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Quakers in Business Today Guided Meditation on Worl<: Living as Members of a Faith Community in a Secular World Peace Culture:The Vision and the Journey An Among Friends independent magazine serving the Bringing Our Values to Work Religious How do I strive to maintain the integrity ofmy inner and outer lives-in my spiritual Society of journey, my work, and my family respomibilities?- Faith and Practice, Philadelphia Friends Yearly Meeting he substance of this query has been center stage in my life fo r many years. Editorial Susan Corson-Finnerty (Editor-Manager), Kenneth As a mother committed to having a parent available when our children are· Sutton (Senior Editor}, Robert Dockhorn (Assistant home, and as a professional administrator who has had a demanding work life, Editor}, Judith Brown (Poetry Editor), Ellen T I'm well aware of the difficulties of balancing work and home-not to mention one's Michaud (Book Review Editor), Christine Rusch (Milestones Editor}, Julie Gochenour, Robert spiritualleadings! I have been particularly blessed that my spiritual journey and Marks, Cameron McWhirter (News Editors}, Lisa leadings have been quite congruent with much of the work I've been paid to do, and Rand, Marjorie Schier (Volunteers) equally blessed that I have a husband who supports my work, my spiritualleadings, Production and who is an equally committed co-parent. 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6 Peace Culture: The Vision and the Journey 2 Among Friends Elise Boulding 4 Forum Building a culture ofpeace will require learning to reconcile our need for each other with the need to deal creatively with our differences. 20 Witness 9 Guided Meditation on Work: Living as 22 Reports Members of a Faith Community in a 23 News Secular World Wendy Sanford 26 Bulletin Board This guided meditation may help you discern whether you are spiritually in tune with your work. 28 Books 10 Tracking Investment Advisors: 32 Milestones An Interview with Mark Hulbert 37 Classified Wilmer Tjossem The author ofHulbert Financial Digest views Wall Street and Poetry Friends organizations as "more alike than either so for is willing to acknowledge. " 8 Working Garden 12 Quakers in Business Today Earl Coleman Lee B. Thomas Jr. The world ofbusiness needs idealistic people who are prepared to demonstrate their social conscience. 14 Ritual in Unprogrammed Worship Paul Buckley Accepting that rituals are important to unprogrammed worship will help us understand ourselves better and be more accepting ofrituals in other religious traditions. 18 Walking with God: As Close As We Want to Be John M. Haynes It is not God who approaches us in the space ofworship--it is we who approach God
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FRIENDS JouRNAL September 2000 3 Forum Honoring those who served Friends to learn about the COs in their own Thanks for the memories families and meetings and to share these in CPS stories with us. What can other Friends who The May 2000 issue on Friends share this concern do? General Conference brought back fond This Memorial Day weekend, I was memories of old friendships. It was much troubled by a concern that I want to share Camilla Hewson Flintennann appreciated. with Friends. Repeatedly we hear of Oxford, Ohio I first attended FGC in the 40s as a honoring those who died "in the service of member of the High School Section housed their country," meaning of course in the at Star Villa. Beginning in 1954, I served on anned services. We see many moving photos Truthfulness is important the staff of the High School Section, and in papers and on TV oflitcle boys standing between allies later I chaired that part of the Conference in cemeteries, holding flags, and until 1966. Having 400 high schoolers in a remembering the war dead. I found the article "The Ministry of seaside hotel, many away from home for the This year it struck me that nowhere have Dance: Friendly FolkDancers Visit New first time, was always a challenge, but a I ever seen mention in Quaker circles of Zealand" (F]Feb.) interesting and inspiring, satisfYing experience. "honoring" or "remembering" the men who but I have a problem with the article on one Over the years we had many fine gave years of their lives in Civilian Public point. On p.I5 Mark Helpsmeet tells the speakers: Dorothy Hutchinson, Jan de Service, or in other ways were able to serve story of the Maori reoccupation of their Hartog, Tom Mullen, Colin Bell (AFSC), their country-it was called "work of sacred space, going beyond what had been Glenn Smiley (FOR), Ralph Rose, Harrop national importance under civilian permitted by the Pakeha (European-origin) Freeman, Tom Brown, Robert Blood, direction"-as conscientious objectors to government. I can understand (maybe Lowell Wright, Justice William 0. Douglas, war and killing. Of course, we always speak only in part) the Maori sense of deep Victor Paschkis, Alex Hay, Henry Cadbury, of soldiers "giving their lives," but never of injustice and their belief that only non E. Raymond Wilson (FCNL), Dick the lives they "take" in the course of their institutional action and nonviolent resistance McFeeley (George School), and many patriotic service. can be effective in creating true justice others. Perhaps this benign neglect of our own between Maoris and Pakeha. I also I had the privilege of working with a "heroes of conscience" has something to do appreciate that building trust and number of the clerks and general secretaries with the fact that not all young Quaker men reconciliation between an oppressed ofFGC: George Walton, Earl Edwards, of draft age register as COs, or in a few cases indigenous people and members of Clarence Pickett, Barrett Hollister, and refuse even to register, and take the oppressor groups requires diligent and finally Larry Miller and Mary Middleton, consequences. Are our young people aware creative effort. who were most supportive. The High that there are role models in their own Nevertheless, how can decisions be School Section also brought together many meetings who have taken a CO position? Is made in situations like the one in New fine staff members from many yearly the Peace Testimony something we too Zealand so that allies from the oppressor meetings who guided the students during often give lip service to, when we speak of groups are fully involved? Specifically, it their time at FGC: Oscar Janson, the the brave "early Friends" who suffered for seems from the article that the visiting Forbushes, Thornron and Margo Brown, their refusal to take up arms, suggesting Friendly FolkDancers (FFD) were associated Wayne and Marian Dockhorn, Paul and "that was then, this is now"? in the eyes oflocal Maoris-and no doubt Esther Goulding, David and Kathleen While most COs survive their years of also in the eyes of at least some of the public Mcinnes, William Waddington, John and service, they pay a price in disrupted lives and Maoris' adversaries- with the decision Bertha May Nicholson, Ray and Dorothy and often are discriminated against. To to launch the nonviolent occupation. But Trayer, Mabel Elliott, Elwood and Joy recognize this would in no way take away it seems that FFD members were not Cronk, Charles and Ellen Brown, Nate from the recognition others give to people in included in the decision to perform the act Morgan-who led over 100 students in the military. of civil disobedience. Maori leaders may early morning bird walks, and many others Having been a CPS wife in the WWII have had valid reasons for not involving who are remembered by the participating era, and the daughter of a WWI CO, I FFD in this decision. Possibly Maori leaders young Friends. feel it is important that as a Religious thought the trust that had been built Watching over that many young Society we pass along this heritage to the between the Maori and FFD meant that people, leading discussion groups, "new kids on the block," as something in FFD had given implicit consent ro organizing lectures, recreation, meals, and which they can take pride. Our meetings can nonviolent action. "bed-time" left little free time for staff. On find ways to recognize--even honor-the But I'm still uneasy. As I understand one of the rare occasions when I got to the COs in their midst, living or dead. We can the principles of nonviolence, a key element beach, I was interviewed by a group of buy for our meeting libraries the books is truthfulness, particularly when making Friends. Without being aware of it at the about their experiences that are beginning to important decisions. This applies not only time, this led to my appointment as appear, and see that our young people have to dealings between nonviolent activists founding head of Friends School in access ro them. They need to know also that and their opponents, but also to those Detroit. their fathers, uncles, grandfathers, and between activists and their allies. Was Friends General Conference has had friends heard the message of peace and acted truthfulness fully observed here? I would much influence on a great many individuals on it. appreciate it if Mark Helpsmeet could clarifY over the years. My wife, Dot, and I are In the monthly newsletter, Walking in the this for FRIENDS JouRNAL readers. thankful for the opportunity to be part of Light, that I write for the teens of Ohio these experiences. Valley Yearly Meeting, I intend to try to John MacDougall Hali Giessler stimulate this awareness, asking Young Westford, Mass. Clinton T ownship, Mich.
4 September 2000 FRIENDS JouRNAL Kara Newell visiting an AFSC program, Vietnam, 1998 honesty about where we have been are probably many Quaker parents over and where we need to go. time. I'm grateful to her, and tempted to add that I think our Religious Society Brett Miller- White sometimes turns silent worship into silence Swannanoa, N.C. worship bordering on idolatry.
Dee Birch Cameron Surrogate grandparents El Paso, Tex. can help The June issue very much spoke That Friend spoke my mind to my condition. I hope that all first Marjorie Schier's superb Viewpoint time attenders of every meeting could piece "Never More Than Now" (F]June) have a copy of "A Love Letter to addressed a concern of mine-why I haven't Newcomers and Others Who seen more articles in FRIENDS j OURNAL about Wonder What to Do with Their how Friends are responding to the crisis of Hands" handed to them as they walk the sanctions on Iraq. I spoke on the subject in the door. It would help them oflraq at Amesbury (Mass.) Meeting realize that they are not alone in recently, and from the discussion and the trying to figure out what to do during meeting for worship following, it's clear that this hour of silence. the Spirit is moving among New England The other article that touched me Friends. greatly is "Sounds and Silence: On My meeting, Mr. Toby, in Leverett, Children and Distractions in Massachusetts, has joined the Campaign of Meeting for Worship." I have always Conscience and has sent a contribution to advocated that young children will help pay for water purification equipment behave as they are expected to for Iraq. Other New England meetings that behave. If the children are expected have acted include Providence, Smithfield Blueprint for the future to sit quietly, they will, and without books (R.I.), and West Falmouth (Mass.). Also or toys. If the parent expects a child to endorsing the campaign are Northampton The cover of the June issue highlighted misbehave, he or she will. Friends and South Berkshire (both in "A Love Letter to Newcomers and Others At one time in my meeting I instituted a Mass.). In addition, a weekly vigil has been Who Wonder What to Do with Their surrogate grandparent program. Those of us held in Northampton since December 1998. Hands," but perhaps it should have who were beyond the age of having small I'm sure there are many orher meetings highlighted the remarkable hands-on love ones with us "adopted" a child for meeting across the counuy that are working to end letter to be read within the interview of Kara for worship. An adult would invite a child to the sanctions. Please let us hear about them. Newell by Cameron McWhirter on her sit with him or her. They would sit where I hope that the Campaign of Conscience direction of AFSC and its wider the parents could not see them, if possible. will come up in sessions of New England relationships over the past eight years. Sometimes the child would sit beside the Yearly Meeting in August [this Letter was Her in-depth answers need to be taken adult; sometimes the child needed to be held received prior to NEYM sessions-Eds.]. I will well beyond the reading, for they provide us in a lap. Seldom did the child become noisy. be there showing the new film on Iraq made with a blueprint for the future, framed by The benefits were great for all. The parents by John Pilger, a British filmmaker, "Paying some needful and thoughtfully subtle were able to enjoy meeting. The child the Price: Killing the C hildren oflraq." This references to our past learnings. Her insights learned how to act in meeting. The is an excellent resource for meetings, a 90- should be etched into the seemingly endless surrogate grandparent had a chance to bond minute documentary on the human damage controversial dialogs that often serve only to with a child. The child and adult were able being done by the cruel sanctions. It subdue AFSC's relationship to our wider to get to know each other. includes footage of Denis Halliday, Hans Quaker world. From where I've been sitting, This might be uied in meetings. I would von Sponeck, and Scott Ritter, and is Kara Newell's light has been overshadowed be interested to hear how it works if any do available from Fellowship of Reconciliation by the ongoing habit of segments of our uy. (FOR). Religious Society to misunderstand what Sheila N Bach The Campaign of Conscience is a project AFSC is about. Harper's Ferry, W.Va. of American Friends Service Committee and I've been uoubled by this hiding of her FOR. They hope many individuals and light, but now I've learned something about Do we worship silence? organizations (up to 25,000 of them) will the whys of that situation. Apparently, when agree to contribute dollars to supply needed an entity such as AFSC is "planning for Martha L. Viehmann ("Sounds and but embargoed water purification change" it needs to be careful, quiet, and Silence: On Children and Distractions in equipment to be sent to Iraq. Permission has persistent. One has to read between many of Meeting for Worship," F]June) perfectly been sought to legally send these materials to the lines captured by the interview but this expresses thoughts I have struggled to put Iraq, but if permission is refused, the in itself is thoughtful. The interview into words since an experience similar to materials will be sent illegally. The purpose demonstrates not only our having been hers years ago. It's too bad that she had to of this action is to achieve an end to the guided by a gentle and intelligent spirit, bur suffer an encounter with a thoughtless it also provides some necessary generic Friend to be in a position to speak for what Continued on p. 37
FRIENDS JouRNAL September 2000 5 by Elise Boulding
or some time I have been haunted by the realization that over 100 years ago, the 20th century was Fenvisioned as the turning point for humankind. The Hague Peace Con ference in 1899 was called to put an end to war. New ideas, new institutions, and wonderful new networks of transnational, nongovernmental organizations all aim ing at making the world a better place kept blossoming through the decades in spite of the eruptions of World Wars I and II and the long Cold War. Still, in these last decades violence is out ofcontro l on every continent and there is a strong temptation to despair. Are there any grounds for hope? George Fox spoke of corning into the "covenant ofpeace , which was before wars and strifes were." That which was before wars and strifes was the love that begot creation. We must never forget that love was the first motion. Every human being who comes into the world is capable of that love, but how to give expression to it has to be learned. Learning is a complicated process, both for individuals and societies, and that is where our problems lie. The culture of peace, the embodiment of the covenant ofpeace, has to be learned. It has to be learned because every human is unique and different from every other human. We are born needing each other, but because we are also born different, we have to learn how to give each other space, how to deal with our differences. That is
Elise Boulding is a member of Wellesley {Mass.) Meeting. This article was presented at the March 16-19, 2000, Pendle Hill conftrence on build ing a culture ofpeace. Her book Cultures of Peace: The Hidden Side of History has just been published by Syracuse University Press.
