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Online dating can be a great tool for widening your social circle and meeting your potentialvirtually Mr or Ms Right. photos in which you are in a big group nline dating used to or wearing sunglasses, or photos that be a little, well, O you’ve taken using the webcam on assured you on your online profile!” somethingembarrassing to engage — by FAIROZA MANSOR your PC or your laptop as those photos Brett adds. in surreptitiously will make you look bigger than you And while you need not proclaim in private. But now really are,” Violet warns. your negative traits and flaws at this with the prevalent point, Violet advises that you keep presence of social Image consultant Teo Ser Lee also media platforms suggests that you things real. “It is like Facebook and By all means, upload your most AVOID flattering photo, but not one that has good to manage Twitter, the concept POSTING avoid posting photos been so heavily ‘photoshopped’ that it PHOTOS IN WHICH the other person's of online dating has of yourself in does not resemble anything you are, expectations. For gone mainstream. YOU ARE IN A BIG provocative says Violet Lim, CEO and co-founder instance, you can GROUPS OR WEARING poses or those In November of the Lunch Actually Group. Lunch say, ‘I sometimes 2011, it was reported that could Actually also started the online dating SUNGLASSES, OR appear aloof or that more singles be deemed site Eteract.com. PHOTOS THAT YOU’VE stand-offish at are looking for love offensive. TAKEN USING THE first sight, but on the Internet. “You might feel that such a photo “You want could give you an edge in the friends know According to Channel WEBCAM to present beginning, but it might set wrong me as a warm NewsAsia (CNA), a study — Violet Lim, CEO yourself in the expectations from the other and friendly conducted by SDNTrust and co-founderT of the most positive party. When you finally meet person. I just accredited dating agency Lunch Lunch Actually Group light, your date in person, he or need some time Actually which polled 1,895 people in and not she might feel let down, to warm up’,” she Hong Kong, Singapore and Malaysia, give and the date could showed that close to half of the people all suggests. just go downhill respondents have tried online dating. the wrong Alexander’s meet-ups and something more? Here from there,” impressions,” tip is to include a The figure was similar to that are some tips from DUET to get she says. says Ser Lee, statement about of a recent survey commissioned you started. by an online dating service Violet also who conducts courses in etiquette and looking for in a partner,what but you’re to keep advises that you GoBreakTheIce (GBTI). Findings grooming at Protocol Academy. that brief and stick to character Tip pick a photo in released in July showed that almost traits. He adds, “Don’t focus on the # UPLOAD AN which you are half of the 600 Singaporeans (aged Tip interests of the other person, his ATTRACTIVE PHOTO smiling, and that STAND OUT WITH 18 and above) interviewed have tried, or her job or anything like that,” he 1 Supplement your appeal your face can # THE RIGHT WORDS or are considering, meeting their says. “You don’t need to have exactly a photographon of online yourself. sites CEO with be seen clearly. Next, write a top-notch partners online. 2 the same interests to have a great and founder of GBTI, Alexander “Avoid posting profile to maximise your chances of getting messages from relationship. A partner can always Indeed, romance can be just a Wallestam suggests that you upload click away. There are so many online as many photographs of yourself to other members on the website. inspire you to try something new, and dating sites to choose from, and some accompany your online profile. It is In order to do that, Brett Harding, the other way round.” are even free-of-charge. said that online users who upload co-founder of Lovestruck.com suggests that you avoid run-of-the-mill The question is, how do you their photo get 15 times more attention Tip START AND The Oct-Dec issue of DUET was such an entertaining read! ensure that your profile stands out than people who don't. descriptions. “If you describe yourself # SUSTAIN ONLINE from the crowd, and that virtual as someone who likes ‘going out, “Let’s be honest. Photos are the CONVERSATIONS friendships extends to face-to-face hanging out with friends, quite easy- 3 first thing that people look at when they If you come across someone browse through potential candidates,” going but likes to do new things’, then who piques your interest, how should 22 you start a conversation? Oct–Dec 2012 says Alexander, who tested his dating frankly, you sound like everyone I've app in New Zealand before launching it ever met,” he says. “Don’t just send a message with The article “Love Virtually”, which talked about online DUET only a ‘Hi’ or ‘Hello’. Ask questions that in Singapore in June 2012. Violet agrees. “It is really about not being boring, unoriginal and come really matter or are important to you, across just like any other profile,” she but try not to be too intrusive. You will says. “Be authentic and put in some get to know a person more once you thought into telling your life story. start a conversation,” Brett says. dating, is really relevant in today’s social context. Also, Not too much but just enough for the Violet recommends that you do other party to want to get to know not spend too much time talking about you more.” your work. “Chances are, it would In other words, be yourself, but bore the other person to tears as he or

PHOTO: Corbis better. “That means being the best she would not be able to relate to the I enjoyed reading the love story of Brenda and Anthony. I reallyreally possible version of yourself. For technical jargon that might be specific example, present the well-dressed, to the nature of your job,” she says. funny, intelligent, warm and self- You can focus on your hobbies and interests, and if you are a family relate to their message about how we have to go beyond fi rst impressions oriented person, it is okay to talk DUET Oct–Dec 2012 23 in order to really get to know someone. Finally, thanks for including the article “The World on a Plate”! I will defi nitely be checking out a few of the restaurants featured, which means my diet can wait! I’m always happy when I receive a Natassia Soh copy of DUET in my letter box. Every issue is full of interesting reads. My Congratulations Natassia. You’ve won yourself $50 worth of favourite section of the magazine Takashimaya vouchers and a limited-edition SDN’s fi rst day cover has to be It’s A Match. These stories and weighing scale. are always very encouraging — amatch Chen Qianhui it’s 29, CIVIL TRUE STORIES TO INSPIRE our anniversary, sure. I wouldn’t mind SERVANT (laughs). But seriously, as long as she treating him to a nice dinner or giving I particularly spends proportionately to what she him presents. chat : I believe in splurging saves, it’s okay. Everyone has their Amanda LAWS OF ATTRACTION own likes and interests, and as her occasionally on my loved one. partner, I need to respect that. Sometimes you need to spend money Gareth: Maybe I will follow her to surprise your partner, in order to every time she shops and make keep the romance going. comments to stop her from buying! Wei Bin: I’m a ‘surprise specialist’ so Dear DUET, your article enjoyed reading Qianhui: I think she’ll just go of course I believe in splurging on my Dollars and shopping without you the next time! partner. At most, I’d just throw away sense (laughs) the receipt after the purchase so I rowing Yes, we know that money makes the world go around. But how wouldn’t feel the pain. G Do you believe in splurging on your Gareth: Yes, but only for special in love much does it affect romance? Singlesby FAIROZAshare MANSORtheir thoughts on partner every now and then to occasions. If you splurge on your “5 Steps to a New about the real- the money factor in a relationship. show your affection? partner all the time, she would stop Lim Wei Bin Qianhui: For special occasions like appreciating the gestures. 26, RECENT money, no romance! It’s my partner’s birthday, Christmas and Anthony Oh’s caring nature GRADUATE Ladies, would you date someone especially so in Singapore, and patience convinced who earns less than you? with our high cost of living. Qianhui: I wouldn’t mind for now, Beginning” couldn’t have Brenda Tan that he was the life love story but he must be career-driven and is Would you date someone who man she should marry. at least trying to build a better life for has a different take on money? himself. He has to be ambitious and Amanda: I am quite thrifty, but by EVELYN MAK want to improve his financial status. I don’t mind dating someone Amanda: I have exactly the same who is more ‘free’ with money. sentiment. It’s okay for me if I can However, I will keep tabs and see that he has goals and is working remind him to be careful about come at a better time. I of Brenda and hey say that 10 minutes is towards achieving them. his spending. Wei Bin: I’ve become more all you need to make a good And gentlemen, would you frugal as I get older. I’ve come to impression. However, this was date someone who earns more realise the importance of savings. T than you? I don’t mind if my girlfriend has a not the case for 31-year-old Anthony Gareth: Of course, why not? (laughs) different take on money but I will recently found myself at a Oh when he first met his wife-to-be, Anthony in the Amanda Seriously though, for me, as long as advise her not to go overboard and Brenda Tan. we can manage our finances, it doesn’t to save a portion of her income. Gareth Huang matter who earns more. Gareth: I’m not a spendthrift but Chang 30, PERSONAL The pair initially encountered 30, IT ASSISTANT Wei Bin: Sure. I think that it would I’m quite easy-going. My partner each other at the Connect Us Party motivate me to work even harder so CONSULTANT can spend on what she wants as co-organised by SAFRA and SDN in that I can be equal to her financially. long as she has enough to support crossroads after a breakup Oct-Dec issue. This will make her feel secure to be her spending. December last year. Incidentally, it with me. was Anthony’s first SDN event, and What would you do if you wish as Brenda recalls, it wasn’t exactly How important is your partner’s that your partner would save financial stability to you and more? If you believe in spending, the stuff of fairytale romances. “My your relationship? how would you reason with your first impression of Anthony was not Amanda: It’s very important to me. DennisDenni Lee frugal partner? and the article provided I feel that my partner and I should Qianhui: I’d tell him that it’s good to great. He seemed like a sweet talker, agree on our financial goals and be frugal, but life is short. Save some and he had a cheeky expression! attitudes in terms of spending and and spend some so you can enjoy life When we exchanged numbers, I had saving. A couple should be on the a little. same page so that they won’t quarrel Amanda: I would remind him that we no expectations that he would follow

over contradictory spending are going to build a future together. Corbis Chia, Kelvin PHOTO: me with excellent advice on up since he was chatting up so many habits later. Hence, we will need certain amount other women at the party.” Qianhui: It is definitely an important of money for our wedding or even the However, Anthony’s first component in a relationship because I downpayment for our flat. know each : If she’s a shopaholic who is want to start a family. So, it would be Wei Bin impression of Brenda, a 34-year-old we could talk and get to knowe no each oththeherheh erer ideal if my partner is financially stable. crazy about shoes for instance, I will 29 e wer DUET Oct–Dec 2012 administrative executive, could not a last-minute arrangement. Anthony other better since there were no other The reality is, love alone cannot remind her that she is not a caterpillar s. howh to slowly move out of have been more different. “I was very sent me an SMS and asked if I wanted distractions,” she says. sustain a relationship. — she doesn’t need that many pairs! Wei Bin: Not to be crude, but no attracted to Brenda’s eyes — I found to grab a bite, and I agreed.” The nature of the date was just P them mesmerising,” says Anthony, who THE NEXT STEP y and DUET e, Anthon 28 Oct–Dec 2012 works as an engineer. as unexpected for Anthony. “I had After that first date, Anthony and nce a week for imagined that our first date would be at Brenda met up once a week for my comfort zone and meet uring that timeti HUMBLE BEGINNINGS a restaurant, where it would be quieter. about two months. During that bbouttime Just two hours after the party, Anthony But eating at a coffeeshop in Toa Payoh however, Brenda was unsure about got in touch with Brenda. “He started made me think that Brenda was very pursuing a serious relationship with texting while he was out singing down-to-earth,” Anthony says. Anthony mainly because of the initial I love each and every issue of DUET! new friends. For that, I have karaoke with his friends!” says Brenda. Brenda also appreciated the impression she had of him. They had their first date a couple casual setting of the first date. “I felt “I was a little prejudiced because of days later. Brenda recalls that it was very comfortable. At the coffeeshop, The magazine offers singles a wealth to thank you! Overall, the just a simple dinner after work. “It was I just wanted DUET 30 Oct–Dec 2012 of relationship advice and ideas Oct-Dec issue was a really fun to say that for expanding one’s social circle. I read. I appreciate that the Out the Oct-Dec issue of DUET captured particularly liked the focus on Internet & About section featured interesting my immediate attention with the dating in the Oct-Dec issue. In this and affordable dining places for my article “The World on a Plate”. I day and age, the Internet is one of friends and I to try out. The activities never expected to fi nd delicious and the main modes of social interaction suggested in the Events pages also affordable food from Nepal, Myanmar and it is good to be informed of proved helpful in providing me with and Iran in our Little Red Dot. After how we can fully — and sensibly ideas on how I can meet new friends. reading the recommendations, my — make use of it. I would also like Thanks DUET, keep up the good work! friends and I tried two of the restaurants to commend the editorial team for Saw Lip Chien and we were not disappointed! the balanced treatment in writing Wong Wai Keong about fi nding the right partner. The Chat topic “Dollars and Sense”” is a good example. I always believeve We want to hear from you! that love, marriage and successful relationships are In less than 100 words, tell us what you think of this not just based on romance DUET issue. The best letter will get $50 worth and courtship — the practical of Takashimaya vouchers and a portable details matter too. weighing scale. Chan May Li Email us at [email protected], together with your name, NRIC, contact number and address before 31 January 2013 (Subject: DUET letters).

