Man Woman Magic Book a Recipe for an Ideal Marriage

Jayasimha’s Man Woman Magic Book A Recipe for an Ideal Marriage Squadron Leader Jayasimha Guinness World Record Holder Memory Maestro, Motivational Speaker, Trainer & Author Man – Woman Magic A Recipe for an Ideal Marriage © All Rights Reserved Squadron Leader Jayasimha All Rights Reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise, without the prior permission of the Author. © Squadron Leader Jayasimha E-mail: [email protected] Website: www.jayasimha.in Facebook : Jayasimha Squadron Leader Man Woman Magic 4 Foreword Marriage is no child’s play. It calls for adequate preparation to ensure it does not land on the rocks. In a game, you either win or lose. But in marriage both parties have to win. This treasure-trove of wisdom will go a long way in cautioning unwary couples planning to marry in haste. It will remind those serious about their relationship that there is much more to marriage than mere love and fresh air! And yes, it will strengthen the bonds of togetherness of couples who have begun to discover that something is amiss in their relationship. I warmly recommend this Marriage Manual to all couples: those planning to get married as well as those who are students of life as we know it. As you go through this book, you will realize that it is not just theoretical knowledge, but a down-to-earth, practical book, full of rich insights. I congratulate Squadron Leader Jayasimha on this commendable work and on the excellent presentation. This book adopts a novel approach to tackle a timeless concern called marriage and how to make it work. Jayasimha’s book comes not just as a welcome breath of fresh air; but addresses a special need of the hour. This book provides not only inspira- tion but many opportunities for families to learn and grow. I have known Squadron Leader Jayasimha for some time now. He is a person who can motivate, educate and inspire people with his own special sense of humour, with truth and honesty, and above all, with modern ideas clothed in home-spun wisdom. Jayasimha is a self-made man. His passion for training and transforming people’s lives has enabled him to take off from his illustrious career in the Indian Air Force and become a successful trainer. He is a man who ‘walks his talk’. His many Guinness World Records are testimonials of his hard work and commitment. I wish Jayasimha all the best in his future endeavours and wish all the readers of this book a happy married life. With Best Wishes, Dr.B.V. Pattahi Ram Hypnotist & Personality Trainer Man Woman Magic 5 Preface How long does it take to know someone? Is a day enough? A fortnight, perhaps? A decade? There really are no rules in a relationship. Sometimes it can take a lifetime. Sometimes all it takes is a glance. We need to understand relationships, which is why we have to ensure that our relationship with our spouse always stays special. “Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.” - Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, ‘Flight to Arras.’ Man remains knotted into many relationships all his life. There are some which he enters into of his own volition. There are others which are forced on him. For example, a romantic relationship is often a voluntary one. A person is under no compulsion to enter into such a relationship unless he himself needs it and is fully satisfied with what it entails. Coming to instinctive relationships, the relationship between a man and a woman is the most fascinating of all human ties because of the special way in which nature has devised it, incorporating in it the important biological act of propagation of the species. There is some sort of magic in a perfect man- woman relationship. But at the same time, the acts that promote the magic between a man and woman can, if combined incorrectly, produce extremely injurious and devastating results. It is a relationship that has the potential to create or destroy, build or ruin. Another defining feature of a man-woman relationship, legitimized by marriage in the Man Woman Magic 6 normal course of things, is that it is meant to last for life. Rarely do other non-familial relationships turn out to be so long- standing. The traditionally protective role of the man and the submissive role of the woman, which has remained the basis of a strong man-woman relationship for centuries, have now been supplanted by equality in partnership. Sharing each other’s travails and caring for each other have been imperative for the success of man- woman relationship at all times. Today, the role of each is also in empowering the other, tapping and promoting the other’s talents and providing opportunities for the other to bloom. “A smiling face is half the meal.” - Latvian Proverb “Ask not what your country can do for you. Ask what you can do for your country,” said US President John F. Kennedy in the 1960s. Though he spoke about one’s country, the statement is true of relationships as well. If a person is concerned more about enriching a relationship with his contribution, rather than reaping the benefits of it, it will be so much easier to have healthier, stronger relationships. A happy marriage is heaven on earth, says the poet, a paradise that even the Gods yearn to enter. Even the best marriages, however, occasionally need to call on reserves of commitment, patience, grit and humour. Easier said than done, you think? This book will answer the questions of all those men and women who have ever sat up at 2 am, ready to pull out their hair while pleading with their partners: “Why don’t you understand?” Relationships fail because men still don’t understand why a woman can’t be more like a man, and women expect men to behave just like they do. I am sure that this book will not only help you come to grips with the opposite sex, but will also help you Man Woman Magic 7 understand yourself, and how you both can lead happier, healthier and more harmonious lives as a result. You are holding this book for a reason. You may be hurting or confused over a marriage or a relationship that has been disturbing you for a long time. You may even feel threatened with what is ahead; a break in communications, a separation, or even a divorce. You are doing everything possible to avoid confrontation with your partner, and sometimes you are able to create the most ingenious plans to prevent pain or to put a band-aid on the bleeding wound of loneliness. Do you want your marriage to improve and to last? If your answer is, “No, I’ve tried everything and nothing works,” then this book is not for you. You have made up your mind that your relationship is irreparable. It is over. However, it is possible that in the privacy of your mind, there is a ray of hope that touches your heart and evokes lingering feelings of love and compassion. Although you hesitate to admit it, you want to say, “Yes, I want this marriage to work. This relationship is important to me. I want to restore it.” If this is the case, then this book is written for you. Stay with it! Give yourself permission to make a new beginning. What do men and women want most from marriage? How can one bring back fun into a marriage? How does one find true love? This book reveals new strategies for reducing the tension and building mutual love and affection in relationships by first recognizing in great detail how men and women are different. Relationships do not have to be such a struggle. Only when we do not understand one another is there tension, resentment, or conflict. In this book you will find practical suggestions about how to reduce frustration and disappointment and to create increasing happiness and intimacy. Man Woman Magic 8 To get the most from this book, consider reading it slowly, underlining the parts that appeal to you, summarizing other parts and reading the summaries again at a later time. Write down, share and discuss some of your thoughts with your partner. Embrace the idea that you are fully in charge of your personal life and that you are capable of improving its quality. Above all, equip yourself with feelings of hope and courage. Anything is possible if you are willing to work at it. And when you have tried, you will know the deep satisfaction of a sincere effort to bring about a reconciliation and bring back love into your relationship. Why writing this book was so tough ? This book took me two years, and more than ten scripts before I could bring myself to rate it ready for publishing. In the course of my research, I have studied papers, interviewed experts and held seminars throughout India. The biggest challenge I faced was when the entire script was accidentally deleted from my laptop after it fell victim to a nasty virus. At one stage, I was so depressed that I even thought of giving up on this book. Somehow, my inner voice told me to do it once again. Hence, I rewrote the entire script, pulling out all the notes I had compiled over so many months. But I never gave up hope: I knew I could do it and I also know that you will definitely like it and recommend this book to others too.

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