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Vol. III No. 3 (#52) February 6, 2014 • 6 Adar I 5774 Free Queens Jewish Link Celebrates Second Anniversary Gala Event in Kew Gardens Hills Attracts Community Leaders, Prominent Rabbis, and Elected Ofﬁ cials

SEE COVERAGE ON P. 62 Links in a community chain: From L-R: Rabbi Shmuel Marcus (Rabbi, Cong. Ishei Yisrael), Rabbi Daniel Pollack (Jewish Liaison for Congresswoman Grace Meng), Assemblyman Michael Simanowitz, Assemblywoman Nily Rozic, Queens Borough President Melinda Katz, Counclman Rory Lancman, Councilwoman Karen Koslowitz, Rabbi Chaim Schauder (Yeshiva Tifereth Moshe), Rabbi Yoel Schonfeld (YIKGH), Yaakov Serle (QJL), and Yaniv Meirov (Chazaq) Photo Credit: Barry Brown From Rabbinic Consultant A Newlywed’s Thoughts Community Shabbos Inbox Blue And White Remembers The Big Game When You’re New Dr. Bernard Lander The Bold Why Are By Rabbi Yoel Schonfeld And A Jew On Fourth Yahrzeit And The Brazen So Many Children By Sergey Kadinsky Evening Of By Eytan Kobre Getting Sick? uper Bowl. There, I said Reflection And Inspiration it. I hope the QJL does Held In Kew Gardens Hills By Shmuel Sackett Snot get sued for men- couple of weeks ago, s my children can tioning the name that shall my friend Ben Fauld- tell you – since I con- he 19-year-old son not be mentioned. I ﬁ nd it so Aing picked up a thick Astantly remind them of one of my closest annoying to listen to the radio black marker and had the of this – being a wise man Tfriends suffered car- and having to hear references word “SCHVARTZE” written and a “wiseguy” are not the diac arrest a week ago and to “The Big Game,” whenever across his forehead. By all same. The distinction lies tragically passed away four the need arises to refer to the accounts, Faulding, 30, is an in the actor’s intent. days later. My daughter’s

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any years ago, the ten-year-old until he managed to fl ee miraculously. the ark and Aharon was called upon to lowing day, he could not stop thinking son of one of the wealthiest The Viceroy was a man familiar with read from the scroll. As he stood there, he about his odd dream. MArabs in Egypt ran away from the bible and proclaimed, “I see that the read from the words in parshas T’rumah: As he worked the next day in his gold home and severed all ties with his family. story of Pharaoh is repeating itself!” shop, an Arab woman walked in and was His two brothers remained at home with He explained that when Pharaoh and browsing about. She was not a regular their father, and upon his death they in- his magicians encountered diffi culty in- – In the rings of the Ark shall be the customer and, based on her mode of herited his wealth. terpreting the king’s dream, they called poles.” But instead of saying “Aron” (Ark) dress, did not look like she was a woman Sometime later, a charming man came upon a young Hebrew for assistance. The he said “Aharon” – his own name! The of means. And yet, she specifi cally eyed along claiming to be the missing son. the diamond rings and other expensive He had been wandering for thirty years jewelry. “Do you have money?” Aharon around the globe, and when he heard of He walked through an enormous courtyard with giant pillars, Pardo asked suspiciously, hoping not to his parents’ passing he decided to come have his time wasted. “Well, not at this and claim his portion of the inheritance. and suddenly his feet stood in the center palace ... moment,” she answered slowly, “but very The brothers subjected him to a de- which looked identical to the synagogue he saw in his dream soon, my son will have the money. He is tailed interrogation, and he told them ex- currently involved in a court case against act details about their parents, relatives, several wealthy people, and he assured their home, and events that he recalled Viceroy then ordered his servants to go people corrected him, but time and again me that the judge will rule in his favor.” from his childhood. The brothers were fi nd the fi rst Jew they see and bring him he read the words “the rings of Aharon.” She proceeded to ramble on about still suspicious and refused to give him to the palace. Then, he awoke from his dream befud- any money. In those days there lived in Egypt a Jew- dled and confused. All night and the fol- CONTINUED ON P. 51 A lawsuit ensued, and the case reached ish goldsmith named Aharon Pardo. He as high as the royal court. The Grand Vice- was remarkably modest and unassuming. Rabbi Dovid Hoffman is the author of the popular “Torah Tavlin” book series, fi lled roy looked at the claimant and asked curi- He spent half the day involved in his work with stories, wit and hundreds of divrei Torah, including the brand new “Torah Tavlin ously, “Where were you these last thirty and the other half he devoted to Torah Yamim Noraim” in stores everywhere. You’ll love this popular series. Also look for his years? Why did you never write home?” study. One night, Aharon Pardo dreamt book, “Heroes of Spirit,” containing one hundred fascinating stories on the Holocaust. The man explained that he had been that he stood in a large grand synagogue They are fantastic gifts, available in all Judaica bookstores and online at http://israel- taken captive in India. He was given no in Cairo, which was decorated like a royal bookshoppublications.com. To receive Rabbi Hoffman’s weekly “Torah Tavlin” sheet opportunity to contact the outside world palace. The Sefer Torah was taken out of on the parsha, e-mail [email protected]

10 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 11 The Shmuz On The Parshah R’ Benzion Shafier A Diamond With A Flaw “You shall place both stones on the items that are avoided in the avodah that he would tell us that the dif- Hashem Created The Human, Knowing He shoulder straps of the Eifod, remembrance so as not to bring up even the faintest ference between them is huge. He Would Sin stones for the Children of Israel.” memories of sin. While there is no would say that the diamond with the When Hashem formed man, it was Sh’mos 28:12 question that the sh’vatim were men minor fl aw is worth a fortune while not for him to be perfect. Perfection of extraordinary greatness, that great- the completely fl awless diamond rests in the realm of the mal’achim oshe was commanded to (angels). A mal’ach will spend its en- make garments for the ko- tire existence without sin. Mal’achim Mhanim. Included in these Man, and man alone, was given the unique opportunity are perfect. But a mal’ach isn’t a man. was the Eifod, a piece of clothing in all of Creation to determine his destiny, Man, and man alone, was given the similar to an apron, with two shoul- either becoming the greatest of all, or sinking below the animals unique opportunity in all of Creation der straps on top holding the av- to determine his destiny, either be- nei shoham, gold settings that con- coming the greatest of all, or sinking tained precious stones. Hashem told ness was also tainted with the sin of is almost worthless – because it is a below the animals. Moshe to engrave the names of the selling their brother. Didn’t that sin fake. One of the signs that a diamond To allow man to create who he twelve sh’vatim (tribes) onto these permanently affect who they were? is real is that it has a fl aw. While it would be for eternity, Hashem gave stones as a remembrance. Rashi ex- Shouldn’t that be reason enough not may be a very minor imperfection him free will. However, free will plains that this was so that the mem- to mention their names in such a crit- and almost unnoticeable, all genu- doesn’t mean the theoretical ability ory of Reuven, Shimon, Levi, etc. ical situation? ine diamonds have fl aws. The only to choose; it means being put into sit- would be invoked when the Kohen perfect diamonds are made of cubic uations where either choice is viable, Gadol did the avodah (service), and Every Diamond Has A Flaw zirconium, and are costume jewelry. Hashem would then remember their The answer to this is based on an CONTINUED ON P. 51 righteousness. issue of perspective. Imagine that there are two large Born and bred in Kew Gardens Hills, R’ Benzion Shafier joined the Choftez Chaim The Sh’vatim Sinned diamonds in front of you, one a beau- Yeshiva after high school. Shortly thereafter he got married and moved with his new This Rashi seems to be diffi cult to tifully cut jewel with a minor fl aw, family to Rochester, where he remained in for 12 years. R’ Shafi er then moved to Mon- understand. The avodah of the Kohen and the other the same as the fi rst, sey, NY, where he was a Rebbe in the new Chofetz Chaim branch there for three years. Gadol is vital and highly sensitive; but fl awless – a perfect diamond. If Upon the Rosh Yeshiva’s request, he stopped teaching to devote his time to running the world’s very existence depends we were to ask a diamond expert to Tiferes Bnei Torah. R” Shafi er, a happily married father of six children, currently re- upon it. As a result, there are many appraise the two, there is no doubt sides in Monsey.

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CONTINUED FROM P. 1 misguided few who claim to speak on behalf of Orthodoxy. What a The same distinction can be drawn stark contrast! The Kohen Gadol vis-à-vis boldness and brazenness. wore the Tzitz atop his forehead to One of the garments of the Kohen atone for brazenness, the very trait Gadol was the Tzitz, a forehead-plate exhibited by these young women engraved with the words “Kodesh wearing t’fi lin atop their own fore- LaShem,” “Sanctifi ed to G-d” (28:36). heads. Each garment worn by the Kohen The Zohar tells us that when the Gadol was intended to atone for Kohen Gadol wore the Tzitz, it not a specifi c sin typically performed only atoned for the brazen, it also with that part of the body. The Tz- subdued them. Just the image of itz atoned for “azus panim” – bra- the Kohen Gadol with the Tzitz atop zenness, chutzpah (Z’vachim 88b; his forehead was an awesome sight, Arachin 16a; VaYikra Rabah 10:6). and it caused all who saw it to con- There was a student in the Chofetz template, “What shows on my fore- Chaim’s yeshivah who, despite trans- head?” gressing several serious sins, was What shows on the foreheads of permitted to stay in the yeshivah. In these young women and those who contrast, when a different student encourage or support them? was accused of being insolent, the Chofetz Chaim expelled the student and place. Citing the need to be quieting mental image of teenage 1 - M’silas Y’sharim, Chapters 5, 20; Pele from the yeshivah. bold, the Gemara urges even a poor girls donning t’fi lin in high school, Yo’eitz, “Azus”; Da’as Torah, B’reishis Asked to reconcile these seem- person to purchase something spe- enabled, if not encouraged, by some 28:11 ingly-incongruous decisions, the cial for Shabbos, even if the added Chofetz Chaim cited the following expense is onerous (P’sachim 112a). Eytan Kobre is a lecturer, writer, and attorney, residing in Kew Gardens Hills with his mishnah: “Yehudah ben Teima says: The poor person can hardly afford wife and children. He can be contacted at [email protected]. Be bold as a leopard, light as an ea- to feed and clothe his family, but he gle, swift as a deer, and strong as a is encouraged to be bold and spend lion to do the will of your Father in more than he otherwise could or heaven. He used to say: [the] brazen- should afford. Indeed, the Jewish faced to Gehinnom and the shame- people merited to receive the Torah faced to Gan Eden. May it be Your because we are bold – we have azus, will, Hashem our G-d and the G-d of but not azus panim (Beitzah 25b). our fathers, that the Temple be re- But then there is rank brazen- built speedily in our days, and give ness, employed neither in service us our portion of Your Torah” (Avos of Hashem nor for His sake, and 5:23-24). sometimes contrary to both. That Noting that the brazen appear to is “azus panim” – “brazenness of go to Gehinnom without mention of face,” so-called because brazenness repentance, the Chofetz Chaim ex- is the outward expression of an in- plained that while repentance osten- ner boldness that should be kept in sibly fi xes all sins, a brazen person the recesses of our hearts and used will likely never repent. Brazenness sparingly (See Ruach Chayim, Avos interferes with the ability to admit 5:23-24). The brazen are assumed wrongdoing and fault. to have sinned, and it is permitted Therefore, the Chofetz Chaim rea- to hate such people and to refer to soned, while the student whose sins them as “wicked” (Taanis 7b; see also seem more grievous than mere bra- Bava M’tzia 83b). Every day, we ask zenness is faced with the daunting Hashem to save us, not from azus/ task of repentance, at least repent- boldness, but from “azei panim and ance is possible. The brazen one, on azus panim,” from brazenness and the other hand, will never repent. from those who would act brazenly But there is a distinction between towards us (B’rachos 16b). Azus can brazenness and boldness, between be good; we only wish to be spared “azus panim” and “azus” (See Bi’ur from its bad variant – azus panim. HaGra, Orach Chayim 1:1). Boldness The Tzitz teaches that there is a dif- is encouraged – “be bold as a leop- ference between being bold and beard” – while brazenness is to be ing brazen. The Ksav Sofer explains avoided at all costs. that the Tzitz was inscribed with the Boldness is a good trait.1 We are words “Kodesh LaShem” because the encouraged to be bold in ignoring litmus test in determining whether those who mock our Torah observ- one’s actions are bold (“azus”) or bra- ance (Tur, Orach Chayim 1:1). Yes, zen (“azus panim”) is the degree to we are by nature a bashful people which the act is performed for the (Y’vamos 79a; Rambam, Isurei Biah sake of Hashem. 19:17), but boldness too has its time One can only be struck by the dis-

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“They shall make a Sanctuary for be offered. However, this is not the Mt. Sinai (Shemot 24:16), it also says, building of the Tabernacle and the Me so that I may dwell among them… case. The worship and service that “The Glory of G-d fi lled the Taber- details of its construction. The cen- They shall make an Ark of acacia one fi nds in any other religion, such nacle” (ibid. 40:34). The same Pres- tral worship of G-d is not is some wood… You shall place in the Ark the as some form of ritual or offerings, ence that appeared to Israel at Mt. rituals, however important they will testimonial Tablets that I shall give is not presented here. The Torah be- Sinai would always be with them be, but to keep His Torah and observe you.” gins with this directive, because the in the Tabernacle. As Moses would His will. Although we need some (Shemot 25:8, 10, 16) Ark is to be the central piece of the enter the Tabernacle, the same Voice form of physical worship and rituals Tabernacle and its main raison d’être. would speak to him just as had been in order to experience holiness and he idea that G-d, infi nite and From this fact, Nachmanides (1194- spoken to him at the mountain. In proximity with G-d, the best way to ubiquitous, would require a 1270, Gerona, Spain) deduces that other words, the Revelation would experience that intimacy with G-d Tresting place in a fi nite, mate- is by observing His commandments rial world seems incongruous. Yet if and allowing the Torah to enter our the Torah orders it, there must be an Although the Tabernacle is no more hearts and mold our character. The explanation for this commandment. and the Temple has been destroyed, t Midrash tells us that Bezal’el, the ar- Man requires a sacred place where chitect of the Tabernacle, asked Mo- G-d will be worshipped, and it would he constant Voice of G-d ses, “What is G-d’s purpose in this be understandable that the com- has not ceased to be heard in Israel Tabernacle?” Moses replied, “To re- mandment is issued for our, not G- side in it and to teach Torah to Isra- d’s, needs. However, the Torah plac- el” (Midrash Tanchuma, VaYakhel 6). es at the beginning of its directions the Tabernacle was effectively a con- not be a one-time event but a recur- The main function of the Tabernacle the building of the Ark, which will tinuation of the Revelation at Mount ring phenomenon to guide the peo- is then a direct continuation of the house the Tablets of the Law. If the Sinai. “The secret meaning of the ple of Israel in the world. Revelation at Sinai, and this learning purpose was merely to satisfy Man’s Tabernacle was that the Glory that What was inside the Ark? In fact, of His Word remains a permanent need for a place of worship, the cen- descended upon Mt. Sinai would the mystery surrounding its confi xture in the Jewish people. tral instruction would be concerning now rest upon it indiscernibly. As it tents became the subject of one This also means that the Presence the Altar where the sacrifi ces would says, “The Glory of G-d rested upon of the earliest anti-Semitic attacks of G-d (the Shechinah) is always in Alexandria that suggested that with us. “Even after the Temple was the Ark contained some nefarious destroyed, the sanctity of the place and vile objects. In fact the Bible did not vanish, for the Shechinah informs us, “There was nothing in did not disappear, and even though the Ark but the two stone Tablets” they are in ruins, their sanctity re- (I Kings 8:9). Our Rabbis expounded mains.” Although the Tabernacle is on this verse using the hermeneuti- no more and the Temple has been cal principle of two successive limi- destroyed, the constant Voice of G-d tations (mi’ut achar mi’ut) to deduce has not ceased to be heard in Israel. that in addition to the two stone There are some who question this Tablets that were brought by Moses lasting connection and others who the second time around, there were view this relationship as remote and also the fragments of the fi rst stone stale, but the bond remains as it was Tablets that had been broken by when we fi rst stood at the foot of the him when he saw the Golden Calf. mountain. As the Rabbis interpret Thus, the whole content of the Ark the verse in the Shema, “And these was the Torah, G-d’s Word and His words that I command you today” – laws. This then is the central pur- let these words seems to you as if pose of the Tabernacle: to keep for- they are given today. Sinai is not in ever the attachment of the Jewish the past; it is happening today. So people to Mt. Sinai. The very con- long as there are people who devote struction of the Ark, with the gold themselves to the study of Torah resembling the fi re that enveloped and its observance, so long as there the mountain as G-d spoke, is a rep- are students who discover new in- lication of the event of the Revela- sights in the Torah and its manifold tion itself. The Tabernacle served as deductions, and so long as there are a roving Mt. Sinai that accompanied Jews ready to listen to the Voice, them in all their travels. Wherever that Voice will still resound and be the Jewish people would fi nd them- heard. The mountain is physically selves, they will always be within located in a place, never defi nitively easy reach of Mt. Sinai and its mes- identifi ed, in the Sinai Peninsula, sage. but the real Mt. Sinai is in the heart The permanent, everlasting, and of every faithful son and daughter of unchangeable relationship between Israel. The Mountain is not far, it is G-d and Israel is exemplifi ed by the with us.

Rabbi David Algaze is the founder and Rav of Havurat Yisrael, Forest Hills. He is a noted public speaker and author and is the President of the international Committee for the Land of Israel.

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Philadelphia. she makes more than $9,000 per month FAA Grounds The previous record was held by by eating in front of a webcam and allow- Takeru Kobayashi, who ate 337 wings at ing thousands to watch her. Brewery's the event in 2012. Park Seo-Yeon, 33, who goes by the Schuyler, from Omaha, Neb., didn't ex- online handle "the Diva," said she starts Beer-Delivering Drone actly cruise to the crown, however. She her hours-long online meal each night at narrowly defeated fellow competitive 8 p.m. and thousands of people log in to eater Patrick Bertoletti, a Chicago native watch her devour her food. who fi nished with 356 wings. Jamie "The Park said she makes about $9,300 each Bear" Anderson, last year's champion, was month from generous fans who donate itage value it has. The interiors can be third among the six fi nalists with 304. to keep her channel running. restored to whatever comfort value they For her gutsy effort, Schuyler won the Park said her fans give various reasons wish." $22,000 top prize as well as a gold medal for wanting to watch her eat. Forman said both homes both need a and a championship ring. "A lot of my viewers are on diets and lot of work. "I have car payments and kids, so it's all they say they live vicariously through me, "They're fairly rough. The roofs are good," Schuyler said. or they are hospital patients who only starting to leak some," Forman said. "But And perhaps even more impressive: All have access to hospital food so they also the only thing is they're constructed this was accomplished in an hour's work watch my broadcasts to see me eat," she of fi rst-growth fi r, very clear, very good brewery said plans for aerial beginning at -- get this -- 8 a.m. said. wood." drone beer deliveries for Min- Schuyler breezed to the fi rst-round lead, Park said about 60 percent of her view- "The consensus is they would be re- Anesota ice fi shing houses are on eating 186 wings in 14 minutes as the top ers are female. buildable," he said. hold after running afoul of the Federal 10 advanced. One of those eliminated in the "One of the best comments I ever re- The houses are the only two remaining of Aviation Administration. fi rst round was Philadelphia Eagles center Ja- ceived from a viewer who said that she the eight homes built at the start of the 20th Jack Supple, president of Lakemaid son Kelce, who managed only 65 wings. The had gotten over her anorexia by watch- century for employees of the Canadian Pacifi c Beer, came up with the plan for using a second round lasted 14 minutes, and the fi nal ing me eat," Park said. "That really meant Railway, Forman said. six-bladed unmanned craft to deliver 12 round was a two-minute sprint to the fi nish. a lot to me." pack of beer to ice fi shing houses and To qualify for the Wing Bowl, Schuyler created a YouTube video depicting a test ate nine pounds of cottage cheese in 114 Man Survives Trip run on a lake. seconds. She also holds a world record The video quickly went viral. for eating a 72-ounce steak in less than Through Wood Chipper "Our Facebook page went wild because three minutes. Washington state man who sur- our fans loved the idea," Supple said. vived a freak journey through an However, Supple said he soon received Aindustrial machine similar to a some bad news from the FAA, which sent Japanese Police wood chipper was recovering in a hospi- him an email explaining commercial use tal on Thursday from crushed bones and of drones is not yet permitted. Sergeant Resigns battered organs, and said he felt fortu- "Our concern is the safety of people on nate to be alive. the ground and the safety of people in After Force-Feeding Frank Arce, 23, was at his job as a gener- the air," an FAA spokeswoman said. Officers Hamburgers al laborer at the Swanson Bark and Wood Supple said he understands the safety Offi cials with Afreeca TV, which Products Co. late last week when he concerns of drone use are still being stud- fter reports surfaced that he hosts Park's evening meal video stream, climbed up on a drum to remove a piece ied by the government. forced junior offi cers eat 15 burg- said her channel is one of many "eating of jammed wood. "I see what they're talking about. When Aers, 15 doughnuts and four cups rooms" available on the site. He fell through a basketball-sized hole you think of all of the people who are go- of instant fried noodles in one sitting, an "We think it's because of three big into a powered-off "porcupine" device, ing to come up with ways to use these, unidentifi ed Japanese police sergeant has reasons -- the rise of one-person house- which uses eight-inch blades and other the regulation of it is going to be impor- reportedly resigned from his position. holds in Korea, their ensuing loneliness instruments to break up pieces of bark. tant, so they're learning as fast as we are," The traffi c sergeant, 40, was forcing and fi nally the huge trend of 'well-being A coworker, who was unaware Supple said. his subordinates to eat in an effort to culture' and excessive dieting in Korean someone had fallen into the machine, “toughen them up.” In addition to the society right now," a spokeswoman said. switched the porcupine back on while food, the sergeant also allegedly forced Arce was trapped inside. He was in the Woman Wins the four younger offi cers to guzzle three machine for only seconds before a de- Wing Bowl 22 to four liters of coffee-fl avored milk. Historic Homes vice operator heard screams and shut it The sergeant was worried that his of- Being Offered down, but the lower half of his body was By Eating 363 fi cers weren’t working effi ciently because already mangled. of physical weakness. “After fi nding they For $1 Each In The machine is similar to a wood chip- Chicken Wings were not working hard enough, I did it in per, which is used to reduce tree limbs or order to toughen them up,” he said. British Columbia Town trunks to woodchips, but is different be- The force-feeding sessions reportedly cause it uses blades geared toward sepa- happened on at least 10 occasions be- ffi cials in a British Columbia rating, instead of chopping, piles of tree tween early 2010 and the end of last year. town said they are offering a pair bark. In addition to being forced to eat, the Oof historic houses for $1 each in "There's no way I should be here right subordinate offi cers were also responsi- the hopes of saving the structures. now," Frank Arce said in a phone inter- ble for paying for their own food. Lloyd Forman, the Fraser Valley Re- view from his hospital bed. gional District's director for the town Arce said not knowing the extent of of Boston Bar, said the district's board his injuries was more frightening than Korean Woman Makes gave approval last week for staff to start being chopped at by blades and other searching for buyers willing to take on heavy metal parts. More Than $9,000 the homes for $1 each. "After I went though the machine and "We're trying to fi nd a way to save everything got shut down, I was sitting ass the napkins, please. A Month By Eating these houses," Forman said. "We fi nally there, waiting, and I didn't want to look Molly Schuyler, a 5-foot-7, On Camera came up with a plan that if we could at the wounds," he said. "I didn't know if I P125-pound mother of four, devoured a offer the house and the lot for a dollar, was going to make it or if I was going to jaw-dropping 363 wings over 30 minutes and his is the last strange story involv- it might be worthwhile for someone to pass on that day." three rounds to set the record at Wing Bowl ing food for this issue. We promise. purchase it. And the only stipulation we Arce, who has a tattoo spanning the 22 on last Friday at the Wells Fargo Center in T A South Korean woman said have is that the exterior retains the her- length of his chest that reads, "Send me 6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 21 Snippets Of Strange

used to engage our youth, many of whom it’s not silly.” I visit with in my district.” In a state with an offi cial state dessert, The House Democrat said that the an offi cial state invertebrate, and an offi - high fi ve is his greeting of choice when cial state dinosaur, perhaps it’s not so odd on the Missouri House fl oor. It’s some- to have an offi cial state greeting. thing he uses to connect with other representatives and promote a friendly environment. He hopes that if approved, Man Wins the offi cial greeting will encourage bi- partisanship. Rep. Curtis explained, “It’s Super Bowl Tickets an angel," said he felt "guardian angels" 1624, which reads: “The ‘high fi ve’ is promoting us working together. Sure we were sent to protect him on the day of selected for and shall be known as the want to work all the time, but when ten- After Calling Number In his accident and that he considers his offi cial state greeting in the state of Mis- sions get raised you know to a certain Old Spice Commercial survival a miracle. souri.” level, it prevents any productivity from He suffered seven broken ribs, a bro- Why the high fi ve versus other fi ne actually occurring.” ken pelvis, a broken knee, a shattered an- greetings? For instance, the fi st bump? Rep. Curtis further explained, “Are kle, a collapsed lung, a bruised liver and Representative Curtis said, “Didn’t want there more serious things that we could permanent nerve damage from the inci- to go with the fi st bump, because we’re be addressing? Yes. Sure. Hopefully by in- dent. It was unclear if he would be able not New Jersey. That’s the truth.” troducing this it will allow the tensions to walk and move normally again. On the website promoting HB 1624, to not be so, so high that we can work "We're not exactly sure the extent of Rep. Curtis’ said, “This bill was designed on things such as Medicaid expansion or what he'll be able to do. He might not be to actually get children involved in our fi xing the school transfer issue. So if this at a 100 percent but he's alive and that's political process. These type of bills are brings the tension down a little bit. No all that we care about," Arce’s mother said.

oing to the Super Bowl is every Bill Proposed To Make NFL fan's dream, and one lucky Gperson made that dream a reality The “High Five” just from being observant. A man named Scott Knowlton was Missouri’s Official watching an Old Spice commercial when State Greeting he noticed a woman scribble a phone number for a man (866-617-4247). Noticing issouri State House Repre- it didn't have a generic "555" number, he sentative Courtney Allen Cur- decided to call it. When he called, Scott Mtis has introduced House Bill got the surprise of a lifetime.

