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Commentator PAGE 11 October 31, 2014 Vol. 51, No. 19 SERVING THE DIOCESE OF BATON ROUGE SINCE 1963 thecatholiccommentator.org GRAND FAMILIES

Glen and Charlotte Meades have had to make major adjustments in their lives Damian Francois has been living with his grandmother, Leona Deemer, since as they raise Charlotte’s three great-granchildren. Shown are Monika, 5; Glen birth. Damian is hearing impaired and unable to speak, and Deemer needs oxy- Meades; Nev’ea, 9; Estacy, 6; and Charlotte . Photos by Barbara Chenevert | The Catholic Com- gen to help her breathe, but she said the two are doing just fine. mentator Raising grandchildren a growing trend By Barbara Chenevet ing on word recognition. ber of grandparents who are them, but they face a myriad in school and obtain medical The Catholic Commentator Glen and Charlotte Meades raising their grandchildren. of legal, financial, emotional care for them. Many times they have been raising Charlotte’s In Louisiana 11.5 percent – and energy issues, said Em- have only a handwritten piece Sixty-six-year-old Glen three great-grandchildren, or 128,600 children – live in ily Ziober, who coordinates of paper from their adult child Meades sits back in his com- ages 9, 6 and 5, since August. homes where the householder the Ask a Lawyer program for turning the children over to fortable recliner seemingly Although they love and enjoy is a grandparent, according to the Baton Rouge Bar Associa- them, which does not carry le- ready to watch a football game, the girls, they say it has meant the American Association of tion. Many of the people who gal weight, she said. read a book or take a nap. But a major adjustment in their Retired Persons. come in here are part of the Dot Thibodeaux found her- instead, perched on the arm lives. The grandparents take re- working poor, and their main self raising her then 12-year- of his chair is little 5-year-old The Meades are just one sponsibility for their grand- issue is getting custody of the old grandson more than 20 Monika, and the two are work- example of a growing num- children because they love children so they can get them SEE FAMILIES PAGE 10

Widowed deacon adjusting to seminarian life

By Richard Meek priesthood in 2016. Unbeknownst to Deacon Martin, The Catholic Commentator But to understand Deacon Mar- however, fate would be his dance tin’s future, one must first under- partner in eighth grade, disguised A lone tear, awash with memories stand his past. Deacon Martin’s ini- as a young girl whom he shared his as well as carrying hope for the fu- tial confession at the age of 6 was first slow dance. His world suddenly ture, slowly trickled down the face of his first brush with the possibility of turned awhirl with visions of a life far Deacon Eddie Martin. becoming a priest. dichotomous from the priesthood. Sitting comfortably in his new “What could be more rewarding?” “I could still remember hugging surroundings at Notre Dame Semi- he recalled of that moment so many my pillow later that night,” he said. nary, Deacon Martin shifted from years ago yet so real in his present. “I said, ‘Sorry God, the priesthood Deacon Eddie Martin enjoys a rare moment of tears to laughter as he discussed the “I said I want to do this. I told every- is obviously out.’ He knew I wasn’t contemplation at Notre Dame Seminary in New early steps of an unlikely new jour- one every day from that point that ready for it.” Orleans. Deacon Martin, who was widowed in ney, one that is expected to culmi- I wanted to be a priest when I grew As with most male teenagers he April 2013, is now in formation to be a priest. nate with him being ordained to the up.” SEE SEMINARIAN PAGE 19 Photo by Richard Meek | The Catholic Commentator 2 The Catholic Commentator The Lighter Side of FAI t H October 31, 2014 | TREASURES FROM THE DIOCESE | DID YOU KNOW Lateran Basilica

“This is the built on that site mother and head in honor of John of all churches in the Baptist in the the whole world.” fourth century. Those words The original ba- are inscribed in silica was heav- Latin across the ily damaged by front of the St. fire, earthquake John Lateran Ba- and war through silica, one of four the years. But major basilicas in the Lateran pal- Rome. It is the Lat- ace remained the eran Basilica, and residence of the not St. Peter’s Basilica, that is the cathedral popes until the 14th century when they The confessional at St. church of the pope, the Bishop of Rome. moved to the Vatican. Francis of Pointe Coupée On Nov. 9, Catholics around the world Pope Innocent X commissioned the Chapel in New Roads is be- will celebrate the feast of the dedication of present church in 1646. It is now dedicat- lieved to be one of the old- the Lateran Basilica, which this year falls ed to St. John the Baptist, John the Evan- est pieces of church furni- on a Sunday and trumps the celebration gelist and Christ. ture in Louisiana. The of a Sunday in Ordinary Time. Fifteen huge statues of Christ, John cypress confessional is Lateran was the name of a Roman the Baptist, John the Evangelist and the thought to be from 1729. family, who owned the land where the ba- 12 doctors of the church are featured on The original church is said silica sits. the façade of the church. The remains of to have been completed in Emperor Constantine, who converted a small wooden table on which it is said 1728 when the first known to Christianity and first allowed Chris- St. Peter celebrated Mass while he was in baptism was performed. tians to practice their religion in pub- Rome lies beneath the basilica’s high al- The Catholic Commentator staff photo lic, seized the land for a church that was tar.

used against you in the future. I observed After celebrating about 150 years of that in America people live in fear and sus- AChristianity in Nigeria, the Nigeri- picion of one another. an church felt she is now mature enough to give back to the world what she had re- You rode a motorbike in Nigeria and ceived from the missionaries who came to ...with FATHER GORDIAN IWUJI MSP, QChad. Do you ever have the opportu- evangelize us. These missionaries came to pastor, St. Benedict the Moor Church, nity to ride here? Nigeria when Nigeria was still primitive, Bertrandville when there was no known cure for com- I have longed for such an opportunity mon sicknesses like malaria. Malaria killed How difficult has it been for you to Ato ride a motorbike here in the United many missionaries like the Ebola of today. Qtransition into living in Louisiana? States. I discovered that the type of motor- And so, having grown as a church, we felt What has surprised you the most bikes dominant here are heavier and more it’s now our turn to give back to the glob- There has been no atom of difficulty Qabout life in the United States? expensive than what I had in Africa. For al church as a way of showing gratitude to Ain my transition into Louisiana. My now, I cannot afford that type. I love riding God. Nigeria has vocations to the priest- one year in Houston was like for me my My greatest surprise since I arrived a motorbike. It’s fun. I used my motorbike hood and the religious life respectively. busiest moment since I was ordained a Ain the United States is the level of for my apostolate in Chad. That was, and This, therefore, formed the basis by which priest. As you know Houston is a busy city, devotion, dedication and participation in is still, the popular means of movement by the bishop’s conference of Nigeria founded with multiple road networks. I got pulled the church. The people are very devoted to priests in Chad. We used it to access some The Missionary Society of St. Paul, an in- over by the police twice, not for speeding, their faith in God. While still in Africa, we rough and narrow roads not assessible by digenous missionary congregation, with but for navigating my way wrongly on a were told a lot of stories about America. I a truck. the mandate of sending missionaries where one-way drive. Houston has parishes that was told that churches are almost empty they are mostly needed in the world. We are very busy with activities. But since I ar- in America, people no longer go to church, You are a missionary priest. Tell us are in more than 19 countries of the world rived in Louisiana a year and a few months and faith in God has dwindled drastically. Qwhy you consider yourself a mission- including the USA. ago, driving has been fun because the roads But from what I have seen and experienced ary to this country. SEE IWUJI PAGE 13 here are not as complicated as in Houston. so far, these stories are lies. I was surprised The police here are much friendlier as well. meeting a lot of churches filled up on Sun- I want to also add that Louisiana is truly days, including my own parish churches in a “state of hospitality.” I have enjoyed good Bertrandville and Klotzville. I can testify hospitality from my wonderful parishio- that the church in America is still full of thecatholiccommentator.org | Facebook.com/TheCatholicCommentator ners at Sts. Benedict and Augustine church sap – still green. Faith is active and alive. communities. People here are simply nice. Great numbers of people still go to church Bishop Robert W. Muench Publisher Wanda L. Koch Advertising Manager I have often told myself that I have come to on Sundays, and still have hunger for God Father Than Vu Associate Publisher Penny G. Saia Production Manager the right place to work. Being a country boy and his word. 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By Richard Meek Aguillard unveiled a chart projecting children will cross the border in 2014, up 18 years old. The Catholic Commentator that if 19 percent of unaccompanied chil- from 24,668 a year ago and 13,625 in 2012. Aguillard said Catholic Charities acts as dren are provided legal representation, the For the years 2003-2011, the number of a resettlement site through a complicated Accessibility to legal representation is number of undocumented at-risk children unaccompanied children illegally entering international process, manages the state perhaps the most effective and under uti- that would remain in the country drops by the country averaged 6,775. Office of Refugees and is the only agency lized process to stem what has become a one-third. “The question I get a lot of times is what from Tampa to Houston that is a certified burgeoning crisis of illegal immigrants, the “If all have representation, it virtually kind of parent would send their child off site for children’s sponsors to go through majority being unaccompanied children, disappears,” he said. “If we can make the across international boundaries?” Aguil- an orientation process, be fingerprinted crossing the southern border, according legal system accessible, and make the laws lard said. “Do these parents not love their and given directions regarding their re- to David Aguillard, executive director of and the ideals the country is founded on children in the same way we do?” sponsibilities as the custodial parent of the Catholic Charities of the Diocese of Baton accessible to these families, I think this is “After having met with some of them, child. Rouge. a solution.” worked with some of them, I turn that Aguillard explained that once a child Aguillard made his comments during a Aguillard pointed out that unlike in question around and say, ‘What kind of crosses the border and is picked up by pa- hearing of the state House Select Commit- criminal court, illegal immigrants are not parent would not?’ ” he added. “If I were trol agents, that child is transferred to the tee on Homeland Security on Oct. 16. entitled to legal representation. But he said a parent and I was here and I knew what custody of the Department of Health and “Guess what? The law works,” Aguillard providing them with legal counsel is con- was happening to my child in Honduras or Human Services. He said there are policies told legislators, who earlier heard from sistent with faith-based morality as well as Guatemala, I very well would be tempted in place mandating how that child is to be U. S. Sen. David Vitter regarding the bor- a logical solution. to say come up here. I know it’s a perilous treated and what protections are afforded der crisis. “When the children and their “It’s really fundamental to our Ameri- journey but if (the child) stays (he or she) is to the child. sponsors have access to the legal system it can dream that everybody deserves their certainly going to die.” He said a child protection law signed works. The children who need to be here, day in court,” he said. “(The immigrants) Aguillard said two-thirds of the immi- by former President George W. Bush man- who have valid cases, whose lives are en- can follow a process that is fair and hope grants that have relocated in Louisiana dates that children entering from non-con- dangered by their return (to their native for a better future we can create. We can are from Honduras. He cited not only the tiguous countries be screened within 48 country), are enabled to stay.” apply this law in a humanitarian way to increasing violence and gang activity in hours of arrival and transferred to DHH Aguillard went on to say immigrants give hope to these children and offer hope Honduras that has made that country the within 72 hours. From there, the child may without valid cases will frequently opt for to ourselves.” world’s most dangerous but also the tradi- be transferred to family members who deportation once an attorney explains op- Since the influx of unaccompanied chil- tional ties between the state and the Latin have already settled in the United States. tions to them. Rather than remain an un- dren began crossing the Texas and Arizo- American country as the reasons for the “We (provide these services) particular- documented immigrant who remains at na borders earlier this year, about 1,300 influx. ly because of our faith, but also it is a legal risk in the United States, they often return have arrived in Louisiana. Overall, it is He said children immigrating to Louisi- and practical thing to do,” he said, adding to their country of origin. estimated nearly 60,000 unaccompanied ana have ranged in ages from 7 months to SEE CHILDREN PAGE 9 4 The Catholic Commentator NATIONAL | INTERNATIONAL October 31, 2014

