Women's News of the Monterey Bay Area

VOLUME 3 NO. 8 NOVEMBER, 1980 Demeter Productions Presents Meg Christian in Concert Nov. 28 Demeter Productions will present Meg Christian in concert Friday, November 28 at 8 p.m. in the John t . Steinbeck Forum, Monterey Con­ ference Center. Meg Christian is a bold and joyous pioneer of women's music as a singer, songwriter and guitarist. Her style en­ compasses classical, folk, country, mountain and contemporary elements. She has written and collected a large and varied repertoire of women's music; music that creates an at­ mosphere that helps women feel positive about themselves and that pro­ vides support for their choices, their changes, their growth. As Meg puts it, ''The world does so much to try to isolate us - I want to use my music to help us support each other's process and celebrate our mutual strength." Meg is an incredible guitarist and lyri cist. She has been featured in Guitar Player Magazine, and excerpts of her songs have been published in Rolling Stone, Paid My Dues, Southern Ex­ posure, Frontiers, Gyn!Ecology by Mary Daly, and innumerable song­ books. Meg Christian is a co-founder of Olivia Records. With Olivia she co­ release their first album in the spring of Monterey; and Cymbaline Records in produced and arranged her first two 1981 on the Rising Records label. Santa Cruz. albums, I Know You Know, 1975, and Sandra Faulkner will provide This will be Meg Christian's last Face the Music, 1977. She has also per­ American Sign Language interpreta­ Northern California appearance this formed as guitarist and/ or vocalist on tion for the concert. Sandra teaches year before she heads east on her na­ many Olivia albums with such artists as sign language interpretation at tionwide tour. Meg is a warm and in­ Cris Williamson, Teresa Trull, Kay Monterey Peninsula College and has spiring performer. As one woman Gardner, Linda Tillery, Margie Adam, interpreted concerts for Holly Near, commented after a concert, ''She made and Holly Near. In 1981, Olivia will Joan Baez, Cris Williamson, River, us feel as if we could have done release Meg's third album, tentatively and Robin Flower and Band. anything, as if no barrier could ever titled Turning It Over. withstand the united strength of all of Joining Meg will be special guests Free child care wili be provided with our voices ... She has a gift, an ability River, the all-women's band from San­ advance reservations. The hall is wheel to stand beside us when she sings and ta Cruz. River, consisting of Cackie chair accessible. Because of production plays instead of in front of us . . . I Gates, Vicky Bleyins, Jerilyn Munyon, expenses, ticket prices will be on a have never been so moved, so touched, and Beth Ma;lis, has played to en­ sliding scale of $5, $6, and $7 for energized, loved, lifted or gifted by any thusiastic audiences in Monterey and general seating. Tickets are available at one performer in my life .... " Santa Cruz, selling out each perfor­ The Open Book in Pacific Grove; Do For more information on the concert mance. Their music is a beautiful blend Re Mi Records in the Barnyard, or for chld care reservations, please of folk, country and jazz. They will Carmel; Women's Center/YWCA, call 375-5629 or 659-3752. 2-Demeter-November, 1980 An Editorial The Politics of Child Care The First Annual West Coast Women's Music and she had not even been conscious _of how ever-present that Cultural Festival held recently in Yosemite has served to re­ fear was. Although some women may differ about whether mind us once more how strong women's culture is and how women-only spaces are the means to an end or the end itself, far we have come in actualizing what once were dreams there is the same celebration of ourselves as strong, loving shared around coffee tables. It also reminded us of the and powerful beings experienced at such events. amount of work we still have to do, specifically in our Coming together and feeling our strength and connection politics around child care. as women is important experientially, but it is also vital for Co-producers Torie Osborn and Robin Tyler did an in­ us to carry that knowledge back into our daily lives. And it's credible job organizing the festival and setting up a volunteer just as important for our children, sons and daughters, to see work-shift system whereby all 3,000 women shared in the us in these situations and for them to carry back into their basic mechanics - security, health care, kitchen, child care, daily lives the same visions and knowledge of women­ and clean-up crews - that turned the festival site into a com­ strength. plete "women's city" for four days. Women not actively involved in raising children may not The main complaint expressed about this "women's be aware that the same social conditioning we are now seek­ city" was that child care issues were not being properly ad­ ing to unlearn is being dished out daily to children via TV, dressed. There were practical complaints - that the child schools, books and general social consensus. With very few care facilities were inadequate and understaffed - that were exceptions, school textbooks continue to be largely sexist and quickly resolved. The child care area was completely racist, as do movies, TV shows, commercials, etc. Accep­ reorganized and more volunteer workers were recruited for table role models are still limited. child care shifts. This alleviated the immediate problem but And it is difficult to counteract that conditioning, even as did little to ease the underlying question of why child care a conscientious parent. How many of us grew up believing was the least well organized aspect of the concert. that men were the workers and women the homemakers, The f es ti val also brought up the issue of women-only even as our mothers set out daily for outside jobs? space and how that concept applies to the male children of As overwhelming as it sometimes seems just to raise women in attendance. The producers of this festival chose to ourselves in this world, we as feminists, mothers and non­ set a cut-off age of 10 years and younger for male children. mothers alike, have to take a strong and active stand in the However, one performer, Alix Dobkin, a staunch feminist/­ raising of children. It would be more than absurd if, while we separatist, asked t:1at during her performance all male are involed in personal CR and movement work, a genera­ children leave the main stage area. This action added to a tion of children is being passively raised under the same growing resentment by women who came to the festival with social system from which we are ourselves seeking to break children expecting a loving, supportive environment - a free. break from the traditional lack of concern of the "outside We have to break through and discover new ways, new world." systems and alternatives, for ourselves while simultaneously It's easy to get stuck, either as individuals or a move­ providing as many of these alternatives as possible for our ment, between the visions and ideals we strive for, and the children. The very things we learn from women-only events, reality of the prevailing social system. There are few things our daughters and sons need to learn. The lessons are endless more difficult than trying to actualize dreams of freedom or at such events: from the shared labor and cooperative as op­ humanistic equality while living in a repressive society. The posed to hierarchical strength, to the many images of women balance involved in working on our personal and group as performers, sound technicians, health care workers, politics, unlearning social programming, and simultaneously lovers, sisters, and trash collectors. If we don't show our working to effect change in the dominant, repressive struc­ sons these parts of ourselves, where else are they going to see ture is delicate and complex. them? The need for women-only spaces and events is evident. If we don't pay attention to our politics around child One woman stated after the f es ti val that the four days not care, we not only discriminate against women with children, only were the first time in her life she could remember walk­ but we perpetuate the very system we seek to change. ing around without fear of rape or assault, but that until then Debi Busman

