Games You’ve The New 2011 Kean Combats Never Heard of Mustang GT Hatred P. 7 P. 5 P. 3 The Tower www.kean.edu/~thetower Kean University’s student newspaper Volume 10 • Issue 5 Feb. 10-Mar. 9, 2010 Kean Grad Reports from Haiti

By Junior Jean-Baptiste ings all ruined that day.” Perhaps the most harrowing interviews Erick Parker, a 1999 Kean graduate, was was when Parker saw a gentleman lying in Haiti as a reporter and was scheduled on the ground, covering the faces of what to return home on January 12 when the seemed to be his own children. After ask- earthquake hit. ing whether the children were his own, Parker, returned to Kean on Jan. 20 to the gentleman replied, “Yes, they are,” bear witness to students about his experi- with tears in his eyes. ence, presenting pictures and video clips After a long day of recording and inter- at the University Center of the devasta- viewing, Parker walked two hours to the tion of the earthquake. city of Carrefour where his stayed for the A current student at the Columbia week in his hotel. Upon approaching his Graduate School of Journalism, room, he felt the Parker had flown to Haiti a week earlier tremors and after- to cover a story for Vibe Magazine and shock of the earth- also to conduct research for his graduate quake and decided Why is this student up a tree? Find out on page 5. thesis paper about indentured servants to sleep outside and child slavery in the country. with everyone else. “I stopped by an art gallery to pick up “I didn’t want to last minute gifts when I felt the room take the risk of be- Lab for Disabled Facing Shutdown shaking,” Parker said. “I thought it was the ing buried in the subway near by, but I noticed my transla- Erick Parker By Katherine Jarych language therapy to adults, may be shut- tor Vladimir screaming and running out ting down due to withdrawal of a financial of the gallery and then I knew something “It didn’t hit me until I got “When someone has a stroke and has grant from the Health Care Foundation of was wrong.” difficulty talking, the college has a program NJ. Kean is left with only enough money Parker wasn’t injured after the earth- on the plane to go back to help them get better,” says Espesito. to last until June 2010. quake shook the city of Port-au-Prince, No one knows this better than Barbara The Institute is forced to come up with but he witnessed first-hand the devasta- home when I thought of all Espesito, a stroke victim, whose own re- the money by organizing fundraisers and tion—bodies buried underneath buildings the people and the build- habilitation center discharged her from accepting contributions from other foun- and people lying dead on the streets. dations and individuals. In response to Using his journalistic skills, he was the ings all ruined that day.” “We can provide more long the financial cuts, Wilkins Theatre is pre- first to record the horrible event; he quick- senting a benefit performance of the Tony ly went to work and took live footage from hotel room so I ran outside and slept out- time therapy at affordable Award winning musical The 25th Annual his IPhone, interviewing many people who side,” says Parker. Putnam County Spelling Bee on Sunday, just lost a loved one and recording footage Even though many people died that day rates.” Feb. 28 at 2pm. of the aftermath of the earthquake. The and lost loved ones, Parker said he barely Closing the institute will be a consid- coverage aired throughout the world. saw emergency officials and instead he therapy. That is when she came to The In- erable disappointment to its clients, stu- “I was physically and emotionally ex- saw many of the Haitian people helping stitute for Adults Living with Communi- dents, and staff. hausted!” says Parker after describing one another. He saw people digging out cation Disabilities, part of the Center for “People with communication disabili- covering live footage of the aftermath of others who were still alive under build- Communication Disorders at Kean. ties insurance run out of sessions after the earthquake. “It didn’t hit me until I ings; a nurse was stitching up a patient The Kean University program, estab- four or five months,” says Wendy Green- got on the plane to go back home when who sliced open her arm. People cried out, lished to provide affordable speech and span, the institute (Continued on page 5) I thought of all the people and the build- “Jesus,” pleading (Continued on page 11)

VAN GOGH’S EAR—MORE THAN A CAFE! (see centerfold)

INQUIRING PHOTOGRAPHER: It’s been one year after the historic inauguration of President Obama. How do feel about him today? By brett Williams

Devin Richardson Marlise Hendricks Raphael Mendez Shanda McLaren Senior, Media & Film Junior, Communications Freshman, Computer Science Junior, Psychology Photos: Brett Williams

“I don’t trust him, and I don’t trust “I feel he hasn’t lived up to his hype “I don’t [like what] he is doing right “Obama is well on his way to improv- the government.” but I’m hoping he will” now, but I feel we should give him ing the country.” more time.”

Popcorn Menace 2 Arts & Entertainment 6-7 Health & Fitness 10 Kean Students to Rate College 3 Editorial & View 8 A Word to the Wise 12 Grammy Nominee Performs at Kean 4 Kean’s New Self-help Group 9 Celebs and Crime: John & Junior 12 2 Feb. 10-Mar. 9, 2010 | The Tower Blue Goes Green: RecycleMania 2010 Contest Launched

By Melissa Jewels Newman and Wheeler helped their mixed with other recyclables so be sure to schools to compete against one another in separate accordingly. Bottles, cans, and To help increase the rate of recycling on order to see which campus could produce plastic should be separated into the cir- campus, Kean University is participating, a greater amount of recyclables over a 10- cular lid containers that are found in hall- for the first time, in “RecylceMania 2010.” week period. ways and common areas. Residence Halls RecyleMania is a competition that uses Since then, the competition has grown have trash and recycling bins conveniently recycling programs to help reduce waste to 605 schools competing this year. In located on each floor and are marked to and promote recycling around campuses 2009, 510 schools competed and produced make it easier for disposal of the recycla- nationwide. Schools are ranked by collect- 69.4 million pounds of recyclables. bles accordingly. ing the largest amount of recyclables per “The competition is 10 weeks long, but In addition to the designated bins, an or- capita, the largest amount of total recy- the goal is to continue to improve our ganic waste composter that was designed clables, the least trash per capita, and the by Dr. Nick Smith-Sebasto, an Associate highest recycling rate. “The competition is 10 weeks is recyclable, yet our recycling rate is only Professor in the Department of Earth and “RecyleMania is an excellent opportuni- 28%. Recycling is simple, yet many Ameri- Environmental Studies at Montclair State ty to educate the Kean community about long, but the goal is to cans fill up landfills with recyclable mate- University, will be available to compost how to minimize waste generated on cam- rials every day. waste including food, plates, and flatware pus by reducing, reusing, and recycling,” continue to improve our All students, faculty, and staff need to from the dining facilities. said David Fernandez, Associate Director waste reduction practices work together to make this program suc- RecycleMania is sponsored by The Coca of Environmental Health and Safety at cessful. Simple changes such as using recy- Cola Company and American Forest & Kean University. all year long.” clable containers, mugs, and bags for eat- Paper Association. To learn more about RecycleMania was designed in 2001 ing lunch and for shopping reduce waste the competition, visit www.recycylema- when Ed Newman from Ohio University waste reduction practices all year long,” production both on and off campus. nia.org. and Stacy Edmonds Wheeler from Mi- said Fernandez. On campus, recycle your paper prod- ami University wanted to increase recy- According to www.dosomething.org, ucts in the blue recycling containers in the cling in the residence and dining halls. about 80% of what Americans throw away buildings. Paper and cardboard cannot be

Professor Charlsen Wins Painting Award

By Casey Murphy provided aid, counsel, and exhibition op- the juried competition. is studying watercolor at the Art Students portunities to women artists living in New Charlsen has been painting since she League with Paul Ching-Bor, a well known Every year students at Kean University York. Now the club’s main focus is “to re- was a young girl, and took her first paint- watercolor painter. are able to celebrate their achievements flect the members’ professional standing ing class in 7th grade. While painting is “I wanted to know that I wanted to work earned through hard work, but the stu- and interests,” according to the Catherine something she likes to do for fun, Charls- in theatre when I started getting paid for dents are not alone in celebrating success. en also uses her skills to work on different it,” said Charlsen with a laugh. Nadine Charlsen, a professor in the The- theatre sets, including shows performed Currently Charlsen’s work is displayed atre Department at Kean University, won here at Kean. at the Renaissance Diner on 52nd and 9th the New Jersey Watercolor Society award “I’ve painted for different professional Avenue in New York City and in the Dean’s from the Catherine Lorillard Wolfe Art theatres from Seattle to Connecticut,” said of the College of Visual and Performing Club in November 2009. The ceremony Charlsen. “From fall of 1989 I worked on Arts office here at Kean. She has had two was held at the National Art Club in New all the sets at Kean, except for one semes- solo shows at the Berlitz Language Gal- York City. ter when I took a sabbatical and one sum- lery in the Rockefeller Center and has “I entered the international juried com- mer. I haven’t designed them all because shown work at the Art Students League. petition from the [Catherine Lorillard some of them were student designs that I Her work was also part of the first Annual Wolfe Art Club],” said Nadine Charlsen. supervised.” Hell’s Kitchen Artists Studio Tour in No- “My painting was selected out of several Photo: Tim Saternow She spent numerous years studying dif- vember. Nadine Charlsen working on a painting. hundred international entries.” ferent aspects of theatre and graduated To see some of Charlsen’s work please Founded by Catherine Lorillard Wolfe, Lorillard Wolfe Art Club’s website. Every with a Master’s of Fine Arts in theatre view the following websites: http:// the Art Club’s focus has always been on year the Club has an annual Open Juried design from Brooklyn College, a Master www.nadinepaints.com/ and http://www. the art of women living in New York, al- Exhibition that provides an opportunity of the Arts in theatre design from Wichita nadinedesigns.com/. though the purpose as slightly changed for women artists to display their work at State University, and a Bachelor of Science since it was founded in 1896. Originally, the National Arts Club in New York City. in Education in theatre, speech, and art at the Catherine Lorillard Wolfe Art Club The NJ Watercolor Society’s award was in Emporia State University. Currently, she

