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Express Yourself 18 Photography Submissions 26 Hair & Makeup: Shine Bright 30 DIY: Shibori Dyeing 33 Nail Art: Abstract Color Swipe You Geaux Girl: Kelly Yu 40 Be Well 9 Yoga: Peace Out Expand Your Mind 14 Girls Giving Advice 19 Social Issue: Immigration 16 The Savage Makeover: Anxiety 34 #EverydayNewOrleans 22 Real Talk 40 You Geaux Girl: Kelly Yu 24 But I Said Yes: TEEN WRITING: Sexual Consent & Your Rights 42 Rémy’s Recipe 8 Free the Tampon 12 Local Shero: Tania Tetlow 38 When Boredom Strikes I Write

26 Hair & Makeup: Shine Bright Have Fun 3 What’s Happening in New Orleans Indigeaux Girls (Shibori Dyeing) 4 Dat’s My Jam 30 5 Must Read Books this Fall & Winter The beautiful photograph on the cover was taken by Program Spotlight: Blanca Carolina Dubón, who was then a senior at Grace 37 King High School and is now studying at Delgado Girls on the Run Community College to become a registered nurse. Blanca took the photo earlier this year while participating in the 44 Nola Esoteric’s Magical World New Orleans Museum of Art’s #EverydayNewOrleans project. The girl in the photo is her best friend, Hillary Avila. “She represents everyday New Orleans to me because of her kindness, love and support,” Blanca told us. More about #EverydayNewOrleans on page 34. GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 2 LETTER FROM THE FOUNDERS:

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Geaux Girl! would not be a reality without the involvement of many, many wonderful and inspiring individuals. Thank you to all the local teen and adult contributors who make this magazine what it is, and to everyone else who has offered expertise and help because they are as excited about Geaux Girl!’s mission as we are.

A special shout-out to Dr. Florencia “Renni” Polite who recently left New Orleans ( ) for a great leadership opportunity at her alma mater, the University of Pennsylvania. We are beyond proud to call Dr. Polite our founding sex ed and girls’ health expert and thrilled that she is still with us as a board member. Dr. Polite believed in Geaux Girl! when the magazine was just a vision and made our dreams come true with her Real Talk feature. Thank you, Dr. Polite, for being awesome! And a warm welcome to Dr. La’Nasha Tanner, who has taken over Real Talk. We are delighted to work with you and your team of doctors! Many thanks to Silke Pielsticker for her signature drawings, Betsy Seifter for being our invaluable and passionate grammar and punctuation authority, and Sam Winston for absolutely everything.

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Heide Winston Liz Jurey MPress THURSDAY, OCTOBER 11 SUNDAY, OCTOBER 21 THURSDAY, DECEMBER 6 – Athleta International Day of the G!RL Music Box Village SUNDAY, DECEMBER 9 Halloween Art Market What Come celebrate International Day of LUNA Fête the G!RL with a party! Tere’ll be dream What Flea, vintage, and handmade goods + boards, a braid bar, nail bar and aferschool workshops + cofee + food vendors What Tis multi-day celebration features snacks by Te Kupcake Factory and illuminated installations, digital sculptures, When 12:00pm–6:00pm Smoothie King. Be sure to be one of the frst video-mapping projections, and art animated 20 girls to receive a specialty fower crown by Where Music Box Village, 4557 N by technology. Blucid Floral! Rampart St. When 6:00pm–10:00pm When 4:00pm-8:00pm (Tanksgiving Market is on November 18; Where Lafayette Square and along Where Athleta Store, 3301 Veterans Holiday Market on December 16) Lafayette Street to Fulton Street Memorial Blvd. FRIDAY, OCTOBER 26 SATURDAY, OCTOBER 13 WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 16 Teen Halloween Dance Day of the Girl at Longue Vue Cartooning Workshop What Put on your best costume and bring What What Participants will share ideas about your fendish friends for a scary good time. Take a look at Southern caricatures beauty, art and social justice and work alongside Celebrate the dead by getting live on the with staf at the Ogden Museum before Longue Vue’s 2018 Artist-in-Residence Jamar dancefoor and enjoy rafes and free food. walking next door to Te National WWII Pierre and celebrated mural artist Monica Kelly Museum, where a cartoonist gives partici- to create a collaborative large-scale painting When 7:00pm–10:00pm pants the basics of drawing, cartooning, and honoring the experiences of young women. (Te Where Lyons Rec Center, 624 caricature art. You’ll leave with your very event is designed for girls in 6th-12th grade.) Louisiana Ave. own work of art! All supplies will be When 9:30am–12:00pm provided. (Teens and adults welcome.) Where Longue Vue House and Gardens, 7 SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 11 When 5:00pm–7:30pm Bamboo Rd. Where Te Ogden Museum of Southern Oak Street Po-Boy Festival Art, 925 Camp St. (and the National WWII SATURDAY, OCTOBER 20 What Te festival celebrates New Orleans' Museum, 945 Magazine St.) favorite sandwich with four stages of music Krewe of BOO! Halloween Parade and more than 35 local po-boy vendors. SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 24 What Tis spooktacular parade is unlike When 10:00am–6:00pm any other Halloween event. Krewe of Barkus Parade Where Oak Street in the Carrollton What Check out New Orleans’ canine When Rolls at 6:30pm neighborhood Mardi Gras krewe to see lots and lots of Where Te parade lines up on Elysian Fields adorable dogs in costumes. Your furry best Avenue and follows N. Peters and Decatur friend can even be part of the parade Streets along the river heading uptown past Jackson Square. At Canal Street, the parade (registration information is on their website)! makes a right turn and continues to Burgundy When Rolls at 2:00pm Street where it makes a U-turn and comes back Where Te parade starts at Armstrong Park to Tchoupitoulas Street. It follows Tchoupitoulas Street all the way to Andrew Higgins Drive. (N. Rampart at St. Ann) and proceeds on a 15-block route through the French Quarter.

Follow us at @geauxgirlmagazine to get updates on local events! geauxgirlmagazine.org [email protected] TIP: Check out the websites of the New Orleans Recreation Development Commission, NORDC.ORG, New Orleans Public Library, NOLALIBRARY.ORG, YMCA of Greater New Orleans, YMCANEWORLEANS.ORG, and New Orleans JCC, NOJCC.ORG, for special activities and events. GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 3 DAT’S MY JAM!

FAVORITE HAPPY SONG: “Like a G6” (feat. Te Cataracs & Dev) by FAVORITE HAPPY SONG: “Part Time Lover” by Stevie Wonder Far East Movement BEST SONG TO CRY YOUR EYES OUT TO: “Hold My Hand” by BEST SONG TO CRY YOUR EYES OUT TO: “White Ferrari” by Frank Ocean SONG I’M EMBARRASSED TO ADMIT I LOVE: “Tonight Tonight” by SONG I’M EMBARRASSED TO ADMIT I LOVE: “Gangsta” by Kehlani Hot Chelle Rae SONG THAT MAKES ME DANCE LIKE NOBODY’S WATCHING: SONG THAT MAKES ME DANCE LIKE NOBODY’S WATCHING: “Tis Is America” by Childish Gambino “Look What You Made Me Do” by Taylor Swif FAVORITE LOCAL ARTIST: Solange because she sings about FAVORITE LOCAL ARTIST: Big Freedia because she is just so spunky her experiences. and awesome. She pumps me up.

Kelsie (14), New Orleans Center for Creative Arts Anne Marie (17), St. Mary’s Dominican High School

FAVORITE HAPPY SONG: “Confdence” by Chris Brown FAVORITE HAPPY SONG: “Uptown Funk” (f. ) by BEST SONG TO CRY YOUR EYES OUT TO: “In My Feelings” by Kehlani Mark Ronson SONG I’M EMBARRASSED TO ADMIT I LOVE: Any song by BEST SONG TO CRY YOUR EYES OUT TO: “Never Not” by Lauv PRETTYMUCH. SONG I’M E MBARRASSED TO ADMIT I LOVE: “Look What You Made SONG THAT MAKES ME DANCE LIKE NOBODY’S WATCHING: Me Do” by Taylor Swif “Be Careful” by Cardi B SONG THAT MAKES ME DANCE LIKE NOBODY’S WATCHING: FAVORITE LOCAL ARTIST: Big Freedia because she is just super “Tis Is America” by Childish Gambino hype and her music always can cheer a person up. Her songs make FAVORITE LOCAL ARTIST: DJ Khaled because he makes songs that you want to get up and dance. And I just love her as a person. put me in a summer vibe anytime of the year. Jhayde (12), Isidore Newman School

Brooke (12), Audubon Charter School

FAVORITE HAPPY SONG: “Low” by Flo Rida FAVORITE HAPPY SONG: “Lips are Movin” by Meghan Trainor BEST SONG TO CRY YOUR EYES OUT TO: “Car Radio” by Twenty BEST SONG TO CRY YOUR EYES OUT TO: “Scars to Your Beautiful” by One Pilots Alessia Cara SONG I’M EMBARRASSED TO ADMIT I LOVE: “Just Dance” (f. SONG I’M EMBARRASSED TO ADMIT I LOVE: “See You Again” (feat. Colby O'Donis) by Lady Gaga ) by Wiz Khalifa SONG THAT MAKES ME DANCE LIKE NOBODY’S WATCHING: SONG THAT MAKES ME DANCE LIKE NOBODY’S WATCHING: “Blank Space” by Taylor Swif “All About Tat Bass” by Meghan Trainor FAVORITE LOCAL ARTIST: Louis Armstrong because his music is FAVORITE LOCAL ARTIST: Trombone Shorty because he is original beautiful. and one of the most inspiring artists from New Orleans. He infuences many young people because of his unique sound of jazz, St. Catherine of Siena School R&B, gospel, and hip hop. Tat only comes from our New Orleans Anya Claire (11), culture.

Kassidy (12), Ursuline Academy

4 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 The Agony House by Cherie Priest & illustrated by Tara O’Connor

What it’s about: Denise has

Orleans with her mom and

old, storm-wracked house that they plan to turn into a bed & breakfast, but things keep going wrong. Unex-

knows that something more sinister is lurking there. Maybe Denise

Lorem ipsum Why read it? It’s a delightfully creepy ghost story and mystery starring an intrepid female protagonist, and it’s set in New Orleans’ St. Roch neighborhood.

The Lady’s Guide to Petticoats and Piracy Pride by Mackenzi Lee by Ibi Zoboi What it’s about: Last year, What it’s about: A remix of Felicity Montague went on Pride & Prejudice transported an accidental whirlwind tour to present-day Brooklyn. Zuri of Europe, evading highway- Benitez’s neighborhood is men and pirates with her rapidly gentrifying, so when brother in the wealthy Darcy family Guide to Vice and Virtue moves into the renovated - house across the street, she ture is hers as she tries to immediately knows she wants pursue her dream of becom- nothing to do with them. ing a doctor, a near impossi- Unfortunately, her older sister, ble task for a woman in the 18th century, and avoid the marriage Janae, falls for the charming - Ainsley Darcy and Zuri is tric physician she idolizes is taking on research assistants, she forced to interact with the knows she needs to get to him in Germany, but has no money to judgmental and arrogant - Felicity’s way as long as the woman can disguise herself as Felicity’s ent sisters vying for her attention, college applications, and romance maid for the trip, she agrees despite her suspicions. Surely, this are just some of the distractions Zuri has to overcome as she’s trying Why read it? was an Why read it? novel, American Street Pride doesn’t just retell the classic story, it also examines timely social issues the same way Austen’s original commented on the queens, and sea monsters—what more could you want? issues of her time. For audiobook fans, look forward to narration by the talented and wonderful Elizabeth Acevedo ((TTee PoetPoet XX).). These recommendations were provided by Kacy Helwick, Youth Collection Development Librarian at the New Orleans Public Library.

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 5 Visit the Best Buy Teen Tech Center! Light Years by Kass Morgan

What it’s about: Amidst an interga- The Best Buy Teen Tech Center at the New lactic war, the Quatra Fleet Acade- Orleans Public Library is an interest-based my has fnally abandoned its exclu- learning environment for teens to experi- sivity and started admitting the ment and master various new technologies best and brightest students from with help from their peers and adult men- the less desirable “edge” planets in tors. The center is equipped with technolo- the solar system. Light Years follows four cadets from diferent gy and multimedia tools that can be used planets and social statuses as they for music and video production, interac- navigate their frst year in the tive programming, graphic design, and military space academy: the ambi- much more. tious hotshot pilot Vesper whose mother pulled strings to get her into the program; Cormak who stole someone else’s identity for Features: 15 PCs, 4 Macs, Access to the the chance to leave his toxic planet; shy outsider Arran who falls in Adobe Creative Cloud suite and Avid Pro love with the son of an enemy; and Orelia who is forced to infltrate the academy on a dark mission. Tools, 2 Digital Drawing tablets, DSLR Camera, Music Studio, Green Screen, VIVE Why read it? It is a thrilling character-driven space opera full of romance and intrigue. And there’s more to come as it’s a series Virtual Reality System, 3D Printer, Vinyl opener by Kass Morgan, whose previous series, Te 100, spawned Cutter, Sewing Machine, Serger the hit TV show. HOURS: Monday through Thursday, 3:30pm – 7:30pm Friday, 12:30pm – 4:30pm.

Check, Please! The Best Buy Teen Tech Center is located Book 1: #Hockey on the second floor of the Main Library, 219 Loyola Avenue, and is made possible by Ngozi Ukazu by grant funds from Best Buy and The Clubhouse Network, a collaboration with What it’s about: Hockey, pies, the MIT Media Lab. For more information, vlogging, college life, and just a bit visit during open hours or email of romance! Eric Bittle (“Bitty” to [email protected]. his teammates) is super excited to leave behind his small town in Georgia to attend Samwell Univer- sity, a New England area liberal arts college. He even got a hockey scholarship afer sending the coaches videos of his skills as a former junior fgure skating cham- pion. But college hockey is a lot scarier than when he played in a coed no-checking league, and his new team captain is unfortu- nately as grumpy as he is handsome. Why read it? More than a sports comic, it’s a story about friendship, identity, acceptance, and overcoming fears. And since this graphic novel collects the frst half of Ukazu’s very popular webcomic, there’s already a dedicated fandom to join once you fall in love with Bitty and his teammates.

