH Naftali Aron Torah Enrichment Program: Monday– Rabbi Markowitz: 8:55am- Eliyahu ben Batsheva; Ruvain Ephraim ben Chaya Leah; Mordechai ben Personal Growth; 9:10am- Gemara Pesachim. Tuesday– Rabbi Yudin at Chaya Malka; Shimon Simcha ben Penina Yehudit; Shlomo Eliyahu ben 8:45am; Rabbi Markowitz on Tefillah at 9:15am. Wednesday– Rabbi Greene Fayala; Tzvia Rivka bat Naomi Chedva; Zehavah Aranka Goldie bat Pessya; on Torah Topics at 8:45am; Rabbbi Markowitz on the Parsha at 9:20am. Thurs- Yosef Daveed ben Raizel; Malka Ziesel bat Penina; Menachem Mendel ben day– Rabbi Greene on Torah Topics at 9:00am. Perl and Malka bat Chaya Sora. Mondays 7:30pm- Women’s Tehillim Group. Register with Myrna Gore myrna- [email protected] to be emailed about weekly group location. Mondays 8:30pm - Beginner’s Parsha with Rabbi Yudin. Tuesday evening 9:15pm - Gemara Megillah Chaburah with Rabbi Markowitz Wednesday 1:00pm –Lunchtime Women’s Learning Shiur on Sefer HaChinuch with Rabbi Yudin. New unit on Kashrut begins this week. SHOMREI TORAH LEARNING SPONSORSHIP PROGRAM Wednesday 9:15pm– Learning Masechet Beitzah with Rabbi Yudin To sponsor a day, week, month, or year of learning, visit www.shomrei- Daf Yomi: Sunday after the 7am minyan, with either Rabbi Markowitz, Rabbi torah.org/learning or contact Mendy Aron, Mike Glass, Milty Frank or Neil Gor- Yudin, or Rabbi Leifer; Mon-Thurs. at 8 pm, with Rabbi Zvi Loewy. don. SCHEDULED EXTRA SHIUR - MENTAL HEALTH & OUR CHILDREN- Monday, November 25, 8pm. An open communal conversation with men- tal health professionals from our local Day Schools.

YOUTH DEPARTMENT SCHEDULE SCRIP NOTICE Scrip is an excellent way to support the Shul at no additional cost to you. Kenny Frank Youth Minyan will take place this Shabbat at 9am. Scrip can now be purchased online: shomrei-torah.org/scrip, and delivered to Junior Congregation (ages 7+) will meet at 9:30am in the Junior Congre- your home. For more information contact Milty Frank: 201-916-9721 or miltoni- gation room. [email protected]; or David Heiser, 201-978-5347 or [email protected] Ahuvim (age 5) and Chaveirim (age 6) will meet at 9:30am in the first classroom on the left. Metukim (ages 3-4) will meet at 9:30am in the middle classroom. Early 9:00am dropoff for all ages is available in the first classroom on the left. This week is prize week! Bring your Mitzvah tickets to redeem them for prizes! GABBAI ANNOUNCEMENTS PARENT - CHILD LEARNING 1. Yahrzeit Listings- The Gabbai’s Yahrzeit listings are currently being updat- Please join Yeshivat He'atid for this week's Parent Child Learning at Shomrei ed, based on Shulcloud information. Please login to your ShulCloud account, click on My Account and choose Manage Yahrzeits to verify your information Torah, this Motzei Shabbat at 6pm. We are privileged to host Rav Tomer Ro- st nen, head of school, and Mrs. Janice Jacobs Assistant Principal. There will be is accurate, and make any necessary changes before December 1 . If you fun activity for younger children with Mrs Janice Jacobs. Pizza and dessert will have any questions, please contact Oren Hiller @ [email protected]. be served. 2. Shabbat Kibbudim- The Gabbaim have made a concerted effort to be prepared for Shabbat morning davening in advance. As such, if you have a Yahrzeit or simcha and would like a kibbud on a specific Shabbat, please FIRST YOUTH LUNCHEON FOR FIRST & SECOND GRADERS ON NOV. 30 inform the Gabbaim by the Sunday night before, to ensure the kibbud is ar- ranged beforehand. Please do this by emailing [email protected] or Calling all first and second graders! Please join us for our first youth luncheon speak to Moshe Zharnest. of the year! It will take place on Shabbat, November 30th from 11:45-1:45 in the downstairs social hall. Enjoy great food and fun with your friends. Make sure to bring your ruach! The cost is $12 per child. Please register at https:// www.shomrei-torah.org/event/youthluncheon.

