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en served, ev- raderie, this one was not your convention- ery imaginable al 4th of July picnic. On this warm, sunny Ready for Prime Time O dette Ramos side dish, wa- Saturday afternoon, 60 gay and bi men gath- By Steve Charing termelon, desserts to challenge your guilt tol- ered at the spacious Glen Burnie backyard of From all appearances, it was your typical July erance, and corn so sweet and fresh it could Charles Spinks to enjoy what has become an Ramos Vies for 4 weekend backyard cookout. Burgers and have been dessert. annual event – a July 4 holiday potluck cook- hot dogs galore, four different types of chick- But despite the bounty and joyful cama- out – for members of the group Prime Timers 12th District of Baltimore. The organization, By Dana LaRocca one of over 73 chapters Councilman Carl Stokes surprised worldwide spanning four Baltimore when he dropped his bid in continents, was estab- the mayoral campaign and decided to lished to promote edu- run for his current seat as council mem- cational and cultural ac- ber for the 12th distinct. Among those tivities as well as social on the most surprised list was Odette welfare among older gay Ramos, candidate for that same seat. and bisexual men and Baltimore OUTloud sat down with can- younger men who en- didate Ramos and asked her about joy the company of old- this recent turn of events. er men. “It was frustrating because my plan Prime Timers was was based on an open seat and I still founded in 1987 by a re- think I’ve got a winning strategy I might tired professor, Woodrow have to tweak it a little bit,” Ms. Ramos —continued on page 4 explained. However, she said that oth- er people are treating him as an in- cumbent, even though he has not run in the twelfth district since 1995. Launch: Marylanders for Marriage Equality Asked how it would affect her strat- By Dana LaRocca conference in front of an enthu- egy she said, “I’m even more deter- The Human Rights Campaign’s (HRC) siastic crowd of supporters and mined then to work really hard all the Regional Field Director Sultan Shakir and community leaders. time to win.” She explained that she other community leaders forged a new co- “I am the first out African had knocked on close to three thou- alition for marriage equality in Maryland for American woman to be elected sand doors in 12 of 22 precincts and the 2012 campaign. Now operating under to office in the state of Maryland that she is using a strategy in plac- the banner of “Marylanders for Marriage and I am honored to serve with es where she knows she will do well Equality” local and national organizations will seven other openly gay and les- to get out the voters. In those places take the position taken in previous years by bian members of the Maryland where she is challenged her team is Equality Maryland. General Assembly, a number working on those people they know That organization has recently suffered higher than any other state legis- will vote – “so that they can vote for financial setbacks, which have left it with only lature in the entire country. This me,” she says with confidence. two paid staff. The coalition was announced morning we are here with a broad “Carl has not paid attention to this in a press conference in front of City Hall in diverse and unified coalition of district so he might do well in a couple Baltimore on Tuesday July 12. organizations and individuals to of precincts but then in other precincts, Joining the coalition are the Service launch Marylanders for Marriage especially new ones that came into our Employees Union International (SEUI), the Equality who will work together to pass a civil liberties, and religious and faith based district, there are three new ones, they Communication Workers of America (CWA), marriage equality bill in 2012.” organizations. “ don’t know him from anybody, so, it’ll the Human Rights Campaign, Catholics for “Together we will insure that all loving “Each of these organizations works tire- be interesting to see how those play Equality, the Maryland Black Family Alliance, committed couples in Maryland will have the lessly every day for fair and equal treatment out as well,” Ms. Ramos explained. the ACLU, Freedom to Marry, and the greatly freedom to marry. This coalition is made up for all working families and for people across —continued on page 3 diminished Equality Maryland. of a number of organizations that are impor- the state of Maryland and our nation.” Delegate Mary Washington led the press tant to all Marylanders, community, labor, —continued on page 5 Why Obama Should Come Out for Marriage Equality

Here is the change you can a public pronouncement (a Recent polls have shown that a small ma- believe in: President Barack OUT televised speech would be jority of Americans support marriage equal- Obama will most likely public- ideal) would not shock any- ity. It should be safe now to take that dip into Co-Publishers Spoken Jim Becker • Jim Williams ly support marriage for same- one. But it would make many the pool. Says Evan Wolfson, founder and [email protected] sex couples, and this declara- Americans ecstatic. president of the organization Freedom to Executive Editor tion should take place prior to Firm up the base. Marry: “The President has very little to lose Jim Becker [email protected] the 2012 election. Backing marriage equality but a lot to gain politically. The center of po- Managing Editor As you are undoubtedly will help galvanize an already litical gravity in this country has shifted, and Dana LaRocca aware, the President has wres- suspicious progressive wing the President is lagging behind. He needs to [email protected] tled with this issue for some of the Democratic Party. The be with us.” Production Director Bill Andriette time. His answers to specific overall enthusiasm level is 2012 is not 2004. When it was Bush vs. questions have been tortured Sales Director likely to be less than it was in Kerry in 2004, the Democrats allowed the Mary Taylor and calculated and to many 2008 because after four years GOP to hijack the narrative of the campaign [email protected] marriage equality activists, un- Obama is no longer the novel- and effectively exploit the Massachusetts rul- Leather Columnist satisfying. In fact, he has char- Steve Charing ty he was when he launched ing that legalized same-sex marriage. It did Rodney Burger acterized his position even to his 2008 run. so by driving a wedge within the Democratic Contributing Writers Shawn Bradley • Cathy Brennan • Terrence Brower • this day as “evolving.” Therefore, igniting a fire Party and bolstering turnout among evangel- Steve Charing • Jeffrey Clagett • Jeffrey Clouser • Chuck Duncan “I think what you’re seeing is a profound under the butts of the left wing will help to ical voters by placing “gay marriage” on the • Gerry Fisher • Eva Hersh MD • Sam Kunz • Jessica Lemmo • Jay Loane • Meredith Moise • Vann Mills • Colin Riley • recognition on the part of the American peo- raise needed cash and attract enthusias- ballots of 11 states. Gregg Shapiro • ple that gays and lesbians and transgender tic volunteers. It doesn’t matter who the It’s an entirely different environment now. persons are our brothers, our sisters, our Republicans send out to challenge Obama; The scare tactics used by the Republicans Graphics Joe Velasquez children, our cousins, our friends, our co- you must have a that predicted society’s Cartoonist workers, and that they’ve got to be treated stoked, passion- collapse and the de- Bruce Garrett (www.brucegarrett.com) like every other American,” Mr. Obama said ate army of sup- struction of the institu- Photographers at a recent news conference. “And I think that porters. He needs tion of marriage won’t Bruce Garrett • Jay W Photos • Justin Nixon principle will win out.” to do this so that wash this time around. Web Editor The President went on: “I think we’re the LGBT commu- Massachusetts has al- Anja Saine [email protected] moving in a direction of greater equality and nity returns to the lowed same-sex couples Managed Web Services – and I think that’s a good thing.” Obama bandwag- to marry since 2004, and The Fusio Group 866-322-7498, www.thefusiogroup.com This is surely a good sign that he’s mov- on in force. with all that hype and fear National Advertising Rep ing in the right direction. Of course, he wasn’t Obama raised mongering, it still has the Rivendell Media as explicit during his election run in 2008 $750,000 from gay lowest divorce rate of any 908-232-2021 whereby political calculations were para- supporters at a re- state. Founders Jim Becker • Joe Berg • Mike Chase • mount. Then he declared his support for civil cent fundraiser Moreover, the young- Lee Mooney (1959-2007) • Jim Williams unions but told big-time pastor Rick Warren without a revela- er generation had been that marriage is between a man and a wom- tion of his evolved more motivated to vote in Baltimore OUTloud an. Ugh! position. Imagine 2008, and this important P.O. Box 3640, Baltimore, Maryland 21214 410-244-6780 But this coming election cycle, things how the communi- demographic is replacing www.baltimoreoutloud.com will be different. Not only do I believe the ty will react when the more conservative el- President will declare his support, but such a he does come ders who have passed on. Additional Information Baltimore OUTloud is published every other Friday by Pride decision will also benefit him in 2012. Here’s out for marriage Setting a trap. Media, Ltd. in Baltimore, Maryland. Readers comments and why: equality. Regardless of whom unsolicited materials are welcomed and may be sent to: editor@ baltimoreoutloud.com. All materials appearing in this newspaper Pro-gay record. It is no secret that The center Obama’s opponent is it is are the property of Pride Media, Ltd. and may not be reproduced President Obama has already compiled the is the real tar- clear that if he supports without the written permission of the editor. most pro-gay record in the history of the U.S. get. While it is absolutely necessary to same-sex marriage, it will be used against He has appointed more LGBT people to his have the base in tow, to succeed again in him. And that’s the bait. Since the economy administration than all of the previous 43 such swing states as Ohio, Virginia, Florida, and jobs are projected to be the highest pri- presidents combined. North Carolina, Indiana, Colorado and New orities on the voters’ minds, any attempt by Obama spearheaded the final push Mexico, President Obama must attract the the GOP to bring discrimination against gay to end the policy of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” center – the independents and moderates people into the discussion will be seen as a which was one of the top two on the LGBT who aren’t exactly liberal but are kind of needless and tired distraction and a dodge activists’ wish list. He ensured the passage scared of conservatives and particularly the from the issues that matter most. of a comprehensive hate crimes bill. And he influence of the tea party denizens. President Obama was for same-sex mar- The opinions expressed in Baltimore OUTloud are solely those of ordered the Justice Department to cease de- Many of these folks aren’t social con- riage before he was against it. In 1996, as the writers unless otherwise indicated and do not necessarily reflect the views of Pride Media, Ltd. fending the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) servatives or homophobes; they have a lib- a candidate for the State Senate in Illinois, as it is being litigated. ertarian streak, and stating his support for Obama responded to a questionnaire from a © 2011 – All rights reserved Therefore, supporting marriage equali- same-sex marriage should not deter them to gay newspaper. “I favor legalizing same-sex Chair of the Board of Trustees – Jim Becker ty would be the next logical step. He already a significant extent. Keep in mind that social- marriages,” Obama wrote. President – Jim Williams Secretary and Treasurer – Mike Chase congratulated New York on passing the mar- ly conservative white people aren’t planning The time is right for Obama to return to riage equality bill. You don’t applaud that to vote for Obama anyway. So why appease his 1996 position, and it will help him win in kind of action unless you support it. Making that group? 2012. t

