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Fierce & Fearless Photo: emmanue Like never before p.12 p.b18 dj hector Fonseca spins Epic Saturday at House of Blues Noho Pride Guide Inside! on April 17  • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com NoHo Pride: Support our supporters! The Controversial Couch By: Gricel M. Ocasio/TRT Publisher committee and Board members of NoHo Pride, Lie back and listen. Then get up and do something! t is that time of the year again, when along with its Chair. They have done a great job, we celebrate NoHo Pride, first, and especially considering how fresh they were to By: Suzan Ambrose*/TRT Columnist probably say “OMG HELP!” It’s then the rest of the Pride Marches Pride when we first met them. Good job Bear ex. It sells. It’s hot. It’s all the been building for a few months I rave. now: Europe is going through the and celebrations in the nation. This & Cid White! time is particularly important because Our involvement in Pride this year has been S Unless you’re involved same revelation/ revolution in the we are around the people who share our the NoHo Pride Guide. It is proudly designed with a scandal or two. Sex scan- pedophile upset that the U.S. did a struggles, who are dear friends, who and produced by The Rainbow Times, and it is dals are all over the place: politics, the Church, few years back. And it’s a growing fury, be- support us—at least most of them. inserted in this issue. We hope that you like it. Hollywood; everybody’s doing it, so what’s cause for the first time ever, there appears to be NoHo Pride this year will be a spe- Please, as always, visit, support and thank all of the problem? We’re so immune to it; we barely a direct link to the Pope. Specifically, Joseph cial Pride. It will be the first time in the advertisers found in the Guide and through- give it a glance after the first breaking news. Ratzinger, before he became Pope Benedict, more than ten years that we have had out the newspaper. They are a vital part of this Unless you’re Tiger Woods. Balls and the peo- had direct knowledge of abuse. new leadership, fresh faces and dif- operation. Without their support and presence ple who touch them have a way of grabbing Well, as you can imagine, all of those grown ferent ideas. We are thankful for the none of us could be here today. If there is some- the American populaces’ attention for more men in hassocks are pulling the wagons around Publisher former leaders of the old Northamp- thing important that we should all do, is to en- than a day. their infallible dude. Infallible, for those who ton Pride, however. They, too, worked sure that these supporters/advertisers/sponsors And why is it such a big deal, anyways? are Catholic Church lingo unaware, meaning hard to make a Pride Day a memorable know that you also care and support them too. Well, when it involves youth, abuse or vio- “Makes no mistakes,” “His word is law,” “and experience for everyone. Ensuring that We, at TRT, support our advertisers in that man- lence, that’s when it goes a little outside the This is straight from God’s mouth to our ears.” this event happens involves the partici- ner. We hope you do too! box, no? True believers are supposed to accept every pation of a lot volunteers and people Happy Pride! From the recent Republican National Com- decision without question as there is a direct who are the “behind the scenes” amaz- mittee’s (simulated) lesbian sex-bar night out link to the holy one. Basically, what Papa Pope ing individuals who give to Pride each Gricel M. Ocasio to the sex hotline (wrong) phone number being says, goes. year relentlessly, then and now. Hav- Publisher given out for contributions, I’d say these fel- And what’s he’s saying is NOTHING. ing been on the Board of the former lows really know how to get membership up That’s right. For weeks now, faithful Chris- Northampton Pride at some point, and *Gricel M. Ocasio is the co-founder, co- (amongst other things). Thumbs up there, big tians have sat back and waited for a few choice then having attended most of the com- owner and Publisher of The Rainbow Times. guys. words from Rome, but could the Big Cheese mittee meetings, I know the organiza- She is a graduate of Temple University and Then there’s singer Ricky Martin’s an- in the Vatican take a few moments on Easter, tional aspects that it all entails. It can has been in the journalism and publishing field nouncement that he’s a gay man where it’s when the whole world was watching to say From the the From be very overwhelming. So, perhaps for almost 20 years. You can reach her at: only big news in Siberia or the Midwest people “Pedophilia in our ranks is an abomination that this year we can thank the present volunteers, [email protected]. of the Corn. we will root out?” Apparently not. But when the Pope, the Roman Catholic I can’t help but draw a parallel between pe- closest-thing-to-Jesus steps in a pile of doo- dophilia and celibacy. Forced celibacy, that is. I have returned to enjoying being doo, it’s time to wake up and focus! When the Church makes healthy young men Yes, the Vatican’s all atwitter—and I don’t See Couch on page 8 gay too: I’m not defined by labels! mean tweets per hour, although if I did, they’d By: Jason Lydon/TRT Opinion Writer so angry? And, Last month I got incredibly excited the answer was Letters to the Editor to write and preach about the queer pretty simple. The Rainbow Times Jesus for Easter and, as I did, I began My sexy, older, Dear Editor, 351 Pleasant St., #322 I Northampton, MA 01060 to get some push back. The first push queer mentor I was not happy with Jason Lydon’s story back I received is a little too obvious was not say- saying that Jesus was queer. I think that is www.therainbowtimesmass.com to even write about, I am sure you can ing F#@& you disrespectful and offensive. I understand [email protected] figure that out on your own. The next to particular about freedom of expression, but religion [email protected] push back I received was from some i n d i v i d u a l s should not be a point of focus to queer [email protected] people who still do not like the word (well, not all of people. Phone: 413.282.8881, queer. There are those who still find the the time). The Jason Lydon —Lillian S., Chicopee, MA 617.444.9618 or 617.438.4364 word queer to be offensive, demeaning, “you” was to Fax: 206.203.0436

Opinion and degrading. In all honesty, this has heterosexism, homophobia, and all the institu- Dear Editor, not really been the case for me. By the tions keeping queer people down. Queer was The story about Congresswoman Tammy Publisher Columnists time I came out, 15 years ago, people had moved a sign of resistance. For him, queer was about Baldwin and the cover were covered in great Gricel M. Ocasio Suzan Ambrose on to “Fag” and “Faggot.” Queer, for me, was tearing down borders and pushing boundaries. detail by Ms. Gormley. I was not there, but Editor-In-Chief Paul P. Jesep always a political term. I had come out to the Queer went beyond sexuality and gender reach- have met the Congresswoman and she is Nicole Lashomb Deja N. Greenlaw world as a pudgy little gay boy, relishing in the ing into all areas. Queer was a verb, to queer “family.” It’s great to see an open lesbian Sales Manager Tetty Gorfine J.M. Sorrell happiness of my gay identity. However, an older something was to challenge its placement or receiving this Fenway Award. I commend Bill Berggren Lorelei Erisis friend of mine told me that he was not gay as in to obliterate the borders of confinement. Queer Fenway for having chosen her. Distribution Manager happy, but queer as in f#@& you. My happy lit- sexuality was about pushing the boundaries of —Luka G., Boston, MA Reporters SJ Seymour Lisa A. Eramo tle gay pacifist self was astonished; why was he See Labels on page 4 Sales Associates Dear Editor, Tynan Power Liz Johnson Joel Siegel I like that we will be having a Dyke Chris Gilmore March in Northampton. It sounds exciting, Elizabeth Gormley empowering and plain fun! Yeah, let’s re- Webmaster Lead Designer C’mon Out – Just Ask! Advice Column Jarred Johnson Jim Curran By: Tetty Gorfine*/TRT Columnist Dear Louise: claim what’s ours, like our “vaginas” were Thank you for your with the Vagina Monologues. There are so The Rainbow Times is published monthly by Dear Tetty: question. It raises many proud dykes in Northampton that this The Rainbow Times, LLC. TRT is affiliated with is a better celebration of who we really are AP/Newsfinder, QSyndicate, & the National Gay Can I ask this question again? an issue we have not yet discussed in this here. & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce. The articles —Theresa B., Northampton, MA written by the writers, columnists, and correspon- Am I crazy? I’m in a new relationship with column; how other dents express their opinion, and do not represent a wonderful woman who is warm-hearted, significant people, or the endorsement or opinion of The Rainbow Times, which is one of the things I love about her. beings in the case, Dear Editor, LLC or its owners. To write letters to the editor, Her warm-heartedness extends to her dog, interplay in a love rela- Mr. Jesep’s story “Comfort under a cold please send your letters, with your name, address who, until I came along, was the center of her tionship. There are complicated world” certainly had many and phone number to: The Rainbow Times (address emotional life. Tetty, it’s not that I don’t like often children, parents, good points. The most important of them shown above), or e-mail any comment/s to the dogs, but this dog is treated like a child, lover, important friends and was the fallacy that people see God inter- editor at: [email protected]. All best friend. When we go to sleep at night, the even pets who are very twined with religion and can’t separate the submissions will be edited according to space dog lies between us. When we have sex, the important to a person two. It is a shame because that is exactly constraints. The Rainbow Times, LLC reserves the why acts of hatred toward others are com- right not to print any or all content, or advertise- dog stays on the bed. When we socialize with in love. Negotiating Tetty Gorfine ments for any reason at all. TRT is not responsible friends, we have to go home before I want do these boundaries are mitted. Thank you Attorney Jesep for bring- for advertising content. To receive The Rainbow so we can “let the dog out.” I feel like this is essential. ing this to light via the Times. Times at your home via regular mail, or through going to be a bigger problem down the road as Other people (and beings) can be a source of —James T., Cambridge, MA electronic delivery, please visit our website. The we get closer. What do you think I should do? great tension in relationships. When a couple whole content and graphics (photos, etc.) are the —Thank you Tetty, Louise sole property of The Rainbow Times, LLC and they See C’mon Out on page 18 See Letters on page 21 cannot be reproduced at all without TRT’s consent. www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 •  The Pioneer Valley Gay Men’s Chorus—Raising Voices in Pride By: Tynan Power/TRT Reporter in New Hampshire. Amateur doesn’t mean inexperienced, The Pioneer Valley Gay Men’s Henry Gibson says there are numerous other however. Chorus (PVGMC) wants to be clear gay men’s groups in the area, focused on ac- One member with a long résumé of voice that it’s not just a chorus—it’s a gay tivities from bowling to potluck dinners, but training and community theater performance chorus. none are as close-knit as the chorus. says “I feel that I’m being pushed and chal- There’s no need to worry, though— “There’s solidarity here,” he says. lenged, but not too hard.” no one who sees the group perform “We come together for the fun of it. If it’s The chorus itself has years of experience. could forget. going to be labor, or too intense, I don’t want “At times, the founding of a community News to be here,” David Thaxton says. organization can be cloaked in the obscuring

“The gay atmosphere is here the whole time we’re singing,” says cho- Gibson gives McFarland credit for knowing clouds of memory. The best we can determine rus member Jim Day. how hard to push the chorus. is that the Pioneer Valley Gay Men’s Chorus In fact, for Paul Be- first began rehearsing together and langer, one of the young- performing in the mid-1980s,” est members of the chorus says McFarland. “Today, the Pio- explains that, “The sing- neer Valley Gay Men’s Chorus ing part was secondary. continues to present a positive Photos: tynan power It was the gay part that picture of gay men to the commu- PVGMC Conductor, Lawrence McFarland nity and provides a warm, accept- brought me here.” locales, from churches to Northampton Pride. Even for those who are ing environment for gay men to express musical creativity.” Earlier this year, the chorus even performed at passionate about singing, the Springfield Falcons’ Pride Night game— being part of a gay chorus Transgender and cisgender (non-trans) men are equally wel- accompanied by zambonis. is unique. Sometimes it’s important just to be visible “A couple of years ago, come in the chorus. Sexual iden- tity isn’t even a sticking point, as a gay chorus, McFarland explains. He says I sang in another chorus,” that seeing a group of gay men singing in their another member says. “I as the chorus welcomes anyone comfortable singing under the church can make some people uncomfortable. didn’t feel the same ca- Photo: tynan power “There is a necessity that people who are The Pioneer Valley Gay Men’s Chorus (PVGMC) “gay men” banner. Western MA Western maraderie. I didn’t feel “We don’t need to see your gay uncomfortable confront and own that anxiety. like I fit in.” We can help them deal with it. Many people In fact, when asked what they get out of “Larry [McFarland] is laid back. He realizes card,” McFarland jokes. that we’re an amateur group,” Gibson says. With a dozen members now, the chorus appreciate a good chorus,” he says. “It’s a the chorus, the immediate, echoing answer is chance to see gay men in a positive light.” “friendship.” McFarland says there’s no experience neces- hopes to grow to 14 or 16 members in the fall. sary to join the chorus. “The chorus accepts new members on a Some of the men spend hours on the road For information about booking—or joining— for the pleasure of each other’s company each “The primary requirement for joining the rotating basis. We begin rehearsals each fall, chorus is enjoying the collective creation of and hope that new members can join us then,” the Pioneer Valley Gay Men’s Chorus, contact week. director Lawrence McFarland at afarbourn@ya- “This is not an all-Northampton group,” says music,” he says. “Naturally, prior choral expe- McFarland says. “At the moment the audition rience is an asset, but it is not a requirement for process is simply to join us for rehearsals.” hoo.com. Rehearsals are held every Wednesday Day. “People travel to be here.” Some mem- evening at 7 p.m. in the basement of St. John’s bers come from as far as the Berkshires and the membership. Many of our current members do Each year, the chorus has many opportuni- not read music.” ties to share their voices, in a wide variety of Episcopal Church in Northampton. The chorus chorus conductor, Lawrence McFarland lives will perform at NoHo Pride on May 1, 2010.  • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Labels from page 2 acceptable heterosexual normalized relation- Faith, Family, and God – Life Eternal: ships and playing with the fluidity of gender roles. Queer not only belonged to my friend, queer was a whole movement, including an overly-academic one. Steven Seidman, a Remove the death that holds you down queer theory leader, suggests that the aim of By: Paul P. Jesep*/TRT Columnist healthy. Don’t be afraid to let go. If it’s a fam- mission. You choose the response. queer theory, “is not to abandon identity as a aster has a special place in my ily member then find some healthy distance. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) adopted a category of knowledge and politics but to ren- heart. Putting aside my love This is probably stating the obvious. Write prayer that merits a much wider audience. der [identity] permanently open and contest- Efor Cabury eggs, Lindt choco- down a list of things that you want changed. The prayer, whose author was long thought able as to its meaning and political role.” late bunnies, pysanky (Ukrainian Identifying them is a necessary step to move to be eminent theologian Reinhold Niebuhr It did not take long for my gay identity to Easter eggs), and yellow marshmal- forward. Life is not about standing still. It (1892-1971) now disputed by scholars, though slip away, as I figured out a far greater mean- low chicks waiting for me to bite doesn’t mean you keep changing jobs or hous- considered the first promoter of it, has value ing for myself in queer and a radical political their annoying little heads off so they es or apartments. It means you grow as a per- regardless of one’s spirituality, faith tradition role that my sexual identity pushed me in to. peep no more; Easter is life trampling son able to live and let live. It means the ability or personal struggles. Below is the prayer with I decided that if I chose to identify as gay, my death. It’s especially apparent editorial modifications. identity could uncomfortably force any future when the spring flowers push “Creator, give us courage to change sexual partners of mine into an oppressive through the cold, dark earth what must be altered, serenity to accept gender box. As a gay identified boy/man, I and the birds sing their songs “Is someone’s bad habit holding what cannot be helped, and the insight was very attracted to masculine men, seem- just before sun rise. Regard- to know the one from the other.” ingly mostly straight ones, yet wanted to very less of whether you embrace you back emotionally, spiritually, or “Living one day at a time; enjoying intentionally make room for the possibility Easter in a secular or religious one moment at a time; Accepting hard- that their gender could be fluid. I began to way or prefer to spiritually professionally? Walk away. This isn’t ships as the pathway to peace; Taking identify as queer because I did not want to de- Name of God of Name celebrate the spring solstice this world as it is, not as I would have termine my future partners’ gender. there is a universal message to suggest that you love them less.” it; Doing what I can to make it better; My identity has changed and transformed end- – life eternal. Trusting that all will be well in the end; lessly over the years, truly rendering the possible Consider using April as a time to to find joy in each day. It means nurturing and That I may be reasonably happy in this life meanings of my queerness permanently open. triumph over the “little deaths” that growing your soul. It means finding wholeness and having the hope and faith that I will be su- Today, my queer identity reaches far beyond have eaten at you over the past twelve and balance. premely happy in the next. Amen.” who I want to have sex with or fall romantically months. Do you hate your job? Move Approach your soul as if pruning a tree, If this prayer is not right for you then reflect in love with. Queer feels like a powerful in your on or find peace with it. Are there bush, garden, or houseplant. Remove the death on it and change it. Consider modifying it to face tool that I share during anti-war kiss-ins

In the the In people in your life that make you feel that obstructs the life waiting to sprout forth. personally guide you to help prune the death with radical anarchist multi-issue focused revo- bad? Move on. Don’t let someone It will be challenging. Think of the pruned that may cling to your soul. Better yet consider lutionary queers. And I have returned to enjoy- else’s negative opinion become your reality. Is death you remove as soon-to-be fertilizer. Use writing your own daily guide or prayer to help ing being gay too. I do feel happily gay at times someone’s bad habit holding you back emo- it in a healthy way to feed the soul by letting you walk life’s path no matter where it may as I sing the lyrics to Wicked or dance to Lady tionally, spiritually, or professionally? Walk it become invaluable perspective. During your lead. Life eternal. GaGa. I encourage others who feel confined away. This isn’t to suggest that you love them pruning be sure you’re not blaming others for by labels to simply try adding more on. Identity less. But there is a point in everyone’s life things only you can change. Mom’s relentless * Paul is an author, attorney, and a seminary exploration and understanding can be an incred- when a platonic or romantic relationship isn’t criticism, for example, isn’t likely to stop. No trained, ordained priest in greater Albany, NY. ible step towards our collective liberation! one can make you feel bad without your per- He may be reached at [email protected]. www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 •  New Boston Pride Deputy Director Focuses on Growth By: Elizabeth Gormley/TRT Reporter Boston Pride is expanding. When asked how challenging for us.” It must have been a great holiday the role as Deputy Director has been so far, As the Boston Pride Committee expands gift for Keri Aulita. Back on Decem- she does not hesitate to immediately answer and branches out—after the confetti is swept ber 23, 2009, it was announced the “great.” in June—Keri Aulita will utilize her non-profit ten-year veteran of the Boston Pride “In some ways it’s been an easy transition” experience by propagating corporate partner- Committee beat out dozens of candi- she said. “I’ve been on the Pride Committee ships for Pride, conceiving fresh educational dates from all over the country to be for ten or eleven years now. But in some ways, programming for the GLBT community, gen- we have new things to do, new paths to form, erating gifts and revenue, communicating with News crowned the organization’s new title

of Deputy Director. new procedures to come up with. A new posi- the media, and working with other human “We opened it up,” said Linda De- tion at the organization opens up a new door rights organizations. Marco, President of Boston Pride’s for a lot of stuff to happen beyond June.” “We’re happy,” DeMarco added. “It’s a Board of Directors. “We had a great Aulita loves how busy she is kept in her bur- new era. We’re one of the top five Pride’s in response from the community, the geoning role. Keeping up with the voicemail the U.S. We take it seriously. It was time to West Coast, there were a plethora is a challenge. take the next step. Keri is a steward guiding of candidates. It was a three or four “We have two months to go,” she said with us forward.” month process.” a laugh. “We are at a new “We had help from non-profits,” place. Obviously right now DeMarco continued, describing the we’re focused on planning difficult process of narrowing down Pride Week, but my mind is Boston the contenders for the coveted posi- also in the future, looking at tion. According to DeMarco, the number of being able to piece together candidates kept moving down from “twenty- our mission, our strategic six candidates, then ten, then three.” She ex- plan for the rest of the year, plained that Keri stood out because she had the rest of the years. We want a great track record for fundraising in non- Photo: eric hess bigger community involve- profits. Also, DeMarco added, “she knew Boston Pride Deputy Director, Keri Aulita ment, community feedback on where the Pride Commit- Boston.” New Deputy Director Keri Aulita has had This year, Boston Pride week goes from tee should fit, what our role a heavy hand in fund-raising and working for should be the other eleven June 4-16. The 2010 theme is “Riots to Rights: many of the non-profits represented at Pride, Celebrating 40 Years of Progress,” honoring months of the year. Where such as AIDS Action Committee, Youth Pride, do we fit in as a public orga- the progress made in the modern Gay Rights and Fenway Health. Pride Week is huge, and movement. nization? That’s exciting and online calendar of events @ therainbowtimesnews.com  • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Trannie: The pejorative word to use or not to use? I reclaim it! By: Deja Nicole Greenlaw/ TRT Columnist It was a very fun con- ing to call myself a Trannie yet you call your weren’t offended either. I then asked them rannie.” What does that versation and then friend using two more pejorative words??? what they thought about the word “Trannie.” word mean to you? Most I said “that” word. Whaaaat???? None of them found it offensive but one did “TTranswomen find that All at once my new The scene was almost unreal. She even tried elaborate. He spoke of the possible ways that word offensive. Somewhere along friend’s face turned to get me into the action by calling me a s&$%. it could be taken offensively. They are: 1) the the line that word fell out of favor and sad-eyed and she told I immediately told her that I was very offended Tranny porn connection and, 2) that it’s not the Transwomen would wince whenever me to never, ever de- by that remark and how could she say that! word but rather how it is said to a Transgender More I would use that word in describing grade myself again. She quietly explained that she always calls her person. That’s what makes it offensive. For Transgender people. Hey, I didn’t I was shocked! She Transgirlfriend by those names and her Trans- example, he said say this in a sarcastic tone, know! I was proud to be a Trannie! continued and told g i r l f r i e n d “What are you? A I reasoned that Trannie was short me that that word is loves it! It’s Ta-ranny???” Point & & for Transgender and was kind of a awful and that I “was all in fun He looked at me and said taken, Transman! friendly, cute, affectionate term. Yes, Deja Nicole Greenlaw much better than she said. I Thank you. I knew that Transgender porn was that.” My head was was aghast!. Later at the party advertising itself as Tranny porn but spinning at this point. Until then I thought that E a r l i e r “If you love the word then I was talking to an- that’s spelled with a “y.” I use “ie” everyone thought that Trannie was cute and this month other Transman and instead. I remember telling a Lesbian cool, but then came this big wham! Whaaaat? I was at a take the word back!” ... I was complaining friend that it’s Trannie with an “ie!”