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1 DUET Jan-Mar Letters v4.indd 1 12/11/12 7:39 PM contents JAN–MAR 2013 4 32 YOUR SAY IT’S A MATCH Do friends make For Joanne Ng and good romantic partners? Lim Chiew Seng, it was rollerblading lessons that set the wheels in motion for rromance.

TRAVEL Volunteer for a good cause while exploring 10 a new destination. 12 HIS+HERS 6 GiftsGi for every personality. OUT & ABOUT Ideas for a great night out with your pals. 13 PERSONALITY Actress Felicia Chin shares some anecdotes about her dating life. 22 34 GETTING TO KNOW BOOKS Tips on taking your How illustrated books have 16 friendship to the next level. taught this eligible duo important life lessons. REVAMP Have a makeover wish? Let our experts help you. 25 DISCOVER 35 Impress your date with home- PERSONALS 20 made chocolate truffl es. Get to know other SDN members by checking out 9 BUZZ their profi les. EMBARK Customised crossword Artistically inclined? puzzles, heart-shaped maps 26 Here’s where to meet and other unusual gestures RELATIONSHIP fellow creative types. of affection. Signs that you and your 36 partner may be too wrapped ASK THE EXPERT up in each other. Tips from Dr Love on Want to get a FREE handling matters of the heart. copy of DUET? 29 QUIZ 38 Simply register at www.sdn.sg Think you are too attached EVENTS This privilege is for singles aged 20 years old to your partner? Take this Your guide to the latest and above (Singapore Citizens and Permanent quiz to fi nd out. events on the dating scene. Residents only). Terms and conditions apply. COVER PHOTO: Steve Zhu ART DIRECTION: Augustine Tan and Isabelle 30 Yeoh FASHION STYLIST: Verna Tan assisted by Samuel Wong MAKE-UP and HAIR: Manisa Tan and Xiao Xiao MODELS: On Caelen: Checkered shirt, CHAT skinny jeans and printed T-shirt, all from New Look. On Fritzie: Cardigan, Just how important are blouse, skirt with butterfl ies print and necklace, all from Springfi eld. Sling bag from Billabong On Liz: Floral dress and necklace, all from Springfi eld. presents in a relationship? On Daniel: Shirt, striped T-shirt, khaki chino pants and straw hat, all from Springfi eld. LOCATION: Changi Point Boardwalk

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EDITORIAL ADVISORS t’s that time of the year again where taking the fi rst step to fi nding your SDN you can sense romance in the air. soulmate! Indeed, taking part in a new Why not join us in our Dating Fest activity is just how this issue’s success Head I Marcus Ngiow (outside back cover) and strike up new couple Joanne Ng and Lim Chiew Seng friendships? Alternatively, you can met. Check out how their friendship Assistant Director Corinne Tan spend Valentine’s Day in the company blossomed into love on p32. of good friends. In this issue of DUET, Maintaining a certain degree of Marketing Communications Team April Tan, Jean Chua, Melvin Lee, we celebrate friendship and explore independence from your partner can Seow Hwee Min how being friends fi rst can build a actually strengthen the bond between solid foundation for romance. the two of you. Having breathing space German philosopher Friedrich is essential in a healthy relationship, EDITORIAL Nietzsche once said, and being in love doesn’t MEDIACORP PTE LTD “It is not a lack of love, mean that you should but a lack of friendship shut yourself from the Senior Editor “IT IS NOT A Agatha Koh Brazil that makes unhappy outside world. Find out LACK OF LOVE, marriages.” So, is being if you are too wrapped Supervising Editor BUT A LACK OF Ronald Rajan pals fi rst a must for a up in your relationship FRIENDSHIP THAT successful relationship? on p26. Editor MAKES UNHAPPY Amir Ali Turn to p4 to fi nd out In this issue of MARRIAGES.” Associate Creative Director where some singles DUET, we also give you Augustine Tan stand on this. And if you and your friends ideas Assistant Editor are thinking of taking on where to go for a Jolene Limuco your friendship with a close buddy good meal (p6). And if you would Writers to the next level, read the feature on like to show your friends how much Fairoza Mansor, Gene Khor p22 on how you should approach this you appreciate them on Valentine’s Senior Designer delicate subject. Day, we’ve got gift ideas for every Isabelle Yeoh Looking to widen your social personality, from the music lover to the Chief Photographer circle? Whether you like to meet foodie (p12). As 2013 dawns upon us, Steve Zhu creative types (p9) or fellow book I would like to wish you a happy and Photographer lovers (p34), we have plenty of eventful year ahead! Chee Yan suggestions. In addition, our three- Contributors month events listings offer you Elaine Ng, Elisabeth Lee, Evelyn Mak, plenty of opportunities to get outout Melody Tan, Neo Aik Sing, there and make new connectionsns Nirmala Sivanathan (p38). Who knows, you could be Senior Business Relationship Manager Michele Kho

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Is it important to be friends ﬁ rst before a couple embarks on a relationship? Singles share their views. by JOLENE LIMUCO and GENE KHOR Of love and friendship

Fritzie Dy A recent graduate from the National University of Singapore, Fritzie 24, RECENT GRADUATE joined the university cheerleading “It’s good to be friends ﬁ rst team because it combined her two because the both of you would favourite activities — dancing and have already developed a strong sports. Other than taking part in bond and are familiar with each sporting activities such as running other. But on the other hand, it and swimming, the bubbly and is not necessary as relationships chatty Fritzie spends her free time catching up with friends over coffee. are also about the process of If you are wondering about her discovery, so if you get together unusual name, Fritzie says that it is with someone you don’t know well, of German origin. She was born in it can be exciting as you uncover Manila, the Philippines, and moved his or her ‘mysteries’.” to SinSingaporegapore whwhenen she wawass1 1515.5.

Caelen Lin 26, FOREIGN EXCHANGE TRADING ASSISTANT “It depends on the couple. Personally, as long as a lady is compatible with me, we can build a relationship from there and we don’t have to be friends ﬁ rst. That said, being friends ﬁ rst does have its advantages as it would allow us to be comfortable with each other.”

Juliana Ong Caelen describes himself as the 29, EVENTS EMCEE AND ACTRESS adventurous and curious type. Last year, “Yes! Friendship is the basic he took up an Open Water Scuba Diving requirement course in Pulau Tioman, Malaysia, because for any he wanted to observe marine life up close. relationship. Given his appetite for new experiences, When you’re Caelen is also currently studying Korean friends ﬁ rst, at the Singapore International Korean you’ll learn School. “I did an exchange programme how to love in South Korea during my ﬁ nal year at and be there university and I learnt a lot about Korean for each other.” culture,” he explains.

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4-5 DUET Your Say friendship v2.indd 4 12/11/12 7:44 PM Daniel Wong Down-to-earth, easygoing and cheerful, Daniel workskks 34, EVENTS PLANNER as an events planner at a community club. He has “It’s defi nitely better organised large-scale events such as the islandwidee to be friends fi rst Singing Festival held in November last year. Daniel before becoming used to work at a bank but decided to become an partners. You will events planner because the job allows him to interactacct understand each with people from all walks of life. Outside of work, tthehe other better and be elder of two siblings likes to play badminton with hihisiis more open with buddies. He also enjoys watching movies, especiallyy your feelings.” action fl icks and thrillers.

Jamillie Chia 32, MEDIA MANAGER “No it isn’t important to be friends ﬁ rst. In fact it mightt Shaun Ong be difﬁ cult to convert from 32, ASSISTANT being friends to being a couple,uple, OPERATIONS especially if they have beenn MANAGER friends for quite someme “Being friends time. The couplee mimightght beforehand enables a couple be too familiar oor to go through the journey of comfortable wiwithith discovery together. However, if each other andd as both parties are mature and can a consequence,e,, be tolerant of each other’s faults, take each otherr I don’t see why they can’t dive for granted.”” right into a relationship.”

Liz Lee 28, ENGINEER “Being friends fi rst means that you have a strong foundation of trust. You would have had the chance to get to know the ‘real’ person and not have to fi gure if somebody is Faizalaal FadFadilil just putting on a front to come 29, AIRCRAFT across as more attractive.” MAINTENANCE ENGINEER “I feel more comfortable being friends fi rst. It can be very unpredictable if you decide to A homebody, Liz likes to spend her free go straight into a relationship, time catching up on Korean dramas. “Most though some people might fi nd people who meet me for the fi rst time think I’m shy or unfriendly,” she says. “But once this exciting. But I personally they get to know me, they usually fi nd that feel it’s more important to build I can be warm and chatty.” Liz's idea of a a strong foundation fi rst.” perfect weekend is swimming or jogging in the morning followed by a date with friends for coffee or a meal. Liz also enjoys travelling. Her favourite city is Bangkok, and she has visited the city twice. She says that her next destination is South Korea. “It is partly due to my fascination with Korean dramas,” she admits. “But I want to go there mainly because of the shopping.” MAIN PHOTOS: Steve Zhu

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4-5 DUET Your Say friendship v2.indd 5 12/11/12 7:44 PM out&about HAPPENINGS AROUND TOWN The more the merrier Nothing beats bonding over a good meal with friends for a great night out. DUET presents some dining options that are ideal for group gatherings. by ELAINE NG

MEAT AND GREET Looking to satisfy the appetites of your meat-loving pals? Brazil Churrasco at Sixth Avenue is the place for you. Bathed in warm hues, courtesy of the mood lighting, this cosy establishment lets you pig out with your friends on a wide variety of South American- style fare. Whet your appetite with a scrumptious bowl of soup and a basket of freshly-baked cheese bread before embarking on the extensive menu of 14 grilled meats. Hot favourites that are ideal for sharing include home-made pork sausages accompanied by a spicy-sweet mustard sauce, fresh barbecued ﬁ sh, tender lamb shoulders as well as juicy caramelised BRAZIL CHURRASCO pineapples — the last being a delicious way to 16 Sixth Avenue, cleanse your palate before tackling the next dish. Singapore 276476 When it is time to give that stuffed stomach of Tel: 6463 1923 yours a break, kick back and drink to your heart's Operating hours: Grilled 6pm – 10.30pm daily content with a caipirinha — sometimes referred to beef is sliced www.brazilchurrasco.com as Brazil’s national cocktail. right off the skewer at your table at Brazil Churrasco

MIX AND MATCH Those of you with small appetites will appreciate the Coffee Lounge’s Design Your Own Local Degustation Menu where you can mix and match four to ﬁ ve tasting portions of your favourite local dishes. At the Coffee Lounge, housed within the Goodwood Park Hotel, a gazetted national monument, you can choose from a menu of Chinese, Malay, Indian and Peranakan COFFEE LOUNGE signatures which include favourites Goodwood Park Hotel such as Hainanese pork chops and pork 22 Scotts Road, rib soup (bak kut teh) among many Singapore 228221 Tel: 6730 1746 others. Even better, get everyone at your The Degustation Operating hours: table to pick different items so that you Menu at Coffee 6am – 10.30pm daily can all get to sample a bit of everything! Lounge includes www.goodwoodparkhotel.com a dessert buffet 6 Jan–Mar 2013 DUET

6-8- DUET JanMar13 Out & About v1.indd 6 12/11/12 7:45 PM THE CORNERSTONE Bishan Park II, 1380 Ang Mo Kio Avenue 1, Singapore 569930 Tel: 6554 7230 Operating hours: Tue – Sun: 12pm – 10.30pm (closed on Mon) www.facebook.com/ cornerstonebythepark

GARDEN VARIETIES park? The recently refurbished green If your party includes pet lovers or space features a 2.7km-long man- football fans, The Cornerstone is made river that runs through it. After a great place for an informal gathering. a walk on the gentle slopes that ﬂ ank The restaurant is nestled amid the lush the river, tuck into dishes that are greenery of Bishan-Ang Mo Kio Park perfect for sharing. These include and has a designated outdoor area for savoury sausage platters, tender grilled pets. Live football matches are also Hokkaido squids and mussels in cream aired at this 160-seat establishment. sauce. Popular among regulars too are Grilled But before you settle into your the slow-cooked St Nicholas boneless squid at The Cornerstone seats, why not work up an appetite beef short ribs and buffalo wings that by walking around the 62-hectare come in 10 levels of spiciness.

