May 2013 Iyyar / Sivan 5773

The newsletter of Beth El Synagogue

 Durham’s first synagogue 

FROM OUR RABBI: Torah. If a person or a service or a community is lacking, it is just as incumbent upon the individual to keep searching (or to try A Voice that Speaks to Our Souls and improve the institutions we have) as it is upon institutions to continually ask if they are living up to the purpose for which they One summer night in 1949 Susan Taubes and her husband, were created. And yet…Taubes’ words haunt me. What would Jacob, attended services at an Orthodox, and then afterwards, at Tabues have written had she visited Beth El one Shabbat morning? a Reform synagogue. She returned home and wrote the following What would have been her experience had she come to one of our in a letter to her husband: community meetings, or to one of our classes, or had she just Darling—I am very sad without you and troubled stopped by to visit one weekday afternoon? about many things and my meditations this evening lead In Mesechet Berachot 55a, Rav Yehudah said in the name me to feel very hopeless about the ever growing an under- of Rav: “Bezalel knew how to combine the letters by which the standing between us. And as to prayer I can only pray to heavens and earth were created. It is written here, “God filled him an unknown light to save me from the nightmare of what [Betzalel] with the spirit of God, in wisdom and in understanding, men call religion… and in knowledge” (Exodus 35:31), and it is written elsewhere, I went with a very open heart and I wanted so “God, by wisdom, founded the earth; by understanding, established deeply to come into my temple and participate in a service the heavens,” (Proverbs 3:19). Betzalel’s greatness was not just the thought of which I felt was noble and holy but I that he knew how to work with gold and silver and wood, but rather walked into a very awful farce instead and I felt very em- that he knew how to mold the raw, mundane materials of this world bittered. The whole room was illuminated with lightbulbs and transform them into holiness. Can we learn from Betzalel to -lightbulbs even on candles and full of the din of chatter- craft every moment into a vessel for the divine? Whether we are in ing people—all around me the women were gossiping the synagogue or just walking through the street, can we press every during the service—the rabbi had to use a microphone part of ourselves into God’s service? even though it was quite a small temple and there was No community is perfect all the time. To hear such a voice such noise that he had to ask the people to shut up several takes patience and work; it happens over time. But Taubes’ question times. People were running around, nobody listened and haunts me. If she were to visit us one day, could she discern from they looked utterly brutal and stupid—not one measure the way she was greeted, or from how we speak with each other, less than the Puerto Ricans you detest. The singing was that we endeavor to create a community of kindness and kedusha monotonous and unmoving. The sermon was below the (holiness)? When a stranger does visit us – because someone like level of pulp magazines. The reform service was at least Taubes is always walking through our doors – will she sing with tolerable. The people were quiet the organ played well our prayers and join the conversation? Will she say, “Here, I have and Rabbi Bernstein at least did not presume to bring in found a voice that speaks to my soul?”

God but spoke simply and humanly. But it was quite un- --- Rabbi Daniel Greyber necessary. It is clear to me that I must follow the voice that speaks in my soul and not to deceive myself by any Talmudic or Jesuitical rationalization that I can attach and commit Inside this issue: myself to any mass belief and tradition.” Committee Contacts…………………………...….....2 Gabbaim Schedule…………………………………....2 I do not know if Taubes, a PhD student of German Protestant Synaplex Shabbat…………………………………..3-4 Theologian, Paul Tillich, drew her sweeping conclusions about Shavuot 5773…………………………..………….....5 Judaism and prayer after only one night’s experience in two syna- Kiddush Hosts & Sponsors………………………..….6 gogues. If so, it seems to me that what she was searching for was Sisterhood Kitchen Initiative………………..…….….8 an excuse to walk away from, rather than encounter God and the Meet our B’not Mitzvah...…………………………...9 Jewish tradition. One cannot judge a thousands-year-old tradition Youth & Talmud Torah News……....…...... 10-12 on the basis of two services at two synagogues on one night. To March Contributions……….…...…..……...…...... 13 do so is to enact the very shallowness that Taubes decries. First Annual Fund……………………………………....14-15 there must be a limit on how Yahrzeit Reminders……….………...... ….….…...17 יש גבול ,impressions are important but much credence is given to a snapshot in time. One synagogue does Letter from Valhalla………...………...... ……...... 21 not reflect the whole Jewish people. One evening service does not Tzedakah Form……………………………..……….23 reveal the richness a synagogue’s prayer life. One person does not May Calendar…...….…………..………..…….…...25 represent the diversity of a whole community. One sermon – or June Calendar…...….………….………..…….….....26 bulletin article (!) – does not convey a rabbi’s whole approach to 1 Bulletin Deadline June/July Bulletin: The Beth El Bulletin is the newsletter Wednesday, May 1. of Beth El Congregation. We appreciate any feedback and input. Non-members may Please submit items to request to join our mailing list for a $25 yearly [email protected] contribution to help cover printing & mailing costs. Bulletins are also archived online three months at a time. The online version has Do you have news to share with your some contact information omitted for the Beth El Community? privacy of our members. Graduation? Award received? Birth of a child or grandchild?

Rabbi Rabbi Daniel Greyber Send notices to [email protected] President Barak Richman and we’ll let everyone know by posting it in the bulletin. First Vice President Rachel Galanter Second Vice President Noah Pickus Interim Exec. Director Ivy Wingate Education & Youth Director Karen Kosowski Admin. Assistant Miriam Cohen Franzen Publicity Assistant Krisha Miller Gabbai Rotation

Rabbi Emeritus Rabbi Steve Sager Please contact if you'd like to Bulletin Advertising Manager Gladys Siegel request an aliyah or help lead services.

Please do not call on Shabbat. YAHRZEITS: To arrange a yahrzeit minyan, please call the synagogue office (919-682-1238) at least one month in advance. To receive notification of a yahrzeit 5/04 Behar-Behukkotai Jon Wahl or to list a yahrzeit in the bulletin, call the synagogue office (682-1238). 5/11 Bamidbar Sally Laliberte

DO YOU HAVE AN ITEM FOR BETH EL BULLETIN? All items for the bulletin MUST be submitted 5/15 Shavuot I Anne Derby by e-mail to Krisha Miller at [email protected]. The FINAL DEADLINE for items for the upcoming bulletin is the 1st workday of the preceding month. 5/16 Shavuot II Matt Diamond THANK YOU. 5/18 Naso James Tulsky COMMITTEE CONTACTS: Finance Maxine Stern 5/25 Beha’alotcha Sally Laliberte

Lifelong Learning Sheva Zucker 6/1 Sh’lach Lekha Roger Perilstein

Membership Andrea Ginsberg 6/8 Korah/RH Tammuz Orthodox Kehillah Marc Moskovitz 6/15 Hukkat Anne Derby

Ritual Ian Davis 6/22 Balak Frank Fischer Social Action Debbie Goldstein Synagogue Life Annette Kronmiller 6/29 Pinchas Shula Bernard Va’ad haChinuch Lauri Klein Community of Caring Rhoda Silver 7/6 Mattot-Masay Jon Wahl

CHEVRA KADISHA (BURIAL SOCIETY) Contact David Klapper The Gabbaim schedule is also available online at: www.betheldurham.org/rituallife/gabbirotation.html

2 May 2013 /Beth El Bulletin Below is the full morning’s schedule for Synaplex Shabbat on April 27, 2013! Please see the next page for descriptions of the alternate sessions being held in addition to our regularly offered Mishnah Study, Shabbat services in the Main and Orthodox Kehillah sanctuaries and Children's programming. Our goal is that each of you finds something that speaks to your heart.

11:45 AM11:45 AM11:30 AM11:15 AM11:00 AM10:45 AM10:30 AM10:15 AM10:00

FC = Freedman Center / MB = Main Building = Main / MB Center =FC Freedman

12:45 PM12:45 PM12:30 PM12:15 PM12:00 **Tefillah

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Hebrew for Prayer Hebrew

Shabbat Services Shabbat

Main Sanctuary Main

Freedman Center Seminar Room Seminar Center Freedman

Conservative Conservative

Egalitarian

9:30

11:45

Mishnah Study Mishnah

8:45

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Orthodox Kehillah Orthodox

9:30

Shabbat Services Shabbat

MB MB Downstairs

with mehitzah

Sanctuary 9:30

Orthodox

11:45

Meet outside MB Meet outside

Orthodox Siddur Orthodox

MB Classroom 4 MB Classroom

Egalitarian

9:30

Musaf, D'var Torah, and Song and Torah, D'var Musaf,

Chavurah Chavurah

8:30

11:45

Services Services

Tefillah**

Hiking

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11:45

9:30

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Community Kiddush Lunch Kiddush Community

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* Shabbat Congregation/AlefRuach ProgrammingJr. Jr. Bet& *activities Shabbat & Ruach (grades Congregation Jr. 3 *(ages Babysitting 1

*(agesTotShabbat & under, 4 10:30

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Inclusive Gender

MB Classroom 7 MB Classroom

Parasha Study Parasha

Torah Portion/ Torah

10:45

MB MB Library

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1:30 Social Hall Social 1:30

(grades K

*Children's programming:

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10:45

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Ruach Ruach

12:30

Synaplex Shabbat Morning Alternative Offerings These are in addition to our regularly scheduled mishnah study, children’s programming, Orthodox & Conservative services. (see reverse for full schedule)

8:30-9:30am (meet in front of Beth El): Hiking Tefillah Join us for a walk around Duke’s East Campus. We’ll use song, silence, conversation and prayer in the course of this walking meditation based upon the themes of the Shabbat morning service. Gather outside Beth El at 8:30 sharp with nothing to carry but yourself. Led by Rabbi Daniel Greyber.

9:00-10:00am (Main Building, classroom 7): Inclusive Gender Language Minyan We will be using the siddur Shaar Zahav to daven using Hebrew that has been changed to address places where our values make using masculine words to refer to G-d or the Jewish people uncomfortable. Led by Rachel Galanter, a teacher and service leader with a passion for singing, Hebrew, justice, feminism, the power of words, and doing her part to shape the traditions we pass onto the next generation to reflect our values. Rachel also leads our Jr. Jr. Congregation (services for children ages 4-7).

