לשנה טובה SHARE THE BEAUTY OF THE High Holy Days

ROSH HASHANAH ראש השנה SEPTEMBER 18 – SEPTEMBER 20, 2020 1 & 2 TISHRI 5781

YOM KIPPUR יום כפור SEPTEMBER 27 – 28, 2020 10 TISHRI 5781

SEPTEMBER 2020 / BULLETIN

GUIDE TO THE HIGH HOLY DAYS 2020 / 5781 DAYS OF AWE

Dear JCOH Family,

Each year when the High Holy Days arrive, we expect familiarity. For years we have been gathering inside the tent on the lawn of the Jewish Center, sitting in the same seats we usually sit in, with the same people, and listening to the age-old Jewish melodies that evoke nostalgia. This year, however, might seem a bit different. To paraphrase a question that we ask on , “Why is this year different from all other years?”

Living in a world with COVID-19 has forced us, and the entire world, to adapt to the new circumstances that restrict our ability to gather safely in large groups. The safety of our community is paramount, and the decisions that we have made as a community reflect our value of pikuach nefesh–– the law of preserving human health and safety. This and Kippur might seem different, but they undoubtably will be nonetheless spiritual and sacred.

There will be experiences both in-person and virtually throughout the holiday season that offer us the ability to connect safely and spiritually. Please take a look at the calendar of events and choose the services and experiences that are right for you and your family.

We need a good year now more than ever, so in wishing you a Shannah Tovah (a good new year), we wholeheartedly wish you and everyone in our community a year that will be filled with healing, wholeness, love, hope, and peace.

L’Shanah Tovah Tikatevu… may you, your families, and all of us be inscribed for a good year of bountiful blessings.

Rabbi Franklin Debra Stein, Cantor

Diane Wiener Harry A. Katz Matthew Oates Director of Development President Executive Director Executive Director Emerita

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2 YAMIM NORAIM — SCHEDULE

SHARE THE BEAUTY OF THE HIGH HOLY DAYS 5781 SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 12 ...... - 8:00pm (Livestream)

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 18 ...... Erev Rosh Hashanah on the Beach - 6:00pm (Main Beach)* ...... Rosh Hashanah Eve - 8:00pm (Livestream)

SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 19 ...... Rosh Hashanah Morning & Torah Service - 9:30am (Livestream) ...... Family Service - 3:00pm (JCOH Front Lawn)* ...... Service & Tashlich - 6:00pm (Main Beach)*

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 20 ...... Rosh Hashanah Second Day - 9:30am (JCOH Front Lawn)* ...... Tashlich - 6:00pm (Main Beach)*

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 27 ...... Kever Avot - 10:00am (Shaarey Pardes Accabonac Grove Cemetery - 306 Old Stone Highway, East Hampton)* ...... Eve () - 7:30pm (Livestream)

MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 28 ...... Yom Kippur Morning - 9:30am (Livestream) ...... on the Lawn & Food Drive - 12:00pm (JCOH Front Lawn)* ...... Family Service - 2:00pm (JCOH Front Lawn)* ...... Yizkor - 3:00pm (Livestream) ...... Torah & Haftarah Reading - 4:00pm (Livestream) ...... Neilah Service - 5:30pm (Livestream)

All services will be streamed at

*Masks & Pre-Registration required for all in-person High Holy Days services.

“MAY OUR PRAYERS REACH HEAVENWARD AND OUR HEARTS FIND PEACE”

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SELICHOT SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 12 | 8:00pm on jcoh.org/live Begin the High Holy Day season with this preparatory service that explores the themes of repentance and forgiveness (the word selichot means forgiveness). The short service introduces the High Holy liturgy and musical motifs that help us delve into the process of introspection over Rosh HaShanah and Yom Kippur.

EREV ROSH HASHANAH ON THE BEACH FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 18 | 6:00pm at Main Beach & jcoh.org/live 101 Ocean Avenue, East Hampton Gather with us outdoors and at a distance for this new and unique Rosh Hashanah experience. Reserve your socially distanced circle, bring your lawn chair, and sit together with your family to welcome in the new year like you never have before. Limited space is available.

*Masks & Pre-Registration required for all in-person High Holy Days services. **Please note: no bathrooms are available

VIRTUAL ROSH HASHANAH EVENING FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 18 | 8:00pm on jcoh.org/live

Tune in to join us virtually for a service that commences the new year.

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ROSH HASHANAH MORNING & TORAH SERVICE SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 19 | 9:30am on jcoh.org/live

Tune into this virtual service that incorporates a full range of High Holy Day experiences from , Torah reading, teachings form Rabbi Franklin, and the majestic music our traditions sang by Cantor/Rabbi Debra Stein. Every seat is a good seat when you tune in from the comforts of your home, but connect with us and the community virtually to experience this sacred moment in Jewish time.

ROSH HASHANAH FAMILY SERVICE SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 19 | 3:00pm on the JCOH Front Lawn & jcoh.org/live

Join us on the Jewish Center lawn for a service for the whole family. Bring your kids of all ages to join Rabbi Josh Franklin and Rabbi Debra Stein, Cantor for singing, stories, and great holiday fun.

*Masks & Pre-Registration required for all in-person High Holy Days services. **Please note: no bathrooms are available

ROSH HASHANAH SHOFAR SERVICE & TASHLICH SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 19 | 6:00pm at Main Beach & jcoh.org/live 101 Ocean Avenue, East Hampton

Join us at Main Beach to hear the Shofar live on Rosh HaShanah, and to take part in one of our community’s favorite rituals, Tashlich. To reflect on how we have missed the mark of our moral potential, we cast bread into the water, which represents our sins that we hope to shed in the new year.

*Masks & Pre-Registration required for all in-person High Holy Days services. **Please note: no bathrooms are available

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ROSH HASHANAH SECOND DAY SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 20 | 9:30am on the JCOH Front Lawn & jcoh.org/live Spread out across the JCOH’s great lawn and experience this live and in-person Rosh Hashanah morning service. Hear the sounds of the Shofar, take heed of the message from our Torah, and experience the majestic music of our traditions sung by Rabbi Debra Stein, Cantor.

