RECOVERING LOST GOODNESS Shame, Guilt, and Self-Empathy
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An Examination of Emotion Dysregulation in Maladaptive Perfectionism T ⁎ Bailee L
Clinical Psychology Review 71 (2019) 39–50 Contents lists available at ScienceDirect Clinical Psychology Review journal homepage: www.elsevier.com/locate/clinpsychrev Review An examination of emotion dysregulation in maladaptive perfectionism T ⁎ Bailee L. Malivoire, Janice R. Kuo, Martin M. Antony Department of Psychology, Ryerson University, 350 Victoria Street, Toronto, Ontario M5B 2K3, Canada HIGHLIGHTS • Little is known about emotion dysregulation in maladaptive perfectionism. • We review evidence of emotion dysregulation and propose a conceptual model. • Key processes include heightened negative emotions and unhelpful regulation strategies. • Low emotional awareness and unhelpful emotion regulation goals are also discussed. • Targeting these processes may enhance treatment for maladaptive perfectionism. ARTICLE INFO ABSTRACT Keywords: Maladaptive perfectionism has been shown to be associated with undesirable outcomes, such as elevated ne- Perfectionism gative emotions and psychopathological traits. Perhaps unsurprisingly, there is preliminary evidence that ma- Emotion regulation ladaptive perfectionism is also related to emotion dysregulation. However, the nature of emotion dysregulation Emotion dysregulation in perfectionism has not been characterized. In this review, Gross and Jazaieri's (2014) clinically-informed Affect framework of emotion dysregulation is used to review the evidence of emotion dysregulation in maladaptive perfectionism. Specifically, this paper reviews evidence of problematic emotional experiences and unhelpful -
Calculating Lost Profit Damages: the Missouri Supreme Court Semi-Fixed the Variable Appellate Caselaw
Missouri Law Review Volume 71 Issue 1 Winter 2006 Article 11 Winter 2006 Calculating Lost Profit Damages: The Missouri Supreme Court Semi-Fixed the Variable Appellate Caselaw Jennifer Koboldt Bukowsky Follow this and additional works at: https://scholarship.law.missouri.edu/mlr Part of the Law Commons Recommended Citation Jennifer Koboldt Bukowsky, Calculating Lost Profit Damages: The Missouri Supreme Court Semi-Fixed the Variable Appellate Caselaw, 71 MO. L. REV. (2006) Available at: https://scholarship.law.missouri.edu/mlr/vol71/iss1/11 This Note is brought to you for free and open access by the Law Journals at University of Missouri School of Law Scholarship Repository. It has been accepted for inclusion in Missouri Law Review by an authorized editor of University of Missouri School of Law Scholarship Repository. For more information, please contact [email protected]. Bukowsky: Bukowsky: Calculating Lost Profit Damages Calculating Lost Profit Damages: The Missouri Supreme Court "Semi-Fixed" the "Variable" Appellate Caselaw Ameristar Jet Charter,Inc. v. Dodson InternationalParts, Inc.I I. INTRODUCTION Prior to Ameristar Jet Charter,Inc. v. Dodson InternationalParts, Inc., a split of authority existed among appellate cases in Missouri as to how to calculate lost profit damages. 2 One line of cases stood for the proposition that all overhead expenses, including fixed expenses, should be deducted from estimated lost revenues to determine lost profit damages.3 Another set of cases explicitly refused to deduct all overhead; those courts only deducted variable expenses from estimated lost revenue to determine lost profit dam- ages.4 The Missouri Supreme 5 Court resolved this conflict in a unanimous decision in Ameristar. -
The Role of Exporters' Emotional Intelligence in Building Foreign
This is a repository copy of The Role of Exporters’ Emotional Intelligence in Building Foreign Customer Relationships. White Rose Research Online URL for this paper: http://eprints.whiterose.ac.uk/150142/ Version: Accepted Version Article: Leonidou, LC, Aykol, B, Fotiadis, TA et al. (2 more authors) (2019) The Role of Exporters’ Emotional Intelligence in Building Foreign Customer Relationships. Journal of International Marketing, 27 (4). pp. 58-80. ISSN 1069-031X https://doi.org/10.1177/1069031X19876642 © American Marketing Association, 2019. This is an author produced version of an article published in the Journal of International Marketing. Uploaded in accordance with the publisher's self-archiving policy. Reuse Items deposited in White Rose Research Online are protected by copyright, with all rights reserved unless indicated otherwise. They may be downloaded and/or printed for private study, or other acts as permitted by national copyright laws. The publisher or other rights holders may allow further reproduction and re-use of the full text version. This is indicated by the licence information on the White Rose Research Online record for the item. Takedown If you consider content in White Rose Research Online to be in breach of UK law, please notify us by emailing [email protected] including the URL of the record and the reason for the withdrawal request. [email protected] https://eprints.whiterose.ac.uk/ The Role of Exporters’ Emotional Intelligence in Building Foreign Customer Relationships Abstract Despite the critical importance of emotional intelligence in effectively interacting with other people, its role has been overlooked in scholarly research on cross-border interorganizational relationships. -
