L 81. NO 1 JANUARY-FEBRUARY 1986 A MAGAZINE OF RELIGIOUS FREEDOM
LIBERTY JanuarylFebruary, 1986
SHELLYAs TOLD TO JANET LEIGH paid, and we would be willing even to adopt her. Finally We could give love, support and convinced of our sincerity, he agreed to sign adoption papers. stability. But because of our Her mother, however, was hostile. She believed we were "aberrant" lifestyle, the court said part of a plot to relieve the father of obligations to care for Shelly. But she, too, gave us a letter when she was convinced we couldn't adopt Shelly. we were sincerely interested in her daughter's welfare. Only when we had filed a petition with the court did we a homosexual or a lesbian a fit foster parent? It learn that the mother had changed her mind. She had written seems so in some states today. In most cases, the caseworker stating that adoption would make things "too however, one must be of good character, have a easy for the father. He should have to pay for what he did." stable (and conventional) marriage, and be able to Still we refused to give up. And at last we came before Is offer the foster child both love and support. But Judge Casey to present our case. To our surprise, when the increasingly, aberrant lifestyles do not seem to disqualify one preliminaries were finished, he told us he had already made to be a foster parent. With one exception—one cannot be up his mind. "too religious." To be religious may not disqualify, but to be "But, Your Honor," our attorney protested, "the case has too religious certainly can. My wife and I know. So does not been heard!" The judge was adamant. The case was over Shelly,* a slim, gray-eyed, 14-year-old with a touch of before it had begun. Our petition for Shelly was denied. freckles and a sad smile. She wanted to be our daughter. The A few days later I received a letter from the judge, telling judge said No. Our home was too religious! us why he had decided against us. I read it in disbelief. For Shelly's father had "fallen in love" with another man's the first time I realized the penalty of taking one's religion wife. His affair broke up two homes. Consequently, he seriously. Our home, the judge said, was "too religious"! married the "other woman," and Shelly's mother married Neither the judge nor the caseworker had visited our home. another man. They had asked no questions regarding our religious beliefs Shelly found neither home compatible. She ran away and or practices. They knew only that I was a Seventh-day one midnight arrived in Los Angeles. When a strange man Adventist employed by a Seventh-day Adventist medical began following her, she hailed a taxi and asked to be taken to school. And that was enough, in their opinion, to disqualify the police station. That is how she became a ward of the us as foster or adoptive parents! court. Later the judge asked that we return his letter. We could I lived near Los Angeles, where I was custodian understand why he wanted it back. It provided grounds for superintendent of a medical school. I learned of Shelly from further legal action. But, fortunately for the judge, our foster parents who were leaving the area. Would my wife and religion got in the way of that course. The Lord says, I be interested in raising her? After a visit the decision was "Vengeance is mine." We felt it was not fitting that we mutual: She would like to live with us and we would like to attempt to impugn the motives or actions of a judge. We have her. We went to see her caseworker. could ask only that the Lord place his case on the agenda of a To our surprise, the caseworker showed a barely Higher Court. We returned the letter. concealed hostility. No, we could not have Shelly. No My wife and I saw Shelly after the trial. We were not reason. Period. permitted to speak to her. She waved from across the When we told Shelly the decision, she put her arms around courthouse yard. We learned later that Shelly had been us and told us how much she had wanted to live with us. It placed in a girls' home. There was little discipline there; the was then that I decided to go to court. girls were permitted unsupervised visits with boyfriends. An attorney advised me to get written statements from And of course there was little or no religion. Shelly, her parents, and grandparents, indicating their A few days ago we got further word about Shelly. ± willingness for us to take her. Her grandmother readily She is pregnant. 4J consented, but her father was suspicious. Were we taking her only because we were being paid? No, we were not being * Shelly is a pseudonum.
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