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Reasons vary for rash of senseless violence plaguing society

By Rachele Smith Police officers, including two in Lou- to more and more images of destruc- al acts also raise many questions. The Catholic Commentator isiana, killed in the line of duty. tion, violence and rampage. At its core, What is happening in our society? A Virginia reporter and camera- criminal behavior can be shocking, es- Have we lost our ability to discern Riots rage in Baltimore and Ferguson. man shot and killed on air. pecially when we think about the pain right from wrong? Nine people shot dead in a Charles- The headlines are horrific. Yet, al- and suffering of the victims and their Is there anything we can do or must ton church. most daily it seems, we are subjected families. Often these cruel and immor- SEE VIOLENCE PAGE 19

SPECIAL SECTION The Catholic Commentator 1B CATHOLIC WEDDINGS September 18, 2015 Your Catholic Wedding New annulment process ‘positive step’ By Richard Meek uments, “Mitis Iudex Dominus Iesus” (“The Lord Jesus, The Catholic Commentator the Gentle Judge”) for the Latin-rite church and “Mitis et misericors Iesus,” (“The Meek and Merciful Jesus”) for A streamlined annulment process announced by Pope the Eastern Catholic churches. Francis is a positive step for the Catholic Church and has The changes, including the option of a brief process the potential to help many divorced Catholics in the heal- without the obligatory automatic appeal, go into effect ing process, according to Father Paul Counce, judicial Dec. 8, the opening day of the Year of Mercy. vicar for the Diocese of Baton Rouge. Pope Francis said the annulment process must be “The church is reaching out to people who are hurt- quicker, cheaper and much more of a pastoral ministry. ing,” said Father Counce said. “We’re making it easier for The pope’s revised policy provides that in some cases, an- them to lead lives of faith, to come to church, to come to nulments may be obtained in as little as a matter of weeks.

Special Supplement of The Catholic Commentator September 18, 2015 Communion.” The pontiff emphasized he was not “promoting the Photo by Kleinpeter Photography The Vatican released Sept. 8 the texts of two papal doc- SEE ANNULMENT PAGE 20 2 The Catholic Commentator The Lighter Side of FAI t H September 18, 2015 | TREASURES FROM THE DIOCESE | DID YOU KNOW Perfect/imperfect contrition

Since we are all humans and ing to the Catechism of the Catholic therefore sinners, all of our sins re- Church and the Code of Canon quire some type of penance and Law. contrition. According to The The imperfect contrition, Sacred Heart Church in Ba- Catechism of the Catholic which is a prompting of ton Rouge has a stunning Church, penitents must the Holy Spirit, is a gift monstrance, which was de- be “contrite of heart, of God. According signed by Brother Dom Suit- confess with the to the catechism, bert Kraemer OSB. Brother lips and prac- the contrition Suitbert was born in 1878 in tice complete is “born of the Netherlands and died in humility and the consid- 1947 in New Orleans. Black, fruitful satis- eration of sin’s Starr and Gorham, one of the faction.” ugliness or the fear oldest and prestigious jewel- Most Catholics of eternal damnation ry companies in the country, are usually contrite of and the other penalties executed the monstrance, heart, although for some threatening the sinner.” which was donated to the of us the humility element By itself, however, an im- church by the Altar Society can be a bit more difficult. Con- perfect contrition cannot obtain in 1944. All of the work was fessing with the lips, i.e., confes- the forgiveness of mortal sins, but completed by hand. The de- sion, is likely the most difficult part, it disposes one to obtain forgiveness sign of the monstrance rep- simply because in a busy society many through penance. resents the Rod of Jesse, tak- cannot find the time to spend in the con- The theological difference between the en from the prophet Isaiah. fessional. two contritions lies in a person’s heart. If The monstrance was exhibit- However, the church does offer two the penitent is truly sorry for his or her sin ed in New York on Fifth Ave- types of contritions: a perfect contrition, because it is contrary to the will of God, nue and later featured in which will even allow a person to ap- and offends God, then it becomes an act Liturgical Arts Quarterly proach the Communion table despite not of perfect contrition as long as it is accom- magazine. The monstrance, having previously gone to confession, and panied by the requisite condition to go to in which the consecrated an imperfect contrition. confession as soon as possible, according host is displayed for adora- A perfect contrition, according to the to Father Paul Counce, judicial vicar for tion, is used during Benedic- catechism, “arises from a love by which the Diocese of Baton Rouge. tion Exposition of the Sacra- God is loved above else.” A perfect con- If a person is simply scared of going ment. Photo courtesy of Mary Lee trition remits venial sins and obtains to hell, or “eternal damnation” as point- Eggart, Sacred Heart Church archivist forgiveness of mortal sins, which allows ed out in the catechism, it’s “adequate but the person to receive Communion, if the not the right motive for sin,” according to | person makes a firm commitment to go to Father Counce. PICTURES FROM THE PAST confession “as soon as possible,” accord- The contritions date back to the 1300s.

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Local Catholics eager to see pope Anthony’s Italian Deli By Richard Meek Baton Rouge’s only TRUE ITALIAN Deli Since 1978 The Catholic Commentator Get ready Shannon Baldridge is hardly to Tailgate able to contain her excitement with as she talks about Pope Francis’ visit to the United States, espe- cially Philadelphia. Baldridge our admitted she always wanted to Sandwich see a pope in person, and she Trays! will have that chance when the pontiff attends the World Meet- 5575 Government St., ing of Families as part of his visit just west of Jefferson Hwy. that will also take him to Wash- Phone orders welcome! 225-272-6817 Open Mon. - Sat. 9:30 - 6 ington D.C. and New York. “I would have been excited to seen any pope,” said Baldridge, who is the director of marriage preparation. “And it’s Pope Fran- cis. I’ve been so excited with him and what he’s done. I just Cardinal Timothy M. Dolan of New York speaks Sept. 2 about a chair couldn’t be happier. I can’t be- Pope Francis will use when he celebrates Mass in Madison Square Gar- lieve it’s finally going to happen.” den. The Mass is set for Sept. 25. Photo by CNS Baldridge and respect life coordinator Danielle Van Haute The statement also said the She said the fact that families will be participants in the World bishop will “convey to the Holy will be able to bring their chil- ATTORNEYS AT LAW Meeting of Families, scheduled Father the affection, support, dren, although unusual, “shows 270 S. Sharp Road • Baton Rouge, LA 70815 • (225) 924-7597 in the days leading up to the loyalty and prayers of the mem- that beautiful part of our Cath- JAMES R. COXE, III and ASSOCIATES pope’s stop in Philadelphia. Al- bers of the Diocese of Baton olic church, the entire family, Personal Injury General Practice though they are looking forward Rouge.” should be involved in the church. 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Notary in Office “I’m excited about the whole er, other plans regarding when It’s exciting for me.” TELEPHONE (225) 924-7597 trip, but seeing the pope is like they will be able to see the pope Van Haute said she expects “In Home Consultations on Request” the crowning jewel at the top,” during his Philadelphia visit to be overwhelmed by the meet- Baldridge said. have not been finalized. ing, given the impressive lineup Pope Francis will be the sec- “We are going to try to see him of speakers and breakout ses- ond pontiff Van Haute will have whenever we can,” Baldridge sions. She said she hopes to be had the opportunity to see in said with an excitement resem- able to take back the messages person. Several years ago she at- bling that of a youngster antici- she learns to strengthen the di- tended an Easter Mass celebrat- pating Christmas morning. ocese’s existing ministries and ed by St. John Paul II in Rome. She is also excited to attend perhaps introduce new ideas. “(Pope Francis) is the vicar the meeting, saying she is look- “I’m so thankful it’s being of Christ,” Van Haute said. “He ing forward to making contacts, held in the United States and we is leading our church right now. and finding other resources that have the opportunity to go,” she As a successor to St. Peter, it is can be employed in the diocese. said. amazing to be able to be in his “We’re going to get inspired, I am hoping it’s a life-chang- presence, knowing all that the get some of that good Holy Spirit ing event,” Baldridge said. Lord is doing through him right inspiration and bring that back “Maybe I’ll come back with a now for the church.” here and fire up our ministry,” new approach to ministry, at Bishop Robert W. Muench Baldridge said. “Hopefully, we least revitalized excitement will be spending time with the are going to get some outside of about it. Maybe the Holy Spirit pontiff, although not in Philadel- the box thinking we can bring will awaken something in me phia. According to a statement back here. It’s a good place to that has been waiting all this released by the Diocese of Baton meet other people and share time. It’s exciting to imagine the Joe Skibinski Rouge, the bishop will attend the ideas.” prospects.” Agent pope’s mid-day prayer service 1953 Perkins Rd. with his fellow bishops Sept. 23 Baton Rouge, LA 70808 at St. Matthew’s Cathedral in Bus: 225-387-0201 Washington, D.C. and later that Toll Free: 888-387-0201 Mr. D’s Tree Service [email protected] day attend the Mass of Canon- ization of Junipero Serra at the ovEr 35 yEars ExpErIEncE Basilica of the National Shrine Don Decell, owner of the Immaculate Conception, carl BaBin, owner also in the nation’s capital. • Economical • Fully Insured • Quality Work The statement said Bishop Muench is “delighted that Pope CALL TODAY! 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Office of Evangelization & Catechesis Appeals court rules against Celebrates the devoted years of the additional religious groups’ CATECHISTS of the Diocese of Baton Rouge mandate objections HOLY ROSARY CHURCH ST. GEORGE CHURCH St. Amant Baton Rouge CHICAGO (CNS) – Several substantial fines. Deshay Savoy 20 Eleanor Henley 10 additional Catholic entities in The 7th Circuit is among sev- Brenda Lasseigne 20 Molly Rose 15 Indiana were among those told en federal appeals courts to rule Stacey Brignac 20 by the 7th U.S. Circuit Court of against nonprofit religious orga- Lindsay Duplessis 10 ST. JOHN THE BAPTIST CHURCH Appeals Sept. 4 that there is not nizations that argued that the Barbara LeBlanc 10 Brusly a substantial burden to their re- contraceptive mandate and the Sherri Villar 10 Susie Prejean 20 ligious rights in the process they opt-out system violate their re- must follow to avoid having to ligious rights. No appeals courts Julie Millard 20 pay for contraceptive coverage in have ruled otherwise. IMMACULATE CONCEPTION CHURCH Merilyn Bourgeois 20 employee health insurance. Several of the religious insti- Baton Rouge Rita Ourso 20 The 7th Circuit had ruled last tutions in the cases have filed Marvel Martin 10 Haley Clouatre 15 December in a case involving the appeals with the Supreme Court. Stephanie Smith 10 Sandra Hughes 15 University of Notre Dame that a The court will not announce ad- Joy Thierry 10 David Rodrigue 15 process known as an accommo- ditional cases for its next docket Kevin Walker 10 Denise Babin 10 dation for avoiding the mandate until shortly before the term be- Pamela Honoré 10 Joey Haydel 10 does not substantially burden gins Oct. 5. the Catholic institution’s reli- All of the circuit court deci- Jayne Jason 10 gious rights. sions have come since the Su- IMMACULATE CONCEPTION CHURCH Chris Kershaw 10 The latest ruling reiterates preme Court’s June 2014 ruling Denham Springs Holly LeBlanc 10 many of the same points in find- that the owners of the Hobby Daren O. Bourgeois 10 Mike Vince 10 ing that a different set of plain- Lobby craft store chain and Sandra G. David 10 Mary Vince 10 tiffs similarly should not be similarly situated, closely held, Roxanne C. Hamilton 10 protected from requirements es- for-profit companies are enti- William T. Messenger 10 ST. JOHN THE BAPTIST CHURCH tablished by the Department of tled to be exempt from the con- Zachary Health and Human Services for traceptive requirement. The ap- IMMACULATE HEART OF MARY/ Janet McClung 10 avoiding the contraceptive man- peals courts ruled in light of the ST. JOSEPH CHURCH date because of religious objec- Hobby Lobby decision, finding Maringouin ST. JOSEPH CHURCH tions. The plaintiffs in the new- that unlike the for-profit organi- Joanna Hill 10 Ponchatoula est ruling include entities within zations, the nonprofits had a via- the Diocese of Fort Wayne-South ble alternative in what HHS calls Mary Hoover 10 Bend, including Catholic Char- an accommodation for them and ST. ALOYSIUS CHURCH ities; St. Anne Home and Re- that it does not infringe on their Baton Rouge ST. JOSEPH THE WORKER CHURCH tirement Center; the Franciscan religious rights. Desha Martin 15 Pierre Part Alliance, which is an Indiana Under the Affordable Care Barbara Aucoin 10 health care system; the Univer- Act, religious institutions such sity of St. Francis; and Our Sun- as dioceses and churches that also celebrating the.... day Visitor, a Catholic publishing object on moral grounds to the company; as well as Biola Uni- use of contraceptives are exempt Religious orders of BROTHERS and SISTERS versity, a California Christian from the requirement to provide school, and Grace College and insurance coverage for them. in the Diocese of Baton Rouge Seminary in Indiana (Biola and The religious nonprofit or- Grace filed suit together in Indi- ganizations in the cases do not RELIGIOUS SISTERS RELIGIOUS BROTHERS ana); and Specialty Physicians of meet the HHS requirements for Brothers of the Sacred Heart Carondelet Congregation of Illinois. an exemption, which requires Congregation of the Most Holy Redeemer St. Joseph-Albany Province “We conclude that the (Af- that the institutions be primarily (Redemptorists) Congregation of St. Joseph fordable Care Act) does not im- involved in inculcating the faith Incarnatio Consecratio Missio (Vietnamese) Congregation of the Sisters of the pose a substantial burden on the and primarily serve and employ plaintiffs’ free exercise rights,” people of the same faith. Indian Missionary Society Holy Family the court said in a 2-1 ruling. It Under the accommodation, Misioneres de Cristo Maestro (Missonarios Daughters of Mary Mother of the Church continued for 60 days a stay on nonexempt organizations can file of Christ Master) Dominican Sisters of Peace the enforcement of the require- a form with HHS or send a letter Missionaries of St. Paul Franciscan Missionaries of Our Lady ment, to give time for a lower to the agency simply saying they federal court to consider related will not provide the coverage. At Order of Preachers (Dominicans) Incarnatio Consecratio Missio Society of Jesus (Jesuits) issues. Failure to comply with that point, a third-party system Marianites of Holy Cross the requirement to offer contra- kicks in for providing employees Society of the Divine Word Mercedarian Sister of the Blessed Sacrament ceptive coverage or follow the with contraceptive insurance, St. Joseph’s Society of the Sacred Heart Missionaries of Charity procedures of the accommo- with no cost or further involve- Sister of Mercy Holy Cross dation are subject to penalty of ment to the religious employers. Sisters of St. Joseph of Springfield, MA Sisters of the Congregation of the Mother of Send your church parish, school and Carmel organization news and photos to Sisters of the Most Holy Sacrament Richard Meek, editor, Society of the Sacred Heart - U.S. Province at [email protected]. September 18, 2015 The Catholic Commentator 5 Priests in diocese have faculties to absolve

