We have created our Program Workbook using the most efective treatment models and the simplest language available. Hope uses an eclectic holistic treatment approach. Hope Rehab was founded in 2013 by Simon Mott and Alon Kumsawad. This workbook is the result of 20 years expeience working in the Substance misuse and the addiction treatment sector. We have brought together the most efective and accessible psychological tools and concepts as a means to addressing addiction and related issues. The introduction includes a brief explanation ‘what is addiction?’ Our Approach is based on ad- diction science and the ‘American Society of Addiction Medicine’ (ASAM) brain disease model. We also use the ‘National Institute on Drug Abuse’ (NIDA) treatment guidelines and UK training standards (DANOS). Hope’s Counselling and group therapy model includes, CBT, Mindfulness, some 12 step techniques, and many other useful psychological concepts such as afrmation and visualization. The program does not just address substance-use issues, we also address the human condition. Many clients self-medicate underlying struggles such as Depression, Anxiety and histories of trau- ma. The program is designed to improve general mental health and enhance all areas of life. Although we prefer not to use the term Luxury, however we are defnitely a 5 a star treatment program which is a diferent kind of luxury. All the experts agree that Counselling and Group work are the most important conciderations when selecting a rehab program. This is why we have focused on creating the optimum program and workbook for solving your problems. HOPE Rehab is a modern and exciting Center with an international team ofering an holistic program, which includes proven treatment methods from both eastern and western models, it is also in a beautiful place on the coast of Thailand. We use evidence-based treatments that have been robustly tested to measure their efectiveness. Discipline and structure are seen as transferable from our rehab program into our clients new lives in recovery. Many clients have lost all self control so need rehabitualizing in positive and healthy behaviour patterns. This is why we also have a strong emphasis on physical ftness and provide a wide range of ftness activities. Substance-use, depression and anxiety can create chaos and unhappiness in many peoples lives, including loved ones. This workbook address’s all the key issues clients are facing and will give them the best chance at a sustained recovery. It is a voyage of self discovery, healing and growth. We named our Rehab HOPE because Hope is the seed of a positive belief system that will start to grow as you begin your journey. Psychologists emphasize the development of a positive belief system as a necessary foundation for healthy change. Simon Mott has dealt with addiction from both sides of the fence. When he eventually got the right help, he was able to break free from his own addiction and now helps others do the same with this program. Index Chapter One - Treatment Goals Introduction: What is addiction? ...... 1 A craving is a neurological impulse ...... 3 Dopamine ...... 4 Brief treatment goals ...... 5 ACT Matrix (Goals) ...... 6 Exposure Therapy & Paradoxical tasks ...... 8 Coachability ...... 9 Chapter Two - My Case History Assignment 1 TimeLine ...... 10 Assignment 2 The 4 L’s ...... 11 Assignment 2a Examples of Addiction ...... 12 Assignment 3 Your Bubble ...... 16 Assignment 4 Denial ...... 17 Chapter Three - Positive psychology Assignment 5 Gratitude Therapy ...... 21 Assignment 6 Thinking Patterns ...... 23 Assignment 7 Presupposition Affirmations ...... 25 Assignment 8 CBT – ABC/Core beliefs/Distortions ...... 27 Assignment 9 Spiritual Health ...... 35 Assignment 10 Values ...... 39 Chapter Four - Emotional Health Assignment 11 Anxiety ...... 41 Assignment 12 Depression ...... 43 Assignment 13 Trauma exercise ...... 45 Assignment 14 Wise-Mind ...... 47 Assignment 15 Anger ...... 50 Chapter Five - Personal Evaluation Assignment 16 NVC ...... 58 Assignment 17 Co-dependency ...... 62 Assignment 18 Peer Evaluation ...... 66 Assignment 19 King baby ...... 69 Assignment 20 Persona ...... 72 Assignment 21 Recovery Identity ...... 77 Assignment 22 Character traits ...... 79 Assignment 23 Healing the Harm ...... 81 Chapter Six - Relapse Prevention Assignment 24 Recovery Capital ...... 83 Assignment 25 Relapse Radar ...... 85 Assignment 26 Triggers & Cravings ...... 86 Assignment 27 Blocks ...... 89 HOPE REHAB THAILAND 1 Introduction What is addiction? Addiction is a primary, chronic brain disease afecting reward, motivation, memory etc. Dysfunction in these circuits leads to biological, psychological, social and spiritual manifestations. Anyone who has struggled to overcome addiction (or tried helping someone) understands why it could just as well be renamed ‘Reward and relief syndrome’. The term addiction comes from the Latin word ‘addictus’ roughly meaning ‘enslaved by’. Shakespeare was the frst recorded writer to use the word addiction in Henry V, meaning he liked activities of no value or importance.
