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On Sadomasochism: Taxonomies and Language
Nicole Eitmann On Sadomasochism: Taxonomies and Language Governments try to regulate sadomasochistic activities (S/M). Curiously, though, no common definition of S/M exists and there is a dearth of statistically valid social science research on who engages in S/M or how participants define the practice. This makes it hard to answer even the most basic questions shaping state laws and policies with respect to S/M. This paper begins to develop a richer definition of sadomasochistic activities based on the reported common practices of those engaging in S/M. The larger question it asks, though, is why so little effort has been made by social scientists in general and sex researchers in particular to understand the practice and those who participate in it. As many social sci- entists correctly observe, sadomasochism has its “basis in the culture of the larger society.”1 Rethinking sadomasochism in this way may shed some light on the present age. A DEFINITIONAL QUAGMIRE In Montana, sadomasochistic abuse includes the depiction of a per- son clad in undergarments or in a revealing or bizarre costume.2 In Illinois, it is illegal to distribute or sell obscene material—defined in part as “sado- masochistic sexual acts, whether normal or perverted, actual or simu- lated.”3 The lack of a clear definition of what constitutes S/M is one major difficulty in developing appropriate policies with respect to S/M activities. Clearly, S/M means different things to different people, and there is a wide range of possible S/M activities—from light spanking or -
Why Spanking Should Be Discouraged by Eliza Cook and Kimberly Kopko
To Spank or Not to Spank: Why Spanking Should Be Discouraged By Eliza Cook and Kimberly Kopko Spanking—hitting a child on the bottom with an open hand—is a common discipline approach used for children in the U.S. Most parents who spank believe that spanking will teach their children what is right and wrong; however, recent research finds that spanking should be discouraged as a discipline strategy. This fact sheet highlights reasons to eliminate spanking as a disciplinary tool, as well as other strategies parents can use instead of spanking. All suggestions are adopted from research in a recent publication, “Spanking and Child Development: We Know Enough Now to Stop Hitting Our Children” by Elizabeth Gershoff (2013). Why spanking should be discouraged: Spanking sends mixed messages. Many children report feelings of fear, anger, and sadness after being spanked. It can be very frightening and confusing for a child to be hit by a parent whom they love and depend on. Even if after spanking their child, a parent calmly explains the reasons why a child should act a certain way, it will be difficult for the child to listen and internalize the explanation because they will also be feeling frightened and distressed. Spanking teaches the wrong message. Children cannot learn through spanking alone why their behavior was incorrect. In fact, spanking teaches children to behave only when the threat of physical punishment is present. Once the threat of physical punishment is gone, children may feel little motivation to behave appropriately. Because there are many times when children are away from parents that require appropriate behavior, such as school or in after school activities, this can be very problematic. -
5 Major Myths About BDSM | Women's Health Magazine
12/29/2014 5 Major Myths About BDSM | Women's Health Magazine Subscribe Register for free! | Log In Search Women's Health Fitness Sex & Love Life Food Weight Loss Health Beauty Style Sex Dating Relationships Sex Positions Birth Control Love Your Body Fit Bump Guy Next Door BDSM MYTHS 5 Major Myths About BDSM It’s not all about red rooms and handsome millionaires. PUBLISHED: AUGUST 14, 2014 | BY KRISTEN SOLLEE Like 475 Tweet Share SHUTTERSTOCK Handcuffs, blindfolds and Christian Grey might come to mind when you think of BDSM, but the real life kink community is actually far more diverse and dynamic than fiction. Although E.L. James’ hugely successful series has inspired some couples to move beyond vanilla in the bedroom (and buy more sex toys), there are still a lot of myths and misconceptions out there about bondage, domination, submission and masochism. So we asked a few experts to help us bust commonly held stereotypes about BDSM: Myth #1: Fifty Shades of Grey was Totally the Real Deal Not even close, says veteran member of the BDSM community and sex therapist Gloria Brame, Ph.D., author of Different Loving. In fact, she says most BDSM endorsers aren’t really fans of the book. One problem she notes is that the book shows the main character practically pressured into trying it in the beginning, and that Christian is controlling in other aspects http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/bdsm-myths 1/3 12/29/2014 5 Major Myths About BDSM | Women's Health Magazine of their relationship. -
Themes of SM Expression Charles Moser and Peggy J