By Richard Meek Pope Francis urged priests to cation of its bishops was lifted The Catholic Commentator welcome to the sacrament wom- in 2009, questions remain over en who have had an abortion, whether the sacraments they cel- Pope Francis’ extraordinary explaining, “the gravity of the ebrate are valid and licit. announcement to extend to sin committed” and indicate to The pope’s decision was “tak- priests worldwide the authority them “a path of authentic con- en with the faithful in mind” and to absolve women for the sin of version by which to obtain the is limited to the holy year, which abortion has gained much noto- true and generous forgiveness of runs through Nov. 20, 2016, Fa- riety, but is likely to have little ef- the Father, who renews all with ther Lombardi said. fect in the majority of the dioces- his presence.” Pope Francis’ letter also ex- es in the United States, including Jesuit Father Federico Lom- plained expanded opportunities the Diocese of Baton Rouge, di- bardi, Vatican spokesman, told for obtaining the indulgences ocesan officials said. reporters the pope’s letter “high- that are a normal part of the Although church law gen- lights the wideness of God’s mer- celebration of a holy year. Those erally requires a priest to have cy” and is “not in any way mini- who are confined to their homes special permission, called fac- Pope Francis recently announced he is extending to priests world- mizing the gravity of the sin” of can obtain the indulgence by of- ulties, from his bishop to grant wide the authority to absolve woman for the sin of abortion. His abortion. fering up their sickness and suf- absolution to a person who has announcement is likely to have little effect in the majority of the In his letter, Pope Francis also fering, he said. procured or helped another to dioceses in the United States, including the Diocese of Baton granted another exception to Pope Francis also included procure an abortion, the pope Rouge. Photo by CNS church rules out of concern for special consideration for people said he decided “to concede to “those faithful who for various who are incarcerated, touching all priests for the (Holy Year of solves the person of a sin, but and painful decision.” reasons choose to attend church- on the Old Testament tradition Mercy that begins Dec. 8) the what the pope is allowing priests When such a woman has re- es officiated by priests” belong- of a jubilee year as a time for discretion to absolve of the sin to do is have the faculty to lift the pented and seeks absolution in ing to the traditionalist Society granting prisoners amnesty. of abortion those who have pro- excommunication, which will the sacrament of confession, he of St Pius X. Although the soci- cured it and who, with contrite permit the person to be able to said, “the forgiveness of God ety is no longer considered to be (Catholic News Service con- heart, seek forgiveness for it.” receive the sacraments, especial- cannot be denied.” in schism and the excommuni- tributed to this report.) A statement issued by the Di- ly Communion. ocese of Baton Rouge said the Father David said in some pontiff’s statement “aligns well” cases grave sins carry with it the with his new initiatives offered penalty of excommunication, to the Catholic Church, partic- abortion being one. Others in- THE ularly regarding the sacrament clude desecration of the Eucha- of reconciliation. The statement rist, physically attacking a pope noted that since the mid-1980s or the local bishop, or a clergy priests in the diocese have had member violating the seal of the the faculty, or authority, to ab- confessional. EUCHARIST solve through reconciliation the He added that in some in- sin and censure of excommuni- stances, including attacking the cation, which are attached to an pope or bishop, an order lifting “obtained abortion.” excommunication can only come “Although Catholic Church from the Vatican. IN THE law reserves jurisdiction over Father David said the pope’s this to the local diocesan bishop, comments must also be taken in the bishop may in turn delegate the cultural context in which he this faculty to his priests,” the was raised and served the major- statement said. “Bishop Robert ity his ministry. The pope is from BOOK W. Muench and his predeces- Argentina and in South America sors Bishop Stanley J. Ott and and Central America the local Bishop (now Archbishop) Alfred dioceses tend to be a bit more re- C. Hughes have indeed grant- strictive, Father David said. ed the priests of the diocese the Pope Francis said one of the OF ability to be ministers of mercy most serious problems facing in this particular situation, in people today is a “widespread and order to make clear that the mer- insensitive mentality” toward the cy and forgiveness of God are as sacredness of human life. widely available as possible.” “The tragedy of abortion is GENESIS Father Jamin David, pastor experienced by some with a su- at St. Mary Queen of Scotland perficial awareness, as if not real- Church, Albany, and assistant izing the extreme harm that such judicial vicar for the Diocese of an act entails,” while many other Baton Rouge, said the priests do women believe that “they have no Dr. Brant Pitre have the faculties to lift excom- other option” but to have an abor- munication with an individual, tion, the pope wrote in the letter, Notre Dame Seminary Theologian but the identity of that person is released Sept. 1 by the Vatican. never to be revealed. He added The pressures exerted on TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 22 that the priest should convey to many women to abort lead to “an the penitent the gravity of their existential and moral ordeal,” following 6:00 pm Mass sin and offer up the possibility of Pope Francis said. “I have met so Our Lady of Mercy Catholic Church lifting the excommunication. many women who bear in their olomchurch.com He noted that confession ab- heart the scar of this agonizing 6 The Catholic Commentator September 18, 2015 Communion from priest only?/Clarifying passage in Scripture

It has been 30 years since I last to his knees when he reached the priest, that some of those in heaven will not see saw this happen, but at Sunday leaving the people behind him hard- God. QMass yesterday a couple and pressed not to fall in a pile on top of him!) Most commonly, it is seen as offering their two children got up from a pew reassurance to the apostles that they will in front of me just as Communion was Somewhere in the Scriptures, it eventually be reunited with Christ even about to be distributed and walked quotes Jesus as saying that “my after death. Quite likely, they were wor- around our section of pews in order Qhouse has many rooms.” I’m ried that Jesus was abandoning them, to get in line to receive from the priest wondering what he meant. Does it mean and he endeavored to comfort them with instead of from a lay eucharistic minis- that not all of us in heaven will see God? the knowledge that there was ample room ter. I am fighting being judgmental, but (Cedar Lake, Indiana) for them in his Father’s house, to which he I can’t believe that this still happens. would soon return. How might a priest deal with this? How The passage to which you refer Notice that in the very next verse, Je- might those who witness it best react? comes in John’s Gospel (14:2), sus says that he is going to prepare a place (St. Paul, Minnesota) Aduring Christ’s discourse to the for them and that he will come back to Question Corner apostles at the Last Supper. In the New take them there. It is, of course, the same Eu- American Bible (which is the version charist whether received from Father Kenneth Doyle from which our Mass readings are FATHER DOYLE is chancellor for public in- Aa priest or from a lay minister taken), it is translated: “In my Father’s formation and a pastor in the diocese of and like you, I am a bit surprised when able to negotiate the aisle (our floor is house there are many dwelling places.” New York. Questions may be sent to Fa- someone feels compelled to make a sloped downward toward the altar), he The quote is subject to various inter- ther Kenneth Doyle at askfatherdoyle@ choice. You may have not seen it for would walk over to me, fall to his knees pretations, but no scriptural commen- gmail.com and 40 Hopewell St. Albany, 30 years, but my experience is more cur- and take the host in his mouth. tator, to my knowledge, takes it to mean NY 12208. rent. Up until a few weeks ago, there was I respected his choice and never made a man in our parish who consistently re- an effort to change his behavior. In the fused to take the consecrated host from scope of things, I felt that his preference Find more ‘archived’ viewpoints from Father a layperson. (I say until a few weeks ago was a small issue. For me, it came under because the man has since passed away.) the heading of the “big tent” that embrac- Doyle or any of our columnists at The Catholic When the distribution of Commu- es a wide variety of Catholics. (For safety Commentator Online under “Viewpoint” at: nion began, he would remain in the back reasons, I did, some years ago, speak to of the church. 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By Richard Meek canon law says that for a per- Communion, or by the peniten- stay strong in your commitment. Another 17 percent agree The Catholic Commentator son to be properly disposed, the tial rite at Mass.” Divorce alone does not disqual- Christ is present in the Eucharist communicant must be “prepared A person that receives Com- ify someone from Communion.” but claim they are unaware of (Second in a series) spiritually and disposed and have munion while not worthy still Two people who are married the church’s teachings. the right attitude.” He said the may not be committing a mortal outside of the church but are “Polling data is very nebu- Holy Communion will always key component is if a person is sin, according to Father Counce. leading a chaste lifestyle can re- lous,” Father Counce said. “What be at the center of the Catholic aware that he or she has commit- He said the act is seriously wrong, ceive Communion, he said. Also, they are really saying is ‘I am in- Church; it is what separates Ca- ted a mortal sin and not gone to but the “understanding of the two individuals involved in a gay adequate to explain how it is and tholicism from other denomina- confession, then person and what relationship may also receive why it is.’ But they are not neces- tions. the church ex- ... individuals they are attempting Communion provided they are sarily denying it is Christ.” But not all who attend Mass pects that person to do will color what not engaging in any sexual ac- When it comes to being aware are necessarily eligible to receive “not to approach who are married is a mortal sin. tivity. of grave sin, Father Counce said the body and blood of Christ. Fa- Communion un- “They did some- “The key emphasis of Pope “ignorance is generally an ex- ther Paul Counce, judicial vicar til you have gone but not in the thing that is mor- Francis is he is over and over cuse for the culpability of sin. for the Diocese of Baton Rouge, to the church tally sinful, but they again urging ministers in the You have to know you are doing said canon law is clear that a and received ab- church, or personally might church to emphasize mercy something wrong to do some- communicant must meet four solution.” not have committed above all in their ministry,” Fa- thing wrong.” requirements, including having However, a divorced a mortal sin. That is ther Counce said. “Not slavish, “Insanity defense works be- fasted for at least one hour prior Canon 916 of the for them, their con- but rather to God’s loving mercy fore God, too,” he added. “The to receiving Communion; be in Code of Canon person, who is fessor and their God which seeks always to forgive, to appeal to conscious is not an ap- a state of grace, also known as Law contains an to decide,” Father give another chance.” peal to do what you want to do. properly disposed; believe in the exception allow- not engaging in Counce said. Father Counce said equally as Conscious is you have to obey doctrine of the Catholic Church, ing a person to One area regard- important as being in a state of what you know God wants you to including acceptance of the receive Commu- sexual activity, is ing eligibility to re- grace is believing the body and do. It’s possible (to be unaware) bread and wine as the body and nion if he or she ceive Communion blood of Christ is present in the of some things.” blood of Christ and is not aware makes an act of eligible to receive that has recently Eucharist. He greeted with some Father Counce urged one to of grave sins. perfect contri- been in the news skepticism a recent report that examine his or her conscience to “The Eucharist is the source tion (see page 2), Communion. is the question of fewer than two-thirds of peo- be certain they are not receiving and summit of our Catholic life,” and resolves to unmarried individ- ple who identify themselves as the Eucharist under false pre- Father Counce said. “We want go to confession as soon as “rea- uals or individuals who are mar- Catholics actually believe Christ tenses. However, he urges mercy to set the bar pretty high, but sonably possible.” ried but not in the church. Father is present. According to a survey to those in the state of sin, and it’s not in a restrictive or a mean “The key thing is to be free Counce stressed that a divorced by the Center for Applied Re- said Pope Francis has shown a way. These are the holiest things from mortal sin,” Father Counce person who is not engaging in search in the Apostolate, only 46 desire to explore the possibility we possess. We don’t want it said. “If you are aware of mortal sexual activity is eligible to re- percent of self-identified Cath- of widening access to the sacra- trampled in the mud; we don’t sin, you should go to confession. ceive Communion. olics said they are aware of the ments, especially the Eucharist. want it treated disrespectfully.” “If you are in a state of ve- “You should go,” he encour- church’s teachings about the real “We rejoice in this great gift,” According to Father Counce, nial sin, it is forgiven by going to aged. “You need those graces to presence and agree. he said. Trusting in God’s hidden hand