9:30-11:45am (Main Building, classroom 4): Egalitarian Chavurah Service The service is traditional and egalitarian, using the modern Orthodox Koren siddur, and all participants are able to take active part in it. Families sit together and women fully participate in leading the service. The Chavurah welcomes all. Pre-bat/bar-mitzvah youth read the maftir and chant. Post-bat/bar-mitzvah youth are especially invited to lead the service. Birkot HaShachar/Pesuqei DeZimrah to begin at 9:30am; Torah service about 10:30. Please contact Malachi Hacohen if you'd like to lead, read Torah or be called to the torah for an other honor.

9:45-10:40am (Freedman Center, classroom 1): Yiddish Poetry After her mother died Sheva zucker decided to honor her memory in a way that she felt spoke to the essence of both her mother and herself: a blog of Yiddish poems about mothers. She has posted about 60 poems by over 30 Yiddish poets on subjects ranging from the gap between generations, the beauty of mothers lighting Sabbath candles, the joys and sorrows of being a parent and a daughter/ son and many more. In this session she will share some of her favorite poems (in translation). Sheva is a Yiddush scholar whose textbooks are widely used in adult and university classes throughout the world.

9:45-10:40am (Freedman Center, classroom 6): Learners' Minyan The Torah Service is the dramatic center of Shabbat morning. We remove the scroll from the Ark, bring it to the congregants in a joyous procession, call members up for aliyot as we read the parts of the weekly portion, engage in animated and informative discussion, and joyously retrace our steps to return the Torah to the Ark. Beginning with a brief overview of the themes and history of the liturgy of the Torah Service, the Synaplex Learners’ Minyan will concentrate on what to do when honored with an aliyah – the choreography and the text and melody of the blessings recited before and after the reading. Led by David Rubin who has been wandering around Beth El for 40 years and believes that he has found the Promised Land here. He’s been doing multiple things while here, including serving as President from 2006-2008. More important for this Learners’ Minyan, he’s a member of Beth El’s corps of gabbaim and lay sh’lichei tzibbur (service leaders).

10:45-11:40am (Main Building, Library): Parasha / Torah Portion Study A scholar-led discussion on the finer points of the morning’s Torah reading, Parashat Emor . Led by Matt Diamond, a Jewish educator in Israel and in the US in both formal and informal programs for over 20 years, is currently studying Jewish education in the Davidson graduate school at the Jewish Theological Seminary.

10:45-11:40am (Freedman Center, classroom 1): Jewish Meditation We will use age old Jewish techniques in breathing and chanting in order to quiet the "chit-chat" of the mind, and gain a deeper understanding of prayer. Led by Roger Perilstein, a long time student of meditation, who has previously taught classes in meditation at Beth El.

10:45-11:40am (Freedman Center, classroom 6): Being Jewish: Exploring what it means to be a Jew in today's world Join Maggid Rinah Rachel Galper for lively exploration and story sharing around what it means to be Jewish in today's changing world. Using pearls from the parsha, the counting of the Omer, and Pirke Avot, combined with our own stories, we will share our triumphs, challenges, hopes and fears for ourselves and our people has we prepare to receive revelation during Shavuot. Ms. Galper is an ordained Maggid (Spiritual Guide and Jewish Storyteller) in the lineage of her teacher, Maggid Yitzhak Buxbaum, and his teachers Rabbi Zalman Schachter-Shalomi and Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach.

4 May 2013 /Beth El Bulletin Mazel Tov to Erica & Rob Gringle Please welcome our newest members: on the birth of their grandson Maxwell Dean Risk on Friday, March 22, 2013! Hope Hartman & Bob Wechsler The proud parents are Meredith & Brian Risk.

Israeli Cooking Lesson & Brunch May 5, 2013 Shavuot 5773

The Synagogue Life Committee invites you to a morning of Erev Shavuot, Tuesday evening May 14 Israeli cooking and tasting on Sunday, May 5 10:30am- 5:30pm Talmud Torah Siyyum, Main Sanctuary 12:30pm. Beth El member Perri Liberty, a talented cook in We invite the Beth El community to join us on the Sephardic tradition, will lead this enticing hands-on Erev Shavuot as we celebrate the conclusion of a great program. You'll learn how to prepare bourekas (a savory school year. Each Talmud Torah class will lead a puff pastry or phyllo dough stuffed with a variety of fillings) presentation for the community. …Israeli salads…and other Middle Eastern dishes. Tantalize your taste buds, inhale the aromas and make some of the (approx. 7:00pm) Community Shavuot Dinner Please RSVP to Miriam by Wednesday, May 8, for the dinner. dishes you’ve had or only heard about. Best of all, share the Cost for the dinner is $18 per person 13 and older, $9 per child gastronomic experience as we serve the delicacies as a special 7-12, and no charge for children under 7. Family maximum is Israeli-style brunch. The program is free, but to allow us to $45. Please mail payment to Beth El with "Shavuot dinner" in the prepare enough for everyone, please RSVP by Thursday, memo line. Any cancellations made after this deadline April 25. Contact Miriam at the Beth El office, 919-682-1238 still need to be paid in full. Thank you for understanding. or [email protected] — and get ready to enjoy! (approx. 8:15pm) brief evening service/Ma'ariv & Tikkun Leyl Shavuot/late night study sessions (starting around 8:30pm, we will have 3 study sessions (about an hour each) with 10-15 min. schmooze breaks between each Knitting Chevra session. The final session of the night will start around 11pm. May 12 Noshing can continue throughout!

The Knitting Chevra meets the second Sunday of each month during the academic year from 10 to 11:30 in Shavuot I, Wednesday morning May 15 the Beth El library. In addition to people coming to the 9:00am Services in both the Main Sanctuary and meetings we have "satellite" knitters who work on the same the Orthodox Kehillah Sanctuary knitting projects that we have but do them independently. Shavuot II, Thursday morning May 16 We welcome all! 9:00am Services in the Main Sanctuary (Yizkor) We are also collecting “gently” used clothing for resale TBD Services in the Orthodox Kehillah Sanctuary in the second hand clothing store, Second Bloom, located on Main Street in Pittsboro. They can use men’s, women’s, teenagers’ and baby's’ clothing. Anyone is invited to bring clothing to our meetings or to contact Hunter Levinsohn for The Community of Caring is here for YOU! immediate pick up. Anyone who is in need of a meal due to illness, surgery, grief or other special circumstances.

We are here for YOU! Anyone who needs a ride to/from a Beth El Art Gallery doctor's appointment, to the hospital or nursing home so you can visit a friend or loved one. On display through May 2013 Photographs by Rachel Goldstein We are here for YOU! Anyone who would like a friendly

Rachel is exhibiting her newest photos visitor to see you at home or in the facility where you live.

featuring reflected images. We are here for YOU! Anyone who would like to be a part of this wonderful organization by helping with any of the If you are interested in exhibiting your art work above. please contact Susan Rosefielde Professionals, students and hobby artists are welcome. Please call or email Rhoda Silver

5 Shabbat Kiddush Hosts and Sponsors The 2013-2014 Kiddush Schedule is now being set. Please notify Miriam with hosting or sponsorship May 4 Kiddush hosted by preferences by Riki Friedman & Leslie Tobin May 10! Jay & Hunter Levinsohn Susan Morris Les & Cheryl Saper Please note that most summer kiddushim will be a Yonat Shimron simple ritual Kiddush (as opposed to a full lunch). Judith Snyderman Those with medical considerations should plan accordingly. May 11 Kiddush hosted by Ronald Goldberg & Pilar Rocha Goldberg in honor of their daughter, Mariana, becoming a Bat Mitzvah

May 18 Kiddush hosted by David & Susan Kirsch in honor of their daughter, Sidney, becoming a Bat Mitzvah

May 25 Kiddush hosted by Andree Allen Jonathan & Susan Breitzer in honor of their 15th If you are not receiving Beth El’s weekly e-mail wedding anniversary announcements and would like to, Lawrence Kodack please contact Miriam at Alan & Mary Joan Mandel [email protected] William & Cheryl McCartney and ask her to add you to the listserve. Jennifer Parkhurst

Healing Yoga for anyone needing healing from illness, stress or loss May 18 & June 1

Beth El member Margie Satinsky was trained this past May 19, 2013 summer in a special form of yoga aimed at providing healing for cancer survivors. Her classes - being offered for free on Annual Meeting Shabbat mornings - are aimed to provide comfort for any 10:00am among us who are in need of healing and support. The classes will combine gentle movement, meditation, and poetry. No followed by a brunch prior yoga experience is required, and the program is open to honoring our the entire community. Volunteers of the Year: The yoga classes are held on select Saturday mornings from 10-11 a.m. in the Beth El Freedman Center. Classes David Dreifus, started last fall & will continue once monthly through June. These are gentle classes with live singing/chanting Carol Haynes, provided by Nancy Lee Spears in May, and David Rubin in and David Klapper. June. Participants should wear comfortable clothing. After the Each of these members has class, all are welcome to join the Beth El worship service dedicated many years and /or Kiddush lunch. to the Board and to With generous support, Beth El has raised the funds to the welfare of Beth El. purchase yoga mats, straps, foam blocks, blankets, bolsters, and eye bags. These props help participants feel comfortable Details regarding the brunch as they sit, move, and meditate. Those who wish to partici- will be sent via e-mail. pate should contact Miriam Cohen Franzen (919-682-1238 or [email protected]) or Margie Satinsky Please join us, or if you know someone who might benefit from healing yoga, consider coming as a buddy. All are welcome. 6 May 2013 /Beth El Bulletin

“Collect for the Omer” Food Drive

Many of you have asked how we could honor Laura Quigley’s service to Beth El. Not only do we have great appreciation and gratitude for all that Laura has done for us, but we also want to recognize her lasting contributions to Durham’s wider community. Her legacy at Beth El includes our annual Yom Kippur to Pesach food drive, her many social action projects, and her passion to ensure that those in need receive support. We therefore want to honor Laura’s contributions through a special augmentation of her efforts. Accordingly, we have announced an additional food drive collection challenge from Pesach to Shavuot to coincide with the counting of the Omer. Our goal is to collect 490 pounds of food—that is, 10 pounds of food per day of the 49 days of the Omer. Together, we can build on the spirit of giving that Laura has nurtured in our community.

