Te Awamutu Courier, Tuesday, November 23, 2010 Your Letters
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In Te Awamutu the day is Latest unconfirmed family vio- being marked by an event organ- lence statistics specific to the Te Cambridge-Te Awamutu ised by a new group, Waipa Awamutu area show Police have Harness Racing Club will run Family Violence Intervention attended 345 incidents so far this six-eight trials from 11am on Network. year. November 27 — a good chance The network is a collaboration They attended 417 incidents in to spot some form for the club’s between community agencies, Te 2009 and 343 incidents in 2008. annual meeting at Waipa the Awamutu and Cambridge Police The latest monthly following month. A barbecue/ and Child, Youth and Family and attendances for 2010 are 24 for sausage sizzle will be in International White Ribbon Day September, 32 for August and 26 operation. is their first public venture. for July. The December 29 meeting Other agencies are Kainga White Ribbon is a campaign will again feature the jockeys Aroha Community House, Waipa led by men who condemn violence driving challenge, the human Women’s Refuge, Waikato Dis- against women — and take action. sulky races and fundraising for trict Health Board Public Health Wearing a white ribbon is a St John Ambulance, this year Nurses, Victim Support and Work personal pledge to never commit, via a gold coin donation as and Income. condone or remain silent about course entry fee. The network has a number of violence against women. other initiatives planned to build People or groups wishing to On their bikes stronger relationships with its become involved with Waipa community and gain support for Family Violence Intervention for Fire Force its work and goals. Network can contact Constable This Thursday the group will Debbie Ferguson (872 0106) or Impressions Child Care be set up outside BNZ Bank from Pixie Stockman (029 6500 957). Centre children will be back on 11am until 1pm cooking and giv- There are a number of options their bikes next week to raise ing away free sausages — and for seeking help or getting advice funds for Pirongia Fire Force. more importantly resource packs about family violence — Kainga They will be repeating their with information about what is Aroha Community House (871 sponsored efforts from last year, domestic violence, information 6506), Waipa Women’s Refuge when they showed that torrential about getting help or about help- (0800 155 799 and ask for Waipa co- downpours weren’t about to ing others in need. ordinator Carol Bolt) and It’s Not make them hop off their bikes. An added attraction is live OK (0800 456 450). Pirongia Fire Force personnel will again be in attendance at Pirongia Netball courts with their appliance, hoping to recruit some new members among parents and Man up and ask for help supporters of Impressions’ children. The event takes place from BY DEAN TAYLOR Community Constable Angela Leigh for help, home was hell. and she organised for him to attend a domestic She says she lived in fear and couldn’t do 5pm-6pm and there will be a He use to rule his family with the fist — now violence course at Raurimu. normal growing up things, like have friends sausage sizzle. he has learnt there is a better way, but it takes ‘‘It opened my eyes,’’ he says. around or be allowed away from home to enjoy time to heal the hurt. ‘‘I know I still have issues, but now I know herself. Lockley Appeal This is the story of a husband and father who how to recognise them and seek help before it’s She says she has a good man now, and a The Te admits it took him 21 years to grow up and too late.‘‘ terrific son, but her relationship with her dad is Awamutu realise violence wasn’t the answer, it was the In his words it is ‘putting the demon to sleep’. still a work in progress. response to the problem. When it starts to wake he knows what to do. Dad is realistic, he knows he treated her as Lockley Family There are no names in this story. I talked to Describing the family as his daughter was badly as a father could for most of her life and Appeal has been the father and husband and his wife and the growing up he simply says it was a bad as it can does not expect to be forgiven without fighting terrific, with over daughter — and they are still trying to mend get. for it. $2130 donated their relationships. When I asked his wife why she stayed, she ‘‘I just want to earn her love and respect and to date — plus The couple have been together 27 years and says fear and control played a part — but she have a proper family life,’’ he says. ideas for married for the past six. also still loves him and says at heart he is a good For someone used to being a bully and having fundraisers in They have one daughter, and both she and man. his own way, admitting you are wrong and the her mother are victims of both physical violence But it was getting his daughter back and asking for help is the hardest step. pipeline.Thank and psychological abuse. making sure his grandson didn’t follow in his He says it is more manly to do the right thing you everyone for He says it wasn’t until his grandson was born footsteps that was the main wake-up call. than the wrong thing. That is the hard part to your generosity that he was able to see the light and seek help. He says being in trouble with the Police, realise. — we are well That was five or six years ago — and he says court appearances and convictions for his Initially he says he felt to ashamed to admit he still needs support to be able to take a step actions weren’t a deterrent — in the end it was any wrongdoings — now he knows it it the only underway. back, rather than a step forward. the threat of losing those that he loved. way to get his family back. Most recently he went to Te Awamutu For the daughter school was her saviour — And slowly, that is what is happening. 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Like Mr Cox, who only The reputation of the local museum THURSDAY: 12.44am & 1.08pm Shepheard, a non Waipa ratepayer, is likes democracy when it suits him, Dr alone is not one deserving of extending it FRIDAY: 1.31am & 1.55pm offended by my use of the word ‘poofter’ Shepheard only likes freedom of speech without even considering how it is to be SATURDAY: 2.22am & 2.48pm and my comments about people who run when the content is agreeable to her. I done. SUNDAY: 3.18am & 3.47pm museums. think the word to describe that is hypo- And as for James Edwin Stewart, it MONDAY: 4.18am & 4.51pm Firstly her letter is too a ‘pot shot’, ill crisy. seemed to me he had nothing constructive considered and vain in the extreme. She The vast reality is that both locally and to say. relies on the ‘but’ theory ... I am not one to nationally, (some) museum staff have JAMES PARLANE IT’S ALLALL IN IN THE THE BAG BAG gossip, but.... been an embarrassment to the public and B.Soc. Sci, LL.b and Has Been (for the NEW! She seeks to use her supposed pro- I can cite a few examples. meantime) Lawyer with Asperger’s found intellect and experience to claim One, when the local museum director Syndrome STORE YOURYOUR RODS, RODS, REELS, REELS, FISH FISH & MORE! & MORE! that I am inter alia appalling, and vicious.