Common symptoms of Addiction ❏ Compulsiveness ❏ Denial ❏ Reward seeking ❏ Dysfunctional emotions ❏ Relief seeking ❏ Apathy ❏ Impaired decision-making ❏ Co-dependency ❏ Anxiety ❏ Depression ❏ Obsession ❏ Isolation and agoraphobia ❏ Low stress threshold ❏ Psychiatric problems ❏ Low frustration tolerance ❏ Low boredom threshold
Primary: Not a secondary symptom of an underlying issue (i.e. Trauma) even though the original underlying issue may have triggered the addiction. Treatment specialists see the latest ASAM defnition as a validation of what has — since the publication of Alcoholics Anonymous in 1939 — come to be commonly known as “the disease concept” of addiction. Most of the population at large sees addiction as a moral, social or cho- sen problem; however understandable this is, it is a dangerous mistake. Chronic Disease Concept is not the medical model Don’t be confused; addiction cannot be cured in the traditional med- ical sense or in a hospital. Treatment means addressing psychological, environmental, social and spiritual components (triggers) — not just PROGRAM WORKBOOK 2 HOPE REHAB THAILAND
(Chronic Disease Concept is not the medical model...cont)
the biological condition. Medication can be helpful, but it needs to be combined with therapy, behaviour and lifestyle change. Addiction is like cardiovascular disease, which is recognized as chronic; it must be treated, managed and monitored over a lifetime because there is no pill which alone can cure addiction. Choosing a recovery lifestyle over un- healthy behaviours is akin to people with heart disease who choose to eat healthier and exercise. Hijacks our survival systems – disrupting our Hierarchy of need The human reward system is designed to support survival and has been hijacked by the chemical payof provided by the addiction. The reward circuitry bookmarks things that are important: eating food, nurturing children, having sex, and sustaining intimate friendships. Use of the substance then starts to happen at the expense of what otherwise would promote happiness and survival. Addict’s belief system ❏ I can’t live without it ❏ I don’t have a choice ❏ I need it ❏ I can’t say no ❏ It helps me ❏ I must have it Think-Pathways – If we believe we can recover we can recover Analogy: the brain is like a ski slope after a heavy snowfall. As skiers traverse the slope, grooves or pathways begin to form and get deeper as skiers follow the same groove over and over. Eventually, these “path- ways” become so deep and entrenched through behaviour repetition that it requires a great deal of efort for a skier to traverse onto a new path. However, if the new path is repeatedly followed, it can eventually replace the old groove or path as the automatic choice.
Hardwired: It changes the brain’s communication pathways
PROGRAM WORKBOOK HOPE REHAB THAILAND 3 A craving is a neurological impulse
Neurologically based impulses to use sometimes stay hidden unless opportunity or triggers arise. Addicts usually lose control over their addictions. This is known as powerlessness or compulsive behaviour.
Impulse Control: STOP >> GO systems in the brain The dopamine ‘pleasure pathway’ is the Go system, and the prefrontal cortex ‘reasoning pathway’ is the Stop system. When the reward center in the middle of the brain becomes active, it’s as if it says Go>Go>Go. When we anticipate and experience something good like food or sex, alcohol or drugs. Our brain experiences a surge in the level of the neu- rotransmitter dopamine. Executive function: Distorted thinking – Reduced impulse control The prefrontal cortex or higher brain – is responsible for executive functions or rational thinking. It evolved over time to help us weigh the consequences of our decisions. It helps us to put a lid on impulsive behaviour. The “Stop” system is the brain’s brakes. The signals to the prefrontal cortex, however, tend to be a bit slower. So, we need to stop and think things out before forging ahead with an impulsive decision. Putting it in the simplest terms, the “go system” hijacks the “stop sys- tem” in the course of this brain disease called addiction. Changes to Homeostasis caused by brain chemistry imbalance Understanding the role of the neurotransmitter-dopamine in addic- tion is helpful. Low dopamine levels can cause not only addiction but depression, loss of satisfaction, poor focus and many other symptoms. All the major theories agree that dopamine metabolism is altered by addiction, which is why it counts as a disease. People with addictions are low on dopamine. A low dopamine level causes us to unconsciously seek out dopamine-raising drugs and behaviours and get addicted to them. All drugs of addiction and addictive behaviours stimulate dopamine release or increase its activity and produce the he- donic response, “I like that” motivation, incentive stimulus and goal di- rected behaviours.
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Understanding the ‘Nuts & Bolts’ of addiction helps you plan treatment.