ANNUALYOUTH CHANUKAH PARTY The annual Youth Chanukah Party is right around the corner! Join us Decem- ber 24th from 6-7:30pm for an unbelievable time that you do not want to miss! The event will feature an amazing bubble show, make you own sufgani- RETURN OF THE SHOMREI TORAH TRIVIA DINNER yot, decorate your own dreidels, and more! Dinner will also be served! Visit Trivia Dinner makes its semi-triumphant return to Shomrei Torah on Saturday www.shomrei-torah.org/event/chanukah for pricing and to sign up. Can't wait to night, December 21st. Challenge your mind and your relationships as you see you there and your team of 10 (we'll build your team if you need) enjoy wine, a fun meat buffet, and a night of multimedia trivia for all adult age groups. More details coming... SISTERHOOD ROSH CHODESH SHIUR THIS SHABBAT The Sisterhood Rosh Chodesh Shiur will take place this Shabbat in Shul at 3:15pm.The Shiur will be given by Rabbi Yudin on, “Comparing Ner Shab- bat to Ner Channukah,” and is being sponsored by Marilyn Barth. SHOMREI TORAH MEMBERS-HELPING-MEMBERS SERVICE The Dr. David Thaler Members Helping Members Group of Congregation NATEP- LUNCH AND LEARN Shomrei Torah includes over 20 Shomrei Torah members who have offered their services pro-bono to help members in need in discreet and meaningful Our next Lunch and Learn program will take place on Monday, December 2, at ways. Please CLICK HERE to read more about the expertise of each volun- 11:45am. Rabbi Markowitz, continuing with the Theme of Hidden Figures- teer. Renee Nussbaum has generously agreed to lead this initiative and can be Women in Tanach, will speak about Devorah. The program is sponsored by reached at 201-403-8018 or [email protected]. Please contact her if By you need help with education and learning disabilities, career guidance and .ז''ל the Heiser Family to commemorate the Yahrzeit of Freddy Heiser Reservation only. Contact Mendy Aron at [email protected] with financial support, health and wellness, legal services, home planning and or- your reservation no later than November 29 ganization, or home repair.

PROJECT EZRAH ANNUAL DINNER The Project Ezrah Annual Dinner is scheduled for Saturday, December 14th, 8pm, at Congregation Keter Torah. Project Ezrah helps find employment opportunities for candidates seeking entry level to senior leadership positions MIKVAH SCHEDULE and helps clients live financially responsible and self-sufficient lives by focus- The current Mikvah hours are Sunday – Thursday, 8:00pm – 9:30pm ing on financial matters and budgeting issues. Register online at . www.ezrah.org or call 201-569-9047. The Mikva opens on Motzei Shabbat approximately 1-1/2 hours after Shabbat ends and stays open for 1-1/2 hours. Any arrival after 1/2 hour before closing time will incur a $25.00 late fee. For further details, see Mikvah webpage on Shomrei-Torah.org, under Services SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES or call the Mikvah tape for updates and information: 201-796-0350. Please call [email protected] Dossy Brandstatter with any questions or concerns: 201-796-5839. For a Friday or Yom Tov night appointment, please call 201-401-2386. To sponsor Seudah Shelishit- Esther Silvestri at 201-741-5341 or [email protected].