Funeral Planning & Bereavement Guide
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1 2 Welcome
www.sullivanking.com 3205 North Highway 81 Anderson, SC 29621 ROBERTS CEMETERY 864-225-5431
About Us ...... Pg 4 Our History ...... Pg 7 Meet Our Staff ...... Pg 8 Our Services...... Pg 10 Planning Ahead ...... Pg 14 Pre-Planning Forms ...... Pg 26 When A Death Occurs...... Pg 38 Frequently Asked Questions ...... Pg 42 After Care & Grief...... Pg 48 Settling An Estate ...... Pg 56 Map & Location...... Pg 68
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3 About Us
Section at a glance:
• Our History • Meet Our Staff
Sullivan-King Mortuary, a family owned funeral home is conveniently located at 3205 North Highway 81 in Anderson, South Carolina. Our facility, designed and built to reflect timeless architecture and detail, is furnished throughout with beautiful antiques and colorful details. The décor suggests the feel of a lovely, inviting home.
Established in 1923, Sullivan-King Mortuary is widely recognized in this community as a respected, honored and trustworthy provider of funeral services. In addition to personalized funerals, Sullivan-King Mortuary provides pre-need planning, an on-site crematory, cemetery and mausoleum options at Roberts Cemetery and bronze, granite and marble cemetery memorials and monuments.
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5 Each funeral service is different, a unique memorial for the family to remember.
“As a near 100-year-old, family owned and managed business, passion, respect, knowledge and experience are evident with each family served.” Bolt McClain
6 Our History
In August 1923, the late J.S. McDougald, along with his associates, the late B.B. Bleckley and D.L. Reid, organized McDougald-Bleckley Mortuary. Mr. McDougald served as Manager and Secretary. Sam O. Sullivan purchased an interest in the company a few years later and served as Vice President and Treasurer. Following the death of Mr. McDougald in 1930, W.W. “Bill” King became Manager and Secretary. Following the death of Mr. Bleckley in 1935, D.L. Reid, Sam O. Sullivan, and Bill King became the major stockholders of the company.
In 1941, the company moved into the former Post Office on Main Street. In 1949, the name of the company was changed to Sullivan-King Mortuary. Original Location cc 1923 Mr. Sullivan and Mr. King continued to operate the company until March, 1969, when both men died in the span of three weeks. Jack D. Gilliland, who joined the firm in 1952, became acting manager. In May 1969, Mr. Gilliland became a major stockholder and was named President and General Manager. Mr. Gilliland would lead the firm for 28 years, until his retirement in 1997.
The company was sold to David C. King, son of the late Bill King, and Bolt McClain, a longtime employee of the firm. Mr. King now serves as Chairman of the Board while Mr. McClain serves as President and General Manager.
7 Meet Our Staff
Bolt McClain David King Sheila King Jeff Waters
Matt Young Laura Morrison Leland Hollingsworth Joel Gravely
Joe Marchbanks Jerry Kinsler Bill Marchbanks Lucretia Ray
8 DeeDee Waters John Marchbanks Rick Bradshaw Taylor King Young
Jack Anderson Ken Marshall Glynette Williams Imogene Cromer
Staff members of Sullivan-King Mortuary & Crematory are caring and experienced professionals who understand that each family is unique and has personal requests and traditions. These requests and Ken Cromer Cecil Foxworth Gene Timms traditions are of utmost importance to our staff.
9 Our Services
Section at a glance:
• Funerals • Cremation • Cemetery • Monuments
The professional staff at Sullivan-King Mortuary understands the importance of celebrating and creating a tribute to life. We offer personalized services in a respectful, comforting environment. Our professional team has been serving the community for many years and we extend our commitment of unparalleled customer service to you and your family.
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11 Funerals
Funerals are a celebration of life where friends and family gather together and pay tribute to a loved one. Our dedicated, professional team is committed to providing a personal and caring touch with exceptional customer service for every funeral arrangement. Whether you choose a traditional burial or a cremation; our licensed professionals will guide you through the many options available to meet your individual needs and budget.
Our pre-planning staff is available to discuss your wishes and take you through the many options available which will provide your family with a guide for your unique celebration.
12 Cremation Monuments
Families have enjoyed the personal service of our A monument is a lasting expression of your professionals, assisting with celebrations of life celebration of life. Choosing a monument may that memorialize loved ones for future generations. be for a loved one or part of your pre-planning Our team will assist you and your family with arrangements. We have the resources to inspire arrangements for cremation, urns and vaults and your decisions and the knowledge to guide you we do so with care and personalized service. If you step by step through the process. We are a full- are considering cremation for yourself or a loved service provider from selection to installation, and one, we are happy to provide any information to our knowledgable staff will consult with you on the aid in your decision and provide you with peace of style, design, type, and wording that will leave an mind. You will find more detailed information about impression for future generations. cremation on page 23. We are happy to provide you with more details and even show you the crematory. Make an appointment to discuss what we have to You also have the option of being present with your offer. loved one as the cremation process is started.