Microwave Popcorn Menace: Pop Goes the Banned List

By Audrey Oguss Strange as this is, those new, single- needed to make two lines: one for those mini popcorn from the new upperclass- serve bags of buttery-goodness are the with their Kean ID cards, and another for men dorm. It was 1 a.m. and cold. The fire alarm reason for at least seven dorm evacuations those without. My mother and I were in I was both surprised and curious when was blaring. I was standing outside the last semester and have been since banned the latter line. Usually, before you are al- I saw the ban notice taped to my cabinets new Upperclassmen Dorm beside my tired from the New Upperclassmen dorms. lowed to enter any dorm you have to let upon returning from Thanksgiving Break. mother, who had come from Pennsylvania Surprised, because I had no idea banning to give a speech to my Recreation class “Next time, a room better be was an option, and curious as to how the and was now closing her thin, white robe school would punish those who have been tightly, feeling the bitter November air. on f----ing fire!” caught “Popping.” The students from the New Upperclass- “It takes 60-seconds for small popcorn men Residents Hall spilled out the back “The Fire Department can tell by the to burn,” said Residence Hall Director door and filtered their way to the front. smell,” said John Faranda, a Field Engi- Donna-Lee Mahabeer. As we made room for the newcomers, neer for the new dorms, working on be- In the few short months she has been I looked about to see if anyone knew the half of Residence Life. director, she said she has noticed that one cause for this latest nighttime fire alarm. His job is to insure the building is a safe of the main reasons fire alarms go off is It was clear that everyone around me was environment to dorm in, and he works because students automatically push the doing the same thing. Resident assistants with many departments to do so. In fact, popcorn button on the microwave, which and dorm authorities alike came out and he, along with the Fire Department, made your ID be swiped so the University has an typically has a set heating time of two told us we all needed to keep to the walk- smoke alarm readjustments when they electronic record of your entrance. But for minutes or more. ways, fearing we’d hurt the grass. Angry kept going off due to shower steam. That those rushed times when you cannot grab What they don’t notice is that they are and tired, people began to fill the small was at the start of the year, before anyone it, you just have to wait. making a mini-bag, which only requires concrete crevasses left for them. The Fire had ever heard of the havoc that small “Next time, a room better be on f----ing a minute or so. The popcorn buttons on Department sped up to the building from popcorn bags could wreak. fire!” said a man who stood in front of me microwave ovens are meant for full bags, the resident’s quad and made their way My mom and I had been outside for 45 who seemed ready to take action. with roughly two or so servings. Mini-bags into the building. minutes. By then, all of the Resident As- He was not alone. After it became clear burn well before nuking time is up. But if In a few moments, it became quite obvi- sistants had gone through the dorm to that Popcorn had caused the numer- this is such a problem, what could a ban ous what the cause of the alarm was: Mini make sure everyone had left. Two people ous evacuations, the Office of Residence do? How can a college, one that still has Bags of Popcorn. came out and screamed to us that we Life made a unilateral decision to ban weekend drunks (Continued on page 3) The Tower | Feb. 10-Mar. 9, 2010 3 Kean Combats Hatred With its Human Rights Conference

By Dawn M. Phillips Dees stressed the importance of the 50 the many websites that harbor hate, not- lutions to stop such hatred were offered: percent rise in hate groups since 2000, ing the use of games, music, and media recognition, responding, and reporting. Keynote speaker Morris Dees, founder with 926 hate groups existing in America that have hate within them. Weitzman D’Amico continued his speech with and Chief Trial Counsel for the Southern to date. Dees explained that hate groups said that any group can be targeted online graphic, traumatizing autopsy photos Poverty Law Center, found it quite rele- are on the rise because they dislike the in- and face extremists. According to Weitz- of James Byrd Jr., who was murdered in vant that Kean University’s conference on creasing amount of diversity in America. man, we must look at the internet with a 1998 in Jasper, Texas for no apparent human rights last month was being held Dees also emphasized that America is healthy dose of skepticism. reason other than the color of his skin. very close to the birthday of Dr. Martin changing, and there are two options: sit Lunch was served for an hour in Downs Byrd was African American and picked Luther King. in your seats and watch, or take a stand. hall for all guests at 11:30 am. Following up by three Caucasian males who beat “Dr. Martin Luther King has given us him unconscious and dragged him by his lessons on human rights for a lifetime,” “Hate is never abstract; feet tied in chains to the back of their said Dees. pickup truck. Entitled “Combating Hatred,” Kean Uni- it’s personal, very direct D’Amico warned the audience of the versity held its third annual conference on graphic nature of the photos, but wanted human rights on January 29 at Wilkins and harmful.” to show them for the purpose of combat- Theatre where every seat in the auditorium ing hatred. The photos sparked emotions was filled with teachers, professors, high lunch, speaker David L. D’Amico, detective filled with tears in the audience, and he school students, Kean students, adminis- of the Bias Crimes Unit at the Monmouth went through numerous photos of Byrd’s trators, and members of the community County Prosecutor’s Office spoke on the body burned, scarred, missing elbows, representing all different races and ages. A issue of bias crimes. He displayed a video, knees, buttocks, and his head. The photos streamed video from Wilkins Theatre was History of Hate in America, which show- were followed by a compelling video on also shown to an overflow crowd of more cased hate in the form of groups such as the history of the n-word, and how it cre- than 200 guests in the Little Theatre, due the Klu Klux Klan and the Nazis, as well as ates a spirit of hate. to capacity. inside some political parties, and some re- “I know what it’s like to walk in some- The program began with opening re- Poster from Kean’s Third Annual Conference on ligions. The video went back to the days of one else’s shoes; I am gay,” said D’Amico, a marks from Dr. Hank Kaplowitz, Special Human Rights lynching to the modern day 9/11 attacks, 21-year veteran in the justice system. Assistant to the President for the Human The importance of teaching acceptance noting all were motivated by hate. D’Amico went on to describe his testi- Rights Institute at Kean University. Ka- and tolerance in schools was highlighted “Hate is nurtured, it’s a learned behav- mony of ignorance and hate within the plowitz expressed his appreciation for all for the many teachers, administrators and ior,” said D’Amico. police department because of his sexual in attendance. A video was then displayed students in attendance. D’Amico blames peers, the media, par- orientation. He continuously had to prove showcasing the victims of horrific crimes The topic of cyberhate was introduced ents, and today’s music for the bias and himself in life threatening situations that committed by people all driven by hate. by the next speaker Mark Weitzman, di- stereotypes encountered on a daily basis he could fight like a man, without the help Dees then spoke of King’s many political rector of government affairs and director from infancy. He described hate as a pyra- of his co-workers. His co-workers and rivals, but praised how he still preached of the task force against hate and terror- mid, with ignorance as the foundation. lieutenant did not approve of his lifestyle of fairness and justice despite opposi- ism for the Simon Wiesenthal Center. The pyramid moves up to verbalization, and thus created a hate-filled work envi- tion and prejudice. Dee thought it sig- Weitzman described the internet as a nest avoidance, exclusion, physical attacks and ronment for D’Amico. nificant that, 40 years after King’s death, of hate, and said that 1.7 billion people are life threatening acts or death. He com- “What are you gonna do to combat an African American is President of the connected to the Internet. pared the pyramid to a volcano which hatred? The power and control is in your United States. “Hate is never abstract, it’s personal, eventually erupts. hands,” said D’Amico. “We can make history. You have a front very direct and harmful,” said Weitzman. He urged the audience to stop hate at its row seat to history,” said Dees. He directed the audience’s attention to first level to prevent eruption. Three reso-