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9 AM — 12:30 PM Nuns hold a banner thanking Blessed Paul VI prior to his beatification Mass celebrated by Pope Francis in St. Peter’s Square at the Vatican on Oct. 19. The Mass also concluded the extraordinary Synod of Bishops on the For more information, family. Photo by CNS call (225) 768-1700 or go to ololcollege.edu. VATICAN CITY (CNS) – After tions of Scripture, as well as new even remotely analogous to God’s several days of animated debate references to the Catechism of the plan for marriage and family.” over its official midterm report, Catholic Church and the teach- Jesuit Father Federico Lom- the Synod of Bishops on the fam- ings of Pope Paul VI, St. John bardi, the Vatican spokesman, ily agreed on a final document Paul II and Pope Benedict XVI. told reporters that the absence of more clearly grounded in tradi- Synod fathers voted on each a supermajority indicated a lack Hot Rod Vinnie says: tional Catholic teaching. Yet the of the document’s 62 paragraphs. of consensus and a need for more assembly failed to reach consen- All received a simple majority, discussion, but stressed that none sus on especially controversial but three failed to gain the two- of the document carried doctri- questions of Communion for the thirds supermajority ordinarily nal weight. The synod’s final re- divorced and civilly remarried required for approval of synodal port will serve as an agenda for and the pastoral care of homo- documents. the October 2015 world synod on sexuals. Two of those paragraphs dealt the family, which will make rec- The synod’s last working ses- with a controversial proposal by ommendations to the pope. sion, Oct. 18, also featured a German Cardinal Walter Kasper While reassuring the assembly speech by Pope Francis, in which that would make it easier for that the church’s unity was not in he celebrated the members’ frank divorced and civilly remarried danger, Pope Francis warned exchanges while warning against Catholics to receive Communion. against several temptations that extremism in the defense of tra- The document noted disagree- he said had been present during dition or the pursuit of progress. ments on the subject and recom- the two-week synod. Discussions in the synod hall mended further study. One of the temptations he cit- Give Your Car to a had grown heated after the Oct. The document’s section on ed was that of “hostile rigidity” 13 delivery of a midterm report homosexuality, which also fell that seeks refuge in the letter of that used strikingly conciliato- short of supermajority approval, the law, “in the certainty of what Great Catholic Cause! ry language toward people with was significantly changed from we know and not of what we must

ways of life contrary to church its counterpart in the midterm still learn and achieve.” This The Society of St. Vincent de Paul needs teaching, including divorced and report. temptation, he said, is character- car, boat, camper and motor-home civilly remarried Catholics, co- The original section heading istic of the “zealous, the scrupu- donations. Proceeds benefit the poor and habitating couples and those in “welcoming homosexuals” was lous, the attentive and today of homeless served by the Bishop Ott same-sex unions. changed to “pastoral attention to the so-called traditionalists and The summaries of work- persons with homosexual orien- also of intellectuals.” Shelter Program, St. Vincent de Paul ing-group discussions, published tation.” Another temptation for the Dining Room, St. Vincent de Paul Oct. 16, showed a majority of syn- A statement that same-sex synod fathers, the pope said, was Community Pharmacy and Myriam’s od fathers wanted the final docu- unions can be a “precious sup- that of “destructive do-goodism, House. ment to be clearer about relevant port in the life of the partners” which in the name of a misguid- church doctrine and give more was removed. ed mercy binds up wounds with- Call (225) 383-7837, ext. O to attention to families whose lives The final report quoted a 2003 out first treating and medicat- exemplify that teaching. document from the Congrega- ing them; that treats symptoms make your donation or online at The final report, which the tion for the Doctrine of the Faith: and not causes and roots. It is www.svdpbr.org. ÂFree Towing!!!Â pope ordered published almost “There are absolutely no grounds the temptation of do-gooders, of at once after the synod’s conclu- for considering homosexual the timorous and also of the so- sion, featured many more cita- unions to be in any way similar or called progressives and liberals.” October 31, 2014 The Catholic Commentator 5 Kairos helps loosen the shackles of hardened hearts By Debbie Shelley more instrumental in my feeling and un- The Catholic Commentator derstanding life than all of the things that I have ever read,” said Bastida. “I came to Angola in shackles and After the retreat, he found the Bible to handcuffs. Now I go back into prisons a be a guideline. free man spreading God’s love,” said for- “It is my ‘plumb line’ and I became mer Louisiana State Penitentiary inmate obedient to following God rather than the Checo Yancy about the transformative evil forces and stayed faithful day by day,” power of Kairos Ministry during “An said Bastida. Evening with Burl Cain” on Oct. 14 at St. He took catechism classes with Father Aloysius Church in Baton Rouge. Joel LaBauve, who served as the chap- Angola Warden Burl Cain credited lain at Angola. On Father LaBauve’s rec- faith-based programs such as Kairos with ommendation, he took extension classes a 70 percent reduction in violence at what from the New Orleans Baptist Theological was the bloodiest prison in the United Participating in a panel discussion about Kairos Ministry during “An Evening with Burl Seminary designed to train inmates to States in the 1960s, but is now one where Cain,” are, from left, Louisiana State Penitentiary Warden Burl Cain, former Angola in- become “missionary” chaplains at Angola souls are redeemed. mates Checo Yancy and Leonard “Buddy” Bastida, Kairos at Angola co-chairmen Matt and other state prisons. Kairos’ effectiveness comes from the Zylicz and Rick Blackstone. Photo by Debbie Shelley | The Catholic Commentator “I came from being an outlaw crook to prison identifying inmates who have the trusted trustee at graduation,” Bastida said. biggest influence in their work, recre- team members shared their “very real sto- his cell. He was transferred to Rayburn Cor- ational or residential areas. Some will ries,” his heart also melted when he read a A preacher came by with a pamphlet. rectional Center in Angie and released in have had a negative impact and have nev- letter from one of the children who wrote Bastida read the pamphlet and his con- 2012. er opened a Bible, yet have the potential letters for the retreat attendees. version began. Bastida is employed by Catholic Chari- to form a powerful Christian community. “She wrote, ‘Dear Mr: You’ve been bad. During the next several years, Basti- ties Archdiocese of New Orleans, working The ecumenical program has its roots Don’t be bad no more,’ ” Yancy said. da felt drawn to Bible studies and a Kairos in AmeriCorps, a division of Cornerstone in the Cursillo movement. After a three- Yancy gave his heart to the Lord and retreat. Builders. He helps released inmates tran- day weekend retreat, Kairos volunteers his life dramatically changed. “The people who came from Kairos sition to the outside world. help the participants establish small Yancy is the state president of Louisi- and who shared their experiences really “When they hear someone like me prayer and share groups within the insti- ana Citizens United for the Rehabilitation showed me there were people living out talking about trying to live out life on tution. of Erants (CURE), whose mission is crim- the Bible in their daily activities. They a positive note, they see if I can change, The warden said he has seen surpris- inal justice reform. were part of the Body of Christ that were they can change,” Bastida said. ing changes in inmates who were dis- He also helps coordinate vigil prayer cipline problems but now are speaking services for Kairos team members about about love and helping others. He called to conduct retreats and the retreats’ clos- Kairos a “movement of the Holy Spirit.” ing ceremonies. “The Holy Spirit affects each one (of the Yancy mentors inmates coming out of leaders), then affects others,” said Cain. prisons and goes into prisons to help the Yancy said Kairos was part of the pro- incarcerated find freedom from within. cess through which he was pardoned of He shares his story of redemption. his sins by God before he was pardoned “Prison is like the Motel 6. The light is by the State of Louisiana. always on. I made my reservation when I He freely admits that he was guilty as committed a crime,” Yancy said. charged when he was sentenced to life in He added, “No one wants to be remem- prison on charges of aggravated kidnap- bered by the worse thing they’ve done. I ping, crimes against nature and posses- can be remembered as a sex offender, but sion of cocaine, when he misrepresented I want to be remembered for going back in himself and lured a 17-year-old into his to help others.” car in 1983. He served 20 years before he Former inmate Leonoard “Buddy” was pardoned. Bastida told attendees that it was through Yancy takes responsibility for his ac- Kairos that he learned more deeply about tions. “I created a victim, and I’m very unconditional love. sorry. I interrupted a life. I pray for that Bastida served five years and four person every day,” he said. months in Angola in 1966 for simple Yancy had heard about Kairos but burglary. He was sent back to Angola for didn’t feel he’d be comfortable in a setting armed robbery and served an additional where there were “a lot of cookies and sit- 30 years beginning in 1971. While in An- ting around saying, ‘I love you.’ ” gola, he wound up in Camp J disciplinary Hearing the judge who had sentenced unit. him, whom Yancy said he holds no grudg- While in Camp J, Bastida realized he es against, was on a Kairos leaders team, was about to kill himself by his self-focus. Yancy attended a Kairos retreat. As retreat He conducted a three-day silent retreat in