CATCH UP AND CHILL OUT Settle into a plush sofa or perch on a bar stool as you chat in the cosy vintage-themed interior of The The Coastal Coastal Settlement. Other than Settlement's prosciutto and catching up with your friends at this rocket leaves casual eatery, you also get to peruse pizza antique collectibles — such as 1950s radios, discarded window shutters and even a collection of antique Vespa motorcycles — that fi ll the space of what was once an army barracks. Food-wise, your party will be spoilt for choice with the range of local and western dishes offered. Take After your meal, linger at this your pick from crayfi sh laksa, classic spacious restaurant over drinks. The chicken curry served with bread, extensive beverage menu includes prawn aglio olio and prosciutto and artisanal coffees, boutique beers, THE COASTAL SETTLEMENT rocket leaves pizza — just to name a smoothies, juices, tea and more. Those 200 Netheravon Road, few. Breakfast afi cionados can also who enjoy retail therapy can even Singapore 508529 order all-day breakfasts such as Eggs take home the vintage collectibles on Tel: 6475 0200 Operating hours: Benedict, a full English fry-up called display here, from rare vinyl records Tue – Sun: 10.30am – 12am The Settlement Brunch and cream and rotary dial telephones to some of (closed on Mon) cheese and salmon bagel. the actual furniture in use. www.thecoastalsettlement.com

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6-8- DUET JanMar13 Out & About v1.indd 7 12/11/12 7:45 PM out&about HAPPENINGS AROUND TOWN

Round up your friends and head to these exciting events taking Pencil them in! place around town. BLOC PARTY RAINIE YANG LOVE VOYAGE LIVE IN If you are a fan of Mandopop and/or Taiwanese SINGAPORE television serials, you wouldn’t want to miss Rainie Indie-rock band Bloc Party Yang’s concert in Singapore. The actress and singer performs for the ﬁ rst time will perform songs from her seven albums, including in Singapore. The UK band hits such as ‘Ideal Lover’, ‘Celebrate’ and ‘My Other is set to excite music lovers Self’, so be prepared for an exciting night of with hits such as ‘I Still dance-worthy pop songs and heartfelt ballads. Remember’, ‘Helicopter’ and ‘Hunting for Witches’. Date: 12 Jan 2013 Time: 7.30pm Date: 18 Mar 2013 Venue: The MAX Pavilion @ Singapore Expo Time: 8pm Admission: Tickets priced at $158*, $128*, $108* and Venue: Fort Canning Green $78* through SISTIC. Admission: Tickets at $115* through SISTIC, $135 (event day at venue)

THE CRUCIBLE The classic Arthur Miller play takes to the stage in the form of a modern-day interpretation. Other than a gripping storyline about witch-hunts, this production promises to be a visual spectacle with dramatic backdrops and colourful costumes. Date: 7 – 23 Feb 2013 Time: Tue, Thu & Sun 4pm & 8pm; Sat 3pm & 8pm; Wed & Fri 8pm Venue: Drama Centre Theatre Admission: Tickets priced at $42*, $52*, $62* through SISTIC.

COPPÉLIA Be mesmerised by this LANEWAY charming and lighthearted FESTIVAL ballet performance about a If you are a fan of village youth who becomes indie rock, pop infatuated with a life-sized and folk music, puppet — not knowing that you wouldn’t want she is just a doll. to miss out on M1 FRINGE Date: 14 – 17 Mar 2013 the St Jerome’s FESTIVAL: Time: Thu & Fri 8pm; Sat 1pm Laneway Festival HARU & MINA & 8pm; Sun 1pm & 7pm — the third year Venue: Esplanade Theatre If you and your pals are it is being held on Admission: Tickets priced our sunny shores. This year, the music fest takes photography buffs, then this at $30*, $50*, $75*, $90* place at The Meadow at Gardens By The Bay, so you exhibition by Osaka-based through SISTIC. lensman Hideaki Hamada is can look forward to rocking out to the tunes of 14 for you. In this exhibition, music acts including Norwegian folk-pop duo Kings Hamada uses his camera to of Convenience and Icelandic seven-piece band Of document a journey of his Monsters and Men against a scenic backdrop. children growing up. Date: 26 Jan 2013 Date: 16 – 27 Jan 2013 Time: 12pm – 12am Time: 10am – 10pm Venue: The Meadow at Gardens By The Bay Venue: ION Art Gallery, Level Admission: Tickets priced at $145* through SISTIC, 4, ION Orchard $160 (event day at venue) Admission: Free (*excludes SISTIC fee) PHOTOS: UnUsUaL Entertainment, Toy Factory, St Jerome's Laneway Festival, Hideaki Hamada, Singapore Dance Theatre Dance Theatre Laneway Festival, Hideaki Hamada, Singapore St Jerome's Factory, PHOTOS: UnUsUaL Entertainment, Toy

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6-8- DUET JanMar13 Out & About v1.indd 8 12/11/12 7:45 PM embark GAIN A FRESH PERSPECTIVE

Creative individuals now have more means to connect with like-minded people, as these Art beats two singles have found out. by GENE KHOR Alvin Mark Tan 36, GRAPHIC DESIGNER

Two years ago, Alvin read a “sketch walks”, are organised for newspaper article about Urban members and the public to get together Sketchers, a network of artists from and walk the streets of Singapore around the world who upload their to draw the scenes they observe. drawings of city landscapes on the Past outings have taken the Urban www.urbansketchers.org website. Sketchers and their pals to spots like As someone who loves sketching, Holland Village and Kampong Glam. he promptly went online to ﬁ nd out Alvin says that after the walks, more and came across a Facebook the group typically heads for a meal page set up by the group’s Singapore or a cup of coffee to compare their chapter. Here, members post works and exchange tips. As for what drawings of Singapore’s cityscapes, he has gained from being a member as well as scenes from cities around of the group, Alvin says, “I feel that the world. Thus I’ve improved my skills after getting to inspired, Alvin joined know so many different artists. More the almost-2,000-strong importantly, being a part of this group Facebook group immediately. has allowed me to meet more people The group doesn’t just interact who share the same passion.” online.onlin Monthly outings, called

CharleneC Shepherdson hobby, so poetry slam is something 28, CREATIVE WRITING INSTRUCTOR that marries both my passions.” Poetry slams are held at Blu Jaz Poetry slams are like poetry recitals, Café every last Thursday of the month but with a competitive edge. More than and are open to anyone to watch or simply reading their poems off a piece perform. “People from all backgrounds of paper, participants also act them out, come here to watch and perform,” moving their bodies and gesticulating to Charlene says. “I consider many of complement their pieces. Charlene has them friends now. We also meet for been watching poetry slams at Blu Jaz coffee or movies or just to discuss Café in Kampong Glam since February and write poetry. I feel comfortable 2011, but it was only in May last year showing them the fi rst drafts of new that she decided to participate in one. poems I’ve written. These can be very At the sessions, participants are given personal, so I don’t normally show three minutes to perform, with points them to just anyone.” based on content and delivery awarded by a panel of fi ve judges. “My fi rst performance wasn’t a ARTISTIC OUTLETS CHECK OUT THE ADDRESSES BELOW planned one,” recalls Charlene. “A poet TO SEE HOW YOU CAN BE A PART OF SINGAPORE’S ART SCENE. slated to perform wasn’t available, so Urban Sketchers Singapore A network of artists who share their sketches online. one of the organisers convinced me to facebook.com/groups/USKSG go up instead. I have a background in Blu Jaz Café Hosts poetry slams every last Thursday of the month. www.blujaz.net theatre and enjoy writing poetry as a

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9-DUET Embark-v2.indd 9 12/11/12 7:45 PM LET'S GET AWAY

For a wild time!

If you and your friends are animal lovers and are open to travelling for a good cause, why not consider one of these volunteering holidays that let you get up close with fascinating wildlife? by ELISABETH LEE

TURTLE RESCUE The Perhentian Islands along the east coast of Malaysia are as close to an earthly paradise as you can get, with white beaches fringed by clear, turquoise waters that are home to a diverse array of marine life. The islands are also a turtle paradise, with Hawksbill, Leatherback, Olive Ridley and Green turtles all calling the Perhentian Islands home. Yet, due to destruction of their habitat and overﬁ shing, nesting numbers have been on the decline, and currently only about one in 10,000 hatchlings survive to adulthood. BUBBLES DIVE RESORT Help stop the decline in turtle populations by The 3D2N Intro To participating in Bubbles Dive Resort’s Turtle and Conservation package Reef Conservation Project. With programmes that starts at RM540 (about S$215) per person, range between three days to four weeks, volunteers including meals and can work on their tans while they help release accommodation. Longer hatchlings back into the sea, replant corals and packages start at RM1,360 collect data for marine research projects. Relax at per person, including accomodation and some the end of the day with a cold beverage and enjoy the meals. www.bubblesdc.com warm fuzzy feeling of having made a difference.

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10-11 DUET JanMar13 travel v2.indd 10 12/11/12 7:46 PM HELP THE ORPHAN ORANGUTANS Sandakan in Sabah, East Malaysia is home to the world-famous Sepilok Orang Utan Rehabilitation Centre, set amid 4,300 hectares of lush protected rainforest. Administered by the Wildlife Department of Sabah, the centre not only cares for orphaned baby orangutans, but also funds research and conservation activities in the area. There are plenty of options here for ‘voluntourists’ — those who volunteer and tour at the same time. Sepilok Tropical Wildlife Adventure works SEPILOK ORANG UTAN together with the Sepilok Jungle Resort to organise REHABILITATION CENTRE a 3D2N tour that takes you to the Sepilok Orang Packages start at RM155 (about S$62) per Utan Rehabilitation Centre and also includes treks person for a half-day tour; the 3D2N tour and cave expeditions. If you have less time, you can package costs RM1,780 for two people including accommodation and most meals. opt for the half-day tour to the rehabilitation centre www.stwadventure.com where you can feed the orangutans.

GET ECOLOGICAL WITH ELEPHANTS

BEAR PHOTO: Personal Overseas Development ORANG UTAN PHOTO: BEAR PHOTO: Personal Overseas Development ORANG UTAN OTHER PHOTOS: Corbis Sepilok Orang Utan Rehabilitation Centre As Sri Lanka continues to develop and undergo urban expansion, the natural habitats BE BEAR AWARE of its indigenous animals If you love to get close to big furry are increasingly coming creatures, consider spending a week or under threat. Animal welfare two at a bear rescue shelter in Phnom and wildlife conservation Penh, Cambodia. Bears in Southeast organisation The Great Asia are under threat from poachers, as Projects seeks to promote their gallbladders are used in Traditional sustainable rural development Chinese Medicine. while developing strategies to Non-proﬁ t organisation Personal help conserve the populations Overseas Development provides of elephants, leopards and other volunteers with opportunities to work with wildlife in the central provinces a bear rescue shelter in Phnom Penh that of Sri Lanka. cares for more than 150 rescued bears, Volunteering with The Great including endangered Malayan Sun Bears Elephant Project provides a and Asiatic Black Bears. Volunteers help great opportunity to interact feed bears and maintain the enclosures. and observe elephants in their natural habitat at the Wasgamuwa National Park THE GREAT PROJECTS in central Sri Lanka. You will also get A two-week volunteer PERSONAL OVERSEAS DEVELOPMENT to experience the country’s rich natural programme costs US$2,185 A two-week volunteer programme costs US$940 (about S$2,672) per person landscape, from tropical rainforests to dry (about S$1,150) per person and includes land and includes land transfers, transfers, training, accommodation, transport grasslands, while contributing to research accommodation and meals. and two meals a day. www.podvolunteer.org and conservation in a meaningful way. www.thegreatprojects.com

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10-11 DUET JanMar13 travel v2.indd 11 12/11/12 7:46 PM his+hers PRETTY GIFTS FOR YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONE

Show your pals how well you know them this Valentine’s Day with gifts that are in tune with your friends their personalities. by FAIROZA MANSOR

1 FOR THE FOODIE Macarons, $2.50−$2.80 each, Antoinette 1 There is a ﬂ avour for each of his or her moods, like chocolate earl grey with raspberry and citrus yoghurt cream with yuzu.

