Mayra Porrata, M.Ed.
T H E F L O U R I S H I N G W A Y . C O M Mayra Porrata, M.Ed.
TM 1-HRC URSES Social, emotional & spiritual health education for adults.
THEFLOURISHINGWAY.COM CONCEPTS COVERED:
Self-awareness/emotional awareness Symptoms of anger The roots of anger The power of anger Applying "due diligence" Unproductive applications of anger (power & control) Productive applications of anger (liberation) Emotions + critical thinking and why we need their balance (wise action)
T H E F L O U R I S H I N G W A Y . C O M T H E F L O U R I S H I N G W A Y . C O M INTRODUCTION
Anger is normal Everyone feels anger Anger can easily be distorted and misapplied Due to its power and volatility, understanding and managing our anger is essential for personal and community well- being
T H E F L O U R I S H I N G W A Y . C O M THE MANY FACES OF ANGER ("Symptoms" of anger) violence loathing frustration rage undermining resentment outrage anguish aggravation hatred indignation unease wrath disgust irritation revenge dissatisfaction bitterness vengeance desperation disdain revolt unrest distrust rebelliousness despair disillusionement terrorism depression disgruntled turmoil anxiety angst outcry exasperation dismayed fear powerless sadness
T H E F L O U R I S H I N G W A Y . C O M ROOTS OF OUR ANGER:
The human condition Habitual reaction/chemical addiction Injustice Opinions & beliefs Societal expectations Fears Lack of critical-thinking (curiosity) about the source of our own anger.
T H E F L O U R I S H I N G W A Y . C O M WHAT ANGER TELLS US:
"Something feels wrong!!!!" An essential need is not being met (within) An injustice is not being addressed (societal/environmental)
T H E F L O U R I S H I N G W A Y . C O M THE POWER OF ANGER
Anger can be a reckless destroyer of self and others. Anger can be a powerful change-agent for the good. Without critical-thinking and emotional regulation, many destroy the very thing they wish to uphold.
T H E F L O U R I S H I N G W A Y . C O M APPLICATIONS OF ANGER ASK YOURSELF...
Do I want revenge? Start a war over this? Make someone pay? Sue someone? Make someone else suffer? Do I want to keep anger alive and burning?
Do I want to understand? Do I want to heal? Do I want to help others avoid or shorten similar suffering? Do I want to leverage my pain/passion towards social improvements? Do I want to learn how to see differently so that I can just be?
A? B? - YOUR APPROACH AND RESPONSE DEPENDS ON WHAT YOU ARE SEEKING TO LEARN AND EXPERIENCE...BUT REMEMBER THIS...
T H E F L O U R I S H I N G W A Y . C O M APPLICATIONS OF ANGER
OPTION A GENERATES MORE FIRE AND ANGER PRIMITIVE WAY OF PROBLEM-SOLVING MANY BEHAVIORS ARE ILLEGAL
OPTION B GENERATES CURIOSITY INVITES HIGHER FACULTIES AND CRITICAL-THINKING
T H E F L O U R I S H I N G W A Y . C O M WHAT IS WISE VS. UNWISE ACTION?
Incivility/Abuse/ Othering/Name- Doing the wrong calling thing for the wrong Doing reason. Destruction of the right property Doing the wrong thing for the right thing for Physical, emotional or reason. psychological violence the right against others Doing the right reason. thing for the wrong Threatening human life reason.
War
T H E F L O U R I S H I N G W A Y . C O M HOW CAN I TELL WHAT IS "RIGHT"? Practice applying "due diligence" (a review of the facts* of the matter)
1.Do I have a well-rounded and historic understanding of the issue beyond "either- Doing or"? 2.Have I researched and looked at the issue the right from all sides? 3.What are the true motives of those whom I thing for follow/listen to? the right THEN... reason. 4. Does my proposed solution vilify, exclude, or injure large segments of the population? 5. Does my solution require violence?
If either of these are "YES", return to Question #1, otherwise continue to Question #6 *Beliefs and opinions are not facts T H E F L O U R I S H I N G W A Y . C O M HOW CAN I TELL WHAT IS "RIGHT"?
THEN... 6. Who else is experiencing this issue or Doing concern besides me? 7. What are the common characteristics and the "pain points" being expressed by them? the right 8. Who is benefiting (financially/economically) thing for from the status-quo? FINALLY... the right 9. How do I "feel" about all this? 10. Do I feel somehow "victimized"/scared? reason. 11. What am I scared of? 12. How can I temper my fears peacefully? 13. How can I assist others to "fix things" in our communities and government without violence?
T H E F L O U R I S H I N G W A Y . C O M CYCLES OF POWER AND CONTROL (THIS CAN HAPPEN IN HOMES AND IN COMMUNITIES)
Research "Duluth Model" for more information N O I T A R E B I L
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Research "Cycle of Socialization and Liberation" by Bobbie Harro for more information "FIGHTING" IS A FORM OF CONTROL.
DO YOU UNDERSTAND WHO AND WHAT IT IS YOU ARE "FIGHTING" FOR?
WHY ARE YOU FIGHTING?
IS IT TO CONTROL? TO OVERPOWER? OR TO LIBERATE? AND WHOM?
T H E F L O U R I S H I N G W A Y . C O M TM 1-HRC URSES Social, emotional & spiritual health education for adults.
By Mayra Porrrata, M.Ed.
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