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Anna-Katharina Höpflinger and Marie-Therese Mäder “What God Has Joined Together …” Editorial Fig. 1: Longshot from the air shows spectators lining the streets to celebrate the just-married couple (PBS, News Hour, 21 May 2018, 01:34:21).1 On 19 May 2018 the royal wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle flooded the television channels. Millions of spectators around the globe watched the event on screens and more than 100,000 people lined the streets of Windsor, England, to see the newly wed couple (fig.1).12 The religious ceremony formed the center of the festivities. It took place in St. George’s Chapel at Windsor Castle, attended by 600 invited guests. While this recent example is extraordinary in terms of public interest and financial cost, traits of this event can also be found in less grand ceremonies held by those of more limited economic means. Marriage can be understood as a rite of passage that marks a fundamental transformation in a person’s life, legally, politically, and economically, and often 1 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j51O4lf232w [accessed 29 June 2018]. 2 https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2018/may/19/a-moment-in-history-royal-wedding- thrills-visitors-from-far-and-wide [accessed 29 June 2018]. www.jrfm.eu 2018, 4/2, 7–21 Editorial | 7 DOI: 10.25364/05.4:2018.2.1 in that person’s self-conception, as an individual and in terms of his or her place in society.3 This transformation combines and blurs various themes. We focus here on the following aspects, which are integral to the articles in this issue: the private and the public, tradition and innovation, the collective and the individu- al. -
Newlywed Checklist
Because money doesn’t come with instructions.SM Peggy Eddy, CFP® Robert C. Eddy, CFP® Brian W. Matter, CFP® Matthew B. Showley, CFP® Newlywed Checklist The next best thing to saying “I Do” could be the careful and thorough planning to appropriately setup your financial future together. Statistics have shown that financial issues are the primary reason for failure in marriage. We hope this list helps you get off to a good start. Step 1: Name Change In marriage, one or both of the couple may end up changing their name. Consider these steps if you will be changing or already have changed your name. Before the Wedding Let your employer know of your planned name change so they can begin making the necessary changes and will be ready when you return from your wedding / honeymoon. When booking travel plans for the wedding or honeymoon, make sure that you use your maiden name. If you fly, or travel internationally, you will not have the documentation (i.e., passport, driver’s license, etc) in time with your new name on it. You need to have a picture ID that will match the name on your travel documents. After the Wedding & Honeymoon Social Security – your first step should be to obtain a new Social Security card. You typically need a copy of your marriage license, the Social Security name change form, and a copy of your current identification (i.e., Social Security card, driver’s license, or passport) for the person changing their name. After receiving your new Social Security card, you may need to consider changing your name on some or all of the following: o Driver’s license o Vehicle registration o Title to property (i.e., house) o US Passport o US Postal service (i.e., PO box or change of address) o Utility companies (i.e. -
231 Online Halal Dating, Ta'aruf, and the Shariatisation of Matchmaking
yber C yberO rient, Vol. 15, Iss. 1, 2021 , pp. 231-258 Online Halal Dating, Ta’aruf, and the Shariatisation of Matchmaking among Malaysian and Indonesian Muslims Eva F. Nisa Australian National University Abstract: Halal (permissible according to Islamic law) matchmaking and anti-dating campaigns and businesses have mushroomed since the 2000s in Indonesia and neighbouring Malaysia. In Malaysia, the Soul Seekers of Marriage Conference was established in 2008 and Halal Speed Dating was launched in 2014. In Indonesia, Rumah Taaruf MyQuran (MyQuran’s House to Get to Know Each Other) was founded in 2014 and Indonesia Tanpa Pacaran (Indonesia Without Dating) in 2015. In both countries, the presence of the internet and social media platforms coincided with Islam playing a greater role in public life. The thriving presence of Sharia-compliant matchmaking businesses using advanced communication technology signifies both the strengthening of conservativism and the manifestation of the growth of contemporary Muslim publics. This article will focus on the role of the internet and social media in Sharia-compliant matchmaking. Islamic theological doctrine stipulates that the Prophet Muhammad emphasised marriage as half of religion, denoting the importance of marriage to guard the chastity of Muslims. Therefore, the halal matchmaking and ta’aruf (getting to know each other) business have a flourishing market. The border between halal and non-halal online transactional matchmaking is, however, contestable. Online halal matchmaking also Nisa,Eva F. Australian National University, Coombs Building, 0200, ACT Australia. E-mail: [email protected] invites greater nuances in understanding the freedom and agency of Muslim women. -