aith teaches us that divine He meant that we should bear Feelings follow thoughts, just ipating the victory. providence is somehow at patiently with God, even when as actions follow feelings. Ac- The Lord is aware that life, Fwork behind the scenes we do not fully understand why tions in turn lead to habits, and with its many sorrows, can be in the day-to-day events of he seems, to us, aloof at times. habits determine your character a penance. We all pine for par- our lives. Ask yourself, How We must learn to trust the Lord and destiny. adise. This yearning for God is did your parents meet? What always. One little doubt about God’s always with us. sparked the mutual attraction To remain accepting and loving control over every situa- Be at peace then and trust that between them? They probably without complaint takes cour- tion can weaken your faith. But God will support you, not only on met by accident, or so it seemed age. But remember: A single act trust God in all circumstances. good days but also on bad. His si- to them. of trust, based on your faith in Trust him even when you think lence is an illusion. Your supreme Whatever the explanation God’s love, is far more meritori- you feel his silence. It will enable purpose in life is to save your soul might have been, the fact is that ous than a dozen professions of you to rejoice even more when by trusting the goodness of the God knew from all eternity that faith. Trust in divine love in all he does come through for you, as hidden hand of God. you were to be born from these circumstances. The hidden hand he always does. Therefore, when FATHER CATOIR writes on issues of two people. Only they could have Spirituality of God is always present. the not-so-great times come, spirituality for today’s Catholic produced you. You are responsible for your find the courage to rejoice, antic- for Catholic News Service. Consider that God wanted thoughts and actions. Accept you to come to life. Jesus told For Today that you have become who you us he wanted our joy to be full, Father John Catoir are largely because of your own and that included you. We don’t choices, the good and bad. Honor Those We Love. understand these mysteries, but Therefore, as you move into GARDENS OF MEMORY &FUNERAL HOME -CREMATORY -MAUSOLEUMS divine providence is certainly a cue. We need to know why he is the future, think wisely. Do not factor in all of our lives, not only silent. give in to any doubt about God’s on good days but also on bad. One of the great spiritual loving presence in your life. Knowing this, we are often writers, Meister Eckhart, said Thoughts may come willy-nilly puzzled about God’s silence, es- we should always take courage into your mind, but you can weed 11817 Jefferson Highway pecially when we pray for him to because God will always save us out the doubts and fears that sab- 225-753-1440 take on the role of a superhero in the end, even if we have to en- otage your joy. You can say yes or www.ResthavenBatonRouge.com and come charging to our res- dure what seems like his silence. no to each and every thought. 2x2” Rest.small.honor.those’13 8 The Catholic Commentator September 18, 2015 Pope calls on Europe’s parishes, religious houses to take in refugees

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Tasman: Grow the kingdom

By Rachele Smith The Catholic Commentator

“Grow the kingdom of God here on Earth.” That’s what Robert Tasman, executive director of the Louisiana Confer- ence of Catholic Bishops, encouraged educators to do this year in the Diocese of Baton Rouge. Tasman, who was the keynote speaker at the 2015 Catholic Educators Gathering on Sept. 4, also offered a path for teachers and administrators to grow God’s kingdom by opening themselves to the gifts of the Holy Spirit. “It is the fire of the Holy Spirit that should burn within our lives,” he said. Tasman encouraged the 900 educators meet- ing at the River Center to watch out for the “selfie” attitude that has enveloped society today, and in- stead focus on the Gospel, which is the road map to a holy life. “We have moved into an era of self-promotion,” he added. “Now what we do is compete within the com- merce of ‘likes.’ ” Tasman explained that many people spend too much time wondering how many ‘likes’ they received on social media posts. Unfortunately, Tasman explained this attitude, which moves one away Teachers and administrators sing a gathering hymn as they wel- from community and thinking about the care of others, is not consistent come Bishop Robert W. Muench and other clergy from across with our faith. He encouraged teachers and administrators to be intentional the Diocese of Baton Rouge during the processional of the 2015 in not only responding to the directive of the Gospel, but also in following Catholic Educators Gathering Mass. Photos by Rachele Smith | the fruits of the Holy Spirit and upholding the dignity of everyone they come The Catholic Commentator in contact with, from classroom students and their parents to each other. Tasman reflected on earlier statements by Pope Francis to protect human dignity, adding that the pontiff called every violation of the dignity of a per- son an offense to God. “Imagine God saying, ‘I’m disappointed in you.’ That would make me turn Following Mass, educators take part in a commissioning service lead by Bishop Muench and Dr. Melanie Verges, superintendent of around and try something new,’” Tasman said. Catholic schools. Tasman emphasized the important job teachers and administrators do everyday in their education ministry, and he called on them to continue to share one important gift of the Spirit as they return to their schools. “Finally, love. Above all else, and if you do nothing else, love,” he said. During one breakout session, educators study a video featuring a classroom teacher Tasman explained that love not only reorients the soul, but it also decen- instructing students. The video was used to enhance understanding of new criteria ters the self. He added that love allows us to be gentle, patient and kind while that will be used in school accreditation visits this January. turning us into individuals we didn’t even know we could become. But love, he said, also brings us to a point of surrender and sacrifice, es- LEARNING PROCESS pecially as we learn that we must love in the easiest as well as the most chal- lenging moments. Is it worth it? and Religious Education (ACRE). The test, olic Bishops. For Tasman, the answer to that question lies in his own discovery that Catholic teachers gather which is administered to fifth- and eighth- Teachers and administrators used the rest selflessness is not just an outright expression of love, but it is also the quick- grade students yearly, showed that students in of the morning and early afternoon to learn est way to happiness. the diocese continued to demonstrate a strong from each other and other professionals in the for day of prayer, education understanding of Catholic faith, high morals community. Breakout sessions featured an ar- and social justice. ray of ideas for the classroom, including ways By Rachele Smith diocesan-wide review of student performance For high school students, the news was just to add inquiry-based activities to lesson plan- The Catholic Commentator where Verges congratulated those in atten- as good. Verges explained that the average ning and how to teach behavior expectations dance for living out the pillars of the Catholic ACT composite score for students attending and establish routines for a positive learning hile students enjoyed an added schools mission. diocesan high schools jumped .8 points to 24, environment. Other sessions involved strate- Dr. Kevin day to their Labor Day weekend, Verges explained that by continuing to pro- a number well above the minimum composite gies for developing a successful school devel- Andry (on teachers from around the Diocese mote high levels of learning and achievement score needed for TOPS qualification. For Lou- opment office as well as looking at school safe- Jeff Soileau shares information about Healthy keyboard), W Thomas Macowski of RCL Benziger, a Roman of Baton Rouge gathered at the River Center in the classroom, educators in the diocese isiana high school graduates hoping to receive ty measures in the wake of recommendations Lives, a wellness program with the Francis- a teacher to collaborate, learn, and pray together. were instrumental in helping their students state scholarships from TOPS, the minimum from the Sandy Hook Advisory Commission. can Missionaries of Our Lady Health Systems. Catholic book publishing house based in Cincin- at St. Mi- According to Dr. Melanie Verges, Super- once again exceed the national average on composite ACT score is 20. In anticipation of the diocese’s upcoming Healthy Lives was one of 44 exhibitors show- nati, Ohio, enjoys showing a catalog to a teacher chael the intendent of Catholic Schools, 900 diocesan standardized testing, scoring better than 70 Verges also noted the Catholic Schools Of- school accreditation team visits this January, casing ways to assist educators in their ministry during the Catholic Educators Gathering. Archan- educators attended the 2015 Catholic Educa- percent of students across the country taking fice’s three-year goal of increasing the num- educators also received information on up- of teaching. gel High tors Gathering on Sept. 4. the same test in the 2014-2015 school year. ber of special education sites in the diocese, dates to a classroom observation tool. Called gation in song. School, Reflecting on this year’s theme “Fruit of In addition to a strong performance in core up from six this year, its first, to 12 by 2018. “eWalk,” the technology, which is already used and was assisted by several other priests from Following Mass, a commissioning service leads the Spirit,” teachers and administrators be- subjects against national standards, diocesan Following Verges’ comments, educators in the diocese, provides faster feedback to a across the diocese. Dr. Kevin Andry and Em- for educators was held where teachers and his band gan the day with a prayer service led by as- students also scored above national norms in were encouraged in their ministry by listening teacher. ily Froeba, teachers at St. Michael the Arch- administrators offered their talents and af- students in sistant superintendent of Catholic schools understanding their Catholic identity as mea- to keynote speaker Robert Tasman, executive The day concluded like it started, in prayer. angel High School, along with several of their firmed their commitment to Catholic educa- providing music for Mass. The musicians and choir members present encouraged Michael Miller. The service was followed by a sured through the Assessment of Catechesis director of the Louisiana Conference of Cath- Bishop Robert W. Muench celebrated Mass students, provided music and led the congre- tion in the diocese. educators to unify and lift up their voices in worship. 12 The Catholic Commentator September 18, 2015 Young Actors thrive in youth theater program By Debbie Shelley “This has been my favorite play since I ity in acting since being in the program. background in Shakespeare is important The Catholic Commentator was two years old,” said Owens, who was He said it was a challenging transitioning in theater. The language of the play, which jubilant, in contrast to her surly character, from playing a dark character, Jud Fry, in she described as beautiful and witty, in- She’s hot tempered – she snarls, push- when interviewed. “I went to the library the program’s last production, “Oklaho- trigued and challenged her. es people around, pierces them with her when I was little. My mom told me I could ma,” to a comedic role, Minola, in “Tam- “It’s Shakespeare, so you have to care- sharp tongue and daggering eyes and get a bag of books and a movie each week. ing of the Shrew.” fully read the scene to understand. The even breaks instruments over their heads. I saw this movie, ‘Kiss Me Kate,’ which is “This guy (Minola) is funny and gull- language is complex, you have to know But people love her as they watch her in a musical based on the play. My mom told ible,” said Myagi. what you’re saying, you just can’t read a battle of wills with her romantic lead, me, ‘You’re not going to like that.’ He sees qualities of the good-hearted words off a page,” she said. a fortune seeker who is out to “tame her “We brought it home, and I was com- Minola in himself. Daniel Crump, St. George School stu- will,” and discover she is not mean, simply pletely glued to the TV. I started quot- “I like to see the good in people before dent, who played Gremio, concedes he re- misunderstood in her quest for love. ing it. Then I made Mom buy ‘Animated I judge them,” Myagi said. luctantly joined the Young Actors Program, Several Catholic schools students Shakespeare.’ ” Thomas Prochaska, also a CHS stu- but now wouldn’t be anywhere else. “It (act- were among a talented cast that recently Owens regularly auditions for parts in dent, is in the cast as one of Bianca’s suit- ing), really became a passion,” he said. brought to stage the story of Katherina, Theatre Baton Rouge. ors, Hortensio. He said the cast, crew and directors known as “the Shrew,” in William Shake- “But this is my favorite show, so I had “I’m a scaredy cat. I’m always ner- become close during the rehearsals. “We speare’s play, “Taming of the Shrew,” as to be here,” explained Owens, who sees vous,” said Prochaska of his character. “I are family,” he said. part of Theater Baton Rouge’s Young Ac- qualities of Kate in herself. am one of those yippy dogs who bark at Sydney Hamilton, a SJA student who tors Program. “I think I’m as strong willed and driv- everything but cower when something plays a servant, said her role is important Varland Owens, a St. Joseph’s Acad- en as Kate is. I don’t think I’m as harsh as bigger comes along.” in transitioning between scenes. emy student, played the lead role of Kath- she. But I can take the passion I have and Prochaska was Tiny Tim in Theater Ba- “You would think it’s a small part, but erina, or Kate, the daughter of Baptista fire in my spirit, and put it in her,” said ton Rouge’s first production of “A Christ- in the bigger picture, you need the person Minola, a lord in Padua, Italy. Minola, Owens. This was evidenced in her meta- mas Carol” and has also regularly been in to bring people off stage and to help the played by Matt Myagi, a Catholic High morphosis from joyous to foul-tempered Theatre Baton Rouge productions. audience understand, ‘Okay, that’s what School student, is so desperate to get Kate on stage. With each play, Prochaska learns they are going to do,’ rather than have off his hands that he refuses to let anyone Myiagi has been with the Young Ac- about his craft. characters randomly leave the stage and marry his younger daughter, Bianca, who tors Program since it started in 2011. He Caroline Fedducia, a student at Sacred you don’t know what happened to them,” has many suitors and is more charming was awarded the outstanding young ac- Heart of Jesus School, who has been with said Hamilton. and mild-mannered, until Kate is mar- tor award at Theatre Baton Rouge’s Beaux the program since 2012, played Grumio She enjoys live theater because it re- ried. Kate meets her match with Petru- Arts Ball on July 25. and was a member of the chorus. She nor- quires actors to convey their emotions chio, who sees her as a challenge. Myagi has learned a lot about versatil- mally does musicals, but knows having a strongly to connect with the audience.