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Although on occasion I enjoy could not keep watch with me for one for your whole life.” saying the rosary privately, hour?” I’ve been wondering when and QI have a problem with being It is a devotional exercise common- why the followers of Jesus first “forced” to do so. My perception is that ly consisting of times for mental and Qstarted calling themselves “Cath- many churches are now saying the rosa- vocal prayer, for the exposition of the olic.” Can you help? (Norfolk, Virginia) ry aloud before Sunday Masses and even Blessed Sacrament and for Benedic- during Holy Hours. tion. A Holy Hour may be arranged to The first written reference to the I believe that these should be silent include hymns, a litany or the rosary, term “Catholic” can be found times for solitude and private prayer. depending on the desires of those who Ain the early days of the second The most annoying aspect is that, when participate. century. A bishop from Antioch in Syria, they finally do finish the rosary and In our parish, following Mass on Ignatius, was arrested and brought to I think that I can get back to my own weekdays, a group prays the rosary Rome by armed guards. Shortly before praying, then they proceed to recite still aloud. They wait about 10 minutes his martyrdom, he wrote a letter to his other prayers publicly to Mary, the an- before starting, which gives people a fellow Christians in Smyrna (the city of gels and the saints. Do I have the wrong Question Corner chance to make a private thanksgiving Izmir in modern-day Turkey) in which attitude here? (Houma, Louisiana) after Mass. (We also have a Blessed Sac- he said, “Where the bishop is present, Father Kenneth Doyle rament chapel, and those who want to there is the Catholic Church.” The word The church’s guidelines for the make a longer thanksgiving sometimes “Catholic” comes from the Greek root celebration of the Eucharist are It would seem, then, that the public go there.) meaning “universal.” Ato be found at the beginning recitation of the rosary in church during Parishioners have always seemed The Catechism of the Catholic Church of the Roman Missal, the large prayer the sacred moments before the begin- quite accepting of this practice. in No. 868 says that the church is catho- book on the altar that the priest reads ning of Mass should be avoided. The goal, I think, should be to keep lic (because) “She proclaims the fullness from during Mass. There, in the General Instead, as you point out, this should the central focus on the Eucharist while of the faith. ... She is sent out to all peo- Instruction on the Roman Missal, in be a time for “solitude and private seeking also to accommodate various ples. ... She encompasses all times.” No. 45 it is stated that “even before the prayer.” devotional practices, of which the rosary celebration itself, it is commendable that As for the inclusion of the rosary is a particularly worthy one. In Novem- FATHER DOYLE is chancellor for public silence is to be observed in the church, during a Holy Hour, that is an open ber 2013, following a Sunday Angelus information and a pastor in the Diocese in the sacristy, in the vesting room and question. There are no strict rules for address, Pope Francis highlighted the of Albany, NY. Questions may be sent in adjacent areas, so that all may dis- the structure of a Holy Hour, which value of the rosary as “spiritual medi- to Father Kenneth Doyle at askfather- pose themselves to carry out the sacred takes its inspiration from Christ’s words cine.” “Don’t forget to take it,” he said. [email protected] and 40 Hopewell St. action in a devout and fitting manner.” to the apostles at Gethsemane, “You “It’s good for your heart, for your soul, Albany, N.Y. 12208.

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CSERVING THE DIOCESE O F BATON ROUGE SINCE 1962 Month xx, xxxx Vol. Cxx, No. xx ommentatorSERVING THE DIOCESE OF BATON ROUGE SINCE 1963 www.diobr.org/tcc October 31, 2014 FAITH JOURNEY The Catholic Commentator 7 Nuns on the Bus bring voting message to Baton Rouge By Debbie Shelley can come for tutoring, have ac- siana: education, most especially The Catholic Commentator cess to computers, help with ob- the drop out rate; transportation; taining a job, nutrition programs, predatory lending; and the need Arriving in Baton Rouge parenting classes, prayer and Bi- for civil discourse in society. aboard a Star Spangled bus em- ble study. The solutions that the audi- blazed with the message, “We the In the bustling center, Gardere ence offered included overcom- people, we the voters,” Nuns on residents talked with their visi- ing fear with prayer and becom- the Bus and their road compan- tors about how the initiative has ing involved in issues. ions delivered a strong warning changed lives in the area. Sister Simone also stressed to politicians who are influenced “People have been blessed,” the power of one person’s vote by money: The upcoming mid- said Kimberly Stevenson, whose when put together with others to term elections are the time for children Jarren, Joseph and make a movement. people to cast their ballots to cast Jakimi, have benefited from the She pointed out, “Dollars can’t them out of office. services provided by the initia- vote. People can.” The Oct. 14 visit was part tive. She said the most important She encouraged attendees to of a 10-state, 36-city, 75-event thing the center provides is hope. educate themselves about issues cross-country tour. Sammie Grimes, president of Nuns on the Bus stopped on Oct. 14 in the Baton Rouge area, where and how their representatives are A project of NETWORK, a na- the Hermitage Cross Creek Crime they toured the Gardere Initiative, attended a Together Baton Rouge voting on them, talk about this tional social justice lobby group, District, and Karen Lee, pres- luncheon and conducted a town hall meeting on the importance of with other people and encourage Nuns on the Bus took their first ident of South Burbank Crime voting. Pictured are some of the people from Nuns on the Bus and their them to vote. tour in 2012 and have spoken out Prevention and Development local supporters. Photo by Debbie Shelley | The Catholic Commentator “While standing in the grocery on issues such as immigration re- District, emphasized that the checkout line ask the next person, form, health care and cuts in pro- Gardere Initiative brings unity to beginning of a grassroots move- to equip its members with lead- “Hey, have you been following the grams for the poor and working the area and organizes resourc- ment taking root. They were so ership skills and create change on headlines about Medicare? Peo- families in the federal budget. es for the people it serves. They excited about the apartments and concrete issues. ple get excited talking about these The first local stop for Nuns on were proud of how a movement of educational programs. It brought Nuns on the Bus were warm- things,” Sister Simone said. the Bus was the Gardere Initia- the people in the area has turned joy to my heart to see it bear ly received by Together Baton She stated it was impressive tive, of which St. Jude Church in into an important outreach. They fruit,” she said. Rouge. After the meeting, which to see the interfacing of a diverse Baton Rouge is a stockholder. The were also impressed with how at- After touring the Gardere Ini- mainly addressed food access in group of people in Baton Rouge. organization strives to address tentive and empathetic their bus tiative, Nuns on the Bus lunched low-income areas and transpor- “A Muslim man came up to me drug abuse and other issues in visitors were. at a Together Baton Rouge meet- tation issues, many stayed for a (at the Together BR lunch) and the low-income and once crime Sister Simone Campbell of the ing. town hall meeting on the impor- said, “’We share a common con- ridden area, which lies just south Sisters of the Social Justice and Together Baton Rouge is a tance of voting held by Nuns on cern for our people,’ ” Sister Sim- of St. Jude. executive director of NETWORK coalition of churches and other the Bus. one said. The organization has opened a said she was moved by the work institutions in the Greater Baton During the meeting, audience She concluded, “All of these free library, office and education the Gardere Initiative is doing. Rouge that seeks to build rela- members listed some of the is- people share a passionate com- center, where Gardere residents “It was so wonderful to see the tionships across the community, sues that are particular to Loui- mitment to our nation.” Preaching the Gospel through dialogue

ope Francis has been going Pope Francis er heartfelt needs. stood; they will know that their I have not yet used the word to great lengths to spread talks about a Only afterward particular situation has been “evangelization,” but that’s Plove around the world, certain kind of is it possible to placed before God, and that essentially what’s taking place. and he is quick to tell you that his preaching, that bring up God’s God’s word really speaks to Using dialogue, we become ac- love comes from the “free and “takes place in word, perhaps by their lives.” tively engaged in evangelization gracious initiative of God,” as he the middle of a reading a Bible I’m sure that at one time or and in spreading love. put it in his apostolic exhortation conversation, verse or relating a another you’ve been a disciple to “Indeed, anyone who has “Evangelii Gaudium.” something along story, but always a dear friend. Women minister truly experienced God’s saving The simple truth is that love the lines of what keeping in mind to other women all the time, love does not need much time flows from person to person, a missionary does the fundamen- on the phone, over the kitchen or lengthy training to go out or it doesn’t flow at all. It flows when visiting a tal message: the table. I think women are more and proclaim that love,” the using the Gospel in daily home.” The mis- personal love of intuitive and empathetic than pope said. encounters, daily opportuni- sionary is always God who became men, but men do open up when ties to preach using various a disciple and is man, who gave the pain of life becomes too FATHER CATOIR writes on issues of techniques. “constantly ready Spirituality himself up for us, much. spirituality for Catholic News In the pope’s document, to bring the love who is living and You may have noticed that Service. translated as “The Joy of the of Jesus to others, For Today who offers us his Gospel,” he writes: “Today, as and this can hap- salvation and his the church seeks to experi- pen unexpectedly Father John Catoir friendship.” ence a profound missionary and in any place: The pope con- Honor Those We Love. renewal, there is a kind of on the street, in a city square, tinues: “If it seems prudent and GARDENS OF MEMORY &FUNERAL HOME -CREMATORY -MAUSOLEUMS preaching which falls to each during work, on a journey.” if the circumstances are right, of us as a daily responsibility. The pope goes on to give us this fraternal and missionary It has to do with bringing the good advice. He says the first encounter could end with Gospel to the people we meet, step is to engage via a “person- a brief prayer related to the whether they be our neighbors al dialogue, when the other concerns which the person may 11817 Jefferson Highway or complete strangers.” person speaks and shares his have expressed. In this way 225-753-1440 The way he explains this is or her joys, hopes and concerns they will have an experience of www.ResthavenBatonRouge.com really down to earth. for loved ones, or so many oth- being listened to and under- 2x2” Rest.small.honor.those’13 8 The Catholic Commentator October 31, 2014 Prized family pig earns world honor By Debbie Shelley home also found out that if they were the filled out tons of paper work. Guiness then The Catholic Commentator first one to wake up, they had better feed notified them that Pig Floyd was the new Pig Floyd first or he would butt them. record holder. “Princes” and “princesses” and their Through a controlled diet of pot-bellied Streams of congratulations came to the families lined up at the fairytale-themed pig food, fruit and vegetables, Pig became Fernandez, some from people who said, “I St. Jude School book fair Oct. 2 to buy the more svelte and healthy enough to live the didn’t even know you had a pig.” 2015 edition of the Guiness Book of World long life he has, the Fernandez’s believe. But the family takes the attention in Records, which features local royalty, Pig No fatty table food scraps for Pig. stride. They had always known Pig Floyd Floyd, who was crowned the oldest pot bel- When Pig Floyd first came to live with was not only special, but family. He is in lied pig in the world. the Fernandez family, he came in and out the annual family Christmas card, which The family of Kris and Tricia Fernan- of the house as he wished. But since he has has a different motif each year. dez, members of St. Jude Church in Baton arthritis and is unable to make it up the “It’s fun having him around the yard,” Rouge, took in Pig Floyd, 22, or Pig for stairs into the house, he now lives in the said Presley Fernandez, 10, who, like her short, when he was two years old when backyard, where he freely roams. sister, said they and Pig are happy to see his previous owners, who were friends of But the Fernandez’s make sure he is as each other when the girls get home. They theirs, moved to New York City. comfortable as possible, providing him a wonder what kids do who don’t have a pig. The Fernandez’s had a turtle, a frog, a tent with a window air conditioning unit. Presley Fernandez, left, and sister, Charley, Even those who didn’t particularly care bearded dragon, two dogs and a cat, but Talking about Pig’s accommodations show the 2015 edition of the Guiness Book for Pig at first have come to like him. did not have any experience with livestock. brought another observation about pigs of World Records, which features their pet, Tricia Fernandez’s brother was at first The first notable thing about Pig was from the Fernandez’ daughter, Charley, 8. Pig Floyd, as the oldest pig in the world. terrified of Pig Floyd when he fed him while that he was fat – even for a swine. The first “They can sometimes be very loud,” Photo provided by Tricia Fernandez the family was on vacation. “He’d tell us, ‘I challenge was to get Pig’s weight down, as said Charley. dumped the food and ran,’ ” Kris Fernandez he was fond of food in the pantry. To illustrate, Kris Fernandez talked might be eligible for the Guiness Book of said. Now his brother-in-law even mixes Kris Fernandez laughed as he talked about how it got so cold this past winter World Records after they saw on TV that watermelon in with the pig food and spends about the time Pig Floyd got into the jar of that they put Pig in the girls’ playhouse, Guiness had named a pot-bellied pig in time with Pig Floyd while feeding him. chocolate syrup and painted the walls with which has a heater. Mississippi that was not much older than Pig seems to be doing good these days, it. Another time he got his head stuck in a “As we pushed him up the steps he was Pig as the oldest pig in the world. Later, and the family hopes he will be around for can of popcorn. fighting and screaming,” Kris Fernandez they found out that the pig had died. at least a little longer. “He was banging the can all over the said. “But once we got him in the playhouse The family got Pig Floyd’s birth certif- “We hope that he can live the rest of his house and woke us up,” Fernandez said. and turned on the heater, he was good.” icate, testimonials from people about Pig, days happy and comfortable,” Tricia Fer- Overnight guests in the Fernandez The Fernandez’s discovered Pig Floyd had the animal examined by a vet and nandez said.