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What it’s about: Amidst an interga- The Best Buy Teen Tech Center at the New lactic war, the Quatra Fleet Acade- Orleans Public Library is an interest-based my has fnally abandoned its exclu- learning environment for teens to experi- sivity and started admitting the ment and master various new technologies SM best and brightest students from with help from their peers and adult men- NM the less desirable “edge” planets in tors. The center is equipped with technolo- the solar system. Light Years follows four cadets from diferent gy and multimedia tools that can be used planets and social statuses as they for music and video production, interac- navigate their frst year in the tive programming, graphic design, and MC military space academy: the ambi- much more. NV tious hotshot pilot Vesper whose mother pulled strings to get her AV MLK into the program; Cormak who stole someone else’s identity for Features: 15 PCs, 4 Macs, Access to the the chance to leave his toxic planet; shy outsider Arran who falls in Adobe Creative Cloud suite and Avid Pro MAIN love with the son of an enemy; and Orelia who is forced to NX KE infltrate the academy on a dark mission. Tools, 2 Digital Drawing tablets, DSLR Camera, Music Studio, Green Screen, VIVE HB Why read it? It is a thrilling character-driven space opera full of CC romance and intrigue. And there’s more to come as it’s a series Virtual Reality System, 3D Printer, Vinyl opener by Kass Morgan, whose previous series, Te 100, spawned Cutter, Sewing Machine, Serger the hit TV show. LA AR HOURS: CRC Monday through Thursday, 3:30pm – 7:30pm Friday, 12:30pm – 4:30pm.

The Best Buy Teen Tech Center is located on the second floor of the Main Library, Algiers Regional Library – AR Milton H. Latter Library – LA 219 Loyola Avenue, and is made possible 3014 Holiday Dr. • 596-2641 5120 St. Charles Ave. • 596-2625 by grant funds from Best Buy and The Alvar Library – AV Main Library – MAIN Clubhouse Network, a collaboration with 913 Alvar St. • 596-2667 219 Loyola Ave. • 596-2560 What it’s about: Hockey, pies, the MIT Media Lab. For more information, vlogging, college life, and just a bit visit during open hours or email Central City Library – CC Norman Mayer Library – NM of romance! Eric Bittle (“Bitty” to [email protected]. his teammates) is super excited to 2405 Jackson Ave. • 596-3110 3001 Gentilly Blvd. • 596-3100 leave behind his small town in Children’s Resource Center Library – CRC Mid-City Library – MC Georgia to attend Samwell Univer- sity, a New England area liberal 913 Napoleon Ave. • 596-2628 4140 Canal St. • 596-2654 arts college. He even got a hockey scholarship afer sending the East New Orleans Regional Library – EN Nora Navra Library – NV coaches videos of his skills as a 5641 Read Blvd. • 596-0200 1902 St. Bernard Ave. • 596-3118 former junior fgure skating cham- pion. But college hockey is a lot scarier than when he played in a Cita Dennis Hubbell Library – HB Nix Library – NX coed no-checking league, and his new team captain is unfortu- 725 Pelican Ave. • 596-3113 1401 S. Carrollton Ave. • 596-2630 nately as grumpy as he is handsome. Why read it? More than a sports comic, it’s a story about friendship, Rosa F. Keller Library & Community Robert E. Smith Library – SM identity, acceptance, and overcoming fears. And since this graphic Center – KE 6301 Canal Blvd. • 596-2638 novel collects the frst half of Ukazu’s very popular webcomic, 4300 S. Broad Ave. • 596-2660 there’s already a dedicated fandom to join once you fall in love with Bitty and his teammates. Martin Luther King Library – MLK 1611 Caffin Ave. • 596-2695 nolalibrary.org GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 7 OPINION

Free the Tampon

BY SASHA BOURNE

HAVE YOU EVER felt uncomfortable just taking a tampon or a pad out of your backpack in the middle of class and going to the bathroom to take care of those feminine needs? Well, I don’t know about you, but whenever I need to pull out a pad or tampon I feel as if the whole class is going to look at me like I just said that Tupac is the worst rapper of all time. For as long as anyone can remember, having a period has been just about the most-frowned-upon thing for a teen besides getting pregnant at 15. It seems like there is a sort of stigma around having a period, especially when we’re being open about it. As a personal choice, I don’t carry a purse with me at school, so I keep my feminine items in my backpack. Terefore, if I need to change my pad or tampon I can’t just take my whole backpack with me to the bathroom, nor will I try to sneak a pad out of the room under my jacket or in my binder. If this generation is all about dropping the social taboos and stigmas, then everyone should accept the fact that it’s just a tampon. Making me feel embarrassed about needing to change it and properly take care of my body is defnitely not embracing the “abnormalities” foating around in current times. Tere was one time, in my cafeteria study hall, when I pulled out my see-through pouch with all my pads and tampons in it. At that moment, I felt like the entire study hall was looking at me with distasteful eyes. It was the most awkward thing I had ever experienced. Even though it’s possible that no one was actually watching, I felt almost embarrassed for keeping up with my feminine hygiene. Crazy, right? Well, can you really blame some young women for feeling uncomfortable? I don’t understand why some people feel grossed out when even just the topic of periods comes up in conversation, or why some people shame or taunt women for a natural bodily function. Women should not be looked at a certain way because we have periods. If people can learn to get over other stigmas and social norms in today’s society, they should be able to face the fact that women bleed from their vaginas. Some people might think that the thought of changing a pad is gross and taking out a tampon from your bag in public is “unladylike.” For them I have one question: How would you feel if women didn’t take care of changing their pads or tampons? Seems like we’re “damned if we do and damned if we don’t.” Us growing girls have all been through the embarrassment of our period occurring when we’re not prepared for it. Howe- ver, what we shouldn’t have to be embarrassed about is that we have periods, period. It is completely normal and we shouldn’t have to hide because of society’s viewpoints towards pads and tampons. Yes, they are products used by girls and women in private, but that shouldn’t mean that we should feel grossed out or ashamed when purchasing or talking about them. Clearly, it’s not like people don’t want us to take care of our bodies, but then they shouldn’t make us feel uncomfortable when we do!

Women have an estimated 450 periods during their lifetime A typical woman goes through more than Sasha Bourne 12,000 sanitary pads or tampons in her life is a senior at Benjamin Franklin High School and editor-in-chief for Disney made an animated film in 1946 called her school's newspaper. She is also “The Story of Menstruation” to help girls co-captain of the Franklin Dance understand why they get periods and how to Team and a member of the Peer Assistance Team, UNICEF, and Youth deal with them; it’s believed to have been the Rebuilding New Orleans. She plans to first film that used the word “vagina” major in pre-med and minor in journalism at Howard University.

8 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 peace out By Laurie Azzano of Lolo’s Youth Studio

Yaaaah! Feel like screaming sometimes because there's never enough time for everything you have to do? Homework, ballet class, debate club, band practice... Whatever your agenda may be, we know you have A LOT going on and things can get pretty overwhelming.

Anxiety, meet Yoga.

There’s a reason why yoga is one of the best tools in the anti-anxiety toolkit. Yoga helps you destress and feel in control by allowing you to tune in to your body and slow down the busy—often negative—thoughts that keep us from feeling good. To calm down, you need to settle down.

Yes, yoga can be about all those crazy, twisted-like-a-pretzel poses that you see all over Instagram. But, the real reason more than 30 million people around the world practice yoga is that yoga helps people of all ages, sizes, and fitness levels to get stronger—both physically and emotionally.

So, grab a mat (a towel or blanket will also do) and get your zen on!

“breathe. smile. let it go.”

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 9 Yoga is a great way to take a break from our hectic lives and make time to destress and feel better. Most of these poses look simple yet can be quite challenging. So, remember, it’s not about doing the poses perfectly. It’s about letting go and giving your body and your brain a break. And by doing so, you become stronger. Next time you’re worried about that Spanish quiz or the big blowup with your bestie, try some yoga. Namaste.

easy pose

This is a great pose for starting your “chillax” session. Find a quiet place, close your eyes and start to focus on your breath. Easy pose may look easy, but it can be challenging for those with tight hips and hamstrings. You may want to sit on a folded blanket or pillow to relieve some of the tightness along the hips and back and to make it more comfortable.

forward fold

Inhale as you sweep your arms upwards don’t stress toward the sky. Then exhale as you fold your body forward from the hips, making out when your sure to only fold forward as much as feels mind starts comfortable for your back and hamstrings. to wander. If you’re not very flexible, be sure to allow It will. Just try to for some bend in your knees. This will make the focus on your pose more comfortable and effective. Be sure to breath again. It keep your hips directly over your ankles. And relax your neck can take a few so that you’re not tensing it to hold the pose. sessions to get comfortable with this practice, but the payoff will be worth it. You will legs up the wall find that by taking only a few minutes each day—or even Inversions are great for dealing with so much of just a few times what stresses us out these days. And “legs up each week—you the wall” is my absolute favorite. Sit sideways will start to feel less next to the wall. Swing your legs up onto the wall, anxious and placing your back, shoulders and head on your more peaceful. mat. Lay your hands next to your hips, palms facing upwards. Take a deep breath and let it all go!

10 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 child’s pose

This pose is a great way to let go and release the tension of the moment. Sit on your heels and point your knees toward the sides of the mat. Keep your toes connected, or touching, so that you’re creating a V-space with your lower body. Fold your upper body forward, rest your forehead on the mat and extend your arms forward. Take a breath, close your eyes and release all the tension in your shoulders and neck.

For a variation on this pose, you can place your hands toward the back of your mat, resting next to your hips, with your palms facing upwards. And if it feels better to rest your torso on top of your thighs, go ahead and adjust this pose by bringing your knees together.

“Legs up the Wall is my favorite pose. You just get to relax and rest. It makes me realize that I don’t need to be so stressed and helps me let everything go.” - ava (11)

Lolo’s Studio is New Orleans’ frst youth-centered yoga studio. Trough yoga, ftness and art, Lolo’s is bringing body + mind together and helping youth tap into their internal power so they can better manage physical and mental stress. Learn more at lolosstudio.com or check out Lolo’s Studio on Instagram at @lolosyouthyoga.

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 11 LOCAL SHERO

Loyola’s Leading Woman: Tania Tetlow By Ella Densen Nitzayah Schiller (17) and Ella Densen (12), both students at Lusher Charter School, interviewed Tania Tetlow, Loyola University’s new—and frst female!—president.

“YOU NEED SKILL, hard work and self-belief to succeed. munity. When asked what the Jesuit values mean to her, student worker and got to work with and learn from her ask people to help you. You’re not bothering people by ask- It’s difcult for the world to see your talents if you’re con- Ms. Tetlow stated, “It’s about honing every talent that you every day. Looking back, Ms. Tetlow said, “Her example, ing so don’t be afraid. At some point you learn that people stantly making apologies for yourself so get used to being have in order to make the world a better place. It’s about her guidance, her support, and her love made all the dif- want you to succeed and aren’t laughing at you.” confdent.” Tis brilliant quote by Tania Tetlow herself em- questioning assumptions and working for justice. And it’s ference in my life.” Ms. Tetlow started her job on August 13th. She enjoys bodies who Tania Tetlow is and why she is the perfect per- about loving to learn, loving knowledge for its own sake. Tulane University’s current president, Mike Fitts, is an- engaging with students and wants to keep moving Loyola son for this shero profle. Ms. Tetlow has helped the New Jesuits are kind of like Obi-Wan in Star Wars.” other person who helped Ms. Tetlow along the way. “He into the future. She envisions a vibrant community that Orleans community in so many diferent ways and she is As Loyola’s president, Ms. Tetlow wants to expand op- has been an incredible teacher of the whole range of what can “make college afordable for everyone, with the high- now making New Orleans history as Loyola University’s portunity—a desire that connects to her grandfather, who it means to be a university president,” said Ms. Tetlow. In est quality teaching, research and student support.” frst female president. in 1928 received a scholarship to Loyola’s football team. fact, he is the one who helped her believe and realize that Tania Tetlow is a true shero! She shows grace in her Born in New York but raised in New Orleans, Ms. Tetlow Tis gave him an opportunity that Ms. Tetlow believes she was ready to become Loyola’s president. work and persistence in the way she has achieved all of attended Sacred Heart, Holy Name and Ben Franklin High many others should also receive. Tirty percent of Loyola’s President Fitts and former Congresswoman Boggs, along her accomplishments. Moreover, Ms. Tetlow demonstrates School. Her resume is impressive. A graduate of Tulane students already are frst generation college students. with Ms. Tetlow’s loving and supportive family, have helped brilliance in all of her thoughts, while staying humble University and Harvard Law Ms. Tetlow has taken anoth- her accomplish everything that she has. On her route to suc- about her accolades. New Orleans is grateful for her and is School, she took on domestic er lesson away from her family. cess she has learned this very valuable lesson: “It matters to hopeful for what lies ahead under her leadership. violence cases as a lawyer and She drew inspiration from her later worked as a law professor younger sister who has learning and in university administra- disabilities and has managed tion, where most recently she an independent life despite served as chief of staf to Tulane great struggle. “Her experience University’s president, Michael taught me that being smart is a Top 5 Favorite Books Fitts. Out of her many profes- gif. It’s luck, but it doesn’t make sional accomplishments, one you better than anyone else.” Te Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe by C. S. Lewis of her proudest moments came In her life, Ms. Tetlow has Te Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett from working to help reform accomplished so many amaz- A Wrinkle in Time by Madeleine L’Engle the New Orleans Police Department Sex Crimes Unit. “It ing things, but becoming Loyola’s frst female president Little Women by Louisa May Alcott was a great opportunity to use everything I have learned has been the greatest honor of all. When asked how she James and the Giant Peach by Roald Dahl and written about, and to accomplish something really im- felt about such an accomplishment, she simply respond- portant. We worked in partnership with the detectives so ed with “It’s humbling.” Tis alone shows how modest and they could make people more comfortable about calling outstanding a person she is. the police when something awful happens. Tey regained On her route to this impressive accomplishment have the trust of the public,” said Ms. Tetlow. been several people who helped her along the way. One of What I do when I’m feeling down and discouraged President Tetlow’s Loyola connections run deep. Her them was Lindy Boggs, who was the frst woman elected “My six-year-old daughter, Lucy, turns on father was a Jesuit priest, who lef the priesthood to mar- to the United States Congress from Louisiana. Ms. Tetlow ‘Uptown Funk’ and we have a dance party.” ry her mother, and many family members, dating all the looked up to her and hoped that one day Ms. Boggs would way back to her grandfather, have either taught at or at- take her under her wing and teach her everything she What I wish I had known when I was 13 tended Loyola University. She was raised with Jesuit val- needed to know. So when Ms. Boggs retired from ofce “Hang in there and get past that feeling of ues which she wants to maintain within the Loyola com- and started working at Tulane, Ms. Tetlow asked to be her self-consciousness and worry, and just be yourself.”