Cougar Fair to Take Over Wednesdays Students to Rate College

By Charley Falkenburg businesses without leaving the campus,” By Laura Urban President Dawood. Farahi, will be avail- Philbert said. able for students to take until the begin- Classes are back in session, which means New Jersey registered businesses of Freshman and seniors at Kean will soon ning of April. daily schedules will be packed with home- all kinds participate in the Fair, offering have the opportunity to express their feel- First administered in 2000, more than work, exams, papers, and, once again, products like hair care, cosmetics, apparel, ings towards their university. 1300 different colleges and universities in the Cougar Fair. But students might not jewelry, and gift sets. Starting in mid-February Kean Univer- the U.S. and Canada have participated in know that when they spend money buy- However, the Cougar Fair venders are sity, along with hundreds of other colleges ing things at the Cougar Fair, they’re also not just limited to local businesses. and universities throughout the United “It gives us information... spending money to help the University “[The Fair] also gives departments and States, will be administrating the NSSE, or hold more events. student groups an opportunity to bring National Survey of Student Engagement. that might be essential to Starting on February 10, Kean’s Uni- The survey will be given to freshmen versity Center Administration Office will “The Cougar Fair gives the and seniors who attend Kean and will ask better help students.” hold the Cougar Fair from 10 am to 6 pm about students’ undergraduate college ex- every Wednesday on the first floor of the campus community an periences. The information helps Kean to the NSSE. The last time Kean University University Center. The Cougar Fair is a assess its effectiveness in the eyes of stu- participated in the NSSE was in 2003. market where Kean students can purchase opportunity to shop with dents. The 2003 NSSE survey given to Kean items they might need or want. local businesses without “It gives us information that will help students asked students to rate how often “The money goes back to student activi- us change anything that might be es- they took certain steps for their classes ties that the University Center Adminis- leaving the campus.” sential to better help students with what such as working outside of the classroom tration coordinates,” said Sheila Philbert they are trying to do here,” said Dr. Linda with other students and how often they of the University Center Administration. awareness to different services that they Best, Professor of English and the Internal would prepare two or more drafts of a pa- So students are able to keep warm and offer,” Says Philbert. Consultant for the Middle States Self- per before it was turned in. It also asked happy with his or her new sweatshirt and Next time you have a break in between Study Process. students to rate their institution and the the student organization has more money classes or have extra time on a Wednesday, According to an official university state- level of academic advisement they re- in its pockets. Student groups are espe- make sure to stop by the UC to check out ment from Kean, the survey will measure ceived there. cially encouraged to take part in the Fair the products or learn about different stu- the level of academic challenge, active and ”Universities and colleges need a mech- because it is a great opportunity for them dent organizations. The Cougar Fair only collaborative learning, student-faculty in- anism for learning from their students to fundraise, according to Philbert. lasts until April 21, so get out there and teraction, enriching educational experienc- and what their experiences are like,” said “The Cougar Fair gives the campus com- shop until you drop! es, and supportive campus environments. Dr. Best. munity an opportunity to shop at local The survey, which will be distributed For more information on the NSSE visit through students’ Kean email accounts by the official website at http://nsse.iub.edu.

POPCORN MENACE (Continued from page 2) despite being dry, use a ban to stop the Frankly, this does not seem an effective the popcorn is out in plain sight, RAs will or that no one likes being woken up by a pop? penalty. Anyone who has lived on campus never know about it. fire alarm because of popcorn. “No one would fail a room inspection if knows that room inspections only happen Yet the ban worked. Despite the fact “I went through six fire alarms,” said a Resident Assistant found bags,” said Ma- a few times a year. Those five minutes that that anyone can still sneak in bags of pop- Amanda Slade, a senior who resides on the habeer. She means bags of popcorn, by the the RAs spend inside the room are usually corn in the dorm, the ban alone has sent second floor of the building, “And since way. “But they might face a fine or com- used for inspecting how clean the place is, the message either not to automatically the ban, they have stopped.” munity service.” not for finding forbidden items. Unless push the “popcorn” button for a mini-bag, 4 Feb. 10-Mar. 9, 2010 | The Tower Ezra Schwartz’s (Failed) Self-Protest

By Matthew Marchesano for the protest because his cause—what- recating phrases such as “Roses are red, ever that may have been is still somewhat we want Ezra dead. Violets are blue, Ezra One of the Kean student body’s most unclear—was deemed unworthy by Kean. is a jerk!” and “Ezra is stupid! Or he’s at popular class-clowns, Ezra Schwartz held But despite the administration decree, least a C average student!” an impromptu protest against himself on the spectacle ensued. Who is this guy Schwartz? Friday, Jan, 22. But, alas, despite his mar- He preached in third person atop a A struggling sketch comedy writer, keting efforts on Facebook to attract fel- bench alongside his stuffed penguin doll, Schwartz leads an improvisation and low protesters and in his own promotions prepared with homemade signs that he sketched comedy troupe that at the around campus, the “event” held outside handed out to the crowd along with a long moment lacks a moniker. Currently, he of Wilkins Theatre was sort of a bust. list of similar “Anti- Ezra” phrases. and his friends are working on a web Approximately ten spectators attend- site to display their video and audio clips ed the protest during college hour, the “He preached in 3rd person and a feature length, “very low-budget” planned start for the protest, until a fac- movie spoof entitled, The Real High ulty member from the Student Affairs atop a bench alongside his School Musical. office noticed Schwartz walking around Wonder if he’ll try to show that one at the clock tower and speaking through his stuffed penguin doll.” the Little Theatre? miniature megaphone. The faculty mem- For further details, he directs all inqui- ber made him stop. Schwartz remained extremely tongue- his audience laughing. ries to his Facebook.com account page. Schwartz said he was unable to acquire in-cheek with a very comfortable demean- By four o’clock. Schwartz began a ‘call- the necessary documentation that allowed or, keeping his comments rhythmic and and-response’ styled chanting of self-dep-

Grammy Nominee Allison Brewster Franzetti Performs at Kean Stage

By Matthew Marchesano and Lang Lang at the Walt Disney Concert Hall in Los Angeles. It is seldom that a musical virtuoso per- Franzetti’s art is appreciated within forms in small, intimate settings. Kean the international classical music scenes University is lucky to welcome the 2008 as well, having toured Mexico, Europe, Grammy® Nominee for Best Instrumen- Argentina and Japan. Her wealth of no- tal Soloist without an Orchestra, Allison table gigs from outside America include Brewster Franzetti. Franzetti, Concert playing at the English Sinfonia and the Artist in Piano and adjunct faculty of mu- City of Prague Philharmonic. Franzetti sic at Kean, is performing in support of also played piano at the world premiere her newest released album of all French of modern Latin-classical composer Car- composer Maurice Ravel pieces. los Franzetti’s Piano Concerto No. 2 at the Maurice Ravel is one of the most promi- Teatro Colon in Buenos Aires, with the Or- nent figures of the French Impressionistic questa Filarmonica de Buenos Aires under period. He is considered a genius of mu- conductor Javior LoGioia Urbe. sical texture and soft tempered melodic She fluently performs both solo pi- phrasing. He has composed orchestral ano pieces and orchestral pieces, some music, solo piano music, vocal music and of which she has creatively formed her chamber music. Some of his timeless piec- own arrangements of, as she did with es include Ma Mere L’Oye, Valses Nobles et 20th century French composer Camille Sentimentales and Daphnis et Chloe Suite Saint- Saens playful Carnival of the Ani- No. 2. mals suite at Basking Ridge’s own Colonial Franzetti a Cranbury, NJ resident, has Symphony. watched her musical expertise lead to na- Connoisseurs of classical and unfamiliar tional recognition. She performed across ears alike should not miss this all-star per- the states, at the Robert Schumann Fes- formance. Franzetti plays Maurice Ravel tival at the Marcella Sembrich Museum in in a show titled Revel in Ravel on Thurs- upstate New York and at American Clas- day, February 25th at 8:00 p.m. Tickets sical Music Hall of Fame in Ohio. Possibly are available at the Wilkins Theater box of- her most celebrated invitational perfor- fice and can be reached via phone at 908- mance was at the Grammy® Awards for 737-SHOW (7469) or purchased online at the Classical Music Tribute to Earl Wild http://www.keanstage.com.

