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Parish of Fordingbridge News & Views November 2020

Remembrance Sunday 8 November Please see November services inside for details

St Giles’ Godshill Sandleheath Church

St Mary’s Fo rdingbridge

St Giles Godshill, Sandleheath Church and St Mary’s Fordingbridge are part of Avon Valley Churches. Our Values: Growing in Faith, Reaching Out to All Our Vision: To live the mission of Jesus Our Aim: We are here to share the love of God by knowing Jesus and making him known to others In this issue Cover Field Poppies

Page 3 Canon Gary writes... Page 5 Warden’s View - Catherine Haworth, Hale & Woodgreen Page 7 AVC Services for November Page 8 What to do in the Garden - Graham Fry Page 9 My Life in Lockdown — Helen Tague Page 10 The Spitfire—a local story Mike Ireland Page 11 An Alternative Christmas Present? Toilet/Tap Twinning Page 12 The Salt Path: A book review - Olive Baker Page 14 From the AVC Parish Registers Page 15 This Month’s Recipe - Mike Ireland Page 17 This Month’s Quiz Page 18 Remembering Rosemary Durant Page 21 Notes from Fordingbridge APCM Page 22 My Early Childhood Years - Patricia Winder Page 25 Crafts and Photo gallery Page 30 Kinkiizi Smartie Tubes & Kinkiizi Action Group Jigsaw Puzzle Latest Page 31 Morse Code Bracelets — Pat Bloomfield Page 32 Mission Matters - Pat Bloomfield Page 34 News from Fordingbridge Museum - Julian Hewitt

All items for the December2020/January 2021 issue of the magazine need to be sent to one of the editorial team by Thursday 12 November at the latest please. We expect the Dec/Jan issue to be available on-line from the AVC website from Friday 27 November.

Partners is the AVC weekly news leaflet available via the website , limited copies available in church. If you would like to receive a copy via email please send your request to the Church Office. (Contact details on the back cover) 2 Canon Gary writes: Looking Forwards and Backwards We are, as everyone keeps saying, living in strange times! One of the results is that it’s been very difficult to plan ahead, as we don’t really know what life will be like, even in the time between my writing this and your reading it. However, plan we must, and, whatever happens, Christmas is definitely not cancelled (see my Thought for the Day for Oct 5th, on Facebook or our website). We’re looking at how we do our Christmas Services, with a mixture of in Church and on-line, and with a booking system for some of the larger Services. Keep your eyes on Partners for the latest news. By the time you read this, we will have had the four Annual Parish Celebrations, and I’d like to offer particular thanks to those who’ve not stood again for office as Churchwarden, or Deanery Synod/PCC members. And, thank you, all those who have been elected for all you will be doing over the coming year. Most will have heard that the four PCCs have voted by a large majority (two members against and one abstention across the four PCCs) for there to be one PCC for the AVC, with four Local Church Committees. The legal arrangements for doing this are out for their first consultation at the moment, and the Scheme (as the legal document is called) should be finalised, if all the hurdles are overcome, during the first half of next year. Thank, you, all those who have been involved in this arduous process. I’m very hopeful that it will help to draw us together as the AVC, and release the Local Church Committees (LCCs) to have more energy for local mission. We have also completed the revision of the Worship Pattern across the AVC, which is available on our website, meaning that all of our main Sunday Morning Services will be at 10.00 – full details each week in Partners. Unless things change, we have now returned to our normal pattern of Services in Church, whilst also maintaining our on-line presence at 10.00 every day, with lots of extra events on the Youth, Children’s and Families Facebook page, and on YouTube. Before we get to Christmas, there are a number of other significant Sundays: November 1st, All Saints’ Day in the Morn- ing, and the Services of Thanksgiving for those who have died (All Souls’ Services) in the afternoon – details further on. Sunday 8th is Remembrance Sunday – Services at 10.50a.m. in each Parish. Sunday 29th is Advent Sunday – instead of a

3 Benefice Service in one of our Churches (none of which has enough room for all of us), this will be an on-line Benefice Service, with the Archdeacon of Winchester as our visiting preacher, and Zoom Coffee after the Service – details in Partners nearer the time. There will also be an Advent Carol Service at 6.00p.m. at St Mary’s, Fordingbridge and on-line. Lots to think about, plan, and look forward to. If ever you want to talk, do please give me a call – always happy to talk by phone, or meet in person. Blessings for the Season, Canon Gary

Warden’s View: In this extraordinary year we have been faced with many unexpected problems and have found some unexpected opportunities. We have lost both Nicky Davies and Mike Trotman and his family, who both served us and helped us in so many different ways. We miss them and their new neighbours are very lucky to have them. Covid-19 has involved many restrictions, with associated social and economic problems, and has revealed new opportunities. Locally, and also nation-wide, there have been all sorts of community initiatives, helping to overcome the limitations imposed on our communications and freedom to travel, even locally. Different new and established groups and individuals have been very busy: shopping for, and delivering to, others; telephoning regularly older, anxious and other vulnerable people; offering all kinds of help outside the homes of those who cannot get out themselves; raising money by sponsored activities; making PPE and face masks; etc.; etc. In Hale and Woodgreen we had 2 competitions in the summer, organised by our Support Group. The first, a Behind the Hedge competition, was for scarecrows in our front gardens, made from objects from our houses and sheds, related to lockdown conditions and the second was for limericks. Photographs of these clever, amazing and amusing contributions, which raised our spirits, are available in our wonderful Village Shop. In the current circumstances computer-based skills are clearly more desirable and important, providing new services of all kinds. This has made more obvious the relative isolation of all those who do not have access to computers. For some time it has been becoming increasingly difficult for people without IT access to contact other people and organisations, especially as so many

