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A to Z Guide to Your Child's Behavior: a Parent's Easy and Authoritative Reference to Hundreds of Everyday Problems and Concerns from Birth to 12 Years AIIM Association for information and Image Management 1100 Wayne Avenue. Suite 1100 kfci% ."'?,5 Silver Spring, Maryland 20910 301:587-8202 Centimeter 10 11 12 13 14 15 mm 2 5 Inches 1.25 111.4 111111.6 SI ,..-. .. c.1?. c-s-/- Oz.\ .....,. <9 .h, cs / MANUFACTURED TO AIIM STANDARDS 6t o/ BY APPLIED IMAGE. INC. 1., DOCUMENT RESUME ED 372 872 PS 022 710 AUTHOR Mrazek, David; And Others TITLE A to Z Guide to Your Child's Behavior: A Parent's Easy and Authoritative Reference to Hundreds of Everyday Problems and Concerns from Birth to 12 Years. INSTITUTION Children's Hospital, National Medical Center, Washington, D.C. REPORT NO ISBN-0-399-51796-0 PUB DATE 93 NOTE 325p. AVAILABLE FROM Perigee, The Putnam Publishing Group, 200 Madison Avenue, New York, NY 10016 ($14.95). PUB TYPE Guides Non-Classroom Use (055) Books (010) EDRS PRICE MF01/PC13 Plus Postage. DESCRIPTORS *Behavior Development; Behavioi- Problems; *Child Behavior; *Child Development; Child Health; Childhood Needs; Child Psychology; *Child Rearing; Children; Developmental Stages; Developmental Tasks; Parent Child Relationship; Parent Influence; *Parenting Skills; Parent Materials; Personality ABSTRACT The product of a close collaboration between mental health and child development professionals, this book provides essential information about the many types of behaviors--both normal and atypical--that children can show, with a sensitivity to the complex issues that child behavior problems can sometimes create for mothers and fathers. Following an introduction to parenting skills such as active listening and rewards and time-outs, the book discusses variou: child behaviors, arranged in alphabetical order. The behaviors discussed include such common problems as bedwetting, biting, nightmares, and temper tantrums. Other less common problems discussed include:(1) anxiety;(2) compulsions;(3) depression; (4) reactions to divorce or death;(5) learned helplessness; (6) oppositional behavior;(7) perfectionism;(8) rocking;(9) cruelty to animals; and (10) staring. An appendix provides a chart of developmental tasks for different age ranges through age 12.(HTH) **********A;.;.**;.A.**1.--::**4A:.A.*,.. ********).,-*.*********** Reproductions supplied by EDRS are the beet that can be made * from the original document. ****************************************************************** Ask Natronal Medical Center. co cr; Aar An.di 11L-- IMP 1 CLI.? Be.' 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INFORMATION CENTER (ERIC) BEST COPY AVAILABLE Compiled by the faculty of the Children's National Medical Center under the direction of David Mrazek, M.D., and William Garrison, Ph.D., with Laura Elliott 2 ili......4111a 4 National Medscal Centel; -g-- AtoZ Guide toYour Child's Behavior A PARENT'S EASY AND AUTHORITATIVE REFERENCE TO HUNDREDS OF EVERYDAY PROBLEMS AND CONCERNS FROM BIRTH TO 12 YEARS Compiled by the Faculty of the Children's National Medical Center under the Direction of David Mrazek, M.D., and William Garrison, Ph.D., with Laura Elliott A Perigee Book This book is designed to provide accurateand authoritative information in regard to a child's behavior. It is sold with the understandingthat neither the authors nor the publisher areengaged in rendering medical or psychiatric advice. Ifbehavioral problems persist, the reader is encouraged toseek professional advice. Responsibility for anyadverse effects or unforeseen consequencesresulting from the use of the informationcontained herein is expressly disclaimed. Perigee Books are published by The Putnam Publishing Group 200 Madison Avenue New York, NY 10016 Copyright © 1993 by Children's I lospital All rights reserved. This book, or partsthereof, may not be rfproduced in anyform without permission. Published simultaneously in Canada Quote on page 15 reprinted by permissionfromNight Lightsby Phyllis Theroux. Copyright © 198" byPhyllis Theroux. Used by permission of Viking Penguin, adivision of Penguin Books USA Library of Congress Cataloging-in-PublicationData A to 7. guide to your child's behavior: a parent's easy andauthoritative reference to hundreds of everyday problems and concerns frombirth to I 2 years / compiled by the faculty of the Children's NationalMedical Center under the direction of David Mrazek and WilliamGarrison. with Laura Elliott. p. cm. "A Perigee Book." ISBN 0-399- 51 796-0 (alk. paper ) 1. Behavior disorders in children.2. Parenting.I. Mrazek, David.II. Garrison, William T.III. Elliott, Laura. IV. Children's National Medical Center (Washington, D.C. ) RJ506.B44C481993 92-40260 CIP 618.92'89dc20 Cover design by Mike McIver (;over photo (0 b) Arthur Tilley/FPG Printed in the United States of America 23 45678 910 This book is printed on acid-free paper. 