Cemetery
Roberts Cemetery, established in 1789, is a community cemetery on Highway 187 near the shores of Lake Hartwell. This historic cemetery includes grave spaces and a Pavilion Mausoleum with a designated area for family estate mausoleums and graves. The founder of Roberts Presbyterian Church, Rev. John Simpson, Anna Anderson Hunter, daughter of Gen. Robert Anderson, namesake of Anderson County and the City of Anderson and numerous war veterans are among those interred in this colonial cemetery.
13 Planning Ahead
Section at a glance:
• Plan For The Inevitable • Why Plan Ahead? • Why Sullivan-King? • Is Pre-Payment Required? • How to Pre-Plan Your Funeral • Arrange and Delegate • Pre-Planning Checklist • Funeral Arrangements • Visitation • Burial Plans • Graveside Service • Cemetery Property • Headstones • Burial • Memorial or Tribute Service • Cremation • FAQs
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15 Pre-Paid Funeral Savings: Funeral prices double on average every ten years. When you pre-pay, you lock in today’s prices until the time of death – no matter how many years later.
Pre-Paid Funeral Expenses Flexibility: Pre-paid funerals are fully transferable with any other funeral home. For example, if you chose to move your funeral arrangements to Sullivan-King, it is as simple as coming in and signing a letter stating your wishes.
Payment Options: At Sullivan-King Mortuary pre-paid funeral funds are not held by the funeral home but by a third party insurance or trust. Payment plans are flexible and based on your needs.
Peace of Mind: Pre-planning provides your family with a guide to your celebration of life. In fact, pre-arranging one’s funeral can be viewed as a “high-benefit, low-risk” decision.
Our staff and pre-planning directors are here to guide you through the process; give us a call to discuss your celebration of life.
16 Plan For The It’s All About Inevitable Taking Control
Pre-planning your funeral should be a natural part Given time to consider these decisions, you’ll quickly of life, since you are making end-of-life decisions realize that pre-planning is all about ensuring that in a calm and rational atmosphere. Start the online your wishes are known so they can be acted upon planning process now through our website, or when the time comes. Making the commitment to meet with one of our pre-planning directors. This discussion just makes sense. • The process is simple. Absolutely everyone can make a pre-plan, and there is no waiting for Why Plan Ahead? return documents. The plan is completed, and • Pre-planning lets your family clearly know your Pre-Planning is a matter of taking the time to think wishes. about – and record – your end-of-life desires. This • Relieves your family members of making very thoughtful gesture is helpful to those you love, and a personal decisions on your behalf at the time of way to let go of anxieties about the future. Once done, need. you can relax, knowing your plans are available to your friends or family. Is Pre-Payment Why Pre-Plan With Required? Sullivan-King? The simple answer is no. You can establish your plan by simply recording your wishes, allowing your
By pre-planning with us, you’re assured that your family to pay for your desired services at the time of your passing. emotional duress. Or, you can protect yourself and your family, by pre- funding your plan. This ensures your expenses will be covered and guaranteed to lock in today’s prices.
17 Here are some tips that may help you start the How To Pre-Plan advance planning conversation with your loved Your Funeral
• Set a time to have the conversation. Schedule it as Pre-planning your funeral will make certain that an appointment with your loved ones, whether your choices are respected and carried out, without you want to share your plans with them or ask leaving your family to wonder what your wishes them to make their plans to share with you. might have been. • Tell your parent or loved one that you want When you’re ready to make a plan, call us and we according to their wishes, and you need their will have one of our pre-planning directors set up help to make that happen. an appointment to see you. There are many different • Ease into the conversation. Questions such ways to begin the planning ahead conversation. as “Have you ever thought about where you You know your family and how your loved ones would like to be buried?” or “What type of might best respond to the topic. For some families, funeral would you like to have?” may open the it might be a casual conversation over dinner or discussion to more details about your loved another family gathering. For other families, a one’s wishes. formal meeting might be better suited. Regardless • Attending the funeral of a friend, family member of your approach, the conversation is much easier or colleague, or watching a movie or television to have when death is not imminent. Bringing up show with funeral scenes may naturally prompt the subject with loved ones earlier in life when they the discussion with your own loved ones. Talk are younger, and most likely healthier, makes the about what you liked or didn’t like about the topic easier to discuss and keeps the focus on the services you saw or attended. celebration of life rather than an impending loss. • Tell your children or loved ones that because you care for them so much, you don’t want to arrangements with loved ones, or encouraging you’re gone. Tell them you’ve made your own loved ones to make and share their plans with you, the conversation about planning ahead is an record. important one for every family. While no one wants • Make your funeral and cemetery plans with us to think about their death or the death of a loved one and then wrap a copy of your contract and wishes any sooner than they must, having the conversation in a gift box and present it to your children. in advance alleviates the need for potentially more • Make it a family affair. Schedule an appointment with your chosen funeral home or cemetery provider and invite your children along to participate in the selection of services, funeral merchandise, and cemetery property.
