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Understanding Narcissistic Personality Disorder What Makes Narcissists Tick © 2004 – 2007, Kathleen Krajco — all rights reserved worldwide. The material in this book is the property of its author and publisher, Kathleen S. Krajco. It is protected by international copyright laws and treaty provisions. You must treat it as you should any other copyrighted material, such as a paper book, except that you have the owner's permission to print one copy for your own personal use. Otherwise no part may be reproduced, transmitted, transcribed, stored in a retrieval system, or translated into any language in any form by any means without the express written permission of Kathleen S. Krajco. Contact her by email to [email protected]. Published by www.OperationDoubles.com Version 3.0 released: January 2007 in the U.S.A. Kathy Krajco is not a healthcare professional, and this publication is not intended as professional advice of any sort. 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But here I cannot. —Dante, Inferno, Canto XVI Contents VII Contents PREFACE XIII Part I The Essence of Narcissism 16 1 Narcissus............... ................................................................................................. 18 2 Arrested............ .Child......... .Development....................... .................................................................. 21 3 It's... .All.... .About........... .Attention............... ............................................................................ 23 4 A .House........... .of.... .Mirrors............ .................................................................................. 28 5 The.... .Darkness................ .Within........... ............................................................................... 32 6 Keeping............ .Up..... .Appearances...................... ....................................................................... 35 Part II The Danger of Narcissism 40 1 Predation.............. .................................................................................................. 40 2 Manipulation.................... ............................................................................................ 41 3 Protecting............... .Ourselves.................. .............................................................................. 44 Meting... .Out...... .Trust......... .................................................................................................. 48 Narcissism.......... .in... .High........ .Places........... ................................................................................... 50 Part III What is NPD? 56 1 Classification..................... .&... .Diagnosis................. ..................................................................... 58 Examples........ .of... .Mental........... .Disorders................ ............................................................................. 61 Legal .Classification....................... .............................................................................................. 62 Personality.......... .Disorders................ ........................................................................................... 63 2 Characteristics........................ .of... .NPD........ ........................................................................... 64 Dignostic....... .Criteria............ .................................................................................................. 70 Are NPD..... .and....... .Psychopathy..................... .the..... .Same?............ ................................................................ 72 The Dissimulation...................... .Factor.......... ..................................................................................... 78 Case....... .Study......... .in.. .Dissimulation.................................................................................................. 81 © 2004 – 2007, Kathleen Krajco — all rights reserved worldwide. OperationDoubles.com VIII What Makes Narcissists Tick 3 Red..... .Flags......... .of... .Narcissism................... ......................................................................... 87 Shows... .Off..... .Goodness................. .and...... .Kindness................ ................................................................... 88 Vandalizes......... .Others'............ .Images............ ................................................................................... 88 History... .of.... .Past....... .Upheavals................. .................................................................................... 91 Hated. .for..... .Mysterious.................. .Reasons............... .by.... .People........... .Close.......... .to... .Them......... .................................. 91 Perplexing......... .Behavior............... .-. .Backward................. .Reactions................. .to... .Things........... ....................................... 92 Tramples....... .Privacy/Boundaries................................ .as.... .a.. .Control-Freak....................... .............................................. 94 Extreme..... .Self-Absorption.......................... ...................................................................................... 95 Hostile... .Reaction............... .to... .Attention............... .or.... .Credit.......... .Given.......... .Others........... ........................................ 97 4 Seriousness................... .of... .NPD........ ................................................................................ 97 5 Prevalence................... .of... .NPD....... ................................................................................. 103 A False...... .Picture........... .................................................................................................... 106 6 NPD....... .-.. A... .Male........ .Disease?................ .An.... .Adult.......... .Disease?............... ......................................... 110 Part IV Nature or Nurture? 118 1 Is... .NPD....... .Genetically................... .Inherited?.................. .............................................................. 118 2 Is... .It.. .Caused............. .by.... .Chemical................ .Imbalance?................... .................................................. 118 3 Psychological........................ .Causes............. .......................................................................... 120 Part V Meet the Narcissist: A Wolf in Sheep's Clothing 126 1 The...... .Narcissist's.................... .Style......... ........................................................................... 126 2 The...... .God....... .Complex................ ................................................................................. 130 3 Attenion:............... .I. .Gotta.......... .Have........ .It.. .All..... .................................................................. 132 Getting..... .It... .All.... ........................................................................................................ 135 Denying....... .Any....... ....................................................................................................... 140 4 You....... .Are..... .an..... .Object........... ................................................................................. 144 5 Passing............. ..for.... .Normal............. ............................................................................... 147 6 In... .the..... .Looking.............. .Glass.......... ............................................................................. 149 7 A.. .Work......... .of.... .Art..... ......................................................................................... 152 8 The...... .Self....... .Absorbed................ ................................................................................. 155 Tuning..... .You....... .Out...... .................................................................................................