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Now he’s the new director of the Advancing a Healthier Wisconsin Endowment, working to build a healthier future for all I DO MY BEST to be a good ally to the diversity of identities in our marginalized populations. that make community. Even so, it’s inevitable that I’ll have my blind spots. And finally, given that I’m writing this before the election, I’m hoping Over the years I’ve actively worked on trying to identify them when they that by the time you’re reading this we may have some hope in a new us great. come up. To do this, I focus on listening, learning, changing, and then administration to start undoing the harm caused by the shift we’ve just advocating for the voices expressing the harm that I am contributing to. I experienced at the Supreme Court. UW law professor Steph Tai tries to think part of the unlearning we all need to do is around feeling defensive forecast ways that the newly cemented conservative majority can not or doubling down on a position we hold when only suspend our progress, but will most likely actively begin rolling Jim Hartman Ins Agcy Inc No matter what you value, a group more marginalized than ourselves it back. We’re all in this together, so here’s to our shared struggle and Jim Hartman, Agent I’m here to protect it with n 5706 US Highway 51 tries telling us that it’s causing them harm.