Colombia Club Returns to Kean to Promote Latin Heritage

By Carlos M. Reynosa Olaya in a recent interview. “Paper work “I chose to be the president because no through networking. She also encourages was late, plus most of the members of the one wanted to take the responsibility. Plus those who don’t speak Spanish but are in- Since it was founded in 1996, Club Co- board graduated, so there was no sup- I didn’t want the club to be shut down,” terested in learning about the Spanish and lombia has always been a gathering of port…(and) the club had to be inactive.” said Olaya. “It was founded [in] 1996 and Latin culture to attend the meetings. She people who wish to learn about their Latin Upset by the loss, Oyala decided to do it’s not fair to let it die.” will provide the translation to make sure culture. Its sudden disappearance last se- something about it. With a new club president, Club Co- that everyone in the club is included. mester, though brief, was very much no- “I talked to our counselors Maria Oban- lombia is not only active again but it has “We believe it is important to bring ticed. Now, thanks to its new president, do and Jorge Sanchez and asked what a new ambition. Olaya’s first order of busi- the club back,” said Olaya, “not only for Marie Olaya, the Latin club is back. Colombians but for anyone that wants Olaya, a member of Club Colombia since “It was founded [in] 1996 and it’s not fair to let it die.” to join. Most of our members are still un- the Fall of 2008, said she enjoyed the club, aware that the club is active and aren’t including its sense of family, as well as its could I do as a member,” said Olaya. ness was to spread the word of the club’s aware of the activities or events that Kean networking opportunities, and academic Olaya and other students at Kean were rebirth to its old members and to possible offers to all students.” support. Olaya was disappointed to learn advised that members of the club needed new members. She handed out flyers and Meetings for Club Colombia are held that the club was inactive last semester af- to appoint a new club president and a new contacted people on Facebook as well as every other Thursday in J-137 at 3:30pm. ter a key member became ill. Executive board in order to remain active. on other social media networks.. For more information about Club Colom- “Our last President Diana Carolina Despite the responsibilities, Olaya accept- Olaya’s goal is not only to inform mem- bia you can contact them through Face- Canajal got sick and was unable to come to ed the challenge and was elected president bers of Kean’s events, but to have the club book at Kean Colombia or email at Club- Kean for the whole Fall 09 semester,” said of the club. itself become part of Kean’s m any events [email protected]. The Tower | Feb. 10-Mar. 9, 2010 5 Kean Student Climbs His Way to the Top

By Jillian Johnson In order to become certified, Avelar had cludes a helmet, safety knots to prevent to go through physical training and take a falling, a harness, gloves, and goggles de- If you see a bunch of trees, why not formal test. pending on the weather. Ropes and knots climb them? “It was pretty intensive,” said Avelar. are used to climb the trees. Tree climbing may be an unfamiliar There are two types of courses, a facili- Avelar said tree climbing is the kind of sport to many, but it’s a certified favor- tator course and an instructor course. The sport many people can enjoy. Also, little ite to Kean student Peter Avelar. Though facilitator course focuses on climbing and training is needed as long as students fol- he’s a sophomore at Kean majoring in helps teach one how to climb. The instruc- low instructions. Physical fitness isn’t re- Music Education, Avelar has become so tor courses focuses on teaching climbers quired, although it can be beneficial. high on trees that he hopes to start a busi- Photo: Tim Saternow how to teach others how to climb, and Avelar said he enjoys going to West Hud- ness teaching tree climbing as a sport. He Tree climbing is this student’s sport. also students are taught safety and rescue son Park every weekend to climb, which wants to introduce it to the northern New Avelar and his friend discovered the New techniques. costs $35. To Avelar, tree climbing is not Jersey-New York area perhaps as early as England Tree Climbing Association, which Avelar said the trees he climbs are usu- about being up in the tree, but rather ac- this month or next month. offers tree climbing training. Although ally maple and oak. tually climbing up the tree. “The idea of being high in elevation is, the association is located in Vermont, “We can’t climb any old tree,” said Ave- He encourages Kean students to give to me, the coolest thing,” said Avelar. Avelar and his friend attended a chap- lar. tree climbing a try. His advice: Grab a rope His interest in tree climbing began a ter in Connecticut, which lasted roughly The trees must be tall enough to climb, and safety equipment and climb your way year ago when he and a friend looked on three to four days. And now they are in which a 50 foot tall tree is acceptable. up, but get instructions from a certified search engines about the sport. Together, certified tree climbers. Also, safety gear must be worn, which in- climber first.

SWITCHING GEARS EMPOWERED Mustang GT Ups Competition

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LAB FOR DISABLED (Continued from page 1) coordinator. “We can provide more long cation and Deafness. also provides a learning experience for cational experience and opportunity to time therapy at affordable rates.” In January of 2008, after buying equip- Speech Pathology graduate students. help people.” In the fall of 2007, Kean University re- ment, hiring, and beginning the program, The students administer therapy under Tickets to the play/fundraiser can be ceived a grant from the Healthcare Founda- the Health Care Foundation of NJ with- the supervision of licensed and certified purchased at www.keanstage.com or by tion of New Jersey to open the institute. drew its initial proposal. It said it would speech language pathologists. In return, visiting the Box Office and requesting “The foundation agreed to award the only be able to award $50,000 for the sec- the students receive the clinical practicum “Benefit Tickets” for $25. The Institute for center $130,000 the first year, $100,000 ond year and nothing in the third year. necessary to obtain a master’s degree in Adults Living with Communication Dis- the second year, and $50,000 for the third This program offers therapy, discussion the field. abilities is expecting that the event will year,” said Dr. Martin D. Shulman, Chair- groups, support groups, computer classes, Vanessa Lambert, a first year graduate help to keep the facility up and running. person for the Department of Communi- and internet “telepractice” therapy, but student, called the institute “a great edu- ARTIST SPOTLIGHT: SHABAZZ GREEN By Rachel Rothspan

Age: 21 Year in School: Senior

Where You’ve Seen Him: in 2006, He co-an- chored a local cable show called “Teen Talk” on channel 36 in Summit. More recently you may have seen him performing in Midnight Madness with the Alvin Ailey CitiGroup Theatre (consid- ered a Broadway performance!), in NJPAC’s per- formance of 1776 (he played John Hancock), or even on the Kean Stage in Pirates of Penzance. A & E Awards He’s been nominated for: He was a 2009 Kennedy Center American College Theatre Festi- ARTS & ENTERTAINMENT val Irene Ryan Nominee and Finalist. He’s also the recipient of the Kean Theatre De- partment Scholarship.

Get to know Green: The man behind the curtain: Green often works on the sets for shows that he’s been in doing carpentry work and prop work.

His heroes: “First and foremost my parents Frank and Deborah Green”, starts Green, before listing contemporary players Tyler Perry, Blair Underwood and Jamie Foxx., who have overcome big obstacles with style. ➦ All-around all-star: Beyond the stage, Green has won many awards from his other field; ART he is also a football player on the Kean team. Not always the big dog: Green is the youngest of four children. First big dreams: “I am a HUGE WWE wrestling fan and considered it a career when I was very young”, says Green. A Family’s History of Art By D.J. Jean He’d like to thank Kean: “for all the opportunities. Scholarships, Dean’s List, as well For centuries, art has remained an inte- as a chance to play college football and pursue an acting career on and off campus have gral part of marking thoughts and ideas, been incredible blessings.” and expressing emotions that transcend life’s circumstances. His own words: The new exhibit, Making marks: Draw- Why do you think that performance is important for other people to be part of? ings from the Yoskowitz Family Collection, “Performing onstage is a fantastic experience. Not only are you really embracing some- features fifty-one original drawings from thing different, you receive so much in return… You have to take a character that you artists ranging from Western Europe only know about by the things written on a page, and bring to life using only your mind. to the United States, collected by Kean Unlike other art forms, I feel you are presenting a true physical, mental and emotional alumnus Robert Yoskowitz throughout work of beauty.” his life. “This collection was not intended to be What are your dreams and aspirations, and goals for the future? didactic, but rather, these are images that My ultimate dream and goal is to perform on Broadway. I know that the future does Karl Helen Burger Gallery reflect a period in art history in which I Drawing from the collection. hold graduate school and teaching drama in high school. But in the end, my dream is to was especially intrigued by early modern- definitely become a Broadway star. ism," said Kean University alumnus, Robert Yoskowitz. Yoskowitz graduated from Kean University in the early 1970’s with a What would you like to say to other students here at Kean? degree in Fine Arts, and began collecting various drawings, coins, pho- “Take advantage of everything in front of you. The world is full of so many chances and op- tographs, and ceramics. As he moved on to earn three advanced degrees portunities, that you shouldn’t let any pass you by. Be comfortable and confident in yourself, and become a college profes- and try everything you can because you never know what you will fall in love with.” sor, he continued to collect “In selecting works for Modern Art pieces of various this exhibition… I have mediums by various artists, including Carlo Carra, Oscar relied on my training and Bluemner, Albert Marquet, experience…” Edouard Vuillard, Morgan Performance ➦ Russell, Charles Burchfield and Robert Henri. Yoskowitz’s collection of works comprises Modern drawings made by using traditional techniques and materials, such as graphite, pen and ink, brush and ink, chalk and Conté crayon, on a variety of paper D surfaces. N G A IN “They [the artists] embraced the freedom of expression in the belief R N G E that art should stem from color, form, mood, and gesture rather than P from an accurate rendering of the natural world” said Neil Tetkowski, O Director of University galleries at Kean University. “The artists in this LEH I G H E X P R E S S exhibition represent this new way of depicting life ushering in the modern age.” The opening reception, held on January 28 in the Carl and Helen ALL WASHES ARE Burger Gallery, attracted an array of enthusiasts, both young and old. EXTERIOR ONLY CAR WASH There were those who came in groups discussing their interests in the drawings, to individuals who came to view the collection of fifty-one 515 Lehigh Avenue • Union, NJ 908-687-3456 OPEN DAILY original drawings. Robert Yoskowitz, a former Kean student of the fine arts and current WEEKDAYS WEEKDAYS professor of fine arts at Union County College, and his wife Catherine Students & Employees Students & Employees were the contributors to this exhibition. of Kean University of Kean University “In selecting works for this exhibition, I have relied on my training Reg. Price $7 Reg. Price $7 and experience as an artist and art historian, as well as my emotional EXPRESS EXTERIOR WASH EXPRESS EXTERIOR WASH response to the unique qualities of each work,” said Yoskowitz. Making Marks: Drawings From the Yoskowitz Family Collection exhibit OR $2 OFF OR $2 OFF $ ANY WASH $ ANY WASH will be open until March 12 on the first floor of the CAS building. For more information on Kean University Art Galleries, visit http://www. With5Coupon. Cannot be combined. With5Coupon. Cannot be combined. Expires 6/30/10 Expires 6/30/10 kean.edu/~gallery. ➥ night life

