Volume 161, Number 9 Nisan/Iyar April 2020

Congregation B’nai Israel A MESSAGE FROM RABBI SCHULTZ APRIL 2710 Park Avenue Dear B’nai Israel community. As I write the beautiful and comforting words of our Bridgeport, CT 06604 HIGHLIGHTS this on Friday, March 13, I have no idea tradition. With love and support, Rabbi (203) 336-1858 what the state of the world will be when Schultz. Learning About Judaism this arrives on your doorsteps. I have been www.cbibpt.org Written on March 10 Rabbi Schultz offers suggestions for so impressed by how we have garnered anyone interested in learning more strength together as a community. So I’m often amazed how our ancient poets so about the basics of Judaism. Page 3. many people have volunteered to help out poignantly spoke to the human condition. others, and we have created sacred spaces Running my overly Purell’ed hands Fans of Cantor Blum over Facebook and Zoom. today along the words of Ecclesiastes, They are known as “the Mahjong Let’s hope that as you read this there is “to everything there is a season... a time Ladies,” and they may well be some light amidst the challenging news to embrace, and a time to refrain from Cantor Sheri Blum’s biggest fans. and realities of the day. I wanted to share embracing...” Page 4 some reflections that I wrote in March, as You never quite know when a text will we were preparing to close our synagogue suddenly jump out and make sense to Embracing Our Children doors to in-person groups and gatherings, you. In one sense I wanted to laugh, Rabbi Marion suggests ways to I hope they provide a bit of calm and after all humor helps us through times love our children for who they are, peace. Praying you are all finding strength of crisis. I too felt so sad; hugs and in this time from one another and from in a world that contains destructive Continued on P.15 messaging about gender and harmful notions about what boys “should” or shouldn’t do, and how girls “should” or shouldn’t behave. Page 5. FUNDS WITH A PURPOSE B’nai Israel has a number of “special you indicate on your Seders for the Very Young purpose funds” to which those in donation form and Alexa Cohen presents ideas for our synagogue community and non- is something that is making the Seder more appealing congregants make regular donations. always wonderful for for young children and encouraging Starting in this issue of the Bulletin, we someone to receive. them to ask questions. Page 6 will highlight some of those funds so you will have a better idea how they are used. This month we are featuring two special Telling Stories Needless to say, you are encouraged purpose funds. The Ira Wise writes about “self- to donate to all of the Temple’s special Rabbi Arnold Sher authorship,” in which learners purpose funds, but particularly to those Social Action Fund Rabbi Arnold I. Sher claim their narrative and weave being spotlighted, as they could use a was established in the educational experience they boost to fulfill their mission. 1990 to honor our Rabbi Emeritus Arnold encounter into their lives. Page 7. Sher on his departure, after more than 20 Many people use them to celebrate a years as our rabbi, to become director of Also Inside special birthday, anniversary, engagement placement for the Central Conference of Sharing Our Joy...... P. 2 or birth, to honor a Bar or Bat Mitzvah, American Rabbis. Bonim...... P. 6 to congratulate someone on an Adult Learning...... P. 8 accomplishment, to honor the memory The establishment of this particular fund Donations...... P. 9 of a loved one, to express gratitude, for reflected Rabbi Sher’s commitment to Shabbat Services...... P. 15 a special blessing in your life, or just making social action a cornerstone of because it’s a nice thing to do. An B’nai Israel’s mission. The fund has acknowledgment is sent to the person that Continued on P.16 Passover Service Schedule: BULLETIN BOARD

Shop for Your Passover Needs! Red Cross Blood Drive Thursday, April 9 Passover will be There is always a need for blood 10:00 a.m. Passover Morning here before you donations. We will host a blood Service know it. The drive on May 11 from 1:00 to 6:00 Wednesday, April 15 first Seder is p.m.Please call 1(800)REDCROSS 10:00 a.m. 7th Day of Passover. on Wednesday or go to www.redcross.com to make Yizkor Service evening, April your appointment. 8th. Drop by the Gift Boutique What Happened at Mt. Sinai Sharing our Joy… on Sunday, March 29 and April 5, to see the new selection of Seder plates Jenny Goldstein, in celebration of being from Michael Aram and Emanuel, promoted to Chief Development Officer matzoh dishes from Sheraleah, bags of Americares of plagues, squishy frogs and much, much more. Doors open at 9:30 a.m. Shop local and support your Sincere Sympathy community!