The Vision and the journey 6 September 2000 FRIENDS JouRNAL what the culture of peace is about. It The beauty of the concept of the cul tions between races and ethnicities in a consists ofa mosaic ofidentities, attitudes, ture of peace is that we know culture has culture of peace is as big a challenge as any values, beliefs, and institutional patterns to be learned. The peace capabilities are of the other features of our current social that lead people to live nurturancly with there, but so are the capabilities for vio order. All these problems are in addition one another without the aid ofstructured lence. UNESCO's famous Seville state to the extremely difficult reconciliation power differentials, to deal creatively with ment that warfare is not genetically deter work so many Friends are doing among differences, and to share resources. mined laid the groundwork for the UN people engaged in brutal physical conflict Through the centuries we have done bet declaration of the year 2000 and the de m war zones. ter at certain times than at others in get cade 2001-2010 as a time to educate for a It is overwhelming. It is too much. ting the hang of the social learnings needed culture of peace and nonviolence in all the How shall we think of what we do? Yes of to deal with our differences. 189 member states of the UN. What an course we must begin where we are and do The grounds for hope lie in recovering opportunity for us as Friends! what comes to hand in our daily lives and our understanding of the human capacity where we live. There is also much to be said for love, coupled with the realization that That which was before wars for attending to the development ofbetter we cannot take it for granted. That capac working relationships between the growing ity needs to be nurtured. What each of us and strifes was the love that number of peace, development, environ is doing with our lives is finding ways to begot creation. we must ment, and humanitarian NGOs that are develop the skills of loving across differ crowding the world scene. Skills of col ences, conflict, and violence--the skills of never forget that love was the laboration are unfortunately in short sup peacebuilding. first motion. Every human ply. How to develop listening partnerships The history books are against us, pre with those who would be our competitors senting a false image of humanity as being being who comes into the in doing good works is a serious challenge. essentially war-prone. In fact, humans world is capable ofthat love, Also gaining access to macro-level processes spend most of their time in essentially through developing working relationships peaceful activities; utopian longings for but how to give expression to with intergovernmental institutions such peace and actual practical works of it has to be learned as the Organization ofAmerican States, as peacebuilding are even more central to our European sisters and brothers are do lived human history than the wars that How are we using it? It is a time for ing in working with the Council of Eu crowd them out of the history books. The deep reflection on the kinds of learnings rope, is an area we have not sufficiently restorative justice movement and the truth that need to take place to move public explored. We have ignored the possibili and reconciliation movements of today discourse away from a preoccupation with ties of working with civil society and gov are between them uncovering more and military solutions and the use of force in ernmental structures that make possible more of that reality. Ancient practices of situations of conflict, and toward mutual nuclear-weapons-free w nes around the community gatherings to deal with con ity and problem-solving. Committed world from Tlatelolco to Raratonga to flicts and wrongdoing through patient lis Friends have undertaken a searching ex Pelindaba. They can be the foundation of tening, public acknowledgment ofwrongs, amination ofpast and present peacebuild a planetary wne of peace, with nuclear restitution, and reconciliation are being ing work in many parts ofthe world. How weapons forever banished from the earth. revived in war-torn societies in Africa, Asia, can we relate the extraordinarily creative No, we can't do everything, but we and the Americas as an alternative to the conflict transformation work Friends are must be open to opportunities to make retributive justice systems of the West. now carrying out in specific local settings, connections, keeping alive at all times our The process is slow, but it may be the such as the Balkans and the Great Lakes sense of the interdependence of all life most important movement of the 21st Region of Africa, to the macro-level abuse systems on the planet, biological and so century. of the planet itself by military and corpo cial. We can celebrate the growth of the Can we say that the concept of the rate alliances? Truth and Reconciliation movement covenant of peace is being reborn in the On the one hand each local around the world. Fifreen countries that new term "culture of peace"? Edward peacebuilding activity is a living example have experienced grievous internal vio Hicks's vivid paintings of the Peaceable of what can be. Kenneth Boulding always lence now have such commissions. At last Kingdom, now newly popular, give a won used to say, "What exists is possible." Ev there seems to be a growing realization derful symbolic embodiment to the cov ery local area of reconciliation is testi that cycles of vengeance and counter enant as he brings the words of Isaiah to mony to the possibility ofa world at peace. vengeance can completely destroy the so life: But the culture of peace is a mosaic of cieties involved and must be stopped. attitudes, behaviors, and institutions-so There is a space, somewhere between ven The wolf shall dwell with the lamb, complex! That means we have to pay at geance and forgiveness, where enemies and the leopard shall lie down with the tention to every aspect of the culture, can live together again and societies can kid, from our own individual selves, families, begin to heal. and the calf and the lion and the fatling together, and local communities to school systems, Such commissions are not panaceas, and a little child shall lead them .... courts and prisons, political and economic but they involve a deep spiritual searching They shall not hurt or destroy institutions, and human behavior in rela process for a significant number of social in all my holy mountain. tion to the living biosphere. The transfor groups within the countries undertaking mation of age and gender roles and rela- this process. Public acknowledgment of
FRIENDS JouRNAL September 2000 7 harm done and public grieving are critical and many Friends work for the rebuilding cooperative, interactive problem-solving to rebuilding relationships involved in of NATO-bombed Kosova. But the between states and at the United Nations re-creating a viable peace culture in torn United States as a nation does not grieve. that is alien to our local behaviors. So apart societies. The whole process is in And it never apologizes. what would a world look like that had tensely local at the same time that it is There is a very difficult spiritual jour viable local peace cultures on every conti national in scope. As Friends we have a ney to be undertaken if we are serious nent? We can't work for something we special responsibility for carrying through about contributing to the development of can't imagine! We urgently need, indi this acknowledgment of harm done and a durable peace culture in our own coun vidually, in our families, in our meetings, undertaking the work of grieving in our try. A very special part of that journey is and in all the groups we work with, to own countries. For example, in the United the process ofvis ioning how things would spend significant periods of time in deep States we have never adequately acknowl be, ifwe indeed carne into the covenant of reflection about and envisioning of an edged and grieved over the unleashing of peace that George Fox spoke of. We are so earth-world that has become the peace nuclear bombs over Hiroshima and distracted by the violence in the world able garden it was created to be. A more Nagasaki, and we as a nation remain an that we don't even see how much actual local earth-world, in which all living things unrepentant advocate of nuclear war. So peacebuilding goes on every day. Even are attuned to one another and learn from many deeds to grieve over! Some Friends worse, we don't see in our imaginations one another. A world full ofmusic , the joy retrace the steps of the slave trade back to how things could be if more of that of work, and the joy of play. Our vision Africa in a journey of repentance. Others peacebuilding energy were released into will empower our action as each of us continue to work with our Native Ameri the world. We are forgetting that it is the begins to use the tools we have, in the can brothers and sisters for the return of overall quality of peace culture in every settings in which we move, in ways that lands forcibly torn from them. Voices in day life that determines national policy will sustain the peaceable garden. We are the Wilderness would lead us to restitu and international behavior. We can't ex all gardeners, and the vision is the journey. tion for the barbarous bombing of Iraq, pect diplomats to engage in a type of 0
WORKING GARDEN
There was an autumn chill Upon the melons, acorn squash As twi I ight came to terms with night. My bushel baskets yawning patient, To be loaded up next day, Me taking stock, as artists might, Of all that had gone right, What I'd accomplished wit h my muscle And some salt mulch hay; Connection with the land.
The toneless hush of evening fell, And overwhelmed me with a boundless awe At the tomato-ness of Big Boys I had grown Until it seemed to me that nothing Could now break the golden spel l Of what the loam and I had formed, When ex tempore, from a chestnut's bough, Rem inding me how small was my control, Two grosbeaks sang their sparrow-1 ike brief song To me, and flew off to some well-constructed hole.
Earl Coleman lives in Montville, New j ersey. -Earl Coleman
8 September 2 000 FRIENDS j OURNAL Guided Meditation on Worl< Living as Members of a Faith Community in a Secular World
by Wendy Sanford
n the meditation below, "work"can Do you have an be defined as you wish to define it. avocation-that is, a I It could be paid or unpaid work, pursuit about which volunteer work, work in or outside the you feel passionate, home, or a particular project or service. engaged, and committed? H ow close Picture yourself at your work, this week is this to the work you perhaps, or at another time. T his work are or have been paid may be in an office, at home as a for? homemaker, in a classroom, on the road, on a scaffolding, in a daycare center What is one aspect of ~ wherever you work. The work may be your work situation ~ paid or unpaid, well paid or underpaid. that you are happy t:l Picture yourself at a moment in this about in terms ofbeing ;3l work-what are you wearing, how do a Quaker, a person of ~ you feel, with whom do you interact, faith? What is one ·;:: what are your goals in the work? aspect you would like t.t; and your workmates talk about faith to change? What is a step you might take If you were to make a drawing or matters (broadly defined)? Ifso, what is towards such a change? How might your painting or collage of this picture of you an example of this? meeting support you in this? in your work, where would you portray God (the God of your understanding)? In what ways are your faith, and/or your I invite you to consider the possibility experiences as a Friend, resources for you that in your current life and work you Do your workmates know that you are a in your work? Do you pray over your may be in preparation for some work Friend/attender at a Friends meeting? work? If so, what's an example? that Spirit will ask you to do. What What clues do they receive from you comes to mind as you consider this? that you are a person of faith? Do you Have you ever felt led by Spirit in the area of work? If so, what were the When a Quaker friend recently felt led Wendy Sanford, a member ofFriends Meeting challenges for you in seeking to follow to campaign for public office and lost, at Cambridge, Mass., offered this meditation at this leading? What learnings would you she said afterwards that she felt she was a meeting retreat in November 1999. want to pass on to others? waiting for further instructions. How
FRIENDS JouRNAL September 2000 9 riend Mark Hulbert's name ap WT.· What best describes your grow pears regularly in The Wall Street ing up in Kansas? Fjournal, Forbes, and other finan- MH· The meeting was central to our cial journals. Recently financial editors family, and my three brothers and I were of The New York Times retained Mark vigorously supported throughout our years to write a biweekly Sunday column. ofpublic education. There never was doubt Several rimes he's been a guest on PBS's we'd ultimately get the best higher educa Wall Street Week, and in the summer of tion available. Debating and part-time 1999 he was a guest on an Acapulco to management of a local restaurant were San Francisco cruise with the nation's among my principle extracurricular ac leading investment wizards. His book tivities while at home. The Hulbert Guide to Financial Newslet WT.· What happened next? Please don't ters has been through five editions, and be demure! his primary occupation is publishing a MH· I went to Haverford and gradu nationally circulated monthly newslet ated magna cum k:tudewith majors in phi ter, Hulbert Financial Digest. losophy and political science. Two or three Who is this 44-year-old Quaker professors there had a great impact on me. who's earned a position in the rarified During two years at Oxford I came under circles of Wall Street? The following the timely influence of a fine scholar, are you at awaiting further instructions? interview, conducted at Hulbert's home Simon Blackburn. After my final 24 What might help? Again, how might in McLean, Virginia, provides some hours of exams, I earned a "first" on the your meeting support you in this? answers. tests, which means my score was in the upper ten percent overall. Oxford was How are our meetings nourished, Wilmer Tjossem: How did your uniquely strong in training and discipline challenged, or strengthened as faith Friends background prepare you for a for writing. communities when we bring to them our experiences, learnings, questions, and leadings about work?