Thank you to everyone who participated in Laura Quigley Yom Kippur to Pesach Hunger Relief Challenge this year! Just before Pesach, we delivered over 400 pounds of food to the Food Bank of Central & Eastern North Carolina and Urban Ministries of Durham bringing our total donation since Yom Kippur to 1804 pounds! In addition, we collected over $400 to send to JFS to help with their hunger relief efforts, at Purim you gave almost $1000 which we passed along to Urban Ministries of Durham & the Interfaith Council in Chapel Hill. And, the tzedakah you give during weekday minyanim has been used to give out over $400 in food cards to those who come to our doors seeking help.

Remember: our food drive is ongoing year-round! Examples of appreciated items (Please remember that items need to be non-perishable and in non-glass containers.): Peanut butter (plastic jars) Macaroni and cheese canned tuna, chicken or salmon Popcorn Beans, peas & lentils (canned or dry in bags) Raisins or other dried fruit Canned pastas, soups & vegetables (low sodium) Granola Bars Canned fruits (preferably packed in 100% juice, not syrup) Pudding Cups Rice Animal/Graham Crackers Oatmeal or other hot & cold cereals Trail Mix 100% fruit juice pouches or juice boxes Eric Pas Jewish Camp Scholarship Fund Lifelong Learning www.betheldurham.org/adulted/courses.html Applications are still available for partial scholarship funding for Beth El families who need financial assistance Weekly Mishnah Study in sending a child to a Jewish camp. Funding will be made Saturday Mornings at 8:45am in the Freedman Center available on a need basis and information will be kept Feel free to attend at anytime! Join Rabbis Sager and Greyber for confidential. In the past 14 years the scholarship fund has coffee and discussions on text from the Mishnah. People new to distributed almost $30,000 and has sponsored 47 Beth El Mishnah study are especially welcome. children. Our children have participated in our local Weekly Text Study Federation camp as well as Ramah Darom in Georgia,

Services start at 8:00am on most Wednesdays & usually last about Young Judea, and two overseas programs. If you would 45 minutes. Afterward, those who can stay, gather in the social like further information or an application please call hall for coffee, treats, & a weekly study led by Rabbi Greyber or Michele Pas at 493-3175, or email to [email protected]. other members. All are welcome. Please consider making a contribution into this fund. Beth Weekly Midrash Study El members’ continued financial support of this fund will

Please contact Rabbi Sager ([email protected]) if you are allow more of our Beth El children to have a Jewish camp interested in possibly joining this advanced weekly study group. experience. Thanks, Michele Pas

Take me out The Sisterhood Gift Shop is being revitalized. to the ballgame -- again! New merchandise is already in and more is coming. Check out June 2, 2013 yadiam, mezzuzot, jewelry and other items now. We welcome your ideas. Presently the gift shop is open during office hours This spring the Synagogue Life Committee will once and by appointment. We would like to be open Sunday again reserve a block of seats for a Durham Bulls game. mornings and Wednesday afternoons while Talmud Torah is We’re going on Sunday, June 2, at 5:05 to see them play in session and we need volunteers to take turns staffing the against the Scranton-Wilkes Barre Yankees farm club. gift shop once or twice in a six week period. We also need Contact Richard Cramer as soon as possible for volunteers for other short term projects. Contact Rhoda Silver if you are interested in participating. tickets or more information on joining this group outing. 7

Sisterhood Kitchen Initiative

As we’ve announced, Sisterhood is sponsoring a fundraiser to improve congregants’ kitchen experience with new supplies, storage and organization. As of early March, we collected donations of $1,758. That is 17% towards our goal to raise $10,000. Watch the display outside the social hall to track our progress.

We had our first milestone in February. The first major supplies order arrived and helped re-stock the meat closet, which had run short of utensils and stock ware. That delivery included a new set of commercial quality knives, with a diamond sharpening steel. Another shipment will arrive this month to replenish the dairy closet.

There is good news on the appliances front. The conventional ovens have been repaired and are heating reliably, thanks to David Klapper. You should find them more than satisfactory for baking and cooking. The industrial dishwasher has been busy cleaning serving bowls and utensils that were Sample items dingy from repeated hand washing. It is worth running whenever you are preparing food on a weekday. Knife set $250-300 Simply follow the posted instructions. Stock pot $100-150 This points to the fact that our intervention has four parts: Signage, Inventory, Orientations, and Main- Small utensils $10-25 tenance. Each has subtasks that range from research to assembly to printing. Volunteering just a couple Shelving $1,500-3,000 hours in the kitchen or from your own home can make a big difference. We hope our Beth El men give Aluminum pans $30 this consideration. Please contact any member of the Sisterhood board to learn how you can help. No Oven thermometer $15 long-term commitment is needed. Hand towels $5 As always, we hope you consider making a monetary donation. We will all benefit from the success of Timers $10 this initiative. It is important to keep up our momentum through the spring and summer so everything is in place before the High Holidays. Thank you!

Beth El Sisterhood Kitchen Initiative Pledge Form

Stocking and maintaining the kitchen is critical for weekly Kiddushim as well as other religious and social functions held at Beth El. Please help improve the kitchen by making a financial contribution to Sisterhood. The funds we collect will purchase professional quality knives, bowls, utensils, service ware, shelving, signage, minor servicing of equipment, and more.

This fundraiser will last through the year 5773, but we hope pledges can be filled soon to facilitate our early purchase of important kitchen items. Please make checks payable to Beth El Sisterhood and write “Kitchen Initiative” in the memo section. Thank you.

Yes, I want to support kitchen improvements and can pledge… $54 ______$72 ______$90 ______$180 ______Other amount $______Your Name E-mail Telephone

______Address (if not in Beth El Directory)

I am interested in volunteering in the kitchen to implement improvements. ____

8 May 2013 /Beth El Bulletin Please Join our family and friends Please celebrate with us as as we celebrate Sydney Deborah Mariana is called to the Torah מרים as a Bat Mitzvah Becoming a Bat Mitzvah Shabbat B’Midbar Shabbat Naso May 17-18, 2013 Friday, May 10, 2013 Saturday, May 11, 2013 Kiddush lunch following Saturday services Kiddush luncheon following services Sydney, Adam, Rachel

David and Susan Kirsch Pilar and Ron Goldberg

Meet our B’not Mitzvah

Mariana Sydney Deborah May 10-11, 2013 May 17-18, 2013

Hi! My name is Mariana Rocha-Goldberg. I was born Name: My name is Sydney Kirsch. on June 6th 2000 (D-Day) in Bogota, Colombia, South Age: I am 12 years old. My birthday is August 24. America. I moved to the USA when I was four. I am Siblings: My brother Adam is 10 and my sister Rachel twelve years old. I live in Durham, North Carolina with is 7. my parents Ron and Pilar, one dog, and three cats. I Where I've lived: I was born in Maryland; I have also am a seventh grader at Durham Academy, and have lived in Massachusetts. been attending DA since kindergarten. My hobbies School: I'm in 6th grade at Duke School. are dancing, listening to music, talking to friends, Activities: I like to dance, play tennis, and hang out baby sitting, and playing soccer. I am bilingual. I know with my friends. Spanish and English, and am learning French, and Pets: I have a frog named Lima and a dog named Hebrew. I am fluent in Spanish because it is my first Gelato. language. I have four sibilings, Ana Maria 25, Brooke Colors: My favorite colors are purple and turquoise. 32, Seth 35, and Erin 38. I also have one nephew, Elias Animal: My favorite animal is a hamster. 3, and one niece, Clara 10 months. My favorite kind Food: My favorite food is ice cream. of food is Colombian usually food from Bogota. I Singer: My favorite singer is Taylor Swift. want to become a lawyer and work on immigration Bat Mitzvah: My Bat Mitzvah is May 17-18. I hope problems. you can come!

9 It’s time for our Annual Young Family Shabbat picnic!

Talmud Torah Saturday afternoon, May 4 FROM OUR EDUCATION & YOUTH DIRECTOR 3:30-5:30 pm

Dear Friends and Families at Beth El, For families with children in 2nd grade or younger (Joint Alef-Bet and early childhood program.)

So here it is—my last set of bulletin pages. Time to Enjoy a light dinner and a casual afternoon of say goodbye. As I look back, there’s a lot to celebrate socializing, running around, playing games, and - we’ve accomplished so many great things together. hanging out on the playground. In a few short years, we have almost doubled our We’re still looking for a few volunteers to help pre- enrollment. We have also modernized the school pare our light dinner—let us know if you’re available! in many ways:

 A new well-rounded and comprehensive Lag B’Omer Field Day curriculum, wonderfully implemented by our great teachers. Join us for games, activities, and friendly team competition  Weekly chuggim to introduce our students to some of the experiential aspects of Jewish Sunday, April 28 education - Israeli dance, cooking for social 11:00-12:30 action, biblio-drama, Birkhat Hamazon ruach, etc. (Thank you to our madrichim Open to everyone in for implementing these activities!) grades pre-K—6  Grade-level family education programs for Shabbat and holidays. Please RSVP to Karen by Wednesday, April 24 to be included on a team (Talmud Torah  Early childhood programming to introduce children to the world of Jewish education. students need not RSVP—they’ll be brought by their teachers.)  Extensive programming for children and families, creating a strong connection to community. Talmud Torah Siyyum On a Tuesday night?!? I look at each of these things as accomplishments, yes, but also as fond memories. Memories of being We invite the Beth El community to join us on a part of your families and watching your children Erev Shavuot mature. Memories of families joining our community as we celebrate the conclusion and participating in what we have created. And of of a great school year course, memories of enjoying our time together. Tuesday evening, May 14 As I move forward to my next adventure (and I have 5:30 pm not yet decided what that will be), I wish you all the In the sanctuary best. Each Talmud Torah class will lead a I will be at Beth El through May 31. During this presentation for the community month, I look forward to seeing you at all of our year-end activities. As always, please contact me followed by the community Shavuot Dinner

if you have any questions, or if you would just like Please RSVP to Miriam by Wednesday, May 8, for the to say hello. You can reach me at dinner. Cost for the dinner is $18 per person 13 and [email protected] or (919) 682-1238, older, $9 per child 7-12, and no charge for children or you can stop by! under 7. Family maximum is $45. Please mail payment to Beth El with "Shavuot dinner" in the memo line. Any B’Shalom, cancellations made after this deadline still need to be Karen paid in full. Thank you for understanding.