We extend our sympathy to the bereaved April Mitzvah Morning In some circles, when two Jews meet families of: for the first time and one suggests that Arnold Shear, father of Perry Shear they have met before, the response Karin Newman is often “We must have met at Mt. Joel Zabin Sinai.” We have some very powerful textual memories of what happened there some 3,400 years ago or so. TORAH STUDY Join Ira Wise for an exploration of – SHABBAT Please join us for the April Mitzvah what may well have – or not have Morning on Sunday, April 26th from happened at Mt. Sinai. We will also MORNINGS 9:30 to noon. Once again, we’ll discuss what Moses gave us that day. What binds together Jews across be serving breakfast at Homes for There will be two opportunities to the millennia? Torah, questions, and the Brave. HFTB is a wonderful study this topic: Monday Midrasha food. Every Saturday morning at 9:30 organization that provides housing, – May 18, 7:00 – 8:30 p.m., and we study Torah and ask questions, vocational and life-skills training Lifelong Learning – Friday, May bringing into today and into our to homeless veterans. They greatly 22, Noon – 1:30 p.m. own lives the amazing adventures appreciate our coming to make a of the Jewish people. Won’t you join hot meal, but even more so, they Fraudulent Emails us? No prior experience necessary. appreciate our active engagement Please continue to be aware of No knowledge of Hebrew needed. with them and the opportunity we “fake” emails that appear to be No weekly commitment required. provide to tell their stories. This coming from Rabbi Schultz. Thank We are studying Torah line-by-line is a great mitzvah for families and you to those who have reported and only now, seven months later, kids. We’ll meet at HFTB, 655 these suspicious emails. Note that reaching Abraham after Adam and Park Avenue (private parking lot the only official Congregation B’nai Eve, Cain and Abel, and Noah and available), at 9:30 a.m. for coffee Israel email addresses are those that the pairs (or is it seven?) of every and bagels. Volunteers are limited end in cbibpt.org. Rabbi Schultz›s animal. Please join us for the plague- to 15 (due to kitchen size), so please B›nai Israel email is: eschultz@ filled negotiations, commandments, sign up through Hashavua or the cbibpt.org. Thank you for remaining and desert wanderings with your temple website. vigilant and aware. puzzling, insightful, and skeptical questions. To win the Jewish trifecta, come early for a bagel at the Brotherhood breakfast. There’s always a chair for you.

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There is a reason that our ancient Rabbis of their stories. We are starting to think likened Jewish knowledge and wisdom about potential topics for next year, and to an ocean or a sea. Just look around our would love any ideas you have! library -- hundreds of books on Jewish history, law, practice, prayer, God, and B’nai Israel Adult Education courses: We more -- it can feel like an immensely are always trying to think of topics that overwhelming and deep ocean! I know will speak to our diverse set of learners at that many in our community wish to B’nai Israel. This month you’ll see that deepen their knowledge of Judaism, Rabbi Marion, Ira and I will be teaching especially the basics. But where to introductory courses on both the prayer begin? It can feel like a vast sea -- where book and Israel. These are great ways to swim first? to focus on two important and specific topics. These classes are specifically offers a comprehensive introduction to I want to offer a few suggestions if you’re for congregants interested in learning Judaism class online. The 21-session interested in learning more about some the basics of the Jewish worship service course covers all topics related to Jewish of the basics of Judaism. Some of these and introductory theories on Zionism life, from the holidays to life cycle, options are in person at our synagogue, and the state of Israel. If you have other basic terms and concepts to ideas about and others are online or “virtual” areas of Jewish life that you’re interested God. We have had several congregants communities. in learning about, please email me and take the online class and found it to be we’ll do our best to get those topics on a really positive learning experience. To The good news is that there are some the calendar. learn more about the online class, check great resources out there! And as always, out: https://reformjudaism.org/learning/ if you have more questions, I am always Online: judaism-classes/intro-judaism-0 available to listen and talk. My email is My Jewish Learning: If you’re interested [email protected]. in learning about basic Jewish topics on Stay tuned for other new and dynamic a regular basis, I recommend signing ways to learn. We are specifically In person: up for My Jewish Learning’s weekly thinking about more ways to use the Sunday morning twenty minutes of emails. I receive their emails and they Facebook Live platform and even text Torah: About once a month Rabbi are excellent. They cover all kinds of messages to create new and interesting Marion and I offer a twenty minutes of introductory topics, from learning about courses and classes. Torah class on Sunday mornings from the Jewish life cycle to preparation for 9:40 to 10:00 a.m., where we focus on each upcoming Jewish holiday. Head to We hope that every congregant will find some basic Jewish terms and ideas. This their website and sign up for their emails: meaningful opportunities for learning year our focus is on female characters in https://www.myjewishlearning.com/ here at the synagogue and in the virtual the Bible: Miriam, Hagar, and Sarah, for world. We hope to enable everyone to example. Many of our participants hadn’t URJ Introduction to Judaism Online navigate the ocean of Jewish knowledge. heard of these characters or knew little Course: The Union for Reform Judaism See you at the study table!

HOLOCAUST COMMEMORATIONS Pediatric Cardiology at Connecticut Children’s Medical Center. There will be two opportunities to by a program Please check Hashavua for commemorate the Holocaust in our area. more details. He was born in Poland in 1935 and was hidden from 1942 to 1944 in a Greek- First, we invite you to join with area Then, on April 29, the Town of Fairfield Catholic Ukrainian monastery. He came rabbis and cantors for a Yom Hashoah will hold its Holocaust Commemoration to the United States in 1949. Since commemoration on April 20 at 7:00 p.m. at 7:30 p.m. at the First Church coming to Hartford, in 1967, he has been at Temple Israel, 14 Coleytown Road, Congregational at 148 Beach Road. active in its Jewish community and has Westport. The evening will begin with a delivered lectures on Jewish history, the service in memory of the six million The feature speaker will be Dr. Leon Shoah, and a variety of Biblical topics. Jews who died in the Shoah, followed Chameides, Emeritus Director of