. But, I like to be called Trannie! g a t h e r i n g about how I loved She thought it was cute! So did I!!! My Transgirlfriend who was also there told and a Transman asked me if I was offended the word Trannie and how all the Transwomen But now Transwomen shudder me that Trannie was now a bad word and that by “Ticked Off Trannies with Knives,” a new seem to hate it. He looked at me and said “If at that word, even my “ie” version. we could only use it while talking about each film showcasing at the Tribeca Film Festival you love the word then take the word back!” Evidently it means a total putdown of other much like some other races use their own in NYC. It’s a film made by a Gay man and Immediately I thought of the Vagina Mono- oneself. Tres offensive and never to nouns to refer to one another. If it’s used with- it tells the story about how Transwomen are logues and the reclaiming of another pejora- be used again!! in our group then it’s not so offensive. Outside brutally murdered (an unfortunately true state- tive word. It’s about women reclaiming the “c” Opinions I remember the first time my use the group, usage is a big no-no. ment), and no justice is ever served until this word and embracing it! Take the bad word and of Trannie got me in trouble. It was I was growing more confused at this point. one group of “Trannies” fight back. The girls make it yours! That is such a powerful piece! in 2007 and I was at a Connecticut Then, it got worse! My first friend spotted her do kick some mean butt and justice does pre- So my vision was cast. I am reclaiming the Trans Advocacy Coalition (CT’s Tranwoman girlfriend who just arrived and vail but in a Transploitation type of way. Re- pejorative word “Trannie.” I will take away all political force, much like MTPC is they were naturally all excited about seeing member the old “Blacksploitation” movies of of the negative power of that word and joy- for MA) fundraiser event. I got there each other. One of the first things out of my the early 70s? How African Americans were fully reclaim it as a word to be Proud of! Yes, early and was speaking with a genetic new friend’s mouth was “s&$%!” How’re you exploited? Well same deal happens here ex- this Noho Pride you will hear me reclaiming girl who was an ally and we totally doing, you w&%*#!” I was totally in shock by cept substitute Trannies for Blacks. the word “Trannie!” I am a Trannie and I’m hit it off and were talking about and this point!!! Wait a minute! I turned to her and Anyway I said that I was not offended by the Proud! And by the way, that’s Trannie with an Trans Trans agreeing on anything and everything. told her, “You say that it’s terrible and degrad- film and all of the Transmen agreed that they “ie!” Ask a Transwoman: The reality of being trans, will I ever truly be regarded as a woman first? By: Lorelei Erisis*/TRT Columnist real lives and real flesh and blood friends and when I would be, “done with my transition and though, I am proud to Dear Lorelei, family. simply be a woman?” The simple answer is, be Trans! I have been When does a transwoman/man stop wav- So this is a real question asked by a real friend probably never. On one level, I wish it were pos- lucky enough to have ing the flag of transition and simply be a who knows me sometimes better than I know sible for me to just be a woman and get on with an experience that is woman/man? my own self—a friend I have laughed with and the rest of my life. I don’t think that’s an option very unique. I have —Nora C. cried with. A friend I have screamed at in anger though. There are a million little things that I ex- lived as a man and and held close in pain. In short, a friend just like pect will always remind me that I am Trans. as a woman. I have Full disclosure. This question actually comes any good friend of your own my dear faithful In order for me to live as a woman, for in- in-depth first hand from an old and very dear friend of mine and reader. stance, I will have knowledge of both the is only the first part of a multi-part question. This is the to keep taking artifi- oppression that wom- That said, it kind of goes without saying that sort of question I wish it were possible for me to just cial hormones regu- en face in this society the transperson being referred to is myself. I felt that transgen- larly for the rest of and the privilege that it was important to share this particular email der people find be a woman and get on with the rest of my my life. It’s not like men are afforded. I Lorelei Erisis with you, dear readers, not simply because I’m t h e m s e l v e s life. I don’t think that’s an option though. penicillin. This is a have known what it is a multi-tasking tranny. But, because I want you having to an- prescription I will to be a man who is in love with a woman. I am to know that these are not simply abstracts I’m swer all the There are a million little things that I expect never finish. learning what it is like to be a woman who wants talking about here. time. I’ll be Also, while there to meet a wonderful man. Heck, I’ve even had It sometimes feels like I’m lost in a storm of honest; the will always remind me that I am Trans. are some pretty “gay” sex as both!! Woooooo!!! semantics, when I get to talking about these is- t e m p t a t i o n amazing surgeons I’ve said “dumb guy things” and done “dumb sues. What is gender? What do all these words to answer in the abstract intellectual voice is out there who will be more than happy to make girl things”. mean? Why am I so obsessed with pregnant sea- sorely tempting. There are scary aspects of this me the best looking woman I can be, they are Why would I even want to turn my back on horses? All of these are important questions, but month’s column for me. Questions of identity pretty pricey. And we both know that being an all that interesting experience?!!? Especially as the answers can get a little abstract sometimes. that cut right straight to who I think I am and actor/writer isn’t exactly a big cash generating an artist!? I spend so much time writing about binaries who I have become. profession. Also, not one of them (at least that I Finally though, to answer your first question and paradigms and heteronormativity, it’s easy So here goes. Go ahead and peek through the would trust…) can make me shorter. I’m always fully, I already am a woman. I always have been. to forget we’re talking about real people with curtains and see me naked here in black and going to be the same height as old Abe Lincoln I am also trans. And I always will be. white newsprint. Live Nude and that is always going to invite closer scru- And that, dear reader (and dear Nora), is Lorelei! tiny. Closer scrutiny often leads to being “read” where I must stop for now. There’s more to this Nora, as trans. Worrying about being “read” as trans question though and next column I’ll be getting Thanks not only for the ques- means not being able to be “over” being trans. to the truly personally terrifying parts of my an- tion, but for your friendship In addition, there are a million other little and swer! I’ve got to leave some space for TRT to through all of these changes. big ways in which the society we live in is un- sell some ads though so they can help me save More than any automatic ac- likely to ever let me forget that I started out my up for that surgeon! ceptance, your loyalty has meant life with an “M” on my birth certificate. I can See you next month with part 2 of “Live Nude the world to me! We have not change most of my ID gender markers, but the Lorelei”!! always seen eye to eye on my Social Security Administration is still mighty re- Slainte! choices, but you have always luctant to change the marker that’s attached to been there for me when I needed those little numbers they gave us that we have to *Lorelei Erisis is Miss Trans New Eng- it. use for almost all official documents. land 2009 and she can be contacted at: You have asked me before More personally, and more importantly [email protected]. www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 •  Holyoke Community College takes stand against bias based on gender identity/expression By: Lisa A. Eramo/TRT Reporter in HCC’s student handbook under the ‘campus perwork to include gender options other than tions and harassment, she says. Holyoke Community College’s (HCC) mes- conduct policies’ section. male and female and provide students with a “To the extent that we can oppress or negate sage is—and has always been—clear: Dis- In January, The Rainbow Times reported way to specify a preferred name when it differs this type of behavior in any way, we will use crimination based on gender identity/expres- that the college had removed gender identity/ from their birth name. every means that we have available to us to do sion will not be tolerated on its campus. expression from its formal non-discrimination “If somebody’s legal name is John, but they so,” she adds. Now, however, the school has a formal gen- policy based on legal advice stating the school go by Jane, there should be a way to indicate Pangborn says he hopes the policy and state- der identity/expression policy to back up this could not afford these protections to students their preferred name is Jane so that when they ments will attract more transgender students to statement. The policy states the following: unless and until Massachusetts state law does. go into a classroom, they’re not outed on the the college. Every student and employee of the college HCC approved the campus-specific policy first day,” says Pangborn. “If I saw this language, I definitely think shall be responsible individually and collec- because it didn’t want to sit back and wait until Violations of the new policy won’t be taken ‘Wow, this school went out of its way to make tively for promoting and maintaining a safe en- state law had changed, says Idelia Smith, as- lightly, says Smith. If a violation does occur, sure that [gender identity/expression] is in its vironment which is conducive to learning and sistant vice president for diversity at HCC and HCC would implement processes it already language.’ I would personally feel better about which embraces the accords of civility and of member of TransCampus. has in place for responding to conduct viola- going to that type of school,” he adds. human dignity. The college regards discrimi- “It was all part of our intention to be clear nation on the basis of gender identity/expres- with the transgender community that in spite sion to be inconsistent with the establishment of the fact that the law does not yet address of an atmosphere that supports the full engage- this element legally, we are responding to it,” ment of HCC students, faculty, and staff. Gen- she says. der Identity is an individual’s personal sense of In addition to the campus-specific policy, being male, female, or elsewhere on the spec- HCC will update all print and web-based pub- trum of gender (including those who identify lications—including financial aid and admis- as transgender, or are non-traditional in their sions documents, scholarships and awards, gender identity). Gender Expression includes commencement bulletins and public relations external characteristics and behaviors of gen- reports—to reflect the school’s promotion der identity such as dress, mannerisms, speech of non-discrimination on the basis of gender patterns, and social interactions. HCC will take identity/expression. reasonable measures to prevent and discourage Alexander Pangborn, transgender student all acts of intolerance and harassment on the and member of TransCampus, says he hopes basis of gender identity/expression and will act these changes will enhance already-existing ef- positively to investigate alleged harassment or forts to raise awareness of transgender needs. discrimination and to affect a remedy or reso- “The policy is really affirming things that lution when an allegation is determined to be HCC is already doing, but it also gives us the valid. leverage to move forward,” he says. The policy—which was drafted by Trans- TransCampus is currently working on sever- Campus (a subcommittee of the Counsel for al initiatives, including creating gender-neutral Community, Diversity, Equity, and Inclu- bathrooms on campus and designing locker sion)—took effect March 2. It will be printed rooms that afford more privacy. The subcom- mittee also seeks to revise administrative pa-  • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Couch from page 2 Media Urged to Ignore Bill Donohue’s stuff their feelings about sex deep within, it appears to come out in other ... not so healthy ways, actually. For centuries the Church has Latest Outrageous Anti-Gay Attacks known about molestation and clergy shack- ing up with women that has produced chil- GLAAD joined with Call To Action and the accountability and cover-ups.” The full text of Dr. Gaddy’s statement is Interfaith Alliance today in urging media to Rev. Dr. C. Welton Gaddy, President of the available online at http://interfaithalliance. dren, but has done nothing but turn the other ignore desperate attempts by anti-gay activist Interfaith Alliance, also expressed criticism of org/news/361 way and ignore the problem. Bill Donohue to distract attention from the lat- Donohue’s anti-gay attacks, which were fea- GLAAD urged any outlets that are consider- And truly, why not? IT’S BEEN WORK- est revelations in the deepening abuse crisis in tured in an advertisement Donohue placed in ing whether to elevate Donohue’s rhetoric to ING quite well for over a millennia or two. the Catholic Church. The New York Times earlier this week. dig below the surface of his latest attack. The difference today is the way in which Donohue, who has a long history of out- “It’s telling that when media start tak- we communicate: television, the internet, rageous and defamatory attacks on gay ing a closer look at the recent revelations getting information fast from continent people in his capacity as head of the New in the abuse crisis, Donohue instantly tries to continent. Where we can see and now York-based Catholic League, recently re- to change the subject by blaming the media know:”Hey, this isn’t just an isolated inci- newed those attacks following media cov- and casting gay people as sexual preda- dent that’s happening in my backyard.” No, erage of developments in the U.S. and Eu- tors,” said Rashad Robinson, Senior Direc- the Catholic Church has been hiding this rope — coverage that turned a spotlight on tor of Media Programs at GLAAD. “But dirty little secret for way too long, hoping new revelations about the reassignment of Americans are getting sick of this ugly, we’d all find something else to mull over, abusive priests. vicious scapegoating. Donohue is feeding like how much money it takes to pay/pray “As the media attempt to look at the root a hostile climate that gay people continue your way out of Purgatory. causes of the abuse crisis, Bill Donohue’s to face in this country. It’s wrong, it’s un- But there’s hope that the little people attacks against gay people and the media acceptable, and no credible media outlet aren’t going to take it anymore ... or at least only serve to take away focus from the should be providing a platform for these won’t be giving their money so easily and real victims here: the thousands of children kinds of attacks.” trusting blindly. They want accountability who have been abused by Catholic clergy Prior examples of Donohue’s anti-gay and who can blame them? and nuns,” said Jim FitzGerald, Execu- rhetoric can be accessed at http://www. It’s time for the church to air out its clos- tive Director of Call To Action, a Catholic glaad.org/donohuequotations. ets. Something doesn’t smell very good in movement working for equality and justice in “I do not question Mr. Donohue’s desire to there. the Church and society. speak out on issues concerning his church and The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defa- Even as we go to press, the Church is “Even the Pope