*Masks & Pre-Registration required for all in-person High Holy Days services. **Please note: no bathrooms are available

KEVER AVOT SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 27 | 10:00am at Shaarey Pardes Accabonac Grove 306 Old Stone Highway, East Hampton Once a year, we invite our entire community to join together at our cemetery for a custom known as kever avot (the graves of our fathers and mothers). We visit the graves of our parents and close relatives and pray together for the strength to live life in their absence.

*Masks & Pre-Registration required for all in-person High Holy Days services. **Please note: no bathrooms are available

YOM KIPPUR EVE (KOL NIDRE) SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 27 | 7:30pm on jcoh.org/live

On the eve of Yom Kippur, we gather for a solemn and sacred service that calls us to reflect and repent. We hear the ancient melody of Kol Nidre chanted, stirring us to begin the day long process of atonement and forgiveness.

YOM KIPPUR MORNING MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 28 | 9:30am on jcoh.org/live

Tune into this virtual service that incorporates a full range of High Holy Day experiences from prayers of repentence, Torah reading, teachings from Rabbi Joshua Franklin, and the majestic music our traditions sang by Rabbi Debra Stein, Cantor. Every seat is a good seat when you tune in from the comforts of your home, but connect with us and the community virtually to experience this sacred moment in Jewish time.

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HAFTARAH ON THE LAWN & FOOD DRIVE MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 28 | 12:00pm on the JCOH Front Lawn & jcoh.org/live Come listen to the sacred words of the morning Haftara being read live and in-person on the Jewish Center’s lawn. The words of scripture from Isaiah that we will read beckon us to consider the needs of the poor and the needy among us. We ask that you bring a bag of non-perishable food items, which will be donated to the East Hampton food pantries.

*Masks & Pre-Registration required for all in-person High Holy Days services. **Please note: no bathrooms are available

YOM KIPPUR FAMILY SERVICE MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 28 | 2:00pm on the JCOH Front Lawn & jcoh.org/live Join us on the Jewish Center lawn for a service for the whole family. Bring your kids of all ages to join Rabbi Joshua Franklin and Rabbi Debra Stein, Cantor for singing, stories, and great holiday fun.

*Masks & Pre-Registration required for all in-person High Holy Days services. **Please note: no bathrooms are available

YIZKOR MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 28 | 3:00pm on jcoh.org/live The Yizkor (Memorial) Service is a time to open the doors of the past and to revisit the memories of our loved ones who are no longer with us. Derived from the Hebrew root zachor, Yizkor means, “may [God] remember.” Our Yom Kippur Yizkor service marks one of the four times throughout the year that we join God in this rite of eternal respect and remembrance. TORAH/HAFTARAH READING MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 28 | 4:00pm on jcoh.org/live Join us virtually to continue the path towards teshuvah (repentance) in the afternoon. Hear the words of the Holiness Code being read from the Torah (Leviticus 19), and listen to the haunting story of Jonah, all of which guide us in our personal reflections. NEILAH SERVICE MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 28 | 5:30pm on jcoh.org/live Ne’ilah meanings “the closing,” and the service comes as Yom Kippur itself comes to a close. Engage with a sacred liturgy that offers us the opportunity to take advantage of the last moments of Yom Kippur’s power. At the end of the service we sound the shofar one last time, and conclude with the ritual of havdallah.

PRE-REGISTER AND MORE AT JCOH.ORG/HIGHHOLYDAYS 7 SHOFAR: WHOLENESS TO BROKENNESS TO SHATTERED, AND THEN BACK TO WHOLENESS

When I learned to blow the shofar as a child, I thought I was learning to play a new musical instrument. This horn isn’t like a trumpet though, nor is it like a clarinet or a saxophone. A shofar doesn’t have notes that form a musical composition. It has several possible pitches that don’t correlate with traditional musical scales. The shofar cannot be tuned, rather it tunes us. The shofar’s sounds belong to no genre of music, except perhaps soul music. Its calls sound more like cries than they do intentional tones. The shofar is an instrument, but it is not musical in nature. It’s a spiritual instrument meant to rouse us during the holiday season.

Each call of the shofar evokes a unique feeling within us. We start out with the one blast, the Tekiah. This is followed by three small blasts, Shevarim. The third call is a set of nine very short blasts dubbed Teruah. The calls are always rounded out with a Tekiah at the end. What do these calls mean? The 17th Century Rabbi Isaiah Horowitz interpreted these blasts as corresponding to the stages in the process of repentance (teshuvah). Tekiah- we start out whole. Shevarim - we are broken down. Teruah- we become utterly shattered. And Tekiah- we resolve to be whole again.

This cycle plays out over and over again in our lives. Tekiah (wholeness) - a man marries the love of his life. Shevarim (brokenness)- a few years after they’re married, she is diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. Teruah (Shattering)- she passes away leaving him feeling unable to move past her death. Tekiah (wholeness)- The man remarries again and starts a family.

Tekiah- a high school senior get’s into the college of her dreams. Shevarim- the student discovers she is unable to handle the pressures of college. Teruah- she drops out of school, moves back in with her parents, and becomes depressed. Tekiah- This college drop-out starts a successful startup company.

Too often though, we remain waiting for that finaltekiah that we have labeled the tekiah gedolah (great wholeness). We feel stuck in the gear of being shattered, yearning for the cry of the wholeness to reemerge. This seems like an apt metaphor for where we are right now. We were whole, we were broken by a pandemic, it shattered our economy and destroyed the lives of millions, and we are waiting for wholeness once again.

Symphonies might move us, but the shofar calls echo our lives. The blasts from the horn bring us through an emotional cycle that resonate in each and every generation. This year, I wait patiently for the tekiah gedolah (great wholeness) to be sounded, but more importantly to reverberate into our world. Rabbi Josh Franklin

SHOFAR There are three distinct sounds of the Shofar; each with its own significance and feeling:

• Tekiah A long, drawn-out note. • Shevarim A quick succession of three broken tones. • Teruah Nine very short, staccato notes.