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The number was for an Old Spice eal estate agent Randy Lawrence framed portrait of the two leaders above spokesman, and he was given two free of La Jolla, California had some- the toilets. tickets to the Super Bowl at MetLife Sta- Rthing incredibly valuable and In a nod to the tight security meas- dium. Scott was one of just two people to didn’t even realize it. The 56-year-old ures imposed in Sochi for the Olympics, call the number and win tickets. man had inherited an odd, silver-colored another joke has it that the second toilet Along with the tickets, Scott received penny from his father, a former deputy was for a security offi cer. $500 in spending money, $2,500 to offset superintendent of the Denver Mint, over The Sochi organizing committee re- taxes and a three-night stay at a four-star 30 years ago and didn’t think much of it. fused to comment. hotel in Times Square. Even when he recently moved from Colo- After Knowlton got through, more rado to the Sunshine State, he kept it in than 1,000 other people called the his trunk for over a month. Turns out he Labrador Top Dog In number but they were too late. was riding around with quite a fortune. Mr. Lawrence fi nally got around to U.S. For Record 23rd looking into the coin and brought it, Year In A Row Indian Street Vendor along with others kept in a sandwich baggy, to the La Jolla Coin Shop and sold he American Kennel Club in New Steals Bag, them to store owner Michael McConnell. York announced the Labrador re- Finds Baby Inside McConnell at fi rst thought it was a, “low- Ttriever kept its spot as the United value souvenir from a foreign mint.” States' top dog for the 23rd year in a row. street vendor who stole a bag However, after doing more research, The group said its tally of registered from a local train in India acciden- McConnell made a big-time discovery: canines during the past year indicates Atally saved the life of a baby boy The coin was actually a never-before-seen the Labrador is the most popular breed concealed inside, investigators say. 1974-D aluminum penny from the Denver in the country for the 23rd consecutive Kishor Kale, 20, left the train last Mon- Mint. Then McConnell did something year, followed by the German shepherd, day with the bag in Kurla, a Mumbai very cool. Despite having bought the coin the golden retriever, the beagle and the suburb. He opened the bag at the station, from Randy, he decided to let him know was injured in the tumble from moun- bulldog. hoping to fi nd cash or valuables, and in- that he hadn’t paid nearly enough for tains overlooking the village. Some oth- The Yorkshire terrier, boxer, poodle, stead a tiny hand poked out. what the coin was actually worth. er boulders from the Jan. 21 landslide Rottweiler and dachshund rounded out Kale tried to dump the bag and baby Lawrence noted how pleased he was blocked roads. the AKC's top 10. on the platform but was caught by an with Michael being so forthright be- Lisa Peterson, a spokeswoman for the alert ticket seller. He told police he was cause, “[McConnell] could’ve sold this AKC, said the group has noticed some hawking nail polish on the train when he coin.” McConnell said he never thought Picture Of Twin Toilets correlation between dog ownership and spotted the bag on the fl oor. about doing anything differently, telling the economy. Police said the baby is only about 15 the station, “When we misjudge some- In Sochi Goes Viral "Owning bigger breeds -- an economic days old. While he is in good health, he thing, it’s only right of us to then to go t's a tale of two toilets. indicator of sorts -- have been on the rise would probably have suffocated if he had make that right.” When BBC reporter Steve Rosen- during the past fi ve years," Peterson said. remained in the bag 10 minutes longer. The coin will be auctioned in Chicago Iberg went to use the bathroom at "As the economy has improved, people A senior offi cer said investigators are this April. Lawrence said that he’s heard it the cross-country skiing and biathlon are turning back to the big dogs they examining security camera footage to could be worth up to $2 million. He and center for next month's Winter Olympics love, which cost more to feed and care verify Kurla's story of how he came by McConnell have agreed to split the jack- in Sochi, he found two toilets but only for than the smaller breeds that saw a the bag and to fi nd out who dumped it pot and on top of that, will donate up to one stall. rise in popularity in 2007 and 2008." and the baby. $100K to local homeless programs. His tweeted picture instantly became "It's good that the hawker found the a national joke. bag. Had the child been inside for 10 Couple Gets Engaged more minutes, he would've died," anoth- Boulder Nearly er offi cer said. Over Loudspeaker Wipes Out At Walmart Italian Farmhouse Man Learns Columbus couple wasn’t planning That For Decades, huge boulder unleashed by a land- on getting engaged when they slide in northern Italy narrowly Awent to Walmart, but the groom- He Was Holding Onto Amissed a farmhouse, destroyed a to-be had a burst of inspiration while he barn and came to a stop in vineyards. was standing near the jewelry counter. Rare Aluminum Penny A second boulder stopped just feet While his girlfriend Ashley was in an- (about a meter) behind the traditional other section of the store, Marvin Banks Worth Hundreds stone farmhouse in a rocky region of the Although toilets like that are not com- saw his chance to use the store’s loud- country. mon in Russia, social media users posted speaker system and he went for it. Of Thousands, The surreal sight was captured in a photos of other toilets side by side, in- "Next thing I know, I hear over the in- Maybe Even Millions series of dramatic photographs. Nobody cluding some said to be in a courthouse tercom, Attention Walmart Customers," and a cafe. Ashley said. "He said, ‘You mean the world The editor of the state R-Sport news to me, I love you. I want to spend the rest agency said such communal toilets are if my life with you, and that's why I'm go- standard at Russian soccer stadiums. ing to ask you this.’ And he got down on "Why are the BBC folks scaring us?" one knee, and asked me to marry him. He Vasily Konov wrote in his personal Twit- did it all over the intercom." ter account. "This is what the gents look She started crying and accepted Banks’ like at football stadiums in Russia." He proposal. posted a photo showing two urinals and "I just did it today to surprise her," three toilets in a large room. Banks said. "Try to get a little surprise." Russians jested that the toilets in So- While she never expected to get en- chi were designed for a "tandem," the gaged at Walmart, Ashley now feels like name used to describe the duo of Presi- she was on the receiving end of the per- dent Vladimir Putin and Prime Minister fect proposal. Dmitry Medvedev. One popular blogger "I think this proposal tops all propos- altered Rosenberg's photo to put in a als," she said

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He said he didn’t even count the mon- don’t know, I couldn’t get out by myself,” Doctor Walks ey before calling police. Coy told the station. “It’s just one of them Fisherman Reels In “My biggest concern was getting the things, you know just, it’s hard to believe, Eight Miles money back to the rightful owner,” he but it happened you know?...I’m just glad Camera With said. “I certainly can’t imagine losing that she was here, that’s the main thing.” Through Snowstorm kind of money. I was so nervous having Working Memory Card To Perform Lifesaving so much of someone else’s money.” Filled With 5 Years Police were able to fi nd the man who Sign Shaker Given Brain Surgery made the donation. The man, who did Of Photos taff members at Alabama’s Trinity not want to be named, said he donated $20,000 Full Ride Medical Center said a neurosur- the contents of an elderly relative’s closet College Scholarship Sgeon walked 8 miles in a snow- and did not know the cash was stashed storm to perform life-saving emergency among the clothes. ontez Jones of Louisville, Ken- surgery at the hospital. “I am really proud of those people at tucky, was going about his day Steve Davis, charge nurse at the hospi- Goodwill,” the man said. “It makes me Mas a human billboard, enthusi- tal’s neuro/stroke intensive care unit, said feel good there are people out there like astically dancing while holding a sign ad- Dr. Zenko Hrynkiw was at Birmingham’s that, especially in this day and age.” vertising Colbert Ball Tax Service, when other hospital when Davis called him to he received a huge gift from a passerby. come in for the procedure. The sign man is dedicated to his job isherman Stephen Garnett pulled Davis said Hrynkiw only made it a few 10-Year-Old and said, “I don’t care what the weather in a long lost waterlogged cam- blocks in his car before he became stuck is, I’m coming to work.” Perhaps it’s that Fera with photos amazingly still in snowstorm traffi c. Saves Grandfather devotion that caught the attention of intact, from the bottom of Lake Tahoe. “The cell service was bad so we were Reverend Kevin Cosby, the President of Stephen’s fi shing trip not only netted fading in and out,” Davis said. “At one From Drowning Simmons College of Kentucky, a small lake trout, but also treasured memories point, I heard him say, ‘I’m walking.’” and historically black Bible college. Rev. belonging to Jana LeVitre, who had lost Davis said he alerted the authorities Cosby was driving by 29-year-old Mr. her digital camera in 2011 while sailing in and they were on the lookout for Hrynk- Jones as he did his job, and stopped to the same lake. iw walking between the hospitals, but talk to the man. He described Jones as a, LeVitre, a Utah woman, said that when they saw no sign of him until a few hours “human billboard, gyrating. I mean, to- her waterproof digital camera went over- later when he walked into Trinity. tally depersonalized.” board into the 150 to 200 feet deep water, “He fi nally called me and said where’s Jones explained, “A black car just pulled “I realized I’d just have to remember [the the patient? What’s the status?” Davis up, and he said, ‘Do you know who I am, pictures] in my mind. I never expected to said. “He spoke to the family and went young man?’ I said, ‘No sir.’” The reverend see them again.” off to surgery.” introduced himself to Montez and offered That is until last week when Stephen Davis said the surgeon was in time to him a $20,000 full ride scholarship and pulled the camera out of the lake’s waters. help a patient with a traumatic brain in- the opportunity to attend Simmons Col- “I’m lookin’ in the water going, ‘What is jury. lege. But why extend that offer to Montez that,’ and I thought it was a cell phone. So “Without the surgery, the patient Jones? Rev. Cosby said it was to, “Show I pulled it out, no it’s a camera,” Garnett would have most likely died,” Davis said. ara Jumper, a heroic 10-year-old [Jones] what confi dence, hard work, disci- said. The fi sherman brought home the “But he is doing well.” girl, recently saved her grandfa- Mackinaw he caught as well as the cam- Davis praised Hrynkiw for taking the Cther after he had a stroke and era and showed it to his wife, Jamie Clark. lifesaving long walk in the snow, which fell into the deep water of a pond. When A photography hobbyist, Jamie had a he estimated to be about 8 miles. Cara saw her grandpa, Coy Jumper, fall special interest in the catch. “It has water “This just speaks volumes to the dedi- into the pond in South Carolina and she in the little viewfi nder where you see the cation of the man,” Davis said. “When I immediately sprang into action to save pictures and it’s rusty,” Jamie explained. saw him, all I could say is ‘you are a good him from drowning. Then when she looked closer she found man.’” Cara told the station, “I didn’t think a functional memory card and excitedly much at all. I just jumped down in there recalled, “Oh my gosh! There’s 1,065 pho- and got him out.” That was just the start of tos on there.” Worker Returns $43K the granddaughter’s amazing rescue. After Knowing the importance of photos, the pint sized hero pulled her 230-pound Jamie set out to get the shots, spanning Found In Pockets grandfather to shore, Cara then had to from 2006 to September 2011, back to move him a quarter of a mile to their car. their rightful owner. She took to Face- Of Donated Clothing Coy’s cell phone was at the bottom of the book and posted two photos from each pond, so they were unable to call 911. “He’s pline and being around the right environ- year hoping that someone in her net- leaning on me and I’m basically carrying ment can do for a person and if he can do work of friends would lead her to the him. I think it was the hardest thing that it he becomes my example that anyone mystery photographer. I’ve ever done,” said Cara. can be successful.” The prospective stu- She also contacted the Riverton Sil- Once the two were at the car, the dent’s success could benefi t them both, es- verwolves Lacrosse team via Facebook, 10-year-old had to take the wheel and pecially with the college anticipating full as one of the photos was of the team. drive 3-miles to her grandparent’s home. accreditation from the U.S. Department of Clark’s tenacity paid off and LeVitre, not a Cara recalled, “Well it was kind of hard, Education, within months. big Facebook user, eventually was urged but I had done it a couple times before.” Montez said that as a child he dreamed by her daughter to check out the photos. Michigan thrift store worker who Esca, Coy’s wife, was there and Coy was of being a doctor, but his circumstances, She was overjoyed when she realized the found $43,100 in $100 bills among taken to the hospital where he stayed for “living in the streets,” and an arrest end- photos were hers. Adonations said his “biggest con- 6 days. Later the medical staff found the ed it. “With my background, it was over. Jana and Jamie connected and the cern” was returning the cash to its owner. cause of the grandfather’s stroke, a small My dreams were crushed,” said the sign memory card is on its way back to a very Tyler Gedelian, 29, manager of the aneurysm. “We’re just so thankful that shaker. He’s hopeful and grateful for the grateful Jana. Goodwill store, said he was shocked everything worked out and Cara’s adrena- sudden opportunity saying, “It’s like me “What are the chances that she could while sorting through a recent donation line kicked in and she did what she had being a newborn. Start my life all over fi nd something, the owners of something to fi nd the mass amount of cash and a to do,” said the grandma. again, fresh. Hopefully this might be a like that?” LeVitre said. “It’s just surreal. I wallet bearing an old identifi cation card. Mr. Jumper said that he has no memo- good start for me you know what I’m say- just can’t believe it and to think that it “We might fi nd a quarter in some- ry of the incident aside from hitting the ing. I’m going to take it. I’m going to take wasn’t found by scuba divers. It was actual- body’s jeans,” Gedelian said. “But that water but he knew the gravity of the situ- it and run with it though. I ain’t going to ly reeled in by a guy who thought he caught blows my mind.” ation. “I’d say I owe her my life ‘cause, I let [Rev. Cosby] down.” a fi sh. That just makes it even cooler.”

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R’ Yoel Schonfeld The Big Game

CONTINUED FROM P. 1 of offering our kids the opportunity to be ter to their own larger interests, a self- self-protective, even if you let the others ambitious and to be the best they can be, absorbed entity or person will not look have theirs, is just a slip away from be- Super Bowl. It seems that our society has has become another hazard that we must beyond its immediate need to protect its coming Sodom-like. become so litigious that we cannot make monitor. Illegal growth hormones, vio- brand. True, it would likely be benefi - Especially as Jews, we need to train reference to a trademarked name even lence, obscene contracts, and lack of team cial to have more people talk about the our kids – and ourselves – that there is if it may be to the owner’s advantage. I loyalty have become the staples of just Super Bowl, but fi rst things fi rst: Thou no room for self-interest. We are part would assume the NFL would benefi t about every professional sport. A child shalt not use our name in vain. If you of a broader klal Yisrael that needs our from the added hype of referring to their selfl ess involvement at all times. A Jew’s premier event whenever a contest or a loss anywhere is our loss here. A Jew’s party relating to that event is promoted. Especially as Jews, we need to train our kids – and ourselves – simchah is really our simchah as well. A I guess the need to be protective of “what that there is no room for self-interest. The pressure Jew suffering anti-Semitism in Paris is is mine is mine” overrides even one’s self our crisis. The pressure Israel is facing by interest. Truly a Big Game. Israel is facing by “friend” and foe alike is our pressure “friend” and foe alike is our pressure. We Now, it happens that I am not at all a do not have the luxury of being self-ab- professional football fan. Baseball to an sorbed. In the coming weeks, the Jewish extent, basketball much less, but foot- idolizes his favorite second baseman only do, we will see you in court. It is strik- community will be called upon to sup- ball – well, I just never got into it. Sorry to fi nd out that the mega-millions he ing that in Pirkei Avos (4:13) the mishnah port Israel as it faces enormous pressure Rangers fans, hockey is not even on my makes is not enough. He needs to make states, “[Someone who says] what’s mine from all corners of the world. radar screen. But you don’t have to be a mega-mega-millions, or at least one more is mine and what’s yours is yours is an Our Secretary of State leads the pack. football fan to know that the Big Game dollar than his rival second baseman. average character, but some say this is No small task, but we have no choice: We was a Big Bust…a real lopsided blowout Imagine had most athletes been Jews. characteristic of Sodom.” What a leap: must rise to the occasion. by Seattle over Denver. The storyline would be, “Greedy Jews Not from being just an average Joe according Let us hope we can succeed in our Yet we are all impacted by the con- Happy With Millions.” to the fi rst opinion to being Sodom-like endeavor to break from the grip of a self- stant exposure of talk and ads regarding Coming back to the NFL, we in the To- according to the second opinion! Appar- absorbed society and do away with the the Super Bowl whether we like it or not. rah world need somehow to turn the Big ently, the Chazal understood that being Big Game. Half of our city was turned into a Super Game syndrome into a learning oppor- Bowl Mecca the last few weeks. tunity. We need to show our kids the Rabbi Yoel Schonfeld is the Rabbi of the Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills, Presi- So we are faced with another situa- ridiculous lengths that a self-centered dent of the Vaad Harabonim of Queens, and the Rabbinic Consultant for the Queens tion where professional sports, instead enterprise can go to. Even if it runs coun- Jewish Link. Frontlines Joseph M. Frager Obama’s Faltering Legacy

obert Gates, former US Defense Secretary muddling through, are not the right path forward from 2006 to 2011, has ﬁ red the ﬁ rst salvo and put our kids at risk for no good purpose.” Rin what will no doubt be a recurring theme This is precisely what the president is known as history judges President Obama. Obviously, the for. He has sat on the fence for most of his de- legacy is not yet complete, since the Iranian crisis cision-making. This is all in line with our assess- is looming larger than ever. As it stands right now, ment over the six years of the Obama presidency. it does not appear by any stretch that the president Gates’ book rings true because it resonates with all is going to do anything militarily against Iran. Un- of Obama’s critics and is putting a face on Obama’s less the Ayatollahs fall by some miracle, President ever-faltering legacy. The face is not pretty. The Obama's legacy of appeasement, disengagement, president’s handling of the Benghazi murders, the and laissez faire will remain for the rest of his pres- allowing of Syrian chemical weapons to remain idency. despite an agreement, the resurgence of al-Qaeda Unless Robert Gate’s book Duty changes the pres- in Iraq, the undue and inappropriate pressure on ident's thinking, which is highly unlikely, Gates’ as- Israel, and the appeasement of the Iranians all sessment remains operative. By early 2010, regard- point to a president who is incompetent, despises ing Afghanistan, Gates writes that the president foreign policy decisions, and has made the world a “doesn't believe in his own strategy and doesn't more dangerous place than before he took over as consider the war to be his. For him it’s all about president. getting out.” Another charge leveled by Gates at Robert Gates is a rare individual who felt that the president about Afghanistan was that he was it was his responsibility to criticize a sitting presi- “skeptical if not outright convinced it would fail.” dent (which is almost never done), because he feels How does a Commander in Chief send American that the book could help America stay strong. He soldiers into life-and-death combat thinking that is a true patriot who values all that America stands his policy will fail? The then Secretary of Defense for. He should be congratulated for his brave and Gates further wrote to the president concerning bold attempt at correcting a situation that is near- the “surge” that “while the deliberative process has ing, if it is not already on, the precipice. served you well, we cannot wait a month or two for a decision... standing pat, middling options, Joseph M. Frager is a physician and lifelong activist.

26 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 Blue And White Shmuel Sackett Why Are So Many Children Getting Sick?