A Confucian Defense of Shame: Morality, Self-Cultivation, and the Dangers of Shamelessness
religions Article Article Article A ConfucianA Confucian Defense Defense of Shame: of Shame: Morality, Morality, Self-Cultivation, Self-Cultivation, A Confucian Defense of Shame: Morality, Self-Cultivation, and theand Dangers the Dangers of Shamelessness of Shamelessness and the Dangers of Shamelessness Mark BerksonMark Berkson Mark Berkson Department of Religion,Department Hamline of Religion, University, Hamline St. Paul, University, MN 55104, St. USA;Paul, [email protected] 55104, USA; [email protected] Department of Religion, Hamline University, St. Paul, MN 55104, USA; [email protected] Abstract: ManyAbstract: philosophers Many and philosophers scholars in and the scholars West have in the a negative West have view a negative of shame. view In muchof shame. In much of Abstract: Many philosophers and scholars in the West have a negative view of shame.of post-classical In much ofpost-classical Western ethical Western thought, ethical shame thought, is compared shame is negativelycompared negatively with guilt, with as shame guilt, isas shame is asso- post-classical Western ethical thought, shame is compared negatively with guilt, asassociated shame is asso- withciated the “outer”, with the how “outer”, one appears how one before appears others before (and othe thusrs is (and merely thus a is matter merely of a “face”), matter of “face”), and ciated with the “outer”, how one appears before others (and thus is merely a matterand of “face”), guilt is and associatedguilt is associated with the “inner”with the realm “inner” of therealm conscience of the conscience and soul. and Anthropologists soul. Anthropologists and and philoso- guilt is associated with the “inner” realm of the conscience and soul. -
Term Toxic Shame Being Mirrored by One
Donald Bradshaw Nathanson Coined the The compass of term toxic shame. shame Four universal Mark Epstein, Pema Chodron, Being behaviors to Kevin Griffin Karen Horney mirrored defend against Abiding difficult emotions to observe and learn . Four major by one shame. The Idea of PRACTICE and Right View being wise idea that when aempts of Gershen Kaufman non- or attuned. Led to Present with Self and Present with avoiding shame Find the entrances to shaming the neuro2c Others and Wise-Self you are bigger individual to governing scenes. person than or less than Whenever we are makes all come to others. Says, to soluon able to observe upon the learn from our our experience, we difference shame and "Just immediately detach love yourself." from it. Brene Brown Silvan Thomas Tony Webb Empathy opposite of Scheff/Helen Tomkins Virginia Satir The social aspects of shame; judge in Lewis Block Emotions the compass of Four coping areas most Disrupts bond are shame -- aggression, vulnerable to shame; motivators. stances: depression, isolation, Humiliated Placating, judging numbs-easier Affect and addiction. fury. Blame, Being than loss/grief; pre- Acknowledge theory: Alienation and Super- aggression broader frontal cortex off in shame then Scripts are shame. connection to begun as Reasonable, social results from Perfectionism. others soon as we Being Irrelevant avoiding shame. 'Good' shame as restored. are born. humility. Show deference to others. What does acknowledged shame look like? What is attunement? Shame-anger spirals. Governing Scenes Gershen -
EMDR Protocol Anger, Resentment and Revenge June 2014
EMDR Protocol Anger, Resentment and Revenge June 2014 Prologue In order to carry out the protocol in a responsible way, it is above all very important to have a thorough knowledge of the target group. Secondly, it is recommended to have participated in a workshop practising the protocol. And thirdly, one need knowledge of applying cognitive interweaves (as taught in an accredited EMDR training), because the presented procedure can also be used as cognitive interweave within the EMDR Standard protocol. Applying the protocol as a cognitive interweave: see addendum. Introduction The rationale of coping with Anger, Resentment and Revenge can be explained as follows: When people are reminded of disturbing memories or certain persons, it can lead to fierce emotions; sometimes “ the bucket will even overflow”. There are two kinds of emotions which can still be triggered by thinking of those negative experiences or persons. Therefore, there are also two buckets which can overflow. draw a bucket titled “Powerlessness and Fear” draw another bucket titled “Anger, Resentment and Revenge” One bucket contains all emotions concerning powerlessness, grief, fear and fright; all vulnerable, internalized emotions. The other bucket is filled with emotions like anger, resentment and sometimes even revenge; all ‘external directed’ emotions. When we look at the Powerlessness and Fear bucket, how full is it at this moment? When we look at the Anger bucket, how full is it at this moment? draw the levels indicated by the patient or let the patient draw the indicated levels Emptying which bucket would give the most relief? if the patient chooses the Powerlessness and Fear bucket, use the standard EMDR protocol if the patient chooses the Anger bucket, follow the next procedure Inventory To empty the bucket, we will not discuss the disturbing experiences you had, but we will focus on the persons who have treated you wrongly or who have damaged you. -