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Odette Ramos other things that we have in our district are compliance with the law, there is no doubt possible.’” – continued from front page important because there are times when about it. And then make sure there are units; Speaking of Frederick H. Bealefeld, the you just need emergency shelter,” she said, there are units for women, there are units for current police commissioner of the Baltimore She does not see much of a change “Especially for people who have been the men there is no reason why we can’t have Police Department, she says that she loves in strategy and she believes she is poised victims of domestic violence or have been one for transgender.” “his bad guys with guns thing. I think that’s to win. Regarding the candidacy of Jason discriminated against in their housing.” Ms. Ramos says that some of the police really great. In terms of making people un- Curtis, she told Baltimore OUTloud, “I need “I do think that we ac- she has spoken to derstand that that’s his target.” huge support right now in the gay community tually need to have, again, would like to see She says he has been supportive of to make sure Jason doesn’t take votes away not just the emergen- the PAL (Police an organization that she is involved with, from me. He’s not going to win, but he might cy shelters, but making Athletic League) Community Mediation (http://www.commu- take votes away.” sure that we can get peo- centers returned. nitymediation.org) in working with people to She says that she thinks the rest of the ple ready to have the sup- She speaks high- resolve conflicts peacefully. city should be paying attention to the 12th ports that they need to ly of Major Russell, She believes that Baltimore State’s district “because it really is a referendum on be successful, get a job, the Eastern District Attorney Gregg Bernstein made a mistake ‘out with the old in with the new,’ now, at this and be in a stable house. Police major who when he laid off the community liaisons. point.” Usually you have to have is also a pastor. She says that Baltimore has done a “re- One of her concerns is the glut of vacant the house first,” She said. “He has gotten ally bad job of countering the ‘wire effect,’ Mary Washington with Odette Ramos and boarded up houses in the city, as well However, not all people are at Brewer’s Art fundraising event all of these people in reference to the HBO crime drama that as properties that the owners have failed to going to be able to work, photo: Bruce Garrett involved in doing some say has portrayed Baltimore in an un- care for. Baltimore is one of the few cities she acknowledged. “A lot this stuff to pre- favorable light.” that have a receivership program, she ex- of times the homelessness issue isn’t well vent crime,” she says. “He’s got a group of “We’ve done a really horrible job of high- plained, and she wants to see that program understood because a lot of it also has to do people just concentrating on dealing with lighting all the awesome things going on in used to put those properties into the hands with mental health as well. vacant houses in the Eastern District, he’s our city,” she added. of people who will care for them through tar- The AIRS group (http://www.airshome. got a group of people concentrating on jobs, Among her high profile supporters are geted code enforcement, including putting org) she explained “is one that understands a group of people concentrating on the spir- Delegates Maggie McIntosh and Mary those properties in the hands of the middle the whole picture and tries to help people get itual aspect, and the Commissioner said Washington at the State House and Mary class and the working poor. “It’s ridiculous into stable housing even if they can’t work. ‘You go Russell, you do what you need to Pat Clarke, who represents the 14th District how many people need stable housing in our At least figure out the best way to make sure do to do that and I’ll support you in any way of the Baltimore City Council. t city and we have a glut of houses and it’s not that they are stably housed. We need more happening. So we have to have a balance of of that.” the middle income to the working poor.” AIRS provides comprehensive support- Ms. Ramos is big on home ownership ive housing services to enhance quality of but also sees the value of rental units, in- life, emphasizing self-sufficiency for low-in- cluding subsidized units. Her concern is the come and homeless individuals and families quality of management, “because what hap- living with or at risk of HIV/AIDS or other dis- pens in some neighborhoods is that people abilities, according to their website. are inviting other people in and the people Ms. Ramos attended a recent town hall they invited in are the ones causing the trou- meeting that addressed the issue of trans- ble in the neighborhood.” gender homelessness. Baltimore OUTloud “So it’s just a matter of making sure that wanted to know how she would work to en- there is good management there,” she ex- sure that beds are available for transgender plained and cited the example of Albemarle homeless people. There is disagreement Square, where the management has made in the community over the relative value of good use of market rate rental, homeowners housing transgender people in current shel- and section eight housing. “Mixed income is ters versus providing separate facilities. the best way to go if you do it right,” she told On one hand, she insists that Baltimore’s Baltimore OUTloud. anti-discrimination law requires that we ac- She said that while knocking on doors in commodate the transgender population. that neighborhood she found that “the big- “We have to train people because they need gest issue is they don’t have a playground to train them to make sure they are in com- in the area.” pliance with the law – you have to do that,” The City of Baltimore has committed she says. to end homelessness by the year 2018. Regarding separate transitional housing Moreover, the 12th District is home to many for the trans community Ms Ramos said, “I of the homeless including the new 175 bed don’t know if we need a separate unit that’s homeless shelter on Fallsway, Our Daily completely separate from the new shelter or Bread Employment Center, and Health Care if we take a vacant house and have that man- for the Homeless. Baltimore OUTloud asked aged by someone or an organization that Ms. Ramos to address this other level of would do that. housing dilemma. “I’d like to work for both if we can. I think “I think that the emergency shelters and there is a need definitely we have to have

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Ready for Prime Time group had been a part of a joint Baltimore/ Baltimore Teachers Get a – continued from front page Washington DC chapter. Members of all Prime Timer chapters as well as indepen- Baldwin. He realized a wide gap existed in dents are welcome to attend any Prime Dose of LGBT History today’s society, which caters almost exclu- Timer chapter meetings or activities. What do you do when you get a bunch of 9th Baltimore; concerns with the police; and sively to youth at the expense of the older “We are determined to meet the needs grade U.S. History teachers together in one problems facing LGBT youth, such as bully- population. This worship of eternal youth is of older people without being discriminat- room? Well, you talk about history, of course. ing and homelessness. never more flagrant then in gay culture, he ed against,” explains Fischer. “We enjoy be- Except in this particular instance on June 30, “The questions raised and the ensuing believed. ing in non-bar situations because we feel we the topic of discussion was LGBT history. discussion by the teachers were lively and “Our goal is to help our members who are are marginalized by other members of the The Baltimore city public school system well-informed, and virtually all of the teach- gay and bi men to live a full and healthy life,” community.” developed a summer academy for ers were pro- Lee Fischer, the president of the 70-mem- He adds, “I get energized because I see 9th grade U.S. history teachers. The LGBT,” Charing ber Prime Timers of Baltimore told Baltimore people who are active in their lives and doing title of the program is “Justice for reported. OUTloud. wonderful things in their 80’s and even 90’s.” All: The Clarion Call for America’s Dennis Jutras, Health care and hospice issues are The 60 men who attended this 4th of July Minorities,” which explored how var- social scienc- among those that are discussed among the weekend cookout appeared relaxed, settled ious minority groups have worked es teacher fellow membership, but there is an abundance of and secure with themselves and totally en- (or are working) to achieve full civ- for Baltimore city social opportunities to enrich the lives of the joyed the company of existing friends and il rights since the late 19th century. public schools members who hail from Richmond, Virginia, new ones as well. A total of 29 teachers represent- was the leading DC, southern Pennsylvania, and New Lee Fischer wants to make a point to the ing 20 Baltimore city district high coordinator of the Jersey, as well as the local Baltimore area. younger people: “It gets better. Through ma- schools participated. academy. “This For instance, there are regular dinners Sessions addressed the story of Steve Charing leads the discus- was the inaugu- out, bowling nights, bingo, movie nights, “We enjoy non-bar various minority populations whose sion of LGBT history ral iteration of this brunches, board and video games, mixers, situations because voices are often muted in the tradi- particular acad- a photography group, hiking, day and over- tional instruction of U.S. History. The two- emy with this focus and these elements,” night trips, bridge, opera and musical perfor- we feel we are week program covered such specific topics he explained to Baltimore OUTloud. “The mances, and a nudism group. marginalized by as: children’s history, religious minorities, goal was to improve teacher content knowl- “This is my second year in the group, and African-American history, immigrants, wom- edge, provide strategies for improving stu- I’m having the greatest time,” says member other members of the en’s history, homeless Americans, Hispanic dent achievement, and develop a profes- Jeff D. “I especially enjoy the monthly dinners.” Americans, and LGBT Americans. sional learning community within the field In addition, monthly meetings take place, community.” – Lee In the morning of June 30 at Baltimore of U.S. history. Participants’ learning experi- usually at the second Sunday at 6:00 p.m. at Fischer Polytechnic Institute, historian James ences included on-going assessment, direct St. Mark’s Lutheran Church located at 1900 Loewen, author of Lies My Teacher Told Me, instruction, demonstrations, field trips, guid- St. Paul Street, (between 21st St. and North turity and life’s experiences you can deal discussed a variety of LGBT issues. ed research, and the creation of technology Ave.) in Baltimore. Parking is readily avail- with issues and problems better.” Baltimore OUTloud’s contributing writer based learning modules.” able, and the venue is handicap accessible. This is an important group within the gay Steve Charing, handled the afternoon session Some of the museum visits for the These meetings often feature speakers or community because of the increased aging with a presentation of “The Struggle for LGBT teachers included the Maryland Historical other programs of interest to the members. population, fueled by the Baby Boomers. Equality: From Stonewall to the Present.” Society, the Jewish Museum of Maryland, According to the Prime Timers of With many older gay men feeling that they Topics in Steve Charing’s presenta- the Tenement Museum in New York City, Baltimore website (www.ptbalto.org), “No are alone or isolated, this group could be just tion, which mixed historical facts with anal- and the Maryland’s Women’s Heritage single definition can describe Prime Timers, the answer through the friendship and activ- ysis, included a visualization of life for gay Center. In April a visit to the National Portrait as they come from all walks of life. We in- ities that can be derived from Prime Timers and lesbian people leading up to Stonewall, Gallery and American Indian Museum in volve ourselves individually in our communi- of Baltimore. a description of the Stonewall uprising itself, Washington, D.C. took place. ties with politics, volunteerism, gay issues, Charles Spinks, who hosted the cook- the Anita Bryant anti-gay efforts in Florida, Added Jutras, “The Office of Humanities the arts, entertainment, and every other fac- out for the fifth year, said he is so happy that and the removal of homosexuality from the attempted to graft the best elements of pri- et of healthy living. the men enjoyed themselves. “I cannot find American Psychiatric Association’s manual or Governor’s Academies and Teaching “We are fathers and care givers. We are a nicer bunch of guys.” of mental disorders. American History Academies in an effort to re- businessmen and entrepreneurs. We are Membership is open to gay and bisex- The impact of HIV/AIDS, gay and lesbian energize the teaching of U.S. history within our workers and retirees. Some of us are always ual males 21 years of age or older without involvement in the military leading up to the schools by telling the stories and providing the on the go, and some enjoy the quiet compa- regards to race, religion, creed, national repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” hate crimes perspectives of marginalized Americans. ny of others at home. One thing is true of all origin, physical appearance and HIV sta- legislation, the Supreme Court’s ruling that “Teachers were tasked with creating on- of us in Prime Timers: we enjoy the opportu- tus. Dues are only $20 per year ($30 for a decriminalized gay sex, the hot button issue line learning modules which will be embed- nities and friendships that develop with other Family), and it gets you a member roster, of same-sex marriage at the federal and lo- ded in our forthcoming U.S. history online Prime Timers throughout the world.” Baltimore and worldwide newsletters, ac- cal levels, civil unions, employment discrim- course which, in turn, will be made avail- The phenomenal website offers all the latest cess to the Members Only section of the ination, the improving cultural environment able to all U.S. history teachers and students news and events for the group and announces website, monthly event calendar, and much, for LGBT acceptance, and transgender is- within the district.” t birthdays and other landmarks in a timely man- much more. t sues were also discussed. The text of Steve Charing’s presentation ner. First names and first initials of last names Are you ready for Prime Time? For In addition, Charing brought the teach- on “The Struggle for LGBT Equality: From are used to protect the privacy of the members. more information, visit the Prime Timers of ers up-to-date on the history and current Stonewall to the Present” can be found on Prime Timers of Baltimore was official- Baltimore website or call 410-274-6950 or status of LGBT rights in both Maryland and his blog at SteveCharing.blogspot.com. ly formed on April 1, 1997. Originally, the email [email protected].