CONTINUED FROM P. 1 they assured the Chofetz Chaim that comes with a price, and “responsibil- each and every one of us rise to great- no Jews were hurt, he insisted that ity” is the most important of all. We ness in that nation? best friend gave birth to twin girls in they do t’shuvah and then he said the need to understand what being a na- I fi rmly believe that this is our "tzav only her 26th week of pregnancy, and following: “Everything that happens tion means and what is expected of ha'sha'ah" – the Commandment of the the little babies are fi ghting for their Hour. This must be our focus in eve- lives. The Jewish world was shocked rything we do. Will this stop our chil- by news of the tragedy in Jerusalem “Everything that happens in this world dren from getting sick? I don't know. where two beautiful little girls died af- While my name is "Shmuel," my sec- ter their apartment was sprayed by an is because of the Jewish nation. ond name is not "HaNavi." I don't exterminator. I could go on and on. Even if no Yidden were directly affected, know what Hashem has planned for How come my R’fuah Sh’leimah the earthquake in Japan was because of us.” us, but I hope and pray that when list is getting longer each week with we take our job seriously and under- names of Yidden who have barely stand that – fi nally – we are back to begun to live? Like most of you, I being a nation, with everything it en- am used to davening for Jews who in this world is because of the Jew- us. This will be the focus of my ar- tails, the suffering and pain will come are not well, and I pray for them at ish nation. Even if no Yidden were ticles in the next few issues: What is to an end. every opportunity possible. My only directly affected, the earthquake in the Jewish nation? What must we question is this: Why is my list get- Japan was because of us.” I have nev- do to fulfi ll our destiny, and how can ting longer with names of children? er forgotten those words. Everything I am certain that this is not just me. – good and bad – is directly tied to us. Shmuel Sackett is a 100% product of Queens. He was born in Middle Village and I have heard stories from across the We are responsible, and we must take moved to KGH shortly before his bar-mitzvah. He graduated from YCQ (1975) and Jewish globe and I cannot fi gure it that responsibility very seriously. YHSQ (1979). He was Havurat Yisrael’s fi rst Youth Director (4 years) and started the out. These children should be play- I have been thinking a lot about the fi rst 2 NCSY chapters in Queens. Shmuel made aliyah in 1990 and co-founded Man- ing, studying, and beginning life, yet words of the Chofetz Chaim as I look higut Yehudit, together with Moshe Feiglin. His website is www.JewishIsrael.org Sack- so many of them are waging battles at my growing R’fuah Sh’leimah list. ett is married with 6 children and 4 grandchildren. He lives in Herziliya Pituach. beyond belief. What is happening? The list is getting longer and the ages First of all, allow me state right are getting younger. Why? What have off the bat that I do not have the an- we done – or not done – to cause that swers. I trust in Hashem completely to happen? I know for sure that it is and know that everything He does is not the fault of the young children. good and just. I believe that with eve- These beautiful babies and young ry bone in my body, yet I question – adults are far too young to sin or do not Hashem – but ourselves. Our Fa- anything to anger Hashem. I also be- ther in Heaven is merciful and would lieve that it is not the parents, since I never do anything without good rea- personally know many of them and son, so what is the message we need they are all holy and precious Yidden. to receive? What do we need to learn It has to be larger than just individu- from these tragedies, and how can we als. I also believe that since this is strengthen our service to our King? happening across the Jewish world, I remember years ago hearing a and not limited to certain communi- story about the Chofetz Chaim, told ties, it has to be the Nation. It has to to me by Rabbi Aryeh Zev Ginzberg. be all of us – as the Jewish nation (as He said that there was a gigantic opposed to individual communities) earthquake in Japan in 1923 that – that have brought about these pun- killed 140,000 people. When word of ishments. I realize that nobody likes this earthquake reached the Chofetz to hear these words, but I fi rmly be- Chaim, he told his students to fast lieve that they are the truth. We need and start doing t’shuvah. Even when to start realizing that being a “nation”

6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 27 As I See IT Cynthia Zalisky So What Else Is New?

merican Jews have been debating of Jewish-Jewish couples.” unabashed attempt to increase their were those from a Jewish mother in the impact of intermarriage for But this lopsided logic didn’t start membership rolls to beat out the accordance with the dictates of the Adecades. According to the Pew with Jacobs in 2013. Rabbi Alexan- Conservative congregations in their Torah. Candidly, there was only a Research Center study, The Reform move- der Schindler, in the late 1970s, threw areas. There was always a competi- handful in the entire time I was in- ment continues to be the largest denomi- everything out of the window. Un- tion between the two denomina- volved in these schools. My favorite nation in the United States with 35% of der his tutelage as president of the tions for people. Patrilineal descent story of what it meant to have a Gen- all US Jews identifying with them; but Union of American Hebrew Congre- opened the Pandora’s Box, and the tile father in my school was when I the movement has the highest rate of gations (the URJ’s former name), the rate of intermarriage soared. decided to have the families become intermarriages. Fully half of all Re- Reform accepted patrilineal descent For the 20-odd years that I was a directly involved in really appreciat- form Jews marry outside the faith. To (accepting children born from a Jew- principal in the Conservative Supple- ing the holiday of Sukkos. Ordinar- make things worse, the study suggests ily, the custodians built the large that children born from these unions sukkah for congregational use. My are far more likely to marry a non- Union for Reform Judaism President Rabbi Rick Jacobs asserted idea was to have a “sukkah-raising” Jewish partner than those with two program, where the fathers partici- Jewish parents. So much for Jewish that intermarriage is a fact of life: pated in building the structure while continuity. “I’m not encouraging intermarriage, the mothers and students made the At the recent Reform movement’s I’m not encouraging gravity. It’s a reality.” decorations. The families were very centennial event in December 2013, enthusiastic about the project. I must Union for Reform Judaism President have had $5,000,000 worth of higher Rabbi Rick Jacobs capitulated and as- education in the ranks, with doctors, serted that intermarriage is a fact of ish father and non-Jewish mother mentary School Movement, we were dentists, lawyers, accountants, etc. life. Jacobs said, “I’m not encouraging as Jewish). The theory was not to always concerned about the grow- participating – and one Italian father. intermarriage, I’m not encouraging push away those who wish to be ing rate of intermarriage among our I think they would still be trying to gravity. It’s a reality. Jewish living, congregants no matter what the cir- young. We spent countless hours dis- put the thing up today if it hadn’t values, commitments are what we cumstances or if they were halachi- cussing ways to dissuade our students been for the talents of this very handy stand for, and those can be upheld in cally Jewish or not. It was to make of even considering dating someone non-Jewish parent. interfaith families. Living a rich Jew- it easier for intermarried couples to not Jewish, let alone marrying one. What should we do about this ish life is not the exclusive province connect in the synagogue and an Those were the days in the Conserva- alarming trend? Should we just let tive movement’s heyday, when each this go on and do nothing to reverse congregation had a vibrant member- this scourge? Should we just let the ship of hundreds of families and key Reform movement’s leadership ca- Jewish values were observed and re- pitulate and allow this assimilation spected. The rabbis were traditional to fester and grow? Or should we in- and usually came from Orthodox tensify our outreach and encourage backgrounds. Kashrus was impec- Jews to marry other Jews for it is too cably observed. The Conservative essential to the future and continu- synagogues that I worked in always ity of American Jewry? I do not have had two kitchens: one for dairy and concrete answers to these questions. one for meat, so that nothing got But with that said, I’m truly troubled “mished” up. by these statistics, for to me every Jew The services were what are now is precious. Can we afford to lose so called “Conservadox” with traditional many Jews, especially the Millenni- siddurim; women did not have aliyos als? YOUNG ISRAEL OF KEW or lead the services, but what identi- As an “out-of-towner,” I am equally ﬁ ed them as Conservative congrega- upset by the elitist attitude of those GARDENS HILLS Dedicated Presents In memory of tions were a microphone and mixed who consider themselves “frum” and pews. We, in the Hebrew Schools choose to look down on those less re- RABBI GEORGE RUSHFIELD BEGINNER’S HEBREW taught about Shabbos, Yom Tov, laws, ligious than they profess to be, mak- and customs, Bible, ethics, and values ac- ing everyone around them feel unwel- MR. DAVID BARON For Adults cording to the M’sorah. There was no come instead of reaching out to bring (Ages 30 and up – Men and Women) For their devoted years compromising in any way. them back to Yiddishkeit. Out of New To Jewish Education But the times were very different. 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28 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 Mitzvos And Their Meanings Gabi Gittleson Mistakes – It’s What Humans Do

was recently at an event when I overheard a seem- While it remains true that others should try to take our ingly innocent exchange between a husband and concerns, thoughts, opinions, and feelings seriously, re- Gabi Gittleson is currently studying for his Semicha Iwife: “I am sorry I forgot to arrange such-and-such” membering that to err is human will help our perspec- exam at Yeshiva Chofetz Chaim. He lives in Kew Gar- followed by, “How could you forget – I just reminded tives and expectations. Making a mistake or forgetting dens Hills with his wife Sarah and their two children, you yesterday!” We often get frustrated and annoyed at something doesn’t mean the other person doesn’t care Tovah and Yitzi. He can be reached at Gabigittleson@ the people in our lives for forgetting to do something or deeply for you; it just means he or she made a mistake. yahoo.com having an oversight regarding our personal lives. The Sefer HaChinuch informs us how normal forgetting actually is. Every kohen is commanded to wear four garments: the kutones (tunic), mitznefes (hat), avneit (sash), and michnasayim (trousers). He must wear every article

Hashem is aware of the shortcomings of man – and gave us tips and tricks to overcome our natural tendencies in its proper place throughout his tenure in the Beis HaMikdash. The Sefer HaChinuch points out that if you visualize the amount of clothes worn by every kohen, it results in him being completely clothed from head to toe. An immensely tall hat was combined with an ankle-length full tunic covering a pair of long trousers. The ensemble was completed with the sash, numerous yards of material woven around the kohen’s body. And for what purpose? It was to ensure that the kohen would constantly remember where he was and the mag- nitude of his service. Any time he looked anywhere on his body, he would see the kutones. Anytime he tried to lift his head or move his arms, he would feel the weight of the mitznefes and avneit. He needed constant reminders to focus the entirety of his being and actions solely on serving Hashem. Hashem is aware of the shortcomings of man – and gave us tips and tricks to overcome our natural tendencies. Hashem did not get angry at the kohen for being human; rather He gave him a plethora of constant reminders to keep him in the proper frame of mind.

6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 29 For What It’s Worth Warren S. Hecht No, It Don’t Come Easy

nother week watching Justin Bieber self- ferently. We have been given this gift and it is up to destruct reminded me of the perils of suc- us to use it wisely. Also, we should not judge others Acess at a young age. It is easy to look at him who may be suffering. We are not any better than and say we are different and we would never make they are. the same mistake. Of course most of us will not Moreover, we have to appreciate that success is have the money or fame of Justin Bieber. However, not all about fame and money. People like Justin there is a lesson to be learned that applies to us. Bieber mistakenly believe that this is one’s goal in Justin had success at a young age. There are always life and the measure of attaining that goal. There pitfalls when people achieve success early in their are people who may not have much success in their lives. They may think it is all about them and that careers, for example going from job to job, yet they their success will always be there. If they actually have been more successful than the investment took the time to contemplate their lives, they may banker making millions. There are many ways to believe that it is all downhill from there, because defi ne success such as being healthy, having chil- they will never again be as successful. Furthermore, dren who follow in the path of the Torah, making they have never tasted failure. a difference in others’ lives, and being honest. This People at any age can try something for the fi rst is starkly shown at a funeral. In addition to the time and be successful. They need to remember, fact that it is a reminder that one can’t take their however, that though Hashem has helped them, it money with them, the speeches at the funeral indi- is not all about them. Most people need to have cate what is important. It is about the person’s at- obstacles to overcome to appreciate their fi nancial tributes, how he or she treated family, friends, and success. Many times there seems to be no logical Many times there seems to be community. It’s not about the bank account. reason why one person is successful and another is no logical reason why one person not. is successful and another is not Warren S. Hecht is President of the Queens Jewish If we realize that fi nancial success is a gift from Community Council and a local attorney. He can be Hashem, we would look at ourselves and others dif- reached at [email protected].

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30 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 31 32 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 A Newlywed’s Thoughts Sergey Kadinsky When You’re New And A Jew

CONTINUED FROM P. 1 demonstrates that converts, baalei t’shuvah, divorcees, and other non- Orthodox Jew. A resident of Crown conforming Torah-observant indi- Heights, he’s grown a full beard and viduals may feel personally accom- studies the texts of Chabad. In my plished and confi dent, but not in the decade of knowing him, I’ve seen eyes of others. But when we marry him grow in his religious observance, each other and create entire com- delving deeper into Torah while call- munities, somehow everyone is im- ing into question common practices pressed, visits, and then moves in. As in the community that he found of- our relationship grows stronger, we fensive or inconsistent with our ethi- gain inspiration from our counter- cal teachings. parts in Las Vegas. Last year alone, 60 Ben is the son of a Jewish moth- couples moved in and their shul has er. His father, who passed away last already secured land for a permanent spring, is black. As a halachic Jew, structure, along with a grant for the Ben could easily wear his hat and mikvah and permits for an eruv. forget the gentile side of his ancestry. The American West was a toler- But it’s not a choice and too often ant place for Jews from the start. In he’s heard “schvartze” carelessly used frontier settlements everyone was a at Shabbos tables as the byword for newcomer regardless of ethnicity or African-American. Faulding’s hosts Kiddush with cholent. Then he moved to Crown Heights. religion. Jews became mayors, sher- meant no harm when uttering the In one home, a newlywed couple’s Affi liating with Chabad, he wanted to iffs, saloon keepers, and denim jeans Yiddish word for black. But he felt portrait had them wearing fl ower gar- live closer to its spiritual center, even manufacturers. Likewise, within the offended enough to make the fash- lands around their necks in recogni- at the expense of hearing the word Jewish communities of the West, new- ion statement that was reported in tion of the chasan’s Hawaiian back- “schvartze” from a few neighbors who comers are welcome and couples of numerous blogs and newspapers as ground. Underneath a coffee table, neglect to think before they speak. different backgrounds are common. far away as Israel. the kallah’s green cover photo album “You can’t be two people at once Compared to Henderson, Queens A month earlier, Rabbi Rick Jacobs, is fi lled with photos of her trip to Ire- nor a half-person,” Faulding said. is an ancient community. Yet it has president of the Union for Reform land, her father’s ancestral homeland. “You reconcile them to make you who always been a welcoming place. Judaism, spoke of full support for The couple was comfortable sharing you are.” Faulding has many hobbies Alongside those born and raised here intermarried individuals and their and established immigrant congre- children at the movement’s annual gations, there are enough out-of- convention. “In North America to- “I am not half-cyclist and half-photographer. towners, students, singles, and young day, being ‘against’ intermarriage is couples moving in to further stir the like being ‘against’ gravity; you can They’re both a part of me. So why is race any different?” melting pot. Our family backgrounds say it all you want, but it’s a fact of include Jewish and gentile elements, life,” Jacobs said. “And what would our taste in music, fi lm, and food is as you prefer? More anti-Semitism? these elements of their heritage with and interests. “I am not half-cyclist Russian as it is Jewish. Why should That people did not feel as comfort- their guests. “Identity is a very hard and half-photographer. They’re both we “go west” if Queens has always able with us?” thing to navigate. You have to navi- a part of me. So why is race any dif- welcomed us? The only thing we’d Intermarriage is a two-sided coin. gate it on your own,” Faulding said. ferent?” wish to give up is this seemingly end- For children of Jewish mothers, the On the other side of the city, I Last week’s Dating Forum col- less winter. offi cial approach is one of open arms picked up a copy of the Las Vegas umn in the Five Towns Jewish Times photo credit: Steve Rosenfield but personal reservations. For chil- Israelite, the region’s secular Jewish dren of Jewish fathers, it is the bur- newspaper. With the exception of Sergey Kadinsky is a former editor of The Jewish Star. His articles have appeared in den of carrying a Jewish last name Chabad and its affi liated day school, The Jewish Press, Daily News, New York Post, and Queens Chronicle. He is a political and being recognized as a Jew by eve- most of the stories in the newspaper consultant and adjunct professor of history at Touro College. ryone except the Orthodox. Within were related to local temples. Look- the Queens Jewish community, there ing at that week’s bar mitzvah pho- appears to be enough diversity that tos, I wondered whether the smiling a Jew of color or a gentile last name young men and women were Jewish tEACHERS would feel welcome. according to halachah. Their parents Nevertheless, when a convert or told them that they are Jews, they Limodei Kodesh- MORAH child of a Jewish mother chooses light Chanukah candles, abstain from Orthodoxy, can one retain elements chametz on Pesach, and they spent of his gentile heritage and still be years mastering the parshah. We Middle Grades a bona fi de Jew? A couple of weeks have one friend who grew up in such 8-12 pm ago, Keren and I vacationed in the a situation. She has since undergone American Southwest. Our Shabbos an Orthodox conversion, but these Kiruv Yeshiva – To teach Zisse Yideshe Kinderlach was hosted in the Las Vegas suburb stories of self-discovery are a rarity, Experienced of Henderson and we davened at known to only a few. Ahavas Torah Center. In many ways, We often wonder what drives cer- Flushing, Queens Yeshiva the shul was reminiscent of our own tain inspired individuals to choose Email/Fax Resume: Congregation Ishei Yisrael, with so Judaism and live in solidly Ortho- many young couples coming from a dox communities where they clear- [email protected] variety of backgrounds to daven in a ly stand apart. Ben Faulding lived 718-217-8739 decorated rented space, followed by in Kew Gardens Hills for fi ve years.

6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 33 Pain Without Tears: The Courageous Life Of Philip Bach by Lorey Friedman special gift given to them, along with Philip, was a wonderful woman named n December 29, the 26th of Sheila. Sheila became Philip’s friend Teves, the beautiful n’shamah and aide when he was only seven Oof Philip Bach, Feivish Shmuel months old and she quickly became ben David, was returned to its fi nal rest- a member of our family. For 27 years, ing place. He was more than a nephew Sheila helped Mindy and David tend to to me, and I – hopefully more than an all of Philip’s physical as well as emo- aunt to him. I can almost hear Hashem tional needs. She became their partner calling him back, saying, “Come, My in raising this special child. She loved dear child, My dear son. You have done Philip and Philip loved her. Mindy and so much good while down on this David, young parents of this fi rstborn earth. You have accomplished so much child, dedicated their life to making and touched so many lives. You have sure all of Philip’s needs were met. fulfi lled your potential and made the His happiness became their happi- most of what I gave you. Come back to ness and their greatest pleasure, for Me, my child, and rest now.” the last 27 years of life has been spent For 27 years Philip lived and fought giving Philip the best quality of life the many challenges of having Famil- Siblings Bayla, Matthew and Philip Bach that they could. They enabled him to iar Dysautonomia, a rare Jewish genet- make the most of his life and despite ic disease affecting Ashkenazi Jews. FD tions on many “heated” topics. Philip by Philip’s friendly nature, positive his many limitations, Mindy and David is a disorder of the autonomic nervous liked music – happy, upbeat songs that attitude, his smile, and his thirst to fi lled Philip’s life with what made him system that affects the development made him smile. He did not like to know more, to know how, to know happy. The question was never “What and survival of sensory neurons on the feel anything but happiness and was why. Philip asked the questions and can Philip do?” but rather “What can’t autonomic and sensory nervous sys- in extreme discomfort when he was he really listened to the answers. He Philip do?” They made Philip into tem. Symptoms include insensitivity anything but happy. As of late he was was always looking to learn more, a functioning, delightful, intelligent to pain, inability to produce tears, poor a loyal Yankee fan, knowing the players gain more knowledge, and understand mentch who was a beloved son, grand- growth, and unstable blood pressure. and their “stats” as well as the team his- better. While so many other parts of son, brother, nephew, and cousin to his Patients with FD tend to get pneumo- tory better than any old-time fan. His Philip’s body did not function as they family. My children did not see Philip nia often, have diffi culty swallowing, recent visit to Washington, DC, made should, Philip’s mind was always on, as sick; they knew and loved him ex- and have gastrointestinal dysfunction. him so happy, as he was a true Obama always working to full – and some- actly as he was, and not one of us ever FD does not affect intelligence, and so supporter. Philip had a voice he liked times beyond – capacity. Yes, most of wished for Philip to be any different despite Philip’s multiple physical chal- to use, a remarkable, witty sense of hu- the time Philip was happy. However, from who he was. We loved being lenges, he was above average in his mor along with a serious, loving side there were times that the Dysautono- with Philip, and his memory will for- math and verbal skills. Philip never that was as clear as the wide smile that mia overwhelmed his body, and the ever live on in our hearts and in our ate by mouth, thus never knowing the he had from ear to ear. Philip showed smile faded, so that even Philip had to minds as the special, beautiful blessing pleasure of taste. He was fed through his happiness with his smile, with his give in to it, and stop and rest until he that he was in our lives. a gastrostomy tube in his stomach. He laugh, and with his words of love and was able to regain his strength and be Philip was also very lucky to have a was also considered legally blind, with appreciation that he was always con- happy again as he so longed to be. younger brother, Matthew, and younger only small vision through one eye, veying. There was something about Philip sister, Bayla, two siblings who respect- which was Philip’s passageway into all Philip loved Yiddishkeit too. He en- that made people feel good. He was ed Philip and looked at him and treat- that he loved. The protective glasses joyed going to synagogue with his fa- fun to be with, and his loving person- ed him with the utmost of pride and he wore were an attempt and effort to ther on Friday nights and took pride ality was engaging. His greatest pleas- joy. Never did they try to hide Philip retain what little eyesight he had. De- from their friends or resent him for the spite all of these limitations and even amount of attention that he took from more, Philip was never bitter. He was Phil was happy with what he had, their parents. Instead, Matthew and never jealous of anyone else, and he Bayla truly loved Philip. He was their never was angry at others or at Hashem. happy and content with his life, big brother and they accepted him just These feelings were foreign to Philip, and most of all, he was happy with himself as he was, for they never knew him any not even in his vocabulary and certain- other way. They proudly participated ly nowhere to be found in his demean- in all of the FD fundraisers and helped or. Amazing as it sounds to us, with his in his bar mitzvah and frequent aliyos ure in life was when someone close to Philip become the remarkable person very limited eyesight, Philip read and on Shabbos mornings. He grew to be him would engage him in conversation, that he was. No doubt, living in a home studied the dictionary and the Eng- a respected and admired member of question him, baffl e him, and spend with Philip can change and shape a lish language. He did math problems The Young Israel of North Woodmere, time with him. Philip was not afraid to person, sometimes for the good and that the average person could not even where he became an inspirational say what he felt and express his emo- sometimes even for the not so good. In determine with a calculator. He may member of the synagogue and com- tions. He often said, “I love you” to his this case, Philip helped make Matthew not have had eyesight, but Philip had munity. Philip touched the lives of family, or “You’re my best friend.” He al- and Bayla into two of the most sensi- tremendous insight, always knowing all who knew him, even those who ways expressed gratitude and apprecia- tive, caring, good-natured young people what to say to someone. As one of my only met him one time or for a short tion to those who were kind to him. He I have ever met, who will undoubtedly children related, “Although Philip was time, and were inspired and touched was so sensitive and always knew how make a difference in this world with the one who was sick, it was he who by Philip. He loved in his thoughtful to make one feel good, to feel wanted, what they have already seen and expe- always made us feel better.” way, to ask me how my Shabbos was and to feel loved. Philip’s smile was rienced in their young years. They cer- Philip watched his favorite televi- and what I had done. He knew when real, genuine, and authentic. He was tainly made a difference in Philip’s life. sion game shows, memorizing ques- Shabbos began and ended for weeks to happy with what he had, happy and The beautiful relationship that these tions and contestants’ scores. Shows come as well as the Yom Tov and family content with his life, and most of all, two siblings had with Philip and that like “The Price Is Right,” “Who Wants simchos before they were even on the he was happy with himself. There is so Philip had with them is yet another to Be a Millionaire” and “Shop ‘til calendar. much we can learn from Philip. blessing from Hashem. You Drop,” were Philip’s pride and The adorable, courageous, playful, Philip was a beautiful gift from And now, Mindy, David, Matthew, joy. Philip loved to listen to talking sometime mischievous little boy, that Hashem, bestowed into the loving Bayla, Sheila, and his Nana are left with book topics, visit libraries, go bowling, Philip was, grew to be a young man hands of my sister Mindy and brother- a void, with a giant hole in their hearts swimming, and horseback riding. He who left his mark, his impression, his in-law, David. Ever since Philip was and a painful vacancy in their home, had strong opinions and as an adult blueprint, wherever he was. It was born, they made sure to give Philip the could hold his own in many conversa- impossible for one not to be moved best medical care possible. Another CONTINUED ON P. 51