during his 2008 visit to the the Pope,” Dr. Gaddy said in a statement. “But mation (GLAAD) is dedicated to promoting trying to put the focus on gay marriage United States said that this crisis is not about I find his reasoning repugnant. To claim this and ensuring fair, accurate and inclusive rep- and abortion. Because if there is one thing gays and lesbians,” FitzGerald said. “U.S. is a ‘homosexual crisis’ rather than a ‘pedo- resentation of people and events in the media they’re good at, it’s blaming gays and wom- Catholics are tired of hearing about the false philia crisis’ is a misguided insult to the mil- as a means of eliminating homophobia and en for their sins. Distraction could be the causes of this crisis from people like Bill lions of gay men and women who find this discrimination based on gender identity and next best sacrament. Donohue and, instead, are ready for the Church scandal as devastating as their heterosexual sexual orientation. For more information, The New York Times columnist Maureen to address the real causes of the crisis: lack of counterparts.” please visit www.glaad.org. Dowd said it well when she wrote:”If the church could throw open its stained glass windows and let in some air, invite women to be priests, nuns to be more emancipated blog and priests to marry, if it could banish crimi- nal priests and end the sordid culture of men personals protecting men who attack children, it might survive. It could be an encouraging sign of humility and repentance, a surrender of ar- calendar rogance, both moving and meaningful.” It’s interesting times, these, when the chat Church could be forced to change the way they do business. Perhaps the Pope could resources take a cue from Tiger on how to proceed forward. At least one of them appears to be breaking news man enough to acknowledge his guilt ... and advertise admit he’s not infallible. *Suzan Ambrose is known to have spent time in a convent some years ago and oc- & more ... casionally dabbles in the making of stained therainbowtimesnews.com glass when she’s not writing diligently for The Rainbow Times. www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 •  10 • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • 11 Tops and Bottoms up: Fenway Health teams with HVTN, HIV vaccination study By: Nicole Lashomb/TRT Editor-in-Chief and pitch in,” said Jim Maynard, Community ers go to public sex areas and other places that gay men out of more than 600 who have actually BOSTON, MA—The HIV Vaccine Trials Net- Outreach, Recruitment, and Education Program gay and bisexual men congregate. We speak at been screened and more than 3,500 who have work (HVTN) has chosen to partner with Fen- Manager, Fenway Institute at Fenway Health. churches and to community groups and clubs. come for the for the initial interview, Wakefield way Health, an organization dedicated to HIV “Along with such cities as New York City, We also work with community partners such as said. Prevention research, as one of its clinical sites in Washington DC, Chicago and LA, the nation the Multicultural AIDS Coalition and the Latin Fenway Health needs to recruit 164 13 cities nationwide to assist in their latest HIV and our partners around the world are looking American Health Institute that have been great participants. vaccination study. to us to lead the way. I guess having the World at education their communities around HIV vac- “Right now we need to enroll 164 men who “HVTN 505 is an exploratory study looking Champions Red Sox and New England Patriots cine development and how individuals can be- have sex with men right here in Boston …These at a combination of two investigational vac- was not enough. We need to be world champs in come involved.” men need to be HIV-negative, between the ages cines. The study is designed to en- vaccine development as well.” As a leader in HIV Prevention research and of 18-45 and to be sexually active,” explained roll 1,350 HIV-negative men who HVTN 505 is better known with a full range of new tools being tested such Maynard. “So far, we have enrolled 17 so we have sex with men, between 18-45 around the local gay community as vaginal and rectal microbicides, pre-exposure have a long way to go.” years old,” said Steven Wakefield, as Fenway Health’s Tops and Bot- prophylactics (taking a pill once a day to prevent All studies are confidential, volunteers receive Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research state of the art harm reduction counseling from Center HVTN Associate Director, “I guess having the World Champions Red Sox Fenway Health’s staff, and all men are compen- Community Relations and Educa- sated for their time said Maynard tion. “The study is designed to see and New England Patriots was not enough. “… with that said, the men seem to sign up if this vaccine regimen can lower for the love of their community. They are great the viral load in people who be- We need to be world champs guys!” he said. come HIV infected after receiv- Wakefield stressed the importance of this ing the vaccine or placebo. There in vaccine development as well.” study and the annihilation of the HIV epidemic is no HIV in the vaccines, and you worldwide. cannot get HIV from the vaccine toms study, which explains in bet- infection), Maynard said that an effective vac- “HIV continues to be a significant health products. Everyone who is part of ter detail who specifically the clinic cine will take more studies to develop. However, problem in the United States, and around the the study receives extensive coun- is looking for, said Maynard. it will also be vital in the battle to stop new infec- world. And, for every three people who start seling on how to reduce their risk Photo: fenway health “The gay community has shown tions, just like past life-claiming diseases such as ART (antiretroviral therapy), five become new- of HIV infection, and condoms are Jim Maynard its commitment to HIV vaccine polio, small pox, Hepatitis A and B, he said. ly infected, even now,” he said. “The best way provided to all participants.” research over the years, and that “It’s our turn to ‘Cowboy Up’ as Red Sox fans to end an epidemic, once and for all, is with a Wakefield said that collaboration with Fenway seems to be continuing,” Wakefield said. would say, to help make a safe and effective vaccine.” Health was an obvious clinical choice due to its Outreach for this study has been implement- HIV vaccine a reality,” said Maynard. “In the To enroll in Fenway Health’s Tops and Bot- national reputation as a leader in LGBT health. ed through various outlets such as traditional United States we continue to have over 40,000 tom_ (HVTN 505) study or for more informa- Additionally, he explained, the Clinic has com- media, social networking sites and hands on new infections per year with over half of those tion, please call Coco or Danny at 617- 927-6450. munity-based links to the Boston/Cambridge experiences. among men who have sex with men so although Jim Maynard can be contacted at 617-927-6016 medical complex. “We have a team of hard working recruiters behavioral changes such as using condoms has or at [email protected]. You may “We have a reputation for being not only a that are everywhere,” said Maynard. “We are in helped, these alone are not stopping HIV’s im- also visit www.fenwayhealth.org. very well educated and informed community in LGBT bars and clubs doing outreach. We talk pact on our community.” “We need prevention for HIV, we need care this college-rich town, but also a caring commu- to student groups at local colleges like Boston Of the 1,350 participants needed nationally, for HIV, we need treatment for HIV, but we also nity that has been willing to roll up its sleeves University and UMASS Boston. Our recruit- HVTN has enrolled approximately 200 HIV- need a vaccine for HIV,” said Wakefield. 12 • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Melissa Etheridge: like never before ... Fierce and Fearless Inside the rock legend’s life now – her personal awakening and how it’s changed everything By: Chris Azzopardi standing and going through cancer and saying, out of things to think about. And it just stopped. If Melissa Etheridge’s music has “Whoa! Life is a lot different. Life is not what it When that happens there’s this beautiful spirit seemed mellow lately, she’s about to seems.” That album was important to put out so that’s behind that that really is in charge of show you. Back to her rock-out roots, people – myself and my fans – would know what what’s happening, the tough-and-gruff musician/mother/ path I was on, and then after it seemed so clear CA: Also on “Gently We Row,” I noticed the activist makes a roaring return with the that it was time to gather up all that strength. I parallels between your mother raising you and uplifting Fearless Love, her follow-up was knocked down and it was time to pull the you raising your daughter. I thought that was so to 2007’s sociopolitical-powered The parts of me together that I knew were there in powerful. this confidence and in this clarity that I have now ME: That’s another part of getting older. You

News Awakening. We spoke with Etheridge, who not and shoot it through that rock ‘n’ roll gift that realize your parents did shape a lot of what you only discussed surviving cancer dur- I’ve been given. think and do and feel, yet it’s time to stop blam- ing the last decade and the life lessons CA: “Life is not what it seems” – that’s a line ing them. You can stay there and you can wal- she learned in the process, but also from the closing track, “Gently We Row.” How low around in that or you can say, “OK, this hap- how she’s embracing change – a new has that been true in your own life? pened to me and now I make different choices.” sound, touring band and the return of ME: I wanted to reference the children’s song And that’s what the song’s about. I’m making those hot, long locks. “Row, Row, Row Your Boat,” because that different choices for myself and for my children. song has all the truth in it that we need. I love When you do that, you also heal yourself. Chris Azzopardi: CA: Parenthood actually pops How does it feel to up several times on this album. have the long hair “Music reaches past people’s minds and it How has it changed you? back? ME: Oh, it’s unbelievable. I Melissa Etheridge: I goes straight into their spirit, their soul, their just had no idea of what being a watered it every day, mother would do. And it’s all- and it grew! It was a body. You can take advantage of that in a way. encompassing, it’s every breath big part of me. I real- I take, it’s every moment I live. ly wasn’t aware how I am a mother to four children, big a part. Music and activism is natural. and I don’t go to sleep at night CA: I’m not used to until I know where all four are seeing you as glammed-up as you’ve and how they are. It makes me that we’re taught it as a child. “… Life is but a a better person, it makes me more loving, com-

Entertainment been in some recent photos. What’s up with all the make-up? dream” – that’s all it is. We create it every day. passionate, patient – patience is ... definitely re- That’s what came to me. That’s where I got to quired (laughs), or you’ll just get eaten up alive. Photo: James Minchin III ME:You know, it’s something I think I’ve grown Melissa Etheridge into. At 48, I need all the help I can get (laughs). going through cancer and coming out. They teach me every day about myself. They are Life doesn’t happen to us. We are creating this, these beautiful little mirrors, and I want to be the CA: After all you’ve been through this past de- sing on it.” So he worked with her. That’s what cade, what place are you in now? and we have more power than it seems. This can best person I can be for them. happen to you, but your perception of what it CA: What was it like reteaming with pro- he can do, because he’s John Shanks. ME: That was an intense decade! But every- CA: Have you met Natasha? thing that happened makes me stronger, makes is creates what it is. You have a choice in how ducer John Shanks, who worked on 1999’s your life affects you. That’s mostly what I want Breakdown? ME: No, I haven’t! We’ve become very inti- me understand that this is what life is. You are mate on tape, though. presented with these issues, but you learn and to convey through my music. ME: He was my guitar player in my first band. CA: Did it take you a long time to realize that? We hung out in the ’80s, and we’ve played every CA: When did you know you had “Fearless you grow and you move on. Life is rich and full, Love”? and nothing’s going to kill you. You just keep ME: I got the crash course in it with chemother- hellhole bar. And we’ve also played Madison apy because I laid there day after day, week after Square Garden. We’ve been through so much, ME: The way that I’m looking at it is that it’s moving forward – and it gets sweeter. about my own fearless love. I need to love fear- CA: So this is an extension of The Awakening? week, and had nothing. No television. No books. and he knows what I’m capable of. He knows I couldn’t even read; it hurt to read. just how to get the best out of it and how to push lessly, and that starts with myself. That’s been ME: This is the next step. I had to do The Awak- the journey in the last five years. ening to present and be upfront about the things It was just day after day with myself, until my me to give my best. He’s like my brother that mind – our minds are so busy setting things up makes me crazy (laughs). It was really wonder- CA: You’re touring this summer, but without that were happening inside of me, the spiritual your hot, longtime electric guitarist Philip Sayce side of me. The awakening part of me is under- in the future and worrying about the past – ran ful working with him. CA: How did the collaboration with Natasha – why? Bedingfield and Joss Stone on “We Are the ME: Because Philip’s got his own little career go- Ones” come about? ing on, so I just cleared the board. I went, “This is ME: That’s my favorite track on the album just a new page for me. It’s a new album, it’s a new because it’s different and crazy and I love it. sound, and it’s a new feel. I’m just breaking out.” John called me up and said, “Hey, guess who It’s hard because I get very attached to my band, was across the hall recording – Joss Stone!” She but they weren’t available to make the album, just sang on it. Then, like a week later, he said, so that was the first step of going, “Ya know, I “Hey, Natasha Bedingfield’s coming in and I’m think this is leading me down another path and going to play her this song. I think she’s going to See Fearless on page 22 www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • 13 14 • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Deep Inside Hollywood: The L Word’s Jennifer Beals as a police woman? By: Romeo San Vincente* star could be re-cast, Everwood and Brothers & Sisters under his Ron Weasley explodes in Cherry Bomb or they might decide belt, wants to introduce you to a new pack Turn kids into movie stars and soon to set it in outer space of brothers and sisters in No Ordinary Fam- enough they’ll want to start acting in with a choir of sing- ily. Starring Michael Chiklis, Romany Malco movies about hookers and drugs to ing teenagers. But as (­Weeds) and Julie Benz (Dexter), the action show you how grown up they are. of right now you’re series centers on a family who discovers that Daniel Radcliffe went the art-theater one step closer to they all have superpowers, sort of like X-Men route by getting naked on stage in seeing the lady pack- crossed with The Brady Bunch. It’s due in the ing heat and using it fall. Meanwhile, Berlanti is currently direct-

