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Congregation Beth Shalom Rodfe Zedek The WholeMegillah September & October 2018 21 Elul, 5778 – 22 Heshvan, 5779 Inside this issue A Story for the High Holy Days by Allan Appel pgs 10–14 Letter from our new president, Brad Jubelirer........................4–5 High Holy Days schedule and reflections.......................6–7 Alison Miller’s journey leads her to the Holy Scrollers.....14–15 Exhibition of the underwater photography of David Zeleznik................17–18 Melinda Alcosser visits Guatemala........................19–20 www.cbsrz.org Dakota Udoff guarding the entrance to CBSRZ T H A N K Y O U IN THIS ISSUE to the following donors from 6/6/2018 to 8/3/2018 2nd Century Campaign Meg Magida: in memory of Nat Magida William & Janet Brownstein Christine & Robert Mangiafico: in memory of From Our Rabbi John Schwolsky & Elizabeth Storch: in memory of Maxine Klein's bat mitzvah 3 Evelyn and Irving Schwolsky and Alan & Florence Storch Helen McNutt: in memory of David Klar Arthur & Marcia Meyers: in memory of Linda Chesed Fund Rabbi Marci Bellows Sherman President's Letter 860-526-8920 Ray & Liz Archambault: in memory of Linda Sherman Norman Needleman: in memory of Ann Needleman [email protected] Eric & Barbara Infeld: in memory of Linda Sherman 4–5 Harvey Payton & Lori Shafner: in memory of Food/Beverage Fund Linda Sherman Cantor Belinda Brennan Eric & Barbara Infeld: in memory of David Klar Michael & Susan Peck: in memory of David and High Holy Days Cantor Educator Arthur & Marcia Meyers Miriam Klar 860-526-8920 Andrea Pollack & Bill Hankinson: in memory of 6–7 [email protected] Torah Fund Linda Sherman David & Laura Roman: in honor of the graduating Phil & Cindy Rischall: in memory of Ruth Siedman seniors Religious Affairs Brad Jubelirer Saul & Hila Rosen: in honor of Maxine Klein's bat President Youth/Camp Schlrship mitzvah 8 860-349-2386 Eric & Barbara Infeld: in honor of the adult b'not Irene & Jeffrey Rosenbloom: in honor of Maxine [email protected] mitzvah class Klein's bat mitzvah Jewish Trivia Prayerbook Fund Herbert & Phyllis Ross: in memory of Diane Amy Conley Gibralter Vice-President Doron & Eve Ber: in honor of graduating seniors 9 Steven & Frani Ross: in memory of Barney Levine 860-434-0489 Neil Gottfried & Marilyn White-Gottfried: in memory Matthew & Hadass Rubin: in memory of Isidor Rubin of Samuel Schaffer Matthew & Hadass Rubin: in memory of Zahava Avian Repentance David Fogel Samuels Schlolarship Fund Levy 10–14 Financial Vice President Rita Fink: in appreciation of Belinda Brennan Joel & Marcy Saltzman: in memory of Daniel 860-395-4722 Ali Rosenblum & Elizabeth Jones: in appreciation of Weintraub [email protected] Rabbi Bellows and Cantor Belinda during Liz’s Joel & Marcy Saltzman: in memory of Leon Torah Study Essay bat mitzvah process Saltzman 14–15 Ali Rosenblum Art Gallery Fund Jerome & Marlene Scharr: in honor of Jeff and Secretary Karen Burzin's 25th anniversary 860-391-3231 Richard Spearrin Jerome & Marlene Scharr: in memory of David Klar Kivvun Korner Meditation Garden Jerome & Marlene Scharr: with best wishes to Rabbi Jeff Brewer Jeffrey & Karen Burzin: in appreciation of Rabbi and family in their new home 16 Treasurer Bellows for help with vow renewal Elliot & Nancy Schwam: in memory of Linda 860-663-1745 [email protected] Donations Sherman and healing wish Marilyn White-Gottfried Sandy & Andrea Seidman Zeleznik Exhibit Maureen Beurskens: in honor of Maxine Klein's Norman Shulkin: donation for purchase of grill bat mitzvah 17–18 Wendy Bayor Sharon Taubman: in memory of Dr. Louis Glickman Administrator Rebecca Blake: in memory of Newton A. Cohen Marc & Andrea Wald: in memory of Felix Wald 860-526-8920 Jeffrey & Beth Brewer: donation for purchase of grill Marc & Andrea Wald: in memory of Lillian Wald Guatemala [email protected] Laurie Caetano: in honor of Maxine Klein's bat Jacqueline Wolff: in memory of Alice Wolff mitzvah 19–20 Jacqueline Wolff: in memory of Arthur G. Wolff Samuel Chorches: in memory of Adeline Koppelman The Whole Megillah Jacqueline Wolff: in memory of Morris Wolff Chorches Published bi-monthly by David Zeleznik & Maxine Klein: in memory of Pearl Rita Christopher & David Frank: in honor of Denny Cemetery/Remem- Congregation Beth Shalom Klein Van Liew leading Holy Scrollers Rodfe Zedek Debra & Myra Zeleznik: in honor of Maxine Klein's Hyla Alcon Cohen: in memory of Hyman Salowitz brance Bus Tour bat mitzvah 55 East Kings Highway Jeffrey & Barbara Davis: in memory of Milton Davis 21 PO Box 438 Jeffrey & Barbara Davis: in memory of Stella Davis Year-End Appeal Chester, CT 06412 Stephen & Clo Davis: in memory of Gussie Davis Rita Fink Voice: 860-526-8920 Stephen & Clo Davis: in memory of Ida Hyman Rose Madnick Social