Van Gogh’s Ear Offers More Than a Café By Junior Jean-Baptiste

Imagine walking into Starbucks Café in the middle of your work shift; you order sity and Union County College to come in to do homework, or just grab a late night your croissant and a coffee, and as one of the employees calls your order to be made, meal and a cup of coffee while chatting with their friends. you sit down in the wooden chairs, only to wait for a short amount of time with no “We get such a mixed crowd during the day and late at night,” says café waiter portraits or light music. Peter Mitchell, 24 and also a Union resident. “We get business workers coming in Café Van Gogh’s Ear, five minutes away from Kean University, is located on the during the day and at night we’ll get a variety of college students staying in late.” corner of Stuyvesant Ave. and Morris Ave. in Union. Offering a much different -at The outside of the café does not have any neon lights or enormous signs to try mosphere than any other café I’ve ever encountered. This location is furnished with to attract guests, but rather it is set up like most fancy cafés’, similar to those in old fashioned couches and chairs for guests to sit on, book shelves located in the Philadelphia or New York City. corners, a standing piano, and a portrait of namesake Van Gogh in the corner of “We don’t go to schools or jobs to promote our business,” says Perara. “We use Fa- the café. Their allure extends beyond their inviting feel, however, with events such cebook and Twitter to inform our guests or friends about our upcoming events…” as Open Mic on Tuesdays and live Jazz Band on Sunday nights. The café offers reasonable prices on coffee, exotic cafes, food, and discount pric- “We try to set up a comfort level for our guests to make them feel like they’re at ing for students Monday nights. home or in their own living room,” said co-owner Sarah Perara, 26 year-old Union Students can get a free coffee resident. “We have free wi-fi, and we develop this setting so our guests don’t have with a purchase of any meal of $5 to feel the pressure of being rushed out of our café.” or more and, of course, need to There are two entrances in the café, front and back. Before entering the back of show proof of a college ID. There are 10 to 15 rotating jazz bands performing on Sunday “We try to set up a comfort level for our guests to nights and about 10 contestants make them feel like they’re at home or in their own who perform for Open Mic. Kean student, Matt Koziol performed living room.” Open Mic when he was 16 years old and still continues to stop in the café, there is a clear sign stating no one under the age of 18 is allowed to enter to the café to perform. the café, unless performing in Open Mic or accompanied by an adult. “He’s opened for Marcy’s Playground in Asbury Park and also at the Starland “We’ve had problems in the past letting 14 and 16 year olds into our café,” says Ballroom in Sayerville.” says Mitchell. Perara. “We try to keep it a more college oriented, adult atmosphere here.” Whether it’s an exam students have to study for or a chance to get away from a Started in 1996, the café was designed to have a feel of the Van Gogh era of the hard day’s work, take the time to come into Café Van Gogh’s Ear and see for your- 1800’s to make guests feel like they’re at home. Sam and Virginia were the original self a different atmosphere unlike any other café around the area. Be sure to choose owners of the café until it was passed down to Perara. your time; if you’re trying to do homework, avoid Tuesday and Sunday, where you’ll The café is one of the last places to stay open late on the strip of Stuyvesant Ave. hear chatter and music that lights up the room, and get to experience the magic of open 11:30 a.m. until midnight Monday to Thursday, and till 1 a.m. Friday and an old fashioned café performance. Saturday, and 6 p.m. to 12 a.m. on Sundays, allowing students from Kean Univer- GAMES ➦

Great Games You’ve Probably Never Heard Of By Eric Albuen

Searching for a good video game is like searching through a mysterious cave. The premise is simple. The Earth is under attack by giant insects and humongous You’ll either strike it rich finding lost treasure of unknown proportions, or you’ll alien robots. As a member of the Earth Defense Force, it’s your job to eliminate the end up dying under the pressure of everything terrible that lies within. But, some- creatures that threaten our planet. While the game might not look amazing, and times you find a gem you never thought existed. there is extreme game play slowdown during many of the battles, it’s probably the We’ll start with a treasure that can be found here, but its origins are in Korea. The most fun. DJMAX series started back in 2004 as an online game for PC users by Pentavision. The final treasure in this hunt would actually be something from the last genera- The concept was simple: Hit the buttons in rhythm to falling bars to a song playing tion of gaming. in the background. The more on rhythm you had, the higher your score and a better While the Playstation 3 might be showing off how amazing high-definition can be, sounding song. It has similar the Playstation 2 still releases concepts to Dance Dance Revo- amazing gems to this day. Per- lution and beatmania IIDX. sona 4 is a game in the large col- The game was later ported to lection of Shin Megami Tensei two separate versions on the series. The story takes a silent- Playstation Portable in 2006, protagonist high schooler who which had much popularity. moved from the city to the The game eventually released country where his uncle lives two more versions, giving in rural Japan. Within days of beginners and experts alike the protagonist’s arrival, unex- a chance to challenge them- pected murders happen one af- selves. Beginners were pre- ter one, but the cause of death sented with DJMAX Portable: remains unknown. Following Clazziquai Edition. (This ver- a rumor involving a television sion was named after a popu- at the protagonist’s school, a lar Korean pop group, Clazzi- group of students discover a quai; many of their songs are fog-shrouded world within the featured in the game.) Experts had DJMAX Portable: Black Square. The sheer dif- television that’s overrun by enemies called Shadows. They fight off these enemies ficulty of this game challenged even the greatest DJMAX players and pushed them using their Personas and throughout the game investigate the connection between to their limits. These games, however, were only released in Korea. the TV world, the random murders, and hope to catch the one behind all of this. But in 2009, the United States got DJMAX Fever by PM Studios. This version The game provides a deep RPG experience with a compelling storyline and lov- contains songs featured in the first two DJMAX Portable games. It provides a fun able characters. With hours of game play and fighting against time, gamers can challenge for those who love music as it introduces many artists of different genres. expect to be busy with this one for quite sometime. More often than naught, I’ll be jamming to the soundtracks of each of the games There are a lot of hidden gaming treasures I’ve found over the years, but sadly in my car. I can’t name them all. Each gamer has different tastes and hopefully some of my Another treasure, although it doesn’t glisten as brightly as the others, is Earth gaming experience will lead you to what I see in these games. The world of gaming Defense Force 2017 for the XBOX 360. To any normal gamer, it would look like a is huge. What might be one’s Person’s trash might be another’s treasure. Perhaps game no one would ever think of playing. But to the adventurous type, it’s an ac- you’ll find your own treasure among the rubble. tion-packed game with more creative concepts. 8 Feb. 10-Mar. 9, 2010 | The Tower

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VIEW ARE REPUBLICANS SERIOUS ABOUT GOVERNING?

