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Recommended Resources on Healthy Celibacy & Sexual Integration Online Presentations on SLIconnect.org • “Living Authentic Celibate Chastity” (one hour) Rev. Gerard Fieldhouse-Byrne, D. Min., MSW • “Living Celibacy” series (four one-hour presentations) Br. John Mark Falkenhain, OSB, Ph.D. Speakers and Workshop Topics Saint Luke Institute and affiliates Contact: Beth Davis, 502-414-1754 and [email protected] • Rev. David Songy, O.F.M.Cap., S.T.D., Psy.D. President, Saint Luke Institute Spirituality of celibacy; celibacy formation for priesthood and/or religious life • Rev. Msgr. Stephen J. Rossetti, D.Min., Ph.D. President Emeritus, Saint Luke Institute Priestly wellness; spirituality and happiness • Rev. Gerard Fieldhouse-Byrne, D.Min., MSW Executive Director of Saint Luke’s Centre, Manchester, UK Celibacy formation; healthy sexual integration • Emily Cash, Psy.D. Director, Saint Luke Center, Louisville, KY Boundaries and ministry; resilient ministry • Nancy Kluge, Ph.D., NCPC Therapist, residential program, Saint Luke Institute Internet pornography; behavioral addictions St. Louis Consultation Center Contact: 314-909-4620 and [email protected] • Michael Pollard, MSW, LCSW Coordinator of Psychoeducational Services, St. Louis Consultation Center Sexuality; boundaries Saint Meinrad Seminary and School of Theology Contact: 812-357-6318 and [email protected] • Br. John-Mark Falkenhain, OSB, Ph.D. Adjunct Assistant Professor of Psychology, Saint Meinrad Seminary and School of Theology; Saint Luke Institute Fellow in Human Formation Celibacy formation; sexual identity; sexual integrity and integration Other Resources Books • Spiritual Direction for Priestly Celibacy, Rev. David Songy, O.F.M.Cap., S.T.D., Psy.D., Capuchin Province of Mid-America, 2012. http://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Direction- Priestly-Celibacy-David/dp/1470172011 • Living Celibacy: Healthy Pathways for Priests, Sonny Manuel, SJ, Paulist Press, 2012. http://www.paulistpress.com/Products/4784-7/living-celibacy.aspx • Catholic Teaching on Homosexuality: New Paths to Understanding, Louis J. Cameli, Ave Maria Press, 2012 https://www.avemariapress.com/product/1-59471-293-X/Catholic- Teaching-on-Homosexuality/ Articles • Rev. David Songy, O.F.M.Cap., S.T.D., Psy.D., “Psychological Assessment of Homosexual Tendencies in Potential Candidates for the Roman Catholic Priesthood.” Pastoral Psychology, 56(2): 237-247, 2007. • Br. John Mark Falkenhain, OSB, Ph.D., “Living Celibacy: A Proposed Model for Celibacy Formation Programs.” Human Development, 34:2, Summer 2013. • Rev. Bryan Silva, OMI, Psy.D., and Nancy Kluge, Ph.D., NCPC, “Cybersex Compulsion.” Lukenotes, Vol. XV, No. 3 (2011) • Kevin P. McClone, “The Gift of Sexuality: Its Challenge and Blessing Within a Life of Vowed Celibacy.” Horizon, Summer 2004. Available online: http://www.issmcclone.com/pblctns/gift_sexuality.pdf. • Kevin P. McClone, “Sexual Health: A Christian Perspective.” Human Development, 32:1, Spring 2011. • William A. Barry, SJ, “A Starting Point for Formation Toward Celibate Chastity,” Human Development, 33:3, Fall 2012. ©Saint Luke Institute 2015 .

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