3 Themes of SM Expression Charles Moser and Peggy J. Kleinplatz SM (also known as BDSM, i.e. Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission and Sadism and Masochism) is a term used to describe a variety of sexual behaviours that have an implicit or explicit power differential as a significant aspect of the erotic interaction. Of course there are other sexual interactions or behaviours that have an implicit power differential, but that power differential is not generally eroticized in non-SM interactions. Sex partners may even disagree if a particular interaction or relationship constitutes SM, each seeing it from a different perspective. The boundaries between SM and non-SM interactions are not always clear, which is why self-definition is crucial for understanding SM phenomena. Colloquially the set of SM inclinations has been referred to deris- ively as an interest in ‘whips and chains’, but is much more complex and varied than suggested by that description. Practitioners use both numerous academic terms and jargon (e.g. S/M, B/D, WIITWD [i.e. what it is that we do], D/s, Bondage, Leather, Kink) to refer to these interests. They have been labelled controversially in the psychiatric liter- ature with diagnostic labels such as paraphilia, sadomasochism, sexual sadism, sexual masochism and fetishism. There is no evidence that the descriptions in the psychiatric literature resemble the individuals who self-identify as SM participants or that SM participants understand the implications of adopting the psychiatric terms as self-descriptors. Judging from the proliferation of SM themes in sexually explicit media, references in mainstream books, film and the news media, as well as academic studies and support groups, it is reasonable to conclude that SM is an important sexual interest for a significant number of indi- viduals. -
Position Statement on Physical/Corporal Punishment [This Position Statement Replaces Apsaa’S 2013 Position Statement on Physical/Corporal Punishment]
Position Statement on Physical/Corporal Punishment [This position statement replaces APsaA’s 2013 position statement on Physical/Corporal Punishment] The American Psychoanalytic Association (APsaA) condemns the use of physical punishment (corporal punishment) in the discipline of children and recommends alternative methods that enhance children's capacities to develop healthy emotional lives, tolerate frustration, regulate internal tensions, and behave in socially acceptable ways. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC, Atlanta, GA) has now formally come out with policy asserting that physical punishment is child abuse (p. 8) and that it should be prohibited (p. 46)(Fortson et al, 2016). This stance is in response to consistent data showing physical punishment to be associated with increased violence and emotional disorders (Durrant and Ensom, 2012; Straus et al, 2013; Gershoff and Grogan-Kaylor, 2016). The USA has no federal law prohibiting physical punishment. There are still 19 states which permit physical punishment in schools. All this is in contrast to the international response to these data on physical punishment—49 countries have banned physical punishment in all settings, and over 100 countries have banned it in schools. APsaA identifies and advocates for three crucial interventions for the prevention of physical punishment of children: 1. Education about the psychological problems caused by physical punishment and about alternative approaches to discipline. Educational efforts should be directed towards parents, caregivers, educators, clergy, legislators and the general public. 2. Legislation to protect all children from physical punishment and to aid parents at risk. 3. Research about alternative methods of disciplining and managing children and about the best ways to communicate these methods to parents, educators and caregivers. -
Corporal Punishment: an Analysis of the Constitutionality of Domestic Corporal Punishment
University at Albany, State University of New York Scholars Archive Political Science Honors College 5-2014 Corporal Punishment: An Analysis of the Constitutionality of Domestic Corporal Punishment Brian Junquera University at Albany, State University of New York Follow this and additional works at: https://scholarsarchive.library.albany.edu/honorscollege_pos Part of the Political Science Commons Recommended Citation Junquera, Brian, "Corporal Punishment: An Analysis of the Constitutionality of Domestic Corporal Punishment" (2014). Political Science. 