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THE JOURNAL OF SUBSTANCE FOR PF VOL. XII $2.95 mm ISSUES VOLUME XII PUBLISHER/EDITOR IN CHIEF Merle Hoffman MANAGING EDITOR Beverly Lowy ASSOCIATE EDITOR Phyllis Chesler ASSISTANT EDITOR Karen Aisenberg CONTRIBUTING EDITORS Irene Davall Roberta Kalechofsky Flo Kennedy Nancy Lloyd ART DIRECTORS Michael Dowdy Julia Gran ADVERTISING AND SALES DIRECTOR Carolyn Handel ON THE ISSUES: A feminist, humanist FEATURES ESSAYS publication dedicated to promoting political action through awareness and BETWEEN WOMEN: TALKING FEMINIST: education; working toward a global A Roundtable with Susie Orbach, Israeli and Palestinian political consciousness; fostering a spirit Luise Eichenbaum and Feminists Unite of collective responsibility for positive Merle Hoffman 7 by Phyllis Chesler, Ph.D. 13 social change; eradicating racism, sexism, ageism, speciesism; and support- ing the struggle of historically disenfran- THE DILEMMA OF OTHER MEN GENDER AND SCIENCE: chised groups powerless to protect and by John Stoltenberg A Review Essay on Evelyn Fox defend themselves. For antisexist males, the world of Keller and Her Work other men can be "a scary and by Roberta Kalechofsky 19 UNSOLICITED MANUSCRIPTS dangerous place" 10 All unsolicited material will be read by the editors. For return, enclose self-addressed, stamped envelope with SPECIAL FEATURES proper postage. Articles should be not less than 10 and THE PRESS IS THE ISSUE not more than 15 double spaced, typewritten pages on by Carl Jensen, Ph.D. women's health, social or political issues by people with Despite the quantity of "news" being ABORTION REGARDLESS OF hands on experience in their fields. Professional papers THE LAW: A Survey of 300 Women are accepted. All editing decisions are at the discretion mass produced, Americans are not of the editors. Feminist cartoons are also acceptable at CHOICES Women's Medical under the same provisions. being told all they have a ON THE ISSUES does not accept fiction or poetry. right to know 15 Center, Immediately Prior to Their Abortions 20 Advertising is accepted at the discretion of the AN OPEN LETTER TO DR. publisher. Acceptance does not necessarily imply THE HIDDEN SORORITY: endorsement. Lesbians Over 60 C. EVERETT KOOP from Irene Davall 21 by Dr. Monika Kehoe ON THE ISSUES is published as an informational and educational service of CHOICES Women's A frank discussion of the Medical Center, Inc. 97-77 Queens Boulevard previously neglected issues of aging DEPARTMENTS Forest Hills, NY 11374-3317 ISSN 089S-6014 and lesbianism 22 PUBLISHER'S NOTE: The opinions expressed by Merle Hoffman 1 contributors to our publication and by those we "NOT THE CHURCH..."Members of the interview are not necessarily those of the editors. NY Pro-Choice Coalition hold high the Win Some «Lose Some 4 ON THE ISSUES is traditionally a forum for ideas Proclamation (page 21) that was fasten- Choice Books and concepts and a place where women may have 25 their voices heard without fear of censure or cen- ed to the door of St. Patrick's in NYC. Feedback 35 sorship. PHOTO: BETTYE LANE ness; abortion as a political football uncharted course full of morality, the- MERLE HOFFMAN between the executive and the legisla- ology, philosophy and politics, but no ON THE ISSUES tive branch; abortion as a religious experience in dealing directly with the It seemed to have happened quietly, issue; as a birth control problem, as a abortion patient herself. "What do I quickly, very subtly. It was there, population control necessity, back al- say to her?" "What will she say to me?" overshadowing everything else, de- ley stories revisited; abortion as the All the psych courses flooded in... manding immediate attention — issue that inspired thousands of ar- theories, theories and more theories. The funny part about it was that rests of members of "Operation Res- This woman was terrified. She was thing had always been there — always cue", abortion as the motivation for pregnant and did not want to be! In a reality, but hanging in the shadows 600,000 people marching on Washing- that, she was not alone. But here she — part of the generalized white noise ton. Abortion now acceptable for dis- was a pioneer. And I was to guide her of the collective unconsciousness; cussion to people who otherwise only way. 1971 and a brave new world for something you had to make a special whispered about it. A "Made-for-TV" women — I was to be her bridge — her effort to get in touch with. movie, pro-choice art exhibits, concerts, midwife into the realms of power and Until it wasn't — until it burst forth tee-shirts and poetry readings. A rush responsibility that are so much a part with a power, vengence and energy so on wire coat hangers. Yes, the