4 provide only website or email addresses. Trying to talk to a real person on the telephone, rather than a suffering a succession of automated messages, is very frustrating, irritating and time consuming. Emailing is a wonderfully easy way of chatting to family members and friends and is an increasingly important way of keeping in touch with others as well as being useful for shopping. In some villages and even in some urban areas there are people providing formal and informal teaching of IT skills to encourage and enable others to acquire the smart phones, tablets, laptop computers, etc. to meet their needs, and make contact with others so straightforward from within one's own house. Almost every musuem, art gallery, the National Trust and other houses and gardens have expanded their websites to provide 'virtual' tours, videos, and lectures. We can visit these in many different countries, often being able to choose an English-language version. It is, however, very important to use our local shops, etc. which are suffering badly at the moment. We are very grateful for all those working in the shops and in other places, where they are so useful to us but are exposing. One very interesting development is the provision of 'on-line' services: almost all churches are now offering services on-line, as well as 'thoughts for the day' every day, making it possible for all those with IT access to "attend" a wide variety of services and other offerings from almost anywhere. (I am being encouraged by my sister to "attend" services from Montreal Cathedral, which, as with those from other churches, are available not just at the time they happen but at any time which is convenient). It has been fascinating, for those with the necessary skills, to find out how many people are appreciating on-line worship, both local people who cannot, or prefer not to at present, attend in person and also people from many different places and countries who choose to investigate other forms of worship, from the informal to the formal. It is clear that we will all continue to offer this service. With best wishes, Catherine Haworth

AVC SERVICES FOR NOVEMBER 2020 Online services available live on our Facebook page and Website, or afterwards on YouTube. ‘Avon Valley Churches’

Every weekday 10.00am Thought for the Day Mondays & Wednesdays 9.00am Morning Prayer (Zoom) Mondays 11.00am Assembly Wednesdays 11.00am Messy Church Fridays 11.00am Open the Book Online All available on AVC Children, Youth and Families Facebook page Saturdays 10.00am The Saturday Conversation Sunday 1st November 8.15am Holy Communion, Fordingbridge 10.00am Holy Communion, Hyde 10.00am All Saints’ Service, Fordingbridge 10.00am Morning Service, Breamore 10.45am Morning Service, Sandleheath 3.00pm All Souls’ Service, Hyde 4.00pm All Souls’ Service, Woodgreen 6.00pm All Souls’ Service, Fordingbridge and online 6.00pm Sanctus, Fordingbridge (and online t.b.c)

Sunday 8th November 8.15am Holy Communion, Hyde 10.00am Holy Communion (Said), Fordingbridge 10.45am Morning Service, Sandleheath 10.50am Remembrance Service, Fordingbridge Memoria Gates and streamed online 10.50am Remembrance Service, Hale 10.50am Remembrance Service, Hyde 10.50am Remembrance Service, Breamore 6.00pm Evening Prayer, Fordingbridge Sunday 15th November 8.15am Holy Communion, Fordingbridge 10.00am Morning Service, Fordingbridge 10.00am Morning Service, Hyde 10.00am Morning Service, Hale 10.00am Mattins at Breamore

10.45am Morning Service, Sandleheath 4.00pm Baptism Meeting in Church, Fordingbridge 6.00pm Sanctus, Fordingbridge

Sunday 22nd November 8.15am Holy Communion, Breamore 10.00am Sung Communion, Fordingbridge 10.00am Holy Communion, Hyde 10.00am Holy Communion, Woodgreen 10.45am Morning Service, Sandleheath 6.00pm Evening Prayer, Fordingbridge

Wednesday 25th November 10.00am Thought for the Day and Communion, Fordingbridge

Sunday 29th November 10.00am Benefice Advent Service and Zoom coffee, online 6.00pm Advent Carol Service, Fordingbridge (t.b.c)

First Allsorts since March! It was lovely to have Allsorts again on the first Sunday of the month for Harvest in October. Quite a milestone as this was the first to be streamed live on Facebook at the same time. Whilst the overall theme was Harvest there was also a talk on Kinkiizi and St Francis of Assisi, whose saints day it was. The highly inventive drama was based on Luke 12, the rich man and his bumper crop. Plans had to make sure the drama could be recorded so everyone could see what was going on and avoid any moving around. The service followed the usual format except this time only the choir were allowed to sing the hymns, with everyone else humming. The choir sang a lovely anthem called Touch the earth lightly, arranged by David Ogden. The heap of Harvest gifts will go to the local Foodbank for those in our community who need our continued help. The next Allsorts will be on Sunday 6th December! Judith Dowsett

What To Do In The Garden • Plant bare-root roses as they become available this month. Unpack mail-order plants promptly and soak before planting if the roots are dry. • You can plant tulip bulbs this month. To de- termine the depth of the planting hole, line up three bulbs base to tip – their combined length is a good guide for the depth needed. • Mulch borderline hardy perennials such as Dahlia and Canna for winter protection (or lift and overwinter frost free) • Rose black spot can overwinter on fallen leaves, so if the disease has been a problem on your roses, collect and destroy fallen leaves to help delay any re-infection next year. • Rake up leaves from the lawn regularly, don’t leave them too long on the lawns or they will kill the grass through lack of light. Also keep an eye out for worm casks in the grass as weed seeds will very readily grow on them, remove them with a brush. • Protect containers from frost damage with bubble wrap, and raise them on pot feet to help prevent waterlogging over winter. • Keep off frosty or wet lawns. Drain and store hose pipes. • Cover hellebores with a cloche for earlier New Year flowers. • Begin winter pruning of apple and pear trees. • Prune grapevines after leaf fall, but before the end of December, to avoid ’bleeding’ of sap. • Remove and clean stakes and canes from summer crops now these have finished. • Lay straw, bracken or cardboard onto beds of root vegetable being held in situ, to reduce frost damage and make harvesting easier. • Plant bare-root raspberry canes between now and March, enriching the soil before planting with well rotted organic matter and slow release fertiliser. • Garlic needs a chilling period so is best planted now. If your soil is heavy or particularly wet over winter you can start