10 May 2013 /Beth El Bulletin Focus on the Classroom We love hands-on learning, and art comprises a large Kitah Gan portion of our class time. Our entire class loves to color, paint, and play with play-doh during every The Kitah Gan class this year is a wonderful group of session of Talmud Torah. We learn each story from the bright and inquiring preschoolers, and I am constantly Torah using our artistic abilities and our practiced acting delighted by their curiosity in class and their fast learning skills (when we jump in our time machines with our skills. We have celebrated all of the Jewish holidays so friends in Kindergarten and First Grade to go back in far this year, we have learned many stories from the time). For example, when we learned about the story of Torah, we have talked about what Judaism means to us, David and Goliath, we acted out the entire play. Then, and we have worked very diligently on learning the we each painted our own Magen David (Jewish star) to Aleph Bet. represent the Jewish people, and David as the King of Israel. Each student in this class has a thirst for knowledge, and is ahead of the curve on every new holiday we celebrate Some of our favorite activities have been learning about and lesson we learn. I am extremely impressed by their Shabbat, when we baked Challah from scratch, made reading abilities, as most of them are learning to read this our own Challah covers out of cloth and puffy paint, and year, and they are all very enthusiastic about volunteering learned the prayers in their correct order. The braided to draw on the white board and read for the entire class. Challah was delicious coming hot out of the oven, and Each student loves to dance and sing during music time, each student got to take their individual challah home to and Shira and I love to join in with all the ruach that we share with their families! see coming from our students. Lastly, we are almost done with the entire Aleph-Bet, and the Pre-K students have made unbelievable progress learning each letter, along with its shape and sound. When we learned the letter yud, we each drew yads (hands) on paper, and wrote the whole word out on Hebrew!

I have greatly enjoyed teaching this class so far, and the students love working with Shira as our madricha. Shira and I are both looking forward to the rest of the year with this awesome class!

Shalom!

Morah Jill Rubin We started the year celebrating Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kitah Gan Kippur, learning about the head of year and apologizing for all the sins we had committed in the past year. Tashlicht was a very important lesson for us, as we threw pieces of bread into the water as we recognized ways in which we would behave better in the year to come. We discussed the importance of sharing, of being kind to our siblings, and helping out parents when they ask us. We celebrated TuB’shevat by creating an art forest, and also did a scavenger hunt around Beth El’s campus, learning to explore and appreciate the nature that we see around us. We talked all about Hannukah and our favorite family traditions, and we most recently been learned the four questions for Pesach. The students did an incredible job learning the tunes to the four questions and their meanings in English, participating in a class discussion about the experience of the Jews in Egypt and why we celebrate the holiday of Passover. I was very impressed that many of the students already knew some of the songs!

11 Important dates to remember The 2012-2013 Family Programming Calendar is online at http://www.betheldurham.org/calendar/schoolcalendar.html.

Please note that dates are subject to change.

Watch your emails for updates and more complete information, including youth group programs and Talmud Torah special events. (Please contact Karen with any changes to your email address.)

Saturday, 4/27 Ruach Shabbat

USY had another great year this year, starting Tot Shabbat with our annual trip to Emerald Point Wet-N- Sunday, 4/28 Talmud Torah Wild, and going through our most recent Lag B’Omer field day adventure, our Lazer Tag and Lock-In Wednesday, 5/1 Talmud Torah adventure in April. We’re all looking forward to Saturday, 5/4 Young Family Shabbat Picnic May, when we get together twice to enjoy one of our favorite activities—going to the theater. Saturday evening, 5/4 USY program Sunday, 5/5 Talmud Torah Please contact Karen if you’re interested in Sunday afternoon, 5/5 Pre-Kadima program joining us for either event: Wednesday, 5/8 Talmud Torah May 4 - Adventures of Priscilla, Friday, 5/10 Mariana Rocha-Goldberg Bat Mitzvah Queen of the Desert Saturday, 5/11 Marian Rocha-Goldberg Bat Mitzvah May 19 - Sister Act Sunday, 5/12 NO TALMUD TORAH These events are open to all 8th-12th graders. Tuesday, 5/14 Talmud Torah Siyyum / Erev Shavuot We hope you will join us as we say goodbye to Friday, 5/17 Sydney Kirsch Bat Mitzvah our graduating seniors! Saturday, 5/18 Sydney Kirsch Bat Mitzvah Sunday, 5/19 Alef Bet year-end program USY year-end event Kadima had so much fun in April welcoming our fifth Sunday, 6/1 Kadima year-end program graders by joining them on the Mystery Bus Ride! Hey Pre-Kadima! As we wrap up the school year and start talking about our individual sum- Our third-fifth graders had a great year! mer plans, we can still look forward to our year- end pool party on Saturday night, June 1. Our activities have given us the chance to learn, play, Watch your emails for details about that event. help the community, and socialize with all of our friends at Beth El. We’re all looking forward to our pre-Kadima lock-in in April! Remember to invite your friends—our year-end events are open to all Jewish 5th-8th graders. Check your emails or announcements for information about our year-end event on May 5.

Thank you to all of the volunteers who helped Join Alef-Bet! with this year’s youth group programs - As we celebrate the great success we have had this Whether you helped drive and chaperone, year, we look forward to enjoying our final month with promoted our events, two great activities - the annual young family picnic contributed financially, on May 4, and our year-end event on May 19. or just stepped in when you Watch your emails for details about both of these could, we couldn’t have great programs! done it without you! 12 May 2013 /Beth El Bulletin March Contributions Beth El Congregation gratefully acknowledges all contributions. Please send donations & dedications to Sandy Berman, our corresponding secretary, at the Beth El address. Donations may be made via check, cash, stock transfer, or Paypal. A full list of funds, donation forms & the direct Paypal link are available on our website’s development page & through the office. When making a donation to the Rabbi's Discretionary Fund, please write a separate check payable directly to that fund.

Building Maintenance Fund General Fund Sheila and Sol Levine in honor of Ethan Franzen's Bar Mitzvah Ruth Riddle Sheila and Sol Levine in memory of William Goldberg Greg and Bryna Rapp in memory of Mary Szulik Sheila and Sol Levine in memory of Lena Goldberg Alan and Mary Joan Mandel in honor of selling their chametz Alan and Mary Joan Mandel in appreciation of January & Cemetery Fund February bimah honors Irwin Sobel and Ceevah Freedman Sobel Mara Buchbinder and Jesse Summers in honor of Artie Axelbank Donald and Judith Steine performing the brit milah for their son, Simon Joseph Summers The Farels in honor of the marriage of Elan Siegel to Alon Tiv Earl and Gladys Siegel Endowment Fund Barrie and Jean Hurwitz in honor of the Bar Mitzvah of Alon Gladys Siegel in memory of Martin Poleski's mother, Teresa Greyber Poleski Barrie and Jean Hurwitz in honor of the birth of Ruth Dzau's Dr. and Mrs. Jonathan Dayan in honor of Arthur Axelbank granddaughter, Sadie performing the brit milah for their son, Ethan Barrie and Jean Hurwitz in honor of Bob Lefkowitz receiving a Carol and Jimmie Haynes in honor of Brian and Brenda Nobel Prize Ginsberg's new grandbaby, Nora Michelle Block Beth and Adam Goldstein in memory of Mary Szulik Carol and Jimmie Haynes in honor of the wedding of Gladys Margie Satinsky in memory of Alex Satinsky Siegel's granddaughter Margie Satinsky in honor of Neil Berman's engagement Dee and Jonathan Prastein in honor of Dr. Arthur Axelbank Margie Satinsky in honor of Ethan Franzen's Bar Mitzvah performing the brit milah for their son, Yaakov Ben Yitzhak Mark Werner with thanks for an aliyah on February 23, 2013 David and JoAnn Rubin in memory of Ilana Saraf's father, Irving Saraf Mitzvah Fund David and JoAnn Rubin in memory of Itzik Lebovich's sister, Robert and Debbie Rosenstein in honor of Ethan Franzen's Esther Lebovich Bar Mitzvah David and JoAnn Rubin in memory of Amy Halberstadt's Robert and Debbie Rosenstein in honor of David Rubin stepmother, Anita Weinblatt-Halberstadt David and JoAnn Rubin in honor of Laura Quigley David and JoAnn Rubin in memory of Eric Mlyn’s father, Jack Mindy Oshrain and Stephen Jaffe in honor of Pearl Levine's Mlyn 85th birthday David and JoAnn Rubin in memory of Martin Poleski’s mother, Mindy Oshrain and Stephen Jaffe in memory of Amy Teresa Poleski Halberstadt's step-mother David and JoAnn Rubin in celebration of the bar mitzvah of Ethan Franzen Prayer Book Fund David and JoAnn Rubin in celebration of the bar mitzvah of Michelle Shrott and Jeff Krolik in memory of Harold Goodrich Russell Springer Michelle Shrott and Jeff Krolik in memory of Herbert Bailin David and JoAnn Rubin in celebration of the bat mitzvah of Michelle Shrott and Jeff Krolik in memory of Mary Zeitune Szulik Mariana Rocha-Goldberg Michelle Shrott and Jeff Krolik in memory of Irving Saraf David and JoAnn Rubin in celebration of the bat mitzvah of Barrie and Jean Hurwitz in loving memory of parents Willie and Sydney Kirsch Dorothy Massey David and JoAnn Rubin in celebration of the engagement of Barrie and Jean Hurwitz in loving memory of parents Schrol and Neil Berman & Rachel Werner Margaret Hurwitz David and JoAnn Rubin in celebration of the wedding of Gladys Siegel’s granddaughter Elan to Alon Tiv Orthodox Kehillah David and JoAnn Rubin in celebration of the wedding of Neil & Lynne Grossman in memory of Philippe Chemla's mother Sharon Freedman’s daughter Rebecca to Thomas Neustein Sheldon Hayer David and JoAnn Rubin in celebration of Bob & Laurie Gutman’s 50th anniversary Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund David and JoAnn Rubin in celebration of the birth of Erica & Rob Don & Sheila Goldstein in honor of selling their chametz Gringle’s grandson, Maxwell Dean Risk Hal Sandick and Barbara Roberman in honor of Ethan Franzen's David and JoAnn Rubin wishing Jimmie Haynes a refuah Bar Mitzvah shleymah Alan and Mary Joan Mandel in appreciation of their Purim treat Scott and Randi Smith in honor of Ethan Franzen's Bar Mitzvah Elaine Perilstein Memorial Fund Jerry and Valerie Schreiber with gratitude to Barak Richman for Don and Sheila Goldstein in memory of Anne Goldstein, mother the help he offered their son of Don Don and Sheila Goldstein in memory of Will Grossman Sam and Jeannette Fink Programming Fund Don and Sheila Goldstein in honor of Laura Quigley for her grace Margie Satinsky in honor of the Gutmans 50th wedding and hard work anniversary Don and Sheila Goldstein for refuah shleymah for Jimmie Margie Satinsky in honor of David Rubin with appreciation for Haynes his davening for Healing Yoga Don and Sheila Goldstein for refuah shleymah for Corey Gradin