r Editors: JT Mason Debi Busman New Production: Joan Weiner Maureen McEvoy Subscribers Graphics: Barbara Bastian Reporters: Janie Forrest Polly Parker Thanks and welcome to our new Diana Skiles Sandra McKee subscribers:

Corby Wright Demeter is a feminist publication designed to keep women informed Nancy Hendryx of pertinent issues. Contributions of articles, graphics and money Jeane Vaughn are welcome. Subscriptions are $3 for six months or $6 for one year. Ahnnie White Mail check or money order to Demeter, P.O. Box 1661, Monterey, CA Dr. Viera Ivanovna-Pablant 93940. Editorial office is located at 229 Seventeenth St., Pacific Toni Shaw Grove, CA 93950. Phone number is (408) 375-5629. Sandy Kaplan ~ ~ rr~======~D;e;;m;;e;te;'=~N;o~vember, 1980-3 I Letters to the Editor II Women and Alcohol All Things Considered - Ready For Sports! Cheers to Janie Forrest! Editor: Editor: First of all. warm congratulations on Editor: I read with great interest your Oc­ the successful June Millington con~ert It's on your back page, but I want to tober 1980 editorial on "Women, Sex­ I'm new to the area. a MIIS grad stu~ say horray and bravo to Janie Forrest ism and Drug Abuse." As the Program dent. and would like to becom~e involv­ the lady who wrote it. She recognized Director of the CAREUNIT at ed in women's work while I'm here. So how daily we are told if we aren't total­ Eskaton Monterey Hospital, I am please send me your newsletter as it ly ready every instant for the arrival of deeply aware of the alcohol and drug comes out. And if I can help out. give Valentino on his pure white Purcheron abuse and addiction in our society and me a call. (how about beautiful black Joe?), we the compounded problems women Enclosed are a few pieces of my are less than women. have in our society with alcoholism and poetry - I also have talents in editing, And the only way we can achieve drug dependency. Spanish. musical skills and energy! (By that delectable state (minus wrinkles, As another option for your readers, the way. when do sports begin?) minus hair here and there, plus capped may I offer the CAREUNIT's exper­ Nancy Hendryx teeth and dozens of gold chains) is to tise in the field of alcoholism and drug Monterev buy ___ . You fill in whatever it is abuse by providing your readers with (Welcome to the communitv Nanc~ information. Please feel free to call our your income can stretch to cover this ff you liked the June Millin.~;on co~~ professional staff 24 hours a day, seven week. And cover your guilt. Did any of cert, yo11 '/l/ove the Me.~ Christian con­ days a week about any chemicals those awful things fit YOU? cert scheduled.for Nov. 28. As for vour ( drugs and alcohol) or any problems Well, more power to 'em. Now we offer of help, see story on paf!,e 5 about you may be encountering as a result of know the face of the enemy. Cheers to the Demeter workshop. Basketball the use of these chemicals. Janie Forrest for putting it on paper. re.~istration has already hegun. Call This is another area where physi­ Mary Jo Bello our office to join the team.) cians may not be meeting the health Monterey needs of women in this country. Alcoholism is the third major killer in the U.S. and the number one most Notes From Demeter treatable disease if it is diagnosed cor­ Demeter Productions will hold We have moved into our new of­ rectly. Patrick Driskel several production meetings in fice in the Seventeenth Street Program Director preparation for the Nov. 28 Meg Women's Professional Building. CAREUIT Christian concert. Meetings will be Office hours are Monday­ Eskaton Monterey Hospital held in the Women's Professional Wednesday, noon to 3 p.m. We'd Building at 229 17th St. and are like to be open longer hours, but open to anyone interested in work­ don't have the staff to cover increas­ ing on the concert. The next ed hours as of this writing. We have Demeter Productions meeting will a training session for new volunteers be 7:30 p.m., November 12. scheduled for Nov. 10 at 7:30 p.m. (see story on page 5). If you'd like to * * * * help in any way, please attend that Basketball season is just around meeting. the corner. Demeter will once more * * * * sponsor a women's team in the Moved recently? If you have a Monterey Parks and Recreation change of address, please notify us League. An entry-level team is our at P.O. Box 1661, Monterey, 93940. first priority. If enough interest is The post office will not forward expressed, we will sponsor an in­ Demeter. termediate team as well. Registra­ * * * * tion is presently underway for the winter season. For more informa­ If you have some free time tion, please call the Demeter office around the end of the month, we 375-5629. ' could put it to use. Each month we must collate Demeter by hand. Four . ! * * * * separate pages have to be put together for each of our 500 copies, , ...... :;;s:;--·---_ · A special thanks to Jeannie plus envelopes stuffed for the 250 ...___ .::> :.::._ ' C Adams for her generous assistance that go out in the mail. It's a big job ::::::;: and_ perseverance in donating and and a tedious one. If you'd like to ...,:,= settm~ up a phone answering help, even for an hour, your efforts machme for our office. will be appreciated. Graphic by Jane Vondrake 4-Demeter-November, 1980

Hartnell Women's Center YWCA Monterey Law Center The Hartnell Women's Center will In celebration of Y-World Mutual The Law Center will offer a seminar hold a grand opening celebration Fri­ Week, the Monterey YWCA will spon­ on "How to Use Small Claims Court" day, Nov. 7, 11 a.m.-2 p.m. and 4-7 sor an International Night, Friday, on Nov. 18, 7-10 p.m. in the con­ p.m. Goodies and entertainment will Nov. 14, 6-9 p.m. at the PG Communi­ ference room of the Monte_rey County be provided. The office is located in ty Center, 515 Junipero. International Courthouse, Aquajito Rd., Monterey. the student center, near the cafeteria. food, music and entertainment will be For more information, call the Law Hartnell is located at 156 Homestead presented. Admission is $7. 50 for Center at 373-3301. Ave., Salinas. adults, $3.50 for children. Tickets are available at the Y and at the door. KAZU November Concerts KAZU presents Reilly and Maloney Demeter Productions will present Women's Center in concert, Thursday, Nov. 13, 8 p.m., Meg Christian Friday, Nov. 28 at the Women's Evening, Friday, Nov. 21, at the New Mission Ranch, Carmel. Steinbeck Forum of the Monterey 7:30 p.m. at the Y, 276 Eldorado, Reilly and Maloney perform con­ Conference Center. Tickets are $5, $6 Monterey. temporary folk music. Tickets are $4 or $7 sliding scale and are available at The new Women's Center director, or $3.50 with KAZU program guide The Open Book. PG; Do Re Mi. Gwen Marie, would like to remind coupon and are available at The Open Carmel; Cymbaline Records. Santa women that the center is open Book, PG; Do Re Mi Records, Cruz; and the Women's Center. weekdays 9-12 and 1-4. Please stop by Carmel; Recycled Records, Monterey; Monterev. Sandra Faulkner will inter­ and use the library, which includes Cymbaline Records, Santa Cruz. pret for· the deaf. The auditorium is books on health, child care, herstory, This is a benefit for non-commercial wheelchair accessible. Child care will racial and cultural studies, and self­ radio, KAZU 90.3 FM. be available by reservation. Call awareness. 