Ending Ignorance, One Circle at a Time

September 15, 2017 | Volume XV, Issue 10 Ending Ignorance, One Circle at a Time By Sage Piper coming soft lights of the multipur- nings spent in Once a month on an early Saturday evening, pose Impact Hub space on North ‘Circle of the fold of a small but powerful vocal transformation is Avenue, diversity consultant J.C. Voices’ airs the Circle taking shape in Baltimore. At a time when the Faulk is facilitating a circle of dia- means join- players on the national scene are brazenly logue which just may be the model diverse ing a group sowing division and putting all minority com- for a ramp way out of the Trumpi- opinions of diverse munities in danger and our local Baltimore an darkness and through the knot- Baltimor- streets are rife with a record number of ho- ted morass of our systematically segregated eans – different races, micides, a new space is quietly being born. and homophobic Baltimore history. And the ethnicities, sexual ori- A now and future safe space. Its birth pangs LGBT community needs to be a part of this entations, incomes, reli- are not always pretty, as it entails connecting connection. gions, ages, and life ex- people who do not occupy the same space in Faulk’s Circle of Voices’ stated goal is periences – who agree Listen, learn, any way in the city. This connection and the to “methodically build systemic structures at the outset to a certain & dispute at a dialogues which follow are raw, complicated, that respect diverse voices, those at the top, set of guidelines. These Circle of Voices painful, at times deeply traumatic, and they re- at the bottom and around the edges, and to include listening without meeting in quire an amount of courage, openness, and elevate anything or anyone that brings interrupting, showing re- Baltimore humility which call forth all of our inner and col- people together.” Eve- spect, being and letting lective strength in order to face. be, and giving others immunity – the space to to the heart of our individual and collective sys- But there amid the wel- make mistakes and grow during the evening. tems of life organization, and the ingrained rac- The topics are deep and fundamental and cut ist, sexist, and —continued on page 13

Leslie Grossman By – inspired by Baltimore charm, Frankie ‘American Horror Story: quirk, and (John) Kujawa Waters “American Horror Cult’ Actress Beguiles Story: Cult,” the seventh season of Ryan ing,” Grossman says of her Leslie Grossman see what I’m doing. It’s some- Murphy’s horror an- upcoming season of “Amer- thing that no one has ever seen thology series, pre- ican Horror Story,” adding loves Baltimore me do before. Expect the unex- miered this month on that “The main word, how- pected!” FX, taking aim at the ever, would be super, super like a vampire “The character, it unfolds current political land- excited. It’s been so much craves blood over a series of episodes. So, scape in America. “Cult” fun.” Grossman was very I definitely don’t want to give explores the aftermath cautious in giving hints anything away. Little bits and of the 2016 presidential about her role in “Cult.” “If you were pieces are revealed and it’s really, really election and tackles the speaking to me a few weeks from now, fun,” Grossman said, cryptically adding, “I divisive reality of the US then I could give you more informa- think people are going to be really surprised today. Joining the cast of tion.” Grossman laughed. “But what and will have a fun time trying to figure out “AHS” powerhouses Sar- I can tell you is my character is surprising. what’s going on with her. It’s going to un- ah Paulson, Evan Peters, her I’m getting the chance to do stuff as an ac- ravel slowly and go in directions you don’t and Cheyenne Jackson is upcoming role in “Cult,” her love tress that I’ve never done before. There is understand and then it will all begin to make actress Leslie Grossman. for Bravo’s “Real Housewives,” and her Bal- absolutely dark-humor involved. There will sense.” Grossman recently chatted with Baltimore timore connection. be comedy, but it’s pretty intense, and I think Grossman, who has a strong social me- OUTloud to discuss “It feels thrilling and a little overwhelm- people will be pretty surprised when they —continued on page 24 if you have hiv, Co-Publishers Jim Becker • Jim Williams [email protected]

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2 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 15, 2017 • baltimoreoutloud.com news // LOCAL Vision of Hope MCC Installs New Pastor

By Bill Redmond-Palmer formational love and service. She serves On September 23rd, Rev. Angela Teresa those on the margins and advocates for Jones-Ramirez will be officially installed those who appear to have no voice. Ser- at Vision of Hope Metropolitan Community vices begin at 10 am each Sunday, and Bi- ● Elder Law Church, where she began serving as their ble studies are on Tuesday nights at 7 pm. ● Estate Planning settled senior pastor on May 17th. Jones-Ramirez currently serves at Jones-Ramirez is a proud Baltimore United Evangelical United Church of Christ ● Family Law native, who excelled in both academics as a volunteer clergy and youth minister. ● Guardianship and athletics at Baltimore City College Jones-Ramirez acknowledges the ● Mediation Senior High School where she graduat- teachings and examples given her along ed. She began her undergraduate work at her journey to the pulpit by her late ma- ● Medicaid Planning & Qualification Hampton Institute, now Hampton Universi- ternal great grandmother, the Rev. Elder ● Personal Injury ty, and completed her bachelors of science Clara Williams. Her maternal grandmother, degree in sports medicine at Towson State the late Leola Rutledge, and her mother, ● Probate University. She the late Jeanette D. ● Veteran's Benefits pursued her first Jones, were also in- ● LGBTQIA Matters master’s degree Rev. strumental in Ange- in the same sub- Angela la’s path into ministry. Call ERA Law Group Today ject at Indiana Teresa Jones-Ramirez is State University Jones- married to Coralina (410) 919-1790, or visit us at in Terre Haute, Ramirez F. Jones-Ramirez and 1997 Annapolis Exchange Pkwy, followed by doc- they are parents to Suite 300, Annapolis, MD 21401 toral studies in five furry critters. health care ad- The installation Valerie E. Anias, Esq. ministrationation service will begin at at Nova South 1 pm and be held at [email protected] Eastern Univer- Vision of Hope MCC, sity. Her studies located in Mountville, were postponed Pennsylvania. There and not com- will be a reception im- pleted due to the mediately following. GET PREPPED ON PrEP: untimely death of The church re- her baby brother, quests that all clergy A TOWN HALL MEETING ON Barry C. Jones. wishing to participate Jones- and process in the HIV PREVENTION & PRE-EXPOSURE PROPHYLAXIS Ramirez is service please vest Join us to learn about the latest exciting news on HIV Prevention & PrEP known to many for the occasion. The for men who have sex with men and for transgender people. in Baltimore from liturgical color for the Tell us what you think and feel about HIV Prevention & PrEP. her many years day is red. of active service as a lay minister at the To find out more, call 717-285-9070 or Metropolitan Community Church of Balti- email [email protected]. t DATE: September 27th more, where she was responsible various- – Bill Redmond-Palmer ly for outreach, missions, worship, per- TIME: 6:30 p.m. to 8 p.m. forming arts, fellowship, hospitality, and stewardship. She also served as co-chair LOCATION: The Waxter Center of the board of trustees. During that service, she was encouraged by Rev. R. Da- 1000 Cathedral Street at Eager Street vid Smith to attend the Apostolic Training and Sending Center (ACTS) at Glory Tab- Baltimore, MD 21201 ernacle in Long Beach, California, where she graduated in 2008. Food and refreshments will be provided Continuing to grow her ministry, ac- Sign language interpreter will be available knowledging and accepting her call, An- gela enrolled in the Lancaster Theological Hosted by Seminary, graduating in 2015 with a mas- AIDS Action Baltimore ter’s of divinity. Sponsored by At her current church, Vision of Hope Chase Brexton Health Care, Center for Black Equity-Baltimore, GLCCB, Metropolitan Community Church, Jones- Johns Hopkins Center for AIDS Research & REACH Initiative, Ramirez shares and preaches radical STAR TRACK Adolescent Health Program - University of Maryland School of Medicine inclusivity of all of God’s children and Supported by funding from Gilead Sciences, Inc. believes in changing lives through trans-

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Select Chase Brexton Health Care patients deemed most in need may be eligible for digital breast cancer screenings through a mobile mammography van to be located at the Chase Brexton Mount Vernon Center on September 28th. The screenings are provided in partnership with Lackawan- na Mobile X-Ray and the Susan G. Komen Foundation. Breast cancer is the second most common cancer in women, and mammograms are capable of finding it up to three years before it can be felt. The Center for Disease Control recommends mammograms every two years for women age 50 and older who are at average risk for breast cancer. The staff of Chase Brexton encour- ages their patients to remember that early detection saves lives! Any patient who feels they may quality should contact their Chase Brexton provider or call 410-837- 2050 for more info. t news // LOCAL

quality health care and hope to people in This year’s Dr. Ronald Taylor Award need right where they live. for Contributions to Patient Care, will be Baltimore Black “Hope Lives Here allows individuals, presented to Chase Brexton Health Care families, small businesses, and corporate employees Deborah Dunn (trans health partners to have a direct impact right in coordinator) and Melinda Sickle (senior Pride Planning their own communities,” pharmacy technician). said Chase Brexton’s Deb Dunn, a Chase Brexton The theme for this year’s Baltimore Black Becky Frank. “Hope employee since 2008, “has been Pride Celebration is “I am Power… I am Lives Here members a tireless advocate for the trans Baltimore Black Pride,” and will focus on share a common be- community, helping to shape community involvement and unity. Black lief in Chase Brexton’s the high quality of care that the Pride Celebration events are planned day was not an education day. It was not a mission: that everyone clinic provides. She consults throughout the month of October. coming-out day, it’s not about GLBT part- in our communities with patients across all of Chase The next planning meetings for Balti- nerships building or proving ourselves to deserves high quality Brexton’s centers, and educates more Black Pride 2017 will be held on Sep- anyone else. It’s not a ‘Pride’ day, though health care.” providers on how to care for over tember 13th and 17th, from 6 to 8 pm at the many of us are proud. It’s not about usurp- This year, in addi- 2,200 patients that receive ser- GLCCB (2530 North Charles Street, third ing a gay event and making a smaller one tion to the main ball, vices through the clinic,” Chase floor, Baltimore). It’s an opportunity to get for ourselves. It’s a truly unique day, just attendees will have the Brexton said in a statement. involved with the planning for Black Pride, for us.” option to attend the Charm Ball After Party, Melinda Sickle has been a leader at present your ideas, or become a partner. Since the Stonewall rebellion, the from 9 to 11 pm, which will include danc- Chase Brexton’s Mount Vernon Center Baltimore Black Pride is coordinated gay and lesbian community has grown in ing, an open bar, casino games (including pharmacy for over 15 years. “Her effective, and lead by the Center for Black Equity – strength and visibility. Yet bisexuals remain blackjack, poker, and roulette), as well as no-nonsense style makes her a trusted pa- Baltimore, whose compass includes health in many ways invisible. Society conditions a sumptuous dessert bar. tient advocated and staff mentor,” Chase and wellness, spiritual and economic em- us to automatically label a couple walking Tickets for the full Charm Ball experi- Brexton said. “She focuses her efforts on powerment, social justice, and coalition hand in hand as either straight or gay, de- ence, that includes the After Party, are $250. helping patients get the critical medica- building. pending on the perceived gender of each Tickets for the After Party alone are $50. tions they need, utilizes her extraordinary For more info, call 443-218-2478 or person, but such assumptions often don’t Tickets are available at Charmball.com. ability to achieve successful outcomes by email [email protected]. t correspond to reality. The celebrations on September 23rd are conceived as a response to the prejudice and marginaliza- tion of bisexual people by some in both the straight and larger LGBT communities. Bi Visibility Day In 2013 on Celebrate Bisexuality Day, the White House held a closed-door meeting with almost 30 bisexual advocates to Sept. 23rd meet with government officials and discuss issues of specific importance to the bisex- Each September 23rd, Bi Visibility Day ual community, the first bi-specific event (also known as “International Celebrate ever hosted by any White House. Bisexuality Day”) is observed around the For more information visit Bivisibility- world. It’s a perfect day to recognize and day.com. t celebrate bisexuality, bisexual history, bisexual community and culture, and all the bisexual people in our lives. September 17th to 24th has been designated as Bi- Week. Chase Brexton International Celebrate Bisexuality Day was first observed in 1999, as the brain- child of three US activists and BiNet USA Charm Ball, national coordinators: Wendy Curry of Maine, Michael Page of Florida (originator of the bi pride flag and original owner of Sept. 23rd the Bi Cafe), and Gigi Raven Wilbur of Tex- as (the first weekly bi-themed radio show The third annual Charm Ball, hosted by hostess). Chase Brexton Health Care, is set for “If you really study diversity accep- September 23rd, at the historic B&O Rail- tance,” says Curry, “you’ll see that people road Museum (901 West Pratt Street, Bal- start to respect people once they respect timore). The evening will include dinner, themselves. As long as we were in this dancing, casino games, and drinks. endless begging for inclusion, we weren’t The event raises funds to support addressing the respect issue. So, those Chase Brexton’s Hope Lives Here fund, a two themes – wanting to respect ourselves partnership program among Chase Brex- Mike McVicker Weaver and Akil Patterson – organizers of the Stand Against Hate open fo- and wanting to celebrate the previous ton Health Care, local businesses, and rum on August 29th, part of a new, national advocacy campaign sponsored by the AIDS years’ battles – were the dual driving forc- people in the community. The Hope Lives Healthcare Foundation. The event provided context for conversations in response to the tragedy es behind Celebrate Bisexuality Day. The Here program helps Chase Brexton bring in Charlottesville, Virginia. More at Ahf.org/stand-against-hate. 4 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 15, 2017 • baltimoreoutloud.com news // LOCAL effectively navigating difficult situations, please contact the organizers. adults late in the course of infection, lead- and is an example to her colleagues of For more info, visit their Facebook ing shorter HIV to AIDS intervals. The CDC compassionate service.” event page at Bit.ly/2eZ3DYK or Pridemd. reports that in 2014, 40% of people aged Chase Brexton Health Care thanks org. t 55 and older were diagnosed with AIDS at the Charm Ball’s sponsors: Allied Univer- the time of HIV diagnosis. sal Security Services, McKesson, Priority The face of HIV/AIDS is graying, and Partners, and Quest Diagnostics. as of 2015, 50% of people with HIV in the For more info about Charm Ball 2017, US were 50 or older. By 2020, more than it’s Chasebrexton.org/join-us/charm-ball 70% of Americans with HIV are expected or call 410-837-2050 x1034. t National Gay to be 50 and older. LGBT people and people of color are disproportionately impacted by HIV/AIDS. Men’s HIV/AIDS Out of every 100,000 people diagnosed with HIV in 2013, 59% of African-Ameri- cans were older. That number was 29% for Media Training Awareness Day Hispanics, and nearly 9% for whites. Americans over 50 have many of the Get set for September 27th, as it’s Nation- same HIV risk factors as younger Ameri- for LGBT Groups al Gay Men’s HIV/AIDS Awareness Day, to ease remains an illness to be avoided and cans. For example, research shows that recognize the disproportionate impact of to honor those who live full lives with HIV. heterosexual and LGBT older adults are HIV on gay men. It was launched in 2008 For more info about this event, call sexually active well into their mid-80s. On October 14th, the Pride Foundation of by the National Association of People with 410-328-5725. For more info about the Other risk factors that stay the same as Maryland will host a media training day for AIDS. National Gay Men’s HIV/AIDS Aware- age increases are having multiple part- Maryland LGBT organizations, designed to Of all the men diagnosed with HIV each ness Day, visit Aids.gov/news-and-events/ ners, and a lack of knowledge and how to share with them best practices for getting year, over half are gay and bisexual men. awareness-days/gay-mens or Napwa.org. prevent it. “Men who have sex with men” are the only t Some unique challenges are that wom- major group for whom HIV infection rates en are no longer worried about getting are rising nationally. pregnant, so don’t feel the need to practice The theme for this year’s event is “Be safer sex; older people and their doctors authentically you.” This year the University are less likely to talk about the patient’s of Maryland School of Medicine, Division National HIV sexual habits; and medical providers as- of Infectious Diseases, and the Institute sume that older adults are no longer sex- of Human Virology will host an event for ually active, so do not test them for HIV. young gay men on September 27th at the & Ageing Day, Ageing with HIV also creates special GAY Lounge (518 North Charles Street, challenges for preventing and treating oth- Baltimore). The event will provide young er diseases, such as an increased risk for gay men an opportunity to paint their own Sept. 18th cardiovascular disease, thin bones, and picture celebrating the day. It will also certain cancers. provide an opportunity to recognize lead- Older adults also need to ing HIV specialists and others who have September 18th of each year be careful about inter- provided care and services for people liv- has been designated as actions between the ing with HIV, in some cases going back to the National HIV/AIDS medications they 1981. and Ageing Awareness use to treat HIV their stories covered, and leveraging so- The themed paint party for men 18 to Day (NHAAAD), to and those used cial media. 35 will be from 4 to 6 pm, followed by rec- call to attention the to treat com- The event will include a panel discus- ognition and awards from 6 to 7, and finally challenges that mon age-re- sion with prominent professionals from a reception from 7 to 8 pm. Representa- older Americans lated condi- print news, radio, TV, and public relations. tives of the Jacques Initiative will be pres- face in terms of tions such Panelists include Jayne Miller, chief in- ent and available to discuss PrEP, meant HIV prevention, as hyperten- vestigative reporter at WBAL; Tom Hall, to protect those who remain HIV-negative. testing, care, and sion, diabe- midday host on WYPR; Michael Lavers, a Special guest speaker will be Rob- treatment, and to tes, elevated news editor at the Washington Blade; Mor- ert Johnson of AIDS United. He served recognize the im- cholesterol, gan Meneses-Sheets of Steadfast Strate- as New York City’s “AIDS Czar” for eight pact of HIV on those and obesity. gies; and Ava Pipitone, head of the Balti- years and also was a director of Gay Men’s ageing with HIV. The For more Transgender Alliance. Health Crisis. day was launched in more info The event is set for 9 am to 4 pm in A recent study by the Patient-Centered 2008 by lead organizer, visit Theaidsin- the Lord Baltimore Theater at the Lord Bal- Outcomes Research Institute (PCORI) re- the AIDS Institute. stitute.org, Aids. timore Hotel (20 West Baltimore Street, vealed that many young men in Baltimore The Centers for Disease gov/news-and-events; Baltimore). Tickets are $10 per person and who are HIV positive face harsh challenges Control and Prevention (CDC) Hiv.gov/hiv-basics/living- are available at Pridemd.org/mediaday. daily, including unstable housing or home- reports that people aged 55 and old- well-with-hiv/taking-care-of- t They are being sold to confirm attendance lessness, anti-LGBT violence, and early er accounted for 26% of the estimated yourself/aging-with-hiv, and Apa.org. and to defray the costs but organizers do childhood trauma that make them at risk 1.2 million people living with diagnosed – Bill Redmond- not want cost to be an impediment to par- for depression and episodic employment. or undiagnosed HIV infection in the US in Palmer ticipation. If you’d like to request a waiver We want to remind everyone that HIV dis- 2013. HIV is too often diagnosed in older

BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 15, 2017 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 5 What is TRUVADA for PrEP? Who should not take TRUVADA for PrEP? TRUVADA for PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) is a prescription medicine that is used Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: together with safer sex practices to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. ® Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. If This use is only for HIV-negative adults who are at high risk of getting HIV-1. To help you are HIV-1 positive, you need to take other medicines with TRUVADA to treat determine your risk of getting HIV-1, talk openly with your healthcare provider about HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 your sexual health. and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. Ask your healthcare provider if you have questions about how to prevent getting HIV. ® Also take certain medicines to treat hepatitis B infection. Always practice safer sex and use condoms to lower the chance of sexual contact with What are the other possible side effects of TRUVADA for PrEP? body fl uids. Never reuse or share needles or other items that have body fl uids on them. Serious side effects of TRUVADA may also include: IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION ® Kidney problems, including kidney failure. Your healthcare provider may do What is the most important information I should know about blood tests to check your kidneys before and during treatment with TRUVADA. TRUVADA for PrEP? If you develop kidney problems, your healthcare provider may tell you to stop taking TRUVADA. Before taking TRUVADA for PrEP: ® Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious but ® You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA for PrEP. You must rare medical emergency that can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1. Do not take TRUVADA right away if you get these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are confi rmed to be HIV-negative. unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, stomach pain with ® Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently nausea and vomiting, cold or blue hands and feet, feel dizzy or lightheaded, or a become infected. If you have fl u-like symptoms, you could have recently become fast or abnormal heartbeat. infected with HIV-1. Tell your healthcare provider if you had a fl u-like illness within ® Severe liver problems, which in rare cases can lead to death. Tell your the last month before starting or at any time while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: skin or the white part Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, light-colored stools, loss of headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged appetite for several days or longer, nausea, or stomach-area pain. lymph nodes in the neck or groin. ® Bone problems, including bone pain, softening, or thinning, which may lead to While taking TRUVADA for PrEP: fractures. Your healthcare provider may do tests to check your bones. ® You must continue to use safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP are stomach-area may not keep you from getting HIV-1. (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. Tell your healthcare provider if I'm passionate, ® You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP: you have any side effects that bother you or do not go away. ® Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months. What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking ® If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. TRUVADA for PrEP? ® To further help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1: ® All your health problems. Be sure to tell your healthcare provider if you have or not impulsive. ® Know your HIV status and the HIV status of your partners. have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis. ® Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it ® If you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known if I know who I am. And I make choices that ﬁ t my life. easier for HIV to infect you. TRUVADA can harm your unborn baby. If you become pregnant while taking ® Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior, such as TRUVADA for PrEP, talk to your healthcare provider to decide if you should having fewer sex partners. keep taking TRUVADA. TRUVADA for PrEP™ is a once-daily prescription medicine that ® Do not miss any doses of TRUVADA. Missing doses may increase your risk of ® If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. If can help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 when taken every day getting HIV-1 infection. you become HIV-positive, HIV can be passed to the baby in breast milk. ® If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA ® All the medicines you take, including prescription and over-the-counter and used together with safer sex practices. alone to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements. TRUVADA may interact with you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat other medicines. Keep a list of all your medicines and show it to your healthcare ® TRUVADA for PrEP is only for adults who are at high risk of getting HIVthrough sex. over time. provider and pharmacist when you get a new medicine. TRUVADA can cause serious side effects: ® If you take certain other medicines with TRUVADA, your healthcare provider ® You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA for PrEP. may need to check you more often or change your dose. These medicines ® Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. TRUVADA is not approved to treat HBV. include certain medicines to treat hepatitis C (HCV) infection. If you have HBV and stop taking TRUVADA, your HBV may suddenly get worse. Do Ask your doctor about your risk of getting HIV-1 infection not stop taking TRUVADA without fi rst talking to your healthcare provider, as they You are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the will need to monitor your health. FDA. Visit www.FDA.gov/medwatch, or call 1-800-FDA-1088. and if TRUVADA for PrEP may be right for you.

Please see Important Facts about TRUVADA for PrEP including important warnings on the following page. Learn more at truvada.com

6 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 15, 2017 • baltimoreoutloud.com TVDC0139_PrEP_B_9-875x9.6_BaltimoreOutloud_Vogue_p1.indd 1-2 8/16/17 11:00 AM What is TRUVADA for PrEP? Who should not take TRUVADA for PrEP? TRUVADA for PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) is a prescription medicine that is used Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: together with safer sex practices to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. ® Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. If This use is only for HIV-negative adults who are at high risk of getting HIV-1. To help you are HIV-1 positive, you need to take other medicines with TRUVADA to treat determine your risk of getting HIV-1, talk openly with your healthcare provider about HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 your sexual health. and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. Ask your healthcare provider if you have questions about how to prevent getting HIV. ® Also take certain medicines to treat hepatitis B infection. Always practice safer sex and use condoms to lower the chance of sexual contact with What are the other possible side effects of TRUVADA for PrEP? body fl uids. Never reuse or share needles or other items that have body fl uids on them. Serious side effects of TRUVADA may also include: IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION ® Kidney problems, including kidney failure. Your healthcare provider may do What is the most important information I should know about blood tests to check your kidneys before and during treatment with TRUVADA. TRUVADA for PrEP? If you develop kidney problems, your healthcare provider may tell you to stop taking TRUVADA. Before taking TRUVADA for PrEP: ® Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious but ® You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA for PrEP. You must rare medical emergency that can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1. Do not take TRUVADA right away if you get these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are confi rmed to be HIV-negative. unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, stomach pain with ® Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently nausea and vomiting, cold or blue hands and feet, feel dizzy or lightheaded, or a become infected. If you have fl u-like symptoms, you could have recently become fast or abnormal heartbeat. infected with HIV-1. Tell your healthcare provider if you had a fl u-like illness within ® Severe liver problems, which in rare cases can lead to death. Tell your the last month before starting or at any time while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: skin or the white part Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, light-colored stools, loss of headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged appetite for several days or longer, nausea, or stomach-area pain. lymph nodes in the neck or groin. ® Bone problems, including bone pain, softening, or thinning, which may lead to While taking TRUVADA for PrEP: fractures. Your healthcare provider may do tests to check your bones. ® You must continue to use safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP are stomach-area may not keep you from getting HIV-1. (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. Tell your healthcare provider if I'm passionate, ® You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP: you have any side effects that bother you or do not go away. ® Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months. What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking ® If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. TRUVADA for PrEP? ® To further help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1: ® All your health problems. Be sure to tell your healthcare provider if you have or not impulsive. ® Know your HIV status and the HIV status of your partners. have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis. ® Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it ® If you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known if I know who I am. And I make choices that ﬁ t my life. easier for HIV to infect you. TRUVADA can harm your unborn baby. If you become pregnant while taking ® Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior, such as TRUVADA for PrEP, talk to your healthcare provider to decide if you should having fewer sex partners. keep taking TRUVADA. TRUVADA for PrEP™ is a once-daily prescription medicine that ® Do not miss any doses of TRUVADA. Missing doses may increase your risk of ® If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. If can help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 when taken every day getting HIV-1 infection. you become HIV-positive, HIV can be passed to the baby in breast milk. ® If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA ® All the medicines you take, including prescription and over-the-counter and used together with safer sex practices. alone to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements. TRUVADA may interact with you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat other medicines. Keep a list of all your medicines and show it to your healthcare ® TRUVADA for PrEP is only for adults who are at high risk of getting HIVthrough sex. over time. provider and pharmacist when you get a new medicine. TRUVADA can cause serious side effects: ® If you take certain other medicines with TRUVADA, your healthcare provider ® You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA for PrEP. may need to check you more often or change your dose. These medicines ® Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. TRUVADA is not approved to treat HBV. include certain medicines to treat hepatitis C (HCV) infection. If you have HBV and stop taking TRUVADA, your HBV may suddenly get worse. Do Ask your doctor about your risk of getting HIV-1 infection not stop taking TRUVADA without fi rst talking to your healthcare provider, as they You are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the will need to monitor your health. FDA. Visit www.FDA.gov/medwatch, or call 1-800-FDA-1088. and if TRUVADA for PrEP may be right for you.

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t TVDC0139_PrEP_B_9-875x9.6_BaltimoreOutloud_Vogue_p1.indd 1-2 BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 15, 2017 • baltimoreout8/16/17loud.c o11:00m AM7 IMPORTANT FACTS This is only a brief summary of important information about taking TRUVADA for PrEPTM (pre-exposure prophylaxis) to help reduce the (tru-VAH-dah) risk of getting HIV-1 infection. This does not replace talking to your healthcare provider about your medicine.

MOST IMPORTANT INFORMATION ABOUT POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS OF TRUVADA FOR PrEP TRUVADA FOR PrEP TRUVADA can cause serious side effects, including: Before starting TRUVADA for PrEP: • Those in the “Most Important Information About TRUVADA for PrEP” section. • You must be HIV-1 negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already • New or worse kidney problems, including kidney failure. have HIV-1. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are • Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious but rare medical emergency confirmed to be HIV-1 negative. that can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, stomach • Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become pain with nausea and vomiting, cold or blue hands and feet, feel dizzy or lightheaded, or a fast or Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include flu-like symptoms, tiredness, fever, joint or infected. abnormal heartbeat. muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged • Severe liver problems, which in rare cases can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away lymph nodes in the neck or groin. Tell your healthcare provider if you have had a flu-like illness if you get these symptoms: skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP. light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, or stomach-area pain. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP: • Bone problems. • You must continue to use safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP include stomach-area (abdomen) pain, keep you from getting HIV-1. headache, and decreased weight. • You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP.Get tested for HIV-1 at least These are not all the possible side effects of TRUVADA. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you every 3 months while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you have any new symptoms while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. think you were exposed to HIV-1 or have a flu-like illness while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Your healthcare provider will need to do tests to monitor your health before and during • If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP. treat HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. • See the “How To Further Reduce Your Risk” section for more information. BEFORE TAKING TRUVADA FOR PrEP TRUVADA may cause serious side effects, including: Tell your healthcare provider if you: • Have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis. • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. TRUVADA is not approved to treat HBV. If you • Have any other medical conditions. have HBV, your HBV may suddenly get worse if you stop taking TRUVADA. Do not stop taking • Are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. TRUVADA without first talking to your healthcare provider, as they will need to check your health • Are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. If you become HIV-positive, HIV regularly for several months. can pass to the baby in breast milk. Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take: ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP • Keep a list that includes all prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal TRUVADA for PrEP is a prescription medicine used together with safer sex practices to help supplements, and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist. reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. This use is only for HIV-negative adults who are at • Ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist about medicines that should not be taken with TRUVADA high risk of getting HIV-1. for PrEP. • To help determine your risk of getting HIV-1, talk openly with your healthcare provider about your sexual health. HOW TO FURTHER REDUCE YOUR RISK Do NOT take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: • Know your HIV status and the HIV status of your partners. • Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. • Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV to • Take certain medicines to treat hepatitis B infection. infect you. • Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior, such as having fewer sex partners. • Do not share needles or personal items that can have blood or body fluids on them. HOW TO TAKE TRUVADA FOR PrEP • Take 1 tablet once a day, every day, not just when you think you have been exposed to HIV-1. GET MORE INFORMATION • Do not miss any doses. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. • This is only a brief summary of important information about TRUVADA for PrEP. Talk to your • Use TRUVADA for PrEP together with condoms and safer sex practices. healthcare provider or pharmacist to learn more, including how to prevent HIV infection. • Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months. You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking • Go to start.truvada.com or call 1-800-GILEAD-5 TRUVADA for PrEP. • If you need help paying for your medicine, visit start.truvada.com for program information.