2 FOR THE SAVVY TECHIE iPad Sleeve, $49.90, kikki.K With a bold printed canvas body and tan leather ﬂ ap, this iPad sleeve will , 9 Yong Siak Street brighten your friend’s day. 2

3 FOR THE MUSIC MAVEN Plug-Me-In Headphones, $24.90, Typo This pair of headphones is not just an audio device — it’s a fashion accessory bound to turn heads! , Wisma Atria #B1-54/61; BooksActually 3 4 FOR THE PHOTO BUFF Happy Snaps Camera, $24.95, Typo This made-for-travel disposable ﬁ lm camera creates quaint snapshots overlaid 4 with vintage-looking borders. , ION Orchard #B2-44/46; Typo

5 FOR THE JETSETTER Travel Wallet, $49.90, kikki.K 5 This canvas wallet has pockets to hold a passport, cards and cash — perfect for your buddy who has caught the travel bug!

6 , Mandarin Gallery #02-33/34; kikki.K FOR THE BEAUTY QUEEN The Secret of Chanel No. 5 by Tilar J. Mazzeo, $29.80, 6

BooksActually Antoinette Get the scoop behind this iconic perfume, its history and the enigmatic woman behind it, Coco Chanel. Where to get them: get to Where

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12 DUET his+hers v2.indd 12 12/11/12 7:47 PM personality NOTES ON LOVE

According to actress Felicia Chin, 28, it’s always good to keep an open mind when looking for love — you never know when Embrace or where you will meet your soul mate. the possibilities

What qualities do you look for in activities you enjoy. And most of where a man confesses his love for his a partner? the time, these are people you are best friend’s girlfriend — it made me I’m attracted to men who are probably more comfortable with. cry and smile at the same time. passionate about the things they do. That said, you might just meet And if a guy is sincere and kind- someone special when you least What’s the best relationship advice hearted, that would be a plus too. expect it. You never know! My advice you have received? is to always keep an open mind. Someone once told me, “Find someone What is your position on women who makes you a better person”. making the fi rst move on guys? What’s your favourite romantic Have you ever done it? movie or television show? What is your recipe for the perfect I think it takes guts and confi dence to I really enjoyed the movie Love relationship? do this. I’m perfectly fi ne with it and Actually. I enjoyed watching how all I believe in honesty and a ‘give yes, I did in fact make the fi rst move the different romantic scenarios played and take’ attitude. The key is good once. It was a spur-of-the-moment out. I was most touched by the scene communication. thing though. I did it because my heart skipped a beat whenever I saw him or heard him speak. I just went up to him and said ‘hi’.

What kind of guy catches your eye? I like men who have a quiet charm about them, as well as those who are able to make me laugh.

What is the craziest thing you have done for love? This was a spontaneous move I did with an ex. I kissed him in my car while waiting for the light to turn green. Admittedly it’s not the craziest of things but it is nonetheless a special memory.

On the other hand, what is the craziest thing someone has done for you? An ex-boyfriend surprised me when I was overseas to be with me on my birthday.

What is your advice to singles who, like you, also have busy schedules but would like to ﬁ nd the time to date? I always believe that you get to meet like-minded people by engaging in

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13 DUET JanMar13 Personality v2.indd 13 12/11/12 7:47 PM 16-17 REVAMP femalev2.indd 16 chilling outbythebeach. where sheandherfriendswillcyclespendtheday She alsoplansgroup outingstoEastCoastPark, side with a lacy number that is in fashion now. fashion in is that number alacy with side out herfeminine bring how to shows Sabrina DUET HER MAKEOVERWISH with balletfl comfortable, looseblousesandpantswhichshepairs work wear. Onweekdays,she’s usuallydressed in site visits,Sabrinaprefers fuss-free andfunctional As herjobrequires hertobeoutandaboutfor 28, URBANPLANNER Sabrina Yip SMASHING NEW LOOKS A touch of fi that brightensuphersmileistheperfect a sleekandpolishedlook.Ared lipstick curly hairhasbeenstraightenedtogiveher Sabrina’s slim,1.58mframe.Sabrina’s naturally the silhouetteofdress adds‘volume’to alluring touchtothepleateddress. Inaddition, bodice, thelacedetailingaddsafeminineand trend. Usedasanaccent,especiallyonthe The lacedetailingonSabrina'sdress isacurrent Details are thekeytomakinganoutfi HER NEWLOOK but Iwouldliketobemore fashionable.” because it’s theeasiesttomatchwithothercolours, "calm andorganised" lady. "Iliketowearblack I wearare 'safe’andboring,”saystheself-described “My friendsandfamilyhavetoldmethattheclothes Sabrina wantstodress inacasualyetstylishmanner. nishingtouch. Off-duty, Sabrinalikestogoforwalksinthepark. ats. tstandout. E legance

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Photos: Chee Yan Styling: Verna Tan Make-up & Hair: Gigi Sng. Sabrina's lace dress with gold studded skinny belt from bYSI, black leather Boston style handbag from Charles & Keith, necklace from G2000, heels with gold glitter from New Look. Polished Chic and Polished With Valentine's Day round the corner, there's no better time to play up your feminine side. by JOLENE LIMUCO

5 1 Vintage Muse EDT 50ml from Kate Moss, $50

2 4 Ring rouge from Anna Sui, $26

3 Black sunglasses from Charles & Keith, $45.90

6 4 Leather and lace skinny belt from bYSI, price unavailable

5 Lace dress from Vivi (Jurong Point), $69.90

6 7 Black lace clutch bag from NewLook, $49.90

7 Tipbox Black crystal bracelet from NewLook, $19.90

For a quick wardrobe update, 8 8 pair your clothes Lace peep toe heels from with lace-detailed accessories. Charles & Keith, $55.90

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16-17 REVAMP female v2.indd 17 12/11/12 7:49 PM SMASHING NEW LOOKS Cheery

Yong Seng Choon 26, PROJECT ENGINEER

Seng Choon attributes his outgoing personality to weekly gatherings with friends over a game of Dungeons and Dragons. “Being the moderator of the game means I get to hone my people management, public speaking and critical thinking skills as I have to constantly think on the ﬂ y, and ﬁ gure out ways to keep my friends interested,” he explains. He does not spend all his free time gaming indoors though; Seng Choon also enjoys meeting friends for brunch, with Dempsey Hill being a particular favourite destination.

HIS MAKEOVER WISH Seng Choon signed up for the makeover to learn how to add some style to his wardrobe so that he can stand out from the crowd. “I always wear neutral colours like dark blue and white because they are easier to mix and match,” says the 1.71m tall guy. “I’m sure my friends would describe my style as boring but are too polite to say so!”

HIS NEW LOOK Wearing bright colours might be intimidating for someone who prefers to don neutrals, but by including one bright accent into his outﬁ t, like the yellow in the long-sleeved T-shirt, Seng Choon pulls off a stylish look effortlessly. The colour blocking trend is versatile as it can be paired with the existing items in his wardrobe. Go for Bold Seng Choon tries out the colour blocking trend seen on fashion runways all over the world. Photos: Chee Styling: Verna Make-up Yan Tan & Hair: Gigi Sng. Seng Choon's black leather jacket, sweater and jeans all from Esprit. Black leather shoes from New Look.

18-19 REVAMP-male v3.indd 18 12/11/12 7:50 PM Bright and Cheery Stand out from the crowd with these vibrant picks. by JOLENE LIMUCO

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1 Blue blazer from Mstyle (Jurong Point), $109.90

5 2 Big Pony 4 EDT 125ml from Ralph Lauren, price unavailable 4 3 Orange canvas belt from Gap, $50

4 Red jeans from Gap, $100

5 6 PU messenger bag from Chuck&Bo, $39.90

6 Lime analog water- resistant watch from Fila, $159 7 7 Tipbox Leather cardholder from FX Creations, $22

Afraid of wearing 8 colours? Why not start with brightly-hued Blue and white men's accessories, like this canvas shoe from Z lime green watch? (Jurong Point), $79.90

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18-19 REVAMP-male v3.indd 19 12/11/12 7:50 PM buzz WHAT’S UP WITH LOVE Less cheese, morepizzazz Forget the ﬂ owers and candy — here are some worldwide examples of truly original gestures of love. by MELODY TAN

CROSSWORD LOVERS Aric Egmont and his girlfriend Jennie Bass love nothing more than spending their Sunday mornings doing the Boston Globe Sunday Magazine crossword together. It was no surprise, then, that Aric’s mind would turn to their favourite hobby when he decided to propose to Jennie a few years ago. He engaged the creators of the magazine’s weekly puzzle to devise a crossword that contained deeply MAPPING THE HEART around San Francisco on a route personal clues interwoven with Here’s how you can burn calories that would form the shape of a generic ones focused around the and convey your love for a partner heart. He documented the effort theme “Popping the Question”. who lives far away from using a Global Positioning When the puzzle was published in you. After moving System (GPS) map the magazine, Jennie thought it was to San Francisco application and saved merely a coincidence that the answers for work, Payam a screenshot of the included Aric’s surname as well as Rajabi found route. Ultimately, her best friend’s and sister’s names. himself missing the 43.4 km ride Then she came to the blank for 14 his girlfriend Clare, took two hours letters across. The clue read, “Generic who was back home and 39 minutes — Proposal”. The answer was “Will you in Toronto. Wanting to but it was worth the marry me?” surprise her and playing effort. The gesture made When the truth dawned upon her, on their mutual love of maps, Payam’s love of his girlfriend Aric went down on one knee with the Payam decided to go on a bike ride known worldwide.

ring. She said yes. PHOTO: Getty images, iStockphoto

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20-21 DUET JanMar13 buzz V3.indd 20 12/11/12 7:51 PM HEART AND BONE

In 2005, a project called Biojewellery From Tokyo with love was started by a pair of designers and a bioengineer in the United Kingdom. The trio wanted to explore the ways in which technological innovation could be adapted to fulfi l people’s desires, rather than to simply perform functions. The project organisers selected fi ve couples to have their wisdom teeth removed. Cells were taken from a fragment of bone routinely removed as part of the tooth extraction. These cells were then grown into bone material TOKYO CALLING and made into a pair of specially- When William Charles Wooldridge Jr. met Anjali designed rings consisting of the grown Bradford Singh at a birthday party of a mutual bone material and precious metals. acquaintance, both became attracted to each other but While the process has far-reaching their clashing travel schedules meant a three-month applications in medical science, it break between their fi rst and second dates. Anjali allowed fi ve couples to show the lived in New York, while William was in Taipei doing world that their love is more than research for his doctoral degree dissertation in East skin-deep — in fact, it goes right to Asian Studies. the bone. They kept in touch through e-mail, but found it diffi cult to deepen their budding relationship. When William was in Tokyo later in the year, he wanted to make a romantic gesture that would make a stronger impression on Anjali. He decided to wander around Tokyo for a day and narrate his adventures into a tape recorder. Besides his spoken observations, the sounds he sent Anjali included the chaotic noise of a pachinko parlour and the crowd at a baseball game. Upon receiving it, Anjali was overwhelmed by the unusual romantic gesture. The couple got married three years later, in 2005.

The infographic goes into deeply speciﬁ c detail about just how perfect the couple is for each other. It points out that there are seven billion people on Earth, of which Drake could have met a maximum of four per cent, of which half are women, of which eight PERFECTION per cent are aged 25 to 29 years old CALCULATED and so forth... American Drake Martinet knew that Having crunched the numbers, Stacy Green was his ideal partner. the infographic concludes that Stacy’s So he decided to show her just how perfection is a statistical impossibility well-matched they were, through a and concedes the existence of meticulously-planned and designed miracles. Naturally, it ends with a “ﬁ nal infographic posted on Mashable.com, a logical query”, which is, “Stacy, will news website and Internet news blog. you marry me?”