What question haven't I asked that is important to you regarding your work or Tracl As you come out of this meditation, I invite you to name the thoughts, career at the center of U.S. and global The last thing I thought about then reflections, or insights that you would capitalism? was a career in investments; quite the con Little in my Quaker trary, I viewed fmancial markets as the like to get back to--in your journal, in Mark Hulbert: home and background determined what embodiment of greed and evil. conversation, in prayer. (Pause) I'm doing now. Perhaps one explana WT.· You have said your parents pre Then, if you would, as we prepare to tion was a firm family discipline for ferred you would go into one of the sci share with each other in small groups, integrity, frugality, and education. ences, perhaps medicine. Whydidn'tyou? please highlight a specific story that arises My late father, Lloyd, was in Civilian MH· In my youth it was expected that from this med~tation for you that you Public Service during World War II smarr students would opt for one of the would like to share with others. and joined Friends in M inneapolis, sciences, though my parents didn't insist Minn., while doing graduate work in on that route. Manhattan High School In groups of four (for 20-25 minutes), botany and plant pathology. Then he didn't value humanities as much as natu each of you please tell a brief but specific and my mother, Jean, moved to Man ral sciences, so it wasn't until Oxford that story from your own experience that hattan, Kansas, where he was a state I discovered fascination and aptitude for a came to mind as you meditated on these university professor, and where my folks career in investigative journalism. For a questions. Then, once each person has joined in starting Manhattan Meeting. first assignment I was enrolled in an in told a story, please reflect with each vestment seminar in New Orleans where I other in your small group as you are led, Wilmer Tjossem and his wife joan are mem was promptly shocked by the speakers' making sure everyone gets a chance to bers of Des Moines Valley {Iowa) Meeting. transparent dishonesty and refusal to ex speak. Wilmer is retired from 38 years as a finance amine data. secretary for AFSC and current!J serves on the Personally, and as a Friend, I was ap We will come back together for a period Board ofTrustees ofFRIENDS jOURNAL. palled at this lack of integrity and accord- of worship sharing. 0 10 September 2000 FRIENDS jOURNAL ingly felt compelled to do an Left: Wall Street scene article about it. I soon became Inset: Mark Hulbert and a freelancer while simulta his family aboard a cruise with other leading neously writing my first book, "investment wizards" Interlock: The Untold Story of American Banks, Oil Interests, large checks and bequests. the Shah's Money, Debts, and When it comes time to the Astounding Connections be raise money, many Friends tween Them, published by welcome it from the same Richardson and Snyder. It was sources they disdain; and an enormous joy to write but a successful business people commercial flop. However, the often are made to feel "out research experience eased my side the loop" when serv lingering ideological conscience ing on some of our com enough to allow me to com mittees and boards. In my mit my life to tracking invest book this approaches spiri ment advisers. tual duplicity. WT.· What got the newslet Nevertheless, my career ter going and what brought so far leads me to ever you so rapidly to prominence greater appreciation of in the investment community? Quaker values. As I've MH: After Barrons pub been back and forth be lished two pieces focusing fa tween Wall Street and vorably on my work, I had Friends organizations I've several appearances on Wall been struck, if not l:: shocked, by how com ~ pletely different their two worlds at ::C first appear, yet in certain fundamen ~ tal ways they're similar. In their knee Advisors ~ jerk reactions and smugness towards ~each other they become more alike ~ than either so far is willing to ac d knowledge. b Wilmer T. ossem eral Quakers. Some feel I've sold out to a WT.· What do you see as your on- financial system they view as having little going Friendly mission in the invest- Street Week. (I was only 25 when I first or no redeeming social or spiritual value. ment community? appeared). These and other connections WT.· How do you answer that? MH: So far in my career I've been brought me impeccable credentials among MH: Not only have my wide-ranging sued four times for libel by powerful the most conservative business leaders pursuits not been inconsistent with my investment advisors, and each time and as a liberal-leftist, I felt at times like a humanitarian and religious background, vindicated because my published fraud myself, allowing each side to think I they've actually strengthened my spiritual evaluations were objective and with- was one of its own. However it was, Fi understanding. I regard a sound spiritual out malice. In some instances, I've nancial Digest hit a popular nerve and life as viewing life from many perspec- been more effective in uncovering took off, and my uneasiness about pub tives. fraud than the Securities Exchange lishing an investment newsletter steadily WT.· What is your advice for the Reli- Comission itself because I'm not bur- abated. gious Society of Friends? dened with bureaucracy and political WT.· How has your success affected MH· Now and then I become impa- considerations. your relationship with Friends? tient with many Friends' questioning atti- I believe it behooves Friends to MH: While my family and I (wife tudes about wealth. On the one hand, recognize commerce and investing for Merideth and daughter Emma Claire) are Friends today remain generally disdainful what they are, imperfect and flawed, active with Friends Meeting of Washing of the money culture and believe most yet inescapable in our shared exist- ton (D.C.) and Thornton Friends School, financial corporations are inherently evil, ence. Historically, Friends and their and I'm on Guilford College's Board of cause wars, exploit the helpless, etc. On testimonies have measurably brought Trustees and on committees ofHaverford's the other hand, historically, most major improvement in business ethics and Board of Managers (and, until recently, Friends organizations, schools, and col- economic justice, especially in England Friends Committee on National Legisla leges have greatly prospered by wealthy and the United States, and there's tion), I feel increasingly isolated from lib- Friends' (and wealthy friends of Friends') much yet to do! 0 FRIENDS JOURNAL September 2000 11 Qual n the early days ofour Religious Soci you work together to improve product improve their environmental performance. ety of Friends, many Friends gravi quality and reduce costs, everybody ben It is called ISO 14000. Some of the largest I tated into business. When they were efits, including the consumer. Just taking transnational corporations have agreed to denied access to the professional schools, competitive bids and throwing out some comply with ISO 14000 even though it business was an alternative. Today many body for an extra five percent is poor required an external certification audit. Friends would be unhappy if their chil human relations as well as bad business. Many companies have found that a proac dren became business people. Many in Industrial concerns have long been tive stance on environmental issues is cost our Society are socialists or seem to con major contributors to the deterioration of effective. Savings from product redesign, sider a private business career as somehow the environment. Some of this deteriora saved disposition costs, and the elimina immoral. I think this is unfortunate. tion occurred before we knew bener. We tion of compliance costs can all be sub Those of us in business have a unique now have laws and the Environmental stantial. A few large companies have stated opportunity to follow the leading of the Protection Agency to make people be that they will require their sources to be Eternal Spirit. Of course there are "no have. While mere compliance with the ISO 14000 compliant within the next few goodniks" in business, and sometimes it law is not going to be adequate, there are years. This will affect the smaller compa takes too long for market forces to punish encouraging signs. The International Stan nies as well, and now there is real hope for them, but generally people want to deal dards Organization has established a vol improvement. with businesses that have moral principles. untary standard to require companies to Another issue that troubles Friends is In the businesses with which I have been offshore sourcing. Some shortsighted associated, the world beat a path to our people want tariff barriers to keep the jobs door because we tried to do what we in the United States. As Friends we must thought was morally right, including inte be citizens of the world. Decent jobs in grated hiring and avoiding government the developing world can reduce tensions contracts. and encourage a private sector to provide When I was first hired by a large ac some check on government excesses. The counting firm, I stipulated that I would expose ofNIKE for what they were doing audit anyone, but as an engineer I was to children in the Pacific Rim made uncomfortable doing consulting decent people sick. It can be differ work for a defense contractor. That ent. Levi Strauss has been lauded for was not a problem. The firm a policy of not employing children wanted people of principle. and providing scholarship help to At Vermont American Corpo move the children from factory to ration, a very large public company school. The Council on Economic that manufactured power tool acces sories, we refused government con tracts. It was good business to do so, Those of us in because the contracts were either awarded in response to personal favors or were bid business have a down to an unprofitable price. We were unique opportunity leaders in diversity back when it was un popular. People disagreed, but they were to follow the proud to be associated with a company that stood for something. It was also good leading of the business because we were utilizing talent that others ignored. We developed part Eternal Spirit. nerships with customers and suppliers long before Ed Deming, the management guru Priorities (CEP) has developed a series of who helped Japan turn itself around after standards for the workplace patterned af World War II, made it fashionable. When ter the ISO standards called SA 8000. Lee B. Thomas Jr. , a member ofLouisville (Ky.) This standard requires basic worker safety, Meeting, is the former CEO ofVermont Ameri no child labor, a living wage (locally a can Corporation. He is currently owner ofUni living wage), gender and racial equality, versal Woodr, Inc., and Executive-in-Residence and freedom of association. For any stan at the School ofBusiness at Bellarmine College. dard to be effective it must be subject to 12 September 2000 FRIENDS JouRNAL an external certification audit. Auditors have been trained and certified by CEP, and companies are now being audited. Correction of abuse is just beginning. NIKE refuses to cooperate with SA 8000; they merely sent their CPA firm to visit some factories. I think this was a white wash. At the other end of the compliance spectrum, Avon is in the lead in requiring certification of their sources. The trend is in the right direction. Over ten percent of all money under management today requires a social screen. One by one the big mutual fund manag Our services change ers are establishing socially screened mu tual funds. Many do not have my recom and adapt with the needs mendation. The best managers should be proactive; they should be looking for well managed companies. Some just screen out of each person. alcohol, gambling, and tobacco compa Wellness Clinic nies. Examples of ways in which consum Mrs. Fox wanted a more interesting place to spend her day. Together, she and her children ers can demonstrate their social conscience Home Health Care may be found in the bestselling Shopping decided on C handler Hall's Adult Day Program. for a Better World, published by CEP, Aquatic Programs Not only did her interest in life improve, Mrs. which also publishes ratings on compa Fox came to feel so comfo rtable with the people nies' performance on social issues. Pres Adult Day Program and programs, she asked to live there. 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We helped them, but the jobs they compassionate professionals who give every life found were not as good as those they left. they touch more meaning. I was unsuccessful in protecting Vermont Jo/nt~OII E v try Lift Has Meaning. American Corporation against a takeover. • Many of our concerns are no longer the policy there. In spite of all this, I think on CHANDLER balance that I was able to do more con Our Expanded LL structive work in the private sector than I Community I.iving The Quaker Tr<>dilian could have done otherwise. My purpose here is to encourage ideal Living Facility Information Center: istic young Friends to consider a career in Opens Soon! 1,888,603,1973 business, then after they get there, to work toward making the world a better place. I Visit Our A nonprofit, nondiscriminatory QUAKER facility also want to encourage their parents to 99 Barclay Street, Newtown, PA take a positive attitude toward such a Model Today! ( 215 ) 860-4000 www.chand lerhall.org ~ok~ 0 FRIENDS JouRNAL September 2000 13 Ritual in Unprogrammed Worship by Paul Buckley Ritual n 1: the established form for a kids are here so we will get to the reminds Mary Ellen of God's ceremony; specif the order of words pre George Fox song, and Gretchen mercy and justice. scribed for a religious ceremony 2 a: ritual will signal that it's time for 11:07 Josh breaks the deepening observance; specif a system of rites b: a meeting when she asks for "Spirit stillness by reminding us of the ceremonial act or action c: any formal and of the Living God." woman caught in adultery: Jesus customarily repeated act or series of acts 10:29 The last chord is still echoing as exemplified mercy to the woman (Websters New Collegiate Dictionary) we march into the meeting room. and justice to those who wanted As usual, Samuel awaits us. H e to stone her. Sunday doesn't sing. He has arranged the 11:10 Mercy and justice, again. A little Morning chairs into a circle and placed the too soon for me to absorb Josh's 9:57 I meant to be here earlier today. Bible and Faith and Practice on message. Ron doesn't like Bible Bob is in the doorway, "Good to the table along with a nice references and has "balanced" it see you, Paul." Bob is this week's bouquet of wild flowers. with a story of the compassionate greeter. "Good to see you" means 10:45 The children troop out. I'm still Buddha. I'm now a regular. When I wasn't not used to this. Wouldn't it be 11: 14 I hadn't noticed Brenda here. She coming so often, it was (big better if they came for the last is correcting Ron's version of the smile), "So glad to have you back fifteen minutes of meeting? Oh story and expanding on it. again." At least I avoided the well, we used too many business Brenda took a course on some hearty "Welcome! Come in!" that meetings on that topic. At least form of Buddhism, so I guess she Bob reserves for those he doesn't Martha didn't give another knows what she's talking about. I recognize. "children's sermon" this week. just wish she wouldn't do it in 10:00 From the Poole Room, I hear 10:52 First message. I'm not really meeting. "Open my eyes that I may see . .." settled and can't completely 11 :30 Inwardly, I thank God for the Mari has started the premeeting pay attention. Something chance to be here today and for hymn singing. T he about how the weather these beloved Friends. Peggy Paul Buckley, a member of5 7th Street Meeting in Chicago, is attending Clear Creek Meeting in Richmond, Indiana, while he is a student at Earlham School ofReligion. ... r) \ > . // \~ · · ,t 14 September 2000 FRIENDS JoURNAL and I shake hands to close haps this is the minimum set of rules meenng. necessary. But if we look a little closer, 11:31 Guests and newcomers are there are more personal and corporate introduced. "customarily repeated acts"--o ur own un Gree~~~~ 11 :34 Announcements. programmed rituals. 