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CHILDREN  or being able to offer them a OLOL monitoring patients at Woman’s Hospital From page 3 better future and a better life A new partnership between Lake. “Patients and staff now Elizabeth Hospital in Gonza- hopefully with their families as Our Lady of the Lake Regional have instant access to critical les since 2009. Intensivists and that the latest wave of unac- soon as possible.” Medical Center and Woman’s care experts who can help man- critical care nurses working in companied children are “some Aguillard said dioceses Hospital is providing around- age life-threatening complica- the MVCC Command Center of the most vulnerable in our throughout the state are using the-clock assistance to the most tions that can develop suddenly.” are using the most sophisticat- hemisphere.” their own resources to finance critical adult patients at Wom- A nationwide shortage of crit- ed software and computer sys- Martin Gutierrez, director of the process, jokingly asking the an’s Hospital using virtual mon- ical care physicians – also known tems to receive seamless access Catholic Charities Archdiocese committee, “Would y’all like to itoring of its intensive care units as intensivists – has made it dif- to patient records, X-rays and of New Orleans, said many of contribute? We are begging,” he (ICUs). ficult for hospitals around the vital signs. In addition, the vid- the incoming children are like- said. “Most important and the Using state-of-the-art tech- country to recruit the doctors eo-conferencing in the ICUs fea- ly to be eligible for asylum. He key service to offer is legal rep- nology, specially trained critical they need in the ICU. Roughly tures high-definition video that recalled his own story, having resentation.” care physicians and nurses at 13,000 intensivists are practic- can focus in on precise details, arrived in the United States in Earlier in the hearing Vitter Our Lady of the Lake have re- ing today in the United States, such as the dilation of a patient’s 1979 for what was intended to called for tighter border con- al-time access to each adult ICU a number that is projected to eye, to aid in surveying the sta- be a two-week vacation, and trols. He also said security of- patient’s medical chart and vital remain flat as new intensivists tus of a patient. never leaving because of the ficials have confirmed some of signs. Special video-conferenc- are graduating at the same rate Through 24-hour continuous communist takeover in his na- the illegal immigrants have ties ing equipment in the ICU rooms as those retiring. The demand monitoring and management, tive Nicaragua. Gutierrez be- to Middle East terrorist organi- allows them to see and commu- for these uniquely trained physi- MVCC doctors and nurses may came a U.S. citizen 13 years af- zations. nicate with patients, doctors and cians is expected to rise dramat- be able to identify subtle “early ter his arrival, a process he says “I want to commend you nurses at Woman’s Hospital. ically over the next 20 years as warning” signs in patients and is too lengthy. gentlemen for telling this holis- “By coupling this technolo- more of the population ages and communicate timely changes “These are future citizens tic story that is not biased and gy with the bedside expertise at requires intensive care. to their care plan to keep them we want in our country, the type slanted for a political opportu- Woman’s Hospital, our patients “It is a significant issue facing out of danger. Woman’s Hospital of children we want here,” he nity and gamesmanship,” Rep. are receiving the highest level the healthcare industry and why staff can also instantly access the said, adding that one of his chil- Terry Landry of New Iberia of care possible,” said Patricia more than 360 hospitals in the MVCC Command Center with dren is a deputy in Lafourche said. Johnson, RN, DNP, Woman’s United States are now using Mo- one push of an “easy button” to Civil Parish and another son is Aguillard said immigrants Hospital chief nursing officer. bile Virtual Critical Care technol- speak with a critical care expert. studying to be a priest. have had a significant impact “This system will not replace the ogy to monitor more than 10,000 “It’s actually faster than if an Gutierrez said his agency has on the labor force in southeast doctors in charge of patient care patient beds,” said Kearley. intensivist was called and had to assisted more than 250 unac- Louisiana, especially in the at Woman’s, but will provide an The oversight of a critical travel over there,” said Kearley. companied children who have turbulent time following Hurri- additional group of clinical ex- care physician has been shown “Through the virtual monitor- been relocated in the New Orle- cane Katrina. perts to closely watch and review to benefit patient care in the ICU ing, it only takes seconds to get a ans area. “I would hate to think where the vital signs of our most criti- with reduced mortality rates, re- hold of the expertise.” “Your hearts are in the right south Louisiana would be after cal patients every minute of the duced use of ventilators and re- An Our Lady of the Lake in- place,” Rep. Karen Gaudet St. Katrina without the immigrant day.” duced length of stay. tensivist will also visit ICU pa- Germain of Plaquemine told families that moved here and “For patients in critical con- Our Lady of the Lake is tients at Woman’s Hospital ev- Aguillard and Gutierrez. “The helped us recover,” he said. dition, this access can be the dif- home to Louisiana’s first Mobile ery day to check on the status of children need to be protected, “They have contributed to the ference between life and death,” Virtual Critical Care (MVCC) their condition in person. whether it’s sending them back cultural strength of our state.” said Dr. Richard W. Kearley, site, which has been providing medical director of Critical Care services to ICUs at Our Lady of Medicine at Our Lady of the the Lake since 2004 and at St. Ride with the #1 car insurer in LOUISIANA.

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FAMILIES  not much now either,” she said. cess to one,” she said. fixed income and they can’t afford “But I feel for these grandpar- From page 1 Thibodeaux started a support She said Louisiana is third in the an attorney, she said. “The family ents. They are very courageous. group Grandparents Raising Grand- nation in the number of grandpar- increases, but the money does not.” They wouldn’t give up the children years ago when her daughter started children to help other people and re- ents raising their grandchildren, Very few people can qualify un- for anything. It’s heartwarming.” having problems with alcohol and mains an advocate for grandparents. which she attributed to alcohol and der the state’s kinship care program The Catholic Commentator vis- drug abuse and was going through “We try to help them get through drug use, incarceration, death, di- because you have to live below the ited two families where a grand- Be and a divorce. “There was nothing in the the system. Many don’t know how vorce and abandonment. poverty line and you have to have parent is raising the grandchildren. STILL LISTEN state of Louisiana to help, there is to use a computer or don’t have ac- A lot of grandparents are on custody, she said. Here are their stories.