Donation Item of the Month: Pasta and sauce for St. John’s. 3 THE CANTOR’S BIGGEST FANS “I’ve been in the temple 24 years,” Lisa added, “and I don’t think I’ve ever seen her mad.” The women also spoke of how organized Cantor Blum is, and her attention to detail. “She explains everything for the bar and bat mitzvah experience,” Wendy said. Jessica agreed, saying “You’re really prepared.” The “Mahjong Ladies,” from left, back row, Alicia Brown, Wendy Ruben, and Lisa Hurlbert. Front row, Jessica Sutton, Heidi Gassel and Angela Capinera. Several of the women said Cantor Blum warned the children that on the day of Cantor Sheri Blum has ardent admirers Cantor Blum has guided both children their bar or bat mitzvah, relatives would throughout the B’nai Israel community, and parents through the often hectic times come up to them offering big hugs and to but her biggest fans may well be the of bar and bat mitzvah, not to mention accept them graciously. women she refers to as the “Mahjong Confirmation and Junior Choir. And she Ladies.” has taken them on her annual trips to Heidi said she was persuaded to join B’nai New York to see a Broadway show. Israel after seeing videos on YouTube These women, who often gather in the of musical programs at the synagogue, synagogue lobby to chat or play mahjong All the women praised Cantor Blum for including “High Shul Musical.” while their children are in classes at her calm approach to her work and the Merkaz, have known the cantor for many confidence she instilled in their children. “We knew it was a good community for years as she mentored their sons and us,” she said. “She’s so relaxed,” Jessica said. “Even daughters. if you’re stressed out, she convinces you All the women echoed Alicia Brown who “All the kids adore her,” one of the that it’s all going to be OK.” said, “If she asks me to do something, women, Wendy Ruben, said. The others I’m there – no questions asked.” “She always pushes you to do your best, include Alicia Brown, Heidi Gassel, and says you can do it,” Angela said. “You can’t say no to her,” Wendy added. Angela Capinera, Lisa Hurlbert and Jessica Sutton. PLANNING THE CANTOR’S FAREWELL When Sheri Blum decided to retire as aspect of the event, a songbook that will our cantor after 26 years, she knew be kept in the pews in the sanctuary. exactly what she wanted for her farewell It will not be a traditional ad journal, celebration. Instead of the traditional although congregants will be asked to gala, she asked for a potluck supper that donate and their names will be listed. everyone could attend free of charge. Invitations have been sent in the mail, Three volunteers stepped in to make it and members are asked to sign up by happen: Allison Spitzer, Jackie Madwed the end of April through the B’nai Israel and Bev Goodkind. website. Those planning to attend will be asked to list how many family members The event, on June 12, will begin with are coming, how many of them are a music-filled Friday night service at 6 Cantor Sheri E. Blum children and what menu items they will p.m., followed by dinner. Allison said “We need volunteers to work that night,” be bringing. the committee is planning for several Bev said, “to set up the dessert table, hundred people to attend. make coffee, replenish things.” “We want this to be casual, relaxed and happy,” Allison said. “Sheri wants the community to come “Success depends on everyone together and share food,” Allison said. participating,” she added. “This is what Sheri wants. It’s her “It’s never been done before on this vision -- something down-to-earth and scale.” Jackie is coordinating the fund-raising inclusive,” Allison said, “like an indoor tailgate picnic.” 4 A Mitzvah Morning to benefit Homes for the Brave, see Page 2 FROM THE RABBI’S STUDY/RABBI SARAH R. MARION THE FOUR CHILDREN

Every Passover Haggadah describes “The Four Children” (or, in more traditional Haggadot, “The Four Sons”). There are four moments in the Torah in which we are instructed to recount the story of the Exodus to our children. In our Passover Haggadot, the “Four Children” are meant to remind us of these four passages. I’ve always loved the way that the “Four Children” represent the real-life diversity among all the children that we know and love. The wise child, the simple child, the child who does not yet know how to ask, and, yes, even the wicked child – And, eventually, a blessing for daughters feel valued regardless of their gender all of these personas represent the wide was added – with the words, expression. Our job is to love them range of normal childhood development simply because they are our children, Yisemcha elohim k’sarah, rivka, Rachel and behavior. And most importantly, simply because they are alive. by including and embracing the “Four v’leah And so I want to propose an amendment Children” within our Passover Seders, May you live to be like Sarah, Rebecca, to the age-old Jewish blessings that we we have the opportunity to convey to Rachel and Leah. all of our children that no matter your say to our children on Friday nights. I struggles and no matter your questions, But male or female, son or daughter, all want to propose, that when we bless our you are included and you are valued and of these individuals, I think, are worthy children, we take all of them together, you are loved, both within our family and of emulation: Ephraim and Menasseh for into one embrace, and say, to all of them: their legacy of peace and faith; Sarah for within our broader Jewish community. May you be like Ephraim and Menasseh, her strength and perseverance; Rebecca I think that it is so important for our and may you be like Sarah, Rebecca, for her external and internal beauty; children to hear this message from us Rachel, and Leah. May you be beautiful Rachel and Leah for their ability to not only on Passover, but, also, on every and may you be brave. May you be nurture their young. other day of the year. strong and may you be nurturing. May A few months ago, I gave an Erev And so perhaps the best blessing of all you be smart and may you be kind. that we can give to our children, is the Shabbat sermon on the topic of loving But, most important of all – may you be blessing that it’s OK to be both, just as and caring for our children for who they you. are, in a world that contains so much God is both. In fact, it’s more than OK. destructive messaging about gender and You don’t have to choose one or the May you grow into the best version of so many harmful notions about what boys other, nor should you. Michaela, “should” or shouldn’t do, and how girls You can be like Ephraim and you can May you grow into the best version of “should” or shouldn’t behave. Below is be like Sarah. You can be like Menasseh Levi. an excerpt: and you can be like Rebecca. You can be May you be who you are – and may you For thousands of years, gathered around beautiful and you can be brave. You can be blessed in all that you are. their Shabbat dinner tables, huddled be strong and you can be nurturing. And together by the glow of the Sabbath whatever, or however, you choose to be, Kein y’hi ratzon – may this be God’s will. lights, Jewish parents have blessed their we will love you no matter what. sons with the words, This closing prayer is based on an Ultimately, our most important job as excerpt from Marcia Falk, The Book of Yisemcha elohim k’Ephriam v’Menasseh parents, grandparents, teachers and Blessings: New Jewish Prayers for Daily – friends, is to create an environment in Life, the Sabbath and the New Moon which our children feel loved for who Festival. May you live to be like Ephraim and they are; an environment in which they Menasseh.