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Launch: Marylanders creed or your orientation. I do not believe that Melissa Goemann, the legislative direc- these rallies it’s a really cold day in Annapolis for Marriage Equality – continued from front page you should be denied economic or contrac- tor of the ACLU of Maryland said that in this and on that cold day in February we stood to- tual rights just because you do not fall under past legislative session the general assem- gether and we said we were going to get that More than a few supporters from the the legal definition of marriage.” bly came close than ever before to passing bill through the Maryland Senate and we got House of Delegates showed up in the nine- “Baltimore City Hall has stood with the marriage equality bill. “Working together we that bill through the Maryland Senate.” ty-degree heat beside Master of Ceremonies LGBT community in their fight to ensure that will ensure that love, fairness and equality “And on what is probably going to be the Mary Washington. Showing their support were all Americans benefit from civil rights that prevail in the Free State,” she said. hottest day of the year we are standing here Delegates Luke Clippinger, Jolene Ivey, Eric each of us deserves because the fight for Catholics for Equality Foundation in front of City Hall in Baltimore saying ‘You Luedtke, Maggie McIntosh, Keiffer Mitchell, equality affects all of us. Next year as your Director Joseph Palacios said, “American know what, were going to get this bill through Heather Mizeur, Peter Murphy, Shane mayor, I will make sure Baltimore continues Catholics are the most socially progressive the Maryland House of Delegates.’ And it’s Robinson and Samuel “Sandy” Rosenberg. to stand with you in Annapolis.” Christian denomination in the United States.” going to happen during the next nine months State Senator Richard S. Madaleno attended, “Your fight is our fight and together I Manley P. Calhoun, the chair of Maryland because we have the momentum, we have and gave the final speech. know we will win.” Catholics for Equality, echoed that senti- the momentum of a great new coalition in Baltimore OUTloud contributing writer Executive Director of Progressive ment. “American Catholics are above the na- Maryland, all of the partners.” Reverend Mother Meredith Moise stood with Maryland Rion Dennis presented marriage tional average in support of civil marriage “Whether it’s the faith community, the the crowd of community leaders and activ- equality not only as a progressive value equality,” he said. “Currently the majority of labor community, the gay community, the ists. Longstanding LGBT rights advocate and but “also a conservative value. The govern- political leaders here in Maryland in sup- straight community we have the allies in 14th District Baltimore City Councilperson ment should not be in the business of pick- port of LGBT equality are Catholic, including Maryland to push it forward and we have that Mary Pat Clark joined also. ing and choosing which couples can get mar- the governor. Catholic support at all levels in incredible victory in New York showing us Mayor Stephanie Rawlings Blake quipped ried. Government should be in the business New York was instrumental in the passage of the way showing us the path to victory.” that she would be brief for fear that the health of making families stronger and nothing says civil marriage equality in that state.” “History marks Maryland as the sev- commissioner would advise her that it was a ‘family’ like marriage,” he said. Rev. David North of the Holy Redeemer enth state to embrace the United States code red day. She said that she is grateful that “Three weeks ago we saw progressives Metropolitan Community Church in College Constitution and all that that stands for and Baltimore is ground zero for the coalition that and conservatives come together in New Park proclaimed, “There is a new reality of as Rion pointed out we will make history in will legalize all marriage in 2012. York and voted resoundingly for the freedom what family is. There is a fundamental rede- the next nine months by making Maryland the “I am a mayor who believes in equality to marry. They voted for basic fairness on be- fining of family.” seventh state to embrace marriage equality.” for all Baltimoreans, regardless of your age, half of thousands of couples who wished to State Senator Richard S. Madaleno said: Governor Martin O’Malley did not attend regardless of your gender, your race, your make a lifelong commitment,” he added. “Usually when we stand before you in the launch. t

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6 q BALTIMORE OUTLOUD JULY 15, 2011 • baltimoreoutloud.com ent from that traditionally associated with the of them is coming from a slightly different the benefits of accepting the language of person’s physiology or assigned sex at birth, culture. Senator Frosh is exactly because it is “the which gender-related identity can be shown Professor Stout, a protégé of the unique- language of Senator Frosh.” In past years he by providing evidence including, but not lim- ly American philosopher Richard Rorty, may has been an obstacle to passage of an an- City Desk ited to, medical history, care or treatment of have been echoing Rorty’s oft quoted cyni- ti-discrimination bill. There is a political ad- view from Mt Vernon the gender-related identity, consistent and cism “Truth is, to be sure, an absolute notion, vantage to paying deference to his language, Dana LaRocca uniform assertion of the gender-related iden- in the following sense: ‘true for me but not for and by so doing, to his authority. Removing tity or any other evidence that the gender-re- you’ and ‘true in my culture but not in yours.’” his opposition to the bill, some say, is essen- lated identity is sincerely held, part of a per- That said, we might be wiser to consider tial for passage. son’s core identity or not being asserted for the most useful definition rather than the one “Gender Identity” is a wholly political A Leaky an improper purpose.” that is most “true,” especially since truth is term. Those who would like a scientific or That definition leaves some asking just elusive. A definition that the particular state medical definition will have to come to terms Umbrella how one is supposed to show all of that when legislature is willing to embrace may be bet- with the fact that nature provides a great deal they are in a hurry to use the restroom. ter than one that has the stamp of approv- more gender diversity than does either law or Some in the Maryland’s transgender com- Here in Maryland at the end of the last al of various self-appointed transgender au- politics. In attempting to limit protections to a munity are concerned that as we go forward legislative session Senator Frosh’s proposed thorities. A law that fails to pass is not going few they will instead be faced with a world of with next year’s anti-discrimination bill we amended language left the final definition as, to protect anyone. gender that was never binary, it was merely will be confronted with a definition of “gen- “a persistent bona fide gender-related iden- I cannot speak for states other than described as such for convenience. der identity” that over reaches by including tity and the manifestation of that identity in Maryland. But here, once a law is passed, Transgender activists quibbling over def- too many under the umbrella. Others are gender-related appearance regardless of the complaints will more likely go through the initions will find that no matter how the law concerned that a definition that is too much individual’s assigned sex at birth.” Maryland Commission on Human Relations is worded the protections will be the same. based on medical terminologies might prove Even that simple definition has activists than through private attorneys. The nature They argue over whether or not they want a an obstacle for the poor, who may have no and their adversaries arguing at length about of the organization in particular and the law to protect “transgender” people, or “peo- access to medical treatment. Much of this what constitutes “persistent” and “bona fide.” liberal tendencies of Maryland in gener- ple with a transsexual history,” as though debate has been stirred by the recent defi- Princeton’s Jeffrey Stout once wrote, “To al will always lead to a broader interpreta- anybody outside our little world knows or nition approved by the State of Connecticut, understand the messages of, say, a Jerry tion of the law than the language necessari- cares about the difference. which defines gender identity as: Falwell, Elie Wiesel or Mario Cuomo, we first ly demands. Therefore, here in Maryland we Regardless of the final wording, the bur- “‘Gender identity or expression’ means a have to understand the moral language in have a built in protection. Rorty’s “true in my den of proof will still be on the complainant to person’s gender-related identity, appearance which they frame them....” culture but not in yours” quip would seem show that she fits the definition of transgen- or behavior, whether or not that gender-relat- I think that is true when we read the defi- to apply. der. The only winners in this tiresome debate ed identity, appearance or behavior is differ- nitions provided by the various states. Each Here in Maryland I think that one of are the opponents of trans protections. t

