More time on her breasts Source: http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2010/06/15/more-time-on-her-breast/ JUNE 15, 2010 in SEXUALITY So, I’m telling that you should spend more time on her breasts, and many of you are thinking “Yeah, if only”. There are exceptions, but in reality, the majority of women response to proper breast and nipple play with arousal. The key here is “proper”. Before some how-to, some statistics. Yes, there’s been research on this! In one study, 82% of women said breast/nipple stimulation caused arousal or enhanced becoming aroused, while a mere 7% said breast/nipple stimulation decreased their arousal. Additionally, 78% of the women said nipple stimulation increased their arousal once they were aroused.1 That said, there are some common reasons women don’t enjoy or don’t want breast/nipple stimulation: . He’s too rough. Her breasts are sensitive! The skin is soft and is loaded with nerve endings. He starts fast and furious. She doesn’t want you suddenly all over her breasts; she wants you to be gentle and slowly work up to it. He grabs her breasts during the day. I know how tempting they look, but grabbing them when her head is elsewhere is annoying to her, and may put her breasts on the no-fly list. Past problems. Be it you or someone else, if breast play has been a problem in the past, she may just not want to go there. He stops too soon. Giving her pleasure this way is a learned experience for both of you. Give it time, both in terms of how long you do it each time you try, and trying many times. She may learn to enjoy it if you give her the chance. She thinks it won’t feel good. Sex is largely a function of our minds, and our minds can increase or decrease the pleasure of any stimulation. If she doesn’t expect it to feel good, odds are it won’t, no matter what her body is telling her brain. This can be tied to self-image issues, fear about what you think about her breasts, or expectations based on past experience or things she has read or heard. A few things to be aware of: . Size makes a difference: In general, small breasts are more sensitive than large ones. (One study found that large breasts were 24% less sensitive than small breasts.)3This means large breasts can usually handle stronger simulation. However, smaller breasts can handle more movement than larger ones. 2 . Nipples are the opposite: Large nipples have more nerve endings, and thus are more sensitive.2 . Stretching of nerves reduces their sensitivity 3: So if she has large breasts, and particularity if her breasts droop, she may feel more if she is on her back. Surgery reduces sensitivity: Be it cancer surgery, augmentation, or reduction, nerve damage and/or stretching of nerves results in some loss of sensitivity. Her hormones change her breasts: Her monthly hormonal cycle can have a significant effect on her breasts. Increased sensitivity, reduced sensitivity, and soreness are all possible. In general, she will be most pleasurably sensitive mid-cycle, with soreness as she approaches menstruation. Babies change things up: Both giving birth and nursing will change her breasts. Long-term both her breasts and nipples can end up either more or less sensitive, but most of the time pregnancy permanently reduces nipple sensitivity.2 Nursing mothers often don’t want their breasts to be touched, but a minority find it much better when they are nursing. How to: . Studies have found that the top quadrant of the breast (from about 10 o’clock to 2 o’clock) is the most sensitive 2, so focus there if she’s not feeling much, and go lightly there if she gets is overstimulated. The areola, the dark ring around the nipple, is nicely sensitive, so don’t miss it. The nipple is not very sensitive to touch. This means it can take a good deal of stimulation, and for some women nipple stimulation is very arousing – in a small percentage of women, it can actually lead to orgasm all by its self. Gentle pulling, by hand or mouth, may feel good, but twisting should be limited. Brushing over the erect nipples can be pleasurable, and can be done both very lightly or more firmly. A bit of lubricant on her breasts can make your touch feel even better while reducing the chance of irritation the next day if you do a lot of breast/nipple play. Start on the outer edges of the breast and work in – s l o w l y. Take your time, anticipation is a great arouser, and delaying an expected touch (of say, her nipples) can be a real turn on. Gently (as in not too hard) massage her entire breast. Use both hands if she is large, or one hand on each if she is smaller. In the shower, wash her breasts – a long, soapy massage. From behind (spooning, or standing behind her) nibble her ear or bite her neck as you play with her breasts. Use one finger to gently trace shapes on her breasts. Work in circles from the outer edge in, till you are making tight circles around her nipple. Teeth can hurt, use sparingly and carefully. Your tongue and lips are much better for giving her pleasure. Sucking her nipples will probably feel good, but there’s a fine line between maximum pleasure and “Don’t do that”. Some women like breast hickies, most don’t. Find out which she is, and act accordingly. Soft skin and well-trimmed nails are a must if you expect to handle her breasts! . Breasts are not just for foreplay. A bit of well-timed breast or nipple stimulation can take her over the top in a big way. Doing this is tricky during oral sex, but more of a possibility during manual. Also possible in some intercourse positions, . Don’t ignore them after sex. Including her breasts in after-play lets her know you like them for more than just sex – and that’s important to her. 1 Nipple/Breast Stimulation and Sexual Arousal in Young Men and Women 2 Normal Cutaneous Sensibility of the Breast 3 Dr. Alan Matarasso’s comments on a University of Vienna study, no source available How To Stimulate a Nipple How To Stimulate a Nipple Nipples can be some of the most sensitive bits on the human body. Some people can orgasm from nipple stimulation alone, and yet some see nothing erotic in these seemingly practical body parts. Try these techniques on your favorite man or woman. The workings of the nipple: • The nipple is made up of a network of smooth muscles closely underlying the surface of the skin, which are packed nerve-endings that respond to temperature and touch. • The nipple extends out to a ring of skin, pink to brown in color and 1-2 centimeters wide, which is called the areola. • The muscles underneath the skin contract when exposed to temperature changes, touch and arousal. • The nipples fill with blood and get more sensitive the more intense your arousal becomes -- but only to a point. • As you approach orgasm the human body can tolerate much stronger stimulation. • Sensitivity is not dependent on the size of the breast. • Men can have just as much pleasure from getting their nipples stimulated as women do, although men sometimes stop themselves from getting aroused from nipple play, believing that it is a female only phenomenon. How to approach the Nipple Erogenous Zone: 1. Start Slow: The biggest mistake many people can make (Ok, men in particular) is to rush into biting or squeezing too hard off the bat. Most people need a warm up period. 2. Each person benefits from a variety of stimulation including anything from gentle caresses to painful biting. The last thing you want to do is to rush into biting hard on a person who likes to be gently prodded. 3. Stroke them: This is the time to figure out what your partner wants. 4. Explore the whole breast with your hands by slowly beginning on the outer perimeter and then working your way to the nipple. When you make it to the nipple, start out gentle and watch for him or her reaction. If he/she seems like he/she'd rather be watching the "Weather Channel," increase the pressure and/or speed slightly. 5. Use different parts of your hand, from your finger-tips to the palm. Even try the back of your hand for a feeling of smoothness. 6. If you're stimulating her during intercourse and she's on top, you can just put your palms up to the tips of her nipples and as she moves up and down she'll get little palm caresses without much work. 7. Licking and Sucking the nipple: The mouth on the nipple is arousing for many different reasons. It is warm and wet, and the tongue is not only agile but can also be used in conjunction with the breath, the lips and the teeth. o Start out by breathing warm air onto the nipple. o Explore it with your tongue. Appreciate the texture, size and shape of your partner's individual nipple. o Use the tip of the tongue to make little circles around the areola. Use the flat of the tongue to give your partner more surface area. o Introduce the teeth lightly. Build up the pressure.