High Schools Fail to Support Gay Teens Homosexual Students Remain Isolated in Atmosphere of Conformity and Peer Pressure, Surrounded by Homophobia
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In Section 2 In Sports An Associated Collegiate Press Five-Star All-American Newspaper From hoop glory and a National Pacemaker Kline pretends to soccer sorrow, to be President Sports in Review page 84 page 81 TUESDAY High schools fail to support gay teens Homosexual students remain isolated in atmosphere of conformity and peer pressure, surrounded by homophobia By Laura Moss "I went to my guidance counselor, and The fear of exposure and rejection is service will not be available until and, like a large percentage of gay and SUff RepOtter her response was, 'Well you're not, are strong and real to approximately 10 percent September. lesbian teens, suicidal. Karl Marking knew in elementary school you?' of America's high school students. Until then, most of Delaware's gay and According to a 1989 report on youth that he was attracted to other males. In Delaware, the emotional turmoil of gay lesbian high school students will remain suicide by the U.S. Secretary of Health, gay "A male friend and I used to fool around and lesbian teenagers is compounded by a isolated in an atmosphere of conformity and and lesbian high school students account for with oral sex," Marking said. "I knew that I lack of youth-specific support networks for peer pressure, surrounded by homophobic up to 30 percent of all teenage suicide. liked boys. I thought all boys liked boys. 0 bstacles to education gay teens, and an attitude in the classrooms jokes, and faced with all the confusion of "It's a lot to take on at that age -to take "By the eighth grade, I started hearing the that many officials and students say is adolescence. on all that anger and mistrust," Marking word 'faggot' used as an insult by my Third in a series of stories unaccepting and homophobic. After being rejected the first time, said. friends. I didn't know what it meant, so I Although there are plans for a teen Marking said he never again reached out to Yolanda Martin, a sophomore at John looked it up in the dictionary. When I saw "I wasn't stupid- of course, I said no." oriented support group in Delaware, an adult for support until after he graduated Dickinson High School in Wilmington, said what it meant, I thought to myself, 'gee, Now, at age 25, he is openly gay man Caroline Alvini, HIV counseling and testing from high school and moved away to the two openly lesbian students at her school that's how I feel' and I realized that feeling attending Goldey Beacom College, and his coordinator for the Delaware Lesbian and college. that way was bad. story is not an unusual one. Gay Health Advocates (DLGHA), said the He said this left him confused, depressed see DElAWARE HIGH SCHOOLS page A5 The Year in Sports UD receives funds to assist disabled $200,000 a year in federal money to be used for statewide handicap programs By Melanie Mannarino better programs, personnel, services Staff Repotter and opportunities for those people The university will receive who need it," Peters said. $200,000 from the federal The UD/UAP is geared to help government to establish a program people who are diagnosed with a for disabled Delawareans, who developmental disability before the represent 3 percent of the state's age of 22. The disabilities include population. impairment of hearing or sight, An initial $50,000 grant was autism, mental health problems, mental retardation, physical disabilities and chronic illness. • See Editorial page A8 Peters said the university will work with the Delaware given to the university last week to Developmental Disability Planning start the new University of Council, the A.l. DuPont Institute Delaware/University Affiliated and various other state agencies. Program for Families and "The program will help to Developmental Disabilities formalize and enhance working (UDIUAP). relations between all of the After July, the university will organizations," he said. receive the rest of the money The UD/UAP advisory board needed to run the program, which consists of the deans of five was awarded by the U.S. colleges within the university: Department of Health and Services Human Resources, Nursing, Administration on Developmental Education, Arts and Science, and Disabilities. Physical Education, Athletics and Donald L. Peters, professor of Recreation. Individual and Family Studies, is Mary P. Richards, dean for the director of the new program. He College of Arts and Science, said: said its goal is to organize the "This program will bring together university and faculty to create a different parts of the university. unified response to the Other units will probably be called developmentally disabled in the upon as needed to help with the state. initiative." "The program will implement see UD RECEIVES GRANT page A6 Squatter hides out in students' cellar By Michael Regan someone coming or