8 SHOFAR SERVICE & TASHLICH at MAIN BEACH SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 19 | 6:00pm

Join us at Main Beach to hear the Shofar live on Rosh Hashanah, and to take part in one of our community’s favorite rituals, Tashlich. To reflect on how we have missed the mark of our moral potential, we cast bread into the water, which represents our sins that we hope to shed in the new year. Pre-registration is required, visit jcoh.org/highholydays to join us. TASHLICH: FIVE THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW

What is Tashlich? Tashlich, a part of the High Holy Days, encourages moral cleansing through action. With each small piece of bread we cast into the water, a small part of our sins from the past year can be forgiven.

When does it occur in the order of the High Holy Days? The Tashlich ceremony is carried out on the afternoon of the first day of Rosh Hashanah.

What do we bring? Our Tashlich is B.Y.O.B.: bring your own bread. Any regular or even stale bread will do.

How can we celebrate? By throwing bread in “living water,” which in our case is the ocean. Swimming pools, fountains, and other man-made water features don’t count—Tashlich focuses on a connection to God through nature in addition to repentance, so we cast our sins into a local body of water.

Tashlich and Water Main Beach is a perfect place to cast away our sins not just for the tranquility of the Atlantic Ocean, but also for the long-standing connection between water and Jewish scriptural history.

A few well-known examples of water imagery include: Noah’s ark and the erasure of what God deems “sinful” with a massive flood; the parting of the Red Sea to let the Israelites escape oppressive Egyptian rule; and even our seasonally-dependent addition to the Gevurot prayer, Mashiv Haruach Umorim Hagashem, which praises God’s ability to influence the rain that supports our harvests and our survival.

*Masks are required for all in-person experiences. **Please note: no bathrooms are available

9 YIZKOR: WE REMEMBER

I am struck by how much I hope to never remember from this year.

As of now:

Over half a year of living behind a mask, both literally and figuratively.

Over half a year of not touching or hugging my loved ones.

Over half a year of not seeing my brother as he lives safely in an adult living facility.

Over half a year of not seeing our congregation in our sacred space, worshiping in person, panim el panim, face to face.

Over half a year of having to talk COVID19 regulations with grieving families before asking the name of the deceased.

However, we as a Jewish people are commanded to remember, and so I will remember these past six months; the difficulties and the blessings…

As of now:

The many of you who have told me your children are expecting.

The COVID19 weddings that took place in back yards. They were each unique and beautiful, and sacred because rather than having 250 attendees, there were at most 25. Each person painstakingly invited. Brides and grooms sat over long long lists, and realized that family and only the closest of friends are what is important when celebrating.

The Bar and Bat Mitzvah services that held more meaning for me than ever before. Each and every one of these B’nai Mitzvah had the rug pulled out from under their feet. Each and every one of these Bar & Bat Mitzvah students rose to the occasion. They are our COVID B’nai Mitzvah and they are to be celebrated for their resilience and their commitment to that allowed them to change plans and be flexible, and celebrate our rich heritage.

The unique opportunity I had getting to know many of you in different ways. Spending time early on talking with you and making sure you were safe because we at the JCOH remembered you, and held you in our hearts and our thoughts and our prayers. Praying with you on Zoom, and still being able to find sacred space as each of you let the rabbi and me into your homes every Saturday morning. Continuing to enjoy our JCOH book club and truthfully finding that many more of you were able to join us because we were on Zoom. Teaching my class on blessings and exploring not only the words of our prayers but the depths of their meanings.

To those of you who have lost loved ones in these past months, my heart goes out to you. I know from my own personal experiences that nothing is more difficult thans the first year after losing someone. I also know from personal experience that Judaism has created rituals that guide us through our healing and allow us to heal from our initial stages of grief to an understanding that our lives, though never the same again, can move forward and we can find joy in life.

Yizkor, we will remember. When I rise this year for Yizkor I believe it will be more profound than it has

continued on Page 11 → 10 YIZKOR: WE REMEMBER / KOL NIDRE ever been. I will remember my loved ones, and I will remember your loved ones who have died. We are a family of families. We support one another through life’s difficult moments and celebrate with one another during life’s happier moments.

May each of us be sealed in the this Yom Kippur.

Shanna Tovah, Debi Rabbi Debra Stein, Cantor

KOL NIDRE SERVICE SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 27 | 7:30pm

Yom Kippur is a day of self-reflection. Ten days after Rosh Hashanah, we come together as a community in prayer and ask for forgiveness from those we might have hurt or harmed the previous year. Taking into account our actions from the previous year, we prepare to journey forward into the next year. We learn from the past, inform the future, and remain ever mindful of the holiness of the present moment.

Visit jcoh.org/highholydays to join us.

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L’Shanah Tovah Tikatevu! ELUL The Hebrew month leading up to the High Holy Days is a time of soul-searching in preparation for Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. Our tradition recognizes that self transformation doesn’t take place in a single day, and not even in the ten days of awe in between the holidays. Rather our tradition assigns a whole month to the process.

THE HIGH HOLY DAYS: YAMIM NORAIM Yamim Noraim: The Ten Days of Awe The ten days beginning with Rosh Hashanah on September 18, 2020 and ending with Yom Kippur September 27, 2020 are known as the Yamim Noraim, or the Days of Awe. The work of repairing ourselves and the damage from our misdeeds takes place during these days. It is customary to seek out those who we have wronged and repair our fractured relationships during this period.

ROSH HASHANAH Begins at sundown on Friday, September 18, 2020 “In the seventh month, on the first day of the month, you shall observe complete rest, a holy day commemorated with loud blast.” (Leviticus 23:24) The first day of Rosh Hashanah is a festive commemoration of the creation of the world, as well as a somber day of self-examination. The sounding of the Shofar epitomizes and resolves this spiritually significant duality; the Shofar, a ram’s horn, is blown to center our spirit. The primitive and strange sound of the Shofar stirs something deep within us.