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6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 43 Prepare Your Shoulder Pad When Someone’s Sad someone’s hurting. Preferably, try: “I am sorry you ish me or us.” (It’s not the time to Instead, try: “You matter so much are sad. Depression is a very real focus on yourself, is it?) and are so important to me.” thing, and no, you are not going Or…”Aren’t you tired of all this Acknowledge the pain and his crazy.” drama by now?” by Caroline Schumsky, or her worth. Do not minimize, And now, for the biggest NO – LCSW, MS please. You may feel awkward say- Boo-boo #5: whoa, what a blow: Never ever say ing it. Say it anyway. “Try not to feel that way. to a depressed person: “This is your tressed out? We have all been Try not to be so sad.” own sweet fault!” there. And no, you are not Boo-boo #3: Sorry, that may sound helpful, Rather, try expressing yourself Scrazy, weak, bad, or wrong if “Stop pitying or feeling sorry sweet readers, but what is inﬁ nite- this way: “I may not fully under- you feel depressed or sad. for yourself.” ly more so is this: “There is always stand what you are feeling, but The question is: What do we say Ouch. That one really stings hope.” know that I will not leave or aban- to someone who is (even if it is our- when someone has an open Try to avoid (like the plague) say- don you.” selves)? wound. ing things like: “You can survive and get through Better yet, let’s talk about what this and I will do my very best to un- not to say. Here are some ‘boo- derstand.” boos’ made by well-meaning fam- Never ever say to a depressed person, “We will get through this, togeth- ily and friends. “This is your own sweet fault!” er.” Rather, try expressing yourself this way: And the empathic, magic words Boo-boo #1: that never fail to heal (if you truly “There are so many people worse off than “I may not fully understand what you are feeling, mean them): you are. Be grateful.” but know that I will not leave or abandon you.” I care about you. No, no, no, sweet readers. Feel- I love you. ings are not right or wrong. They just are. Please do not add guilt to In place of that, try: “Please let “I know just how you feel…I was It was once said, sweet readers: already dark feelings. me help. What do you need? (Do once….” (Sorry, you really don’t “We are not primarily put on this Instead, try: “You are not alone. I you want a hug?)” know how they feel, and they earth to see through one another, am here for you.” know it.) but to see one another through.” You may have no idea how utter- Boo-boo #4: Or, “I think you are using your Be positive, and more than any- ly compelling these words can be. “So, you’re depressed again? depression and bad mood to pun- thing: be available. What else is new!” Boo-boo #2: Double ouch. Invalidating some- Caroline Schumsky, LCSW, MS, is a licensed psychotherapist, crisis counselor, writer, “Hey, I told you life wasn’t fair.” one is never the route to take – as and dance instructor. She has worked extensively with Jewish outreach, as well as an Uh, uh. Not too soothing when in never. individual psychotherapist. She can be reached at [email protected]

44 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 Financially Forward Gerald Harris The Biggest Tiniest Technology Ever

hen the talk turns to nanote- inside the artery, and use the bacteria’s ro- chnology, Wall Street analysts tating tails as miniature engines to drive Wbegin to rave. Typical senti- it around our bodies and deliver drugs to ments: It will make our lives happier and specifi c targets.” easier, it will lower costs dramatically, Martel says computers will be able to create incredible new products, protect control these microchips. In a recent ex- our health, and add years to our lives. To- periment, 80 computer-controlled bacte- day, nearly three decades after those pre- ria were used to push a chip in capillaries dictions were fi rst made, they are starting in any direction desired, in effect making to come true. Finally, nanotechnology is a chip with propellers. coming of age. Nanotechnology is the science of con- Curing Illness At Its Onset trolling matter on the atomic and molec- Researchers believe that in coming ular levels. Its objective is to make mate- years it will be possible to cure illness rials and super tiny machines that are 100 from within the body. Swarms of nano- nanometers or less. bots may be permanently patrolling blood To better understand how small that systems, repairing tissue and keeping peo- is, consider this: A nanometer is just one ple healthy. Nanobots would fi rst serve billionth of a meter. The difference in er and easier to keep clean. Tiny sensors make them move. The bacteria can be as “watchdogs,” on the lookout for the size between a nanometer and a meter is in air bags use nanotechnology to make controlled with magnets. onset of disease. If any is detected, other proportionally the same as the difference them deploy. According to Prof. Sylvain Martel, “The nanobots would immediately destroy the in size between a golf ball and the Earth. Breakthroughs are coming so fast that magnetic fi elds of an MRI machine have diseased cells. Nanobots, in theory, could To put it another way, one nanometer is researchers can now control the position already been used to drive microchips also prevent people from becoming obese. about one twenty-fi ve thousandth the di- of some atoms, and that makes it possi- along a living artery. The plan is to fur- ameter of a human hair. ble to create devices that will reassemble ther shrink the device, place the bacteria CONTINUED ON P. 57 Despite – and because of – the size, the themselves at the touch of a keypad. technology has incredible potential. “Im- Scientists and engineers around the Gerald Harris is a fi nancial and feature writer. Gerald can be reached at geraldhrs@ agine a machine on the scale of a nanom- world are working together to use ex- yahoo.com eter, made out of a few hundred or a few traordinary nano capabilities to solve thousand individual atoms,” explains Dr. pressing problems. Miniature mechani- Michio Kaku, a theoretical physicist at cal devices currently being developed CCNY. “Nanotechnology modifi es the will turn toxic waste into harmless mat- way those atoms behave. The objective ter and purify polluted water quickly and is to use those atoms to create nanoma- inexpensively. chines on the scale of proteins, DNA, or Dr. Andreas Merchin, a nanotech re- bacteria, and design them to perform searcher at MIT, is studying the way equally complex tasks.” plants capture sunlight, create chemical

Graphene is so strong that if it were possible to balance an elephant on a pencil and suspend that pencil on graphene, the graphene would not break

Tiny Self-Assembling Systems energy, and store it. Merchin believes Materials in the nanoworld have their that nanotechnology can be used to own way of behaving, but researchers are “grab proteins inside a plant, ‘hijack’ its starting to learn how to control those be- function, then put it on a substrate of our haviors. They are now able to make cer- choosing to create solar power” through tain nanoparticles go where they want much more effi cient solar panels. them to and create products that have new, phenomenal capabilities. A New Defense For example, graphene is a substance Probably the most exciting develop- made out of a one-molecule-thick lay- ments to come from nanotech will be er of carbon atom. Yet graphene is so in health. “There's nothing in the laws strong that if it were possible to balance of physics to prevent nanobots, micro- an elephant on a pencil and suspend that scopic robots, from swimming in the pencil on graphene, the graphene would bloodstream, changing our molecular not break; it is the strongest substance and bone structure, strengthening our known to science at this time. And this bones, and giving us the power of super- product is just for starters. men," says Kaku. Although nanotechnology is still in Injecting such nanobots into our bod- the early stages of development, it’s al- ies may not be too far away. Scientists ready a multi-billion dollar industry, used have fi gured out how to use certain in making different kinds of appliances strains of bacteria to make prototype and for coatings that make fabrics strong- nanobots that fi t into blood vessels and

6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 45 46 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 Home Health Care Corner Tania Hammer at Caring Professionals Shabbos Kodesh And The Home Health Aide: Making It Work

ll additions to regular family questions must be answered by your she should be familiar with candle a walk or do something for herself, dynamics are diffi cult, wheth- own rav, but as you see, these things lighting, but it doesn’t hurt to start like read or make a personal phone Aer it’s for a happy occasion come up. Please note that the opin- with that in your “heads-up” conver- call – in another room, of course! such as a birth, a Shabbos guest, or ions stated in these answers are my sation. Then proceed with when the Step 4: Be aware that Annie comes several guests for a simchah. How- own, and I am certainly not a posek! men come home from shul, the sing- from a different world but might ever, these are timely, expected, and I am, however, an objective rela- ing, Kiddush, and the order of the have family that she obviously isn’t usually herald good news. And what tionship analyst who has dealt with meal. Again, writing this all down with at this time. Be sensitive to her could be more joyous than bringing many wide and varied relationship in list form is a great idea for begin- needs as well. home a baby? With all the chaos conundrums, especially regarding ners. Look in an ArtScroll siddur for Step 5: Keep your household needs and frustration over sleepless nights, the aging and infi rm. A healthy ob- translations of Hebrew words you separate from your mother and An- messy houses, and doting grandpar- jective view might get you over the use, such as Kiddush (sanctifi cation nie’s needs. Annie is not obligated ents, the baby brings so much pleas- toughest hurdles. of Shabbos). The aides pick up these to do anything in your house that ure; we push all our frustrations I wish you much success as you terms very quickly and are known to doesn’t pertain to your mother’s di- aside and thank Hashem for the journey into the next stage of life. remind their patients and families rect needs. If you want her to make wonderful gift. May it be rewarding and peaceful. with things such as “You forgot to a salad, this is not her obligation. If The addition to the family dy- make a ‘brakah’!!” An aide strives to she offers to make a salad, and your namic I will be addressing in this Question: My mother has had an be a part of the family, and it is these mother’s needs are met, then it’s ap- column, however, is not a baby; it aide for a month. The aide is a sweet early transitions that make him/her propriate. However, perhaps Annie is a home health aide. Your loved lady and wants to make her happy. acquainted with your style. could use the time to do her own one is aging and you are busy rais- I think my mother is ready to come Annie is there for your mother. thing, like go for a walk or read. ing your family, you have a job, and to us for Shabbos again, and we have She will assist in all matters regard- Step 6: If your mother is unable to your parents are in need of more made up a room on our lower fl oor ing your mother. If that means speak, you and your husband must care than you can give them. This so she doesn’t have so many steps helping her with soup, or to cut her make a decision of who is going to is a new stage of your life, and the to climb. I am very nervous about chicken, then that’s what her role look after her at the table. It could term “sandwich generation” aptly de- the aide. Annie has never been to a must be. After a month or so, at this be you and your family, or it could scribes your new role. Your parents family Shabbos table. Should she sit stage, I’m sure they developed a fa- be Annie. The same steps still ap- raised you, so there is a lot of guilt in the kitchen while we are having miliar mealtime routine. When the ply. These decisions are diffi cult at in hiring an aide, because we think our s’udah? Should she sit with our table launches into a heated discus- fi rst. Your mother, whom you knew that we aren’t doing the right thing noisy, rowdy family while divrei To- sion on the parshah, Annie will sit when she could speak and did have or that we aren’t doing enough per- rah are spoken, a lot of which will quietly and observe. If you are talk- a say in everything, is now mute. If sonally to help our aging loved ones be in Hebrew? Will that be rude or ing about local politics, perhaps An- she is able to write down her needs through their twilight years. Wheth- offensive? We are prepared for my nie would like to contribute to the and wants, then by all means use er you are paying out of pocket for mother’s visit physically, and she conversation, but mostly she will be that method of communication to the aide, or going through insurance, loves our noisy family, but I’m just there to assist your mother. If Annie help you make decisions regarding it is essential that the aide has a not sure of the aide. is prepared for Shabbos, then you her care on Shabbos, as well as every smooth transition into your family. have a better chance that everyone day. If, however, she is no longer This column will attempt to Answer: This is a common ques- will enjoy himself. Try something able to communicate, you and your answer your questions regarding tion that comes up for new patients like, “We would love to have you at husband must sit down with the healthy transitions and new rela- and new aides. I commend you our Shabbos table to assist Mom. aide to explain what Shabbos is all tionships to ensure your loved ones for thinking ahead! First, ask your She likes all the lively discussions; I about in your family and what you are well taken care of and that you mother what she would like. She is want you to be aware of this before need help with so that the transition are at peace with the appointed aide. the matriarch and, as you say, she we start.” will be smooth. A list of all your Sometimes it could take a couple gets lots of joy from you and your Step 2: If your mother would not requirements is vital for Annie so of different aides to get it right, but children. If your mother can’t talk, like Annie at the table (for whatever she has a reference. It is diffi cult to most of the time the family is happy make the decision based on what reason), then she should be asked to run this type of operation, but don’t with their decision and the aide be- you and your husband would like assist in making your mother’s rou- worry: You will get it right. An ongo- comes part of the family dynamic. (See Step 6, below). Again, a list of tine as smooth as possible, such as ing list is a great tool for easy transi- The essential key to a successful requirements goes a long way to unpacking her bag, arranging her tions, and as long as you communi- transition is communication. For ex- making the transition easier for your medications, laying out her night- cate what you need, everything can ample, do not assume that because mother and the aide. Let’s take a gown, etc. Annie must be offered be arranged for the best outcome. your aide has worked at other ko- step-by-step approach. the same food as the family is eating. Step 7: After Shabbos, review what sher homes, he/she will know about Step 1: If your mother would like (However, if she would like a peanut worked, what didn’t work, and pos- your kosher considerations. Fami- Annie with her at the table to help butter sandwich, that’s okay too – sible changes for future visits. It lies are different and keep different her out, she can invite her to join she might not like Jewish food.) Ex- could be things such as “Remind An- standards. If you show the aide once you. Don’t change how you operate plain to her that this is family time nie not to switch the lights on and or twice how you keep kosher, and your Shabbos table. Do whatever and you, the daughter, would like to off unnecessarily” or “We need to get how you observe Shabbos, she will you usually do. Your mother’s visit assist Mom at the table. Annie can the meat, dairy, pareve stickers for get the picture. I cannot re-iterate already poses great change to your be invited to eat in the kitchen and our house, too!” Share your Shab- enough that making a list of your typical Shabbos, and your Shabbos then she can go to do other things bos experience with your siblings needs and your loved one’s needs is table should be a place where the pertaining to mom’s care. or close relatives who would like to vital to great communication. The other family members can be them- Step 3: If Annie is not at the Shab- host your mother to make it easier list should be ongoing. It should be selves. bos table and all the preparations for for them and share your lists so they revised often with your family mem- Go through the nature of Shabbos your mother have been done, per- can review for themselves to make bers and the aide. This way, the aide and the s’udos with Annie, to prepare haps you could offer that she go for mom’s visit as pleasant as possible. has a reference to which he/she can her for what’s ahead. There should be familiarize herself with your family. no surprises regarding how you per- Tania Hammer is a community activist and a social networker for Caring Profession- I encourage your questions, giving sonally observe Shabbos, especially als, a home care agency in Brooklyn and Queens. For more information on any home- light to the different perspectives if this is her fi rst one. If Annie has care-related topic, please call Shabsi at 718-897-2273 (ext. 171). Tania can be reached at of family dynamics. Any halachic been with your mother for a month, [email protected].

6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 47 New Seasons In Lawrence Is First Kosher Supermarket In The World To Host Special Cart For People With Disabilities by Tania Hammer can now go shopping with his family. It was a group effort with many people or about a year, everyone who is involved, committed to a singular goal: Sam’s friend got the following Fa- the purchase of Caroline’s Cart. Finally, Fcebook entries: Sam’s request was granted – just in time “Effy’s sleeping; is anyone going to for Seasons Lawrence’s grand opening! Costco? I need paper towels.” Caroline’s Cart was designed by Drew “Hi, is anyone going shopping? I need Ann and David Long, parents of a special a couple of things: soup mix, onions, gar- needs child, Caroline. Facing the same lic…” plight as Effy, they couldn’t go shopping “Listen up friends, can you help me? with Caroline because she couldn’t fi t I’ve been at home for hours, I need a few into a regular shopping cart, so using the things from the pharmacy.” model of a regular shopping cart, which And on it went. For anyone on Sa- is designed to fi t in supermarket aisles, mantha and Yossi Wiseman’s friends list they took the body of a car seat restraint on Facebook, we know they have a won- and molded it into the shopping cart. It’s derful, happy family and that they are really quite simple, yet absolutely bril- the parents of an adorable special needs liant. It can hold someone up to 200 child and just a month ago gave birth pounds and is easy to maneuver through to their second child, Yitzy. Effy is the the aisles. The video on their website sweetest little two-year-old and it’s won- shows a very cheerful Caroline going derful to see pictures of him growing and through the aisles of their local super- progressing. However, sandwiched be- market watching happily as her proud tween these delightful pictures were the parents do their shopping. above pleas for help. This article is nei- I must say that when I went to Sea- ther about Facebook nor the Wisemans; sons to see the shopping cart for my- it is about awareness. It is about real self, I was bursting with joy, thinking of friendship, not the type of friends that the many happy occasions Effy and his you fi nd on Facebook whom you met friends will be able to use it. I met Sam at through other friends on Facebook; it is the grand opening. She braved the snow about being a friend in real life. storm and took both kids out on her I met Samantha and her mom, Nancy, own for the fi rst time. We placed Effy on a weekend for divorced women and in the cart, mastered the restraints, and children. Samantha is a bit older than my L-R Tania Hammer, Samantha Wiseman and Effy with Caroline’s Cart wheeled him around. Sam took Yitzy in daughter and they got along well. Sam the stroller and I got to push Effy. It will has an indomitable, upbeat spirit and is a is what propelled me to help them out. I ing the “foreign language” to something be a new frontier for the Wisemans as very friendly, bubbly, funny person, and hope this life lesson precedes any other her friends could understand – as if to they navigate the cart from aisle to aisle. it’s really hard not to like her! For many judgment of any other person. say, “Here’s something all of you could Curious onlookers noticed something years we went in and out of each other’s About six months ago, Sam posted help us with.” different, but I was amazed at the sim- lives, and when we re-met on Facebook the following: “Look what I found! Go I went to my regular supermarket to plicity of the design, and navigation was it was a chance for us to catch up. Nancy to www.carolinescart.com. This is a spe- ask my friend, the CEO of that market, if easy. In as much as the debut experience is a very proud grandma now; she dotes cial shopping cart for disabled people, he could consider a Caroline’s Cart. How- brought joy to Sam as she contemplated on her grandchildren who give her so and maybe now Effy can go shopping. ever, after a week of research, the answer which apples to buy while Effy was safe- much nachas. Indeed, after Sam posted It’s $1000; who wants to buy it for me?” was no, and he was truly sorry. I know ly harnessed in the cart, reality called as the above requests, some were shortly I think my heart dropped on the fl oor he has a huge heart and is generous be- Effy got hungry and fussy, and Sam had followed by “Thanks, Safti, you are the at that time. All the pleas for help with yond compare, and his answer was pain- to take him out to attend to him. best grandma!” shopping and errands were not because ful to him, but it started an interesting Who knew that parents of disabled Truthfully, after a while, I had to admit Sam was lazy – although knowing Sam, dialogue. “There are kids who would like children are unable to include them in that I had thoughts going through my she is the last person to be called lazy to go shopping but can’t fi t into a regu- this simple activity? Well, it takes a vil- head such as, “C’mon, Sam, get up and – but because Effy couldn’t fi t into a lar shopping cart? Who knew?” Who lage to raise awareness, myself included. out, take Effy for a ride in the car, or walk regular shopping cart! A stroller can’t fi t knew indeed! I discussed the matter Effy is one of the lucky kids who will to the shops yourself; he would enjoy much shopping inside so Effy needed to with him at length, made him aware of a be able to go shopping, but there are so the fresh air.” As aware as I am of young stay home. I told Sam in a private mes- couple of kids in our community whom many special needs people in so many moms, having been there myself, and as sage that I would try to help her out. Pic- he rarely sees in his supermarket because communities who can’t enjoy this mun- aware as I am of kids with special needs, ture this conversation with your child: they can’t go shopping, and that the issue dane experience, a chore that most peo- as I have been in the fi eld for a majority “Sorry, you can’t come to the supermar- could be resolved with a Caroline’s Cart. ple fi nd boring and tedious, especially of my career, this kind of post was get- ket. You can’t fi t in the regular cart, and This conversation led to other similar when going with their rambunctious ting to be “enough!” We all ask friends you can’t walk so we have to stay home. dialogues regarding people with disabili- kids. Next time you go shopping, be if they can do shopping favors; we are all I will go when you are sleeping, or ask ties, and I’m sure he will do all he can to thankful that it is an ordinary activity for tired and spent after a long day at work friends if they can pick up a few things.” address the needs of this population. He you and that you can enjoy the experi- or hanging out with the children. Yet this I can’t imagine that conversation with said he was ordering electric shopping ence with little effort. almost weekly barrage of requests had my daughter, who now goes shopping scooters for older customers who can’t When you see Effy out shopping in me thinking that maybe she just wants for me! Yet this is what Sam and her walk. I admire him for that. He will be his Caroline’s Cart, say hi, because he will to stay in the house all day, which didn’t husband must tell their child every day. the fi rst kosher supermarket in our area be enjoying this new experience! If you sit well with me either. In retrospect, this This is the Wiseman’s reality, and cou- to have those! would like to get a Caroline’s Cart in your is probably one of the narrowest streams pled with the fact that Effy can’t fend for It turns out that after similar discus- supermarket, go to the website and have of thought I have ever had. And I am tru- himself at all, let alone with shopping, sions with Tzvi Bloom and Meir Gold at a look. ly sorry for this admission. There is no their daily conversations must seem like Seasons Kosher Supermarkets and Yaa- Next up: an all-inclusive playground shame in asking for help; there is shame, a foreign language to most families. It kov Gade, CEO at Cross River Bank, Effy for Effy and his friends however, in being critical of other peo- is a language learned through life expe- ple, and although Sam and her husband rience, and when Sam posted the Caro- Tania Hammer is a community activist and a social networker for Caring Profession- have graciously forgiven me, this shame line’s Cart site, she was, in effect, translat- als. She can be reached at [email protected].