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a franchise that first hit the pavement – wife’s (Emma Thompson) insistence that Motion Picture Association of America and the skids – in 2002, director Camille he include a companion on the trip, he MOVIE ratings: G – General audiences; all ages admitted Delamarre keeps most of the endless reluctantly accepts the company of the PG – Parental guidance suggested; some violence gore-free. But the car chases only volunteer he can find a friend from REVIEWS material may not be suitable for children that represent his sometimes absurd his past (Nick Nolte) with whom, partly USCCB Office for Film & Broadcasting PG-13 – Parents are strongly cautioned film’s other stock-in-trade all but wipe by choice, he has long been out of touch. classifications: to give special guidance for attendance out the Cote D’Azur’s mobile police force As the domesticated scribe and his roll- A-I – General patronage of children under 13; some material may while promiscuity and – in Dad’s case – ing stone of a sidekick lumber through the A-II – Adults and adolescents be inappropriate for young children perversion, though kept off screen, are forest, they compare notes on life, all too A-III – Adults R – Restricted; under 17 requires accom- treated as enviable perks of the James many of which treat sexuality including A-IV – Adults, with reservations panying parent or adult guardian Bond lifestyle. Pervasive harsh but large- the bedroom escapades of their shared L – Limited adult audience NC-17 – No one under 17 admitted O – Morally offensive ly bloodless violence, reckless disregard youth as a form of entertainment. In for life, a revenge theme, strong sexual adapting Bill Bryson’s 1998 memoir, di- content including a benign view of group rector Ken Kwapis takes viewers on a gen- sex, a semi-graphic nonmarital encoun- erally pleasant, though excessively talky, 90 Minutes in Heaven images, some mature themes. A-II; PG-13 ter, some partial nudity and same-sex expedition through landscapes that vary Samuel Goldwyn kissing at least one use of profanity, oc- from the soothing to the magnificent. Yet, Writer-director Michael Polish’s ad- The Transporter Refueled casional crude language. O; PG-13 even as one sequence of his film celebrates aptation of the 2004 best-seller by Don EuropaCorp marital fidelity in the face of temptation, Piper (Hayden Christensen) tells the true Kitschy addition to a trio of excessively The Visit another winks at a potential dalliance story of the Baptist minister’s near-death violent action flicks about a driver (Ed Universal with a married woman. Defective values, experience following a devastating car Skrein) on the French Riviera whose Delivering laughter as well as scares, including an ambivalent attitude toward crash. After a brief vision of heaven, he martial arts skills, prowess behind the this horror-comedy will leave audience adultery, a nongraphic scene of aberrant endures a torturous recovery marked by wheel and ability to keep his mouth shut members entertained yet also scratching sexual activity, a glimpse of partial rear unbearable pain. Yet the emotional toll make him the chauffeur of choice for the their heads as a 15-year-old budding mov- nudity, much off-color humor, numer- for his family, in particular his wife (Kate region’s abundance of questionable char- iemaker (Olivia DeJonge) and her younger ous uses of profanity, frequent rough and Bosworth), is even greater. Though the acters. Hired by a quartet of prostitutes brother (Ed Oxenbould), a self-styled rap crude language. L; R film’s celestial journey is overshadowed (led by Loan Chabanol) desperate to artist, visit their grandparent’s Pennsyl- by its medical narrative, it remains an in- break free of their servitude, he’s forced vania farmhouse and record how the el- War Room spiring tale about faith, hope and persis- to get involved with their scheme to derly couple’s peculiar behavior becomes Tri-Star tence. Considered as a whole, moreover, bring down the mobster (Yuri Kolokol- increasingly menacing. Writer-director M. Prayer becomes the ultimate weapon for its evangelical viewpoint on prayer and nikov) controlling them after they kid- Night Shyamalan (“The Sixth Sense”) tries a young family in crisis in this Christian- the promise of eternal life is mostly con- nap his father (Ray Stevenson), a retired to cover too many bases and triggers some themed drama. The film’s battleground is sonant with Catholic doctrine. Disturbing British intelligence operative. Reviving unintended laughter along with the frights a McMansion in suburban North Caro- and levity that the actors execute with great lina where an overtaxed wife and mother aplomb. Using the movie-within-a-movie (Priscilla Shirer) finds the demands of device enables Shyamalan to offer a mild her job as a real estate agent leave her critique of the compulsion to treat life as little time to focus on raising her daugh- mere narrative, to filter every experience ter (Alena Pitts). As for her ambitious through a lens, screen or other electronic but inattentive husband (T.C. Stallings), device; nevertheless, any serious theme with whom she constantly quarrels, his is eclipsed by the tonally disparate film’s work as a salesman keeps him on the road humor and scare quotients. Much terrify- where sinful temptations lurk, including ing behavior and some nongraphic vio- opportunities to be unfaithful. Riding lence, an instance of rough language and to the rescue is an elderly but feisty lo- one rough gesture, some crude and crass cal character (Karen Abercrombie) who language, several instances of profanity, recommends calling on God for help and brief rear female nudity, a drug reference, seeking his healing grace. As directed and a suicidal character, and some sexual ban- co-written by Alex Kendrick, this prose- ter, mostly contained in rap music lyrics. lytizing message movie is heavy-handed A-III; PG-13 at times. But Kendrick’s intentions, like those of his brother and script collabo- A Walk in the Woods rator Stephen, are obviously sincere and Broad Green worthy, while their emphasis on piety, for- Seeking a remedy for his writer’s block, giveness and redemption, although cast an aging travel author (Robert Redford) in evangelical terms, is nonetheless fully decides to defy his physical limitations compatible with Catholic teaching. Mild by hiking the 2,200-mile-long Appala- domestic discord, some mature themes. chian Trail. Yielding to his concerned A-II; PG

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I know I took the path that Refrain: I know I took the path that 71 81 91 you would never want for you would never want for 210 2 22 me So I, I bet my life, I bet my life me I know I let you down, didn’t I? I bet my life on you I gave you hell through all the 243 252 So many sleepless nights I, I bet my life, I bet my life years Were you, were waiting up on I bet my life on you 2728296 2 03 321 333 me? I’ve been around the world (Repeat refrain.) 43 53 63 Well, I’m just a slave unto the and never in my wildest Don’t tell me that I’m wrong night dreams I’ve walked that road before 73 83 93 Now remember when I told Would I come running home And left you on your own 04 14 24 you that’s the last you’ll see to you Please, believe them when of me? I’ve told a million lies they say 34 44 54 Remember when I broke you But now I tell a single truth That it’s left for yesterday 476 4 down to tears? There’s you in everything I do And the records that I’ve I know I took the path that Now, remember when I told played 49408 5 521 5354555 you would never want for you that’s the last you’ll see Please forgive me for all I’ve 65 587 5 95 me of me? done I gave you hell through all the Remember when I broke you 06 16 26 years down to tears (Repeat refrain twice.) 36 46 56 Sung by Imagine Dragons | Copyright © 2014, KIDinaKORNER/Interscope Records moc.scilohtacrofsemagdrow.www ACROSS 3 Direction (abbr.) 1 OT book that precedes Ruth 4 Stare with open mouth 5 Landed 5 He was called the “Dumb Ox” Navigating a transition from teen to adult 10 The Chosen People 6 Damned 14 Former overseer of the VOA 7 Garments As teens move seems too difficult to attempt, go to a guide, or 15 Cite Scripture 8 Airport letters 16 Vinegar (comb.) into adulthood, counselor, who can help. 9 Daniel was in the lion’s ___ 17 Semi-monthly tide 10 Brother of John how should their Parents need to tell their children often that 18 Pope (II) who called for the 11 Coll. course parents, and the they love and accept them. This does not mean Crusades 12 Contraction 19 Relocate teens, navigate this that they approve of all of their decisions and 13 Jacob made this dish for Isaac 20 Sideways (Gen 25:34) transition? choices. However, always communicate that love 22 Spiritual program 21 Tree covered land I considered is given freely. 23 Slave of Philemon (Philem 22 Chafe 15–16) this question as I Parents are also called to protect the physical, 24 “___ your pardon” 26 Cargo 25 Flightless bird listened to Imag- emotional and spiritual well-being of their child. 30 Popular Catholic TV sitcom ac- 26 Dough ine Dragons’ latest At times, this means they must enforce limits. For tor Newhart 27 Give the benefit of 31 Lab animal release “I Bet My example, all teens should have reasonable curfews 28 Country bumpkin 34 Evades 29 Sins against the eighth Com- Life.” Lead singer on how long they can stay out at night. But the 35 Jonah was thrown into this mandment Dan Reynolds, in later the curfew, the more potential trouble. Par- 36 Architect Saarinen 31 Changed the décor of 37 Personal interests 32 Got up an interview, spoke ents can talk with their children about safety and 38 Tree under which Jesus saw 33 The ___ of Babel of this transition in together can plan a reasonable curfew. Nathanael (Jn 1:47–48) On The Record 35 Original or actual, for example his life and how his Teens need to see these limits as an act of car- 39 Equip 40 Gifts for dad 36 Letter-bottom abbr. relationship with Charlie Martin ing, but both should negotiate the curfew times 41 “Am ___ your way?” 38 The Lord appeared to Moses in his parents went when there is a special occasion and when safety 42 Cut into this (Ex 3:2) 39 He walked with God (Gen 5:24) through a tough seems reasonably present. 43 Corner piece 44 Mon. of St. Pat 41 ___ WHO AM (Yahweh) period. He said that even though the relationship When genuine listening has been established 45 Burn without flame 42 Mimic had been strained and difficult, there was still a by everyone in the family, teens need to share 46 The ___ church (family) 44 Crowd bond. their questions, dreams and challenges with their 48 AKA Sinai 45 Zeno’s followers 51 Street problems 46 ___ of the firstborn (plague) This seems to be the case for the song’s pro- parents. This dialogue can happen more easily 56 Stadiums 47 Shopping fun tagonist. He describes how “I know I took the path if parents affirm these aspects of their lives, give 57 Saint Goretti 48 One of the three in 1 Cor 13:13 you would never want for me” and says “I let you advice only when directly asked, but reassert that 59 The Roman Pontiff 49 Lyric poems 60 Confined 50 Hire down, didn’t I?” their love is always there for their teens. 61 College of Cardinals’ task 52 Paul and Silas’ prison doors For this individual, the relationship between Mistakes will happen. It may be necessary to regarding the pope after the earthquake (Acts him and his parents became so painful that he talk about the pain that a mistake can cause, but 62 Not odd 16:25–27) 63 OT historical book 53 Fruit of the Spirit (Gal 5:22–23) “told you that’s the last you’ll see of me” and such hurt should be expressed as one’s personal 64 Farm birds 54 Fencing sword “broke you down to tears.” Yet something hap- experience, not as blame or fault. 65 Scholarship criterion 55 Transmit pened that brought healing into a painful situa- If a family has a strong faith life, this will be an 57 Tom’s “You’ve Got Mail” co-star DOWN 58 Pub drink tion. Now he says to his parents, “Please forgive asset for dealing with this transition. Prayer for 1 Catholic actress Haver me for all I’ve done.” each other is always an act of love. I ask families 2 Applied Solution on page 18 Most families face difficulties as teens discover to go to Sunday Mass together. their individuality and move toward adulthood. Remember, in all aspects of life, and especially As a pastoral counselor and family therapist, I in life’s transitions, we learn as we go. Control, have sat with many families as they attempt to perfection and everyone being happy all the time move through this time only to discover more are illusions. Give up these illusions and focus on pain than success in this transition. But there are improving your relationships with love, patience, ways to make the transition smoother. understanding and forgiveness. First, it helps to remember that teens and par- ents are facing this transition but from different MARTIN is an Indiana pastoral counselor who perspectives. Communication based on genuine reviews current music for Catholic News Service. listening is the foundation for success. This takes Write to: [email protected]; or 7125 West CR patience, humility and perseverance by teens 200 South, Rockport, IN 47635; or like on Face- and their parents. When listening to one another book at “Charlie Martin’s Today’s Music Columns”. 16 The Catholic Commentator VIEWPOINT September 18, 2015