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The Four Questions, which so many some enforced quiet time during to dip after the karpas (parsley of us now sing as part of our Passover the day to ensure that they arrive blessing). Anything that comes Seder, were once simply a list of things to the Seder refreshed. (This is from a perennial plant or shrub done differently on the first night of the a good strategy for many adults, will do. holiday. as well.) 10. Use props. Use hats or costumes The goal was to encourage children to 4. Create a cozy space. Is your and invite children to act out the ask their own questions. kid a fort-builder? Ask for their action of the Exodus story; haul help turning your living room or out the Lego bricks to make Actually, if participants ask questions of dining room into a “desert tent,” kids’ creations part of your their own during the Seder, no singing as in Israel, or creating a reading storytelling; bring out a bucket of Mah Nishtanah is required – and tent complete with pillows, of egg shakers, maracas, and knowing this original story gives you the blankets, and age-appropriate tambourines when it comes time freedom to reimagine ways to enhance holiday picture books. to sing and dance. your Seder. It doesn’t even require a special, child-friendly Haggadah 5. Set up for the Seder. Consider 11. Prizes, please! Choose small, -- though there are many to choose your child’s growing capabilities age-appropriate gifts for from. All you need is to do some thinking and, if appropriate, invite their afikomen-hunters that kids can in advance about who will be present at help setting the Seder table. enjoy after dinner. your Seder. According to your child’s Take understanding of how things are usually 6. Consider kids-only seating. After the Seder the tradition of the “kids’ table” done at mealtime, plan to do things seriously by moving in a child- 12. Be compassionate. Don’t differently enough to spark their curiosity sized picnic table or craft table. be surprised if kids don’t eat and prompt every parent’s favorite Instead of a tablecloth, tape anything more than matzah ball question: “Why?” down a sheet of butcher paper, soup... and cue up a Passover Before the Seder and set out some fat crayons or video or movie for them to washable markers. watch while the meal continues. 1. Practice. Help your 4- or 5-year- If you can still find it. “The old learn or brush up on Mah During the Seder Rugrats Passover” is hilarious Nishtanah. (for adults too). 7. Encourage questions – 2. Let kids help clean. Are you creatively. Find new ways already giving your child to elicit questions. Perhaps keep chores around the house? This a bowl of kosher-for-Passover is a great time to involve them marshmallows ready, tossing in Passover prep, including one to any attendee who asks or dusting, sweeping, and other answers a question during the general cleaning. As you clear Seder. out chametz (leaven) from Many people recline your cabinets, kids can bag up 8. Get comfy. The main idea is to inspire joy, capitalize at the Seder to celebrate being packages of cereal, crackers, and on curiosity, and tell the story of the free. With kids, try this: Instead pasta for storage or donation. Exodus from Egypt – and frankly, you just of putting a pillow on each chair, They can also handle dusters can’t be successful in doing so if you’re consider sitting on sofas or on and Swiffers – or feathers and hanging onto unrealistic expectations of the floor until the meal is served. wooden spoons, if you’d like young children. With a little effort and to do Passover cleaning the 9. Offer snacks. It’s tough to get creativity on your part, nobody will even traditional way. through the first 10 steps of the think to ask, “When do we eat?” Seder and onto the meal if kids 3. Enjoy some quiet time. If you are hangry, crabby, or sleepy – so kids are done with naps, consider offer lots of veggies and berries

