P R E P a R E M O D U L E #3 // Leader Guide

P R E P A R E M O D U L E #3 // LEADER GUIDE

P A S T O R A L C A R E | E A S T S I D E C H R I S T I A N C H U R C H

A FEW THINGS TO REMEMBER: ● Stay Engaged: small distractions make people not feel cared for.

CONNECT (5 min): S PEND TIME ALLOWING TEAM MEMBERS TO CONNECT WITH ONE ANOTHER RELATIONALLY.

CELEBRATE (5 min): A SK HOW THEY’VE SEEN GOD WORKING IN THEIR AREA OF MINISTRY SINCE YOU MET LAST. ● What is celebrated gets replicated. It reinforces values. ● Celebration is not just for celebration, it is for training.

CHECK-UP (5 min) : C HECK IN WITH YOUR TEAM MEMBERS

COACHING (40-50 min): FACILITATE DISCUSSION USING THE GUIDE BELOW AND SUMMARIZE WITH THE LEADERSHIP PRINCIPLES BELOW. ● Remind your team members of what they are moving towards.

COMPETENCY: Offers care to those in need through prayer, the Bible and spiritual conversations.

OBJECTIVE: Each person will have the tools and ability to pray and use the Bible effectively and lovingly in spiritual conversations, by using language an unchurched person can relate to.

ASSIGNMENTS: (To be completed by team members prior to meeting.) ● Assignment 1 // Browse the listed struggles/promises and pick two, then add a scripture with each that is not listed, and answer the questions. ● Assignment 2 // If you haven’t already, download the YouVersion Bible App to your phone and answer the questions. ● Assignment 3 // Read the following truths and hints and answer the questions.

ASSIGNMENT 1 GOD'S PROMISES WHEN YOU ARE IN NEED: Scripture Speaks confidently that God loves you deeply and He will meet all your needs. At times you have emotional needs, and God's Word brings calm. At times you need guidance, and His Word gives counsel. At times God works directly through circumstances or other followers of Jesus. Whatever the situation, God will give you comfort, counsel, and peace.

ANGER - James 4:10, Psalm 73:25-26, Ephesians 4:26-27, Galatians 5:22-23 ANXIETY - M atthew 11:28, John 16:33, Psalm 20:7, Isaiah 41:13 CONFUSION - P hilippians 1:9-10, John 8:12, James 1:5, Psalm 32:8 DEJECTION - H ebrews 4:15-16, Jeremiah 29:13, Jeremiah 33:3, Psalm 86:5-7 DEPRESSION - Matthew 5:4, Romans 15:13, Deuteronomy 31:8, Psalm 42:11 DESPAIR - James 1:12, 2 Thessalonians 3:3, Hebrews 10:35-36, Psalms 46:1 DISAPPOINTMENT - P salm 62:8, James 4:2-3, Romans 8:28, Psalm 33:18-22 DISAPPOINTMENT - P salm 62:8, James 4:2-3, Romans 8:28, Psalm 33:18-22 DOUBT - 1 John 4:15-16, Psalm 130:7, Mark 9:20-24, John 20:24-31 FAILURE - Isaiah 41:10, 1 Corinthians 15:58, 2 Corinthians 4:1-8, Luke 22:54-62 & John 21:15-17 FRUSTRATION - Matthew 5:7, 1 Corinthians 13:5, Ephesians 4:31-32, 2 Thessalonians 1:6-7 FEAR - Psalms 23, Hebrews 13:6, Philippians 4:4-9, Psalm 4:8 GRIEF - 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18, Revelation,21:3-4, John 14:1-3, Psalm 23

GUILT - 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, Ephesians 3:12, John 3:16-18, Hebrews 12:1-12 INSECURITY - Hebrews 13:18, Ephesians 3:16-19, Romans 8:35-39, Philippians 4:4-9 LONGING - 2 Thessalonians 1:11, Proverbs 16:3-9, Philippians 4:12-13, Psalm 84:11 NEED - Philippians 4:19, 2 Corinthians 9:6-11, Proverbs 28:19, Psalm 69:32-33 SHAME - D aniel 9:7-9, Luke 12:8, Luke 15:10, 1 Peter 3:14-16 SICKNESS - P salm 73:26, James 5:14-15, Psalm 23, 2 Corinthians 12:7-10 SUFFERING - R omans 5:3-5, Psalm 71:19-21, Job 1:21-22 & Job 2:10, 1 Peter 4:12-19 TEMPTATION - 1 Corinthians 10:13, Galatians 5:16, Psalm 119:104, James 1:13-14 WEAKNESS - 2 Corinthians 12:7-10, 1 Chronicles 16:11, Ephesians 3:16-21, Ephesians 6:10-18

QUESTIONS: 1. Browse the listed struggles/promises above and pick two, then add a scripture with each, that is not listed. Why did you choose them and how did you seek out the scripture reference?