18 Arrange & Delegate
The people who know and care about you will be • Provide your executor with a copy of your will. there when needed. Your role is to provide them • Make sure your delegate has a list of important account information or telephone numbers for then relax. retirement plans, insurance policies, investments, bank accounts, safety deposit boxes, properties, preferred attorney, and accountant. • Designate a power of attorney to ensure that proper information can be accessed in the event of your illness.
19 Pre-Planning Funeral Checklist Arrangements
For many, it feels like there’s an overwhelming Whether you’re planning for yourself or for a loved amount of things to consider. However, taking one, the funeral service is one of the most important control of the important things in life just feels good; you know it’s the right thing to do for you, and your opportunity for great personalization, the funeral family. Laying the foundation for a well thought out ] ' plan for you or a loved one takes a bit of time, but, it’s honors. Regardless of whether you or your loved one worth every moment spent. After all, you’re setting have opted for burial or for cremation, the funeral the stage for a more relaxed and enjoyable life, ( because you’ll have the peace of mind preparedness ! • Honor, recognize, and celebrate the life of the deceased • Prepare a contact list of individuals who should • Allow friends and family to say their last goodbyes • Write an obituary or simply jot down information • Provide closure after the loss of a loved one you would like included in an obituary. • Allow friends to console the family of the loved • Decide where obituary and memorial one information should appear. So what is a funeral? In general terms, a funeral is • Choose the type of service you would like a gathering of family and friends after the death of including the burial you prefer and make those a loved one that allows the opportunity to mourn, " support each other and pay tribute to the life of the • Cemetery lot location deceased. The following are services to consider as • Casket type; cremation urn type part of the funeral arrangements. A similar service • Vault or mausoleum crypt generally referred to as committal often occurs after • # the funeral service. Funeral directors are often asked, denominational, or fraternal “What is the standard way to arrange a funeral?” • The contact details for the funeral home you We believe that each funeral can be as unique and designate memorable as the life being honored. When planning • $ ] your own funeral service in advance, think about the other readings way you want to be remembered. Perhaps you’d like • Preferred organizations or church to receive a traditional funeral aligned with certain religious or ] ethnic customs. Or, a celebration focusing on great • Select the speakers and the eulogies that you memories made with family and friends may be desire your preference. Maybe it’s a combination of both. You can have one service, or several, to honor your life. Regardless of the service or services you choose to include in your funeral plan, you can personalize them in almost any way imaginable.
20 Visitation Burial Plans
Usually held the day before or the day of the funeral service, the visitation provides a way for friends and acquaintances to pay respects and offer condolences make is whether you prefer burial or cremation. to your family. As with the funeral service, you may ] want to decide if you want an open or closed casket, considerations such as elements of the funeral service should one be present. and type of cemetery property.
Funeral Or Graveside Service
Cremation Service As its name implies, a graveside service may be held at the grave site just prior to burial of a casket or A formal or informal ceremony or ritual prior to burial, a funeral service often provides a sense of memories. A similar service, generally referred to as closure to family and friends. Although your faith a committal, often occurs after the funeral service. or culture may dictate some elements of a funeral service, you may want to personalize other elements of the service. At a funeral service, a casket or urn is present, though you may choose to have the casket Cemetery open or closed. Or Mausoleum Property Memorial Or In addition to funeral services and the choice of burial Tribute Service or cremation, cemetery or mausoleum property, or “interment rights,” is another consideration when At a memorial or tribute service, a casket or urn is usually not present. Otherwise similar to a funeral in advance, or for a loved one. or visitation, a memorial service gives family and friends a time to come together in your memory and celebrate your life.
21 Questions To Burial
/ Most people are familiar with the concept of traditional casket burial, or “interment,” but may • Where should the funeral be held? At your place not be aware of the variety of options that are often of worship? At the funeral home? Another place available. Many cemeteries offer one or more of the of your choosing? • ) • Will your service adhere to the traditions of your • / : <