48 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 House & Home Rabbi Gedaliah and Sarah Newcomb

Communication Modes In A Real Estate Transaction

his topic has been popular tise, although I am forced to engage lately and written about in in it periodically, and it does seem to Tsome of the realtor magazines have its place in the business realm, and publications we subscribe to. It although I deem other modes of also has been spoken about recently, communication much more prefer- and because of all the technology able. bursts and various forms of com- To those who do actually call, they munication options out there nowa- may get a voicemail. My phone rings days, it is no longer the “old rotary constantly, and when it is in use or phone” by any form of imagination. I am speaking with someone, in or- I recall in my generation the emer- der to give that person the proper gence of fax machines, then cell attention, I cannot possibly answer phones, then the Internet-enabled every call as it comes in. That leads computer burst including e-mail, to a voicemail message. In fact, my followed by all of the social media message box can fi ll up very quickly options, and of course texting. It’s because of the amount of callers. Pa- anybody’s guess what will be next. tience is needed here on the part of Traditionally, licensed realtors the callers. Immediate return calls who value not only specifi c trans- are not always feasible. In this world actions, but also building relation- of never having to wait for anything, ships, relied heavily on personal it can be frustrating to await a return attention and contact. That meant call. However, when practicing pa- mostly in-person meetings and dis- would like to know with whom I am tate attorneys who are usually busy tience, the reward is that the caller, cussions or, alternatively, telephone communicating. To me it seems so and delayed with regard to returning too, will get his turn with my full, discussions and contact. basic. Or, I may get an e-mail with phone calls. Home inspectors can personal attention and time. It is Over the years, laws were en- no identifying information whatso- be reached via e-mail and often will worth the wait for a genuine connec- acted that prevented some types ever, along the same lines. People send their reports via e-mail as well. tion, which is truly worth its weight of personal visits to homes by cer- want information and have no de- Facebook and other social media in gold. No pun intended. Happy tain “salespeople,” and even certain sire to reveal who they are, nor wish messaging is not part of my exper- connecting! “sales-type” phone calls were largely any connection at all. Even more restricted. Good-old-fashioned let- confusing are other agents who text Rabbi Gedaliah and Sarah Newcomb are NY State Licensed Realtors for over ter writing, otherwise known as for appointments with no identifi - 13 years. While specializing in Kew Gardens Hills where they are long-time com- “snail mail” when containing some cation. I’ve even had actual offers munity members, they serve all areas in the Five Boros and Long Island. They form of “advertising,” was also lim- to purchase via a text message. Be- hold several specialty certifi cations and are members of the Long Island Board ited. Some of the personal touch cause text messages are so very easy of Realtors and the Multiple Listing Service of Queens and Long Island. Rabbi has defi nitely been lost because of to compose and send, sometimes Newcomb is a beloved Rebbe at Yeshiva Tiferes Moshe. Sarah Newcomb has won multiple awards from RE/MAX NY and RE/MAX International. They, along with their family, make their home in and are proud members of the Kew Gardens I’ve even had actual offers to purchase via a text message Hills community. You may contact them at [email protected], Queensrealtorteam.com or at 9174597549. that, though there were some peo- without too much thought going ple who admittedly did not want into them, I can receive them at all direct contact. hours, including one this week at 6 Instead the world has replaced a.m., one last week at 1 a.m., and so human contact and connection with on. I don’t know about everybody words sent in various forms. E-mail, else’s phones, but when I receive texting, Facebook messages, Twit- a text message my phone makes a ter, Instagram, and I am quite sure sound. I hear that sound, no mat- I am leaving out many other modes ter what time of night somebody of communication, because I admit has sent it, which means it can and that I am not savvy in even all of the has awakened me at times when it above-mentioned options. I am old- is entirely inappropriate to approach fashioned at heart and still prefer a someone on business. genuine direct connection and con- E-mails come often, and responses tact. to those can be quicker. However, Nowadays, when someone sees sometimes things get lost in trans- a real estate “For Sale” sign, instead lation or are inadvertently left out. of the phone call to the agent for in- They can also be overlooked. E-mail formation about a property, I get… a communication relies on Internet random text message with no identi- connections being up and running fying factors at all, asking for a price, and e-mail providers being up and description, etc. To those I simply running as well. E-mail is a good respond with “Who is calling?” I form of communication with real es-

6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 49 Feelin’ Funny Mordechai Schmutter No One’s Listening

here comes a time in everyone’s That said, most of the time, peo- life when he has to get up and ple are not sitting in the audi- Tspeak his mind. In public. And 3ence scrutinizing what you have he has my sympathies. to say. They’re just secretly happy that A huge portion of the population they’re not the ones up there sweating actually has a serious fear of public through fi ve layers of clothing. speaking, although they’d never say Apparently, it’s very hot on so out loud. I’ve always had that fear stage. So remember to bring too, which is probably why I became a 4up some water. You can pause writer in the fi rst place. I was like, “I’m at any time in middle of your speech never going to have to speak! I’m just to drink water, and no one will ques- going to write everything!” tion it. So whenever you’re trying to But you know what they say: “Man remember what you were going to say writes a humor column, and G-d next, take a drink. If necessary, you laughs.” So at least there’s that. can bring an entire water cooler up But now my career has taken a turn there, and keep refi lling your cup, des- where people are actually asking me to perately trying to fi gure out what on perform stand-up comedy. Sure, I’ve earth you were going to say before you been writing speeches for people for have to replace the jug. years, but I’ve never wanted to deliver So yeah, I don’t think you can read it’s probably a big writing emergency.”) A lot of the articles I’ve read on any of them. It was more like, “I’m an audience. Also, what if you have to scratch your this topic say you should stick not gonna say it! You say it!” But now And that’s not even the only fear nose? It’s not like your nose itching 5in a joke. A lot of good that does people are saying, “No, you say it!” and to be had on stage. There are a whole has been a major issue in your life, but me. It’s stand-up comedy. I have to get over that fear, because bunch of fears. (If you don’t already it always manages to itch at the worst “Oh, you should stick in jokes!” people don’t laugh at your jokes when have these fears, you should probably times, such as when you’re carrying Thank you. you’re passed out on the stage. skip the next few paragraphs, because soup. (My idea, if this happens during On the other hand, sticking in jokes It’s a little weird that public speak- they’re defi nitely not going to help your speech, is to just scratch it with the gets people to listen, and that’s the last ing makes me nervous, though. I’m an you. Maybe I should have told you this microphone and hope no one notices. thing you want if you’re nervous. English teacher, right? before the previous paragraph. Oops. The amplifi ed scratching sound.) They also say you should prac- But public speaking is defi nitely On the other hand, maybe you should But now that we got you good and tice your speech in front of a more nerve-wracking than teaching, read this section, so you can see why nervous, here are some tips to help you 6mirror. I try that sometimes, because fi rst of all, in school, no one’s you might want to be nervous, and survive the experience: but my kids keep knocking to ask if listening. Also, you don’t have to worry they can brush their teeth. But the about your audience making fun of you good news is that, in front of a mirror, if you make a mistake, because you can What if you go up there and realize you forgot your speech, I’m not nervous, I have lots of eye con- rest assured that they’re already mak- and the index cards in your pocket tact, there’s a sink right there in case I ing fun of you anyway. For me, I con- need water, and I not only can scratch sider it a pretty successful school day if are just a bunch of recipes? my nose while I talk, I can even fl oss. no one audibly complains. Whereas if But here’s my thought: You daven for I’m giving a speech and people are au- the amud all the time, and you’re not dibly complaining, I’m in trouble. I’ve that way you can make an informed .Don’t be nervous. People will nervous about that, right? So what do been to a lot of bad speeches, and no decision.) only make fun of you if you chazzanus and teaching have in com- one has gotten up in middle and said, For example, you might be nervous 1make a mistake, and you’ll only mon? Lack of eye contact. In school, “Why do we have to know this?” “Is that people are going to scrutinize what make a mistake if you’re nervous. So everyone’s looking at the board or their there gonna be a test?” “Can I go get you’ve said for generations to come. for heaven’s sake, don’t be nervous! Be- books or their notes or their neighbor’s food?” For example, Abraham Lincoln gave ing nervous will kill you. notes or their food or the window. And No, they generally don’t say any- the Gettysburg Address in 1863, and to Great. Now I’m nervous that I’ll be in shul, your back is facing the tzibbur, thing. They’re very nice about it. And this day, people are still trying to fi gure nervous. which is the only thing giving you the that’s part of the issue, I think. You’re out what on earth he meant by, “Four Seriously, though, there’s no confi dence to sing, even though your standing up and speaking to an au- score and seven years ago.” reason to be nervous. There are loving family has made it very clear dience, and you have no idea what Also, you know how sometimes you 2two kinds of speakers – those that you cannot. they’re thinking. In general, if you have an argument with someone, and who like to speak, and those who don’t. So the key, in public speaking, is to walk up to a group of people at a sim- then, four score and seven days later, If you don’t, and you still somehow keep your back to the audience. Sure, cha and start talking, and everyone you’ll think of ten things you should fi nd yourself giving a speech, there’s a they’ll think it’s weird that you’re fac- stares in your direction and doesn’t say have said? That’s another big fear of pretty good chance it’s because people ing away from them, but who cares a single word for 45 minutes straight public speaking. You’re not going to want to hear it. And if that’s the case, what they think? You can’t see them while you just go on and on, trying des- gather everyone together again just so they’re all on your side. The only ex- anyway! perately to fi ll the silence, your natural you can say, “And another thing…” ception is when people didn’t particu- Anyway, thanks for listening to my instinct is to excuse yourself for a mo- Also, what if you go up there and re- larly come for the speech – they came self-pep talk. Let me know if any of ment and jump out the window. But alize you forgot your speech, and the because they heard there’d be food. these tips work, so I can use them in if you’re giving a speech, this is exactly index cards in your pocket are just a Like at a simcha. And if that’s the case, my own life. what it feels like. Sure, some speakers bunch of recipes? they want the speech to be over even I’m not gonna try them. You try can read an audience, but chances are Also, what if someone gets up be- more than you do. So you’ll be okay. them. that you, personally, cannot. Let’s put cause he has to leave, and everyone it this way: How many times do you thinks he’s making a statement? (This Mordechai Schmutter is a weekly humor columnist for Hamodia, a monthly humor say something to your wife, and then is why, whenever I have to step out in columnist for The Jewish Press, and has written three books, all published by Israel not realize that she’s upset about it un- middle of a speech, I stare at my phone Book Shop. He also does freelance writing for hire. You can send any questions, com- til at least a week later? on the way out, so people think, “Yeah, ments, or ideas to [email protected]

50 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 A Strange Dream A Diamond With A Flaw

CONTINUED FROM P. 10 the breathtaking royal throne. CONTINUED FROM P. 12 done plenty wrong, and I can’t even The Viceroy began to explain the say that I did t’shuvah for everything.” her son and how smart he was, and entire incident and why he had him and either option is real. Man has “For eternity, I will be exactly what his promise to take her away from her brought to the palace. Aharon Pardo to be challenged. To allow for that, I made myself into. So what kind miserable little village and provide for stood frozen to his spot, when he sud- man has to be tempted to choose of Olam HaBa am I going to have? her a life of wealth and fortune. Aha- denly remembered his dream, and real- either good or bad and be given the Forever I will walk around with my ron Pardo did not know what to make ized its signifi cance. “Hey, aren’t you ability to make mistakes. Every man faults permanently part of me. How of this woman, and when she left, he from the nearby village?” he asked the has made, and every man will make, will I ever enjoy eternity when I am walked outside for a bit, just to clear man claiming to be the brother. The mistakes. Some are large, and some sullied – permanently stained?” his head. He still could not get the man’s face turned white. Aharon con- are small, but the idea of man living unusual dream of the previous night tinued, “Yes, I know who you are. You without sin isn’t part of the picture. I Will Be Like A Diamond With A Flaw out of his mind. As he crossed a main are the village boy, the son of a woman This Chazal tells us that our imper- thoroughfare, he was suddenly accost- named ....” The liar was exposed and The Sh’vatim Were Like Flawed Diamonds fections are what they are, and un- ed by a platoon of royal guards who trembling with fright, he confessed to The answer to the question on Rashi less we remove them with the proc- grabbed him roughly and hurried him all his lies. seems to be that the sh’vatim were in ess of t’shuvah, they will be on our off to the royal palace, upon orders of How had he known? Well, said Ahar- fact men of unimaginable greatness, permanent record. However, all that the Grand Viceroy to bring before him on, the words in his dream gave it away. but they also had fl aws and sinned. means is that I will have fl aws, like the fi rst Jew they see. He had said, Each would be compared to a 200-car- a diamond. Maybe I’ll be a two-carat Aharon Pardo was led up the mar- – In the rings of Aharon, will be (he at diamond – with an imperfection. diamond, maybe a four-carat – but ble staircase of the palace, frightened They were huge, beautiful diamonds, a precious gem nonetheless. While and terror-stricken. He walked through with fl aws. the blemishes will be there, so too an enormous courtyard with giant pil- will fi nd) the liars When viewing a diamond, you will the shining brilliance of a jewel. lars, and suddenly his feet stood in the so he knew that this man was the son don’t see the fl aw. To perceive it, you One doesn’t cancel out the other. The center palace ... which looked identical need to look through a jeweler’s loop fl aw isn’t eliminated, nor is the bril- to the synagogue he saw in his dream. that magnifi es the stone by a power liance eradicated. Both are there. I With one exception: In the place where of the woman who was looking at his of ten times or more. Only via di- will be a diamond with a fl aw. the bimah stood in his dream, now lay rings! rect scrutiny does the fl aw become My work now, as long as I have noticeable. It is always present, but time left, is to improve the quality the eye doesn’t see it. All that the eye of the diamond and to eliminate its Pain Without Tears: sees is glimmer and refl ected light in faults. By learning Torah, doing mitz- an object of extreme beauty. vos, and working on my midos, I The Courageous Life Of Philip Bach change the weight, color, and clarity What Will I Be Like In Olam HaBa? of the stone. Who I will be for eter- Philip made his mark on this world This concept has great relevance nity is in my hands. If I focus my at- CONTINUED FROM P. 34 and in our lives. to us. People often wonder, “What tention and energies on growth, my which was always fi lled with Philip’s This special Bach family must fi nd will it be like for me in the World to reward will be perfection more valu- loving, dependable, and vibrant pres- the strength to walk with their heads Come? I’ve done many good things able than the fi nest diamonds ever ence. The recipient of all of their giv- held up high and proud, because in my life, but I’m no tzadik. I’ve also mined. ing is no longer here. The years of Hashem chose them to raise and care medial crises had grown into a stable, for Philip. Not only did they rise to adult life now for Philip, and he was a that challenge, but they went far, mature, good friend to his family now. far beyond giving the basic needs to OHEL Launches He had found happiness and was con- Philip. They gave with a full heart to tent. He had things to look forward to Philip, expecting nothing in return. and things that greatly interested him. Truth be told, they received so much “Devoted Dads” Support Group His family is left to ask why? Why more in return. Now, in their mourn- did Hashem take him now? All I can ing, they want nothing but to have tell myself is that Hashem gives and him back and to give more to him. New Parenting Workshop For Post- Hashem takes. He gave my family this They made Philip into the unique, Divorce, Non-Residential Fathers beautiful angel we named Philip and special, and happy young man that he he took Philip back just as quickly and was. Maybe that’s why so many peo- The problem of divorce in the Jew- tled “Devoted Dads.” This important unexpectedly as He gave him. ple liked to be around Philip. What ish world has gained much attention parenting workshop for divorced, When Hashem asks Philip if he looked like us giving to Philip was re- during the past several years. With non-residential fathers will address used all that he was given to make the ally Philip giving to us. divorce rates climbing at a signifi cant the numerous concerns of those in most of his life and himself, Philip May Philip’s family be comforted rate in the Jewish community, there this situation, such as how to enrich can surely answer “Yes.” I truly be- among the mourners of Zion and Jeru- is a good chance you or someone you the visitation experience, how to stay lieve he is in Hashem’s arms now, be- salem. May Mindy and David and the know needs guidance in the post-di- connected to your own children from ing enjoyed and treasured just as he entire family see nachas from their vorce world. a distance, and confronting stigma. was here in this world with us. I pray two other beautiful children. Most Various community seminars have The workshop will be presented that my mother, Philip’s one and only of all, may the strength that they used addressed numerous divorce related by Dov Wilkes, a therapist at OHEL’s Nana (Marilyn Axel), who had such and showed during his lifetime be re- topics, including the increasing rate Tikvah Center. Dov says about the a very special bond with Philip, his channeled into the strength they must of divorce, the possible reasons for it, event, “This workshop will speak to parents Mindy and David, his siblings use for themselves right now. Our and potential solutions to an amicable the specifi c concerns of non-residen- Bayla and Matthew, along with my special Philip was able to fi nd hap- separation. Still, with all these semi- tial fathers and will provide them family, will get comfort and strength piness amidst the pain and light in nars and workshops discussing the with the necessary skills and tech- in knowing that the love and care they his darkness. He had no tears in his background, causes, and possible con- niques that they can utilize in their gave to Philip enabled him to leave a body, inside or outside. This is how fl icts related to divorce, they scarcely parenting role.” never-ending, never-fading special he would want it. He did not like any- deal with the very real issue and situ- OHEL’s Devoted Dads workshop mark in this world and in the lives one, including himself, to be sad. May ation of the post-divorce, non-residen- launches on Wednesday, February of all who knew him. Philip wrote we all retain the lessons Philip taught tial parent (which for most Jewish di- 12, in the main OHEL offi ce, located his name in this world on rock, not us of how to live with real simchah. vorced families is the father). at 4510 16th Avenue in Brooklyn. For in sand. When one writes his name Philip’s memory will forever live on OHEL Children’s Home and Family more information or to register, sim- in sand, it can easily be washed away in our lives, and may all of the mitzvos Services is running a new workshop ply visit www.ohelfamily.org/devoted, with the tide. But a name carved in we do be a blessing for the beautiful (series) dedicated to this issue, enti- or call 800-603-OHEL. stone, in rock, is forever. That is how n’shamah of Feivish Shmuel ben David.

6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 51 Readers Write

from around the whole country – not just times and continue in our day. issues remaining today, Queens College/ Kudos... from Queens College – to go help local, As an example, one result of the sum- CUNY is commemorating a series of civil And Corrections activist groups in Mississippi during the mer of 1964 was the passage of the 1965 rights anniversary events this year with summer of 1964. I’m proud to say that Voting Rights Act. Those hard-fought Spring Semester activities that are open to want to thank the Queens Jewish Link many fellow students from Queens Col- rights continue to be under attack. The the whole community. Two that are time- and Jeff Klapper for bringing notice of lege went to Virginia, Mississippi, and recent 5-4 Supreme Court decision (Shel- ly to mention are: 1) Sunday, February 23, Ithe Queens College Civil Rights Move- other places in the South in 1963, 1964, and by County v. Holder) in June of 2013 not at 2:00 p.m. at QC’s Goldstein Theater (and ment Archive to the Jewish community of 1965, but not the number quoted. I wish! only tore out key enforcement provisions again on Monday, February 24, at 10:00 a.m.) Queens and for sharing those many pho- The article’s headline is a bit confusing – of the 1965 act and its 2006 renewal, but will be a play written by Adam Kraar and tographs. The Archive is indeed a valuable it could be read as suggesting the civil has become a rallying cry for many of the directed by Susan Einhorn called “Freedom and growing asset among Queens Col- rights struggle ended 50 years ago. The in- old confederate states – and others – to High.” It is dramatically set at the second lege’s resources. terview was focused on this year’s ﬁ ftieth create new, harsh, and discouraging limits orientation session for summer volunteers My interview with Mr. Klapper was anniversary of “Mississippi Freedom Sum- on voting. In fact, the Supreme Court in in 1964. 2) On Thursday, March 13, at 4:30 long, wide-ranging, and enjoyable. Given mer 1964.” However, that one summer’s ef- 2010 (Citizens United v. FEC) had already p.m. in Rosenthal 230, the award-winning it was such a long, well-written, and ener- forts were but a single, if historic, moment turned the civil rights slogan “One Man documentarian Stanley Nelson will pre- getic piece, it’s not surprising it had a few in a long and still ongoing movement. [sic], One Vote” into “One Dollar, One view and discuss his new ﬁ lm “Freedom things I’d like to clarify. The civil rights movement (freedom strug- Vote.” Like the poll tax, literacy tests, and Summer” – which will be televised in June One simple error that I would like to gle, resistance to oppression, discrimina- violence that were initiated to reverse on PBS. Both QC events are free. correct is that the oft-quoted “1,000 volun- tion, and segregation, etc.) and efforts to the voting rights established by the Four- teers” actually refers to the total number achieve true democracy and social justice teenth and Fifteenth Amendments after (PS – My friends and family love sour of students, teachers, clergy, musicians, in the US are older than 50 years and have the end of slavery, the struggle never ends. pickles – and Mr. Klapper’s metaphor!) doctors, nurses, lawyers, etc. who went not ended – but go back to much earlier To mark the victories and think about Mark Levy

and made it clear without a doubt that picked up the phone and said, “Faige, I got save me? Why did Hashem allow such a The Hand Of Hashem Hashem is truly the one Who controls into a bad car accident on the way home nice wonderful person who offered me a everything! last night from my appointment. A car ride to get into such a horrifi c accident? ’m sure you all know the saying, I work for a dentist. A patient happens smashed into the front passenger side of I know that we are not entitled to the originally in Yiddish, “Man plans and to live in the area where I needed to go af- my car!” At fi rst I didn’t understand what answers, and perhaps we will learn them IG-d laughs.” That is very true. If we ter work, so she offered me a ride. At fi rst she was trying to tell me; then it hit me, in the Next World. But, baruch Hashem, all take a step back and stop dwelling on I accepted her generous offer, but then for and I said, “Wow! I could have been sit- she wasn’t badly hurt from the accident. other people’s lives and look at the big- whatever reason I decided not to go with ting in that front passenger seat! I was Moreover, after this very personal and jar- ger picture, we would start to see things her and instead fi gured out how to go supposed to get a ride with you.” ring event, I was fi lled with such emunah, more clearly. I would like to share a very later on in the evening. The next morn- After I hung up the phone, I was shak- and I bear witness as I truly now under- powerful story that happened to me re- ing I called her to see how she was feeling ing and tears started to fi ll my eyes! I stand Who is the one and only Hashem. cently, which was a huge eye-opener because she had a lot of work done. She couldn’t understand: Why did Hashem Faige Lloyd

of dedicated individuals who dream and create terrifi c things together for the bet- terment of the entire community, such as Do We Still Need Synagogues? chesed committees, mikvaot, concerts, and eruvin. Aren’t Shteibels and Yeshivos Enough! Religious Inspiration. Belonging to a shul affords us the opportunity to be inspired By Rabbi Perry Tirschwell, ful advice when we encounter personal exchange of ideas and information that religiously far beyond the standard min- Executive Director, NCYI challenges. There is tremendous value in contributes to our religious and spiritual yanim and shiurim. Scholars in residence being able to turn to someone, day or night, growth. programs, pre-selichot programs, and Shab- e live in an age when people in- when we face familial and communal chal- Youth Programs. Though we sacrifi ce bat Shuva and Shabbat Hagadol drashot are creasingly choose to daven with lenges. There is no replacement for being much to send our children to yeshiva, our just some of the ways in which our shuls Wpeople who are just like them. able to interact with a professional rabbi, children (in general) view school as some- enable us to become better people and bet- They are most comfortable going to a shul who has a keen understanding of the world thing that they have to do, not something ter Jews. where the potato kugel at the weekly kid- in which we live. that they would do if they had a choice. Social Programming. In addition to the dush has just the amount of salt they like religious and spiritual aspects that defi ne and the cholent has the exact proportion our shuls, a synagogue also provides us a of meat and potatoes they favor. And, when When you are part of a shul, you are member of a communal with venue for good, “kosher” fun that we it comes to membership dues, people more family comprised of people that go out of their way for each other would not otherwise experience on our and more judge their options based on own, such as comedy nights, Missions to their pocketbooks. in good times and bad Israel, fi lm festivals, women’s dance class- In today’s times, people tend to be satis- es, tennis tournaments, pro sports games, fi ed davening in a place where these some- skeet shooting, and much more. what superfi cial needs are adequately met. Women Deserve a Religious Inspiration In addition, our children’s religious con- The raison d’etre of a national synagogue They do not necessarily see the need to be- Too. Community shuls have a women’s sec- nection as adults will most probably be organization such as the National Council come involved in either an established or a tion in which females can daven comfort- through a shul, not through a yeshiva. Full- of Young Israel’s is to enable shuls to share fl edgling shul if there is a minyan in their ably and they provide quality shiurim for service shuls offer a broad array of program- best practices with each other, and to maxi- neighborhood that offers good company, women on a variety of relevant and insight- ming for our children, including Shabbat mize synagogues’ strength in numbers. By good food, and good deals on membership ful topics. They often provide a book club, morning and afternoon groups, junior con- coordinating joint health insurance poli- fees. women’s dancing on Simchat Torah, com- gregation, teen minyan, “Popsicles in the cies, publishing newsletters highlighting Why should one join a full-service syna- munal “pot luck” Shalosh Seudot meals, Park,” Oneg Shabbat programs, boys choirs, proven and effective great ideas, provid- gogue if his davening and learning needs and multiple minyanim on Shabbat so and Motzei Shabbat parent-child learning. ing coaching and consulting for rabbis, can be met by a shteibel or a local yeshiva? that men can daven earlier and then come Sense of a Community. When you are and conducting training for boards and Is the idea of joining an established shul an home, thereby enabling their wives to go to part of a shul, you are member of a commu- executive directors, national synagogue or- outdated concept? shul. nal family comprised of people that go out ganizations can help synagogues be trans- I believe that today we need shuls more Value of Diversity. Our family’s lives are of their way for each other in good times formative vehicles for Jewish continuity, than ever. Shuls enable our families to greatly enriched by interacting with peo- and bad. In a shul, you belong to a group community building and spiritual growth. enjoy a spiritual haven that also offers an ple whose Avodat Hashem (religious life) unparalleled array of religious and social is inspired by things that you may have Rabbi Perry Tirschwell is the Executive Director of the National Council of Young benefi ts. not previously experienced in a profound We All Need a Rabbi. We all benefi t im- way. Learning from others who may not be Israel. Rabbi Tirschwell is a graduate of Yeshivat Har Etzion, Yeshiva University, and mensely from a trained, learned, and expe- exactly like us is an important part of life, RIETS, and holds a Master’s Degree in School Administration and Supervision from rienced pastor who shares deeply insight- and one which lends itself to the greater the College of New Rochelle. 52 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 Daf Yomi Schedule

