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1 What Is Polyamory? 1 2 Who Does Polyamory, and Why? 23 3 Polyamorous Communities in the United States 45 4 Issues Facing Poly Relationships 81 THEPOLYAMORISTS NEXTDOOR THEPOLYAMORISTS NEXTDOOR Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families Elisabeth Sheff ROWMAN & LITTLEFIELD PUBLISHERS, INC. Lanham • Boulder • New York • Toronto • Plymouth, UK Rowman & Littlefield 4501 Forbes Boulevard, Suite 200, Lanham, Maryland 20706 www.rowman.com 10 Thornbury Road, Plymouth PL6 7PP, United Kingdom Copyright © 2014 by Rowman & Littlefield All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any electronic or mechanical means, including information storage and retriev- al systems, without written permission from the publisher, except by a reviewer who may quote passages in a review. British Library Cataloguing in Publication Information Available Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Sheff, Elisabeth, 1969– The polyamorists next door : inside multiple-partner relationships and families / Elisabeth Sheff. pages cm Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN 978-1-4422-2295-3 (cloth : alk. paper)—ISBN 978-1-4422-2296-0 (electronic) 1. Non-monogamous relationships. 2. Open marriage. 3. Families. 4. Sexual ethics. I. Title. HQ980.A527 2010 306.84—dc23 2013024916 TM The paper used in this publication meets the minimum requirements of American National Standard for Information Sciences Permanence of Paper for Printed Library Materials, ANSI/NISO Z39.48-1992. Printed in the United States of America CONTENTS Acknowledgments vii Introduction ix PART ONE: UNDERSTANDING POLYAMOROUS RELATIONSHIPS 1 What Is Polyamory? 1 2 Who Does Polyamory, and Why? 23 3 Polyamorous Communities in the United States 45 4 Issues Facing Poly Relationships 81 PART TWO: POLYAMOROUS FAMILIES WITH CHILDREN 5 Children in Poly Families 135 6 Adults in Poly Families 165 7 Benefits of Polyamorous Family Life 191 8 Difficulties in Polyamorous Families 217 9 Overcoming Obstacles 255 Conclusion: Implications for Serial Monogamy and Policies 273 Appendix A: List of Recurring Families 287 Appendix B: Research Methods 291 Notes 297 v vi CONTENTS Bibliography 307 Index 313 ACKNOWLEDGMENTS I would like to thank the following people and organizations for their support across the many years I have conducted the Polyamorous Fami- lies study and written this book. This book would not have been pos- sible without all of you. Patricia and Peter Adler; Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio; the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AA- SECT); Meg Barker; Jonathan, Jordan, Mike, and Tess Berger; Fran- cesca Coin; the Community Academic Alliance for Research on Alter- native Sexualities (CARAS); Stephanie Coontz; Dawn Davidson; Kris DeWelde; Denise Donnelly; Shari Dworkin; Maureen Ewell; Alice Fo- thergill; Terry Gross; Rhett Gayle; Corie Hammers; Ken Haslam; Da- vid LaPorta; Ryam Nearing; Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli; Erika Pluhar; Polyfamilies; PolyResearchers; Adina Nack; Donald Reitzes; Erin Ruel; Christine, Colby, Elaine, and Jonathan Sheff; Wendy Simonds; Suzanne Staszak-Silva; Sociologists for Women in Society (SWS); the Society for the Study of Social Problems (SSSP); Cascade and Zhahai Spring; Tris- tan Taormino; Geraldine Thompson; Robyn Trask; Chandra Ward; Mary Wolf; and the many participants who allowed me to ask them probing questions about their families—thanks for your time and your candor! vii INTRODUCTION “Ahhh, that was great! I was starved,” Dani Warren said, pushing back from the table. In her mid-forties, white, highly educated, middle class, and liberal, Dani looked every inch the poly hippie mom. Next to her sat Lex, one of her husbands, and next to him sat Mike, their mutual husband and third member in the Warren triad. Lex had whipped up a Mexi-Cali feast that the four adults and four children seated around the table had just devoured, and we sat chatting before clearing the table. Mike commented, “The rice was excellent, just the right amount of spice. Thanks for making dinner, Lex.” Lex responded “Eli helped. She was my sous Sheff. Get it? Sous chef?” Chuckling over the pun they had made with my last name, the two men smiled at each other and touched hands. “Well thanks to you, too, then, Eli,” Mike responded. ***** In this book you will meet families like the Warrens, who are polyamor- ous. They are your bankers, information technology specialists, teach- ers, and dentists. Like your other neighbors, they love their children, still owe on their student loans, forget to floss, and could probably stand to lose a few pounds. The thing that sets them apart from your other neighbors is that they have (or are open to having) multiple romantic partners at the same time and with each other’s consent. Polyamory is not for everyone. Complex, time-consuming, and po- tentially fraught with emotional booby traps, polyamory is tremendously rewarding for some people and a complete disaster for others. While I explain it in far greater detail later in the book, here I briefly define ix x INTRODUCTION polyamory as consensual and emotionally intimate nonmonogamous re- lationships