Eric Pas Jewish Camp Scholarship Fund Don and Sheila Goldstein in memory of Ilana Saraf's father Don and Sheila Goldstein in memory Itzik Leibovich's sister 13 Thank you to everyone who has contributed to the 2012-2013 Annual Fund Campaign! This list reflects pledges received by April 19. Every effort has been made to ensure that all those who have pledged are included. Please inform the office if your name is mistakenly missing from this list.

Our goal is $110,000 & 100% member participation. $65,417.80 (59.5%) pledged from 108 member families (33% of goal) Our fiscal year ends on May 31. Please pay all unpaid pledges before then.

It’s not too late to give! All donations received by May 31 will be acknowledged in the August Bulletin.

Joel & Adele Abramowitz David & Carrie Goldman Anonymous Shalom Goldman & Laurie Patton Arthur Axelbank & Susi Lieff Don & Sheila Goldstein Steven Bachenheimer Philip Goodman & Mary Butler Robyn & Stephen Bagg Ruth M. Greenberg in memory of Bernard G. Ed Balleisen & Karin Shapiro Greenberg Sheldon Becker & Rita Lichtman Henry Greene & Marilyn Telen-Greene Fred Behrends in honor of the birth of Phyllis Hudi Gross Dworsky's first great grandchild Grossinger-Donnelly Family in honor of Laura Lisa Berley in honor of Dorothy Rutherford, Quigley for everything she does for the Beth El beloved friend community Sandra Berman Eric Guajardo & Rachel McCarthy Stephen & Shula Bernard Robert & Laura Gutman Shelah Bloom Jeff Spinner & Elyza Richmon Halev Jacob & Ruth Blum Edward & Sharon Halperin in honor of Michele David Bronstein & Carla Fenson Pas & Jeff Koweek in honor of the Federation Harvey & Sandra Cohen awards they received Richard Cramer & Jane Gabin Richard Hart & Sally Hicks in honor of Michaela Davidai in memory of Mollie Fridovich Michele Pas Jeff & Anne Derby Sheldon Hayer David Dreifus & Jennifer Sosensky Jimmie & Carol Haynes Phyllis Dworsky Steve & Judith Herman Ruth Dzau Michael Hershfield & Susan Rosenthal Paul & Anita Farel Samuel & Marsha Horowitz Bernard & Shari Fischer Doris Iarovici in memory of Larry Katz Frank & Pat Fischer Mindy Oshrain & Stephen Jaffe Joel Fleishman Sharon Joffe Laura Flicker Irwin & Deborah Kahn in memory of Leon & Michael Frank Bernice Kahn and William & Dolores Ginsburg Kurt Franzen & Miriam Cohen Franzen in Ann & Stuart Kaplan honor of Jim & Sandy Fangmeier's new grandson Jill Kaplan Neil & Sharon Freedman Sandy Kessler & Sheva Zucker Rachel Galanter Tom Keyserling & Alice Ammerman Ronald & Pilar Goldberg Annette Kirshner Susan Cohen & Peter Goldberg in honor of David & Susan Klapper Estelle Cohen Stephen & Lauri Klein Edward & Florence Goldblatt (Continued on page 15)

14 May 2013 /Beth El Bulletin 2012-2013 Annual Fund Campaign Participants continued from page 14

Louis & Claire Kolman Barbara & Martin Poleski Hillel & Charlotte Koren Mark & Diane Pozefsky Jeff & Lynne Koweek David Reed & Diane Markoff Jeffrey Krolik & Michelle Shrott Barbara Rochen Renner Thomas & Annette Kronmiller Michael & Jacqueline Resnick Harold & Susan Kudler Ruth Riddle in memory of her grandparents, Musia Lakin Max & Paula Meiselman Itzik Lebovich & Celia Schreiber Herb & Mavis Rochen Esther Lederman Howard & Claire Rockman in memory of Joel & Susan Leeb Israel & Yetta Rockman Bernard & Sylvia Leibel Robert & Deborah Rosenstein Kevin & Ann Leibel Caryn Rossi Steve Lerner & Sharon van Horn David & JoAnn Rubin Pearl Levine Margaret Sachs in honor of the Gutman's Sol & Sheila Levine in memory of their anniversary grandparents Hal Sandick & Barbra Roberman Jay & Hunter Levinsohn Marjorie A. Satinsky Isaac & Rose Levy Doug Schiff & Karen Sindelar Arie & Anita Lewin Roy Schonberg & Cheryl Marcus Hinda Lind Jerry & Valerie Schreiber Jonathan Lovins & Florence Briones in memory Bob & Merle Schwartz of Norma Lovins Richard & Ann Shachtman Shawn MacDuff Simon & Barbara Shane Alan & Mary Joan Mandel Herbert & Eunice Shatzman Lee & Elaine Marcus Gladys Siegel Larry & Rebecca Margolese-Malin Lewis & Judith Siegel Connie Margolin Scott & Randi Smith Lew Margolis & Linda Frankel Judith Snyderman Arthur & Judith Marks in honor of the wedding Michael Spiritos & Sarah Stahmer of Alex Marks & Liz Berger on the 20th of January, Chuck & Marlene Spritzer 2013. Alan & Maxine Stern Jon & Sean Meltzer Ronald Strauss & Sue Slatkoff Lori Bernstein & Doug Merrill James Tulsky & Ilana Saraf Ram Miller & Gili Bethlehem Charles van der Horst & Laura Svetkey Sydney Paul & Krisha Song Miller in honor of Jonathan & Deborah Wahl Sydney’s grandmother Edna’s 90th birthday David & Laura Weaver Elliott & Sandy P. Mills Howard Weinberg Lorraine Morley Norman Weiner & Laura Lieber Andree Allen in memory of Menachem Drucker Jim Wells Peter & Marilyn Ornstein Barry Yeoman Barry & Lois Ostrow David & Aimee Zaas Dale & Diane Pahl Gary & Abby Zarkin Michele Pas Roger Perilstein & Kathy Bartelmay Noah Pickus & Trudi Abel

15 BETH EL SYNAGOGUE

1004 WATTS STREET DURHAM, NORTH CAROLINA 27701 919-682-1238

Dear: Beth El Members and Friends From: Yetta Brandt and Michelle Shrott Date: May 2013 Re: YOM KIPPUR MEMORIAL BOOKLET

Dear Friends,

We are writing to you now about the Memorial Booklet, which is being prepared for use during the Yizkor Service on Yom Kippur. The purpose of the Memorial Booklet is to aid us in keeping the names of the departed ever before us as a symbol of reverent and undying love. Because the Yizkor prayer specifically makes reference to a pledge to charity to perpetuate the memory and ideals of our beloved departed, the Beth El Board of Directors has ruled that any charitable offering shall be wholly voluntary in keeping with the sacred spirit of the occasion. Therefore, we do not have a schedule of mandatory fees to honor the memory of your loved ones, but each person may respond with a contribution in accord with his or her own inner prompting. If you wish to have the name(s) of your beloved departed listed in this special booklet, please complete the form below and mail it with your check to: Beth El Synagogue (Attn: Memorial Booklet) 1004 Watts Street, Durham, NC 27701.

Checks should be made payable to Beth El with "Memorial Booklet" noted in the memo line.

Please print information: Remembered by:

In Memory of:

If the names to be inscribed in the Memorial Booklet are the same as last year, you may write SAME.

NAMES MUST BE RECEIVED BY JULY 15 FOR OUR PRINTING SCHEDULE.