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As part of my learning with the Institute ‘We are rooted in our stories – both communal AND for Experiential Jewish Education we individual stories…We need to invite and listen to have spent a lot of time discussing “self- authorship.” They define it as the process the story of each family and each individual, and by which learners claim their narrative find ways to celebrate those stories.’ and weave the educational experience they encounter into their lives. The process can tie together past, present and During the other period, Scott Smith in our stories – both communal AND future, and provide individuals with a is teaching the My Family Story individual stories…We need to invite sense of internal unity and purpose. curriculum provided by Beit Hatfutsot – and listen to the story of each family the Museum of the Jewish People in Tel and each individual, and find ways to How might this play out? In Kitah Zayin Aviv. Here each learner is tasked with celebrate those stories. We need LOTS of (7th grade) this semester, our students interviewing family members, exploring listening... and a few more stories from have two classes. During one period, as many generations as they can that people sharing themselves… Our other Scott Verchin is introducing them to led to them sitting in B’nai Israel on a job here is to help people connect their the heroes, fighters and rescuers of Tuesday evening. They are learning the own stories to Jewish values the Holocaust. They learn about Jews stories of their family and making them who fought back and non-Jews who their own. In the course of the semester What I am learning at the Institute for risked their own lives and those of they will create an exhibit that will allow Experiential Jewish Education is at the their families to protect those the Nazis them to share what they have learned and heart of how we are changing teaching wanted to liquidate. They discuss the embraced. and learning in our Kehilah. I am so horrible choices that were faced. In the excited that it is so in line with Rabbi course of their conversations, our teens In both cases, we invite the learner Schultz’s vision. To quote McLean and 2 find themselves sharing stories of the to bring a real part of themselves to Pasupathi , “It is an individual’s story intolerance they or their friends may have the content of our learning and, in so which has the power to tie together past, encountered, directed at them or others. doing, they bring the content deeper into present and future in his or her life. It themselves. is a story which is able to provide unity and purpose.” I add that by connecting Just two weeks before I studied self- the learner’s own story to the story and authorship at the institute, the Kehilah values of the Jewish people, we can help 1 (Community) Curriculum Working them develop a Jewish identity and life Group met in February with Rabbi skills that will sustain them throughout Schultz. The idea was to make sure their lifetime. that the curriculum we are revising and developing is aligned with his vision L’shalom, for our congregation. He shared several ideas that were very exciting. Ira J. Wise, D.J.R.E. Director of Educator One of the central ideas he discussed that evening was mirrored by the teachers at the institute. He said “We are rooted 2 Kate C. McLean & Monisha Pasupathi Lindsay Oberhand telling her Family Story 1 Kehilah (Community) is the new name of our (2012) Process of Identity Development in using an exhibit she created. Religious School, reflecting the new Identity : An International Journal of Theory experiences of our learners. and Research, 12:1

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Adult Round Table Rosh Chodesh Israel and America: A Special Thursdays, April 2 and May 7 at Thursday, April 16, 7:00 – 9:00 p.m. Relationship? 12:30 p.m. Join with women from across the B’nai Lifelong Learning: May 1, Noon – Ilene Goby facilitates a discussion about Israel community each month for conver- 1:30 p.m. current events for anyone who wants sation, laughter and learning as we cel- We will look at the history and discuss the to go beyond the headlines. Join us the ebrate the start of the new moon and soak current state of relations between these first Thursday of every month, and bring in the wisdom of our female ancestors. two nations. We will also explore the re- a sandwich, your opinion and an open Women of all ages are welcome. Our lationship between Americans (both Jew- mind. gatherings will be held at Congregation ish and non-Jewish) and the Jewish state B’nai Israel from 7:00 – 9:00 p.m. unless and how that impacts on Jewish identity Introduction to Kabbalat otherwise announced. Questions? Con- in America and on political consider- Shabbat Friday Evening Service tact Rabbi Sarah Marion at smarion@ ations. Join Ira Wise for a conversation Lifelong Learning: April 3, Noon – cbibpt.org. Future meetings will be 5/14 that is only the beginning! 1:00 p.m. and 6/25. Join Rabbi Schultz for a look at the Kab- The Poetry of Yehuda Amichai balat Shabbat Friday evening service. Introduction to Havdalah Lifelong Learning: May 8, Noon – 1:00 How is it structured? Why do we wel- Lifelong Learning: April 10, Noon – p.m. come a bride? Who are the ministering 1:00 p.m. Widely beloved as Israel’s greatest con- angels? We’ll learn and sing a few melo- temporary poet, Yehuda Amichai touches dies as well! the soul through his evocative yet univer- sally resonant musings that drift from the Fearless Females in the Bible! Twenty sacred to the mundane and everywhere in Minutes of Torah between. From war to love, from his par- Sunday, April 5 at 9:35 – 9:55 a.m. in ents to his children, from loving the Jews the Natt Family Library and despairing for the Jews, from shop- Rabbi Marion is leading this month’s ping for groceries in Jerusalem to the pol- bite-sized Torah with a brief but meaty Together we will explore the beautiful itics of Jerusalem, from sex to God and Jewish conversation! Come join her in Havdalah ritual that closes out Shabbat, then back again – Amichai’s poetry will the Natt Family Library to learn about taking a deep dive into the service and take you on a journey that is as distant as two heroes of the Exodus story you may the meaning behind each of the ritual it is personal. Join Rabbi Marion as we not have met – Shifra and Puah! items. Join Rabbi Marion to explore why take a deep dive into the English transla- the Havdalah candle is braided, why we tions of a selection of Amichai’s greatest Introduction to Shabbat Morning inhale the smell of spices, where and writings - discovering, as we go, our own Service why the Havdalah service originated, and stories and our own journeys carefully Lifelong Learning: April 10, Noon – more! positioned between the lines. 1:00 p.m. Join Ira Wise for a look at the Shabbat Late 19th-Early 20th Century Visions Who Decides What the Torah Means? Morning service. We begin with Psalms for the Land of Israel Two opportunities to study this topic: of praise and the miracles of daily liv- Lifelong Learning: April 24, Noon – Monday Midrasha – May 11, 7:00 – ing. We move on to God’s greatest hits 1:00 p.m. 8:30 p.m. or and then rise to celebrate Shabbat. And Join with Rabbi Schultz to look at some Lifelong Learning – Friday, May 15, then we have a parade and Torah reading! of the late 19th- early 20th century vi- Noon – 1:30 p.m. What’s it all mean? Let’s figure it out to- sions for the land of Israel. Who suc- All Jews read the same version of the To- gether and you can decide what it might ceeded? Whose vision fell short of the rah, yet we all interpret its meaning dif- mean for you! country we see today? How do those ferently. Join with Rabbi Schultz for this early visions impact our own notions of course on the various ways Jews interpret Zionism today? the Torah, and its impact on us and our community in the 21st century.