659-3752 or 375-5629 for more infor­ The Women's Center will sponsor a Planned Parenthood mation. women's basketball team for entry Planned Parenthood of Monterey Sweet Honey in the Rock will per­ level players in the Monterey Parks and County has published a manual called form at Zellerbach Hall, UC Berkeley Rec league. To join, call the Y. Peer Education, An Adolescent Sex on Saturday, Nov. 22 at 8 p.m. Tickets Education Prof!,ram, which is a model are $7 and are available at the UC box WADV program for the state. It costs $15 and office, Macy's and all BASS outlets. Advocate training continues at the Y is available by writing to them at 5 Via For information. call (415) 832-6005. on Wednesday nights from 6 to 9 p.m. Joaquin, Monterey, 93940, or calling If vou are interested in training to staff 373-1691. Cypress Institute the crisis line, call the Y. W ADV also The Cypress Institute. a non-profit has a domestic violence library for the UFM corporation providing services for a use of all women. Monterey's Free University offers broad range of family, couple. child Volunteers to work with the several classes of interest to women this and individual ·problems, offers several Women's Center and WADV are month. Among them are Achi classes and groups of interest to always needed and appreciated. Call Childbirth, led by Marianne Mongold, women, including a problem solving 649-0834. Nov. 6, 7-10 p.m.; Massaf!.e for Pref!.­ group for professional women, a group nant Women, led by Sherry and Reno for compulsive eaters, women in tran­ Lesbian Rap Group Latone, Nov. 15, 1-3:30 p.m.; and sition support group, and others. For A lesbian rap group meets Fridays at Divorce Under California Law, led by more information or to register. call 7:30. For location or more informa­ attorney Mark Star, Nov. 3, 7-9 p.m. 372-6242. tion, call 372-1452 or 624-2133. Monterey Parks & Rec Offers volleyball for women on Wednesdays, 7:30-9 p.m. at Walter Colton Junior High in Monterey. Con­ ·tinues through Dec. 17. Teams are now forming for the winter basketball season. Deadline for registration of "A" or "B" league women's basketball teams is Nov. 28. Bonnie Hawthorne will teach a class in basic 35mm photography on Tuesdays, 7:30-9 p.m., starting Nov. 11 at the Monterey Youth Center. Ms. Hawthorne's photos have appeared in Demeter and have been exhibited local­ ly. For more information, call Graphic by bb bastian 646-3866. Demeter-November, 1980-5 Community News and Events

NWPC Childbirth Education League The National Women's Political The Childbirth Education League of Hartnell Women's Caucus will hold its monthly meeting the Monterey Peninsula offers a varie­ Nov. 20 at 7:30 p.m. Topics include: ty of classes and workshops on Center Open House election of new officers and a review of Caesarian birth, mothering skills, efforts from the Nov. 4 general elec­ nutrition, prepared childbirth, grief The Hartnell Co1lege Women's Pro­ tion. Call 373-5193 for information on support group, etc. For information on gram has a new location. After six meeting location. any of these c1ctivities, contact the years of existing without permanent of­ League at P.O. Box 6628, Carmel, fices, the program is now located in YWCA Santa Cruz 93921 or call 375-5737. Room 10 of the College Center, adja­ The YWCA of Santa Cruz offers a cent to the cafeteria. Expanded pro­ workshop entitled Writing About Our grams and services are now available. Lives with author Ellen Bass, editor of Monterey Museum of Art Alison Paul and Cindy Obenchain the poetry anthology, No More Masks. Paintings by Joan Savo and graphics are the co-directors, and Linda Winter It will be held Nov. 8 and 9 at the Y. by Elizabeth Tracy are on display Nov. is the peer counselor and newsletter Fee is $75. For more information, call 8-30 at the museum, located at 559 editor. 426-3062. Pacific Street, Monterey. Services offered include: counseling, women's newsletter, information per­ Demeter Sets Workshop for Volunteers taining to school and community ser­ Questions on how Demeter got that working on Demeter and her pro­ vices, women's scholarship informa­ started, what a production company jects can bring. There are several tion, and Hassle Free Guide to Child does, how the magazine is put out volunteer positions open that staff Care. every month or what a non-profit cor­ members are willing to train interested An open house to warm the new of­ poration entails will be answered on people in doing, including working on fice wi11 be held Friday, November 7, Monday, November 10, 7:30 p.m. at concerts, the newsmagazine or staffing noon to 2 p.m. and 4-7 p.m. Everyone our first question/answer workshop to the office. is invited. be held in our office, 229 17th Street, The women's newsletter contains Pacific Grove. Demeter has brought a great deal of book reviews, poetry, news of interest Members from all aspects of De­ information to the women of the to women, information on services meter Resources will be present to Monterey Bay area and will continue to available in the ,community and a answer anything you want to know do so as long as there's a need and a regular feature on women's health. To about us. desire from the community. Come sup­ be put on the mailing list, write: Hart­ One of our hopes for this workshop port this workshop and Demeter by nell College. 156 Homestead Ave., is that people attending will get a feel bringing your questions and en­ Salinas, CA 93901, or call 758-8211, for the excitement and togetherness thusiasm Monday night, November 10. ext. 324. Kauffman Named Woman of the Year By Local Caucus In recognition of the breadth and depth of her leadership as a political person, the Monterey County chapter of the National Women's Political Caucus has voted Karin Strasser Kauf­ fman its "Woman of the Year." As founder of the local Caucus, its first president, and its current Political Action Coordinator, she has translated her political commitment into action on behalf of women candidates and women's issues. As former director of the Board of the Infant Care Center and as vi ce-chair of the special County organizations, her activities for the Committee on Energy, she has acted Caucus, and her personal contacts, she on her belief in community involve­ awakens. she educates and she inspires ment. others to an active role in politics. Through her Women's Studies Karin Strasser Kauffman 1s courses at Monterey Peninsula Col­ testimony to the possibilities and Graphic by Jane Vondrake lege, her speeches to community realities of women in politics. 