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8 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 15, 2017 • baltimoreoutloud.com TVDC0139_PrEP_B_9-875x9.6_BaltimoreOutloud_Vogue_p1.indd 3 8/16/17 11:00 AM beyond the beltway compiled by Jim Becker ried about telling his mother he had made Phillips told CBS News that he op- PLA found that 8% of candidates failed a mistake and wanted to stay as a male. “I posed same-sex marriage so strongly that because of abnormalities found in their After wanting wasn’t nervous to tell Mum of my decision he would stop making wedding cakes al- scrotum from sitting too much. Another – she’d been so open and supportive of me together rather than make one for a lesbi- 25% flunked because of blood and urine to be a girl, boy in my transition,” he said. “I felt my heart an or gay couple. Mullins and Craig then tests. It recommended that candidates sing in that exchange,” the boy’s mother complained to the Colorado Civil Rights follow ten basic principles, including ex- says it was a explained. “That moment between parent Commission, which ruled that the baker ercising more, cutting out fizzy drinks and and child when you know it’s taken every violated the state’s public accommoda- booze, limiting computer games and mas- mistake drop of courage for that child to speak up… tions law, which prohibits businesses from turbation, not getting a tattoo, and drink- I didn’t know what the coming days would refusing service on the basis of sex and ing clean water. The advice was instantly Australia – Milo.yiannopoulos. bring, but I knew his thoughts had caught sexual orientation, among other grounds. mocked by users on social media microb- net states that the Independent and up with his body.” In the beginning of 2017, In a subsequent court case, Phillips and log Sina Weibo. “Next year they’ll be ask- NowToLove.com.au have reported that teachers at school began to refer to him as his company were found guilty of violating ing for circumcisions!” said one user. 12-year-old Australian schoolboy Patrick a girl which triggered Mitchell to question the nondiscrimination law. He then ap- The PLA has struggled to recruit new Mitchell believed he would be more com- if he had made the right decision. Now, in pealed, lost again at the Colorado Court members, despite desperate measures fortable being a girl. The boy begged his a bid to revert back to his original body, he of Appeals, and finally brought the case to find candidates like releasing a rap re- has stopped taking his medication and is to the US Supreme Court on the grounds cruitment video last year. The Ministry of about to have an operation to remove ex- of First Amendment free speech and reli- Defense last month announced the PLA cess breast tissue in what will be the final gious freedom protections. The high court would be cut from 2 million to 1 million – a stage of his transition. (Milo.yiannopoulos. declined to schedule hearings on the case, move that some believe is due to a lack net at Milo.yiannopoulos.net/2017/09/aus- not once but 13 times. Then, on June 27th of new recruits. (New York Post at Nypost. tralian-schoolboy-who-transitioned-to-fe- this year, it agreed to hear Phillips’ appeal com/2017/08/25/excessive-masturba- male-realizes-his-mistake-2-years-later/ this fall. tion-is-hurting-chinas-military/) & The Independent at Independent.co.uk/ The DOJ amicus brief advised the Su- life-style/12-year-old-boy-trans-female- preme Court that US Attorney General change-mind-years-later-patrick-mitchell- Jeff Sessions and his department support australia-oestrogen-hormones-a7933741. Phillips’s claim that the First Amendment Retransiting transition Gay man’s suit html) protects his right to refuse service to LGBT mother to let him begin taking estrogen people on religious grounds. Louise Mel- claiming false hormones after doctors diagnosed him ling, deputy legal director of the ACLU, with “gender dysphoria,” the condition Trump condemned the DOJ brief. “This Justice sex abuse report which leads people to believe they were Department has already made its hostility born as the wrong gender. “You wish you administration to the rights of LGBT people and so many gets trial date could just change everything about you, others crystal clear,” she said in a state- you just see any girl and you say I’d kill sides with anti- ment. “But this brief was shocking, even Pennsauken, New Jersey - Thom- to be like that,” Mitchell explained on “60 for this administration. What the Trump as Vandergrift has been on a six-year Minutes.” “When everyone went to sleep gay baker administration is advocating for is nothing quest for justice, ever since Pennsauken I’d stay up late researching trans people short of a constitutional right to discrimi- school-district officials reported him to and potential surgeries that I could have Washington, DC - The US Department nate. We are confident that the Supreme New Jersey authorities for suspected child to make me look more feminine,” he told of Justice (DOJ) filed an amicus brief on Court will rule on the side of equal rights, sex abuse. The reports subsequently were Now to Love. September 7th backing a Colorado baker just as the lower courts have.” (Seattle Mitchell’s mother took the advice of a who refused to provide a wedding cake Gay News – Mike Andrew at Sgn.org) professional, who claimed it was the right for a gay couple. In 2012, Jack Phillips of choice for her son to take estrogen and be- Masterpiece Cakeshop, located in Lake- came fully supportive of her child’s transi- wood, Colorado, refused service to David tion. Mitchell grew out his hair and started Mullins and Charlie Craig, saying that his Chinese military to take the hormones, which resulted in him growing breasts. However, two years says potential later, Mitchell became unsure whether he was making the right decision, and recruits jerk-off changed his mind. “I began to realize I was Thomas Vandergrift & nephew actually comfortable in my body. Every day too much I just felt better,” he told NowToLove.com. au. “I was experiencing discomfort in my Beijing, China – As reported in the determined to be unfounded. But Vander- gender but that’s no longer the case.” “It New York Post, the Chinese military says grift reportedly has suffered greatly due to was the first time I’d heard the phrase excessive masturbation and too many the ordeal, and has been unable to hold a ‘trans,’ and because I’d always identified video games are among the reasons its job. In 2012, Vandergrift filed suit against with girls I thought, well, this makes sense, physical-test failure rates have reached the Pennsauken school district and vari- I probably am a girl,” he explains. “I was Not for sale at Masterpiece Cakeshop an “alarming high.” The People’s Libera- ous school officials, seeking an unspec- always more feminine and liked baking, tion Army is now dishing out advice after ified amount in damages and corrective gymnastics, and fashion – my superhero religion disapproved of same-sex marriage one city saw more than half its candidates measures within the district. Last month, name was Organza Man.” and that he was prohibited by his beliefs – 56.9 percent – fail their physicals, accord- Vandergrift moved a step closer to his day Mitchell explained that he was not wor- from assisting the couple’s marriage. ing to the BBC. —continued on page 12

BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 15, 2017 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 9 VoiceVoice ofof thethe CenterCenter Happy Anniversary, Giovanni’s Room!

By Jennifer Eden 3rd Tuesday of the month. Our host kept the crowd engaged all night between performanc- On Friday September 1, 2017, the GLCCB es from newbies and veterans alike, including celebrated the first anniversary of our Giovan- spotlight features from GLCCB staff mem- ni’s Room Open Mic. The room was filled with bers. love, support, and laughs as day-ones and Kenneth Morrison, co-director of the GL- first-timers shared space to celebrate this CCB, shared some of the work that earned milestone. him the title 2015 National Grand Slam Po- The show kicked off with greetings from etry Champion. Charles Kilborn, GLCCB Uni Q. Mical, resident host of the open mic Peer Navigator, shared a few pieces from his and facilitator of Giovanni’s Room Poetry book entitled “Free(d)verse: I Wrote These Workshop, held at the GLCCB every 1st and For You.” Terrance “Duke the Rude” Porter of Black Men’s Xchange, a GLCCB partner or- May 17, 2014. Soon after, it was announced ganization, shared some of his poems on rac- that Philly AIDS Thrift signed an agreement to ism, homophobia, and systemic oppression. become the proprietor of Giovanni’s Room.” And in addition to planning In addition to its histori- and organizing the event, I cal significance, the store also had the honor of sharing some comes with a bit of folklore. “If of my poetry, including a new you can get a staff member of piece about the most amazing the store to kiss you, then you 4-year-old I know, my soon-to- will be in the direct succession be sister-in-law, called “The of Walt Whitman’s kiss, which Letter M.” flows from Walt to Edward Our open mic and writ- Carpenter to E.M. Forster to ing workshop are aptly named Allen Ginsberg to Bern Boyle, after a 1956 James Baldwin one of the founders of Giovan- novel. According to pride. ni’s Room.” We’re proud to com, “Giovanni’s Room is the have our open mic share a story of all gay and bisexual name with such important fix- men, and it’s beautifully writ- tures in LCBTQ culture. ten. It covers queer everyday To everyone who has experiences like social isolation, passing supported the first year of Giovanni’s Room privilege, masculinity, self-loathing and temp- Open Mic by attending, performing, hosting, tation. Giovanni’s Room also subtly, yet realis- volunteering, vending, setting up, cleaning up, tically, reveals the way class and social stand- DJing, live painting, posting, sharing - thank ing affects our personhood, even more so you! We’ve been going strong for 12 consecu- when we’re queer.” And of course these same tive months with no breaks, no time off, and no experiences can be attributed to folks at all cancellations. Our open mic provides a safe intersections of LGBTQ identities. The novel space for LGBTQ voices and fills a necessary is widely recognized to this day as quintes- void in our community. This first anniversary sential reading for LGBTQ people. celebration showcased the diversity in age, Giovanni’s Room is also the name of racial identity, gender presentation, and per- America’s oldest LGBTQ bookstore. Opening formance experience that we are blessed to in 1973 in Philadelphia, PA, Giovanni’s Room provide a platform for. has expanded in size since its opening and We are honored to provide a platform continues to be a local staple and a must-see for poets, musicians, and vocalists in the lo- spot for LGBTQ tourists. The store’s website cal LGBTQ+ community to share their talents states that “after 41 years of serving the LGBT and stories month after month and will contin- community in Philadelphia, the store closed on ue to make Giovanni’s Room Open Mic more of what our community needs it to be.

All photos by Reese Clark of GodFlow Visuals Sources: http://phillyaidsthriftatgiovannisroom. com/ https://www.pride.com/literary/2016/5/25/why-james-baldwins-giovan- nis-room-must-read-queer-millennials

10 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 15, 2017 • baltimoreoutloud.com THE LATEST UPDATES FROM THE GAY, LESBIAN, BISEXUAL, AND TRANSGENDER COMMUNITY CENTER OF BALTIMORE AND CENTRAL MARYLAND

Events Calendar: September 2017 Sundays Mondays Tuesdays Wedesdays Thursdays Fridays Saturdays 09/15 09/16 09/20 09/21 -City on the Rise Alcoholics Anonymous 09/17 09/18 09/19 -Free & Confidential -Youth Against 5:30pm-7:00pm 5:00pm-8:00pm -Stop in and see a -Narcotics Anonymous -Giovanni’s Room HIV Testing Oppression case manager between Poetry Workshop 6:30pm-8:30pm 4:30pm-6:30pm 09/22 09/23 11:00am-1:00pm 10:00am and 6:00pm 6:30pm-8:30pm ($5) -The Mankind Project -Baltimore Trans Mas- -Black Men’s Xchange Alcoholics Anonymous -Gentle Mindful Yoga 5:00pm-8:00pm 3:30pm-4:45pm ($10) 09/25 -SILhouette 6:30pm-8:30pm culine Alliance 6:30pm – 10:00pm 7:30pm-9:30pm 6:30pm-9:00pm -Helping Hands -Trans Baltimore -TAG Outreach 09/30 09/24 7:00pm-9:00pm -Get Smart with iChat 12:00am-4:00am Clothing Closet 09/26 Alcoholics Anonymous -Narcotics Anonymous 1:00pm-5:00pm 09/27 7:00pm-9:00pm 5:00pm-8:00pm 11:00am-1:00pm -LGBTQ Youth Mental -Free & Confidential 09/29 Gentle Mindful Yoga Health Group HIV Testing 09/28 -Decode Me Youth 3:30pm-4:45pm ($10) 6:00pm-7:30pm ($20) 6:30pm-8:30pm -Youth Against Tech Studio 6:00pm-8:00pm -Pink Lady Dance -The Mankind Project Oppression 6:00pm-9:00pm 6:30pm-8:30pm 4:30pm-7:00pm -Vogue Practice -The Community 6:30pm-9:30pm Cares Project 7:00pm-10:00pm -Sistahs of Pride 7:30pm-9:30pm Director’s Corner

By Mimi Demissew in mind during the redesign is not fun. And, when it comes to our same gender loving Starting next week there will be a new and LGBTQ youth, they have even more Youth Program starting at the GLCCB. The issues to face on a daily basis. Beit being name of the program is the GLCCB Youth misgendered by a peer to whom you have Arts Program. The program is for youth be- already told several times what your pre- tween the ages of 13 to 19. This will be a ferred pronouns are. Or maybe dealing weekly program that will run from 4:30PM with your mother who keeps pointing out to 6:30PM on Mondays. The Program is the nice girl from up the street after you’ve a free art class that will be given in part- come out to her. nership with the Maryland Institute of Art Studies have shown that there is a rela- (MICA). Maddy Wolf, a student of MICA, tionship between engagement with the cre- will be the lead the facilitator. One of the ative arts and positive health outcomes. Art very first tasks that Maddy will be under- therapy ranges from music engagement, taking is to have the youth rename the pro- visual arts therapy, movement-based cre- gram to ensure the program truly reflects ative expression, expressive writing, paint- the youth it serves. GLSEN Baltimore and ing and drawing. In fact there are several GLCCB’s Youth Against Oppression (YAO) studies and disciplines that show evidence will also be collaborating with the program. that art-based interventions are effective in The purpose of the program is to en- reducing adverse physiological and psy- gage young people to use art as a form of chological outcomes. The GLCCB Youth expression. There are many issues that af- Arts Program aims to do just this – engage fect young people in Baltimore. Changing our youth using art to express themselves. schools, making friends, dealing with family This program is open to all youth if you that doesn’t always “get it” can be challeng- know of any youth who may be interested ing for youth. For instance, explaining why please send them our way. you were late to school again to a teacher who doesn’t understand the particular woes of having to take a new bus system that really didn’t have your particular neighbored

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—continued from page 7 bathe properly, after school officials com- lies began “impulsively” following drunken plained of body odor from the child. “You rows with girlfriends as she sought atten- in court when US Magistrate Judge Joel have a little boy who’s nine years old who tion and to arouse jealousy. The judge told Schneider announced a December 4th doesn’t know anything and it’s not that Beale she was a “very, very convincing liar” jury-trial date, barring unforeseen circum- you’re touching them. You just say, ‘You’ve and “enjoyed being seen as a victim.” He stances. got to wash down there in your man parts.’ added: “What is particularly chilling is the In August 2011, Vandergrift informed Yes, I think it’s okay. Because if no one manner in which you persisted in making school officials that he advised his neph- else can do it, how’s he going to learn allegations which you knew were untrue ew, who is autistic, on proper bathing, after anything?” she testified. (Philadelphia Gay even to the extent of committing and re- officials complained of body odor emanat- News – Tom Cwiek at Epgn.com) peating perjury. “These false allegations ing from the child. District officials prompt- of rape, false allegations which will inev- ly contacted the New Jersey’s Division of itably be widely publicized, are likely to Youth and Family Services and reported have the perverse impact of increasing that Vandergrift may have inappropriately Lesbian’s lies the likelihood of guilty men going free. touched his nephew, according to court “Cases such as this bring a real risk that papers. Vandergrift contends the suspect- about rape a woman who has been raped or sexually ed sex abuse reports were retaliatory in assaulted may not complain to the police nature, because he’s gay and advocat- sends man to for fear of not being believed.” (The Tele- ed for a proper education for his autistic graph - Victoria Ward at Telegraph.co.uk/ nephew. Neither side had a comment for jail news/2017/08/24/woman-falsely-accused- this story. But in court papers, district offi- 15-men-rape-sexual-assault-jailed-ten/) cials deny any wrongdoing and continue to London, England - A fantasist who seek dismissal of Vandergrift’s case. invented rape and sexual assault allega- In a deposition, Vandergrift blasted tions against 15 men to get attention from Professor with school officials for not questioning his her girlfriend has been jailed for ten years. Murder victim Trenton Cornell-Duranleau nephew before reporting Vandergrift as a Jemma Beale, 25, claimed she had been help brutally suspected child sex abuser. “The only rea- raped by nine son you called [DYFS] is because I’m gay men and se- kills boyfriend and advocating for [my nephew’s] proper riously sexu- leau had been asleep in Lathem’s high- education,” Vandergrift said. “If I wasn’t ally assaulted as sexual rise Chicago condo when Lathem let War- being a pain in the rear, trying to get him by six in four ren into the 10th-floor unit around 4:30 am the right education, you wouldn’t have different en- fantasy on July 27th – treading carefully so as not called. If I was straight, you wouldn’t have counters over to wake the victim. As Warren stood in a called. Don’t you see that? There was no the space of Chicago, Illinois - A Northwestern doorway, Lathem crept up to Cornell-Du- reasonable belief [of inappropriate touch- three years, University professor, since fired, and a ranleau and began plunging a six-inch ing].” At the time of the allegations, Van- causing one man who worked for Oxford University in drywall saw knife into his chest and neck, dergrift was employed as a teacher, but no man to be England are facing first degree murder Toller said. Lathem had told Warren to take longer wishes to hold that profession. “I wrongly jailed. charges in the slaying of the professor’s video of the killing using his cellphone, but can’t wait to go to law school, because I’m Beale’s 26-year-old boyfriend, according to police. Warren did not end up recording it, the going to come back and make sure every first victim, Wyndham Lathem, 46, an associate pro- prosecutor said. When Cornell-Duranleau single kid in that district is being served Mahad Cas- fessor of microbiology-immunology, and awoke, he began screaming and fought properly,” Vandergrift said in his deposi- Jemma Beale sim, served Andrew Warren, 56, have officially been back; Lathem yelled at Warren, asking tion. “I’m not going to go back as a teacher two years and charged in the fatal stabbing of Trenton him to help subdue Cornell-Duranleau, the because I can’t be around kids because nine months Cornell-Duranleau, a hairstylist. prosecutor said. Warren ran over to cover [school district officials] fucked me up in in jail, while she received £11,000 in crim- The fatal stabbing was part of a sexu- the victim’s mouth, and then struck him in the head.” Vandergrift’s mother and neph- inal injuries compensation following the al- al fantasy hatched in an online chatroom the head with a heavy lamp in an attempt ew also gave depositions in his support. leged rape. Beale made her first allegation, between Lathem and Warren, whose plan to silence him, Toller said. As Lathem con- Vandergrift’s mother noted that her son against Mr. Cassim, in November 2010. included killing someone and then them- tinued to stab the victim, Warren left the merely instructed his nephew on how to The 37-year-old Somalian was giving selves, prosecutors told a Cook County room and returned with two kitchen knives, Beale a lift home when she directed him to judge at a bond hearing for the men. The she said. Warren bent over Cornell-Duran- an alleyway and told him to pull off his un- Illinois prosecutor shared disturbing de- leau and joined Lathem in stabbing him, the prosecutor said. At one point, the vic- These news notes have been compiled, derwear. He was tried for rape in Decem- tails about the July 27th slaying, describ- tim bit Warren’s hand as he struggled to with permission, from the online version ber 2011 but jurors were unable to reach ing to the court how Cornell-Duranleau of various newspapers and other web verdicts. In a retrial the following month he was stabbed 70 times at Lathem’s Chica- fight off the attack. She said the victim’s was convicted and jailed for seven years. go condo with such brutality that he was last words were to Lathem: “Wyndham, sites. We thank these publications for t allowing us to bring you their news sto- Judge Nicholas Loraine-Smith, sit- nearly decapitated. His throat was slit and what are you doing?” (Chicago Tri- ries. Usually the reports have been sig- ting at London’s Southwark Crown Court, pulmonary artery torn. bune, WRIC.com, and Associated Press nificantly edited and you can read the warned that her “grotesque” string of lies Lathem had communicated for months at Chicagotribune.com/news/ct-north- full story by going to the web site men- would increase the likelihood of guilty men before with Warren “carrying out their sex- western-professor-near-north-stabbing-tri- tioned following the item. Comments going free and prevent real victims from ual fantasies of killing others and then bune-coverage-20170810-storygallery. are strictly the opinions of Jim Becker reporting such crimes. The court heard themselves,” Natosha Toller, an assistant html and Wric.com/2017/08/21/prosecu- and not of Baltimore OUTloud or Pride that she went on to make a string of false Cook County state’s Attorney, told the tors-prof-killed-boyfriend-as-part-of-sexu- Media. allegations that took up 6,400 hours of po- court. Lathem paid for Warren’s ticket to al-fantasy) lice time and cost at least £250,000. Most travel to the United States. Cornell-Duran- 12 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 15, 2017 • baltimoreoutloud.com thinking outloud Ending Ignorance, One Circle at a Time Surrounded —continued from page 1 mothers of assault victims, enlightening the far-reaching effects of such assaults not only on the victim (high rate of suicide attempts and by Comfort homophobic power structures which dictate so shattered trust toward the world) but also the much of our lives. multi-layered ripple effects and changes on the Stay cozy and warm “I believe that you have to create dis- families and communities of these altered and comfort in order for there to be change,” says painful lives. The women were brutally open, all winter long. Faulk, who brings forth that discomfort in safe honest, and told their stories in matter-of-fact and remarkable ways as he leads discussions but resonant voices, and the circle seemed to Our Precision Furnace and workshops on potentially polarizing topics physically expand with pain, empathy, and ac- Tune-up and Safety such as race, equity, identy, gender, justice, ceptance with each story. $ punishment and redemption, and the role of Once the chairs were rearranged, the Inspection is only 79 police and police conduct, to name a few. smaller number of men present became the in- when you schedule On a recent Baltimore evening, the Circle ner circle and were asked to answer the same by October 23rd of Voices subject was gender-based violence. question. Even with one man bravely sharing As is often the his painful story of sexu- case, J.C. had inal assault as a child in a vited a guest co-fa- profound and raw way, cilitator, in this case many of the other men Savannah Bada- found it almost impossi- lich, who created a ble to answer the ques- 410-356-4016 White House-rec- Pointing tion directly. Powerful THE RIGHT SOLUTION FOR YOUR COMFORT! Visit us online at AirPlumbingHeating.com ognized campaign, it Out and differing emotions 7000 in Solidarity: A By Sage Piper were unleashed as they Campaign Against were forced to speak A/C, Plumbing and Heating • Service, Repair and Installation Sexual Assault and out loud after being wit- who uses media, technology, and communi- ness to the weight of the pain which had been ty organizing to fight gender-based violence released by the voices of the women before and discrimination. Ms. Badalich led a discus- them. With emotionally-frank prodding from sion on gender and sexual identity and then Faulk several were able to express the pain broke the group up into smaller circles, where and anguish they felt recounting their experi- the discussion dissected the phrases “act like ences of helplessness as they had witnessed a lady” and then “act like a man” – the prej- their mothers or sisters being the victim of as- udices, expectations, limits, and shackles of sault at the hands of a man. 1001 N Charles St, Baltimore, MD 21201 these societal terms. Next, the question “How As I participated in this evening, I felt so 410-752-7133 • grandcentralclub.com has gender-based violence affected you?” heavily that as incredibly powerful and trans- was projected onto the screen, and the group formative as this dialogue was, there was was asked to answer this question, out loud something missing – the gay and transgender voices. There was a transgender woman “As I participated in present who shared that she did not feel the need to speak to this topic, and I myself as a this evening, I felt gay woman have not been the victim of gender violence – so the palpable chance for gay an there was something transgender addition to the spoken circle of ex- missing – the gay and perience was not there. And more of us need to be there. transgender voices.” Faulk believes that until “the least heard of us is cared for, and until all reasonable voices and honestly, to everyone present. The wom- are attended to, none of us can be free or ab- en went first, forming an inner circle with their solved of responsibility. We create a synergy chairs with the men outside in a larger circle, that continuously infuses a sense of bonding and afterward the groups exchanged places. across difference, which can be called upon The specific instruction was to speak just to in times of great strife and intermittent societal the members of your circle, as if the members unrest. It can also be the energy that drives of the other gender were not even present. our day-to-day interactions.” We need to con- What unfolded, with the women was a sciously be a part of this conversation in his powerful dialogue of violent assaults and the Circle of Voices, so that our voice can be at- painful, often shame-filled aftermath of gen- tended to, cared for, and an integral part of a TWO DANCE FLOORS der-based assault from all sides of the coin transformative future forged together with oth- – victims of assault from childhood and from er voices of peace and equity. t the present as well as mothers and adoptive Get to know more at Circlesofvoices.com BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 15, 2017 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 13 quality of life

