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BF697.5.S43B53 2012 158. 1— dc23 2011052228 GodLovesUgly_HCtextF1.indd iv 6/1/12 9:06:47 PM GOD LOVES UglY GodLovesUgly_HCtextF1.indd xiii 6/1/12 9:06:47 PM August 1999 I picked up the phone, reluctantly dialing the only num- ber I knew to call, the only place I was ashamed to call. Home. My body had finally stopped listening to my slave- driving head. I’d drained my precious reserve of perfor- mance fuel and found myself void of any desire or ability to get up from an uncomfortable college mattress that had turned into quicksand. I had finally done it—​­I had reached the end of me. I cleared my throat, attempting to steady the obvious shake behind each word, but my usual strong voice had disinte- grated into a hollow shell of itself. There would be no faking it today. “Hey, Daddy, it’s me.” “Christa?” I felt his immediate fatherly concern. “What’s wrong, honey? Are you okay?” I hesitated for a brief moment, knowing that once the words I feared most came out of my mouth, I could never, ever take them back. They would uncover the one thing I had spent my entire life working overtime to conceal. I am a failure. I let out a long, painful sigh. “Dad, I don’t think I have the guts to kill myself, but, uh, I need help.” My voice trailed off into nothing more than a whisper. “I’m afraid I just don’t have the strength to live anymore.” GodLovesUgly_HCtextF1.indd 1 6/1/12 9:06:47 PM Chapter 1 The Love Bucket Ten Years Later The roar of the crowd was deafening. Well, maybe it wasn’t really a roar. It was more like the ear-​­bleeding, nails-on-a-chalkboard sound of tires screeching in a high- ​­pitched NASCAR peel- ​­out. I’d never heard anything like it in my life. It was like having to lean into a wind that wasn’t there, as if the sound had fists that kept punching me in the chest as I waited in the dark wings of the outdoor stage. I peered out at the fifty thou- sand teenagers completely out of their minds in expecta- tion of the vision they were about to behold, said a couple of silent prayers, and prepared to walk out in front of them wearing the shortest miniskirt I’d worn in a decade. They weren’t, however, screaming for me—​­or my miniskirt. They were weeping, dripping snot, jumping up and down holding each other, and throwing roses, teddy bears, and sometimes bras at three gorgeous boys with flawless, curly locks of hair and faces so perfectly chiseled, they would later be cast as cherubs in a movie. The Jonas Brothers were definitely easy on the eyes, easy on the ears, and easy for the heart, especially if you were sixteen or had a thing for dark, Italian hunky types who were raised to be perfect gentlemen. I had been hired for their world tour after playing one GodLovesUgly_HCtextF1.indd 5 6/1/12 9:06:47 PM 6 God Loves Ugly show with them at the famous Ryman Auditorium in Nash- ville, Tennessee. They needed a fiddle player for the gig, but I assured their manager/father when he approached me with the job that even though I was a native Texan liv- ing in country-​­music land, I was just a violinist who could only attempt to fake fiddle. I guess I must have been a pretty good faker, because they asked me to join their band. I have to admit, my lack of cable television left me a bit in the dark when it came to current pop culture, and I had to resort to Google to find out exactly who these teen sensations were and what all the fuss was about. I quickly found out what the fuss was all about when I was swept up in the middle of it. This Monterrey, Mexico, show, in front of a crowd so big it could have had its own zip code, was our first stop on a whirlwind of a world tour. The Latin fans were gush- ing with such admiration, zeal, and insanity, to describe them as “passionate” felt like a gross understatement. In fact, when we drove into the venue, it seemed more like we were in Jurassic Park than at a teenybopper concert. Each tiny, youthful body seemed to morph into Superwoman, rocking our heavy vans back and forth like teeter-​­totters while pounding on the thin glass barriers that separated them from their beloved obsessions. I had always dreamed of being in the mainstream music industry. I imagined traveling the globe and filling up my passport with all sorts of colorful stamps, riding on private jets, hanging out in VIP greenrooms, laughing with Letterman and shaking hands with Conan—​­happily surviving on tiny amounts of sleep to dazzle and entertain millions of people. I secretly hoped for the biggest and best, the grandest and largest, the crème de la crème of tours. Well, here I was, finally sharing the stage with one of the biggest acts in the world. As I stared out at the expectant fans in a stadium glit- tering with flashing cameras, a small voice inside my head GodLovesUgly_HCtextF1.indd 6 6/1/12 9:06:47 PM The Love Bucket 7 whispered with pride, “Christa, you’ve done it, girl. You’ve finally made it to the big time.” This had to be it. This had to be the top of the mountain. I had to have finally arrived. We huddled, prayed, finally chanting, “Living the dream!” before running to our starting positions. Lights spun in strobe patterns, flooding the massive metal rig that held up thousands of pounds of speakers ready to challenge the screaming. LCD screens flashed and twirled with bright images and pictures, taunting the crowd to somehow reach jet-​­engine decibels. As I stood looking out at the blur of faces, waiting for the downbeat signaling the start of the biggest show of my life, the heart that I had expected to race with exhilaration stopped suddenly. I swallowed hard, confused, choking back the onslaught of tears building up behind my carefully applied makeup. In the middle of what should have been my crowning moment as a musician—​­in the midst of the event I had practiced for my entire life in front of my bathroom mirror—​­an unshak- able weight, as heavy as a freight train, fell on top of my heart. I looked out at the beautiful faces of these frantic girls. They were screaming, weeping, longing for someone to love them, define them—​­tell them they were pretty and special. They wanted to be chosen, to have their hands touched for a brief moment, to be looked at and noticed as a treasure. I stared into the eyes of pain, of insecurity, and of questioned identity. Empathy consumed me, and familiarity reminded me of the struggles I’d fought for years to overcome. I remembered what it felt like to hurt, to feel like an alien in my own skin, to long for something more, to loathe my reflection— ​­at one point even believ- ing the only way out was to end my own life. I stopped and breathed a deep sigh— ​­the deep sigh that changed my life.