11 :40 We move back to the Poole "the small school that Room. Bob has coffee, juice, and makes big people" cookies out. We have 20 minutes The Sequence ofRituals for socializing before the Second In some meetings, this starts at the Hour program starts. door. A greeter welcomes people as they arrive. While particular Friends will re Unprogrammed worship looks like the ceive a personal greeting, frequently there simplest thing in the world. We assemble will be several standard phrases: one for in a room and wait quietly until either the regulars, another for the occasional someone is moved to speak or it is time to attender, and one more for the obvious leave. What could be more effortless? What newcomer. could be more unadorned, obvious, or In one meeting I attended, hymn sing Greene Street Friends School natural? As "unprogrammed" Friends, we 5511 Greene Street ing always preceded meeting for worship. Philadelphia, PA 19144 avoid all the clutter and dead ritual of People took turns requesting their favor • other religious services. Maybe so. Maybe ites, but we seemed always to finish with Pre-K through Grade 8 not. the same one. Not by explicit prearrange Founded in 1855 Let's examine the concept of ritual and ment; it was just the way things were use that to explore our manner of wor done. Please call TODAY for a ship. The first definition in the dictionary In a sense, our meeting room is itself tour. 215-438-7545 says that a ritual is "an established form for ritualized. Lighting, chairs, and other fur a ceremony," specifically "the order of niture may be rearranged if the space is words." That would seem to preclude shared with other activities during the Friend's ceremonies. We don't have an week. Some meetings sit in a circle, others established form or an order of words, do in sets of facing rows. In either case, the we? Is sitting together quietly "an estab layout may remain invariant over a period lished form?" Or to look at another part of of years or decades. T here may be a table the definition, is there a "customarily re in the room, with books-a Bible or a Excelling peated act or series of acts" in our weekly Book ofDiscipline - and sometimes flow IN A CHANGING WORLD gatherings? If we look at what we do, ers. Ifso, it will bethatwayweekafterweek. rather than what we might call those ac After finishing our greeting rituals, we tivities, do they look like rituals? More enter the meeting room. Traditionally, FRIENDS SELECT than that, how might our understanding the meeting for worship begins when the of what it means to be Friends change if first person sits down. Each person fol Pre-K to 12th grade we regard our "customarily repeated acts," lowing enters quietly and finds his or her 17th & Benjamin Franklin Parkway whatever they may be, as rituals? place. And it is his or her place-1 sat in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 19103·11.84 the same chair every Sunday for nearly seven years. 215-561-5900 Basic Rituals Worship itself follows a series of regu Obviously, we gather in the same place lar practices. One that periodically exer and at the same time by prearrangement. cises meetings is the question of whether Some early Friends tried to eliminate this the children will be in for the beginning or DISCOVER QUAKER PHILADELPHIA ordering, believing that the Holy Spirit the end of meeting. The time that we Two-hour walking tours of William Penn's would call God's people together when devote to debating this seemingly trivial original city of brotherly love. For sale: ever and wherever it was necessary-First item reveals the significance it truly paperweight created to honor Penn's work and crafted in Olde City. Day or not, meetinghouse or tavern. That holds. The presence of children changes Send a SASE for information to: QUAKER experiment failed. the character ofthe meeting. For some it is TOURS, Box 1632, Media, PA 19063. We also agree to sit quietly together a distraction, for others, a reminder of rather than walking around the room, God's blessings. Some meetings have lounging on the floor, chatting together, children in at the beginning and find that or drinking coffee and eating sweet rolls. the ministry offered early is enlightened The Bible Association of Friends And we agree to give each other space to by their presence. Others prefer the chil in America pray, to speak, and to listen. At the close of dren present for the last part so that since 1829 has offered Bibles, NewTestaments, meeting, someone will signal-usually by younger Friends can more often experi and Portions free or at cost co Friends a handshake-that the period of formal ence a centered meeting. institutions, individuals, and others worldwide. Write to: P.O. Box 3, Riverton, NJ 08077 worship is over. Still pretty simple. Per- Centering is both an individual and a F RIENDS JouRNAL September 2000 15 corporate activity. We each have our own ways of becoming personally quieted and entering the corporate stillness. We send lilwal!}s renewing.lilwai!}S improving. our children and each other subtle signals to nourish and sustain the deepening still Now re-creating state-of-the-art Skilled Nursing, ness. Gathering a Quaker meeting is not meditation-an individual discipline flssisted Dving and communit0 areas. but a learned corporate practice and one that we help each other in achieving. Ministry is rare early in meeting. For any given meeting, the regular attenders know how long to wait before first speak ing. We know how long our centering takes, and it is an extraordinary message that would be welcome too soon in the process. Likewise, there are unstated, but estab fl non-profit retirement communitlj and lished, rules for subsequent ministry. Mes healthcare provider operated bf1 members sages on similar themes are common, but of the t FRIENDS JouRNAL September 2000 17 Walking With God As CLOSE As WE wANT TO BE by John M. Haynes od is immutable, permanent, un move us closer to God? We can argue that the Light we do so without knowing the changing, all-loving, all-caring, simply being inactive about our normal answer but as a way of drawing closer to Gand all-forgiving. God is simply human concerns frees us up to enter into the other person in need through a shar there and is there at all times. the space in which communion with God ing with the Holy Spirit. We trust that as If this statement is essentially true then occurs. Even when we are empty of daily we hold the other in the Light the Holy we must ponder the problem: if God is concerns, an action must happen to make Spirit links us with the other person, giv always there, unchanging, why do we feel us closer-we must move. The activity ing the other our concern and strength to at times closer and at other times farther that moves us from the silence in which pull through their crisis. away from God? Clearly, God does not we have emptied our minds into a direct, A prayer ofpraise involves giving thanks move closer and farther away from us. We unmediated relationship with God is for the wonders of the day, for life, for move back and forth in our awareness of, prayer. A prayer becomes the bridge we God's loving and caring. Praise takes us and therefore our relationship with, God. build to cross the barrier we have estab out of this world that we believe we con We choose when to be closer and, prob lished between the individual and God in trol and places us into another world where ably not by conscious choice, we decide the rush of everyday life. Thus, this act is we accept our lack of control on the one when to drift apart. proactive, a deliberate step we take in the hand and express our thanks to God on This raises another question for us re depth of the uncluttered mind, created the other. garding our central belief that we gather in out of silence. The prayers for self are the most diffi silence in a mood ofexpectant waiting for Each prayer is different, and as Friends cult prayers. They are often pleas for help the Holy Spirit. Are we waiting for the we are constantly looking at what holy and divine intervention. Sometimes we Spirit to come closer to us or for us to prayer is. I think there are three basic make a promise in return for an antici move closer to the Holy Spirit? Most forms ofprayer: prayers for others, prayers pated action, since we too are influenced Friends believe that centering in meeting of praise and gratitude, and prayers for by those religions that sell interventions is an activity involving emptying the mind ourselves. Each of these takes us over the on our behalf. They see a God who loves a of extraneous thoughts, and then waiting bridge and closes the gap between our trade and who responds to people rather for the Holy Spirit to enter the free space. selves and God. than leads them. These prayers reduce But it seems more likely that the Holy A prayer for others involves sharing God to a superhuman, motivated by Spirit is there waiting for us to move close with God our concerns for and about the the same desires and fears as us. Rather, enough to experience the Word of God. other person. They should not be requests God is all-loving, all-caring, and all-for If this is so, what activities in the silence for action on God's part since we assume giving. No deals are required, simply ac john M. Haynes, a member ofWestbury (NY) God already knows the needs of the other ceptance of Grace. Meeting, where he served on Ministry and Over person. Our conversation with God is So, what is the way to pray to God? I sight, died on December 22, 1999. about our concern. In holding others in think there is one simple prayer that is 18 September 2000 FRIENDS JouRNAL useful in all situations and all conditions. It is simply, "Dear God, what can I do differently?" The remarkable thing is that when we have crossed the bridge and are in true conversation with God, there is ''/found the most wondeiful people at always an answer. There is always a differ ent way to think about the problem dis Friends' Central including my best friends tressing us. There is always something who are both students and teachers. different we can do in our interactions with others. There is always another way I became very close to coaches, faculty to think about or to handle a concern. members, and classmates. I loved being able to God will not cure my illness. God does walk across campus and be personally not choose some to cure and others to suffer. But God will provide me with a greeted by everyone I passed. " different way to handle it. When we ask for this help, God places Calinda Lytton '99 us back in control ofour lives and reminds HAVERFORD COLLEGE us that there is a more Godly way of MEMBER OF PROVIDENC E MONT HLY M EETING responding and that we can make the shift ATTENDER OF HAVERFORD MONTHLY MEETING necessary to be closer to God in heart and deed. In this relationship with God we ask Cum Laude Award • Senior Editor, Yearbook for no miracles, no interventions for us or Co-President, Student Admission Committee against another. We never ask for things Benjamin V. Ogden Award for Citizenship to which we are not entitled, and we never Co-Captain, Varsity Soccer and Softball ask God to be ungodly. We ask only what Habitat for Humanity • Religious Life Committee we could do differently to place us closer Grades Pre-K - 4 Grades 5- 12 to God. We maintain a simple relation Call: (610) 642-7575 Call: (61 0) 649-7440 ship with God. We maintain an obedient relationship with God by making the sug gested changes. Sometimes we ask for a shift-some thing different that we can do-but do not hear an answer. One possibility is that what we are already doing is God's work, or more likely, we have asked a question to which we do not want an answer since we don't intend to do anything differ , ently, but it makes us feel good that we asked. My experience is that if I ask the OF MlNISJJRY question honestly, an honest answer is always returned and a different way opens for me. A Q UAKER GRADUATE EXPERIENCE This simple prayer, "Dear God, what can I do differently?", can be asked at any FOR LEA DERSHIP AND SCHOLARSHIP, time. All it takes is a momentary with drawal from daily life, an honest appeal, THE EARLHAM SCHOOL OF RELIGION EDUCATES and a receptive heart. It is the most em powering prayer that lifts me up when I AN D EQUIPS MEN AND WOMEN FOR PUBLIC MINISTRY. am down, turns me around when I am going in the wrong direction, helps me look at the glass as halffull rather than half MASTER OF D IVINITY/MINISTRY AND M ASTER OF ARTS empty. It is a question that reminds me Unprogrammed Tradition o Quaker Studies o Peace &: that the answer is always there inside me. justice • Pastoral Care • Ministry of Writing • Biblical Studies • Pastoral Ministry • Spirituality o Teaching God is always there; I determine the prox