Faith and Identity in Muslim Women's Online Matchmaking Profiles
yber C yberO rient, Vol. 5, Iss. 1, 2011, pp. 63–89 Beyond the Traditional-Modern Binary: Faith and Identity in Muslim Women’s Online Matchmaking Profiles Anna Piela Abstract: Finding a suitable partner in both diasporic and non-diasporic settings proves increasingly challenging for young Muslims, especially those unable or not wanting to search within their kinship networks. At the same time, religious matchmaking websites are becoming increasingly common especially among Muslim women. As studies of Muslim matchmaking sites tend to focus on the ever-popular topic of the headscarf and its associations in the matchmaking context, a much more comprehensive study of the specificity of the online religious identities and self-representation is required. This paper examines a number of profiles of young Muslim women using online matchmaking sites and discusses broad themes of faith, ethnicity and identity that emerge in the analysis. Keywords: websites, information and communication technology, identity, Muslim women, social aspects, matchmaking Introduction Questions about the role of online matchmaking in the lives of Muslims are, inevitably, posed in the context of the often disputed binary: [email protected] E-mail: UK. 5DD, YO10 York, York, of University Anna Piela, traditional/arranged and non-traditional/own choice of marriage partner. Researchers note that gender ideals, gender relations and roles are evolving in postcolonial diasporic settings (Dwyer 2000). Traditional and non- traditional perspectives on marriage and sexuality are competing and both depend on age, class, education and faith positioning (Petersen and Donnenwerth 1997). Literature on Muslim online matchmaking is very Corresponding author: fragmentary, possibly because online matchmaking, whether in secular or religious contexts, is largely a product of the last decade. -
Ybd Your Wedding Questionnaire 2019
YBD – YOUR WEDDING QUESTIONNAIRE Names: 1. What is your overall vision for your wedding day? (Think about how you want things to look like and feel like on the day) 2. How many guests are you expecting on the day? (How many guests in total, and where are they coming from? Are there any family/ friends politics your celebrant should be aware of?) 3. Will you have a grooms/bridal party? (Who are they and why are they so special to you both? Will anyone be accompanying either of you down the aisle for your entrance?) 4. Is there a dress code or colour scheme? (What colours will you and your bridal party be wearing?) 5. Is there anyone who can’t be there on your wedding day that you would like to mention or honour in some way? (Your celebrant can provide options and suggestions for this. Examples: mention by name, light a candle, include a message from them, include a song that reminds you of them) 6. Who will be your witnesses? Please provide their full legal names and residential address (Your witnesses must be able to fully understand the marriage documents they are signing on the day. Witnesses can be provided for you if you will have no wedding guest) 7. Would you like to include any wedding extras? (Something that adds a little extra fun, personality and engagement to your ceremony. Examples: a reading/poem, champagne toast, newlywed selfie, ring-warming, lucky dip witnesses, time capsule, unity candle, knot tying/hand fasting) 8. What’s your ideal timeframe? (When you will arrive? When will your guests arrive? How long would you like the ceremony to be?) 9. -
Drena-Wedding-Guide.Pdf
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The Field of Matchmaking
More about the Matchmaking Institute’s guides Make Me a Match A Complete Guide to Finding and Using a Matchmaker THE MATCHMAKING INSTITUTE’S GUIDE TO BECOMING A MATCHMAKER Matchmaking From Fun to Profit A COMPLETE GUIDE TO TURNING YOUR MATCHMAKING SKILLS INTO A NEW BUSINESS Matchmaking Institute™ Introduction by Lisa Clampitt, CSW Contributors: Lisa Clampitt, Jerome Chasques, Jill Weaver, Rob Anderson, and Steven Sacks SKYHORSE PUBLISHING © 2006, by Skyhorse Publishing. - All rights reserved. Reproduction in part or whole without written permission is prohibited. No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, used in any form, or transmitted by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without written permission from Skyhorse Publishing. Every effort has been made