12 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 LOCAL SHERO

Loyola’s Leading Woman: Tania Tetlow By Ella Densen Nitzayah Schiller (17) and Ella Densen (12), both students at Lusher Charter School, interviewed Tania Tetlow, Loyola University’s new—and frst female!—president.

“YOU NEED SKILL, hard work and self-belief to succeed. munity. When asked what the Jesuit values mean to her, student worker and got to work with and learn from her ask people to help you. You’re not bothering people by ask- It’s difcult for the world to see your talents if you’re con- Ms. Tetlow stated, “It’s about honing every talent that you every day. Looking back, Ms. Tetlow said, “Her example, ing so don’t be afraid. At some point you learn that people stantly making apologies for yourself so get used to being have in order to make the world a better place. It’s about her guidance, her support, and her love made all the dif- want you to succeed and aren’t laughing at you.” confdent.” Tis brilliant quote by Tania Tetlow herself em- questioning assumptions and working for justice. And it’s ference in my life.” Ms. Tetlow started her job on August 13th. She enjoys bodies who Tania Tetlow is and why she is the perfect per- about loving to learn, loving knowledge for its own sake. Tulane University’s current president, Mike Fitts, is an- engaging with students and wants to keep moving Loyola son for this shero profle. Ms. Tetlow has helped the New Jesuits are kind of like Obi-Wan in Star Wars.” other person who helped Ms. Tetlow along the way. “He into the future. She envisions a vibrant community that Orleans community in so many diferent ways and she is As Loyola’s president, Ms. Tetlow wants to expand op- has been an incredible teacher of the whole range of what can “make college afordable for everyone, with the high- now making New Orleans history as Loyola University’s portunity—a desire that connects to her grandfather, who it means to be a university president,” said Ms. Tetlow. In est quality teaching, research and student support.” frst female president. in 1928 received a scholarship to Loyola’s football team. fact, he is the one who helped her believe and realize that Tania Tetlow is a true shero! She shows grace in her Born in New York but raised in New Orleans, Ms. Tetlow Tis gave him an opportunity that Ms. Tetlow believes she was ready to become Loyola’s president. work and persistence in the way she has achieved all of attended Sacred Heart, Holy Name and Ben Franklin High many others should also receive. Tirty percent of Loyola’s President Fitts and former Congresswoman Boggs, along her accomplishments. Moreover, Ms. Tetlow demonstrates School. Her resume is impressive. A graduate of Tulane students already are frst generation college students. with Ms. Tetlow’s loving and supportive family, have helped brilliance in all of her thoughts, while staying humble University and Harvard Law Ms. Tetlow has taken anoth- her accomplish everything that she has. On her route to suc- about her accolades. New Orleans is grateful for her and is School, she took on domestic er lesson away from her family. cess she has learned this very valuable lesson: “It matters to hopeful for what lies ahead under her leadership. violence cases as a lawyer and She drew inspiration from her later worked as a law professor younger sister who has learning and in university administra- disabilities and has managed tion, where most recently she an independent life despite served as chief of staf to Tulane great struggle. “Her experience University’s president, Michael taught me that being smart is a Top 5 Favorite Books Fitts. Out of her many profes- gif. It’s luck, but it doesn’t make sional accomplishments, one you better than anyone else.” Te Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe by C. S. Lewis of her proudest moments came In her life, Ms. Tetlow has Te Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett from working to help reform accomplished so many amaz- A Wrinkle in Time by Madeleine L’Engle the New Orleans Police Department Sex Crimes Unit. “It ing things, but becoming Loyola’s frst female president Little Women by Louisa May Alcott was a great opportunity to use everything I have learned has been the greatest honor of all. When asked how she James and the Giant Peach by Roald Dahl and written about, and to accomplish something really im- felt about such an accomplishment, she simply respond- portant. We worked in partnership with the detectives so ed with “It’s humbling.” Tis alone shows how modest and they could make people more comfortable about calling outstanding a person she is. the police when something awful happens. Tey regained On her route to this impressive accomplishment have the trust of the public,” said Ms. Tetlow. been several people who helped her along the way. One of What I do when I’m feeling down and discouraged President Tetlow’s Loyola connections run deep. Her them was Lindy Boggs, who was the frst woman elected “My six-year-old daughter, Lucy, turns on father was a Jesuit priest, who lef the priesthood to mar- to the United States Congress from Louisiana. Ms. Tetlow ‘Uptown Funk’ and we have a dance party.” ry her mother, and many family members, dating all the looked up to her and hoped that one day Ms. Boggs would way back to her grandfather, have either taught at or at- take her under her wing and teach her everything she What I wish I had known when I was 13 tended Loyola University. She was raised with Jesuit val- needed to know. So when Ms. Boggs retired from ofce “Hang in there and get past that feeling of ues which she wants to maintain within the Loyola com- and started working at Tulane, Ms. Tetlow asked to be her self-consciousness and worry, and just be yourself.”

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 13 Girls Giving Advice

We’ve asked three ferce girls to share their thoughts on building confdence, dealing with haters and peer pressure, and loving your body the way it is. Jocquail Solomon of KIPP Booker T. Washington High School, Tyriel Beal of Hammond Westside Montessori School, and Sheltion Bruno of Sophie B. Wright Charter School recently competed in Glam U's New Orleans' Next Top Teen Model competition, where they showcased their runway presence, creativity, and public speaking skills. Tese ladies know how to rock a runway and how to be comfortable in your own skin!

BUILDING CONFIDENCE

Jocquail “Stop comparing yourself. Comparison is the thief of joy and when you’re focused on others and their success, you are not focused on you. Speak positively of yourself. Be your own hype man!”

Tyriel “Don’t give up and don’t let anybody discourage you! As a child I was always bullied for being tall, so my mom told me to turn the negative energy into positive.”

Sheltion “Set yourself up with positive people. In your alone time, look in the mirror and just sing and dance and be yourself. Have fun with yourself and build on who you are! My confdence comes from being a cheerleader and pushing myself. To build confdence, you have to have the mindset that you are you, and you have to accept the skin that you are in.”

Glam U's mission is to inspire girls to walk in their purpose. By connecting with girls through fashion, modeling lessons, and confdence building activities, Glam U helps girls foster inner beauty and self-esteem. Glam U’s motto is simple: Beauty starts from within! Trough a partnership with the New Orleans Recreation Development Commission Jocquail (16) (NORDC), Glam U has been able to connect with girls ages 5-17 throughout the city since 2016. New Orleans' Next Top Teen Model 1st Place Winner

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HATERS AND PEER PRESSURE

Sheltion “I deal with peer pressure and my haters by not dealing with them! Te more you make people feel like they’re doing something to you, the more they will go on. So therefore, I feel like you do better by ignoring them and staying within yourself. Just be you! Love who you are and do what you want. Don’t hold back for anyone and don’t let anyone bring you down because you come before anybody.”

Jocquail “I try to stay away from negative people. As I got older and matured, I found myself distancing myself from negativity. Haters seek negative reactions, but instead I kill them with kindness! When it comes to peer pressure, I can’t and won’t let anyone pressure me into doing or saying anything negative. I also tell myself that I am ‘brilliant’ and any decisions I make are for me! Follow your own mind!”

Tyriel “I ignore them and just keep pushing. Just remember that you got this and don’t need to be scared.”

New Orleans' Next Top Teen Model 3rd Runner-up Tyriel (13) Sheltion (16) New Orleans' Next Top Teen Model 2nd Runner-up

POSITIVE BODY IMAGE

Tyriel “Every morning I look in the mirror and remind myself how beautiful and talented I am. You don’t always have to ft in; just be yourself and be in love with you!!!”

Sheltion “At one point in my life I was insecure because I didn’t like the fact that I was so skinny and everybody felt like thicker is better. But over the years, as I got older, I realized that this is me so I will embrace my skinny legs and wide shoulders. Tat’s how I got into modeling. Ignore outsiders and bullies; you are who you are for a reason so embrace your beauty.”

Jocquail “What makes me feel positive about my body is knowing that I was made perfectly how I am. I wouldn’t change anything about myself and I think you should also feel confdent and comfortable in your skin. To love your body the way it is, you need to practice self-love. And remember, if you can’t love yourself, how can you love anyone else?!”

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 15 THE SAVAGE MAKEOVER: Tips for Taking Control of Anxiety Practice Relaxation – When you start to feel anxious or panicky, focus on your breathing, taking several slow and deep breaths in through your nose Anxiety and out your mouth. Give your body a chance to feel relaxed before you try to interpret your feelings.

Te word “savage” means wild or uncontrollable. A Savage Makeover is unlike any makeover you know; it’s got nothing to Use Self-Afrmations – Practice saying some- do with changing your bedroom, makeup, or hair. A Savage Makeover is about your mood, thoughts, and feelings. Whether thing nice to yourself every day. Be sure to fnd you want to or not, you—and all other teenagers—will experience a Savage Makeover because of the changes your body and qualities you know are true about yourself, but brain go through during the teenage years. Being an adolescent can be challenging and leave you feeling crazy at times. I am also focus on the ones you want to improve. For here to help you understand the “savagery” a bit better so you can take advantage of these years and emerge a better you. example, if you want to feel less anxious about making new friends, you can say to yourself three times each morning “You are friendly and kind, ALL PEOPLE, like all animals, experience fear (or anxiety) Consider the following: and people will like talking to you.” (Positive from time to time—and it is good we do! Without fear, we afrmations can also improve problem solving in would be unaware of potential danger and therefore unpre- stressful situations, so when you start to panic pared. When worries and fears keep you safe from real danger Common “Cognitive Distortions” during a test, remind yourself that you are smart and help you plan for truly challenging situations, they are enough to fgure out the answers.) “adaptive,” or useful. During adolescence, a lot happens to stir That Cause Anxiety feelings of nervousness, worry, and fear, which are normal Welcome (and learn from) Failure – Expect to and necessary feelings to have at this time in your life. Mind Reading fail and welcome it. Look at each failure as a But sometimes anxiety can be overwhelming, failing to You think you know what others think without proof of process of elimination, ridding yourself of subside afer a difculty has passed, or rearing its head their thoughts relationships, tendencies, and ideas that are not during typically mundane experiences (ever injured yourself Example: “My teacher thinks I am stupid.” We all tend to interpret things that happen to us with bias, which ofen helpful. Learn from your mistakes and grow from trying to avoid a cockroach?). Or maybe you worry too the struggle that is a natural part of putting Catastrophizing leads us to wrong conclusions. It is important to become aware of your own much about everything, making it impossible for you to cognitive distortions, so you can practice being more objective and tolerant yourself “out there.” focus on things that matter, like studying for tests, practicing Your belief of what will happen is so bad, you can’t stand it Example: “I can’t try out for the team because if I don’t of ambiguous experiences. For example, when you study hard for a test but for the big audition, or simply enjoying time with friends. don’t get an A, you can think of your performance as all-or-nothing (“I will Be Brave – Face your fears head on. Do not let make it, it means I’m a failure.” And studies show teenage girls sufer from anxiety twice as never earn the grade I want so I should stop trying”) and fulfll your biased your anxiety keep you from trying something much as teenage boys. So while some anxiety is necessary to Magnification belief, or you can think realistically (“Tat was an especially hard test! I you’ve always wanted to do because you are afraid achieve your goals and improve performance, too much Taking a nonissue and making it a major problem need to adjust my study plan next time.”) and adjust your behavior to of messing up or being embarrassed. Know that anxiety can negatively impact your day-to-day function. Example: “Hanna didn’t text me back right away, so she improve next time. By seeing things through a positive lens, you will be when you stand in fear and feel it wash over you, Excessive worry actually takes cognitive resources away must be mad at me.” more motivated to change your behavior and be better prepared next time. you will realize you can handle it. Not only will from the deep-thinking areas of the brain and the immune It pays to see failures as opportunities instead of setbacks! you survive it, you will conquer it. system, not only making it harder to solve problems, but also All-or-none Thinking Remember, how you feel does not always refect reality, and it does not making it more likely you will get sick! When anxiety You view events or people in all-or-none terms have to impact how you respond to a situation. If you want to be less Ask for Help – If you fnd it difcult to control becomes detrimental, it is time for you to take control. Example: “I have to do it perfectly or not at all.” anxious, practice positive thinking. If you want to overcome your irratio- your anxiety, tell someone you trust who can help Yes, you have the ability to control your feelings of anxiety. nal fears, face them head on instead of running away. And do not expect you, like your parents or a teacher. Sometimes the Personalizing perfection, for it is unattainable. Make and learn from mistakes, for worry can be so overwhelming that it may require Te frst step to achieving emotional self-regulation You attribute most or all blame for negative events to yourself trial-and-error is the sure path to success. Know you cannot always (self-control) is to believe you can. You control your anxiety, therapy and/or medication. Many teens get help Example: “Max broke up with me because I don’t know how control what happens to you, including what others think or say about not the other way around! Te second step is to commit to from mental health professionals—do not be to have fun.” you, but you can control how you respond to the world. consistent practice of coping strategies, such as positive think- embarrassed or deny yourself professional help. ing. It will be hard to change how you tend to perceive things, Emotional Reasoning so it is crucial to keep trying until it becomes a habit. Te third You let your feelings guide your interpretation of reality step is to become aware of the things or people causing you to Example: “My mom won’t let me take the car because worry excessively; once you have identifed these “triggers,” she wants me to be miserable.” you should think about why they worry you and whether or not your worries are valid or distorted. Tis is a crucial step in Overgeneralization Dr. Sarah Fontenelle, Developmental Specialist controlling your emotions because while what you feel (anxi- You perceive a constant, negative pattern based on one event ety) is very real, it may be based on a lie your brain is telling Example: “Life sucks” or “Nobody likes me.” Sarah is a native New Orleanian who earned her doctorate in experimental psychology at Tulane you. Te teen brain is notorious for cognitive distortions that University. She is also a graduate of the University of Southern Mississippi, Millsaps College, and may lead to chronic or severe anxiety. Mount Carmel Academy. Her Healthy Purpose in life is to empower others to dream big and achieve their greatest goals, which is why she’s currently working toward licensure for independent practice in psychology. When she is not helping clients or studying, she enjoys writing music with her husband, giggling with her 3-year-old twin daughters, and walking along the levee by the river in her secret gem 16 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 of a neighborhood, Holy Cross. THE SAVAGE MAKEOVER: Tips for Taking Control of Anxiety Practice Relaxation – When you start to feel anxious or panicky, focus on your breathing, taking several slow and deep breaths in through your nose Anxiety and out your mouth. Give your body a chance to feel relaxed before you try to interpret your feelings.