❏ Addiction ❏ Neglect ❏ Alcoholism ❏ Trauma and abuse ❏ Stress ❏ Genetic predisposition ❏ Medication ❏ Certain antidepressants ❏ Poor nutrition ❏ Seasonal Effective ❏ Poor sleep Disorder ❏ Depression ❏ Loss
Factory fault Addiction could be a basic design fault of the human brain. Mankind is highly susceptible all because of a “design quirk” in reward pathways and the prefrontal cortex. Our brain’s ability to adapt can turn against us; however, for the same reason we can recover. Neuroplasticity: Recovery like Addiction Relies on Brain plasticity We used to think that the brain, once damaged, could not repair it- self. Breakthroughs in neuroscience have shown that this is not true. Brain plasticity, also known as neuroplasticity, is a term that refers to the brain’s ability to change and adapt as a result of experience, it helps us to adapt to our surroundings. Your brain can change, however only you can change it with the help of a program like Hope’s. It’s like learning a new language or a musical instrument as a mature student. Or a brain injury patient getting back the use of temporary lost functions by repetition therapy. “Neurons that fre together, wire together.” !
PROGRAM WORKBOOK HOPE REHAB THAILAND 5 Brief Treatment Goals
❏ Weekly ❏ Gratitude lists ❏ Group goals ❏ Health and physical goals ❏ Assignment work ❏ Outside issues ❏ Therapeutic goals ❏ Personal
GOAL ONE
GOAL TWO
GOAL THREE
GOAL FOUR
GOAL FIVE
GOAL SIX
GOAL SEVEN
GOAL EIGHT
GOAL NINE
GOAL TEN
PROGRAM WORKBOOK 6 HOPE REHAB THAILAND ACT Matrix (Goals) Acceptance Commitment Therapy Goal setting helps improve your motivation. This is how to set a clear treatment goal using the ACT Matrix model. ACT helps us focus on our behaviour as we rarely stop to think about actual behaviours. By looking at our automatic-behaviour (like sub- stance use) and starting to use the pause button (mindfulness) we can change negative behaviours. See the questions below:
Autopilot behaviours, you or your peers have identifed recently, list 3. 1.
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Humans spend around 70% of the day on autopilot, for example: if you were to write down all the separate behaviours that go into taking a shower you would come up with 20 plus. Long-term direction: Without a clear direction or goal, we are less likely to change the unwanted behaviour. Can you think of something that could improve your life?
Towards behaviour: taking you towards your long-term direc- tion/goal. Please identify a behaviour that has taken you towards achieving your long-term direction.
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Away behaviours: taking you away from your long-term direc- tion or goal. Please identify a behaviour that has taken you away from your long-term direction/goal:
Not wants: Pick three feelings, thoughts or physical pain that you did not want to feel in the last week. 1.
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3. Fix Its: how did you fix these feelings or how would you have fixed these in the past? 1.
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3. Challenge: pick a challenge that is going to take you towards your long-term direction and is measurable whilst staying at Hope. A challenge can run over a month and is about develop- ing a new behaviour that would make a significant difference in your life.
Developing a balanced life with meaning and purpose is what ACT Peer Recovery is all about.
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This is another way to set treatment goals and tasks. People with addiction problems and people who experience difculties with depression/anxiety often fnd themselves stuck. Continuing with the self-defeating behaviour’s consciously or unconsciously, not having the the strength or help to change. At Hope you can use the following concept to set treatment tasks. Dr Albert Ellis, the grandfather of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy em- barked on an experiment in his early adolescence. Dr. Ellis had no choice but to make the most out of a difcult childhood. Spending much of his childhood very ill and in hospital he experienced feelings of loneliness and isolation. As a result, Albert Ellis sufered with severe social anxiety particularly with the opposite sex. He decided to embark on beating his own anxiety with this experiment. He walked around the local park and politely spoke with random woman, some dismissed him and some engaged him. By the end of summer Ellis had made great progress dealing with his social anxiety. Exposure Therapy: Doing the opposite behaviour/facing your fears Paradoxical Behaviour: By doing the exact thing that you most fear you are telling the old neurons in your brain to go away to create newer, healthier ones. 1. What behaviours do I want to change? 2. How are the behaviours holding you back? 3. What will help me to move forward in recovery? 4. Who can help you gain awareness of my behaviours? EFFECTIVE WAY ACTION Behaviour(S) FORWARD Getting up late in the Isolation/Lazy Get up early & make morning. your peers cofee
PROGRAM WORKBOOK HOPE REHAB THAILAND 9 ‘Coachability’ - Recovery Coaching This exercise improves treatment results: Coachability is how you receive information, instructions and advice. As well as the way you apply what you learn. To receive the highest beneft from your counselor, you need to be coachable. Being Coachable is a type of surrender. It allows you to be stretched beyond your comfort zone, safely. Also, to overcome irrational thinking, and take on advice. You are coachable when you can follow suggestions and instructions. Qualities Related To ‘Coachability’ ❏ Open-minded ❏ Self-management ❏ Teamwork ❏ Receive/Invite feedback ❏ Accountability ❏ Invite feedback ❏ Clear listening ❏ Catch defensiveness ❏ Creativity and flexibility ❏ Follow agreements ❏ Meet deadlines ❏ Go beyond your comfort zone ❏ Discipline ❏ Accelerated learning ❏ Communication skills ❏ Respect Tick 4 ways from above list you can improve your Coachability, then apply each one to a goal which will improve your coachability. Try to complete this exercise over 4 weeks and then review.