heat was of the architectural foundations of the heightened and intense that everyone definitely on. abortion decision. But that understand- could not help but notice the change. Strangely enough, the thing had ing was to come later — much later, The thing had definitely taken on a never been an "issue" for me, having when abortion was an "issue". life of its own — What was once only occupied a more private, fundamental That day, 18 years ago, there was whispered about or discussed with and intimate space in my reality. A only that woman, her fear, her need, those intimately involved was now reality whose rites of passage and her pain, her strength, her vulnerabil- generalized cocktail party conversa- seasonal changes had signposts of their ity and her hand. The hand that I held tion, another political discussion point, own. Not for me calendars full of chil- tightly in mine, listening to her nerv- the static, the cacophony of voices, the dren's birthdays or friends' anniversa- ous staccato talking to help ease the media attention, the politics, the same ries. No, my markers were far more discomfort of the dilators — locking questions, the same answers — mul- personally political than that. her eyes in mine, breathing in rhythm tiple variations on a theme. It was 1971 (two years before Roe v. with her — becoming joined to the One day, there it was — as big as Wade) and New York was one of the point of personal discomfort. In the life— ABORTION — THE "ISSUE". few states with liberal abortion laws. I end, I do not remember a word of what Abortion the Issue was exploding, remember the first patient at passed between us. It was strangely and the fallout burned everything it CHOICES. In her early 20s and very, irrelevant. I do remember her face. touched. Nothing was exempt — all very nervous. She was from New Jer- And I remember her hand; the hand aspects of contemporary life and com- sey, alone, without her husband; there that became for me in that moment of munications; talk show topic, front page with a supportive friend whose face time, without my knowing, the guiding in all newspapers, discussed ad infini- betrayed a well of empathetic anxiety. force of my life...her hand, and the tum on Buckley, Downey, Phil and I remember myself. I was in graduate Oprah — there were more demonstra- school for psychology: young, intense, STORMING THE CATHEDRAL: Merle tions — new organizations, alliances involved with founding CHOICES Hoffman raises a giant coat hanger and coalitions forming — old ones because it seemed romantic. And I was during the massive demonstration and coming out of the closet — abortion as nervous. Very, very nervous. No one Civil Disobedience at St. Patrick's a political issue; abortion as a busi- had trained me; legal abortion was an Cathedral in April. ON THE ISSUES VOL XII 1989 PHOTO: BETTYE LANE intimate, personal connection of one too late to deny it...too afraid to ask for women. Because of the collective pow- woman helping another, forging a help...maybe it'll go away... maybe if I erlessness and political vulnerability natural alliance with that woman and wish hard enough. of the "enemy", it was an easy victory all the thousands who have followed I remember this 14 year old, and too — an especially easy kill. her through my hands so that my many of the others like her. I remem- Hearing that news, I was filled with memories of my life before abortion are ber that when she went into the recov- an intense self- awareness, coupled of another age — another time — ery room I gave her a stuffed animal to with a strong feeling of fate. I instinc- another place — hold and seeing her clutch it in a jes- tively knew that my life was irrevoca- No, abortion was never an "issue" for ture of natural protection pondered on bly changed. me. I had in that moment made the tran- The countless stories, the reasons sition from the personal to the politi- agreed with or not—my judgments on cal, from the world of singular experi- their merits changing with the climate It is in the clinics ence to the broader, more demanding of the times and my own psychological and dangerous one of social and politi- evolution — the hours and hours of that a different cal activism. conversations counseling husbands, Soon afterwards as a student, I lovers, sisters — and mothers whose walked the halls of Queens College fury at their daughters' betrayal needed definition of love sounding a hollow alarm on many a more salve than I could give..."let her deaf ear; after all this "issue" did not go local—let her really feel the pain so gets played out- involve personal survival. "It won't she knows never to do it again"..The affect me, it won't effect any of the heads on my shoulder as I would sit on people that I know.