Te word “savage” means wild or uncontrollable. A Savage Makeover is unlike any makeover you know; it’s got nothing to Use Self-Afrmations – Practice saying some- do with changing your bedroom, makeup, or hair. A Savage Makeover is about your mood, thoughts, and feelings. Whether thing nice to yourself every day. Be sure to fnd you want to or not, you—and all other teenagers—will experience a Savage Makeover because of the changes your body and qualities you know are true about yourself, but brain go through during the teenage years. Being an adolescent can be challenging and leave you feeling crazy at times. I am also focus on the ones you want to improve. For here to help you understand the “savagery” a bit better so you can take advantage of these years and emerge a better you. example, if you want to feel less anxious about making new friends, you can say to yourself three times each morning “You are friendly and kind, ALL PEOPLE, like all animals, experience fear (or anxiety) Consider the following: and people will like talking to you.” (Positive from time to time—and it is good we do! Without fear, we afrmations can also improve problem solving in would be unaware of potential danger and therefore unpre- stressful situations, so when you start to panic pared. When worries and fears keep you safe from real danger Common “Cognitive Distortions” during a test, remind yourself that you are smart and help you plan for truly challenging situations, they are enough to fgure out the answers.) “adaptive,” or useful. During adolescence, a lot happens to stir That Cause Anxiety feelings of nervousness, worry, and fear, which are normal Welcome (and learn from) Failure – Expect to and necessary feelings to have at this time in your life. Mind Reading fail and welcome it. Look at each failure as a But sometimes anxiety can be overwhelming, failing to You think you know what others think without proof of process of elimination, ridding yourself of subside afer a difculty has passed, or rearing its head their thoughts relationships, tendencies, and ideas that are not during typically mundane experiences (ever injured yourself Example: “My teacher thinks I am stupid.” We all tend to interpret things that happen to us with bias, which ofen helpful. Learn from your mistakes and grow from trying to avoid a cockroach?). Or maybe you worry too the struggle that is a natural part of putting Catastrophizing leads us to wrong conclusions. It is important to become aware of your own much about everything, making it impossible for you to cognitive distortions, so you can practice being more objective and tolerant yourself “out there.” focus on things that matter, like studying for tests, practicing Your belief of what will happen is so bad, you can’t stand it Example: “I can’t try out for the team because if I don’t of ambiguous experiences. For example, when you study hard for a test but for the big audition, or simply enjoying time with friends. don’t get an A, you can think of your performance as all-or-nothing (“I will Be Brave – Face your fears head on. Do not let make it, it means I’m a failure.” And studies show teenage girls sufer from anxiety twice as never earn the grade I want so I should stop trying”) and fulfll your biased your anxiety keep you from trying something much as teenage boys. So while some anxiety is necessary to Magnification belief, or you can think realistically (“Tat was an especially hard test! I you’ve always wanted to do because you are afraid achieve your goals and improve performance, too much Taking a nonissue and making it a major problem need to adjust my study plan next time.”) and adjust your behavior to of messing up or being embarrassed. Know that anxiety can negatively impact your day-to-day function. Example: “Hanna didn’t text me back right away, so she improve next time. By seeing things through a positive lens, you will be when you stand in fear and feel it wash over you, Excessive worry actually takes cognitive resources away must be mad at me.” more motivated to change your behavior and be better prepared next time. you will realize you can handle it. Not only will from the deep-thinking areas of the brain and the immune It pays to see failures as opportunities instead of setbacks! you survive it, you will conquer it. system, not only making it harder to solve problems, but also All-or-none Thinking Remember, how you feel does not always refect reality, and it does not making it more likely you will get sick! When anxiety You view events or people in all-or-none terms have to impact how you respond to a situation. If you want to be less Ask for Help – If you fnd it difcult to control becomes detrimental, it is time for you to take control. Example: “I have to do it perfectly or not at all.” anxious, practice positive thinking. If you want to overcome your irratio- your anxiety, tell someone you trust who can help Yes, you have the ability to control your feelings of anxiety. nal fears, face them head on instead of running away. And do not expect you, like your parents or a teacher. Sometimes the Personalizing perfection, for it is unattainable. Make and learn from mistakes, for worry can be so overwhelming that it may require Te frst step to achieving emotional self-regulation You attribute most or all blame for negative events to yourself trial-and-error is the sure path to success. Know you cannot always (self-control) is to believe you can. You control your anxiety, therapy and/or medication. Many teens get help Example: “Max broke up with me because I don’t know how control what happens to you, including what others think or say about not the other way around! Te second step is to commit to from mental health professionals—do not be to have fun.” you, but you can control how you respond to the world. consistent practice of coping strategies, such as positive think- embarrassed or deny yourself professional help. ing. It will be hard to change how you tend to perceive things, Emotional Reasoning so it is crucial to keep trying until it becomes a habit. Te third You let your feelings guide your interpretation of reality step is to become aware of the things or people causing you to Example: “My mom won’t let me take the car because worry excessively; once you have identifed these “triggers,” she wants me to be miserable.” you should think about why they worry you and whether or not your worries are valid or distorted. Tis is a crucial step in Overgeneralization Dr. Sarah Fontenelle, Developmental Specialist controlling your emotions because while what you feel (anxi- You perceive a constant, negative pattern based on one event ety) is very real, it may be based on a lie your brain is telling Example: “Life sucks” or “Nobody likes me.” Sarah is a native New Orleanian who earned her doctorate in experimental psychology at Tulane you. Te teen brain is notorious for cognitive distortions that University. She is also a graduate of the University of Southern Mississippi, Millsaps College, and may lead to chronic or severe anxiety. Mount Carmel Academy. Her Healthy Purpose in life is to empower others to dream big and achieve their greatest goals, which is why she’s currently working toward licensure for independent practice in psychology. When she is not helping clients or studying, she enjoys writing music with her husband, giggling with her 3-year-old twin daughters, and walking along the levee by the river in her secret gem of a neighborhood, Holy Cross.GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 17 “Railroad Crossing” by Lucy Krause (16), Benjamin Franklin High School

We love receiving your photography submissions, NOLA girls! Y’all are seriously talented.

“Float” by Alice Hanks (13), Edward Hynes Charter School

"Centered" by Maddie Weibelt (17), Mount Carmel Academy

If you want your visual art to be featured in Geaux Girl!, email your photography or images of artwork to [email protected]. We are also always on the lookout for great shots for the cover. To submit a cover shot, keep in mind that the image needs to be vertically oriented and provide space for our logo at the top!

18 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 “Railroad Crossing” by Lucy Krause (16), Benjamin Franklin High School If you could change something about the immigration system, what would you change? I want the government to stop separating families. I hope that people who come here for a better life won’t get Immigration deported anymore. Tey went through a lot to come here. I feel sad when I see the news because I identify with them. I know what they lef behind. When you come here, you “ You were an undocumented immigrant until recently. How does that feel? don’t think about places, you I’m happy because one of my goals was to get my documents so I can study and go to a university. It really is a diferent life when you have your documents because now I can work anywhere and do everything I want to do. just think about your family. Without documents I can’t go back to Honduras; I can’t work and it’s difcult to go to college; I can’t get a ” driver’s license; and the police could take me to jail. I want to go to Honduras and visit my grandmother when I get my green card. My grandmother is really happy that she’s going to see me again.

Tell me about yourself… I’m a senior at Bonnabel Magnet Academy and live in Metairie. I love to sing and play soccer, and I want to go to Tulane or LSU afer I graduate from high school.

What was your journey to the U.S. like? It was happy and sad at the same time because I lef my family and because I came to see my other family. I was confused. It was hard because I lef something behind, and I was alone. I traveled by car and bus and walked a little bit. We crossed the river by the border on a boat with 15 people on it. Te Border Patrol was waiting for us. We We love receiving your photography knew they would take us. submissions, NOLA girls! What happened after you got stopped at the border? Y’all are seriously talented. I stayed in a place with many rooms together with other girls and boys for about two days and then they sent me to a big house. I stayed there for maybe three weeks. And then I came here. I was lucky because I only had to be there for three weeks. Tere were many people who were there for three, four months. I was lucky. “Float” by Alice Hanks (13), Edward Hynes Charter School –– And then you were reunited with your family in New Orleans? How was that? I was really happy. I cried a lot. When I saw my dad and realized it was him, I started crying and ran to him. My "Centered" by Maddie Weibelt (17), Mount Carmel Academy dad told me to stop crying, but I told him, “I can’t.” He was crying like a baby too.

And you met your stepmother for the first time… Te person who raised me in Honduras was my grandmother. I never had a mother. Having your grandmother is not the same. Tat was one thing I was looking forward to when I came here. It was my dream to have a mother. In my mind, my stepmother is not my stepmother; she is my mother. Tat was my dream.

What do you like about the U.S.? Everything. It’s really diferent from my home country. I don’t miss Honduras that much. I miss my family, but I don’t miss my country because WE’VE ALL HEARD STORIES about refugees and immigrants coming to the U.S. to start a new life. Have you I’m okay here. ever wondered what it would be like to leave the place where you grew up and start over in a foreign country? Maybe you have friends whose families immigrated to the U.S. or you even came to New Orleans from some- What did you expect New If you want your visual art to be featured in Geaux Girl!, email your place else? Te New Orleans metro area is home to many immigrants from a lot of diferent countries, but most Orleans to be like? photography or images of artwork to [email protected]. are from Honduras, Vietnam, Mexico, Nicaragua, and India. I wasn’t expecting anything. I was We are also always on the lookout for great shots for the cover. We wanted to learn more about what it means to be a young female immigrant in New Orleans. Lusher Charter thinking about my father; I wasn’t thinking about New Orleans. When To submit a cover shot, keep in mind that the image needs to be School student Keira “Brooklyn” Armstrong (11) sat down with Mayte Velásquez Pineda (18), who came to you come here, you don’t think about vertically oriented and provide space for our logo at the top! New Orleans from Honduras when she was about Brooklyn’s age, to learn more about Mayte’s journey and life as part of the New Orleans community. places, you just think about your family.

Mayte was fve when her father immigrated to the U.S. for better job opportunities and to support his family How would you describe back in Honduras. When Mayte was 12 years old, she lef her home to join her father. Together with a group of New Orleans to a girl in strangers, Mayte traveled through Guatemala and Mexico and eventually crossed the Rio Grande to reach . your home country? Tis trip took one week, but she was caught at the border and spent three weeks in a shelter waiting to be It’s a happy place. reunited with her dad afer seven years of living worlds apart.

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 19 Mayte with her dad and two of her brothers after she arrived in New Orleans.

Tell me about yourself… I’m a senior at Bonnabel Magnet Academy and live in Metairie. I love to sing and play soccer, and I want to go to Tulane or LSU afer I graduate from high school.

What was your journey to the U.S. like? It was happy and sad at the same time because I lef my family and because I came to see my other family. I was confused. It was hard because I lef something behind, and I was alone. I traveled by car and bus and walked a little bit. We crossed the river by the border on a boat with 15 people on it. Te Border Patrol was waiting for us. We knew they would take us.

What happened after you got stopped at the border? I stayed in a place with many rooms together with other girls and boys for about two days and then they sent me to a big house. I stayed there for maybe three weeks. And then I came here. I was lucky because I only had to be there for three weeks. Tere were many people who were there for three, four months. I was lucky.

And then you were reunited with your family in New Orleans? How was that? I was really happy. I cried a lot. When I saw my dad and realized it was him, I started crying and ran to him. My dad told me to stop crying, but I told him, “I can’t.” He was crying like a baby too.

And you met your stepmother for the first time… Te person who raised me in Honduras was my grandmother. I never had a mother. Having your grandmother is not the same. Tat was one thing I was looking forward to when I came here. It was my dream to have a mother. In my mind, my stepmother is not my stepmother; she is my mother. Tat was my dream.

What do you like about the U.S.? Everything. It’s really diferent from my home country. I don’t miss Honduras that much. I miss my family, but I don’t miss my country because I’m okay here.

What did you expect New Orleans to be like? I wasn’t expecting anything. I was thinking about my father; I wasn’t thinking about New Orleans. When you come here, you don’t think about places, you just think about your family.

How would you describe New Orleans to a girl in your home country? It’s a happy place.

20 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 If you could change something about the immigration system, what would you change? I want the government to stop separating families. I hope that people who come here for a better life won’t get deported anymore. Tey went through a lot to come here. I feel sad when I see the news because I identify with them. I know what they lef behind.

You were an undocumented immigrant until recently. How does that feel? I’m happy because one of my goals was to get my documents so I can study and go to a university. It really is a diferent life when you have your documents because now I can work anywhere and do everything I want to do. Without documents I can’t go back to Honduras; I can’t work and it’s difcult to go to college; I can’t get a driver’s license; and the police could take me to jail. I want to go to Honduras and visit my grandmother when I get my green card. My grandmother is really happy that she’s going to see me again.

Tell me about yourself… I’m a senior at Bonnabel Magnet Academy and live in Metairie. I love to sing and play soccer, and I want to go to Tulane or LSU afer I graduate from high school. Nearly half of all children fleeing to the United States from Central America faced severe What was your journey to the U.S. like? violence in their home countries, and four out of fve (so about 80%!) of immigrant children hoped to It was happy and sad at the same time because I lef my family and because I came to see my other family. I was reunify with family members who live in the U.S. confused. It was hard because I lef something behind, and I was alone. I traveled by car and bus and walked a little bit. We crossed the river by the border on a boat with 15 people on it. Te Border Patrol was waiting for us. We Over the last fve years, about 3,000 immigrant children arrived in the New Orleans metro area knew they would take us. on their own and were reunifed with a family member or friend. Tat’s roughly equivalent to the number of students who graduate from high school each year in New Orleans! What happened after you got stopped at the border? I stayed in a place with many rooms together with other girls and boys for about two days and then they sent me to About 15,000 foreign-born children under the age of 18 live in Louisiana. a big house. I stayed there for maybe three weeks. And then I came here. I was lucky because I only had to be there for three weeks. Tere were many people who were there for three, four months. I was lucky. About 30,000 undocumented children and adults live in the New Orleans area, which is nearly half of the undocumented immigrant community in Louisiana. And then you were reunited with your family in New Orleans? How was that? I was really happy. I cried a lot. When I saw my dad and realized it was him, I started crying and ran to him. My dad told me to stop crying, but I told him, “I can’t.” He was crying like a baby too.