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20-21 DUET JanMar13 buzz V3.indd 21 12/11/12 7:51 PM gettingtoknow MEET SOMEONE NEW Takingnext itlevel to the Here's how you can make a smooth transition from friendship to romance. by MELODY TAN

hether or not you believe matchmaker from the Matchmaking that men and women can Institute in New York and author of Wbe platonic friends, it The 69 Love Notes — Secrets to a can’t be denied that many successful Loving and Lasting Relationship, relationships start out as friendships. recommends taking time to refl ect Some well-known examples include on your friend’s role in your life and Britain’s Queen Elizabeth II and Prince his or her emotional signifi cance Philip, and Mr Lee Kuan Yew and his before making any moves. “When late wife, Madam Kwa Geok Choo. you know that you truly care for this The former pair were pen pals as person beyond what you’d feel for a teenagers, while Mr and Mrs Lee were regular friend, that should tell you that schoolmates at Raffl es College. this person has begun to occupy an But turning a friendship into a important space in your heart,” she says. romantic relationship can be tricky. Besides feelings, you should For some, it is a natural progression also take into consideration whether since you and your pal are already you and your pal make suitable comfortable with each other. partners. Kloudiia says that you should On the other hand, what if a think about what you want out of a romantic attachment complicates an relationship with your friend and assess little things that matter. She suggests already-satisfying platonic relationship? whether he or she has the same values looking out for positive body language. And what happens when one party as you before taking the next step. “He or she may sit or stand a little develops romantic feelings while the “You and your friend may get along closer than usual, and is always on the other wishes to remain just friends? well but you need to know if he or she lookout to make you comfortable. He Here are some tips for taking your is on the same page as you when it or she may also be more attentive and friendship to the next level — and how comes to romantic relationships,” considerate; for example, bringing you to cope if the other party doesn’t feel adds Kloudiia. “Knowing his or her water when you cough,” she adds. the same way. life goals or even lifestyle choices Kloudiia adds that if a friend is beforehand will allow you to suss out asking you to hang out more often than How do you know if your whether you can sustain a successful usual, sends you text messages or calls romantic feelings for your romantic relationship.” you every day, it may mean that he or friend is the Real Thing? she has romantic feelings for you. “You First, you need to fi gure out if the How do you know that can also look out for other clues. For feelings you’re developing are the your friend has romantic example, when he or she keeps close Real Thing or just a crush borne feelings for you? to you and talks mostly to you when out of proximity and convenience. Suzenne Zheng, an image consultant you are out in a group,” she says. Kloudiia Tay, a certifi ed and personal coach, says that it’s the Of course, these are just clues and PHOTOS: Corbis, Getty images

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22-24 DUET getting to know v3.indd 22 12/11/12 7:51 PM you can never be certain based on One way to test the waters is by relationship with him or her. You may these alone. The only way to ﬁ nd out is asking hypothetical questions, such think it’s a great opportunity to seize to ask him or her, and this brings us to as “Do you think friends make good the moment but it will only come off the next point. partners?” or “Do you think friendship as insincere and insensitive.” is one of the key components of a How should you make relationship?” From the response, you How to make the your move? should be able to assess whether your transition from friends When it comes to bringing up the friend is open to crossing over to the to partners? subject of romance, Kloudiia says “romantic zone”. These questions If you and your friend have decided to that there is no one way to do it, nor can also lead the conversation into grow the friendship into a relationship, are there any rules on what not to the actual sharing of your feelings if keep in mind that being a couple may do. “Whether you choose to hint at you feel comfortable to do so. be different from being friends. Many pursuing a romantic relationship, or go As for what to avoid when making people have certain expectations of for a full confession of your feelings, your move, Suzenne says that there are what they want in a partner. the goal is to be honest. Regardless of instances where you should not bring “Don’t expect your friend to how it turns out, tell the person that up the subject. “For example, if your change just because he or she is in a your friendship is something you value friend just broke up with someone, relationship with you,” Kloudiia says. ﬁ rst and foremost.” don’t bring up the possibility of a “For example, the woman may now

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and your partner don’t see eye-to- You can use humour to diffuse eye on how he or she manages their the matter. Suzenne suggests saying REGARDLESS ﬁ nances, sit down and engage something like “‘Were you practising OF HOW IT in open communication. Don’t a pick-up line on me?’” TURNS OUT, TELL start criticising.” If you are embarrassed, you THE PERSON THAT Also note that your established could always spend some time apart. S friendship may be so comfortable that Kloudiia says that you don’t have to YOUR FRIENDSHIP the relationship may feel the same. cut the other party off completely. IS SOMETHING YOU Amplify the romance and deﬁ ne your “After the incident, take a few days VALUE FIRST AND newfound status as a boyfriend or to cool off. Then send him or her an FOREMOST girlfriend by making the effort to dress SMS or a short email to say ‘hi’. — Kloudiia Tay,T matchmaker up when you go on dates. “You don’t have to meet up if you At the same time, small physical feel uncomfortable but a quick hello gestures such as gazing into will show your friend that you still each other’s eyes, using terms of value the friendship, and that you expect the guy to shell prawns for endearment and holding hands can will not sever all contact because of her, when she wouldn’t have before. further underline the fact that you are what happened.” Or the guy might start laying down now a couple. Kloudiia says, “Some people restrictions on how the woman should may have to bow out from the dress now that she’s his girlfriend.” What if your friend friendship altogether in order to Managing these different does not have romantic get over the episode and move on, expectations involves learning how to feelings for you? while others would rather keep the communicate effectively. “Open and In the event that your feelings are friendship. If you decide to remain honest communication is critical to unrequited, you can still salvage as friends, it may be hard to behave letting each other know how and what the friendship. “If your good friend as naturally as before, however as you feel, what you’re looking for in confesses his or her feelings to you, time passes your interactions will each other and how to achieve that,” make sure you do not embarass the return to normal. Eventually the adds Kloudiia. “For example, if you confessor,” says Kloudiia. disappointment will pass.”

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22-24 DUET getting to know v3.indd 24 12/11/12 7:52 PM relationship IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO

Balancing act

Is there a possibility that you have become ‘too involved’ in a relationship, to the detriment of other aspects of your life? If so, it’s time to read the warning signs and restore the equilibrium! by NIRMALA SIVANATHAN

nyone who has been in a boyfriend, Emily struggled to cope relationship will recall the when the relationship ended a year A initial excitement of being later. “Everyone else at the hostel had with that special someone. Your heart their friends and their cliques, and I skips a beat whenever your partner didn’t,” she says. “I felt like I couldn’t is around, you experience a rush of talk to anyone about how I felt. I felt excitement, and you just can’t get like I didn’t have any close friends to enough of him or her. That’s perfectly confi de in anymore.” normal — at the start. But what happens when, over time, you become The Expert’s Take: According to Ho so dependent on your partner that you Shee Wai, a registered psychologist are afraid to venture out on your own? from The Counselling Place, feeling Or when you invest so much time and caught up in the passion of a new energy into your relationship that you relationship is normal. “In most cases, begin to neglect the other important things eventually settle down and you areas of your life? DUET dishes out and your partner will go back to having some expert advice on how you can a more balanced social life,” she says. keep your relationship healthy and The best way to avoid neglecting romantic without getting too wrapped your friends when you’re in a up in it. relationship, she advises, is to make a conscious effort to meet up with them. SIGN You neglect your “Have a fi xed day of the week friends where both of you spend time with HAVE A FIXED 1 When Emily Yee was 22 your own friends and family,” suggests DAY OF THE and a fi nal-year Shee Wai. And if you can’t bear to WEEK WHERE BOTH undergraduate, she fell in love with a leave that partner out of your social OF YOU SPEND fellow student who lived in the same activities, organise double or group S hostel. “Once we became a couple, we dates with other couples and friends. TIME WITH YOUR spent every waking moment together,” SEPARATE FRIENDS she recalls. Now 26, Emily recounts SIGN You feel stifl ed AND FAMILY. that she and her boyfriend wouldn’t Intimacy is important in — Ho Shee Wai,T participate in school activities, forming a long-lasting registered psychologist, preferring instead to spend time alone 2 relationship. But breathing exclusively in each other's company. room is also important. Diane Lee, 29, The Counselling Place

After being inseparable from her learnt about creating space in her PHOTO: Corbis

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26-28 DUET relationship.indd 26 12/11/12 7:52 PM a healthy relationship is one in which each party is independent in his or her own right, and not one in which partners are overly dependent on each other. If you are in a relationship that is proving to be stiﬂ ing, you can take steps to ensure that things get back on a healthier track. You can start by encouraging your partner to socialise more without you. According to Shee Wai, an example of how you can do this is by saying to your partner, “It’s been quite some time since you met up with your friends — why don’t you call them to see what they are up to? You used to really enjoy (for example, playing basketball) with your buddies.”

SIGN You give up your interests Sometimes, we lose 3 ourselves when we invest so much time in our relationships. That is exactly what happened to Manisha Kaur when she started dating her boyfriend, Jamie. “I used to be a fan of live music,” she says. “Every weekend, I would frequent bars where bands played. But things changed when I met Jamie.” Manisha explains that Jamie never asked her to stop going to concerts and live performances. She stopped because she felt like she could not have fun without him there. Instead, she would go along with what he liked to do, such as bowling and watching movies. relationship the hard way. phone calls and texts. After that Two years ago, her boyfriend of cooling off period, Diane and her The Expert’s Take: Scenarios such three years told her that he wanted boyfriend talked it over and they as the one Manisha found herself in a break. “He told me that I was agreed to give the relationship another can put some strain on a relationship. ‘suffocating’ him and that he ‘felt try. In that conversation, she agreed “Your interests are a part of who you stiﬂ ed’ because it seemed like he was to give her partner some space for his are and how you express yourself,” expected to spend most of his free own activities. The couple is still Shee Wai explains. “Giving them up time with me,” she explains. together now. for someone else puts pressure on The couple took a two-month your partner and can even lead to break, cutting off all contact including The Expert’s Take: Shee Wai says that resentment in the long run if one party

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When he arrived in New York, however, Jason’s girlfriend started asking him for frequent updates over the phone. “I was constantly glued to my phone texting her halfway across the world even when I was out with my colleagues,” he recalls. The distance and the stress of being apart took its toll on the relationship, and the couple began arguing. Ultimately, Jason’s girlfriend decided that, instead of joining him in New York, she needed to stay in Singapore to be with her family, and they ended the relationship.

The Expert’s Take: According to Shee Wai, your relationship should not be the be-all and end-all of your life. She adds, “A red fl ag for an unhealthy relationship is when one person is unable to spend time alone without ‘checking-in’ with his or her partner.” If you feel that your relationship is feels he or she gave up more than getting too intense or isolated from the the other did.” outside world, fi nd a way to tell your Instead of giving up your hobbies TO AVOID partner that you need room to breathe or interests, look for creative ways HURTING YOUR without hurting his or her feelings. to get your partner involved. “Or PARTNER’S FEELINGS BY Shee Wai advises that you can start if your partner is not keen on your by telling your partner that you love YOUR NEED FOR "ME- hobby, do it anyway and use that as an S and trust him or her, and then share opportunity to enjoy some time apart,” TIME", TELL HIM OR your thoughts about the importance Shee Wai suggests. To avoid hurting HER HOW MUCH YOU of balancing time between your your partner’s feelings by your need for WILL MISS THEM. relationship and the other priorities in “me-time”, make an effort to validate T your life. Discuss the issue until there his or her feelings and tell him or her is agreement from both parties. how much you will miss them. “Express to them how important it email to an old friend. Pick up a new is for you to be doing what you need to FIND It might be tough to hobby, something be doing,” adds Shee Wai. 3 YOURSELF! break the ice at fi rst, that you always wanted Think you may be too but it is a start. to do but never did. SIGN You constantly wrapped up in your Perhaps you’ve always crave your partner’s relationship? Here are Rediscover hobbies wanted to become a attention some ideas on how 4 or interests that you certifi ed scuba diver When 32 year-old Jason Ooi you can regain your 2 used to have. One way or you’ve been keen was offered a position in his company’s independence. is to look for interest on taking up a dance New York offi ce, he and his then- or community groups class. Read magazines girlfriend agreed that it was too good Catch up with the in your neighbourhood like DUET for ideas on an offer to pass up. “We had been 1friends you have community club’s notice where you can go and together for four years, and we decided neglected. Pick up board or website. who to approach for that she would join me in New York the phone or write an these activities!