ily and treats him or her as a natural-born member of the adoptive family. This includes the right to inherit from both parents above, the formula then predicts what per- if they die without a will. centage of the parents combined income If one parent has already adopted the would have been attributed to the child(ren) The Law child, a “second-parent adoption” is fair- The Law had they continued living together. This & You ly straightforward. But in the context of a & You number is then used to determine the “ba- Lee Carpenter blended family, adoption is more compli- Atty. Valerie E. Anias sic child support obligation.” The addi- cated. Consent would first have to be ob- tional factors such as work-related child tained from the child’s other biological par- care and health insurance are incorporat- When is a Child ent. This person may be close to the child, ed to determine the “total child support obli- could even have shared custody, and may Modifying Child gation” that the non-custodial parent would feel no inclination to give up his or her le- be responsible for paying to the custodial Not a Child? gal rights in favor of the child’s stepparent. Support parent. Some exceptions exist, such as, if If that’s the case, the best solution is a parent receives Social Security income, Fans of the folk group Peter, Paul & Mary for the stepparent to have a current estate Calculating child support and modifying food stamps, or transitional services which may remember this lyric: “Home is where plan. By preparing a will, the stepparent child support are two difficult concepts that would not be considered actual monthly the heart is, no matter how the heart lives.” can honor her commitment to love and tend to invoke a bit of confusion. To sim- income. Later in her career, Mary Travers’s voice care for the child as her own by providing plify and define each, this article first dis- After you’ve received the child support may have aged, but she still sang this an inheritance. There will be no inheritance cusses how child support is calculated and order, then what? Often, we meet with cli- message of gay equality with undiminished tax to pay on this gift, and the bequest can then how child support can be modified. ents that don’t know they can request a gusto. ensure that the child is provided even if the Frequently parents are confused by the change to their previous custody or sup- Home is where the heart is, especially stepparent is out of the picture. child support calculation when considering port order. For example, a child support for those of us in the LGBT community, who In addition to helping the child finan- their other bills and order from ten years may not fit the traditional definition of fam- cially, the stepparent’s will can encour- obligations. What “The amount of child ago is likely very dif- ily. The most important people in our lives age the child to excel in life by placing many don’t realize is ferent than a child may be bound to us the inheritance into that in nearly all sce- support ordered is support order today. more through emo- “Bonds of affection do a trust. A trustee narios, the amount determined by a What if one par- tional connections would be named to of child support or- ent has a new job? than legal ones. make a family strong manage the assets dered is determined calculator, and factors What if the child has Bonds of affec- and cohesive, but they on the child’s be- by a calculator, and new needs? What tion do make a family half. In addition to factors such as “I such as ‘I have student if one parent lost strong and cohesive, may not be enough to meeting the child’s have student loans” loans’ or ‘I have rent to their job? There but they may not be day-to-day needs or “I have rent to are many changes enough to sustain sustain it in a crisis. for health care, edu- pay” don’t necessari- pay’ don’t necessarily that may occur that it in a crisis. This is This is especially true cation, and support, ly matter. make it necessary especially true for the trustee could be Maryland uses a matter.” for you to modify our children. The for our children.” instructed to make Child Support Guide- your court order. blending of families a large lump-sum line formula to calculate child support. The key element of a modification is through adoption or payment to the child Both parents are required to complete a that there must be a material change in remarriage can complicate the legal con- upon graduation from college or profes- financial statement which outlines the var- circumstance. A parent getting a new job nection between parent and child. Being a sional school. ious components of that formula. First, but maintaining a similar salary or moving loving parent means taking advantage of Mary Travers once said that she was the parents identify their actual monthly to another home in the same neighbor- every benefit the law provides to protect raised to believe that everybody has a re- income. This would include salary, So- hood are generally not considered a mate- this essential relationship. sponsibility to their community. We also cial Security benefits, rial change in circumstance. However, in No matter what the law says, a mar- have a responsibility to ourselves and our alimony, etc. Sec- many cases situations do arise ried couple raising a child may consider children. Call an estates and trusts attor- ond, the parents which require one the child to be unequivocally theirs – loved ney to ensure that your legal commitment then identify ear- parent to seek a and cared for by the two of them equally. to your children is as solid as your emo- lier child support modification. Par- But the legal reality may be different. tional one. t or alimony ob- ents come to our If the child is from one spouse’s prior Lee Carpenter is an associate attorney ligations – per office because marriage, or was adopted by one partner at the law firm of Semmes, Bowen & Sem- court order – one parent has re- alone, the other spouse is a stepparent mes and can be reached at 410-576-4729 which will received a significant with very few legal rights. Decisions about or [email protected]. Learn more duce their ac- raise, has moved the child’s education and medical care about LGBT estate planning at Mdlgbtes- tual monthly far away, or has must be made by the biological or adoptive tateplanning.com. This article is intended income. This is started a relationship parent, and the stepparent simply has no to provide general info, not particular legal called their ad- with a questionable say. In addition, if the stepparent were to advice. justed monthly person. When these die without a will, the child would receive income. Third, if there material changes oc- nothing from the estate – even though the are any work related child care expenses, cur, the court can then stepparent may have taken on the respon- health insurance expenses, or extraordi- evaluate whether the original order sibilities of parenthood wholeheartedly. nary medical expenses such as braces, is still in the best interests of your child. One way to avoid this outcome is for those will also be identified by both par- If the court determines it is not, then the the stepparent to adopt the child. Adoption ents. above child support calculation is reused effectively removes a child from one fam- Once both parties have identified the to determine what the new amount ought t 14 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 15, 2017 • baltimoreoutloud.com to be. quality of life // Health and Wellness

the brain responds with the pleasure cen- National HIV/AIDS & ters lighting up, and therefore, this behav- Ask ior is almost baked in to the psyche. Going back thousands of years, in hunting-gather- Ageing Awareness Day to be Dr. J ing societies, if one person was in pain, it affected everyone. So that physiological re- Janan Broadbent, Ph.D. sponse has evolved to making us altruistic. Honored September 18th Perhaps this behavior is more pronounced when communities feel totally helpless in By Kate Bishop recognize this community each year? Nature’s Best the face of natural disasters, when we know LGBT Health Resource Center of Chase More than half of all people living with controlling our environment is out of our Brexton Health Care HIV in the US are 50 years old or old- hands. Then, helping one another becomes Each year, September 18th is honored er. Our longtime survivors are not Deed natural as everyone is in the same boat, and as National HIV/AIDS and Aging just surviving – a large majori- sometimes quite literally, in floods. Awareness Day, a time to recog- ty are thriving. They were on Harvey, Irma, Jose ... As we’ve watched with Once the intensity of the weather dies nize the struggles and triumphs of the front lines of an unknown awe, what Mother Nature can do, it’s also down, and rebuilding begins, how do we HIV-positive elders, and highlight threat, and were frequently brought us face-to-face with the best traits keep the same sense of camaraderie? How the challenges they still face. ridiculed, stigmatized and of human beings. Frankly, in the do we not slide into the po- The LGBT Health Resource shunned. Our HIV-posi- last several months, I had start- larized country that we have Center has created a place for tive elders are true pillars ed to question my basic belief Promoting become? Will people re- these individuals to share their of courage: born out of fear, in the positive and good nature member that it was a black stories and draw strength from each with strength realized out of of people. The divisiveness, the compassion man, or a Muslim soldier, or other with its new LGBTQ 50-plus HIV necessity and resilience initiated nasty and cruel comments on social media a transgender neighbor, or a gay or lesbian Group. by trauma. They are caregivers, family and elsewhere, even with people face-to- member of the community that pulled them We asked the group’s coordinator, Monte members, neighbors, friends and survivors. face with others in stores, became a huge out of the flood or the hurricane winds? I Ephraim, LCSW-C, to share more about this What has surprised you the most obstacle to having faith in the human race. am definitely hopeful that those memories important day. about the stories and participants in Granted, there were many factors adding will produce changes. I base my belief on Chase Brexton’s group? the fact that living through traumatic times “We need to know and I’ve been most surprised by similarities “When people take does bond people. We see others, those we remember that our HIV- the participants share, despite their differ- care of each other, the thought were so different than us, after all, ences. Each member’s age of diagnosis are just like us, with the same needs and positive elders are more and treatment regimen varies, but their brain responds with feelings. Further, that we are all human be- bond is evident. Each of their experiences ings in that moment of vulnerability and the than their viral loads was familiar, and there is a recognition of a the pleasure centers rescuer’s skin color, religion, sexual prefer- and statistics. They community many once feared belonging to. lighting up, and ence, or political affiliation make no differ- Members found solace in the support of the ence other than they have the strength to can teach and confirm group, and the ability to feel without concern therefore, this behavior take care of us. and verbalize their thoughts without censor- If our communities can come together the power of support, ing or hesitation. is almost baked in to as a whole following the tragedies and the human contact and What can HIV-positive elders teach the psyche.” disaster, nature will have, in a way, healed us? the country through this drastic move. Per- kindness.” We need to know and remember that fuel to that fire, but I kept wondering how haps it is too Pollyanna-ish to expect this, our HIV-positive elders are more than their any person could become so twisted. This but I would rather put my faith in that than What are some of the key challenges viral loads and statistics. They can teach from someone who has been working with lament that we are being punished for our confronting HIV-positive elders? and confirm the power of support, human people for the last 35 years... sins or that we are a victim of circumstances The diseases that typically impact contact and kindness. That’s what they have When people take care of each other, that we curse. t HIV-negative individuals in their 60s and 70s reinforced for me. may occur in people with HIV in their 40s and 50s, as well as potentially cause chron- The LGBT Health Resource Center’s ic inflammation throughout the body. LGBTQ 50-plus HIV Group meets at Chase Hearts & Ears, Inc. Older adults with HIV have an average Brexton’s Mount Vernon Cen- is a non-profit organization for Gay, of three other health conditions. With ter on Wednesdays from Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, good, consistent medical care and 3:30 to 5:00 pm. Initial assessments are needed Intersex and Questioning individuals oversight, these health concerns with mental health issues can be minimized, and appropriate to join the group. For more interventions can be implement- information or to schedule and concerns. ed. HIV-positive elders may also an appointment, call 410- t We warmly welcome all sexual and struggle with increased isolation 837-2050 x1119. related to their aging and the loss To learn more about Wellness and gender minorities. of previous sources of social The LGBT Health Resource Recovery Center Sun. through Tues. Closed support and Center’s groups and pro- Wed. through Sat. 10 a.m. to 6 p.m friends. grams, visit Chasebrexton.org/ Monte Ephraim 611 PARK AVENUE SUITE A BALTIMORE, MD 21201 • 410-523-1694 Why is it LGBTQSupport. – helping poz heartsandears.org important to elders bond