GOAL 1
GOAL 2
GOAL 3
GOAL 4
PROGRAM WORKBOOK 10 HOPE REHAB THAILAND Chapter Two: My Case History Assignment 1 – Timeline
HOPE • • • • • • • • your life: All signifcant events of
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PROGRAM WORKBOOK HOPE REHAB THAILAND 11 Assignment 2 – The 4 L’s “The profound drive or craving to use substances underscores the compulsive or avolitional aspect of the disease.” – ASAM
The 4 L’s exercise will help you start exploring why you are in treat- ment. Imagine for a moment trying to drive a car whilst someone else is sitting at the wheel; this is how powerlessness works. Many people who have addiction have seen the symptoms mani- fest in their lives. Addiction always impedes on one of the following four L’s: LIVER Afecting health – both physical and mental. Causing ill feelings of guilt, depression, agony. LOVER Destroying relationships with loved ones • Lack of trust • Isolation LIVELIHOOD • Loss of employment • Difculty in employment • Loss of wealth • Lack of meaningful occupation or education LAW • Trouble with the police • Involvement in reckless activity • Living outside the law • Risking everything to get a fx/drink Using the four L’s, where have you paid the cost for your addiction? Mentally, physically, legally, fnancially
PROGRAM WORKBOOK 12 HOPE REHAB THAILAND Assignment 2a – Examples of Addiction 1: Manifestation: Powerlessness and compulsiveness The principle of this exercise is honesty; here we admit to specifc examples of our addiction. We also accept it is harming us; this promotes Ego defation. Only through self-assessment, using the head- ings below, can this process begin to work. These are what we call our bottom lines. “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol and drugs DEAD END and that our lives had become unmanageable” – AA
RITUALS OF USING DENIAL
• Drug of choice • Protecting supply • Minimizing/ When • Secret using Under reporting Where • Leading a double • Covering up/ Who life Avoidance How • Lying • Justifying • Paraphernalia • Doctor shopping • Blaming/Excuses • Binge patterns • Rotating shops • Ignoring consequence • Ignoring advice • Doctor Jekyll & Mr. Hyde • Smuggling • Addicts’ belief system • Harm-reduction (control) empties out • Preoccupation • Substituting • Hiding • Autopilot • Escape and reward • Geographical
INABILITY TO CONTROL PROGRESSION
• Trying to control • Tolerance • Attempts to quit • Amounts used • Loss of control • Inability to consistently • Increased amounts abstain • Decreased afects • Relapse and remission • Dependency • Obsession • Autopilot • Cravings • Using more than intend • Daily maintenance • Drug and alcohol seeking • Withdrawal symptoms
• Relapse and Remission
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2: Manifestation: Unmanageability and consequences Here we give examples of the direct consequences of our using and behaviour. The damage to self and others including your self-esteem.
DAMAGED RELATIONSHIPS ROCK BOTTOM
• Costs to relationships • High bottom or low bottom • Nuclear family • Signifcant losses • Family of origin • Entering rehab • Domestic issues • Crisis event • Hurting others • Shame, guilt and remorse • Neglect of family • Violation of value system • Isolation • Continued use despite problems • Manipulation • Anxiety and depression • Co-dependency • Breakdown • Reputation • Spiritual-bankruptcy • Promiscuous
HEALTH MAJOR OBLIGATIONS
• Physical-Emotional-Mental • Financial costs • Unhealthy places • Loss of ambition • High risk behaviour • Loss of motivation • Impaired thinking • Time wasted • Loss of memory/Blackouts • Social anxiety • Illness resulting from • Isolation your addiction • Humiliation • Self-seeking • Work • Education
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PROGRAM WORKBOOK 16 HOPE REHAB THAILAND Assignment 3 – Your Bubble The bubble is a useful metaphor: Using substances to change the way you feel or detach from reality and escape, is like living in a bubble, so the frst thing to do is “Burst your bubble” Map out your own personal Bubble for us What? Where, When, How, Who With, and How you feel....etc
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PROGRAM WORKBOOK HOPE REHAB THAILAND 17 Assignment 4 – Addicts’ Denial System “Diminished recognition of signifcant problems with one’s behaviours.” – ASAM The psychologist Richard Lazarus talked about Positive denial as a defense mechanism that helps to manage pain, anxiety and stress. Be- ing able to function even when faced with a life-threatening disease or grief. Addiction has corrupted this mental defense and now protects the ad- diction - not the addict. There is conscious denial, lying and hiding and many other unconscious denial types or blind spots. Like the rest of the brain, the addicts’ mental defenses have been hijacked. Absolute deni- al and denial of denial are considered the pre-contemplation stage on cycle of change model. Give examples in the spaces below:
HFA – High functioning alcoholic/addict: I can function at work, so I am OK.