imity. When I accept God's grace, the way opens at any moment for a different EARLHAM ScHooL oF RELIGION approach. God helps reconnect me to my An invitation to transformation own inner wisdom. And that inner wis For information contact: Sue Axtell, Director of Admissions dom takes me closer to God, walking with 228 College Ave., Richmond, IN 47374-4095 1-800-432-1377 • http://www.earlham.edu/-esr • [email protected] God, which is where I want to be. 0 FRIENDS j OURNAL September 2000 19 Witness South Afrids Truth and Reconciliation Commission by Rosemary Smith hen we [South Africans] feel de Waving the holy book We heard people asking at the commis pondent about the "beloved coun out of their crevices sion's hearings for headstones and proper ty," we would do well to turn to the for hugs and admonition graves so that the deceased might have death final report of the Truth and Reconciliation crawled the "born again" souls with dignity. Commission. Whatever irs flaws, it is a docu suddenly remembering Mzi Maholo continues in this poem: ment the nation should be proud of. It The weeping rivers has been described as the most important Conveying guiltless ashes For too long their hearts quivered with political testament to emerge from South Af of our soil's sons. grief rica and one of the more important docu We wondered. As they searched for the vanished ments of the 20th century. [The Truth and The dead Reconciliation Commission anempred to Like Mzi we too wondered how much In graves with no holes. bring about healing after the official end of agony and bitterness the commission would Apartheid by offering amnesty in exchange unleash. We were concerned that each victim It will be hard to forget the parents who for confessions of crimes by those guilty of knew the process of taking this story to the lost children as the result of police bullets at violence.] weekend funerals. One family whose grief I recall watching the commission at work had been intense went to the Commission and marveling at the stoicism and patience of hearing and found it cathartic. They felt that the commissioners who sat daily listening to in the telling of their story, and in meeting the stories of South Africa's holocaust. Each other parents who had similarly suffered, their day a lighted candle had pride of place and process of healing was begun. was lit in a simple ceremony to commemorate Watching the perpetrators, I thought that the upholding of truth and the burning of the if I passed them in the street nothing would past. The candle looked like an Advent or have alerted me to their past. They seemed Paschal candle and gave a religious air to the like ordinary citizens. In Cradock [a town in proceedings. For Quakers the candle shone the Eastern Cape] we heard of torturer and like the Inner Light. tortured coming together in a church nearby In 1996, the Grahamstown Black Sash and of reconciliation taking place. Advice office employed a researcher to peruse Mzi Maholo ends his poem thus: its records of oppression during the states of emergency. [The "Black Sash" was a peaceful The sun of our land resistance movement against Apartheid led by will ease the wrinkled spirits women who stood silencly in protest wearing Thread those devalued hopes black sashes.] The purpose of the research was Mend their fractured souls. to identify those who met the criteria of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission and Truth and Reconciliation Commission and Who can forget the scene played out many for those people to have the choice to tell their the various factors involved; for example, the times in dusty town halls up and down the story. It was a hard task sifting through mate full implications of amnesty, that if a perpe land as the minutiae of life during the apart rial that told of assault, torture, murder, dep trator was granted amnesty then he or she heid era was spilled out. Every now and again rivation, and the all-pervading fear people could not be prosecuted. a mother would keen, head in hands, and the suffered. !twas often the details of people's lives that counselor/comforter would put her arm For those of us interviewing the victims it caught the imagination and stayed in the around the mother's shoulders until the sob was a hideous reminder of those Apartheid memory. The woman chopping the cabbage, bing ceased. A murmuring, a sighing would years when the Black Sash and Dependants listening to her favorite serial on the radio, come from the audience, and we would don Conference in Grahamstown did its best to with her shoes kicked off to rest her tired feet headphones to hear the translation. support the victims and their families through after a day as a domestic worker, whose life Amjie Krog [a leading African writer], in traumatic times. changed forever seconds later. Municipal po her powerful poetic way, writes of the Truth Mzi Maholo wrote in a poem: lice went on the rampage, kicked open the Commission in her book A Country of My door, and raked her shack with bullets, killing Skull: "And I wade into song in a language When the Truth Commission opened its her husband in the process. Then there was that is not mine, in a tongue I do not know. It sanctimonious arms the description of the sad little procession is fragrant inside the song, and among the going to the cemetery to bury a beloved baby keynotes of sorrow and suffering there are Rosemary Smith, a member of Cape Eastern in a small cardboard box. The family had silences where we who belong to this land Regional Meeting in South Afoca, was involved been banished to a small karoo town because scape, all of us, can come to rest." in the Truth and Reconciliation Commission of the father's political involvement. [The There is much to despair about in our hearings both as a personal witness and as part of karoo is an arid plateau.] There they endured beloved land, but we must be proud of the a broader Friends presence. This article is re constant police harassment, and when the people's testament and the mending of frac printed with permission .from the September baby died there was no money to buy a coffin tured souls and find the silence, so we too can 1999 Southern Africa Quaker News. or to have a proper funeral. come to rest. D 20 September 2000 FRIENDS JouRNAL PJiil s someone you care about going to college? Would you like to offer regular contact with Quaker thinking and ll!!llvalues? Send a subscription to FIUENDS jOURNAL In the din of dorm life, or the midst of studying and exams, the FIUENDS J ouRNAL can offer quiet moments of welcome reflection or stimulate a line of thought worth pursuing. 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I was utterly delighted by the warmth Courses Friends (authors, publishers, booksellers, and and depth ofsharing on all levels." journal editors) gathered at Twin Rocks Camp The 2001 QUIP annual meeting will take Autumn2000 in Oregon for worship, fellowship, and pro place March 22 to 25 at Pendle Hill in fess ional sharing and support during the an Wallingford, PA. The focus ofthe educational Experiencing nual meeting of Quakers Uniting in Publica sessions will be Quaker periodicals. Friends tions (QUIP). Representatives from all interested in finding out more about QUIP Shakespeare branches of Quakerism were well-represented. should contact Bruce Hawkins, Promotions David Gray • Oct. 22-27 We spent three days nestled in a beautiful Clerk, 61 Henshaw Avenue, Northampton, redwood lodge next to the ocean sharing our MA 01060, e-mail 22 September 2000 FRJENDS JoURNAL News At its June 25, 2000, meeting, the board of of all nuclear weapons. "Friends believe in the directors ofAmerican Friends Service Com simple premise of thoughtful deliberation and FRIENDS mittee selected Mary Ellen McNish as its new resolution of conflict by peaceful means, aris general secretary. She will formally take up the ing from respect for every person as embody position in mid-September. McNish's most ing 'that of God,"' the minute affirms. "We HOSPITAL recent work experience has been as executive therefore call upon our legislative representa director of development for Weill Medical tives at all levels of our government to move College of Cornell University and New York forward with the development ofgovernmen Presbyterian Hospital in New York and as tal initiatives for nonviolent conflict resolu Healing the Mind assistant vice president for development and tion that are based upon understanding and alumni relations for Medical College of Penn compassion. We petition our government rep sylvania and Hahnemann University in Phila resentatives urgently to pursue a process lead delphia. She is a former chiefoperating officer ing to the dismantling and destruction of all ~~~:~:~~of of Planned Parenthood of Maryland. Prior to nuclear weapons," it concludes. At the direc that she was a branch director for YWCA of tion of the meeting, the minute was to be sent Best Psychiatric Camden County, N.J., and Vicinity, a pro to Abington Quarter for further consider Hospitals gram coordinator for the Burlington County, ation as well as to state and federal legislators. • N.J., Community Action Agency, and for 13 And Olympia Meeting in Tumwater, Wash U.S. News&.. World Report years before that an educator with public school ington, approved, "through its witness and districts and Head Start programs. "Mary Ellen Peace Testimony," a minute calling for the july 2000 brings an impressive blend of Quaker service, end of economic sanctions against Iraq. As knowledge of nonprofit management, and serting that these have caused "an almost total demonstrated leadership to this posicion of breakdown in the fabric oflraqi civil society," for nearly two centuries overseeing staff and programs of AFSC," said in terms of "lives lost, economic dislocation, Don Gann, clerk ofAFSC's board of directors. the collapse of health care, and inability to Friends Hospital has been helping A native ofScranton, Pa., Mary Ellen has been rebuild the educational, sanitation and water a member ofByberry (Pa.) Meeting in Phila systems," the minute calls "upon all Friends those with serious mental illness. delphia for over 20 years and is a former clerk and other communities of faith to petition Treatment is available for of this meeting. Over the past 15 years, she our government" to use its influence to end has served in several roles in Friends General economic sanctions against Iraq. children, adolescents, adults, Conference and is currently assistant presid and older adults at our main ing clerk. She is a former member of the board Quaker United Nations Office reports that of trustees of Friends School of Baltimore and 300,000 children worldwide serve as sol Philadelphia campus and in a founding trustee of Glen Foerd Conserva diers. The children, ranging in age from 8 suburban outpatient offices. tion Corporation. "This chance to serve the to 18, are being used in 30 armed conflicts Religious Society of Friends in one of its most around the world. They are soldiers, spies, important organizations is one in which I feel porters, minesweepers, and sexual slaves. my faith and life's work have come together to Some are forcibly recruited, wh ile others join Friends Hospital, a Quaker create a wonderful opportunity," she said. She "voluntarily" because of poverty, a lack of hospital, was founded to provide holds a B.S. degree in education from East schooling, separation from family, manipula Stroudsburg University and an M.S. in busi tion by adults, abduction by militia groups, 'moral treatment' for those or conscription by governments. The Con ness from Johns Hopkins University. She lives e:,.:periencing mental and in Philadelphia with her husband and teenage vention on the Rights of Children, which daughter. AFSC has programs in 43 U.S. and only the United States and Somalia have not emotional illnesses. 22 international locations. signed, establishes 15 years as a compromise minimum age for combatants. The draft Monthly meetings, citing in particular the optional protocol that has been developed For further information about Peace Testimony and witness of Friends, raises the minimum age of combatants to 18 report in their newsletters that they continue years and places a ban on compulsory recruit outpatient, inpatient, or to address concerns about social, political, ment below 18. But governments will be al residential treatment, call for a and economic issues and international rela lowed to recruit volunteers below the age of tions. Albany (N.Y.) Meeting approved a 18 as long as they have adopted measures to free brochure: 215-8 31-4770. minute calling on the New York State Legisla ensure that the recruitment is not coercive ture, the United States Congress, and alllegis and those recruited will not be sent into com lacive bodies to repeal all laws giving the gov bat. For more informacion visit the QUNO ernment the power of execution. "We believe Geneva site at FRIENDS JouRNAL September 2000 23 We're looking for 167 persons to send in three new sub scriptions . . . and get a free year's extension of their own. Common was used to store U.S. cruise missiles. Among Friends and family you surely know three who The 900-acre base was the focus of protests do not receive FRIENDS jOURNAL-and should. Get their throughout the 1980s. The base has been checks (or give them a gift). Your own subscription will be closed since 1989, and this April former pro gratefully extended. Possible new subscribers: a meeting testers gathered to tear down the military fenc attender or new member, your son or daughter away from ing. The area is set to become a nature reserve. home, a teacher at your Friends school or public school, your local library--or one of the many Friends who just haven't UN Secretary-General Kofi Annan has ever developed the jOURNAL habit. brought the subject of AIDS in Africa before the Security Council as a security concern. The strength of FRIENDS JouRNAL is in its readership. Do us all a favor and add three people to Traditionally, securiry threats are understood our list of regular readers. to include war, civil strife, and terrorism. Ac cording to In and Around the UN, the news I. Name 2. Name letter ofQuaker United Nations Office in New York, "The Secretary-General argued that the Address Address impact of AIDS on Africa is proving to be no less destructive than warfare. The AIDS pan Ciry Ciry demic is overwhelming health systems, creating Stare Zip Srare ______Z ip•------millions oforphans, decimating health workers and teachers faster than they can be replaced, 3. Name r------FREE--Yor own