And you met your stepmother for the first time… Migrant = Anyone who is moving from one place to another Te person who raised me in Honduras was my grandmother. I never had a mother. Having your grandmother is not the same. Tat was one thing I was looking forward to when I came here. It was my dream to have a mother. In Immigrant = Person who has lef their home country to stay in another country my mind, my stepmother is not my stepmother; she is my mother. Tat was my dream. Refugee = Person who is forced to leave their country because they have been seriously What do you like about the U.S.? harmed or fear being harmed for reasons including race, religion, or political opinion Everything. It’s really diferent from my home country. I don’t miss Honduras Undocumented Immigrant = Immigrant who hasn’t been given permission by the that much. I miss my family, but U.S. government to live in the country (it is common for an undocumented immigrant to I don’t miss my country because WE’VE ALL HEARD STORIES about refugees and immigrants coming to the U.S. to start a new life. Have you later get permission to stay) I’m okay here. ever wondered what it would be like to leave the place where you grew up and start over in a foreign country? Maybe you have friends whose families immigrated to the U.S. or you even came to New Orleans from some- What did you expect New place else? Te New Orleans metro area is home to many immigrants from a lot of diferent countries, but most Orleans to be like? are from Honduras, Vietnam, Mexico, Nicaragua, and India. I wasn’t expecting anything. I was Immigrants may be put into jail when they are accused of being in the U.S. without permission—even if they are thinking about my father; I wasn’t We wanted to learn more about what it means to be a young female immigrant in New Orleans. Lusher Charter not charged with a crime. While no immigrant children are detained in Louisiana, there are three jails in thinking about New Orleans. When School student Keira “Brooklyn” Armstrong (11) sat down with Mayte Velásquez Pineda (18), who came to Louisiana that regularly hold adult immigrants. New Orleans from Honduras when she was about Brooklyn’s age, to learn more about Mayte’s journey and life as you come here, you don’t think about part of the New Orleans community. places, you just think about your family.

Mayte was fve when her father immigrated to the U.S. for better job opportunities and to support his family How would you describe back in Honduras. When Mayte was 12 years old, she lef her home to join her father. Together with a group of New Orleans to a girl in A heartfelt thank you to Laila Hlass and Homero López, Jr. for sharing their knowledge and making this article possible. strangers, Mayte traveled through Guatemala and Mexico and eventually crossed the Rio Grande to reach Texas. your home country? Laila is a law professor at Tulane University Law School, where she teaches immigration law, and Homero is the executive It’s a happy place. director and managing attorney of ISLA (Immigration Services and Legal Advocacy), a legal services nonproft that provides Tis trip took one week, but she was caught at the border and spent three weeks in a shelter waiting to be pro bono legal representation for detained immigrants in Louisiana. Homero can be reached at [email protected]. reunited with her dad afer seven years of living worlds apart.

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 21 with Dr. La’Nasha Tanner & her team of doctors at LSU Health New Orleans School of Medicine

I recently started using tampons because my flow is pretty heavy. Why does it hurt when I take the tampon out? What should I do?

Te tampon expands over time afer you insert it, which is why it may be more uncomfortable on its way out. I would frst make sure that you are using the smallest size tampon (you can work your way back up to a larger size over time). Next, try to remember that pressure and pain get worse if you tense up, so practice relaxing before you remove the tampon. Make sure you straighten the string out and have a good grasp. You shouldn’t have to pinch skin or tissue to get the tampon out. Lastly, if you push down a little bit and stand pelia anorne M with your legs apart when removing the tampon, it may help decrease the discomfort!

What’s the difference between gender and sex?

Sex refers to the biological factors that determine whether you physically develop as a male or female. Gen- der identity is your own interpretation of whether you are male or female or something in between. Gender expression is your way of displaying your gender identity to the world. For example, you could be born with two X chromosomes leading to sexual development as a female. You may strongly identify as a girl, expressing this through typically female clothing and grooming choices. You may also be more of a “tomboy,” yet you still know in your heart that you are a girl. You may feel that, although you were born with a female body, you are actually a boy, and you can change the way you look on the outside to better match how you feel inside. While auren napp M some of these gender identities are more common than others, they are all normal and healthy.

What age should you first have sex?

Each person should decide on their own when the time is right for them to frst have sex. Sex can feel good and be a part of a healthy relationship. Sex comes with a lot of responsibilities: being vulnerable with another person, preventing sexually transmitted diseases, and preventing pregnancy if it’s not the time for you. Be honest with yourself and your partner about how you feel about sex and any concerns you have. Remember, there are many ways of being physically close that don’t involve sex. You should only do things that you are comfortable with. If you feel uncomfortable, unsafe, threatened, or forced into doing something, tell the other person to stop and let them know how you feel. It’s not about being a certain age to frst have sex, it’s about being emotionally and physically ready, with the right person, at the right time in your life. nna uanelarier M

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22 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 Whatever your questions may be, Geaux Girl!’s very own sex ed and girls’ health expert, Dr. La’Nasha Tanner, and her team of doctors at LSU Health New Orleans School of Medicine are here to answer them. Dr. Tanner, a native New Orleanian and graduate of Spelman College and Meharry Medical College who completed her residency at LSU, can’t wait to answer your questions so let’s get real!

What’s a UTI?

A urinary tract infection (UTI) happens when bacteria from the anus or vagina spread up into the urethra (where you pee from). Unfortunately, UTIs are very common in women because our anatomy is close togeth- er. On the bright side, most UTIs can be easily treated with antibiotics from your doctor. If you experience burning, notice a bad smell, or see blood in the toilet when you pee, your doctor can test your urine to look for a UTI. Do your best to prevent UTIs by drinking lots of water, always wiping from the front to the back, and wearing cotton underwear. Also, never hold it; go to the bathroom right when you need to. Sometimes Moran Walon M you can get a UTI even if you do all the right things. Tat’s okay. Just be sure to get checked out and take all the antibiotics the doctor gives you as prescribed, even if you feel better.

I’ve heard that I can’t get pregnant if I take a shower or bath right after sex. Is that true?

No, this is not true because sperm starts traveling through the female reproductive system once semen enters the vagina. Te only absolute way to prevent pregnancy is to abstain from intercourse. Tere are forms of contraception that reduce the likelihood of getting pregnant, some of which can be very efective, but showering or taking a bath is not going to reduce your likelihood of getting pregnant. Contraceptive methods work by providing a barrier that blocks the sperm from entering the vagina or uterus (like condoms or diaphragms, respectively) or by preventing a a a n e n n e r M the release of an egg from the ovary (like birth control pills or the patch).

Can women have kids forever?

Short answer, no! Women can get pregnant between puberty and menopause. Puberty starts around age 10- 14, when a girl forms breasts and pubic hair, starts to ovulate (ovaries release an egg), and her uterus (womb) makes a fufy lining to support pregnancy. When a sperm doesn’t fertilize that egg (during sex), a pregnancy doesn’t occur and the fufy lining is shed. Tat’s what we see as a monthly period. Menopause is when a woman stops ovulating and having her period, around age 50. Menopause means that a woman can’t have kids anymore, but if she has kids already, she can help take care of grandkids! Fun fact: women are born with all of their eggs waiting to be released monthly starting in puberty. Men, however, begin to produce sperm alia eneva M when they start puberty. Afer that, men make sperm for the rest of their lives and can keep having kids.

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 23 Sex + Drugs/Alcohol = NO! It’s never okay to mix alcohol or drugs with sex. Tese substances interfere with your thought process and decision making, limiting your ability to give consent. Never have sex with someone who has been drinking alcohol or using drugs. Why? But I said yes. Because that person’s ability to consent has been altered. It becomes your responsibility to say NO. Having sex with some- one who cannot consent can end in a legal situation where one person is accused of simple rape. Simple rape is having sex Sexual Consent & Your Rights with someone who is unable to consent due to the infuence of alcohol or drugs. In Louisiana, the charge for simple rape By Brooke Naranjo & Deidra Pierre is up to 25 years in prison. If you have questions about a specifc situation and are wondering whether what you or someone you know is doing is legal, we advise you to speak with a lawyer. But remember, sex is about so much more than the law. Always be safe and only Let’s start with the basics: What is sexual consent? do what feels right to you! Consent is to give permission or approval; to agree to something. If someone is forced into an act, this is the opposite of giving consent. Consensual sexual activity is when two people agree to have a natural, respectful relationship that may include kissing, hugging, sensual (sexual) touching and/or vaginal, anal (butt) or oral (mouth) penetration. Sex can be a healthy, positive experience for partners who feel prepared and understand that sex requires mutual respect and communication. Engaging in sexual activity with someone is a huge responsibility and there’s always lots to consider. Besides making sure that you and your partner are on the same page about what you want to happen—and what you don’t want to hap- Marie, a 15-year-old sophomore, is chilling at a sweet 16 party when her friend Monica encourages pen—and fguring out contraception, there’s also some law stuf to consider that may seem a little scary. It is not our intention to her to talk to her crush, David. He’s a 17-year-old high school senior and captain of the football and scare you. Sex doesn’t have to, and shouldn’t, be scary, but it’s important to know what the law says to make sure that you do what track team. Marie’s friend hands her a daiquiri and says it’s only a little alcohol (“Girl, you can handle both feels right to you and is right under the law. it!”). Marie and David end up in a bedroom, talking and touching a little. David compliments Marie and takes a picture of her in her underwear for Snapchat. Marie doesn’t remember how things Let’s break it down: started, but she feels David under her shirt. When he tries to take things further, Age is more than a number Marie pushes him away and runs out of the bedroom. Have you ever thought that you could be break- ing the law by saying yes to sex? Every state in the A Is Marie of legal age to consent? country has laws that defne the legal age to give B Is David of legal age to consent? consent to participate in sexual intercourse. But it can get a little complicated, so let us explain. C Given that Marie was drinking alcohol, is she able to consent? In Louisiana, 17 is generally the legal age for a person to be able to legally consent to sex with D Since David is 17 and Marie is 15 and they are both in high school, someone older than them. However, and this is is it okay for them to have consensual sex? important, there are other limitations based on the diference in you and your partner’s age, es- pecially when at least one of you is younger than 17. We’ve created a helpful chart below to help explain each scenario. For example, a 17-year-old should never have sex with anyone under the age of 17. Te law is clear on this. If you are under the age of 17 (even Want to report an incident? if you’re almost 17) and the other person involved is older, he or she can face prosecution for carnal Call 911 or (504) 821-2222 (Orleans Parish non-emergency number) knowledge of a juvenile. If you are between the ages of 13 through 16 Need help? and having sex, know your partner’s age (and Te Audrey Hepburn CARE Center at Children’s Hospital provides medical treatment, consultation, and counseling. consider whether you are ready to have sex!). Le- Call (504) 896-9237 or visit their website at chnola.org/CAREcenter gally, a 13-year-old can consent to sex with an individual up to three years older, a 14-year-old Te Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) provides confdential crisis support 24/7. can consent to an individual up to two years old- Call 1-800-656-4673 to speak to someone at their National Sexual Assault Hotline er, and a 15-year-old can consent to an individu- al one year older. No one 12 or under can legally consent to sex. Always remember the law; if you DISCLOSURE: In no way are we advocating for underage sex; the are under 17 years old and your sexual partner is chart is only a representation of what is safe when it comes to 17 years old or older, the LAW SAYS NO! Louisiana law. Always use caution, sex is a responsibility. Sensual touching is touching someone’s private Te authors are both family nurse practitioners and members of the REAL team at the LSU Health parts (vagina, penis, anus or breasts). Although Sciences Center New Orleans. Te mission of Reproductive Education + Advocacy Louisiana [REAL] this is not considered intercourse, it still falls un- is to improve adolescents’ access and utilization of comprehensive, accessible and youth-friendly der the laws discussed above about sexual consent. sexual and reproductive healthcare services by enhancing knowledge, expanding training and growing advocacy capacity of current and future healthcare providers.

24 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 Sex ++ Drugs/Alcohol = NO! It’s never okay to mix alcohol or drugs with sex. Tese substances interfere with your thought process and decision making, limiting your ability to give consent. Never have sex with someone who has been drinking alcohol or using drugs. Why? But I said yes. Because that person’s ability to consent has been altered. It becomes your responsibility to say NO. Having sex with some- one who cannot consent can end in a legal situation where one person is accused of simple rape. Simple rape is having sex with someone who is unable to consent due to the infuence of alcohol or drugs. In Louisiana, the charge for simple rape is up to 25 years in prison. If you have questions about a specifc situation and are wondering whether what you or someone you know is doing is If you have questions about a specifc situation and are wondering whether what you or someone you know is doing is legal, we advise legal, we advise you to speak with a lawyer. But remember, sex is about so much more than the law. Always be safe and only you to speak with a lawyer. But remember, sex is about so much more than the law. Always be safe and only do what feels right to you! Let’s start with the basics: What is sexual consent? do what feels right to you! Consent is to give permission or approval; to agree to something. If someone is forced into an act, this is the opposite of giving consent. Consensual sexual activity is when two people agree to have a natural, respectful relationship that may include kissing, hugging, sensual (sexual) touching and/or vaginal, anal (butt) or oral (mouth) penetration. Sex can be a healthy, positive experience for partners who feel prepared and understand that sex requires mutual respect and communication. Engaging in sexual activity with someone is a huge responsibility and there’s always lots to consider. Besides making sure that you and your partner are on the same page about what you want to happen—and what you don’t want to hap- Marie, a 15-year-old sophomore, is chilling at a sweet 16 party when her friend Monica encourages pen—and fguring out contraception, there’s also some law stuf to consider that may seem a little scary. It is not our intention to her to talk to her crush, David. He’s a 17-year-old high school senior and captain of the football and scare you. Sex doesn’t have to, and shouldn’t, be scary, but it’s important to know what the law says to make sure that you do what track team. Marie’s friend hands her a daiquiri and says it’s only a little alcohol (“Girl, you can handle both feels right to you and is right under the law. it!”). Marie and David end up in a bedroom, talking and touching a little. David compliments Marie and takes a picture of her in her underwear for Snapchat. Marie doesn’t remember how things Let’s break it down: started, but she feels David under her shirt. When he tries to take things further, Age is more than a number Marie pushes him away and runs out of the bedroom. Have you ever thought that you could be break- A Is Marie of legal age to consent? and David for illegal is it NO, ing the law by saying yes to sex? Every state in the D. country has laws that defne the legal age to give B Is David of legal age to consent? NO.