4 This book is decicated to all the children and families who receive medical and psychologicalcare at the Children's National Medical Center in Washington, D.C. Acknowledgments Darlene Atkins, Ph.D., Staff Psychologist, Departments of Psychology and Adolescent Medicine; Director of the Eating Disorders Clinic, Children's National Medical Center Irene Chatoor, M.D., Director of Infant Psychiatry and Eating Disorders Programs, Children's National Medical Center Kathy Connell, M.S.W., Clinical Social Worker, Department of Psychia- try, Children's National Medical Center Penny Glass, Ph.D., Developmental Psychologist, Department of Psy- chology, and Director of the Child Development Center, Depart- ment of General Pediatrics, Children's National Medical Center ShL;on Lockwood, Ph.D., CCC-SSP, Director, Speech-Language Pathol- ogy, Department of Hearing and Speech, Children's National Medical Center Lorraine Lougee, M.S.W., Clinical Social Worker for Inpatient Unit, Department of Psychiatry, Children's National Medical Center Irene Pafitis, M.A., CCC-A, Coordinator of Audiology Department of Hearing and Speech, Children's National Medical Center Patricia Papero, Ph.D., Director, Neuropsychology Service, Depart- ment of Psychology, Children's National Medical Center Tommie L. Robinson, Jr., Ph.D., CCC-SLP, Director, Scottish Rite Cen- ter, Department of Hearing and Speech, Children's National Medical Center Susan Theut, M.D., Medical Director, Satellite Centers, Department of Psychiatry, Children's National Medical Center W. Douglas Tynan, Ph.D., Director of Psychology Training, Department of Psychology, Children's National Medical Center Felicia Valdez, Ed.D., Director, Early Intervention Institute, Depart- ment of Hearing and Speech, Children's National Medical Center Thomas Walsh, M.D., Director of Consultation/Liaison Service, Depart- ment of Psychiatry, Children's National Medical Center Acknowledgments Jill Weissberg-Benchell, Ph.D., Staff Psychologist,Departments of Psy- chology and Endoc,:inology, Children's NationalMedical Center Marilyn Benoit, M.D., Susan Besharov, M.S.W., DanaCzapanskiy, M.S.W., Ralph Gemelli, M.D., and Barbara H. Herman, Ph.D., alsocontributed to this volume. Contents A Preface 13 Bulimia (See Eating Disorders) Parenting Skills Introduction 15 Bullying 71 Cheating A to Z Guide Entries 73 Chores and Cleaning Room 76 Accident-Prone 25 Clinging Achievement Issues -)7 78 Clowning 80 Adaptability 27 Clumsiness 81 Aggression 30 Colic Allergies and Behavior :4 82 Competitiveness 83 Allowances 36 Complaining Aloofness 36 86 Compliance 86 Anpr 37 Compulsions 87 Anhedonia(SeePleasure, Lack of) Concentration 88 Anorexia Nervosa(See Conduct Disorder 89 Eating Disorders) Confidence(SeeSelf-Esteem, Antisocial Behavior 39 Self-Sufficiency) Anxiety 40 Constipation Anxiety Disorders 48 90 Crawling 91 Argumentative 51 Cross-Gender Behavior Articulation Problems 52 (SeePlaying with Dolls, Asthma 53 Gender Identity Disorder) Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Cruelty to Animals 92 Disorder 55 Crying Attention-Seeking 59 93 Curiosity 63 96 Avoidant Disorder(SeeAnxiety) Daydreaming 99 Day-Wetting 100 Bed-Wetting 65 Death(SeeReaction to Loss) Biting 67 Defiance(SeeOppositional Boasting 68 Behavior) Bossiness 69 Delinquency(SeeConduct Breath-Holthng 70 Disorder, Antisocial Bruxism(SeeTeeth-Grinding ) Behavior) 7 Contents Demanding H)1 Fingernail-Biting (See Habit:1) Dependency 102 Fire-Setting 128 Depression Food Refusal, Fads, and Destructiveness (See Aggression, Feeding Problems 129 Temper Tantrums, and Forgetfulness 134 Oppositional-Defiant Disorder) Gender Identity Disorder 135 Dieting (See Eating Disorders, Growth Problems 136 Obesity, and Food Refusal ) Guilty Feelings 136 Difficult (See Temperament, Oppositional Behavior, and labits 139 Adaptability ) lair-l'ulling (See Habits) Disobedience (See Headaches 141 Oppositional Behavior) Head-Banging 142 Disorganized 109 Hearing 142 Distractibility 111 Hitting and Kicking 146 Divorce (See Reaction to Hoarding 146 Parental Conflict ) Hyperactivity 147 Dressing 112 Hyperventilation 148 4%. Ear-Pulling (See Habits ) Imaginary Friends 149 115 Eating Disorders Immature Behavior 150 Eating Nonfood Objects Impatience 151 (See Pica ) Impulsivity
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