BALTIMORE OUTLOUD JULY 15, 2011 • baltimoreoutloud.com q 7 beyond the beltway compiled by jim becker GOP prez hopeful Connecticut’s Governor Dannel P. Malloy for Bachmann takes signing their new legislation protecting trans- Boston lesbian gender youth and adults from discrimination pioneer anti-gay pledge in all areas including employment, housing and public accommodations,” Gunner Scott, Kip Tierman Des Moines, IA – Rightwing, homopho- Executive Director of the Massachusetts dies of cancer bic Republican presidential candidate Rep. Transgender Political Coalition (MTPC), Michelle Bachmann was the first to sign a told Bay Windows. “I hope that our own Boston, MA – Kip Tierman, founder of the new anti-gay conservative pledge July 7. Massachusetts legislature will soon follow country’s first homeless shelter for wom- Bachmann was first in line to agree to “The in passing our state’s Transgender Equal en, died of cancer Saturday, July 2 at her Marriage Vow: A Declaration of Dependence Rights Bill.” owner of BS West and promoter for the Miss South End apart- upon Marriage and Family” a conserva- Connecticut is the 15th state with clear Gay Arizona USofA competition; Daniel ment. She was tive pledge to de- legal protections designated for its trans- Eckstrom, promoter for the Miss Gay Arizona 85. Rosie’s Place fend the Defense gender residents in statewide nondiscrim- America pageant; and Robert Hess III, a was just one of of Marriage Act ination legislation. “An Act Concerning former promoter for the Mister and Miss Tiernan’s many ac- (DOMA), oppose Discrimination,” or HB-6599 – a bill that bars Phoenix Gay Pride pageant. They wanted to c omplishments, any form of gay discrimination based on “gender identity or find a way to bring together performers from truly making her marriage at any expression” in employment, housing, and the area’s major pageants. “The concept was Kip Tierman an unsung hero of level of govern- Michelle Bachmann public accommodations (including use of to have the girls who the community helped the LGBT commu- ment, and a ban- public restrooms) – passed the Connecticut get through the pageant system give back nity. Sue Marsh, executive director of Rosie’s ning of pornography among 11 other vows. House after a five-hour debate on May 19, to the community,” Fornelli said. Hess said Place, said in a statement she was “so sor- The pledge – produced by influential, Iowa- and the Senate on June 4. that Drag Wars is a way for pageant contes- ry to be saying goodbye to a good friend of based Family Leader – is a required commit- “GLAD was proud to be part of the co- tants and other entertainers to raise money mine. She has been the fiery, feisty, and be- ment for any candidate seeking future en- alition that worked to pass Connecticut’s for charity. “It is an opportunity to be super loved touchstone for the mission and vision dorsement by the group. transgender non-discrimination bill, and we silly and rambunctious and crazy, which you of Rosie’s Place, a compassionate friend to “We are intentional about the opportuni- are thrilled that Governor can’t do in a pageant,” Hess said. Last year every woman in need.... Kip worked to take ty to take another step in fulfilling our mis- Malloy signed the bill into Drag Wars raised more than $8,000. About the hurt away.” sion to strengthen families by providing the law on,” said Jennifer Levi, 2,000 people come to the event each year. “Every day of her life she lived for social Marriage Vow to presidential candidates,” director of Gay & Lesbian Drag Wars features a competition be- justice, and the lives she saved were vvun- said Family Leader President and CEO Bob Advocates & Defenders’ tween teams. Teams are judged on how told,” Boston Mayor Thomas M. Menino told Vander Plaats. The document’s footnotes Transgender Rights much money they raise, how many mem- the Boston Globe. “She always said that cite anti-gay statistics that have been called Project. “Congratulations bers they have and how many events they someday we will stamp out homelessness, into question. One medical study the pledge to the state of Connecticut participate in. Drag queens Coco St. James, but until that day we have to make sure ev- used to claim that half of gay men won’t live for recognizing the digni- also known as Mikee Leon, and Kira Daniels, eryone understands that a homeless person past 65 was done at the height of the AIDS ty and worth of its trans- also known as Topher Freeman, participat- could be one of us. She was a very special pandemic and focused on a specific com- gender residents and act- ed in the first two Drag Wars, including doing person, and there’s a big hole in our lives to- munity. The researchers who conducted the ing to ensure that they will Sumo wrestling. Besides raising money for Gov. Malloy day because Kip’s not here. This nation is study have spoken out against its use in ho- have fair and equal op- charity, Leon said that Drag Wars helped him going to miss Kip Tiernan because of her mophobic rhetoric and deny its pertinence to portunities to earn a living, find a safe and to get his name out there as a drag queen. fight for social justice.” today’s GLBT community. comfortable place to live, and enjoy pub- Money raised this year will go to Project Tiernan spent four decades lobbying A Bachmann aid, Alice Stewart, told the lic spaces without fear of being discriminat- Hard Hat, KinderCare Learning Centers and for housing and health care, and was in- Des Moines Register the congresswoman ed against simply because of who they are.” the Joshua Tree Feeding Program Inc. (Echo volved in several social justice organiza- had no problems signing the pledge. “She (Bay Windows – Hannah Clay Wareham at Magazine – Laura Latzko at Echomag.com) tions that worked to aid the disadvantaged, has been married for over 30 years and has Baywindows.com) including the Greater Boston Food Bank, the a strong marriage and faith.” (365Gay.com – LGBT community Boston Women’s Fund, Health Care for the Blair Misleau) Annual Drag Wars Homeless, the Ethical Policy Institute, and included in national the Poor People’s United Fund. Connecticut adopts raises money for health survey “Kip Tiernan’s compassion ran deep Arizona LGBT and long, and because of that she was not transgender Washington, D.C. – The U.S. Department daunted by obstacles that would stop oth- protection law community of Health and Human Services has taken er people from helping others,” Her long- Scottsdale, AZ – Sumo wrestling, “Family a large step forward in the effort to allevi- time partner Edith Nicholson passed away Hartford, CT – Connecticut Governor Feud” competitions, pie throwing, a bungee ate LGBT health disparities. HHS unveiled in the 1990s. She wed partner of 15 years Dannel P. Malloy on July 5, signed into law obstacle course, a dance crew showcase its plan June 29 to incorporate questions on Donna Pomponio in 2004. “The tragedies in legislation barring discrimination based on and a turnabout drag show will be part of the sexual orientation and gender identity into the world continued to propel her to fix things gender identity or expression in employ- third annual Drag Wars. Staged at BS West in its National Health Interview Survey, mark- and make them better,” Pomponio told the ment, housing, public accommodations, Scottsdale, the event kicks off July 15 with the ing the first time a federal agency will collect Globe. “She knew that as human beings, we credit and all other laws under the jurisdiction Elements drag show and continues July 16 LGBT health data. HHS secretary Kathleen could do better for each other.” (Bay Area of the state’s Commission on Human Rights and 17. Elements will share the stage with the Sebelius said the agency will include ques- Reporter – Hannah Clay Wareham at bay- and Opportunities. “The Massachusetts BS West staff for the closing night drag show. tions on sexual orientation in the NHIS by windows.com) Transgender Political Coalition applauds Drag Wars was started by Mike Fornelli, 2013 and, in the meantime, will test such

8 q BALTIMORE OUTLOUD JULY 15, 2011 • baltimoreoutloud.com beyond the beltway news // LOCAL questions to ensure effectiveness. “The first know this. And so far we have been excluded step is to make sure we are asking the right from data collection and kept out of power.” LGBT Police Liaison on Duty questions,” Sebelius said. Sell said he has asked federal health officials By Steve Charing Progress has been noted over the years “This is a historic day for the field of to begin LGBT data collection at least once a He has met with business owners in the Mt. but Sgt. Kowalczyk acknowledges that “there LGBT health,” said Hutson Inniss, executive year since 1988 and has been told in the past Vernon and southeastern Baltimore areas to has been a traditional mistrust of the police director of the National Coalition for LGBT that such an effort was being made. When assure them that the police are around by some within the LGBT communi- Health, in a statement last week. “We know the survey does become LGBT-inclusive, if needed. He mingled among the ty.” He believes that the mistrust that LGBT individuals experience unique Sell said, the implications for the community crowd at the Pride block party to needs to be overcome. health disparities will be vast. “This is much bigger than same- remind the LGBT folks the same And the biggest challenge and tracking this sex marriage – this is huge.” (Philadelphia thing. lies with improving relations data on the na- Gay News – Jen Colletta at Epgn.com) He’s Sgt. John Kowalczyk of with the transgender communi- tional level will be the Baltimore Police Department, ty who are seen often as pros- a remarkable step whose regular assignment is in titutes by members of the police forward to docu- These news notes have been compiled, the Southeastern District special- force. Accordingly, many in the with permission, from the online version menting and iden- izing in community affairs. But he is transgender community possess a of various newspapers and other web tifying ways to re- also the liaison to the LGBT commu- great deal of suspicion towards the po- sites. We thank these publications for duce the disparities that LGBT people face.” nity in Baltimore – a position that was set allowing us to bring you their news sto- lice, thus creating tension. “With proper “Data collection, or the lack of data col- ries. Usually the reports have been sig- up over two years ago to foster better rela- training that mistrust will change over time,” lection, is probably one of the most impor- nificantly edited and you can read the tions between community members and the Sgt. Kowalczyk says. tant things hampering the health of LGBT full story by going to the web site men- Baltimore Police Department and to help im- Anybody in Baltimore’s LGBT commu- people and also the advancement of LGBT tioned following the item. Comments prove the environment for LGBT officers. nity who needs to speak with the Baltimore civil rights,” said Dr. Randall Sell, director of are strictly the opinions of Jim Becker Sgt. Kowalczyk came out as gay while Police Department’s liaison, Sgt. Kowalczyk, Drexel University’s Program for LGBT Health. and not of Baltimore OUTloud or Pride in the Police Academy 10 years ago and can call him at 410-354-5169 or preferably e- “Data is power, and the government knows Media. acceptance among the force has been mail him at John.Kowalczyk@baltimorepo- this. Politicians know this. Policymakers steady. “There are lots of openly gay of- lice.org. t ficers on the force now,” he told Baltimore OUTloud. “The news // LOCAL Police Commissioner [Frederick H. Bealefeld, III] has been very sup- The Den: Helping Gay Youth portive, and this support travels down to all.” On June 30 The Den, screening to the as- In 2009 he and Baltimore’s LGBT youth sembled members and then liaison Sgt. Jeffrey center, hosted a meet and supporters. Community Chaney were grand greet at the GLCCB followed advocates Rev. Mary marshals in Baltimore’s by a viewing of videos under Moise, Carlton Smith Pride Parade, but peo- the “It Gets Better” theme. and Jenna Fischetti ple need to be reminded After an hour of so- were among the periodically that the liai- cializing among The Den supporters. son still exists. members and support- Fusion Partnerships To help improve re- ers, the night began with sponsor the Den in lations with the LGBT Mistress of Ceremonies and much the same way community there is a Queen of Benefits Shawnna that Trans-United and written general order Alexander. She talked about other community sup- within the department youth growing up in the port organizations are that spells out how of- shadows of adults who got sponsored by them. ficers should respond beat up and had to fight for According to their web- to situations involving the rights that LGBT youth site, “The Den seeks to LGBT victims and how now experience. provide mentorship for to deal with hate bias in- Shawnna kept the crowd sexual minority youth cidents as well as hate Lamont Bryant, chair of The Den upbeat as she introduced photo: JW Photos that incites career ex- crimes. The order also Drag artist London and the ploration and develop- establishes the liaison London Performers. London’s performance ment among youth through paid internships function, which is cur- and that of her dancers electrified the crowd throughout Baltimore with positive adult role rently handled by Sgt. in preparation for the main event, the screen- models.” Kowalczyk. And the way ing of The Den’s “It Gets Better, Baltimore” Through social and cultural enrichment, to interact with the LGBT public service announcements. The Den provides a safe space for those community is taught at Lamont Bryant, chairperson of The Den, youth to function in a nonjudgmental envi- the Academy during its introduced the public service announcement ronment. t diversity training.