6-Demeter-November, 1980 Local and National News Briefs Women's Wire Service needleworkers across the country to San Francisco Women's To Be Formed Worldwide participate in a collective celebration of Building Attacked Again women giving birth. Women journalists from around the Three hundred women assisted The San Francisco Women's Center world will gather in New York this Chicago in the production of The Din­ Women's Building was pipe-bombed month to discuss the formation of a ner Party. The Birth Project could turn Oct. 8 in what appeared to be largely a worldwide women's wire service. out even bigger, however. Chicago symbolic act. The meeting is the result of discus­ estimates there are "Thirty million The Women's Building houses 13 sions at the Copenhagen international women in the United States who are women-directed, pro-feminist com­ women's conference earlier this year. needleworkers and who have been shut munity organizations, and is believed Women attending the New York out of the artmaking process." The ar­ to be the largest women-owned meeting will be discussing an offer by tist says, "I'd like to make it accessible women's center in the U.S. Inter Press Service, the Third ,World to them." The pipe bomb blew a hole in the news agency, to fund a coordinator -Her Say front door and shattered windows in a who would make JPS wires available to home across the street. No one was in­ carry women's news. Dirty Money jured, but damage to the building was -Her Say estimated at about $3,000. A bill that would provide $4 million The bombing was the third instance All Women's U.S. Open a year to fund rape crisis centers by le­ of an attack on the Women's Building The Women's Tennis Association vying a two percent tax on porn­ this year. Last Vc\lentine's Day, an ar­ may break with the United States Ten­ ography has been introduced to the son fire caused $60,000 in damage to nis Association and run its own tourna­ California legislature by Assembly the four-story structure, and last ment, a separate, strictly women's U.S. member Maxine Walters. The bill September the building was evacuated Open. would also create special prosecution after a bomb threat was phoned in to The Women's Tennis Association, units in district attorney offices to pro­ police. founded by Billie Jean King and other secute rape cases. Various women's groups housed in tennis stars, is the governing body for -Plexus the targeted building have been con­ professional women tennis players in ducting business as usual, but not the U.S. 'Big Mama Rag' Vs. IRS without some apprehension. Said Now, a group called Capitol Sports Women's Building spokesperson Nan In what could be a landmark deci­ has offered to put up $500,000 in prize Schlosburg, "The building is a political sion for feminist groups, a federal ap­ money for a women's U.S. Open in building and certainly a target.'' Add­ peals court in Washington has directed 1981. The firm, in addition, has pro­ ed another woman who works in the authorities to take another look at an mised the women tennis pros 10 hours building, ''Every woman in this city is application by the publication Big of television air time for the separate terrified." Mama Rag for tax-exempt status. tournament. -Her Say Big Mama Rag, a feminist monthly If members of the Women's Tennis in Colorado, was denied its third ap­ Association approve the offer, the peal for tax exemption last year, in Scaling New Heights women's tournament would run, in spite of the fact that the paper is An all women expedition left in New York, just one week before the operated by volunteers and gives away September for Nepal to climb Mt. U.S. Open, which would become an most of its copies. The judge in the Dhaulagiri in the Himalayas, which at all-male event. case ruled that the paper was "doc­ 26,795 feet is only 2,000 feet below Mt. -Her Say trinaire" because it reserved the right Everest. to reject material which did not further Vera Komarkova, who successfully Dinner Party in Brooklyn the "struggle" of women. climbed to the summit of Annapurna Judy Chicago's massive work, The The Internal Revenue Service re­ (26,493 feet), leads the American Dinner Party, is being set up at the quires that non-profit groups give "full Women's Expedition. Brooklyn Museum for a showing, but and fair" factual accounts if they are Other adventuresome women are the artist is not there. She's back in to obtain tax-exempt status as educa­ sailing around the world and across the California, at work on her next pro­ tional organizations. The appeals court Atlantic, while another plans a run of ject. found, however, that the "full and the 2,000-mile Great Wall of China. The Dinner Party celebrated fair'' educational requirement is so Kathy Meyer is looking for women women's history in the form of a ban­ "unconstitutionally vague" that it to join a Yangtse River whitewater raft quet table set with plates com­ limits free speech. expedition in China, Jeannie Talley of memorating famous and forgotten As a result of the Washington ap­ California is seeking other members of women. Chicago's new venture, called peals court decision, Big Mama Rag a sailing crew for a circumnavigation The Birth Project, will celebrate will get a new hearing on its tax­ of the globe, and other expeditions are women giving birth. exemption application. A break­ looking for photographers, journalists, Chicago says there are no paintings through in the case could mean easier and volunteers. If interested, write Ex­ showing women giving birth, despite access to favorable tax status for pedition Research, Inc., P.O. Box the enormous importance of this event feminist and alternative publications 467W, Cathedral & Franklin Sts., An­ for human life. She aims to change across the country. napolis, MD 21404. that, by issuing an invitation to women -Her Say -Sojourner Demeter-November, 1980-7 I Feminist Author/Therapist l· 50 An Interview With Judy Tatelbaum Judy Tatelbaum of Carmel Valley, M.S. W., Gestalt therapist, has accomplished what many authors consider a life-long dream. She has written a book which has been ac­ cepted by a major publisher and which is earning high praise from such luminaries as Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, Og Man­ dino, Normal Vincent Peale, and lee Salk. The Courage to Grieve, released this month by Harper & Row, offers not on­ ly comfort but practical help for anyone who has underRone bereavement. How did she happen to write it? According to Judy, she had no intention of writing a book about grief. "I was planning to do a self-help book - then a friend's daughter died. Being with her was so moving, and I was so impressed with how we!] she was coping with her loss, that I began to think a great deal about grief and how people handled it. The book just seemed to pour out." Her view of grief differs significantly from that found in the professional literature. "Most therapists talk about grief as if it were a disease," she points out, "with a lot of judgment in their approach. As a result, readers or patients might conclude that if only they were stronger they wouldn't be going through all the emo­ tional turmoil which accompanies death or sorrow. Normal reactions are often treated as 'hallucinations,' and the whole process is made to sound pathological." workshops the goal of which was "to provide space for In contrast, The Courage to Grieve suggests that unex­ women to be open with one another." pressed grief can itself be the source of pathology for many What now? What changes in her life will publication of people, being manifested in physical symptoms and her book bring? psychological problems. Thus, learning to experience one's For one thing she will be traveling a great deal more in grief fully can lead not only to growth but to actual recovery. response to invitations to conduct seminars on working with That kind of goal is not a new one for Judy. When she grief. There are heartening