suscription and wiping out public and private elites." Address Name Address Friends Committee on Restorative Justice Ciry (FCRJ), a nonprofit committee in the process Stare Zip Ciry ofobtaining 501 (C) (3) status, was founded in Colorado in March 2000 to offer Friends and State Endose check(s) for $87 made to FRIENDS other people offaith a place to become involved jOURNAL (add $6 for any sales outside U.S., Fj 0900 in implementing communiry restorative justice Canada, or Mexico). programs. Members ofFCRJ have worked on communiry restorative justice programs for almost rwo years. Soon a website at Hotel Windsor, 1700 Ben Franklin Parkway, Philadelphia, PA Columbia (S.C.) Meeting approved a minute affirming that the "same term, marriage, will "Nathan Rutstein was a Kellogg Foundation Expert in Residence on be used to designate the celebrations of com Racism and a founder of the Institutes for the Healing of Racism. He mitment under the care of Columbia has lectured at scores of universities & government institutions." Monthly Meeting for both heterosexual couples and homosexual couples." The •• Price only for Green Circle Members minute further affirms, "The procedure for FOR FURTHER INFORMATION SEE OUR WEBSITE - marriage under the care of the meeting out WWW.GREENCIRCLE.ORG OR EMAIL - [email protected] lined in Faith and Practice shall be followed Green Circle Program, Inc., 1300 Spruce Street. Phlla., PA 19107 for all couples seeking clearness for marriage 215-893-8400 215-735-9718 (FAX) under the care of the meeting .... The meet ing looks to the day when every married couple will enjoy the range of legal privileges and 24 September 2000 FRIENDS jouRNAL social acceptance, regardless of the respective Bookstore genders of the members of the couple.. . . The meeting takes seriously its commitment to couples under irs care, and encourages them FOR ADULTS to turn to the meeting for support and coun sel." Columbia Meeting also approved a George Fox's 'Book of Miracles' minute expressing appreciation to AFSC "for edited by Henry J. Cad bury, with forewords by its statement on sexual and gender identity" Rufus M.Jones,Jim Pym & Paul Anderson and commended it for its "long record of FGC & QHS, 2000,/ 76 pp.,paperback $17.00 work fo r justice and equality." -Columbia The Pure Principle: Meeting newsletter Quakers and Other Faith Traditions Rahway and Plainfield (N.J.) Meeting is ob by Jim Pym serving completion of the restoration of the Sessions o(York, 2000, I 28 pp., paperback $14.00 historic meetinghouse in Plainfield. The plain Forgiving Justice: The Swarthmore Lecture wooden structure, daring back ro 1788, is the by Tim Newell, Governor of Grendon Prison oldest religious site in Plainfield and is listed QHS, 2000, 160 pp., paperback $16.00 on stare and national historic registries. 'That is the most important building in Plainfield," Faith in Action: Quaker Social Testimony city preservationist Gail Hunton said, accord essays by Jonathan Dale and others ing to an article in the Courier-News. The QHS, 2000, 292 pp., paperback $20.00 restoration was supported with a matching A Western Quaker Reader: grant of $90,693 from New Jersey Historic Writings by and about Independent Quakers Trust. Rahway and Plainfield Meeting raised in the Western United States, 1929-1999 $60,462 toward the restoration. -Rahway ed. by Anthony Manousas and Pklinfield Meeting newsletter Friends Bulletin, 2000, 386 pp., paperback $19.95 Durham (Me.) Meeting donated $100 to Light in Their Consciences: the Elizabeth Jonitis Fund set up by Lewiston Faith, Practices, and Personalities Public Library, Lewiston, Me., to purchase in Early British Quakerism, 1646-1666 books for adult new readers. A reacher since by Rosemary Moore 1955, ElizabethJonitis has taught adult new PA State Univ Press, 2000, 296 pp., hardcover $29.95 readers, as well as those learning English as a second language, for the past 17 years. She No Alternative?: even went back to school herself so she could Nonviolent Responses to Repressive Regimes help people decipher their tax forms. In rec contributors include John Lampen, ognition of her achievements, the Lewiston Michael Bartlet, and Diana Francis Public Library and Lewiston Adult Education Sessions o(York, 2000, 140 pp., paperback $13. 00 established the Elizabeth Jonitis Fund to help Daily Readings from Quaker Spirituality purchase high-interest reading material for ed. by Edward Cell adult new readers. "There is no one who is nor Templegate, 1992, 96 pp., paperback $4.95 a lifelong learner. We are all lifelong learners," Elizabeth Jonitis said, as reported in an article in the Lewiston Sun journal. -Durham Meet FOR CHILDREN ing newsletter The Drums of Noto Hanto Monthly meetings in Philadelphia Yearly by J.Aiison James, illus. byTsukushi Meeting reponed a net gain in membership Darling Kindersley, 1999, during 1999 for the first time in the 20 years 36 pp., hardcover $16.95 for which statistics are readily available. There was a net gain of 33 members during the Thee Hannah! year. As of December 3 1, 1999, PYM had by Marguerite de Angeli 11,792 members, including 9,503 adults, Herald Press, 2000, 99 pp., paperback $ 15.99 2,094 minors, and 195 associate members (youth whose membership ends at age 21 unless they apply fo r full membership). Twenty years ago, PYM membership stood at 13,758. Statistics are not collected on attendees be cause that category cannot be precisely de For a free catalog or to order, call: fined. During 1999, PYM meetings accepted I-Boo-966-4556 298 applications for membership, 59 resigned, OR E--MAIL: [email protected] 59 were released, 12 newborns were recorded as members, and there were 153 deaths. or order through the web! www.quakerbooks.org - Allen R. Reeder, PYM News FruENDS jOURNAL September 2000 25 ~ Bulletin Board ~ VlDVDTTl\'_L Retreatand XOk l'tl'.l'i\IL.l(JL StudyCcntcr Upcoming Events essay to Anne Dalke, English House, Bryn Mawr College, Bryn Mawr, PA 19010 or The "picket and pray" place with •October 6-9-Be Not Conformed to this ecumenicity at its heart 26 September 2000 FRIENDS JouRNAL larly confusing due to the considerable over Weekends at Pendle HiU lap among yearly meetings. A large number of yearly meetings have directories of their Growing Closer to God and Each Other member meetings/churches on the Web, but AYoung Adult Friends Gathering it is difficult, particularly to those new to Friends, to find the appropriate yearly meet Eileen Flanagan & Michael Von Hoy September 2-4 ings. For that reason, the guide includes a Dialogues with Jesus from the Gospel ofJohn supplemental page with a listing of each state and the yearly meetings operating in that Paul Anderson September 29-0ctober 1 state, with the yearly meetings presented as links to their Web page or e-mail address. Inquirers' Weekend: Basic Quakerism All are invited to use the guide at Friends Home at Woodstown P.O. Box 457 • Friends Drive • Woodstown, NJ 08098 FRIENDS JouRNAL September 2000 27 Books A •Wood brooke Witness for Humanity: A Quaker Study Centre Biography of Clarence Pickett By Lawrence Miller. Pendle Hill Publications, Eva l(och Research Fellowship 2001 1999. 367pages. $20/paperback. At the end of a century, or at the close of We are now taking applications for two Woodbrooke Fellows. any significant period oftime, it is customary to look to the past for fresh direction and per The Research Fellowship in 2001 offers full board and an honorarium of spective on the host ofchallenges and promises up to £500. It is tenable for 14 weeks and is to be taken in 2001. We are the new age offers us. It is fitting, therefore, that seeking proposals in any area of Quaker Studies. The majority of the Lawrence Miller chose this time to publish research will take place at Woodbrooke where fellows will have access to Witness for Humanity. Given the challenges our well stocked library with its major Quaker collection. Successful Pickett faced and overcame during what is applicants will also have opportunities to draw on our wide range of arguably the most precarious time in Western research experience. No postgraduate qualification is necessary. history, Pickett's life provides an ideal me dium through which to meditate on the tasks Closing date for applications 17 Nwembet· 2000. that await Friends in the century to come. Successful applicants witt be contacted before Christmas. Growing up on a farm in Kansas, Pickett had his horizons widened at an early age. Interested? For an application form please contact: Whether it was his sister Minnie's decision to Administration, Woodbrooke, Quaker Study Centre, 1046 Bristol Road, teach in Japan, his avid reading of the foreign Birmingham B29 6LJ, UK or e-mail: [email protected] news sections of such papers as The People's For informal discussion please contact: Doug Gwyn, Quaker Studies Tutor Sentinel or The American Friend, his mother's at Woodbrooke or e-mail [email protected] wish for him to become a missionary, or Website: www.woodbrooke.org.uk his discussions with Henry Stanley Newman, editor of The Friend, Pickett matured with a profound sense of the events taking place (and consequently, the work that needed to be done) beyond the scope of his immediate surroundings. These interests in global affairs and hu manitarian service were used to their full po tential when Pickett took on the duties of executive secretary of American Friends Ser vice Committee after pastoring in Toronto. At AFSC he spearheaded relief effons for the bituminous coal miners in 1931- 32 as well as • Picturesque 84-acre country campus offering an active lifestyle, near the attractions of Baltimore. • One-story, garden style apartments. • Well ness program • A good value in retirement living-your meals, weekly housekeeping, prescriptions, medical bill processing, health care, long-term care and much more are included in the basic monthly fee. Broadmead is an Accredited, Not-for-Profit Continuing Care Retirement Community Founded and operated in the caring Quaker tradition. 13801 York Road, Cockeysville, Maryland 21030 410-527-1900 www.broadmead.org EQUAL HOUSINQ Lilly and Clarence Pickett on his 65th O P itORTUNtTY birthday, October 19, 1949 28 September 2000 FRIENDS JouRNAL Residential and for victims of persecution (both foreign and Assisted Living domestic) during the First and Second World Wars. H e also assumed a chief role in peace since 1891 developments in Palestine, and he did his utmost to improve relations between the Soviet Union and the United States. In recognition of In addition to The Hickman's his efforts and those of fellow Quaker Rufus "not too big, not too small" Jones, the city of Philadelphia honored them with the Bok award in 1939. In addition, again size, Bill and Becky Mcilvain along with Jones, he was one of the principal liked the retirement reasons AFSC and Friends Service Council community's in-town location. were awarded the Nobel Peace Prize in 1947. After his official retirement as executive secretary in 1955, Pickett served as executive "There are so many things secretary emeritus, traveling to Montgomery, Alabama, to speak to both sides in the bur you can do within walking geoning racial conflict there. He also accepted distance. We're still driving a position on the Police Review Board, a panel now, but the day will come. ... " instituted to investigate and curb police mis conduct in Philadelphia, and he was appointed honorary consul general for Japan. He would Quaker-Sponsored • Homelike • Affordable • Close to Town • Welcoming Diversity hold both positions until his death on March 17, 1965. 400 N. Walnut St., West Chester, PA 19380 Although Miller records the aforemen 610-696-1536 tioned actions unfailingly, it must be said that e-mail: [email protected] he does so almost to the total exclusion of Pickett's domestic life. More importantly, www.thehickrnan.org Miller does not venture into the psychology behind Pickett's actions, never directly con fronting what people or events influenced him to act as he did. T hese omissions lend Pickett an almost mythic quality at times, making him seem not only inscrutably re mote but also somewhat two-dimensional. Those criticisms aside, the biography is a success not only for chronicling Pickett's ac It's About Them. complishments, but perhaps more importantly for reminding us to ask ourselves the question that Pickett constantly asked himself: "What • Grades 6-12, Boarding & Day can be done?" After all, if a farm boy &om • 8-to-1 Student/Faculty Ratio Kansas was able to achieve all that Pickett did, • Excellent College Placement Record who can predict what the rest of us may be · Just 75 Miles North of NYC able to do? -Stephen W. Wheeler Stephen W. Wheeler is a banker who attends Newark (Del) Meeting. He is in the process of Oalzwood moving.from Deklware to California to pursue a FR IE NDS . SCHOOL writing career. Nourishing the Spiritual Life by PaulA. Lacey. Quaker Home Service, 1999. 51 pages. £3/paperback. "It might be useful, if it were not so fright ening, to ask how many people sitting in any particular meeting for worship find them selves in a dry period, getting nothing but a litcle peace and quiet from the silence and virtually nothing from the spoken ministry," writes Paul Lacey in the opening paragraph of Nourishing the Spiritual Life. 22 Spackenkill Road, Poughkeepsie, NY 12601 1-800-843-3341 www.oakwoodfriends.org With that blum observation, Lacey, a pro- FRIENDS J ouRNAL September 2000 29 The Storehouse fessor at Earlham College, yanks our heads respectfully to the liberal Quaker who says out of the sand, forces us to confront the far "there is that of God in everyone?" Collection too-common problem that few worship com Paul Lacey sees into the heart of things. He otMemories mittees are willing to address, and then sets reveals where we fall short in nurturing our about telling us precisely how to turn meeting selves, chen shows us how to make it right. A Life Story service to help you for worship into the dynamic and deeply gath His words belong on every Quaker's book tell your story, ered experience we need it to be. shelf. savor your memories, As Lacey sees the problem, meeting for -Ellen Michaud worship is "dry" when those of us who sit on and create a beautiful book- Ellen Michaud, FRIENDS j oURNALs book review a cherished legacyfor yourfamily. our benches are spiritually malnourished editor, is a member of South Starksboro {Vt.) when we don't take the time to think about Meeting. Marty Walton and Linda Lyman what's necessary for a rich spiritual life, and 1311 Sudden Valley, Bellingham, WA 98226 • 360-738-8599 when we don't give ourselves the time to [email protected] practice the disciplines that will create it. Tall Poppies: Supporting www.storehousecollection.com Lacey outlines five sources ofspiritual nour Gifts of Ministry and Member, Association of Personal Historians ishment from which he draws sustenance: the mmmmmmw companionship ofoth er seekers, the pleasures Eldering in the Monthly ofsolitude, the satisfactions of obedience, the support ofprayer and worship, and the gifts of Meeting joy. It's easy to skim over the sources of Lacey's By Martha Paxson Grundy. Pendle Hill spiritual feast and say, "Yes, yes, so what else is Pamphlet #347, 2000. 