18. https://scholarsarchive.library.albany.edu/honorscollege_pos/18 This Honors Thesis is brought to you for free and open access by the Honors College at Scholars Archive. It has been accepted for inclusion in Political Science by an authorized administrator of Scholars Archive. For more information, please contact [email protected]. Corporal Punishment : An Analysis of the Constitutionality of Domestic Corporal Punishment Abstract: As contemporary society has increasingly recognized the independent rights of children, the acceptability of parental corporal punishment has been increasingly questioned. I argue that in light of modern research on the negative effects of corporal punishment, the New York law that sanctions parental corporal punishment is unconstitutional. In order to make this argument, the U.S. Supreme Court’s interpretation of the Eighth Amendment protection against “cruel and unusual punishment” is analyzed. Factors used by the Court to determine whether a punishment is “cruel and unusual” are assessed in relation to corporal punishment. Brian Junquera Department of Political Science Rockefeller College of Public Affairs and Policy University at Albany, SUNY Undergraduate Honors Thesis Faculty Adviser: Victor Asal, PhD. Junquera 2 Introduction In 2008 the Supreme Court of Minnesota heard a case involving parental use of corporal punishment in the home. -
Non Consent Bdsm Stories
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Gloria Brame's Kinky Links Catalogue - General BDSM/Fetish Information
Gloria Brame's Kinky Links Catalogue - General BDSM/Fetish Information Please patronize the shops which fund this site. The Well-Read Head W.D. BRAME let a book kidnap your mind toys to torment and tease Kinky Links Index > General BDSM/Fetish Information Speaking the Kinky Lingo Gloria's comprehensive glossary of BDSM/fetish slang ● Albany Stocks and Bonds ● Leather Navigator A pansexual bdsm club dedicated to Excellent resource for leathermen and bears. providing members with information, education and a friendly environment to explore their interests and fantasies as related to BDSM. ● Alternate Resources Search Engine ● Lesbian Mailing Lists Search engine for kinky clubs, lodgings, A must for women who love women! newsgroups, more, worldwide. ● Aubrey's Playroom ● Links for Political Activists A 60 minute Internet talk show featuring Helpful resource for the politically inclined. conversation for the Leather, Fetish, BDSM, and Alternative Sexuality Communities. ● bianca's Smut Shack ● Moonkissed Pagan spirituality. http://gloria-brame.com/kinkylinks/generalbdsminfo.html (1 of 3) [4/1/2002 8:50:00 PM] Gloria Brame's Kinky Links Catalogue - General BDSM/Fetish Information ● BDSM Find ● My Dungeon of Links Features highlights from Usenet, an extensive linkdirectory, and free webmaster tools for BDSM websites, including the KinkPoll and personal forums ● Blacks/People of Color in BDSM ● Naughty Linx Resources Links to ton of adult-only sites. A Resource of information for People of Color in the BDSM community ● carmb's dungeon ● Night Sites articles, smutty stories, and links to BDSM Make your own free adult homepage. information ● Christian BDSM ● Queernet: Mailing Lists Exploring the Christian/BDSM world Great collection of mailing lists for g/l/b/tg and SM/fetish people. -
The “Jūdō Sukebei”
ISSN 2029-8587 PROBLEMS OF PSYCHOLOGY IN THE 21st CENTURY Vol. 9, No. 2, 2015 85 THE “JŪDŌ SUKEBEI” PHENOMENON: WHEN CROSSING THE LINE MERITS MORE THAN SHIDŌ [MINOR INFRINGEMENT] ― SEXUAL HARASSMENT AND INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR IN JŪDŌ COACHES AND INSTRUCTORS Carl De Crée University of Rome “Tor Vergata”, Rome, Italy Ghent University, Ghent, Belgium International Association of Judo Researchers, United Kingdom E-mail: [email protected] Abstract The sport of jūdō was intended as an activity “for all”. Since in 1996 a major sex abuse scandal broke out that involved a Dutch top jūdō coach and several female elite athletes, international media have identified many more abuses. To date no scholarly studies exist that have examined the nature, extent, and consequences of these anomalies. We intend in this paper to review and analyze sexual abuses in jūdō. To do so we offer a descriptive jurisprudence overview of relevant court and disciplinary cases, followed by a qualitative-analytical approach looking at the potential factors that prompt jūdō-related bullying and sexual harassment. Sex offenders may be attracted to jūdō because of: 1. the extensive bodily contact during grappling, 2. the easy access to voyeuristic opportunities during contest weigh-ins and showering, 3. Jūdō’s authoritarian and hierarchical structure as basis for ‘grooming’, 4. lack of integration of jūdō’s core moral component in contemporary jūdō coach and instructor education, and 5. its increasing eroti- cization by elite jūdō athletes posing for nude calendars and media and by specialized pornographic jūdō manga and movies. Cultural conceptions and jurisprudence are factors that affect how people perceive the seriousness and how these offences are dealt with. -
Submitting to the Discipline of Sexual Intimacy? Online Constructions of BDSM Encounters