new developments across the moved to the Monterey Peninsula in 1972 she attracted in­ country to counteract the isolation which grief has imposed stant publicity with her outspoken emphasis on women's on many men and women: the emergence of special grief issues in therapy. counselors in places like Berkeley, and the creation of net­ "When most patients are women and most therapists are works of caring persons in various communities who reach men ... when the plight of large numbers of women in­ out and offer support to recently widowed people. cludes being diagnosed as psychotic or chronically depressed How would she sum up the message she most wants The and being dosed with drugs ... those factors were among Courage to Grieve to convey? the reasons why I saw women as victims of their social situa­ "We all grieve, and we can get through it. Most of us tion." don't have the necessary information about grief and we Therefore, in addition to her private practice, Judy was tend not to believe that we can recover. But we can ... and active in NOW, taught assertiveness training in the newly­ in the process we can actually find a higher level of formed women's studies program at MPC, and led special aliveness." -Polly Parker

NWPC Monterey County NWPC, October 11. cess: they target seats, analyze issues, At present women hold fewer than select candidates, groom them, and A Salute To 10% of the elected offices in the United support them with money and cam­ States and only 2.1 % of the positions paign workers. Political Women in federal government. Even so, they What does NWPC look for in cand­ ''Women constitute 51 % of the make a difference, claimed Mitgang, idates? Support of ERA and of public population, 51 % of the registered citing the impact of various women funding for abortion and child care. voters; we go to the polls in more members of Congress on reforming State and local caucuses may add other significant numbers. We are the only aspects of the Civil Service and Social criteria pertaining to their specific majority constituency in the country. Security systems which discriminate situations. If women are organized no one can do against women's interests and which This is a very difficult year. "There anything without coming to them and affect quality of life issues. They are is an insanity afoot and it's coming to meeting their demands.'' also highly significant as role models, haunt us. Multimillionaire preachers That was the message of Iris she said. who mesmerize people and empty their Mitgang, national chair of the Na­ Describing NWPC as a nationwide pockets are telling them of the evils of tional Women's Political Caucus, network of political women, she many things. Feminism is one of these speaking in Monterey at "A Salute to pointed out that it is the only organiza­ things and it is opposed in the name of Political Women," held by the tion which focuses on the political pro- the 'family.' " (continued on page 11) november monday wednesday thursday friday saturday sunday tuesday 1

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Divorce Under Cal. Law class, Writing About Our Lives, UFM, 7-9 pm. Prepared Childbirth film, 7:30 Hartnell Women's Center of­ YWCA, Santa Cruz Judith Foster, head of National Election Day p.m. Monterey Public Library Achi Childbirth class, 7-10 pm, fice opening, 11-2 and 4-7 Opening reception for 2 women Women's Music for Everybody, Women's Republican Anita McGee, founder of Army Ida M. Tarbell, journalist, born UFM Nancy Landon Kassebaum artists at Monterey Museum of KAZU, 1-4 Assoc.,born 1840. Nursing Corps, born 1864. 1857. Women's music, KAZU , 12:30-3 elected to US Senate, 1978 Art 9 10 1t 12 13 14 15

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Photos By Carolyn Dunn Demeter-November, 1980-11 The White Album - Two Views The White Album, by Joan Didion. Simon and Schuster, She is taking her own pulse in these pages, not just obser­ 1979. ving American styles and states of mind as she did in her first collection, Slouchini Towards Bethlehem. In that book she The White Album by Joan Didion is a collection of essays looked at Americans, mostly Californians, and their 1960s written about America in the 1960s with a cast of characters "lifestyles." She caught some imaginative truths about living ranging from Doris Lessing and Georgia O'Keeffe to Huey at that time and in those places in Americ~. For many of us Newton and Eldridge Cleaver. who came of age during the '60s, reading Joan Didion - for Her intention, I believe, was to write witty insights into the insights of the essays, for the spirit of anomie in the the ironies and events of the 1960s. Instead, what we have is novels - was part of surviving the decade. But The White a book full of cliches and shallow analysis. Didion is a Album is mellower than Slouchini Towards Bethlehem. Di­ detached observer with little compassion for the turmoil of dion ranges more widely. the '60s or the people who had to survive them. To her, Huey Didion writes in an intense and agitated style. She gets in­ Newton was simply "an autodidact for whom all things side her subjects, connects with them, with herself, with the specific and personal present themselves as minefields to be reader. This collection of essays is not mainly about society, avoided even at the cost of coherence." the '60s or the California style, but it forces us to go back Each person and event, though done cleverly, is too har­ and look again, look hard, not just· at the '60s, not just at shly criticized and summed up in pat little phrases. California, but at everything around us. All of the essays The most offensive chapter is one called "The Women's manifest not only her intelligence, but an instinct for details Movement," nine pages in all. My book's margins are scrib­ that continue to emit pulsations in the reader's memory and bled with a heated, running debate to each paragraph in this a style that is sparse and exact. Add to these her highly chapter. vulnerable sense of herself and the result is a voice like no Didion devotes a page to sarcastic exaggerations of some other in contemporary journalism. (I must admit, though, to of the injustices to women: "she (a woman) was persecuted some doubts about her vulnerability. Is it an affectation and by even her gynecologist ... raped on every date ... enslav- a part of her strategy as a writer?) ed by TV commercials ... paid 3-10 times less than always She is an alert and subtle observer, giving us bizarre an unqualified man and was embarrassed to appear in public details. In these pieces the players of the late '60s and early with a man not her husband." She then goes on to ask, '70s come back in vivid craziness: Hell's Angels, Jim Mor­ "Why didn't she get another gynecologist, another job, and rison of the Doors, Huey Newton, Bishop Pike, Charles why didn't she just get out of bed and turn off the television. Manson. Nobody forces women to buy the package." For me, newly arrived here, no one, not even Evelyn And in this summation; Didion has bought the worst part Waugh, has written better about the state of mind that is of the package: the denial of herself as a woman and the California. I like Didion for her precision and for a talent she alienation from her sisters. In this chapter she refers to isn't usually credited with: she's funny, a deadpan comedian. women only as "she," "they," or "them" - never as "I," On the rare occasions when she allows herself to enter in­ "we," or "us." She is always the outsider, the smug know­ to the limelight, vanity ruffles her style - as when she com­ it-all who is never a part of anything. plains of the indignities she endures as a literary star or when Didion's style is self-indulgent. Her realizations are more she describes her migraine headaches as if their pain and the unburdenings than enlightenments. She rarely looks below "aura" that precedes them might mark her as one of a vis: the surface, never gains the insights into real human emo­ ionary elect - but this is a small flaw in an elegant collec­ tions which make life interesting. As Didion says of herself, tion. "You are getting a woman who for some time has felt -Joan Weiner radically separated from most of the ideas that seem to in­ terest other people, a woman who misplaced whatever slight faith she had in the whole grand pattern of human Salute to Political Women- endeavor.'' (continued from page 7) The White Album is neither a realistic view nor a Mitgang, a lawyer in private practice in Oakland and the nostalgic glimpse into America in the 1960s. It is more of a mother of three teenagers ("having three adolescents in the whitewash and a book to be missed. house at one time may be the best training for dealing with -JT Mason ~ the political system," she commented), summarized the ex­ perience of NWPC and NOW in working together at the "We tell ourselves stories in order to live." That's Joan Democratic National Convention. Didion's strategy for survival, which she relates at the begin­ It proved, she said, that to get results "you have to be ning of her collection of essays, The White Album. willing to take risks, you have to be hard-nosed and not She reports, mostly from the West Coast, on matters that worry if people are going to like you." Many women have have caught her eye during the past decade: a sound studio, a been taught that "if you're not nice, nothing will be given to shopping mall, the Getty Museum, the LA freeways. you," and "if you are nice, you don't have to do anything." The first essay, which is also the book's showpiece, is a Neither is true. "No one is going to give us equality. summary of the disastrous and confused events that ended We're looking at real power and it's a matter of taking the decade with a mass murder at the Hollywood home of charge of our lives." Sharon Tate and Roman Polanski. Honored at the reception were 12 women currently Didion manages to make the sorry stuff of troubled times holding elected office in Monterey County including various (Bishop James Pike, for instance) as interesting and sug­ city councils, school boards, the airport and water manage­ gestive as the things that win her admiration (Georgia ment boards, the county board of supervisors, and the O'Keeffe, the Hoover Dam.) mayor of Soledad. -Polly Parker 12-Demeter-November, 1980 A Gathering of the Clan West Coast Women's Music Festival The First Annual West Coast Women's Music and meeting dance, was disappointing as she spoke in generaliza­ Cultural Festival - what a mouthful to say. This herstory­ tions with a humor that was reminiscent of a standup comic making occasion brought women's culture on a grand scale and evangelist combined. to many hungry for such an event. It was a celebration for an Other workshop leaders included Charlotte Bunch, estimated 3,000 women. Feminism in the '80s; Dorothy Healy, Surviving as a Radical The f es ti val, held Sept. 26-28 at Mather Camp, a few for 50 Years and Beyond; Emily Culpepper, Menstruation; miles outside of Yosemite, was filled with good weather, a Karlene Faith, Escape Artists: Breaking Out of Prison - beautiful location and lots of warm energy. During the day, Developing a Feminist Ethic, plus many more. women basked in the sun as workshops and concerts were For many, entertainment was the main attraction to the going on. By night, there was a forest of women and trees, a festival. Feminist films were available for viewing each night. golden moon, a star filled sky and the sound of music in the Open mike performances, set amid a grove of trees, offered . air. It was a very romantic setting. continuous music daily til midnight, except during scheduled The room and board was more than satisfying. Cabins main stage concerts. had plenty of room and there was an abundance of tent The main stage, set in a natural coliseum of trees hosted space. The vegetarian meals prepared by women from the more nationally known performers. They i~cluded Moonrise Cafe in Santa Rosa and volunteers were Casselberry-Dupree, a duo out of San Francisco, a favorite wholesome but not altogether appealing to those not used to with their dynamic style; Terry Garthwaite, our hot rocker; such a diet. Izquierda Ensemble, a blend of harmonious voices with a Upon arrival, registration was handled and women were jazz, rock and Latin rhythm; Woody Simmons, love her asked to volunteer for two-hour-a-day workshifts. Constant music with her down home style; Andrea Floyd, a wonderful requests for volunteers in the kitchen, childcare and security folk singer; Teresa Trull and Julie Romie, a rocking singer were being made from main stage. Because of the dedication with a fine pianist; Jill Rose and band; Dovida Ishatova of a relatively small group of women, things did appear to (Goodwoman); Silvia Kohan; Gwen A very; Sally Gearhart· run smoothly. Alix Dobkin; Nicholas, Glover ·& Wray; Pat Parker and The f es ti val did not lack negative energy. There were Alive - they are so ... Alive, as they weave through the some problems with the sound as well as political conflicts. final concert audience with the rhythm of their percussion. Issues were childcare, the presence of male children, women The festival was joyous for some and wonderful for of color and the physically challenged. others. There was a sharing of energy as well as names and Of main focus was the controversy over male children be­ addresses. The feelings can be best felt by the words of a ing present. The first concert set was stated as being women­ woman present: -Aly Kim .only space and male children playing in the area were asked to leave. This brought on dissension from audience Women members. Robin Tyler and Torie Osborn, co-producers of A II these women the festival, in respect to differing feelings, opened up the Walking free main stage microphone to allow women to voice their opin­ Chests in the sun ions. We gather Alix Dobkin, the first performer and strong advocate of The tribes women-only space, had already stated her opinion. One by To gain our strength one, women approached the stage and related their feelings: To show ourselves a mother felt the need to leave since her son was not wanted; To share a 12-year-old girl was disappointed that her younger brother We break bread is often excluded because he's male; many spoke to the need Swim the cool lake of including males so that they may learn from women; a Listen to angel's voices member of lzquierda Ensemble, also a mother, explained Echo through the many trees that she leaves her son lovingly and having women-only space gives her strength to return to the society she lives in We raise our voices and at the same time teaches her son to respect her space. In song The issue of women of color was not as blatant as that of In discussion male children. Many Bay Area women of color did not at­ We raise our voices tend for various reasons: fee was out of their budget; unable To the trickster to carpool; unable to afford being away for three days and To maya because of racist remarks made by one of the f es ti val pro­ And with the universal om ducers prior to the festival. Women of color were but a hand­ We bring blessings ful when J Casselberry asked all sisters of color to stand dur­ To the food that nourishes us all ing her set. There was lots of activity to partake of. Scheduled Sisters 3000 strong workshops covered a variety of subjects. Margaret Sloan, Rejoice and celebrate black lesbian feminist, led two excellent workshops - Sex Our different ways and Dykes, a sharing of fears, fantasies and frustrations, and Until we scatter once more Racism, ways for white women to examine and deal with Beneath the jeweled night sky their racism. Carrying with us Z Budapest, witch and feminist author, leading a A piece of the new land -bb workshop in which participants were to perform an ancient Demeter-November, 1980-13 UN Conference for Women Copenhagen: Two Conferences-Two Worlds

