Dr. Jay Nagdimon Receives Prestigious International Award
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after suicide A Program of Didi Hirsch Community Mental Health Center APRIL/MAY/JUNE 2004 • VOLUME 17, NO. 2 • PUBLISHED QUARTERLY Disruption It has been a little over a year since my brother Ed completed his suicide. Dr. Jay Nagdimon Receives Rick Mogil Four hundred and sixteen days, to be Studio City,CA exact, or as close as the coroner could Prestigious International Award determine. Another anniversary to Deborah Pikul, Editor remember, easily so, as it is seared into my memory. January 28th, 2003. STOCKHOLM, SWEDEN — It was a Tuesday. He had left his home in Oregon City on The International Associa- Monday and drove 100 miles to a small coastal town where tion of Suicide Prevention he took a room in a motel. He was alone except for his best presented its 2003 Ringel friends, Jack Daniels and Smith and Wesson. Service Award to Dr. Jay What was he thinking? Nagdimon, director of the Suicide Prevention Center How could his despair reach such depths that he could Dr. Lakshmi Vijayakumar take a pistol, place it against his head and pull the trigger? (SPC) and Emergency and Dr. Jay Nagdimon How could he? How DARE he! Oops! There’s that “Why’d he Services at Didi Hirsch do this to me” creeping in again. I know this was not done to Community Mental Health Center in Culver City, continued on page 3 California. The Ringel Service Award is granted to those whose distinguished service in the field of suicidology is evidenced by their national leadership, among other Much has been written and criteria. Surviving With discussed about the pain and after- “It was a great honor to be selected for this award by an math of the loved ones left behind the Survivor international organization, considering the many out- after a suicide. Survivors must standing professionals who work in the field of suicide Bob Zent learn to live without a friend, a Moorpark,CA prevention,” said Dr. Nagdimon. continued on page 2 wife, a lover, a sibling who will never be seen again. Never again will that person be a part of a current event in the lives of those left behind. Ester Ybarra-Bryant In December, L.A. County All survivors know what it means to struggle with intense Supervisor Yvonne Brathwaite pain and loss. Daily reminders can pop up at any moment Burke (right) presented Ester and bring one back to the day of the event. I have found this Ybarra-Bryant (left) with a County of Los Angeles Proclama- to be an ongoing and probably never ending part of my life tion for her dedicated volunteer now, too. work at Didi Hirsch. You see, I have not lost anyone to suicide, but Debbie SAVE THE DATE Pikul, my girlfriend, my best friend, and the editor of this publication, has. Debbie has lost two brothers to suicide. Part Didi Hirsch’s Eighth Annual of her healing process is to be involved with the Survivors Erasing the Stigma Leadership Awards After Suicide program at Didi Hirsch. I often go with Debbie FRIDAY, MAY 14, 2004 to the functions Didi Hirch hosts. This year’s award ceremony will take place at the Beverly continued on page 4 Wilshire. See Calendar of Upcoming Events on page 6. SAS exists to help people resolve their grief and pain in their own personal way, and to help them move forward in their lives, positively and productively. The SAS Coordinator’s Column unable to express elsewhere. This process facilitates healing. Our Survivors After Suicide program Most important, participants find a place where there is no is now approximately 23 years old shame, no stigma and no isolation in being a survivor.” and over these years, we have been There is an evolution to the grief that a survivor can providing support in a variety of experience, within themselves, over the eight weeks ways. Education, encouragement, through the process of sharing their story and expressing instruction and empathy are essential feelings such as guilt, anger, sadness and even laughter. aspects to our program; yet, the foun- Sharing with others who have lost a loved one to suicide is Carole Chasin, M.A., M.F.T. dation and core to what we offer healing and our groups provide such an opportunity. I am would be our eight-week support groups. A quote from our grateful to the survivor co-facilitators in our groups who SAS brochure helps describe the value of our groups: help with the healing process by instilling hopefulness, “Participants say the group offers a place where they are through their own experiences, and showing by their exam- able to talk with others who understand because they, too, ple that grieving is an ongoing journey that, over time, does have lost someone to suicide. They can share experiences, get easier. ask questions, and disclose feelings, which they are often Carole ❧ Dr. Jay Nagdimon continued from page 1 service as an active board member of the