News Equus, but his Harry Potter pal Ru- pert Grint has gone full-tilt depraved on wrongdoers. ing the feature Life As We Know It, about two in Cherry Bomb, a film about a wild single adults who become overnight parents to teen weekend that goes all wrong. Ann Coulter, The the children of mutual friends who die in an According to early reports, Mr. Grint Romeo San Vicente Sitcom accident. That one stars Katherine Heigl, Josh snorts coke, has sex with night-ladies Wright vs. Wrong, Duhamel, Josh Lucas and Mad Men’s Chris- and is somehow involved in a bisex- at first glance, sounds like a show made up to tina Hendricks and, in spite of its heavy prem- ual love triangle before the closing justify its cutely clever title. A conservative ise, is actually a comedy and is scheduled to credits roll. Sounds like Romeo’s idea right-wing TV commentator doing regular surface sometime later this year, which is far of a fun weekend. Shot back in 2008, comedy battle with a liberal counterpart and a enough into the future to help us forget about the movie has no official release date snarky manager, a workplace sitcom designed those other Katherine Heigl-starring comedies yet but it’s about to hit film festivals, to appeal to both red and blue states, but one we’ve seen. which means multiplex audiences that will probably swing to the left (it’s Holly- will get their eyes on it later in 2010 wood, after all). And who knows, that may be *Romeo San Vicente thinks children are or sometime in 2011. what we wind up with, but at least it has a cool great, as long as they belong to someone else cast to flesh out the material. Debra Messing and are already good at fixing martinis. He Jennifer Beals: Chief of Police stars as the female Glenn Beck while Cheryl can be reached care of this publication or at Photo: QSyndicate On The L Word, Jennifer Beals as Hines (Curb Your Enthusiasm) will pick up [email protected]. Daniel Radcliffe Bette Porter was quite often the one duties on the left. And best of all, Carrie Fisher character in the mix who seemed to will star as the sarcasm-dispensing boss. And keep her head screwed on properly how weird will it be if the Will & Grace star’s new character has an anti-gay bent? Will she Entertainment when everyone else was coming un- blog • personals • calendar glued. So it makes perfect sense that choke on the dialogue or deliver it like a pro, Fox would want to cast the unflappable one as Archie Bunker-style? Chicago’s first female police chief in its new Romeo really wants this one to make it on chat • breaking news series Ride-Along. Don’t get too excited yet, the air. lesbians. This might signal major progress since the days of Police Woman, but it’s still a Superheroes in the Family resources • advertise • & more ... pilot and comes fully equipped with the usual Greg Berlanti, the talented gay writer/pro- warnings – it might not make the schedule, its ducer with credits like Dawson’s Creek, find it all@ therainbowtimesnews.com www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • 15 MassEquality Director Gorticov stepping down By: Elizabeth Gormley/TRT Reporter marriage amendment. I was at the State House for the cause is key. Scott Gorticov, Executive Director of that day, in a common area that was packed “We still have a lot of work to do to achieve MassEquality, is leaving his post this July; it with our supporters and a smaller contingent full LGBT equality—in Massachusetts and was announced in a press release at the end of our opponents,” Gorticov explained. “When beyond—so I hope the next executive di- of March. Gorticov spend six years as part the final vote was tallied, the roar of joy that rector will be able to widen the circle of our of the GLBT rights organization. From 2004 rang out from our supporters was just deafen- supporters” he emphasized. “I think there are to 2009, he was Development Director. In ing. It’s a moment I’ll remember for the rest of vast numbers of individuals, organizations April of 2009, he assumed the Executive Di- my life; I still get goose bumps just thinking and leaders who support LGBT civil rights. rector position. MassEquality is a grassroots about it. It was so satisfying to finally achieve They just need to be asked and enlisted in the group that works to protect the rights we have our historic goal after working toward it for cause.” earned, while continuing the fight for others, nearly four years.” According to MassEquality’s website, its such as helping other New England states win With regard to this monumental experience Board of Directors has initiated a nationwide marriage equality. and passion for human rights, and what comes search for the right candidate for such a rel- In his time spent at MassEquality, Gorti- next, Gorticov explained that the private sec- evant position. The board has contracted with cov helped raise over 15 million dollars for tor may be his next choice of work, or perhaps McCormack & Associates, a search firm that the trailblazing marriage campaign. He has even going back to pursue another educational specializes in diversity recruiting. worked to protect the elections of political degree. candidates who support equality, and given “Before I became so actively involved in the MassEquality works to achieve full equality guidance to GLBT organizations in other LGBT rights movement, I worked in the pri- for the LGBT Community. We’re protecting states attempting to attain marriage rights. His vate sector as a management consultant” Gor- marriage equality and promoting a full Equal- leadership skills and track record are nothing ticov explained. “I may return to that type of ity Agenda in Massachusetts and supporting short of profound. work. Helping organizations with their organi- other states in winning marriage equality. Gorticov spoke to The Rainbow Times on his Photo: massequality.org zational development, planning, decision to move on. Why now? Scott Gorticov board development, facilitation, “Aside from the desire to create a better and fundraising on a project ba- work-life balance for myself, I decided that cause they value the program work and goals sis is appealing to me right now. now is the best time for me to step down be- that we have set up, including our current Part of me also has a big yen to cause MassEquality is on very solid footing. efforts to pass anti-bullying legislation and take some time to study—so go- First, we are fully staffed: we have a political transgender non-discrimination protections ing back to graduate school is a director, a development director, a full field here in Massachusetts, and to help enact mar- real possibility too.” staff and communications support. Secondly, riage equality in Rhode Island.” MassEquality is in a nation- our board of directors is very engaged in, and Gorticov has laid witness to and been a part wide search to find Gorticov’s supportive of, our work. They are involved in of some historic feats. According to the Direc- successor. Gorticov knows the MassEquality’s organizational development, tor, the anti-gay marriage amendment will be organization will seek out a fundraising, programming and strategic plan- something that will stand out the most to him motivated individual, someone ning. Finally, I feel as though the organization personally. who understands and executes is on very solid financially: individual donors “Without a doubt it was June 14, 2007, the at the highest level. He focuses and grant makers continue to support us be- day the Legislature defeated the final anti-gay on the fact that finding support 16 • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com The Tucker James Project: Documenting a Young Trans Experience By: Elizabeth Gormley/TRT Reporter Like most transgender people, Tucker real- will get to compete for a wish they had this type of When it came time for college student Ve- ized he was different at an early age. He had few more weeks before support when they transi- ronica Vozzolo to choose a senior project, always considered himself a boy. When it physical changes really tioned, or that they wish she decided to make a film about a freshman. came time to go to school, he “was forced to fit start taking place, instead of they had documented it. Really. the gender role that was expected of him. being banned upon getting Others say how brave TJ is “When I heard Tucker James was transition- “I guess I didn’t know that I could actually their first shot, as I was. For and how great this project ing I thought it would be a great opportunity do something about the fact that I knew I was me, this would have meant really is. Once I hear things to have some fun documenting the transforma- male on the inside until I was 14,” he said. I would have been able to like that I know I did some- tion. At first I started filming short clips and “It was at that point in my life that one of my finish out the season with thing right.” then people kept asking questions,” Vozzolo friends asked me if I identified as transgender. my soccer team. There Tucker himself calls said. “I officially decided to turn the project Until that point I had never heard of gender were only a few weeks left his family “supportive,” into a website when Tucker explained how variance. This opened up a lot of new doors when I started my hormone though they still have dif- much this all really for me.” therapy and I had to sit the ficulty at times calling him meant to him.” At the age of sixteen, remaining games out.” by his chosen male name Tucker James is an “Like most transgender Tucker decided he would Tucker is continuing a and using male pronouns. eighteen-year-old Mas- transition. He waited until rigorous training program Overall, Tucker gathers sachusetts student-ath- people, Tucker realized the legal age of eighteen, an as though he is an in-sea- strength from his family, lete who is undergoing he was different at adult, to start the hormone son athlete. Weight lifting, moving forward. a female-to-male gender therapy, as he wanted “the cardio/plyometrics, run- “My family supports transformation. The an early age. He had choice to be mine and mine ning, and core workouts are me and loves me and I Tucker James Project is alone.” Excessive hair adding the bulk he wants to am very lucky to have the name of Vozzolo’s always considered growth, a cracking voice, masculinize his frame. them,” he said. “There are website that is follow- and explosive energy are “It’s a lot of work and so many trans people who ing Tucker’s physical himself a boy.” just some of the things hap- most days I come out of the are abandoned by the ones and emotional progress. pening to him—at a rapid gym completely exhausted, they love when they come Video, poetry, pictures, a comment board, pace. but it’s worth it to see the out to them. My mother is and Tucker’s own “T-Log,” the site combines “Things are changing literally every day,” changes,” he said. Photo: Alicia Grenier especially great. She’s the the educational and the aesthetic with his un- he said. “I haven’t experienced anything The changes keep TJ works out regularly to one who got me my first bridled energy. He has school, friends, girls, negative. I’m enjoying everything about my coming. Vozzolo keeps masculinize his physique to doctor’s appointment at transition.” filming. the Fenway Health Center, and sports, and family on his plate 24/7, and he is match his psyche. going through some enormous physical chang- One well-documented struggle in The Tucker “The first time I filmed even came with me to it. They es. This experience should sound familiar to James Project is Tucker’s inability to continue Tucker he told me everything weren’t exactly shocked. My just about every American teen. as a collegiate athlete. Because testosterone is and I had no idea what his life was like. I want dad told me ‘you’ve always been different.’ “As far as my mind, it’s puberty,” he ex- a banned substance in the NCAA, he is ineligi- people to understand and support him because My older brother has been the best.” plained. “I have mood swings like any puberty ble to continue as a member of the soccer and that is what he needs,” she said. “Sometimes stricken boy would and I deal with them as they lacrosse teams, though he is fighting this rule. I get comments or emails from people who For more information, or to follow Tucker’s come. Other than that, I’m exactly who I was “I’m cautiously optimistic,” he said. “Best I don’t know, or TJ doesn’t know, and they journey online visit: www.thetuckerjamespro- when the process started, just much happier.” case scenario, female-to-male trans-athletes tell us they transitioned. Some tell us they ject.com.