8 cloves off in modular trays, place in a cold frame, and plant out in spring. • Plant new rhubarb crowns and divisions of established plants. Space them 1m (39in) apart. • Check bonfire piles do not contain hibernating toads or hedgehogs before lighting. • Cleaning out bird boxes now will encourage birds to use them as winter roosts, and make it more likely they will nest there come spring. • Any imperfect fruit can be put out for birds. Graham Fry

Don’t run from the rainstorm. Listen to the calming pitter-patter – it’s the sky’s lullaby.

9 Helen Tague - My life in lockdown Do you still get up at the same time? It was usually 7.30 a.m. but it has often been earlier so I have enjoyed reading & apart from easy fiction I have read Kate Adie’s – Into Danger, Nobody’s Child & The Kindness of Strangers. What are you doing that is different? Having much more time to myself & with Trevor. With no committee or Club meetings, particularly in the evenings to attend, I have relaxed more. Having to socially distance & meet in the garden and not in the house during the good weather. Enjoying Thought for the Day and online church services. What has been good or surprised you in lockdown? The support of our daughter Rachel in the early weeks of lockdown for the “old folk”! The amount of walking we did. The amount of baking- bread and the best ever shortcrust pastry! I enjoyed online art tutorials with Kathryn Coyle from Sandleheath & being adventurous with different media. We have absolutely loved working and being in the garden. We managed to get away for 4 nights to Norfolk calling in to Cambridge on the way. What are you most looking forward to when life returns to normal? Lots of hugs! Being able to spend time with family & friends. At the time of writing we miss seeing our grandchildren who live in Derby- shire. I wonder if Zoom meetings might be amongst the new “normal”. How do you exercise? Walking, gardening & yoga. What is your favourite TV programme? There have been many interesting ones we have watched- farming, travel and Gardeners World has always been loved but the favourite is The Repair Shop. What is particularly important to you at the moment Being able to do as much as possible within the limits but I am sure this is the same answer for many that the health of myself, Trevor, my family & friends is uppermost in my thoughts all the time.

10 Battle of Britain and the Spitfire - a local story revealed A book that I have recently read is entitled ‘Secret Spitfires’ by Howman & Cetintas with Gavin Clarke. ISBN-13 : 978- 0750991995. The Battle of Britain has always interested me. The manufacture of the Spitfire and the Hurricane. The dogfights with the Luftwaffe. The Messerschmitt 109 and the bombers. The stories given by the young pilots who survived the war. So when I saw this book in the window of the Fordingbridge Bookshop I just had to buy it. It was always acknowledged that the Spitfire was our saviour. The Spitfire designed by R.J.Mitchell was built by Supermarine in their works at Woolston on the River Itchen in Southampton. Production went well, but not without interruption by the Luftwaffe, finally coming to a terrible end on the night of 26 September 1940 with terrible bombing. Lord Beaverbrook and the Supermarine management agreed that the only way ahead was by dispersal. Suitable warehouses and garages were found in and around Southampton and Eastleigh too. Newbury, Trowbridge and Salisbury were other towns to accommodate the dispersal plan. Finally this added up to 656 production units each with their parts to play in the construction of the Spitfire. The plan involved non-combatant men, women and even children, none of them with high technological skills. Even a married couple modified their bedroom to make screws. Hursley House near Winchester accommodated the Design and Testing department, with the kind permission of Lady Cooper. All the dispersal that took place was highly secret, even the locals were unaware that the construction of Spitfires was happening in their home towns. I can highly recommend this book to anyone who is interested in WWII, the Battle of Britain and Spitfires in particular. It is less than 200 pages and full of photos from the time. Michael Ireland

The Alternative Christmas Present Stuck for a Christmas present for the person who has everything? Or maybe for yourself? What better way to make a difference to someone else’s life than give them the gift of water or clean sanitation. Some of you may have heard Canon Gary speak about the gift of water during the ‘Creation’ weeks. A definition of being rich is having access to a tap with clean water. Have you ever counted up how many taps you have in your house, and possibly garden as well? Have a think, do it now. Here in the New Forest we are in- deed rich. Toilet Twinning is a Tearfund project. A few years ago Fordingbridge became a Toilet Twinned Town as many businesses and schools donated towards new toilets in other countries. In the current Covid-19 pandemic, toilets are not the only issue. People need clean water for washing, as well as soap. Here is what Toilet Twinning say: ….when it comes to stopping the spread of coronavirus in the communities where we work, handwashing and hygiene training (to understand how viruses spread) are vital. We are supporting partners in more than 35 countries to help the most vulnerable communities protect themselves from Covid-19. In practice, this means improving people’s access to clean water, providing hygiene training and products such as soap, and distributing the latest public health guidance by all means possible. In many communities, we are helping families set up simple handwashing stations called ‘tippy taps’ that help improve hand hygiene while preserving precious water reserves. And we’re working closely with trusted community leaders to share vital health messages, counter misinformation and reach those in greatest need. This is the story of Zargul, taken from the Toilet Twinning website. Zargul and her family used to go to the toilet outside – and often fell sick. Zargul’s son nearly died of diarrhoea. They used to ascribeIce Cream to a widely rose - held Afghan belief that washing your hands before a meal would mean you ‘lose the blessing of Helen the Tague mullah ’.