5:30 a.m. Cong. Ahavas Yisroel, 147- Sunday 02 73rd Avenue 6:00 a.m. Young Israel of Kew Gar- 5:30 a.m. Kehilas Ishei Yisrael, YCQ dens Hills, Youth Building Library 150- Junior High School Building (150th St 05 70th Road nr 70th Rd) 6:00 a.m. Cong. Ohel Yitzchok (R’ 5:40 a.m. Cong. Degel Israel (R’ Arieli), 137-58 70th Avenue Sheinfeld), 144-02 68th Drive 6:55 a.m. Cong. Ahavas Yisroel, 147- 6:00 a.m. Cong. Ohel Yitzchok (R’ 02 73rd Avenue Arieli), 137-58 70th Avenue 7:00 a.m. Kehilas Ishei Yisrael, YCQ 7:45 a.m. Cong. Nachlas Yitzchok (R’ Junior High School Building (150th St Oelbaum), 141-39 73rd Avenue nr 70th Rd) 8:00 p.m. Cong. Nachlas Yitzchok 7:10 a.m. Cong. Degel Israel (R’ (R’ Oelbaum), 141-39 73rd Avenue Sheinfeld), 144-02 68th Drive 8:00 p.m. Agudath Israel of Kew 7:30 a.m. Cong. Nachlas Yitzchok Gardens Hills, 147-37 70th Road (YCQ (R’ Oelbaum), 141-39 73rd Avenue Building), 1st fl oor 8:45 a.m. Agudath Israel of Kew 8:30 p.m. Cong. Degel Israel (R’ Compiled by Gardens Hills, 147-37 70th Road (YCQ Sheinfeld), 144-02 68th Drive Rebecca Wittert Building), 1st fl oor 9:00 a.m. Queens Jewish Center, 8:30 p.m. Cong. Degel Israel (R’ 66-05 108th Street, Forest Hills Sheinfeld), 144-02 68th Drive 9:30 a.m. Queens Jewish Center, 66-05 108th Street, Forest Hills Wednesday Junior High School Building (150th St Oelbaum), 141-39 73rd Avenue 5:30 a.m. Young Israel of Kew Gar- nr 70th Rd) 8:00 p.m. Agudath Israel of Kew dens Hills, Youth Building Library 150- 5:40 a.m. Cong. Degel Israel (R’ Gardens Hills, 147-37 70th Road (YCQ Monday 05 70th Road Sheinfeld), 144-02 68th Drive Building), 1st fl oor 5:30 a.m. Young Israel of Kew Gardens 5:30 a.m. Cong. Ahavas Yisroel, 147- 6:00 a.m. Cong. Ohel Yitzchok (R’ 9:00 a.m. Queens Jewish Center, Hills, Youth Building Library 150-05 70th 02 73rd Avenue Arieli), 137-58 70th Avenue 66-05 108th Street, Forest Hills Road 5:40 a.m. Cong. Degel Israel (R’ 7:45 a.m. Cong. Nachlas Yitzchok (R’ 5:30 a.m. Cong. Ahavas Yisroel, 147-02 Sheinfeld), 144-02 68th Drive Oelbaum), 141-39 73rd Avenue 73rd Avenue 5:40 a.m. Kehilas Ishei Yisrael, YCQ 8:00 p.m. Cong. Nachlas Yitzchok Shabbos 5:30 a.m. Kehilas Ishei Yisrael, YCQ Junior High School Building (150th St (R’ Oelbaum), 141-39 73rd Avenue 7:25 a.m. Cong. Ahavas Yisroel, 147-02 Junior High School Building (150th St nr nr 70th Rd) 8:00 p.m. Agudath Israel of Kew 73rd Avenue 70th Rd) 6:00 a.m. Cong. Ohel Yitzchok (R’ Gardens Hills, 147-37 70th Road (YCQ 7:45 a.m. Young Israel of Kew Gardens 5:40 a.m. Cong. Degel Israel (R’ Shein- Arieli), 137-58 70th Avenue Building), 1st fl oor Hills, Youth Building Library 150-05 70th feld), 144-02 68th Drive 7:45 a.m. Cong. Nachlas Yitzchok (R’ 8:30 p.m. Cong. Degel Israel (R’ Road 6:00 a.m. Cong. Ohel Yitzchok (R’ Ari- Oelbaum), 141-39 73rd Avenue Sheinfeld), 144-02 68th Drive 7:50 a.m. Cong. Degel Israel (Shein- eli), 137-58 70th Avenue 8:00 p.m. Cong. Nachlas Yitzchok 9:00 a.m. Queens Jewish Center, feld), 144-02 68th Drive 7:45 a.m. Cong. Nachlas Yitzchok (R’ (R’ Oelbaum), 141-39 73rd Avenue 66-05 108th Street, Forest Hills 8:00 a.m. Cong. Ohel Yitzchok (Arieli), Oelbaum), 141-39 73rd Avenue 8:00 p.m. Agudath Israel of Kew 137-58 70th Avenue 8:00 p.m. Cong. Nachlas Yitzchok (R’ Gardens Hills, 147-37 70th Road (YCQ 1 hr before Minchah – Cong. Nachlas Oelbaum), 141-39 73rd Avenue Building), 1st fl oor Friday Yitzchok (Oelbaum), 141-39 73rd Avenue 8:00 p.m. Agudath Israel of Kew Gar- 8:30 p.m. Cong. Degel Israel (R’ 5:30 a.m. Young Israel of Kew Gar- 1 hr before Minchah – Agudath Israel dens Hills, 147-37 70th Road (YCQ Build- Sheinfeld), 144-02 68th Drive dens Hills, Youth Building Library 150- of Kew Gardens Hills, 147-37 70th Road, ing), 1st fl oor 9:00 a.m. Queens Jewish Center, 05 70th Road 1st fl oor 8:30 p.m. Cong. Degel Israel (R’ Shein- 66-05 108th Street, Forest Hills 5:30 a.m. Cong. Ahavas Yisroel, 147- 1 hr before Minchah – Cong. Degel Is- feld), 144-02 68th Drive 02 73rd Avenue rael (Sheinfeld), 144-02 68th Drive 9:00 a.m. Queens Jewish Center, 66- 5:40 a.m. Cong. Degel Israel (R’ Following Minchah – Kehilas Ishei 05 108th Street, Forest Hills Thursday Sheinfeld), 144-02 68th Drive Yisrael, YCQ Junior High School Building 5:30 a.m. Young Israel of Kew Gar- 5:40 a.m. Kehilas Ishei Yisrael, YCQ (150th St nr 70th Rd) dens Hills, Youth Building Library 150- Junior High School Building (150th St Tuesday 05 70th Road nr 70th Rd) To add your shul’s 5:30 a.m. Young Israel of Kew Gar- 5:30 a.m. Cong. Ahavas Yisroel, 147- 6:00 a.m. Cong. Ohel Yitzchok (R’ Daf Yomi schedule to this list, dens Hills, Youth Building Library 150- 02 73rd Avenue Arieli), 137-58 70th Avenue please email pertinent info to 05 70th Road 5:30 a.m. Kehilas Ishei Yisrael, YCQ 7:45 a.m. Cong. Nachlas Yitzchok (R’ [email protected].

6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 53 At 7:45 p.m., The Rabbi Israel D. Rosen- The dinner will be a memorial tribute to time) at 718-268-4700. Evenings: Call Git- FEBRUARY berg Educational Institute of Congregation Rabbi Elihu Marcus. For more informa- ty Rosenzweig at 718-805-2490. Send a fax From 3 to 8 p.m., the Etz Chaim will hold its monthly Shiur Ha- tion, please contact dinner@ezraacade- to 718-268-4684 any time. Queens Village Re- Chodesh for women by women. Rachel my.org or call 718-520-9424. publican Club will Friedman, Associate Dean, Chair of Tanach At 7:00 p.m., YESS!/ hold its 139th Annu- Studies and Director of Yesodot Skill-Build- At 7:30 p.m., the Yeshivah Education

Saturday Saturday 8 al Lincoln Dinner at ing at Drisha Institute, will speak on the Queens Jewish for Special Students Antun’s, 96-43 topic, “Amalek and Purim: What Makes Community Coun- and the Young Isra- rd Sunday 23 Springﬁeld Boulevard, Queens Village, a Miracle?” At 147-19 73 Avenue, Kew Gar- cil and National el of Kew Gardens Sunday 23 featuring an address by Hon. Peter King, dens Hills. Suggested donation is $5. Council of Young Hills Women’s Member of Congress. $100 per person. Israel will hold a League and Education Committee will Kosher food available upon request. For At 7:30 p.m., the pre-Purim celebration at Colden Center present a talk by Chava Willig Levy, a further information, please contact James Queens Jewish of Queens College (Long Island Express- speaker on disability issues and author Trent at (718-343-8830 or jtrent8830@aol. Community Coun- way at Kissena Boulevard) featuring of the memoir, A Life Not With Standing. com) or Arlene Mooradian (718-523-0203). cil, Jewish Commu- Avraham Fried, Lipa, Michoel Pruzansky, At the Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills, th

Thursday 13 If you wish to attend the program with- nity Relations and the New York Boys Choir. Separate 70-11 150 Street, Kew Gardens Hills. Re- out participating in the dinner, please Council of New seating available. Tickets $25, $36, $54, freshments. Free of charge. contact Phil Orenstein, Republican Club York, and Kupferberg Holocaust Re- $72, $100 (available at Gift World). A por- President at [email protected]. source Center at Queensborough College tion of the proceeds will beneﬁt Project and Wednesday 26 will hold a program on the topic “Dual Chaim. For more information, please At 8:15 p.m., Yeshiva Tifereth Moshe Loyalty: Navigating Support for Israel call 718-544-9033. Parnassa Expo, will hold a Mini-Chinese Auction Grand While Being a Patriotic American.” At Nationwide Busi-

th Tuesday 25 Rafﬂe M’laveh Malka at Congregation the Kupferberg Center, 222-05 56 Ave- At 7:30 p.m., Congre- ness Networking Shaare Tova, 8233 Lefferts Blvd., Kew Gar- nue, Bayside. For more information and gation Etz Chaim Event at the NJ dens. For more information, please visit reservations, please call 718-544-9033. will host presenta- Convention and Exposition Center. The TifMoRafﬂe.org or call 718-846-7300. tions on Pediatrics largest business-to-business expo in the

Tuesday 25 At 7:00 p.m., Har- by Dr. Aaron Turk- USA. Over 10,000 attendees. For more At 8:00 p.m., The mony X, a women’s ish (Nutrition) and information, call 732-987-7704. Chazaq organiza- production featur- Dr. Jay Begun (Immunizations). At 147-19 tion in conjunction ing music and 73rd Avenue, Kew Gardens Hills. Free ad- Chazaq will hold Sunday Sunday 16 with Beth Gavriel, dance directed by mission. Sponsored by New York City its Big Event II – a Sunday Sunday 9 will present a lec- Karen Daitchman, Council, Margaret Tietz Rehabilitation night of unity and ture by Rabbi Ben- will take place. The event will beneﬁt Center, and New York Hospital Queens. inspiration. Details Sunday Sunday 30 zion Shaﬁer from the Shmuz. Refresh- TOVA and will take place at the Lawrence For more information, please call 718-268- to follow. For more ments will be served. Admission is Free. High School Auditorium (2 Reilly Rd., Ce- 5256 or contact meletzchaim@gmail. information, please Men and women are welcome. At Beth darhurst). Tickets are $25, $36, $54, $72, com. contact [email protected] or call 917-617- Gavriel Center, 66-35 108th Street, Forest and VIP. This event will also take place 3636. Hills. For more information, please call on February 22 at 8 p.m. For more infor- and till 917-617-3636 or e-mail [email protected]. mation, call 888-718-4253. March 2 2014

At 7:30 p.m., Congre- At 7:30 p.m., the Fifth Annu- Friday 28 APRIL gation Etz Chaim Young Israel of al Project Inspire NORPAC will hold will host a presen- Kew Gardens Hills Convention featur- a one-day Israel ad- tation by Dr. Em- will hold the ﬁrst ing HaRav Noach Isaac Oelbaum, inter- vocacy mission to

Tuesday 11 19 manuel Moustaka- session of a free Be- national posek, renowned orator, and Washington, DC. Wednesday 30 kis, Chief Cardiac ginner’s Hebrew mashpia; Mara D’Asra, K’hal Nachlas Yitz- Participants will Wednesday Wednesday Care Unit NYHQ and Maria Miccio, MS, class for adults. In the Young Israel li- chok of Queens, plus many other rab- meet in small Exercise Physiologist, Cardiac Care Cen- brary, 150-05 70th Road, Kew Gardens banim and Motza’ei Shabbos program/ groups with members of Congress. ter on “How to Protect Your Heart: Diet! Hills. For more information, please con- kumsitz with Abie Rotenberg and Ba- Roundtrip transportation and three Risk Factors! Proper Exercise!” At 147-19 tact Linda Katz at baronkatz@gmail. ruch Levine. Luxury accommodations at meals provided. Before February 17: 73rd Avenue, Kew Gardens Hills. Free ad- com or 718-261-3772. the Stamford Plaza Hotel, Stamford, CT. Adults $125 / Students $75; after February mission. Sponsored by New York City Catering by Chap-a-Nosh of Cedarhurst. 17: Adults $175 / Students $125. To register Council, Margaret Tietz Rehabilitation Friday 21 For more information, visit www.KIRUV. or for more information, call 201-788-5133 Center, New York Hospital Queens, and and Saturday 22 - com, call 646-461-3314 or e-mail conven- or visit www.norpac.net. Bee Healthy. For more information, On Friday night and [email protected]. please call 718-268-5256 or contact me- Shabbos, Congrega- Friday Friday 21 [email protected]. tion Etz Chaim (147- 19 73rd Avenue, Kew At 10 a.m., the “Food Gardens Hills) will host Rabbi Yehoshua MARCH 72$'' for Thought” Series Grunstein as Scholar in Residence. He At 7:45 p.m., Kollel for Women will fea- will speak Friday evening at 8:45 p.m. at Ner Dovid of Yeshi- <285(9(17 12 ture a talk by Sandy the home of Deena and Larry Rabinov- va Chofetz Chaim/ 72285&20081,7< Klar, life coach, on ich, Shabbos afternoon at 4:10 p.m. in the Rabbinical Semi- Wednesday &$/(1'$5 Saturday Saturday 1 the topic, “Ready, shul, and at S’udah Sh’lishis at 5:30 p.m. nary of America Set, Grow! Determining Priorities, Rec- will hold its annual ognize Roadblocks, Learn the 3 S’s: Sen- At 9:00 p.m., Ezra Chinese Auction at Shaare Tova Ball- 3/($6((0$,/ sitize, Systematize, Start Stepping For- Academy will hold room (82-33 Lefferts Boulevard, Kew Gar- 7+((9(17'$7(7,0( ward.” Refreshments. Free of charge. At its annual dinner dens). For auction books, please call 718- 3/$&($1'$ 410 Central Avenue, Cedarhurst, NY. For at Temple Torah, 54- 268-4700 or contact info@kollelauction. %5,()'(6&5,37,2172

Saturday Saturday 22 more information, contact Dr. Deb at 27 Little Neck Park- org. For more information or to place an &$/(1'$54-/#*0$,/&20 646-54-DRDEB. way, Little Neck. order, please call the Kollel Ofﬁce (day-

54 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 Community Corner • Recent Happenings Community Remembers Dr. Bernard Lander On Fourth Yahrzeit At Evening Of Reﬂ ection And Inspiration In Kew Gardens Hills

Rabbi Doniel Lander, Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshivas Ohr HaChaim, speaks about his father. Rabbi Mordechai Krauss, Rosh Yeshiva, is on the right Partial view of the hundreds who gathered to pay tribute to Dr. Lander by Touro Staff have many days in his life in which he’s “My father, alav ha’shalom, devoted To commemorate Dr. Lander’s third with reporting from Susie Garber made a difference. his life to the needs of klal Yisrael,” he yahrzeit a year ago, Touro released Dr. “Every day of his life mattered to said. “Although he was a very generous Lander’s biography, “The Lander Lega- he Touro College and Queens Yaakov Avinu,” he said. “Rabbi Dov Ber man personally, his greatest form of cy: The Life Story of Rabbi Dr. Bernard communities gathered at Yeshi- Lander lived every day of his life, a long, tz’dakah was to offer the gift of dignity to Lander,” by Peter Weisz (Ktav Publishing Tvas Ohr HaChaim on Motza’ei long life, and to the last day he was thousands of mishpachos that could not House, Inc.). The book begins with the Shabbos, January 25, to commemorate dreaming and thinking and planning obtain parnasah in the system before story of David and Goldie Lander, both the fourth yahrzeit of Rabbi Dr. Bernard and doing and building and accomplish- the establishment of Touro.” European immigrants to the US. The Lander, founder and fi rst president of ing. No day was wasted.” Rabbi Lander spoke with great emo- book describes the Touro founder’s early the Touro College and University System. Rabbi Scherman noted that Dr. Lander tion about his father’s ability to build for years as a young rabbi in Baltimore, his The tremendous regard that the olam numerous accomplishments, and the ex- haTorah has for Dr. Lander was clearly periences that convinced him of the need evident at this yahrzeit commemora- “He was here to provide Jewish men and women to create great yeshivos and academic in- tion, as more than three hundred people stitutions under Jewish auspices. came to hear divrei zikaron. with a dignified parnasah so that they Speaking just after Shabbos M’varchim Dr. Lander was a remarkable scholar could remain shomrei Torah and mitzvos without compromise.” Chodesh Adar, Rabbi Moshe Krupka, ex- and community leader whose great ecutive vice president of Touro College, strides and foresight in the arena of said that Haman HaRasha wanted to, education allowed Touro to become the established Touro so that the Jewish klal Yisrael while simultaneously dem- chas v’shalom, destroy the Jewish people venerable and successful institution it is community could operate within the onstrating concern and compassion for in the month of Adar because it is a time today, with 32 schools in fi ve countries. secular world without having to sacrifi ce individual Jews. Yeshivas Ohr HaChaim of hester panim. Rabbi Krupka quoted For the better part of seven decades, Dr. their Yiddishkeit. and its mesivta divisions, Beis Medrash Rabbi Gedalia Schorr, who said that Ha- Lander met and advised mayors, gover- “He was here to provide Jewish men L’Talmud/Lander College for Men as well man did not realize that there are cer- nors, and presidents. Of his countless ac- and women with a dignifi ed parnasah as a myriad of kollelim all attest to Dr. tain shepherds in every generation who complishments, he was most proud that so that they could remain shomrei Torah Lander’s unbounded ahavas haTorah. see the adversity that inspires them to not only did he provide opportunities and mitzvos without compromise. That An array of programs within the Touro motivate klal Yisrael and bring about a for those who lacked, but that he was was his goal,” said Rabbi Scherman dur- College and University System offer the y’shuah. able to create mosdos that strengthened ing his speech, entitled, “Dr. Lander: A promise of dignity of parnasah. But, Rab- “This evening we are here to remem- limud haTorah. Man Shaping an Era.” bi Lander recalled, at the same time, his ber such an individual who saw choshech Featured speaker Rabbi Nosson Sch- Rabbi Doniel Lander, Rosh Yeshiva of father’s display of rachamim for the indi- and brought light to klal Yisrael,” he said. erman shlita, the general editor of Art- Yeshivas Ohr HaChaim, and Dr. Lander’s vidual was always evident. At the time of his passing in 2010, Scroll/Mesorah Publications, began by son, talked about the principles involved Rabbi Lander recounted a story about Dr. Lander had achieved more in one asking, ”Was there any greater builder in with “Im kesef talveh,” “If you should his father, saying that several years ago lifetime than most could in ten. While our generation than Rabbi Dr. Bernard lend money,” which was read from Dr. Lander met a Jewish man while he advocating for and working on behalf of Lander?” He discussed a story in B’reishis parshas Mishpatim that morning. He was on a trip to Moscow. They talked for klal Yisrael, he too was able to impact on to illustrate the accomplishments of said that lending money is considered some time and at the end of the conver- so many diverse communities, cultures, Dr. Lander. He said that when Pharaoh a greater form of chesed than tz’dakah sation Dr. Lander asked the man to call and causes across New York and the asked Yaakov Avinu how old he was, the because it spares the poor person from him when he came to the U.S. Fifteen country. He helped Touro evolve from a 130-year-old Yaakov answered, “Few and embarrassment. The Torah, he said, is years later the man approached him and tiny school with 35 students in the fi rst bad have been the days of the years of teaching a lesson that the true mitzvah is Dr. Lander immediately asked why he graduating class to a fl ourishing inter- my life and they have not reached the not in the amount of money one gives to never called. national institution serving over 19,000 life spans of my fathers.” Rabbi Scher- a poor person, but rather the rachamim “This is not simply to say that my fa- students worldwide. man said that, according to Rabbi Shim- that motivates him in the fi rst place. ther had a good memory, although he At the start of the evening, Moshe shon Raphael Hirsch, Yaakov responded Rabbi Lander said that it was that rach- did,” said Rabbi Lander. “But it was be- Yehoshua Lander, Dr. Lander’s grandson, in this way to demonstrate that even one amim that pushed his father to create cause he cared. This fellow needed his was m’sayeim maseches Y’vamos as a trib- who has lived for many years may not Touro. chesed and my father cared about him.” ute to his grandfather.