By joseph tingle

There’s been a lot of controversy in the news lately about President Obama’s health- ideological ranting over sensible alternatives. care plan. For some, President Obama is too liberal. For others, he’s not liberal enough. Glenn Beck, for example, released two books last year: one a Thomas Paine themed ef- The debate has remained a purely ideological one: no one in the news media is talking fort that harkens back to Colonial era pamphleteering, and another called “Arguing with about the facts, or how our health care system could be reformed in a way that doesn’t Idiots,” a novel where Beck continues the right’s hijacking of our nation’s traditions by interfere greatly with our economic freedoms. The debate remains the typical one of dressing up like a founding father and having Socratic dialogues with another version of “small government” vs. “big government.” himself—literally, an idiotic Liberal Nazi. Beck’s attempts seem unique, but the overwhelmingly negative message of Beck and the Republicans isn’t helpful at a time when the nation is so polarized. While the Demo- “The overwhelmingly negative message of… cratic leadership has made steps towards compromise, the Republicans continue with the Republicans isn’t helpful at a time like now, the same nation-dividing tactics—calling the President’s sensible policies “Communist” (obviously not true), spreading lies about “death panels,” and now, of all things, com- when the nation is so polarized” plaining about amnesty that’s been given to Haiti. It’s unfortunate. Everyone should be in agreement that there is a problem with the President Obama’s failure to send a clear message to Americans has not gone un- United States’ health system. While there’s plenty of reason to believe that the Demo- noticed. We have already seen the election of Republicans in New Jersey and Massa- crat’s lukewarm policies will not be good for the nation, the Republicans have failed chusetts—two of the most liberal states in the nation. But are the Republicans, who’ve to reincarnate as cool and clear-headed pragmatists who can offer a better way for spent the last year acting as mere obstructionists, mature enough to take part in gov- the nation. erning again? It’s been said that, “the Republicans are the party of bad ideas, but the Democrats are Part of the problem with countering the Democrat’s debacle-in-the-making is lack of the party of no ideas.” That may have been true four years ago. Now, the Democrats have a legitimate alternative. The Republican Party has been full of criticism regarding Presi- some bad ideas. Unfortunately, they’re going unchecked because the Republicans have dent Obama’s agenda, but has suggested few sensible alternatives. become the party of bad attitudes. The problem is with the leadership. Right now, the prominent Republican voices favor The Tower | Feb. 10-Mar. 9, 2010 9 TRIBUTE A Thank-you to a Fallen Soldier

By Jillian Johnson to join the military after the September doors in proper formation holding Ameri- in that he was a part of our lives. 11 attacks took place. On that exact date can flags. As supportive as I am of the U.S. mili- Every day I walk out of my dorm build- five years later, shortly after graduating Soldiers from all different branches of tary, it’s not easy to accept the passing of a ing and pick up a copy of USA Today. When high school, Kane enlisted in the Marine military, although mainly Marines, came friend or relative in the midst of war. I’m not walking to class, I just turn on Corps. The following summer, friends and dressed in uniform. Following the service, But, Kane wasn’t the only soldier who my laptop and visit www.nj.com. I always I celebrated Kane becoming a Marine. a long procession drove to the cemetery. lost his life in battle. like to be up to date with the news. But, When I saw him for the last time this past While driving, I looked out at police, not According to the Defense Department, on January 24th, I read a story I hoped I summer, Kane, myself and mutual friends over 5,300 military personnel have died would never have to read. went to the movies and to eat afterwards. in the Iraq and Afghanistan wars. It’s im- Jeremy Kane, a Marine stationed in Af- I hadn’t had the chance to talk with him in “It’s important to recognize portant to recognize and honor those who ghanistan, was killed in a suicide bomb- the two previous years, and it was great to and honor those who risk risk their lives to defend our country. How ing. He was 22. see him again. many people wake up every day and stop Kane and I attended high school togeth- A few months later, in October, Kane their lives to defend our to think about the soldiers stationed over- er and we were good friends. After gradu- was deployed to Afghanistan. According seas? And how many truly recognize their ation in 2006, we parted ways, but still to friends and family, he was supposed to country.” importance? spoke every so often. I saw him just this come home this May. I knew he was serv- My oldest brother once said to me, “You past summer. Although I knew he was sta- ing in the Marine Corps, but I guess I nev- directing traffic, but standing in proper need to live your life in a way that honors tioned in Afghanistan at the time, I chose er paused to truly recognize he was risking formation. The firefighters too stood at the service and sacrifice of those who ex- not to think of the possibility of death. his own life to protect us in war. attention. ude the highest of values. That is the only I was informed of Jeremy’s death by a On January 29th, I attended Kane’s fu- Students stood outside our old high way to properly put their service in con- mutual friend who called me. After hang- neral in Cherry Hill. I was not surprised, school, holding the American flag, as the text.” To every soldier out there, whether ing up the phone, I went online and read but filled with gratitude, to see so much cortege drove by. Stores and churches currently serving or recently served, you of his sudden death on www.nj.com. My patriotism and support for him. Outside alike raised American flags to show their are always in my thoughts and I thank you eyes filled with tears when I saw his name of the synagogue where the service took support. At the place on burial, prayers for your services. in print. place, Vietnam veterans who came on mo- were said and the Marines did a 21-gun sa- According to www.nj.com, Kane decided torcycles stood surrounding the entrance lute. We all mourned his loss, but rejoiced GUEST OP-ED Some Thoughts on Responsibility From an Adult Student

By Joseph E Herbert sponsible person. Ff you compound that and welfare of two natural children and with their new home, the one hundredth failure by giving up-- by refusing to try four adopted children—they contributed one they’ve built, on Valentine’s Day. There is one thing every person needs again you are now irresponsible as well-- the balance, thru their respective founda- Memories of their movies and their abili- to know before they go out in the world, you have caused those who were depen- tions, to charitable causes. When asked ties will fade, but a few generations in the whether this means going to college or dent on you to fail as well. about their altruistic behavior, Pitt com- future, the people of the Ninth Ward will getting a job. You are the person who is In the preceding paragraph I used the mented, “We had enough and it’s all about remember. responsible for your own success and you word responsible in two cases, one de- responsibility.” Each human is a tiny disturbance in the are equally responsible for your own fail- There are four components in the base force of life, the ripples extending outward ure. Neither your parents, nor your edu- “Wherever you find a suc- meaning of responsible. They are: Oppor- are the people the person touches and af- cators are responsible for your success or tunity, which is largely created by your fects. When that life is expired, the hole failure; in the end they can only guide you cessful person you will own initiative. Acceptance, wherein you is instantaneously filled, all that remains to the best of their own ability, hoping for take responsibility for the opportunity; then is memory and good work. We are the best possible outcomes. find a responsible person.” Commitment, where the actual work is best known by the responsibility we have No one in this world is completely altru- done, whether a volunteer public service accepted, by our successes and the char- istic—it is a given that if someone does noting success and the second, failure. opportunity or valid employment, where acter of our children. At the end we are something for you, that they gain some- Responsible is a word used freely in life, you are responsible to your employer, judged by what we have done. thing for their effort, even if it is just the it has hundreds of possible connotations ethically, for the money you get for doing When ordinary people, you and I, are satisfaction of doing something good and and is used in virtually every spoken, writ- the job. This means showing up to do the responsible, positive change occurs. Hun- doing it well. ten or signed language on earth. work promised, not shirking the responsi- dreds of small, responsible efforts are Your circumstances are not at fault Wherever you find a successful -per bility you were offered and accepted, and united and the world changes. either—no person or situation can share son you will find a responsible person. Completion, this means finishing what That is the true meaning of responsibili- that responsibility. Every outcome re- ‘Brangelina’ (Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie) you start. ty, and yes, success as well: when someone quires your individual involvement to cre- are, as a couple, true examples of success. Imagine, if you will, the personal satis- compliments you for your responsibility, ate the final result. Last year they made $9.7 million dollars faction Brad and Angelina will get as they they are really talking about your success. If you fail, you need only check the mir- after spending nearly $900,000 on per- and their children present a displaced The writer is a graduate student at Kean. ror for a perfect reflection of the most re- sonal needs—guaranteeing the education family in New Orleans’ Lower Ninth Ward NEWS Never Say Never: Kean’s New Self-help Group