BALTIMORE OUTLOUD JULY 15, 2011 • baltimoreoutloud.com q 9 The most powerful self-conversation is one love with him. And if you’re still in-love with in which you remind yourself of the good feel- him, why would you continue to step out? ings and rewards that you’ll get when you finish Shouldn’t the first time that it happened the activity. You should also call attention the and the only thing on my mind was I wish Getting parts of the activity that are actually pleasant Hearts my man were between my legs right about Unstuck – for example, I doubt that the avoided activ- and Minds now, that should have clued you into some- Gerry Fisher ity involves pain, torture, abuse, or even much Shawn Bradley thing. I would have jumped up out of the bed, sweating and straining. Finally, explore ways grabbed my clothes and high-tailed it to my that you can do the avoided activity that make man and worked whatever it is out. Leave it easier, quicker, and more pleasant for your- Would You Call So, while another man is screwing you self. Once your focus adjusts in this way, keep and the whole time you’re thinking about Procrastination the more motivating focus. Use any tricks you This Love? your partner, is that something you would need to maintain this motivated focus, such as call love? Behind post-it notes, index cards, clever or humorous While another is in me, I can only think about I wrote this article months ago, but never phrases, photographs, and so on. my lover. Physically another man is screwing published it. I guess I just needed time to re- While speaking to a business-networking Now, having a deep self-conversation me but mentally it’s my lover’s face I see. It’s my ally think about how I really feel. I mean tru- group recently, I mentioned that a good refer- can take practice over time, and ongoing lover’s body I feel, but yet my legs are up in the ly answer it and not just some off the cuff an- ral for me would be someone who struggles life coaching can help you develop this skill. air and another man’s sweat is dripping on me. swer that you give to your friends over a bowl with procrastination; life coaching could re- In the beginning, it probably won’t work ev- Ok my mouth is completely open at this of edamame. I have been a relationship for ally help get things moving again. The room ery time you try it. For this reason, I’ve de- point. I sat here listing to my friend telling me over two years now. More like 20 years in the erupted with chuckling and tittering. I’d for- veloped a “get ‘er done” approach to use for about one of his many experiences he’s had. gay community, LOL… As I thought about gotten that just about everyone deals with quicker results. Here it is: make a deal with Yes, he was stepping out on his lover. The part this question, I had sort of a revelation and I procrastination. yourself that you’ll do the avoided activity for I don’t get is why would he step out on him decided that sex is sex, and love is so much As with most things in life, there is a con- a half hour. No excuses. No discussion. No again and again especially during periods of more. What I mean by that is I can have sex tinuum. On the lighter side of the procras- delay. At the end of the half hour, if you are infidelity when it’s his lover he’s thinking about? with anyone but I can only make love to my tination continuum, it could mean that you truly, truly hating it, then you have total per- Would you call that love, is what he partner. For me sex is so overrated. Don’t leave things to the last minute, but you fin- mission to stop and do something else. asked me? Personally, I don’t. However, at get me wrong it’s good in every since of the ish in time, and life goes on fine…just not as When I use this method myself, I find that the same time I’m confused. word, but honestly I was a virgin until I was stress-free as you’d like. On the heavier side, 95% of the time I’m on such a roll at the end First, my initial instinct is to say that if you 19 years old, all those years of pent up sexu- procrastination could mean chronic lateness, of the half hour that I just continue on for a few love him you wouldn’t cheat on him. I know al desire, I was expecting a lot more. So with missing deadlines, intense anxiety, painful more hours. There’s often something about relationships aren’t perfect and most of us sex being sex, if I were to cheat on my lov- avoidance, straining an important relation- setting it into motion that makes it feel better. have issues to work through in that depart- er, you can believe I wouldn’t be envisioning ship, or having it get so bad that it feels as if Once you get moving, you can “relax into it.” ment. For me, when it comes to the point of him between my legs while another man is your entire life is put on hold. Generally, beating procrastination is not cheating on your partner, it’s usually some- running up in me. I wouldn’t think of him be- Whether you’re facing garden variety specific to LGBT life. However, I noticed thing you want that he’s not giving you or cause I’m having sex and not making love. procrastination or the type that threatens something recently that reminded me it can something that you want and to afraid to ask Love is an emotional connection that makes jobs, relationships, and health, it helps to re- be particularly useful for members of our for. There’s a lack of communication some- sex so much more. Those of you in love duce it. Here’s a process for doing that: communities. I was checking out the reader where and maybe he’s not aware of it. So, know what I’m talking about. Sex is some- • Notice that you are procrastinating, comments on an LGBT news site, and some- before you go wanting to another, sit down thing that’s good not great. You know leave which is not as obvious as it sounds. When one said, “I just wish [a politician would give and talk to each other, especially if you love your money on the dresser and never call me I procrastinate, I can feel very preoccupied stronger pro-gay statements]. Then, I could him, don’t you at least owe each other that? again type of sex. So when my legs are up in and lost in “important” thoughts. “Gerry, get on with my life….” Second, this is where I’m completely the air, trust me my man is always there. t you’re not doing anything deep or important, Reee-eally?! This pro-gay politician who confused. I would say that if you’re screwing To hear more from Shawn Bradley check here. You’re procrastinating.” isn’t pro-gay enough is preventing you from someone else and all you can think about is out Guysatbrunch.com. Also be sure to pick • S-l-o-w down. Step away from what it getting on with your life? I’m sorry, but that your man while being screwed, then I would up his debut comedy CD A Bottom Like Me, is that you’re doing for a few minutes. Take can’t possibly be true. say in some weird way that you’re still in- now on iTunes and Amazon.com. a few deep breaths. Use mindfulness skills It makes me wonder sometimes, on a so- to notice your five senses – see, hear, smell, cial and political level, if we aren’t procras- touch, taste. Clear your head. tinating, distracting ourselves with impas- • Have a compassionate-yet-firm conver- sioned activity, because of insecurities and sation with yourself; convince yourself to put fears. I do understand the importance of val- Rev. Mother Meredith Moise, down what you’re doing soon and pick up the idation for all people, especially LGBT peo- activity you’d been avoiding. Be willing to put ple. But sometimes we need to just get on down the current activity even if it’s not finished. with it. Our lives are too precious to be put on ordained Old Catholic priest, When you have this self-conversation, hold until we twist the arm of some self-serv- pretend that you are actually helping a friend ing politician or until we convince some clue- specializing in weddings, baptisms, funerals, whom you love to reconsider things. Use the less straight people to “get it.” t same tone of voice, word choice, and com- [Editor’s note: Gerry would like you to home blessings, spiritual direction. For more passion. Next, I’ll share with you two types of know that minimal procrastination was in- conversations that I find most helpful in get- volved in the writing and submission of this information, 410-900-2021 or [email protected] ting past procrastination: 1) The most pow- column. It was submitted with a day to spare!] erful, long-lasting type, and 2) The no-non- Learn more about getting things done at sense, quickest type. BaltimoreLifeCoachGerry.com

10 q BALTIMORE OUTLOUD JULY 15, 2011 • baltimoreoutloud.com HEALTH AND WELLNESS

A recent study did show a higher risk for cardiovascular events (meaning heart attack or stroke) in people taking Chantix than in people taking placebo (a pill containing no medicine). The rate of cardiac events among Open Wide people taking Chantix was 1.06%, which is ask Dr Eva 10 events for every 1000 people. The risk of Dr Eva Hersh cardiac events among people taking placebo was 0.8% or 8 events for every 1000 people. So in each group of 1000, two people, or one Will My Stop-Smoking in 500, had a heart attack or stroke which might have been caused by Chantix. Med Give Me a The only reason this difference was sta- tistically significant was that this was a me- Heart Attack? ta-analysis. A meta-analysis is a statistical analysis done by combining the results of Dear Dr. Eva, multiple studies. The purpose is, by look- I am a 60-year-old smoker and a diabet- ing at larger numbers, to see if results that ic. I have been taking Chantix for three years were too small to be significant in the individ- because it helps me smoke less. I under- ual studies might appear significant when all stand this is usually a short term drug. My the studies are considered together. In this doctor continues to prescribe it for me at my case, the meta-analysis combined 14 earlier request. If I take it, I smoke one pack a day. studies with a total of 8000 patients. An in- If I don’t take it, I smoke two packs per day. creased cardiac risk from Chantix had been Now I’m seeing all over the Internet that found in only one of these 14 studies, but Chantix may cause heart attacks. I have when the 14 studies were combined the risk tried the other meds for nicotine addiction then appeared significant. and they don’t work for me. My doctor says It’s important to remember that statisti- she is nervous about keeping me on this cally significant and clinically significant are medication but will continue if I insist. Should not necessarily the same thing. You, as a I insist? sixty-year-old smoker, have about a one in Addicted five risk of a cardiac event in the next five years. Those odds may not sound bad to you Dear Addicted, – one in five does not sound all that awful To answer your question, I’ll start with – but it means that the risk of you having a my recommendation. Overall I think the risk stroke or heart attack from being a diabetic to your heart of the second pack per day who smokes are 100 times higher than the is greater than the risk your heart from the risk of you having a heart attack from taking Chantix. However if there is any other way Chantix. Decreasing your cardiac risk in oth- you can get down to one pack a day or less er ways, such as by making sure that your without the Chantix, that would be preferable diabetes is well controlled, that your blood to taking the Chantix. pressure and cholesterol are normal, and The other medications for smoking ces- that you take a baby aspirin daily (unless you sation that I would like you to make sure you are allergic to it or there is another medical have tried are: reason you should not), will all do more to 1) Zyban, also sold under another brand preserve your health than stopping Chantix name as Wellbutrin, or under the generic would do. t name bupropion and Dr. Eva Hersh is chief medical officer at 2) Nicotine replacement. There are many Chase Brexton Health Services. Send ques- forms of nicotine replacement including a tions to [email protected], or to Eva nicotine inhaler in the form of a cigarette, Hersh MD, Chase Brexton Health Services, nicotine gum, nicotine lozenges, and nico- 1001 Cathedral St., Baltimore, MD 21201. tine patches.