6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 55 Community Corner • Recent Happenings

Some A TIME Brany Rosen Delivers Shiur In Kew Gardens Hills Programs & Services On Behalf Of Fertility Organization A TIME Website [www.atime.org] A friendly place on the Web, where by Susie Garber sonal struggles with fertility, which led her innovation, integrity, and total commit- people facing infertility can come for to found A TIME. She said she is not going ment to each and every couple. Their ex- support and information, with 12 doc- t is all up to Hashem. He holds to rest until everybody has a healthy baby. traordinarily talented and experienced staff tors answering questions daily. It pri- the key to everyone’s y’shuos.” Mrs. Rosen noted an idea she learned from has been responsible for helping thousands vately provides information & emotion- “IOn Monday evening, January a rav, that “charity begins at home” means of couples have healthy babies. Their many al support, helping to ease the isolation 27, Mrs. Brany Rosen, a founding member your home should get involved in charity. accomplishments, as well as their sustained that often besets infertile couples in of A TIME (A Torah Infertility Medium of Also, charity at home means your family, level of achievement in realizing a couple’s highly child-centered communities. Exchange, the premier, internationally ac- your extended family, and your commu- dream of giving birth to a healthy baby, is Support Groups claimed organization that offers advocacy, nity. She stressed the need to give valida- what draws people to them. In choosing Various issues are addressed by dif- education, guidance, research, and sup- tion, comfort, and caring to those dealing to become a member of A TIME, couples ferent groups, including male sterility port through many programs to Jewish with infertility. Sometimes it is preferable can, without worry, entrust their care to a (a topic of great sensitivity and often men, women, and couples struggling with to say nothing rather than something that team with proven leadership and a world- shrouded in misconceptions), adop- reproductive health and infertility), spoke could end up being hurtful. wide reputation of excellence and innovation, older couples, child-free living (a beautifully at the home of the Elbogens. A TIME is the world’s largest organization tion. A TIME is there to help couples build reality that is very harsh for a couple in The shiur was dedicated in memory of the to provide the many services necessary to families. Established in 1993 with a total of a family-centered community.) yahrzeit of Mrs. Elbogen’s mother, Chaya help the infertile couple. The organization thirty members, A TIME currently boasts a 24-Hour Helpline Ruda bas Chaim. Mrs. Rosen delivered a boasts a myriad of supports for couples. A membership of over four thousand! People call our helpline at all hours, beautiful uplifting shiur to the large group fully integrated specialized organization, A You can learn more about A TIME at and are assisted by our many volun- of gathered women, sharing her own per- TIME is widely respected for its excellence, atime.org. teers. When necessary, the volunteers do careful research before responding to caller’s questions. Chazaq Hosts Toy Drive At Maimonides Hospital Medical Referrals And Research Callers are referred to appropriate by Esther ben Avraham medical specialists, based on their par- ticular needs. In addition, our special- here’s no greater gift than ists can help the couple do research the gift of giving!” on issues of concern to them, or point “T In the last few months, them to resources that have already the Chazaq organization has given been identifi ed. members of the community a chance Pregnancy Loss Program to take part in a beautiful mitzvah, by We offer support and information holding a toy drive for sick children in to couples dealing with pregnancy the hospital, encouraging everyone to loss. Our special packet helps provide give what they can, in hopes of mak- hope and encouragement to many ing even the smallest difference. This couples, whether they are experienc- is the fi rst time that Chazaq has done ing their fi rst loss or have already ex- something like this, and thank G-d they of their lovely staff members. Although Chazaq is so grateful to have been given perienced prior losses. received well over one hundred toys! Af- they weren’t able to meet with the chil- this opportunity, and to have been able Adoption Services ter much planning, they were able to ar- dren and personally hand them the toys, to share it with all of our community Services include comprehensive re- range a meet and greet on Tuesday, Janu- it is known that their efforts were not members! Thanks to everyone who par- sources for adoption along with a very ary 28, with the Child Life Specialist at left unnoticed. In the merit of this toy ticipated, this toy drive was defi nitely a exciting program that will attract Jew- Maimonides Hospital in Brooklyn, Ms. drive and everyone’s chesed, we all hope successful one! It was the fi rst one, and ish birth moms across America who Kimberly Mason. She was kind enough that each and every one of the patients it defi nitely won’t be the last! are hoping to fi nd Jewish families for to give them a tour of the beautiful fa- being treated at Maimonides hospital To get involved in future toy drives their babies. cility and she introduced them to some has a speedy and complete recovery! please email [email protected]. Therapy We offer referrals to the most experienced therapists in this fi eld. The A TIME in-house therapist is available Young Israel Praises Actress Scarlett Johansson on Sundays in the offi ce. Family Builder Program For Standing With Israel This is a comprehensive resource that aids our couples during every step, he National Council of Young Is- son ended her affi liation with Oxfam. and through every aspect, of their med- rael (NCYI) Sunday praised actress “The National Council of Young Isra- ical consults, diagnostic testing, treat- TScarlett Johansson for her recent el commends actress Scarlett Johansson ments, medication, and counseling. show of support for the State of Israel. for ending her affi liation with Oxfam Monthly Educational Events Ms. Johansson was the target of criti- over its criticism of her using SodaSt- We provide professional evening cism by Oxfam International, a humani- ream and agreeing to do a commercial programs that are both educational tarian group for which she served as a supporting the product, which is made and inspirational. Inspirational pres- global ambassador, as a result of her in Maale Adumim, Israel,” said NCYI entations by doctors with audio-vis- affi liation with SodaStream, an Israeli President Farley Weiss. “Ms. Johansson ual support provide information in a company that operates a large factory pointedly rejected the basis of the BDS warm and friendly atmosphere. in Judea and Samaria. Oxfam’s displeas- movement in her statement explaining Shabbos Near The Hospital Program ure with the actress resulted from its her resignation. The National Council We provide resources, food, infor- position that Israeli “settlements” are il- of Young Israel praises Ms. Johansson mation, and hotel rooms for those legal and are infringing upon the rights for standing up for what is right and re- staying in Manhattan for Shabbos. of the Palestinians. Screengrab from a SodaStream commercial signing from her longstanding associa- In response to the criticism, Ms. Johans- featuring Scarlett Johansson tion with Oxfam.”

56 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 Community Corner • Recent Happenings Lander College Kollel Member Creates Unique Learning Program For Bein Ha’zmanim

With Rav Matisyahu Salomon, Mashgiach of Bais Medrash Rav Paysach Krohn, famous lecturer and author, With Rav Yisroel Neuman, Rosh Yeshiva of Bais Medrash Govoha: Govoha: Eliezer Feder, Avraham Panish, Rephael Jacobs delivering a shiur to the program Rephael Jacobs, Avraham Panish, Eliezer Feder ander College/Beis Medrash To do this (in addition to supplying the makes me feel as if our campus has program because in a time like bein L’Talmud has a two-week break general needs of any yeshiva, like three been transformed into camp-us.” ha’zmanim there is more bitul Torah. Lmid-winter and an early summer meals a day and regular minyanim), their “Camp Zev” always seeks new ways He added that this is like a meis mitzva recess beginning towards the end of program provides: snacks, shiurim, Torah- to enhance the experience of the par- - like that which is written in the Sefer June, offering students the opportunity learning contests (with prizes like money ticipating students. This past summer, Chassidim that a mitzva that people do to leave yeshiva for long periods of time. for seforim), full Shabbos accommoda- they wrote letters to Gedolei Yisroel not want to do is like a meis mitzva. Nevertheless, despite the allure of taking tions, and guest speakers – which is to asking for words of encouragement This most recent winter program of- off so much time from yeshiva, many name just a few of the ways employed to – and many responded. HaRav Dovid fered an opportunity to meet with Gedo- students have chosen to stay at Landers enrich the daily experience. Feinstein wrote that the participating lei Yisroel in Lakewood, NJ. The handful during their vacation days (including this Many students are grateful to the Lander students have themselves ful- that went on the trip returned to Landers most recent winter break) in order to de- program for encouraging them to learn fi lled the teaching that the only one with a palpable enthusiasm, which vote their free time to learning Torah. during their free time. Without “Camp who is liberated is the one who is en- quickly spread to the other students. To accommodate, one of the Lander Zev” (as it’s fondly called, for the Lander gaged in Torah study. HaRav Shmuel This most recent winter program was College Kollel members has created a College Kollel member who created the Kamenetsky praised their learning of the most successful yet - with around 25 unique program to facilitate learning program), many claim that they would Torah during these times by saying students attending daily. The pleasure Torah during these intermediary days. not have spent nearly as much time that vacation time is a special period of those that had attended “Camp Zev” Largely fi nanced by the yeshiva and its learning Torah during their break. One where the main purpose is to sanctify is being felt throughout Landers. Conse- alumni, their bein ha’zmanim program student commented on the overall at- Hashem’s name in which the world will quently, many students are looking for- aims to have the appropriate ratio be- mosphere of the program: “The ach- see how a ben Torah acts in that all his ward to spending their summer vacation tween learning Torah and taking time off dus [camaraderie] that you [Zev] have actions are proper. HaRav Aharon Leib days in the most fulfi lling place around: to become revitalized for the next z’man. created among the Talmidei HaYeshiva Shteinman wrote that he supports this their yeshiva! That Championship Season he championship game of the (YCQ). In the front row is Goalie Ezra Queens Yeshiva Hockey League Perlmutter (YCQ). The director of the TSenior Division was won by Queens Yeshiva Hockey League is Rabbi Team 2, expertly coached by Russell Perl- Moshe Hammer, YCQ Rebbe and former mutter (back row right). Pictured are the Captain and star of the Rambam Ravens victorious players proudly displaying hockey team. The league consists of their newly-earned trophies (back row, players from YCQ, YTM and Yeshiva L – R) Defensemen Joey Brody and Ean Ketana and consists of a Junior Divi- Lazarus of Yeshiva of Central Queens sion (grades 4-5) and a Senior Division (YCQ), and Capt. Ari Socol, offense, of (grades 6-8). The games are professional- Yeshiva Tiferes Moshe (YTM). Middle ly refereed by Rabbi Hammer and Yossi row (L-R): Defensemen Joey Gross and Schultz. The QYHL emphasizes competi- Yehuda Socol of YCQ, offenseman Jackie tiveness combined with sportsmanship Glaser (YCQ), offenseman Chaim Weiss and Derech Eretz. (YTM) and defenseman Avishai Shachar Photo Credit: Meir Shachar

otech units and are pouring money into fully develop the products they’re trying the technology. But they need to bear in to. And even if they do, they may have to The Biggest Tiniest Technology Ever mind that even when the products under compete against very powerful and well CONTINUED FROM P. 45 identify not only geographical areas but development are completed, nanotech fi nanced multinational rivals. also specifi c weapons systems or com- will make up only a very small part of As the technology advances, nanotech Dr. John Alexander, US Joint Special munications systems that you wish to these companies’ overall business. is sure to become a humongous business. Operations University, believes that na- attack.” They can also invest in small compa- Sometimes the best way to achieve big nobots will also be used on the battle- Anyone interested in investing in nan- nies whose entire business is nanotech. results is to think small. fi eld. “They will seek out and destroy otechnology can do so by buying shares However, while the potential payoff on specifi c targets,” says Alexander. “You can in some very large, long-established fi rms some of these pure plays could be very Sources: BBC; Business Week; Michio make them very, very smart so they can like IBM and Pfi zer, which have nan- high, some may not be able to success- Kaku on You Tube; Wikipedia.

6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 57 Community Corner • Recent Happenings Nefesh International Conference Highlights The Expansion Of Mental Health Issues Affecting The Jewish Community efesh, the international network (FHF) team to meet professionals and FHF is a valuable resource to many treatment in a facility it not only meets of Orthodox mental health pro- generate awareness about the services health professionals because of their the needs but also any potential halachic Nfessionals, held their annual available to them and their clients. unique relationship with many treat- standards that apply as well. One of the conference at the Hyatt Regency in Long Immediately following the Nefesh In- ment facilities across the country. Very many services that FHF has been able to Island recently, and it was attended by ternational Conference, case managers at often, a client seeking treatment does secure is to educate treatment facilities many of the big names in the Jewish FHF held a series of meetings to discuss not know about the rehabilitation and about the concept of kosher food and to mental health fi eld. The conference was plans for the future on how to expand its treatment programs available outside offer kosher meals when requested. This open to all but was specifi cally geared to network to reach out to help more Jews of their immediate geographic loca- service is just one of the many things that those involved in mental health, educa- in need. Friends Helping Friends is a cri- tion area. One of the goals of FHF is to will assist those in the orthodox commu- tion, or counseling. The increase of the sis intervention team that assists those educate and inform not only therapists nity when seeking treatment. level of attendance and issues discussed who are struggling with alcohol and sub- and other mental health professionals Friends Helping Friends is commit- showed the growth of the mental health stance abuse with referral and placement but also the individual and their fami- ted to confi dentiality and their hotline issues affecting the Jewish community. into appropriate treatment facilities. FHF lies as well as to the various options for number, 866-343-3341, is manned by a While the conference focused on a va- provides a team of counselors to assist them to obtain treatment all over the team comprised of counselors, case man- riety of matters as well as their relation those within the community who are country. agers and therapists. FHF works with in- to Jewish law, Issues involving substance struggling with various addictions and The FHF team is highly trained to dividuals, their families, MDs, therapists, dependency and abuse are a growing and had a few members from their staff at- meet the needs of the Jewish commu- social workers, and rabbis to assist those at times overwhelming concern within tend the conference to discuss ideas and nity and is committed to work together struggling with dependency and abuse to the Jewish community. It was a great op- services with other mental health profes- with frum mental health professionals help people get their lives back on track portunity for the Friends Helping Friends sionals. to ensure that when a client does need in good health and in good care. Lander College Junior Wins Stock Market Challenge With 28 Percent Return aron Benia, a junior at the Lander making a lot of money on the stock mar- College for Men (LCM), won the ket.” He said that a few of his friends had Aschool’s fall semester Stock Mar- jokingly accused him of insider trading. ket Challenge, his third victory in the last Benia said that, despite his apparent four contests. A psychology major with a fi nancial talent, he plans to pursue a minor in marketing management, Benia masters in psychology after he graduates had an incredible 28 percent return on next January. Although he’s tempted to investments. see if his success in the contest would The bi-annual contest, organized translate to the real market, he said that by senior Avraham Weiser and junior the pressure of losing actual dollars Shlomi Landesman, is an opportunity might take away the fun. for students at LCM to try their hand “It’s risky with real money. With real at investing like real-time stock traders. money it would consume more of your Each of the 45 contestants received “$1 life.” million” to invest in any shares avail- The Lander College Investment able on the New York Stock Exchange Group, which meets every other week (within certain restrictions: contest- to discuss matters related to the fi nan- ants cannot purchase penny stocks cial world, oversees the contest and has and a maximum of 20 percent of one’s its own entry as well. The members col- credit can be invested in one company). laborate on its investments and should “This competition enables students it win, whichever member suggested a to apply the sophisticated theories they stock with the highest return would re- learn in class to the practical realities of ceive the $100 cash prize. investment,” said to Dr. Moshe Sokol, “And the bragging rights. You can’t dean of LCM. forget about the bragging rights,” said A native of Toronto, Benia said his Weiser. strategy was relatively simple: Each day Like Benia, most members of the he would note which stocks were down Investment Club are not fi nance ma- 15 percent or more and then check out jors. Weiser said this reinforces one of the performance over the prior three the goals of the contest, to demonstrate months. If it was at the lowest price over that investing isn’t just for the fast-mov- that time he would buy. If it continued ing bankers and brokers. to fall he doubled it. It didn’t always “The point is to get rid of the scariness work—the one time he didn’t win he of investing and get people comfortable lost $80K—but more often than not he’s with the process,” said Weiser, himself a made a profi t. In his two previous victo- marketing major and the lone investor ries he fi nished with very impressive re- to unseat Benia in the last four contests. turns in the mid-teens. “We want to create an interest in learn- “It’s a pretty well-known strategy,” ing about companies and teach people he said. “Obviously there’s no easy way to look at them from a fi nancial point of or some people would [consistently] be view.”

58 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 Community Corner • What’s New In School What Do Seeing 600,000 Jews, Hearing Good News And Lighting Shabbat Candles Have In Common?

here are some brachot that almost This was the 10th annual bee in YSZ. keep the students active and have more earned by Esther Aranbayev, a long everyone knows. Like the bracha “The competition fosters a deeper ap- students involved at any given time. time student of YSZ, since preschool, Ton an apple, slice of bread or preciation of what Hashem does for us,” As the contestants progressed and a previous Brachot Bee contestant. juice. But what about the bracha on hear- said Mrs. Shoshana Leibowitz, school through the bee, the rounds became What did not go unnoticed was ing good news or seeing a large crowd principal and founder of the school more diffi cult, yet overall, all of the par- the immense ahavat Yisroel that was of Jews together at one time? These Brachot Bee. “The purpose of the Bra- ticipating students displayed an impres- displayed by the classes. Girls created brachot are not as well-known. Yeshiva chot Bee is not only to help students sive mastery and broad of knowledge of signs and cards for the contestants. Sha’arei Zion students have been study- remember the brachot, but to create an the subject matter. They cheered, applauded and threw ing these brachot in earnest for a number awareness and added attention to the Excitement fi lled the room as each hugs and kisses to their fellow class- of weeks. Building on the foundational importance of saying them clearly and participant rose to answer the correct mates. Adina Shimunoff from 3rd grade halachot learned as part of their regular concentrating on their meaning.” brachot for each food or mitzvah cho- decorated a full oaktag with glitter and curriculum, the students received and In all, 25 students from third to sen. Students took turns responding pom-poms, stating the contestants’ studied packets listing many brachot eight grades participated in the Bra- to the questions, until only the three names and wishing them good luck. Jews say before and after eating, gaining chot Bee, which was held on the 15th winners remained on the stage. The Following the bee, the contestants pleasure or fulfi lling a mitzvah. of Shvat. audience gave them all a heart round were invited to a food decorating ac- After intense preparation, each class Two new rounds were added this of applause. tivity. They learned how to carve de- held their own brachot challenges and year where students had to write on Who were the fi nal winners of the signs into apples, mangos and kiwis, tests in their classrooms. The four top white boards and lift brachot cards Brachot Bee? Odaya Cohen, who only make fruit kabobs and create a fruit students of each class advanced to the with the correct bracha. moved to New York within a year won basket out of melon. This was the per- school-wide competition, with the Mrs. Raizel Nissim, assistant principal fi rst place. Nava Pinkhasov, born in fect way to celebrate the new year for hope of winning fi rst, second or third and coordinator of this year’s bee said Israel and a student of YSZ for four trees and also to put all the studying place. the additional rounds were intended to years, came in second. Third place was into practice. Bais Yaakov Of Queens Second Graders Research Animals YQ’s second grade is delving into research on animals. BThis project begins with the students’ visits to their school library, reading and checking out its vast collection of books on animals. Mrs. Rochie Elias, the school librar- ian, helps the girls at the fi rst stage of the project. “I share the girls’ love of reading when they have regular library time to choose and explore what they might like to read, but I love seeing the girls enthusiastic in their academic pursuit of this project!” The girls choose an animal of interest to research. They gather in- discussion, they learned about the published, illustrated books. All of students’ accomplished skills and formation from several sources, but animals’ environments, their habits, the work is designed, authored, and knowledge. “Our girls absorb our what better way is there to learn than likes, and dislikes. Some of the girls created by the children. The work is teachers’ enthusiasm of learning and hands-on experience? This week pet or held the animals, too! magnifi cent but even more, the stu- exploring. The unit of study refl ects The Nature Company visited them Mrs. Miri Fixler, Mrs. Rifka Dena dents master research skills, scien- the staff’s ability to infuse the best with classroom workshops. Students Rodkin, Miss Shulie Stern, and Miss tifi c observation, and authoring and learning techniques with their ob- were able to have an “up close” look Devora Wangrofsky, second grade illustrating another book. jectives of the unit while creating an at the animals’ innate abilities to pro- general studies teachers at Bais Yaa- Mrs. Sarah Bergman, principal, environment of student growth and tect themselves through their natu- kov, then guide the girls through a and Mrs. Karen Reisbaum, assistant success. This is what Bais Yaakov is ral colors and camoufl age. Through writing project that culminates into principal, take special pride in their all about!”

6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 59 Community Corner • What’s New In School Bnos Malka Annual Rashi Breakfast Bnot Yaakov “Experiences” his past week, the third-grade Parshiyot B’shalach And Yitro talmidos of Bnos Malka Academy Theld their annual Rashi Breakfast. n Erev Shabbat of parshat acle of the parting of the Red Sea. After the students complete the learning B’shalach, Bnot Yaakov talmi- Next Erev Shabbat brought a similar of “Rashi Script,” they celebrate the mo- Odot gathered together to stand occasion to Bnot Yaakov with parshat mentous occasion with a special break- before big “waves” of blue and wonder Yitro and “Matan Torah,” the Giving of fast. Rabbi Weichselbaum, the menahel together whether the “waters” would the Torah, a pivotal event central to of Bnos Malka, spoke to the girls about part or not. They listened as Mrs. Fried- Judaism. The girls “stood” before “Har Rashi’s enormous contribution to learn- man narrated that the “Misrim (Egyp- Sinai” (Mount Sinai) listening to the ing Torah and that it is inconceivable tians) were behind them, chasing them, “thunder” and seeing the “lightening” of to learn without immediately asking and the Yam Suf waters were before the monumental event as they all band- “what does Rashi say.” Rabbi Weichsel- them!” The girls felt the tension in ed together and said “Naase V’nishma!” baum explained that along with Rashi’s those moments as it was described to (We will do and we will listen!), the in- superior peirushim was a life fi lled with them, and they all followed “Nachshon spiring response of the Jewish people as k’dushah. The students listened raptly ben Aminadav” into the Yam Suf (Red they stood before Har Sinai and accept- to Rabbi Weichselbaum as he told them Sea) until the “waters” fi nally “parted”! ed the Torah. The event climaxed with the story of how Rashi’s father was moser The girls sang Az Yashir and danced and students singing and dancing to “Times nefesh for k’vod Hashem. The girls were sang Shirat Miriam with instruments of Joy” by JEP, a song they learned especially excited to hear Rabbi Weich- selbaum describe his visit to Germany, It is amazing how creative our students where he saw Rashi’s shul and even the are! The handmade keepsakes are sure chair he had supposedly sat in. The to be treasured for years to come. At talmidos were so inspired and involved the conclusion of the exciting morning, in the discussion that they kept asking the students were reminded that now more insightful questions, and didn’t the real work begins. Mrs. Rivky Babad, want the speech to end! the assistant principal for Kindergarten After dining on a delicious breakfast, through Fourth Grade, explained, “Baruch the students went on a scavenger hunt Hashem, our students are well on their searching for Rashi letters, which they way to learning to extrapolate Rashi’s then had to transform into a phrase they question and delving into the answer as had already learned from Chumash or well. We congratulate them on reaching Y’dios Klaliyos. Next, each student deco- this important milestone in their learn- rated a beautiful picture frame displaying ing, and wish them many years of inspi- each girl’s name written in Rashi letters. ration and growth from learning Rashi.” in hand. Morah Faigie’s Pre-1A students throughout the week describing Matan made their own tambourines and had Torah (giving of the Torah) as a joyous great fun as they joined in the dance time that solidifi ed the Jewish nation. and song. Bnot Yaakov students have enjoyed “The girls had a great time!” Mrs. several Parshat HaShavua events this Khoshnood, Second Grade teacher, ex- year, with programming that enables claimed after the event. The “Yam Suf” students to “experience” the critical (Red Sea) had been constructed from sev- landmark happenings of the Jewish eral blue sheets draped over coat racks, people. All re-enactments have been and tables that were then pushed apart whole school activities where students to simulate the splitting of the sea. Mo- participate and experience the Torah’s rah Hecht’s fourth graders sang “Az Ya- fundamental occurrences that they had shir” and all the girls had lots of fun join- previously learned about in the class- ing in the singing and dancing of “Shirat room. It takes some fi rst-hand interac- Miriam,” the “Song of Miriam” that was tion, however, to bring classroom learn- especially for women following the mir- ing to life. Learning On Vacation At YHT ver the winter vacation the stu- aspects and halachot of Tu BiSh’vat dents (and parents) at Yeshiva and answered questions online at the OHar Torah had the opportunity end of the presentation. On MLK day, to continue learning through an excit- Mrs. Yonina Lermer prepared an im- ing video lesson project. With this year’s pressive interactive presentation with yeshivah break occurring during both Tu the history and lessons of MLK. On BiSh’vat and Martin Luther King Jr. Day, Tuesday, Rabbi Tuvia Fried sent out there was plenty of learning to be done a video lesson discussing the signifi - from the comfort of home, or vacation cance of the mishnah in Pirkei Avot, spot. With the assistance of Mrs. Alyssa “Im ein ani li.” Erev Shabbat, the Me- Ossip, coordinator of educational tech- nahel, Rabbi Gary Menchel, sent out a nology, over the course of the vacation Parshat HaShavua video lesson with video lesson links were sent out to the a valuable lesson and insight into the YHT families. The fi rst video presenta- parshah. It was a great source of nation was an interactive Tu BiSh’vat les- chat for the entire YHT family to see son produced by Rabbi Ahron Rosenthal. children and parents engaged in learn- The students took a tour of the important ing even while on vacation!