32 pages. $4/softcover. new?" Bur in fact, Lacey takes each of these This pamphlet will serve as a wonderful @] [YJ [I] five traditional disciplines--community, soli resource for ministry and oversight commit tude, obedience, prayer and worship, and tees and clearness committees of all kinds. 1 joy-and offers unexpected insights into how Martha Paxson Grundy gives us a concise yet each one nourishes our individual spirit, and derailed account of some of the formal and DELAWARE VALLEY FRIENDS SCHOOL thus the life of our meetings. 19 E. Central Avenue, Paoli, PA 19301 informal ways that gifts of ministry or eldering In a discussion of the "companionship of were supported by earlier Friends' meetings, for students with learning differences other seekers," Lacey points out that this type then asks how modern Friends might reclaim of nourishment comes from two sources, this heritage. College preparatory • Grades 7-12 • & Summer School " ... the words of those with whom we agree, Grundy expresses her belief that the key to Call (610) 640-4150 for infonnation who seem to speak to our experiences, beliefs, supporting ministers and elders within a meet Admission Tour dates: Nov. 14 • Dec. 13 • Jan. 10 and opinions with great clarity; and the words ing is "a corporate climate that speaks openly Feb. 6 • March 14 • April4 • May 1 • May 16 of those with whom we disagree, who speak of of God." She goes on: "We need to talk freely, other experiences and beliefs than ours, some frequently, and frankly about the reality and times truly alien experiences and beliefs, with movement of the Inward Teacher who in such genuineness and clarity that we are grate forms and leads Friends individually and as a ful for their witness, even when it challenges body. Such a climate will develop, I believe, our own." an expectancy that God ... will bring forth Whether the syllables of faith are uttered the gifts that are needed to move us forward." ~~eb'tlf~ in person or offered on the written page, the Although she outlines a practical approach words ofsomeone who speaks ofother experi to recognizing and recording gifts, Grundy ences and beliefs than ours can illuminate our ~ ~rti fYcci're~J returns our attention repeatedly to the source own struggles in unimaginable ways, Lacey of these gifts in the Spirit at work among us. says. "For many of us, the experience of find We should be concerned not merely with the ~~chman ing spiritual companionship among people question ofr ecognizing individual accomplish profoundly different from us is a joyful one." ments, but with the much larger question of Car~r~~ But, Lacey also points out, even when we appreciating the workings of God that may be (413) 529-9212 are willing to listen to those who disagree with expressed through ministers or elders in our 1+ Hooker Ave., Norduny>ton, MA 01060 us, we frequently fail to grant the Quaker on meetings. the next bench the same degree of respectful - Kirsten Backstrom listening that we accord a stranger in a strange land half a world away. "The greater the dif Kirsten Backstrom is a writer and a member of ference, the more careful we are to treat our Multnomah Meeting in Portland, Oregon. CREMATION companions with respect," he observes. 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Pax World Bal The Trustees of the Pickett Endowment for We urge Friends to send nominations Quaker Leadership Announce the Following now for the year 2001 (deadline IIIsloi) and contribute to the endowment.** Awards for 2000* Previous grantees (since 1994 are): Stan Becker, Arden Buck, David Byrne, Mia Carter, Harold Confer, Sean Crane, Allyn Dhynes, Aaron Fowler, Eden Grace, Alex Kern, Nancy Maeder, Susanna McCandless, Laura Melly, Chris Parker, Daniel Rouse, Deborah Shaw, Herb Walters, Andrea White, BRIDGET KATHLEEN DIN OVA and Chandra Woolson. MOIX PAULMIER OVALLE Trustees are: Wilmer Tjossem, clerk (Newton, 15th Street Mtg. , Germantown VASQUEZ Iowa); Stephen Cary, assistant clerk NY Mtg., PA Cuidad Victoria (Haverford, Pa.); Allen Bowman, secretary and Mtg., Mexico coordinator (Oskaloosa, Iowa); Carolyn Pickett and West Elkton Miller (Rockport, Maine), and other Iowans: Mtg., Ohio Michael Moyer, James Newby, Doris Jean Newlin, and John Wagoner. *Grants rang~.from $1,000 to $8,000 and are not available for academic study. JULIA MARCELLE **e-maiL· FRIENDS JouRNAL September 2000 31 Milestones Personalized Care in the Quaker Tradition Deaths Baker-Ma'b'aret S. Baker, 90, suddenly, ar home in Hillsboro, N.Y., on February 10,2000. Marga Since 1896 ret was born in Bosron on October 22, 1909. Afrer graduating from Medford High School and Lesley College, she served as a reacher in lsranbul, T ur A Quiet, key, and in Medford, Mass. Afrer her marriage to Home-Like Setting in a Donald Baker, the couple moved to Collegeville, Pa., where she served as a G irl Scout leader, em Beautifully Landscaped phasizing practical living skills, camping, and en joyment of the o ut-of-doors. Together with her Atmosphere husband, she helped revive meetings for worship in three historic meetinghouses: Sdluylkill (Pa.), Heniker (N.H.), and Quaker City Unity (Vt.). She took her four redheaded children to these • Private Rooms, Suites & Apartments • Recreational Activities small meetings and frequently invited visitors ro • Assistance With Activities Of Daily • 24 H our Security her home for dinner afrerwards. Margaret had the gift of hospitality, welcoming everyone who came Living Such As Bathing And • Some Financial to meeting, encouraging some later to join Friends. Dressing She assisted young mothers of each meeting in Assistance Available which she was a member and often served • Emergency Response System on religious education, hospitality, and nominat ing committees. She was a source of strength for • Three Nutritious, Home-Cooked For Information her husband and daughters, who became active Meals Served Daily In Elegant Please Call 856-235-4884 leaders among Friends. She enjoyed all kinds of music and played the piano. She was a founder of Surroundings 38 Main Street the annual candlelight carol sing before Christmas in the H eniker, N.H., meetinghouse. Margaret • Linen And Housekeeping Services Moorestown, NJ 08057 rook joy in the simple things: wildflowers, chicka dees outside her window, friends, neighbors, and relatives. She was a friend ro all. In her humble, quiet way she made this world a friendlier, more joyful place over her nine decades. She is survived by her husband, Donald Baker; four children, Louise Malcolm, Elizabeth Wenny, W. W ilson Baker, and Marian Knapp Baker; seven grandchil dren; and six great-grandchildren. Cope-Ann Reeves Cope, 80, suddenly, on May 1, 2000, in Sandy Spring, Md. She was born in 1919 in South Dayton, N.Y., the daughter of Alfred Kennedy Reeves and Marjorie Buell Reeves. The Scattergood Friends School, founded family moved frequently when she was growing in 1890, is com mined to fostering up, so she lived in Indiana, Ohio, and New Jersey lifelong and self-directed learning, as well. Her high school years were spent in Ithaca, developing a sense of personal N .Y. , and there she continued at Cornell Univer responsibility and cultivating global sity School of Home Economics, from which she citizenship. graduated in 1941. She married Cornell classmate Harold Cope in 1943. Following the wedding • All recent graduates have gained in Ithaca, she joined H al in Coleville, Calif., where college acceptance he was serving in Civilian Public Service. She • Student-to-reacher ratio: 4 to 1 worked as a dietitian and for rwo years as a • Innovative block scheduling reacher before they were transferred to Orlando, • Community service graduation Fla. In 1946 they began 26 years at Earlham requirement College in Richmond, Ind., where Hal held ad • Shared work program • Organic garden, farm minisuarive positions while Ann looked afrer the • Comprehensive, exciting home and became involved in the community. Arts Department During these years they raised their four children • Daily Collection, weekly and opened their home ro numerous college stu Meeting for Worship dents, many of whom have remained part of the extended family. It was in Richmond that Ann's For information, call roll-free at strong ties with the Religious Society of Friends 1-888-737-4636, or e-mail began. She became a member ofC lear C reek Meet [email protected] ing and later First Friends Meeting, and she was actively involved in Friends United Meeting and 1951 Delta Avenue Indiana Yearly Meeting committees. In 1972, West Branch, Iowa 52358 H arold became president of Friends University in Wichita, Kansas, and until Hal's retirement in 'IV 'IV 'IV. S C a t 1979, Ann's life focused on being the p resident's wife and serving the college, the communiry, and 32 September 2000 FRJENDS JouRNAL the Religious Sociery ofFriends. She was active in United Sociery of Friends Women and Friends World Committee for Consultation as well as Universiry Meeting in Wichita. Ann and Hal served as Friends in Residence at both Pendle Hill and Year 2001 Woodbrooke Quaker study centers in Pennsylva nia and England respectively. In 1982, they stayed Quaker Motto Calendar in Kenya for eight months to help local Kenyans prepare for a Triennial and World Conference of Friends. In 1984 the couple moved to Friends Inspirational messages House Retirement Communiry in Sandy Spring, Md. Here Ann became a member of Sandy Spring for each month Meeting and continued her work with FCNL, Since 1884 AFSC, Earlham School of Religion, and Sandy Spring Friends School. In her final16 years oflife, 25 calendars $20.00 Ann felt richly blessed ro be parr of the caring Open your child's communiry of Friends House. She will be remem 25 calendars & envelopes $22.25 bered for her beautiful gardens, love of music, dear mind to the world faith, and life of service and caring for others. Ann is survived by her husband, Harold; son David ABINGTON Send orders with check to: Cope; daughters Sarah Putnam, Beth McDonald, and Hannah Richter; a sister, Marian Reeves; rwo FRIENDS The Motto Calendar brothers, Alfred Reeves and Ken Reeves; and nine SCHOOL P.O. Box 59 grandchildren. A Quaker coeducational Douglassville, PA 19518 Kreidler- William]. Krtidkr, 48, a pioneer in the field ofconfl ict resolution for schoolchildren, from day school grades Preschool through 12 AIDS complications, on June I 0, 2000, at his MottoCal@ aol.com home in Boston. Born in Dansville, N .Y., on March 26, 1952, he graduated from Boston Uni For more information, call telephone: 301-320-3931 versiry and earned a Master's degree in Education 215-886-4350 from Antioch College. As director of conflict reso 575 Washington Lane • Jenkintown, PA 19046 fax : 301-320-7370 lution programs for Educators for Social Responsi biliry, Bill conducted workshops for students and reachers. He helped develop curricula that pro moted confli ct resolution and cultivated what he called the "peaceable classroom." In his words, "Many children and young people don't experi ence conflict as escalating; they experience it as an express elevator that goes straight up." He used a combination of workshops and in-class staff development to slow down that "elevator," and he trained elementary reachers to integrate prob WESTTOWN lem-solving into all subjects: reading, science, so cial studies, and math. With older children he used role-playing, discussions, and drawing; he said younger children respond better to puppets and storytelling. He was certain that children do nor want co be fighting all the rime, and chat they need and wane new ways of solving their problems with each other. It is estimated char I 00,000 teach ers are now using Bill's conflict resolution methods in their classrooms. He was the author of several books, including Conflict Resolution in the Middle School, Creative Conflict Resolution, and Early Childhood Adventures in Peace-Making, and he co-authored Tht Vioknu Prroention Curriculum for Adokscents. He was a member of Beacon Hill Meeting in Boston and Friends for Lesbian and Gay Concerns. He is survived by his partner, David Aronscein; his parents, Walter and Ruth Kreidler of West Palm Beach, Florida; and three brothers, Tom Kreidler, Lee Kreidler, and Dick Kreidler. Stabler- Pauline Frtderick Stabkr, 90, on April I 0, 2000, in Sandy Spring, Md. Pauline was born on October?, 1909, in Parkersburg, W.Va., into a Southern Baptist household and was only three when her mother died. H er father remarried and moved to California, leaving Pauline to be raised by her grandparents, aunts, and uncles. She en- FRIENDS )OURNAL September 2000 33 Tbe FGC Ti·aveling Ministries Program is looking for rolled in Marierra College and graduated in 1931 , meetings and individuals able then stayed on to work as a reaching assistant, to host a visiting Friend for dorm mother, and librarian. In 1935 she arrended University of Nebraska and received her Master's one or more evenings for the degree in Classics in 1936. She then moved to purpose of intervisitation, Washington, D.C., where she worked as a librar ian at the Depanment ofLabor and sang in church fellowship, and worshipping choirs. She never really accepted being a Southern together. Baptist as her spiritual path and dabbled in other faiths, eventually discovering the Religious Society of Friends. In 1939 she met William W ilson Sta bler, whom she married on June 14, 1940, at Friends Meeting of Washington. In 1940 she For more information joined her husband's meeting in Sandy Spring, please contact the Md., and remained an active member until her Traveling Ministries death. She resigned from the Labor Library in 1942 to raise her two children, Caleb Frederick Program Coordinator and Eugenia Rebecca. During this time she was active in the PTA and taught neighborhood Deborah Fisch children to play the piano. In 1948 she joined the 916 41st Street first Friends House Board when it was still a vision. Following the death of her husband in Des Moines, Iowa 50.