in which both women and men can negotiate to have multi- ple partners. This book reports the results of my fifteen-year ethnographic study of polyamorous families with children.1 I quote these poly folks throughout the book, using pseudonyms for everyone. People with first and last names are members of families I know well, usually because I interviewed them several times over the years and often interviewed many of their family members. People who only have first names are people I know less about because I only interviewed them once or chatted with them at a social event or online.2 Because I quote many people, and it can be a little confusing, I have included a list in Appen- dix A of the families I frequently refer to for clarity. There is also Appendix B with more information on my research methods. Initially, I approached polyamory as a “civilian” rather than a re- searcher. I was madly in love with a man who wanted to be nonmonoga- mous, and as an intellectual I try to understand things that frighten me. I was terrified of nonmonogamy, or what I learned in 1995 was called polyamory when I heard a National Public Radio interview with Ryam Nearing, then publisher of the polyamorous magazine Loving More.3 In an effort to master my fear, I sought out the local poly community and began asking members how they managed their multiple-partner rela- tionships. Deep into the graduate school process by then, it eventually became clear to me that the social implications of such an unconven- tional relationship style would make an ideal dissertation, so I formal- ized my initial self-serving questions into an official study with the uni- versity’s Institutional Research Board (IRB) approval in 1996. Sixteen years later, I am almost fully recovered from my near brush with poly- amory that drove me to sell my house and move to a different state to run away from disaster, and which expanded my mind, broke my heart, and ended my fifteen-year romantic relationship. While I do not identify as polyamorous myself, I see it as a legitimate relationship style that can be tremendously rewarding for adults and provide excellent nurturing for children. Most of the evidence I use in this book comes from the many wonderful people who volunteered their time and energy to participate in interviews, though I also include some of my own experiences in chapter 4 because they are emblematic of what can happen when poly relationships go awry. INTRODUCTION xi Polyamorous families are increasingly common, though fairly little is known about them outside of their own social circles. This book pro- vides the information for people who wish to understand these complex and unusual relationships that are springing up across the United States, Canada, Europe, and Australia. As these families spread, profes- sionals from counselors and therapists or educators and clergy to medi- cal staff and lawyers will need factual information based in sound re- search to help them serve this growing client base. CONTEMPORARY FAMILIES Popular opinion among social conservatives in the United States hark- ens back to an idyllic 1950s family as the ideal familial form, portraying current society as floundering in a state of decay and lamenting a per- ceived loss or dilution of “the family”—a heterosexual, monogamous, legally married, two-parent, procreational unit that provides children with stable home environments run by a wage-earning father and sup- ported by a mother who is a full-time parent.4 In truth, families have always been in transition, and shifts toward single-parent and remarried families both cause and are affected by changes in labor markets and other social institutions.5 The current cultural fascination in the United States with an idyllic vision of “traditional marriage” reinforces a roman- ticized, patriarchal family that never existed as we pretend it did. Pre- tending families used to be static institutions that never evolved and only began to change with the sexual revolution of the 1960s creates the false impression that families today are caught in an unprecedented state of chaos. While “the” family has never been a static institution, changes in family life in the United States accelerated dramatically during the sec- ond half of the twentieth century. Most significantly, middle-class wom- en entered the paid workforce en masse, precipitating dramatic shifts in gender norms and marital relationships.6 Two especially important trends have been the rise in divorce and the subsequent creation of “blended families”7 and serial monogamy, and the increase in single parenthood through divorce8 and nonmarital childbirth.9 For some, this move toward disengaging marriage from traditional gender roles and childbearing restrictions has opened fresh family possibilities, creating xii INTRODUCTION new options for people in same-sex relationships,10 women who be- come pregnant through donor insemination,11 and nonmonogamists. Nonmonogamies During the 1970s, academic researchers studied nonmonogamous rela- tionships such as swinging,12 mate swapping,13 and open marriage,14 focusing almost exclusively on open relationships among heterosexual white people.
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