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Gay Best Sellers 1. Mr. Right 2. BOYCRAZY 3. The Butch Factor 4. The Big Gay Musical 3. Hollywood je taime 6. Breakfast with Scot 7. Half-Life 8. Fish Out of Water 9. Homewrecker 10. Another Gay Sequel: Gays Gone Wild www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • 17 18 • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com C’mon Out from page 2 person must also be considered. If everyone has their first child, for example, often the knows they can get some of what they want, Ricky Martin fuera del “closet”: flexibility is possible and the true meaning of non-biological parent feels an outsider, that he or she is not as connected to either their new compromise can be achieved. born or spouse as the biological mother is to Your new love is deeply attached to her dog. Lo que implica para el resto her infant. Another example may be when Your presence is now creating a major change couples experience the wishes and demands to their relationship. Most of us wouldn’t of parents who have varying abilities to accept expect a person to significantly change their de la comunidad GLBT their children as they create their own primary relationship with their child when new love Por: Wilfred Labiosa* ahora por sus hijos, porque quiere decir su his- families. Children from other relationships begins. Instead, the parent would slowly u c h o / a s toria sin mentiras y sin ocultar detalles. must be thoughtfully and sometimes gingerly integrate the new person into that child’s dicen que Como el presidente de GLAAD, Jarrett Bar- integrated into a newly forming relationship. life. There may be negotiated changes, but la de- rios, menciono en su comunicado de prensa, There are many examples of this and can these changes must come over time. As you M develop your own connection with your lover’s claración de Ricky “Cuando alguien como Ricky Martin sale del even include a pet as in this question. Lots Martin, unas sema- “closet”, cientos de millones de personas ahora of people consider their pets their family, so dog, the dog may be willing to step aside for nas atrás, de que es tienen una conexión con cultural con un artis- this question is quite relevant to these other you too. And perhaps, you might find a way atina ta, una celebridad, y quizás lo más importante, to bring this dog into your heart. They do have ess gay no tiene im- situations. H much to give. Relationships truly offer lessons c portancia. Yo digo, un padre que es “gay”. Su decisión de ser un It is very important to know and then to ri E ejemplo de apertura y de honestidad puede in love and negotiation. L ¡de lo contrario! remember, that it is healthy for all of us to love conducir a una mayor aceptación de innumer- You are asking your partner to make some

hoto: hoto: ¿Por qué debemos and value not only partners but others as well. p darle importancia? ables personas “gays” en los Estados Unidos, We can be in love with that one special person significant changes to her relationship with Wilfred Labiosa ¿Por qué debe- en América Latina y a través del mundo”. and we can deeply love our friends, family and her dog. Understand her attachment. Talk with mos de aplaudir Vamos a aplaudir y a apoyar a los/as ami- pets. It is very important that we not pit one your lover and be patient. Only if she refuses y respetar su decisión y la de otras gos/as, familiares, y miembros de nuestra co- against the other or think that because our or is unwilling to work with you, worry. personalidades al tomar este paso munidad cuando den este paso. Todo/as damos partner chooses to engage in some loving act Otherwise, good luck. Ultimately you are not públicamente? este paso, pero en períodos diferentes, de dife- with another that it means they don’t love us. dealing with anything that any other relation- isión Quizás tú ya tomaste este paso, rentes maneras y por diferentes razones. Lo Creating a stance of inclusion and acceptance ships must negotiate. It may not be about a pero ¿recuerdas cuanto te tomó? Re- importante es aceptarse a uno mismo ya que of others is a very good base. dog, but all relationships must negotiate differ- V cuerden que mucho/as no han tomado quizás nuestros seres queridos nunca lo acep- It is also healthy to have wishes and needs. ences and the boundaries of those differences. y quizás nunca tomen este paso ya que temen ten como uno quisiera. Recuerden que si usted You may not want the dog on the bed while Best to you, Tetty el rechazo de sus vecinos, familiares, pa- no se ama a sí mismo/a, ¿cómo puede esperar you have sex or have the dog lie between you. dres, compañero/as de trabajo y/o amistades. que otro/as le amen? La aceptación personal es These wishes are neither right nor wrong. And C’mon Out! - Submit your questions to Mucho/as personas GLBT, al tomar o no tomar lo más importante y si más personas en foros probably hers aren’t either. They are each, Tetty Gorfine, Director of LifeCourse Coun- este paso, se deprimen tanto y se desesperan de públicos facilitan este paso, esto puede traer uniquely yours. If you both view each of your seling Center. Simply go to www.lifecourse. tal manera que la única solución para ello/as más naturalidad al tópico y quizás pueda evitar wishes as equally valid, then you have a place net and click on “Ask Us A Question.” All es el suicidio. Otro/as se sienten tan aislado/as la alta incidencia de aislamientos, depresión, to begin discussion. questions will be answered on the bulletin y desesperado/as que sufren de problemas psi- y suicidios que las personas de la comunidad In families (I am loosely using this term) board. One or two will be printed next month cológicos a un nivel más alto que las personas GLBT sufren. everyone should get some of what they want. here in The Rainbow Times. heterosexuales, ya que la sociedad asume que No te conozco personalmente Ricky Martin, No one should get everything they want while todo/as somos heterosexuales. Sabemos, sin pero te aplaudo y respeto tu decisión. ¡Gracias others get little or none of what they want. If Tetty has also been a psychotherapist embargo, que ser GLBT es mucho más difícil. por ser otro Boricua Gay! Gracias por dar este all people (pets too perhaps) get some of since 1980. She has worked extensively with Hay otras personas GLBT que toman decisio- paso y sé que has ayudado a alguien en acep- what they want some of the time, then usually LGBTQ individuals, couples and groups and nes que los/as ponen en riesgo de homicidio, tarse a sí mismo/a. ¡Gracias! ¡Aplausos y abra- an inherent fairness allows everyone to live has supervised both clinicians and therapists de enfermarse y/o comienzan a usar drogas. zos para ti y los tuyos! comfortably. in training. Her vision and leadership spirited Cada vez que las celebridades como Ricky Louise, if you and your new girlfriend can nearly all of LifeCourse Counseling Center’s Martin, Wilson Cruz, Pedro Almodóvar, Ellen *Escrito en ambos idiomas por Wilfred W. begin to talk about how each of you feel and programs. Tetty has also been on numerous Degeneres, Jade Esteban Estrada, y tanto/as Labiosa; editado por Gricel Martínez Ocasio. can view each of your feelings and wishes as radio talk shows and television programs. otro/as salen del “closet,” ellos educan al pú- equally valid, then you can begin to pick out She has presented at professional confer- blico en general sobre la diversidad que ex- To read the English version of this story, what is most important. When others are ences on topics pertinent to gay, lesbian, iste en nuestra comunidad GLBT y traen un please visit: www.therainbowtimesmass.com/ involved, be it a pet, child or anyone else, that bisexual and transgender individuals. sentido de normalidad al tema. Hay tanto/as latinvision_april15. personas GLBT fuera del closet en tantas pro- fesiones públicas como en la política, televisión, radio, campos de medic- ina, profesiones legales, gobierno, y en tantos otros campos profesion- ales que cada día es más normal hablar sobre el tema. Hay tantas perso- nas en los medios de co- municación y otros ám- bitos sociales que nunca salen del “closet” por “x” o “y” razón. Como Ricky Martin dijo en su portal cibernético, que él se llevo por muchas per- sonas que temían de las represalias que tendría al salir del “closet” y que sólo esta haciéndolo

look for us may 1st at the noho pride celebration www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • 19 Study calls on lawmakers to change Social Security and Medicaid to address growing senior population Chicago, IL—A national report being recent- LGBT seniors dis- “If you were com- Side nursing home, the attorney had to decide ly released in Chicago details the myriad social cussed — and met. ing of age when it whether he should set up photos of the man’s and financial stumbling blocks that lesbian, gay, “Whether it’s in was illegal or im- partner in the room. bisexual and transgender senior citizens face and an institution where moral to be gay or “I made the decision not to because I wasn’t calls on lawmakers to change Social Security someone’s receiv- lesbian, you could going to be with him all the time and I didn’t and Medicaid to help this growing population. ing care or whether be considered men- know if he was going to be treated differently Giving heft to the report — prepared by Ser- it’s some of the fun- tally ill,” Worthing- because his partner was same-sex,” Koenig said. vices & Advocacy for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual damental building ton said. “And now “I had to make a decision that would protect and Transgender Elders, or SAGE — is the blocks of retirement you picture seniors him, but it was a very hard one to make. That’s endorsement it has received from major main- security like Social walking into senior the sort of decision LGBT seniors are making all stream aging groups including AARP and the Security, we want to centers still holding the time for themselves when they go into nurs- American Society on Aging. have that discussion that fear of rejection. ing homes.” “This is the first time that the heavyweights about how you make Many LGBT seniors The report, “Improving the Lives of LGBT of the aging network are really embracing a sure people have ac- are just not accessing Older Adults,” is scheduled to be released comprehensive look at the needs of LGBT older cess to those kinds social services, and Wednesday at the annual Conference of the adults,” said Michael Adams, executive director of benefits,” Nelson so they become in- National Council on Aging and the American for SAGE. “We know there are anywhere from said. “We don’t want LGBT seniors face special challenges creasingly isolated.” Society on Aging. 