American Association of Suicidology (AAS). Dr. Nagdimon’s involvement in suicide prevention and Outside of California, Dr. Nagdimon worked for the state crisis intervention spans ten years and includes service and of New Jersey, training volunteers with a manual he wrote program development at Didi Hirsch Community Mental for the Cop-2-Cop crisis line, the nation’s first help line for Health Center. Under Dr. Nagdimon’s direction, the number police and correctional officers. continued on page 7 of volunteers on SPC’s crisis lines grew from 35 to 125. An additional 47 volunteers work in the Survivors After Suicide Quilt in Progress. Our third quilt will be created in memory of program. Prevention materials for SPC now include televi- Sammy Bloom, David Borgquist, Rita Borgquist, Sheryll Borgquist, Daniel Boxall, Elisha Crittenden, Sean Evans, Merrill Gordon, Randy Kapson, Joe sion, radio and print public service announcements and Loniero, Marc Mendelson, Bill Powers, Dana Siegel, Eric Spencer, Rick brochures, and each year SPC hosts Alive and Running, Vasquez, Laura Vierra, Shirley Wallace, Andreas Wickstrom, and Richard Williams. This new quilt will be shown for the first time at this year’s annual a fundraiser which raises community awareness as well as Summer Potluck. Details will be announced in a future mailing. dollars that give SPC much needed operating revenue. Thank you, Barbara Dallis, for volunteering your quiltmaking expertise! The Minorities Outreach Program is a suicide prevention program co-authored by Dr. Nagdimon. He has conducted Lifekeepers Memory Quilt this program 124 times using versions created for adoles- We are always collecting new squares. All 50 states have come cents, adults, and mental health professionals. He also together in this joint effort to educate the world about the need to reduce the incidence of suicide. The two existing quilts have been dis- authored the Adolescent Suicide Prevention Program, a played at national meetings. A $20 fee covers the cost of material, labor presentation for high school students. and postage necessary to create your visual tribute. Dr. Nagdimon is a founding member of several organiza- Yes, I want to create a quilt square to honor: tions including the Adolescent Suicide Review Committee in Los Angeles, the Trevor Project (a suicide prevention ________________________________________________________ program targeting gay and lesbian adolescents), the Send the material and instructions to me: Suicide Prevention Advocacy Network–California Name: ___________________________________________________ (SPAN–California), and the Kristin Brooks Hope Center (the nation’s only crisis line network). On a state level, Address: _________________________________________________ Dr. Nagdimon has testified before the Senate Subcommittee on Mental Health regarding the problem of suicide and the Phone Number(s): _________________________________________ importance of emergency services such as crisis lines. On ❒ Enclosed is my $20 check or money order made out to Mary behalf of SPAN–California, he assisted in the development of Halligan to cover the cost of material, labor and postage. several pieces of legislation involving suicide: SB 1811, SB Mail to: Mary Halligan, 21422 Grant Ave., Torrance, CA 90503 260 and AB 2168. He currently serves as SPAN–California’s or call Mary at 310-316-4392 for information. 2 treasurer. His involvement on a national level includes his Disruption continued from page 1 me specifically, nor was it directed at his wife and children, The A gift, I’m told, you’ve left behind, and not even to our parents and brothers. He was trapped in That I must seek and find; a corner with no way out. It was dark and foreboding, filled But pain too deep, and missing you with despair and remorse. He had failed at living but would Have blocked my open mind. succeed in death. That’s probably why he had only con- Gift —Iris Bolton, from “The Suicide of My Son,” ©1977 sumed a third of one bottle of liquor instead of the whole The idea of any gifts arising from our grief may have seemed incon- two bottles, so he could remain sober enough to complete ceivable at first, but with time, our gifts are revealed. Later in Iris’s the task. poem, we discover that the music her son composed became her gift. Ed started life as a sickly, asthmatic, allergy ridden child. Michelle Linn-Gust, author of Do They Have Bad Days in Heaven? and He ended his life as a sickly, asthmatic, allergy ridden adult. editor of Surviving Suicide (a publication of the American Association He ended his life. Not God, not a mugger, not disease, not a of Suicidology) shares her gift: car crash, not a plane! He did this! He was the Angel of Death! And he brought me great pain! y husband Joe and I are putting a swimming pool in I know that my parents are devastated, that my brothers Mour backyard this spring.