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26-28 DUET relationship.indd 28 12/11/12 7:53 PM quiz UNDERSTANDING YOURSELF

Tally your answers with the scores below to see whether you are too dependent on your partner:

ABC 1. 642 2. 264 3. 462 4. 246 5. 462

IF YOU SCORE BETWEEN 10 AND 16 YOU ARE TOO INDEPENDENT FROM YOUR PARTNER. Being independent is certainly a good thing. But, Ms Ho Shee Wai, a registered Are you too psychologist from The Counselling Place says that being too independent may send the message to your partner that you do not consider his/her opinions or feelings when making a

attached? Gi decision that affects the relationship.

O She adds, “As a couple, you need to set aside time to grow and develop your PHOTO: Getty images relationship so that you can form a bond and create shared experiences.” Being close to your partner does not mean that you have to spend all your free time with him/her. Take this quiz to fi nd out if your IF YOU SCORE BETWEEN 17 AND 23 YOU AND YOUR PARTNER HAVE relationship is giving the both of you space to breathe. FOUND A HEALTHY BALANCE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. You don’t mind too much being away from your 1. How often do you see your via text or online messaging. partner and you have a satisfying life partner during the week? c) Only re-establish contact with outside of your relationship. At the same time, you make sure that you a) Every day, be it for lunch or a your partner upon his/her return. spend quality time with your partner on date after work. a regular basis. b) Twice or three times a week. 4. What is the one thing you would c) Once a week, usually on change about your relationship? IF YOU SCORE BETWEEN 24 AND 30 the weekend. a) Frankly, you and your partner YOU ARE TOO DEPENDENT ON could stand to see each YOUR PARTNER. Your relationship 2. How deeply do you involve your other less. revolves around each other and while partner in your social life? b) There is nothing to change. that is acceptable to some degree, it is a) Your friends know you are seeing You are comfortable with the healthy to be on your own every once in a while. This allows you to develop someone but they have never met balance you’ve struck. your own interests and hobbies, as him/her. c) To make an agreement to meet well as spend time with your family b) All your friends have met your each other every single day. and friends. partner because you are virtually If you think your partner might joined at the hip. 5. You and your partner have be hurt if you suggest spending some c) You have introduced your partner plans to meet for dinner. But time apart, Ms Ho says that you to your friends, but you don’t your partner has to work late. can approach it in a casual manner. always bring him/her along What would you do? “Suggest to him/her to spend a day on outings. a) You tell him/her to let you know doing a favourite activity with a friend,” she adds. And if you feel when he/she is done with work. uncomfortable spending time apart, 3. Your partner is overseas for work b) Upset at the prospect of not take small steps fi rst — how about over the weekend. What would seeing each other, you offer to allocating one day a week apart you do? bring food to him/her at work. at fi rst? Gradually, you will feel a) Use the opportunity to spend time c) You tell your partner you’re going comfortable not spending all your with your friends and family. home and will talk to him/her free time with your partner. b) Contact your partner persistently some other time.

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29 DUET Quiz v2.indd 29 12/11/12 7:53 PM chat LAWS OF ATTRACTION o : Roy Lim, Corbis, iStockphot OS PHOTOS: Roy Lim, Corbis, iStockphoto PHOT Gift and take Should showering your partner with presents be a benchmark for a successful relationship? Singles share their thoughts. by GENE KHOR

Is gift-giving important in celebrated with a gift as they mark a relationship? a milestone in our lives. I feel that Natalie: It depends on what you anniversary gifts are important only consider a gift is. Material things like if you’re married though, as it’s the gadgets are nice, but what’s more point where your relationship has important to me are ‘experiential’ reached a new level. gifts and gestures. For example, my Keith: I feel that one shouldn’t ex-boyfriend once surprised me with place too much emphasis on gifts a trip to the zoo. He had me put on a for special occasions. If you’re blindfold and drove me there. It was committed to someone, then every fun and totally unexpected. day should be special for you both. Irwan: Gifts have long been a Irwan: It’d be impractical and tiring traditional way of expressing your to celebrate every day with a gift. feelings, but I agree with Natalie — So giving one on special dates could they don’t have to be material. serve as a little reminder of how Keith: I feel that gifts help make much our partners mean to us. simple events — like going out on a date — more memorable. They Is it stressful planning what gifts don’t have to only be given on special to get? occasions, though. Natalie: I’ve never really planned. Tyan: I think gifts are important, If I saw something that I know my especially on milestones like birthdays partner would like, I’d get it for or anniversaries. They help to him, regardless whether it was for a commemorate the occasion. special occasion or not. Keith: I’m exactly like that as So is it necessary to mark these well. If I know my partner needed dates with gifts? something in particular and I come Tyan: Not on all dates. For example, across it, I’d buy it and give it to everyone celebrates Valentine’s Day, her without waiting for a reason to so it doesn’t feel that special to me. do so. But I feel that each other’s birthdays Tyan: I don’t think it’d be stressfull as well as anniversaries are dates that if you knew the person well enough.h. should matter in a relationship, so I don’t buy gifts spontaneously, gifts are a good way to commemorate so my efforts go into the planning those events. process. If you’re detail-oriented, it Natalie: Yes, birthdays should be can be quite fun.

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30-31 DUET Chat gift v2.indd 30 12/11/12 7:53 PM Irwan Salim Natalie Chia 34, CONSULTING 22, AUDITOR MANAGER Would you consider ‘big’ gestures — like giving up your career to move to another country just to be closer to your partner — to be a kind of ‘gift’? Irwan: I wouldn’t drop everything immediately. I’d prefer to sit down and discuss this fi rst, and fi nd a mutually benefi cial solution for the both of us. At the end of the day, I have a life here, with family and friends. Keith: I believe that it shouldn’t just be about one person making the huge sacrifi ces in a relationship. A successful relationship should have both parties fi nding a compromise. Tyan: I’d actually drop everything to be with him! In a committed relationship, ‘gifts’ of this sort are signifi cant. You’re giving up something important to be with someone you love — there’s no price you can put on a gesture like that.

What if there’s a marked absence of gifgift-giving?t-g Would it be a sign of a ddwindlingwin relationship? TyanTyan: Not necessarily. If there are otherother forms of affection being shown, likelike makingm the effort to spend quality timetime doing things together, then I feel Keith Ng thethe relationshipre is ﬁ ne. 32, TOWN NatalieNata : Yes, the gift of time is a great PLANNER one.one. Either he or I could be spending it doingdoing other important things like work or spendingsp time with family, but we choosechoo to be with each other. KeithKeith: In fact, being showered with giftsgifts might be a bad thing, as they couldcould be ‘distracting’. You don’t want to be too focused on them and not on moremore important things like getting to knowknow each other better, which is really whatwhat makes a relationship stronger. IrwanIrwa : I wouldn’t look at any one factorfacto to gauge if the relationship is dwindling.dwin I’d have to see if there havehave been other problems as well, likelike morem frequent arguments and lessless communication.c

Tyan Neo 30, ACCOUNTANT

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30-31 DUET Chat gift v2.indd 31 12/11/12 7:54 PM it’s amatch TRUE STORIES TO INSPIRE Love onwheels A mutual desire to learn rollerblading led to romance for Joanne Ng and Lim Chiew Seng. by MELODY TAN

bout a year after she and her Joanne recalls, “When Chiew Seng ex-boyfriend called it quits, introduced himself to me, he told A IT systems analyst Joanne Ng me that he lived in Ang Mo Kio. I decided to pick up a new sport. She commented that that was quite far signed up for a series of rollerblading from where we were. He replied, ‘Oh, I classes after reading about it in drove.’ I thought he was a show-off!” DUET. That was in 2009. Little did she “I did state very clearly that I know then that donning a pair of was driving my sister’s car,” rollerblades would put her on Chiew Seng clarifi es. “Joanne the track to a new romance. misunderstood what I said. “I enjoy sports but Still, my fi rst impression I had never attempted of her was that she was rollerblading before. sweet. And I thought, So I thought I’d try ‘She is pretty’.” something different,” However, Chiew Seng says Joanne, now 27. did not get many At the same time, Lim ALTHOUGH opportunities to Chiew Seng — despite WE DIDN’T interact with Joanne already knowing how after that introduction to rollerblade — had HIT IT OFF as they ended up signed up for the SIMMEDIATELY, THE getting paired with lessons because he CLASSES GAVE US other people. But he thought that he would THE OPPORTUNITY did ask Joanne for her get the opportunity to TO GET TO KNOW email address. After further hone his skill. EACH OTHER AS making initial contact, Despite being a they started chatting member of the then- FRIENDS FIRST. online every day. Social Development — Joanne Ng T “When we chatted Unit (now Social online, it felt like we Development had known each other Network) for six for a very long time,” years, Chiew Seng hadn’t met anyone Joanne says. “It didn’t take long for me who caught his fancy. “It was hard for to feel comfortable with him.” me to open up to new people because Their fi rst meeting outside of I’m shy,” says Chiew Seng, 34, who rollerblading class was a group works for an airline. outing to eat nasi lemak at Boon Lay Market and Food Centre a month SHAKY START later. The next group outing proved By chance, the two sat near each other to be a blessing in disguise: the others during the fi rst class at East Coast cancelled at the last minute. This Park. But a slight misunderstanding impromptu “date” proved the perfect almost threw a spanner in the works. opportunity for the two to get to know

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32-33 Its a Match V2.indd 32 12/11/12 7:56 PM By the later half of 2011, Chiew Seng knew that it was time to take the next step. “It was a feeling that developed over the two years that we had been together,” he says. He proposed in October that year and the couple held an intimate wedding ceremony at the Ritz Carlton Millenia hotel in November 2012. The proposal was one without much fanfare — which is just how Joanne prefers it. But it still caught her by surprise. “I had bought a Groupon deal for a studio photography session. When the photographer said that we were done, Chiew Seng told him to keep going. I thought that was odd but I went along anyway,” recounts each other better. Joanne. “After a while, Chiew Seng Recounts Chiew Seng, “I think went on one knee and pulled out a both of us were very comfortable with ring. I was not expecting that at all!” each other by then. We found that we could talk about anything without GREAT WAY TO MEET being guarded — being together felt Now that they are married, the couple so natural.” is staying with Chiew Seng’s parents while looking for their dream home. SLOW AND STEADY The couple plans to enjoy their Three years on, Joanne and Chiew marriage for the fi rst couple of years Seng have come to share more than and travel a bit more before starting a just an interest in rollerblading. The family. And when they do, they hope couple enjoy taking trips together to have two daughters. every few months; they have been Still, the most special activity they to Melbourne, Bali and Bangkok. share will always be rollerblading. “Travelling is a good way for me to The couple agrees that activities fi nd out Chiew Seng’s habits and see such as these are a great way to meet whether he is able to take care of me someone special. “Although we didn’t — or even himself!” says Joanne. hit it off immediately, the classes gave Since her beau is often out of us the opportunity to get to know the country for work, these holidays each other as friends fi rst. It defi nitely allow the couple to spend quality made me feel more comfortable time together. “Sometimes he would around Chiew Seng before we started be away for up to a month. It can be dating,” says Joanne. “In fact, we’re diffi cult but we try to catch up by not the only people who coupled up exchanging messages every few hours,” — we know of another pair who is says Joanne. getting married, too!”

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For singles Mary Bernadette Lee and Brendan Tan, a picture is worth a thousand words. They tell DUET how More than their favourite illustrated books have words resonated with them. by FAIROZA MANSOR Green Lantern COMIC BOOK SERIES BRENDAN TAN ‹ 27, BANK ANALYST BY GEOFF JOHNS Other than reading comic If there’s one thing that gets the usually composed books, Brendan also spends his free time watching Brendan all excited, it’s comic books. And topping television. He counts his list is the Green Lantern series by DC Comics. American TV series such as The series follow the journey of Hal Jordan, who The Big Bang Theory and is part of the Green Lantern Corps, an intergalactic Top Chef as some of his favourites. Brendan’s other police force. Each Green Lantern wields a powerful passion is tennis. His dream ring — reputed to be the most lethal of weapons in — considered mandatory the universe and controlled by the sheer willpower of for all comic book buffs — the user. The ring basically chooses those who have is to take a trip to the proven to have the ability to overcome great fear. annual Comic-Con International in San Diego, “I have always been interested in comics,” says California, United States. Brendan. “It’s not just the art, which can be detailed Brendan’s ideal date is and well-drawn, but also the storyline. Geoff Johns someone sporty with a has been doing an amazing job with the writing ever good sense of humour. since he started working on it in 2004.” Brendan ﬁ nds it hard to pick a favourite issue. “All the stories are simply mind-blowing. I love how Unlovable the exploits of the characters unfold and develop, BY ESTHER PEARL WATSON but how everything ties up eventually.”