YOM KIPPUR Begins at sundown on Sunday, September 27, 2020 “On the tenth day of the seventh month is the Day of Atonement. It shall be a sacred occasion for you. You shall practice self-denial.” (Leviticus 23:27) Yom Kippur is the most solemn day of the Jewish year. We fast to channel our energy into prayer and repentance. In addition to self-improvement, we ask forgiveness and seek reconciliation. On the eve of Yom Kippur, we listen to the Kol Nidre prayer, one of the most inspiring melodies in Jewish tradition. According to legend, the Books of Life and Death for the coming year are sealed at the close of Yom Kippur, which explains the serious mood of this holiday.

12 THINGS TO DO AND KNOW / NEW YEAR CONSIDERATIONS THINGS TO DO AND KNOW ABOUT ROSH HASHANAH AND YOM KIPPUR • Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur are a time for people to pause and assess their growth and achievements over the past year. • Beginning weeks before the holidays, many people exchange cards expressing wishes for a good, sweet New Year. Select and mail some to friends and family, and enjoy the good wishes from others. • On the evening of Rosh Hashanah, set your dinner table with a festive tablecloth. Place two round challahs on the table along with wine and a bowl of honey to symbolize a sweet year. • Before the meal is served, cut an apple into pieces, dip the pieces in honey, and share them. While eating the apple, each person wishes for a sweet New Year. Some people also follow the custom of eating a fruit on Rosh Hashanah that they have not eaten for a year. • Unlike other major , the High Holy Days are not related to historical events. Also known as the Days of Awe, Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur are purely religious holidays that emphasize morality, self-examination, spirituality, and holiness. • Rosh Hashanah values teshuva, a spiritual return to a God who hears penitence, forgives our sins, and offers an opportunity to start anew. According to Jewish tradition, God’s decision is not made in haste; the “Gates of Repentance” remain open until the Day of Atonement, at which time the final decree is established. • Yom Kippur is the most sacred day in the Jewish calendar. Also known as the Shabbaton, the Shabbat of , Yom Kippur is perhaps the most weighty and pensive portion of the High Holy Days. Beginning with Kol Nidre and ending with Neilah (the “closing of the gates”), Yom Kippur concludes the Days of Awe. After the Neilah Service, the Shofar is sounded and the congregation leaves to begin the New Year.

FAMILY SERVICES Join us on the Jewish Center lawn for a service for the whole family. Bring your kids of all ages to join Rabbi Josh Franklin and Rabbi Debra Stein, Cantor for singing, stories, and great holiday fun. Chairs will be provided in safe, socially distant L'Shanah Tovah areas. Have a sweet year! ROSH HASHANAH SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 19 | 3:00pm YOM KIPPUR MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 28 | 2:00pm

*Masks & Pre-Registration required for all in-person High Holy Days services. Visit jcoh.org/highholydays to join us.

13 SYMBOLS AND PRAYERS FOR THE HIGH HOLY DAYS

Special foods and prayers are incorporated into High Holy Day observance as religious symbols. As with Shabbat, candles and wine decorate the dinner table on the eve of Rosh Hashanah. A symbol of sweetness and renewal, apples and honey represent our hope and aspirations for the New Year. As we eat the apple with honey, we pray, “May God renew for us a good and sweet year.”

CANDLES We light candles before a festive meal.

ָּברּוְך ַא ָּתה יְיָ ֱא ֵֹלהינּו ֶמ ֶלְך ָה ָעֹולם, ֲא ֶׁשר ִק ְּד ָׁשנּו ְּב ִמ ְצ ָֹותיו, וְ ִצ ָּונּו ְל ַה ְד ִליק ֵרנ ֶׁשל יֹום טֹוב Baruch Ata Adonai, Blessed are you, Adonai Eloheinu Melech Ha Olam, Ruling spirit of the universe, asher kid’shanu b’mitzvotav who sanctifies our lives with mitzvot and v’tzivanu l’hadlik ner shel Yom Tov. commands us to kindle these festival

CHALLAH Sweet, round challah filled with raisins symbolizes wholeness and our desire for a complete New Year.

: ָבּרּוְך ַָאתּה יְיָ ֱא ֵֹלהינּו ֶמ ֶלְך ָה ָעֹולם ַה ִּמֹוציא ֶל ֶחם ִמן ָה ֶָארץ Baruch Ata Adonai, Blessed are you, Adonai Eloheinu Melech Ha Olam, Ruling spirit of the universe, ha motzi lechem min ha aretz. who brings forth bread from the Earth.

WINE OR GRAPE JUICE A potent symbol of life and joy in Judaism, may the sweetness of this wine (or juice) enhance our hopes for the New Year.

. ָבּרּוְך ַָאתּה יְיָ ֱא ֵֹלהינּו ֶמ ֶלְך ָה ָ ם,עֹול ֵּבֹורא ְפ ִּרי ַה ָג ֶּפן Baruch Ata Adonai, Blessed are you, Adonai Eloheinu Melech Ha Olam, Ruling spirit of the universe, Boray p’ree ha’gafen. Who creates the fruit of the vine.

SHEHEHEYANU The traditional prayer recited upon reaching milestone events, such as Rosh Hashanah, is called the Sheheheyanu.