8 Follow us on Instagram at cbibpt. April Donations (We greatly appreciate all donations to our special purpose funds.) Rabbi Schultz Discretionary Fund Wayne C. Reese & Annie “June” C. Alida and Al Kleban, in loving Elaine and Juda Chetrit, in memory of Reese memory of dear sister, Ellie Levin. Shirley Goldstein, grandmother of Jenny The Quinn Family Stanley Lessler, in memory of Claire Goldstein. Lessler. Rhea Farbman, with thanks to Rabbi Larry Levine and Alison Bonds, in Larry Levine and Alison Bonds, Schultz for celebrating Tu B’shvat with appreciation of Susan and Rich Walden; in appreciation to the Executive the Kesher Project. in appreciation of Ilene Feldman and Committee. Sheila and Marshall Greenspan, Harvey Bluestein. Liz and Mark Nigrosh, in honor of in honor of Melanie Dreizen’s Bat Serena and Arnie Sher, in honor of Mark Edinberg; in memory of Harvey Mitzvah; in appreciation of Rabbi Joanne and Richard Krantz, on the birth Levine, husband of Geraldine Levine, Schultz. of grandson, Cameron Gillies. father of Larry Levine. Aleksey and Raisa Ledvich, in memory Claire and Allan Shumofsky, in Serena and Arnie Sher, in honor of of aunt, Sheila Sotnik; in memory of appreciation of Rabbi Prosnit standing Mindy and Jeff Siegel, on daughter grandmother, Sarah Ledvich; in memory by us in good times and bad, and in Rebecca’s engagement to Alex Bacon. of grandfather, Menashe Goldenfarb. anticipation of continued support for our Larry Levine and Alison Bonds, in fellow congregants. Sylvia Prosnit Adult Education Fund appreciation of Rabbi Schultz. Elaine and Juda Chetrit, in memory Alice Madwed, in memory of husband, Music Fund of Harvey Levine, husband of Geraldine Albert Madwed. Donations made in honor of Mark Levine, father and grandfather of Larry, Carol and Rick Offenbach, in memory Edinberg and his musical contributions Alison and Jennifer. of Vivienne Z. Goldstein; in memory of to B’nai Israel were made by: Ruth and Eric Gross, a donation. Sidney Loewith Goldstein; in memory of Helene Cohn Offenbach. Michael and Judy Blumenthal Nursery School Enrichment Fund Serena and Arnie Sher, in memory of Jim and Lisa Greenberg Serena and Arnie Sher, in honor of Shirley Goldstein, grandmother of Jenny Serena and Arnie Sher Brian Barlaam’s Mitzvah Hero Award. Goldstein. Eric Stein and Dyann Ross Claire and Allan Shumofsky, in Nursery School Scholarship Fund appreciation of Rabbi Schultz standing Sheila and Marshall Greenspan, Serena and Arnie Sher, in honor by us in good times and bad, and in in honor of Melanie Dreizen’s Bat of Shari and Brian Nerreau, on the anticipation of continued support for our Mitzvah; in appreciation to Cantor engagement of son Brad, to Samantha fellow congregants. Blum. Russell; in honor of Sheryl and Bonnie Slyn and David Ball, in Larry Levine and Alison Bonds, George Santiago, on daughter Arielle’s memory of Harvey Levine, husband in appreciation to Cantor Blum and engagement to Lindsay Albright. of Geraldine Levine, father of Larry Barbara Rowe. Levine. George and Chris Markley, in loving Prayer Book Fund memory of Martha Markley. Joanne Derwallis, in memory of Rabbi Marion Discretionary Fund Judy Rankell, in memory of beloved Harvey Levine, husband of Geraldine Paula and Bob Herzlinger, in memory husband, Al Rankell. Levine, father of Larry Levine. of Bernard Gladstein, father of Geoffrey Claire and Allan Shumofsky, in Gladstein. appreciation of Cantor Blum standing Mazon Larry Levine and Alison Bonds, in by us in good times and bad, and in Myrna Kaufman, in memory of appreciation of Rabbi Marion. anticipation of continued support for our mother, Florence Newman. Karin Newman, in memory of Ruth fellow congregants. Aaron, mother of Mollie Keller. Religious School Scholarship Fund Enhancement Fund Alyssa and Frederik Israel, a donation. Rabbi James Prosnit Legacy Fund David (Skip) and Billie Fairman, in Carol Krim, Best wishes for Hank and Donations made in memory of Harvey memory of Harvey Levine, husband Laurel Greenberg. Levine, husband of Geraldine Levine, of Geraldine Levine, father of Larry Larry Levine and Alison Bonds, in father of Larry Levine, were made by: Levine. appreciation of Audrey and Ira Wise. Marvin Gelfand, in memory of Anna Bobby Ray Bonds & Elsie C. Bonds Gelfand. Religious School Enrichment Fund Donna Thompson Bonds & John Bernie and Janice Jacobs, in memory Sarah Rocco, in honor of the marriage Edward Bonds of Benjamin Jacobs. of Mr. and Mrs. Breiner’s son.