2 to 3 million LGBT seniors in this country. to see discrimination For same-sex A national report being released Wednesday We’re talking about a very significant portion of in care facilities. This report should help people couples, Worthington said, if one person needs in Chicago details the myriad social and finan- the older population in this country.” start thinking about all the dimensions that need to spend down his or her assets to qualify for cial stumbling blocks that lesbian, gay, bisexual The report highlights three key areas where to be addressed in the LGBT community.” Medicaid to pay for long-term care, the healthy and transgender senior citizens face and calls on LGBT seniors face challenges: financial secu- Serena Worthington, director of the SAGE partner can often be left without money or even lawmakers to change Social Security and Med- rity, health care and social supports. It calls on program in Chicago, estimates that the city is a place to live. For straight couples, there are icaid to help this growing population. federal and state lawmakers to consider ways home to more than 40,000 LGBT people older Medicaid exemptions that keep a healthy partner Giving heft to the report — prepared by Ser- to legally recognize same-sex relationships so than 55. Conservative estimates point to a na- from living in poverty. vices & Advocacy for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual aging partners in a committed relationship can tional LGBT senior citizen population of 3 mil- Ray Koenig, a Chicago attorney who often and Transgender Elders, or SAGE — is the access the same supports that benefit hetero- lion, expected to grow to at least 4 million within helps LGBT clients with estate planning, said endorsement it has received from major main- sexual seniors. That would include the right to the next decade. the report is a strong acknowledgment of the stream aging groups including AARP and the Social Security survivor benefits and the rights Worthington said she routinely sees seniors kinds of dilemmas older people in the LGBT American Society on Aging. of same-sex partners to make medical decisions at SAGE’s twice-weekly luncheons who feel community face. “This is the first time that the heavyweights for each other. socially isolated. Some have never come out of Koenig is the court-appointed guardian of an of the aging network are really embracing a Tom Nelson, chief operating officer of AARP, the closet. Others were out of the closet but then elderly man who was in a same-sex relation- comprehensive look at the needs of LGBT older wrote the report’s foreword and said Tuesday moved into a nursing home and felt they had to ship for years. The man’s partner died, and adults,” said Michael Adams, executive director that his organization wants to see the needs of keep their sexual identity hidden. when Koenig had to place the man in a North See Seniors on page 21 20 • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com National Report highlights critical neglect of LGBTQ victims of crime BOSTON, MA—Report released by The Na- staff, LGBTQ-specific victim services polices vide adequate services to GLBT victims, lack GMDVP commends the national report find- tional Center for Victims of Crime and the Na- and practices, and collaboration with LGBTQ GLBT cultural competence, have poor GLBT- ings and further reiterate the need for GLBTQ- tional Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs: providers. specific victim services polices and practices specific services; the need for GLBT access Why It Matters: Rethinking Victim Assistance The aforementioned report validates and and collaboration with GLBT providers. Too to mainstream programs and services; and the for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, reflects what GMDVP and often, GLBT victims are the ones who suffer need for more funding. Transgender, and Queer other local GLBTQ-inclu- as a result. Additionally, the Shelter/Housing “We have a long road ahead to create a safe (LGBTQ) Victims of Hate sive domestic agencies have report shows an over- place for GLBT victims Violence and Intimate Part- been doing to manage the in- whelming number of and survivors of intimate ner Violence (www.ncvc. sensitive reactions to domes- GLBT victims (57%) The Shelter/Housing report partner abuse. We must org) states: LGBTQ victims tic violence in the GLBTQ become homeless due to shows an overwhelming work together – law en- of crime do not have con- community. The (Shelter/ the abuse, with a large forcement, other domes- sistent access to culturally Housing Needs for GLBT number (18%) reporting number of GLBT victims (57%) tic violence agencies, competent services that can gay men’s domestic violence project Victims of Domestic Vio- that they lost everything. become homeless due to the friends and allies – to prevent or help victims re- lence) report, which was gen- This report recommends abuse, with a large number see that regardless of cover from violence. The report highlights the erated as a result of a public hearing testimony statewide improvements your sexual orientation failings of victim assistance programs in pro- in the State House in 2005 and co-authored and expansion of GLBT- (18%) reporting that they or gender identity, do- viding much needed outreach to LGBTQ vic- by GMDVP, presented that most mainstream specific and mainstream lost everything. This report mestic violence is about tims, LGBTQ cultural competence training for domestic violence organizations fail to pro- shelter options; addi- recommends statewide improvements power and control and it tional safe homes; the is not gender-specific,” creation of emergency and expansion of GLBT-specific concludes Curt Rogers. shelters and transitional and mainstream shelter options; living programs, which additional safe homes; the creation of GMDVP provides currently do not exist; emergency shelters and transitional crisis intervention for and GLBT training to victims and survivors of mainstream domestic vi- living programs, which currently intimate partner abuse. olence, sexual assault and do not exist; and GLBT training to The organization fo- homelessness programs. mainstream domestic violence, sexual cuses on gay, bisexual Why It Matters also assault and homelessness programs. and transgender inti- mirror the results of mate partner abuse, but GMDVP’s comprehen- works with anyone who sive research among the GLBT population is without services, regardless of sexual ori- in Massachusetts from 1996 to 2008. This entation or gender identity. GMDVP’s offer- research showed that 1 in 4 GBT individuals ings include education, advocacy, and direct have identified as being a victim of domestic services including a 24-hour hotline, an emer- violence, and of them, only 2% named the po- gency safe-home and legal advocacy. GMDVP lice or District Attorney as a resource. “This is provides services throughout Massachusetts, an alarming statistic because it hasn’t changed Rhode Island and Connecticut. 24 hour hot- in over 10 years,” states Curt Rogers. line: 800.832.1901. www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • 21 Seniors from page 19 then moved into a nursing home and felt they for SAGE. “We know there are anywhere from had to keep their sexual identity hidden. 2 to 3 million LGBT seniors in this country. “If you were coming of age when it was ille- We’re talking about a very significant portion gal or immoral to be gay or lesbian, you could of the older population in this country.” be considered mentally ill,” Worthington said. The report highlights three key areas where “And now you picture seniors walking into se- LGBT seniors face challenges: financial secu- nior centers still holding that fear of rejection. rity, health care and social supports. It calls on Many LGBT seniors are just not accessing so- federal and state lawmakers to consider ways cial services, and so they become increasingly to legally recognize same-sex relationships isolated.” so aging partners in a For same-sex couples, Worthington said, committed relationship if one person needs can access the same to spend down his or supports that benefit “If you were coming of her assets to qualify heterosexual seniors. age when it was illegal for Medicaid to pay That would include the for long-term care, the right to Social Security or immoral to be gay or healthy partner can survivor benefits and often be left without the rights of same-sex lesbian, you could be money or even a place partners to make medi- considered mentally ill,” to live. For straight cal decisions for each couples, there are Med- other. Worthington said. “And icaid exemptions that Tom Nelson, chief keep a healthy partner operating officer of now you picture seniors from living in poverty. AARP, wrote the walking into senior centers Ray Koenig, a Chi- report’s foreword and cago attorney who said Tuesday that his still holding that fear of often helps LGBT cli- organization wants to ents with estate plan- see the needs of LGBT rejection. Many LGBT seniors ning, said the report is seniors discussed — are just not accessing social a strong acknowledg- and met. ment of the kinds of “Whether it’s in an services, and so they become dilemmas older people institution where some- increasingly isolated.” in the LGBT commu- one’s receiving care nity face. or whether it’s some Koenig is the court- of the fundamental building blocks of retire- appointed guardian of an elderly man who was ment security like Social Security, we want to in a same-sex relationship for years. The man’s have that discussion about how you make sure partner died, and when Koenig had to place the people have access to those kinds of benefits,” man in a North Side nursing home, the attorney Nelson said. “We don’t want to see discrimi- had to decide whether he should set up photos nation in care facilities. This report should of the man’s partner in the room. help people start thinking about all the dimen- “I made the decision not to because I wasn’t sions that need to be addressed in the LGBT going to be with him all the time and I didn’t community.” know if he was going to be treated differently Serena Worthington, director of the SAGE because his partner was same-sex,” Koenig program in Chicago, estimates that the city is said. “I had to make a decision that would pro- home to more than 40,000 LGBT people old- tect him, but it was a very hard one to make. er than 55. Conservative estimates point to a That’s the sort of decision LGBT seniors are national LGBT senior citizen population of 3 making all the time for themselves when they million, expected to grow to at least 4 million go into nursing homes.” within the next decade. Worthington said she routinely sees seniors The report, “Improving the Lives of LGBT at SAGE’s twice-weekly luncheons who feel Older Adults,” can be read and downloaded socially isolated. Some have never come out from http://sageusa.org/resources/resource_ of the closet. Others were out of the closet but view.cfm?resource=183

Letters from page 2 Dear Editor, Dear Editor, Wish Out for Reel was in Worcester too. Are these films only shown in Northampton? The LGBT Foster Care story by Tynan —Carrie A., Worcester MA Power was very interesting. I did not know that there was a meeting nor the need for foster Dear Editor, parents and that adoption was a step that was Ricky Martin coming out of the closet was available to some foster parents. I think our not timely at all. Now he wants to be sincere community should open their homes to these because of his kids. What about his sincerity LGBT children and teens. It is the least that before? What about the lives he could have we can do. saved as an advocate of LGBTQ people, es- —Martha H., Northampton, MA pecially Latinos. I find shame in his actions; to wait so late to divulge something we all knew Dear Editor, and needed to hear for a long time. I mean, The Dyke March? Is that not a little offen- he’s not a kid. The man is a powerful celebrity sive? Maybe I don’t get why women like to who is 38 years old. What a pity! call themselves “dykes!” Would someone of- —Jose M., Jamaica Plain fer an explanation? —Jeremy T., Providence, RI Dear Editor, I’ll give Ms. Deja Nicole Greenlaw the Dear Editor, award for courage! What I like about her is Betsy Dennigan’s story was amazing! She is that she speaks from conviction and is not di- definitely an asset and a wonderful woman to visive, like other members of her community have for RI. She supports DOMA’s repeal and are. We, the gays and lesbians, are not here she is a superb human being. I have followed against the Trans folks. We’re trying to under- her career. So, Rhode Islanders, let’s get her stand things, but we want you with us, as a part elected, I say! of the struggle. —Robert L., Providence, RI —Mark H., Northampton, MA 22 • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com Fearless from page 12 CA: Why didn’t you before? Was it easier for I need to be open.” I sent him off with love and you not to? I’m sure we’ll get together in the future, but ME: Yeah, I guess so, because everything was 2010 Pride Marches & Celebrations right now I’m putting these guys together and so autobiographic. I still do that, but I want to they’re dedicated to working with me now. expand as a writer. CA: The music video for “Nervous” – the sec- CA: Is “Miss California” taking a dig at Carrie in our local Gayborhoods & beyond ond single – stars Edie Falco, which reminds Prejean? me of all the other hot actresses who’ve ap- ME: It’s not necessarily her. I certainly don’t With Pride just around the corner in Rhode Island Pride, or Pride Fest 