Thank you, Yetta Brandt and Michelle Shrott

16 May 2013 /Beth El Bulletin Yahrzeit Reminders

Iyyar May Tammuz June 21 Alexander Koplowitz 1 1 Sarah Z. Bane 9 22 Ricka Brown Hart 2 1 Zevel Berman 9 22 Charles Kaplan 2 1 Joshua Berry 9 22 Alfred Veis 2 1 Eva Gadlli 9 23 Marcia Lynn August 3 1 Robin Perlo Berry 9 23 Morris Snyderman 3 1 Abram Primakoff 9 24 Sandra Lynn Fink Goodman 4 1 Herman Scherr 9 25 Joseph Behar 5 1 Akiba Sitron 9 25 Frank Greenberg 5 2 Mitchell Bergman 10 26 Harry Pitkis 6 2 Samuel Cooper 10 26 Abraham Rosenstein 6 2 Mollie Gabin 10 26 Milton Siegel 6 Traditionally, we light a 2 Rivka Rachel Ginton 10 28 Harry R. Bergman 8 memorial candle 2 Dalia Weinisman 10 28 Hanoch ben Levi 8 on the evening before 3 Jon Michael Gitelson 11 29 Sylvia Ackerman 9 3 Hannah Lakin 11 29 Susan Shapiro Lipper 9 the anniversary of a loved one's death. 4 Pearl Fisher Alexander 12 29 Toba Man 9 4 William Cassell 12 29 Rose Sawilosky Roemer 9 4 Eva Sarah Goodman 12 4 Sheila Krolik 12 Sivan May Sivan June 5 Gertrude Fishman 13 1 Nathan Henry Brandt 10 23 Milton Goldstein 1 5 Rhoda Goldman 13 2 Julia Schlanger 11 23 Howard Jaffe 1 5 Ida Grossman 13 3 Ann Feldman 12 23 Tirtza Leiss 1 5 Charles Z. Kadis 13 3 Morton Pizer 12 23 Eunice Loewinsohn 1 5 Ruth Slavin 13 4 Benjamin Pudolsky 13 23 Daniel Miller 1 6 Donald Benjamin Hackel 14 4 Sarah Sody 13 23 Amanda Stang 1 6 Mildred Marcus 14 5 Eva Rosenstein Dave 14 24 Leonard Becker 2 8 Neil Felmus 16 5 Bertram Lubar 14 24 Mollie Fridovich 2 8 Sofie Lillienfeld Spatz 16 5 Bruno Strauss 14 24 Phyllis Lehon 2 8 Elizabeth Gay Thurston 16 6 Aron Pas 15 25 Theodore Brody 3 9 Rachel Geller 17 6 Moses Lyon Stadiem 15 26 Mary Y. Berman 4 9 Shlomo Geller 17 6 Earl Weaver 15 26 Esther Markman Enzer 4 9 Mary Kirshner 17 7 Norma Greenberg 16 27 Marian Freedman 5 9 Mandel Silverman 17 8 Gerald Reed 17 27 Dennis Hart 5 10 Janet Alpern 18 9 Jeremy Bland 18 27 Herman Wagner 5 10 Yetta Greenberg 18 10 Bella Goldstein 19 28 Lottie Frohman 6 10 Annie Landsberger 18 10 Annie Levy 19 29 Julius Concors 7 11 Albert M. Fleishman 19 10 Esther Silverman 19 29 Isaac Evans 7 11 Ann Geller 19 13 Peggy Elizabeth Silver Huffman 22 29 Minnie S. Freedman 7 11 Max Parker 19 14 Lotte Herzfeld 23 29 Reba Levine 7 11 Dave Satlof 19 15 Lily Feiler 24 30 Libby Isaacs 8 13 Martin Landau 21 15 Willard Gidwitz 24 13 Louis S. Stadiem 21 16 Norman Evenson 25 13 Clara Swartz 21 16 Stuart Garr 25 13 Eva M. Woods 21 16 Irene Markoff 25 14 Lucy Evans 22 16 Pearl Morrison 25 14 Jorge Gadlli 22 16 Herbert Sharp 25 15 Norman Kirshner 23 17 Carrie I. Hayer 26 15 Nathan Ornoff 23 17 Jonathan Shimm 26 16 Julius J. Bienstock 24 18 Toni Cumpana Eisenberg 27 19 Rose Krebs 27 18 Samuel Levine 27 20 Sidonie Hauser 28 18 Lionel Shapiro 27 20 Raquel Levy 28 18 Molly Zauder 27 20 Ray Rosenstein Lewin 28 19 Gregory Barry 28 20 Juliet Schwartz 28 20 Earl Siegel 29 21 Sidney Stern 29 21 Jennie Leibson 30 22 Ralph Arnold 30 21 Margot Sandick 30 22 Shayna Belenko 30 21 Sidney Shapiro 30 22 Steven Hershenow 30 22 Hyman Kresses 31 22 Myer B. Marcus 30 22 Fannie Promisel Freedman 31 22 Peter Stein 30

17 On April 28th join the community at the Federation's Yom Ha'atzmaut / Israeli Independence Day celebration 3-6 pm at the Levin JCC. Free to attend. JOIN Rabbi Sager and Sicha for the next installments of Festivities include: B’almah—our conversation between ancient sources on loss and Israeli food (falafel, salads, watermelon, and more) the lived experience of loss—at 7:30pm. These will be the last Performances by members of the community programs until next fall. Stay tuned for new topics! An Israeli-style shuk (market) April 30 at Beth Meyer (Raleigh): Covering Mirrors, Children's activities (face-painting and other Arts & Crafts) Uncovering the Truth. Jewish tradition teaches that a Israeli-themed Photography Contest covered mirror reflects loss. Join a conversation uncover-

Contact Shoshana Israel at [email protected] or 919-886-7076 ing that which can only be seen within: for more information. All ages welcome, but children under 10 http://bit.ly/blmapril. must be accompanied by a supervising adult. May 22 at Levin JCC and May 30 at Beth Meyer (Raleigh): Candle and Soul. "The Lord's candle is the human soul," says Proverbs. "The soul is attached to the body as a flame to its wick," another tradition says. Join a conversation about the candle that burns in the place where "Down Home: The Cantata" we gather to honor loss, making the powerful and fragile The Triangle Jewish Chorale will present three performances connection between soul and body: http://bit.ly/blmapril. of a newly composed piece, “Down Home: The Cantata”, exploring the Jewish immigrant experience in North Carolina. Perform- May 7 Yom Yerushalayim program at the Levin JCC at ances will take place on April 28 at 3:00pm in Goodson Chapel at 7:30pm. In celebration of Yom Yerushalayim--Jerusalem Day, Duke University; on May 12 at 3:00pm at Beth Meyer Synagogue Sicha presents a conversation between ancient and modern in Raleigh; and on May 19 at 3:30pm at Temple Emanuel in Jerusalem voices: Jerusalem: Where Heaven and Earth Meet. Greensboro. Why is Yerushalayim always two, one above and one The premiere of this original composition by composer below? Alejandro Rutty, Associate Professor at UNCG, and performed by I want to be in the middle Yerushalayim the Triangle Jewish Chorale, soloists and orchestra takes place in without banging my head above and without stubbing Goodson Chapel at Duke University at 3 p.m. on Monday, April my toe below. (Yehuda Amichai) 28. "Down Home: The Cantata" weaves world, folk music and This program is co-sponsored by the Levin JCC. Jewish liturgical melodies with text inspired by oral histories of Light refreshments will be served. For more information: North Carolina Jews. The score features audio recordings from the http://bit.ly/5-7yy

Jewish Heritage Foundation of North Carolina archives. Register now for SICHA SHABBATON IN THE Additional performances will take place at 3 p.m. on MOUNTAINS—August 8-11, 2013 at Wildacres in the mountains Monday, May 12 at Beth Meyer Synagogue in Raleigh of western NC. Information and online registration can be found (http://goo.gl/maps/FKv7b), and at 3:30 p.m. on Monday, May 19 here: http://tinyurl.com/Shabbaton2013. See page 22 for at Temple Emanuel in Greensboro (http://goo.gl/maps/4LsjX). information on the 66th annual Wildacres B’nai B’rith Institute All three performances are free and open to the public. of Judaism at Wildacres Aug. 12-15 Singer and choral conductor Lorena Guillen will lead the performances of this new piece, commissioned by Eric Meyers, Sicha, Hebrew for "conversation," is an organization that promotes religion professor and director of the Duke Center for Jewish the vital ongoing dialogue between classical Jewish texts and Studies. modern life. Essays engaging modern and classical texts in conver- “‘Down Home: The Cantata’ is a highly original, imagina- sations can be found on our website: www.sichaconversation.org. tive work that will both move and entertain its audiences," Meyers said. "In blending traditional melodies with sounds of the New South, Rutty has not only captured the sounds and moods of the past but he has used the actual voices of the past to interact with Interested in reading the Haftarah or Torah them.” during an upcoming Shabbat service? "Down Home: The Cantata" is a musical complement to the foundation's multimedia project, "Down Home: Jewish Life Congregants who do this regularly/semi-regularly/ in North Carolina," which consists of a book, film, school every-once-in-awhile are greatly appreciated! Even if curriculum, archive, website (http://jhfnc.org), and digital you've never chanted a Haftarah, if it's been a long exhibition. time, or you have thought it would be a meaningful The cantata is sponsored by the Bernice and Morton Lerner way to commemorate an occasion, you like the sound Endowment in Judaic Studies at Duke. of the trope, or you would just like to learn this as a For more information on the TJC contact Gayla Halbrecht,: [email protected] or Bernie Most: [email protected]. new skill, please contact Randi Smith - [email protected]. If you would like to read a Torah portion, please contact Jeff Derby - [email protected]

18 May 2013 /Beth El Bulletin Jewish Family Services at the Levin JCC Parts of Main Street, Durham Closing for Six Months 1937 Cornwallis Road, Durham Note Detours near Beth El May-September 919-354-4936 [email protected] www.levinjcc.org Beginning May 13, the section of West Main Street that runs Contact Jenny Schwartz along Duke’s East Campus between Buchanan Boulevard and at 919-354-4923 or [email protected] Swift Ave./Broad St. will be closed for five months for a state for information on these & other JFS programs. bridge replacement project.

