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Types of Love You Can Experience: – Sternberg Theorized That in Order to Be Considered ”Love” Three Ingredients Are Needed: Robert 1 Love in Interpersonal Relationships: Interpersonal Relationships: All day. Every day. My Favorite Romantic Drama: What is Love? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5sY4rhvB9LE Why do you https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yJSiUm6jvI0 need it? Types of Love you can experience: Sternberg theorized that in order to be considered ”love” three ingredients are needed: Robert 1. Intimacy: If you only have intimacy, you have friendship Sternbergs Intimacy in this aspect is viewed as a close bond. Ingredients for 1. Passion: If you only have passion, you have infatuation/ lust 2. Commitment: If you only have commitment you have an LOVE: empty love. 1. Eros Love 2. Ludus Love Six Types of 3. Storage Love 4. Pragma Love Love: 5. Mania Love 6. Agape Love The thought process behind these different kind of love is that we Theory behind all have these 6 different kinds of love types in our relationships. Every relationship we have may differ: the Theories: In your first relationship, you are often insecure but passionate. But in your next relationship you may be relaxed and calm. q Highly passionate, sexual, and intense. Often believe in: Love as Magical Love as fate 1) Eros Love: Love at first sight. qMovies: Titanic, Romeo and Juliet, Princess Bride, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella, and The Little Mermaid. q This type of love is VERY American, and often utilized by Hollywood. Often characterized as the “players” love Will Often: Avoid trouble or intensity Feel uncomfortable with commitment Keep Secrets 2) Ludus Love Have affairs Those who are ludus lovers will often leave if the relationship is no longer fun. Hollywood portrays this love by combining it with someone who has an Eros type of love. The Eros love type often gets their heartbroken. Peaceful and slow 3) Storage Not passionate and intense Love Friendship is key Difficult to separate from friendships This love . Develops over time Endures long periods of inactivity or excitement Lacks the heat of eros and the games of ludus Movie: Harry Met Sally / The Wedding Singer / My Best Friends Wedding / Shrek / You’ve Got Mail / Beauty and the Beast / 2 Weeks Notice Practical, Looking for “types” Parents, $, race, nationality, family, etc. Love is logical & More stable and rational Movie: Pretty Woman / Bridges of MC / As Good As It 4) Pragma Gets / Shakespeare in Love / Big Fat Greek Wedding / Love: Grease / Maid in Manhattan / Notting Hill Hollywood Formula: Woman settles for pragma love--but is unhappy Extreme highs and lows Jealousy Obsessive Self-worth comes from the relationship Nothing else matters 5) Mania Love Movie: Fatal Attraction / Something About Mary / American Beauty / The Crush / Memento / Taxi Driver / Swim Fan Hollywood Formula: slashing tires, stalking, going into exile, drinking, etc.. This love is . Compassionate Selfless Egoless 6) Agape Love No concern for personal reward or gain Want the best for the other person Movie: Forrest Gump / Man Love a Women / John Q / Casablanca / 1) My lover and I have the perfect physical chemistry between us 2) I feel that my lover and I were truly meant for each other (fate) 3) My lover and I really understand each other (soul mates) 4) My lover fits my ideal standards of physical beauty (my idea of a Test Time: “10”) 5) I try to keep my lover a little uncertain about my commitment to him/her 6) I believe that what my lover doesn’t know about me won’t hurt him/her (I keep secrets) 7) It is important that our relationship is fun and exciting 8) When my lover gets too dependent on me, I want them to back off 9) To be genuine, love must develop over time (not an over-night thing) Test Time 10) I expect to always be friends with my lover Cont’d: 11) Our love is really a deep friendship, not a mysterious, mystical emotion 12) Our love is the most satisfying because it developed from, and is based on, a deep caring relationship 13) In choosing my lover, I believed it was best to love someone with a similar background 14) A main consideration in choosing my lover was whether my family would approve 15) An important factor in choosing a partner is whether or not Test Time he/she would be a good parent 16) One consideration in choosing my lover was what career he/she Cont’d: selected 17) When things aren’t right with my lover and me, my stomach gets upset 18) Sometimes I get so excited about being in love with my lover that I can’t sleep 19) When my lover doesn’t pay attention to me, I feel awful all over (emotionally, physically, etc.) 20) I cannot relax if I suspect that my lover is with someone else 21) I try to always help my lover through difficult times Test Time 22) I would rather suffer myself than let my lover suffer Cont’d: 23) When my lover gets angry with me, I still love him/her fully and unconditionally 24) I would endure all things for the sake of my lover A. Men: Eros and Luduc B. Women: Manic, Pragma, and Stroge General C. Age and Evolution Findings: Eros and Mania are “young” loves In time, couples grow into Stroge and Agape love III. Romantic Love (believe it or not) A. Married men have a more romantic concept of love than their wives Men believe in love at first sight more More men believe love can overcome anything General B. Twice as many women would marry for reasons Research: other than love In 1965, 75% of women said they would marry a man they did not love if he fit the bill in other ways Today, only about 10% of American women say they would (Whitehead, 2003).
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