BALTIMORE OUTLOUD JULY 15, 2011 • baltimoreoutloud.com q 11 THINKING OUT LOUD Same Song, Different Verse Pride Begins Inside By Cathy Brennan dorsement for his support of the domes- By Rev. Mother Meredith Moise deserving. Our efforts have their root in our Anyone who has been paying the least bit of tic partnership bill, among other items. And, Many of us are waiting for acceptance. We humanity – our innate desire to live as free attention to Baltimore city politics knows at despite being the “establishment choice,” clamor for the world to love us. But what we and complete human beings. The foundation least two things –incumbent Mayor Stephanie Stokes lost again. fail to realize is the love we crave is the love of law in this country speaks to life, liberty Rawlings-Blake is under attack from a num- Of course, our community is not a one- that must come from within. and the pursuit of happiness. Not only should ber of corners for her perceived inability and trick pony. We care about other issues, and The day of the hat-in-hand “homosex- perennial candidate Carl Stokes thinks he is one of the most important issues – educa- ual” who begs to be loved and affirmed by “When we walk with the man needed to reshape the city and take tion – is an area where Stokes has made a the world, specifically heterosexual world, the helm as Baltimore’s next mayor. contribution. After serving on the Baltimore are over. We proclaim how much we are heads high, filled Of course, that should be “thought.” City Council from 1987 to 1995, the Governor the “same” and how much we deserve to with self love and self Even the most jaded political observers ex- of Maryland and the Mayor of Baltimore ap- be loved and affirmed by the masses. What pressed surprise earlier this month when pointed Stokes to serve on the then-newly re- we do not realize is that we must affirm our- respect, we command Stokes – who has served on the Baltimore constituted Baltimore City Board of School selves. The love starts with us. City Council in four decades now – decided Commissioners. Stokes, as part of a co- Seeking love outside of self is a hall- the love and respect that he was not actually the man for the job alition of activists, including the Baltimore mark of self hatred. When we walk with that we deserve.” and refilled to retain the city council seat to Education Network, Advocates for Children heads high, filled with self love and self re- which the city council appointed him in 2003. and Youth (full disclosure: I served as educa- spect, we command the love and respect So why the change of heart? Stokes tion director at ACY from 1999 to 2001) and that we deserve. The world loves the queen we embrace these ideals for ourselves but claimed in media reports that there were the Maryland Education Coalition (full disclo- who high steps communicate a fierce love we truly embody them in our struggles. too many candidates for mayor and that “the sure: I served as staff for MEC from 1999 to of self and life. The world applauds the Our challenge has always been to sur- message gets muddled.” That may very well 2001), successfully lobbied for passage of the butch who swag is so fierce it reverberates vive with integrity. Our challenge has always be true. But for gay people, it’s particularly Bridge to Excellence in Public Schools Act, a strength and pride. Our community needs been to live with dignity. With every insult important to remember why Carl Stokes has significant reform aimed at ensuring adequa- to get to a critical mass of self love and self suffered, we found a way to not only survive, a mixed message on our issues. cy and equity of funding for students in pub- affirmation. but to thrive in the harshest conditions. As In the early 1990s, Carl Stokes and lic schools, regardless of local tax effort. This Our efforts to secure our rights are de- we move forward, remembering who we are eight other council members cospon- was no small undertaking, as richer jurisdic- rived from our belief that we are more than will dictate our road to victory. t sored a domestic partnership bill that would tions like Montgomery County perceived that have extended rights to the spouses of city Baltimore was attempting to garner more than employees in both same-sex and hetero- its fair share of state dollars. Stokes is certain- sexual relationships. With enough cospon- ly to be credited for his work in this area. Grace UMC, Baltimore City Welcome’s New Pastor sors to pass the modest proposal, gay ac- But does Stokes’ work on education enti- tivists had high hopes that it would pass. tle him to reelection to the 12th district coun- Unfortunately, some church leaders and cil seat? On Stokes’ campaign website – still the Interdenominational Ministerial Alliance fashioned as a mayoral candidacy website (which, incidentally, now supports the incum- – Stokes claims that he is a politician who bent mayor) pressured cosponsors to with- thinks “outside of the box.” However, a re- draw support. They argued that creating a view of his campaign platforms – none of domestic-partnership ordinance would un- which reference gays and lesbians specifi- dermine traditional marriage and family val- cally – he sounds like any other politician. It’s ues. In direct response, Stokes introduced particularly telling, in light of Stokes’ deep in- sabotaging legislation that would limit domes- volvement in schools issues, that he prioritiz- tic partnership to lesbians and gay men only. es “transform[ing] the Baltimore school sys- Ultimately, Stokes did not vote for the domes- tem into a top-tier twenty-first century school tic partnership bill. Instead, he took a walk system.” during the vote. Stokes later ran for city coun- Really? As a man who has held elected cil president in 1995 and lost, despite hav- office in the 1980s, 1990s, 2000s and now ing earned the Baltimore Sun’s endorsement 2010s, I ask, what have you been doing if (see http://articles.baltimoresun.com/1995- that transformation hasn’t yet started? 08-27/news/1995239029_1_stokes-city- Stokes, who is a nice man who even council-vera-hall). showed up for the rally organized by com- When Stokes ran for mayor in 1999, munity activists (including me) following the Rev. Amy Peed McCullough has served in the Baltimore-Washington Conference since 1999, when he again earned the endorsement of the beating of Chrissy Polis in late April, has not she accepted an appointment as the associate minister at Metropolitan Memorial UMC in Washington, D.C. She served as the pastor of Glenelg UMC in Western Howard County, where she helped lead the Baltimore Sun (see http://articles.baltimore- demonstrated that he gets or cares about the congregation through a transitional time following the retirement of a long time pastor, increased the sun.com/1999-08-18/news/9908180282_1_ issues of concern to gays and lesbians when church’s financial foundation, and began to grow its membership. Since 2005, McCullough has been stokes-city-council-weakness). He did the pressure is on. working towards a PhD in Homiletics and Liturgics at Vanderbilt University. Currently, she is in the final not, however, earn the endorsement of the We need a fierce advocate who will stages of writing her dissertation on contemporary female preachers and hopes to graduate in December Gay and Lesbian Community Center of stand up for us when we are not in the room. 2011. Her gifts in ministry include preaching, administrative leadership, pastoral care and a deep passion for urban ministries of social justice. Amy is married to Chris and is the mother of Luke and Suzanna. Baltimore’s Political Action Committee. Now- History has demonstrated that Stokes is not Rev. Nancy J Webb remains for her seventh year as Associate Pastor. Governor Martin O’Malley earned that en- that candidate for gays and lesbians. t

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Me. Remixes! (Little such as “Julius,” “Bury Us Alive,” “Death As A Fetish” (fea- iMusic: Dancing all the way Idiot / Mute). Ten of turing Mattress), “Astoria,” “Mona Vegas,” “Millions” and the songs from his “Quality Time.” By Gregg Shapiro 2009 Wait For Me disc are remixed on the first disc by the On New Chain (Jagjaguwar), Small Black works nuggets Sorry, gay brothers and sisters, we no longer have a lock on likes of Carl Cox and Tiesto, whereas the second disc is an of `80s new wave into their eclectic electro. “Search Party” interesting dance music. It appears that our straight neigh- exclusive DJ mix by Moby himself. sounds like the perfect soundtrack for raiding your closet in bors want to get in on the act. They want to make it and they It’s rare that an exclamation mark is as perfectly placed as search of day-glo outfits and shoes. “Photojournalist” devel- want to dance to it, so you better make room for them on the it is in the name of the band The Go! Team. Rolling Blackouts ops into a snapshot of another time, “Light Curse” is a gen- dance-floor at your favorite nightspot. (Memphis Industries), the raucous new disc by the exuber- tle musical blessing and the rattling title cut “New Chain” is Although he began his record playing career in gay ant Brits The Go! Team rolls out of the speakers like a cheer- bound to make you move. clubs, French DJ David Guetta doesn’t identify as a member leading squad on crystal. The perfectly named sonic storm Also surfing the ’80s new wave, Le Concorde, proudly of the tribe. That said, he’s given LGBT folks plenty of reasons “Tornado” blows listeners about, while “Secretary Song” is a wearing the influences of Prefab Sprout and Scritti Politti on for dancing over the years. And his latest disc, One More Love dynamic dip in the typing pool. Other reasons to cheer (and it fashionable sleeve, puts its money where its mouth is on (Astralwerks/Gum Prod), a trimmed down version of his 2009 dance) can be found in “Apollo Throwdown,” the rolling retro House (Le Grand Magistery). Working with David Gamson “One Love” full-length with a new song (“Who’s That Chick”? of “Buy Nothing Day,” the funky fresh “The Running Range” (of Scritti Politti) on the tracks “Who’s Ever Gonna Feel sung by the over-extended Rihanna) and a new version of an- and “Back Like 8 Track” and the rocking title tune. Sorry For Us” and “Sick As Your Secrets,” Le Concorde other (“Missing You” by Novel), is no exception. One More Aside from having a most excellent name, Discodeine, a front-man Stephen Becker sincerely flatters his inspirations. Love retains a few tracks including “Getting’ Over You,” fea- French duo made up of Pilooski and Pentile, also have a firm Completely at home on the dance-floor, Le Concorde sets turing vocals by out singer Chris Willis as well as the winning grasp on vintage disco as you can hear on “Singular,” the listeners in motion on standout tracks such as “Kisses With “When Love Takes Over” with vocals by Kelly Rowland. It’s opening track from their self-titled Pschent disc. They are Comet Tails,” “Sometimes It’s Hard,” “Any Bitter Truth,” “Make up to you whether or not you want to pop for this extravagance. equally at ease whipping up an island breeze on “Falkenberg,” Our Move” and the Dusk Version remix of “The Movement of There are beats and blips aplenty on Jo Jo Burger Tempest testing your patience on the plucky “Antiphonie,” circling a Cherry Blossoms.” (Melodic) by Working For a Nuclear Free City. Disc one moves handclap beat on “Ring Mutilation,” gracing our feet with For further dancing diversions, consider Gold On back and forth between cool dance-oriented tracks (such as something to do on “Grace” and getting Jarvis Cocker to cut Gold (Plant) by Clubfeet, Subiza (True Panther Sounds) “Autoblue,” “Pachinko,” “Low”) and more space-rock-oriented loose on “Synchronize.” by Delorean, Völuspà (goldenfilter.com) by The Golden numbers (“Do A Stunt,” “Faster Daniel Faster,” “The King and Starfucker is also a nifty name for a band, don’t you Filter, Live Like You Wanna Live (Om) by Greenskeepers, June,” “Little Lenin”), while the epic title track takes up the entire think? The Pacific Northwest-based trio’s third full-length Well Done Europe (Lo Recordings) by The Chap, The second disc, and you can dance if you want to. Reptilians (Polyvinyl) takes an interesting approach to get- Automatic Process (Defend Music) by Home Video, LP4 Moby must know that his longtime fans love him, but they ting you up and in motion. A playfully experimental qual- (XL Recordings) by Ratatat, Darker Blue (Defend Music) by seem to love him more when he makes them want to dance. ity saturates much of the record. Determined not to bore A.R.E. Weapons and Funeral Party’s eponymous RCA emo- That could be one of the reasons for the double disc Wait For you, Starfucker keeps the beats breezy and bright on songs dance debut disc. t