But a Tearfund partner has taught them about hygiene and handwashing. Now, the family enjoy good health. They’ve built a toilet and take pride in cleaning the yard, scrubbing their pots and washing their hands. Zargul carries soap in her pocket wherever she goes. So if you are stuck for what to buy your family, £60 will twin a toilet or provide a tippy tap. Give them the money and they can donate and get a certificate and photo of their twinned tap/toilet. More than you would usually spend? Then donate what you can on -line and tell your family what you have done this time… every little helps! Take a look at the website for more information and to donate: https://www.toilettwinning.org/ Judith Dowsett

THE SALT PATH by Raynor Winn I was given this book in with my birthday presents which I enjoyed and found interesting especially as it was about the West Country where I have spent many happy holidays. The author, Raynor Winn then aged 50, and her husband Moth who sadly was terminally ill, had lost all their money, home and livelihood. One day, with bailiffs knocking at the door, they hid in a cupboard where she found a book, which she had read many years before. It was about a person who walked the south- west coast path of 630 miles and she wondered, could they also attempt it? Which they eventually did. With only a rucksack, lightweight tent and sleeping bags and very little money they set off. Raynor describes the journey from Somerset back to Dorset via Devon and Cornwall. No, not sleeping in cosy B & B but in fields, woods, coves and on rocks, many times being soaked by rain and even waves. With Moth's health gradually deteriorating with the

13 effort of walking and inadequate food, he found great difficulty continuing each day. During the journey they met a variety of folk, some friendly, kind and helpful, others passing them by as though they were worthless. Then gradually they realised Moth was becoming stronger again and they did eventually complete the walk, after which they were kindly offered housing from a friend they had made. Their love bonded them and helped their lives on this very amazing and interesting journey. I can really recommend this book. Raynor had always wanted to be an author and has now written her second which I am looking forward to reading. This tells us what they have done since the journey. Moth also became stronger going on to University. Olive Baker Editor note: Thank you Olive for sharing this story. It focusses on the power of nature and love to heal, as well as making us think about the judgments made about homelessness.

From the Avon Valley Churches Parish Registers Funerals September 18th Pearl Ashbee Salisbury Crematorium 25th Diane Weston Salisbury Crematorium 26th Michael Bosanquet Salisbury Crematorium October 6th Joan Macklin Salisbury Crematorium 14th Richard Turner-Warrick Breamore 22nd Jean Ingham Fordingbridge Weddings September 5th Sophie Fortescue Hitchens and Charlie Caton Breamore 5th Chloe Connolly and Charlie Price Hale 19th Jacqui Lewis and Virgil Truter Hyde 19th Katrina Bottle and Darren Williams Breamore

This Month’s Recipe - Italian Amatriciana (Serves four)

• 4 Table spoons extra virgin olive oil • 200g(7oz) unsmoked pancetta or streaky bacon, cut into 0.5cm (1/4)in wide strips, • 1/2 teaspoon crushed chilli flakes. • 6 Tablespoon Dry White Wine, • 1 onion Finely chopped , • 400 g (14oz) tin of Italian plum tomatoes chopped, or fresh tomatoes peeled and finely chopped, • Salt & pepper, • 500g (1lb) dried pasta • 4 tablespoons freshly grated pecorino romano or parmesan plus additional cheese to serve.

Heat the oil in a large frying pan, add pancetta strips and chilli. Cook stirring occasionally over a medium heat until pancetta is crisp (5minutes). Add wine and simmer until reduced by half (1 minute). Add onion and cook, stirring frequently until soft and just golden (10 minutes). Then turn heat to medium-high. Add tomatoes and cook until thickened (10 minutes). Add salt and pepper to taste. Meanwhile, cook the pasta in a large pot of boiling salted water until firm to the bite. Drain. Add pasta with the pecorino/parmesan to the hot sauce, toss well to coat. Serve immediately with additional cheese. Buon appetito Mike Ireland

Haiku for Covid-19

A haiku is traditionally a Japanese poem consisting of three short lines that do not rhyme and consists of 17 syllables, 5, 7, 5.

This Month’s Quiz - Americana 1. On Mount Rushmore four past U.S.A. presidents images carved in the rock. name the four presidents? 2. The Mafia and gangster Al Capone was sent to jail on what charge.? 3. After the American Civil war, The 13th amendment was added to the constitution. Basically what did it say? 4. At Sutters mill in California an employee found a substance that started a revolution What was the substance? 5. What is John Wayne's real name? 6. The American government attempted to evict the Seminole Indians from their land. They didn't succeed they are still there today. name the state. 7. Four famous singers were photographed together in a re- cording studio. they came to known as the Million Dollar Quartet. 8. Frank Sinatra was American, but where does his family roots come from ? 9. What is the name of the river that flows through the Grand Canyon? Answer 10. Before the Railroads arrived how was the mail carried across the country? Answers later in the magazine.