PED - Performance-enhancing drug or alcohol use: It helps me.
Denial of the relapse cycle or process: Autopilot; it just happened; I cannot see my part.
Euphoric Recall: nostalgia, glamorizing, or romanticizing our using or ‘war sto- ries’. Focusing on excitement rather than negative aspects; type of mental filtering.
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Progression denial: I can return to the good old days when it was fun, or I stopped once without help so I can do it again.
Avoidance: not accepting help or “I’ll talk about anything but my real problems.”
Geographical denial: If I move, change jobs or girlfriends, my problems will go away.
Spiritual denial: My spiritual awakening means I am cured and no longer need to work on my recovery. Spiritual bypassing: the use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid confronting uncomfortable feelings, and withdraw from ourselves and others.
Flight to Health: Feeling better (physically) means that I’m cured; emotional rea- soning and super-optimism.
Minimizing: playing down; “my problems aren’t that bad.”
Rationalizing: If I can find good enough reasons for my problems, I won’t have to deal with them; legitimizing and justifying.
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Magical thinking: inaction; sitting back hoping it will somehow be ok.
Why me: This always happens to me; victim state.
Control Fallacy: I manage my life; I can manage my addiction.
Harm minimization/substituting: trying to control or changing one substance for another or one behaviour for another.
Humor: Jokes; making light of it; focusing on the fun memories.
Hiding: self, symptoms, drugs, or alcohol.
Blaming: If I can prove that my problems are not my fault, I won’t have to deal with them. Type of Faultfinding.
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Strategic Hopelessness: Because nothing has worked, I don’t have to try; “It’s a permanent condition. Feeling overwhelmed.” – T.Gorski.*
Compare and despair: Showing that others are worse than me proves that I don’t have serious problems, e.g., comparing a drug to alcohol.
Recovery by Fear: Being scared of my problems will make them go away or pun- ished I will stop.
Democratic Disease state: “I have the right to destroy myself.” – T. Gorski*
Cultural denial and family denial: I can’t air my dirty laundry in public.
*Terence T. Gorski is an internationally recognized expert on substance abuse.
PROGRAM WORKBOOK HOPE REHAB THAILAND 21 Chapter Three: Positive Psychology Assignment 5 – “The Power of Gratitude” Gratitude is a positive emotion; modern medical research shows it’s the most direct route to restoring happiness and balance in our lives. The practice of gratitude is the antidote to feelings of not having enough or not being enough.
After prompting participants to think about things they were grateful for, the participants exhibited more patience and were able to keep their impulses in check (Watkins et al., 2003). Most of us favor short-term gratifcation such as credit card debt or substance abuse over long-term rewards. Using willpower alone to suppress our desires is a stressful way to curb this need for instant gratifcation. A fve-minute per day self-guided gratitude journal can increase your long-term well-being and happiness, which is something that money cannot buy. Because of hedonic adaptation, we quickly get used to money.
• Positive mood • Makes your memories happier • Optimistic • Bounce back from stress • Helps with insomnia • Increased energy levels • Makes people happier • Develops your personality • More trusting to others • Academics • Less social anxiety • Assertiveness • More appreciative • Physical health • Make more friends • Strengthen relationships • Improve your marriage • Reverses victim mentality • More efective performance • Reduces depression • Helps you network • Overcome entitlement • Helps you achieve your goals • Overcome deservedness • More friendly • Dealing with crisis • Reduces envy • Patience • Reduces jealousy • More generous • Less materialistic • Helpful to others
PROGRAM WORKBOOK 22 HOPE REHAB THAILAND “ A good time to start a gratitude list is when you are sufering.” ! 1.
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Spiritual practice is sitting quietly with a few minutes of mindful breathing, then reciting gratitude afrmations.
PROGRAM WORKBOOK HOPE REHAB THAILAND 23 Assignment 6 – Thinking Patterns This is a brief introduction to Cognitive psychology, identifying negative thinking patterns. Write down any of your own and healthier thoughts next to them. These will be basis for your frst afrmations.