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A mite “Anyone who gets itchy! In addition to showering and removing all a new rash after ticks as soon as you find them, check yourself again for ticks, completely unclothed removing a tick should and with a mirror or a friend to view areas Open Wide you can’t see, about 24 hours after you be seen by a medical ask Dr Eva leave a potentially tick infested area. If you professional.” Dr Eva Hersh do find a tick, remove it gently with tweezers Scabies by pulling it away from your body and slightly There is now a Lyme disease vaccine for upward. If the head remains in your dogs. We can hope there will soon be one The Rashes of skin, do not try for people. 7) Impetigo is a very contagious bacterial Summer icide medications – a Lyme skin infection that is common in children but prescription lotion applied to the also can occur at any age. Impetigo develops Because of the warm weather and spend- skin or by taking prescription pills; disease when bacteria that are common, harmless ing more time outside, people get both methods are effective. Scabies colonizers on the surface of the skin enter more skin rashes in summer than often occurs on the wrists, in be- deeper layers of the skin through tiny breaks any other time of year. Some Part 2 tween fingers, in the armpits, in the surface. rashes are easy to recognize; around the waist, and in the Impetigo starts as small red patches identifying others takes some of 2 genital area. The second pic- on the face, arms or legs. It often develops detective work. Any skin infection ture, above, shows is scabies around a child’s nose and mouth, or on the that comes with a fever, headache, short- in between the fingers. Scabies arms and legs in areas where insect bites ness of breath, or abdominal pain should is one of the few rashes that can be have been scratched. The red areas become be evaluated by a medical professional. found between the fingers. fragile blisters, which quickly burst and drain This column – the second of two – covers 6) Lyme disease has been found in fluid.T his dries to form honey-colored crusts. scabies, Lyme disease rash, and impetigo. every state, but it is by far most common In most cases, impetigo will get better in a 5) Scabies is a severe, persistent itch in the Northeast and Mid-Atlantic regions. few days with gentle washes to remove loose that seems way out of proportion to the usu- It is feared because long-term infection crusts and use of over the counter bacitracin ally mild appearance of the rash. The can cause permanent damage to the or triple antibiotic ointment. If the rash does itch is so severe joints, heart, and spinal nerves. Most cas- not improve, see your health care provider es occur in the late spring and summer. to confirm the diagnosis. Prescription an- Lyme is caused by a bacteria, Borrelia tibiotics or oral antibiotics help to clear up bergdorferi, which is carried by a small tick impetigo and prevent if from spreading to called the black legged tick or deer tick. others. t This tiny tick (the size of a poppy seed) Tick, tock Dr. Eva Hersh is a Baltimore family phy- is found in shrubs and tall grasses, espe- trouble sician. Please send questions and com- cially in woods and cleared areas next to ments to her by email at dr.eva@baltimore- woods. The tick does not attach to the per- to remove outloud.com. son until 24 hours after it lands on the skin. it. It will not harm you and will The bacteria is not transmitted until the tick come out by itself. has been attached to a person for a blood About 80% of people who are infect- Scabies meal for at least 24 hours. (The tick likes a ed develop a red oval rash (see photos). here between fingers – leisurely meal!) If a tick is removed within The rash usually appears seven to 14 days one of the few rashes that 24 hours of the time it attaches (48 hours after the tick bite. The rash can be on any shows up inter-digitally after it arrives) infection is much less like- part of the body. Sometimes there are two ly. Since the tick does not attach until 24 or more separate rashes. The rash is not hours after arriving, a thorough shower af- itchy or painful. If the rash has the target pat- that people scratch ter your hike or outside work can do a lot to tern (first photo), it is almost certainly a sign deep grooves through their skin. This remove any ticks that have come of Lyme, and the person should be treated Impetigo rash is also called “the seven-year itch.” home with you. with oral antibiotics. Anyone who gets a new Scabies is caused by infestation of the Lyme rash after removing a tick should be seen skin by the human itch mite, Sarcoptes by a medical professional. scabiei. The mite is passed by skin con- disease If a tick has been removed and no rash tact between people – even a handshake appears, monitor for fever, muscle aches can lead to transmission. It may take six and headaches, and contact a health care weeks after acquiring the mite before the provider if any of these occur. itch begins. Avoiding tick bites: Wear long pants and The initial symptoms of scabies are long sleeves if you expect to be in a wooded small red, raised bumps that are intense- area. Tuck your pants into your shoes: ticks ly itchy. There may be tiny blisters. A mag- A real often attach to ankles. Use a DEET-based nifying glass may show short, wavy lines lemon! insect repellent applied to any exposed skin, of red skin, which are the burrows made and spray DEET spray on your clothes. Con- Very by the mites. sider postponing hikes in the woods until the contagious! Treatment is with any of several scab- fall.

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IMPORTANT PATIENT INFORMATION This is only a summary. See complete Prescribing Information at Mytesi.com or by calling 1-844-722-8256. This does not take the place of talking with your doctor about your medical condition or treatment. What Is Mytesi? Mytesi is a prescription medicine used to improve symptoms of noninfectious diarrhea (diarrhea not caused by a bacterial, viral, or parasitic infection) in adults living with HIV/AIDS on ART. Do Not Take Mytesi if you have diarrhea caused by an infection. Before you start Mytesi, your doctor and you should make sure your diarrhea is not caused by an infection (such as bacteria, virus, or parasite). Possible Side Effects of Mytesi Include: • Upper respiratory tract infection (sinus, nose, and throat infection) • Bronchitis (swelling in the tubes that carry air to and from your lungs) • Cough • Flatulence (gas) • Increased bilirubin (a waste product when red blood cells break down) For a full list of side effects, please talk to your doctor. Tell your doctor if you have any side effect that bothers you or does not go away. You are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the FDA. Visit www.fda.gov/medwatch or Tired of planning your life around diarrhea? call 1-800-FDA-1088. Should I Take Mytesi If I Am: Pregnant or Planning to Become Pregnant? • Studies in animals show that Mytesi could harm an unborn baby or affect the ability to become pregnant Enough is Enough • There are no studies in pregnant women taking Mytesi • This drug should only be used during pregnancy if clearly needed Get relief. Pure and simple. Ask your doctor about Mytesi. A Nursing Mother? • It is not known whether Mytesi is passed through human breast milk Mytesi (crofelemer): • If you are nursing, you should tell your doctor before starting Mytesi • Is the only medicine FDA-approved to relieve diarrhea in people with HIV • Your doctor will help you to decide whether to stop nursing or to stop • Treats diarrhea differently by normalizing the flow of water in the GI tract taking Mytesi Under 18 or Over 65 Years of Age? • Has the same or fewer side effects as placebo in clinical studies • Mytesi has not been studied in children under 18 years of age • Comes from a tree sustainably harvested in the Amazon Rainforest • Mytesi studies did not include many people over the age of 65. So it is not clear if this age group will respond differently. Talk to your doctor to What is Mytesi? find out if Mytesi is right for you Mytesi is a prescription medicine that helps relieve symptoms of diarrhea not caused by What Should I Know About Taking Mytesi an infection (noninfectious) in adults living with HIV/AIDS on antiretroviral therapy (ART). With Other Medicines? If you are taking any prescription or over-the-counter medicine, herbal Important Safety Information supplements, or vitamins, tell your doctor before starting Mytesi. Mytesi is not approved to treat infectious diarrhea (diarrhea caused by bacteria, a virus, What If I Have More Questions About Mytesi? or a parasite). Before starting you on Mytesi, your healthcare provider will first be sure that you For more information, please see the full Prescribing Information at do not have infectious diarrhea. Otherwise, there is a risk you would not receive the right medicine Mytesi.com or speak to your doctor or pharmacist. and your infection could get worse. In clinical studies, the most common side effects that occurred To report side effects or make a product complaint or for additional information, call 1-844-722-8256. more often than with placebo were upper respiratory tract (sinus, nose, and throat) infection (5.7%), bronchitis (3.9%), cough (3.5%), flatulence (3.1%), and increased bilirubin (3.1%). Rx Only For Copay Savings Card and Manufactured by Patheon, Inc. Patient Assistance, see Mytesi.com for Napo Pharmaceuticals, Inc. San Francisco, CA 94105 Copyright © Napo Pharmaceuticals, Inc. Mytesi comes from the Croton lechleri tree harvested Please see complete Prescribing Information at Mytesi.com. in South America.

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shanah and its companion holidays have Bolton Street special significance for Bolton Street Syn- Certified Public Accountants agogue, for three reasons. Synagogue High 1) Bolton Street Synagogue will be celebrating its second year as a member of Holy Days the worldwide Reform Jewish movement. After 31 years as an unaffiliated congrega- Ready for the 2017 Tax Season? tion, in 2016 Bolton Street joined the Union for Reform Judaism, making it the only Bal- We Can Help You. CALL US TODAY! Bolton Street Synagogue invites all Rosh timore City-based congregation of its type. Hashanah worshipers to a picnic and out- 2) Services will be led by Rabbi Andrew door service in its meadow on the evening Gordon who just two months ago arrived of Wednesday, September 20th, starting at in Baltimore from New York. His dynamism 5 pm. This service is free. and community-minded focus syncs ex- All are welcome to participate in this ceedingly well with the congregation. Making a Difference for Businesses & Individuals erev (opening night) Rosh Hashanah 3) In his sermons, Rabbi Gordon will With client focus as the base of every service, Bridges & Associates, CPA’s event. The evening begins with a “Picnic discuss the important role of community in of Baltimore, MD offers area businesses and individuals specialized CPA in the Meadow” followed by a musical pre- supporting well-being, which is a core in- lude by flutist Leslie Margolis and pianist terest at Bolton Street Synagogue known services tailored to the industry, business entity and targeted needs. Mark Giuliano. At 6:15 pm, Rabbi Andrew for its dedication to inclusion and advance- Services for Business Services Tax Services Gordon will begin the erev Rosh Hasha- ment for all. Individuals -Small Business Accounting -Tax Preparation nah service. Synagogue members have undertaken -Estate Planning -Online Payroll -Tax Planning Anyone wanting to order a delicious a social action initiative to help Baltimore -Elder Care -QuickBooks Services -Tax Problems picnic meal can do so at Boltonstreet.org/ City achieve substantial gains in K-12 ed- -Payroll - Bank Financing t worship/holidays. All other participation for ucation. New Business Formation the evening is free. Please visit the Bolton Bolton Street Synagogue, with some Street Synagogue website for parking 150 individuals and families, is a Balti- 835 Hollins St. Baltimore, MD, 21201 • 410-908-8134 information and the holiday schedule of more-based Reform Jewish congregation events. located on Cold Spring Lane in Roland [email protected] • bridgescpas.com This year’s celebration of Rosh Ha- Park.

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Variety’s the an estranged daughter. for certain statues and monuments,” said Signature family, we’re looking forward to It’s A Wonderful Life: A Live Radio the Colonial Players’ Sarah Wade. “The entertaining, challenging, and inspiring our Watchword with Play, running from December 1st to De- rest of the season really has something audiences.” cember 10th, tells the story of the idealis- for everyone. I think the audience will find Running from through October 8th is the Colonial tic George Bailey. The beloved American that we’re covering a lot of ground, from A Little Night Music, Stephen Sondheim’s holiday classic comes to captivating life as interpersonal relationships to generational glorious musical masterpiece. In 1900 Players a live 1940s radio broadcast. differences, farce to drama.” Sweden, on a magical night that smiles Running from January 12th to Febru- For more info, its Thecolonialplayers. three times, an ageing actress, a married By Frankie Kujawa ary 4th, 2018, Quartet follows the story org. t virgin, a sex-starved divinity student, and The Colonial Players of Annapolis have residents of a home for retired opera sing- a buffoonish count find themselves hilari- reason to celebrate this upcoming 2017- ers in Kent, England. When an unexpect- ously tangled in a web of love affairs. 18 season, as they mark their 69th season ed guest shows up, hilarity and disruption An Act of God, running from October bringing amazing theater to the Annapolis ensue. Signature 3rd to November 26th, is an exception- and Baltimore communities. Sex with Strangers, running from Feb- ally witty comedy delivers a new Running from September 8th to Oc- ruary 23rd to March 18th, follows Ethan Theatre’s Season meaning to the phrase tober 1st is Shiloh – a hyper-connected millennial and star blogger. His first book Sex with Pulls Threads Strangers, a collection of personal blog posts that chronicles his many from the sexual exploits, is a best-seller. Ol- ivia is a gifted but obscure Gen-X American novelist. When the two meet one snowy night, they each crave what Fabric the other possesses. As attrac- By Frankie Kujawa tion turns to sex, they inch closer Baltimore Arlington, Virginia’s Signature The- to getting what they want. Before atre has been hard at work prepar- that happens, however, each must ing a fabulous array of performanc- Fall confront the dark side of ambition es for the upcoming 2017-2018 as they try to reinvent themselves season. “This season will be a OUTloud in a digital world where the past is series of experiences audienc- only a click away. es can’t get anywhere else: the Lucky Stiff, running from April best musicals in town and a host 6th to May 6th, is based on the Theatre of thrilling DC and world pre- novel The Man Who Broke the 2017 mieres, all of which put audiences Bank at Monte Carlo, by Michael right into the action with our unique- Butterworth. Lucky Stiff is an off- ! ly intimate theaters,” said Maggie Bo- beat, hilarious murder mystery land, the theatre’s Managing Director. farce, complete with mistaken Special “With many of our favorite artists return- Rules, the story of a identities, six million bucks in diamonds, ing to work alongside some extraordinary dedicated Union nurse and a mysterious and a corpse in a wheelchair. new members of the Confederate refugee who meet on the Shi- Casa Valentina, written by Harvey loh battlefield to Fierstein, will run from May 25th to June 17th. The Tony Award-winning compete for the Crazy for play is set in the Catskills in 1962 ‘Shiloh title of Best Fe- You at male Reenactor – land of dirty dancing and Borscht Signature Rules is now of the Year. As the Belt comedy – where an inconspicu- Theatre “divine in- tervention.” re-enactment rag- ous bungalow colony caters to a very God is back. And he’s got a lot to say. incredibly es out of control, special clientele: heterosexual men Flanked by his ever-faithful archangels, all characters dis- who delight in dressing and acting as the Supreme Being gifts his mortals with timely due to cover that some women. These white-collar profession- an entirely new set of Ten Commandments conflicts of the als escape their family lives to spend in a sinfully funny whirlwind of comedy the national Civil War weren’t discreet weekends away inhabiting heaven. left behind in their female alter-egos. When the op- Crazy for You, running from November conversation 1862. portunity to share their secret lives with 7th to January 14th, 2018, is the story of 33 Variations, the world arises, the members of this a musical-loving banker sent to foreclose about the running from Oc- sorority must decide whether societal on a small-town theatre and decides to re- tober 20th to No- freedom outweighs the risk of potential vive it instead with the magic of the follies, place for vember 12th, is ruin. some slapstick comedy, and a whole lot of the story of a mu- “What’s amazing about our upcom- charm. certain sicologist trying ing season is that our first show, Shiloh Up next is 4,380 Nights, running from to accomplish her Rules, which we picked over a year and January 16th to February 18th. For the last statues and life’s work in the a half ago is now incredibly timely due to 12 years, or 4,380 days, Malik Djamal Ah- face of a debilitat- the recent events in Charlottesville, and mad Essaid has been held without charge monuments.’ ing disease and the national conversation about the place by the US government at Guantanamo