~ 12 1956, Pauline returned to school at Catholic work pbo11e: University and received a degree in Library Sci Friends General Conference ence. She worked at the University of Maryland 1216 Arch Street, 2B • Philadelphia, PA 19107 515-277-2189 Engineering and Physical Sciences Library from 1957 to 1979. In 1962 she began renting rooms OFFICE (215) 561-1700 (fii e-mail: FAX (215) 561-0759 to foreign students; one of the first was Ren Fang BOOKSTORE ORDERS (800) 966-4556 deborah f(lt)fgcq uaker.org Chang. She gradually came to love him as a foster E-MAIL [email protected] son, and in larer years he became her almost constant companion. She was a member of several professional library associations and enjoyed concerts, theater, community clubs, seniors cen ters, recycling, and traveling. She visited all 50 stares and every continent except Antarctica. In 1979 her daughter was killed in an automobile accident. In May 1998 Pauline moved to Sandy HARVARD DIVINITY Spring Friends Nursing Home. She was diagnosed with lung cancer from second-hand smoke and -SCHOOL- asbestos. While Pauline received cornfon care she was still able to attend meeting for worship and other activities. She died with Ren and her son A Fred at her side. She is survived by her son, Caleb Frederick Stabler, and long-time companion, Ren tradition Fang Chang. Steward-Ma~garet Markel Steward, 91, in Santa of excellence in an Rosa, Calif., on October 17, 1999. Born in Colo interdenominational setting rado qn October II, 1908, she grew up on a farm in Petaluma, Calif., and graduated with honors Preparation for o rdained and lay ministries from University of California at Berkeley. Marga ' as well as a range of professions ret married Bill Tynell and with him had two enriched by theological study daughters. T he marriage did nor last, and Marga ret raised her young children alone while doing Degree Programs: M.Div., M.T.S., Th.M., & Th.D. social work and going back to graduate school. • The family lived in Alhambra, Calif., where Mar Special Resources: Women's Studies in Religion Program, garet settled into a life of work and community Center for the Study of World Religions, Center for the Study of Values in Public Life involvement. There Margaret met Newell Stew • ard, a Quaker who shared her vision and would Student colleagues from such fields as public policy, law, education & medicine help her find the best ways to live a life of service. • She married Newell and became a Quaker, arrend Opportunities for coursework & dual degree programs within ing Orange Grove Meeting. For a while they Lived Harvard University & cross-registration in the nine member schools of on a farm in Arkansas, where Margaret worked on the Boston Theological Institute. the. farm and taught English in grade school. Next they accepted a post in Lilbourn, Missouri, where, under the auspices of the Congregational Church, For information on admissions & financial aid: they became the first community coordinators on Office ofAdmin·ions and Financial Aid, Harvard Divinity School, 14 Divinity Avenue, the Delma Homes Project for sharecroppers. Mar Cambridge, MA 02138 • (617) 495-5796 garet worked tirelessly garnering donations from http://www.hds.harvard.edu churches and establishing thrift shops to be run by the women of Delmo, demonstrating early that 34 September 2000 FRIENDS JouRNAL ~NDAL-- CROSSLANDS she knew, valued, and fostered the power ofwomen. Then Newell, an economist for the World Coun cil of Churches, accepted a post in one of the CoMMUNITIES poorest districts of Athens, Greece. Here he and Margaret managed to bring about important Named among America's 20 Bes t changes for poor families, including helping many Continuing Care Retirement Greek children obtain educations they would oth Communities. You will be pleasantly erwise have been denied. Because of her back surprised to learn how modestly ground in social work, Margaret was asked ro help inaugurate a school of social work at Pierce College priced our smaller cottages and in Athens, Greece, where she eventually became apartments are. Not-for-profit and president. During her 15 years at Pierce College, Quaker-related. Margaret became an international traveler and re ceived many accolades. She attended the Women's World Conference on Peace in Zambia and the World Day of Prayer in Nairobi. She met Kwame Kgndal atLon~ood Nkrumah, Margaret Mead, and other dignitaries. Crosslands After Newell died in Greece and upon retiring, Continuing Care Margaret returned to California, where she was Retirement Communities active in Orange Grove Meeting and, with her own failing eyesight, at the Los Angeles Lighthouse for the blind. She later moved to Santa Rosa and Coniston became a member of Redwood Forest Meeting, Cartmel serving on committees and helping to build com Retirement Communities munity with her annual Epiphany dinners and her with Residential Services hospitality to all. As it had been throughout her life, preparing delicious food for friends was one of her great joys. Her messages in meeting were not 610-388-7001 frequent but always spirit-inspired. Margaret is P.O. Box 100 • Kgnnett Square, PA 19348 Equal Housing survived by rwo daughters, Joy Bryden and Alex www.kcc.kendal.org Opportunity Thompson, four grandchildren, and five great grandchildren. Welch-Charles Luis Welch, on January 18,2000, in Sutter Creek, Calif., with his wife Mary and family at his side. Born on February 15, 1911, in San Luis Obispo, Calif. , Charles was the son of Emma and Charles E. Welch, who raised him within the Swedenborgian Church in Los Angeles. Olney Friends School Because his father felt that business skills would be most important in his son's life work, Charles A co-educational, college-preparatory, boarding high school with deep Quaker roots. spent only one semester in high school followed by four more years in business college. Later, Nurturing: planning to become an engineer, he began studies at Cal Tech. During this rime Charles met Mary A. Hodges. With a mutual commitment to peace Intellectual curiosity and nonviolence, Charles and Mary sought out Orange Grove Meeting. They were married in 1936. C harles was accepted at medical school, Communication but ill health changed his plans, and he attended graduate school in agricultural studies at U.C. Berkeley, then U.C. Davis, where he earned a Self-confidence degree in Agriculture Education. His first reaching position was at a high school in Blythe, Calif., a Leadership center for troop training. Charles had declared his CO status at the onset of World War II, and emotions ran very high in this desert commu Creativity nity. As a result, Charles was fired &om his teach ing post. By this time Mary and Charles had rwo Integrity children and a third on the way. Even so, the family was forced to move within one day. For a rime, the young family had to be separated: Mary and the children lived with families from Orange Grove Meeting, where Mary soon gave birth to their third child, while Charles and other COs Olney Friends School found employment in Hemet, Calif., where they Barnesville, Ohio 43713 managed and oversaw groups of junior high and high school boys sent from the cities to harvest Telephone: 740-425-3655 sugar beets. During this difficult time, Charles's Admissions@ OlneyFriends.org commitment to peace and service strengthened. John Way of Orange Grove Meeting introduced FRIENDS j OURNAL September 2000 35 Charles and Mary Welch co Ruth and Bob Boyd (the latter was also a CO), after which Charles and Mary and their family moved to the Boyd's WILLIAM PENN CHARTER SCHOOL Est. 1689 land in Tracy, Calif. There they began a commu Over 300 Years of Quaker Education nity chat eventually welcomed several other COs and their families who likewise were misunder The William Penn Charter School is a Quaker college-preparatory school stood and having a difficult time. The little com stressing high standards in academics, the arts, and athletics. Penn Charter munity worked in agricultural jobs and resisted is committed to nurturing girls and boys of diverse backgrounds in an the war effort, and in spite of fear and adversity, atmosphere designed to stimulate each student to work to his or her it grew and its people became very close. Charles fullest potential. Kindergarten through twelfth grade. and Mary and their family lived in this intentional community for 14 years. There was no Friends Earl J. Ball III, Head of School meeting in T racy, but the Welches held worship in their home in the manner of Friends. When 3000 W. School House Lane, Philadelphia, PA 19144 attendance outgrew their tiny quarters, worship (215) 844-3460 was held in the Boyd's home. T he number of children in the community grew until there were as many children as adults. Attempts were made to plan a suitable school for all these young people; eventually about half the community left: and founded the Friends School in Argenta, British Columbia. Those remaining, including the Welches, became close co Delta Meeting, which was forming in Stockton, Calif. Charles began a home gardening business, and Mary became a teacher in French Camp, Calif. Soon Charles began reaching again and worked in Mary's little school. Mary went on to reach children with special needs. Together they caught for 18 years in the valley and the foothills. Charles devoted himself to Delta Meeting for ten years. He and Mary then moved to Sutter Creek, Calif., where they again opened their home for worship, which Providing a continuum ofcare evolved into Amador County Worship Group un in an atmosphere ofhome ... der Delta Meeting. Charles, with Mary, continued to mentor numerous people, holding a special with the spirit ofmutual respect place in h.is heart for young people. One summer and a care setting for lift. the couple worked for AFSC in Linnell, Calif., where they helped children of migrant workers. For eight weeks they coordinated the efforts of 14 idealistic bm inexperienced young adults in bringing early education to the children of farm At Srapeley, each resident enjoys a comfortable, secure environment workers. Under Charles's rendering leadership, Delta Meeting sponsored several retreats in the where newcomers quickly feel at home and long-time residents foothill and valley regions. He served on Amador find new delights every day. County Council fo r Human Rights and Amador County Peace Committee. He taught the young his skills and passion for gardening. Charles 6300 Greene Street Mary Ann Davis considered himself a seeker, never tiring of learn Philadelphia, PA 19 144 ing and exploring the unknown. He viewed Di rector of Admission his own approaching death from this well EQUAL HOUSING www.stapeley.org OPPORTUNITY 2 15-844-0700 ordered perspective, allowing chose closest to him to share his new adventure. He is survived by Mary, his wife of 63 years, and children Laurel Ann Norman, Nancy Rowan, and Dan Welch. He was preceded in death by a daughter, Jeannie Campbell. 2000 G "Quiet Helpers" F exhibit, We publish Milestones that meetings Admission Office Hege Library s and families send us. 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Brochure: Westbury Friends School, 550 Post F REEMAN Phone: 800·707·1920 Communities under development: Avenue, Westbury, NY 11590. (516) 333·3178. ASSOCIATES Fax: 765-855-5278 Kendal at l exington • Lexington, Va. Kendal on Hudson • Sleepy Hollow, N.Y. Sandy Spring Friends School. Five- or seven-day board· Consulting services for educational institutions and Kendal at Granville • Granville, Ohio ing option for grades 9-12. Day school pre-K through 12. nonprofit organizations. Fundraising. Capital campaigns. Independent living with residential services: College preparatory, upper school AP courses. Strong arts Planned giving. Recent clients include liberal arts and academics, visual and performing arts, and team ath Coniston and Cartmel • Kennett Square, Pa. colleges, seminaries, independent schools, social ser· letic programs. Coed. Approximately 480 students. 140- Skilled nursing care; assisted living: vice agencies, Friends Journal, and many other Friends acre campus less than an hour from Washington, D.C., and Barclay Friends • West Chester, Pa. organizations. Baltimore, Md. International programs. Incorporating tradi Advocacy/education programs: tional Quaker values. 16923 Norwood Road, Sandy Spring, Untie the Elderly • Pa. Restraint Reduction Initiative MD 20860. (301) 774-7455, ext. 158. F RIENDS j OURNAL September 2000 39 A Campaign for a New Century We are all creatures, not only born into the sure darkness of death, but also endowed with an unquenchable longing for the light of life. We can all meet in this same light, however varied our lanterns. Dan Wilson Director of Pendle Hill, 1953-70 A Unique Resource in Friends Education A Resource for Monthly Meetings Grounded in Quaker faith and practice, guided Pendle Hill is committed to nurturing and sustaining by continuing revelation, and respected around the monthly meetings. While Pendle Hill is not a Quaker world, Pendle Hill is today, as it has been for nearly seminary or school of theology, it provides the 70 years, a sacred place for Friends to: educational resources and seasoned teachers to help monthly meetings address the challenges facing • meet for worship as the center of daily life their families, their meetings , their communities, • study religious thought and practice, Quaker and the world. studies, peace and social justice, and spirituality in literature and the arts Over 2,000 Come to Pendle Hill Each Year • experience the divine while working with others Pendle Hill offers many programs for Fr iends to in community enrich their skills in such ministries as clerking, • prepare for service to the Religious Society providing pastoral care, facilitating Alternatives to of Friends Violence training, witnessing to Friends' social concerns, and • assist Friends seeking divine guidance in meeting teaching religious education. the challenges of contemporary society Each year over two thousand people sojourn at Pendle Hill or attend our new weeklong courses, our weekend and summer conferences or other programs. Invest in the future Alex Kern If you want to learn how you can make an attends investment, not only in Pendle Hill, but also Young Adults in the future of the Religious Society of Friends Friends, please contact: Conference Richard Barnes Director of Development Pendle Hill 338 Plush Mill Road Wallingford, PA 19086-6099 800.742.3150, ext. 132 E-mail contributions@pendlehill. org www.pendlehill.org