Submitting to the discipline of sexual intimacy? Online constructions of BDSM encounters by Saskia Wolfaardt A mini‐dissertation submitted in partial fulfilment of the requirements for the degree MA Clinical Psychology in the Department of Psychology at the UNIVERSITY OF PRETORIA FACULTY OF HUMANITIES SUPERVISOR: Prof T Bakker January 2014 © University of Pretoria i Acknowledgements Thank you to my participants for trusting me with your intimate journeys and for letting me share it with others. Thank you to my academic supervisor, Prof Terri Bakker, for questions rather than answers, for your sincere interest and curiosity and for all your patience. Thank you to Ingrid Lynch, for your unwavering support, encouragement, endurance and patience. Thank you for the read, reread and re‐reread. Thank you for trusting that I would finish… eventually. Thank you to my parents and brother for your continuous love, support, motivation and faith in me throughout my academic career and for always communicating how proud you are of me in whichever impossible decision I make. © University of Pretoria ii Abstract BDSM (bondage, discipline/dominance, submission/sadism and masochism) has recently gained greater visibility in dominant discourses around sexuality. However, these depictions are often constructed in rigid ways to typically exclude experiences of sexual intimacy. Despite this apparent exclusion, constructions of subspace (an altered mental state induced through BDSM encounters) on online blogs intrigued me to consider it as an alternative to widely accepted notions of sexual intimacy. Using a poststructuralist theoretical framework, I conducted an online ethnographic study in which I explored the varied ways in which self‐ identified South African BDSM individuals construct meaning around sexual intimacy. -
Discipline with Dignity. INSTITUTION Association for Supervision and Curriculum Development, Alexandria, Va
DOCUMENT RESUME ED 302 938 EA 020 626 AUTHOR Curwin, Richard L.; Mendler, Allen N. TITLE Discipline with Dignity. INSTITUTION Association for Supervision and Curriculum Development, Alexandria, Va. REPORT NO ISBN-0-87120-154-2 PUB DATE 88 NOTE 279p. AVAILABLE FROMASCD, 125 N. West Street, Alexandria, VA 22314-2798 (Stock No. 611-88166; $9.95). PUB TYPE Books (010) -- Guides - }on- Classroom Use (055) -- Reports - Descriptive (141) EDRS PRICE MF01 Plus Postage. PC Not Available from EDRS. DESCRIPTORS *Behavior Problems; *Classroom Techniques; Codes of Ethics; *Discipline; Discipline Policy; *Discipline Problems; Elementary Secondary Education; Obedience; Punishment; Sanctions; Self Control; Student Behavior; Teacher Behavior; *Teacher '_response; *Teacher Student Relationship ABSTRACT Theoretically and practically, this book helps teachers develop a repertoire of practical consequences to use when students forget or do not know how to perform the behaviors agreed upon in their social contracts. A range of strategies are suggested for creating additional consequences and encouraging treating students in fair, dignified, and individualized ways. The book respects students' individuality and notes the distinction between consequence and punishment. Thus the process and strategies presented are intended to enhance student self-esteem, to invest social problem-solving and self-regulation as serious components of curriculum and instruction, and to cast teachers as professional educators--mediators of learning--rather than policemen. Titles of the book's 12 chapters are "Discipline," "Dignity and Responsibility in the Classroom," "Three-Dimensional Discipline," "The Social Contract," "Consequences," "Taking Action," "Stress and Discipline," "Creative Discipline for Out-of-Control Students," "Discipline and the Process of Teaching," "Special Problems," "Twenty Questions," and "Conclusion." Appended are a behavior management inventory, a school discipline survey form, and a nine-page bibliography. -
Spanking and Other Corporal Punishment of Children by Parents: Undervaluing Children, Overvaluing Pain
Scholarly Commons @ UNLV Boyd Law Scholarly Works Faculty Scholarship 1998 Spanking and Other Corporal Punishment of Children by Parents: Undervaluing Children, Overvaluing Pain David Orentlicher University of Nevada, Las Vegas -- William S. Boyd School of Law Follow this and additional works at: https://scholars.law.unlv.edu/facpub Part of the Family Law Commons, and the Juvenile Law Commons Recommended Citation Orentlicher, David, "Spanking and Other Corporal Punishment of Children by Parents: Undervaluing Children, Overvaluing Pain" (1998). Scholarly Works. 1169. https://scholars.law.unlv.edu/facpub/1169 This Article is brought to you by the Scholarly Commons @ UNLV Boyd Law, an institutional repository administered by the Wiener-Rogers Law Library at the William S. Boyd School of Law. For more information, please contact [email protected]. ARTICLE SPANKING AND OTHER CORPORAL PUNISHMENT OF CHILDREN BY PARENTS: OVERVALUING PAIN, UNDERVALUING CHILDREN David Orentlicher* Table of Contents I. INTRODUCTION .................................................................... 148 II. THE DEFINITION OF CORPORAL PUNISHMENT .................... 149 III. PREVALENCE OF CORPORAL PUNISHMENT BY PARENTS ...... 151 IV. THE LAW ON CORPORAL PUNISHMENT BY PARENTS ........... 151 V. CONCERNS ABOUT CORPORAL PUNISHMENT ....................... 155 VI. ALTERNATIVES TO CORPORAL PUNISHMENT ....................... 161 VII. THE LEGAL FRAAmNG OF CORPORAL PUNISHMENT ............. 166 VIII. EXPLAINING THE LEGAL FRAmEWORK ................................ 173 IX.