WHAT CAN YOU DO? Local phone numbers: Tell someone what is happening to you Domestic Abuse DAVSS - your local helpline for men or Make arrangements with friends, women (10am-1pm weekdays) relatives or employers on what to do Volunteer Support Tel: 01892 570538 if they are concerned about you West Police. Services (DAVSS) Tel: Non emergency 101, but in CALL THE POLICE an emergency always dial 999 If you and/or your family are being Samaritans - (24hrs) threatened or attacked Tel: 01892 532323 Dial 999 Ask neighbours to call the police if they Family Matters - for children and adult hear cries for help, yelling or loud noises survivors of sexual violence and rape.

Tel: 01474 537392 DON’T KEEP THE ASSAULT SECRET National phone numbers: Your GP or hospital A&E will record your injuries as well as treat them National Centre for Domestic Violence - for help getting an injunction. BREAK THE ISOLATION Tel: 0844 8044 999 Increase contact with others and get National Domestic Violence Helpline - help. Isolation can make it harder for (24hrs) Tel: 0808 2000 247 you to take action. Local Help Line Men’s Advice Line - advice and support for men experiencing domestic abuse. 01892 570538 Tel: 0808 801 0327 TALK TO US (10am to 1pm weekdays) Respect - for information and advice on domestic abuse perpetrator issues. Out of hours message Tel: 0808 802 4040 service available. Your local help line is: Broken Rainbow - information and support for lesbian, gay, bisexual and 01892 570538 A registered charity based in transgender victims of domestic abuse. Out of hours message service available. Tel: 0300 999 5428 West Kent, supporting anyone BT Advice Line, Malicious Calls (men or women) Tel: 0800 661 441 This charity is supported by Tunbridge Wells experiencing Childline Community Safety Partnership and Borough Council, District Community Safety Partnership and Domestic Abuse Tel: 0800 11 11 District Council, & Malling Borough Council, Town & Country Housing, KCC Councillors, HSBC International, Kent People’s Trust, John Coldman Charitable Trust, Community Action Against Crime Innovation Fund, West , Resolution, Waitrose, Soroptimist International of Sevenoaks, Talk to us Colyer-Fergusson Charitable Trust, AXA PPP, local churches and individuals.

DOMESTIC ABUSE DOES NOT Domestic Abuse Volunteer Support Services (DAVSS) web: www.davss.org.uk Company Limited by Guarantee No. 7660698 DISCRIMINATE, NEITHER DO WE Registered Charity No. 1143001 email: [email protected] About us What is Domestic Abuse How we can support you

We are a local charity providing support Domestic Abuse can affect anyone. It We offer free, confidential support by: and information to people across West Kent knows no boundaries with regard to age, • Helping you to identify the risks in your who are experiencing domestic abuse. gender, race, religion, culture, sexuality, situation social status or geographical location. Our highly • Working with you to produce a safety plan so trained One in four women and one in six men will you feel safer experience domestic abuse during their lives. volunteers • Offering options tailored to your situation Children can also and • Discussing choices that give you options professionals be affected. • Offering to accompany you at meetings or have the Domestic abuse, is attending court knowledge, a pattern of • experience aggressive and Offering support to access housing / benefits and time to controlling advice Having time to listen be able to behaviour by one • Putting you in touch with other agencies who offer information and support to enable you person towards can help you another within the context of an intimate to make informed decisions that will • Listening without bias or judgement relationship. provide safety for you and your family. It can take many forms including :

We provide: • Coercion & Threats –threatening to hurt

• A helpline from 10am to 1pm weekdays you, leave you, commit suicide, making you

• Practical support do illegal things and then making you drop • Choices and options any charges. • Intimidation – making you afraid by using Alternatively we’ll simply listen if that’s looks, actions, gestures, displaying weapons, what you need. smashing things, abusing pets. • Emotional Abuse – putting you down, Talk to us, on 01892 570538. humiliating you, calling you names, making or email: [email protected] you feel guilty or think you’re crazy. • You are not alone. Isolation – controlling what you do, who Support through a court case you see, who you talk to and where you go. Even though you may feel fearful, isolated  • Financial – preventing you from getting a and confused, you do not have to suffer in DAVSS silence – our help is just a phone call away. job, making you ask for money, taking your money, denying access to family income. Domestic Abuse Volunteer Support Services You won’t be pressurised to take action, we • Minimising, Denying & Blaming– making will simply help you to explore possibilities. light of the abuse, shifting responsibility for Whatever your needs are, you are welcome the abusive behaviour, blaming it on you. 01892 570538 to use our service. • Using Children – making you feel guilty 10.00am to 1.00pm Monday to Friday Our helpline and support is confidential about the children, using visitation to harass “Talk to us” you, threatening to take the children away. and free. If you want to talk to someone about what is happening to • Physical Assaults – punching, slapping, you, a friend or a family member, call us. kicking, strangling or choking you. · Sevenoaks District, Tonbridge & Malling and Tunbridge Wells Boroughs ·