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Eulogy for Rosemary Durant 5th January 1933 – 21st August 2020 Rosemary was born on 5th January 1933 in a small village called Rownhams in Hampshire, to Rose and Frederick Marks. She attended the local C of E church school and at the age of 14 went to the Pre-Nursing School in Southampton for two years. After passing all her exams she then went on to do her nursing training at The Royal Victoria Hospital in Bournemouth, qualifying as a State Registered Nurse in 1954. The life of a nurse in those days was very different to today, literally starting at the bottom with the mundane jobs and gradually gaining practical experience. In 1955, after more studying, she became a midwife working in the then newly opened Princess Maternity Hospital in Southampton where she tells the story of delivering twins born a year apart (one on 31st December and the other on 1st January). She was also present at the birth of triplets to a friend from Rownhams. Then in 1958 she became a Health Visitor working for Hampshire County Council both in Southampton and St Leonards in the New Forest. Not satisfied with all of these qualifications, she undertook District Nurse training and in 1967 took the post of District Nurse, living in the District Nurse’s house in Broughton, near Romsey. Amongst her papers are letters from the Parish Council and local authority expressing their appreciation of the way she was carrying out her duties. During her time there she met her husband to be Raymond Durant, and on the 4th October 1969, they were married (with most of the village turning out to wish them well) at St Mary’s Church in Broughton. During their time together they enjoyed numerous overseas Holidays. Due to a transfer of Raymond’s job in 1972 it was yet another move to Newton Abbot in Devon, where she continued her work as Health Visitor before they eventually moved back to live in St Leonards. Tragically her husband died quite suddenly in 1978 at the age of 48, but she continued her work and in 1984 moved to Fordingbridge. Goodness knows how many mothers, babies, toddlers and other people around the area she looked after in her time, but walking down into town during her later years took forever, as everyone seemed to have been helped at some stage by her. Every time she wanted something done to her property you could be certain that the person turning

18 up would be one of her mums or dads or one of her babies. She certainly deserved their praise as she always put 110% of her time and energy into her job. She enjoyed going on coach holidays both at home and overseas with a Health Visitor friend from her working days. She also belonged to various Groups, including the Embroidery Group, U3A, The History Group etc and did voluntary work in Fordingbridge Hospital. Unfortunately, over the last few years her health deteriorated and it became necessary for her to move into a resi- dential care home near Aylesbury in Buckinghamshire, so that visiting by her sister, Audrey, was much easier. Here, she was well looked after in lovely countryside surroundings by excellent staff. She passed away peacefully in her sleep on 21st August 2020.

Editors’ Note: Many of you will remember Rosemary Durant, who was a well-known Health Visitor in the wider Fordingbridge area during the later years of her working life. When she retired, she became an active member in many local groups. At the time of her death Rosemary no longer lived in Fordingbridge and this eulogy has been kindly passed to us for inclusion in the magazine. We are sure you will find it interesting. Her funeral took place early September at the Watermead Crematorium, Aylesbury. The photo shows a piece of embroidery made by Rosemary and donated to the church on her death.

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20 Notes from Fordingbridge APCM

Fordingbridge Annual Celebration was held on Monday 19 October in St Mary’s, Fordingbridge and for the first time via Zoom. Fifteen people attended in person with a further 14 joining the meeting on-line. This is simply a summary of the proceedings. The meeting started with prayer and was followed by a photographic journey through the events of the last 18 months or so, including many blessings despite the difficulties that Covid-19 has brought. This was followed by the usual elections of Churchwardens (ian Newman and Nigel Spratt), Deanery representatives (John Dowsett, Michѐle Gosling and Ian Newman) and one re-elected PCC member (Ann Beynon). All those people who have served this past year were thanked for their hard work, enthusiasm and commitment. The table below shows the PCC members who will now serve until the next APCM.

Canon Gary Philbrick Mark Ward (LLM) Ian Newman (CW & Nigel Spratt (CW) John Dowsett Michele Gosling Martin Calver Judith Dowsett (Deanery) Jane Calver Ann Beynon Melvyn Beynon Sue Ledger Sarah Perrelle Janet Spratt

The Annual Report and Financial Statement and reports from groups associated with Fordingbridge were received. Martin Calver, Treasurer, stressed that this is the third year running when expenditure far exceeds income and that the PCC were having to draw on the Lillington funds in order to cover everyday commitments. Clearly this is a very desperate situation and means those funds are depleting rapidly and will not be available for their original purpose. ‘Thank you’ certificates were awarded to various people including Alan and Gwenda Moore for their support at St Giles, the ‘Openers and Lockers’ of St Mary’s since it re-opened in June, and our lovely administrators Gail Newell and Jackie Rowe for their commitment and enthusiasm working under such difficult circumstances during lockdown. Ian Newman led the meeting in a vote of thanks for all that Canon Gary has done for us this past 18 months, for his enthusiasm and his leadership. The meeting closed with prayers. Judith Dowsett