Visti the JCC website for dates & details More at: http://today.duke.edu/2013/04/mainstreetclosed on these ongoing events & more:

JFS Mitzvah Corps Bubbes and Zaydes Jewish Meditation at the Levin JCC Job & Networking Group  Caregiver Support Group Meets the 1st and 3rd Sunday of each month. 10:45am-12:00pm Chronic Connections  Memory Café No charge & no experience needed to attend. Long standing Chaverim  JFS Clinical Connections meditation group. Always open to new participants. Sometimes Women’s & Men’s Groups  BRIDGES Sensational Sundays a participant leads a guided meditation; other times it is a silent practice. Levin JCC, 1937 W. Cornwallis Road, Durham. Growing up Jewish in the South Phone: 919-354-4936, [email protected]

At the JFS Men’s group on Friday, May 3rd, Howard Margolis will speak on the subject, “Growing up Jewish in the South.” Israeli Author Book Club Howard, a native of Durham (born in 1941) is the grandson of two of Beth El's founding families Joseph & Ida Goldberg and Read and discuss books by Israeli authors. All books available in Michael & Tzviia Margolis. His father, Sam, was active at Beth English translation and discussions will be in English. El from the mid-forties through the beginning of this century. May 12: Love Live by Zeruya Shalev Howard will emphasize his childhood years 1941-65 while adding some stories about his dad, Sam. Location: Levin JCC / Cost: Free Call the Levin JCC to register: 919-354-4936

Come hear THE MAGNOLIA KLEZMER BAND!

Bring a blanket or chair, picnic, or buy food. Dance, shake, or listen. All shows are free.

May 3rd, 7pm, Cary Downtown Performances Series, Kildaire Farm Road and Academy Street (across from the Cary Arts Center) Cary, NC http://bit.ly/CaryPerm

May 5th, ll-1pm, Weaver St. Market Jazz Brunch, Weaver & Greensboro Sts., Carrboro, NC www.carrboro.com/wsmjazz.html

July 21st, 6-8pm, Southern Village on the Green, 620 Market St., Chapel Hill, NC www.southernvillage.com/movies-music.htm

Women's Voices Chorus presents "The Foibles of Fauna" A concert sure to delight all ages, featuring a world tour of music about animals Sunday, May 5, 3 p.m. Holy Trinity Lutheran Church 300 E. Rosemary Street Chapel Hill, NC 27514 Tickets are $15 adults, $5 students. Group rates available. For more information, visit www.womensvoiceschorus.org or email [email protected] (919) 489-0433 — [email protected]

19 Lerner’s Annual 5k Race/Walk Jewish Food Festival

June 2, 2013 at 7am. "Essen my kinder"--The Levin JCC will be hosting its 1st Annual All ages welcome! Jewish Food Festival! This will be our signature event of the sea- Visit www.lernerschool.org for more information and to register. son with everything from Egg Creams (which our president, Jeff Koweek recently learned contain neither eggs nor cream) to kosher pastrami sandwiches, a pickle tasting, the best homemade falafel, live music and much more! The event will take place on Sunday, June 2nd and volunteers are needed. Please see below and sign up for what interests you.

Food Preparation Jobs (most happening prior to the event): www.signupgenius.com/go/9040E4AAEAD2F4-june

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Jews and Durham in Transition Sunday, June 16, 3p.m. Main Durham Library

Join us for a panel discussion on the history of Jews in Durham with historians Leonard Rogoff and Karin Shapiro along with Lynne Grossman and Robert Rosenstein, both of whose families have lived in Durham for many generations.

Karin's exhibit, "Beth El Synagogue – the first 125 years" will be on exhibit at the library from June 4 to July 15.

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20 May 2013 /Beth El Bulletin Letter from Valhalla With that, the program came to an end and I headed to the subway so Some Thoughts on Science, Religion, and Medicine from the I could get to Grand Central Station and get on the train back to our Chief Rabbi - II apartment in Greenwich, Connecticut. A few weeks after Rabbi Sacks' presentation it was time for Last month I introduced you to the Chief Rabbi of the United winter break at New York Medical College. Sharon, Jenny, Alison, Hebrew Congregations of Great Britain, Jonathan Sacks, and shared and I met down at Fort Lauderdale and caught a cruise ship in with you the notes I took when he spoke at the 92nd Street YMHA. I Miami for our annual winter vacation. The ship docked at Key promised that this month I would share the notes I took when, after West, Florida, and then sailed to Cozumel, Mexico before returning the formal part of the program, he took questions from the audience to Miami. We took a long bicycle ride around Key West and saw the at the Y and from those watching from remote television hook-ups. sites. At the southern tip of the island there is a massive concrete Here we go; the questions Rabbi Sacks was asked are in italics and bollard where tourists line up to have their picture taken at "the the responses are in regular font. southernmost tip of the continental United States". We pedaled up on Why do the number of months vary from year-to-year in the our bicycles to do the same when Sharon noticed that, to the right of Jewish calendar? the bollard, there was a representation of a menorah by Chabad, left "The Jewish month is a lunar month. Jews had to create a over from Chanukah, with a sign claiming calendar that was lunar in relation to months and solar in relation that it was the southernmost menorah in the to years. This created a discrepancy which was corrected by, continental United States. Who was going to periodically, adding in an extra month." dispute that claim? We snapped a photo. → What accomplishment during your term as Chief Rabbi is In the last few weeks here in New York particularly important to you? I have been to a few new kosher restaurants. "Education is what makes Jews Jews. I set myself a task to Ladino Tapas Bar and Grill, 940 8th Avenue create an educated Jewish community. During my term as chief at 56th Street, Manhattan (near Columbus Rabbi the percentage of children attending Jewish days schools went Circle on the West Side): Jenny found this from 25% to 75%." place. It is a Spanish-themed tapas bar (little What is your view of people who seek to "prove" the truth of plates with a taste of this and that) along with Torah on the basis of science? more conventional kosher cooking. I ordered the skirt steak, well "Torah is our covenant, our written Constitution, it has moral done, and the waiter refused to serve it to me. "Chef" was only power. Do not try to justify Torah on the basis of science. Justify willing to serve it medium. (When people are referred to without the science on the basis of Torah." "the" it sounds particularly pompous.) We fought it out for a while If, in the future, porcine genes are inserted into plants and but the waiter was standing firm. I conceded and said I would take those plants are used for food, will the plants be kosher or non- the hamburger. The waiter turned up his nose and told me that was kosher? not a fit meal for a growing boy like me and that I should have the "If you genetically engineered a plant with a porcine gene, it rib eye steak. I asked if his Excellency the Chef would be willing to is still kosher. The gene becomes part of the plant." give it to me well done. We shook hands on the deal and it was quite What is your view of meditation? good. "Meditation is probably the least Jewish thing invented. Jews Carlos and Gabby's Glatt Kosher Mexican Grill, 67-11 Main are very verbal - a religion of words. There was a Jewish tradition Street, Kew Garden Hills, Queens: On Sunday nights when I fly from in meditation in the Middle Ages. The sages said the pious mediated RDU from JFK, I often arrive at dinner time. This has placed me in an hour before and hour after prayers. Many people can't connect the position of looking for kosher restaurants near the airport. Carlos with tefilah - perhaps meditation may help. Meditation is a prelude and Gabby's is an order-at-the-counter and find yourself a table. They to the religious experience. It is not the experience itself. Meditation give you a pager which goes off when your food is ready. The place is creating the space to receive the knowledge of God. "Judaism is is kind of dumpy, noisy, and crowded. For a kosher restaurant the full of silences; but we don't talk about them." prices are reasonable. I had the squash soup and a "Philly Steak" What must be done to engage young people with Judaism? sandwich: grilled rib eye steak with caramelized onions, peppers, "Speak to the questions and anxiety of the age. I don't think we have and mushrooms. It was fabulous and very messy. I forgave the given Jewish college students the attention they need. We need to appearance of the restaurant. inspire a new generation of educators. We need to create Torah for Cafe Muscat, 178-07 Union Turnpike, Fresh Meadows, the iPad. Queens: This was another one of my discoveries on the way back Why do we need a personal G-d? A atheist can be as moral as from JFK. You could not make up a place like this: a dairy kosher a religious person. We have to be humble enough to accept that the restaurant with an extensive fish menu, paninis, sushi, pasta, and a religious are not superior in morality. few stir-fried Thai and Chinese dishes to boot. The place was busy "Jews look forward, not look back. If you look back you are with a large crowd of black yamulkes, knitted yamulkes, Fedoras, Lot's wife. What I have learned from Holocaust survivors is that they and women in sheitels. I went with the onion soup, Israeli salad, understand how to look forward. Three years after the Shoah they and a panini with Bulgarian cheese and was full and happy upon built the state of Israel." my departure. What is the place of secular education for an observant Jew? Next month I owe you the story of our visit to the Jewish "Who is wise? Someone who learns from everyone. Judaism Museum of Miami Beach and then I will tell you what it took for me always believed there were two kinds of knowledge: That which to start a daily minyan at New York Medical College. comes from revelation and that from inference and observation. A Until then, full Jewish education means being literate in all branches of Jewish Regards from Valhalla, literature and at the same time studying everything that teaches us to Edward Halperin see the world as God's world (the natural sciences) and everything that teaches us to see people as part of God's world (the humanities). The broad horizon is that which comes when a Jew feels comfortable studying everything without feeling their faith is threatened." 21

B’nai B’rith

Institute of Judaism Jewish Sparks is a local weekly TV program that broadcasts at Wildacres lectures and interviews with Jewish scholars, important Jewish Little Switzerland, NC leaders, and covers major Jewish educational events. Jewish Sparks can be viewed Weekly as follows:

Chapel Hill - Peoples Channel, Time Warner Cable Channel 8: Dear Friends, Tuesdays 9:00pm Here is some advance information about the 66th annual Durham - Time Warner Cable Channel 18: Tuesdays 7:30pm Wildacres B’nai B’rith Institute of Judaism planned this year for Raleigh - RTN, Cable Channel 10: Wednesdays 7:00pm and August 12 through 15. You do not want to miss this one. If you Thursdays 8:00pm (note new times) receive this “heads up” letter by Email, please forward it to those Program material is also archived at whom you think would be interested in this year’s program. www.jewishsparks.net We will again have three outstanding speakers: Current schedule is available online at: Eli Groner is Israel’s Minister to the U.S. for Economic www.jewishsparks.net/TV Schedule.htm Affairs. He is a former consultant with McKinsey & Co., the U.S. based consulting firm. Born in the U.S., he emigrated to Israel with his family when he was 15. He holds an MBA from New York University, and a BA in Political Science from Bar-Ilan University. His topics include: Israel Confidential, Israel at the U.N.: the Challenges Facing Israel Today, and The Secret Sauce Please patronize our sponsors for a Start-Up Nation. and let them know Jeffrey Morton is a professor in the department of Political you saw their ads here. Science at Florida Atlantic University in Boca Raton, Florida. A designated Master Teacher, 2004 University Researcher of the Year, and 2012 College Distinguished Teacher of the Year, Professor Morton teaches classes in international law, diplomacy, and American foreign policy. His topics include: The Iranian Nuclear Threat, The Role of International Law in American Foreign Policy, and Confronting Terrorism. Joel Hoffman is a lecturer on translation, Hebrew, and the Bible. He has served on the faculties of Brandeis University and Hebrew Union College. Dr. Hoffman is the author of, And God Said: How Bad Translations Conceal the Bible’s Original Meaning, and In the Beginning: a Short History of the Hebrew Language. His topics include: On the Bible’s Cutting Room Floor, The Bible Doesn’t Say That, and Three Thousand Years of Jewish Continuity through Three Thousand Years of Hebrew. There is a lot of musical talent in the Blue Ridge mountains. This year we will again have three of the best groups in the area providing our entertainment. The Altapass Foundation and Bill Carson, owner of the Orchard at Altapass and a member of the board of directors at Wildacres, are assisting us in setting up this program. We will again hold patio discussions with the speakers in the afternoons, and religious services before dinner. We also offer noshes, the Wednesday Afternoon Live comedy hour, and free tennis lessons. It should add up to a great educational and fun vacation. Hope to see y’all in August. Bill Carr Chairperson, B’nai B’rith Institute of Judaism

Spend a week in the mountains! See page 18 for registration information for the Sicha Shabbaton in the Mountains at Wildacres the previous weekend, August 8-11.

22 May 2013 /Beth El Bulletin “Tzedaka is equal in importance to all other commandments combined” — Talmud

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23 USCJ Centennial Celebration Join Ramah Darom October 11-12, 2013: Shabbaton for fun and inspiring programs October 13-15, 2013: Conference and retreats year-round for all ages! This celebration is hosted by the United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism to mark its 100th anniversary, and the entire Jewish community is invited. You are welcome to attend any part or all of the event.

The USCJ Centennial will be an open, dynamic gathering of 21st Visit www.ramahdarom.org/programs Century Jews: professionals, lay people, students, and some of the for registration & more information on this most innovative, visionary Jewish leaders today. It will celebrate & other programs year-round. the impact of Conservative Judaism and look to the future, toward creating meaningful Jewish communities for the 21st century.

Be Part of The Conversation of the Century from the Libi Eir Mikveh Art Gallery incomparable Rabbi Harold Kushner to the inspiring young teacher Rabbi Adam Greenwald, this October, Jews from all One of Libi Eir's seven founding principles is Hiddur Mitzvah / over will flock to a historic gathering in Baltimore, Maryland. Beautifying the Mitzvah. Exhibiting the work of local artists is There will be a Shabbaton filled with meaningful prayer, learning one of the ways they take this mandate seriously - and joyfully. with celebrated scholars, workshops with visionary leaders, and Exhibits change every three to four months. performances by cutting-edge artists.

Artists: If you'd like to feature your work at Libi Eir, please contact Rabbi Jenny Solomon at [email protected]. Find continually updated information about speakers and programs, and registration details, at www.uscj100.org. Beth El is a partnering synagogue of our community mikveh, Libi Eir, which opened in September of 2011.

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26 May 2013 /Beth El Bulletin C o m m u n i t y C o n n e c t i o n s

JFS volunteers needed: We need Beth El volunteers for the Chapel Hill Commu-

Shabbat Outreach volunteers are needed to lead a short nity Kitchen to cook lunch on the first Wednesday of each Shabbat service on Fridays for Jewish residents of an assisted month from 9:30-12:30. Anyone able to help please contact living facility in Chapel Hill. Gladys Siegel ([email protected])

Friendly Visitors needed for isolated older adults living in the community. Not appropriate for volunteers who want Servers & Tuna Casseroles Needed for Durham to visit someone with their child. Friendly visitors will Community Café Dinner the fourth Sunday of each spend time with the person as friends do- talking, exploring month! Several casseroles are needed for the Community common interests, or going for a walk. Minimum time Café dinner that is served on the fourth Sunday of each commitment: 2-4 hours per month. month. For your convenience, the recipe is printed below. For more information on these volunteer opportunities, Please deliver the casseroles to Judea Reform before the please contact JFS Social Worker Jenny Schwartz at fourth Sunday of each month during their regular office 919-354-4923 or [email protected] hours. If you are unable to deliver the casserole, please contact Erica Gringle to make alternate arrangements. JFS Gift Card Program: JFS seeks gift cards to shops, This mitzvah is an easy one in which to involve children. movies, restaurants, shows, hair salons. Your gift will be Besides making casseroles, Beth El's commitment is to apreciated by those in need. To make a donation or for more provide servers for the community meal on the fourth information, contact Jenny Schwartz at 919-354-4923 or Sunday of each month (5:45 PM - 7:15 PM). If you are [email protected] interested in participating in this community service project, please contact Erica Rapport Gringle. Pre-teens through adult can serve so this too is great mitzvah to do with your older kids. Tzedakah in Bloom

Tzedakah in Bloom is a project started by the TUNA NOODLE CASSEROLE Jewish Family Service to raise money for local (use a very large rectangular or oval disposable tin) community members in need and food banks. Please note changes for pasta & vegetables —2 lbs. of rotini (other pastas get mushy after being frozen, JFS offers 13 different silk flower arrangements thawed and baked) for use at your simcha. —about 42 ounces of water packed tuna, drained (on the bimah, at a reception or as a centerpiece). —7 cans of cream of mushroom soup (about 70 ounces and New arrangements are added periodically. low sodium, if possible) Each arrangement rents for $150.00. —8 carrots and 8 stalks of celery, diced —Boil the noodles in a large pot of water until al dente or Please call the Federation office at almost done. Drain and place in casserole. 919-489-5335 if you have questions about the project. —Add all other ingredients and mix well.

Photos of the arrangements —No need to cook. Just cover tightly with lots of foil and as well as a reservation form is online at: transport it to the Judea Reform freezer. www.shalomdch.org/blooms.htm. Help our Jewish Elderly: Jewish Family Services To reserve an arrangement, provides a program and lunch for seniors in our community contact Sandy Fangmeier, Project Coordinator: (Chaverim). This is a wonderful opportunity for our elderly 919-489-0433 or [email protected] seniors to get together on a regular basis, spending time together chatting over a good lunch. We are looking for small groups of friends, such as a family or two, a Hebrew school class or a B’nei Mitzvah student to consider preparing or sponsoring ($100 donation) a lunch in honor or memory Community of Caring of someone or just for the fun of it, for between 15 - 20

Do you need assistance? Please let us know. seniors. This is an easy and wonderfully rewarding mitzvah opportunity. For more information please contact Michele a meal, a ride or someone to talk with Pas at [email protected] or 919-493-3175. Can you provide assistance? Please let us know. Volunteer as a Guardian ad Litem: Help change the an occasional meal for the bereaved, life of Durham's abused and neglected children. For more ill, or new parents in our community information or to volunteer, contact Stephanie Kelly at a ride to Beth El for services or other events 564-7289 or [email protected]. Sandy Kessler a visit with a homebound member can also give you information on what it is like to be a Guardian ad Litem. If you need assistance from the community, or if you can help those in need Duke Hospice Volunteers Needed: If you or anyone on either a regular or occasional basis, please contact you know is interested in becoming a hospice volunteer for the office: 919-682-1238 or Rhoda Silver: . Duke Hospice, please contact Carolyn Colsher at 919-620- 3859, ext. 235 or [email protected]. For more information on programs visit www.dhch.duhs.duke.edu. 27 BETH EL SCHEDULE OF SERVICES Friday evening services: Services are held on Friday evenings only in conjunction with other programming or special occasions. See monthly calendars for noted dates and times. Saturday morning services: Services in the Orthodox Kehillah begin at 9:00 a.m. Services in the Main Sanctuary begin at 9:30 a.m. Weekday minyanim in the Main Sanctuary: 9:30 a.m. Sunday minyanim (check calendar for some dates with earlier start time) 8:00 a.m. on Wednesday mornings (check calendar for some dates with earlier start time)

Please let the office know in advance if you need to say Kaddish, even if a minyan has already been scheduled.

OFFICE HOURS: Monday through Thursday: 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. / Fridays: 9:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m.

CONTACT INFORMATION: Office (voice) 919-682-1238 (fax) 919-682-7898 Rabbi Daniel Greyber, Rabbi 919-682-2491 [email protected] Ivy Wingate, Interim Exec. Dir. 919-682-1238 ext. 110 [email protected] Karen Kosowski, Education & Youth Director 919-682-1238 ext. 170 [email protected] Miriam Cohen Franzen, Admin. Assistant 919-682-1238 ext. 100 [email protected] Krisha Miller, Publicity Assistant 919-416-1397 [email protected] Rabbi Steve Sager, Rabbi Emeritus 919-682-1238 ext. 195 [email protected] Bulletin Advertising Sales Manager 919-942-5369 [email protected]

If the office phone is in use or no one is in the office, please leave a message on the voice mail. Your call will be returned in a timely manner.

BETH EL WEBSITE: www.betheldurham.org Barak Richman President Rachel Galanter 1st Vice-President Noah Pickus 2nd Vice-President Carol Haynes Financial Secretary

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