Worksheet for Brian Grazer | the Art of Human Connection (Episode 267)
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Worksheet for Brian Grazer | The Art of Human Connection (Episode 267) A lot of people make their way to Hollywood so they can see their names in the bright lights of a movie marquee, and then burn out on the grind long before they even earn an How do you respond to expectations? entry on iMDb. But some people leverage very modest means and catapult themselves into the jaded old town’s pantheon of silver screen immortals without damaging Gretchen Rubin, host of the Happier themselves or others along the way. It sounds like the plot to any number of screenplays a studio mogul might find Podcast and author of The Four stacked in a sprawling pile on their desk, except the story is Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality true — and it happened to today’s guest. Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your On this episode we sit down with Brian Grazer, the Life Better (and Other People’s Lives Academy Award-winning producer who co-founded Imagine Entertainment with his partner Ron Howard, Better, Too), joined us for Episode 18 to together creating films and television shows that have discuss how answering this one simple been nominated for 45 Academy Awards and 196 Emmys. He is the author of Face to Face: The Art of Human question gives us a framework to make Connection and co-author (with Charles Fishman) of better decisions, manage time efficiently, number one New York Times Best Seller A Curious Mind: The Secret to a Bigger Life. Aside from his success on suffer less stress, and engage with others screens big and small, Brain is an incredibly curious person. more effectively. For the past 30 years, he’s made it his mission to meet a new person every week or so, and sit down with them for a very specific curiosity conversation. It sounds a lot like this podcast, in fact. jordanharbinger.com ● Upholders -- Motivated by both outer and inner expectations. ● Questioners -- Challenge outer expectations unless they align with Knocking for Opportunity inner expectations. Brian got his foot in the door of Hollywood when he was ● Obligers -- Meet outer expectations, a legal clerk — really, a glorified courier — in the early ’70s at Warner Bros. studios. Most of the time he sat in a Do you agree with Will -- that you do not but struggle to meet inner closet-sized office throwing pencils at the ceiling, but he have everything in you to rise to the expectations. spotted an opportunity when, after a week on the job, he top? What does Western society have to ● Rebel -- Resist all expectations -- was sent to deliver papers to Warren Beatty. And while most people in his position would only interact with an gain if you believe this? What do you both outer and inner. assistant, Brian had a plan. gain by not believing this? Brian told the assistant, “Oh, the papers are legal Now understanding how you act and documents that aren’t valid unless I hand them directly react based on your natural tendencies to Mr. Beatty.” And when the assistant wasn’t buying it, Brian would continue, “I’m sorry, but they’re invalid and I toward outer and inner expectations, have to go back to the office to Warner Bros. in Burbank how would you leverage that awareness with the papers.” It worked, and he spent the next hour to improve the outcome? In what ways in conversation with Warren Beatty himself. This is when Brian realized, “I can do this all the time. I can do it every could you have shifted the expectations time I have to deliver papers.” to align with your natural tendencies? When opportunity doesn’t knock, sometimes you have to be creative and knock for opportunity. What personal and professional opportunities are sitting just out of view, awaiting your attempt to connect? What simple, creative methods might you employ to gain access to these opportunities? jordanharbinger.com ● Upholders -- Motivated by both outer and inner expectations. ● Questioners -- Challenge outer expectations unless they align with “I Do Not Want a Job.” inner expectations. When there weren’t letters to deliver during his time as a ● Obligers -- Meet outer expectations, Warner Bros. law clerk, Brian soon discovered other ways to reach out and network with big Hollywood names of Do you agree with Will -- that you do not but struggle to meet inner the day from the comfort of his tiny office. have everything in you to rise to the expectations. Brian says: “I’d write a letter to Lew Wasserman — they top? What does Western society have to ● Rebel -- Resist all expectations -- didn’t have emails in the day — and then I’d follow up gain if you believe this? What do you both outer and inner. immediately with a phone call saying, ‘I just sent a letter to Mr. Wasserman. My name is Brian Grazer,’ and they’d gain by not believing this? hear my excited, young voice, fresh out of college, and Now understanding how you act and they always said yes. I mean, I did say, ‘I work at Warner react based on your natural tendencies Bros. This is unassociated with studio business, but I want to meet your boss for the following reason and I toward outer and inner expectations, guarantee you I do not want a job.'” how would you leverage that awareness This is almost a script for making big connections — to improve the outcome? In what ways note the very important “I guarantee you I do not could you have shifted the expectations want a job,” intended to reassure the assistant on the other end of the line that he wasn’t looking for to align with your natural tendencies? anything from their boss but time. How might you use this sentiment to similarly craft your own introduction to big names in your field? jordanharbinger.com ● Upholders -- Motivated by both outer and inner expectations. ● Questioners -- Challenge outer expectations unless they align with You Can’t Say Nothing inner expectations. Though Lew Wasserman agreed to meet young Brian, ● Obligers -- Meet outer expectations, the seasoned studio executive didn’t have time to waste — and sensed this was exactly what Brian had come to Do you agree with Will -- that you do not but struggle to meet inner do. While the meeting was embarrassingly brief, it have everything in you to rise to the expectations. taught Brian early on the importance of having top? What does Western society have to ● Rebel -- Resist all expectations -- something — anything — to offer someone kind enough to give you even a moment of their valuable time. gain if you believe this? What do you both outer and inner. Brian says: “He went to his office, came back with a big gain by not believing this? legal pad. It was a yellow legal tablet and a pencil and Now understanding how you act and said, ‘Take this.’ He hands me the pad and then the react based on your natural tendencies pencil and he said. ‘Put the pencil to the pad and it has greater value than they do as separate parts. Get out!’ I toward outer and inner expectations, got in the elevator feeling pretty embarrassed that he how would you leverage that awareness did it in front of a bunch of people, but it was the most to improve the outcome? In what ways valuable lesson I learned. I learned that you have to come in with something — you have to own something could you have shifted the expectations — meaning you have to give life to ideas, and so write to align with your natural tendencies? them down and then you own something. It doesn’t even have to be perfect. Don’t have someone say, ‘What’s going on?’ and you go, ‘Nothing.’ You can’t say ‘Nothing!'” What do you own? What would you bring to such a meeting that would be valuable to the person on the other side of the table? jordanharbinger.com ● Upholders -- Motivated by both outer and inner expectations. ● Questioners -- Challenge outer expectations unless they align with Remedial Curiosity inner expectations. Sometimes the only thing you have to bring to a ● Obligers -- Meet outer expectations, conversation is a host of interesting questions about something near and dear to the person across from you. Do you agree with Will -- that you do not but struggle to meet inner By maintaining a level of remedial curiosity about the have everything in you to rise to the expectations. world at large, you’ll find these questions begin to ask top? What does Western society have to ● Rebel -- Resist all expectations -- themselves — all you have to do is observe. gain if you believe this? What do you both outer and inner. “If you’re interested in anything — architecture, how a building looks — you realize, ‘Oh, I like the looks of that gain by not believing this? building,’ and then you say to yourself, ‘Why does that Now understanding how you act and building look that way? Oh, it’s the architect.’ Then it’s react based on your natural tendencies not just the design on the inside, it’s the architect. It’s Disney Hall. Then you go, ‘Why does Disney Hall look like toward outer and inner expectations, that?’ ‘Oh, it’s this architect.’ ‘Really? Who do you think how would you leverage that awareness that is?’ ‘His name is Frank Gehry.’ ‘Wow, he must be a to improve the outcome? In what ways young guy.’ ‘No, he’s 90.’ ‘Interesting. Wow, I’d like to meet a guy, like, that could do that at 90.