SCREEN SAVOR Even Theo’s jaded friends, including bartender/single dad derline autistic son Will (Charlie Tahan). Uncivil Unions Will (Ivan Martin) are appalled by his actions. But Theo is At the beginning of the film, we learn that Emilia and hooked and doesn’t show any signs of making plans to Jack have lost their infant daughter Isabel to SIDS. Young By Gregg Shapiro change. Will lives with Emilia and Jack, and as you might expect, For all the straight people who still have a problem with Sad and dark, “Monogamy” is a modern-day tragedy. isn’t entirely sure how to address the issue or the traces same sex marriage, may I recommend Dana Adam To Shapiro’s credit, the film covers many emotional bas- of the baby (crib, carriage, etc.) still present in the house. Shapiro’s “Monogamy” (Oscilloscope)? Unconventional es with grace. And it’s also nice to hear characters talking And Emilia doesn’t exactly make it easy for him. What’s wedding photog Theo (Chris Messina) finds an outlet for to each other in the way that people talk. DVD bonus fea- worse, however, is that Emilia is a harboring a secret his creative expression as a candid photographer for hire tures include deleted scenes, a collection of outtakes and about the dead baby, which is what leads her to lash out under the name “Gumshoot.” much more. at everyone in her path, including gay pal Simon (out ac- Usually it’s innocent and harmless, like the pix he Didn’t get enough of Natalie Portman acting bat-shit tor Anthony Rapp). takes of active senior citizen Mr. Margolin (Madison crazy in “Black Swan” (for which she was unjustly reward- Even after she’s been kicked to the curb by Jack, Arnold). But an email from “Subgirl” (Meital Dohan), puts ed with an Oscar)? Then be sure to catch her trying to top Emilia is still someone in need of forgiveness, but seem- Theo in a compromising position. It’s a classic exhibition- herself in “The Other Woman” (IFC). Based on a novel by ingly incapable of understanding how to ask for it. Thus ist (“Subgirl”) and voyeur (Theo) situation, which begins Ayelet Waldman, the film is permeated with the most un- the viewer finds themselves, along with Emilia, on an end- with “Subgirl” masturbating on a park bench and ends with likeable collection of characters since, well, “Black Swan.” less downward spiral. For a movie with some relatively at- Theo becoming so obsessed with his subject that he in- Homewrecker Emilia (Portman) is a lawyer who sets tractive people in it, it sure is ugly. vents crazy-ass (and ultimately incorrect) scenarios to ex- her sites on Jack (Scott Cohen of “Kissing Jessica Stein” Perhaps the greatest disappointment of “The Other plain her behavior. fame) and promptly proceeds to seduce him. Of course, Woman” is that it was directed by Don Roos, the out film- As for his behavior, Theo rapidly declines and his tim- she doesn’t come from the best of homes, what with her maker responsible for far superior films such as “The ing couldn’t be worse. With just three months to go un- philandering father and long-suffering mother not exactly Opposite of Sex” and “Happy Endings.” We have come to til his wedding to loving, smart and talented fiancée Nat setting a great example. But what does it say about Jack, expect more from him and he simply fails to deliver here. (Rashida Jones), Theo does everything in his power (such who doesn’t hesitate to leave his successful doctor wife Minimal Blu-ray special features consist of the film’s trail- as being distracted and neglectful) to screw up his future. Carolyne (an exceedingly pinched Lisa Kudrow) and bor- er. t

16 q BALTIMORE OUTLOUD JULY 15, 2011 • baltimoreoutloud.com There is a theater so notorious, so rough, that stay active by walking, exercising, and eat- a female actor would not dare show her pretty ing right. I know it sounds corny but it’s real- self on stage, not with all those gruff miners. ly easy to do and you can stay healthy. Now, Why? She was just as liable to have a bottle for those of you who are HIV-negative I’m Sam thrown at her head lest she do less that they Voice of proud of you and happy that you have kept Unfiltered wanted, as she would have to duck a rose. So that status by any means necessary but just Sam Kunz men stepped in to take the parts of the women Youth for good measure. Make sure you know your in Shakespearian roles enacted on the dusty Terrence Brower numbers as well. Just remember no matter floorboards of...yes, the theater’s name? “The what your status is HIV STOPS with you and A Brief History of Birdcage,” which by the way some say is still practice safe sex no matter what. haunted. I’ll let that sink in for a minute. Know Your If you are interested in participating in the Drag Entertainment Next, we move on to when drag had study for slow progressor then please call its defining moment, June 27th, 1969. The Numbers 410-706-0100 and speak with Becky Boyce You may find yourself wandering into a club Stonewall Riots were led by, among others, in research to sign up for an appointment. in Baltimore. You find there is a cover for a drag queens who were mourning the death of First I just want to let everyone know that is This will not only help you but it will help the show with which you may not be familiar, the their hero. Judy Garland. This is one of the interested in Will Caldwell’s book “Boi, Pull field of HIV and the community. Remember, Drag Show. When I first started coming out, I reasons Drag Queens remain an integral part your pants up” can be brought at his personal you must be HIV positive and you must be a did not know what drag was. Only what I had at all Gay Pride events across the country. website. www.Willcproductions.net and the slow progressor to participate in the study. seen on TV and movies. Which most of the Being a drag queen is not simply putting on sequel to his book will be coming out soon. Remember, boi/gurl, Pull your pants up! t time was mocking it. Drag is an art form that lipstick, a wig and an awkward pair of heels. I heard some of it last night and I’m excited dates back hundreds of years. As someone who is deeply in the drag queen about it as well and will do a follow-up article. Allow me to elaborate. movement I can say it is so much more. It is Anyway, now with that piece of news Drag has its start in an art form known as not meant to mock womanhood, nor does it aside; Sorry for being AWOL for so long but “Kabuki”. This form of dance roughly trans- mean to denigrate it. It is meant to celebrate I’ve been very busy handling work and my lates to “Dance Drama”. It began around the the woman that lives inside all of us. current relation- year 1603 in Kyoto, Japan. Women first as- Drag began its renaissance with the ad- ship which is sur- sumed the roles in the dramas. But, in 1629, vent of one who many hold as the saint of prisingly still in when it took on a sexual turn. It was banned. Drag. The wonderful Glenn Milstead aka one piece after 4 That is until young boys started painting “Divine” starred in many of John Waters months. Today, I their faces and taking on the roles the wom- movies before her untimely passing. I have wanted to discuss en could not. Blammo! The first drag queen interviewed so many drag queens these past with the youth is born. More so, just like today. The up- couple of years and the thing I find that they and the read- per classes looked down upon it because it all have in common is their humanity. Not ers of this article meant the mixing of the haves and the have- one of them does it simply to go out there about “Knowing nots. The cast system in 1600s Japan is ac- and make money. They put hundreds of dol- your numbers.” As tually one that continues to this day. The only lars as well as hundreds of hours into per- many of you know, difference is Kabuki Theater is held as one fecting their craft just like any other per- I am HIV-Positive. of its highest art forms, that and sumo wres- former. They care about their audience just Don’t worry, I’m tling. So you do the math. as any other performer would in any other not going anywhere for a very, very, very Today in Tokyo, Osaka and Kyoto there form of theater. So just remember the next long time. The main reason I’m not going are dozens of regal theaters where one might time you go out there and you see a drag anywhere for a long time is because I know go to take in a Kabuki show. It is considered queen up on stage, sweating and putting ev- my numbers. If you are wondering what num- an honor to be seated at one of those and take erything she has into her performance. She bers I’m talking about I’m not talking about high tea before a show. It should also be not- comes from a long, proud line of sisters be- the numbers that I have in my brown book ed that men play all the roles in said shows. fore her. The most important thing is, don’t of hook-ups (Yes, I still keep the book even On September 13, Vote Odette Now you are wondering. How do we go forget to call her ma’am. Take care of your- though I’m in a relationship) but the numbers Ramos for City Council, 12th District from Kabuki to Drag as it is now? selves, Baltimore. Until next time, I’ll see you I’m talking about are my viral load and CD4 Odette is experienced and ready to: Well, now let me take you to the rough and in the stars. Just make my drink extra cold, count. My viral load is really low and my CD4 t - Ensure safe streets, spaces, and tumble old west. Picture it. 1865. Tombstone. two cubes, no water. is really extremely high. I am what they call neighborhoods in the medical field of HIV a slow processor - Move city government to work or HIV-1. efficiently and effectively. Recently, I was asked to take part in - Solve problems in neighborhoods a study with the University Of Maryland, - Invest in our youth Baltimore to see why my numbers are high. I get paid $25 per visit, they just take my Leadership, Integrity, No Excuses. blood, and I’m out the door. I think this is a “Odette’s track record good opportunity not only for the youth to speaks for itself. She is participate in but for anyone who is deemed ready to lead and serve in the 12th District” “undetectable.” I’ve been positive for 2 years - Delegate Maggie McIntosh now and my numbers continue to increase and go up. My secrets are that I stay out of www.odetteramos.com stress free environments, I stay rooted in my The first drag show? faith (Nichiren Daishonin Buddhism), and I

BALTIMORE OUTLOUD JULY 15, 2011 • baltimoreoutloud.com q 17 Brandon became interested in boot black- over three years.) He bars and give them ing after attending a demo years ago in New added that he does a packed house York City. It was not your typical shoeshine not necessarily have and a big profit- stand. This demo was quite hardcore and a foot fetish but that able evening. included S & M as well. After that evening, boots do hold a sex- I had to con- Leather Brandon went out to a secondhand store, ual attraction for him. gratulate Brandon Line purchased an old pair of boots, and began to They always have. on being selected Rodney Burger practice his craft. He learned how to fix, re- I attended Pride for the Pantheon pair, strip, and polish his boots. I have seen Events in several of Leather Award many bootblacks at work and asked Brandon cities this year and for the Mid-Atlantic The 2011 Pantheon what he thought was the most important el- it seems that Lady Region. Brandon ement: skill, passion, or flair? I have seen GaGa’s song “Born was complete- Mid-Atlantic Regional bootblacks with lots of flair, but limited skill. This Way” has be- ly humbled on Award Goes To… I have also seen those who are very skillful, come the unofficial being selected. but seem to lack the passion. Brandon feels 2011 Pride Theme. I (Declaimer: yours that dedication is the most important quality. asked Brandon what truly was also During International Mr. Leather Weekend A bootblack needs to find that balance be- he thought of that. nominated.) He in Chicago in May the Leather Journal an- tween skill and passion. For him boot black- Brandon laughed at hopes to attend the nounced this year’s selections for the region- ing has been a wonderful way to meet people my implication and awards ceremony al Pantheon of Leather Community Service in the Leather Community and has helped said that he real- at the Sanctuary Awards. This year’s Mid-Atlantic Leather him overcome shyness. He would encourage ly didn’t come out Studios LAX in Regional Award recipient is Brandon Riley. anyone who has an interest in boot black- as transgender un- Los Angeles on Although no stranger to Baltimore’s Leather ing to attend workshops, talk to other boot- til his step-down August 5, but Community, I managed to get Brandon to take blacks at events, and sit and watch the local speech as Mid- has not yet made a few minutes out of his busy schedule to an- bootblack titleholders work .After all mentor- Atlantic Community official plans. swer a few questions. I have known Brandon ing is one of the founding principles of the Bootblack 2009. He Mr. Maryland Leather 2011 Alex Lemaire The Pantheon for a few years now, but I still learned a lot. Bootblack Brigade. added that the GLBT (left), posing with Brandon Riley (right) at of Leather Brandon was born and raised on Long In is also clear that besides the skill, Community may- The International Mr. Leather 2011 compe- C o m m u n i t y tition in Chicago Island and moved to Philadelphia when he Brandon also has the passion. He says that be should be a little Service Awards was nineteen. Although he is so often seen when he is working on a pair of boots he likes more selective about Ceremony is in Baltimore that one would think that he lives to talk to the owner about the history of them. whom they support. He was quite unhappy also being held in conjunction with the in the area, he actually lives in New Jersey. Where did the person get them? Do they about the large number of “straight vendors” International Mr. & Ms. Olympus Leather After many years of involvement with the hold any special meaning? Where have they at the Leather Mart during the International 2011 Contest and he would very much like Philadelphia Leather Community, Brandon been? There is no doubt that for many leath- Mr. Leather Weekend in Chicago and ques- to be there if he could. Brandon keeps a was selected as the Mid-Atlantic Community er people it all begins with the boots. He finds tioned if those folks really support us or very busy scheduled and is very passionate Bootblack in 2009. It was in 2009 that he the history of a person’s boots to be exciting just want our money. I then asked him about raising funds to preserve leather histo- really began to shine! (Oh come on, you and to him it is quite a turn-on to think that what he thought of the idea of Gorilla Gay ry though such organizations as the Leather know I had to work at least one bad pun in for a moment in time he is in control of those Bar. Brandon has not attended any of their Archives & Museum and the Carter/Johnson here somewhere….) Along with California boots as he polishes them and becomes a events, but once in D.C. attended a sort Library. Brandon would also like to start a Community Bootblack 2009 “Blast”, Brandon part of them. of Gorilla Leather Bar where a large num- Bootblacking Leather History Project. was the co-founder of the Bootblack Brigade- Although Brandon was reluctant to talk ber of leather folk got together and invaded He has come a long way from that day the first patch club dedicated to the tradition about any individual fetishes, he is very much a “twink” bar. Once again he feels that the when he bought those boots at a second of boot blacking and leather care. The club into kink and S&M and describes his rela- LGBT Community needs to support our own hand store. It has been quite a journey. Just has grown quickly and is now an internation- tionship status as “owned.” (The Bootblack and would love to see all those hundreds think of the places that his boots have been. al club with over twenty-five full members in Brigade web site describes his partner as who are going to a straight bar for Gorilla Plus there is no limit to where they will go the Mid-Atlantic Area alone. “Miss Xani” and they have been together for Night invade one of the Eagles or local gay next! t