to ensure that this guide is as up-to-date and accurate as possible at press time. Although every precaution has been taken in the preparation of this guide, Skyhorse Publishing assumes no responsibility for errors or omissions. Neither is any liability assumed for damages resulting from the use of information contained herein. Skyhorse Pub- lishing specifically disclaims any responsibility for any liability, loss or risk, personal or oth- erwise, which is incurred as a consequence, directly or indirectly, for the use and application of the contents of this guide, and cannot guarantee that any mention in this guide will be a suitable source of information. All trademarks and registered trademarks are the property of their respective owners. Match- making Institute, Matchmakers Multiple Listing Service, Matchmakers Network, Certified Matchmaker, Matchmaking Certification, and the Matchmaking Institute logo are all trade- marks of the Matchmaking Institute, Inc. -
Adjustment of Marriage on Woman in the Manner of Matchmaking Culture
Advances in Social Science, Education and Humanities Research (ASSEHR), volume 304 4th ASEAN Conference on Psychology, Counselling, and Humanities (ACPCH 2018) Adjustment of Marriage on Woman in the Manner of Matchmaking Culture Erfan Afandi Ardiansyah University of Muhammadiyah Malang University of Muhammadiyah Malang [email protected] [email protected] Abstract. Adjustment of marriage is the acceptance between couples to bring a sense of friendship between couples about the importance of affection, intimacy and support provided to each other. The purpose of this research is to know how the pattern of adjustment made by women who marry in the manner of matchmaking culture. This research exerted qualitative method with the subject of two people of 22 and 19 years old. The result of the research shows that there are differences between the subject of AN and M. The subject of AN is difficult to adjust, since she does not accept the match and has the hope to marry a man of his age. While the subject of M is more able to adjust for not choosing any hope in marriage. The second finding is that all subjects think matchmaking is commonplace and the third finding is that social support from the family has a positive impact on marriage adjustment. Keywords: wedding/marriage adjustment, matchmaking/ arrange marriage Introduction right to determine the choice. Anyway, this culture is a result of idea that has been maintained by the certain Human is social creature that has a role and duty of community from the long time ago up to this time day. growing progress in every stage of life. -
Wedding Ceremonies in Punjab
JPS: 11:2 Myrvold: Wedding Ceremonies in Punjab Wedding Ceremonies in Punjab Kristina Myrvold Lund University ______________________________________________________ While the religious specificities of different religious communities are underscored, the paper focuses on the shared cultural values and symbols that frame marriage ceremonies in the Punjab. The study concludes with how ritual theories help us analyse these ceremonies and assess the impact of modernity on their nature and function. ______________________________________________________ Traditional cultural practices in a society do not fade away or disappear in the face of modernization, but rather these practices transform and even become revitalized. This is illustrated in the case of religious and cultural rituals that Punjabis perform in relation to different stages of life. Rites of passage refer to a genre of rituals that people perform at major events in life--like birth, puberty, marriage and death. These types of rites characteristically mark a person’s transition from one stage of social life to another. The authoritative traditions of the world religions have sanctioned and institutionalized their own life-cycle rituals, which the followers share across different cultural and geographical contexts. Historically, religious authorities have often displayed a keen interest in defining these rituals to mark religious boundaries. Several studies that detail how Hindus, Jains, Muslim, Sikh, and Christians celebrate the birth of a child, perform weddings, and handle death in different parts of the world. Similarly, in the Punjab the core ceremonies related to these life events are distinct for every religious community, but yet they are performed within a shared Punjabi culture. This paper focuses on marriage (viah), the most celebrated life event in Punjabi society. -
A Comparative Study on Jane Austen S and Pramoedya