Action Fax: 860-526-8918 Merito & Josephine Elmoznino: in memory of Prosper Herbert & Phyllis Ross 22–23 www.cbsrz.org Elmoznino Building Fund Sheila England: in honor of Rochelle Dauenheimer Editor Stephen Jacobs and Andi Pepper Jacobs Frances Freedman: in memory of Richard Freedman Challah/Social Media Sean Konecky Abraham & Beverly Glassman: in memory of Max Rabbi Discretionary Fund Editor Emeritus and Anna Glassman 24 Lary Bloom & Suzanne Levine: in honor of the adult Lary Bloom John & Jackie Hastings: in memory of Harry b'not mitzvah class Goldstein Rita Fink: in appreciation of Rabbi Bellows Remembrance Contributing Photographer Sidney & Adrienne Hopfer: in memory of David Klar Brad & Lori Jubelirer: in memory of James Jubelirer Deborah Rutty Bruce Josephy: in memory of Amy Sullivan Gary Klar: in memory of David Klar 25 Gene & Marilyn Kalet: in memory of Irving Editorial Assistant Michael & Susan Peck: in honor of the adult b'not Kalet and Jeffrey Reiner Wendy Bayor Carol, Sofia and Eva LeWitt: in memory of mitzvah class Calendars Dr. Abraham LeWitt Barbara Spargo: in appreciation of Rabbi Bellows Design/Production 26–27 Justin Marciano 2 From our Rabbi By Rabbi Marci Bellows Around the Jewish Lifecycle: How to Make a Shiva Call • Aveilut: this is the name applied mourner most often avoids joyful Shalom, Chaverim, generally to the entire mourning social events or entertainment dur- I hope that you have had a lovely, period ing this period. This is the tradi- enriching summer, and that you look tional mourning period prescribed • Aninut: the name of the period forward to New Year 5779 with hope, for relatives other than parents. between death and burial. During optimism, and joy. My prayer for you all this time, the mourners are free • The first year: When the deceased is that your new year is filled with good from all ritual and social obliga- is a parent, a mourner recites Kad- health, good friends, good experiences, tions, other than Shabbat and the dish for either 11 months or a full and good learning. arrangements for the funeral and year. To that end, I am pleased to introduce a shiva. Although it is a mitzvah to It is a great mitzvah to comfort mourn- theme for this year’s Whole Megillah col- console the bereaved, the hours ers (called Nichum Avelim in Hebrew). umns. I plan to write, each issue, about or days before burial are not the Some choose to do this with a phone call a different lifecycle event, including proper time to make condolence or a note. You may also choose to make information on vocabulary and how to calls. Interestingly, the pre-funeral a shiva visit, and there are a number of best observe the event if/when it occurs visitation that takes place in the customs that can make your visit more in your life. chapel is contrary to Jewish tradi- tion, but it has become a prevail- meaningful for you and the mourner. I figured I would begin with the event ing local custom. First, it is customary to enter the house that causes the most trepidation and without knocking or ringing the door- concern for people: making a shiva call. • Shiva: the seven days of mourning bell. Once inside, it is often hard to We are all sensitive to the needs of those following the funeral. Mourners know what to say. Simple phrases like, in mourning, and we are often afraid of stay at home during these days “I was so sad to learn of your loss,” or saying or doing the wrong thing. The and refrain from their normal pur- “My love and prayers are with you,” are CCAR Press book entitled, Gates of Mitz- suits and occupations. The first more than suitable when you approach vah, provides information on many of three days are considered the most a mourner. It’s even okay to admit, “I the commandments relating to death and intense, and in the Reform com- don’t know what to say, but I am here mourning, and I’ve included some of munity, this is the most common for you.” Your presence, even in silence, them below. duration of shiva. is important. Jewish tradition includes several distinct • Sh’loshim: the thirty-day period Many families now choose specific shiva periods of mourning when a person has (including shiva) that follows the times each day; please be respectful of lost a loved one: funeral, and during which time these hours. It is customary to bring a normal life slowly resumes. The Continued on page 4 3 From Our Rabbi Continued from page 3 cake, food item, or homemade dish to tics, etc.). It is much more important to Hamakom yinachem etchem b'toch sh'ar the shiva house, but, in Jewish tradition, be a good listener during these visits aveilei Tzion v'Yerushalayim. May God it is not appropriate to bring flowers. It than a speaker. comfort you among the mourners of is also most helpful if you plan to make Zion and Jerusalem.