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Student Guide 2019/20 Ceud mìle fàilte, a hundred thousand welcomes - Gaelic Welcome from the Director of Student Life I would like to warmly welcome you to Robert Gordon University. If this is your first visit to Aberdeen, welcome to the city, we are thrilled that you will be joining our community. If you are a returning student, welcome back! The transition to university is exciting and fun but can sometimes be daunting. As a new student, you are bound to have questions; this welcome guide is designed to help uncover the answers to those questions and provide you with information about the resources and services here at RGU. Remember you will not be alone in the challenges you face. We know many of your peers will be feeling exactly the same way and have people here to give you the confidence to get the most out of your time at RGU and really enjoy the University experience by engaging in all we have to offer on campus. We are here to help you orient yourself through University and your time in Aberdeen, supporting your academic accomplishments and wider wellbeing. Whether you need some help with your accommodation, need advice around a specific personal challenge you might be facing, you want to get more active, or seek guidance from our Employability and Professional Enrichment Hub, there are a variety of teams sharing a common goal to provide advice and support to help you make the best decisions for yourself, for now and for your future. I hope you thrive in your studies and achieve your goals whilst having a great time. Enjoy yourselves. Filippo Antoniazzi Director of Student Life Contents 3 Cultural Issues, Equality & Diversity Every country will have cultural difference and its Queueing own customs, which is one of the advantages of Queueing is part of UK culture. It is considered travel – it allows you to experience other cultures rude and disrespectful to attempt to move before and conventions and broadens your worldview. someone else in the queue. Take your place at the back of the queue, whether it is in a supermarket, Culture shock is normal, which can be made worse at a bank, waiting for entry to a concert or event, by being away from your family (often for the or even a coffee shop or the Student Help Point on first time), different food, weather and language. campus. In some exceptional circumstances, you However these feelings will be temporary and within may invite someone to go ahead of you in a queue; a short period you will get used to the ‘host’ culture, this may include times when a member of the public and will appreciate the opportunity it gives you may clearly need assistance more urgently than to learn about another country. Employers look you, or for example when you see ambulance or favourably on travel (work or study abroad) on a CV. police staff in uniform who may be called away on business before they reach the head of the queue. Suggestions to avoid or reduce the culture shock: Tipping • Find a shop that supplies your home food It is normal practice to tip service staff (waiting (please refer to Section 3 of this guide, Food staff in a restaurant; hairdresser; taxi driver) and general shopping in Aberdeen). Aberdeen where you have been happy with their service has a wide variety of international food stores delivery. However, it is not compulsory. 10+% is a and restaurants. Ask for advice on where to normal amount to tip. go from our student ambassadors or ResLife team if you are staying in halls. Timekeeping In the UK it is important to be on time for • Find out about societies and sports clubs, meetings and appointments, and in fact to which will give you a good opportunity to arrive 5 to 10 minutes before the appointed meet new people. time. If you may be late, please phone or email in advance. It is considered bad manners to • Make friends with British students which arrive late with no notification. will help you improve your language skills and learn about your new culture. Please Gender remember the words ‘’please or thank you’’ Men and women are equal in the UK; there is no because it’s very important to request or talk profession which is exclusively for one gender. politely in British culture. • Make friends with international students in In the UK, all personnel you encounter should be RGU, because this will help you learn about treated with respect and dignity; this includes even more cultures. service staff, checkout operators, bus drivers and anyone else who offers you a service or who • Attend trips and events (refer to www. you interact with. facebook.com/rgureslife and www.rguunion. co.uk). Scotland enjoys beautiful countryside Smoking with many interesting historical sites, please do It is illegal to smoke within enclosed public take the time to get to know your host country. spaces in the UK. In restaurants/bars, there will be designated smoking points outside. • Partake in sports and exercise (check out student On campus, you will find outside shelters in membership at RGU:Sport) or walk around the designated smoking places. RGU campus and Aberdeen city centre. • Academic standards or regulations might be different from your education system. We recommend attending a class run by, or booking a one to one appointment with, our Study Skills team (see page ?? for more information). 4 Boundaries and Consent What consent does NOT look like: The Robert Gordon University is committed • Assuming that dressing sexy, flirting, to promoting and providing a safe and accepting a ride, accepting a drink etc. is in respectful environment for every member of any way consenting to anything more. its community, by challenging harassment and abuse. Sexual violence is a serious issue which • Saying yes (or saying nothing) while under the everyone needs to know about and understand. influence of drugs or alcohol. We all have a role to play in advocating and • Saying yes or giving in to something because promoting a safe environment. you feel too pressured or too afraid to say no. What Does Consent Mean? Here are some red flags that indicate your People typically talk about consent in the context partner doesn’t respect consent: of some kind of sexual or physical activity with a partner. In a healthy relationship, both (or all) • They pressure or guilt you into doing things partners are able to openly talk about and agree you may not want to do. on what kind of activity they want to engage in. • They make you feel like you “owe” them — You may have heard the phrase “no means no.” because you’re dating, or they gave you a That’s totally true, but it doesn’t really provide a gift, etc. complete picture of consent because it puts the • They react negatively (with sadness, anger or responsibility on one person to resist or accept resentment) if you say “no” to something, or an activity. It also makes consent about what don’t immediately consent. someone doesn’t want to do, instead of being about openly expressing what they do want to do. • They ignore your wishes and don’t pay attention to nonverbal cues that could show you’re not Well, How Does It Work? consenting (eg pulling/pushing away). Some people are worried that talking about or getting consent will be awkward or that Get Consent Every Time it will “ruin the mood,” which is far from true. In a healthy relationship, it’s important to discuss If anything, the mood is much more positive and respect each other’s boundaries on an when both partners feel safe and can freely ongoing basis. It’s not okay to assume that once communicate about what they want. someone consents to an activity, it means they Here are some suggestions of things to say: are consenting to it anytime in the future as well. • Are you comfortable? A person can decide to stop an activity at any time, even if they agreed to it earlier. Above all, • Is this okay? everyone has a right to their own body and to • Do you want to slow down? feel comfortable with how they use it. • Do you want to go any further? Setting Boundaries To have the healthiest relationship, both partners What consent looks like: should know each other’s wants, goals, fears • Communicating every step of the way. and limits. You should feel comfortable honestly • Respecting that when they don’t say “no,” communicating your needs to your partner it doesn’t mean “yes.” Consent is a clear without being afraid of what they might do in and enthusiastic yes! If someone seems response. If your partner tells you that your needs unsure, stays silent, doesn’t respond, or says are stupid, gets angry with you or goes against “Maybe…” then they aren’t saying “yes.” what you’re comfortable with, then your partner is not showing you the respect you deserve. • Breaking away from gender “rules.” Girls are not the only ones who might want to take it Talking about your boundaries with your partner is slow. Also, it’s not a guy’s job to initiate the a great way to make sure that each person’s needs action (or anything else, really). are being met and you feel safe in your relationship. Why not check out this YouTube video: www.youtube.com/watch?v=fGoWLWS4-kU 5 Food & General Shopping Aberdeen City has a wide and multi-cultural 24 Hour Shops society with residents from all over the world.