turned to something she knows well – raising always answers my prayers. I tell The Meades children. Meades, who is the kitchen and catering Leona Deemer my children and grandchildren you manager at the Diocese of Baton Rouge’s Tracy don’t have to be rich to live good.” riday night is pizza night, popcorn and Center, has four children of her own, raised her amian Francois wasn’t born Deemer eats lunch every day at watching Blue Bloods on TV. granddaughter, Colette, and is now raising Co- perfect. the St. Vincent de Paul Dining Hall F Dancing with the Stars fills lette’s three children. D Just a day or two after while Damian eats lunch at school. Monday night, although the girls “I’ve had three different sets of his birth, his family knew some- At night they like to cook. often fall asleep before it is kids,” she laughed. Colette thing wasn’t right. Damian did not Although she needs a portable over. came to live with her when respond. Later they would learn oxygen unit to help her breathe, Wednesday night it’s she was only 5, because that he couldn’t hear, and would be Deemer is undaunted raising an out to eat or a leisurely her daughter (Colette’s unable to speak. energetic teenage boy, who wants stroll around Wal- mom) had another child His mother, 17 at the time, didn’t the typical things a teenage boy Mart. who was disabled. “The want him. But thank God, his wants – a new car, hanging out “That’s our life mom spent a year with grandmother, Leona Deemer did. with friends, playing ball. “It’s not now,” said 66-year- her in a Dallas hospi- “She said he wasn’t perfect, but easy, but it’s not too hard either. old Charlotte Meades. tal and Colette stayed I told her God didn’t make any I’ve always been a person to get up Glen and Charlotte with me. The sister died perfect people,” Deemer said. “The and do.” Meades were ready to at the age of 7 and it was first day I knew something Deemer communicates with retire – him in November very rough on my daughter. was wrong. The nurses her grandson mostly and her a month later. They Colette just continued to stay brought him to me by writing notes or had plans to take their camper with me.” and he just lay through a special for a three-month trip out west. For the Meades there is no magic to there. I started telephone for Bishop delivers a message of love But so much for the best-laid plans ... The rearing kids. “Just love them. Hug and kiss them stroking him the hearing Meades will spend the first months of their retire- every day. Never say anything bad about their and he moved. impaired. She ment attending elementary school track meets, mom and dad. I tell them everyday their mom They told me said despite By Debbie Shelley He then went beyond that to say the sec- a good example of loving neighbor and kindergarten conferences and helping with home- loves them,” Charlotte said. that was the her many ef- The Catholic Commentator ond is like it: “You shall love your neigh- God. However, she stressed that there work. This French Settlement couple is now raising They are good girls. If you give them a little at- first time he forts she has bor as yourself.” were also saints in the audience before Charlotte’s three great-grandchildren, a fourth tention, they are so loving, Charlotte said. responded.” been unable to pproximately 1,000 If people love God, they simply can- her. grader and two kindergartners. Besides an abundance of love, the Meades have Deemer, learn the sign young people learned they not “get by” partially fulfilling the com- Froeba stated that modern technology “It’s been a drastic adjustment. I have to be a given the girls a safe, happy environment in which who was 57 language that can expand their hearts, mandment, but they must put their whole gives people more opportunity to uplift mom again,” Charlotte Meades said. “I had to get to thrive. They live on an acre lot in the country when Damian Damian uses at souls and minds by ap- heart, mind and soul into it by loving their and evangelize people around the world them in school, help with homework, fix supper.” where there is plenty of room to “ride bikes, make was born, took school. plying Jesus’ command neighbor. The bishop pointed out that the by sending positive messages through “It’s been a big change, going from peace and friends and just be happy,” Charlotte said. him home with her She described to Alove their neighbor to people around word neighbor used to mean those living text messages and social media. She chal- quiet to this,” Glen Meades added, obviously loving On a recent visit to the Meades home, it was and has been raising Damian as a good the globe at the Oct. 26 Diocesan World in close proximity. lenged the pilgrims to send the text mes- every minute with the girls, who danced around easy to see the happy environment they have him ever since. young man, who has Youth Day, “Be Still and Listen,” at St. “Technologically, today our neighbor sage to someone who needed to hear it, “I his chair in the family’s living room. “Every morn- created for the children, who were once scared to “Sometimes it is a joy and some- never gotten into any real trouble. George Church in Baton Rouge. may live somewhere across the planet. love you and Jesus loves you.” ing I have to come sit down and get my hugs.” leave the apartment they were living in with their times it is a sorrow,” she said. “He “Damian calls himself taking In his World Day Youth Mass homily, They live next to us symbolically,” the “Some of you may be worried about For now the couple is in good shape but once mother. wants to be normal. He just doesn’t care of me. He wants to boss me Bishop Robert W. Muench guided the bishop said. what other people may think about you they retire at the end of the year, they are worried “They think we are rich. Nev’ea says we’re rich understand. He wants to know why around. He tells me to leave stuff youth through the meaning of loving Loving neighbor means living in com- if you do this,” said Froeba, who urged about the financial obligations of raising three because we have food in the refrigerator. And if his momma didn’t keep him.” for him to do.” God, neighbor and self. passionate, loving service to others, the them to put such concerns aside because young children. they ask for something, they usually get it,” Glen Now 74, Deemer calls Damian But she worries about Damian Focusing on the Gos- bishop emphasized. This means coming they can change lives for the better by “We are fortunate because we make good Meades said. Estacy, who is 6, added, “They got her baby. “I tell my daughter ‘you when he goes out especially at night pel reading of that Sun- into contact with people outside of their taking the risk. money, but when we retire our income will be cut much food and they gave me a bike, and a baby had him but God gave him to because he can’t hear. “I tell him day, Matthew 22:34-40, comfort zone. At the final venue, the St. George gym, in half,” Charlotte said, noting that they will have doll.” me. You just carried him for nine when it starts getting dark, come the bishop stated in an- He also talked about the importance of attendees learned how they can develop to buy clothes and food as well as all the extras Taking care of three such young children has months.’ ” home. Bullets don’t have a name.” cient times, there were people loving, or accepting themselves, that well of faith and love within them- involved in raising children. forced the Meades to get on a schedule. They have Damian and Deemer live to- Deemer has taught Damian to 613 laws or precepts to so they can give back to others. selves – by spending time being still and The Meades gained custody of the three girls in to drop the girls off at day care, drive to work, and gether in a small house on Spanish fend for himself. He knows how to follow. The bishop pointed “Some of us don’t love ourselves,” said silent with God. Several reflections were August because their mother just couldn’t handle then pick them up after school. Then it’s homework Town Road. They have little money, cook and soon will be taking driv- out that 248 were about the bishop. presented by members of the Diocesan the day-to-day stress of raising them, Charlotte time where they rotate helping the younger girls. but lots of love. Deemer, who is ing lessons. Damian attends a spe- what they should do, and He pointed out that what matters is Youth Board about how God can address Meades said. “It wasn’t drugs or anything like that. “We are more homebodies now,” Charlotte said. Damian’s legal guardian, gets a total cial education class at Broadmoor 365 were about what they that people put their energy into lov- the special concerns in their lives. There She was young when she had the 9-year-old. It just Both Glen and Charlotte schedule special time of $800 a month from her retire- High School where he is assisted by should not do. ing God, the fruits of which can be seen were moments of silence and music to got harder and harder for her to take care of them. with the children. Charlotte’s time is Wednesday ment from the city-parish govern- an interpreter. He loves school and Because people are fond through them loving their neighbors as foster the quietness of souls for the youth. And the daddy wouldn’t pay child support.” nights when Glen teaches a class. She takes the ment of East Baton Rouge and would like to be a teacher some day, of listings or rankings, the themselves. The day concluded with youth prac- Charlotte Meades is a relative newlywed herself girls out to eat, or walks around WalMart with social security, plus Damian gets a Deemer said. “I don’t discourage bishop told the youth that After Mass, the young people traveled ticing “loving neighbor” by returning to having married Glen, an instructor at a technical them. Glen has claimed Saturday mornings, when disability check. “We are on a tight him. I tell him he can do anything the Pharisees attempted to to the St. George football field, where they the football field and sorting items col- college, only four years before. the girls will bring him coffee and their special budget. I pay the bills, buy food and he puts his mind to.” catch Jesus saying some- learned about the lives of past and pres- lected for the Office of Refugee Services But she said he welcomed the girls and told her “coffee cookies” and tell him about their week. pay car insurance and all I need to Damian visits his mother and thing wrong when they ent saints. of Catholic Charities of the Diocese of Ba- to “bring them here and we will take care of them.” Already Glen had to give up his truck for a do. I don’t have money left to pay her five other children with whom asked him which com- Several Diocesan Youth Board mem- ton Rouge. “My granddaughter didn’t want to give up cus- vehicle that the girls could climb into easier and house insurance, so I don’t worry he has a good relationship, as mandment of the law is the bers presented a skit about saints gath- “With over 50 million people displaced tody but it was the only way we could get them into the home office has been converted into a bedroom about it. It’s not really enough, but I well as cousins, aunts and uncles. greatest. He pointed out ered together at the table of God in loving around the world today (the first time in school,” Meades said. The girls spend most week- for the oldest girl, while the younger ones share a make do. Deemer has six surviving children, that the first is “You shall embrace of each other and God. the post-World War II era) what these ends with their mom and she frequently drops by room. “I’m living. I wake up every 19 grandchildren and one great- love your God with all your Next, Emily Froeba, religion instructor youth are doing is more important than to visit them. The Meades are trying to help their But the Meades don’t seem to mind at all. “It’s morning. I give it to the Lord and let grandchild. heart, with all your soul at St. Michael the Archangel High School, ever,” said Corina E. Salazar, director of granddaughter get back on her feet. refreshing to have them around. It keeps us going,” him handle it,” she said. “Everyday “I’m just doing my best to get him and with all your mind.” talked about how the saints of the past set Refugee and Immigration Services. In the meantime, Charlotte Meades has re- Charlotte said. I live by faith. I pray a lot and he ready for when I’ m gone,” she said. 12 The Catholic Commentator October 31, 2014 Macklemore and the church

get a lot of interesting looks when I One of Macklemore’s some treatment and everything someone chooses to do. Love is appear in places donning my clerics primary proposes in the religion; Man-made about choosing the good for another. The I(the black clothes with a white collar). song is to criticize big- rewiring of a predisposi- church understands that in every cir- Sometimes the conversations are even otry and hatred toward tion.” cumstance, chastity is what is best for the more interesting. Recently, someone those who openly live a It’s the big ques- beloved. Any exercise of one’s sexuality mentioned to me how happy he was that homosexual lifestyle. “A tion between nurture outside of true marriage is not an exer- the church was changing her teaching culture founded from and nature. Where cise of true love. That goes for married on homosexuality. This was news to me, oppression; Yet we don’t does it come from? couples, engaged couples and deacons for so I asked what he meant. He referenced have acceptance for ‘em; Macklemore is right that matter. Everyone’s called to chastity. the bishops’ synod on the family and Call each other (exple- to criticize those who To disagree with Macklemore, we can Pope Francis’ recent comments. I tried tive) behind the keys claim, absolutely, that absolutely change. We can change our ac- to explain to him that the synod was of a message board; A it is a result of nurture. tions no matter what our inclinations are. pastoral, not doctrinal. It was about how word rooted in hate, yet And you know what, The church, with her teaching, isn’t belit- to implement the teachings, not whether our genre still ignores the church makes no tling those who are attracted to the same the teachings should change. No matter it; Gay is synonymous Sign of the Times such claim. In the same sex. She is actually respecting their ability how much we spoke, the gentleman was with the lesser.” Good so paragraph previously to have self-control and live it. insistent the church’s teaching was chang- far! The church agrees Deacon Brad Doyle cited, the Catechism I hope it is clear that the church’s es- ing, or if it wasn’t, then it should. I walked with him on this point. says, “Its psychological sential teachings are not changing. They away a little sad because I truly believe The Catechism states in paragraph 2358, genesis remains largely unexplained.” have always been pastoral and they have that the teachings of the church, though “They (those who struggle with same sex The church doesn’t claim to know where always been rooted in the truth, even if difficult, are what’s good for everyone. attraction) must be accepted with respect, this inclination comes from. When has they have not always been lived perfectly This conversation is often played out in compassion and sensitivity. Every sign nature ever been observed completely by her members. What Macklemore did my daily interactions. Why? Because the of unjust discrimination in their regard separated from nurture anyway? But in a with his song was well intentioned, I’m world is so open about its stance on ho- should be avoided.” No matter what some- sense, it doesn’t even matter, as my next sure, but it is also dangerous. He’s a good mosexuality, while the church is so quiet. one does or thinks or says, we are always point makes clear. rapper, and his song is catchy, but there is One example of a popular teaching on this called to treat them with the respect they Those who find themselves in a situa- a fundamental problem with his under- is the rapper Macklemore’s song “Same deserve. The church has always been clear tion of same sex attraction are not called standing of love, humanity and what we Love.” In a lot of ways the church actu- about this, nothing new here. to anything more or less than anyone are called to. Lies are always more dan- ally agrees with him. That would surprise Macklemore also takes on the divisive else. They are called to chastity and love. gerous when they are wrapped in truth. a lot of people, just as the Pope’s com- question about the origins of same-sex This is where the church disagrees with We have to make sure that, as Catholics, ments have surprised a lot of people. So attraction. “For those that liked the same Macklemore. Love is not about feelings we are listening to more than catchy riffs let us look at the song and find out where sex; Had the characteristics. of affection for another, it’s not about and YouTube comments. We must listen to it agrees with the church and where the “The right wing conservatives think satiating sexual desires for another, and the heart of the Gospel, which is ultimate- church calls us to something higher. it’s a decision; And you can be cured with it’s definitely not about agreeing with ly the fulfillment of every person.