(Editor's Note: Rosemary Matson of "observe" the progress of the official Carmel Valley attended the United Na­ conference. As the first week passed. it tions World Conference.for Women as became obvious that the official an observer for The International delegates did not represent "womer" Association for ReliRious Freedom and but rather represented their male­ _co-led workshops on Women and dominated governments and their ReliRion at the parallel NGO Forum. policies regarding women. This is the first of two articles RivinR It was called "show and tell time" as her impressions of the CopenhaRen ex­ delegates from various countries told perience.) of the good things their governments "The condition of women has im­ were doing for women. These reports proved slightly in a few areas, and were contradicted bv women delegates while the issue of women's rights has themselves in off-th~-record com~ents gained recognition internationally, lit­ and by women at the forum who tle actual change has occurred in described experiences of quite a dif­ women's lives." ferent nature. This included us, as we This assessment of the status of were keenly aware that women in the women by Secretary-General Lucille United States have yet to achieve con­ Mair was brought to delegates of the along with 8,022 women and some men stitutional equality and the female World Conference of the United Na­ from 187 countries: 3,347-Denmark: poor are still discriminated against. We tions Decade for Women in Copen­ 2,097-Europe (excluding Denmark): were embarrassed to admit that some hagen in July. Two thousand delegates 952-North America: 836-Asia and the of the UN Human Rights conventions had been appointed by their govern­ Pacific: 357-Latin America: 245- ments in 145 countries and four libera­ Africa: 147-Middle East: and 41- tion movements. Caribbean. They were to assess what proRress Each day we chose to attend either had been made in improving the situa­ the official proceedings at Bella Center tion of women during the first half of or to take in some of the 200 events of­ the decade and determine what fered at the Forum. At the Forum we ohstacles were still hindering the im­ found workshops, panels, demonstra­ plementation of the World Plan of Ac­ tions. briefings, rallies, marches and tion adopted at the 1975 Mexico City walk-outs. Wall-to-wall exhibits in the Conference. halls proclaimed messages on every Added to the conference agenda issue related to women around the were two special situations of women world. in crisis, i.e., women under apartheid Workshops and panels dealt with the in South Africa and the plight of myriad aspects of existence that touch Palestinian women refugees. Delegates half the earth's population: rural had 18 days in which to hammer out a women in underdeveloped countries, Program of Action. women and water, women as refugees, A shuttle bus linked the official con­ as political prisoners, sexual slavery, ference at the brand-new airy Bella genital mutilation, women under apar­ (i.e., genocide, racial discrimination, Center with the less formal, lively theid, violence in the family, abuse of political and civil rights, and grass-roots non-governmental forum elders, wages for housework, peace, economic, social and cultural rights) at Copenhagen University. We also health, the right to choose, population have never been ratified by the U.S. re~istered at this parallel conference, planning, the family, illiteracy, We discovered these documents have hunger, legal rights, poverty, employ­ been gathering dust over the years in ment, etc. the Senate Foreign Relations Commit­ We joined women exchanging infor­ tee. There is now a new UN Conven­ mation and experiences, ex ploring new tion on the Elimination of A II Forms ideas, sometimes creating fresh solu­ of Discrimination ARainst Women. tions to old problems and constantly How will we ever get this global ERA encountering different perspectives. ratified by our country? Most valuable was the opportunity The U.S. delegation of 34 women we had to meet women from other and five men appointed by President lands and cultures and begin to shed Carter was headed by Sarah Wed­ our own stereotypes and prejudices. dington. Special Assistant to the Presi­ We made new friends and exchanged dent, and UN Ambassador Donald addresses. Networking was in full McHenry. swing. The held daily briefings for U .S. Periodically, we dutifully took the NGO s, reporting on how they fe lt the shuttle bus to Bella Center to (continued on page 15) 14-Demeter-November, 1980 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~l r The Cactus and the Sea Anenome For years I lay hidden behind a shield of cactus spines I A lone in a vapid desert, arid, where no liquids flowed. Dormant, no life, no lust, untouchable, untouched. I A porous shell of fibres lubricated by the stingiest of juices. Stiff, unbending extremities parched and crustlike I I Flaking off into the dustbowl of my soul. But now at forty-three what is left of me I I Has found the me in me, the sea anenome. /have known a womans love and my niche is now complete. I I My once crustlike extremities have come alive I And now wave and caress the liquids of love. Seeking, feeling, flowing, throbbing in the depths. ,

Every nerve ending so tender to the touch I At once responds and wraps itself around life. . /feed upon the waters. I take them in and give them back. 1 I am a creature of a thousand tingling tongues I I Darting to and fro with electric-like shocks • Of pleasure, swirling softly in waves of unending inundati:;~ I 1 I Venus in Scorpio I How many times have! left I knowing your smile I would re-enter my life? Lunar rhythms whisper of our faithless existence a heart op<:ns slowly 1 allowing only short silent sighs: I I fight against this loving you, I moment by moment I Passion streams through my blood I stalking slow secret destruction. Only midnight moonlight falls ·I across your waiting mouth expecting the inevitable return. I How often have we lain this way lost in sheets white as drifting clouds? Beneath the tears my lips linger 1 to caress our heartbeats Fated to become a quiet memory. I I Laurel Hepburn ~~ Soul Space flying, flying high, two feet above the ground 1 Cruising, sailing rhythmically I I Over here is an empty space An easy pace, legs and feet It's big, round, red, rough on the edges forgotten I Edges which form tentacles ears mercifully numbed And reach in, searching, searching for awhile I1 For what will fill this empty place But eyes with time take in I But they can't reach 3,000 miles. what they wish And the space is a vacuum And nose, ready for whatever I (And the vacuum implodes.) scents, odors, stenches and aromas I rise up to tickle or prick its nostrils; I Over here is a tight space, behind my heart, in my soul. All fly four feet above the ground. I -Nancy Hendryx -Nancy Hendryx L~~~~~~~J-~Q~~,~~~~~~~~-H~~~~ r Demeter-November, 1980-15 Classifieds