Donation Item of the Month: Pasta and sauce for St. John’s. 9 April Donations (We greatly appreciate all donations to our special purpose funds.) Audrey and Ira Wise, in honor of Julia Bobby Bresler, in loving memory of Musicians, Klez Band, Adult Choir, Plager’s Bat Mitzvah. grandson, Nathaniel. Cantor Sheri Blum and Mark Edinberg Elaine and Juda Chetrit, Mazel Tov to on the 2020 Shabbat Shira Service; in Rabbi Arnold Sher Social Action Marge and Paul Krubiner on the birth of loving memory of uncle, Robert Lazar. Fund grandson, Rafi; Mazel Tov to Wendy and George and Chris Markley, in Donations in honor of Mark Edinberg Ralph Michel, on the birth of grandson, gratitude to Claire and Allan Shumofsky and his musical contributions to B’nai Vaughn. for their many years of devotion to Israel were made by: Dale and Jerry Demner, in memory Congregation B’nai Israel. of Bertha Greenfield, mother of Dale Jerry Saunders and Elaine Appellof, Alan and Karen Blau Demner; in memory of Lillian Slive, in memory of Ileen Parker. Bari Dworken aunt of Dale Demner; in memory of Serena and Arnie Sher, in honor of Paula and Bob Herzlinger Phyllis Goldstein, special friend of Dale Liz and Mark Nigrosh, on the marriage Jack Kadden and Jerry Demner. of son, Seth, to Robin MacFadden; in Anne and Mark Kirsch Bari Dworken, in memory of Harvey memory of beloved mother, Isabelle Beth Lazar Levine, husband of Geraldine Levine, Fishman. George and Chris Markley father of Larry Levine. Janet Rosen and George Sanders Mark and Barbara Edinberg, in honor Etz Chaim Living Torah Fund Sheryl, George and Arielle Santiago of Cantor Blum, the Adult Choir, Radio Mollie and David Keller, a donation. Klez, Anne Kirsch, Liz Nigrosh and the Carol Barsky, in memory of mother, Temple Musicians who participated in Jim Abraham Education Fund for Virginia Quint, mother-in-law, Jennie Shabbat Shirah. Jewish Leadership Barsky, and brother-in-law, Paul Barsky. Beth Lazar, applauding B’nai Israel Samuel Miller and Family, in memory of Zelda Miller.

Kesher Project Rhea Farbman, in honor of Sherry Portnoy; a thank you to Lee Lester for her generosity.