consent to participate in sexual intercourse. But it C. can get a little complicated, so let us explain. C Given that Marie was drinking alcohol, is she able to consent? In Louisiana, 17 is generally the legal age for a person to be able to legally consent to sex with D Since David is 17 and Marie is 15 and they are both in high school, someone older than them. However, and this is is it okay for them to have consensual sex? with consent to age legal the is which 17 is David YES, important, there are other limitations based on B.

the diference in you and your partner’s age, es- to age legal of not is and 17 of age the under is Marie NO, pecially when at least one of you is younger than A. consent. adult. an as tried individualsbe 17 and would over. David charged, If sex. have to Marie 17. We’ve created a helpful chart below to help explain each scenario. For example, a 17-year-old should never have sex with anyone under the age of 17. Te law is clear on this. If you are under the age of 17 (even Want to report an incident? if you’re almost 17) and the other person involved is older, he or she can face prosecution for carnal Call 911 or (504) 821-2222 (Orleans Parish non-emergency number) knowledge of a juvenile. If you are between the ages of 13 through 16 Need help? and having sex, know your partner’s age (and Te Audrey Hepburn CARE Center at Children’s Hospital provides medical treatment, consultation, and counseling. consider whether you are ready to have sex!). Le- Call (504) 896-9237 or visit their website at chnola.org/CAREcenter gally, a 13-year-old can consent to sex with an individual up to three years older, a 14-year-old Te Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) provides confdential crisis support 24/7. can consent to an individual up to two years old- Call 1-800-656-4673 to speak to someone at their National Sexual Assault Hotline er, and a 15-year-old can consent to an individu- al one year older. No one 12 or under can legally consent to sex. Always remember the law; if you DISCLOSURE: In no way are we advocating for underage sex; the are under 17 years old and your sexual partner is chart is only a representation of what is safe when it comes to 17 years old or older, the LAW SAYS NO! Louisiana law. Always use caution, sex is a responsibility. Sensual touching is touching someone’s private Te authors are both family nurse practitioners and members of the REAL team at the LSU Health parts (vagina, penis, anus or breasts). Although Sciences Center New Orleans. Te mission of Reproductive Education + Advocacy Louisiana [REAL] this is not considered intercourse, it still falls un- is to improve adolescents’ access and utilization of comprehensive, accessible and youth-friendly der the laws discussed above about sexual consent. sexual and reproductive healthcare services by enhancing knowledge, expanding training and growing advocacy capacity of current and future healthcare providers.

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 25 Brittani Irons of In the Master’s Hands Zariane Nuñez of Czar Cosmetics Salon and Spa (@hairartist_brittani) (@czarcosmetics)

SHINE BRIGHT

It’s the season of dressing up! Woot woot! (Well, is there ever a time when us New Orleanians don’t get to dress up!?) The fall and winter months are perfect for a little extravagance. Voodoo Fest, Halloween, holiday parties, winter formal, Mardi Gras… lots of opportunities to give yourself that special sparkle that will make you shine inside and out.

Our beauty experts extraordinaire, Brittani and Zari, created two gorgeous looks for our beautiful model, Ben Franklin senior Angela (17), whose favorite holiday is Halloween (“One year, I was a vampire witch. It didn’t make sense, but it was cute.”).

26 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 It’s super easy to make your own glitter gel.

All you need is your favorite hair gel, glitter, a sealable container, and something to stir with. Squeeze a moderate amount of gel into the container, then grab glitter in your favorite color (classy gold for Angela), add in a good bit, and mix together. You’ll want the mixture to be mostly glitter; somewhat thick, not see-through. Play with different color combinations (see our iridescent combo) and glitter sizes for a little extra fun!

Then simply apply glitter gel to hair ends or entire strands. (Brittani double strand twisted Angela’s hair before she applied glitter gel to the ends and let it dry before pulling Andrea’s hair apart.) You decide how far up you want to go with the glitter! There’s no wrong way of giving your hair some glitter love.

Brush eyebrows in place using a mascara wand and lightly fill them in. Use a soft brown in the crease for contrast and then apply gold pigment on the lid. Finish with clear or pink lip gloss to complete this subtle shimmer look.

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 27 Put your hair in a high ponytail and create a braid using extensions.

Add pre-colored track hair to the braid by wrapping the tracks around the braid, starting at the bottom of the braid and working your way up. Brittani used needle and thread to secure the tracks, but hair glue works as well (do not use hair glue on your real hair though!). Bobby pins help secure the tracks at the base of the ponytail. Brittani also used silver pipe cleaners to add some fun.

Brittani: “If you’re wondering why I didn’t just use a readymade ponytail attachment, it’s because this method gives a more sleek and natural look.”

28 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 Use the mesh wrapping from a bag of lemons or fish net stockings as your stencil. Hold it tightly across the face and apply face paint of your choice (like Snazaroo or Mehron). Add 1-2 other colors of your choice at the bottom or top to add dimension.

Finish with glitter to bring your mermaid look to life!

Zari: “For both looks I recommend the Morphe 35O or Jaclyn Hill eyeshadow palettes both found at Ulta Beauty. NYX is another inex- pensive brand that carries silver and gold glitter for both looks and pigments in every shade for $7-10. NYX Butter Gloss in the shades 'Praline' or 'Fortune Cookie' is my absolute favorite!”

Awww alert!! Angela’s boyfriend, Sam, came along to the photo shoot and told us that Angela always looks beautiful to him—no matter what. What he loves most about her? That she’s a really positive person.

Thank you to In The Master’s Hands Salon & Spa (inthemastershands.com) for partnering with us and letting us take over the salon!

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 29 WHAT YOU’LL NEED • Indigo Tie Dye Kit by Jacquard (available on Amazon, usually around $10; sometimes available at STEP BY STEP Uptown Needle & Craftworks but call first) Step 1 Shibori Supplies: Order your shibori kit online! • White cotton items Ten start gathering white cotton items to dye such as • Rubber bands t-shirts, tanks, crop tops, pillowcases, tea towels, scarves, or even underwear. • Rubber gloves (dishwashing gloves work great!) • 5-gallon bucket (ideally with an airtight lid, Step 2 Folding: Te key to beautiful shibori designs is the available at Home Depot or Lowe’s) folding techniques. Start with the basic accordion fold. • Drop cloth or tarp to protect your dyeing zone How to accordion fold: Fold one strip of the fabric, then • Objects for creating patterns: small wood blocks go back and forth folding it lengthwise, accordion style. or squares (the kit contains a few squares), Once you’ve fnished in , fold it in the clothespins, binder clips, oyster shells… whatever other direction—again, accordion style. From there, you got! you can fold it into a square, rectangle, or triangle; each • Warm water shape will create a diferent design! • Clothesline If using wood blocks, sandwich them outside of your folded creation and use rubber bands to bind the whole thing together. If you don’t have wood blocks: No worries, you can stick to rubber bands. Tie them around the ends of SHIBORI is a “resist-dyeing” method which means your folded creations. One option is to do the triangle that anything you attach to your fabric will resist accordion fold, then tie a rubber band around each of the dye and stay white; whatever is exposed to the triangle’s corners. the dye will turn blue—that’s how you get all the cool contrasts of colors and shapes. If you don’t want to fold: To make the classic tie-dye-style rings, simply bunch up a small wad of fabric and tie a rubber band around it. Te rubber bands will create small white rings on the fabric.

Step 3 Prepare Your Indigo Vat Outside: Shibori is ideally an outdoor activity so hopefully you have some space on a driveway, sidewalk, or backyard (check the weather frst to make sure it’s not supposed to rain!). Cover your dye zone with a drop cloth or tarp if you don’t want to risk staining the ground. And since you don’t want to stain your favorite outft, wear an old t-shirt or something you won’t mind getting a little messy. Follow the instructions on your shibori kit to set up the BY ERIN ZIMMER STRENIO vat. You’ll start by flling the 5-gallon bucket with 4 gallons of warm water. Dump the kit’s contents into your bucket: indigo powder, a reducing agent, and soda ash. Te kit makes it super simple since everything is already You’ve heard of tie-dye before, but how about shibori? Shibori is like the hip Japanese measured out. Gently stir the vat, and once the dye is well cousin of tie-dye. Using indigo dye—the same dye that gives denim its classic blue color—you mixed, cover it with a lid for at least an hour. can create cool designs and geometric patterns in different shades of blue through simple Check on the dye later—it should resemble a bubbly folding techniques. Shibori transforms plain white clothes and fabrics into stylish creations. witches’ brew. Tat’s how you know it’s ready! And it’s super simple to shibori in your own backyard! We love hitting up local thrift stores (Goodwill, Salvation Army, Bridge House, YEP Thrift Works) to sort through the racks for white items to dye instead of buying brand-new stuff. You’ll want to wash everything first, whether it’s new or vintage. Also make sure your items are 100% cotton since synthetic fibers (polyester, nylon, acrylic, spandex) won’t absorb the indigo dye. There are so many ways to shibori—so many designs, patterns, and folding techniques. The sky’s the limit when it comes to shibori so let your creative energies run wild!

30 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 WHAT YOU’LL NEED • Indigo Tie Dye Kit by Jacquard (available on Amazon, usually around $10; sometimes available at STEP BY STEP Uptown Needle & Craftworks but call first) Step 1 Shibori Supplies: Order your shibori kit online! • White cotton items Ten start gathering white cotton items to dye such as • Rubber bands t-shirts, tanks, crop tops, pillowcases, tea towels, scarves, or even underwear. • Rubber gloves (dishwashing gloves work great!) • 5-gallon bucket (ideally with an airtight lid, Step 2 Folding: Te key to beautiful shibori designs is the available at Home Depot or Lowe’s) folding techniques. Start with the basic accordion fold. • Drop cloth or tarp to protect your dyeing zone How to accordion fold: Fold one strip of the fabric, then • Objects for creating patterns: small wood blocks go back and forth folding it lengthwise, accordion style. or squares (the kit contains a few squares), Once you’ve fnished in one direction, fold it in the clothespins, binder clips, oyster shells… whatever other direction—again, accordion style. From there, you got! you can fold it into a square, rectangle, or triangle; each • Warm water shape will create a diferent design! • Clothesline If using wood blocks, sandwich them outside of your folded creation and use rubber bands to bind the whole thing together. If you don’t have wood blocks: No worries, you can stick to rubber bands. Tie them around the ends of SHIBORI is a “resist-dyeing” method which means your folded creations. One option is to do the triangle that anything you attach to your fabric will resist accordion fold, then tie a rubber band around each of the dye and stay white; whatever is exposed to the triangle’s corners. the dye will turn blue—that’s how you get all the cool contrasts of colors and shapes. If you don’t want to fold: To make the classic tie-dye-style rings, simply bunch up a small wad of fabric and tie a rubber band around it. Te rubber bands will create small white rings on the fabric.

Step 3 Prepare Your Indigo Vat Outside: Shibori is ideally an outdoor activity so hopefully you have some space on a driveway, sidewalk, or backyard (check the weather frst to make sure it’s not supposed to rain!). Cover your dye zone with a drop cloth or tarp if you don’t want to risk staining the ground. And since you don’t want to stain your favorite outft, wear an old t-shirt or something you won’t mind getting a little messy. Follow the instructions on your shibori kit to set up the BY ERIN ZIMMER STRENIO vat. You’ll start by flling the 5-gallon bucket with 4 gallons of warm water. Dump the kit’s contents into your bucket: indigo powder, a reducing agent, and soda ash. Te kit makes it super simple since everything is already You’ve heard of tie-dye before, but how about shibori? Shibori is like the hip Japanese measured out. Gently stir the vat, and once the dye is well cousin of tie-dye. Using indigo dye—the same dye that gives denim its classic blue color—you mixed, cover it with a lid for at least an hour. can create cool designs and geometric patterns in different shades of blue through simple Check on the dye later—it should resemble a bubbly folding techniques. Shibori transforms plain white clothes and fabrics into stylish creations. witches’ brew. Tat’s how you know it’s ready! And it’s super simple to shibori in your own backyard! We love hitting up local thrift stores (Goodwill, Salvation Army, Bridge House, YEP Thrift Works) to sort through the racks for white items to dye instead of buying brand-new stuff. You’ll want to wash everything first, whether it’s new or vintage. Also make sure your items are 100% cotton since synthetic fibers (polyester, nylon, acrylic, spandex) won’t absorb the indigo dye. There are so many ways to shibori—so many designs, patterns, and folding techniques. The sky’s the limit when it comes to shibori so let your creative energies run wild!

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 31 Step 4 Quick Rinse: Once you’ve folded and rubber-band- ed all your items, give everything a quick rinse with cold water. Squeeze out any excess water. You want everything STEP BY STEP to be a little damp when it goes into the bucket; this will Step 1 Shibori Supplies: Order your shibori kit online! help absorb the indigo dye. Ten start gathering white cotton items to dye such as t-shirts, tanks, crop tops, pillowcases, tea towels, scarves, Step 5 Shibori Showtime: Te time has come! It’s SHIBORI or even underwear. SHOWTIME! Put on your rubber gloves and start plunging your folded creations into the bucket. Since most fabric will Step 2 Folding: Te key to beautiful shibori designs is the foat, you’ll want to hold your items under the surface and folding techniques. Start with the basic accordion fold. keep them submerged for at least 3-5 minutes. How to accordion fold: Fold one strip of the fabric, then go When it’s time to remove everything from the bucket, back and forth folding it lengthwise, accordion style. Once they’ll emerge a yellow-greenish color. As your fabric oxidizes, it’ll turn from green to the distinctive indigo blue you’ve fnished in one direction, fold it in the other Step 7 Unlock the Shibori Magic: Once you’re done with in a few quick minutes. Magic, right? direction—again, accordion style. From there, you can fold it any additional dips and everything has oxidized, unwrap the into a square, rectangle, or triangle; each shape will create a rubber bands and folds to reveal your shibori masterpieces! diferent design! Tis is the coolest part. It’s amazing to see the designs you’ve If using wood blocks, sandwich them outside of your created! And remember, the beauty of shibori is that there are folded creation and use rubber bands to bind the whole no mistakes; your designs are going to be unique and thing together. awesome, even if they didn’t turn out the way you expected. If you don’t have wood blocks: No worries, you can stick to rubber bands. Tie them around the ends of your Step 8 Wash and Dry: Hang your freshly dyed items on a folded creations. One option is to do the triangle accor- clothesline. Once the fabric is mostly dry (no worries if it’s still dion fold, then tie a rubber band around each of the a little damp), throw the goods into the laundry with cold triangle’s corners. water and some detergent. Make sure you wash the indigo If you don’t want to fold: To make the classic tie-dye-style items BY THEMSELVES and not with other laundry. Once rings, simply bunch up a small wad of fabric and tie a they’ve been washed and dried (separately from other rubber band around it. Te rubber bands will create small laundry for the frst run), they’re safe to wash with everything white rings on the fabric. else in future loads.