By Emerald Vaughan Considering era of social networking, Twaddle has also been reaching out to the sometimes we take the wrong path, such Twaddle along with Jazmine, the other New Jersey Self-Help Clearing House for as going into self mutilation. We’re here to Throughout life, we all endure some Co-founder of Never Say Never, created a more than a year. They are also conscience help and lower the rate of cutters and help hardships that make us feel hurt. Some MySpace to spread the word about their of her participation in Never Say Never them get through it in any way, either by people decide to channel their pain and cause and inspire more people to join. and provide consistent help for how to ex- coming to the meetings or finding them hurt others, while some end up hurting The founders of Never Say Never want to pand the cause. Other students that have themselves. promote a welcoming environment and tried to start self-help groups at their high Inspired from the self-help group, To help people, even if you are just a friend of school have also collaborated with the “We are also here to show Write Love on Her Arms, we now have our someone who self-mutilates. founders of Never Say Never. rescue is possible; they’re own self-injury group here at Kean Uni- The purpose as found on the Never Say This is a major contribution to help- versity called Never Say Never. Never web-page states: “We are here to ing man-kind, considering peer self-help not alone.” A freshman at Kean and Co-founder of provide support and help for those who groups are extremely rare in New Jersey Never Say Never, Jackie Twaddle, defines are suffering from self-mutilation. We and most of the Tri-State Area. The faculty help at a rehab center.” self-injury as people who “[hurt] them- are also here to show rescue is possible; of Never Say Never consists of real people For more information feel free to con- selves without the intention to actually they’re not alone. We are not profession- who have real experience with people who tact Never Say Never at: http://www.mys- commit suicide” and includes people who als, but we will provide hotlines for those overcame self-harm. pace.com/nsn or [email protected] cut but would also love to help people who who are. “ According to Twaddle, “We all live in do other forms of self-harm. To advocate her humanitarian efforts, a tough world with many obstacles and 10 Feb. 10-Mar. 9, 2010 | The Tower HEALTH & FITNESS New Year, New Decade, New Look

By Dr. Josh Palgi and Dr. Jessica Adams • Improve Finances - Get out of debt or The top steps to living a healthy lifestyle you can manage save money include: • Avoid perfectionist thinking Oprah Winfrey said, “Cheers to a new • Improve Career - Get a better job • Make your environment support your year and another chance for us to get it • Improve Education - Go back to school • Eat well change right.” The New Year is upon us, and for • Improve Self - Become more organized • Stop smoking • View setbacks as lessons for growth many people it includes a New Year’s reso- • Take a Trip • Find someone to talk to • Have fun lution for achieving improved health and • Volunteer to help others • Visit the dentist happiness. This New Year is also special • Enjoy life more • Drink water Remember that action proceeds moti- in that it marks the passing of the first • Spend more time with family • Exercise vation, not the other way around. Don’t’ decade of the 2000’s. • Achieve your resolution • Develop a routine wait until you are motivated to start doing We look to the New Year and decade for • Get your rest something healthy for yourself. a fresh start. It is a time to re-evaluate our According to a Marist Poll taken in De- You need to take action first and inspi- lives, our habits, and our relationships. cember, the top resolutions were to lose Making changes that last is not easy, ration will follow. Also, starting with a few Unfortunately, we all make them and we weight (19%), quit smoking but can be done and there are simple things good health habits tends to lead to more often break them. A New Year’s resolu- (12%) and exercise more (10%). Sound we can do to snap the cycle of busted reso- good habits. You are young and healthy, tion is a commitment that an individual Familiar? To be in shape and to be in per- lutions. but do you want to look and feel even makes to themselves or others regarding a fect health in the coming year better? certain project or reforming a habit. They is definitely the dream of everyone. So, • Create a plan and give yourself crystal are often a lifestyle change that is gener- let us have better health for an enhanced clear directions Dr. Palgi and Dr. Adams are professors in the ally interpreted as advantageous. tomorrow by making a New • Focus on realistic goals with measurable Department of Physical Education, Recreation In the United States, popular goals in- Year’s resolution to get a fitness routine results and Health. clude resolutions such as: and feel the difference of a healthy start. • Break things down into small steps that

WORD TO THE WISE (Continued from page 12) her. She was his first love and high school It provides stability within the relationship, something good”, said Dr. Kathy Nickerson, If so, think about sitting down with Mike and sweetheart. Lately, I have been feeling as if if shared by both parties. Are you threatened Orange County marriage counselor. expressing your concerns. Communication is there could be a chance of them reuniting by Mike’s child’s mother because you don’t Instead of assuming that his thoughts a key factor in all relationships. Communicat- because of their great history. Am I being trust him? Having a good relationship with or actions are suspicious, think of them as ing with Mike will allow you to understand insecure? Should I feel threatened by the the mother of his child shows maturity and trustworthy. Nickerson recommends breed- his feelings about his son’s mother, and if in mother of my boyfriend’s child? responsibility on his behalf. ing closeness, so you can get as close as you fact there could be something more than just Signed, “Too often when we are feeling badly, we can to your boyfriend and intertwine your a parental bond. Keep in mind that they are Threatened only focus on the possible negative aspects of lives as much as possible. After all, he is your not in a relationship for a reason. Somewhere our relationships and our lives. Force your- boyfriend for a reason. Consider also that you along the line their relationship did not meet Dear Threatened, self out of this pattern and into the practice have only been dating Mike for a few months. both their needs. Trust is very essential to any relationship. of catching the other one in the act of doing Do you see yourself with him in a year’s time? The Tower | Feb. 10-Mar. 9, 2010 11 CAMPUS SPORTS Don’t Call it a Comeback... The Cougars Are Just Doing Their Job

By Andrew Czirjak Jonathan Jones, have helped carry the Both of which help teams win.” in all sports,” Kurzinsky said. “College ath- team to victory. Jones earned NJAC and Still, it was the time and hard work letics are very unique, they provide each Nay Sayers, be quiet. Disbelievers, re- ECAC Player of the Week honors, post- Jones and Darpino devoted to training student, athlete or not an opportunity to store your faith, and to the Cougar fans, ing his fifth straight double-double, with that helped elevate their games. impact the outcome of games played.” sit back and enjoy the show. career and game-highs of 23 points and “Both players [Jones and Darpino] have Fortunately, the Cougars have played The men’s basketball team at Kean Uni- 16 rebounds. worked as hard as anyone in the off sea- their best at home. versity has put on quite an impressive run “Jonathan Jones has been a dominate son,” Kurzinsky said. “They [Jones and “The college atmosphere can be an in- during the second part of the season. Not post presence this season for a couple timidating one for opponents. It [home that the beginning to the Cougars cam- of reasons,” Kurzinsky said. “He [Jones] “The most influential court advantage] can provide support and paign for a NJAC championship was bad. has used his athleticism in transition. He inspire home teams,” Kurzinsky “We [the However, since January 3, the Cougars [Jones] has shown a willingness to pursue reason for our recent basketball team] have been very fortunate have been sublime. the ball off the glass.” to have had good support for both our “The most influential reason for our Kurzinsky has found a beautiful balance success is our players men’s and women’s basketball programs. recent success is our players understand- for keeping Jones at the top of his game. understanding what Vice President for Student Affairs Jan- ing what actually wins games,” said Rob “He [Jones] has benefited from a “less is ice Murray-Laury and Mr. Kerrin Lyles, Kurzinsky, Head Coach Kean Men’s bas- more” approach,” Kurzinsky said. “Jones actually wins games.” Residence Hall Director for the Office of ketball. “For us, it has been the player’s gives us [the team] impact minutes in Residence Life has been instrumental in adherence to our scouting report defense shorter stretches, as opposed to being Darpino] put in tremendous amounts creating a positive atmosphere for our and their conditioning.” unengaged and just trying to stay on of time on their skill development and home games.” Lately, the team has taken many of their the court.” physical conditioning.” And as for the basketball fans and opposition to the woodshed [a special Also contributing to the Cougars latest Yet, with 4 of the last 6 games being supporters, Kurzinsky has a message for place every athlete and team end up after success has been Darpino. played at Kean’s Hardwood Arena, Kurzin- them. they loss]. And the Cougars have taught “Vinnie has continued to develop as sky believes the home crowd support will “We [the Cougars] will certainly need their competition knowledge you cannot a player,” Kurzinsky said. “He [Darpino] help in the upcoming games. everyone to support and to inspire us as learn in college. has a better understanding of how to play “You are only as good as the people you we fight to make the NJAC playoffs,” Kur- The Cougars, lead by teammates, senior [basketball] without the ball. [Darpino] surround yourself with, and this is true zinsky said. guard Vinnie Darpino and junior forward has become more committed defensively. for any perceived home court advantage Women’s Basketball Team POWER TO THE TOWER Aims Higher