. ָבּרּוְך ַָאתּה יְיָ ֱא ֵֹלהינּו ֶמ ֶלְך ָה ָעֹולם, ֶש ֶׁה ֱחיָנּו וְ ִקיְ ָּמנּווְ ִה ִג ָּיענּו ַל ְז ַּמן ַה ֶזּה Baruch Ata Adonai, Blessed are you, Adonai Eloheinu Melech Ha Olam, Ruling spirit of the universe, sheheheyanu, v’ki y’manu, who gives each of us life, v’higiyanu lazman hazeh. who sustains us through the years and enables us to reach this most awesome occasion. 14 5781 HIGH HOLY DAY APPEAL REMEMBERING, RECONNECTING, REBUILDING

CANDLES Though the High Holy Days will not look like they have in the past, We light candles before a festive meal. we will still join together as a community to celebrate the beauty of

.these Days of Awe ָּברּוְך ַא ָּתה יְיָ ֱא ֵֹלהינּו ֶמ ֶלְך ָה ָעֹולם, ֲא ֶׁשר ִק ְּד ָׁשנּו ְּב ִמ ְצ ָֹותיו, וְ ִצ ָּונּו ְל ַה ְד ִליק ֵרנ ֶׁשל יֹום טֹוב Blessed are you, Adonai Our New Year’s hugs and handshakes will be extended across Ruling spirit of the universe, who sanctifies our lives with mitzvot and a six foot space, but embrace us with the same warmth, commands us to kindle these festival love and caring as they have before.

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15 FAQ FOR THE HIGH HOLY DAYS

F.A.QS (FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS) FOR THE HIGH HOLY DAYS: Why are the words “L’Shanah Tovah Tikatevu” used so frequently on Rosh Hashanah? These three Hebrew words mean “May you be inscribed for a good year.” Used as a spoken greeting on the holiday, these words remind us of God’s transcription of each person’s fate for the coming year in the Book of Life.

Why are the ten days beginning with Rosh Hashanah and ending with Yom Kippur, the , especially significant? These ten days represent the important period between the start of God’s judgment of each individual and the finality of Yom Kippur. For this reason, the Ten Days of Penitence are regarded as a valuable chance to ameliorate our moral standing in the eyes of God. In observance of Yom Kippur, we switch from L’Shanah Tovah Tikatevu to G’mar Chatima Tovah—May you be sealed in the Book of Life for Goodness.

What are the traditional foods eaten on Rosh Hashanah? To symbolize a sweet new year, eat sweet foods like apples and honey. Among Ashkenazic households, you will commonly find tzimmes, a sweet stew made from carrots and dried fruits. Some Sephardic Jews place the head (rosh) of a fish on their table, commemorating the head of the year, and giving homage to the biblical verse “God shall place you as a head and not as a tail.” Round challahs are also traditionally eaten at this time of the year as a reminder of the never-ending cycle of life. While there are no traditional foods on Yom Kippur, as it is a fast day, Jews break the fast in the evening with a dairy meal.

Why do Jews fast on Yom Kippur? The requirement of fasting on Yom Kippur is based on an interpretation of a Torah verse. The Book of Numbers (29:7) states, “And on the tenth day of this seventh month [Tishri] you shall observe a sacred occasion when you shall practice self-denial…” In this context, “self-denial” denotes abstinence from food and drink.

Why is Yizkor included in the Yom Kippur Service? The Yizkor Service, the memorialization of close relatives, dates back to the fifth century. A vestige of ancestral traditions developed during the Spanish Crusades, Yizkor provides an opportunity for the individual and the community as a whole to express its common loss.

16 BOOK OF REMEMBRANCE / KEVER AVOT MEMORIAL SERVICE

BOOK OF REMEMBRANCE

Jewish history and Jewish memory are a central theme to our High Holy Day BOOK OF REMEMBRANCE observance. Jewish tradition teaches us that remembrance is a significant part of understanding who we are now, and where we are going in the future. The custom of publishing a congregational Book of Remembrance is an ancient one that can be traced back to the early Thirteenth Century. We are preparing our Book of Remembrance to honor our loved ones who continue to fill our lives with the precious gift of memory. This book will be used throughout the year at each of our sacred moments of remembrance. To add your loved one’s name to our Book of Remembrance, please YOM KIPPUR 2019 2020 5780 visit jcoh.org/highholydays, e-mail [email protected] or call the Jewish Center at 631-324-9858.

“The dust returns to the earth as it was, but the spirit returns to the God who gave it.”

"At the end of the year and the beginning of another, we remember them."

KEVER AVOT MEMORIAL SERVICE SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 27 | 10:00am Shaarey Pardes Accabonac Grove Cemetery 306 Old Stone Highway, East Hampton We invite you to join us in a brief, but beautiful Memorial Service as we recall our loved ones of blessed memory at the meditation pond in our Cemetery.

The High Holy Days are a time for recalling their lasting impact upon our lives. As Jewish tradition teaches us, regardless of where their place of rest is located, we are to honor them with special moments of memorial and by living our lives to reflect their best values and their highest aspirations.

17 OPEN YOUR DOOR TO JUDAISM / FOOD DRIVE

OPEN YOUR DOOR TO JUDAISM Judaism isn’t limited to activities at synagogue. To help you observe the High Holy Days at home, we offer these ideas for making Judaism a greater part of everyday life. Consider…

„ Calling family and friends and renewing old relationships.

„ Listing your three greatest achievements since last year.

„ Setting three goals for the coming year.

„ Volunteering time to help others.

„ Taking time each day during the week preceding Yom Kippur to reflect on the past year.

„ Fasting and giving the money you would have spent on food to fight food insecurity.

„ Making peace with yourself and with God.

„ Reconciling with those whom you may have hurt.

PARTNERS AGAINST HUNGER “Is this the fast I have chosen?” –Isaiah

It is always the right time to help others, but in the fall and winter, we pause for reflection and thanksgiving. We are providing bags with a reminder that hunger is real, even in the Hamptons. Our tradition challenges us “to feed the hungry.” Support the JCOH in its fight against hunger, now and throughout the year. Please bring a bag of filled with non-perishable items to our Haftarah Food Drive on Monday, September 28. Let us share in the meaning of the High Holy Days by helping those in need. Canned and boxed items, toiletries, and baby food will help meet real needs… including for each of us to perform the mitzvah of . Help make it a happier time of year for all!