going. City News Editor Mellendick was upstairs at the Six university students learned time and Megan Ryan (HR SO) always to check underneath the was in the family room on the first living room before going to bed. floor when the man came in. When The women, Ryan heard the living on 78 water running she Amstel Avenue, "Our parents are said, "Hello, had no idea that a who's there?" man was living in going crazy. I didn1 When no one their basement. want to sleep in the answered. she ran (Clockwise from upper left) Swimmer Kyal The women said upstairs and told Hackett was a surprise winter success; A UNH they did not go house anymore." Mellendick women's basketball player reveals frustration into the basement someone was in after a crushing loss to the Hens; Lanue Johnson very much because - Malinda Mel/endick the house. and the Delaware football team ran over the their landlord (AS SO) In an upstairs competition until a playoff meeting with stored things there bedroom, Marshall; Basketball's Spencer Dunkley lit it up and did not want ----------- Mellendick held in an NAC championship run; See story page 84. them going into it. the door shut while Ryan called Malinda Mellendick (AS SO) 911. said the girls had no idea the man Mellendick said they were was living there until one night "hysterical" and "petrified" when when he came into the house they heard the man come up the through the front door, went to the stairs and then saw the shadows of bathroom on the first floor and left his footsteps under the door. Counselors share grief with survivors the water running. Ryan said when the police She said she and her arrived the man had left the house. By Clare Lyons and Terri established the Survivors of chose for him to die. housemates rarely locked their She said the police said they Nrws Fr•rurrs Editor Accident and Murder (SAM) support group. "It still is harder to believe Jim has died doors because there was usually see SQUATTER page A4 The death of a husband and the murder of Kit says SAM is not a therapy group, but a than my dad," she says. "It's more a friend brought two women together in support group that helps "normal people cope threatening because it came out of nowhere Newark to cope with new feelings and come with an abnormal problem." and made no sense." r-----INDEX-------------..;..., to new understandings. People who attend the group meetings The murder victims she read about in Computerized resumes .......... .Al have at le~st one thing in common: they are newspapers, she says. somehow seemed Campus Briefs ........... ........ ......Al dealing with a tragic, unexpected death. Kit different than the people she loved. Classified& ........................... ... B6 and Terri are not exceptions. "I think before the crash I believed in Comics .................................... B7 Kit found coming to terms with the some unrealistic way we were very secure," Coping with murder World Briefs .. ......................... .A3 violent, unexpected death of a close friend she says. "It changed my whole outlook on Police Report .. ........................ .Al Last in a series of stories more difficult than accepting the death of her life and on people." father during the same month. She says she experienced the same fear, Review and Opinion ............... A8 Katherine "Kit" Angell and Terri Sensing Her friend and the guardian of her four anger and mistrust other accident and murder Sports ................................ ...... B4 are family aftercare counselors at the Spicer children, Jim Fuller, was killed in the Pan victim- survivors in the group feel. ---Also insidt:--- Am flight I 03 terrorist bombing in 1988. Kit suddenly felt a need to protect her Mullikin Funeral Home. They provide one Proposed gas tax .................... .A3 on-one counseling and workshops for people He had transferred onto the flight so he children because their guardian had been Abbey evacuated ..................... AS grieving the death of a loved one. could be home in time for his son's birthday. harmed, she says. Baseball eliminates Boston Out of special interest in a support group Kit says what makes Jim's death harder is "It made me realize how vulnerable we all A question of accessibility ...... A6 University, page 84 for people whose deaths were not natural, Kit coping with the fact that a human being see REACHING page A4 A2. THE RMEW. May 18, 1993 Computer resumes : speed up job search j the side, he said. Software program These features add interest to allows students to the resume and are designed to Race, gender seen as Delaware attracts large draw the employer's attention to set up 'slide show' the student's skills, Lehr said. ; factors in criminal corporations "The program is good becau s~ activity with up to 200 pages if an employer is looking for ~ "Why inca'porale in Delaware?'' particular skill, for exampl ~ was the topic of discussion for of information computer experience, he can zero Black Arraican women speaker Donald E.