| EDITORIAL What will Pope Francis tell Congress? Pope’s uite a few ing not only death but huge migrations of there would tell you so. There is still some well-known people. His recent three-country visit to evidence of CO2 in the form of smog, but message clear Qwriters have Bolivia, Paraguay and Ecuador and his it has been reduced tremendously. The air been predicting upcoming visit to Cuba and the United has a gray tinge now, instead of orange. The Pope Francis’ astonish- what Pope Francis States, give him occasions to apply this Californians are still burning fossil fuel, but ing announcement regarding will say when he vision to specific areas of the globe. they have cleaned up their emissions. I hope the peeling away of the bu- addresses the Con- How is Pope Francis going to apply that Pope Francis will note the clean up – in reaucratic red tape that has gress of the United his vision to the U.S.? We are the largest cars, in power plants and in much of heavy seemingly discouraged many States on Sept. 24. consumerist society in the world, behavior industry – even as he reminds us to take care Catholics from seeking annul- During his visit to the pope strongly criticizes in Laudato of Mother Earth. ments stunned many observ- our country, he will Si’. From a spiritual point of view, we are Another area of excess that the pope ers, including clergy members also speak to the too materialistic. But from the economic has written against is the gross diversity and canon lawyers. United Nations in viewpoint of our global economy, what in wealth between the richest one percent Second-guessers are not in New York and to the would less consuming here do to “made throughout the world and the rest of us, espe- short supply, as many are at- World Meeting of Another in” China, India, Japan, South Korea, cially the poor. He ties this into the tendency tempting to identify his logic, Families in Phila- Thailand, Viet Nam, Philippines and to make an idol of uncontrolled markets. especially as to why the an- delphia. These last Perspective Mexico? Our consumerism is a great boon Greed is a human sin which demands some nouncement came on the eve two talks have not to their job markets and overall econo- controls. Doing away with such in bank- of the pontiff’s inaugural visit drawn as many pre- Father John Carville mies. We are also the biggest throw-away ing and investment companies helped our to the United States. Some dictions as the one society, another target in Laudato Si’. Do country to cause the great world recession have even suggested the Cath- to Congress. The we really need a new wardrobe every year of 2008. If we can believe reports in public olic Church is eschewing its theme of the Philadelphia meeting dictates or two? Still, our St. Vincent de Paul and media, new laws have reinstituted necessary own principles by acquiescing his speech’s content. However, those present Goodwill stores, and through them the poor, controls since then. Pope Francis is the ideal to the demands of modern so- for his United Nations speech may hear some depend on hand-me-downs. Deliberately person to talk against greed. I hope that he ciety and basically giving those themes of his talk to Congress repeated. This living a simple, non-wasteful, lifestyle is also is aware of what has been done to curb mired in unhappy marriages a pope is full of surprises, so it is intriguing virtuous. That is why Jesus blessed the poor it in banking and investments. The middle convenient out and still remain to guess what he will say. And, the hope of in his Beatitudes. But trying to be poor in chapters of Laudato Si’ were heavy on con- in the church. making at least an educated guess forces one a poor church, as Francis wants us to be, is demnation of greed and economic inequality. Quite the opposite is, in to do some interesting reading. far more difficult in a prosperous, first-world One area in the encyclical I didn’t under- fact, true. Pope Francis’ new Before he entered the Jesuit novitiate to country than it is in a missionary third-world stand was how the prosperity of nations in annulment policy continues study for the priesthood, Pope Francis pre- country. God also loves a generous giver, the northern hemisphere was somehow a the message of inclusion and pared for a career in the science of chemistry. but that means you have to have something cause of poverty in the southern hemisphere. mercy he has been preaching Like a scientist, his thought process goes to give. I am really looking forward to what Perhaps the address to Congress will throw since 2013. He recognizes that from facts to theory rather than like that of Pope Francis has to say to our Congress and some light on this. many Catholics are hurting, his predecessors, St. John Paul II and Pope to us Americans about our wealth and our Immigration is such a critical problem feeling estranged by a cumber- Benedict XVI, who taught as a philosopher lifestyle. today that it may come much nearer the top some annulment process that and a theologian respectively. Both wrote We Americans are also the world leader in of the pope’s address to Congress. Care for can take years to complete. books on church doctrine that they hoped the use of fossil fuels. We have the most cars the immigrant, who is also often a refugee, is Yet the pope also under- would change human behavior for the better. that burn gasoline and use the most electric- such an important message of the Bible and stands that many of those Pope Francis looks at facts of human suffer- ity created by burning coal, oil and natural of Jesus himself. Pope Francis may have a same Catholics are thirsting to ing and wonders whether an adjustment in gas. The burning of fossil fuels creates lot to say about our leadership role in a world return to the church, hunger- the church’s doctrinal approach might give carbon dioxide which in turn causes global where wars in the near-east and in Africa are ing for the body and blood of some relief. warming. This may not be the only cause of causing huge displacements of people, while Christ. His message is an invi- Both Pope Francis’ exhortation, Evan- global warming – it may be naturally cyclic drug wars in Central America and Mexico tation to those Catholics who gelii Gaudium (the Joy of the Gospel), and as shown by periods of freezing and warm- together with poverty are driving increas- perhaps have felt abandoned his recent encyclical on our duty to care for ing during past ice ages. But God has made ing numbers across our border with Mexico. by their church to return to the earth and all its creatures, Laudato Si’ us caretakers of this good earth, and we are Jesus seems to have foreseen this. “I was a the flock, in much the same (“Praised Be” my Lord), set out the pope’s responsible when we cause it harm. Our best stranger, and you took me in” (Mt 25). way Jesus related the parable vision of the Catholic Church’s task at the science proves that rapid increase in man- May God inspire Pope Francis, and of a shepherd who briefly left beginning of the 21st Century. The extorta- made carbon dioxide following the industrial through him, our country and its leaders. his flock to save one wayward tion called us as Catholics to be missionaries revolution has coincided with rapid global sheep. of mercy and hope, while the encyclical asked warming. Pope Francis has said, and I would FATHER CARVILLE is a retired priest in the Dio- Contrary to what some are everyone, believers and non-believers, to heal think will say to Congress, that we have a cese of Baton Rouge and writes on current pontificating, Pope Francis has our planet and all its living things that have moral obligation to reverse this trend. It is topics for The Catholic Commentator. He not, and cannot create a muta- been hurt by ecological devastation, great possible. Anyone who visited Los Angeles can be reached at johnnycarville@gmail. SEE MESSAGE PAGE 17 economic inequality and tragic wars caus- 40 years ago and has recently returned com.

| PRAY FOR THOSE WHO PRAY FOR US Please pray for the priests, deacons and religious women and men in the Baton Rouge Diocese. Sept. 22 Rev. Henry W. Gautreau Jr. Sr. Ileana Fernandez CSJ Dcn. Albert Levy III Oct. 3 Rev. Joshua D. Johnson Dcn. Clayton A. Hollier Sept. 26 Rev. Leo Guillot Sr. Janet Franklin CSJ Dcn. Wilbur P. Martinez Br. Warren Laudumiey SC Dcn. Robert J. Kusch Sept. 30 Rev. J. Clifton Hill CSSp Sr. Carol Gonsoulin CSJ Sept. 23 Rev. Matthew J. Graham Br. Malcolm Melcher SC Dcn. James A. Little Oct. 4 Rev. Juel Kandula Dcn. William H. Holtman Sept. 27 Rev. Eric V. Gyan Br. Marcel Riviere SC Dcn. Robert McDonner Sr. Dianne Fanguy CSJ Dcn. Thomas E. Labat Sr. Oct. 1 Rev. Gordian O. Iwuji MSP Br. James Burns SC Sept. 24 Rev. William L. Greene Sr. Dulce Maria Flores HMSS Dcn. Fallon H. Lorenz Oct. 5 Rev. Jon C. Koehler Dcn. Micheal J. (Shelley) Joseph Sept. 28 Rev. Patrick Healy SSJ Sr. Ana Luisa Galvan HMSS Dcn. John L. McGinnis Jr. Br. Noel Lemmon SC Dcn. Ronald D. LeGrange Oct. 2 Rev. Charbel Jamhoury Sr. Mary Joel Gubler OP Sept. 25 Rev. Paul A. Gros Br. Paul Montero SC Dcn. Edwin J. Martin Dcn. John A. Jung Jr. Sept. 29 Rev. Ray Hebert SC Br. Xavier Werneth SC September 18, 2015 VIEWPOINT The Catholic Commentator 17 MESSAGE  From page 16 Priest retreat a sacrifice worth making tion of church doctrine, which is rooted in the day, Oct. 5, through Thursday, Oct. 8. will assist in providing a deacon for words of Christ. But he has developed an av- I know this may affect certain regular that special need. enue that essentially utilizes church doctrine ministries, such as daily Mass and Over the years attendance at our not as a deterrent, but as a welcome mat for funerals. The daily Mass schedule annual priest retreat has been remark- fallen away Catholics. in your parish can be adjusted as ably consistent. Pressing ministry The pontiff wants those Catholics who are determined by your parish priest to could compromise and jeopardize our seeking forgiveness, who are seeking mercy, meet the needs of your parish during commitment to these special opportu- to understand there is a pew waiting for them. this retreat. While this is a sacrifice, I nities. I hope this letter helps you un- Perhaps in the past those same church doors consider this sacrifice worth making. derstand and support our priests with may have appeared closed to many, but the Regarding funerals, I would ask that their commitment to their ministry. I pope has swung them wide open. funerals be scheduled either before the ask that you pray for our priests and His goal is not to increase numbers and is retreat begins or after, but not dur- our diocese during these days, as they not revenue driven, as some have speculated. ing, the scheduled retreat days. If this pray for you as well. Rather, it’s a manifestation of his message of is completely impossible, one of the In summary, every priest of the love, especially to those who once felt unwel- From The Bishop deacons from the diocese can provide diocese is expected to be present and come. the needed funeral rites, namely the take part in the retreat. I appreciate so He has extended wide the arms of Catholi- Bishop Robert W. Muench vigil wake, funeral without Mass and much your affirmation and encourage- cism, hoping to provide healing for those in rite of committal. If a parish cannot ment of our clergy who give so much of need of healing, a home for those who perhaps provide a deacon to lead these ser- their lives for our diocese. May God be felt alienated by the church they once loved, Dear People of God of the Diocese vices, Deacon John Veron has agreed generous in leading us into the future and the ability to once again partake in the of Baton Rouge, to coordinate finding deacons who are with hope. spiritual nourishment that is the body and willing to help. In this case, a parish blood of our Lord. Your pastor will be attending a staff member would contact the Office Yours always in Jesus, the Good mandatory priest retreat from Mon- of the Vicar General and Deacon Veron Shepherd. Dorothy Day – a saint for our time