An avid illustrator, Mary is drawn to the whimsical artwork that ﬁ lls this hardcover picture book. Based on a real-life teenager’s diary from the 1980s, the book’s illustrations chronicle the life of protagonist Tammy Pierce as she deals with adolescence. “This book is one of my favourites because it is a light MARY BERNADETTE LEE and enjoyable read,” says Mary. “The anecdotes of 27, ART TEACHER AND ARTIST ‹ her painful embarrassments, hopeful pursuit of love Mary appreciates most things and her ridiculous concerns about her appearance associated with art and music. When bring us back to a time in our lives that a lot of us she’s not creating oil and watercolour paintings, Mary enjoys watching live can relate to.” music gigs and browsing at books Do not be quick to trivialise this book as a and music stores. Some of Mary’s series of melodramatic juvenile episodes of a self- watercolor pieces were sold at involved teenager though, for there are lessons to the recent Affordable Art Fair be learnt from Tammy’s shenanigans. in Singapore, an annual four- day event that showcases “Tammy doesn’t dwell too much on her defeats. the works of emerging Yes, she complains about them, but before you artists alongside those by know it, she’s moved on with her life,” explains more established ones. Mary. “This is how it should be for all of us. Life can Mary’s ideal partner is someone who is honest get a little bit crazy sometimes, but we just have to and compassionate. keep going forward.”

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34 DUET Books v3.indd 34 12/11/12 7:56 PM personals FROM WWW.SDN.SG Make a new Meet Suryana and Ray, two youthful-looking friend! singles who enjoy working out. by EVELYN MAK

Suryana Norman Ray Chiu 28, SOFTWARE ENGINEER 30, TECHNICIAN Personals Nickname: sunshiny Personals nickname: Rayshiro

Upon fi rst impression, most Just like Suryana, Ray looks much younger people would mistake the than he is — and this has been a problem in youthful-looking Suryana the past. “There have been instances where the for a junior college student. fi rst impression people have of me is that I’m But rather than getting immature,” says the boyish-looking technician, offended, the bubbly lady “but that’s just because I look young!” revels in telling people her When he’s not at work, Ray spends his free real age. “Most people are time exercising at the gym, catching the latest surprised when they fi nd out how movies or snacking on his favourite sweet treat — old I am,” she says with a laugh. cupcakes. Ray says that he enjoys munching on Describing herself as “feminine and ladylike”, these bite-sized desserts because he is able to try Suryana loves shopping, dancing and practising different fl avours without eating too much. pilates and yoga. The adventurous lady also Ray insists, however, that it is not important enjoys rock climbing, which she does fortnightly that his partner shares his interests. “Having my at a recreation club. partner enjoy the same activities would be great. Suryana says she has always been active and But if she doesn’t, it’s okay. It might be fun to that she enjoys dancing and sports because they discover something new together.” allow her to exercise while having fun. She learnt The middle of three boys reveals that the most ballet when she was in primary school and went romantic thing he’s ever done for a on to take classes in modern dance, Latin dance girl was to cook for her. and cha-cha. While he doesn’t have However, Suryana is fi ne with her partner not any “secret formula” for sharing her passions. “Of course, it’d be great to capturing a woman’s enjoy sports together as it can be fun — but only heart, Ray feels that if he doesn’t mind, of course,” she adds. “And if honesty is his biggest he has hobbies that he’d like to share with me, I strength. He is looking would be happy to give it a try too.” for someone he can Suryana’s ideal partner is someone who is trust and to share every willing to love and accept her just the way she is. bit of his life with. “But “My motto is to live in the present… I treat every most importantly,” he day as a blessing. If bad things happen, there is adds, “I would like a partner always a bright side,” she says. who is caring and kind-hearted.

LOVE IS… being there for each other and LOVE IS… ﬁ nding someone you care about. nurturing each other to become better people. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN A RELATIONSHIP IS… trust and sincerity. A RELATIONSHIP IS… communication. I WOULD MAKE THE PERFECT There’s no better way to build stronger bonds. BOYFRIEND BECAUSE… I will shower you I WOULD MAKE A PERFECT GIRLFRIEND with affection and always be truthful to you. BECAUSE… I will do my best to make my partner happy.

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35 DUET Personals v2.indd 35 12/11/12 7:56 PM asktheexpert NEED SOME LOVE ADVICE?

A decision that hurts I’m at a loss over my decision to break up with my boyfriend. agreed to it. It was quite a pleasant Although we only went out for a few weeks, there was great dinner; we spoke about our friends, Q chemistry between us. I would even go so far as to say that I have family, work and life in general. fallen in love with him. However, I had to break up with him because he was She even told me that I could ask still carrying emotional baggage from his previous relationship. He was hurt her anything and that she was an badly and told me that he could not commit to a serious relationship. So I “open book”. However, when it chose to step back, and suggested that we be friends for now. But my heart came to paying for dinner, she aches when I think about him. The practical side of me says that I should insisted that she pay for her share forget him and move on but the emotional side of me wants to be with him. of the bill, adding that we were What should I do? just friends anyway. From what Dr Love: It is commendable that you are thinking the situation through and not I understand, this is a signal to letting your emotions take over. Emotional baggage can affect a relationship me that she does not see me as a negatively, so your ex-boyfriend might require more time to get over the one possible boyfriend. Should I ask who hurt him. It sounds like he isn’t ready for a relationship right now. It is her out on a second date? good you noticed this “red ﬂ ag” after a few weeks and ended the relationship Dr Love: Since it was your ﬁ rst date, it rather than letting it drag on. Breaking up is never easy, and it will take time is only natural that the girl treats you as before you fully recover from it. However, I would advise you to stick to your a friend without being presumptuous. decision. It will help if you keep a distance from your ex-boyfriend. Talk to a It might be too early to tell how she close friend about your feelings and get her to help you stay focused in your feels about you, but you should not rule decision. At the same time, keep yourself occupied with activities you enjoy so out the possibility of a relationship. The that you don’t dwell on your relationship. You deserve someone who can fully fact that she was so willing to share commit to a relationship, so don’t short-change yourself. things about herself also indicates that she felt comfortable with you. If you are interested to see how this relationship can develop, you should The age factor depends on whether the both of take the lead and ask her out for a What is the ideal age gap you are willing to grow together and second date. Give her time to know you between partners? Is it overcome the challenges as a couple. better. She will not relate to you in a Q acceptable for a lady to be possible “relationship zone” until both interested in a man who is 10 to 15 Mixed signals of you have been going on dates for years older? I’m a 28-year-old man who some time and she clearly hears of your Dr Love: There is no ideal age gap got to know a 27-year-old intent to explore a relationship with her. in a relationship; it really depends on Q lady at a club meeting. I personal preference and a readiness to gathered the courage to ask her out face the challenges an age gap brings — for dinner and was happy that she in terms of acceptance from family and friends. If you are thinking of dating a much older man, you should consider factors such as whether you have ask similar values, lifestyle and interests, and if you can communicate well. An age gap of 10 years or more will dr love often mean that you and your partner may likely be at different stages of Dinah Lee-Phua, relationship expertt your lives. As he is most probably from Focus on the Family Singapore,e, thinking of settling down and starting will hear you out and offer practical a family, you would have to consider advice on your relationships. whether you are ready for that. There is certainly a possibility that Email your questions to things could work out, but it ultimately [email protected] (Subject: Ask Dr Love)ve)

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36 DUET JanMar13 Ask the expert v2.indd 36 12/11/12 7:57 PM Photo: Steve Zhu Art Direction: Isabelle Yeoh Styling: Verna Tan assisted by Samuel Wong Hair and Make-up: Manisa Tan and Xiao Xiao Models: (From left) Daniel Wong, Fritzie Dy, Caelen Lin and Liz Lee. On Daniel: Checkered shirt from Billabong. On Fritzie: Purple printed tube dress from Billabong. On Caelen: Black nylon jacket and white printed T-shirt, all from Esprit. On Liz: Green top with Eton collar and beige ﬂ are skirt with skinny belt, all from G2000. Photoshoot location: The Coastal Settlement.

37 DUET JanMar13 Events opener v2.indd 37 12/11/12 7:58 PM ENRICH YOUR LIFE

5 Jan (Sat) << 5 Jan (Sat) HOW TO SCORE EXTRA COOKING CLASS POINTS WITH A LADY/ @ FOOD PLAYGROUND MAN WITH INNOVATIVE by SINGLES MINGLE SPEED DATING Food Playground @ 4A Craig by COMPLETE ME Road. 10.30am – 12.30pm. Success Training Centre @ $75. GS: 16. CD: 1 Jan. 231 Bain Street, #04-41 Bras Impress your date by learning Basah Complex. 2pm – 4.30pm. how to whip up delicious $18. GS: 20. CD: 1 Jan. Japanese dishes such as yakitori Learn all about the ABCs of and Japanese root vegetable dating in this informative and stew. At the end of the session, fun-ﬁ lled workshop conducted mingle with like-minded by a relationship expert which is foodies as you sample one followed by a speed dating session. another’s creations!

<< 12 Jan (Sat) 19 Jan (Sat)

MAKE A SUSHI, FUN PICNIC @ SINGAPORE MAKE A FRIEND BOTANIC GARDENS by LOVE EXPRESS by COMPLETE ME Orchard MRT. 2.30pm – 5.30pm. Singapore Botanic Gardens @ $49. GS: 24. CD: 9 Jan.

JANUARY JANUARY 1 Cluny Road. 4pm – 6.30pm. $18. Learn the secrets to making mouth- GS: 20. CD: 15 Jan. watering sushi from a Japanese Get some fresh air and take a walk in chef as you get together with the park with other nature lovers in fellow food lovers in this this laid-back picnic at the Singapore hands-on workshop. Botanic Gardens. Price includes ingredients and free ﬂ ow of green tea.

20 Jan (Sun) 25 Jan (Fri) 26 Jan (Sat) POTTERY WORKSHOP CHILL WITH SUNSET BBQ (2 SESSIONS) CHAMPAGNE JSG JSG @ EAST COAST PARK by CHAMPAGNE JSG by CHAMPAGNE JSG by ONE PLUS ONE MP: TBC. 10am – 1pm. $92. MP: TBC. 8.30pm – 10.30pm. $30. East Coast Park. 5pm – 9pm. GS: 18. CD: 16 Jan. GS: 20. CD: 22 Jan. $20. GS: 30. CD: 22 Jan. Gain insights on how to shape Wind down Relax by the beach as you ﬁ re your own clay masterpiece in after a busy up the barbeque and strike up this two-session workshop. Who week as you new friendships! knows, you may even make drink and network Price includes transport and a few new ppals while with new friends. BBQ dinner. embarkingembarkin on what Price includes one couldcould prove to be standard drink. a newne hobby! PriceP includes materials.

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38-43 DUET JanMar13 Event listing V5.indd 38 12/11/12 7:58 PM To register for event(s): Contact the relevant event organiser (details on p44). Event details are correct at time of print. For a complete listing of events/activities organised by SDN’s partners, please log on to www.sdn.sg

11 Jan (Fri) 12 Jan (Sat) GROUP DATE DINNER MARINA BARRAGE @ CHILLI PADI NONYA CAFÉ ROMANCE ON BOATS by SINGLES MINGLE by SINGLES MINGLE Chilli Padi Nonya Café @ 29 Heng Marina Barrage Activity Centre @ Mui Keng Terrace (NUS). 7pm – 8 Marina Gardens Drive. 9.30am – 9.30pm. $38. GS: 28. CD: 8 Jan. 11.30am. $42. GS: 20. CD: 8 Jan. 6 Jan (Sun) Enjoy a spread of yummy Peranakan Enjoy the scenic view of the Marina dishes as you make new friends at this Bay area as you paddle a boat with BOWLING NETWORK cosy restaurant. a new ffriend.riend This is a great way to by CHAMPAGNE JSG widen youyourr ssocial circle while getting Price includes a worworkoutkou at the same time! MP: TBC. 1pm – 4pm. $38. buffet and free GS: 20. CD: 2 Jan. ﬂ ow of drinks. Join some new buddies for a spot of friendly bowling fun!