18 Gay Like Me: A Father Writes to His Son Thursday, September 24, 5:00pm

Richie Jackson Steven Gaines

Join this virtual, thought provoking conversation between Richie Jackson and local author, Steven Gaines, as they discuss Jackson’s new book, Gay Like Me: A Father Writes to His Son. In this poignant and urgent love letter to his son, award-winning Broadway, TV and film producer Richie Jackson reflects on his experiences as a gay man in America and the progress and setbacks of the LGBTQ community over the last 50 years.

This book is an intimate, personal exploration of our uncertain times and most troubling questions and profound concerns about issues as fundamental as dignity, equality, and justice. Gay Like Me is a celebration of gay identity and parenting, and a powerful warning for his son, other gay men and the world. It is a cultural manifesto that will stand the test of time. Angry, proud, fierce, tender, it is a powerful letter of love from a father to a son that holds lasting insight for us all.

Jackson’s son lives in a seemingly more liberated America, and Jackson beautifully lays out how far we’ve come since Stonewall — the increased visibility of gay people in society, the legal right to marry, and the existence of a drug to prevent HIV. But bigotry is on the rise, ignited by a president who has declared war on the gay community and fanned the flames of homophobia. A newly constituted Supreme Court with a conservative tilt is poised to overturn equality laws and set the clock back decades. Being gay is a gift, Jackson writes, but with their gains in jeopardy the gay community must not be complacent.

THIS VIRTUAL EVENT WILL BE HELD ON ZOOM, REGISTER AT JCOH.ORG/GAYLIKEME GATES OF JEWISH LEARNING BEGINS OCTOBER 4 GOJL PODS!

Gates of Jewish Learning Pods (Pre-K–Grade 4) Learning pods are small, in-person groups of students learning together with the help of an in-person teacher. GOJL Pods offer our community the opportunity to remain socially connected while minimizing risks of gathering. Our pods will be comprised of up to six students and a teacher, and will meet primarily outside. When necessary, they will gather in the homes of members of our community. Rabbi Joshua Franklin and Rabbi Debra Stein, Cantor will rotate through the pods each week to offer music, prayer, and connection to our clergy. We will do our best to group similarly aged students based on convenient locations throughout the town of East Hampton. If you would like to arrange your own pod of students, or host a pod, please contact Rabbi Joshua Franklin. Gates of Jewish Learning Online (Grades 5–7) In preparation for Bar and Bat Mitzvah, our online program offers students the opportunity meet in groups with both teachers and clergy to hone their Hebrew skills, dive deeper into Torah learning, and explore their personal connections to Judaism. Students preparing for Bar or Bat Mitzvah will also receive regular 1 on 1 tutoring from Rabbi Joshua Franklin and Rabbi Debra Stein, Cantor. VISIT JCOH.ORG/GOJL TO LEARN MORE

20 FESTIVAL SERVICE /

SUKKOT FESTIVAL SERVICE SATURDAY, OCTOBER 3 | 10:00am

SHEMINI ATZERET SIMCHAT TORAH SIMCHAT TORAH FESTIVAL SERVICE WITH YIZKOR PRAYERS SATURDAY, OCTOBER 10 | 10:00am

21 WHO WE ARE We are the Jewish spiritual and cultural oasis on the East End of Long Island, in Manhattan, and beyond. Rooted in Torah, prayer, and acts of loving kindness, the Jewish Center of the Hamptons shares the joy of the Jewish traditions and deepens our connections to a rich heritage through Jewish values and a diversity of Jewish voices. In our many avenues of learning we seek to bring relevance and meaning to our daily lives. We are a center without walls, connected to Israel, and the Jewish people wherever they might dwell. We welcome each person regardless of gender, sexual orientation, and race, embracing anyone who chooses to join us on our Jewish journey. As a socially conscious congregation, we dedicate ourselves to mitzvot, fulfilling our obligations to God, and to one another. Come find your center, here.

Through a grant by an anonymous donor, The Jewish Center of the Hamptons is excited to offer membership to Individuals and Families 35 years of age or younger for one year. Invite your children and grandchildren to join us!

For more information on membership and our High Holy Days services, please contact our Executive Director, Matthew Oates at 631-324-9858 or [email protected], or feel free to reach out to Rabbi Joshua Franklin or Rabbi Debra Stein, Cantor.

For more information on “Gates of Jewish Learning”, our educational program for children in the Hamptons and New York City, please contact Rabbi Joshua Franklin at 631-324-9858 or [email protected].

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22 RABBI JOSHUA FRANKLIN | CANTOR/RABBI DEBRA STEIN | RABBI EMERITUS SHELDON ZIMMERMAN MATTHEW OATES, EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR | DIANE WIENER, DIRECTOR OF DEVELOPMENT, EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR EMERITA

MEMBERSHIP APPLICATION 2020-2021 Membership dues support only a portion of the many services and programs offered by the Jewish Center of the Hamptons. We have several categories of membership dues to enable people to give according to their financial capability. New members are also asked to contribute to the Capital Improvement Fund to maintain our facilities. Nobody will be denied membership in our congregation due to financial hardship. Please speak with our Financial Manager, Amy O'Sullivan, confidentially, to make alternative arrangements for Jewish Center dues.