VETERAN VISIT – On Oct. 4, 11 veterans of the armed forces spoke to the seventh- and eighth-grade students at Holy Ghost School in Hammond about their experiences in the military. Their service included World War II, Korea and Vietnam. They talked to the HELPING THE HUNGRY – The Mater Dolorosa School student council in Independence collects can goods and students about the importance of a country being se- monetary donations from the students to donate to a local food bank in Tangipahoa Parish. With the food cure and the importance of an education in a demo- items are, from left, front row, Raven Gandolfo, Anthony Vosbein, Cassie Mixon, Brett Angelette and Ethan cratic society. Seventh-grader Kylie Baudean takes the Mendez; back row, Lily DiBenedetto, Joshua Thiel, Breyahn Powell, Anthony Guernsey, Tori Gillies, Emily Vos- time to hug and thank a veteran. Photo provided by Holy Ghost bein, Olivia Ramsey, Bryleigh Stroud and Jace Angelette. Photo provided by Mater Dolorosa School School October 31, 2014 The Catholic Commentator 13 Pope Francis calls for abolishing death penalty and life imprisonment

VATICAN CITY (CNS) – Pope legal or illegal and in all its forms, man dignity of persons deprived said. “Life imprisonment is a hid- Vatican recently eliminated the Francis called for abolition of the but also to improve prison condi- of their liberty. And this, I con- den death penalty.” death penalty from its own pe- death penalty as well as life im- tions, out of respect for the hu- nect with life imprisonment,” he The pope noted that the nal code. prisonment, and denounced what he called a “penal populism” that promises to solve society’s problems by punishing crime instead of pursuing social justice. “It is impossible to imagine Congratulations! that states today cannot make use of another means than capi- tal punishment to defend peoples’ St. Michael High School Scholars lives from an unjust aggressor,” the pope said Oct. 23 in a meeting with representatives of the International Association of Pe- nal Law. “All Christians and people of good will are thus called today to struggle not only for abolition of the death penalty, whether it be

IWUJI  From page 2 BARRETT KYLE CATHERINE ALBANO KYLE BANKSTON MICHELLE POOLE National Merit Commended Scholar AP Scholar with Honors AP Scholar with Honors AP Scholar with Honors We are in the USA not in the Attended St. Theresa of Avila Attended Most Blessed Sacrament Attended St. Jean Vianney Attended Most Blessed Sacrament sense of the first missionaries who evangelized Nigeria or the USA, rather as St. Paul says in 2Timothy 2:2, “Take the teachings that you heard me proclaim in the presence of many witness- es and entrust them to reliable people, who will be able to teach others also.”

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My observation so far since AI arrived at St. Benedict the Moor/St. Augustine churches is that Africans are the same all over the world with regards to their mode of worship. This origi- nates from our concept of God as our advocate. Africans are so vulnerable in the world, we are the ALEXANDRA DUPRE HAYLEY FRANKLIN PEYTON GRAHAM HEIDI NOWAKOWSKI endangered species among all AP Scholar AP Scholar AP Scholar AP Scholar other races. And so, we have no Attended St. Luke’s Episcopal Attended Cypress Heights Academy Attended Our Lady of Mercy Attended St. Theresa of Avila other advocate but God. As a result, we worship God with everything we have. When I came into NOW St. Benedict the Moor Parish, all I did was adapt myself to a system ACCEPTING of worship I already know. We dance, clap and make a joyful APPLICATIONS noise to God on Sunday. We cel- ONLINE: ebrate our God and one another. Deadline to What do you like to do in RENE SAUCIER MARGARET SPRAQUE MCKENZIE WINDHAM submit – Qyour spare time? AP Scholar AP Scholar AP Scholar Attended St. Jean Vianney Attended Most Blessed Sacrament Attended St. Jean Vianney Nov. 21, 2014 I love to read, watch mov- Aies and crack jokes. But 17521 Monitor Avenue | Baton Rouge, LA 70817 | 225-753-9782 my hobby is swimming. I love to swim, and of course, ride motor- www.smhsbr.org bikes. 14 The Catholic Commentator ENTERTAINMENT October 31, 2014

the overseer of a heaven-like land of re- tion. There are also a number of ethical Motion Picture Association of America membered souls, the other (voice of Ron lapses at which J. Mills Goodloe and Will MOVIE ratings: G – General audiences; all ages admitted Perlman) the ruler of a desolate world Fetters’ script winks, making this appro- PG – Parental guidance suggested; some populated by forgotten spirits. Although priate material for mature, discerning REVIEWS material may not be suitable for children the film includes mythological aspects viewers only. Gunplay, domestic violence, USCCB Office for Film & Broadcasting PG-13 – Parents are strongly cautioned that might call for discussion with im- drug use, benignly viewed adultery and classifications: to give special guidance for attendance pressionable youngsters, its basic inten- nongraphic nonmarital sexual activity, A-I – General patronage of children under 13; some material may tions do not conflict with Catholic teach- an out-of-wedlock pregnancy, occasional A-II – Adults and adolescents be inappropriate for young children ing. Instead it emphasizes the enduring profane and crude language. A-III; PG-13 A-III – Adults R – Restricted; under 17 requires accom- bonds of family and the importance of A-IV – Adults, with reservations panying parent or adult guardian praying for the deceased. Nonscriptural Fury L – Limited adult audience NC-17 – No one under 17 admitted O – Morally offensive religious themes, some mildly scary se- Sony quences, occasional bathroom humor, a Writer-director David Ayer combines few very mild oaths in Spanish. A-II; PG brutal realism with a passing admixture of scriptural spirituality in this powerful Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No in the midst of adversity. Mild family dis- Addicted study of the psychological effects of com- Good, Very Bad Day cord, some bathroom humor, references Lionsgate bat, set during the last stages of World Disney to body parts. A-II; PG A therapist (Tasha Smith) treats a suc- War II in Europe. Assigned to a veteran cessful businesswoman and married tank crew, despite having been trained The 1972 children’s book by Judith The Book of Life mother of two (Sharon Leal) who is de- for a desk job, a novice gunner (Logan Viorst becomes a manic comedy about Fox scending into sex addiction, despite a Lerman) has difficulty killing the enemy the exploits of a 12-year-old boy (Ed Ox- The “Day of the Dead,” the traditional stable relationship with her architect until subjected to the savage mentoring of enbould) as he experiences the seem- Mexican method of observing All Souls husband (Boris Kodjoe) and the positive the vehicle’s commander (Brad Pitt) and ingly worst day of his life. In a departure Day, is the backdrop for this entertaining influence of her mother (Maria Howell), the peer pressure of his newfound com- from the book, director Miguel Arteta and visually stunning 3-D animated ad- who helps run their Atlanta household. rades (Shia LaBeouf, Michael Pena and and screenwriter Rob Lieber extend the venture directed and co-written by Jorge Since director Bille Woodruff’s film is Jon Bernthal). As he navigates the kill- mayhem to the boy’s parents (Steve Carell R. Gutierrez. A museum guide (voice of adapted from the first in a series of erotic or-be-killed environment into which he and Jennifer Garner) and siblings (Dylan Christina Applegate) tells schoolchildren novels by Kristina Laferne Roberts who has been thrown, the neophyte warrior Minnette, Kerris Dorsey, Elise and Zoey a fairy tale about two best friends (voices goes by the pen name Zane, gaudy, elabo- gradually learns to follow the lead of his Vargas) so they, too, can feel what it’s like of Diego Luna and Channing Tatum) who rately choreographed bedroom activity superior – suspending some aspects of at the very bottom of the totem pole. Amid compete for the affections of a beautiful soon overtakes any more serious purpose. basic morality while keeping other facets relentless physical gags, a peeing baby woman (voice of Zoe Saldana). Their ri- From there on, the proceedings, which of his humanity intact. Mature moviego- and a vomiting teenager, there’s a small valry is witnessed – and influenced – by emphasize considerable undulating in ex- ers will require sound judgment to as- lesson here in how a family pulls together two gods, one (voice of Kate del Castillo) pensive negligees, unusually long shower sess the terms of that bargain as well as a times and gratuitous peeks at male back- high tolerance for harsh visuals to endure sides, might be said to occupy that nether- the graphically portrayed circumstanc- nether land between soft-core pornogra- es which lead to its adoption. Pervasive phy and a big-screen soap opera. Strong wartime violence with much gore, an off- sexual content – including graphically screen nonmarital bedroom encounter, portrayed adultery, aberrant behavior numerous uses of profanity, relentless and upper female and rear nudity – fre- rough and crude language. L; R quent rough language, much sexual ban- ter. O; R Ouija Universal The Best of Me After a seemingly happy teen (Shelley Relativity Hennig) mysteriously hangs herself, her Based on the 2011 best-selling novel best pal (Olivia Cooke) and her boyfriend by Catholic author Nicholas Sparks, this (Douglas Smith) are left with a host of entertaining but morally flawed drama troubling questions. So, together with about destiny, directed by Michael Hoff- some of the other people in her life (Ana man, poses a perennial question: If given Coto, Bianca Santos and Daren Kagasoff), a second chance, would you pursue a they ill-advisedly try to communicate with lost love? Former high school sweet- the deceased girl using an Ouija board she hearts (James Marsden and Michelle had recently unearthed in her attic. A half- Monaghan) are reunited after 20 years baked cautionary tale that nonetheless apart when they return to their small serves as extended product placement for Louisiana hometown for the funeral of a the Hasbro version of the device, director mutual friend (Gerald McRaney). The duo and co-writer Stiles White’s muddled chill- continues to carry a torch for each other, er is an amateurish effort that delivers few despite her unhappy marriage and unre- jolts and little entertainment. Its ambigu- solved issues from his past. That history ous portrayal of a spiritually dangerous is examined in flashbacks featuring their pastime, moreover, makes the film totally younger selves (Luke Bracey and Liana unsuitable for impressionable viewers. Liberato). For these star-crossed lovers, Occult themes, brief but harsh violence, a there are many shocking twists and turns suicide, a couple of crude terms, some mild on the road to reconciliation and redemp- oaths. A-III; PG-13

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1234 56789 1112130 1 Happy Little Pill 41 51 61 71 81 91 In the crowd, alone Gucci down the boulevard And every second passing, reminds me I’m Cocaine, dollar bills and ... 02 12 22 not home My happy little pill, take me away 243 252 Bright lights and city sounds are ringin’ like Dry my eyes, bring color to my skies a drone My sweet little pill, take my hunger 62 287 2920313 I know, I know But within, numb my skin 332 343 53 63

