OLE' FLIRTY BASTARD INTRODUCTION This Guide Is the Result of 2 Years of My Research Into the Best Methods to Have More Power
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OLE' FLIRTY BASTARD INTRODUCTION This guide is the result of 2 years of my research into the best methods to have more power and choice with the opposite sex. In a nutshell, I put this guide together to help other men do better with women. I think that ultimately what every man wants is to meet that ONE special woman. Unfortunately, you may have to meet dozens, if not hundreds, of women before you’ll find “the one”. And if you don’t have the knowledge and experience to deal properly with women in the first place, odds are you’ll blow it when you finally meet that special woman. I’ve seen it firsthand. When the woman of your dreams DOES come around, you’re going to have to say and do everything right. Truly spectacular women are few and far between, so you’d better be ready. This guide is designed to give you a comprehensive, user- friendly system in order to be ready when that time comes. About half the contents of this guide are a compilation of my thinking and experience. The other half are compiled from the excellent material and ideas from: David DeAngelo Tyler Durden Swinggcat Mystery Moderated alt.seduction.fast (mASF), and the great contributions to that board by Tyler Durden, Style, Mystery, Papa, jlaix, and many others Cliff’s Newsletter The Don Juan Newsletter Thundercat’s Seduction Lair The Player’s Guide from AskMen.com Tony’s Lay Guide Ross Jeffries’ Speed Seduction You can investigate these websites and their material on your own, however with this guide I’ve done all the work for you, and “trimmed the fat” in their systems to give you the bare bones of what works. Just as I’ve taken from others, feel free to take what you find herein and adapt it to your own style and needs. What you’ll find different about my guide is that I don’t just lay out broad principles and expect people to be able to apply them. It’s not enough to just tell a guy to “Say something to her to show that her testing doesn’t affect you”. He needs to see examples of WHAT to say to communicate that it doesn’t affect him. Not only do I provide the “what” to do and say in many situations, but I also often provide some ideas of what to do and say if the situation continues further. Another thing that’s lacking in most systems is a STRUCTURE. I’ve integrated these techniques into a structure to successfully pick up or seduce a woman. This structure is based on the one espoused by the instructors at Real Social Dynamics, and can be seen described in a video of Papa available on Kazaa and on the WinMX network. The whole idea of this structure is that regardless of the interaction with a woman, whether it’s a 2-minute street pickup or a 2-hour date, there are several phases that you go through for a successful pick-up/seduction: 1. ATTITUDE This is the most important part, and is taken care of BEFORE the interaction. Unless you have the right mindset your efforts at attracting a woman will fail. 2. FIND/OPEN This means preparing yourself, going where the woman is, and opening/approaching her. 3. ATTRACT In this phase, you use techniques to build attraction and sexual tension. 4. QUALIFY This involves showing that you're in the frame of being selective and that you're evaluating HER. Can be something as simple as "You seem cool." 5. RAPPORT This phase involves building trust and rapport through emotionally engaging conversation, cold reading, empathy, etc 6. AMPLIFY In this phase you use techniques to build up the attraction and sexual tension, to an even higher level. 7. CLOSE This phase involves “sealing the deal” (contact close, meet close, kiss close, or sex close) As an acronym, this is the A-FOAQRAC plan (“folk-rack” for ease of remembering it). To "phase-shift" means to shift from one of these phases to the next. You don’t HAVE to necessarily go through all of these phases to have success with a woman, and you don’t have to follow the same order, but ideally you should. Obviously you’re going to have to find and open a woman, and some attraction/chemistry will be necessary. You’ll also have to close her at some point (unless you’re just out to practice your game). The other phases are less important, but still have some bearing. In any case an important principle is to do the least amount necessary to get to the next phase. The purpose and execution of each of these phases will be much clearer as you read on. Good luck in your study and application in the field, and please send me your feedback at [email protected]. ATTITUDE 1. The Ethics of Seduction Techniques 2. The Stigma of the Pick-Up Artist 3. Knowing What You Want 4. Realize that Women are Sexual Beings 5. A Practical Outlook—For Life 6. The Myth of General Confidence 7. The Power of Beliefs 8. The Most Powerful Belief 9. Controlling Frames and Meta-Frames 10. Controlling Your Physical and Emotional State 11. Applying it All in the Field This phase is not part of the encounter but instead is something that MUST be addressed before the encounter. The “Inner Game” is EVERYTHING. All of the techniques, strategies, and lines to follow are USELESS unless you’ve got the right mindset. 1. The Ethics of Seduction Techniques When I started to study pick-up and seduction, a big dilemma I had was whether what I was undertaking was RIGHT. I felt a little dishonest, dare I say SLEAZY, about the whole idea of using "tricks" to improve my chances with women. I also felt like less of a "real man" in seeing I had to resort to them. I realized eventually that such moral dilemmas would have to be worked out in order for me to be congruent, and have any success in the field at all. From what I've seen most of the guys out there are decent, moral people with a conscience, so I think that a lot of people in this game have at some point or another felt this way. I'd like to lay out the thinking that got me over this dilemma, in the hopes that anyone else struggling with the same problem might be able to iron out this kink in their inner game. First of all, realize that there’s nothing wrong with having to learn tactics to meet and seduce women. Most men are absolutely CLUELESS in this area, and it's not entirely their fault. A lot of this has to do with being raised by our mothers, as well as the tendency of men not to seek out help or advice. Women, on the other hand, grow up reading Seventeen magazine and YM, watching soaps, and focusing more on interpersonal relationships than men. By the time they’re adults they have a whole array of techniques and strategies to tease, hook, and trap a man. They become MASTERS (mistresses?) of manipulation of the opposite sex. Until the Internet resources we enjoy became available and known, men didn’t have anything like Cosmo or Sex In The City to teach them the finer points of meeting and choosing a mate. So the fact that you’re learning techniques to be able to deal with their expertise on their level doesn’t make you less of a man; it just means that you’re catching up to their extensive experience, and leveling the playing field. Another important step is to remove from your mind any negative connotations with the idea of manipulation. (Credit to Ross Jeffries for getting me thinking about this issue). I believe that all human beings require SOME level of manipulation! Advertising tries to manipulate us to buy soft drinks and the latest clothes. You try to manipulate your friends to go see the movie that YOU want to see. The act of manipulation (and the technology/techniques we use in our case to do it) is morally NEUTRAL; it’s just the context under which it’s done which makes it good or bad. For example, a salesman manipulates you into buying a product, which is his job. You’re happy with the product you bought, and he’s happy with the commission he made. Where’s the harm? You may also have a problem assuming the techniques and the seduction mindset into your personality, thinking that the methods just aren’t YOU and that it presents a "fake" you. Consider this: Let’s say you’re an engineer. Were you an engineer from birth? Of course not. You had to study math and the sciences in high school, and then pursue higher education to get an engineering degree. It took years but now, YOU are an engineer! And so it is with seduction. If you continue learning new material and field-testing it, eventually it’ll become YOU. Realize also that a woman out on the town in flashy, skin-tight clothes and painstakingly-applied makeup is NOT “her”. “Her” is the girl who 5 hours earlier was standing in front of her mirror miserable and panicking because she was having a bad hair day. The heels, the make-up, the confident air, ALL of these are tools to make herself appear more attractive to the opposite sex.