Step 3 Prepare Your Indigo Vat Outside: Shibori is ideally Step 9 Indigeaux Girls: Show of your new shibori creations an outdoor activity so hopefully you have some space on a and tell folks “I made this!” with a big smile on your face as driveway, sidewalk, or backyard (check the weather frst to you collect compliments! make sure it’s not supposed to rain!). Cover your dye zone If you don’t use all the indigo dye in one session, keep it with a drop cloth or tarp if you don’t want to risk staining the covered with the airtight lid. It should last a couple more days ground. And since you don’t want to stain your favorite so you can shibori some more. outft, wear an old t-shirt or something you won’t mind getting a little messy. Follow the instructions on your shibori kit to set up the vat. You’ll start by flling the 5-gallon bucket with 4 gallons of warm water. Dump the kit’s contents into your bucket: indigo powder, a reducing agent, and soda ash. Te kit makes it super simple since everything is already measured out. Gently stir the vat, and once the dye is well-mixed, cover it with a lid for at least an hour. Check on the dye later—it should resemble a bubbly witches’ brew. Tat’s how you know it’s ready!

Step 6 Double Dipping: If you want a darker shade of indigo, throw your items back into the bucket for another 3-5 minutes. And remember, the fabric will look darker when it’s fresh out of the dye vat; it will fade a bit afer you run it through the laundry.

32 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 Katherine St.Paul Hill rose to fame as a cake designer on Food Network's Ace of Cakes before becoming a nail artist extraordinaire given her love for the world of fashion and her keen eye for shape and color. Katherine has done nails for TNT’s show Claws and magazines such as Elle, Interview, Teen Vogue, Lucky, Vogue Mexico, and Vogue Japan. Some of her celebrity clients include Kristen Stewart, Megan Fox, Mindy Kaling, and Kate Bosworth. Katherine loves helping ladies feel extra beautiful.

Abstract Color Swipe Nails

This is a fun and dramatic look for fall and winter. It is versatile, in that you can use a variety of color combinations. I recommend starting with a darker color— maybe black or navy blue. That way, no matter what other color swatches you add to the textural design seem as though they are on the same "canvas." I like using black with at least two colors on top, and maybe a sheer metallic in there for a flash of fun. Feel free to experiment with different combinations!

Coat your nails in the base color and let dry.

Select your accent colors and have them all out and ready. Take your first accent color brush out of the bottle and scrape most of the polish off the brush. This is so you can gently swipe the accent color on without putting an entire blob of paint on top of the base color. You can also take a paper towel and fold it into a nice little flat square to dry off the polish brush a bit more if needed. What you're looking for is a wispy brush stroke effect.

You can decide between vertical or horizontal strokes. Repeat the strokes on each nail, switching up the location of each color and layering as desired. Be sure to allow for drying time between layers, and once finished, wait as long as you can before applying the top coat.

Finally—the most satisfying step—carefully apply the top coat (Seche Vite is the best!) and be patient with the drying time.

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 33 #EverydayNewOrleans

Tell your story and join the #EverydayNewOrleans community! Add your pictures to the "virtual installation" by using the hashtag on Instagram! Your picture might even get reshared on the @everydayneworleans account!

Love the cover of this issue as much as we do? Te picture was taken by Grace King High School senior Blanca Carolina Dubón during a community-wide photography project earlier this year. Blanca had never thought of herself as an artist until she participated in #EverydayNewOrleans—a local version of Te Everyday Projects, which is a global efort to challenge stereotypes through photography. Implemented by the New Orleans Museum of Art (NOMA) and the New Orleans Photo Alliance (NOPA), Nic Aziz, NOMA's community outreach coordinator, and NOPA photographers worked with New Orleanians from across the city to help them document their daily lives. Te results are amazing. Here are some of the other photographs that were taken by female high school students and chosen for the #EverydayNewOrleans installation at NOMA.

“It was such an amazing experience to be a photographer for a week. It made me realize the artistic side of me that I didn’t know existed as well as the beauty and uniqueness of my city.” – Blanca Carolina Dubón

Hillary Avila, Grace King High School (showing her best friend and fellow #EverydayNewOrleans participant Blanca Carolina Dubón)

34 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 “When taking this image, I wanted to express my pride for being an African American female and my love for the urban culture. I hope that when someone else looks at my photo that they realize they should be unapologetic about loving who they are and where they come from. This is hinted at by the nonchalant look on the girl’s face in my image.”

Martika Carter, Warren Easton Charter High School

Kayla Morris, Grace King High School

“The everyday life of an athlete. Warming up before our big win at the track meet.”

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 35 Capturing amazing photos every day is easy and fun with your cell phone! No expensive equip- ment required. Here are a few tips to get you started on your journey to stunning images. By Jennifer Williams, Youth and Family Programs Manager at NOMA

#EverydayNewOrleans workshop participant Hillary Avila from Grace King High School had the ingenious idea to create a color flter with school supplies! She placed clear tape over her cell phone camera and colored the tape with a blue sharpie. Aferwards she captured the photo of her best friend featured in the spread. Scan the vicinity for shot possibilities! We are surround- ed by beauty; while hanging out with friends and family, take a moment to photograph the world around you. Tink intentionally about angles and proximity to fll your frame with the subject. Check out free photo editing apps! Tools like VSCO and Trinity Gaines, Snapseed will assist you in taking your photography to Warren Easton Charter High School the next level. Editing tools help with adjustments to lighting and color to add the pop you are looking for. Join a creative community! Connect with others at your school, in the city, and from around the world to learn new techniques, share ideas, and display your images.

Join the NOMA Teen Squad! NOMA seeks creative, enthusiastic, dedicated high school students to join the museum team and help shape teen programs at NOMA! Meet teens from around the city of New Orleans, receive community service hours, and develop leadership skills.

NOMA is FREE for Teens every day! Take advantage of the Teen Pass at NOMA. Receive free admission (ages 13-19) to NOMA through the end of 2018 thanks to Te Helis Foundation. Teen Volunteer Opportunities Teens of all ages are invited to a monthly day of service in the sculpture garden. Fall dates are October 13, November 10, and December 8.

For more information, contact [email protected].

36 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 "I'm learning more about myself and other people. And we're learning about how we're unique." – Sydney

"I got to see my friends that I don't see in class." – Lucy

ABOUT GIRLS ON THE RUN NEW ORLEANS:

Girls on the Run inspires girls to recognize their inner strength and celebrate what makes them one of a kind. Te vision: a world where every girl knows and activates her limitless potential and is free to boldly pursue her dreams. GOTR’s program for middle school girls, Heart & Sole, is a 10-week aferschool program with a small team size of 8-15 participants. (Tis season’s Heart & Sole program sites are Bricolage Academy and Edward Hynes Charter School.) Girls learn about themselves, explore new ideas, cultivate empathy, strengthen connections, and develop life skills that will help them "In Heart & Sole we're on a roll! We learn as they move through adolescence and beyond. Te about the girl wheel; it has the most import- “Girl Wheel”—a concept whose components are body, ant key points of your body and it helps me brain, heart, spirit, and social connection—helps girls think more about myself." – Sadie identify changes they would like to make within themselves and ways they can contribute to positive change around them. Te program culminates in a 5K run where participants celebrate their physical and emotional strength.

Aren’t the athletic type and think GOTR isn’t for you? Tink again. GOTR programs are accessible to all girls regardless of athletic ability or ftness level! "I'm learning in Heart & Sole deeper stuff on Cost empathy and getting to know each other. And I'm not as shy anymore." – Moira Te full program fee is $225, but GOTR strives to provide discounted fees for families in need of fnancial aid. Tis season discounted fees range from $20-$175 based on a sliding household income scale. Email [email protected] or call (504) 272-7786 to inquire about fnancial aid. Don’t miss the GOTR New Orleans Fall 5K Celebration at Audubon Park on November 17th! There’ll be Want to lear n more? music, face painting, and a wellness fair. Details at gotrnola.org/5K. Check out gotrnola.org, or follow the program on Facebook, Instagram and at @gotrnola.

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 37 POETRY

I promise to allege. Yes, assert to be true True to who I am and true to my past My past is the reason “I’m fying frst class” Tere’s no justice for me WHEN BOREDOM STRIKES I WRITE I do not want any sympathy I demand justice! Is it here for me? BY ANAIYAH SAULTER Society wants me to remain humble No! I shall not crumble nor stumble Nowadays it’s okay for black women to get put down In New Orleans society constantly makes us frown Right now I’m 10 toes down Everybody’s getting put down Te only strength I have is to shout “I will not stop fghting” It’s guns and violence now With or without a doubt Like when will this madness end? Can’t we all get along and walk hand in hand? Tere’s no justice for me Tis community needs unity. I do not want any sympathy Let’s be one and strive for a greater world! I demand justice! Is it here for me? Tey say children are the world, and that they control the future I lied to myself saying everything was all right But how do we move forward when society is pulling triggers Knowing I was crying every single night Not just bullets in a gun But this, the fght I chose, how will I make it? It’s the pain of running and running and running… Only God knows Tired, exhausted, but getting stronger I consider the fght within emotional, spiritual, and physical As we sing Amazing Grace and hold on longer All fghts will create me to be phenomenal Together we can, together we will, overcome some day. And all those who wish I never rose? I never thought I’d say this but Will applaud me on all 10 toes I don’t want to go to school Only God knows It’s not cool how I don’t feel safe now Dare you not know who I am? Te unexpected is expected… Dare you not know where I stand? Black on black crimes like boys fghting girls I am an African Queen wishing we all could walk hand in hand Gang fghts and so much more My authority, power, and history has created the queen I am I don’t want to go to school, the abuse isn’t cool Yes, I said Queen and I’ll say it again! Queen, I am… Is this what Dr. King fought for? For African-Americans to walk away from pressure? New Orleans schools are not nations. No one works together and many don’t know their obligations Yes, obligated to teach, to learn Yes, obligated to overrule NO! NO! NO! Life in New Orleans consists of No kindness nor mercy Tus, I push through all cruelty As I take a seat to enjoy the ride, I look to my side and see “Tere’s no progress without struggle” So I remain strong and keep my hustle Work hard and play harder Tat’s the motto to go further… Tis community has taught me how to deal with pressure And I kind of like it because it pushes me to work harder And play smarter. Yes, growth, that’s my only oath I promise to fulfll this pledge, I shall not get knocked of the edge

38 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 I promise to allege. Yes, assert to be true True to who I am and true to my past My past is the reason “I’m fying frst class” Tere’s no justice for me I do not want any sympathy I demand justice! Is it here for me? Society wants me to remain humble No! I shall not crumble nor stumble Nowadays it’s okay for black women to get put down In New Orleans society constantly makes us frown Right now I’m 10 toes down Te only strength I have is to shout “I will not stop fghting” With or without a doubt Tere’s no justice for me I do not want any sympathy I demand justice! Is it here for me? I lied to myself saying everything was all right Knowing I was crying every single night But this, the fght I chose, how will I make it? Only God knows I consider the fght within emotional, spiritual, and physical All fghts will create me to be phenomenal And all those who wish I never rose? Will applaud me on all 10 toes Only God knows Dare you not know who I am? Dare you not know where I stand? I am an African Queen wishing we all could walk hand in hand My authority, power, and history has created the queen I am Yes, I said Queen and I’ll say it again! Queen, I am…

ANAIYAH SAULTER is a senior at Dr. King Charter School who wrote this poem during her junior year. Here is what she said about what inspired her: “I have my own saying, ‘when boredom strikes I write.’ I decided to name my writing after my saying. #WBSIW is a movement to help kids embrace their talents. My inspiration is rooted in pain and my family’s history. You see, I am blessed to say that I am the 5th living generation and that my great-great grandmother is still alive at 97 years old. I have a family full of women, which isn't easy but doable. My family’s wisdom, strength, and courage motivate me to grow and strive further. Aside from my family’s past, I was born to be phenomenal. The most significant experience and most important thing to impact me was the death of my aunt Joann. No matter what she went through in life, she always wore a smile. Her positive attitude inspires me because I know what she would expect of me.”

Tis poem is a fnalist in the Patrick F. Taylor Foundation’s arts competition 18 in ‘18. Te competition celebrates the Tricentennial of New Orleans by showcasing the creative talent of New Orleans high school students and their special connection to the spirit and culture of New Orleans. A panel of judges is narrowing the feld from 18 fnalists to fve winners with cash prizes for the students and their schools. Visit 18in18nola.com to see all of the submissions—which include poems, essays, videos and other visual arts!

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 39 kelly yu

MEET TEEN ENTREPRENEUR KELLY YU, a senior at Lusher Charter School who started her own business as a photographer, videographer and social media consultant when she was fifteen.

40 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 Age: 17

best advice ever received: “Chase the lion.” (Te lion represents your life’s biggest, most daunting passions. You’re supposed to chase the lion, not run from it.)

personal mottO: “Live in the present.” (It’s really easy to get caught up in always try- ing to do more… I need to be reminded to stop capturing memories sometimes and instead live in them. Life is also about spending week- ends with friends, consuming bags of Takis at an alarming rate, and binge-watching Te Ofce for the third time.)

How did you get started? I’d love to say that I’ve had a camera glued to my hand since I was a kid, but I didn’t develop an interest in photography and videography until my frst year of high school. My school ofers a four-year concentration in Media Arts, so I decided to try it out. I fell in love with the ability to cap- ture a moment or memory. I used to be really shy and found it hard to talk to people, but using a camera really helped me express myself.

What inspired you to become a “creative entrepreneur”? In 2016, Kev Sikorski, a famous Instagram photographer I had been follow- ing for a while, posted that he would be in New Orleans shooting the NBA All-Star Game and wanted to collaborate with locals. I met up with him and we spent the afernoon taking photos—sneaking onto hotel roofops and dodging cars and people to get the perfect shot. I realized how fun pho- tography can be. I’ve also been inspired by the stunningly beautiful work of flmmakers like Sam Kolder, Casey Neistat, and Matt Komo. I started out by asking my classmates to model for me and did photo shoots just about every week to get better. One day, I took photos of a friend in front of Piccola Gelateria and the owner asked me to share the photos with him for their Instagram. It hit me that there’s a need for non-tradition- al, afordable content creators who understand social media, so I pitched myself and ended up becoming their creative director.