2010, will peared in your videos – Jennifer Aniston, Ju- know her and I don’t really have a comment to Northampton, which starts the country’s 2010 tentatively take place on June 19th. PrideFest liette Lewis and Gwyneth Paltrow. Of them all, the sadness that – I’m not even going to com- Pride Season, we must not forget to check out and the Night Gay Pride Parade through Provi- who made you the most nervous? ment. It fit perfectly because when I started to all of the Pride Marches, Rally’s and Celebra- dence basically functions as Providence Gay ME: Edie Falco, probably. Did you see the write it, I said I really just have to address this. I tions around us. Some of the closest to our Pride and Newport Gay Pride all rolled into way she looked at me? (Laughs) have to address my home state, my people and gayborhoods are: one statewide celebration. For more informa- CA: How did her cameo come about? the feeling of, like, being spurned by a lover. I tion, visit www.prideri.com. ME: I actually know the creator of Nurse Jack- thought, OK, I’m going to write a song about NoHo Pride 2010 on May 1st. To learn more ie. She’s one of my BFFs, and her and I have that and I’ll call it “Miss California,” just like about the event, please visit NoHo Pride’s Pride Vermont 2010 will be celebrated on been trying to do a television show together for Carrie Prejean – even though I’m definitely not website at www.site.nohopride.org/. July 24th, 2010. TRT will be at the celebra- a long time and when she landed Nurse Jackie, singing to her. It just worked into the whole tion. To know more about VT’s celebration, I was so happy for her. I played the album for thing. CT Pride 2010 takes place on June 5, 2010 at check out their website: www.pridevt.com/ her months ago, and she goes, “Can I use ‘Ner- CA: This album seems to reach back to your Bushnell Park. TRT will, once again, design vous’ in the final episode of Season 2?” It was roots. You’re rocking out more like you did in the CT Pride Guide this year and will the next New York City Pride 2010 celebrates Gay just a really sweet and fun thing to do. the ’90s and you have a weary woman in an too. To learn more about entertainers and CT Pride for a full week: June 19 to June 27, 2010. CA: “Miss California,” a song about the state’s isolated room in the “Fearless Love” video Pride, please visit www.connecticutpride.org. As with previous years, this 2010 Pride honors ban on gay marriage, is blatantly political. How much like the one for “Come to My Window.” what many consider to be one of the foremost do you think music and political activism – or Was that intentional? Boston Pride 2010 celebrates its 40th An- events in the history of lesbian and gay rights, activism of any sort – work together? ME: Yeah, that’s still a part of me. I’m ma- niversary, will also be one of the biggest cel- the Stonewall Riots. For more information ME: Music reaches past people’s minds and turing and I create it differently, but that girl is ebrations in the commonwealth. TRT will be a visit: www.nycpride.org. it goes straight into their spirit, their soul, their still me, and so when I get on stage and sing media sponsor and will be at Boston Pride this body. You can take advantage of that in a way. “I’m the Only One,” “Come to My Window” year too. Boston Pride will happen from June Pride Toronto 2010 celebrates its 30th anni- Music and activism is natural. It’s always been and “Bring Me Some Water” – from over 20 4-13th, 2010 this year. For more information, versary this year. The week long celebration a way through time to bring us closer to the years ago – that’s still me. I might not be going and to see what will happen throughout the starts on June 25 and ends on July 4. Pride unity we all need to be in. through those experiences in that moment, but week please visit www.bostonpride.org/mul- Week features 10 days of world class arts and CA: Is “Indiana” about your wife Tammy they happened to me. So I’m able to reflect on ticalendar.php cultural programming, community activities, Lynn Michaels? it, remember it, understand it in my life now, one of the world’s largest street festivals, Pride ME: It’s completely about Tammy. She’s from still see where that’s happening in my life and Worcester Pride 2010 will take place on Sept Parade, Dyke March, Family programming, Indiana, and her journey has been so inspiring rock from that place and feel comfortable now. 11th this year. For more information about this Blackness Yes and Youth and much more. to me – and I’m around it so much – that this great Pride, visit www.worcesterpride.com. To learn more about Pride Toronto visit: song popped out. To be able to sing with com- Melissa’s upcoming tour dates and album www.pridetoronto.com. passion about another person is new for me. For will be available on April 27. For information on tour dates, visit: www.melissaetheridge.com. me not to be in the song, I’m working on that. therainbowtimesnews.com • therainbowtimesnews.com www.therainbowtimesnews.com • The Rainbow Times • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • 23 The OutField: Brian Burke’s personal legacy By: Dan Woog* was as much a part of the success as anyone. ey. And I am certain these On Feb. 5, while driving ast November, The RedHawks were tight. When Brian came two organizations are not back from Michigan State’s the 21-year-old out – first to teammates, then his coaches – no alone here. law school, Brendan’s Jeep Lmanager of a one cared. More than that, they were over-the- “I wish this burden would Grand Cherokee was broad- college hockey team top supportive. Head coach Enrico Blasi called fall on someone else’s sided by a truck on a snowy came out as gay. Two him “a blessing…a great student and an even shoulders, not Brendan’s. Indiana road. He and a months later, he was better person.” Pioneers are often misun- friend were both killed. killed in an automo- Brendan had already come out to his family: derstood and mistrusted. Nearly 1,000 people at- bile accident. sisters Katie and Molly, brother Patrick, moth- But since he wishes to blaze tended Brendan’s funeral The hockey world er Kerry, and finally his dad and stepmother. this trail, I stand beside him in suburban Boston. The may never be the His father – a big, gruff, macho hockey man with an axe! I simply could Maple Leafs were there, in same. through and through – had never suspected. not be more proud of Bren- suits and ties. So was the It’s not often that a But he hugged his son and said, “We still love dan than I am, and I love Miami University team, student manager earns you. This won’t change a thing.” him as much as I admire wearing their hockey jer- Dan Woog headlines by com- Coming out is intensely personal, for ev- him.” seys. There too were the ing out, but Brendan eryone. But the Burke name is big, and last The story ended on an up- movers and shakers of Burke was no ordinary young man. His father fall Brendan decided to share his story in the beat note. Brendan returned the hockey world: general was Brian Burke – one of the biggest names in most public of ways: on ESPN. On the vaunted to his all-boys high school, managers, coaches, former the sport. A former star at Providence College, sports network’s Web site, John Buccigross to talk about growing up stars like Mark Messier, and Brian used his law degree to represent pro wrote an eloquent, graceful and detailed story gay. He earned a stand- NHL commissioner Gary hockey players. He then moved up the pro lad- about Brendan’s continuing journey as a gay ing ovation from “200 kids Bettman. der: general manager of the Hartford Whalers; man in the often-coarse world of hockey. who spend half their time Sitting together in grief, president of the Vancouver Canucks; execu- “I would prefer Brendan hadn’t decided to insulting anyone different they heard Brendan eulo- discuss this issue in this very public manner,” than them,” said his brother Photo: Q syndicate gized as “caring, compas- tive VP and GM of the Stanley Cup-winning Brian Burke Anaheim Ducks; GM of the Toronto Maple Brian said. “There will be a great deal of reac- Patrick. sionate and courageous.” Leafs; GM of the U.S. Olympic hockey team. tion, and I fear a large portion will be nega- The ESPN story’s final an- For the rest of their hock- In 2008, he received the Lester Patrick Trophy tive. But this takes guts, and I admire Brendan ecdote described an incident last summer. His ey lives, one hopes, whenever they hear “cour- for outstanding service to hockey in the U.S. greatly, and happily march arm in arm with father called Brendan and said, “Hey, Toronto age,” they will think of Brendan: their good Brendan, meanwhile, quit playing hockey him on this.” Pride is this weekend. You should fly up.” To- friend Brian Burke’s talented, smart, beloved in prep school. He was afraid someone would Brian Burke added: “There are gay men in gether, they watched the gay pride parade. gay son. learn he was gay. But he loved the sport, and at professional hockey. We would be fools to Reaction to the posting was swift. Much was Miami University in Ohio he reveled in serv- think otherwise. And it’s sad that they feel the positive; some was not. But the Burkes were *Dan Woog is a journalist, educator, soccer ing as student manager. He analyzed scout- need to conceal this. I understand why they do already moving on. Brian was preparing the coach, gay activist, and author of the “Jocks” ing tapes, kept goalie statistics and prepared so, however. U.S. team for the Olympics; Brendan looked series of books on gay male athletes. Visit his highlight videos. The Miami team was good – “Can a gay man advance in professional ahead to law school. He wanted to work in pol- Web site at www.danwoog.com. He can be reaching the Frozen Four, hockey’s version of hockey? He can if he works for the Toronto itics or hockey management, and a law degree reached care of this publication or at Out- NCAA basketball’s Final Four – and Brendan Maple Leafs! Or for Miami University hock- was important for both. [email protected].

Lt. Dan Choi receives Fenway Health’s Studds Award

ADT’s Activist, Lt. Dan Choi, was the recipient of Fenway Health’s DGerry E. Studds Award on April 10 at the Men’s Event. Kate Clinton brought her Lady HaHa tour to this year’s Men’s Event. Lt. Choi served in the United States Army for a decade under Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, a policy that forces LGBT American soldiers to keep their sexual orientation secret. On March 19, 2009, Lt. Choi, a West Point graduate and Iraq veteran fluent in Arabic, announced that he was gay on The Rachel Maddow Show. Because of three words – “I am gay” – Lt. Choi’s life changed forever. Dean Hara congratulates Lt. Dan Choi along with Despite his value as an Arabic speaker able Fenway President Dr. Stephen Boswel to communicate quickly and clearly with Lt. Dan Choi with Providence the Iraqi people, Lt. Choi was notified that Lt. Dan Choi, the recipient of Mayor David N. Cicilline. the Army had begun discharge proceedings Fenway Health’s Studds Award against him one month after his announce- ment. He continues to serve as an infantry officer in his unit while awaiting a final Photos by decision on his potential discharge. The Congressman Gerry E. Studds Award Bill Berggren is given at The Men’s Event to honor individuals of integrity and selflessness who embody the spirit of service and provide pos- itive leadership for the LGBT community. Congressman Gerry E. Studds represented southeastern Massachusetts in the U.S. Con- gress from 1973 to 1997 and became the first openly gay Member of Congress in 1983 when he proudly acknowledged his sexual orientation standing on the congressional floor. The Congressman Gerry E. Studds Award is given at each year’s Men’s Event Kate Clinton brought her Lady Haha in honor and memory of Studds, Boston’s Own “Hat Sisters” tour to the Fenway Health event also attended the event Co-chair’s of the men’s event John Prince, Rich Gardner, Ben Perkins and who passed away in October 2006. Dr. Stephen Boswell pose with Award winner Lt. Dan Choi(second, from L-to-R). 24 • April 15, 2010 - May 5, 2010 • The Rainbow Times • www.therainbowtimesnews.com