Why does it always happen to me? They call this personalizing, I call it bad- luck or superstitious thinking, probably not rationally looking at the real causes of a situation. Apply unfairness rather than taking responsibility.
I don’t care - so there! This is usually Denial, because we all do care at some level, however it helps relieve uncomfortable feelings when we don’t get what we want.
Life is shit anyway. Filtering out the positive for sure, this is a effort to absolve us from our part? The universe has conspired against us that is why our life is not satisfactory.
Blame game. It is an auto-reaction, it is instinctive to blame. But it is for the most part unhelpful. When we do this all we do is give all our power away to the one we blame.
Judge, jury and executioner. Judging is also instinctive but also nega- tive when we judge others self-righteously as we are setting ourselves up and destined to be a hypocrite, humility is a better applied.
It is all going to go wrong anyway so why bother? This is strategic pessimism, maybe it is guarding against disappointment to stay safe we reduce our expectations to such a low point we are paralyzed.
PROGRAM WORKBOOK 24 HOPE REHAB THAILAND Downward Arrow Technique
Negative self-talk Disputes If this were true, what would it mean to me?
What does this say about me?
What would be the worst thing about this?
Why would this be so bad?
Negative Beliefs about the World
Negative Beliefs about Self
New Efective Afrmation Actions
PROGRAM WORKBOOK HOPE REHAB THAILAND 25 Assignment 7 – Presupposition-Afrmations Presupposition: All actions have a purpose, so actions are not random; As human beings, we are always trying to achieve something, a payof. For the sake of argument, imagine you have all the resources necessary to achieve your goals in life, just by using an afrmation technique to implant thoughts and images, you will release these resources and realize your goals. Here are some afrmations enhanced with presuppositions; I choose to see my family as a gift. I choose to see my family as a gift and I let them know. I set strong boundaries. Now I am learning to set strong boundaries during the challenges I face. I embrace learning challenges. I am growing beyond my comfort zone as I embrace learning challenges. I have the qualities needed to be successful. I have the qualities needed to be successful and I naturally call on them.
The 18 most powerful words for persuasion Adverb/Adjective: Time/Number: Cause and Efect: • Naturally • Before • And • Easily • During • As • Unlimited • After • Causes Awareness: Spatial: • Because • Aware • Among Commands: • Realize(ing) • Expand • Now • Experiencing(ing) • Beyond • Stop
Write down a simple afrmation:
Now use a presupposition to enhance the afrmation:
Read them out with confdence: Try reading them out loud and feel the diference between the 2 afrmations. Then continue to read out loud 5 days and feel the belief increase.
PROGRAM WORKBOOK 26 HOPE REHAB THAILAND Afrmations Write six positive statements to instill your new attitude toward life in recovery. They should include a call-to-action and PETs Perform- ing enhancing beliefs. Your whole attitude and outlook upon life can change using the afrmation process. Write your afrmations using “I” statements, make them positive and about what you want. Also make them punchy, passionate and in the present tense. You can acknowledge your current successes and make them fun and super-charged. Fill in the afrmation boxes below:
Accepting help
Being open-minded
Sharing in group and in meetings
New positive beliefs about self
Being restored to sanity
Empowerment
PROGRAM WORKBOOK HOPE REHAB THAILAND 27 Assignment 8 – The ABC’s of CBT
“Cognitive and afective distortions which impair percep- tion & cause distortion in meaning.” – ASAM
The ABC exercise is designed to build a positive belief system by using cognitive behavioural therapy. The originator of this form of therapy was the Psychologist Albert Ellis with his Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy – REBT. Later the Psychiatrist Aaron Beck developed what is now called CBT, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, which is used to treat every type of disorder.
The brain is the organ responsible for producing all behaviour.
A is Activating events or triggers. Basically speaking most human beings have two primary goals, to survive and to be happy. Events can activate neg- ative thoughts and feelings that lead to behaviours that threaten these goals. Not all people will develop the same thinking and reactions around the same events. Why? Because we all have diferent thresholds, which are mainly based on our biological make-up, environment, culture, life expe- riences, levels of education and so on. B is Core Beliefs & self-talk. Beliefs are about what you consciously and uncon- sciously believe about events in your life and your subjective inter- pretation ac- cording to your viewpoint. They manifest as assumptions, automatic thoughts, and rigid personal life-rules. E.g., you may loss a job or a relationship, so in order to make sense of it you may interpret it as an act against you. I.e., “It’s because you or others are bad.” This can lead to negative self-talk, getting angry, depression, acting out, drinking and so on. Remember: Our belief system is laid down during our early development and we need to know if our beliefs are... Beliefs can be rational or irrational Rational: fexible realistic, undemanding and objective, or Irrational: rigid, unrealistic demanding and subjective.