A prayer of Commemoration for the Fallen

Father of all, remember your holy promise, and look with love on all your people, living and departed. On this day we especially ask that you would hold forever all who have suffered during war, those who returned scarred by warfare, those who waited anxiously at home, and those who returned wounded, and disillusioned; those who mourned, and those communities that were diminished and suffered loss. Remember too those who acted with kindly compassion, those who bravely risked their own lives for their comrades, and those who in the aftermath of war, worked tirelessly for a more peaceful world. And as you remember them, remember us, O Lord; grant us peace in our time and a longing for the day when people of every language, race, and nation will be brought into the unity of Christ’s kingdom. This we ask in the name of the same Jesus Christ our Lord Amen Childhood Memories - Patricia Winder I was surprised at how pleased I was when recently someone tapped me on the shoulder and said, 'Do I detect an Ulster accent? Very possibly. My roots are in Ulster, in the market town of Lisnaskea, County Fermanagh which is part of the Province of Ulster. I was born in Belfast. It had been arranged that I should make my entrance in a Maternity Hospital in the city. It was a very cold winter. Mummy had gone into labour early and Daddy had to drive her through heavy snow to make this happen. When telling this, he made it all sound frightfully important and dramatic. I loved this story about me and the picture that hung above my bed, depicting a car battling along dangerous, icy roads and a stork flying overhead carrying a baby. I have an older sister Mary and a younger brother Stewart. Being a 'middle' has its problems. Some- thing was bothering me or is it possible that I was attention seeking? My sister had been named after two grandmothers and an aunt; my brother after his grandfathers and an uncle while I was given two random names Patricia Anne. I made a scene! Was I adopted? I think for a time I got the attention I sought but I soon forgot about it. My parents must have handled it well. Living in a seemingly untroubled world on the shores of Lough Erne, life was idyllic, even the War seemed fun. Daddy, who worked for the Ulster Bank, was an ARP warden which seemed very important, wore a navy uniform and had a very large brass hand bell. We children did our bit, performing in concerts etc. to raise money for 22 The Tanks and collected books to redistribute to the troops. American soldiers were billeted in the town; the big girls loved them. Somehow they had nylon stockings and chewing gum. Sadly our black Labrador Jo, or was it Jeff?, was killed by one of their jeeps. Another great sadness was to see the Telegram Boy peddling his bike towards a house, we knew that it would be the worst news. Food rationing didn't impact very much as I recall. We lived in a modest semi-detached house on the road up to the Church of Ireland. Next to that was the Church Primary School which we all attended. From our house, if you were late and feeling brave, you could take a shortcut to school through the graveyard keeping an ear out for a Banshee! Home had a large garden with a lawn and a vegetable patch where Daddy grew organic vegetables which Mummy, who had trained as a cook at a prodigious Cookery School in Edinburgh, would turn into delicious wholesome meals. Daddy kept bees so there was honey. Our friends frequently came to play. We were very girlie little girls, always dressed in pretty dresses with ribbons in our hair. We played with our dolls at being nurses and shop keepers, ball games, skipping and hopscotch. We had endless fun and ignored the group of slightly older naughty boys that were at school with us. We would hear the grown-ups complaining about them and how tiresome and seemingly out of control they were. The leader of this gang, surprisingly, was the son of the senior police officer in the district. The celebrations when the war ended were so exciting. We parted company with gas masks, joined in the marches and fancy dress parades, put up bunting, waved flags and sang the National Anthem with gusto. Quite soon there were bananas in the shops! Memories of holidays are very precious at Rossnowlagh, a tiny seaside resort situated on the Atlantic coast. A wild and very beautiful place with miles of golden sand frequently washed by enormously powerful waves topped by swirling foam. There were delightful stone cottages and a few modern wooden bungalows. Every year we stayed with the Farrell sisters who ran a very cosy boarding house with delicious food. There was a small monastery and we often met the Monks strolling along the beach. The Golf Links gave it a touch of sophistication. The Club House was a great meeting place for afternoon tea or ice cream. If anything was at fault with this relaxed and happy place it was swimming in 'the big sea'! -always freezing! Visiting our Grandparents farm was very special too. The farm- house was pretty basic when we were little. Electricity was generated by a windmill, the loo was 'out the back' and a wash stand in our bedroom served as a bathroom but we loved it. It was

23 fun to be different. Stone buildings surrounded the house and con- tained all sorts of excitement, cows, pigs, horses, hens (we loved to collect the warm newly laid eggs ) sheep, dogs, farm machinery to climb on and hay bales to build a house. Granny's kitchen was warm and inviting. I remember her rocking chair and ticking of the grandfather clock in the corner. She would make soda bread on the griddle, spread it with butter she had churned in the Milk House and gooseberry jam from berries we had picked in her garden. Then with a can of tea we would head to the fields to join the men working there. Words can scarcely describe how magical this was for us, especially riding home on the back of a hay shifter pulled by Molly, a beautiful shire horse. I remember exciting days spent with Uncle James and Aunty Gertie in their very elegant house in Belfast where there was a fridge, a vacuum cleaner and a maid, Margaret, who wore a uniform! They had no children so they were strict but lovely. It was a special place to visit. We found the busy city very exciting. The sounds, especially the trams, and smells were so very different to the fresh air and beautiful spaces around the Lough. At home all was fresh and wholesome. The most beautiful area of Fermanagh, whatever the weather, is around the Upper and Lower Lough Erne with Enniskillen in the middle and this was right on our doorstep. The scenery is magnificent, magical and beautiful. Daddy kept a rowing boat with an outboard engine on the Upper Lough. When weather permitted Mummy would pack a picnic and we would set off to find a sheltered spot to spread out the rug, fill the primus stove with paraffin and get the kettle boiling for tea and sandwiches. The Loughs are peppered with over 150 islands so there was always a jetty and somewhere to explore. A few were inhabited by farmers. Cows and deer were known to swim from one island to another. They were fun days and we arrived home content and exhausted. I have many memories, too many to recount here, but there are some very special ones which have impacted hugely on my life and those are things that I remember from Sunday School. I have always been very grateful to my lovely parents that we were brought up in a family that was very involved in the life of the local Presbyterian Church. So much of what I was taught there has given me a simple basic foundation to build my Christian beliefs on as I have grown older and matured. I have been greatly blessed. Patricia Anne (and definitely not adopted!)

Oh! I almost forgot to tell you! - 14 years later I married one of those naughty school boys - the senior policeman's son!

Margaret Ward has been busy!

Dear God… some young primary school children were invited to send letters or prayers to God

RUTH - Dear God, I think the stapler is one of your greatest inventions. MICHAEL - Dear God, if you watch in church on Sunday I will show you my new shoes. ELLIOT - Dear God, I think about you sometimes even when I’m not praying. HATTIE - Dear God, I bet it is very hard for you to love all of everybody in the whole world. There are only 4 people in my family and I can never do it. MARK - Dear God, I keep waiting for summer but it never comes yet. Don’t forget. LUCY - Dear God, are you really invisible or is just a trick?