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Bay. As he languishes in his cell, his inter- between high school and whatever comes questions are explored in the context of actions with those on the outside are jux- next. College-bound jock Mike and self-as- a new play about the seemingly insur- taposed with historical events in a riveting sured but aimless Will find themselves mountable distance that open up when exposé into the most dangerous prison of drawn to each other. Their rush people of the same religion hold radically all – fear. of first-time love – full of different beliefs. “The play asks what hap- Acclaimed folk / rock / indie excitement, confusion, pens when we lose faith in our leaders and band Eddie From Ohio’s Robbie and passion – is cap- our institutions,” Kwei-Armah says. Schaefer crafts a touching and tured by the power-pop Shakespeare in Love, running from funny world premiere musical por- precision and frayed gui- October 19th to November 26th, is the trait featuring Bobby Smith in Light tar emotion of Matthew Sweet’s alterna- charming story of love, inspiration, muses, Years. Running from February 6th to March tive rock album “Girlfriend.” and art, based on the Oscar-winning film 4th, the story follows Robbie a s The Scottsboro Boys, running from of the same name. This smart, poignant May 22nd to July 1st delivers a breathtak- tale offers a smattering of allusions that ing musical critique of a stunning true will delight anyone familiar with the Bard – Run- story of racism and injustice in the or simply the English language. ning from Steptember 22nd to American South. Audiences will fall down the rabbit October 21st is Irving Berlin’s beloved mu- “The 28th Season at Signa- hole with Alice and a cast of characters sical comedy Annie Get Your Gun. ture is one that deals with ev- as Looking Glass Alice runs from Novem- Musical Comedy Murders of 1940, an ery aspect of the American ex- ber 30th to December 31st. If you’re curi- ingenious and wildly comic romp which perience―celebrating great ouser about the other side, David Catlin’s pokes antic fun at the more ridiculous as- American composers such adapted tale will send you into a tailspin pects of “show biz” and the corny thrillers as Sondheim and the Ger- of queens and pawns, riddles and mind of Hollywood’s heyday will run from Febru- shwins,” says Artistic Di- games, madness and tea parties through- ary 9th to 24th, 2018. rector Eric Schaeffer. out the holiday season. The season comes to a grand finale as Baltimore Ragtime, running from June 1st to 30th, “We’re also proud to Running from January 25th to March be able to present two 4th, Skeleton Crew tells the story of four explores three distinctly American tales Fall world premieres by DC workers at the last exporting auto plant in woven together – that of an upper-class playwrights.” Detroit struggling to survive as their way wife, a Jewish immigrant, and a young OUTloud For more info, it’s of life disappears. Set around 2008, this Harlem musician. Sigtheatre.org. t play vividly portrays the modern struggle in “2nd Star is known for its grand- a changing America, and reveals the real people on the factory line. Theatre George Orwell’s Animal Farm, run- 2017 ning from March 1st to April 1st, is the ! Center Stage: epic saga of animal comrades fighting to gain their freedom and an established Special Community system of thought – Animalism. The season will close with a world-pre- Comes Together miere play with music, running from May 3rd to June 10th. To be announced, this By Frankie Kujawa major new musical project will be Kwame Baltimore’s Center Stage upcoming 2017- Kwei-Armah’s grand finale as artistic di- he journeys from 18 season might be considered a musical rector, and promises to get you up on your his childhood in India chord. As Artistic Director Kwame Kwei-Ar- feet singing and dancing along to music to the joys and struggles of mah puts it, “On its own, each play is clear of the 1960s and 1970s that continues to style shows, with large casts, sets, growing up, pursuing his passion, and full, representing a singular, powerful touch the soul and heart of a generation. and orchestras with quality beyond what and raising a family. Entwined throughout note. Together, they say something.” For more info, it’s Centerstage.org. t you’d expect from community theatre, is his cherished relationship with his father “’The Season of Community,’ as we’re and our 2017-18 will not disappoint,” says – and his father’s haunted past. calling it, is our first full season back in our Nathan Bowen, the company’s president. John, which runs from April 3rd to 29th, completely renovated home,” continued “Annie Get Your Gun is sure to charm au- is set amid the holiday bustle, where young Kwei-Armah. “More than ever, the need 2nd Star diences with its well-known songs and ro- Brooklyn couple Elias and Jenny escape to seek a sense of togetherness for our mantic comedy. Murders of 1940 will have on a much-needed getaway to a cozy community’s wellbeing seems urgently Productions viewers rolling in the aisles with its wildly bed-and-breakfast in Gettysburg, Penn- essential. Baltimore Center Stage is ex- comic script - a welcome escape from the sylvania. However, under the watchful eye ploring every play of this season through Reigns at the winter doldrums of February. We round out of the cheery, if slightly off, innkeeper, a the lens of how we serve our community the season next June with the epic Rag- ghost seems to haunt their crumbling re- of Baltimore, of Maryland, of these United Bowie Playhouse time, with a sweeping story, beautiful mu- lationship. States.” sic, and important themes that remain truly Running from April 17th to June 10th Running from September 7th to Octo- By Frankie Kujawa relevant today.” is Girlfriend, a vibrant and tender coming- ber 8th, The Christians asks, “Does abso- 2nd Star Productions, performing quality For more info, it’s 2ndstarproductions. of-age musical duet from when flannel lute tolerance require tolerance of the in- theatrical productions at the Bowie Play- com. t was the height of fashion and mix tapes tolerant? Can a divided head find a way to house in Bowie, Maryland, since 1996, is were the language of love. It’s 1993 in lead? When the stakes are eternity, what gearing up for a no-holds-barred 2017-18 small-town Nebraska during the summer happens if your pastor is wrong?“ These season.

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clown dolls for one that looks suspiciously like Curry’s Pennywise). Skarsgård’s Pen- nywise, with the help of some killer makeup knows what you and CGI effects (I was more disturbed by his It Scares often wandering eye than anything else) is the stuff of nightmares – especially if you by Chuck Duncan begin to uncover Stephen King lurking around them are patently false, but suffer from Coulrophobia. In fact, I’m going In 1986, Stephen King’s 18th novel was an evil in Derry, he doesn’t know that). Stanley’s dad is dis- to put it right out here and say if you’re easily released set in the fictional town of Derry, something that pushes red appointed with him for not committing fully to triggered by clowns, bullies, confined spac- Maine – a place King would return to in three has made this his bar mitzvah activities, and Beverly’s dad es, or some other kinds of abuse, this may subsequent novels. In 1990, ABC aired a town the number buttons is ... well, he’s just the most vile of them all. not be the film for you. All of these things are two-part, four-hour miniseries that garnered one place for disappearances and deaths of There’s nothing overt about his relationship what make the movie more disturbing than good reviews, big ratings, and has the town’s children. This thing they call “It” with his daughter, but there is plenty of in- outright horrific. become a cult classic, mak- is an entity that has been around for cen- nuendo to tell us all we need to know about But director Andy Muschietti, who also ing Tim Curry an overnight turies, feeding every 27 years the guy and why Beverly is so afraid of him. did the supremely creepy Mama, pulls it all sensation, 15 years after be- on the fears of the It’s almost more disturbing than a demonic together, keeping the pace moving along coming an overnight sensa- town’s clown. even at over two hours, and gives us some tion from The Rocky Horror It almost never made it to the big screen of the best performances by kids in a very Picture Show. That novel after the original director walked long time. The only complaint I have is that and miniseries was It and when the studio balked at him mak- we could have used just a little more back- now the movie has final- ing this a two-parter and filming in ground on the parents, especially Eddie’s ly made its way to the New York, where it would be more mom and Beverly’s dad. Other than that, It big screen where it can Enjoys life in expensive. They wanted one movie is a supremely satisfying, self-contained sto- delve a little deeper into a place wet or no deal. He left, a new director was ry that is certain to get under your skin and King’s novel than a TV as Houston hired, the filming location was moved make it crawl. And you might also think twice movie ever could (but to Toronto and ... even though it’s not before walking past that sewer drain on the some of the seriously being promoted as such, this is the first street. messed up stuff from of two movies (a title card at the end It runs 135 minutes, and is rated R for vio- the book was still calls this Chapter One – and with a $100 lence/horror, bloody images, and language. t a bit much for the million-plus opening weekend, you can be film, and for good sure there will be a Chapter Two). And that reasaon ... we’ll just is another of the changes from the book leave it at that). and miniseries which cut back and forth be- The first major change from the tween the kids and the adult versions of the novel is the time period, moving it up 30 kids. As Pennywise only emerges once ev- years to 1988 (which, perhaps unfortunately, children, man- ery 27 years, the kids make a pact to return gives the film a little too much of a Stranger ifesting itself into whatev- to Derry to finally kill the monster when it re- Things vibe, especially with Finn Wolfhard er scares them most and then taking turns, and they go their separate ways. So appearing in both projects). The film opens them to its lair. Will Bill and the rest of The there is more story to tell. But don’t let that with little Georgie Denbrough anxious to go Losers be able to defeat “It” (aka Pennywise put you off from seeing It now because even play in the rain with his paper boat that big the Dancing Clown) before more of them if you’re not interested in waiting for Chapter brother Bill made for him, complete with a die? Two, this movie does have an ending that sealing coat of wax to keep it waterproof. Early buzz for It has been excellent, call- doesn’t overtly leave off on a cliffhanger. But Georgie loses track of the boat and just ing the film one of the scariest horror films in You’ll certainly want to see It for all the misses grabbing it before it falls into the quite some time. I wouldn’t say it’s a “scream scares, but the film has been filled with an sewer. Not to worry though because a help- at the top of your lungs while jumping out of outstanding cast of child actors. Each one We offer a 20% off ful clown is there to help him. With a face your seat” scary (although I did jump once or of them as a specific type, to be sure, but discount for all area half in shadow with still brightly lit eyes, the twice), it’s more psychologically disturbing each one of them plays their part to perfec- clown tries to entice Georgie to join him and than anything else. And as you’re watching tion, and the script is written in the voices students with valid student ID. his friends from the circus, all of them hav- the story unfold, getting to know these kids of real kids. You can certainly identify with Tuesday-Thursday ing been blown into the sewer by the storm. and rooting for them to defeat Pennywise, any of these kids and think back to your own Georgie just wants his boat back and when you begin to wonder what might be worse childhood and relate to them, which is a cru- from open to 4 p.m. the clown offers it to him, Georgie gets just for them: the clown or the adults/parents of cial part of the film. And to see how weird a little too close ... setting up the horrors of Derry. Pennywise, of course, is pure super- and awful the adults are to them (and we Any first time client what is to come. natural evil, but the parents ... are another have to count the older teen bullies in with Months later, it’s the last day of school level of evil altogether, to varying degrees. that group, in the midst of transforming from 20% off also and Bill and his friends – Richie, Eddie and Bill’s parents have not dealt with Georgie’s that childhood innocence), we as an audi- Stanley – should be about to enjoy their disappearance and lash out at Bill for con- ence want them to succeed even more, and 2801 Huntingdon Ave. summer vacation, but Bill instead has a plan tinuing his quest to find his brother. Eddie’s hopefully get themselves out of Derry before Baltimore, MD ~ 21211 to find his little brother. They are joined by mom is just bizarre, a sort of hypochondriac they end up like their parents. The role of Phone: 410.646.8115 the new kid on the block, Ben, outsider Mike, by proxy, filling Eddie’s head full of fears of Pennywise became another defining -mo www.fringebaltimore.com and the lone girl in the group, Beverly, all sickness and then giving him placebo pills ment for Tim Curry, and here Bill Skarsgård now inducted into The Losers club. As the to convince him he is sick (and half the stuff takes an iconic role and gives it his own spin kids continue their search for Georgie, they he relates to his friends about the dangers (but be sure to look closely in a room full of

22 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 15, 2017 • baltimoreoutloud.com Lively Arts // Between the Book Covers “studly movie star” Clive Morgan’s auto- biography, and his literary life goes on a collision course with “Hollywood, drag queens, and the occasional ghost.” In Amatka (Vintage, 2017), Swedish sci-fi/fantasy writer Karin Tidbeck takes Further Reading: Autumn 2017 us to the “austere, wintry” titular colony where information assistant Vanja, on as- By Gregg Shapiro for Marriage Equality (William Morrow, Half-Light: Collected Poems 1965- signment from the government, falls in love Drawn to it – Almost everything you need 2016 / 2017) by Pulitzer Prize-winning in- 2016 (FSG, 2017) compiles the work of with her housemate Nina, while also stum- to know about Going Into Town: A Love vestigative reporter Debbie Cenziper and lauded gay poet Frank Bidart in one stun- bling on a potentially serious problem in- Letter to New York (Bloomsbury, 2017), Jim Obergefell, the “definitive account… ning setting, including the new collection volving Amatka, as well as a cover-up that by beloved New Yorker cartoonist Roz of the dramatic and previously unreported Thirst, featuring outstanding poems such threatens everything in her world. Chast, can be found in the title. In nine il- events” leading up to Obergefell v. Hodg- as “Ellen West”, “Herbert White”, “In Mem- Gay literary publicist and young-adult lustrated chapters, Brooklyn-native Chast es, the milestone case regarding the legal- ory of Joe Brainerd”, “The Second Hour of novelist Martin Wilson is back with his celebrates Manhattan in all its glory. ization of same-sex marriage, is scheduled the Night” and “For the AIDS Dead”. second book We Now Return to Regular According to artist Tom Neely, Hen- to be made into a movie from Fox 2000. Fiction finds – Pages for Her (Coun- Life (Dial, 2017), described as “part liter- ry & Glenn Forever + Ever (Microcosm Lesbian poet Eileen Myles is the au- terpoint Press, 2017) is the sequel to Syl- ary thriller, part coming-of-age-drama,” Publishing / IWDY Comics, 2017) by Tom thor of Afterglow (a dog memoir) (Grove via Brownrigg’s 2002 novel Pages for tells the story of what happens when a boy Neely & Friends, with a foreword by gay Press, 2017), described as part “screen- You, in which readers were introduced to who is kidnapped returns home after three Judas Priest front-man Rob Halford, is play, monologue, science fiction, and lu- two women, Flannery and Anne, who had years. the result of one of his Igloo Tornado “art cid memory,” detailing the 16 years Myles a “brief but passionate affair,” now recon- For her second novel, The Lauras fraternity” pals suggesting they create spent as the human companion to a dog necting years later, after their lives took (Hogarth, 2017), Sara Taylor takes us on “Something like Tom of Finland art, but named Rosie. different directions. a cross-country journey as Ma and her with Henry Rollins and Glenn Danzig.” Music and cultural critic Ann Powers, In her third book, the haunting haunted non-binary offspring Alex leave a difficult Enrique Garcia’s The Hernandez who can be heard regularly on NPR, gives house novel The Grip of It (FSG, 2017) situation at home only to encounter a vari- Brothers: Love, Rockets and Alternative the LGBTQ community a lot of love in her writer and teacher Jac Jemc both reinvents ety of ups and downs along the way. 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—continued from page 1 robe to costumers to props. Everyone is By Frankie Kujawa position. With some of the most exciting on their A-game and the very best at what This summer, the Iron Crow Theatre was and revered theatrical titles on the boards, dia presence, was spotted with her “Cult” they do. He inspires excellence and no one recognized by Baltimore magazine as we’re doubling down on our commitment castmates at a Cher concert in Las Vegas in wants to disappoint him.” “Breakout Theatre Company” in their annu- to both artistic and administrative excel- August. When asked if she felt like the cast As the conversation returned to the al “Best of Baltimore” issue. Much of Iron lence, pushing the boundaries of what’s bonded throughout the production, Gross- beloved, cult-classic character from “Pop- Crow’s recent success is owed to artistic possible on the small professional stage man explained, “Absolutely! Coming into a ular,” Mary Cherry, Grossman chuckled at director and CEO Sean Elias. Along with here in Baltimore. We’ve brought on show in its seventh season is intimidating. It’s the notion of bringing the character out of his successful collaborative team, the some of the brightest and a machine that runs itself. Evan [Peters], Sar- retirement. “Look, if Ryan had any interest humble Elias has helped most talented artists and ah [Paulson], and Cheyenne [Jackson] have in doing it, I’d do it in a hot second. That Iron Crow re-establish it- Sean administrators in the re- done it for a long time. Everyone has been so was the most fun I’ve ever had in my career. self as a creative force in Elias... gion. With our inspirational welcoming and so warm. I’ve had more fun Almost on a daily basis, on social media Baltimore’s Arts District. team, our award-winning than I ever thought I would. That Cher concert or in person, people say something about Under his leadership, Elias’s programming, and our un- weekend was such a fun time. that show or that character.” first year with Iron Crow wavering commitment to For me, I’ve found the set and Grossman paused and add- broke every record possible. artistic excellence, the the working environment very ‘I once had ed. “I haven’t spoken in that Its most recent 2016-2017 possibilities of what to light-hearted, even though the accent for quite a while. I’d season, “The Season of Dark come are endless. subject is super serious, dark, a boyfriend have to re-watch to get that Play,” ended with 34 awards In your opinion, and twisted.” who was from twang back and pull back and nominations. what makes Iron Crow The actress continued to out those [Manolo] Blahniks. Elias worked as a profes- Theatre so special? share her admiration for her Baltimore, and Lou Eyrich, who is Ryan’s sional actor in equity theatres I believe it’s both cast. “I live and die for Sarah key costume designer – we across the Northeast including our people and our Paulson,” Grossman dead- it’s a lovely worked closely together on Off-Broadway at New York City’s mission. Iron Crow panned. “She’s so incredible. that show and she was so New Victory Theatre and the is Baltimore’s only I was absolutely intimidated city,’ Grossman brilliant.” Kennedy Center for the Perform- queer theatre, cele- going in because, and I don’t Along with a strong and ing Arts. As a director, Elias di- brating the renegade think this is an overstatement added, ‘My idol active affinity for politics, rected the award-winning and re- and the unorthodox to say, she’s one of the most Grossman also admits to cord-breaking productions of last in all of us. We be- gifted actresses of our gen- John Waters an equal affinity for Bravo’s season’s The Wild Party and The lieve that ‘queer’ eration. There’s nothing she “Real Housewives.” When Rocky Horror Show at Iron Crow is a self-defining can’t do. She was so open, hails from asked about her favorite Theatre. Currently, Elias simultane- term, and we strive friendly, and encouraging. Baltimore. I grew franchise, the actress re- ously serves as head of theatre at to be a home for all who She’s one of the funniest peo- sponded, “That’s very hard. the Jemicy School and as a coach to choose to identify as such, for whatever ple I’ve ever worked with.” up watching That’s a Sophie’s Choice be- organizational leaders, arts organizations, reason. We take very seriously our com- Along with her cast, cause I love all my ‘babies.’ and independent consultants. mitment to producing and creating work Grossman also was excited his movies. But of all the babies I love Elias recently sat down with Baltimore that features members from marginalized to once again work with “Cult” [“Real Housewives of] New OUTloud to reflect on his first year with populations and to tell the stories not often creator and producer Ryan [“Popular’s”] York.” I love the ladies and I Iron Crow, the upcoming season, and the told on the stages of Baltimore. Murphy, who started his ca- love following their stories.” art scene in Baltimore. We’re also deeply invested in positive- reer in TV as co-creator of the Mary Cherry Grossman refers to herself Frankie Kujawa: What can audienc- ly impacting the economic development of teen comedy series “Popular” as an “old school” house- es expect from this upcoming season at our city and have some big plans on how on the WB Network in 1999. was culled from wives fan. Iron Crow? to achieve this goal in seasons to come! Grossman played the icon- As the conversation drew Sean Elias: The 2017-18 “Season of What did you learn in your first year ic, over-the-top fan favorite my knowledge to a close, Grossman added Identity” is set to be our best season yet. that helped you in preparing for this up- Texan-belle Mary Cherry. “I that she was quite familiar A direct response to our current political coming season? love his sensibility,” says of of John Waters.’ with Baltimore. “I once had environment, we’re exploring who we are This last year has been an unimag- Murphy, “and that we have a boyfriend who was from as individuals, as people, and as a na- inable phase of growth for both myself a lot of the same ideas about what’s funny. Baltimore, and it’s a lovely city,” Grossman tion, revealing the possibility, fluidity, and and Iron Crow. While it’s hard to pinpoint Obviously, this show is not as funny.” Gross- added, “My idol John Waters hails from Balti- oppression we all encounter in the con- a singular learn, I’d say creating an envi- man also added that Murphy is significant- more. I grew up watching his movies. [“Pop- struction of ‘Who I am’ and ‘Who we are.’ ronment where creativity can flourish and ly busier than when they worked together ular’s”] Mary Cherry was culled from my This season is an invitation to not only ex- where risks and bold choices can be made on “Popular.” “He’s not able to be on the knowledge of John Waters. There was a lot plore gender, sexual, racial and religious is of paramount focus. So, this year, we’ve set the way he used to be since he has an of John Waters there in that character – and identity, but to critique it, to understand it, spent a majority of our time aligning and empire to run, but we’re constantly in touch by many of his characters, as well. I have a change it, play with it, hide it, and/or re- preparing for how best to create the most and his input is involved every step of the huge affection for that part of the world and veal it. At a time when identity expression conducive environments for productivity way. I love being in his world, because he’s that city.” t itself – let alone this freedom to ‘play’ if and creativity both with our designers, our so good. So is everyone involved, from the “American Horror Story: Cult” airs Tues- you will – is being smothered, we offer our administrators, and our artists. We’re striv- hair designers to makeup artists to ward- days on FX. stage, our artists, and these stories in op- ing to really create a family and an artistic 24 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 15, 2017 • baltimoreoutloud.com People in Our Neighborhood Razor’s Edge of Queer Theatre in Baltimore