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July 15 – Open discussion is absolutely vital for 2011about the three pil- the advancement of July 24 lars of the chapter’s transgender issues, A Little Night mission: Support, legislation and edu- Music at the Education and cation in our com- Spotlighters Theatre. Advocacy. Meetings munity. The working Like a whirling are free, confidential group meets every oth- waltz with roman- and open to the public. er Wednesday at the tic partners moving Refreshments will be Equality Maryland of- through relationships served. 5:00 p.m., St. fices 1201 S. Sharp in transition, some to Paul’s UCC Fellowship Street, Baltimore, MD an end, some to be Hall, 17 Bond St. 21230). Free, registra- formed, some momen- (Bond & Green Sts.), tion required. For info tary and some lasting, Westminster, MD. Info: contact owen@equali- but all illustrating the 410-848-5975. Info: tymaryland.org vicissitudes of love. www.pflagwcc.org, A Little Night Music June Horner, 410-795- sweeps the audience 2418, e-mail: junehorn- into places of desire [email protected]. and thought, all incit- ing, and all forbidden. July 23 A Little Night Music claimed five 1973 Passing It Down! Tony Awards. Tickets at Creative Alliance Adults: $20 / Seniors Ken and Brad $18 / Students $16. All Kolodner, Billy tickets $10, July 21 - McComiskey and 8pm. http://www.spot- sons, Lea Gilmore lighters.org and her son Jonathan Musicians passing on July 15–17 the music they love to their children! Passing July 28 A rtscape: Mt. the torch to the next – 30 Royal Avenue and generation is especial- Cathedral Street and ly true in the worlds Pride Festival of surrounding areas. of traditional and jazz Central PA A huge celebra- music. 8 p.m Tickets A variety of activi- tion of visual and per- $16, members $11. ties and events de- forming arts. The The Patterson Creative signed to showcase largest arts festival Alliance, 3134 Eastern the community, now in the country, cov- Ave., Baltimore, MD in its 20th anniver- ering over ten city 21224 410-276-1651. sary year. The Pride blocks. Presented by 410-276-1651 info@ Festival of Central PA the Baltimore Office of creativealliance.org attracts over 5000 visi- Promotion & The Arts, tors to South Riverfront Inc. a 501(c)3 non-prof- Park, and over 1000 it. Free. Visit http:// July 27 visitors to the parade www.artscape.org in Harrisburg, PA. For T ransgender more information about Issues Working the Pride Festival of July 17 Group Central PA, for more in- PFLG A - The input and per- formation visit: http:// Westminster-Carroll spective of our trans- pocpa.prideofcentral- County Meeting gender supporters pa.org

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Despite the notorious reputation they earned in rate 30-year mortgages have been offered By Davey Wavey alive and full of energy. the wake of the subprime mortgage crisis, ad- at rates that hover right around five percent. As I write this, I’m sitting in a crowded termi- • Do less and accomplish more. When justable rate mortgage or ARM loans do have That’s a tremendous bargain when com- nal in Boston’s Logan Airport waiting for my traveling, many people try to do absolute- some compelling and redeeming qualities. pared to most rates over the past 30 or 40 flight to France. Though there’s a lot of mad- ly everything humanly possible. While it’s a Right now they offer incredibly cheap rates, years, so most LGBT borrowers don’t feel ness around me, I try not to get caught up tempting strategy, it usually results in see- and thanks to better regulation of the mortgage the need to look at other mortgage products. in it. I like to think of myself as the ing a lot but experiencing nothing. industry they are not the same treacherously • But those who shop around will find eye of the storm – calm amongst Instead of doing everything, just com- dangerous products that they were a few years that adjustable rate mortgages are going the chaos. mit to doing a few things that you’ll ago. So now is a good time for LGBT borrow- for less than four percent. That means that Being balanced, serene and actually enjoy. Rather than constant- ers to take another look at the ARM. a borrower buying a median-priced home centered while traveling is some- ly looking at your watch, you’ll really Even the FHA, with its longstanding rep- can save $250-$350 per month by using a thing of an art. But it’s worth the ef- be able to take in the experience. It utation for being rather conservative, fair, 5-year ARM instead of a fixed rate loan. fort and practice – traveling is a lot makes a whole lot more sense. and protective of the consumer, offers some • Cash savings of $3,000-$4,000 a year more enjoyable when you’re pres- • Stay hydrated. Planes have no- attractive ARM products. Plus today’s adjust- makes sense at a time when LGBT consum- ent and calm. toriously dry air; make it a point to get some able rate mortgages contain built-in safety ers are struggling to make ends meet. So in To that end, here are a few tips to get water whenever the stewards or stewardess- mechanisms to ensure that LGBT borrowers some cases a carefully chosen ARM is a po- your Zen on: es offer it. After going through security, buy- don’t get ripped off as they did in the past by tentially superior mortgage finance solution. • Exercise. You might be on vacation, ing a large bottle of water is my first priority. It predatory lenders and exploding loans. Nobody can afford to ignore a financial but your body is not. Exercise in your room, makes your body infinitely more comfortable The problem with ARMs is that they can product that offers a robust return with con- in your hotel’s gym, outside (i.e., running – especially on longer flights. adjust upward if overall interest rates trend trolled risk, especially during a challenging along the beach) or find a gym nearby – most • Meditate. Even if you don’t normal- higher. If the ARM rate suddenly accelerates, economic cycle. For that reason, LGBT bor- offer guest passes. Investing just an hour of ly meditate, take just 5 or 10 minutes each so do the homeowner’s monthly payments. rowers may want to at least weigh their ARM gym time in yourself can help reduce stress, day to sit quietly. Ideally, you could medi- That happened to millions of consumers with- options before deciding which mortgage improve sleep and increase energy. It’s defi- tate in your hotel room where there are few- in the past five years, and many LGBT borrow- product is best for them. The only way to de- nitely worthwhile. er distractions – but I’ve even meditated on a ers woke up to find that their house payments termine whether it is a good deal or a haz- • Choose the right attitude. Most peo- packed plane. If there is chaos around you, had doubled overnight. That’s a nightmare for ardous approach to borrowing is to evaluate ple approach traveling with the attitude of, make it part of your practice! Tune it out and any homeowner, and it helped to usher in the the ARM thoroughly while comparing and “Uhh! I hate flights.” If that’s the case, you’ve find your center. Among other things, it will biggest credit crisis in modern times. contrasting it with fixed-rate mortgages. already decided it’s going to be a terrible ex- help reduce tension, relieve stress and im- To prevent a repeat of that dark chapter • Using the maximum rate caps on the perience. Instead, make the decision to en- prove your mood. in financial industry history, Congressional ARM to do the calculations, determine what joy the journey. Find a good book or down- • Wash your hands. Airports, restau- legislators, federal regulators, and a slew of the monthly mortgage payment will be if the load some interesting movies on you iPad. A rants and public transportation facilities are other mortgage industry police crafted and ARM rises as high as it possibly can. That’s long flight can be hell – or 6 hours of sched- often ripe with germs. Vacations are a lot passed new laws and implemented stricter the worst case scenario. uled “me” time. The choice is yours! more enjoyable when you’re healthy, so mini- rules and policies regarding ARMs. Now that • Then decide whether that outcome is • Eat right. There’s no such thing as mize your risk of getting sick by washing your those regulations are being enforced, the still manageable. But don’t assume that refi- “vacation” calories. The mentality of “I’ll hands often. Even if you don’t need to use market for ARM loans is an animal of a differ- nancing out of an ARM or any other loan, for eat an extra slice of cake – I’m on vacation” the bathroom facilities, go in and wash your ent color – and a much tamer beast. that matter, is an automatic option. is not one supported by science. A calo- hands anyway. • Today it is possible to get an ARM with • Consumers learned during the latest rie is a calorie and unhealthy options are These are my top 7 ways to stay sane a cap that ensures, for example, that the in- housing crisis that it is not always as easy as always unhealthy. Make food choices that while traveling – but feel free to share your terest rate will not rise more than one percent it sounds to shift out of a troublesome loan, nourish your body and you’ll feel strong, own tips in the comments below! t in any given year. especially when credit tightens and home • Not only that, but many ARM loans have prices stagnate or fall. caps or ceilings that guarantee that the rate If an ARM still looks viable and sensible of the mortgage cannot rise more than five after factoring in that kind of downside po- percent over the entire lifetime of the loan. tential, then there is a good chance that it • Those are some pretty strong safety may be a really great way to borrow. mechanisms, and they are spelled out clear- Several years ago the ARM market was ly in the legal terms of the loan so that noth- so chaotic and corrupt that it really didn’t ing is left to blind chance as it was a few deserve a second look. But ARMs have years ago. changed, and LGBT borrowers shopping for Once the risk factors have been brought a home loan owe it to themselves to investi- under control the discounted prices of ARM gate all of their mortgage options. They may loans begin to look much more rewarding discover that there is a prudently designed and competitive compared to their fixed rate ARM that is not just inexpensive but also fi- counterparts. nancially and legally sound. It could, in fact, • In recent weeks, for example, fixed be the ideal product to meet their needs. t

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