Refrain: Like a rock, afloat 73 398 3 04 Oh, blazed eyes, empty hearts Sweatin’ conversations, seep into my bones Buyin’ happy from shopping carts Four walls are not enough, I’ll take a dip into 14 24 443 4 Nothin’ but time to kill The unknown, unknown 465 4 74 Sippin’ love from bottles Tight skin, bodyguards (Repeat refrain twice.) 498 40515 Sung by Troye Sivan | Copyright 2014 by EMI Music. Australia 532 545 56575 5 85 95 610 6 26 Adjusting to a new environment takes 36 46 56 66 76 86 time and effort, not pills moc.scilohtacrofsemagdrow.www ACROSS bim, for example ustralian Troye Sivan is a there are a few things that can 1 Paul preached in ___ Minor 2 Connected series of rooms 5 Eight singers 3 Below versatile entertainer. He is help you. 10 “Do not put the Lord your God to 4 Starlike symbol a singer, actor and a You- First, recognize that meeting the ___” (Lk 4:12) 5 Ursuline order letters A 14 They take solemn vows 6 North American country with Tube personality. He is currently new people is up to you. Small 15 Her tomb was the first thing approximately 40% Catholic releasing a new album with the groups are conducive to meeting bought in the Bible population single, “Happy Little Pill.” others. Seek out opportunities to 16 In this spot, to Gottfried 7 Journey The song’s character appears to meet with those who share inter- 17 One of seven of the Holy Spirit 8 Sign outside a greasy spoon 18 Join 9 “O Mary! we crown ___ with feel lost in a new place and feels as ests. Colleges and schools have 19 Second word of a Latin hymn blossoms today” if “every second passing reminds lots of groups for people based on 20 Raison d’___ 10 “Blessed are those who hunger me I’m not home.” His life, he says, interests. Many often are welcom- 21 Where the altar is located and ___ for righteousness…” 22 Soaks, as flax (Mt 5:6) is like “a rock afloat,” where he is ing to newcomers. Another way 23 Having knowledge 11 Island converted in the 5th century “sweating conversations” and feels to meet people can be found in 26 South American Indian 12 Center of power as if “four walls are not enough.” ministry and church groups, but 27 Make a member of the Church 13 Very, in Versailles 32 Ship 24 Wind dir. He looks around and sees oth- you must take the initiative to 35 Holy ___ 25 Cream cake ers with “blazed eyes” and “empty introduce yourself. 36 Soissons salt 27 Line of a sort hearts” and “buying happy from On The Record Volunteering also offers pos- 37 OT prophetic book 28 Charge with gas 38 Tribe of Israel 29 “___ something I said?” shopping carts” and “sipping love Charlie Martin sibilities for meeting others. Not 40 Edges 30 OT prophetic book from bottles.” He wonders if he only will you likely be doing some 41 SS supplement 31 Actress Lancaster needs “a dip into the unknown,” good for others, but meeting and 42 Acknowledgement of debt 32 Veronica’s covering 43 Patron saint of jewelers 33 Book after Chronicles but looks to his “happy little pill” to “dry my eyes” working with the other volunteers will help you 45 Portable lamp 34 Catholic actor Connery and “bring color to my skies.” form a bond. 47 Thrust with a knife 35 Moo ___ pork He is clearly hurting as he tries to deal with the Look for interests that you enjoy. For example, if 48 The people of Abraham 39 ___ of Man 52 “…the greatest of these is ___” 40 The Diocese of Corner Brook lack of meaningful connection with others. you enjoy theater, join a new production team, even (I Cor 13:13) and ___ He doesn’t say what “pill” he is taking, but if it is as a volunteer. If you like physical activities, 55 “…now and at the ___ of our 44 Chatter given the song’s other references, it seems likely join intramural sports or a city’s organized sports death. Amen” 46 Catholic poet/essayist John 58 West Indian tree Samuel ___ to be some form of drug that he says can take him league, or take a class that interests you. 59 Attention getter 47 Holy place “away” from all the hurt he feels. Dance, art or classes involving physical activ- 60 Patriarch respite, perhaps 49 Acapulco year opener Of course, there are many types of medicines or ity, such as kayaking or rock climbing, are readily 62 “Truly, I say to you, this very night, 50 Fermented grape juices before the cock crows, you will 51 Cunningly “pills” that help people manage all sorts of illness- available in most places. ___ me three times.” (Mt 26:34) 52 Promised ___ es. These medications are essential for a person’s Transitions take time, but they do not have to 63 One of Columbus’ ships 53 The Diocese of Youngstown is well-being. However, no “pill” can sustain happi- lead to the sense of isolation that the song suggests. 64 Pool worker found here 65 Hershisher of the diamond 54 ___, vidi, vici ness and no bottle supplies the love we need. Of course, while you are developing a new life, so 66 Murder 55 Communion wafer We don’t know why, but the song’s character ap- to speak, stay connected with the sources of sup- 67 Hurled 56 Pledge pears to be in some sort of transition. His new place port from your former life. In our time, technology 68 Going well 57 Addict 61 Birds of the air don’t do this (Mt of “bright lights and city sounds” seems to be far provides many ways to do this. Use it. DOWN 6:26) from his “home.” He finds himself disconnected and Transitions are challenging for everyone, but 1 One of the seraphim or cheru- Solution on page 18 maybe a bit lonely as he goes through this transition. depend on the values that have always guided your For those of us who have experienced this, such life and ask God to help you form a lasting basis for times in life are difficult. Given the opportuni- happiness in your new surroundings. ties for education and work in modern times, a lot Remember that you can’t find love or happiness of people go through these difficult moments of through substances. adjustment. We need to ask how to best navigate through these tough moments. MARTIN is an Indiana pastoral counselor who While there isn’t one particular way to address reviews current music for Catholic News Service. these challenges, clearly there are better approach- Your comments are always appreciated. Write to: es than bottles and pills. Feeling disconnected [email protected], or at: 7125 West CR 200 can leave one feeling bewildered, but it is also an South, Rockport, IN 47635, or like on Facebook at opportunity to form new connections and friend- “Charlie Martin’s Today’s Music Column” and post ships. If you are going through such a transition, a comment or suggestion. 16 The Catholic Commentator VIEWPOINT October 31, 2014