2. If a person was coming to you with one of the struggles above, that you did not choose, when and how would you use the scripture?

3. What are three mistakes that people commonly make when using scripture to assist someone?

4. What is a life verse that you can share with others and has impacted you? Why?

ASSIGNMENT 2

https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/bible/id282935706?mt=8

QUESTIONS: 1. Review the App. What advantages and possible uses do you see in using this App as a resource while assisting someone?

2. What have you experienced that went well or went poorly when using a phone to share scripture?

ASSIGNMENT 3

TRUTHS THAT HELP: (When used correctly) 1. I have a choice - I can either run from God or I can run to Him with the same issues. 2. Death is the enemy, that’s why Jesus came to conquer that enemy. 3. Our bodies are not eternal but who we are is eternal. 4. The reality of prayer is that God wants us to talk to Him. 5. If you love God and are called to His purposes God won’t waste your hurt. 6. God is much more interested in my character then in my comfort. 7. There is a difference between healing and curing.

8. When everything is out of control, God is still in control. 9. God’s love letter is here to help us get the most out of life...so let’s use it.

HINTS THAT HELP: 1. Be a good listener. 2. Unspoken words - a gentle squeeze or a gentle hug and a cheery Hello says more than any truth you can say by itself to those who are hurting. 3. Acts of kindness allows you to be heard. 4. Don’t give advice to those who are facing life threatening illnesses unless it is asked for. 5. Sending encouraging cards, short notes or emails as a follow up to those experiencing great pain will be helpful in future conversations. 6. Things to say to those who are facing great pain: ○ “I’m so sorry” ○ “Is there anything I can do to help like...?” And then give some ideas of what you could do. ○ “How can I pray for you specifically?” ○ “How are you feeling about this?” and then listen...don’t try to fix it at this point. ○ “You are a true example of ______”. (Fill in the blank with something positive) 7. Things not to say to those who are facing great pain: ➢ “I know how you feel”. ➢ “I had a friend with ______they died.” (Good outcomes are OK to share) ➢ “They can’t do much for that.” ➢ “I can top what you’re going through.” ➢ “You know, God is in control” (Or any other truth) in a preachy kind of way.

QUESTIONS PEOPLE WANT ANSWERS FOR: 1. Does God cause disease? 2. If God is so loving, why am I suffering? 3. Am I being punished for past sins? 4. I am afraid to die...is that wrong? 5. What will happen to me when I die? 6. What purpose (if any) do I have in life? 7. I’ve been praying but God isn’t answering? 8. Does God still heal today like He did in the Bible? 9. Is it OK to be mad at God?

QUESTIONS: 1. Answer any two questions that people want answers for above and lovingly use a truth and/or hint listed above in your response, along with a prayer.

2. Have you ever experienced truths being used poorly by someone? What made it that way? What principles can you learn from that?

3. What have you experienced in the past when answering deeper spiritual questions that went well? What specifically made it good?

4. On a scale of 1-10 with 10 being high, how would you describe your skill level in assisting people with their deep spiritual questions? Why specifically did you choose that number? What would you need to do to move your skill level to a higher number?

5. List three church words or phrases that an unchurched person would not use and share another word to replace it. (For example Lord and Savior could be Leader and Forgiver.)

LEADERSHIP TAKEAWAYS:

Key questions you may want to ask your participants in this final section: What stood out to you the most? What challenged you the most? What questions did these assignments raise in you? What leadership strengths did this affirm in you? What growth areas did this reveal to you? What are the 3-5 action steps you need to take? What accountability question would you like for me to ask you next time we meet? How can you put this into practice before we meet again?

COMMUNICATE (2 min) : S HARE IMPORTANT INFORMATION ITEMS WITH YOUR TEAM INCLUDING YOUR NEXT MEETING TIME.

CARE (5 min): SPEND TIME PRAYING AS A TEAM. YOU MAY WANT TO TAKE

SPECIFIC PRAYER REQUESTS FROM YOUR TEAM MEMBERS.