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We find our beliefs by listening to and working through layers of our thoughts we call self-talk.
C = Consequences are emotional & behavioural. As stated earli- er, the way we “feel and act” after experiencing an activating event will heavily depend on our personal interpretation and our beliefs about our interpretations. Psychologists talk about two kind of problematic emotions (Toxic). For addicts these can be internal triggers to use. We suggest working on these emotional reactions. 1. Healthy ‘negative’ emotions: e.g., sadness, concern, healthy anger, regret, disappointment, and concern. 2. Unhealthy ‘negative’ emotions: depression, anxiety, rage, shame, jealousy, envy. If our fight or flight physical defense mechanism is triggered, then our negative thinking about the event makes it worse; we tend to act out.
D = Disputing our thinking: At this stage you will start to identify your core beliefs, so you need to test them to see if they are rational, healthy and up-to-date. Use Socratic questioning by being your own detective and looking at the facts and evidence. Check your character defects and types of distorted thinking.
Disputing Empirical: You ask yourself, where is the evidence that shows that my beliefs are true? Logical: Am I turning desires into demands? Pragmatic: Have my beliefs helped me so far?
E = New effective philosophy. This kind of therapy is not a quick fix. In order to feel the therapy’s full rewards, you will have to work on your- self by using this tool daily. We also take action known as paradoxical behaviours. We don’t try stop- ping negative behaviour; we force ourselves into new positive behaviours by practicing what we call exposure therapy, facing our fears.
PROGRAM WORKBOOK HOPE REHAB THAILAND 29 Core Beliefs Below is a list of common negative core beliefs; tick the ones you can identify with. Addict’s beliefs ❏ I can’t live without it – I need it ❏ I am weak – I must avoid pain ❏ It helps me – There’s something wrong with me. ❏ I don’t have any choice – I can’t say no. ❏ I will never get better – Addiction is a chronic disease. Security ❏ I can’t trust anyone – People are untrustworthy ❏ I have to be alert for danger – The world is unsafe ❏ I am afraid – I should not be afraid. ❏ Bad things I have done are unforgivable, People don’t trust me ❏ No one will protect me – People will always let me down Helpless ❏ I am Helpless – My unhappiness is caused by things outside my control ❏ I need to be in control – My life is out of control ❏ I am a victim – No one cares about me; life isn’t fair ❏ I can’t change – I am trapped ❏ I can’t cope – Life is full of stress. Low self-esteem ❏ I am disrespected ❏ I have nothing to offer – others won’t like me ❏ I am inadequate, ineffective, and incompetent Belonging ❏ I am unwanted ❏ I don’t fit in ❏ I am all alone – No one cares about me
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Not good enough ❏ I am unlovable, and worthless – I don’t like myself ❏ I am stupid – I must never get anything wrong ❏ I am guilty – it’s always my fault ❏ I’m unimportant...... if I don’t get my way ❏ I’m weak or a loser...... if I don’t defend myself Identity ❏ I am a fraud – If you really knew me, you wouldn’t like me ❏ I am confused – I don’t know who I really am ❏ I am lost – There is something wrong with me/the world ❏ I am a loser ❏ I am unattractive – I don’t like how I look ❏ Past events have ruined my chance to be happy People pleasing ❏ I must please people in order for them to like me ❏ Arguing is wrong – People should always get along ❏ I’ll never live up to my parents’ expectations – I must have their approval Thoughts of entitlement ❏ Things must be the way I want them – Life should be fair ❏ I should always get what I want – The world owes me a living ❏ I should be able to release all my anger how I choose Generalizations and distortions ❏ My needs are not going to be met if I have to depend on others ❏ People are evil, greedy, out to get me ❏ I won’t succeed, so why bother trying? Perfectionism ❏ I must be perfect – If things don’t go perfectly, it’s a disaster ❏ I have to have all the answers – Things are either right or wrong. ❏ I’m better than others – My way is the best ❏ Every problem should have an ideal solution
PROGRAM WORKBOOK HOPE REHAB THAILAND 31 Cognitive Distortions Below is a list of self-defeating rigid thinking patterns. Give your examples in spaces below. Polarized Thinking: Things are black or white good or bad All-or- nothing thinking: a form of magnification and minimization. Things are either right or wrong; there is no middle ground.
Overgeneralization: We come to a general conclusion based on a sin- gle piece of evidence. Global Labeling: One bad experience leads you to a negative global judgment. Permanent conditions: taking a tem- porary situation and transforming it into a permanent condition, e.g., suicidal thinking is a permanent solution for a temporary problem.