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14 Check out the Adult Jewish Learning offerings, page 8 SCHULTZ It’s painful right now to step back, to As I turned off my headphones, I took refrain from the embracing. Let’s pray a moment to recite the Hashkiveinu From P.1 that we all get through it together, and prayer. Hashkivenu Adonai Eloheinu handshakes traded out for elbow bumps support those who are most vulnerable at l’shalom, vhaamideinu shomreinu and namastes. Gatherings canceled, a this time. And when we do get through, l’chayim. Grant, O God, that we lie down mere sneeze prompts us to move farther we’ll once again embrace. And perhaps in peace, and raise us up, our Guardian, away. Friends and strangers losing work even appreciate the embrace that much to life renewed. Shield us and shelter and jobs, months of hard work planning more, holding on just a little bit longer. us beneath the shadow of Your wings. upcoming events canceled in a painful Defend us against illness and sorrow. Written on March 12 matter of moments. Guard our going and coming, to life and Tonight after putting the kids to bed peace, evermore. I looked at the line again, and it occurred I decided to go out for a short night to me: we are not alone. That one short For a moment I felt as though I truly run. Today felt immensely hard for so line sings to us from the past, reassuring prayed to God, as the droplets of rain many of us, shutting down schools and us in a small way that these times are part and the cool March air briefly calmed synagogues, churches and senior centers. of the mysterious and sometimes painful my soul. Tonight and in the days to Even Disneyland closed. scope and cycle of human history. come, may we all find shelter and love, There was a calmness in the air and I strength and comfort from one another I know many of us are afraid right now, made my way down familiar streets, lit and from our Creator as we weather and or at least a little anxious, confused or by the windows of neighborhood homes prepare for life’s impending storm. maybe think this is nothing at all. Surely that seemed to be engaged in their we’ll find out. But as I learned once from regular evening activities. Ruth Messinger, it’s ok to be afraid, but let’s not despair. Shabbat and Festival Service Schedule (Fridays at 6:00 p.m. where indicated, preceded by an Oneg Shabbat at 5:30 p.m.) Friday, April 3 Saturday, April 11 Metzora, Lev. 12:1- 6:00 p.m. Service 8:00 a.m. Service 15:33 Torah Portion – Tzav, 9:00 a.m. Brotherhood Matzo Brei Haftarah – 11 Kings Lev. 1:1-5:26 Breakfast 7:3-20 or Isaiah 66:1- Haftarah – Isaiah 43:21- 9:30 a.m. Torah Study 13, 23 44:23 Wednesday, April 15 Saturday, April 25 Saturday, April 4 10:00 a.m. Passover Yizkor Service 8:00 a.m. Service lead by Noah 8:00 a.m. Service Aronson 9:00 a.m. Brotherhood Breakfast Friday, April 17 9:00 a.m. Brotherhood Breakfast 9:30 a.m. Torah Study 6:00 p.m. Service 9:30 a.m. Torah Study 10:00 a.m. Havurah for Families Torah Portion – 10:00 a.m. Havurah for Families with Young Children Shemini, Lev. 9:1-11:47 with Young Children led 11:00 a.m. Bar Mitzvah of Evan Haftarah – 11 Samuel by Noah Aronson (Tot Appel, son of Seth and 6:1-7:17 Shabbat) Bonnie Appel 11:00 a.m. Bat Mitzvah of Olivia Saturday, April 18 Kahn, daughter of *Thursday, April 9 8:00 a.m. Service Bruce Kahn and Shari 10:00 a.m. First Day of Passover 9:00 a.m. Brotherhood Breakfast Greenblatt Worship Service 9:30 a.m. Torah Study 7:00 p.m. Adult Outdoor Lawn- 11:00 a.m. Bar Mitzvah of Jacob Chair Concert on our Friday, April 10 Cohen, son of James Patio (Tanglewood 6:00 p.m. Service and Danielle Cohen Style), with Torah Portion – Ha Noah Aronson and Hamoed Pesah, Lev. Friday, April 24 his band 6:1-8:36 6:00 p.m. Service lead by Noah Haftarah – Jeremiah Aronson and with the 7:21-8:3; 9:22-23 Junior Choir Torah Portion – Tazria/

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Funds the Don’t Stand Idly By campaign, aimed at reducing gun violence by encouraging From P.1 served as a mentor to Jack and was close the development of safe gun technology, to the Greenwald family. Its purpose was been used for many of the Temple’s and the Clean Slate campaign, whose to support the activities of the youth of social justice initiatives. For example, purpose is to get meaningful legislation the Congregation. Today the BIFTY for over 20 years we have prepared and passed that will expunge criminal records Greenwald Scholarship Fund is used to served dinners every month at St. John’s for non-violent crimes after a reasonable provide funds to make certain that all our Episcopal Church in Bridgeport and have number of years so as to eliminate B’nai Israel youth are able to participate provided meals for Operation Hope in barriers to a successful re-entry into in Israel programs, summer camps, Fairfield. The supplies to prepare these society and to meaningful employment. and activities of NFTY, the National meals come from the Rabbi Arnold Anyone wishing to assist with the effort Federation of Temple Youth. Sher Social Action Fund. The Fund to support our commitment to this also pays for any of the expenses of work, should indicate that the donation Both the Rabbi Arnold Sher Social our monthly Mitzvah Mornings as well to the Rabbi Sher Social Action Fund Action Fund and the BIFTY Greenwald as the Temple’s participation in various is directed to CONECT. Scholarship Fund serve critical needs and community efforts, including support of help fulfill the mission of Congregation holiday dinners for “nOURish Bridgeport The BIFTY Greenwald Scholarship B’nai Israel. Other special purpose funds (Formerly NPUOI),” the Bridgeport Fund was originally two funds – the will be featured in future Bulletins. Child Advocacy Coalition, and others. BIFTY Fund and the Jack Greenwald Fund – which were consolidated Donations to any of the Synagogues’ Most recently, the Fund has contributed approximately 10 years ago. The Jack funds are always appreciated and can to a portion of the dues obligation Greenwald Fund was established in be made on-line by going to our website for our membership in CONECT memory of a young member of the (www.cbibpt.org) and clicking on the (Congregations Organized for a Congregation who died in 1972. Jack “Donate” button. Then click the “Online New Connecticut). CONECT is an was the son of long-time members Donation Page.” That will lead you to a interfaith coalition of over 30 churches, Sherman and Marcia Greenwald, both of list of all of the special purpose funds, synagogues, and mosques whose mission whom have since passed away. The fund which easily link you to the on-line is to effect social change on a number of was created with the assistance of our donation page. fronts. Two of its current initiatives are Cantor Emeritus, Ramon Gilbert, who