home for those in Baltimore who are excit- equity theatre. We think this is important Iron Crow Theatre’s ed by theatre that is both adventurous and for many reasons. First, we believe we artistically profound. need to offer a livable wage for our city’s 2017-2018 Season of What are some of the community as- best talent while continuing to attract art- pects that Iron Crow is involved in? Do ists to the city from across the nation. Identity you have any plans to reach With an increase in an artistic further into the community population cities tend to see The Cradle Will Rock – September 29th to October 8th – Marc Blitzstein’s unabash- in the future? Iron Crow’s an increase in civic engage- edly anti-capitalist 1937 musical, The Cradle Will Rock, was the first musical ever shut Our commitment to our ment and economic pros- down by the Feds for fear of societal revolt! A defiant indictment of capitalism and community is built into our guiding perity. Furthermore, these socio-political corruption, The Cradle Will Rock is as much an attack on wealth and DNA. Iron Crow Theatre was populations tend to jumpstart the political power it unjustly wields, as it is an homage to those with nothing, fighting founded to support the queer light asks if a city’s revitalization efforts. to survive. community in Baltimore. The We also seek to help devel- The Rocky Horror Show – October 26th to 31st – Iron Crow Theatre’s yearly first-ever production, titled Baltimore op the artists of tomorrow tradition, the live stage musical The Rocky Horror Show follows sweethearts Brad and Gay Expectations, produced theatre is and give students who are Janet, stuck with a flat tire during a storm, as they seek shelter at a mysterious old cas- at University of Baltimore’s graduating from Baltimore’s tle on a dark and stormy night, encountering transvestite scientist Dr. Frank-N-Furter student center, raised mon- spreading leading arts programs an at the cost of their innocence. ey for Baltimore’s Moveable incentive to remain in Balti- The Goodies – December 1st to 10th – featuring an all-female cast of color, retells Feast. So, it was important to itself too thin. more through much needed the story of the Salem witch trials through the lens of modern day America. If, as the me that we remain connected access to the EMC program. old adage states, history were to repeat itself, how would this mark in American history to this cause and committed to our com- This program administered by Actors Eq- unfold again within the brave new world of the digital age? munity. Every year, we’ve committed do- uity Association, allows for entry into the With fake news, nasty women, and the demonization of all Theatre that nating a portion of our proceeds from our professional union for actors and stage “others,” this horror story of our own history may not be as annual production of The Rocky Horror managers in the US. Of course, part of impossible as we think. wears heart Show to Moveable Feast. Last year we this vision includes our own home for Cloud 9 – January 26th – February 4th, 2018 – A come- raised over $1,500 for this organization. rehearsal and performance dy of manners that spans centuries, Cloud 9 is a smart, sa- on sleeve Each year we also partic- space, a robust education tirical look at gender politics and sexual oppression across ipate in Chase Brexton’s and outreach program, the ages. Written in 1978 by Caryl Churchill, this modern classic offers witty social HIV/AIDS Walk/Run and ...edges the ability to continue to commentary, controversial casting requirements, and if that weren’t enough, time-trav- Baltimore Pride. We’re are produce some of the best el! Taking us from the corsets of colonial Africa to the sexual liberation of 1970s En- also continuing our par- fertile work seen in the city, and gland, Churchill’s parody pokes fun at nearly every permutation of human sexuality, ticipation in the Baltimore a commitment to com- and reminds us why the playwright remains a feminist hero and icon today. Office of Promotion and the munity engagement. Corpus Christi – April 6th to 15th, 2018 – Born in Corpus Christi, Texas, in the Arts’s Free Fall Baltimore How would you de- 1950s, Joshua is a gay man who also happens to be the son of God. Terrence McNal- program, allowing those scribe the arts scene ly’s contentious work is a modern queer retelling of the gospels depicting Jesus and who otherwise could not af- in Baltimore? the Apostles as gay men living in modern-day Texas. Known as the queer passion ford to attend live theatre the Queer. I’m not kid- play, Corpus Christi follows Joshua from his birth in a seedy motel room to his senior chance to do so. But that’s ding! I believe that prom, from gay disco to death by crucifixion. Often called blasphemous by religious not all! We’re very excited Baltimore really is a protestors, this controversial play thoughtfully reframes the identity of the Christ figure to be launching our first ever queer city. I believe while unpacking his essential lessons of love and faith. post-performance series, After it’s what we mean by The Laramie Project – June 15th to 24th, 2018 – In October 1998, a 21-year-old Shows with the Crows. This “charming,” “quirky,” openly gay student at the University of Wyoming was kidnapped, beaten, tortured, program will allow us to direct- “artsy,” “under- and left to die – tied to a fence in the middle of a prairie outside Laramie, Wyoming. ly connect with our audiences ground,” and so on. His name was Matthew Shepard. Shepard’s murder brought national and international and engage with our community It’s a scene that en- attention to the lack of hate-crime legislation across the nation and forced a small through a variety of post-show courages risks and community to wrestle with its identity on both the local and national levels. In this offerings. Join us for a panel dis- one that allows for groundbreaking docudrama, Moisés Kaufman and members of the Tectonic Theater cussion, sing-a-long, cast and anyone to create Project capture the human voice of Laramie. With just eight actors playing over 60 crew talkback, or get the chance work that speaks roles, The Laramie Project weaves together interviews, journal entries, and published to go backstage (and on stage!) to them. But I do news reports to create a breathtaking theatrical collage exploring the depths to which for Baltimore’s first “Please Touch” have a concern, humanity can sink and the heights of compassion of which we are capable. programming. or more of a For more info, visit Ironcrowtheatre.org. t – Frankie Kujawa What’s your vision for the fu- plea. ture of Iron Crow Theatre? Every month As I mentioned we’re committed we’re continuing to see more and saturating a market that cannot sustain the porate all of our ideas into organizations to improving the cultural and economic more small theatres pop up in Baltimore. amount of theatres in existence based on we believe in – building strong, viable, and landscape of Baltimore. To do this, we’re While on one hand you could argue the simple population and audience size. robust theatres that have long lasting im- t dedicated to becoming Baltimore’s next more theatre the better, I fear we may be I wish more of us could unite, to incor- pact.

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Terrible Twos tine tasks that make their parents happy. Like children at all stages of develop- Many of you know the story of our young- ment, toddlers just want to feel that they est Cassandra. She was born addicted have some control over their lives. We to eight different substances and spent adults know that they aren’t able to fend weeks in the neonatal ICU for detox. That for themselves. We know that they still rely was followed by months of medication to on us for food and safety. We know pendent child who is able to make deci- alleviate the symptoms. She that they can’t make sions and feel confident in them? is currently over good decisions in most That doesn’t mean we should let our a year completely situations. But, they toddlers have their way all the time. That drug-free. still want control on an will result in a spoiled, entitled child who She’s a strong appropriate develop- doesn’t exercise any self-control. Instead, of one baby girl and foster mom of dozens. little girl, with a great mental level. help your toddler learn to make good Some are lesbian, some gay, some straight, personality. She’s So, give it to them. choices. This will let your toddler exert and some bisexual. Kelly founded a K-12 bright and helpful. Offer them a selec- some power over his life. You’ll be glad day school where kids could have a safe, t She has a vocabu- tion of two outfits you did. bully-free environment for learning. She is lary of well over 50 and have them pick Rev. Kelly Crenshaw is the mom of 16 co-owner of a counselling agency that works words. She loves the one they want adopted kids, two biological kids, guardian with children and their families. animals, especially to wear. Ask them if dogs, and enjoys hav- they’re ready to have ing her hair styled. a diaper change. But, most impor- Request their help tantly, she has hit that when doing laun- stage that most par- dry or picking up. ents dread. She’s hit Let them pick what OCTOBER 8TH, STARTING AT 11 A.M. the Terrible Twos. they want for lunch. Carroll County Equestrian Center For Cassandra, this And, instead 2512 Grimville Road. Mt. Airy, MD 21771 means that she kicks of picking up your and squeals when we try toddler and drag- www.ksgra.com to take away some- ging him away, All distract him with thing that she is not about me! All are welcome to attend! supposed to have. something else. Classes: Exhibition Barres $3 Per Run Our dogs are always a good option for dis- She can’t stand for 1. Small Fry 50 Yard Dash 11. 3d or 4d Open Barrel Race ** $40 traction. Cassandra will run to pet one of the important people 2. Junior 50 Yard Dash 12. Small Fry Barrels in her world to leave the house. We have them at any opportunity. Figure out what 3. Adult 50 Yard Dash 13. Junior Barrels to sneak out and hope she doesn’t notice. works best for your toddler and you will 4. Small Fry Pole Bending 14. Adults Barrels She wants to do things by herself. Every- have a much easier time navigating the 5. Junior Pole Bending stormy waters of toddlerhood. thing is “mine.” She is a big girl and wants 6. Adult Pole Bending Small Fry: ages 10 and under to show her independence to the world. In Working with your toddler, instead of 7. Small Fry Flag Race Junior: ages 11-16 other words, she’s Two – or, in her case, fighting against her, will give you a par- 8. Junior Flag Race Adult: 17 and older almost two. enting advantage for years to come, too. 9. Adult Flag Race Food will be available for purchase Two-year-olds can be a challenge if The need for control surfaces a number 10. Goat Dressing Free admission for spectators you approach them the wrong way. If you of times during a child’s development. We Small fry classes $5 each, junior and adult classes $10 each. Money and ribbons will be given to all insist on getting your way, they will fight see it in the toddler years, again around juniors and adult classes. Paybacks for adult and Junior classes will be 1st 20%, 2nd 15%, 3rd 10%, 4th age six, the early teens, and often at the 5% for entries of over 8 raiders back. They want to assert their indepen- ** For jackpot 3D/4D depends on number of entries. For 50 entries or less will be run as 3D. dence, proving that babyhood is far behind time of leaving home for college or inde- For 51 entries or more will be run as 4D. 80% Payback for open 3D/4D Barrel Race them. pendence. If you learn to negotiate with SPONSORS: But, if we take a different approach, your child at this early stage, then the later managing toddlers can be easy and even years won’t be such a fight. entertaining. Toddlers are easily distract- After all, don’t we all want to feel like ed. They enjoy seeing new things and try- we have control over our own lives? And, ing new skills. They want to help with rou- what’s better than raising a strong, inde-