PLEASE CHECK ONE: ☐ I am a new member ☐ I am a returning member MEMBERSHIP CATEGORIES ☐ $25,000 President’s Gold Circle Membership ☐ $3,600 Double Chai Membership ☐ $10,000 Sustainer’s Silver Membership ☐ $2,750 Chai Membership ☐ $7,500 Builder’s Bronze Membership ☐ $2,300 Family Membership ☐ $5,000 Kavod (Honor) Membership ☐ $1,150 Single Membership YOUNG PROFESSIONAL MEMBERSHIP CATEGORIES ☐ Young Professional Single (26 to 35) ☐ Young Professional Couple (26 to 35) Your first year of Young Professional Membership will be generously paid for by an anonymous donor • • • • • ALL MEMBERSHIP CATEGORIES INCLUDE HIGH HOLY DAY TICKETS • • • • • CAPITAL IMPROVEMENT FUND (one-time assessment which can be paid in three annual installments. Not required for Young Professional members) ☐ $1,800 Family ($600 per installment) ☐ $900 Single ($300 per installment) SECURITY ASSESSMENT FOR DUES CATEGORIES ☐ $500 (Required for Single, Family, Chai, Double Chai & Kavod Memberships)

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THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT. PLEASE RETURN THIS FORM IN THE ENVELOPE PROVIDED 44 WOODS LANE, PO BOX 5107 | EAST HAMPTON, NY 11937 631-324-9858 | FAX 631-329-6654 | [email protected] | JCOH.ORG 23 LIFECYCLE EVENTS / HEALING WISHES / ALL IN THE FAMILY / PRAYER FOR THE SICK

BIRTHDAYS ANNIVERSARIES YOM HULEDET SAME’ACH

Elaine Albert Charlotte Markowitz Max & Michelle Breskin

Adam Angelowicz Stacey Mindich Marc & Kara Ellenbogen Danielle & Nick Epstein Helen Barer Jane Overman Rabbi Joshua Franklin & William Dratel Lois Perelson-Gross Stephanie Whitehorn Dr. Stephen Gelfman Pnina Piontkowski Lloyd & Victoria Goldman Lisa Helfand Craig Reicher Jeffrey & Kimberly Hirschfeld

Dena Hirsch Chuck Rosenzweig Mitchell & Heidi Iden Howard & Nancy Kurz Patti Kenner Michael Salzhauer Spencer & Michelle Levy Burt Kremsky Anna Schneur Chuck & Stacy Rosenzweig Steven Lambert Eugene Schneur Bruce Saber & Lisa Sotto Richard Lane Lisa Sotto Harvey & Karen Silverman Brenda Lehman Edward Taffet Axel & Galia Stawski Fredric Mack Judy Zimmerman Yanan Sui & Michael Page

Barbara Macklowe George Yates & Linda Blum

HEALING WISHES ALL IN THE FAMILY

Keeping those who are ill or homebound in our prayers Please call the Jewish Center office at 631-324-9858 to let is a precious mitzvah. We need your help in helping us us know of any lifecycle events such as joyous occasions, embrace those who are ill or homebound by calling their illnesses or deaths so that our Rabbi, Cantor, staff, and names in our prayers and lifting our communal and indi- congregation can respond appropriately. vidual voices as one.

HEALING LIST

Margaret Benelli Steven Jenkins Patrick O’Sullivan Diane Browne-Sterdt Sam Joffe Meredith Porcella Richard Ciner Elizabeth Jordan Barry Schneck Nancy Demattei Barbara Klein Terri Schneck Charles Felsen Stephanie Kurzweil Dan Sokoloff Jared Geldner Barbara Lambert Jonathan Turetsky Sammy Goldsmith Jo Ann White Lawall David Vienick Heywood Gould Patrice Lawall Stephen Waltman Sandy Greenberg Esther Brucha ‘v Basha Leah Lynn Waxberg

As we begin a New Year, we will once again begin our Misheberach healing list. If you would like the name of your loved one on our list, please e-mail [email protected] or call 631-324-9858.

24 SEPTEMBER YAHRZEITS

THE DEPARTED LIVE ON IN THE HEARTS OF THOSE WHO CHERISH THEIR MEMORY.

Arnold Zach Agran Harry Haddy Hoffman Miriam Pickholz

Miriam Askwith Bernice A. Iden The Pilcz-Oks Families

Theodore Aster Bernard Isaacs George Plotkin

Paul Banki Elizabeth Jaffe Fred Rose

Joseph Bialek Libby Butler Kane Carole Rubinn

T.R. Bialek Ruby Butler Kane Scott Saber

Raymond Bigar Esther Kenigsberg Samuel Sabin

Alvin Blum Samuel A. Klein Annette Sabin

Bertha Brinedel Davis Ruth Prince Lamensdorf Anna Schwarz

Harold Bring Richard Lawall Jack Silber

Louis Cohen Melvin Levine Rose Silber

Ray Cohen Julia Levy Harry Sklerov

Deirdre Preston Collins Gary Lutnick Joel Sleed

Elaine Corwin Solomon Lutnick Jill Sleed

Selma Dabah Edgar Ezekiel Lyons Jennie Solow

Florence Gleaner Danien Frieda Mark Sol Spielberg

Sidney Raoul Decker Hyman Matza Max Spinner

George Eisenberg Anne Melzer Samuel Noah Harry Stein

Max English Dorris Marcus Mendelsohn Dasheil Swanson

Jerry Fleisig Barry Menin David Urkowitz

Anne Forman Shelley Middeberg Donald Warner

Jules Gershon Madeline Oker Glenn Winuk

Sara Goldstein Billy L. Ostroff Jack Lawrence Yohay

Bess Greenberg Jeanne Overman Albert Ziegler

Daniel L. Harrison William Overman

Herbert Hillman Dorine Patricof

25 GRACIOUS GIVING / OUR HIGH HOLY DAY PRAYERBOOK: MISHKAN HANEFESH

GENERAL DONATIONS YAHRZEIT DONATIONS

Linda Heller Kamm Harvey & Karen Silverman in appreciation of unveiling for Rachel Feifer Steve & Diane Wiener Thank you for the work you do! Mildred Lev in loving memory of Diane’s mother, Arthur & Laurie Malman Kathleen Pike Charlotte Kodack

David & Susan Burris Jay & Penny Lieberman

RABBI JOSHUA FRANKLIN RABBI DEBRA STEIN, CANTOR DISCRETIONARY DISCRETIONARY

Carole Ostroff George & Bela Fischer in loving memory of William Ostroff

Elaine Ciner Charles & Joan Tager for remembering her friend in healing prayers weekly Thank you for prayers & good wishes

Our High Holy Day , Mishkan HaNefesh, provides meaningful prayers and readings to inspire personal reflection and growth during the Days of Awe.

