CHRISTIAN FAMILY LIFE EDUCATION: A Guide for Teaching about Adolescent Sexuality and Reproductive Health Written by Shirley Miller for Margaret Sanger Center International © 2001 ~ This guide was written especially for Christians and others who value the importance of talking comfortably and effectively with young people and adults about issues related to healthy sexuality and reproductive health. It provides state of the art information on a variety of topics related to human sexuality, gender, adolescents, growth and development, parenting, domestic violence, STIs, HIV/AIDS, sexual abuse, substance abuse, conflict resolution, goal setting and other important life issues. ~ Margaret Sanger Center International, Copyright 2001 2 CONTENTS Page PREFACE..............................................................................................9 INTRODUCTION: Why Christian Family Life Education? .............10 Important Issues Concerning Adolescents.....................................13 PART ONE: CHRISTIAN FAMILY LIFE EDUCATION About This Guide..................................................................................16 Objectives of the Christian Family Life Education Programme............18 Characteristics of an Effective Christian Family Life Educator ...........20 Providing Support for Parents ..............................................................22 Communicating with Young People about Sex....................................23 Clarifying Values ..................................................................................25 Talking about Sex ................................................................................27 Who Needs Christian Family Life Education?......................................28 PART TWO: TEACHING AND FACILITATING TECHNIQUES What Facilitators Need to Know ...........................................................33 Group Leadership Skills ......................................................................35 Some Learning Principles ...................................................................36 Important Steps for Making Seminars Work .......................................38 Tips for Facilitating Discussions ..........................................................41 Always Remember Your Role! ............................................................44 Building Group Cohesion .. ..................................................................45 Resource Materials and Handouts ......................................................46 A Seminar Check List ..........................................................................47 Seating Arrangement / Ready…Set… Let’s Do It! ..............................49 Margaret Sanger Center International, Copyright 2001 3 PART THREE: WORKSHOPS FOR PARENTS A SIX PART SERIES ON COPING WITH PARENTING Session I Discovering Your Own Parenting Style..........................51 Session II Discovering Your Child’s Personality Type....................61 Session III Overcoming Barriers That Destroy Families..................66 Session IV Setting Boundaries and Disciplining Children................72 Session V Motivating Children for Positive Results ........................78 Session VI Maintaining a Healthy Family Life ..................................83 Couple Communication ........................................................................90 How to Talk to Children and Adolescents about Sex...........................94 PART FOUR: WORKSHOPS FOR ADOLESCENTS & ADULTS “Heaven’s Grocery Store” (Poem).......................................................107 Christian Family Life Education...........................................................108 Introduction to Human Sexuality .........................................................113 Psychosocial/Sexual Development and the Life Cycle.......................119 Puberty and Adolescent Development ...............................................123 Population, Education and Health ......................................................130 Reproductive Anatomy/Physiology, Males and Females....................136 Family Planning and Contraception ...................................................141 Premarital Education ...........................................................................148 Sexually Transmitted Infections ..........................................................156 HIV and AIDS Prevention....................................................................166 Families Working Together .................................................................175 Domestic Violence...............................................................................181 Sexual Abuse, Rape, Child Molestation..............................................192 Protecting Children against Child Molestation ....................................200 Self-Esteem and Decision-Making ......................................................209 Drug and Alcohol Abuse......................................................................214 Dispelling Myths and Telling the Facts ...............................................220 Conflict Resolution...............................................................................226 Goal Setting .........................................................................................233 Margaret Sanger Center International, Copyright 2001 4 PART FIVE: RESOURCE MATERIALS SECTION 1: ICE BREAKER EXERCISES Workshop Ground Rules .....................................................................240 Adjective Name Game.........................................................................241 Get That Autograph .............................................................................242 Things We Have in Common ..............................................................243 Myth or Fact.........................................................................................244 Myth Activity Questionnaire.................................................................249 Myth Activity Answer Sheet.................................................................250 Word Exercise .....................................................................................252 Did Anyone Ever Tell You About…? ...................................................253 Training Session Workshop Evaluation Form.....................................254 Teen Questionnaire .............................................................................255 Parent Questionnaire...........................................................................257 Things to Remember When Conducting Trainings/ Workshops/Seminars .......................................................................259 Four Important Things to Avoid at All Cost .........................................260 Experience and Learning ....................................................................261 Working with Guest Speakers .............................................................262 Teaching Techniques ..........................................................................265 Glossary of Terms ...............................................................................267 SECTION 2: PARENT EDUCATION RESOURCE MATERIAL A Parent’s Prayer ................................................................................271 Parents Teach in the Toughest School in the World...........................272 Children Learn What They Live...........................................................273 How Well Do You Know Your Child? ..................................................274 How Well Do You Know Your Parent?................................................275 Tips on Talking to Children and Young People about Sex .................276 Coping with Parenting Session III: Parent/Child-Evaluation Handout....279 “Condom Sense” .................................................................................280 Talking about Sex Isn’t Easy (A Discussion Guide for Facilitators/Trainers) ........................................................................282 Margaret Sanger Center International, Copyright 2001 5 SECTION 3: CHRISTIAN FAMILY LIFE EDUCATION & SEXUALITY Christian Family Life Education Questionnaire ...................................284 Human Sexuality Questionnaire..........................................................285 Family Life Education Questionnaire ..................................................286 History of Sexual Attitudes ..................................................................287 Psychosocial Development .................................................................288 Introduction to Human Sexuality .........................................................289 Sexual Patterns/Pair Bonding/Orientations.........................................291 Sexual Behaviours...............................................................................292 Sexual Scripts......................................................................................295 A Message to Adolescent Girls and Women..................................297 SECTION 4: SEXUAL & REPRODUCTIVE HEALTH ISSUES Life Cycle Chart/Life Cycle (blank) Form ...........................................300 Sexual Development throughout the Life Cycle..................................301 The Life Cycle: Pre-adolescence, Adolescence, Puberty, Adulthood, Midlife, the Later Years ..................................................304 Adolescent Development: Early, Middle, Late ....................................313