What has been your coolest gig yet? A photo/video campaign for the restaurant review site Zagat! Tey sent me to 15 New Orleans fne dining restaurants and my job was to shoot the food, eat the food, and conduct food reviews. I went to every restaurant with a diferent group of friends. Having a fve-star restaurant chef serve me an eight-course meal with the restaurant entirely to myself was incredible.

What are the most important lessons you have learned as an entrepreneur? Realizing that I can’t and shouldn’t do it all on my own was life-chang- ing. Whether it was talking to the people over at Junior Achievement, asking for loans from my parents, or getting advice from my teachers, I wouldn’t be where I am without the help of others.

Kelly recently created a film for the Patrick F. Taylor Foundation’s 18 in ’18 art competition that will debut on October 18th. Split into five parts— Uptown, Garden District, City Park, Downtown, and French Quarter—it lets each of the 18 teen finalists share their story and their New Orleans. Look for Kelly’s film on 18in18nola.com! Photos by Kelly Yu | @itskelieephoto | keliee.com

GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 41 pumpkin seed hummus

what you’ll need! ⅔ cup pumpkin seeds ½ jalapeño (optional) ½ cup freshly squeezed 1 cup lightly packed fresh herbs lime or lemon juice (parsley, cilantro, basil, mint, ½ cup tahini or a combination) ¼ cup olive oil 1 teaspoon olive oil 1 teaspoon salt Tortilla chips or pita chips and 4 cloves garlic raw veggies for serving

directions: 1 Preheat the oven to 325°F. Spread the pumpkin seeds on a rimmed baking sheet and toast in the oven until they’re golden-brown and smell great, 15 to 20 minutes. Let cool.

2 2 While the pumpkin seeds cool, squeeze the lemon or lime juice and add it to a food processor or blender along with the tahini, olive oil, and salt. Finely chop the garlic and jalapeño (if you’re using it) and add them, too. Purée until everything is incorporated.

3 Set aside 1 tablespoon pumpkin seeds to use as garnish. Chop the rest of the pumpkin seeds and all of your herbs and add them to the blender or food processor. Continue to mix until you have a very smooth, luscious green dip. Separately, toss the reserved pumpkin seeds with the olive oil.

4 Transfer the dip to a bowl and scatter the pumpkin seeds over the top. Dig in!

Try this twist on traditional hummus for a light, creamy dip that’s bright with a ton of fresh herbs (just pick your favorite herb or combine a bunch of different ones).

42 GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 Fall makes me think of the Saints, cooler weather, and pumpkin patches. And while you may be thinking of pumpkin pie or pumpkin spice lattés, there’s another part of the pumpkin that you’re going to love: the seeds! They’re packed with good-for-you things like iron and protein, and toasting them brings out a crunchiness and mild, nutty flavor that I adore. Lucky for us, these dips are easy to put together and easier to eat, whether you’re watching the Saints game or snacking after school. Enjoy, and who dat!

Lime juice is a must in any guac, but I like to add the zest for an extra citrusy kick, and smoked paprika gives a little depth that pairs perfectly with the pumpkin seeds.

pumpkin seed guacamole

what you’ll need! ½ cup pumpkin seeds ¼ cup lightly packed fresh 3 avocados cilantro, plus some for garnish 2 limes 1 teaspoon salt 2 cloves garlic ½ teaspoon smoked paprika, plus more for garnish ½ jalapeño (optional) Tortilla chips and raw 2 scallions, white and light veggies for serving green parts only

directions: 1 Preheat the oven to 325°F. Spread the pumpkin seeds on a rimmed baking sheet and toast in the oven until they’re golden-brown and smell great, 15 to 20 minutes. Let cool.

2 2 Halve and pit the avocados and use a spoon to scoop them into a large bowl. Zest the limes into the bowl (a microplane grater makes this easy), then squeeze in their juice. Finely chop the garlic and jalapeño or grate them on the microplane, thinly slice the scallions, and add them to the bowl.

3 Use a fork to coarsely mash the avocados—you want them smooth enough to scoop up with a tortilla chip but not completely pulverized. Finely chop the toasted pumpkin seeds and cilantro and stir them both in, along with the salt and paprika.

4 Transfer the dip to a bowl and top with more cilantro leaves and a Rémy Robert sprinkle of smoked paprika, plus a swirl of olive oil if you like. (it rhymes with Amy Snowbear) is a born and raised New Orleanian who was thrilled to move home afer a few years of living in New York and New England. Like most New Orleanians, she is food-obsessed and always If you’re not eating it right away, press plastic wrap directly on the thinking about her next meal. As a profes- surface of the guac to store. Don’t worry if it turns slightly brown—it’s sional recipe tester for cookbooks, she still good to eat and a quick stir will bring it back to that pretty green. basically lives in the kitchen and is constant- ly feeding loved ones. GEAUX GIRL! FALL/WINTER 2018-19 43 Nola Esoteric’s

Aries rules the skull and the head. Herbs and fowers Libra rules the hips, adrenals, and kidneys. Herbs and attributed to Mars-ruled Aries include thistle plants like fowers attributed to Venus-ruled Libra include tea roses, nettles or milk thistle. Aries people may be prone to season- elderberry, and parsley. Sugar scrubs or hair rinse teas with al headaches or stress-induced tantrums. Nettle tea can calm parsley and roses enhance Libras’ confdence and beauty. Zodiac seasonal allergies while milk thistle is known to reduce Additionally, syrups with rose or elderberry are great ways infammation in the body. Aries may be more prone to to boost lovely Libra. Botanicals infammation due to their hot-headed temper! Astrology used to be known for much more than Scorpio rules the reproductive system. Herbs and horoscopes and dating advice. Back in the day, Taurus rules the throat, neck, and ears. Herbs and fowers attributed to Mars and Pluto-ruled Scorpio include astrology was used to track harvests and crops, fowers attributed to Venus-ruled Taurus include soothing aloe, raspberry leaf, and ginseng. Hot baths with soothing predict meteorological events, and it was especially mint, marshmallow, and eucalyptus. Taurus people may be aloe may calm intuitive Scorpio. Supplementing ginseng prone to sore throats or ear infections. Sometimes their important in medicinal practice. Every sun sign, or may aid in focus for the intense Scorpio during stress strug- inability to express fexibility or listen to others results in gles while raspberry leaf tea is an excellent way to balance zodiac sign, governs an area of the body, and these imbalances. Drinking teas specifc to the sign of the the lower chakra system. botanicals such as herbs and fowers are attributed bull are an excellent way to remedy woes. to individual zodiac signs. A swif and efective way to balance one’s sun sign can include utilizing Sagittarius rules the thighs and buttocks. Herbs and herbs specifc to your zodiac. While traditionally Gemini rules many parts of the body including the arms, fowers attributed to Jupiter-ruled Sagittarius include sage this method has been applied to sun signs, I also shoulders, hands, and lungs. Herbs and fowers attributed to and feverfew. Burning or bathing in clearing sage is an recommend using astrological herbalism for one’s Mercury-ruled Gemini include lavender, mullein, and excellent way to restore energy to the sign of the Centaur. moon sign. Our sun sign rules our life force energy, vervain. Gemini people may be prone to anxiety and Feverfew compresses or tea may restore balance when or prana, while our moon rules our emotional nervous tension. Facial steams, baths, and teas are great excess-prone Sagittarius loses its footing. Magical World ways for the sign of the twins to achieve balance. world and secret self. Here’s a fun guide to astrological herbalism, but remember, it’s not a substitute for medical advice! Capricorn rules the skeleton and knees. Herbs and Cancer rules the chest and breasts. Herbs and fowers fowers associated with Saturn-ruled Capricorn include Also note that only a few options are listed here; attributed to Moon-ruled Cancer include jasmine and rosemary, kava kava, and magnolia. Rosemary essential oil the world of zodiac botanicals leaves much more to geranium. Sensitive Cancerians tend to be prone to swif baths are soothing for hard-working goats. Tea or tinctures be explored, but caution is always the name of the mood changes and the blues. Bathing in soothing herbs and of kava kava ofer calming nourishment. Magnolia kept in game when it comes to herbs. Don’t use anything sea salt is an awesome way for this water-ruled sign to the home or put as sachets in clothing drawers may ofer you’re unfamiliar with and please check with a restore harmony. luck and stability for this earthy sign. doctor before taking anything internally!

Leo rules the heart and blood. Herbs and fowers attribut- Aquarius rules the energy body, or aura. Herbs and ed to Sun-ruled Leo include lemon balm, marigold, and fowers associated with Uranus-ruled Aquarius include Te author, ginger. Optimistic and loyal Leos may become discouraged chamomile and frankincense. Baths or teas with chamo- during life's storms. To restore their fre, ginger or lemon mile calm the energy body for this air sign. Mixing frankin- Ruby Sabbath Wolfe balm tea is an excellent option. Additionally, salt scrubs over cense oil into a total body mud mask is a great way to reset the heart area with marigold or other happy fowers may empathetic or exhausted Aquarius. runs the New Orleans School for cheer up and boost a gloomy lion back into their natural Esoteric Arts, where she ofers sunny state. courses and workshops, and Nola Pisces rules the feet and ankles. Herbs and fowers Esoteric, a lifestyle brand associated with Neptune-ruled Pisces include borage and Virgo rules the digestive system. Herbs and fowers water lily. For this water sign, baths with water lily are an and online shop. attributed to Mercury-ruled Virgo include licorice, fennel, easy go-to remedy for restoring peace and calm. Additional- and fenugreek. Tese soothing plants calm nervous Virgos’ ly, the curative properties of borage tea may aid in emotional digestive troubles when stress wreaks havoc on their struc- balance for fsh folks. tured lifestyle. Ingesting soothing herbs in salads, tea, or in tinctures is an ideal way to restore a worn system.

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Aries rules the skull and the head. Herbs and fowers Libra rules the hips, adrenals, and kidneys. Herbs and attributed to Mars-ruled Aries include thistle plants like fowers attributed to Venus-ruled Libra include tea roses, nettles or milk thistle. Aries people may be prone to season- elderberry, and parsley. Sugar scrubs or hair rinse teas with al headaches or stress-induced tantrums. Nettle tea can calm parsley and roses enhance Libras’ confdence and beauty. Zodiac seasonal allergies while milk thistle is known to reduce Additionally, syrups with rose or elderberry are great ways infammation in the body. Aries may be more prone to to boost lovely Libra. Botanicals infammation due to their hot-headed temper! Astrology used to be known for much more than Scorpio rules the reproductive system. Herbs and horoscopes and dating advice. Back in the day, Taurus rules the throat, neck, and ears. Herbs and fowers attributed to Mars and Pluto-ruled Scorpio include astrology was used to track harvests and crops, fowers attributed to Venus-ruled Taurus include soothing aloe, raspberry leaf, and ginseng. Hot baths with soothing predict meteorological events, and it was especially mint, marshmallow, and eucalyptus. Taurus people may be aloe may calm intuitive Scorpio. Supplementing ginseng prone to sore throats or ear infections. Sometimes their important in medicinal practice. Every sun sign, or may aid in focus for the intense Scorpio during stress strug- inability to express fexibility or listen to others results in gles while raspberry leaf tea is an excellent way to balance zodiac sign, governs an area of the body, and these imbalances. Drinking teas specifc to the sign of the the lower chakra system. botanicals such as herbs and fowers are attributed bull are an excellent way to remedy woes. to individual zodiac signs. A swif and efective way to balance one’s sun sign can include utilizing Sagittarius rules the thighs and buttocks. Herbs and herbs specifc to your zodiac. While traditionally Gemini rules many parts of the body including the arms, fowers attributed to Jupiter-ruled Sagittarius include sage this method has been applied to sun signs, I also shoulders, hands, and lungs. Herbs and fowers attributed to and feverfew. Burning or bathing in clearing sage is an recommend using astrological herbalism for one’s Mercury-ruled Gemini include lavender, mullein, and excellent way to restore energy to the sign of the Centaur. moon sign. Our sun sign rules our life force energy, vervain. Gemini people may be prone to anxiety and Feverfew compresses or tea may restore balance when or prana, while our moon rules our emotional nervous tension. Facial steams, baths, and teas are great excess-prone Sagittarius loses its footing. Magical World ways for the sign of the twins to achieve balance. world and secret self. Here’s a fun guide to astrological herbalism, but remember, it’s not a substitute for medical advice! Capricorn rules the skeleton and knees. Herbs and Cancer rules the chest and breasts. Herbs and fowers fowers associated with Saturn-ruled Capricorn include Also note that only a few options are listed here; attributed to Moon-ruled Cancer include jasmine and rosemary, kava kava, and magnolia. Rosemary essential oil the world of zodiac botanicals leaves much more to geranium. Sensitive Cancerians tend to be prone to swif baths are soothing for hard-working goats. Tea or tinctures be explored, but caution is always the name of the mood changes and the blues. Bathing in soothing herbs and of kava kava ofer calming nourishment. Magnolia kept in game when it comes to herbs. Don’t use anything sea salt is an awesome way for this water-ruled sign to the home or put as sachets in clothing drawers may ofer you’re unfamiliar with and please check with a restore harmony. luck and stability for this earthy sign. doctor before taking anything internally!

Leo rules the heart and blood. Herbs and fowers attribut- Aquarius rules the energy body, or aura. Herbs and ed to Sun-ruled Leo include lemon balm, marigold, and fowers associated with Uranus-ruled Aquarius include Te author, ginger. Optimistic and loyal Leos may become discouraged chamomile and frankincense. Baths or teas with chamo- during life's storms. To restore their fre, ginger or lemon mile calm the energy body for this air sign. Mixing frankin- Ruby Sabbath Wolfe balm tea is an excellent option. Additionally, salt scrubs over cense oil into a total body mud mask is a great way to reset the heart area with marigold or other happy fowers may empathetic or exhausted Aquarius. runs the New Orleans School for cheer up and boost a gloomy lion back into their natural Esoteric Arts, where she ofers sunny state. courses and workshops, and Nola Pisces rules the feet and ankles. Herbs and fowers Esoteric, a lifestyle brand associated with Neptune-ruled Pisces include borage and Virgo rules the digestive system. Herbs and fowers water lily. For this water sign, baths with water lily are an and online shop. attributed to Mercury-ruled Virgo include licorice, fennel, easy go-to remedy for restoring peace and calm. Additional- and fenugreek. Tese soothing plants calm nervous Virgos’ ly, the curative properties of borage tea may aid in emotional digestive troubles when stress wreaks havoc on their struc- balance for fsh folks. tured lifestyle. Ingesting soothing herbs in salads, tea, or in tinctures is an ideal way to restore a worn system.

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