MARRIAGE AND MATCHMAKING NOVELS OF THE PAST FOR THE PEOPLE TODAY: A COMPARATIVE STUDY ON JANE AUSTEN’S AND PRAMOEDYA ANANTA TOER’S SELECTED NOVELS A Thesis Pr esented to The Gr aduate Pr ogr a m in English Language Studies in Partial Fulfillment of the Requir ements for the Degr ee of Master of Humanior a in English Language Studies by Maria Zakia Rahmawati 06 6332 010 THE GRADUATE PROGRAM IN ENGLISH LANGUAGE STUDIES SANATA DHARMA UNIVERSITY YOGYAKARTA 2010 A THESIS MARRIAGE AND MATCHMAKING NOVELS OF THE PAST FOR THE PEOPLE TODAY: A COMPARATIVE STUDY ON JANE AUSTEN’S AND PRAMOEDYA ANANTA TOER’S SELECTED NOVELS by Maria Zakia Rahmawati 06 6332 010 Approved by Dr.Alb. Budi Susanto, S.J. Advisor Yogyakarta, December, 2010 ii A THESIS MARRIAGE AND MATCHMAKING NOVELS OF THE PAST FOR THE PEOPLE TODAY: A COMPARATIVE STUDY ON JANE AUSTEN’S AND PRAMOEDYA ANANTA TOER’S SELECTED NOVELS Presented by Maria Zakia Rahmawati Student Number: 06 6332 010 Was defended in front of the Thesis Committee and declared acceptable Thesis Committee: Chairperson: Dr.Novita Dewi, M.S.,M.A (Hons) Secretary: Dr.Alb. Budi Susanto, S.J. Member: Dr.B.B. Dwijatmoko, MA Member: Dr. St. Sunardi Yogyakarta, December 2010 The Graduate School Sanata Dharma University iii STATEMENT OF ORIGINALITY This is to certify that all the ideas, phrases, and sentences, unless otherwise stated, are the ideas, phrases, sentences of the thesis writer. The writer understands the full consequences including degree cancellation if she took somebody else‘s ideas, phrases, or sentences without a proper reference. -
The Japanese Family
The Japanese Family L. Keith Brown "The Japanese family" is as diverse and elusive as "the American family," or "the Italian family," or "the Jewish family," or whatever stereotypical family we can imagine. The 127 million Japanese live in households as varied as can be found in America. For example, there is a growing number of single occupant households, e.g., students living away from home or transferees who have moved out of the family home because of temporary job changes. As in America, there are increasing numbers of households of only a married couple, typically a newlywed couple without children who do not want to live with either set of parents, or married seniors whose children have all left, leaving them to live on their own in their retirement years. Unlike in America, the incidence of unmarried couples living together is relatively small. The two generation nuclear family consisting of the parents and their unmarried children has become the popular model of the modern family in Japan, as it was in America decades ago. Typically, with the low fertility rate in Japan, these households are relatively small with two, or only one, child living together with the parents. Two generation single parent households, for example an unmarried, divorced or widowed mother and her children, or a widowed grandmother and her widowed daughter, are not common. Children born of unmarried women account for about one percent of all births, compared to about one-third of all births in the United States. This low rate of illegitimacy results from an aggressive use of contraceptives, mainly the condom, and different cultural attitudes about abortion. -
A Cross-Cultural Examination of the Varying Forms of Ghost Marriage Among Five Societies
University of Nebraska - Lincoln DigitalCommons@University of Nebraska - Lincoln Nebraska Anthropologist Anthropology, Department of 2010 Grave Vows: A Cross-Cultural Examination of the Varying forms of Ghost Marriage among Five Societies Lucas J. Schwartze Follow this and additional works at: https://digitalcommons.unl.edu/nebanthro Part of the Anthropology Commons Schwartze, Lucas J., "Grave Vows: A Cross-Cultural Examination of the Varying forms of Ghost Marriage among Five Societies" (2010). Nebraska Anthropologist. 60. https://digitalcommons.unl.edu/nebanthro/60 This Article is brought to you for free and open access by the Anthropology, Department of at DigitalCommons@University of Nebraska - Lincoln. It has been accepted for inclusion in Nebraska Anthropologist by an authorized administrator of DigitalCommons@University of Nebraska - Lincoln. Grave Vows: A Cross-Cultural Examination of the Varying forms of Ghost Marriage among Five Societies Lucas J. Schwartze Abstract: Marriage is one ofthe most ubiquitous social relationships in human societies. However, the forms this institution takes do not follow the same patterns across all cultures. This paper examines one ofthe rarer forms ofmarriage; ghost marriage. After introducing the societies that practice this rare form ofmarriage, the similarities and differences between the forms this practice takes are examined. Various scholarly explanations for this form ofmarriage are presented as well. Introduction Pasternak et al. note that in all known human societies adults generally spend some, ifnot the majority, of their lives in a bonded relationship, which is often referred to as marriage (pasternak et al. 1997:77). The forms this relationship takes, however, are so varied that the creation ofa single definition of marriage has proven to be difficult.