With translations that contemplate the evolving role of faith in our lives, to the transliterations that are accessible to all, Mishkan HaNefesh stays true to our traditions while providing a guide for spiritual awakening at the High Holy Days.

In preparation for the High Holy Days, take this opportunity to dedicate a copy of our new machzor in memory of a loved one or to celebrate a simcha.

Visit jcoh.org/giving or call the JCOH office at 631-324-9858. L’Shanah Tovah Tikatevu May we all be inscribed in the Book of Life for a year of blessings.

26 WAYS TO GIVE

MEMBERSHIP AMAZON SMILE

Membership helps support the wide range of programs and activities offered at the Jewish Center of the Hamptons. Your dues also help maintain the beauty of our sanctu- ary and the upkeep of our buildings and grounds. We en- courage everyone to take full advantage of the wide array of religious, intellectual, cultural and social events at the JCOH. To join, contact the JCOH office at 631-324-9858 or visit jcoh.org/membership. Shop with Amazon Smile and give back to the Jewish Cen- ter of the Hamptons. When you shop at smile.amazon.com, DEDICATE A HIGH HOLY DAY PRAYER BOOK Amazon donate 0.5% of the purchase to a charity of your choice! Choose Jewish Center of the Hamptons and know that you are giving back simply by shopping as you normally Take this opportunity to dedicate a would on Amazon. High Holy Day Prayer Book in honor of a loved one, to celebrate a special occasion, Click here and your preferences will be saved in your brows- or in memory of a loved one. To donate, er. It’s a simple act that can do a lot of good. contact the JCOH office at 631-324-9858 or visit jcoh.org/giving. smile.amazon.com

INSCRIBE A STONE

We have refurbished the Donald and Barbara Zucker Patio, with stones designed in the shape of the Star of David. These stones can be engraved in honor of a special person or moment in our lives, or in memory of a loved one. Help us raise needed funds to support our yearly operating budget. This project will be ongoing for years to come, allowing future generations the opportunity to participate. Contact our Executive Director, Matthew Oates, for details at 631-324-9858 or by e-mail at [email protected].

HONOR A LOVED ONE’S MEMORY When those whom we hold close to us die, we yearn to find a way to consecrate and honor their memory. As we תהא נשמתו צרורה sit in our beautiful landmark sanctuary, we are warmed by its loveliness, soulfulness and openness to the world of the בצרור החיים spirit and the physical world around us. We feel ever closer to God. Honoring the memory of our loved ones who have passed You can enshrine the memory of your loved ones by beyond the threshold of life offers us an opportunity to pay inscribing their name(s) on a pew plaque in the sanctuary. homage to those who made the world a better place because In that sacred space you will connect to the bonds between they lived in it. It is a time to strengthen the bonds between here and the hereafter in our hearts and minds. them and the divine. A Memorial Plaque in our small sanctuary may be A Pew Plaque in our Main Sanctuary may be purchased for $1,000. purchased for $5,000. Visit jcoh.org/giving or click here to support the JCOH today!

27 44 WOODS LANE, PO BOX 5107, EAST HAMPTON, NY 11937 JCOH.ORG • 631-324-9858 • FAX 631-329-6654

CURRENT OFFICERS CURRENT BOARD OF TRUSTEES PAST PRESIDENT CLERGY Evan Frankel z”l PRESIDENT Fredrick Becker Rabbi Joshua Franklin Harry A. Katz C. Leonard Gordon Barbara Braun Morris L. Kramer Rabbi Debra Stein, Cantor Caroline Berley Endzweig VICE PRESIDENTS Betty L. Marmon z”l Rabbi Emeritus Sheldon Zimmerman Michael Frank Mitchell Iden Joseph Oppenheimer z”l David Gallo Carole Olshan Donald Zucker STAFF Alan Garfield Carol S. Roaman Linda Heller Kamm DIRECTOR OF DEVELOPMENT Martin Gershon Steven P. Schwartz Michael Salzhauer EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR EMERITA Kenneth Gilman Diane Wiener HONORARY TRUSTEES TREASURER Marc Goldstein EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR Hirschel B. Abelson Arthur Malman Howard Lutnick, CO-CHAIRMAN Matthew Oates Andrea Olshan Morton Olshan, CO-CHAIRMAN SECRETARY Edward Pantzer David Gerstein FINANCIAL MANAGER Charlotte Sasso Jeffrey Rimland Jane H. Goldman Amy O’Sullivan Nanette Rosenberg Steven Roth ADMINISTRATIVE ASSISTANT CHAIRMAN Gregory D. Shufro Andrew Sabin Patricia Fall Michael Salzhauer Anna Spector Michael Senft Stuart Suna Sheldon Solow GRAPHIC ARTIST Carol Wenig Donald Zucker Wil Weiss Nancy Wintner FOUNDERS MAINTENANCE Cathy Yohay Evan M. Frankel z”l Nicholas Ward Lynn Zises Jacob Kaplan z”l Carlos Alfaro Sara Beth Zivitz Irving Markowitz Bernard Zeldin

SHABBAT SERVICES OFFICE HOURS OFFICE DIRECTORY Monday–Friday: Phone: 631-324-9858 Shabbat Evening Service 9:00am–5:00pm Fax: 631-329-6654 | jcoh.org Fridays at 6:00pm

Shabbat Morning Service Rabbi Joshua Franklin Wil Weiss, Graphic Artist Ext. 204, [email protected] Ext. 211, [email protected] Saturdays at 10:00am Followed by Torah Study on Zoom Rabbi Debra Stein, Cantor Patricia Fall, Administrative Assistant (visit jcoh.org/virtual for more info) Ext. 205, [email protected] Ext. 201, [email protected] Matthew Oates, Executive Director Nicholas Ward, Head of Maintenance Livestream all of our services by visiting Ext. 203, [email protected] Ext. 207, [email protected] Diane Wiener, Dir. of Development Ext. 206, [email protected] Amy O'Sullivan, Financial Manager Ext. 3201, [email protected]