Ransom Is a Story of Vengeance Clashing with Grief.’ Discuss
‘Ransom is a story of vengeance clashing with grief.’ Discuss. In his lyrical novel, Ransom, David Malouf reimagines the final book of The Iliad, and in doing so, highlights the futility of countering grief with vengeance. He asserts the pointlessness of such vengeful actions, examines the role of the ‘rough world of men’ in creating it, and notes its cyclic nature, leaving many readers disheartened. However, Malouf also demonstrates how grief can be overcome with honourable actions. Malouf demonstrates to readers the uselessness of trying to assuage grief with acts of revenge. He introduces this concept right from the outset of the novel through his characterisation of Achilles. Malouf moves away from the traditional portrayal of Achilles as the most formidable of the Greeks and instead describes him as hollow and like a dead man. This new perspective of Achilles depicts him as lacking balance and feeling trapped in a clogging grey web due to his grief over the death of his soulmate Patroclus. Once Malouf describes Achilles’ barbaric actions in dragging around the corpse of Patroclus’ killer, Hector, it becomes clear to readers that Achilles is attempting to assuage his grief with violence and brutal, callous actions. Malouf uses imagery to depict Achilles as already dead himself as he continues to desecrate Hector’s body, by describing him as caked with dust like a man who has walked out of his grave. Thus, Malouf asserts how Achilles’ act of revenge has only wasted his spirit and left him feeling that it was never enough; being unable to overcome his pain at the loss of his friend. -
Guilt, Shame, and Grief: an Empirical Study of Perinatal Bereavement
Guilt, Shame, and Grief: An Empirical Study of Perinatal Bereavement by Peter Barr 'Death in the sickroom', Edvard Munch 1893 A thesis submitted in fulfilment of the requirements for the degree of Doctor of Philosophy Centre for Behavioural Sciences Faculty of Medicine University of Sydney November, 2003 Preface All of the work described in this thesis was carried out personally by the author under the auspices of the Centre for Behavioural Sciences, Department of Medicine, Faculty of Medicine, University of Sydney. None of the work has been submitted previously for the purpose of obtaining any other degree. Peter Barr OAM, MB BS, FRACP ii The investigator cannot truthfully maintain his relationship with reality—a relationship without which all his work becomes a well-regulated game—if he does not again and again, whenever it is necessary, gaze beyond the limits into a sphere which is not his sphere of work, yet which he must contemplate with all his power of research in order to do justice to his own task. Buber, M. (1957). Guilt and guilt feelings. Psychiatry, 20, p. 114. iii Acknowledgements I am thankful to the Department of Obstetrics and Department of Neonatology of the following hospitals for giving me permission to approach parents bereaved by stillbirth or neonatal death: Royal Prince Alfred Hospital, Royal Hospital for Women, Royal North Shore Hospital and Westmead Hospital. I am most grateful to Associate Professor Susan Hayes and Dr Douglas Farnill for their insightful supervision and unstinting encouragement and support. Dr Andrew Martin and Dr Julie Pallant gave me sensible statistical advice. -
Strategic Empathy As a Tool of Statecraft
Strategic Empathy as a Tool of Statecraft John Dale Grover Published October 2016 Contents Introduction ................................................................................................................................................. 3 Empathy Defined ........................................................................................................................................ 4 Strategic Empathy as a Tool of Statecraft ................................................................................................ 7 International Relations Theory and Empathy ....................................................................................... 14 The Opening of China .............................................................................................................................. 24 American Policy in the Iraq War ............................................................................................................ 30 Conclusion ................................................................................................................................................. 35 Bibliography .............................................................................................................................................. 37 2 Introduction “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb -
About Emotions There Are 8 Primary Emotions. You Are Born with These
About Emotions There are 8 primary emotions. You are born with these emotions wired into your brain. That wiring causes your body to react in certain ways and for you to have certain urges when the emotion arises. Here is a list of primary emotions: Eight Primary Emotions Anger: fury, outrage, wrath, irritability, hostility, resentment and violence. Sadness: grief, sorrow, gloom, melancholy, despair, loneliness, and depression. Fear: anxiety, apprehension, nervousness, dread, fright, and panic. Joy: enjoyment, happiness, relief, bliss, delight, pride, thrill, and ecstasy. Interest: acceptance, friendliness, trust, kindness, affection, love, and devotion. Surprise: shock, astonishment, amazement, astound, and wonder. Disgust: contempt, disdain, scorn, aversion, distaste, and revulsion. Shame: guilt, embarrassment, chagrin, remorse, regret, and contrition. All other emotions are made up by combining these basic 8 emotions. Sometimes we have secondary emotions, an emotional reaction to an emotion. We learn these. Some examples of these are: o Feeling shame when you get angry. o Feeling angry when you have a shame response (e.g., hurt feelings). o Feeling fear when you get angry (maybe you’ve been punished for anger). There are many more. These are NOT wired into our bodies and brains, but are learned from our families, our culture, and others. When you have a secondary emotion, the key is to figure out what the primary emotion, the feeling at the root of your reaction is, so that you can take an action that is most helpful. . -
HERBERT ROSENFELD This Article Was First Published in 1971 in P
HERBERT ROSENFELD This article was first published in 1971 in P. Doucet and C. Laurin (eds) Problems of Psychosis, The Hague: Exceqita Medica, 115-28. Following the suggestion of the organizers of the Symposium that I should discuss the importance of projective identification and ego splitting in the psychopathology of the psychotic patient, I shall attempt to give you a survey of the processes described under the term: 'projective identification'. I shall first define the meaning of the term 'projective identification' and quote from the work of Melanie Klein, as it was she who developed the concept. Then I shall go on to discuss very briefly the work of two other writers whose use appeared to be related to, but not identical with, Melanie Klein's use of the term. 'Projective identification' relates first of all to a splitting process of the early ego, where either good or bad parts of the self are split off from the ego and arc as a further step projected in love or hatred into external objects whi~h leads to fusion and identification of the projected parts of the self with the external objects. There are important paranoid anxieties related to these processes as the objects filled with aggressive parts of the self become persecuting and are experienced by the patient as threatening to retaliate by forcing themselves and the bad parts of the self which they contain back again into the ego. In her paper on schizoid mechanisms Melanie IKlein (1946j considers first of all the importance of the processes of splitting and 117 Melanie Klein Today: Projective Identification denial and omnipotence which during the early phase of develop ment play a role similar to that of repression at a later stage of ego development. -
Exaggerated Envy and Guilt Measured by Economic Games in Japanese
Isobe et al. BioPsychoSocial Medicine (2018) 12:19 https://doi.org/10.1186/s13030-018-0138-8 SHORT REPORT Open Access Exaggerated envy and guilt measured by economic games in Japanese women with anorexia nervosa Masanori Isobe1, Michiko Kawabata1, Ema Murao1, Tomomi Noda1, Noriko Matsukawa1, Ryosaku Kawada1, Teruhisa Uwatoko1,2, Toshiya Murai1, Shun’ichi Noma1 and Hidehiko Takahashi1* Abstract Background: Anorexia nervosa (AN) patients are assumed to express high levels of guilt and envy. Ultimatum game (UG) is a standard behavioral task that focuses on interpersonal behavior when splitting a sum of money between two players. UG studies consistently demonstrate that people tend to decrease their inequity in outcomes, one explanation being that economically irrational decision-making may partly arise from the emotions guilt and envy. We assumed that AN patients would perform excessively fair in UG, reflecting high guilt and envy. Methods: We utilized UG to investigate the characteristics of guilt and envy among 24 Japanese AN patients and 22 age-matched healthy controls (HC). The relation between the outcome of UG and decision strategy confirmed by post-experimental questionnaires was analyzed. Results: As proposer, AN offered a larger amount to the responder compared with HC (p = 0.002) while, on the other hand, as responder, AN demanded much higher allocation to accept the offer compared with HC (p = 0.026). Regarding the strategy as responder, AN put more emphasis on fairness and less emphasis on monetary reward compared with HC (p = 0.046, p = 0.042, respectively). Conclusions: The results indicate that Japanese AN patients demonstrate strong preference for fairness, with high guilt and high envy.