Being Right: We are continually on trial to prove that our opinions and actions are correct. Being wrong is unthinkable. Righteousness: feel- ings of being right. Faultfinding and Deflecting: We hunt for some- one or something to blame outside of ourselves.
Awfulizing: We make uncomfortable situations into disasters. Castastrophizing: expecting disaster, extreme pessimism. Impossib- lizing: Here we make difficult tasks into impossible tasks by using words like too difficult, too hard, impossible. Can’t Stand-It-itis: “I can’t stand it.” We make uncomfortable and frustrating circumstances into unbearable ones. Self-anxietizing.
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Mental-Filtering - Disqualifying the positive: We take the nega- tive details and magnify them while filtering out all positive aspects of a situation. Negative selective radar: locking on to old triggers. Mini- mizing the negative: dismissing significant issues to avoid the feelings associated, “I don’t care” – Denial
Euphoric recall: Romanticizing, glorifying & glamorizing selec- tive memory to induce excitement
Fortune telling: Predicting the future will lead to failure: “Treatment won’t work.” Futurizing: fear-based projecting causing anxiety. Jumping to con- clusions: assuming or going beyond the evidence we have and reaching a conclusion that makes things look worse than they are. Mind Reading: do- ing people’s thinking for them, knowing what people are feeling and thinking via guess work or through interpreting or misinterpreting body language.
Demand based thinking: the language of should or needs Muster- bat- ing: I must do this or Shoulds I should have done that, demanding infexible self-talk. Life rules: how we and other people should act. Perfectionizing: High expectations of ourselves and others.
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Comparing: measuring yourself against others, comparing yourself in order to reinforce old beliefs, superior or inferior. People Rating: judg- ing self and others. Self-downing: beating ourselves up. Handicapping: telling ourselves that we will never recover. Illusory Superiority: con- sidering ourselves far better and superior than others, underestimating our negative qualities and overestimating the positive ones. Grandiosity. Personalization: “It always happens to me.”
Emotional Reasoning: Feelings are not facts. We believe that what we feel must be true. If we feel that something is stupid or boring, then it must be stupid and boring.
Status Quo Bias: stuck with ‘familiar’ and prefer things to stay same, as they were earlier, our comfort-zone. Tunnel vision: close minded, not allowing new ideas to help us.
PROGRAM WORKBOOK 34 HOPE REHAB THAILAND EFFECTIVE WAY FORWARD — Talk BELIEFS — Self ACTIVATOR Afrmation and Action DISPUTE Behaviour Feelings CONSEQUENCE
PROGRAM WORKBOOK HOPE REHAB THAILAND 35 Assignment 10 – Spiritual Health What is spirituality? Or a spiritual program: The use of the word God in the AA literature is a block for many accessing the AA program. It is always qualifed with as we understand it. More recently, the phrase Higher Power (HP) is being used. The original text was writ- ten 80 years ago by middle-aged, middle class, Christian recovering al- coholics in America. They were trying to convey the message that much of the solution is best described as spiritual. This is to fnd and nurture hope, faith and a sustainable belief in oneself in addition to the willing- ness to persevere through uncertainty and setbacks in order to remain clean and sober. Many do this by accepting a form of what we now call spirituality or psychologists call positive psychology. Developing a sense of meaning and overall purpose is said to be equally important.
“Addiction is a primary chronic brain disease of reward and memory with biological, psychological, social and spiritual manifestations” — ASAM
Higher Power Helping Power Higher Self Inner Power
Carl Jung – “Spirituality is genetic and therefore universal in all mankind in our collective unconscious.” A philosophy for life – Buddhist practice results in increased satis- faction. In a study by the University of Wisconsin, scans of a group of Buddhists’ brains revealed that activity in the left prefrontal lobe – linked to positive emotions, self-control and temperament – were con- stantly lit-up. Philosopher William James, who said, ‘All sunshine makes a des- ert’ and identifed himself as a sick soul, wrote about the psychology of religion, He referred to a mind-cure involving positive thinking. He in- troduced the spiritual-self as separate from material-self and social-self. People who commit crime often believe in God whether they practice a value system or not (Gallup poll stat).
PROGRAM WORKBOOK 36 HOPE REHAB THAILAND Exercise for Spiritual Growth Mind-map each of the headings below
Non-Spiritual manifestations: depression, loss of interest, hopeless- ness, lack of connection with others, extreme selfsh pursuits, lack of hu- mility, meaninglessness, not trusting own intuition, loss of joy
Concept: Get a HP to replace an old addiction; Synchroniza- tion, karma, higher-self, helping power, the group, inner power, Science, the Group, etc.
Practice: rituals, sacred time, lighting a candle, daily readings of collectivewisdom, daily prayer (commitment), afrmation, mind- fulness and meditation, gratitude list, step 10, soul searching, etc.