60 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 Community Corner • Recent Happening Spanish-Speaking Jewess Luncheon n Sunday, January 12, a group of bound together by their Torah values and Spanish-speaking Jewish women belong to one whole nation, Am Israel. Ogot together for their very ﬁ rst Esther Valladares gave a shiur in Span- luncheon. Some of them knew one an- ish. Esther and Sarah met at an Alumni other. Others met for the ﬁ rst time at Shabbaton held last year by the Jewish Chopped & Pressed restaurant in Kew Heritage Center (JHC) in KGH. Esther Gardens Hills. shared and discussed the beauties of be- The ladies in attendance were either ing an observant Jewish woman. After born in, or have family from Spanish- the shiur, the ladies further discussed speaking countries such as Argentina, some Torah ideas and made suggestions Ecuador, Venezuela, and El Salvador. The for some possible chesed projects for the goal of this luncheon was to gather the community. These included programs Spanish-speaking women from our com- for chinuch of their children and visiting munity so that they not only share their the neglected elderly patients at nursing mutual experiences and interests, but ex- homes. change their Torah knowledge and discuss With Hashem’s help, there will be an- ways to service the needs of the broader other luncheon in the future. If you are Spanish-speaking Jewish community. a Spanish-speaking Jewess and would Sarah Rakofsky gave a warm welcome like to participate, you are invited to at- message. She emphasized that although tend the next gathering. To learn more, Jews are spread out all over the world and contact Sarah Rakofsky at all4thboss@ may speak different languages, they are gmail.com.

From left to right: Sarah Rakofsky, Melanie Duec, Ruth Hannah Sapir & baby Sarah Yocheved, Alicia Hassin, Elisheva Naghi, Naomi Rodriguez, and Esther Valladares *missing Tania Schul- man who also attended but had to leave early* Queens Families Enjoy Winter Break At Rocking Horse Ranch

Rabbi Elliot Hecht and family Mr. & Mrs. Yaakov Feldstein

Mr. David Berger and family

6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 61 Queens Jewish Link Celebrates Second Anniversary At Gala Event In Kew Gardens Hills by Jeff Klapper, is called a paper anniversary; in the Unit- Rabbi Schonfeld's Role today, the print media sets the political with additional reporting ed States it is a double paper anniversary. There is a saying: “Poschin bi’shvacho agenda. In fact, Israel was the creation of by Susie Garber Either way, the evening abounded in pa- shel ha’achsania,” one begins one’s re- a journalist, Theodor Herzl. per as issues of the QJL were strewn on marks by praising the host. In this case, Rabbi Schonfeld says the Jewish Link n Wednesday, January 29, the tables and chairs, like so much confetti in it was the host, Rabbi Schonfeld of the does an “invaluable service” by galva- Queens Jewish Link (QJL) cel- a journalistic ticker-tape parade. Adver- Young Israel, who praised the guest, the nizing the community and publicizing Oebrated its second anniversary tisers, rabbis, writers, and politicians nor- Queens Jewish Link. Meeting in the base- neighborhood events. The Link presents at a gala event at the Young Israel of Kew mally inhabiting such different worlds ment/simchah hall of his shul was like a rare commodity in the Jewish commu- Gardens Hills. sat around the same table to wish the the Yankees at home fi eld. Here, the nity, “normalcy,” by presenting a healthy The event was held for the paper’s paper a happy anniversary. newspaper almost counts in a minyan! balance of outlooks and hashkafos. writers, advertisers, local rabbis and elect- The beginning of the event was ad- Rabbi Schonfeld is the rabbinic con- ed offi cials, and members of the Jewish vertised to businesses and professionals sultant of the newspaper, making sure the Politicians Speak Business Development (JBD) Network- as a “networking opportunity,” and was paper is as kosher as the glatt eateries on A community celebration without ing Group. The publishers, Yaakov Serle conducted in conjunction with JBD. The Main Street. Anything smacking of lashon elected offi cials is like a parade without and Naftali Szrolovits, regretted that they event began by giving all in attendance ha’ra or immodesty is stricken in this reli- marching bands, so several elected offi - could not invite the entire readership to a chance to stand up, introduce them- gious, family-oriented, publication. cials shared the limelight with the rabbis the event: “We couldn’t publicly promote selves, and say a few words about their Rabbi Schonfeld says newspapers and advertisers. the event due to the fact that it would’ve businesses. Each person had twenty sec- have always played a passionate role in Newly-inaugurated Queens Borough been impossible to accommodate the onds of free advertising. The newspaper, Jewish life. In the world of the shtetl, President Melinda Katz says the Jewish tens of thousands of readers.” with a circulation of around 7,500, is free, almost every community expressed its Link has become part of the fabric of the A second anniversary in Great Britain so advertising is its lifeblood. voice through a newspaper. In Israel community. The fact that so many politi-

Congresswoman Grace Meng (D-NY 6th District) presents (L-R) Comunity activists Odelia Jacobs and Jan Fenster, R’ Daniel Pollack, Guest speaker Allan Cohen a Certificate of Special Congressional Recognition to QJL Congresswoman Grace Meng, Assemblyman David Weprin, community of J Media Group publishers Yaakov Serle (Center) and Naftali Szrolovits activist Dr. Paul Brody

Moshe Kinderlehrer, publisher of the Queens Assembly members Nily Rozic (far right) and Michael Simanowitz (second from right) present a proclamation by the Assembly of the State Jewish Link’s affiliate paper, the Jewish Link of New York to QJL publishers Naftali Szrolovits (third from right) and Yaakov Serle. Also pictured (continuing R-L) are JLBC publisher of Bergen County, introduces himself at the Moshe Kinderlehrer; Rabbinic Consultant to the QJL Rabbi Yoel Schonfeld; Emcee of the Evening Yaniv Meirov; Councilwoman Karen networking portion of the event Koslowitz (District 29); Councilman Rory Lancman (District 24)

62 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 Jan Fenster, Past President, Queens Jewish Community Council

Kew Gardens Hills Civic Association Co-President Meshulam Brothers Shaya (left) and Yitz Kaminetzky Lisker (left) with emcee Yaniv Meirov

cians, business people, and rabbis turned the Bronx, but they’ve sure heard of it in munity, especially in advertising, his spe- Warren Hecht – out is a real demonstration of community Albany and DC! cialty. The manager at a newly opened President, QJCC and civic spirit, she noted. Councilwoman Karen Koslowitz Dunkin’ Donuts told him that a single ad Assemblyman Michael Simanowitz praised the paper as well, and noted that in the newspaper brought one thousand said the paper fi lled a void in the Jewish she looks forward to reading it. customers into the store. community. While there are many Jew- The Kew Gardens Hills Civic Associa- ish newspapers in New York catering to The Publisher Speaks tion claims the majority of the attendees every stripe, from labor Zionist to Satmar, Up till now people spoke about the at a recent event came as a direct result of the Link is the fi rst to address uniquely paper; now it was time for the paper to publicity in the Link. Queens concerns, being the fi rst and only speak to people. Yaakov Serle, advertising Mr. Serle is looking forward to the QJL Jewish newspaper of Queens. Simanow- manager/publisher of the Queens Jewish becoming a weekly and to the launching Rabbi Avrohom Hecht, itz was tired of Queens being a mere foot- Link, nostalgically recounted the origins of a new interactive website that will up- Co-President, note to other large Jewish communities, of the Link and how he came on board. date readers about daily events. Vaad Harabonim of Queens and joked that he is looking forward to The newspaper was the brainchild of Yaniv became the Senior Consultant three things: the Link becoming a weekly, two young men: Yaniv Meirov of Forest to the paper and continues in this role to advertising costs going down, and the Hills and Naftali Szrolovits of Kew Gar- this day, while Naftali became the manag- third anniversary of the newspaper. dens Hills. Yaniv is instrumental in the ing editor. Councilman Rory Lancman noted that Chazaq organization, a kiruv organization the paper fi lls an important niche for the with a kaleidoscope of activities includ- The Jewish Link Of Bergen County Orthodox community. “I view it as a vital ing classes, lectures, publications, and The infl uence of the Queens Jewish resource,” he said. He jested about how even a kollel. Naftali was the editor of the Link extends far beyond central Queens. Benjamin Dov Nierman (left) with the Link is now entering the “terrible Chazaq Magazine, a popular bi-monthly A year ago the paper spawned an affi liate, Rabbi Pinchas Avruch,Director, Executive BYQ twos” but not to worry! local publication. the Jewish Link of Bergen County (JLBC), Assemblywoman Nily Rozic stepped Mr. Serle knew the two young men. headquartered in Teaneck, New Jersey. up to the podium, and read excerpts from Naftali was the editor for the Chazaq peri- The papers share advertising and business a proclamation by the State Assembly in odical. When Yaniv was a lad of fi fteen, he ownership but their content and editorial honor of the Jewish Link that was as long approached Yaakov Serle looking to pub- policy differs markedly, refl ecting very and as formal as a megillah. The Queens lish his parshah sheets in The Jewish Press. different communities. The editor of the Jewish Link is “worthy of the affections The two approached Mr. Serle with a JLBC, Moshe Kinderlehrer, was present, Yoel Lichstein, Executive Director, of the people of Queens County and the proposal to start the fi rst Jewish newspa- circulating among the crowd. He was at Margaret Tietz Nursing & Great State of New York,” part of the proc- per in Queens. Mr. Serle was delighted. home, for not just does his paper come Rehabilitation Center lamation read. He had lived in Queens since 1951 and felt from Kew Gardens Hills but so does he. Last, but not least, was Congresswom- a local newspaper was sorely needed. “Without the team behind the Queens an Grace Meng, who had just fl own in Having worked close to thirty years Jewish Link there simply would not be a from Washington, DC. As a non-Jewish in advertising, the newspaper business Jewish Link of Bergen County. Yaniv, Yaa- woman of Asian heritage, representing a was in his blood. While Yaniv and Naf- kov, and Naftali inspired and guided me largely Jewish district, Meng noted that tali went around to persuade community in the founding of the JLBC.” the paper is an indispensible source of leaders, the Vaad Harabonim, and rabbis After the last of the awards and speech- Jewish issues in the neighborhood. to support a local newspaper, Mr. Serle es, the event ended like a typical Jewish Paralleling Rozic’s state proclamation, approached local businesses to ask for celebration, with bentching and Maariv Shlomo Steinman – Director, Meng read and then presented to the their support. The community as a whole and then group pictures. Jewish Business publishers a Certifi cate of Special Con- was very supportive and the rest, as they Naftali estimates over 200 people at- Development Group gressional Recognition on the paper’s sec- say, is history. tended the event, and noted, “It was grati- ond anniversary. People may not know Yaakov Serle is proud of the tangible fying to see the large turnout of contribu- of the Queens Jewish Link in Monsey or impact that the Link has on the com- tors for the paper they’ve helped build.”

Yosef Poplack – Vice President, National Council of Young Israel

Rabbi Martin Katz, Founder and Director, Just One Life Partial view of the attendees. The dinner buffet was catered by Carlos and Gabby’s of Queens Photo credits: Barry Brown and Yaakov Katz

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n the last issue, we started to discuss Executive means to obtain toys or turns from other children. Their Function Disorder and how it can impact on our prior experiences tell them “pulling and grabbing work Ichildren’s behavior. Many times children have dif- better than my words do.” However, this is not an accept- fi culties in the areas of Executive Function. We talked able behavior in the eyes of their parents and teachers, about how Executive Functions encompass the follow- nor does it win points with their friends. ing areas: inhibition, working memory, organization of Recalling previous experiences. Most of the materials and self-monitoring. thinking that we do in order to solve problems We also discussed that Executive Function Disorder Crequires language. People also rely on past ex- strongly relates to defi ciencies in crucial emotional and periences to solve their present problems. That infor- physiological development, referred to as Executive Skills. mation is stored in our brain and we need language Executive Skills encompass the following areas: Language to access it. Language-challenged children experience Development, Language Processing, Emotional Regulation They don’t have the vocabulary to tell you how they are diffi culty accessing their previous experience to solve Skills, Cognitive Flexibility Skills, and Social Skills. We feeling. They might not be able to say, “I am mad” when problems. covered the fi rst Executive Skill, Language Development, they are mad or, “I am frustrated” when they are frus- In the next article, we will talk about Emotion Regu- in our previous article. In this article, we will discuss the trated, due to their lack of vocabulary. Instead they say, lation Skills. Executive Skill of Language Processing. “I hate you!” “You are the worst teacher!” or “Shut up!” Most of the thinking and communicating we hu- Identifying and articulating needs. Some chil- Adina Soclof, a certifi ed Speech Pathologist, worked as mans do involves language. Language helps us refl ect, dren cannot express what is bothering them, or a Speech Pathologist in preschools for the developmen- self-regulate, set goals, and manage emotions. There Bwhat they need. They are not able to use words tally disabled in the New York area. She then worked as are children who show delays in the area of language or even gestures to tell their parents, “I am tired,” or “I a Parent Educator for Bellefaire Jewish Children’s Bu- processing, which is crucial for developing emotional am hungry.” Instead they will lash out, throw a tantrum, reau facilitating workshops. She has been featured at intelligence. and get angry. numerous non-profi t organizations and private schools This can lead to diffi culties in the following areas: Children with limited communication skills may not in Cleveland. Adina developed TEAM Communication Categorizing and expressing emotions. Many understand that words are effective, at least in a conver- Ventures and conducts parenting and teacher work- language-delayed children do not have the abil- sational sense. Frequently, young children with very lim- shops via telephone nationwide. For more information, Aity to categorize and express their emotions. ited expressive language skills are inclined to use physical visit parentingsimply.com.

6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 65 Beauty Briefs Risselle Naimark The Quick Fix

f time is of the essence and you need a polished, Use a shadow brush to dust a light shadow pulled together look real fast, follow these tips 5. from the lash line to eyebrow. Then dust a Ifor an instant transformation. This will work medium tone eye shadow from the lash line to just well with casual clothes as well as a career look. For above the crease. an evening look or a dressy affair, you will need to Use your darkest eye shadow to line the upper spend more time on your makeup. 6 . eyelid, instead of a pencil. You can even apply So get ready, get set, and go.... this wet, for a more defi ned look. Apply either a moisturizing foundation with an Apply one or two coats of black or black- l. SPF, a mineral sheer tint, a BB or CC cream to 7. brown mascara. make skin appear fl awless and blend well. Dust a neutral color blush on your cheekbones Apply concealer under the eyes and in the 8. and blend well. Then brighten the apple of 2. most recessed corners of your inner eyes. Gen- the cheek only, with a more vibrant color to give it mirror. This will help you get out the door as fast as possible, tly press and blend the concealer into place with your that extra pop. albeit still looking polished and put together. index fi nger. Apply your lipstick. Set the foundation and concealer with loose 9. Defi ne your mouth with a lip-liner Risselle Naimark is a Professional Freelance Makeup Art- 3. powder, using a powder puff, which will not 10.pencil to keep lipstick from bleed- ist and Skincare Consultant. She carries an extensive line allow for a streaky look. ing. of personalized skincare, cosmetics, and anti-aging prod- Defi ne brow with either a soft taupe (for bru- It is helpful to have a designated area, e.g., make- ucts. Risselle is also available for weddings, Bar Mitzvahs, 4 . nettes) or blonde eyebrow pencil (depending up table or desk in your room, that is organized and makeup lessons, and all of your beauty needs. She can be on your coloring). stocked with a clear cosmetic case and magnifying reached at 718 263-5517. The Informed Woman Meira E. Schneider-Atik Style Myths Debunked

Myth: You need to have a ward- derneath it. But it also shouldn'tn't be robe of coats for every occasion. so big that you drown in it. MMakeake Truth: You need only two basic sure it has a belt that you cann tie coats – the rest is your choice. (if the belt buckles, tie it anyway;way; buckling it looks a bit contrived).ed). If you only have one trench, try s I write this, it’s the dead of win- to get it in a neutral color. Mostost ter and the temperature is below trenches come in classic khaki,ki, Afreezing. Naturally, we want to but you can get black too. It is stay warm. Many fashion gurus remind okay to get it in a brighter color.or. us that we need to look good too, and However, if you plan to wear thehe they say that in order to look good, you trench as part of an outfi t, neu-u- need at least four coats: one trench coat, tral is best. one work coat, one special occasion coat, For those interested, here’s a and one “knock around” coat. And if you bit of fashion trivia: The trenchh date layers, 2-3 thin layers, as opposed to one big live in a very cold climate, you need an coat was originally made by Britishtish de-de- but not so thick layer. More layers trap your body extra warm coat on top of all that. signer Burberry for soldiers to wear in big that it heat better. But on your feet, layer care- From me, you get the truth. the trenches during World War I, hence drowns you. Color wise, again, neutrals fully. Make sure you can wiggle your toes You only need a total of two coats. Yes, the name “trench coat.” are best, but colors can be a fun way to and move your feet. That keeps your cir- you read correctly. Your second coat is a winter coat. This brighten up the winter doldrums. I had culation going and prevents frostbite. First, you need a trench coat. Unless is the coat you wear in cold weather a wool peacoat ($15 at a rummage sale) And yes, you can layer on your head you live in a climate where it’s warm and when your trench coat isn't enough. with bright color blocks all over. I loved also. If you do not wear a head cover- sunny all year long with no rain and no When looking for a winter coat, look for the way it looked, and it kept me warm ing, wear a winter hat or scarf wrapped cold, you need a trench coat. Trench coats one that looks clean and neat, with a re- for over fi ve winters. Speaking of wool, around your head. And if you do wear are about as classic and stylish as they fi ned shape to it. That way, you can wear there are those who say that down is a head covering, layer it under a winter come. Some secular women have been it everywhere. Since you’re probably go- warmer, but I haven’t felt any appreciable hat or scarf. I like to double up on my known to wear them as their outfi t – that ing to remove your coat indoors, the coat difference. However, I have found a dif- mitpachot and then wrap a winter scarf is, with nothing underneath, and they get won’t be a part of your outfi t. Therefore, ference in wet weather: Wool resists rain over my head and ears. away with it because the “trench” works you don’t need to be overly concerned and snow better. But the choice is yours. Stay warm, look good, and keep in so well. I’m warning you not to go that about how appropriate it is. As long as Underneath your coat, it’s best to wear mind that spring is on the way. far. But a great trench coat can be a part it’s clean, neat, and refi ned, it will work of your outfi t. It lends a great edge when everywhere. Meira E. Schneider-Atik is a wardrobe organizer and personal shopper. She helps worn over anything from jean skirt and Again, make sure your winter coat fi ts women weed out their wardrobes, shop smartly, put together outfi ts, and save time, ef- t-shirt to a BBD/BBST. well over whatever you plan to wear un- fort, and money, all within tz’nius. Her writing on fashion and style within tz’nius has However, you still need to get it derneath. When shopping, bring along been published both in print and online. She is also a jewelry designer and co-founder right. Make sure your trench coat fi ts a sweater to try underneath the coat. of RenaMei Jewelry – Designed Just for You. Her pieces can be seen on www.etsy.com over whatever you plan to wear un- It should be big enough to accommo- (just look up RenaMei). She can be reached at 718-644-6135 or at [email protected].

66 917.549.6145 • [email protected] February 6, 2014 Delectable Dishes Estee Kafra, kosherscoop.com Five-Minute Shakshuka

This dish was inspired by a classic fa- Instructions vorite Middle Eastern dish that we used Combine the salsa and tomato sauce to have all the time when we lived in Is- in a bowl. Place oil in a small skillet rael. Shakshuka comes in many shapes, or pan and preheat over medium heat. ﬂ avors, and forms, but this one is so Pour the sauce into it. Let cook for 2–3 simple and delicious, it’s a perfect quick minutes. meal for any time of day. Meanwhile, crack 2 eggs into 2 different bowls. Make a small hole in the Ingredients tomato sauce with the back of a spoon salsa - 1 cup (store bought is great; and pour in one egg. Repeat with the choose your desired level or "heat") second egg (and a third, if desired). tomato sauce - 1 cup (or marinara Cover the pan with a pot lid larger sauce) than the pan circumference and cook oil - 1 tsp just until whites are ﬁ rm and yolks eggs - 2-3 are set. Uncover, sprinkle with fresh parsley - 1-2 tbsp freshly chopped parsley, and serve with baguettes or salt and pepper - for sprinklin crusty bread.

Double Peanut We seldom bake with peanuts or pea- peanuts - 1 cup roasted and shelled, or 1 nut butter in our house due to the nut- cup caramel chips Chocolate Chip Cookies free policy in the schools. However, this chocolate chips - 1 cup, or chocolate Chanukah vacation we were home and chunks enjoying every minute of it. These cookies coarse sea salt - for sprinkling were made by my nine-year-old daughter, so I know they’re kid-friendly. A successful cookie in our house is one that has a deli- Instructions cious batter … that’s half of the fun! This Preheat oven to 350°F. one defi nitely qualifi es. In the bowl of an electric mixer, cream Yield: 24 cookies the margarine or butter with the sugars until light and fl uffy, about 4 minutes on high Ingredients speed. Lower the speed slightly and add non-trans-fat butter or margarine - 1/2 the egg, fl our, baking soda, baking powder, cup (1 stick) and salt. Mix until thoroughly combined sugar - 1/2 cup and a batter has formed. Add the peanuts brown sugar - 1/2 cup, packed and chocolate chips and stir with a spatula peanut butter - 1/2 cup to distribute evenly. Line 2 baking sheets egg - 1 with parchment paper and use a mini-ice fl our - 1 1/4 cup cream scoop to create even-sized mounds, baking soda - 3/4 tsp about 2 inches apart. Give each mound a baking powder - 1/2 tsp small sprinkle of sea salt and bake for 10–11 salt - 1/4 tsp minutes. Cool and enjoy.

Estee Kafra, author of three best-selling cookbooks, runs KosherScoop.com, an interactive website with all the latest and greatest in kosher cooking, featuring over 1,000 recipes.

6 Adar I 5774 917.549.6145 • [email protected] 67 Socially Savvy Esti Berkowitz Get On Board For The Eighth Annual New York Kosher Food & Wine Experience In NYC!

o you love dining out but can’t attending the premier kosher food and always decide on your favorite wine show in NYC. This event is so well- Drestaurant because you have too attended that there are also KFWE events many? Do you love tasting new wines in LA, London, Israel, and most recently and specialty drinks along with delectable Miami. In fact, the Miami event was so desserts? For the past couple of years, I extraordinarily successful that it attracted have attended an event with all of this and over 600 people in its inaugural year! more. This year, don’t miss the boat and This year, New York’s KFWE is adding get on board for the Eighth Annual Kosher something new and very different from Food & Wine Experience (or KFWE 2014) previous years. Jay Buchsbaum, VP of on February 24, 2014, at 6:30 p.m. at Pier Marketing for Royal Wine Corp. shared 60. Not yet familiar with KFWE? This a bit about this new addition in a recent is the go-to event for those interested in press release. Mr. Buchsbaum said, “New

this year is the addition of a luxury yacht, which will be docked at Pier 60. The Hornblower Hybrid, one of New York's most modern yachts, features two ﬂ oors and will dazzle with a Dessert Pavilion featuring the largest variety of delectable sweets KFWE has ever offered, a complete selection of dessert wines, and an expand- ed mixology bar! The yacht will also have a lounge area, where people can relax and take a break.” This is a great addition and sounds quite fun. The yacht will remain docked at Pier 60 for the entirety of KFWE, and attendees will be able to move between the two locations as they wish throughout the evening. I have attended KFWE, and each year I run into friends from the industry and friends just out for a night of fun! You should deﬁ nitely put this on your calendar and treat yourself to a night you won’t forget, and will want to make it a ritual every year. Last year, the event sold out, so don’t wait until Febru- ary 23 to get your tickets. I have something special to offer my readers – only until the end of January. To buy tickets or for more information on New York, please visit www.kfwe2014.com and use discount code PRIMETIME20 to save $20. Tickets will not be sold at the door.

Disclaimer: I was not compensated for this post, and the opinions expressed here are my own. I was provided a ticket to past press events in order to share my experiences and food-and-wine ﬁ nds at the show.

Esti Berkowitz blogs about how she found kosher food, a husband, and had kids after 35 at www.primetimeparent- ing.com. Esti is also a part of Trumpet- ingMedia.com, a social media events company she started with three other New York-area moms.

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