ometime soon we will fectively take the Gospels to the rosary. Someone once quipped: enced in the joy of giving birth witness the canonization streets, to try to bring together If you drew out what’s deepest a gratitude that seared her soul. Sof Dorothy Day. For many Jesus and justice in a more and best within both the con- In her autobiography, “The Long of us today, especially those who effectual way. She is invoked servatives and liberals and put Loneliness,” she describes how, are not Roman Catholic, a can- today as the primary role model them through a blender, what at seeing her baby daughter for onization draws little more than for virtually everyone, Christian would come out is Day. the first time, she was so over- a yawn. How does a canoniza- and non-Christian alike, work- A second feature which char- come with gratitude that a faith tion impact our world? More- ing in the area of social justice. acterized Day and her spiritual- and love were born in her that over, isn’t canonization simply The honor is well-deserved. ity was her ability to simply act, never again left her. Her passion the recognition of a certain piety She, perhaps better than anyone and to act effectively. She not for God and the poor were fu- to which most people cannot else in her generation, was able only had faith, she acted upon eled by that. relate? So why should there be to wed together the Gospel and that faith. She was a doer, not She was also an earthy saint. much interest around the can- justice, Jesus and the poor, and just a listener; and she was able She will, no doubt, be the first onization of Dorothy Day – who take the fruits of that marriage to institutionalize her faith and canonized saint whose photo- in fact protested that she didn’t to the streets in an effective way. embed it into an institution, the In Exile graphs show a woman with a want people to consider her a That’s a rare and very difficult Catholic Worker, which not only cigarette in her mouth. She’s a saint and asserted that making feat. was able to minister directly to Father Ron Rolheiser saint for our time. She showed someone a saint often helps neu- Ernst Kasemann once com- the poor but was able to form us how we can serve God and tralize his or her influence? mented that the problem in itself into something larger and gratitude. Her route to faith, the poor in a very complex Well, Day wasn’t the kind both the world and the church more permanent than the faith, Jesus and the poor was rather world, and how to do it with love of saint who fits the normal is that the liberals aren’t pious vision and power of a single unorthodox. In the years prior and color. conceptions of piety. Many of and the pious aren’t liberal. person. Dorothy was able to act to her conversion she was an us, no doubt, are familiar with He’s right. Politics and religion in a way that was bigger and atheist, a communist, a woman OBLATE FATHER ROLHEISER, theo- a basic sketch of her life. She are both generally impover- more effective than her own ideologically opposed to the logian, teacher and award- was born in New York in 1897 ished because the pious won’t person. There’s an axiom that institution of marriage and a winning author, is president of and died there in 1980. She was be liberal and the liberals won’t says: Whatever we dream alone woman who had had an abor- the Oblate School of Theology in a journalist, a peace-activist, be pious. You normally don’t remains a dream, but what we tion. Her turning to God and San Antonio, Texas. He can be a convert to Christianity, who, see the same person lead- dream with others can become to the poor happened when contacted at ronrolheiser.com, together with Peter Maurin, ing the rosary and the peace a reality. Dorothy dreamed with she gave birth to her daughter, and on Facebook at facebook. established the Catholic Worker march. You normally don’t see others and made that dream Tamar Theresa, and experi- com/ronrolheiser. Movement to combine direct aid the same person championing a reality. Today, most of us to the poor and homeless with both the pro-life movement and struggle both to act on our faith nonviolent action on behalf of women’s choice. And, you don’t and, even more so, to embed our Mission Statement peace and justice. The move- normally see the same person faith concretely into effective, ment remains vibrant today. She scrupulously defending the sustained community action. The mission of The Catholic Commentator is to provide news, served, too, on the newspaper most-intimate matters within Finally, Day can be an inspi- information and commentary to the people of the Diocese she founded, Catholic Worker, private morality and having ration to us because she did the of Baton Rouge, Catholics and their neighbors alike. In doing from 1933 until her death. the same moral passion for the right thing for the right reason. so, The Catholic Commentator strives to further the wider Her person and the move- global-issues of social justice. Dorothy’s commitment to the mission of the Church: to evangelize, to communicate, to ment she started have powerful- But that was Day. She was poor arose not out of guilt, or educate and to give the Catholic viewpoint on important ly inspired Christians of every equally comfortable leading a neurosis, or anger, or bitterness issues of the present day. denomination to try to more ef- peace march and leading the towards society. It arose out of 18 The Catholic Commentator COMING EVENTS September 18, 2015

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VIOLENCE  choices, you will have good con- consciously transfer their anger While this sense of self-righ- Father Landry. From page 1 sequences,” explained Dawson, onto their children. Parental an- tousness can incur bad choices He emphasized that as hu- who noted many people are in ger, which can come from many and possibly violent behaviors, mans we have been given the gift we sit back and witness more prisons because of poor choices. sources, such as work, finances, Father Landry said we should of free will so we have to discern senseless violence? According to Dawson, a divorce or other family issues, is focus on our true calling as hu- how we want to live. However, “A part of what is happen- prime source for those choices, very difficult for a child to dis- mans. if we base our free will by read- ing is that people want to shift anger, comes from many places. cern, and interestingly, Dawson “We need to look to Jesus. ing the Scriptures and ultimately the responsibility of their anger For some, the feelings come from noted that many adults trace Jesus came to serve, not to be on love, then we decide that we and bad behavior onto others,” the media, where watching im- their own anger problems back served,” he explained. want to live with God. explained Doris Dawson, a li- ages of shooting and other vio- to childhood. By working for others and “The beauty of our God is that censed professional counselor lent acts can desensitize one to “Kids learn anger from their serving one another, one can ex- he is constantly calling us toward with Family Services of Greater the real pain and grief associated parents,” she said. “We model perience love and ultimately true him,” explained Father Landry, Baton Rouge. with these behaviors. bad behavior and our children happiness. who added that God’s love for us Dawson, who has extensive The media can also be espe- pick it up and when they act it “I learned early on that when I is immense, and one way to feel experience in counseling, includ- cially troublesome for teens and out, we wonder whey they got did something for someone else, it is to love one another. ing training under the respected young children. it from. They got it from us, the I felt good. The joy in my life is to “Love isn’t love until you give Duluth Model for treatment of “(They) look at TV, and the people that they love who they watch someone else smile,” said it away,” he said. domestic violence offenders, same person who died last week saw exhibit this behavior.” emphasized that unless there is is back on the screen this week. Kids can develop anger from Support the advertisers of The Catholic Commenta- evidence of a true mental health So, you have a distorted view, and other situations, such as being tor. They make your Catholic newspaper possible! disorder, people must take re- if you are young and impression- bullied or watching the bad be- sponsibility of their behavior able, that distortion can desensi- havior of friends, or as Dawson and “be able to own it.” tize you to how fatal death is. It called it, “the streets.” Dawson noted that in many can be confusing,” said Dawson. In some cases, this anger is not people, this intense anger, which In addition to the media, seen for many years, and without causes poor choices, has been Dawson said that some people help, such as attending therapy displaced. also develop deep anger issues or learning life skills, that anger “What I mean by displaced is from sports. While some sports can explode, possibly causing the that people bring to situations enthusiasts believe that involve- headlines we see today. grudges, antagonisms, fury and ment in these physical games For Father Charles Landry, indignations. I think they take can lessen feelings of anger for pastor of St. Gabriel Church in it from one situation and bring many, Dawson noted that for a St. Gabriel, the violent behavior it into a different scene, then select few, playing sports only we see in our society is a reflec- when something that is totally adds to their anger. tion of the violence some people irrelevant to what that person “You have some kids that see in themselves. has experienced someplace else when they lose, they want to Like Dawson, Father Landry SINCE 1979 occurs, it tips that person off and fight. They get so entrenched recognized the problem deep- that person acts in that (violent) in winning. They don’t see the rooted anger causes in some way,” she explained. sportsmanship or the camara- people, but he also feared that as Dawson added that at one derie. 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ANNULMENT  emphasis is on being merciful cases and spelling out specific From page 1 and pastoral and added the pon- conditions when a bishop can is- tiff does not want Catholics to be sue a declaration of nullity after nullity of marriages, but the put off by the bureaucratic pro- an abbreviated process. quickness of the processes, as cess or expense to obtain an an- Those conditions include: well as a correct simplicity” so nulment. when it is clear one or both par- that Catholic couples are not “op- According to Father Counce, ties lacked the faith to give full Dedicated to Our Lady of the Cenacle pressed by the shadow of doubt” the church will still challenge consent to a Catholic marriage; for prolonged periods. couples to make difficult deci- when the woman had an abortion September 25-27 Father Counce explained that sions but no longer make things to prevent procreation; remain- A Weekend of Prayer: the procedures announced by the “more difficult in ways that were ing in an extramarital relation- Refreshment for pope contain two basic differ- simply uncalled for.” ship at the time of the wedding or Married Couples ences. One is the new abbreviated “Frankly, our super cautious immediately afterward; one part- Presenters: Lloyd and Jan Tate process, where if both parties are approach over centuries has ner hiding knowledge of infertil- not contesting the annulment sometimes simply been an ob- ity, a serious contagious disease, and are cooperating, then an an- stacle in and of itself,” he added. children from a previous union October 3-4 nulment may be granted in as “We can find out the truth more or a history of incarceration; and Two Day Prayer Experience little as five to six weeks. easily.” when physical violence was used Sept 17, 24; Oct 1,8 Becoming a Disciple and In a significant shift, those de- Pope Francis said the changes to extort consent for the mar- On the Dignity and Vocation of Making Disciples for Jesus cisions will be made by the local in the annulment process were riage. Presenter: Women bishop after consulting with the motivated by “concern for the Rather than wait until Dec. Rev. John Baptist Bashobara Thursdays 7pm-8:30pm tribunal. salvation of souls,” and particu- 8, Father Counce said the Dio- The second major difference larly “charity and mercy” toward cese of Baton Rouge has already September 22 Coming in October! occurs at the back end of the those who feel alienated from the stopped charging for annul- Day of Prayer Inspirational Mini- more traditional process, where church because of their marriage ments. He is also asking for pa- Beginning the Year of Mercy Sessions for Women no longer will each case be re- situations and the perceived com- tience as he and his staff develop Accepting and Responding to Becomuing a Woman of Faith quired to go to a mandatory ap- plexity of the church’s annulment forms, flow charts and other ad- God's Unconditional Love Morning or Evening Sessions pellate review. Father Counce process. ministrative procedures to com- Presenter: Rev. Doug Doussan Dates and Times TBA said that alone could lop off as Pope Francis also provided a ply with the new process. 5500 St. Mary Street, Metairie, LA 70006 much as seven weeks or more off set of “procedural regulations” Father Counce said of the 110