Classified ads cost $1 for 3 lines. Send All Things Considered copy along with payment to Demeter, By Janie Forrest P.O. Box 1661, Monterey, CA 93940. Ads must reach us by Nov. 17 for inclJsion in When Shakespeare wrote his immor­ feel that a woman's marital status has the December issue. tal lines about the unimportance of a no place in her title. If she wants to name ("that which we call a rose by privately mention her marital status in THE OPEN BOOK, a bookstore featuring women's titles, is now open at 1184 F any other name would smell as offhand conversations with friends in Forest, PG. sweet"), he no doubt was not concern­ her spare time, that is just fine, and she NON-SEXIST and Feminist Counseling. ing himself with the title (and cor­ should certainly be entitled to do so. Individual appointments. Diana Case, responding stigma) that precedes a per­ There are other reasons for M.A. 375-6142. son's name. eliminating titles reflecting marital TYPESETTING - Fast, accurate, very I recently perused 70 application status. There are widowed and divorc­ competitive rates. Call The Exchange, forms, subscription stubs, and ed women for whom use of the word 845 Wave, Monterey, 372-7055. membership lists for various organiza­ Mrs. is inaccurate. There are also mar­ BUSINESS AND personal financial ser­ tions. I found the most common for­ ried women who are continuing to use vices and income tax preparation. Edie mat for title selection to include the their birth name. What should their ti­ Broeckelman, 624-7417. In the 17th following options: Mr., Mrs., Miss, tle be? Street Women's Professional Building. Ms. What idiocy. The solution, then, is to allow the · Katherine E. Stoner I remember how pleased I was when undesirable titles to become obsolete Attorney the title Ms. was first developed. It through disuse. It is extremely impor­ P.O. Box 128 373-1993 seemed the natural and intelligent solu­ Pacific Grove 93950 tant for all of us to refer to ourselves as tion to all inequities regarding titles. At Ms. at all times. Furthermore, if we LEATHER BY Alison, custom leather­ work by Alison Kim, 460 Reindollar, last, women were no longer compelled receive correspondence with a different Marina, 384-9533. to reveal their marital status simply by label, it is important to notify the per­ KAZU 90.3 FM has wonderful women's virtue of announcing their names. son or company responsible, and re­ programming on Thursdays from 12:30-3 So what happened? Where did it go quest that it be changed. If the Miss p.m. and on Sundays from 1-4 p.m. Be wrong? Instead of simplifying the and Mrs. titles become sufficiently un­ sure to tune in. issue, we have added yet another label popular, they no doubt will be discon­ DEMETER PRODUCTIONS will hold an for categorizing women. Thus there are tinued. Then at last the title Ms. will be OPEN meeting Nov. 12 in our office, 7:30 now three options; each equipped with moved into its deserved place of impor­ p.m. for anyone willing to work on the corresponding definitions: Mrs. (a tance instead of simply being used as a Nov. 28 Meg Christian concert. There is a lot of work to be done, so drop by and married woman), Miss (an unmarried synonym for "single." All things con­ volunteer for something. woman, usually middle-aged and con­ sidered, it's about time. DEMETER PRODUCTIONS will present servative, who accepts this status Meg Christian in concert Friday, Nov. 28 gracefully), Ms. (an unmarried at 8 p.m. in the Steinbeck Forum, feminist). UN Conference- Doubletree Inn, Monterey. Tickets are But the classifying system I despise $5, $6 and $7 sliding scale and are (continued from page 13) available at The Open Book, PG; Do Re most is the one that is the second most Mi Records, Carmel; Cymbaline Records prevalent form used today. This is the conference was going and li~tening to in Santa Cruz and the YWCA's Women's one that limits women's titles to a our concerns. They also explained our Center, 276 Eldorado, Monterey. choice between Mrs. and Ms. The State Department's position on certain Law Offices Of reason I loathe this form so much is issues and justified how they intended Sheri L. Perlman because the labeling assumptions reach to vote. 11 W. Laurel Dr., Suite 121 their ultimate prejudicial height. Mrs. The conference ended with the ·Salinas, CA 443-1056 stands for a married woman, and M5. United States voting against the final means a single or divorced woman who Program of Action. The United States, DEMETER staff members will hold a workshop on Nov. 10 at 7:30 p.m. for new does not want this fact to be generally Israel, Canada and Australia opposed volunteers willing to work on the known. two of the 218 points of the program. newsmagazine or with the production I don't need to be told that there are One equated Zionism with racism and team. If you'd like to work with us, some married women who prefer to be sexism and another stated that UN · please attend. referred to as Mrs. rather than Ms. funds to help Palestinian women l'M A STUDENT at Antioch and am doing Many of them regard the word Mrs. as should be allocated "in consultation research on lesbian parents. This issue a symbol of achieving a goal. They are and cooperation" with the PLO as the is a personal one for me and the project has grown out of my own joys/struggles proud of the fact that they have "earn­ representative of the Palestinian peo­ in raising my son. As such, I am focusing ed" such a title. ple. on the things that confront lesbian The question then arises as to These last two amendments mothers on a day to day basis. I would whether they have a right to use the culminated efforts of a few countries like to find out about the experience of . other lesbian mothers. How can we word Mrs. rather than Ms. Well, to to politicize the conference and pull it help/support each other? How are our this I say that there are probably many away from its original purpose of con­ needs/struggles similar? If you are ales­ men out there who are equally proud cern for women's issues. bian parent and would consent to an in­ of their marital status, but they do not (Next month, Part 2: The Global terview, please contact me as soon as assume such classifications in their cor­ Era; ChallenRinR Patriarchal Vision; possible. All information is confidential. Jeane Vaughn, 217 Palo Verde Ter., San­ respondence. They are simply Mr. Bella A bzuR: "Women in Politics"; ta Cruz, 95060. (408) 425-3534. (definition: a man). Betty Friedan: "Feminism: StaRe II") Thus, in the interest of equality, I -Rosemary Matson 16-Demeter-November, 1980 A Continuing Series Feminism A Personal Perspective Arriving at a feminist perspective is a profoundly personal experience. The pro­ cess forces one to re-examine many unquestioned customs and relationships. 'A Message From Mom' Feminism helps women realize they have a right to make many more choices than The following letter was society commonly permits. Through Demeter we hope in some way to reach every received by one of our readers woman. Each month a woman will be writing a chronicle of the process she went · through in becoming a feminist. We encourage others to send in their own ac­ counts of their emergence as feminists.

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