By Matt Chin “We have a great balance between our veteran players and our younger players. The Kean women’s basketball team has a The veterans have stepped up and helped goal that remains far in front of them even to bring the new kids along,” said Sharp. after winning 19-straight games this year. An addition to the Cougars veteran The coach says there is still much more to leadership has been senior, 5-foot-8-inch accomplish in the weeks to come. guard, Melissa Beyruti. Beyruti leads the NEW JERSEY CITY UNIVERSITY “We have a bigger goal than just win- team in scoring, averaging 14.9 points ning 19-straight games. Our bigger goal a game. happens in March,” said head coach Mi- “She’s the player who wants to take the chele Sharp. shot at the end of the game when the game After completing an undefeated month is on the line,” said Sharp. in January, the Cougars held a record of Having a player like Beyruti, on the 20-1, and went unbeaten in the New Jer- team will help the team accomplish their Saturday, February 27 Share your talents and learn sey Athletic Conference, 9-0. All too of- goals for playing in March. Last season 9:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m. about exceptional opportunities ten, teams let 19-straight wins go to their ended with an NCAA tournament berth, in the arts at our main campus in head, but Coach Sharp refuses to let that this year’s team would like to accomplish • Private auditions and sessions with Jersey City. Prospective graduate happen to her team. that same goal. the faculty to review your portfolio and undergraduate students in “I always tell the team our biggest chal- “We would like to get home court advan- ART and MUSIC may schedule • A chance to talk with current lenge for us, is us. We, as a team, always tage throughout the NCAA tournament, at students and meet the faculty an audition or portfolio review to qualify for these programs. talk about winning the right way every least the first couple rounds,” said Sharp. • Mini-recitals open to the publicblic day,” said Sharp. The Cougars look to extend their win- • Tour the new dedicated facilitiesities aandnd Even though the team is full of youth, ning streak and wrap up the regular sea- son in the coming weeks with key match- studios of the Visual Arts Buildingilding with eight freshmen, the core group of five seniors helped the team with leadership ups against NJAC rivals looming. • Meet with Admissions and responsibilities. Financial Aid staff • Free parking • Free morning refreshments REPORT FROM HAITI (Continued from page 1)

why they had lost all their families At Kean, the Haitian Club responded and buildings. quickly, organizing a prayer vigil days More than 100,000 people have been after the earthquake and collecting sup- killed. It has been recorded that there are plies from the Kean community to send to over a half of million people homeless af- the island. ter their homes have been destroyed by “There will still be inadequate education, EmpoweredU.NJCU.edu the earthquake. There are also inmates on there will be homeless people, but we can the loose after the jail collapsed, freeing fill the gaps by helping out,” said state Sen. many of them. President Barack Obama Raymond Lesniak, who was at Kean and has enforced military, rescue teams, and spoke about the group, NJ for Haiti. doctors to help out the victims. For more information on how to help The tragedy is not contained to just Hai- or donate to the people of Haiti, log on to TO RESERVE YOUR PLACE OR FOR FURTHER INFORMATION CALL (866) 586-7823 ti; thousands living in New Jersey have www.nj4haiti.org or contact the HSA (Hai- OR E-MAIL [email protected] family on the island and were unable to tian Student Association), here at Kean to 2039 KENNEDY BOULEVARD, contact them. Phone lines were down the find out ways of helping out. JERSEY CITY, NJ 07305-1597 first few days after the earthquake, but are now back on. 12 Feb. 10-Mar. 9, 2010 | The Tower SPORTS Celebs Get Off Too Easy For Crime

POINT COUNTERPOINT By John Cherry Junior Jean-Baptiste

Many people have faced it: that little question on the job application that asks I understand the side you’re taking John. It’s a privilege, not a job to play at if you have ever been convicted of a crime. For the people who have to check- the highest level of any sport. However, what about actors, actresses, and sing- mark the yes part on this portion of their application, it severely damages their ers who commit felony crimes? Are they not allowed the right to return to their chances of getting that job—even if the crime was, say, smoking pot or a youth- singing and acting careers after serving their time? ful fight in a bar. Some businesses may even throw the application away imme- It is not up to us to decide whether or not these highly publicized figures get a diately without reading anything else. second chance to return to their professions. As loyal fans to some, we are sup- Professional sports, however, must not have this question on their job ap- posed to encourage and support them as they should get a second chance just plications because they not only take in felons, but they glorify it. Supporter like everyone else. say they are helping this person out in their time of need. But what would really help them out would be saying no to them, and make them get the kind of job that mere human beings get when they come out of jail. Let’s see some star “As loyal fans to some, we are sup- athletes get out of jail go get a job working construction or at McDonalds. In posed to encourage and support them fact, most people with a record can’t even get those jobs. “If you check that you’re a felon on a Best Buy application, they don’t in as they are giving second chances even bother to look at it,” says Senior Kevin O’Brien who is an employee for Best Buy. just like everyone else.”

Gilbert Arenas “There is no reason to be carrying a I understand many will be upset with a lovable figure, like Chris Brown, who pleaded guilty for assaulting ex-girlfriend Rihanna after gun illegally.” the Grammy’s in 2009. He is still serving his five year probation and has com- pleted his community service. He lost many of his endorsements. He is paying So Michael Vick can have a job making a couple mil- dues. So why should we deny the right for Chris Brown to not continue his career lion dollars a year with the Philadelphia Eagles, but if he in performing for his many fans and friends? wanted to make 10 bucks an hour at Best Buy, he’d have We as individuals should be helping the athletes who have done their time no chance. Michael Vick for the crime, and stop denying them the right to play their sport. I understand It has gotten so bad in sports that when you hear of an athlete getting arrested Michael Vick isn’t the perfect person. Who is? But he did his time, and he con- for drunk driving or possessing a firearm illegally, people aren’t even surprised tributed to many animal protection workshops. We should give him and any anymore. Great role models, huh? other athletes a second chance. These players are given the gift of a lifetime to play in professional sports and Besides, these individuals don’t pay our taxes, so why be upset? get paid millions of dollars to do so. This should be considered a privilege not a job and if you do something of such atrocity, you should not be allowed the privileged of playing professional sports. This probably is never going to change, but these professional leagues should at least make these athletes see what it’s like to be a regular American for a year GO COUGARS! or two. Make them work a minimum wage job or construction before coming back to their respective sport.

A WORD TO THE WISE

By Lisa Martinez and Dawn M. Phillips After living on campus, moving back home I asked other students to see if perhaps did not have the best or most ideal student/ can seem to be a backwards transition. she was the same way towards them, and teacher relationship in the past and I’d like to All Grown Up and Ready to Move But while your thoughts on moving out they all said no. I am not paranoid, I do get some suggestions as to how I can improve I’m in my senior year and feel that I seem to make a lot of sense considering the not feel as if the world is out to get me and that.” However you approach your profes- have surpassed campus life. I cancelled current condition of our economy, taking on I consider myself a good judge of people’s sor, make your words will sound as if you are my housing on campus and am now com- such a large monthly expense can be a huge feelings. I know that professors are sup- making an effort to address whatever it may muting from my parent’s home. Some of liability. If your parents are understanding posed to be neutral and treat all their be that she “doesn’t like” about you. Perhaps my friends live on their own and I’m now and are financially stable enough for you to students equally, but I sincerely feel that there was some sort of bad impression that feeling as if perhaps it is time for me to be able to stay at home, why not consider it? this woman does not care for me. I had was made that she just did not shake off. as well. However, whenever I’ve spoken to But don’t make it permanent; try to set up a no choice but to sign up for her class as Your other option is to leave things unsaid people about it, they tell me to stay home move-out goal, a particular date as to when she was the only one teaching it and it’s a and hope for the best this semester. Keep in and save my money at least until school you want to be financially stable enough to major requirement for me. Should I meet mind that in doing this, you are running the is over and I have secured a full time job. move out. By financially stable we mean hav- with her privately and discuss my feelings risk of once again having the same awkward- My parents are laid back and do not have ing first and last month’s rent, security de- or should I just leave it alone and hope for ness, bad feelings and perhaps unfair treat- a problem with me living with them for as posit and a little nest egg just in case you fall the best in this class? ment that you feel you experienced in the long as I need to, but I do want my own into hard times. Signed, past. Weigh the pros and cons of each solution place with the privacy and freedoms that Disliked, maybe? and decide what is best for you. Good luck! come with it. What should I do? Does My Professor Dislike Me? Signed, I recently registered for a class with a Dear Disliked, maybe? Threatened by Boyfriend’s ex Sorta Homeless professor that I am convinced does not If you do decide to meet with your professor I’ve been in a relationship with a guy I’ll like me. I had her a few semesters ago and privately, you have to be careful how you word call “Mike” for a few months and things Dear Sorta Homeless, got a bad vibe from her. She was always whatever it is you decide to say. Keep in mind are going very well. Mike has a three-year- Your dilemma is a common one amongst short when speaking with me; she seems that this is a professor and you do not want old son from a previous relationship. He’s many college students. Living on campus usu- to try to avoid calling on me in class and to be confrontational, threatening, or accusa- a great dad and a great boyfriend. Mike ally is when students begin to feel indepen- when I tried to dispute my grade over the tory in any way for fear of being disrespect- and his son’s mother have a really good dent and learn to live on their own, prepare break, she refused to respond to me or ful or offensive. Instead of saying, “why don’t relationship; they never seem to fight their own meals, do their own laundry, etc. even acknowledge that I contacted her. you like me” say something like, “I noticed we and he only has good things to say about