Streptocarpus: the best these have ever been - it’s amazing what difference a bit of extra TLC can make! Viv Finch

Autumnal colours from Judith Dowsett

Glastonbury Tor

Corfe Castle Dovecote at Faulston House, Bishopstone

Photos taken by Peter Adams out riding his bike

Fabulous Fall

Fascinating Foliage

Autumn Glory Arrangements by Helen Tague

Social distancing family walk! Godshill Wood

Photos courtesy of Helen Tague

Stourhead NT

Photos courtesy of John Dowsett

29 SMARTIES FOR KINKIIZI!! Giving thanks for our friends in Kinkiizi! Our plans for supporting our Kinkiizi Partners have been scuppered by Covid – like much else. So, for Harvest in October and the following weeks, we shared tubes of Smarties, in the hope you might like to fill them with a gift of 20ps, £1s or note/s and return your filled tube to one of the AVC churches by Advent (29th November), or post through the letterbox of the Church Office in Salisbury Street. We’ve received so many blessings, it would be good to share with those in great need in Kinkiizi. If you haven’t already picked up a Smartie Tube from one of the churches, it’s not too late to join in and support our Kinkiizi friends. (No tubes left—buy one?!) Thank you, the Mission Matters Group. Kinkiizi Action Group You might like to keep up with the work of the Kinkiizi Action Group. This is a Deanery group which encourages our links with our Partner Diocese in Uganda. If you are interested in Kinkiizi please do ‘like’ the page to get news, including photos, as they arrive. https://www.facebook.com/kinkiiziactiongroup Editors’ Note: The latest reports from Kinkiizi have not been good, as Covid has badly affected an already desperate community. Lockdown with no food and no welfare state has left many families hungry and they were very grateful for our financial support earlier in the year. On the positive side churches are opening once more with limited numbers allowed to attend. Schools are also opening but only for the top year group. Children have not had any schooling for months, and no on-line alternative for them.

JIGSAW PUZZLE LATEST We remain uncertain whether the Puzzle Sale can go ahead as a ‘shop’ or not. St Mary’s really needs the income so we remain hopeful. Making Puzzles? How you can help us now: If you are making puzzles on board for us, one way you can help NOW is to make the puzzle, be sure it is complete and then pack it very carefully into a large bag, seal the bag, put it in the box with a note inside (dated) to say it is complete. Please keep your boxed puzzles and board until we know more!!

Dates to Remember: 10am- 4pm, Fri 19th, Sat 20th and Sun 21st February 2021 Judith Dowsett and Viv Finch

Autumn colours for Morse code Bracelets!

Looking for a beautiful Christmas present at a reasonable price, and wanting to support a good cause at the same time? Look no further! These beautiful coil bracelets will be available in different colours this Autumn: as well as silver, there will be red, blue, green, black and gold beads on the silver wire. There will also be a bigger choice of Bible verses, which are encoded on each bracelet. There are both pink and blue boxes, depending on which verses you choose. If you are interested in buying one or several, please contact me via the Church Office (details on back cover) with ‘BRACELETS’ in the subject line. I am passionate about Open Doors, and this is one way to support them. See website to see what they do: www.opendoorsuk.org. Thank you for your support. Pat Bloomfield.

31 THE CHURCH IS ALIVE. THE CHURCH IS ACTIVE. THE CHURCH IS GROWING. AND THAT’S WHY THE CHURCH IS PERSECUTED.

OPEN DOORS UK & IRELAND produce a book, (updated annually and the last two editions launched by Open Doors in the House of Commons) which details the 50 countries in the world where Christians face the most extreme persecution. These are places where, daily, Christians are harassed, insulted, abused. Where they could be beaten, imprisoned, or even killed.

And yet, these are also places where they dare to share Jesus, no matter the cost.

Because, despite the danger, Christians in these countries are still sharing the good news. The church is alive, active, growing.

WHY ARE CHRISTIANS PERSECUTED? When Jesus was alive, some people hated Him. Today they hate His followers. But why?

BECAUSE DICTATORS WANT TO BE DIVINE. Totalitarian leaders demand to be worshipped - so anyone who says Jesus is Lord is a traitor.

BECAUSE ULTRA-NATIONALISTS PREACH THAT RELIGION EQUALS RACE. In many countries, nationalist media and politicians seek to drive out followers of other faiths, So, Indians ‘have’ to be Hindu; Pakistanis ‘have’ to be Muslim; Sri Lankans ‘have’ to be Buddhist.

BECAUSE EXTREMISTS TRY TO GET TO PARADISE BY KILLING PEOPLE. They call themselves by many names - Islamic State, Boko Haram, Islamic Jihad - but they all believe that they will be rewarded for acts of hatred and violence. (The God they serve is not the Christian God of Love)

BECAUSE CHRISTIANS CAN BE EASY TARGETS. Christians are often poor and in the minority, making them easy to bully and to blame.

BECAUSE FOLLOWING JESUS BRINGS FREEDOM. The truth sets people free. Which is the last thing that enemies of Christianity want. Ultimately, though, there is one main reason why Christians are persecuted.

BECAUSE CHRIST HAS THE VICTORY. And nothing makes a bully more angry than knowing that they cannot win.

Christ is building His church. That’s why all attempts to crush the church will always fail. In North Korean labour camps and Iranian prison blocks, in secret Chinese house churches, and in the burned-out shells of buildings in Nigeria, Christians are still actively following Jesus. But they need our support. Thanks to the gifts and prayers of Christians around the world, Open Doors is able to stand alongside Christians whose faith puts them in danger. After all, we are one body, one church. So these are not strangers. They are our family, our brothers and sisters.