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A couple choosing to marry in the Catholic Church what they are being asked to do and that they are people should realize that their wedding is more than a public of faith. display; it is a sacrament. Because the marriage ceremony is a public act of wor- A well-planned liturgy gives insight into the impor- ship as well, it should reflect the communal nature of the tance the couple has placed on their wedding. But there sacrament, with the guests serving not merely as specta- are some diocesan policies that pertain to weddings. tors, but more as participants in the marriage celebration. In the Diocese of Baton Rouge, weddings are not per- They are called upon to pray, to sing and to witness the mitted on Sunday or on holy days of obligation. Nor are love of Christ in the church and in society, to be signs of weddings, even without the nuptial Mass, permitted after Christian love and support for the couple as they begin 3 p.m. on Saturday or days preceding the holy days of ob- their married life. ligation. The couple is encouraged to choose the readings, pre- Weddings on other weekdays must be scheduled to be- pare the general intercessions and select the music for the gin no later than 8 p.m. wedding liturgy. There is no diocesan norm prohibiting marriage during mercial halls, secular facilities or private homes. The Diocese of Baton Rouge recommends that music Advent or Lent. But, where weddings are scheduled In the Catholic Church, a marriage of two Catholics be chosen that is technically correct and of good quality. during these times of the church year, the couple should normally takes place within a Mass. For a serious reason, That which is cheap or a trite musical cliché should not be advised to take into consideration the special nature of a marriage between a Catholic and a baptized non-Catho- even be considered. these liturgical seasons. In practice, the décor and liturgi- lic may take place at a nuptial Mass. Permission may also The music at weddings should serve to emphasize the cal arrangements determined by the parish during these be granted for a Catholic and a non-baptized person to be sacred event, not distract from it. Music at a particular seasons take priority over the environment desired by the married at a nuptial Mass for a grave reason. wedding must be judged on how well it will enable this couple for the wedding. When either the bride or groom is not Catholic, the particular group of people present at this wedding to In the Diocese of Baton Rouge, weddings are usually to couple is encouraged to choose a wedding liturgy that express their faith. Some churches require adherence to be celebrated in the parish church where either the bride does not include Communion. parochial guidelines for wedding music in hope that the or groom has a domicile, quasi-domicile or month-long The wedding liturgy is complete whether or not there suggestions contained there will offer even more help in residence. With the permission of the pastor of either the is a Mass. planning the celebration of the wedding. bride or groom and the pastor of the place of the proposed The bride and groom are the ones receiving the sac- There are several books available that contain read- wedding, a wedding may take place in some other parish rament and they are also the primary ministers of the ings from sacred Scripture that would be appropriate in church. With the additional permission of the proper re- celebration. There are also many other ministers at the planning for a wedding. These books also contain rele- ligious superior, a wedding may take place in a chapel at- wedding, each having a special role in the service. Care vant commentaries on the readings to assist the couple in tached to a religious house. should be given that those persons asked to be ministers choosing the readings and the Gospel that would be ap- Weddings may not be celebrated out-of-doors, in com- during the celebration have a clear understanding about propriate for their wedding. September 18, 2015 CATHOLIC WEDDINGS The Catholic Commentator 3B Faith helps keep couple together for 70 years By Richard Meek The Catholic Commentator

Their eyes met, yet no words were required. They knew each other’s thoughts, much in the same way they have for the past 70 years. Their memories may be fad- ing but what remains clear is the love Paul and Pat Davidson have for each other, their family and their faith, perhaps no sur- prise since their son, Father Al Davidson, is pastor at St. Joseph Church in Pierre Part and his uncle, Pat’s brother, was Bishop Warren Boudreaux, founding bishop of the Diocese of Hou- ma-Thibodaux. “We both have good dispo- sitions, and we enjoy life,” Pat Davidson said as the couple sat in the breakfast room of their Baton Rouge home on a recent summer morning and recalled “We’ve always been together,” Paul Davidson, left, said of he and his their early struggles, the chal- wife, Pat. The Davidsons recently celebrated their 70th wedding anni- lenges of raising eight children versary. 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But with get home for dinner. that the newlywed had to make eight children to feed, clothe and SEE COUPLE PAGE 12B 4B The Catholic Commentator CATHOLIC WEDDINGS September 18, 2015 Marriage coordinator key to successful church wedding By Rachele Smith Cynthia Losavio, wedding coordina- The Catholic Commentator tor at Christ the King Church in Baton Rouge, explained that some couples Wedding websites and magazines want to personalize their church mar- abound with reminders and lists of riage through such items as flowers, things to do before saying “I do.” From dress and music. Although there are selecting the invitations to bridesmaid some places in the ceremony where dresses to choosing the music and the this can be done, Losavio emphasized wedding cake, the number of decisions that ultimately the focus must be on the that must be made can, at times, seem sacrament and on the couple as they ex- exhausting. change their vows. But for an engaged couple, getting “Everything we do (in planning for married in a Catholic church can ac- the sacrament of marriage) has rever- tually be a blessing, in more ways than ence for the sanctity of the space and one. for the sacrament and the presence of In the Diocese of Baton Rouge, as in Jesus,” she said. other dioceses across the country, many Losavio explained that typically cou- churches provide assistance to the en- ples want to decorate the church with gaged couple through a marriage coor- flowers and other elements, and while dinator. While normally not responsible these can be beautiful, sometimes they for the couple’s marriage preparation, are simply not allowed as they will take the marriage coordinator helps the ex- away from the celebration of the sacra- pectant bride and groom as well as their ment. In addition, everything added to families in making decisions about the the sacred place of the church must be wedding ceremony, assistance that may in line with the liturgical season. actually make wedding planning easier. “During Ordinary Time, most Through the process, the sacrament churches already use greenery (in their of marriage is preserved with the un- décor) so many brides will bring in sim- derstanding that marriage in a Catho- ple flower arrangements,” noted Losav- lic Church reflects the union between io, who added that in other seasons, Christ and the church. such as Christmas, most churches are

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By Rachele Smith from a Catholic wedding if cer- The Catholic Commentator tain impediments, such as being closely related or having a previ- A wedding celebration is of- ous marriage are noted. ten a happy and joyous occasion. Couples who were married in With family and friends “saving a civil ceremony but who would the date,” a full agenda of parties still like a sacramental marriage and other planning details in should also contact their priest full swing for many months, the or deacon as soon as possible ceremony itself can become just as they must be married at least another social event. six months before planning a But for the Catholic Church, church wedding. getting married is more than Once it is determined that a just a date on a social calendar. It couple is free to marry, they can is a sacrament and a visible sign reserve a church. of God’s love. Catholics wanting to receive Darryl Ducote, director of the sacrament must be mar- the Office of Marriage and Fam- ried in a church. While some ily Life for the Diocese of Baton may desire wedding ceremonies Rouge, said since the Catholic conducted on the beach or in a Church values marriage so high- garden, the sacrament dictates after meeting with their priest or the Diocese of Baton Rouge of- ing the basic message of God’s ly, it wants to make sure that otherwise. deacon, an engaged couple must ten varied, albeit slightly, across love back to couples, something couples considering a life togeth- “(Marriage) is an act of wor- complete a pre-marital survey as church parishes. However, at the Ducote noted is needed. er are ready, both spiritually and ship and needs to be done in a well as a pre-marriage program, request of clergy, a committee “A lot of couples come in and psychologically. sacred place,” explained Ducote. such as Engaged Encounter or “A has been established to develop don’t have a good faith anymore, As such, each couple wanting He said any Catholic wanting Redeeming State,” for those en- a diocesan model that is more but they still want to get married to marry within the sanctions of to marry someone outside of the tering a second marriage. consistent in purpose, content in the church,” he said. the Catholic Church must com- faith must receive a dispensa- The survey and programs are and process. For some it may be that they plete certain requirements to re- tion to marry in a non-Catholic designed to offer talking points While still in its infancy, the just want a beautiful church ceive the sacrament of marriage. worship space and have a clergy and possibly formation in han- committee has already estab- setting for their wedding while This marriage preparation, member present as a witness. dling difficult situations that lished a concise purpose for others may realize from their which should begin at least six In addition, before a marriage will, in the long run, help the marriage preparation that in- childhood instruction that this months before a planned wed- takes place between a Catholic couple develop a lasting mar- cludes not only providing basic is something that they just need ding date, is designed to help a and non-Catholic, Ducote noted riage. relationship skills, as proven by to do. couple in their chosen vocation that the “Catholic party makes a Ducote added that one of the scientific research, needed for Marriage preparation, how- of marriage. promise (with the acknowledg- last requirements in marriage a successful marriage, but also ever, provides the perfect oppor- “The couple first meets with ment of the partner) that they preparation is to meet with the instruction in the unity of mar- tunity to “rekindle their faith,” their priest or deacon to see will do everything in their power priest or deacon to plan the cel- riage and its role in the church. Ducote noted, and encourage if they are free to marry,” ex- to share their faith (with chil- ebration of the liturgy. Another purpose for mar- them to get involved in the com- plained Ducote, who added that dren).” In the past, Ducote said, riage preparation developed in munity of the Catholic Church some couples may be blocked Within a certain time period marriage preparation within this committee involves bring- once again. Church ceremony blesses couples married in civil services By Michelle Martin for each other. young daughters, ages 5 and 1, and to get They didn’t get married in the church Catholic News Service Other dioceses have held similar cer- closer to God. years ago because they didn’t think they emonies. There have been several in the “I’m really happy we did it,” said An- could afford a church wedding with all CHICAGO – Couples who were mar- Archdiocese of Los Angeles, according gela Garcia, who has been married civ- the trimmings, Helen Curtis said. ried in civil ceremonies or had been to Monica Valencia, the archdiocese’s illy to Rodolfo for 11 years. “It’s just an “It was like, you have to have $30,000 living together for years are taking part director of media relations. In the Arch- experience that’s beyond words.” to have a wedding,” she said. in marriage preparation sessions and diocese of Galveston-Houston, one mar- Part of that, she said, was getting to While none of the couples in the 2013 retreats before participating in Catho- riage convalidation ceremony included know the other couples who were part ceremony had to break the bank for the lic Church convalidation ceremonies to 63 couples, according to Deacon Arturo of the ceremony. “It’s like a family,” she wedding, most of the women appeared bless their marriages. Monterrubio, director of the Family Life said. in white bridal gowns, carrying flowers, In October 2013, a group of 10 cou- Ministry Office there. Another had 34 Helen and David Curtis were mar- with the men in suits or tuxedos. The ples who chose to participate in the sac- couples, although most group convali- ried in a civil ceremony 12 years ago. church was decorated with flowers, and rament of matrimony at St. Bede the dation ceremonies include between two They decided to go through with the the music was provided by the church. Venerable Church in Chicago were told and 10 couples. sacrament of matrimony to have a deep- Several couples said they had small re- they were a living witness to the power During the convalidation Mass in er connection with the Catholic Church ceptions or family dinners planned for of love. Chicago, the priest reminded the couples – Catholics who live together without after the ceremony. Father Esequiel Sanchez, pastor of that marriage is a lifelong commitment a sacramental marriage can not take Father Sanchez said that it was right St. Bede, said: “I believe in you. I believe to offer sacrificial love. Communion – and to set an example for to celebrate. you will teach the world what love truly Before the ceremony, the couples their two daughters, ages 17 and 20, who “We are filled with great joy because looks like.” gathered in the church basement to line were raised Catholic and received all of we have 10 new families who are in full The Wedding of Cana program in the up for the procession and to greet one their sacraments of initiation. communion with the church,” he said. Chicago Archdiocese aims to help cou- another. “We were missing something,” David If experience serves as a guide, he ples understand the power of love – the Angela and Rodolfo Garcia said they Curtis said. “We were missing God in said, those families will be active parish- love God has for them and that they have wanted to set a good example for their our lives.” SEE CIVIL PAGE 12B 8B The Catholic Commentator CATHOLIC WEDDINGS September 18, 2015 Need not be present to attend today’s weddings