| EDITORIAL Busing in Baton Rouge

bout a month ago I received a call from and recruit others Peace through prayer a nun whom I have known for about 40 to be 100 percent Ayears. Sister Loretta Spotila CSA (Con- voting in: __ My A professional football player returns an interception for a touch- gregation of St. Augustine), and I met at Catholic household; __My down in a prime-time game and is penalized for praying in the end University in Washington, D.C., where we were workplace; __My zone. both in graduate school. She was studying for faith community; A young student is banned from praying in the school cafeteria her masters degree in nursing. Today and for the __My organiza- before eating lunch. past 20 years she has run a preventive medicine tion; __Other.” Across the country, prayer is vilified and banished in classrooms, center in Irvine, Ky., in the middle of Appalachia. For the local courtrooms and government meetings. She asked me to pray for her because for a week voters there is also The demonization of prayer, no matter one’s religious beliefs, or so, she was going to be a “Nun on the Bus.” You a handout with comes at a time when the country is bordering on societal anarchy may have heard about this project begun by Sister the positions of because of political schisms, partisan pertinacity and cultural en- Simone Campbell SSS, the executive director of Louisiana Senate mity. Network, a national Catholic social justice lobby candidates on Is it coincidence that the excoriation of prayer also comes at a time in Washington, D.C. Last year she recruited nuns Another the issues, listing when world peace is perhaps facing its greatest threat across many to join her on a social justice pilgrimage through voting records fronts, including whatever terrorist group using a catchy acronym is the country promoting better immigration Perspective and quoted state- grabbing the headlines? legislation. They, along with other groups, were ments by Bill Pope Francis is rightly monolithic in his approach that the only apparently influential in pushing the Senate to Father John Carville Cassidy and Mary solution to world peace is through prayer. War is not the artery to draft new legislation. Unfortunately, the bill never Landrieu on: peace, but a violent response that ultimately carries the catastrophic got to the House floor, a fate met by quite a few Enacting a Living Wage, Protecting Immigrant price of the loss of lives of young people as well as innocent victims. other bills. Rights, Securing Healthcare for All, Crafting a As we watch events unfold in our own borders and across the Once again, three weeks ago, Sister Loretta Faithful Budget that Benefits the 100 percent, world, the natural response is often a call to arms. But peace, a true called, informing me that the “bus” was on Promoting Nonviolent Solutions to Conflict, and lasting peace, can never be attained through warfare. There is another pilgrimage, promoting a get-out-the-vote Creating Reasonable Revenue for Responsible never a winner, contrary to what history records, and the scars on campaign, and it would arrive in Baton Rouge the Programs, and Controlling Big Money in Elec- both sides remain unhealed for generations. next day, Oct. 14, and I should greet it. Well, when tions. These are the big issues in the national Rather, prayer is the answer to a lasting peace, and with the world you were taught by nuns for 10 years, you learned election. However, we in Louisiana also will have at a global crossroads, the demand for divine intervention has never that the proper response is to obey. You don’t have to vote on many other issues peculiar to us. The been higher. Without firing a shot, without carrying a weapon, we to salute – just do it. I must admit that my interest important thing is for everyone to vote. as Catholics can be the conduits to peaceful resolution in a restless was peeked. So I showed up at the Gardere Initia- I am really glad that I showed up, not only at world. tive Center on Ned Avenue just off Gardere Lane the bus but also at the Gardere Initiative. I got to at 10 a.m. meet Sister Simone, who has been a wonderful | The bus was already there, and quite a bus social justice advocate on the national scene and PRAY FOR THOSE WHO PRAY FOR US it was, Greyhound size, but outfitted like a very also quite a few Baton Rougeons who work very Please pray for the priests, deacons and religious women and men in the large recreational vehicle. In addition to an hard for the good of their neighbors. Edith Babin, Baton Rouge Diocese. impressive and artistic “Nuns on the Bus” legend long at LSU together with her deceased husband, painted on the side were huge painted campaign Dr. James Babin, now volunteers at The Gardere Nov. 4 Rev. J. Clifton Hill CSSp Nov. 11 Rev. Kenneth W. Laird buttons with slogans like “I am a voter,” “I will Initiative Center working with children of the area Dcn. Alfred Adams Sr Dcn. William B. Blair Jr. vote!,” “Support the 100%” and “We the People, in a special tutoring program. She and other vol- Br. Ray Hebert SC Sr. Helen Cahill OSF We the Voters.” Everyone who signed a Pledge unteers also put on a formal dinner once a month Nov. 5 Rev. James Hooks SJ Nov. 12 Rev. Charles R. Landry to Be a Voter card was also allowed to sign their for the whole neighborhood. And the neighbor- Dcn. Michael A. Agnello Dcn. Daniel S. Borne name with a dry erase marker on the side of the hood people have a prayer service regularly “to Sr. Carolyn Brady CSJ Br. Will McCue SC white bus. Guess who was the first to sign? On spread hope.” In an area sometimes troubled Nov. 6 Rev. Gordian O. Iwuji MSP Nov. 13 Rev. Keun-Soo Lee the side of the bus in John Hancock size script is with crime and violence, hope is needed. Dianne Dcn. Donald L. Ard Dcn. Claude H. Bourgeois Jr. the signature of Joe Biden, vice president of the Handley, director of the St. Joseph Spirituality Br. Ronald Hingle SC Sr. Kathleen Cain OSF United States. The bus’ journey began in D.C., and Center and a leader in the Together Baton Rouge Nov. 7 Rev. Joshua D. Johnson Nov. 14 Rev. Gerald M. Lafebvre the vice president was there to speak and send it movement, was there and told me how they had Dcn. Frank E. Bains Dcn. Eugene F. Brady off. Sister Simone told me that Biden said it was doubled the percentage of people voting for public Sr. Marie deMontfort Breaux SSF Br. Malcolm Melcher SC something he wanted to do because the nuns and bus transportation and finally secured dedicated Nov. 8 Rev. Jon C. Koehler Nov. 15 Rev. C. Todd Lloyd the Jesuits were what had kept him Catholic for so funding for it. Now they are working to keep our Dcn. Thomas D. Benoit Dcn. Jerry W. Braud many years. Since Biden can’t go anywhere with- community together as one unified city. Quite Br. Warren Laudumiey SC Sr. Judith Couturie CSJ out the Secret Service, they got on the bus too. a few others came to meet the bus and see the Nov. 9 Rev. Sanjay Kunnasseril IMS Nov. 16 Rev. Matthew P. Lorrain The pledge to vote is bi-partisan and highlights Gardere Initiative Center. I am not sure how many Dcn. Mark T. Berard Dcn. Patrick J. Broussard Jr. some important civic virtues and responsibilities. were center volunteers. We all, along with Sister Sr. Judith Brun CSJ Br. Paul Montero SC It begins with a preamble, “We the people, we Simone and those on the bus with her, received a Nov. 10 Rev. J. Joel LaBauve Nov. 17 Rev. P. Brent Maher the voters, in order to form a more perfect union, complete tour of the learning center from Murelle Dcn. Willie M. Berthelot Sr Dcn. Barry G. Campeaux must: Harrison, its director. You can find out more about Br. Noel Lemmon SC Sr. Renee Daigle MSC • Vote: Strong voter turnout overpowers the the project at GardereInitiative.org and Facebook. influence of big money in politics. Dollars can’t com/Gardere Initiative. vote, you can; We all must hope, vote our conscience and • Encourage others to vote: When we encour- pray that our elected leaders find a way to work Mission Statement age people to vote, we make sure that the voices of together for the common good of all. It is more The mission of The Catholic Commentator is to provide news, the 100 percent are heard. Urge and help others than just politics; we need a nation and states information and commentary to the people of the Diocese of to vote. and cities that are whole and moving forward Baton Rouge, Catholics and their neighbors alike. In doing so, • Hold Candidates Responsible: When we together. The Catholic Commentator strives to further the wider mis- demand that candidates commit to policies that sion of the Church: to evangelize, to communicate, to educate benefit the 100 percent, we can all hold them ac- FATHER CARVILLE is a retired priest of the Diocese and to give the Catholic viewpoint on important issues of the countable when they are elected. When the people of Baton Rouge. He writes on current topics for present day. vote, politicians listen.” Then comes the pledge: “I, The Catholic Commentator and can be reached __, pledge to be a voter. I will vote in the election at [email protected]. October 31, 2014 VIEWPOINT The Catholic Commentator 17 The unhappy cost of resentment t’s not only love that makes the world not happy, but with good risy and articulating every person or a person whose talents dwarf go round. Resentment too is prominent reason. reason not to admire. Such yours, that you admire her, that you ad- Iin stirring the drink. In so many ways Yes, there’s always good is the view today. mire what she’s doing, that her gifts enrich our world is drowning in resentment. reason to be resentful; But what we don’t admit your life and that you are happy that her Everywhere you look, it seems, someone is but, and this is the point in this view of maturity path has crossed yours? When was the last bitter about something and breathing out of this column, according and learning is how we feel time you gave someone a heartfelt compli- resentment. What is resentment? Why is to a number of insightful threatened by those whose ment? Or, to reverse the question: When this feeling so prevalent in our lives? How analysts, both old and new, graces or virtues exceed was the last time that someone, especially do we move beyond it? we are rarely in touch with our own. What we don’t someone who is threatened by your tal- Soren Kierkegaard once defined the real reason we are so admit is our own jealousy. ents, gave you a sincere compliment? resentment in this way. Resentment, he spontaneously bitter. For What we don’t admit is our We don’t compliment each other easily, suggested, happens when we move from persons such as Thomas own resentment. What we or often, and this betrays a secret jealousy. the happy feeling of admiration to the Aquinas, Soren Kierkeg- don’t admit, and never will It also reveals a genuine moral flaw in our unhappy feeling of jealousy. And this, aard, Robert Moore, Gil Bai- admit, is how our need to lives. Thomas Aquinas once submitted sadly, happens all too frequently in our lie, Robert Bly and Richard In Exile cut down someone else is that to withhold a compliment from some- lives, and we are dangerously blind to its Rohr, among others, the an infallible sign of our one who deserves it is a sin because we are occurrence. Me resentful? How dare you deep root of our resentment Father Ron Rolheiser own jealousy and bad self- withholding from him or her some of the make that accusation! and unhappiness lies in our image. And what helps us food that he or she needs to live. To not Yet it’s hard to deny that resentment inability to admire, our inability to praise in our denial is this: Cynicism and cold admire, to not praise, to not compliment, and its concomitant unhappiness color others and our inability to give others and judgment make for a perfect camouflage; is not a sign of sophistication but a sign of our world. At every level of life, from the world a simple gaze of admiration. we don’t need to admire because we’re moral immaturity and personal insecu- what we see playing out in the grievances We’re a society that, for the most part, bright enough to see that there’s nothing rity. It is also one of the deeper reasons and wars among nations, to what we see can’t admire. Admiration is, for us, a lost really to admire. why we so often fill up with bitter feelings playing out in the bickering in our board virtue. Indeed in the many circles today, That, too often, is our sophisticated, of resentment and unhappiness. rooms, class rooms, living rooms and both in the world and in the churches, unhappy state: We can no longer truly Why do we so often feel bitter and bedrooms, there is evidence of resent- admiration is seen as something juvenile admire anybody. We can no longer truly resentful? We fill with resentment for ment and bitterness. Our world is full of and immature, the frenzied, mindless praise anybody. We can no longer look at many reasons, though, not least, because resentment. Everyone, it seems, is bitter shrieking of teenage girls chasing a rock the world with any praise or admiration. we have lost the virtues of admiration about something, and, of course, not star. Maturity and sophistication are Rather our gaze is perennially soured and praise. without cause. Few are the persons who identified today with the kind of intel- by resentment, cynicism, judgment and do not secretly nurse the feeling that they ligence, wit and reticence, which don’t jealousy. OBLATE FATHER ROLHEISER, theologian, teacher have been ignored, wounded, cheated, easily admire, which don’t easily compli- We can test ourselves on this: Robert and award-winning author, is president treated unfairly and have drawn too many ment. Learning and maturity, we believe, Moore often challenges his audiences to of the Oblate School of Theology in San short straws in life; and so many of us feel need to be picking things apart, suspi- ask themselves this question: When was Antonio, TX. He can be contacted through that we have every right to protest our cious of others’ virtues, distrustful of the last time you walked across a room his website ronrolheiser.com. Now on right to be resentful and unhappy. We’re their motives, on hyper-alert for hypoc- and told a person, especially a younger Facebook, facebook.com/ronrolheiser

| LETTER TO THE EDITOR Helping the world, one family at a time Trumping civil law belong to a Catholic group that gathers We have been given a list of mom? That picture brought for prayer and good works. At a recent items the family needs to be- the war to my kitchen table As I read Paul Aucoin’s letter to Imeeting, we discussed a project to help a gin their new life, from a ref- in a way that statistics can’t. the editor (10/3/14), my first reac- refugee family resettle in our city. ugee camp on one continent Millions of Syrians have tion was that of anger. But I had to The discussion was practical until the to the dizzying environment fled their homes, some admit to myself it wasn’t too long leader asked everyone to explain what mo- of a busy American city. have left for neighboring ago that I shared his views. tivated them to consider the project. They’ll need everything, countries such as Turkey Aucoin’s concern for controlling That’s when my friend began to cry. from toothbrushes to cleaning or Lebanon. our borders is well-founded, and She couldn’t watch the news, she said, supplies, to a table and beds. Additionally, millions everyone can agree that illegal im- with its frequent reporting of misery and They need bus tokens, towels more have fled wars in migration is a serious problem. That tragedy around the world without becom- and garbage cans. The list is countries throughout the said, Catholics must free themselves ing overwhelmed and wondering, “How can long and specific. We realized world. Millions live, some- from the political rhetoric and I help?” that by taking on the mate- times for decades, in refu- name-calling and listen to what the I’ll admit that my friend cries easily, but rial needs of one family, we’re gee camps established by master said and continues to say. there are few of us who can handle the daily making a dent, scratching the For The Journey the United Nations, and Perhaps another way to view this onslaught of horrific news without feeling barest surface, of human trou- many will never have a is to remove the name “Paul Au- deep emotions. We seem to move from one bles in this weary world. Effie Caldarola chance to go home. coin” from the ending of the letter, humanitarian crisis to another. There is a saying, “He who saves a life A few “lucky” ones will be sent by the U.N. and substitute “Jesus Christ” as the Whether it’s the enormous suffering of saves the world entire.” Sometimes the news to countries like ours, and to cities like mine. author of the letter. In my opinion, those affected by Ebola in African cities on obscures individual suffering. People are They come from Bhutan, Iraq, the Congo, much editing of the letter would the verge of internal collapse, or the horrors lost in a blur of huge numbers. That’s when South Sudan. They come to a strange place, need to be done before it could be of war and beheadings in the Middle East assisting one family brings home reality. to live among strangers in a culture, customs attributed to the master. Is it easy to or the sight of young children trying to find I recently saw a news photo of a baby, a and language foreign to them. follow the teachings of Jesus? Cer- refuge from violence by making the long few months old, in the arms of a Turkish For many, the apartments they will be tainly not, but we should be able to journey across Central America, it has been soldier in full battle regalia. The soldier was able to afford will be in tough neighbor- agree that God’s law trumps civil a gruesome year. The suffering of refugees looking for the Syrian child’s parents in the hoods. The adjustment will be hard, the law every time. is one of the most painful to behold. wake of thousands fleeing a city besieged by loneliness deep. Our group will be assigned a family by a Islamic State fighters. The baby was cradled There are few fairy-tale endings here. But John Singleton local agency that handles placement of refu- against a gun slung across the soldier’s chest. there is a chance, one family at a time, to tell Livingston gees through the U.S. Department of State. I wondered: Did that baby ever find his them that we care about a suffering world. 18 The Catholic Commentator COMING EVENTS October 31, 2014

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BLESSING FOR 40 DAYS FOR LIFE – Bishop Robert W. Muench blesses the 40 Days for Life movement outside of Delta Abortion Clinic in Baton Rouge on Oct. 23. The 40 Days for Life campaign calls for fasting, community outreach and vigil prayer to end Better is abortion. Organizers have noted much success so far, with many unborn lives being saved since its beginning on Sept. 24. The campaign ends Sunday, Nov. 2. Photo by Debbie Shelley | The Catholic Com- Named regioN’s best mentator for 16 years — thaNk you! Don’t forget about Sarah!

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