WHAT CAN I DO ABOUT IT?

You can pray. You can give. And you can speak up on their behalf. You can keep hope alive.

GIVE: You could provide a North Korean believer with a Bible. Or help a family survive with a monthly relief pack of food, medicine and clothing. Or support an emergency response team to help Christian believers in crisis.

PRAY: If you prayed for just one country on the World Watch List each week, you could cover the world with your prayers. Or why not send your prayers in a letter to comfort grieving parents?

SPEAK UP: Tell your Christian friends about what is happening. And spread the word even further: get your MP to raise the issue of Christian persecution in Parliament, or let the embassy of a country that persecutes Christians know that you are watching them.

Visit www.opendoorsuk.org today and bring hope to Christians in the darkest and most dangerous places on earth. Pat Bloomfield article adapted from the World Watch List 2020

Answers to this month’s quiz 1.Theodore Roosevelt, Thomas Jefferson, George Washington, Abraham Lincoln. 2.Tax evasion. 3.Abolished Slavery. 4.Gold 5.Marion Mitchell Morrison 6.Florida 7.Elvis Presley, Carl Perkins, Johnny Cash & Jerry Lee Lewis 8.Sicily 9.The Colorado 10.The Pony Express

33 News from Fordingbridge Museum - A Disillusioned Disciple In 1903 Augustus John opened an art school in Chelsea. John was a flamboyant larger than life bohemian artist and when, in 1906, a young, self-taught artist called Henry Lamb enrolled at the school he was immediately enamoured of John’s art and approach to life. A fellow student recalls Lamb saying, “I should have been Augustus John”. Lamb’s drawings had the “delicate line” that John encouraged and Lamb started to dress like his idol with long hair, gold earrings and wide brimmed hats and flowing capes. Lamb had a glamorous artist’s model, Nina Forest, as his girlfriend. She led a wild and promiscuous life and was very different in nature to Lamb. However when she revealed that she was pregnant they decided to marry which they did at Chelsea Register Office in 1906. Augustus John, who was impressed with Lamb, calling him, “no ordinary personage”, was one of their witnesses. Shortly after the wedding Nina had a miscarriage. Later when John, his wife Ida and his mistress Dorelia moved to Paris, Lamb followed them. Ida died in childbirth, and Lamb and Nina had an increasingly fiery relationship with frequent violent arguments. A mutual friend, the artist Duncan Grant said, “That man John is a bad lot. His mistress Dorelia fell in love with Henry and invited him to copulate and as far as I can make it out John encourages the liaison”. Lamb had fallen in love with Dorelia and despite regularly writing to John about their artistic lives he longed for the day when he could release her from, “the Augustus clutches”. Lamb, who was a qualified doctor, served in WWI as a medic winning the Military Cross for conspicuous gal- lantry. Eventually he was badly gassed and was invalided back to England, where Dorelia helped to nurse him back to health. When John and Dorelia moved to Alderney Manor in Bournemouth, Lamb moved to Poole to be near them. Lamb became increasingly annoyed with John, blaming him for overworking Dorelia and making her ill. Lamb and Brookside House

34 Dorelia did make an attempt to run away together but only got as far as Salisbury before Dorelia wanted to turn back. She wrote afterwards that, “We should never have been able to get away”. When the Johns moved to Fordingbridge, Lamb, who was now an established painter, moved to a riverside house in Coombe Bissett. As John became older he became dependent on alcohol which made him grumpy, unpredictable and rude. Lamb became more determined to rescue Dorelia from, “the old monster”, who he saw as an “old wreck of a millstone round her neck.” Once, whilst John was away, he describes going over to her “very copious bed”. After divorcing his first wife, Lamb married Lady Pansy Pakenham in 1928, the eldest daughter of the Earl of Longford. He only told Dorelia two days before the wedding. At his idyllic riverside house he hosted many of the intellectuals, writers and artists of the day. One of these was the poet John Betjeman who wrote, Oh, the Calm of Coombe Bissett is tranquil and deep Where Ebble flows soft in her downland asleep And beauty to me came a-pushing a pram In the shape of the sweet Pansy Felicia Lamb. Lamb painted 70 portraits in the last 15 years of his life mainly of academics, politicians and socialites, as well as many depictions of the local countryside. As he grew older he became crippled with rheumatism which made holding a paint brush difficult. He died in The Spire Nursing Home in Salisbury in 1960 aged 77. Pansy, who was a novelist and biographer and 20 years younger than Lamb died in 1999. They had three children. Julian Hewitt

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MINISTRY TEAM Rev’d Canon Gary Philbrick - Rector email: [email protected] Tel: 01425 839622 Rev’d John Towler - Assistant Priest Tel: 07940 855952 Rev’d Kate Wilson - Assistant Priest Tel: 07770 944054 & Pastoral Visitor Coordinator Mr Mark Ward - Licensed Lay Minister email: [email protected] Tel: 01425 656120 Mrs Jo Heath - Youth & Families worker Tel: 07515 533685 email: [email protected] CHURCH OFFICERS Churchwardens: Mr Ian Newman Tel: 01425 653269 Mr Nigel Spratt Tel: 01202 824413 email: [email protected] Assistant Wardens: Sandleheath - Mrs Sue Ledger Tel: 01725 517389 Godshill - Mrs Gwenda Moore Tel: 01425 650104 PCC Secretary: Mrs Judith Dowsett Tel: 01425 650335 email: [email protected] PCC Treasurer: Mr Martin Calver Tel: 01425 656189

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