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An actual wedding guest can set up a video call friends and family. through Skype or FaceTime or film the wedding on a webcam the digital age where people distract from the liturgy. For or video camera and broadcast are eager to share all of their example, the area around the the footage though online sites big and even small moments altar is off-limits and use of the such as Google Hangout or with close friends and those center aisle is most likely dis- YouTube. only close through Facebook couraged. Couples can also use pro- connections, the tool shouldn’t Most Catholic churches fessional services such as take away from the ceremony don’t allow the use of flash or Idostream.com or mystream itself. artificial lighting during the ingwedding.com that offer the Catholic weddings have spe- wedding ceremony and ask necessary equipment including cific guidelines about wedding that furniture, flowers, plants a camera, tripod and even a photography and videography and candles remain in place. laptop with built-in broadband and individual parishes will no St. Mary’s Church in Grand wireless in case the wedding doubt indicate these policies to Rapids, Michigan even encour- site doesn’t have an Internet the bride- and groom-to-be. ages photographers and vid- connection. They also offer The website catholicwed eographers to be familiar with professional videographers. dinghelp.com, sponsored by the Catholic rite of marriage as As part of the fee involved, the Catholic newsweekly Our part of their preparation. these services also provide Sunday Visitor, notes that a It notes in its wedding guide- technical support to those re- general stipulation for wed- lines that the “use of the church cording the event and viewer ding photographers and vid- for pictures is a privilege, not a support for those watching the eographers to remember is right of either the couple or the ceremony. that a Catholic wedding is “first photographer. All photography The sites enable guests to and foremost a liturgy that is, or video before, during or after log on to a site and watch as the the public prayer of the whole the liturgy must respect the sa- wedding takes place. church, not just a private cere- credness of the sacrament and Other couples use Ustream mony for those present. People of the church.” September 18, 2015 CATHOLIC WEDDINGS The Catholic Commentator 9B Deacon dads have special roles at children’s weddings MILWAUKEE (CNS) — Deacon Dale Paczkowski her husband and the relationship between the two of proudly walked his daughter Lisa down the aisle for her them and God continues to grow. wedding. Dressed in a tuxedo, he was on one side of Lisa “His role as a deacon is an extension of our lives to- while his wife, Lucy, was on the other. After presenting gether,” she said. “It is the three of us working together.” Lisa to Patrick Defors, her husband-to-be, he walked into Dale Nees, deacon at St. Paul the Apostle Parish in the sanctuary and into the sacristy where he performed Racine, Wisconsin, recently presided over his son Peter’s an almost superhero feat in record time. marriage to Errin. Since his daughter-in-law is Luther- “I had the best man help me change from my tux into an, the wedding wasn’t during a Mass, but he witnessed my vestments,” said Deacon Paczkowski, ordained a per- the wedding ceremony. manent deacon in the Milwaukee Archdiocese just two “It is so hard to put into words how I felt. It was very months before his daughter’s November 2012 wedding. emotional. The whole preparation and getting ready for it “I came out after that, and a few of my relatives didn’t was very special to all of us. I did have the overwhelming know who I was, and were wondering why the presider sense of how God had been working in both their lives was late. It was exciting, but a little difficult to pull off.” to bring them to that time and place to affirm their love While he was hoping Lisa would ask him to preside at in God’s name. It was our love as parents that led us to the wedding at Three Holy Women Church in Milwau- baptize them and nurture their faith life.” kee, he was ill prepared for the overwhelming swath of He said the dual role of father and the person officiat- emotions the family felt. ing at the ceremony requires balance to keep everything He said his daughter cried because she was happy and together. excited, and he was amazed that he somehow managed “And for me, it is a joy to be able to serve in those dif- to get through the ceremony without crying. ferent capacities. I am always a deacon, no matter what As a deacon at Holy Family Church in Fond du Lac, situation I am in,” he said. “I think that really is why it is Wisconsin, Deacon Paczkowski understands his primary more about who you are than what you do.” role as a deacon is to serve the poor, the sick, the impris- The formation director for permanent deacons in the oned and the lonely. Archdiocese of Milwaukee, Deacon John Ebel has a son, But in a church faced with a critical shortage of priests, Christopher, who likely will be getting married soon. he and other deacons preach, baptize, conduct funerals While he is open to presiding at the wedding, he said he and communion services and witness weddings. With husband preaches. She sat alone the day he presided at is just fine being the dad. the majority of deacons, married with families, juggling their daughter’s wedding. “I don’t mind being the dad at the wedding,”he said. life at home, jobs and church can be creative. Stating that she is not a jealous bride, Lucy explained “That is OK, too, and it is a big role, too. After all, I was Much of the time, Lucy sits alone in the pew while her that she made the journey through the diaconate with dad before I was deacon.”

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Since prayer “is such an intimate Couples ought to remember that intimacy thing,” Przybysz said, couples may be shy continues in cooking, cleaning, household or need some guidance to practice praying chores, listening and working. together. She suggested going on a retreat Joann Heaney-Hunter an associate together or attending a talk at a parish or professor of theology at St. John’s Univer- campus ministry. sity in New York agreed. “In marriage, the “The couple could practice looking couple’s life, love and witness can make into each other’s eyes and saying out loud Christ visible to others,” she wrote in the something they would normally say to essay, “Marital Spirituality” on the bish- God,” she said. ops’ marriage website. In an online article on the U.S. bishops’ She wrote that married couples have website, foryourmarriage.org, Przybysz the opportunity to demonstrate total stressed that many couples even when commitment to another person. She said they are brought up in the same faith still couples create sacramental communities have different approaches to spirituality. when they build a life of sharing with each She also noted that these practices equip other, with their families, with local com- them to overcome challenges and include munities, with the church. God during tough times. A strong prayer life can nourish a cou- In the book, “How to Pray with Your ple’s commitment to one another. The Spouse: Four Simple Steps,” author Chris marriage website also offers many sug- Stravitsch compares a couple’s spiritu- gestions for improving the married rela- ality to the celebration of Mass and says tionship by taking turns choosing favorite couples should follow the four steps of the Scripture passages to reflect upon each liturgy with one another. week, choosing a service project to do to- He suggests that they set aside time to gether or reading at least one book about focus on each other and God while seek- healthy relationships. ing forgiveness for hurting one another For Przybysz, the most important as- during the past week. They should learn pect for couples sharing their faith is to about God together by reading Scripture find a way to appreciate the other’s spir- WEDDINGS REHEARSAL DINNERS or talking about pressing issues. ituality. It often takes courage, humility “Step three is to share your love,” Stra- and kindness to invite one’s spouse to a & vitsch advised. “After discovering God deeper relationship with God, she said. 451 Florda St • 21st Floor Chase Tower South together, you deepen your prayer and “Married people need to go gently for- Baton Rouge, LA 70801 intimacy by sharing your love with each ward especially with a reluctant spouse,” 225.387.0931 other,” he wrote. He noted a simple kiss, she said. The invitation to grow in faith resting in one another’s arms or caring must not be a demand, but instead a char- Search for us for a sick spouse are some ways of shar- itable invitation, she added. Facebook: Camelot Club of Baton Rouge ing love. Then, the spouse who sees God in the Instagram: Camelot_Club Finally spouses should serve one an- other will see the true beauty that comes other in the mundane tasks of daily life. from a relationship with God. September 18, 2015 CATHOLIC WEDDINGS The Catholic Commentator 11B A dream wedding need not be a financial nightmare

WASHINGTON (CNS) — styles of flower arrangements Somewhere along the line wed- couples can choose from for dings became expensive celebra- their big day. Bridal magazines tions. and blogs are full of do-it-your- Some people have long self wedding ideas and how to dreamt about the exotic wed- get married on a budget. dings they want or else they feel Some couples are going green pressured to go this route by by using second-hand wedding friends and family. dresses or reception decora- But such plans ring up a huge tions. Others are assembling tab that might need some recon- their own wedding invitations, sideration. making their own centerpieces Although the U.S. Catholic and flower arrangements. bishops have not spoken di- The Knot, a website with wed- rectly about wedding spending, ding ideas and resources for en- their website, foryourmarriage. gaged couples, says its top piece org, asks couples to think twice of advice in trimming wedding about the bottom line in this cel- costs is to cut the guest list which ebration. would reduce catering costs and Although costs vary by re- save on invitations and the num- gion, the average modern wed- ber of centerpieces. ding costs between $20,000 and It also advised having the $25,000. wedding during an off-peak Hold on a minute, the bish- season and not marrying on the ops’ website essentially says, most expensive slot of the week, asking couples in the section Saturday night. “Budgeting for Your Wedding” The site also notes that there to consider what they want their are plenty of ways to cut costs wedding to say about them and on reception food and drink. It their values. urges couples to skip the main As for printing costs, the site The article asks some pointed course and just supply appetiz- suggests ordering single-page questions such as: ers and drinks or offer beer, wine invitations and emailing “save Are you willing to go into and a signature cocktail instead the date” notices. debt, or put family members in of a full bar. It also suggested or- These budget trims do not debt, because of this wedding? dering a small one- or two-tiered need to take anything away from Are you willing to focus time cake for show that could be sup- the special day itself. and energy on the details of a plemented with a larger sheet lavish wedding? Will this reduce cake for guests to eat. the attention you can pay to pre- paring for the marriage itself? Do you feel comfortable with Wedding Planning by Taylor Layman the amount you plan to spend? Have you considered this in re- lation to the needs of people in Day-Of Coordination • Full Service your community? The online article suggests Planning • Corporate Events • Holiday that, as with many things, mod- eration is key: “If you have a feel- Events • Birthday Parties ing that wedding expenses are getting out of hand, they proba- bly are.” The site suggests that couples ask for donations to a local food bank or food pantry or that the couple make a donation from their wedding gifts to the par- ish’s social outreach committee. It also urges couples to seek [email protected] practical ways to trim costs on the wedding ceremony and re- 225-335-0674 ception. www.theweddingtea.com Advice on trimming wedding budgets is as plentiful as the 12B The Catholic Commentator CATHOLIC WEDDINGS September 18, 2015

CIVIL started the Chicago archdioce- From page 7B san program in 2013 and eight couples decided not to finish. ioners and faithful participants Some, Father Sanchez said, at Masses. were dealing with problems in Many of them have felt the their marriages already. Oth- lack of connection with the ers simply did not feel ready church, whether by not taking to make a permanent commit- Communion at Mass or by be- ment to their spouses. ing ineligible to serve as a god- The important thing is not parent or confirmation sponsor. to judge the couples – whether Bringing them back to full com- they go through with the sacra- munion is a joy for the church ment of matrimony or not. as well as for the couples, who “There is no judgment, no might have a greater under- stigma,” the priest said. “Quite standing of what they are doing the opposite. There is a lot of than other couples, who never support and a lot of prayer for had the experience of discon- them. Our focus is not so much nection. to marry people as to educate It’s not a decision that is for them about what marriage is. everybody. Eighteen couples It’s life-changing for them.”

Reception & Conference Center The Davidson’s eight children asked those attending their parents’ recent 70th wedding anniversary to share a few of their special memories. Also pictured are the newlyweds 70 years ago when Paul Davidson was still in the Navy. Photo provided by Judy Owens

COUPLE  The Davidsons also have sage advice for young From page 3B couples to consider even before getting married. “You didn’t get it if you didn’t,” Paul quickly in- “In the first place, before you marry somebody, serted. you got to know a little bit about what they like and Mass was also a challenge, because of having what they don’t like,” Pat said. “And whether you such a large family. So similar to the breakfast can get along with what you do and what you don’t routine, Paul would take four children to one Mass want to do. and Pat take the other four at a different time. “A lot of these young people, I don’t think they “I can’t stand to sit behind someone with a baby have any idea about who they marry.” in church and crying,” Pat said “And I was not go- Once married, the couple advised a husband ing to put somebody through that. Until they were and wife must be prepared to compromise and old enough to really behave we were not going to never go to bed mad. take them to church.” “She’ll even wake me up to kiss me good night,” But they made time for the family to pray to- Paul said. And he joked that the secret to a success- gether, usually before the children went to bed at ful marriage is to keep separate checking accounts. night. “I take of mine; you take care of yours,” Pat Da- “We would not have made it without (faith),” vidson agreed. Paul said. “One thing we always said we never Financially, they may live out of separate ac- had enough money but the Lord provided us with counts but when it comes to love for another, and enough that we needed. “ for their family, the Davidsons live from one heart.