19 Jan (Sat) >> 19 Jan (Sat) MAKE AN ICE CREAM, DAY TOUR TO MALACCA MAKE A FRIEND by ONE PLUS ONE by LOVE EXPRESS MP: TBC. 7.30am – 10pm. $55. Novena MRT. 10.30am – 1pm. GS: 30. CD: 15 Jan. $59. GS: 24. CD: 16 Jan. Spend a day exploring Malacca, Experience an interactive a UNESCO World Heritage site, ice creamm mamakingking as you create memories with workshopp ﬁ lllleded witwithh new-found friends! opportunitiesities to bbondond Price includes transport, lunch with otherer sinsingles.gles. and dinner. Price includescludes ice creamm buffet.

26 Jan (Sat) 26 & 27 Jan 27 Jan (Sun) LUNCH WITH SCENIC VIEW (Sat & Sun) AFTERNOON TEA OF CLARKE QUAY AND MOVIE COMBO EXPLORACE @ MALACCA by COMPLETE ME FOR FUN-SEEKING SINGLES by LOVE EXPRESS Zero. Zero @ 6 Eu Tong Sen Street, by LOVE ADVENTURES Marina Square #04-86 The Central. 12.30pm – 3pm. @ 6 Rafﬂ es $48. GS: 16. CD: 22 Jan. Newton MRT. 12.30pm (Sat) – Boulevard. 3.30pm 9pm (Sun). $220. GS: 24. – 8pm. $49. GS: 24. Enjoy a six-course lunch at modern CD: 1 Jan. restaurant Zero.Zero as you expand CD: 24 Jan. your social circle. For a break with a difference, Unwind over how about going on a short road afternoon tea before trip to Malacca with some new pals? catching the latest Compete in a race that will blockbuster with take you around the sites of the fellow movie buffs. historical town. Price includes accommodation, two-way transport and some meals.

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2 Feb (Sat) << 3 Feb (Sun) CHINESE NEW YEAR CROON A LOVESONG SPECIAL — MAKE A PASTRY, by CHAMPAGNE JSG MAKE A FRIEND Clarke Quay. 2pm – 6pm. $45. by LOVE EXPRESS GS: 18. CD: 30 Jan. MP: TBC. 10am – 1pm. $59. In this karaoke session with a GS: 24. CD: 30 Jan. twist, the ladies are blindfolded This Chinese New Year, why and asked to pick a partner by not bake some scrumptious listening to his voice. Each pair treats for your loved ones? will then compete in a talent Learn the secrets to making competition, and may walk away yummy pastries at this workshop with attractive prizes. conducted by an expert chef. Price includes two drinks and Price includes ingredients. light refreshments.

<< 14 Feb (Thu) 16 Feb (Sat) V-DAY RENDEZVOUS LOVE-THEMED SPEED by ONE PLUS ONE DATING EVENT MP: TBC. 7.15pm – 9.30pm. by COMPLETE ME $10. GS: 24. CD: 6 Feb. Success Training Centre, 231 Bain Street, #04-41 Bras

FEBRUARY FEBRUARY Spend Valentine’s Day knowing new people as you gather for a Basah Complex. 2pm – 4.30pm. $18. GS: 20. CD: 12 Feb. casual dinner. Since this is the month of love, how about spending a Saturday afternoon expanding your social circle by engaging in activities and games that revolves around romance?

21 Feb (Thu) >> 23 Feb (Sat) GROUP DINING BY REFRESHING & THE SINGAPORE RIVER LUMINOUS MAKE-UP WITH by SINGLES MINGLE HAIRSTYLING WORKSHOP Haven Lobster & Seafood by COMPLETE ME Restaurant @ 81 Boat 46 South Bridge Road, Quay. 7pm – 9pm. $48. GS: #04-00 Kingly Building. 30. CD: 18 Feb. 11am – 2pm. $58. GS: 7. Here’s a way to perk up your CD: 19 Feb.b. week: join fellow foodies as For ladies oonly.nly. ThThisis hhands-ands- you tuck into a 10-course on workshopop is wwherehere yyouou seafood buffet while taking in will gain tipss on hhowow to views of the Singapore River. achieve a ﬂ aawlesswless llookook Price includes buffet and free for various occoccasions.ccccasiaass ons. ﬂ ow of drinks.

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38-43 DUET JanMar13 Event listing V5.indd 40 12/11/12 7:58 PM To register for event(s): Contact the relevant event organiser (details on p44). Event details are correct at time of print. For a complete listing of events/activities organised by SDN’s partners, please log on to www.sdn.sg

9 Feb (Sat) 12 Feb (Tue) HEALTHY HIKING CNY AFTERNOON DELIGHT @ BUKIT TIMAH HILL AT A TEAHOUSE by SINGLES MINGLE 9 Feb (Sat) By ONE PLUS ONE Bukit Timah Nature Reserve. Tea Chapter @ 9 Neil Road. 4pm 9.30am – 11.30am. $22. GS: 20. GARDENS BY THE BAY – 6pm. $12. GS: 24. CD: 5 Feb. CD: 5 Feb. by CHAMPAGNE JSG Round up your Chinese New Year Start the weekend on a healthy note Gardens by the Bay. 4pm – 8pm. celebrations with this informal with a hike up Bukit Timah Hill. $55. GS: 20. CD: 6 Feb. gathering at a cosy teahouseteahouse.. Price includes light refreshments. Spend the afternoon checking out this Learn all aboutt the new attraction as you get up close with art of making aandnd fellow nature lovers. appreciating Chinese tea. Price includes entry to the two conservatories and the OCBC Skyway.

<< 16 Feb (Sat) 16 Feb (S(Sat) t) COFFEE BREWING & ROUND UBIN CYCLING APPRECIATION WORKSHOP by CHAMPAGNE JSG by SINGLES MINGLE Pulau Ubin. 9.30am – 4pm. $38. 93 Degrees Café @ 16 Morse GS: 20. CD: 13 Feb. Road. 4pm – 6pm. $48. GS: 20. Take a break from city life by going CD: 12 Feb. on a cycling adventure around Pulau If you are a big fan of java, you Ubin with fellow sports buffs. will ﬁ nd this coffee appreciation Price includes ferry fare, bicycle workshop useful in making that rental and lunch. perfect cuppa for your friends!

23 Feb (Sat) 24 Feb (Sun) MOVEMENT IN PAIRS SUNDAY RECESS @ THE BODY CLINIC by LOVE EXPRESS by SINGLES MINGLE Rafﬂ es Place. 3pm – 5.30pm. $39. The Body Clinic @ 9 Battery GS: 24. CD: 19 Feb. Road, #07-01 Straits Trading 23 Feb (Sat) End the week on a high note with a Building. 2pm – 4.30pm. $30. relaxing afternoon tea-cum-networking GS: 30. CD: 19 Feb. AMAZING NIGHT RACE session. Aches and pains can sometimes be an @ ESPLANADE AND Price includes tea or coffee indication of serious internal injuries FULLERTON BAYFRONT and dessertdessert.. or illnesses. This workshop provides by LOVE EXPRESS insights on relieving pain the natural The Fullerton Bay Hotel. 7pm – way. The session concludes with a 10pm. $39. GS: 36. CD: 20 Feb. body analysis demonstration. Team up as you visit Singapore’s Price includes drinks and most renowned monuments in thiss light refreshments. Amazing Night Race. Winners walkk away with attractive prizes. Price includes one drink and light refreshments.

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2 Mar (Sat) 2 Mar (Sat) 7 Mar (Thu)

JET-SKI SAFARI TERRARIUM WORKSHOP GROUP DATING — BRING HOME A @ CRYSTAL CAFÉ by CHAMPAGNE JSG MINI GARDEN by SINGLES MINGLE Batam. 9am – 8.30pm. $185. by LOVE EXPRESS GS: 18. CD: 27 Feb. Crystal Café @ 131 Killiney MP: TBC. 2pm – 5pm. Road. 7pm – 9.30pm. $35. Build friendships as you explore Price: TBC. GS: 24. GS: 40. CD: 4 Mar. Batam on a jet-ski followed by CD: 26 Feb. lunch at a seafood restaurant. Sup on a delicious buffet dinner LeaLearn how to make as you strike up a connection Pricee iincludesncludes transporttransport,, yyourou very own mini with other participants in this lunchh and jjet-skiet-ski gargarden to display at group dating event. rental.al. homhome or the ofﬁ ce as yoyouu share tips with ffellowe plant lovers.

16 M(St)>>Mar (Sat) >> 16 Mar (Sat) TIRAMISU DATING WORKSHOP DEMONSTRATION (FOR LADIES ONLY) by SINGLES MINGLE by COMPLETE ME Amici @ 275 Holland Avenue. Success Training Centre @ 3pm – 5pm. $45. GS: 28. 231 Bain Street, #04-41 Bras CD: 12 Mar. Basah Complex. 2pm – 4.30pm. $18. GS: 20. CD: 12 Mar.

MARCH MARCH Gain some tips on whipping up your favourite tiramisu from an At this workshop, participants Italian chef and impress friends will be given helpful advice on the with your new skill! dos and don’ts of dating and how women can learn how to make the right impression on the opposite gender.

23 Mar (Sat) 23 Mar (Sat) IMPORTANCE OF CHAMPAGNE CAN BAKE SKIN CARE WORKSHOP by CHAMPAGNE JSG by COMPLETE ME MP: TBC. 2pm – 5pm. $85. 46 South Bridge Road, #04-00 GS: 20. CD: 20 Mar. Kingly Building. 11am – 2pm. Tiramisu, molten chocolate $58. GS: 7. CD: 19 Mar. cake, vanilla sponge This workshop conducted cake… Learn how to in a small group allows you whip up all these and to understand the basics for more at this baking maintainingg gglowingg skin,, so workshop. tthathat you can fformorm a ggoodood It’s a fun way ﬁ rst imimpression.pression. to spend an afternoon with other dessert lovers!

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<< 9 Mar (Sat) 10 Mar (Sun) REFRESHING SEA BREEZE PAINTBALL ACTION BBQ @ EAST COAST PARK by CHAMPAGNE JSG by COMPLETE ME MP: TBC. 3pm – 6pm. East Coast Park. 5pm – 9pm. $55. GS: 20. CD: 6 Mar. $28. GS: 20. CD: 5 Mar. If you’re one going for outdoor Spend a fun-ﬁ lled day at the beach fun, why not join fellow adrenaline as you interact with new pals over junkies in a thrilling shootout? BBQ and games.

17 Mar (Sun) >> 23 & 24 Mar WETLAND TOUR AND (Sat & Sun) SHORE BIRD WATCHING EXPLORE MALACCA by LOVE EXPRESS by LOVE ADVENTURES Sungei Buloh Wetland MP: TBC. 12.30pm (Sat) Reserve. 2.30pm – 6pm. $39. – 9pm(Sun). $220. GS: 30. GS: 24. CD: 14 Mar. CD: 24 Jan. Photography buffs, nature lovers For a well-deserved short break, and walking enthusiasts will love join some new friends as you go on this opportunity to bond with a food and shopping trip to Malacca. like-minded people and learn more about local wildlife at the Price includes accommodation, same time. two-way transport and some meals.

29 Mar (Fri) 30 Mar (Sat) 30 Mar (Sat) GOOD FRIDAY SINGAPORE ROMANCE INDULGENT TREAT AT THE SIGHTSEEING AND ON WHEELS TOP OF MARINA BAY SANDS QUICKDATES by SINGLES MINGLE by LOVE EXPRESS by ONE PLUS ONE MP: TBC. 10am – 4pm. $40. GS: Sands SkyPark @ Marina Bay Marsiling MRT. 3pm – 9pm. $16. 30. CD: 26 Mar. Sands. 7.30pm – 10pm. $69. GS: 32. CD: 25 Mar. Take a spin around the island and GS: 30. CD: 27 Mar. Be a local tourist for one day. discover some new makan places. Join other chocoholics as you sample Explore some of Singapore’s Price includes light refreshments. an array of delicious chocolate treats lesser-known sights in this Car owners receive $10 off. while enjoying the night views of excursion that takes you to places downtown Singapore from a fantastic such as reservoirs, wetlands and vantage point. ﬁ sh farms. Price includes chocolate buffet. Price includes transport and light refreshments.

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