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Copyrighted material Hope for the Weary Mom.indd 1 10/23/14 9:09 AM Unless otherwise indicated, all Scripture quotations are from The ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, Eng- lish Standard Version®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Pub- lishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. Verses marked msg are taken from The Message. Copyright © by Eugene H. Peterson 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002. Used by permission of NavPress Publishing Group. Verses marked nasb are taken from the New American Standard Bible ®, © 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995 by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission. (www.Lock- man.org) Verses marked (nlt) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996, 2004, 2007 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved. Verses marked The Voice are taken from The Voice™. Copyright © 2008 by Ecclesia Bible Society. Used by permission. All rights reserved. Cover by Knail, Salem, Oregon Cover photo © Shutterstock / Kite_rin Stacey Thacker and Brooke McGlothlin are represented by MacGregor Literary, Inc. All the incidents described in this book are true. Where individuals may be identifiable, they have granted the author and the publisher the right to use their names, stories, and/or facts of their lives in all manners, including composite or altered representations. In all other cases, names, circumstances, descriptions, and details have been changed to render individuals unidentifiable. HOPE FOR THE WEARY MOM Copyright © 2012 by Stacey Thacker and Brooke McGlothlin Published by Harvest House Publishers Eugene, Oregon 97402 www.harvesthousepublishers.com Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Thacker, Stacey, 1971- Hope for the weary mom / Stacey Thacker and Brooke McGlothlin. pages cm Includes bibliographical references. ISBN 978-0-7369-6080-9 (pbk.) ISBN 978-0-7369-6081-6 (eBook) 1. Mothers—Religious life. 2. Motherhood—Religious aspects—Christianity. I. Title. BV4529.18.T444 2015 248.8'431—dc23 2014020269 All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—electronic, mechanical, digital, photocopy, recording, or any other—except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the publisher. Printed in the United States of America 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 / VP-JH / 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 Copyrighted material Hope for the Weary Mom.indd 2 10/22/14 11:25 AM Contents Foreword by Tricia Goyer ................... 7 Introduction .............................. 11 1. When Your Weakness Is All You Can See ........ 15 2. When You’re Caught in What You’re Not ....... 27 3. Confronting Carol ......................... 43 4. The Marathon of Mothering ................. 55 5. Redeeming Mommy Guilt .................. 67 6. When Gentle Words Won’t Come ............. 79 7. When You Want to Run and Hide ............. 91 8. When Life Hurts Too Much ................. 103 9. When the World Presses In .................. 119 10. Moving from Weariness to Worship ........... 131 11. When You Need HOPE Now ................ 141 Appendices Q&A with Stacey and Brooke ................ 151 Verses for the Weary Mom ................... 159 The Weary Mom Manifesto .................. 163 Gospel Truths for Weary Moms ............... 165 Kitchen Table Talks: Small Group Ideas with Study Guide ......... 167 Resources for the Weary Mom ................ 185 Notes ................................... 203 Copyrighted material Hope for the Weary Mom.indd 3 9/25/14 11:06 AM For the weary mom buried underneath the mess of life and believes she is alone. You are not. Hope is here. Let’s walk together. Copyrighted material Hope for the Weary Mom.indd 4 9/25/14 11:06 AM Acknowledgments Stacey Mike: Thank you for your love, support, and believing I am a writer. I could not have done this without your support. Thanks for helping to make my dream come true. My girls: I am the most blessed mom in the world to have you as daughters. Thanks for cheering for mommy and for giving me time to write each day. You are awesome and I love you very much. Mom: We have learned this year that hope is the anchor that holds us in all things. I love you so much and am proud to be the daughter of such a brave woman. Dad: You have seen face to face what we only see dimly now. I’m so glad we have the hope of heaven and eternity together. I miss you every day. Robin, Angie, Tanya, Krystal, Emily, and Gretchen: Thank you for taking the time to read rough chapters and for encouraging me. I was able to trust you with my heart on the page because you are more like sisters than friends. Kristin: Thank you for listening to the Lord and for seeing what “Hope” could be. Your love and support mean the world to us. Brooke: I can’t believe I get to be on this journey with you. I love seeing Jesus shine through your words and ministry. You are a gift to me, sweet friend. Chip: Thank you for believing in “Hope” and finding the perfect home for it. I am truly grateful for your support and hard work. Kathleen and the Harvest House Publishers Team: Thank you for saying yes and giving us a chance to reach even more moms with “Hope.” It has been an honor partnering with you! Jesus: Thank you for seeing me in my mess and meeting me in the broken place. You loved me too much to leave me there, and called me out into a place of “Hope.” May you be glorified through this humble offering and touch every heart who reads it. Copyrighted material Hope for the Weary Mom.indd 5 9/25/14 11:06 AM Brooke Cory: Thank you for just doing. For cleaning, washing, bathing, feeding, teaching, and all of the other things you did so I could have time to write. You’re a gift to me. Boys: You’re the reason for this book, but even on the hardest days I’m still so very thankful that I get to be your mama. Thank you for keeping me des- perate for Jesus, and for always giving me big, squishy boy hugs when I need them. You’re my favorite boys in the world! Mom and Dad: You’ve always believed in my dreams. Now, as an adult, I can clearly see that you’ve not only believed in my dreams, but sacrificed for them as well. I can only hope to love my children so well. Thank you for cutting your trip to Florida short to come home so I could have time to finish this book. I couldn’t have done it without you. Jamie and Meggen: Thank you so much for cheering me on, encouraging me to keep going, and for the way you have served me throughout the last diffi- cult season of my life. I won’t forget. Kristin: You listened to the Lord. Thank you. Tracey Lane: Thank you for letting me into your heart and for talking so freely about Jarrett. I’m privileged to have known him. Stacey: I can’t imagine writing this book with anyone else. If I had to be “stuck” with someone, I’m sure glad it was you! I’m so grateful for your words of advice and encouragement, both in this book and in my life. Erin Mohring, Jamie Soranno, and Logan Wolfram: Thank you for helping me brainstorm Mommy strengths and for sharing your stories. Chip MacGregor: You believed in us and in the need to keep reaching out to weary moms. Thank you for catching the vision and for championing it for us in ways that went above and beyond the call of duty. We’re so grateful for you. Lysa TerKeurst: You have been such a gift. Thank you for your encourage- ment, wisdom, and expert input on this manuscript. We’re grateful for you and the ministry of Compel. The Hope for the Weary Mom launch team: No words really cut it. Thank you for your faithful prayers, feedback, and encouragement to get this mes- sage out. You are grace to us. My Jesus: You’re enough. Copyrighted material Hope for the Weary Mom.indd 6 9/25/14 11:06 AM Foreword From One Weary Mom to Another ou’d think that because I’ve written a few books for parents and, oh, about a gazillion parenting articles and blogs I’d Y have this mothering thing down. I’ve been a mom for a while, so that should help too. The truth is, at the time I’m writing this my kids are ages 24, 21, 19, 6, 3, and 3. And I’m weary. WEARY. I get a lot of responses when I tell people that I’m a mom of six children. And then when I tell their ages people really get con- fused. After raising our three oldest children almost to adulthood, God led John and me to adopt three more. We adopted Alyssa (one of the three-year-olds) at birth, and just last year we adopted Bella (six), and Casey (three) from the foster care system. To be com- pletely honest I thought it would be easier the second time around. I learned how to set priorities and to focus on what’s truly impor- tant while not trying to compare myself to others. After raising three kids—the feeding and fretting, bathing and battling, caring and correcting—you’d think I’d have this mom thing figured out.