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weaponized rosé was a sweet moment in which Paulson’s character crossed the Hagerstown Hopes Updates street with her wife, played by Alison Pill, their arms lovingly wrapped around each Volunteers / Donations: Hagerstown have projects that give back to the com- Brian’s other, before being accosted. It was this Hopes is always in need of volunteers, do- munity. moment, more than the scary clowns or nations and sponsors. With the group be- Out of the Darkness Walk: Hager- Brain creepy coral, that struck me as incredibly ing a non-profit, we’re completely running stown Hopes will be walking in the 2017 Brian George Hose unnerving because it was such a relatable off of funding from the public. We want to Hagerstown Out of the Darkness Walk on moment, a reminder that having won mar- grow our offerings to the LGBTQ communi- September 23rd. In addition to inviting you riage equality does not assure our safety ty and we cannot do that without your help. to join our team and walk with us to help ‘American Horror when we show affection in public. We are always on the lookout for com- bring awareness to and develop advoca- This is where paranoia, one of the mittee members and volunteers. If you cy for the American Foundation for Suicide Story’ and the Cult show’s themes, comes in. Having been have a passion to help the LGBTQ com- Prevention, we request that if you cannot out for half my life, I’ve experienced vary- munity and have a bit of free time, contact join us for the walk that all donations go of Paranoia ing degrees of harassment in public in a us for more information and so we can see through our Facebook page. Let us all variety of locations, just as I’m sure many where you would fit within the Hagerstown stand together and show our support for In case you missed it, the new season of of you have. It’s enough to make you think Hopes family. this foundation and the great work they’re “American Horror Story” has begun. This, twice about holding hands with your date Grant writer: Hagerstown Hopes is doing. Remember, even something as sim- coupled with the arrival of sweater weath- in public, regardless of whether you’re in looking for a grant writer. We have several ple as a smile to a passing stranger can er, makes this one of my favorite times of a rural area or a thriving metropolis. The opportunities for grants from foundations make all the difference in the world. No the year. I’ve been a fan of reason is that harassers tend to follow a available, but need a writer that is famil- one should be left to feel that his or her life t “AHS” for years simple unspoken rule: Only attack if they iar with writing and submitting proposals isn’t worth living. because there’s do something gay. By this logic for planned projects. Also, the ability to a lot to like. The it’s ok to be seen write proposals for corporate grants. If you award-winning with your date, have this ability and would be interested in show has given but only as long volunteering your time please contact Jeff us some incredi- as it doesn’t Rohrer at jrohrer@hagerstownhopesmd. ble performances look like a date org. Grants are a vital part of this organi- and memorable – just two guys/ zation being a success and being able to storylines, all gals enjoying a while illustrating movie and sharing and comment- popcorn. Fear: ing on the hor- Before you fashionable rors of American life in think I’m pulling a smart, sometimes subtle ways. Paulson and overre- This season, “Cult,” looks like it’s going acting, consider this: HAGERSTOWN to be a winner. Inspired by the 2016 presi- I didn’t make this up; this is a sentiment dential election, the focus is less about the I’ve heard from a number of straight peo- candidates and more about how the out- ple who say things along the lines of “I come affects the show’s ensemble cast of don’t mind gay people as long as I don’t diverse characters. So far it has touched see them doing gay stuff,” which loose- on themes of paranoia, power, control, ly translates to, “Don’t be gay and there influence, vulnerability, and persecution - won’t be trouble.” This is the reason some and that’s just the first episode. Out and of us have complicated situations in which proud actress Sarah Paulson secures we are out to everyone but so-and-so, or her leading lady status playing a charac- out to everyone except coworkers. We ter afraid of nearly everything, including know that ignorance and bigotry exist, and Our Vision tiny holes and coral (yes, coral), keeping unfortunately our community has experi- To provide the community with a comfortable her character grounded with subtle winks enced enough tragedies to know that we environment to socialize, acquire educational to the audience acknowledging that, yes, are vulnerable. So, when we feel paranoid, information, and guidance. she’s playing a ridiculous contradiction we also know that the feeling is real and on the verge of caricature. Oh, and she’s justified. having what could be delusions of murder- There isn’t a simple one-size-fits-all ous-yet-amorous clowns that she’s sure approach to this. Use your best judgment Our Mission are out to get her, proving once again that if you’re concerned about your safety, Hagerstown Hopes mission is to unify the in the “AHS” universe she is the queen of but also remember that if you let others community, educate others about LGBTO+ causes pain and suffering. influence your decisions you’re also giv- and issues, and to provide services and resources The first episode of the season is al- ing them control of your life. If you have to support our local communities. ways a kind of overture, introducing the concerns, talk to your friends and decide audience to important characters and giv- what works best for you. In the meantime, I ing a taste of what’s to come. As such, the look forward to a world where crossing the episode had a lot to take in. Somewhere street with your spouse isn’t an American hagerstownhopesmd.org | Follow Us: between a memorable scene featuring ac- horror story. t tual Cheetos dust and a standoff involving 28 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD september 15, 2017 • baltimoreoutloud.com KSGRA NewS The Kids of KSGRA On Sunday August 20th, at Spring Valley County Park, KSGRA held an Open Gaming Show. For those who do not know what this is (guess you don’t read this paper..LOL) it is a family friendly event open to all, where adults and children can come and compete in several rodeo type events including: 50-yard dash, pole bending, flag racing barrel racing and goat dressing to name a few. No matter if you are a beginner, expert, or just ride for the pure joy of riding, you will compete in the same events you will see at our next rodeo in June 2018. At the August 20th event, adults and children of all ages and riding experiences were competing. Watching them makes you realize that they are the future of the rodeo. 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For example, • Donating appreciated assets their taxable estate. could allow you to diversify your holdings most people name a beneficiary on their re- In addition to cash contributions, you Estate Gifts – For someone who doesn’t and even increase your cash flow. tirement accounts or insurance policies, but could consider donating appreciated as- have heirs and/or who is charitably inclined, A CRT can be funded with a variety of fail to name a back up or contingent bene- sets- including securities if you have owned gifting to a charity through your estate is an- assets, including stocks, bonds, mutual ficiary. As I tell my clients, it is important to them for at least a year. The donated asset other method by which you can donate. funds and real estate. The trust provides you have a back up just in case it’s a tie! is assessed at full fair market value. You can You can name your favorite charity as with income for a specified time period, after When same-sex couples select second- take a tax deduction and avoid payment of a beneficiary in your will or trust for your which assets are transferred to the charity ary beneficiaries, they typically select a sib- capital gains taxes on the security. investment account(s), bank account(s), re- of your choosing. You will receive a tax de- ling, parent, niece, or nephew to receive the For example, let’s assume that you own tirement plan(s), and/or life insurance. One duction based on the amount the charity is bulk of their assets. In many cases, howev- a share of stock that you purchased for $40 great part of naming a charity as a beneficia- estimated to receive after expenses. Often er, parents and siblings are already finan- and it is currently worth $100. If you sold ry is that you retain the asset for your per- trustees will replace the asset’s value with cially stable. As for nieces and nephews, an that stock for income purposes or to rebal- sonal use and you’re easily able to change a life insurance policy to provide the same attorney I know said it best: do you really ance your portfolio, you would have to pay any of your beneficiaries in the future. estate value to their heirs while enjoying im- want to make someone else’s children rich? capital gains tax on the $60 of growth you If you’re giving to people and to a charity mediate tax benefits and income over time. Probably not. received. If you held the stock for over a as part of your estate plan, you may want to Another possibility is a charitable lead The other danger is that you and your year, then you could have to pay up to 20% consider leaving the most highly taxed in- trust (CLT). It provides a stream of income partner might not tie. If you pass away first, of your total gain in capital gains taxes (oth- vestments (such as traditional IRAs, 401ks, to a charity for a specific period. Upon dis- will your partner continue to pass all of his/ er taxes on the sale may apply). TSPs, annuities, etc.) to a charity and the solution of the trust, your heirs would poten- her assets on to siblings, parents, nieces, If you wanted to gift $1,000 to your fa- more tax-friendly investments (such as Roth tially receive the remaining assets free of and nephews? If so, then your assets will go vorite charity, you could give cash, or, in the IRAs, checking, savings, money markets, estate taxes. to his/her family rather than your own. I sug- above example, save $120 in capital gains and individual investment accounts) to indi- The only thing you can’t do is take back gest that you and your partner take some taxes by gifting that charity ten shares of vidual heirs. This could maximize the value your gift. You can’t start selling assets and time to decide how you would like to leave stock. A donation of stock could be tax de- of the estate to your family and friends as then pocket the money. But depending on your legacy. ductible and might help you reduce taxes they could see less of your estate lost due to the strategy you select, you might be able If helping others is one of your financial from capital gains. taxes. Because charities don’t pay income to change the charity that will eventually re- goals, consider tools and strategies that Appreciated-asset donations could be tax, this arrangement should have little im- ceive your gift. may help you maximize your ability to do- suitable for: pact on your charity of choice. Of course, Charitable trusts could be suitable for: nate both today and after you have passed • Medium to large donations you can name a combination of people and • Large donations away. These strategies not only provide a • Immediate gifts to a charity organizations as beneficiaries on any of • Future gifts (CRT) or income over a pe- benefit to your charity of choice, but they • Someone who has owned an invest- your investments. riod of time (CLT) to your charity of choice also can provide a benefit to you and your ment for at least a year and 1) Has a high A CPA and attorney can provide specif- Someone with highly appreciated assets estate. income who is looking to maximize tax sav- ic guidance regarding the pros and cons of who can part with those assets now, wants How can my charity and I both benefit ings, 2) Who is looking to reallocate their naming a charity as your beneficiary. an immediate tax deduction, and who is ei- from my gift? One popular estate-planning investment portfolio, 3) Who has highly-ap- Charities may have special verbiage ther looking for income over time (CRT) or technique is planned giving. You could re- preciated investments and can replace the for estate donations, so you may want to a way to pass assets to heirs in the future ceive an immediate income tax deduction gifted investments by adding more cash to reach out to them before listing them in your (CLT). with some gifting strategies. With a prop- their portfolio, and/or 4) Who normally sells will, trust, or as a beneficiary. Also, while Someone looking to potentially re- erly structured gift, you could realign your investments in a non-retirement account for you can always change your beneficiaries, duce their taxable estate – Making a do- investment portfolio without paying capital income. it’s often a good idea to let your charity of nation to a qualified organization provides gains tax on appreciated property. Another Donor-advised funds – Another way choice know that you’ve included them in some very attractive benefits.T here are oth- strategy may allow you to pass your estate to give is through a donor-advised fund. your estate plan. Charities may have es- er ways to leverage your assets to benefit on to your heirs while avoiding both probate Here’s how it works: You irrevocably con- tate-planning resources, special events, or others while helping you pursue your finan- and estate taxes. tribute cash, stocks, or certain other assets, other ways to support those who are giving cial objectives. Discuss your options with Cash donations – When helping to which are in turn invested in one or more in- via their estate. Keep in mind that you won’t your financial advisor, your estate planning support a charity, most people choose to do- vestment options. The investment company have to disclose the amount of your gift. attorney, and tax professional. nate cash. Donations to charities registered manages the investment options to poten- Estate gifts could be suitable for: Whatever gifting strategy you choose, with the IRS are usually tax deductible for tially increase the value of the initial contri- • Small, medium, or large donations planned giving can be very rewarding. It’s those who itemize their deductions. The rea- bution and to produce an income stream for • Future gifts to a charity wonderful to see your gift at work while re- son this method is so popular is because it you. You can recommend eligible charities • Someone who wants to give a charita- ceiving tax benefits on your donation. t is the easiest way to donate, but this option for grants from the fund over a period of time ble gift as part of their estate About Woody: I started my career in might not be the most economical way for while taking an immediate tax deduction. • Someone potentially looking to reduce 1998 and have been independent since you to support your favorite charity. Donor-Advised Funds could be suitable their taxable estate 2005. I have seen some of the best and Your deduction for an outright gift will for: Advanced strategies – Trusts may also worst markets in our history which allows typically equal the value of your gift up to • Medium to large donations play a role in a giving plan. They could help me to approach my clients with the knowl- certain limits. You can carry forward any gift • Gifts to charity over a period of time charities while benefiting you now and your edge of how the markets fit into their finan- amount that exceeds these limits for up to • Someone looking for a lower-cost, heirs later. One popular option is a charita- cial picture. I’m a certified financial planner. five years. turnkey option to a charitable trust ble remainder trust (CRT). By using a char- Learn more at Partnershipwm.com or call Cash donations could be suitable for: • Someone who can part with cash or itable remainder trust, the trustee can sell 410-732-2633.

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other classes, teaching and making sure What was your favorite school sub- West Coast or East Coast? people are well taken care of and learning ject? East Coast. many kinds of kink from a patient, welcom- Theater / drama or English. What’s the best gift you have ever Mid-Atlantic ing instructor. She’s a true inspiration and What is your favorite kind of juice? received? asset to our communities. Apple cider. I can’t choose one best! Mondays Alex “Bear” Con- What is your favorite thing about the Debbie What is your fa- Alex ‘Bear’ Conley ley: Where did you Jones vorite ice cream fla- leather community? grow up? vor? How supportive we can be of each oth- Debbie Jones: A bit Chocolate and er. When this community comes together, of several places. I’m an peanut butter. it’s a powerful and amazing thing! Meet Debbie Army brat, so I was born Who is your Gumbo, chili, or stew? overseas, and have least favorite celeb- Mmmm... chili. Jones lived in several states. rity? Who has been an inspiration for How did you dis- The current pres- you? Debbie Jones, a Virginia resident, gives cover the leather com- ident. My mother. seemingly tirelessly. I’ve seen this person munity and how long What is the ac- If you could wave a magic wand and at more events than I can count in many, have you been in- complishment that change something about the leather many capacities. The work I see her do the volved? has made you the community right now, what would it be? most is as an American Sign Language I found the leath- proudest in the It would be the passive-aggressive interpreter, helping provide accessibility er community through leather commu- communication that seems to happen from for deaf individuals for all kinds of events, an interpreter I met at a nity? What about time to time. including classes and contests. She danc- spiritual retreat. That was outside leather? They say the best things in life are es on stage and brings an energy that fills around 2002. Inside? Being pinned into Mama’s free. What is a free thing that brings you the room. Sometimes my eyes sneak away What is your favorite flag to fly? Family. Outside? Passing the written exam great joy? from the performers to check out what Hmmm... favorite hanky is hound- for national interpreter certification. (Now Libraries. So many books! she’s doing. Inevitably many an MC will stooth, on the right. if only I could work up the courage to take Are you a gambling type? make her sign dirty words and do every- Christmas music – awesome or aw- the performance exam!) Nope! thing in their power to make her blush. It’s ful? What is your favorite restaurant? What is the guiltiest pleasure that a show all its own and it’s glorious. She After Thanksgiving, until New Years, Oh, that’s a tough one ... it changes. you will admit publicly? also puts in many hours during 101s and awesome! Any other time, awful! Currently, I’d have to say Cuba de Ayer. I love Country-Western music. t

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bondage bottom. Many leather bars had a kiss me in the middle of Chicago’s State just friendly and touchy-feely. (And believe backroom. If a hot man made eye contact Street. He didn’t get any complaints out of me I wasn’t offended!) He ended up getting with you and headed towards the back- me! fired one year short of retirement for sexual Leather room, you would follow him back there. Don’t get me wrong. I clearly under- harassment. Not everyone feels the same Line Once there you did not begin with some stand that no means no. However if you’re about touching. Rodney Burger small talk: Are you from here? Where did in a dungeon play space, wearing nothing The leather community has a credo: you go to school? Did you see that show but a jock, and someone touches your Safe, sane, and consensual. That is why on TV last night? The backroom was not a thigh have you been sexually assaulted? when getting into BDSM there should always The New place for conversation. You were not look- I guess that in 2017 that is a gray area. be a discussion first about limits as well as ing for someone who shared your political No means no, but first someone has to say acts that are off limits. When there is a long- views. You were only looking for one thing. “No!” term relationship one might even want to If you got groped you were not offended When I worked as the human resourc- think about putting things in writing in some Age of nor were you harassed. Your consent was es director for a large state agency, one sort of Master/slave contract. nonverbal when you walked into the back- of my employees who worked on the night There’s a story that I didn’t tell for many room. You could also walk away when you shift would sometimes stop in the person- years because I was asked not to. Years ago Consent lost interest. It was all part of the game. the GLCCB had two big fundraisers a year. I remember that when I would first walk One in the spring and one in the fall. They I admit that I’m now part of the older gen- into a bar, I’d look around first. That is why were the social events of the season and eration. You know that you have arrived places like Leon’s work so well as a place LGBT folks would come out of the woodwork there the first time you catch yourself utter- to cruise. You have a large round bar with to attend. One Saturday afternoon I received ing the phrase: “When I was your age….” many mirrors on the walls. Even when it a telephone call from one of my friends in I get it. Time brings change. Each genera- was crowded, one could check out every- the leather community. He asked, “Rodney, tion puts their own stamp on the world and one in the room from one location. I’d care- you have a tuxedo don’t you?” When I re- the leather community is no exception. fully select the spot where I would step plied that I did, he asked me to go with him One can embrace change or become that up to the bar to order a drink. You would to the GLCCB fundraiser that evening at the grumpy old man who still lives in the past. squeeze in next to the guy who was cute. Hyatt Regency. He had just had a fight with The last issue of Baltimore OUTloud car- The same rule applied when selecting his long-term boyfriend and didn’t want to go ried an article from Dailyxtra.com entitled from an available bar stool. If I discovered by himself. (He and his boyfriend were into “Verbal Consent Needed at Sex Positive that I was not interested in the person heavy S&M and had been together for a few Spaces?” It spoke about a person being sitting at the bar next to me – he could years.) When I arrived at his house he was touched without consent and went on to be a dreadful bore or creepy – I’d pick almost ready. He fixed me a drink while he state that young people are very conscious up my drink and take it with me when went looking for his cufflinks.S uddenly there about consent and may interpret non-ver- it was time to head to the bathroom. was a loud knock at the front door. He an- bal actions as harassing behavior. Oddly This was a good plan for two reasons. swered it to find two Baltimore policemen enough I’d just been to a leather contest, I was not leaving my drink unattend- who had a warrant for his arrest. It seems and while waiting to go up onstage for the ed so someone could pos- that in anger his boyfriend had gone to parade of club colors, a friend who I’ve sibly slip something in it the police and informed them that he known for years playfully groped me right and I had no intention of had been assaulted – and he had the before I was stepping on stage. When I got returning to that spot. I bruises to prove it. My friend gave me home that evening I got a text from him. It would say, “Excuse me. my ticket and told me to go on to the said, “Sorry if I crossed a line with touch- I’m going to the men’s Hyatt and he would join me as soon ing your cock.” I jokingly replied, “You only room.” When I picked as he could. The fundraiser was fab- crossed the line when you stopped!” It re- up my drink the guy ulous, but I kept looking around for ally made me think about how times have may comment, “I’ll my friend. He never made it. I went changed and how cruising may now be a watch your drink for home feeling guilty that I had such lost art. you.” My favorite reply a great time. The next morning my When I was your age we didn’t have always was, “I may get phone rang very early. I wondered social apps. We didn’t communicate via thirsty on the way.” who would be ringing my phone on a text, tweet, or Facebook. We did a lot of I’ve often said that Sunday morning. It was my friend call- nonverbal communication, but we made one of the many things ing to say that he had just gotten home our point loud and clear. We had to meet that I like about the from Central Booking. I’m not sure how people in person and the seduction always leather community is his case turned out. We never spoke began with eye contact. After all the eyes that many leather folks of it again and unfortunately he passed are the window to the soul and sometimes tend to be touchy- many years ago. There are always two the door to the bedroom. The leather com- feely. I love it when sides to every story. Consent can be a munity was all about nonverbal communi- a handsome leather touchy subject. cation starting with keys worn on the left titleholder greets me Times have changed. How we cruise for for top or on the right for bottom. Next with a hug, kiss, or an dates has change. It is a new age. There is came hankies of various colors to commu- arm around the shoul- a new generation in the leather community nicate sexual fetishes: grey for bondage, der. I’ve never thought to ask, “May I give nel department in the morning. He was a bur- now. I think it’s great, but we have to keep in yellow for watersports, etc. A gray hankie you a hug?” It just seems to be part of the ly Greek guy with a big bushy mustache. He mind that young people may have a different would be placed in the left rear pocket or brotherhood. It’s like greeting a dear family would sometimes give me a shoulder mas- idea regarding uninvited touching. There is a right rear pocket to indicate bondage top or member. I’ve had International Mr. Leather sage. He wasn’t coming on to me. He was new age of consent. t

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VISIT

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